Fire In Your Lantern

The longer you have been stuck in life, the more likely getting out of that will require a leap of faith, to get out of your old reality and into a new one. Taking a leap of faith often seems scarier than it is, and once you take it, you'll find things often work out even better than you thought.

Are you constantly sad? Stressed? Angry? Envious? Your social media behavior may be the problem. We discuss why social media lends itself to bad behavior and unhealthy emotional patterns, and how it can turn you into the worst version of yourself. And, social media companies encourage this behavior to get you addicted to their apps.

You may THINK you're the same person after being in a toxic relationship, but your brain has likely changed significantly. And, the longer you are in one, the more your brain is changing, and not in a good way. In this episode, we discuss ways toxic relationships change your brain, and turn you into someone you don't want to be. We also discuss ways to heal and get back to feeling like yourself again.

Things that are supposed to make us happy, like a big house, a fancy job, or even a relationship, can often lead to unhappiness, all in the name of "being happy." Buddhists speak of attachment as the cause of suffering. In this episode, we explore why this is so, and discuss the importance of non-attachment.

(Note: this episode has a few sound issues. We apologize and will be changing microphones!) The older you get, and the more habits you reinforce, the more your brain "lives in the past." In fact, you may be slowly turning into a fossilized version of your past, and this is why you struggle to create new realities and address current problems. We discuss why this happens and how to change your brain.

Fear stops us from living our best lives, and taking the risks that would make our lives amazing. What if we told you that EVERYONE has fear, even highly successful people, and that they just handle fear in a different, helpful way? In this episode, we explain how to handle your fear by feeling it and doing what you want anyway (shout out to author Susan Jeffers who inspired much of this episode)

Once we embrace negative labels, it's so easy to live up to them and see ourselves that way. But, these labels limit us and reinforce negative feedback loops in our lives. Here's how to stop living the negative label you gave yourself, or somebody gave you.

Our attention is one of the most powerful tools we have as humans. Most of us are directing our attention and giving our time to people and things that keep us stuck, rather than towards things that help us become our best selves. In this episode, we discuss changing your awareness and finding new ways of paying attention and directing your energy.

Research shows adults are lonelier than at any time in recent history, and maybe this resonates with you. Making friends can be a challenge, especially as many of us have limiting attitudes about how and where we can meet people. In this episode, we explore proven ways to meet new people in any setting, and how to open a conversation, build rapport, and continue the connection by getting contact information naturally.

Are you a "people pleaser?" If you constantly seek the approval of others, it can lead to many problems, including feeling inauthentic and causing resentment. In this episode, we discuss why "people-pleasing" is natural (especially if you have been criticized a lot in the past), but ultimately dishonest and prevents you from reaching your potential.

Positive affirmations, if used properly (we explain that), can help you rewire your brain from all the negative and limiting beliefs you have developed over the years. Please check out our book on affirmations: https://amzn.to/3D4rFbh To sign up for the webinar: https://bennetttwins.mykajabi.com/break-toxic-addiction

Everyone knows toxic relationships are stressful and draining, so why do so many people end up getting in them? In this episode, we explore the mainly unconscious reasons people get drawn into toxic relationships, and how to prevent this from happening. Check out our website at https://bennetttwins.com for more information on us.

When you're in "survival mode" you just have enough energy and attention to get by, and this is how you get stuck in ruts. We discuss the ways you may be in this mode without even knowing it, and how to get into a mode of creation and thriving.

It's often easier to ignore big problems in the moment (whether it's toxic people, bad relationships, etc) than deal with them. But, the more we do this, the more they just grow and grow. However, the more we rise to the occasion to handle difficult problems now, the easier life becomes later. To sign up for info on our free events: https://bennetttwins.mykajabi.com/freeevents

We love self-help, and have benefitted from it over the years (and are in the self-help field). But, being "into" self-help can actually hinder your personal growth. We discuss the reasons why, and how to make sure you are getting the most from your self-help journey.

Dating apps are presented as quick and easy ways to get dates, but most people find them frustrating and ineffective. In this episode, we explain the research related to dating apps, which shows dating apps not only make the dating process less fun, but they often only work for a very small group of people. If you want to attend our most recent class: https://bennetttwins.mykajabi.com/freeevents

In this episode, we discuss why it's easy to get hung up on the planning and daydreaming phases of executing an idea or project. While these phases are important, they are often more fun than actually taking action, and may even be stopping you from taking action.

It can be hard to face the reality of who we really are, and where we are in life. But, clearly perceiving the actual, non-sugar-coated truth is necessary to make meaningful life changes. This episode is inspired by a principle of Stoicism.

Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you fall in love, your brain changes significantly without you knowing it. We discuss the chemical changes that occur, and why falling in love is basically an addiction that often leads to poor decisions and getting entangled in bad relationships.

Have you ever said, "I'll hang with my friends...once I'm less stressed" or "I'll be happy...once I get in a relationship," when the very things you're putting off are necessary to achieve your goals and desires? In this episode, we talk about the importance of doing the best right now if you want to live your best life.

Disruption has negative connotations for most people, but in this episode, we look at it positively. If your life needs some major change, then some positive, proactive, disruption is the way to achieve it.

In this episode we explore why new year's resolutions, as most people do them, often don't work, and what actually does work instead.

In this episode, we talk about how everything you need to have a meaningful and authentic life is already inside you, and how to begin to connect with this spark. We also explain the origin of the podcast name.