Torches Together

Not forever. But for now.

Resources and further listening: Thomas Cowan on The Lifestyler Podcast Stefan Lanka The Invisible Rainbow

In this episode Bailey + Johnny discuss our collective response to the pandemic crisis compared to our collective response to environmental crisis and how we might move forward, take responsibility in our local communities and make wellbeing the core motivaton.

For many people the quarantine has us spending a lot more time and sharing a lot more space with our partner. This can bring up some heavy discord. How do we orient ourselves for growth during this time? How do we shift our perspective on the purpose of relationship? In this episode Bailey dives into the possibility of seeing our relationship as a spiritual path, much like the commitment to being a monk, and infusing that intent into the minefield of triggers that will arise in committed partnership.

What is the measure of a good life? How are we going to create resiliency within our communities? How can we declare peace within ourselves? How do we heal our relationship with Mother Earth and the feminine energy? How do we show up in our truth?

In this episode we discuss IP-34, the initiative aimed at making psilocybin therapy available in Oregon. We talk about our personal experience, current research, and our hopes and dreams for psychedelic therapy in the future. If you're in Oregon, please consider adding your name to the initiative at www.yesonip34.org

Bailey talks about the global return to Mother Nature, the divine feminine, and how we are being called out of our fear and into Communion with everyone and everything.

An interview with April of Resilience Reiki about the importance of reaching back into our ancestry for healing and guidance in the here and now. Find April here: https://www.resiliencereiki.com https://www.instagram.com/aprilreiki/

Bailey shares a contemplation/meditation about creating who we are through the inputs we take in.

Bailey talks about anxiety/fear and how she has worked with those forces in her life. She reads a manifesto of empowerment from her new book YOU ARE A FORCE. If you would like to support the Kickstarter visit this link: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/baileyriver/you-are-a-force

Johnny and Bailey respond to the massive fires and climate change we see with a conversation about our role in it all. Johnny gives us a birds eye view on ecology and how we can manage our systems in a way that creates abundance. Our ultimate encouragement is that we all use love as our motivation vs. fear. Love creates more energy and abundance while fear depletes and exhausts us. Join us for this dynamic discussion that will continue on future podcasts. If you'd like to support our work and Bailey's Kickstarter that she mentions at the end of the episode here's the link: kickstarter.com/projects/baileyriver/you-are-a-force/

Johnny and Bailey discuss the difficulties and the epic beauty of living out your highest expression, how it can stir up insecurities or inspiration in others, the importance of shadow work and gratitude for the ecology of people that have shaped us.

What was Jesus really saying? In this episode Johnny and Bailey discuss Christianity, the foundation of their upbringing, and how they see their childhood faith today. They get a little heretical about one of the most well known heretics.

The first in a line up of conversations about shaping the world with our integrity. The truth is...change happens within each individual and then seeps into the collective. Johnny has always been very serious about making decisions that align with his highest view of the world. Today we talk about why it's so important to live with integrity, be trustworthy and take our consumption seriously. We shape the world this way. www.johnnyandbailey.com

In this short episode Bailey talks about direction, purpose and unity within the underlying uncertainty and mystery of our universe; what a healthy ego/identity looks like and how we can clear the way ahead through self nurturing. www.johnnyandbailey.com

Bailey talks about her new book Erotic Companionship: Sex as a Spiritual Journey, the road that led her here and how doing things that scare us can be the most empowering. Buy the book: www.johnnyandbailey.com

Johnny and Bailey have another live "argument" on the podcast. How do we use conflict for our growth?

A solo episode with Bailey where she talks about difficult but rewarding work of emotional healing and how to support ourselves as we clear ancestral trauma, overcome victimhood and take responsibility for our lives.

Johnny and Bailey interview some of our best friends about their difficulties in marriage and how Psychedelics transformed their relationship.

Johnny and Bailey talk about dropping judgements and seeing your relationships as mirrors for your growth.

A short conversation about the state of humanity and a new/more positive way of looking at the global community.

It's Bailey's 30th birthday! She shares about her journey stepping into her purpose and the difficulties/road blocks that arise. She talks about how to practice patience and come into alignment with our path vs. forcing our agenda onto the world in order to prove ourselves as worthy.

Bailey talks to Johnny about his study of Permaculture, Regenerative Agriculture and the patterns in nature and relationship that bring about health. Books He Mentions: Restoration Agriculture: Mark Shepard One Straw Revolution: Fukuoka Bird by Bird: Anne Lamot Joel Salatin

In this episode Bailey sits down with April of Resilience Reiki to talk about their upcoming retreat: Inner Alchemy Retreat More details can be found here: https://johnnyandbailey.com/inner-alchemy-retreat/ The Retreat Includes: HUMAN DESIGN + GENE KEYS: Bailey Discovering your Soul’s Imprint + Purpose, your aura type, your energetic design, how you’re meant to interact, make decisions and find direction. (you need to have your birth time to get the full benefit of this portion) JOURNALING + MEDITATION: Bailey + April Supporting + Returning to your Inner Child. Transforming your Shadows into Gifts. Stepping into your Power + Purpose. REIKI SESSIONS: April Personalized Individual Reiki Treatment Soul Clearing & Cleansing Psychic Questions & Coaching Identifying and Increasing Intuitive Abilities Chakra Reading & Reset HERBAL MEDICINE + SUPPORT: Bailey Crafting herbal medicine for individual support and empowerment. POLE DANCING: Bailey Unleash Power, Connect with Our Body + Move Through Emotions

Bailey talks about her upcoming projects surrounding self-empowerment and discovering your life purpose. INNER ALCHEMY RETREAT www.johnnyandbailey.com/inner-alchemy-retreat

True Life Case Study of Defense Mechanisms. Johnny and Bailey work through one of their discords and break down their defense mechanisms live on the podcast. www.johnnyandbailey.com @forestandfield @torchestogetherpodcast

A Solo Meditation Episode with Bailey about finding your unique expression in life. The greatest gift we can give to the world is learning to tune our own instrument. All too often we reach out to grab other people’s instruments, believing we know the correct tuning. This comes from a wounded heart. A wounded heart that hasn’t truly found their tuning themselves. They only believe they have. When we find our correct tuning we lose the desire to try and tune others. We relax into our music and allow it’s beauty to transform the people around us with it’s grace. www.johnnyandbailey.com @torchestogetherpodcast

Interview with Daniele Della Valle NTP, Author of Happy Weight. We talked about so many amazing things in this episode! She talks about the role of psychology and emotional health in overall wellbeing. Her experiences helping people achieve their health goals. Her book Happy Weight and what led her to writing it. Taking risks, overcoming fear, being painfully and beautifully authentic. Reviving your personal power. Retraining our brains. How doing the emotional work heals us from our diseases. Maintaining Eroticism in our Relationship. Vulnerability in our life relating to vulnerability in sex. Why orgasms are the key to manifestation. http://www.danieledellavalle.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/danieledellavallentp/ _______________________________________________ People, Books + Events Mentioned: -Wellnesscon: https://www.wellnesscon.co -Annie Hopper Dynamic Neural Re-training system -AIP Autoimmune Paleo -Tammy Lynne Kent The Wild Feminine -Female Ejaculation -The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck -Richard Branson Losing my Virginity

In our attempts at growth, change and transformation, we often employ strategies that are counter-productive. In this episode, Johnny shares a philosophy that is a continual help in moving beyond perfectionism and other self-defeating thought patterns and behaviors.

Johnny and Bailey discuss the ways they have retrained their brains to become non-reactive in their life and relationship. They talk about: -The process they go through when a negative thought or reaction comes into their head during an interaction. -The benefits of meditation and how they personally practice it. -How to reframe a situation and enhance your experience at any moment. -Becoming non-reactive. www.johnnyandbailey.com

Bailey talks about how we create our dream which creates our vision of the world. She asks the question, "are we living from a place of harsh judgement or love?" To live a life of non-judgement is the most powerful stance you can take. www.johnnyandbailey.com

Interview with Danielle DeGroot of Dietitian Gone Wild. In this episode we talk about her crazy experience marrying a stranger, how primal attraction played into that process and how it led her to a deeper sense of self-love. We also chat about her Nutrition, Yoga and Wellness business, her upcoming retreats and how nutrition/self-love plays into relationship. If you want to get in touch with Danielle for Nutrition Coaching or to check out her upcoming retreats you can find her here: Instagram: @dietitiangonewild Website: www.dietitiangonewild.com Book we Mention: Your Body's Many Cries for Water www.johnnyandbailey.com

Johnny and Bailey discuss how to align with the eb and flow of emotions and moods in relationship. They discuss: Emotional Waves Hormonal Imbalances Conflict Resolution Getting Space Energetic Cleansing Reuniting After being Disconnected www.johnnyandbailey.com

A solo episode with Bailey. She talks about their experience selling everything they owned, taking a 3 month trip to South Africa, trying psychedelics for the first time and how being ungrounded taught her true grounding. True freedom came from being ungrounded. From learning to ride through life without fear. To view myself as a character and creator. To enjoy life instead of living in the past or future. To jump into the river of my journey, letting it carry me. When desperately try to protect our “character” and uphold our identity we create discord and anxiety in our life. I am re-grounded because I have chosen to be grounded by life itself, not by the constantly changing experiences, thoughts, dreams, identities or possessions. I needed to become ungrounded, losing hold of everything that gave me false security, to become grounded. www.johnnyandbailey.com

Johnny and Bailey talk about amping up your sensuality and enjoyment in all areas of life. Foreplay as a Lifestyle is the idea that we can curate our life to optimize pleasure and romance within and outside of our sex life. www.johnnyandbailey.com Instagram: @torchestogetherpodcast + @forestandfield Do you want to eradicate plastic from your home environment and get sensual with all your household items: www.lifewithoutplastic.com

This is the first episode in a series of episodes on Erotic Companionship. We wanted to explore how and why eroticism fades in a committed relationship and how we could debunk this long standing statistic. "When we bring our wild, untamed, authentic self to the relationship we are creating a safe space, without shame, that acts as an incubator for deep, transcendent eroticism-the kind most people have yet to experience. We shake the foundation of our relationship, push ourselves beyond our comfort zone and dissolve our fears over and over again." We have an Erotic Companionship Periodical that goes along with this series for sale in our shop: www.johnnyandbailey.com/shop Books we mention in the episode: Mating in Captivity, Ester Perel The All or Nothing Marriage, Eli J. Finkel

Johnny and Bailey talk about ushering in a new paradigm of relationship as a powerful force of transformation that brings unity to the world. "We want more out of life and partnership. We want to usher in this new paradigm where marriage is an integral part of transformation and bringing power and unity to the world. We are meant to live in community and marriage is the smallest, but one of the most important collaborations we can leverage for our growth as individuals and a society. Marriage, for us, is a realm where we see how human beings can interact in the most beneficial ways. It is a an incubator that brings about relational understanding that surpasses the relationship itself. Because of our union I find myself more equipped to interact and commune with a broad range of human beings. Because of our union we have double the power to direct toward passion projects that benefit society. What is the narrative of your marriage? What is the calling within your union? How are you remaining open and inviting to your partners wisdom? Relationship is this incredible opportunity to glean wisdom, healing, alignment and activation through another person." www.johnnyandbailey.com

Bailey shares about her journey facing fears and opening to life. What part of your heart is breaking open right now? What discomfort challenges your patience? What words are still stinging like a burn that lingers days after contact? How are your expectations being shattered? Have you dropped the armful of hopes you were carrying? Do you feel abandoned, lost, in grief for what was? Do you feel overwhelm, anxiety and panic for what is to come? Do you feel responsible for everything? Do you judge yourself for what is happening around you and within you? Do you hold yourself at an arm’s length? We are broken open, time after time. And in this breaking, there is a choice. A choice to cower and hide away, as I’ve done for so many years, retreating to the safety of my room. Learning the lessons of solitude. Learning how to self-sooth. Feeling that others were untrustworthy to access my depth. The other choice is to open. I’ve learned that these two are not mutually exclusive, instead, they weave together beautifully. In marriage, that hidden world was infiltrated, broken open, time and again, until I learned to trust him with my heart. And even then, he’s not perfect and sometimes I still hide. This retreat, a part of me forever. There is a beauty in that darkness. And then, the crossed boundaries broke me open. And then, the miscarriage broke me open. And then, travel broke me open. And then, death broke me open. Sickness broke me open. Vulnerability with friends broke me open, again. People’s malice and hate. The death of dreams. All broke me open. At some point, I only closed up and retreated as a stepping stone to staying open. I used what was a response to fear to re-birth instead of close up. The moments of being broken open didn’t become easier, but I become more open through them. They became teachers instead of abusers. Time and again. When I thought the discomfort in the opening was going to kill me, I rode it, like a wave, giving myself the grace, self-soothing and love that I needed, so that I could come out the otherside more open, not closed. Pain and discomfort can either push us deeper inside, building more walls around us, or, through alchemy, it can keep us open. Closing and tension are responses to deep pain. They are responses to not feeling safe, feeling taken advantage of. Why should we open then? It’s not safe. Therein lies the difficulty but also the answer. We can be open while also being protected. We can get in touch with what feels right to us, re-sensitizing our body to reconnect with our surroundings in a powerful way. We take control of how we respond and give ourselves the safe cocoon when we need it. We create a cocoon in our soul so that we always have that space within us to return to, even when we lack the physical space. Opening is a balance of bravery and self-love. It is a balance of letting go and standing firm. It is a knowledge of self and a knowledge of others and knowing how the two interact. When we learn to love ourselves in this way we discover what we needed all along. A pillar of strength, built within us alongside a cocoon, built within us. An understanding of our own pain and how to love and nurture ourselves through the openings. And in that process, we show others how to best love us and their own selves. This is a journey that requires opening and retreating. Opening and retreating. Strength and nurturing. Strength and nurturing. -Bailey River www.johnnyandbailey.com Instagram: @torchestogetherpodcast @forestandfield

Johnny and Bailey explore energy healing together in this interview with April of Resilience Reiki. April is a Certified Reiki Practitioner with a background as a mental health therapist. She created Resilience Reiki, a Reiki healing and intuitive coaching service. She specializes in one on one healing, couples sessions and home energy clearing. Website: https://www.resiliencereiki.com

In part three, Johnny and Bailey wrap up the conversation, focusing on Human Design. Notes: www.mybodygraph.com The Definitive Book of Human Design by Lynda Bunnell Human Design by Chetan Parkyn The Book of Destinies by Chetan Parkyn & Carola Eastwood www.interiorcreature.com

In part two, Johnny and Bailey discuss some of the tools, resources, and strategies they've used in their ongoing journey of self-discovery. In part three the conversation focuses on one tool in particular, Human Design. Notes: The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron Archetype Card Deck by Caroline Myss Sacred Contracts by Caroline Myss The Book of Awakening by Mark Nepo Practicing The Presence of God by Brother Lawrence Meditation Apps: Insight Timer, Calm, Headspace Tribe of Mentors by Timothy Ferriss Alan Watts Forest Bathing by Qing Li

Johnny and Bailey discuss insecurity and how to navigate triggers in a way that creates growth and understanding. www.johnnyandbailey.com marriage, relationship, sacred couple, sacred union, growth, understanding, conflict, insecurity, insecurities

Johnny and Bailey share their relationship vision and discuss how to develop your own. In Part 2 they expand upon this idea and share tools for getting clear about who you are and what you want in life. In Part 3 they talk about a specific tool for discovering your soul imprint: Human Design. www.johnnyandbailey.com

Johnny and Bailey talk about how to maintain a sense of novelty in relationship by allowing room for growth and change.

Johnny and Bailey talk about commitment/marriage and how to make that decision. Ken Page, Attraction: https://www.kenpagelcsw.com T-Shirt Study: http://www.coherer.org/pub/mhc.pdf Hormonal Birth Control + Attraction: http://time.com/3596014/attraction-sex-birth-control/

Johnny and Bailey talk about conscious conflict in relationship.