Going There Podcast

This episode 25, the last episode of Season 1, and we are covering 25 tips to improve your marriage, sex life, and faith walk! Get ready, it's rapid-fire! Let us know what your favorite tips are and let us know which ones you'd like us to cover as episodes in season 2! If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

ORAL SEX! There are a lot of questions and roadblocks to enjoying oral sex. Is it "sin"? What if one partner is for it and the other is against it? What about the smell? Grooming? What about soaps? We cover these questions and more in this episode because we are "Going DOWN There"! Book Recommendations: She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman -Ian Kerner Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man -Ian Kerner If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

The largest sex organ in the human body is not the penis or the vulva, it is the brain! In this episode, we talk about the importance of foreplay and how it can cultivate some of the most incredible sex you've had in your marriage! If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

For many people, shame is a low lying hum in their lives. It can affect your marriage, your sex life, and your relationship with God. There is a difference between guilt and shame. Guilt says, "I have done something bad." Shame says, "I am bad." In this episode, we share how to break free from shame. If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

We all want to know the secret to getting our partners to do what we want. I mean after all, if we can get them to do what we want, we will live happily ever after, right? No. Not at all. You can't change your partner, but you can change yourself. In this episode, we spend time unpacking the importance of being differentiated. If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

In this episode, we answer an emailer's question on when you should start talking to your kids about sex. We also spend some time talking about strengthening faith in your marriage by starting with yourself. If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

We often judge others by their actions and ourselves by our intentions. Actually, judgments play a huge role in how we process information. There are two types of judgments that we make: 1-Situational 2-Personality. In this episode, we define what a judgment is, the type of judgment to lean towards, and how judgments affect your marriage. If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

Everybody has fantasies! Whether it's winning the lottery, getting a promotion, or hot passionate sex with your spouse... or someone else, everyone tends to fantasize. For most Christians, it is sexual fantasies that we need to talk about. Is it ok to have sexual fantasies? What if they don't involve your spouse? Can we deal with our fantasies without judgment? Let's find out! If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

How you ever had a thought that took you by surprise?! I mean, one of those thoughts that made you question everything you thought about yourself? You're not alone! Everyone has crazy thoughts, but those crazy thoughts don't have to have you. In this episode, we look at the common mistaught scripture that declares, "you are your thoughts!" and counter the judgments associated with it. If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

It doesn't matter who we are or where we are from, we all deal with insecurities. In this episode, we talk about how insecurities can rob us of joy and intimacy with our partner and create unhealthy compromise. We also look at how to move past our insecurities and experience joy. If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

Talk to me baby... but not during sex! In this episode, we answer a listener's question on how to connect and enjoy sex when her husband likes to talk. It's more common than you may think! If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

Obviously, you are not using Vick's VapoRub with any sex position! But, Kim did use Vick's to get through this podcast! In this episode, we go there on sex positions and why you should be trying as many as your can or want! There are four basic positions but many variations that, based on your current flexibility, strength, abs, and sheer willpower, you can add to your sex life and SPICE IT UP! Christian-Friendly Sex Positions If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

We found and watched an old marriage series that we did back in 2008! We laughed, cringed, and laughed some more! It was HORRIBLE y'all!!! We want to apologize to anyone who sat under this teaching. This type of teaching is what is wrong with a lot of marriages in the church today!! What did we say? Take a few minutes to listen as we apologize, laugh, and debunk the myths, lies, and stereotypes we used to teach! If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

"Your family is SO weird!!" We have all said this! Here's the reality, all of our families are weird! And we carry their weirdness into our relationships. This is called family of origin. It affects how we communicate, how we parent, how we spend money, how we show intimacy, and even affects our sex life! In this episode, Chris and Kim share which of their families is the weirdest and just how much family culture shapes your relationship. If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

"Do you hear the words coming out of my mouth?!" If we are honest, we all have felt this way talking to our spouse! Some of the worst advice we were given before we got married was, "If you just communicate, your marriage will be fine." There is more to it than that! Most people don't struggle to communicate, they struggle with nothing happening when they do! In this episode, Chris and Kim touch on communication, standing up for "yourself", and why arguing isn't always a bad thing. If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

Do you still date your spouse? If you don't, you should! There is something powerful about being able to sit and look at each other in the eyes and discuss why you think the greatest superpower is being invisible or where your favorite place to have sex is! In this episode, Chris and Kim, talk about why Date Night is a MUST for a healthy marriage! You can download our Top 10 Date Night Questions PDF HERE. Don't forget, in honor of our 10th Episode airing on the 10th of March, we are giving away a $10 Gift Card to Starbucks! All you need to do is email us at feedback@goingtherepodcast.com and tell us which of the first 10 episodes has been your favorite and why! We'll draw a name on Tuesday, March 16th, and let you know!! You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

Have you ever got into one of "those" fights where you didn't want to say sorry because you KNEW you were right and your spouse was wrong, and then you go almost 2 1/2 days with minimum conversation because, well, only the PRIDEFUL survive? Yeah, that was us this weekend. 24 years together and we still screw it up! In this episode, Chris and Kim talk about what happens when Pride walks in and love walks out. "Pride has broken more hearts than love ever will." -Unknown If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

Do you like Corn Flakes? Eat them often? Has it curbed your desire to masturbate? Did you know that is why they were created? In this episode, Chris and Kim take on the topic of Masturbation. They answer questions like, "Is masturbation sin?", "What does the Bible say about masturbation?", and "Can masturbation have a healthy place in the marriage?" Enjoy the episode! If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

How many times a week should a married couple have sex? This is a question as unique as each couple. The answer is not based on social norms but is rather based on the sexual desire a couple has. In every relationship, there is a high desire spouse and a low desire spouse. One desire is not right or wrong, it just is. In this episode, Chris and Kim unpack sexual desire and share how it is different from sexual arousal. If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

Valentine's Day or Hallmark Holiday? Like so many things in your relationship, it comes down to communication, expectations, and fun! This week Chris and Kim share how to spice up your Valentine's Day. You'll laugh and be encouraged! Valentine's Day Resources: Show Her Off Dancing Intimately Us App Gottman Card Deck App CovenantSpice.com 90's R&B PlayList If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

Today, we are answering an email that came in through feedback@goingtherepodcast.com. A listener asks whether or not we have ever considered divorce and if so, how did we avoid it. It's a transparent look at how we DON'T have it all together. If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

Does having faith equal a strong marriage?! The answer is two-fold, it is both a yes and a no! What?! How can that be? In this episode, Chris and Kim unpack what it means to HAVE faith, how faith CAN strengthen your marriage, why faith does NOT always equal a strong marriage, and the importance of having a strong sense of self. We are Going There! If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

Did you grow up in church? Did you experience the church purity culture that was the 90's and early 2000's? Has it had an impact on your marriage and sex life? You are not alone! In this episode, Chris and Kim talk about how how the message you heard on sex growing up and church culture play a role in shaping your view on sex. They also help lay some groundwork to see how sex and worship are closely connected. If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

Why the heck did I get married? Why does he/she not talk to me anymore? We argue so much, does that mean we have a bad marriage? How in the world can you sleep through the Princess Bride?! In this week's podcast, Chris and Kim hit on the #1 thing marriage does. Take a few moments to listen and laugh as they share how marriage helps us grow up! If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can also submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

This is the first episode of the Going There Podcast! Join Chris and Kim as they share their hearts and the why behind the going there podcast. They talk about their passion for marriage, sex, and faith. If you have a question or would like to share your story, send an email to feedback@goingtherepodcast.com You can also check us out at www.goingtherepodcast.com where you can submit your questions and share your stories. Don't forget to like and follow the Going There Podcast on Facebook and Instagram.

Welcome to the Going There Podcast! This is a podcast on Marriage, Sex, and Faith, hosted by Chris and Kim Hoyt. Chris and Kim are husband and wife, parents to 3 amazing kids, Co-Pastors of Journey Church in Newport News, VA, and Ketogenic Coaches! Episodes will drop every Wednesday, so make sure you subscribe. You can find us online at www.goingtherepodcast.com, and follow us on Facebook and Instagram.