We're Not Together with Zack and Haley

Tis the season for giving, and we're giving you a whole lot of love! You asked, we're answering!! It's another Listener Advice episode, where we chat when coming out to family doesn't feel like an option, how to focus on yourself and the love you have in your life, plus which dessert is the gayest. Send us your questions so we can answer them on the next episode!! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

No, no, no, no. Not "Daddies". DADS. We're talking Pops, your old man, father figures and the relationships us queer folks have with them. To help us do that we have writer/actor Brandon Shypkowski (@brandonshyp)on the show to chat about his photo series Weather Talk, in which he has thoughtful discussions with members of the LGBTQIA community about their father figures. Plus we figure out what kind of Dad we all are! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique Brandon Shypkowski www.instagram.com/brandonshyp/ www.instagram.com/weathertalkfilm/

Greetings from your fearless leaders! Do you think you could never be susceptible to a cult? Think again! This week Haley and Zack are joined by writer, director, musician, actor, and podcast host Lola Blanc to talk about her experience in a cult, the cult of Trump, and why Taco Tuesday is superior to Wednesday Trivia Night! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique Lola Blanc instagram.com/oohlalola/

We're back! And what better way to return from our long break than a discussion about throuples featuring our good friend Brandon Renfroe! We chat about how similar throuples can be to couples, how communication is vital to a throuple's success, and to learn why Deadpool would be a great third for Fred and Daphne. We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique Brandon Renfroe https://www.instagram.com/b.froe/

Let's talk about sex toys, baby! Haley gives us an in depth look at the sex toy industry from jade butt plugs to steam-powered vibrators and beyond! Then Zack has a little surprise in store a la an unboxing of some brand new toys courtesy of Calexotics!! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique To get some Naughty Bits of your own check out https://calexotics.com/brands/naughty-bitstm.html

Now that we're all stuck indoors there's no time like the present than to immerse yourself in your hobbies, so we're talking with Netflix exec and action figure collector, Ted Biaselli. We chat about how he got started, why queer people tend to dive so so deep into their hobbies, respecting your partner's interests, and he talks about what it's like bringing a new life to the shows and properties he loved as a kid. We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique Ted Biaselli instagram.com/animateted

This week, Haley and Zack are joined by returning guest, actor and social commentator Seth Rabinowitz. We talk about Britney Spears' conservatorship, the pros and cons of the #freebritney movement, conspiracy theories, and more! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique Seth Rabinowitz https://www.instagram.com/sethdaniel/ https://twitter.com/sethdanie1 https://www.facebook.com/sefferman

This week, Haley and Zack are joined by activist Kaek Mx to talk about their journey as a trans non-binary individual, chat about some common questions trans non-binary folx run into, and help us write our new YA novel "Monday's Epilogue". #TeamPeabo We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique Kaek Mx https://www.instagram.com/everybodyloveskaek/

It's a pansexual pow-wow!! Zack and Haley discuss the hotly debated term "bisexual-lesbian" with our special guest Emily Pearse. We speak on where it came from, why it gives some people pause, and why some others care to use it. We also chat with Emily about her switch from using the term "bisexual" to "pansexual". Don't forget to message us with more questions for our next listener episode!

We're back at it again with another listener advice episode! We're answering YOUR questions on relationships during Covid, dog ownership, how having super powers is probably weirder in practice, and more! Don't forget to message us with more questions for our next listener episode!

This week, Haley and Zack are joined by singer, songwriter, composer, writer, and actor Health Saunders to talk about their retrospective article on the use of black bodies in theater, redefining the "neutral", and why dads love Kohl's. Check out Heath's Medium article: https://medium.com/@heathcliffsaunders/what-i-think-about-when-i-hear-that-broadway-is-racist-afa1b012a8b We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique Heath Saunders https://twitter.com/feeltheheath?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor https://www.instagram.com/feeltheheath/?hl=en https://www.thesaunderscollective.com/#collective

Zack and Haley are outraged by the murder of George Floyd (and many, many others), and will not remain silent. BLACK LIVES MATTER. Today, we discuss The Stonewall Riots, an important milestone in LGBTQ history. Bricks were thrown, property was damaged, and change was made. In support of Black Lives Matter, we draw parallels between this historical event and the current protests going on across the U.S. Please check out this link to find where you can help the cause by donation or petition(*note some of the well known ones have received so many funds they have asked for donations to be directed elsewhere, if this article falls out of date please keep checking where your money is best served): https://www.thecut.com/article/george-floyd-protests-how-to-help-where-to-donate.html Great resource for active anti-racist ally-ship: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/e/2PACX-1vTkmrhfhYUfCcTbp3NoDmxKZUAN7xMiVuhqIlNBizKz-Ih7yPPqTPFgYzmd5NgKtEdpVugB6GoZwPWR/pubhtml

We talk with our friend, comedy writer Josh Smooha (twitter.com/joshsmooha), all about breakups, and specifically how the advice straight men are usually given is so toxic. We chat about what happens when someone isn't taught how to use certain emotional tools when dealing with this sort of stress, and how that can cause some people to lash out. Plus we talk about how Rom Coms might be a bit at fault here, and what tropes need to be thrown out. Don't forget to send us your questions for the next listener advice episode!! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

Zack and Haley chat with comedian Jay Jurden (https://twitter.com/JayJurden), named one of the Timeout New York's Comedians to Watch of 2019. We talk about his debut comedy album "Jay Jurden Y'all", growing up queer in Mississippi, which celebrities we'd want to be quarantined with, and the reason Tallahassee is SO Tallanasty. Don't forget to send us your questions for the next listener advice episode!! Check out Jay's album on Spotify or iTunes! open.spotify.com/album/4wNWPihLyoqer0fE384Wi1 We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

On this week's episode, Zack and Haley are joined by director and filmmaker Sav Rodgers(http://savrodgers.com/) to discuss how important, and sometimes life-saving, queer representation is in media and his upcoming documentary, Chasing Chasing Amy. Don't forget to send us your questions for the next listener advice episode!! Check out Sav's Ted Talk! https://www.ted.com/talks/sav_rodgers_the_rom_com_that_saved_my_life We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

Zack and Haley chat about how queer people sometimes miss out on the stereotypical high school experience and end up acting out those experiences later in different ways. To do that we sit down with one of Zack's best high school friends, writer and podcaster Laura Ansill (instagram.com/blueoystercvlt). Don't forget to send us your questions for the next listener advice episode!! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

What is it about certain straight celebrities that elevates them to queer icon status? We love our Judy Garlands, our Golden Girls, our Britney Spears...es. Zack and Haley chat with comedian and writer Drew Droege about this phenomenon as well as his iconic performances as Chloe Sevigny and members of The Golden Girls. We talk about the double edge sword of lifting these people up, auditioning for roles as a gay man in Hollywood, and much much more! Drew Droege instagram.com/drew_droege twitter.com/drewdroege We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

How do you define romantic love? Is sex needed in order to validate one's queerness? And when is the first season of Seven Dog President finally coming out? Zack and Haley answer all of YOUR questions and more today on a brand new advice episode. Thanks to everyone for sending them our way and please keep emailing or DM'ing us your questions. We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

Get ready to laugh! This week Zack and Haley are joined by actor/comedian Chris Renfro (https://www.instagram.com/themeatskeleton/) to talk about the Asian American experience in the LGBTQ community, Gaysian AF at UCB, and re-cast Smaug in a romantic comedy! Email or DM your questions for a chance to be included in the next advice episode! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

This one's for you theater kids! Zack and Haley chat with writer-composer-choreographer Andrew Barret Cox (https://www.instagram.com/andrewbarretcox/) to talk what theater means to queer people, discuss his show OSCAR at The Crown (https://oscaratthecrown.com/) as well as his work with Jan Sport, & create a Southern Gothic lesbian musical! Email or DM your questions for a chance to be included in the next advice episode! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique Andrew Barret Cox https://open.spotify.com/artist/4nhTegqVKeJefayKd3K13N?si=MlHAfVioQgajUM2hGZUi3Q https://www.instagram.com/andrewbarretcox/

Let's talk about sex, baby! We're sitting down with adult performers and real life married couple Sonia Harcourt (twitter.com/soniaharcourtxx) & Erik Todd (https://twitter.com/eriktoddxxx). We discuss being bisexual in the adult film industry, how their careers have affected and enhanced their relationship, and what sort of stuff the Phantom of the Opera would post on Only Fans. Email or DM your questions for a chance to be included in the next advice episode! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

Third time's the charm! It's yet another We're Not Together/Dead For Filth Crossover with our very special guest, writer/director Michael Varrati (www.twitter.com/michaelvarrati). In light of these quran-times, we're talking global issues and how they affect art, specifically horror. We speculate the sort of media that will come out of this moment in time as well as discuss famous horror movies and the events that inspired them. We also try to figure out which horror villains would make the best quarantine buddies. Email or DM your questions for a chance to be included in the next advice episode! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

Zack and Haley are back at it again - special quarantine edition! We're answering YOUR questions! Questions on how to spend your time during quarantine, if "turning" is a real thing, AND the return of Homo Robo! Email or DM your questions for a chance to be included in the next advice episode! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

Zack and Haley are coming to you live from their end-of-the-world bunker to talk health in its many forms with comedian/performer Adam Winney (https://www.instagram.com/adamisdiabetic/). They talk the pressures to be fit, the prevalence of alcohol in queer social gatherings, and Adam shares his own personal journey with diabetes. PLUS we learn about crazy diet/health fads. Email or DM your questions for a chance to be included in the next advice episode! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

Zack and Haley are back at it again! We're answering YOUR questions! Questions about when to start talking about sex when you're dating, about queer film and who can tell queer stories, AND (possibly most importantly) the pros and cons of being 3 inches or 20 feet tall. Email or DM your questions for a chance to be included in the next advice episode! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

Zack and Haley have their first ever call in guest!! Phoning in all the way in New York, it’s Haley’s #1 college bestie (Zack’s not jealous at all, we swear), prop stylist Andie McMahon (https://www.instagram.com/anderpmcmerp/)!! The three talk about what it means to be a good ally, as well as play with a soundboard and come up with new sidekicks for superheroes! Don’t forget to email or DM your burning questions for a chance to be included in the next advice episode! We're Not Together
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Time to get your fix! Zack and Haley answer YOUR questions yet again! Is cum flammable? Don't google it! We've got your answers here! Email or DM your questions for a chance to be included in the next advice episode! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

This week Zack and Haley are joined by artist, advocate, and curator Eugene Huffman(instagram.com/eugenehuffmanart). They chat about the stigmas of being HIV+, the lack of STI prevention information, Nipplegate, and much more! Don't forget to send in your questions for a future Listener Advice episode! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

Time to get your fix! Zack and Haley answer YOUR questions yet again! They also do a quick pitch for the new, very real film "7 Dog President". Email or DM your questions for a chance to be included in the next advice episode! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

Pack your bags because Zack and Haley are talking Camp! Not the great outdoors, fresh air and all that junk; we're talking in-your-face, schlocky, creepy, campy goodness and why queer people are drawn to it. With us today is photographer, director, and co-founder of the Fatale Collective Danin Jacquay (instagram.com/deathcats). Don't forget to send in your questions for a future Listener Advice episode! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

The doctors are in... again! This week Zack and Haley read messages from listeners and offer advice for their sticky situations. Email or DM your questions for a chance to be included in the next advice episode! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast nottogetherpodcast@gmail.com Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

This week Zack and Haley are joined by their good friend, illustrator Jon Orner! They chat about gender expectations, Jon's hilarious experience at the beauty salon, the merits of the not-so-hit film Mystery Men, and more! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/nottogethercast Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

This week Zack and Haley are joined by one of their best friends Aaron Pagniano! They chat about going back to their hometowns to visit family and friends, what it’s like seeing people who may not be as familiar with the queerer you, Aaron’s experiences as a bisexual man, and more! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/nottogethercast Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

This week Zack and Haley are joined by rope artist and fetish performer Argent The Pirate Gentelman! They chat about the history and styles of rope play, ways to ensure that it's done safely, rope play as an art form, and more! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/nottogethercast Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

This week Zack and Haley are joined by makeup artist and burlesque sideshow performer Tamára Nicole Jewel! They discuss Tamára’s personal experience with invisible illnesses, how it affects her dating and sex life, how to be there for a friend going through it, and more! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/nottogethercast Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

This week Zack and Haley are joined by suicide hotline counselor Milo Rubi. They chat about what it’s like to work at an lgbtq+ hotline, bullying and social media’s affect on mental health, the importance of talking out your problems, tips and resources people can use when they need help, and more! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/nottogethercast Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

This week Zack and Haley are joined by their friend "Cole"! They discuss the do's and don'ts of sex parties, hear Cole's stories from his experiences at them, share tips for staying safe and comfortable, and more! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/nottogethercast Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

This week Zack and Haley are joined by cosplayer Sky Fernandes! They chat about what goes into assembling character costumes, attending fan events and conventions, queerness in the cosplay community, and more! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/nottogethercast Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

This week Zack and Haley talk EXES with guest Ella Schaefer! They chat about navigating social and work environments that your ex is a part of, maintaining friendships with previous partners, nightmare exes, and more! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/nottogethercast Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

This week Zack and Haley talk toxic relationships with friend and filmmaker Brittany Gutheim! Together they discuss past problematic relationships, toxic red flags, ways to create healthier relationships, and more! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/nottogethercast Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

This week Zack and Haley are joined by writer, director, and host of the horror podcast "Dead For Filth", Michael Varrati! They chat about his new short film "The Office is Mine", writing and directing for DRAGULA, horror movies as metaphors for the political climates they were made in, what draws queer people to Halloween and horror, and more! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/nottogethercast Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

This week Zack and Haley are joined by their friend Cherys Fair! They chat about Cherys starting a kink club at USC, discovering your own kinks, problematic elements in “Fifty Shades of Grey”, and more! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/nottogethercast Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

This week Zack and Haley are joined by supermodel and comedian Arisce Wanzer! They chat about Arisce’s humble beginnings, modeling, dealing with TERFs, and more! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/nottogethercast Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

This week Zack and Haley are joined by Zack’s boyfriend Brandt! They discuss Brandt’s experience navigating dating as a demisexual, hookup culture, getting together with Zack, and more! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/nottogethercast Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

This week Zack and Haley are joined by writer, actor, and podcaster Noah James! The gang chats about Noah’s show "King Falls AM", dealing with microaggressions, stereotypes queer actors face, and more! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/nottogethercast Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique

This week Zack and Haley are joined by former entertainment reporter Michael Sullivan! Together they discuss “queer-coding” in the media, villainous queer characters, tropes that perpetuate damaging stereotypes, and more! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/nottogethercast Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique Revry instagram.com/revrytv twitter.com/revrytv

This week Zack and Haley are joined by writer/director Ben Mekler! They chat about his podcast "Mortal Podkast", what attracts queer people to fantasy heroes, queer representation in nerd culture, and more! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/nottogethercast Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique Revry instagram.com/revrytv twitter.com/revrytv

This week Zack and Haley are joined by Luis AlvarezSchacht! They chat about Luis’s time as Bob the Drag Queen’s assistant, his own experiences in drag, using the art form as an outlet for creative and gender expression, and more! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique Revry instagram.com/revrytv twitter.com/revrytv

This week, Zack and Haley are joined by comedian Robyn Blake! They discuss being bigender, navigating the cis comedy & roast battle scenes, come up with a new ad campaign for Angry Orchard, and more! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique Revry instagram.com/revrytv twitter.com/revrytv

This week Zack and Haley recap their visit to the EQUUS International Pony Play Event and share interviews with participating ponies, judges, and handlers! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique Revry instagram.com/revrytv twitter.com/revrytv

This week Zack and Haley are joined again by sex & relationship educator Anne Hodder-Shipp! They discuss the ways queer people may feel like they’re “not enough”, the anxiety some bisexuals feel when interacting with the rest of the community, tools that can help build self-esteem, and more! We're Not Together instagram.com/nottogetherpodcast twitter.com/NotTogetherCast Zack instagram.com/zackogre twitter.com/zackogre Haley instagram.com/haley_manrique Revry instagram.com/revrytv twitter.com/revrytv