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"I wrestle not against flesh and blood." (David Dark's Ephesians 6:12 mantra) / According to David Dark (Belmont University), each of us occupy a variety of robots—roles, titles, occupations, institutions, conglomerates, ways of being, social norms, etc.—and these robots exert a cultural force, sometimes benign, but then again, sometimes violently destructive and degrading of human life. And in order to appreciate and honor our shared humanity, those of us in violent, impersonal robot systems need to be softly, humanely, respectfully, lovingly exorcised from those violent systems. David Dark joins Evan Rosa to talk about his idea of "Robot Soft Exorcism"—a metaphor-slash-parable-slash-theory-slash-way-of-life—that he uses to explain and expound non-violent resistance and prophetic witness. Along the way, they discuss the righteous skepticism he was raised on, the blurry secular-sacred divide, how he met Henri Nouwen, the technological ethics of Jacques Ellul, the real meaning of turning the other cheek, and the constant need to divest ourselves of the power of our positions, our titles, our platforms ... our robots.About David DarkDavid Dark is an American writer and cultural critic; and is Assistant Professor of Religion and the Arts at Belmont University in Nashville, TN. He's author of several books including, Life's Too Short To Pretend You're Not Religious, The Sacredness of Questioning Everything, Everyday Apocalypse: The Sacred Revealed in Radiohead, The Simpsons, and Other Pop Culture Icons, and The Gospel According To America: A Meditation on a God-blessed, Christ-haunted Idea. Follow him on Twitter @DavidDark or his Substack, Dark MatterShow NotesDavid Dark's Robot Soft Exorcism Twitter Thread: https://twitter.com/DavidDark/status/1012804184868048896Righteous skepticism in David Dark's family historyGodzilla and GodSecular–sacred divide"I don't have to settle for the given dichotomies or dualisms."Daoism, intellectual humility and the meaning of righteous skepticism in southern (fundamentalist) Christian contextThe blurry binaries of Christianity and Pop CultureNashville: "The post-modern Vatican of the prayer trade"Christian music industry in the'80s"One might want to separate Christian marketing from the January 6th attack, but you really can't because association is currency.""On human barnyard"; "there are no unrelated phenomena"On meeting Henri Nouwen and learning the word social justice"There is no non-social justice. Justice is relational."Robot Soft ExorcismEphesians 6:12: "For our struggle is not against enemies of blood and flesh, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers of this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places."Walter Wink's Powers seriesPower dynamics of 2018's border crisis, separating families at the border, and Sarah Huckabee Sanders at the Red Hen RestaurantTurning the other cheek; demanding to be punched as an equalDramatizing the conflict as part of the task of prophetic action"Robot soft exorcism is inviting someone to be a human being rather than just being their position."Breaking it down: The Robot PartJacques Ellul and the Technological SocietyUse vs Reception"I think that Twitter can be a wonderful tool. It is the tool upon which I inscribed my Robots Soft Exorcism. But Twitter is also can be a broken fire hydrant of sadness and rage.""I think Ellul said: We speak of a computer as a companion, but a computer is actually a vampire.""What we do with our screens is what we do with our lives. We are never escaping relationship.""[Insert Soul Here]"Philip K. Dick's "disinformation"Beck: "Don't believe everything you breathe."Breaking it down: The Exorcism PartMob Spirit on January 6"Sitting with anger until it becomes sadness." (Sarah Mason)Exorcism as social therapyThoreau: "We all crave reality."Buddhists surrendering a spirit of conflict or difference before partingKarl Barth: If you don't have any solid difference with the person with whom you exchange the peace of Christ, the peace of Christ isn't there because the peace has to overcome some kind of difference."Opinion, Posture, Position: None ever have to be confused with one's identity.U2's "Staring at the Sun": "Armor-plated suits and ties""Sometimes when we skip straight to Christ, we skip over Jesus of Nazareth. I'm not saying we all do that whenever we say Christ, but w if I say Christ enough that I'm not thinking about the sermon on the Mount, that I'm not thinking of the red letter words, Christ can become a kind of personal ghost friend who excuses me from my bad behavior."Divesting ourselves of the power we carry through the worldClaudia Rankin: whiteness as an investment in not-knowingThe centrality of listeningEllul: "Propaganda is monologue and monologue ends when dialogue begins."Breaking it down: The Soft PartCivil Rights Movement is actually the Non-Violent Movement of America"One human exchange at a time."Mantra: "I wrestle not against flesh and blood." (Ephesians 6:12)Rage Against the MachineAdvent/Christmas as the prototypical Robot Soft ExorcismBruce Coburn: "Redemption rips through the surface of time in the cry of a tiny babe.""We're really going against the news cycle if we insist on the meaning of human history being in this manger scene. To be alive to it, to be citizens of a better future than what is being settled for by our robot overlords."Production NotesThis podcast featured author and cultural critic David DarkEdited and Produced by Evan RosaHosted by Evan RosaProduction Assistance by Martin Chan, Nathan Jowers, Natalie Lam, and Logan LedmanA Production of the Yale Center for Faith & Culture at Yale Divinity School https://faith.yale.edu/aboutSupport For the Life of the World podcast by giving to the Yale Center for Faith & Culture: https://faith.yale.edu/give

Today we will unlock the book Why Buddhism Is True: The Science and Philosophy of Meditation and Enlightenment. The author, equipped with a modern perspective and a confident understanding of both evolutionary history and psychology, addresses Buddhist philosophy and argues Buddhist philosophy's validity is rooted in science. In a scene from the original Matrix movie, a science fiction action film from 1999, the main character, Neo, finds out that he has been living in a dream world. The life he thought he had is really a detailed hallucination orchestrated by robot overlords. He encounters Morpheus, the leader of a rebellion against the overlords. Morpheus explains to Neo that the dream world is a prison for enslaved people known as the Matrix. He says that he cannot convey the totality of the Matrix. The only means to experience the full picture is “to see it for himself.” Morpheus offers Neo two pills. One is blue, and the other is red. Swallowing the blue pill will return Neo to his dream world, but taking the red pill will allow him to be free of his literal constraints and loosen his mental bonds. Neo takes the red pill, determining to search for the truth and embrace personal freedom.

Trauma comes to all of us, and its consequences can be terrible. That’s the truth and the bad news. The good news is that all of us can use tools of self-awareness and self-care to heal our trauma and, indeed, to become healthier and more whole than we’ve ever been. If we accept the pain that trauma inflicts, it can open our minds and bodies to healing change. -- Dr. James Gordon As a second-year psychiatric medical student at Harvard University, Dr. James Gordon hit a wall. Although both his father and grandfather had been physicians before him, he was no longer sure why he was there. He was troubled by the way he saw patients being treated, feeling the focus too cut and dried, and missing the loving approach that he had envisioned and hoped for in medicine. But he was graced at this time to meet a kind and compassionate professor and psychotherapist in Robert Coles, who offered Gordon the opportunity to discover and embrace parts of himself that he had forgotten or not even known. Further, Coles shared his work with kids stricken by poverty and racism in New Orleans, kindling the flame of Gordon’s own life-long passion for taking trauma healing to all walks of life – especially the world’s most troubled areas. “Suffering is the soil in which wisdom and compassion grow; it is the school from which we graduate, committed to healing others’ hurt.” This pivotal time in Dr. Gordon’s life, and the healing journey that called him to serve others, set him on the road to becoming a world-renowned expert on healing population-wide psychological trauma, anxiety, and depression. His approach marries Western medical knowledge with alternative medicine methods and those of the world’s indigenous and spiritual traditions. A proponent of “self-care as the true primary-care,” Dr. Gordon founded the nonprofit Center for Mind-Body Medicine (CMBM) in 1991, in Washington, D.C., with an initial mission “to make self-awareness, self-care, and group support central to all healthcare” by training health care professionals with the tools of stress- and trauma-relief. But similar to his experience hitting a wall in medical school, he soon recognized the limits of the medical establishment in embracing holistic modalities – and so he extended his work and offerings beyond the walls of traditional health care practice, going directly out to communities and creating a version of medicine for the people, by the people. Through the CMBM, Dr. Gordon has created training programs of mind-body healing that extend far and wide – not just for health professionals, but for traumatized populations in the world’s hot spots such as the Balkans, the Middle East, Haiti, and Africa; for teachers and families in Broward County, FL after the Parkland school shootings; for victims of Hurricanes Katrina and Harvey; for U.S. vets returning from Iraq and Afghanistan; and even for the U.S. Capitol police. He and the CMBM faculty have traveled worldwide, embracing a model of creating healing communities by training the trainers, or “Teaching Thousands to Heal Millions.” Dr. Gordon leads an international faculty of 130 who have trained more than 6,000 clinicians, educators, and community leaders. In turn, these trainers have brought CMBM’s therapeutic and educational program to many hundreds of thousands of traumatized and stressed adults and children, as well as people confronting the challenges of anxiety, depression, and chronic and life-threatening illnesses. An early pioneer in using mind-body medicine to heal, Dr. Gordon contends that we are all, in the end, affected by trauma. (Never more true than today, he adds.)  But he also believes that “all of us, regardless of age or educational level, have a great and largely untapped capacity to help and heal ourselves and one another…We may think we don’t have the answers, but each of us has a part inside us that knows.” His experience serving the world’s many traumatized populations has reinforced his commitment to supporting individuals’ own inherent capacities for self-healing. “Going through difficult situations myself, and coming out the other side has taught me that I could be a midwife to this process [in others]; I’m not there to fix people.” Regular meditation on the breath, as an antidote to “flight or fight” mode, is a critical component of Gordon’s three-fold approach to trauma self-healing work – all sessions, groups, and meetings begin and end with this important component. Another key component, sourced from indigenous forms of healing, is sharing in community. “As we bring parts of ourselves online that have been suppressed or ignored, we become more complete and whole human beings – part of that is wanting to share ourselves with others. It’s built into our DNA.” Characterizing himself as “a free spirit and a bit of a troublemaker,” Dr. Gordon volunteered, after his Harvard training, at the Haight-Ashbury Free Medical Clinic in the 60s, attended Woodstock as a volunteer physician, and then spent 10 years as a National Institutes of Mental Health (NIMH) researcher, where he developed the first national program for runaway and homeless kids.   In 1973 he had a powerful encounter with a London-based osteopath, acupuncturist, naturopath, and meditation master of East Indian background who “opened universes” to him, most importantly the value of “expressive meditations” that Dr. Gordon incorporates as high energy “Shaking & Dancing” to fast, rhythmic music in his Mind-Body Skills trainings. “These were the tools of the shamans of Siberia and of ancient healers and traditions around the world -- archaic techniques of ecstasy.” They also have proven value for reestablishing equilibrium for stressed and trauma-frozen bodies. Bringing his healing work to populations from the Eastern and indigenous traditions that seeded many of his initial explorations, Gordon has shared Shaking and Dancing with a group of recent Tibetan refugees in Dharamsala, India, the home of the Dalai Lama. He also has worked closely with tribal elders, teachers, and clinicians on the Pine Ridge Indian Reservations in South Dakota to create a program that has joined Mind-Body Medicine with traditional Lakota healing, effectively addressing youth suicide. In addition to his work with the CMBM program, Dr. Gordon has been Director of Mind-Body Studies and clinical professor in the departments of psychiatry and family medicine at Georgetown Medical School and Georgetown University since 1980. He chaired the White House Commission on Complementary and Alternative Medicine Policy under Presidents Clinton and George W. Bush. He publishes widely, having authored several books including his latest, The Transformation: Discovering Wholeness and Healing After Trauma, as well as many articles. He has recently conducted a series of interviews with a broad spectrum of individuals who are benefiting from his trauma healing work, ranging from a Black human rights lawyer and activist campaigning for reparations, to an Islamic jihadist who was jailed for his role in terrorist plots, to Buddhist meditation teacher Tara Brach, to a Michigan Democrat facing “Congressional trauma.” Join us in conversation with this devoted practitioner of a medicine truly based on compassion for self and all beings.

This talk was given by Gil Fronsdal on 2021.12.03 at the Insight Retreat Center in Santa Cruz, CA. ******* Online Webcast Insight Retreat with Gil Fronsdal and Andrea Fella, and online Practice Discussions with Ines Freedman (2021-11-28 00:00:00 -0800) ******* For more talks like this, visit AudioDharma.org ******* If you have enjoyed this talk, please consider supporting AudioDharma with a donation at https://www.audiodharma.org/donate/. ******* This talk is licensed by a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 4.0 License

In this episode, Wendy speaks with professor and Episcopal priest, Bobbi Patterson. Bobbi's work integrates Christian contemplation, Buddhist meditation, contemplative pedagogy, the role of place, and adaptive resilience. This conversation covers many topics, including: contemplative Christian traditions; the power of silence; dialogue between Christianity and Buddhism; a Christian contemplative view of mind; women in the church; how to listen to a place; bringing students into nature and urban settings; the role of the body in contemplation; understanding burnout; and adaptive and land-based resilience. Full show notes and resources

Welcome to episode 16 of The Way Out Is In: The Zen Art of Living, a podcast series mirroring Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh's deep teachings of Buddhist philosophy: a simple yet profound methodology for dealing with our suffering, and for creating more happiness and joy in our lives. In this episode, the presenters, Zen Buddhist monk Brother Phap Huu and lay Buddhist practitioner and journalist Jo Confino, are joined by special guest, Zen Buddhist monk Brother Phap Linh (Brother Spirit). Together, they discuss eco-anxiety, the challenges of and solutions for shifting to a new paradigm which can heal us and our planet, and whether it’s possible to change our minds, hearts, and future. Plus: how can you be at peace in what feels like a battlefield? The conversation touches upon “the decisive decade”; individualism and competition; interdependence; handling fear; transformation; change in “the age of collective procrastination”; and opportunities in difficult times. Is it possible to ‘sit' with collapse? Brother Phap Linh (Brother Spirit) shares his journey of transformation, from studying sciences at Cambridge, to numerous retreats, and eventual monastic life. He further talks about creating transformation at both personal and collective levels; the cult of individualism; societal numbness; handling the energy of negativity; the basis of understanding reality, and what nourishes our views and beliefs; the economic conceit ‘the tragedy of the commons'; creating shared visions and aspirations; and telling new stories. And how do you change your view when you're caught in the old paradigm? Brother Phap Huu shares insights on how to not lose ourselves in a fast-paced environment, and looks at: fundamental questions; procrastination; individual aspirations; becoming free from attachment; striving and the importance of stopping; learning in the community; the Six Harmonies; and the joy of sharing. There's also important advice for those ‘burning out' in the environmental movement.Jo recollects Thich Nhat Hanh's speech to the members of the UK Parliament and his thoughts on conflictual political systems. He further muses on the lasting joy of community life.  The episode ends with a short meditation on gratitude and Mother Earth, guided by Brother Phap Linh. Co-produced by the Plum Village App:https://plumvillage.app/ And Global Optimism:https://globaloptimism.com/ With support from the Thich Nhat Hanh Foundation:https://thichnhathanhfoundation.org/ List of resources Brother Phap Linh (Brother Spirit)https://plumvillage.org/people/dharma-teachers/brother-phap-linh/ Richard Dawkinshttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Richard_Dawkins The tragedy of the commonshttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tragedy_of_the_commons Elinor Ostromhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elinor_Ostrom Music for Difficult Timeshttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YarhXTDs8Z4‘Introduction to Namo Avalokiteshvara'https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DjBUZrrqAVQ Kundunhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/KundunGandhihttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gandhi_(film) Comfortably Numbhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Comfortably_NumbSiddharthahttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Siddhartha_(novel) The Matrixhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Matrix Dharma Talks: ‘The Four Noble Truths: Vulture Peak Gathering'https://plumvillage.org/library/dharma-talks/the-four-noble-truths-vulture-peak-gathering-2016-06-04-lower-hamlet-sr-dinh-nghiem/ Multi-level selection theoryhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cooperation_%28evolution%29#Multi-level_selection The Five Mindfulness Trainingshttps://plumvillage.org/mindfulness-practice/the-5-mindfulness-trainings/ The Fourteen Mindfulness Trainingshttps://plumvillage.org/mindfulness-practice/the-14-mindfulness-trainings/ Quotes “When everything is motivated by love, you don't burn out.” “My dad wrote me a letter that said, ‘You know, in life, it's not for me to hand you a rose, but to hand you an onion, where you peel every layer and you cry.' It’s like we find ourselves through suffering. And it’s the suffering we go through in order to find joy. We can’t bypass suffering.” “They say ‘It’s darkest just before the dawn’, and we seem to be at this crossroads where, if we don’t have what Thay would call a collective awakening, we are very, very likely heading for a catastrophe that is unimaginable in terms of the suffering it will create. And there’s an opportunity for this time to turbocharge the change into a new paradigm.” “Every single drop that we put in the bucket of mindfulness increases our zone of freedom and our capacity to notice difficult feelings arising in our body and mind. Then, when anxiety is coming up, we’re going to see it coming. You get to see it because you’ve put energy in, maybe five, 10 minutes every day. You paid attention to your steps on the way to work. You made that commitment and you’ve invested. And when you do that, in the difficult moments, you have that little bit of extra time and extra freedom, and you notice that energy coming up; you see it coming and you can go, ‘I see you.' That’s mindfulness.” “Dare to feel.” “What's interesting is to learn that we have resources, we have ways to meet those difficult feelings, and to transform them, and to not be alone with them. And that’s the power of our community: that we can be in that process of holding, of embracing the pain and the fear, and that we can do it together.”  “That is enlightenment: to be free from all attachment; we’re not striving for happiness, but we enjoy the path because the path is happiness. We have this notion that we have to accomplish to receive happiness, to arrive at success. But then, [by doing that] we bypass all of these beautiful present moments.” “Thay gave a speech to MPs and members of the House of Lords. And one member of the House of Lords said, ‘Well, Thay, the UK political system is, by nature, conflictual. We sit opposite each other, we argue against each other. We’re always trying to point out what’s wrong with each other. What do you think of that?’ And Thay looked at him and after what seemed like an age, he just asked, ‘Does it make you happy?’ That was a really profound moment because it was so far outside the normal conversation. And it feels like, increasingly, we need to be outside of the normal conversation.” “One of the things that may contribute to a burnout is starting to feel negativity all the time, that kind of blaming. It may actually be true that other people are not doing enough. But the point is that we have to keep our sovereignty. We have to keep our peace, our freedom, and know when we’re being colonized by that energy of judgment and hatred; we have to know how to handle that.” “Be brave to feel your feelings. Be brave to see what your mind is producing. Once you do, you see the roots of it. And this is the Four Noble Truths of Buddhism: to only change and have transformation as you come to the root of it. So then you start to look at how you live your life: ‘What is it that I’m doing that nourishes this view?' And if you see the root of it, then you see a way out of it. But seeing is not enough. Then, you have to walk the path; you have to change your way of living. And for me, this is where real transformation happens.” “In the dharma, we always say, ‘Peace in oneself, peace in the world.' Which means that, to achieve transformation outside of ourselves, we need to start with ourselves.” “Many people have asked me, ‘After Thay passes, who’s the next Thich Nhat Hanh?’ I say, ‘Nobody.' Thay has told us very clearly that the continuation of Thay is the community. So each and every one of us will be his continuation. Each and every one of us will share that responsibility; that’s the power of community.” “Learn to go as a river; be a drop of water in the river. Don’t be that drop of oil which doesn’t penetrate into it.” “My inbreath, the outbreath of the trees. My outbreath, the inbreath of the trees.”

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Korea is one of the most stressed and tired nations on earth, a place where people work and study longer hours than anywhere else. And statistics show they are finding it increasingly difficult to switch off and relax; they sleep fewer hours and have higher rates of depression and suicide than almost anywhere else. And as a result sleeplessness and stress has become big business in Korea; from sleep clinics where doctors assess people overnight, to ‘sleep cafes' offering naps in the middle of the working day, to relaxation drinks. Even Buddhism is moving in on the action with temple retreats and monk-led apps to help stressed out Koreans to relax. There is a lot of money to be made but some Koreans have become worried that in trying to sell religion to the next generation, some faith leaders might be losing touch with Buddhist principles themselves. For Crossing Continents Se-Woong Koo reports from Seoul on a nation that's wired on staying awake. Producer, Chloe Hadjimatheou.

Vidyadaka talks about his spiritual teachers as offering the Dharma in an ordinary, straightforward way.  Spiritual friendship is not an added-on part of Going for Refuge, nor is it the Buddhist equivalent to having some mates - rather it is of the essence of the spiritual life and a vital means of communication, emotional development, and meaning - not to mention challenge and enjoyment. But how do we do it and what does it look like? From the talk entitled Meeting Spiritual Friends given at Padmaloka Retreat Centre, 2021, as part of a series on Spiritual Friendship. *** Subscribe to our Dharmabytes podcast:  On Apple Podcasts | On Spotify | On Google Podcasts Bite-sized inspiration three times every week. Subscribe to our Free Buddhist Audio podcast:  On Apple Podcasts | On Spotify | On Google Podcasts A full, curated, quality Dharma talk, every week. 3,000,000 downloads and counting! Subscribe using these RSS feeds or search for Free Buddhist Audio or Dharmabytes in your favourite podcast service! Help us keep FBA Podcasts free for everyone: donate now! Follow Free Buddhist Audio: YouTube  |  Instagram  |  Twitter  |  Facebook  |  Soundcloud  

Korea is one of the most stressed and tired nations on earth, a place where people work and study longer hours than anywhere else. And statistics show they are finding it increasingly difficult to switch off and relax; they sleep fewer hours and have higher rates of depression and suicide than almost anywhere else. And as a result sleeplessness and stress has become big business in Korea; from sleep clinics where doctors assess people overnight, to ‘sleep cafes' offering naps in the middle of the working day, to relaxation drinks. Even Buddhism is moving in on the action with temple retreats and monk-led apps to help stressed out Koreans to relax. There is a lot of money to be made but some Koreans have become worried that in trying to sell religion to the next generation, some faith leaders might be losing touch with Buddhist principles themselves. For Assignment Se-Woong Koo reports from Seoul on a nation that's wired on staying awake. Producer, Chloe Hadjimatheou.

Find out how to say "history" in Chinese with the specialist on the Liao dynasty, Jonathan Dugdale. Also, discover how a small Buddhist structure still exerts its influence in the Chinese language in the modern day.

When our country - or global community - is broken, how do we practice? Faced with incomprehensible violence, injustice, lies, greed, and destruction, how do we cope, let alone respond in accord with our bodhisattva vows? Our first responses are usually anger, fear, judgment, and an effort to assign blame. Then may come a desire to check out - to ignore what's happening because we feel powerless to do anything about it. I discuss how our Buddhist practice can help us remain open, strong, and responsive.

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This talk was given by Gil Fronsdal on 2021.12.01 at the Insight Retreat Center in Santa Cruz, CA. ******* Online Webcast Insight Retreat with Gil Fronsdal and Andrea Fella, and online Practice Discussions with Ines Freedman (2021-11-28 00:00:00 -0800) ******* For more talks like this, visit AudioDharma.org ******* If you have enjoyed this talk, please consider supporting AudioDharma with a donation at https://www.audiodharma.org/donate/. ******* This talk is licensed by a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 4.0 License

(Spirit Rock Meditation Center) Our practice aims at awakening (and awakened beings help others awaken). We review briefly the nature of awakening for the Buddha and later Buddhist traditions, and the centrality of the teaching of the Seven Factors of Awakening. We then explore the two foundational factors--mindfulness and equanimity--identifying their core qualities, as well as how to practice to cultivate each of these factors, both in formal meditation and in the movement of daily life. There is a talk and then discussion.

John Vervaeke, PhD, is an award-winning lecturer at the University of Toronto in the departments of psychology, cognitive science and Buddhist psychology. This conversation between us happened in the wake of the Four Horsemen of Meaning discussion we had that also included Jordan Peterson and Bishop Barron (linked below). We continue the discussion, trying to bridge my symbolic worldview with John Vervaeke's background in cognitive science and psychology. We discussion the way attention creates the world, the internet, the meaning of sacrifice and prophesy, transformation and synergy, collective attention and ultimately asking the question: do angels actually exist? Enjoy! - The 4 Horsemen of Meaning discussion with Jordan Peterson, John Vervaeke, Bishop Barron and Jonathan Pageau: https://youtu.be/FCvQsqSCWjA - John's YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/johnvervaeke - Awakening from the Meaning Crisis playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLND1JCRq8Vuh3f0P5qjrSdb5eC1ZfZwWJ - John's discussion with Jordan Peterson: A Conversation so Intense It Might as Well Be Psychedelic | John Vervaeke | The JBP Podcast | S4 E34: https://youtu.be/DLg2Q0daphE ================================== Original video: https://youtu.be/Y9ZaFNIH0co Support this podcast: Website: https://thesymbolicworld.com/support/ Patreon: http://www.patreon.com/pageauvideos Subscribestar: https://www.subscribestar.com/jonathan-pageau Paypal: http://www.paypal.me/JonathanPageau Join the conversation: Unofficial Facebook discussion group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1989208418065298/ The Symbolic World Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheSymbolicWorld/ Social media links: Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/TheSymbolicWorld Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/pageaujonathan Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jonathan.pageau

The idea of being on a path is a deeply positive one: instead of just trying to get through the day, the ups and downs of life become a pathway  •  it is also a challenging one: yes there are guidelines, pathways to walk along, but nothing will happen unless you actually do the walking  •  the fundamental Buddhist path is very straightforward, leading from struggle and suffering to ease and clarity;  but there is no path until you actually step foot on it  •  in the Tibetan tradition, there are three vehicles to carry us along the path of dharma:  the path of individual liberation, also referred to as the narrow path; the path of wisdom and compassion; and the path of indestructible wakefulness  •  these three are all aspects of one unifying path, which is simply the path of human life, the path of trying to awaken from confusion  •  it is very much an “up to you” approach, which is referred to as the non-theistic view. 

In this episode Susan Piver, New York Times bestselling author and Buddhist teacher, discusses what are the most important questions to ask your partner before committing to them. The point of asking these questions is not to directly come to an agreement, she says, but to get to know our partners intimately. Susan and Shaun talk about deal breaker questions in relationships, sharing their insights and experiences with their partners.    What you'll learn (or why you should care): Why loving someone doesn't necessarily mean you will be able to make a life together How to deal with disagreements in a relationship How to accept changes in our partners   Where to find Susan: Join her online community Susan's website Get her books   Join The Lovebird Club A private community for those who value love, trust, and intimacy. Group support and weekly calls. For contributing lovebirds only: https://thelovedrive.com/thelovebirdclub    Learn more about The Love Drive Website https://thelovedrive.com/  The Love Drive podcast is edited by Camilla Morandi.   Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thelovedrive    Newsletter https://thelovedrive.com/newsletter

Hello to you listening in Urbana, Illinois!Coming to you from Whidbey Island, Washington thisis 60 Seconds for Time Out Tuesday.In contemporary Buddhist practice (as popularized by Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh), a gatha is a verse usually recited mentally in rhythm with the breath as part of one's daily mindfulness practice.For example, when you brush your teeth, just brush. Don't process thoughts, anxieties or plans. Perhaps mentally recite this gatha:"Brushing my teeth and rinsing my mouth,I vow to speak purely and lovingly.When my mouth is fragrant with right speech,a flower blooms in the garden of my heart." [Plum Village]Or, when you drink your coffee or your tea, feel the heat, smell the fragrance, savor the taste. Give your attention to your cup. You might enjoy mentally reciting this gatha:"This cup of coffee or tea in my two hands,mindfulness held perfectly.My mind and body dwell inthe very here and now." [Plum Village]60 Seconds is your daily dose of hope, imagination, wisdom, stories, practical tips, and general riffing on this and that. This is the place to thrive together. Come for the stories - stay for the magic. Speaking of magic, I hope you'll subscribe, follow, share a nice shout out on your social media or podcast channel of choice, including Android, and join us next time! You're invited to stop by the website and subscribe to stay current with Diane, her journeys, her guests, as well as creativity, imagination, walking, stories, camaraderie, and so much more: Quarter Moon Story ArtsStories From Women Who Walk Production TeamPodcaster: Diane F Wyzga & Quarter Moon Story ArtsMusic: Mer's Waltz from Crossing the Waters by Steve Schuch & Night Heron MusicAll content and image © 2019 - Present: for credit & attribution Quarter Moon Story Arts

How does the Buddhist view on compassion help us think about COVID vaccine controversies? What do the Dalai Lama and the Pope have to say about vaccination? Without arguing for any one position, host Scott Snibbe and Producer Tara Anderson talk about how to stay loving and connected to people we disagree with, how to avoid "compassion fatigue," and how to (not) convince somebody to see things our way. Scott and Tara also share personal stories about growing up in an anti-vax household and deciding whether to vaccinate their young children.Episode 94: Vaccines and CompassionSupport the show (https://www.skepticspath.org/support/)

This talk was given by Gil Fronsdal on 2021.11.29 at the Insight Retreat Center in Santa Cruz, CA. ******* Online Webcast Insight Retreat with Gil Fronsdal and Andrea Fella, and online Practice Discussions with Ines Freedman (2021-11-28 00:00:00 -0800) ******* For more talks like this, visit AudioDharma.org ******* If you have enjoyed this talk, please consider supporting AudioDharma with a donation at https://www.audiodharma.org/donate/. ******* This talk is licensed by a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 4.0 License

This is a Dharma Talk given by the Reverend Jay Rinsen Weik Roshi at the Buddhist Temple of Toledo.  In this talk Rinsen Roshi explores the Second Noble Truth and the arising of suffering. If you would like to learn more about the Buddhist Temple of Toledo or to make a donation in support of this podcast please visit buddhisttempleoftoledo.org.

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Today we are addressing a topic that's universally challenging in close human relationships: How do you care for someone who struggles to care for themself? What if your belief in them is greater than their belief in themself?To address these questions, we are speaking with Katie Thornber, of Los Angeles, who bravely shares a very personal journey she went through with her late father, and how she used her Buddhist practice to support him through the toughest time of his life.This story is an incredible example of the Buddhist principle of the oneness of life and its environment.CHEAT SHEET1:09 Introduction to Katie and how she started practicing SGI Nichiren Buddhism4:13 A little bit about her family and their experience with the financial crisis6:05 How she decided to approach the situation 10:30 What her dad was going through11:45 Why she turned to chanting Nam-myoho-renge-kyo at this time14:58 How she saw herself and her environment begin to change19:25 Her dad's health challenges and what it took to get him to a doctor24:41 How he opened up to her27:03 Why change always begins within27:54 What Katie came to believe in30:56 What freedom means in Buddhism41:53 What the experience was like for Katie's mom45:50 How this experience impacted other aspects of her life49:31 Advice to anyone who is struggling to support someone they care for51:02 Words from Buddhist philosopher Daisaku Ikeda that Katie holds on to References: Video: The oneness of life and environment explained Quote: Discussions on Youth, p. 27

The point of discussion takes off with Sam Harris, a Buddhist advocate against Free Will, to put into words, a struggle for survival to maintain evolutionary preservation or be at the ranks of following the collective herd. Of course, this has its merits, too much individual emboldenment can lead to a disastrous self-fulling prophecy of hubris, a major factor for the downfall of greatness, hence we need to have some sense of balancing control on our Free Will and Collective Unity. Just like Jungian Psycho-Social Analytics, we examine and repetitively inspect the confluence of wisdom in the social and the spiritual realm. Join Alex and Jason as they discuss Alien Technology, Social Psychology, and International Relations once more. www.higherdensityliving.com

Dee's experience with post-Thanksgiving gastrointestinal distress leads him to give thanks for the invention of toilet paper and share its taboo and hygienic history with the listening audience. Christina calls in about a strange request from her Buddhist boyfriend which led to the discovery of her BPD. RIP Hank Von Hell.

Viveka concludes this Anapanasati Sutta: Instructions for Awakening retreat with a final exploration of the wisdom tetrad, focusing on the experience of relinquishment and offers suggestions on bearing with confoundment through imagination and inquiry.  Excerpted from the talk Where Is Self Arising Now? given at Adhisthana, May 2019. *** Subscribe to our Dharmabytes podcast:  On Apple Podcasts | On Spotify | On Google Podcasts Bite-sized inspiration three times every week. Subscribe to our Free Buddhist Audio podcast:  On Apple Podcasts | On Spotify | On Google Podcasts A full, curated, quality Dharma talk, every week. 3,000,000 downloads and counting! Subscribe using these RSS feeds or search for Free Buddhist Audio or Dharmabytes in your favourite podcast service! Help us keep FBA Podcasts free for everyone: donate now! Follow Free Buddhist Audio: YouTube  |  Instagram  |  Twitter  |  Facebook  |  Soundcloud  

This talk was given by Gil Fronsdal and Andrea Fella on 2021.11.28 at the Insight Retreat Center in Santa Cruz, CA. ******* Online Webcast Insight Retreat with Gil Fronsdal and Andrea Fella, and online Practice Discussions with Ines Freedman (2021-11-28 00:00:00 -0800) ******* For more talks like this, visit AudioDharma.org ******* If you have enjoyed this talk, please consider supporting AudioDharma with a donation at https://www.audiodharma.org/donate/. ******* This talk is licensed by a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 4.0 License

“It's really sad that our young people had dreams, but after the military coup, every dream of theirs has been destroyed.” So starts the interview with May, who tells us why she became a revolutionary, and updates us on how the Magway Division has fare since the coup. May had been studying in New Zealand, and had only just returned to Myanmar when the coup hit. Like many, she was unsure how to respond at first, but faced with a real-life struggle against evil, she committed herself to activism, delving into fundraising work. Because her father was so concerned for her safety, May had to keep her activities secret and stay in safe locations away from home in order to carry out her work.  Her level of involvement has carried with it a serious mental and emotional burden, and May turned to a combination Buddhist meditation and a practice of “positive psychology.” She observes the mental content in her mind, and tries to give less food to those negative emotions and thoughts, which has the result of making her “relaxed and focused on the the right things.” May waxes poetic about her home region, the Magway Division, which is famous for its ancient pagodas, and a common pilgrimage destination for devout Buddhists. But sadly, the military has instigated repeated, targeted assaults in and around Magway, which have resulted in thousands of newly Internally Displaced Peoples (IDPs). May has added this issue to her mission portfolio, and is desperately trying to locate funds to support them. Compounding this even further is that the conflict has prevented farmers from tending to their crops, increasing dangers of a looming starvation. May clearly more than has her hands full!  In closing, she has just one message for listeners. “To end the military regime, we have to stand together and fight back… If not, we will never, ever decrease their evil. So please become involved in this revolution.” Support this podcast

#자신감 #사회복지사 #신입 정토불교대학 https://www.jungto.org/edu/junior/ 정토회 http://www.jungto.org 행복학교 https://hihappyschool.com/ 두 아이의 엄마이자 올해 마흔 살이 된 초보 사회복지사입니다 많은 사람 앞에서 얘기하는 일이 많은데요 그럴 때 너무 떨리고 너무 떨린 나머지 제가 가진 역량을 다 보여주지 못하게 돼서 그런 자신감이 없다는 말을 많이 듣는 것 같은데 스트레스를 받으면서 일을 하는 게 맞는지 아니면 다른 직장을 찾는 게 맞는지

In a culture that tends to feel gratitude for only the pleasant things in our life, the Buddhist approach is to feel gratitude for all things, even the unpleasant ones. Gratitude develops patience and patience is an antidote to the poison of greed.

This talk was given by Gil Fronsdal on 2021.11.28 at the Insight Meditation Center in Redwood City, CA. ******* Video of this talk is available at: https://youtu.be/dYXOmWx0r8A. ******* A machine generated transcript of this talk is available. It has not been edited by a human, so errors will exist. Closed Captioning: https://otter.ai/u/VLJ3I1iXx3G2aLpkzPB8z8x8ElM ******* For more talks like this, visit AudioDharma.org ******* If you have enjoyed this talk, please consider supporting AudioDharma with a donation at https://www.audiodharma.org/donate/. ******* This talk is licensed by a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 4.0 License

This talk was given by Gil Fronsdal on 2021.11.28 at the Insight Meditation Center in Redwood City, CA. ******* For more talks like this, visit AudioDharma.org ******* If you have enjoyed this talk, please consider supporting AudioDharma with a donation at https://www.audiodharma.org/donate/. ******* This talk is licensed by a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 4.0 License

We Were Made For These Times: A conversation with Kaira Jewel Lingo   In this conversation with Kaira, we explore many rich topics including:   embodiment and mindfulness as not separate her new book We Were Made For These Times the practice of coming home to ourselves applying these teachings in the mess of real life rather than just a monastic situation social justice and mindfulness and how each of these need each other the mantras of True Love from Thich Nhat Hanh powerful teachings from 2 monks from Plum Village who attended COP26 the powerful practice of kissing the earth with your feet layered mindfulness and so much more   Kaira Jewel Lingo began practicing mindfulness in 1997 and teaches Buddhist meditation, secular mindfulness, and compassion internationally. After living as an ordained nun for 15 years in Thich Nhat Hanh's monastic community, Kaira Jewel teaches in the Zen lineage and the Vipassana tradition, at the intersection of racial, climate and social justice with a focus on activists, Black/Indigenous/People of Color, artists, educators, families, and youth. Now based in New York, she offers spiritual mentoring to individuals and groups. She is author of the just released We Were Made for These Times: Skilfully Moving through Change, Loss and Disruption from Parallax Press. Visit kairajewel.com to learn more.    Kaira is offering a retreat Dec 4 and 5, 2021, through Spirit Rock, on the same title as my new book: https://spirit-rock.secure.retreat.guru/program/we-were-made-for-these-times-kj1m21/?_ga=2.185343337.1993561752.1633760566-881770598.1633760566&lang=en   Along with her partner who is an Episcopal priest, she is offering a new Buddhist Christian community of study, practice and action that meets monthly. People can sign up here if they'd like more info. https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSftoybrmY3MixFXo2qrFxGajc2p3bn82WPeqbuRoRWKhwkNcg/viewform  

I've counseled many of my clients over the years to use this Buddhist prayer of forgiveness with much success. May you find healing in it as well. Episode Blog Link: https://www.divinelotushealing.com/buddhist-forgiveness-prayer/ Have a takeaway from this episode? Visit the blog to leave a comment or take a screen shot and tag #divinelotushealingshow on social media. Also, be sure to leave a positive review on your podcast platform to help these episodes reach more great people just like you. It also helps me know what you're enjoying most from my show! Website Home: https://divinelotushealing.com/

This week, Sah welcomes Dr. Miles Neale, PsyD, a Buddhist psychotherapist in private practice and founder of the online Contemplative Studies Program. Author of Gradual Awakening (Sounds True, 2018) and co-editor of Advances in Contemplative Psychotherapy (Routledge, 2017), Miles is a faculty member of Tibet House (US) and Weill Cornell Medical College. With more than twenty years integrating the mind science and meditative practices of Tibetan Buddhism with psychotherapy, trauma research and neuroscience, Miles is a forerunner in the emerging field of contemplative psychotherapy, and leads pilgrimages around the Buddhist world. @milesnealeBuddhist psychotherapyhttps://www.milesneale.com/therapyMy new coursehttps://www.gradualpath.com/lamrimFree Awakening in 30 Stepshttps://m.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLDBzNsxyi_y-_AgwGh-_SQQB1RkHLU-fTIn this episode, Sah and Miles discuss...This time of metaphysical and astrological dissolutionDiscovering Buddhism under the Bodhi TreeHaving to start again after a near-death experienceFinding “home” through unconditional acceptanceDemystifying shadow work Literal and metaphorical death, and the alchemy of rebirthSoul-plasticityand more....✨✨✨This episode of The Spiritually Sassy Show is brought to you by BLACK DAHLIA. Black Dahlia's Alchemy fragrance collection is a provocative pair of CBD-infused fragrances handcrafted to transform your mood. Black Dahlia is offering you 15% off any purchase with the code SAH15. Find out more online at BlackDahlia.co and follow them @BlackDahliaCBD✨✨✨Get more Sah in your life:

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(Group Learning Program) - LEARN Buddhist Chanting (Part 4 of 4) LEARN Buddhist Chanting to help ease the mind into meditation prior to starting a meditation session and to ease it out of meditation at the conclusion of your meditation sessions. For countless centuries, Buddhist Practitioners have chanted in the Pali language to pass The Teachings from one generation to the next. Develop a practice of Buddhist Chanting through learning how to chant in the Pali language - the source language of Gotama Buddha's Teachings. In this Podcast, David will guide you in understanding why Buddhist Practitioners chant, what are the benefits, and how to develop a chanting practice of your own. ——- Daily Wisdom - Walking The Path with The Buddha Dedicated to the education of Gotama Buddha's teachings to attain Enlightenment. https://www.BuddhaDailyWisdom.com (See our website for online learning, courses, and retreats.) Group Learning Program - LIVE Interactive Online Classes, Book, Audiobook, Videos, Podcast and Personal Guidance https://bit.ly/GroupLearningProgram The Words of The Buddha - Pali Canon in English Study Group https://bit.ly/PaliCanonStudyGroup FREE Book - Developing a Life Practice: The Path That Leads to Enlightenment https://www.buddhadailywisdom.com/freebuddhabooks Facebook: https://bit.ly/DailyWisdom-Facebook YouTube: https://bit.ly/DailyWisdom-Youtube Podcast: https://bit.ly/DailyWisdom-Podcast Support our efforts to share the teachings of Gotama Buddha with you and worldwide for all people using this link. https://www.buddhadailywisdom.com/supportbuddha

This week, Christy and Phil sit around holing hands with their best friends as Claudia sadly bids good-bye to Mimi: grandma, Buddhist, biker bar aficionado. Is it handled well? Yes. Does it stand out like a weird thumb after the Nickelodeon goofiness of the last few episodes? OH YES? Is Janine dating Ashley? You’ll justContinue reading "Claudia and the Sad Good-bye!"

Viveka explores the fourth tetrad of the Anapanasati Sutta: “inquiry into the experience of wisdom” particularly applying the contemplations of impermanence, fading away, cessation and relinquishment to the experience of mind and awareness itself.  This talk is part of the series Anapanasati Sutta: Instructions for Awakening given at Adhisthana, 2019. *** Subscribe to our Dharmabytes podcast - bite-sized inspiration three times every week! (Apple Podcasts) Subscribe to our Free Buddhist Audio podcast - a full Dharma talk every week! (Apple Podcasts) Subscribe using these RSS feeds or search for Free Buddhist Audio or Dharmabytes in your favourite podcast service! Help us keep FBA Podcasts free for everyone: donate now! Follow Free Buddhist Audio: YouTube  |  Instagram  |  Twitter  |  Facebook  |  Soundcloud

This talk was given by Gil Fronsdal on 2021.11.26 at the Insight Meditation Center in Redwood City, CA. ******* Video of this talk is available at: https://youtu.be/lLcNp9GCCYg?t=1900. ******* A machine generated transcript of this talk is available. It has not been edited by a human, so errors will exist. Closed Captioning: https://otter.ai/u/2TYE6rprir4__92XR_w6HJU9Byk ******* For more talks like this, visit AudioDharma.org ******* If you have enjoyed this talk, please consider supporting AudioDharma with a donation at https://www.audiodharma.org/donate/. ******* This talk is licensed by a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 4.0 License

This talk was given by Gil Fronsdal on 2021.11.26 at the Insight Meditation Center in Redwood City, CA. ******* Video of this talk is available at: https://youtu.be/lLcNp9GCCYg. ******* For more talks like this, visit AudioDharma.org ******* If you have enjoyed this talk, please consider supporting AudioDharma with a donation at https://www.audiodharma.org/donate/. ******* This talk is licensed by a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 4.0 License

Welcome to episode fifteen of The Way Out Is In: The Zen Art of Living, a podcast series mirroring Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh's deep teachings of Buddhist philosophy: a simple yet profound methodology for dealing with our suffering, and for creating more happiness and joy in our lives. In this episode, the presenters, Zen Buddhist monk Brother Phap Huu and lay Buddhist practitioner and journalist Jo Confino, talk about the art of community living, and take a closer look at the Plum Village community's four decades of existence.The conversation touches upon key friendships – like that between Martin Luther King Jr. and Thich Nhat Hanh; ‘the beloved community'; collective energy; the spirit of togetherness; sustaining a community; deep listening; the importance of the sangha (a community of practitioners) for individuals' practice of mindfulness. And: can two people form a community? As abbot of Upper Hamlet and former attendant to Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh, Brother Phap Huu shares inspiring inside stories from the Plum Village community, including unexpected turns of events; the impact on the community of practitioners of Thay's withdrawal from public life; the secrets to a resilient and harmonious community; sharing opinions versus voting. What is it like to lead a community as a young abbot or abbess? And can you guess Thay's true ‘masterpiece'? Jo muses on the importance of vulnerability and of a conscious community; dharma sharing; and how sanghas he joined in different countries impacted his own practice. The episode ends with a short meditation on community and friendship, guided by Brother Phap Huu. Co-produced by the Plum Village App:https://plumvillage.app/ And Global Optimism:https://globaloptimism.com/ With support from the Thich Nhat Hanh Foundation:https://thichnhathanhfoundation.org/ List of resources Loving Speech & Deep Listeninghttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hDJBKEOe7Pg Bhikkhu/bhikshuhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bhikkhu Bodhisattvahttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bodhisattva International Sangha Directoryhttps://plumvillage.org/about/international-sangha-directory/ Martin Luther King Jr.https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Martin_Luther_King_Jr. Dharma sharinghttps://plumvillage.org/extended-mindfulness-practises/ Vesak Dayhttps://plumvillage.org/articles/vesak-day-2021/Dharma Talks: ‘Beloved Community'https://plumvillage.org/library/dharma-talks/beloved-community/ Brothers in the Beloved Community https://www.parallax.org/product/brothers-in-the-beloved-community/ Letter from Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. nominating Thich Nhat Hanh for the Nobel Peace Prize in 1967https://plumvillage.org/letter-from-dr-martin-luther-king-jr-nominating-thich-nhat-hanh-for-the-nobel-peace-prize-in-1967/ “Man is not our enemy”https://plumvillage.org/articles/blog/poems-of-thay/alone-again-song-recommendation-thays-poetry/ Quotes“Community living is complex, difficult, and needs a lot of openness, deep listening, and negotiation.” “In the Buddhist language, there’s a teaching on letting go. So we have to really learn to let go of our own ideas of what happiness is, what success is, and to see that our individual happiness is not an individual matter, but that happiness is actually a collective matter. Like, when I’m happy, I think you’ll be happy. And when you suffer, I will also suffer. Maybe not directly, but I can feel it from you. I can also find a way to support you, though. And so, community living is a practice in itself.” “Our spirit is that everyone shares their opinion and we sit in a circle. So whenever we share an opinion, it’s not about ‘me'; we’re sharing it for the collective community.” “When Thay says, ‘We don’t need one Buddha, we need many Buddhas’, that is the heart of what is now known as distributed leadership. The world is very complex, so you cannot have one leader who knows everything. What you need to do is give people in each area the responsibility and the accountability that goes with it, rather than having one person at the top of the pyramid. And Plum Village has been doing that for 40 years now.” “Thay said, ‘We’re all allowed to suffer. Suffering is a noble truth that is taught in Buddhism, it’s a gem that the Buddha gave to us to have insight. But our responsibility is also to practice with our suffering.' So, I can suffer, but I’m not just going to go and vent everywhere about it and complain; that’s not the spirit. We all suffer, we all have difficulties, but our practice is to acknowledge it, take care of it, embrace it, and find ways to transform it. And that is very key in our community.” “We often complain that if we’re to avoid climate change or to deal with social injustice, we are reliant on our leaders to change everything. Yes, of course we need leaders to change things, of course we need policy, of course we need people to change – but, actually, we need to change too. And if everyone takes responsibility for their own contribution, then the world will start to change.” “Everyone, especially men, we hear a problem and want to solve it. But often people don’t need it to be solved. They need it to be shared, and so it is called dharma sharing for that very reason.” “In a group setting, each person who shares will at some point share an aspect of themselves – because the whole purpose of Thay’s teaching is about interbeing, that I’m not by myself alone. If you’re suffering but I’m quite happy, it doesn’t mean I have to take on your suffering. But it does mean that, at some level, I recognize your suffering and feel for you in the same way as if I was experiencing it myself.” “When we want to walk the path that offers us strength, compassion, love, understanding, it’s much easier to do so with friends around you that support it. We call that conditions. And that’s why we say that in spirituality it is so important to have friends. It’s like eating rice with soup. Sometimes the rice can be so dry – but soup helps you swallow. So sometimes friendships are like that sweet, gentle support, that soup that helps you slide through the difficulties more easily.”

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Chef Eric Ripert of the famed New York restaurant Le Bernardin doesn't just prepare food, he has a spiritual experience with it. Ripert tells host Marco Werman about how his Buddhist practice influences his cuisine. French winegrowers are feeling the impact of heat, drought, and other changes in weather patterns. The taste of water is often glazed over. But a growing group of professional water sommeliers is hoping to bring the world's attention to the different kinds of water. And, a columnist in The Washington Post met a firestorm of online protest this summer when he dismissed Indian cuisine by describing it as "based entirely on one spice." Every day, the reporters and producers at The World are hard at work providing you with relevant, fact-based and human-centered news from across the globe. From the initial pitch, to the chase, to interviews, to writing, to production, to broadcast, every story from The World requires careful input and touches from many different members of our nonprofit newsroom. The story you just read is available to read for free because thousands of listeners and readers like you generously support our nonprofit newsroom. Become one of 515 donors to make your gift of $130, or pledge $11 monthly before Nov. 30, and you'll help us unlock a matching gift of $67,000. We need your help now more than ever — give today!

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This talk was given by Gil Fronsdal on 2021.11.25 at the Insight Meditation Center in Redwood City, CA. ******* For more talks like this, visit AudioDharma.org ******* If you have enjoyed this talk, please consider supporting AudioDharma with a donation at https://www.audiodharma.org/donate/. ******* This talk is licensed by a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 4.0 License

What we talked about in Part 1: // Attachment theory and mindfulness of emotions and thoughts// How patriarchal society predisposes us to certain thoughts + beliefs and filters our relationship experiences// How it makes sense that anxiety leads to crazy thoughts and actions// Why those actions could end up leading us to lose ourselves in a relationship// The FIRST step in healing: offering ourselves self-compassion This week, we're going to dive deeper into more tools and concepts. The first is cognitive bias, which is a function of our brain that searches for evidence of what we already believe to be true instead of what is actually true. It's like when you're in a moment of anxiety and you completely forget those other times where you were anxious, and nothing was wrong. For me, I remember experiencing moments of complete panic in my relationships, and a partner would text me something super sweet like, “Hey, thinking of you and missing you,” and I would just think, yeah right. They're just saying that to appease me, but they don't mean it! Cognitive bias explains why it's pointless to try to change how other people behave so that we can feel better. Because our brain will still have the same filters and thoughts. It will interpret it in a way that supports what we believe. The other reason trying to control others is a bad ideas is because they often actually don't do it… and we also feel a bit ashamed about how needy and desperate we're being. We're just trying to control them to make ourselves feel better about what's in our heads. Instead, imagine feeling Ziji – radiant inner confidence no matter how other people behaved. Feeling secure attachment, no matter what. This doesn't mean we should say in a relationship with just anyone. What it DOES mean is we can have a sense of security no matter what. We are grounded in ourselves and know what we want, which allows genuine love and connection in our relationships. Even when we have disagreements and conflict, we don't experience that anxiety or feel insecure as a result. The hard part is that most people aren't born with these skills. We need to learn them. Another aspect that affects how we tend to lose ourselves in relationships is perfectionism, which contributes to anxious attachment styles in particular. If you think about it, perfectionism and anxiety go hand in hand. We think we need to be perfect in order to be worthy and to be loved. And what's more of a place to run into that fear head-on than in a romantic relationship? Of course, it can be seen in any type of relationship – familial or friendship – but there's something about intimate or romantic relationships that really brings this up for people. Intimacy involves being vulnerable and human and messy and not perfect. If you're a perfectionist, you judge and reject yourself for being that messy human, and when you start getting intimate with someone, you project onto them your own constant self-evaluating and analyzing. If you catalogue your faults, then your partner is, too. If you compare yourself with others' looks and personality, then your partner is, too. And then you want your partner to reassure you about something they can't possibly fix because it's your own thoughts about yourself. Perfectionists (and black and white thinkers) also don't have much of a sense of healthy balance or limits or how to construct a relationship they want. They also may not know how to take it slow. They don't know how to gradually develop a relationship and integrate it into their life.Something I briefly touched on in part 1 is that those with an anxious attachment style tend to subconsciously pick someone with avoidant attachment patterns. Part of it is because it activates their kind of anxiety and they get caught in a cycle, but it's also because they don't know how to moderate themselves as an all-or-nothing thinker. The funny balance of this type of relationship is that while you keep wanting more, they set all the limits. When you're used to rejecting and judging yourself by what others think you should want and how they react to you, that pattern can feel totally comfortable. On the other hand, I also don't think dating someone with a secure attachment style is the answer. It's like encountering emotional sobriety. You can clearly and sometimes painfully see how much you create this drama in your own brain. So those with an anxious or avoidant style tend to reject the secure attachment people because they're addicted to the drama of anxiety and relief. At the end of the day, though, all of this is about your relationship with yourself and your capacity to believe your inherent self-worth and lovability which has been 100% since DAY 1 of your existence. Here are just a few additional tips to help you not lose yourself in a relationship (I talk about so many more in the full podcast Episode!):  Live an amazing life without a partner and realize that you can have a fulfilling life with just you.If someone says they aren't ready, believe it.Do the work of believing you deserve a kind, respectful, amazing partner… BECAUSE YOU DO!And remember to get yourself a really supportive and loving community of people around you that is unpacking the same patterns as you in growing in the same areas. Don't just isolate yourself with people who will complain with each other and focus on the bad. This community of open, honest growth is really what it's all about in Freedom School. If finding a partner is on your bucket list, or if you see a lot of commonalities in your relationships from the past two Episodes, then it's time to get started on healthy and permanent change for the better. Check out more at joinfreedomschool.com. In this Episode you will learn:// What cognitive bias is and why it's useless to try to change someone else// How to stop people pleasing and feel strong and confident telling the truth in ALL your relationships// Why avoidant and anxious attachment styles tend to attract each other and run from secure attachment styles// 5 practical tips on how not to lose yourself in a relationship  Resources:// Episode 79 – How Not to Lose Yourself in a Relationship, Part 1// Episode  14 - Cognitive Dissonance and How to Believe New Things // Episode 18 - How to Coach Yourself - Applied mindfulness // Episode 2 - How to Not Care What Other People Think About You// Check out my newest Elephant Journal article on setting boundaries like a Buddhist… and how to deal when people don't like them.// If you're loving what you're learning in this podcast, you have got to come check out Freedom School. Freedoms School is the community for ALL things related to freedom, inside and out.It's also where you can get individual help applying the concepts to your own life. It's where you can learn new coaching tools not shared on the podcast that will blow your mind even more, and it's where you can hang out and connect over all things thought work with other freedom junkies just like you and me. It's my favorite place on earth and it will change your life, I guarantee it. Come join us at JoinFreedomSchool.com I can't wait to see you there. // If you're new to the squad, grab the starter kit I created at RebelBuddhist.com. It has all you need to start creating a life of more freedom, adventure, and purpose. You'll get access to the private Facebook group where you can ask me questions! Once you join, there's also a weekly FB live called Wake the F*ck Up Wednesday, where you can ask questions that come up as you do this work – in all parts of your life.

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This talk was given by Gil Fronsdal on 2021.11.24 at the Insight Meditation Center in Redwood City, CA. ******* Video of this talk is available at: https://youtu.be/s7LM8zT2nMo?t=1. ******* For more talks like this, visit AudioDharma.org ******* If you have enjoyed this talk, please consider supporting AudioDharma with a donation at https://www.audiodharma.org/donate/. ******* This talk is licensed by a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 4.0 License