Podcasts about Attachment

If Part 1 helped you see yourself more clearly, this episode is where everything shifts.

Welcome to another episode of Restoring the Soul with Michael John Cusick. Today's conversation dives deep into the heart of spiritual growth, as AJ Denson returns to interview Michael about his award-winning book, Sacred Attachment, Escaping Spiritual Exhaustion and Trusting in Divine Love.The episode explores Chapter 3, focusing on attachment theory and its profound connection to both psychology and the divine. Michael lays a foundation by tracing attachment back beyond neuroscience and child development, all the way to the ultimate example: the Trinity. Together, Michael and AJ unpack how the Trinity models perfect attunement and connection, and what this means for our relationship with God, others, and ourselves.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

In this episode of Trauma Rewired, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof welcome author, speaker, and embodiment coach Preston Smiles for a powerful conversation on the Father Wound — and how paternal presence or absence shapes the nervous system. Together, they explore how a father's regulation, emotional availability, and play patterns influence brain development, stress physiology, attachment, intimacy, and leadership. Drawing from both lived experience and developmental research, this episode examines the real impact of masculine containment — not through blame, but through understanding. From childhood patterning to adult relationships, parenting, and community repair, this conversation offers grounded insight, somatic depth, and a hopeful path toward nervous system healing. Timestamps: 00:00 –  Intro/The Good Boy Pattern 08:00 – The Father Wound 17:30 – Play and Masculine Energy 33:30 – Shame and Reclaiming the Masculine 52:30 – Capacity and Embodied Partnership Key Takeaways: The fatherwound isn't just emotional, it's neurological and somatic, shaping how we regulate stress, relate, and play. Healthy masculine presence supports brain development through movement, physical play, safety, and co-regulation. Many relational patterns come from what was never modeled, not from personal failure. Healing happens through embodied experience, safe relationships, and repeated nervous system repair, not just insight. Resources Mentioned: The Bridge Method – Workshops led by Preston Smiles: https://www.thebridgemethod.org/ Spiritual Millionaire, by Preston Smiles: https://preston-davis.mykajabi.com/book Instagram: @PrestonSmiles: https://www.instagram.com/prestonsmiles/ Call to Action: Neurosomatic Intelligence is now enrolling : https://neurosomaticintelligence.com/nsi-certification Learn to work with Boundaries at the level of the body and nervous system at https://www.boundaryrewire.com Get a two-week free trial of neurosomatic training at https://rewiretrial.com Sacred Synapse: an educational YouTube channel founded by Jennifer Wallace that explores nervous system regulation, applied neuroscience, consciousness, and psychedelic preparation and integration through Neurosomatic Intelligence.  Wayfinder Journal: Track nervous system patterns and support preparation and integration through Neurosomatic Intelligence. FREE 1 Year Supply of Vitamin D + 5 Travel Packs from Athletic Greens when you use my exclusive offer: https://www.drinkag1.com/rewired Sources: Flinn, M. V. & England, B. G. (2003). Social economics of childhood glucocorticoid stress response and health. Laurent, H. K. et al. (2013). Synchrony of hypothalamic–pituitary–adrenal axis activity in parents and infants. Feldman, R. et al. (2010). Parent–infant synchrony and the construction of shared timing. Amato, P. R. & Gilbreth, J. G. (1999). Nonresident fathers and children's well-being. Ellis, B. J. et al. (1999). Quality of early family relationships and timing of puberty. Meaney, M. J. & Szyf, M. (2005). Environmental programming of stress responses through DNA methylation.   Disclaimer: Trauma Rewired podcast is intended to educate and inform but does not constitute medical, psychological or other professional advice or services. 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Welcome back to the Let's Get Vulnerable Podcast and happy Valentine's Day

Belonging and inner life can feel exhausting when connection depends on holding everything together. This episode explores why that fatigue isn't failure, but a signal to anchor belonging beyond roles, performance, and relational responsibility.There is a quiet exhaustion that doesn't come from conflict, failure, or broken relationships.It comes from believing that belonging depends on your steadiness, your usefulness, or your ability to hold things together.In this Sunday episode of The Recalibration, we move into Vertical Alignment — the place where identity is anchored beyond human roles, nervous system strategies, and relational performance.This conversation is especially for high-capacity humans who have learned early that connection often comes with responsibility. Being the adaptable one. The steady one. The one who carries emotional weight so relationships don't fracture. Over time, that pattern can create subtle burnout, spiritual exhaustion, and a quiet fear: If I stop holding everything together, will I still belong?Through Identity-Level Recalibration (ILR), we don't try to solve that question with reassurance or effort. We allow belonging to relocate — from something you manage horizontally to something you receive vertically.This episode weaves together themes of identity shift, attachment, nervous system regulation, and faith, grounded in the words of Jesus of Nazareth, whose invitation — “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest” — reframes belonging as presence before performance.ILR is not another mindset tactic or productivity strategy. It is the root-level recalibration that makes every other tool effective again. When identity rests before it relates, relationships no longer require over-functioning. They become places of presence rather than pressure.This episode closes Week 4 by anchoring what has been noticed, released, reclaimed, reinforced, and integrated — not through momentum, but through rest.Today's Micro RecalibrationWhere have I been earning belonging — and what would it feel like to rest instead?Not to fix.Not to explain.Just to notice.Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Join the next Friday Recalibration Live experience → Take your listening deeper! Subscribe to The Weekly Recalibration Companion to receive reflections and extensions to each week's podcast episodes. → Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Books to read (Tidy categories on Amazon- I've read/listened to each recommended title.) → One link to all things

Robert Stone is a paranormal researcher and author whose work Ghosts and Their Interest in Those That Are Still explores why spirit phenomena are often reported to interact with the living. Stone examines historical accounts, eyewitness testimony, and cultural beliefs to consider whether hauntings stem from emotional attachment, unfinished business, environmental imprinting, or consciousness-based connections. His work focuses on the relationship between the living and reported spirit presences, encouraging thoughtful discussion about memory, place, and the enduring mysteries surrounding reported afterlife interactions.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-x-zone-radio-tv-show--1078348/support.Please note that all XZBN radio and/or television shows are Copyright © REL-MAR McConnell Meda Company, Niagara, Ontario, Canada – www.rel-mar.com. For more Episodes of this show and all shows produced, broadcasted and syndicated from REL-MAR McConell Media Company and The 'X' Zone Broadcast Network and the 'X' Zone TV Channell, visit www.xzbn.net. For programming, distribution, and syndication inquiries, email programming@xzbn.net.We are proud to announce the we have launched TWATNews.com, launched in August 2025.TWATNews.com is an independent online news platform dedicated to uncovering the truth about Donald Trump and his ongoing influence in politics, business, and society. Unlike mainstream outlets that often sanitize, soften, or ignore stories that challenge Trump and his allies, TWATNews digs deeper to deliver hard-hitting articles, investigative features, and sharp commentary that mainstream media won't touch.These are stories and articles that you will not read anywhere else.Our mission is simple: to expose corruption, lies, and authoritarian tendencies while giving voice to the perspectives and evidence that are often marginalized or buried by corporate-controlled media

Relationship shifts can feel confusing when nothing is “wrong,” yet something feels different. This episode explores how identity-level recalibration allows you to make sense of relational change without urgency, drama, or fear of losing belonging.Some relational shifts don't arrive with conflict, boundaries, or conversations.They arrive quietly.You feel less responsible.Less vigilant.Less compelled to manage the moment.And for high-capacity humans — people accustomed to responsibility, steadiness, and relational competence — that quiet can feel disorienting.In this episode of The Recalibration, we explore horizontal alignment: the phase of integration where experience is allowed to settle into real life without being interpreted, explained, or turned into a story.This conversation is especially for those navigating relationship changes that don't fit familiar narratives of growth or loss. You may notice:less emotional charge in certain connectionsmore neutrality without disengagementfewer explanations without withdrawalThat doesn't mean something is wrong.It often means discernment is replacing fear.Drawing on identity-level recalibration (ILR), this episode gently reframes integration as a nervous-system process, not a cognitive one. Unlike mindset work or productivity strategies, ILR begins with who you are being, not what you should do — allowing clarity to emerge without forcing resolution.You'll hear how:belonging doesn't disappear when performance relaxesoutgrowing a role doesn't require outgrowing the relationshipmeaning can form without narrative fixationThis is companionship work, not instruction.Orientation, not urgency.Recognition before resolution.Today's Micro Recalibration:“What did this week reveal about how I relate to belonging?”Let the question sit beside you. No answers required yet.Explore Identity-Level Recalibration→ Join the next Friday Recalibration Live experience → Take your listening deeper! Subscribe to The Weekly Recalibration Companion to receive reflections and extensions to each week's podcast episodes. → Follow Julie Holly on LinkedIn for more recalibration insights → Schedule a conversation with Julie to see if The Recalibration is a fit for you → Download the Misalignment Audit → Subscribe to the weekly newsletter → Books to read (Tidy categories on Amazon- I've read/listened to each recommended title.) → One link to all things

"She's a ten to me and that's the part that matters." — Paul EastwickIf it's Valentine's Day, we must be talking about love. Paul Eastwick studies attraction and relationships at UC Davis, and his new book Bonded by Evolution takes aim at the "old science" that treated romance like a competitive market where everyone gets assigned a number. The incels, of course, ran with that research to compound their paranoia about the other sex. Eastwick says they got it wrong—and so, with the exception of Paul Eastwick, did most academics.When two people look at the same photograph and make a hot-or-not judgment, Eastwick explains, they only agree about 65% of the time. After they've known the person for months, agreement drops to barely better than a coin flip. So there isn't any universal hierarchy of desirability. What's real is that some people will think you're an 8 and others will think you're a 3—and that quirky disagreement explains most of what happens in the science of attraction. The problem is that dating apps make everything feel like they're in a market, thereby filtering out the "slow burn" people who need time to grow on you. Eastwick's advice, therefore, is forget swiping, reboot your social networks, throw candle lit dinner parties where nobody knows each other. It's more democratic, it takes longer, and it actually works. Happy V day everyone.About the GuestPaul Eastwick is Professor of Psychology at UC Davis, where he studies attraction and close relationships. He is the author of Bonded by Evolution: The New Science of Love and Connection (2026) and co-host of the podcast Love Factually with Eli Finkel.ReferencesConcepts discussed:●      The mating market hypothesis treats attraction like an economic exchange where people are assigned desirability values and seek partners at their "level"—an idea Eastwick argues is far more limited than academics have assumed.●      Limerence is the academic term for the intense, obsessive early stage of romantic attraction—what we might call infatuation or passion.●      The Dunbar number (~150) represents the cognitive limit on stable social relationships—roughly the size of hunter-gatherer groups where our mating psychology evolved.●      Pair bonding emerged in human evolution about two million years ago as brain size increased and children required longer periods of intensive parental investment.●      Attachment theory describes the deep bonds that form when we trust someone to have our back, celebrate our successes, and support us through difficulty.Evolution and mating:●      Human males became smaller relative to females and lost their sharp canines as women selected for men who were safe around babies—"the evolved male is the good caregiver and good dad."●      Unlike gorillas with their harem-style mating, humans shifted toward pair bonding because helpless infants with expanding brains needed investment from both parents.●      Polyamory research shows that people can form genuine attachment bonds with multiple partners—trust, wellbeing, and attachment levels match or exceed monogamous couples.Also mentioned:●      Eli Finkel is Eastwick's co-host on the Love Factually podcast and author of The All-or-Nothing Marriage.●      When Harry Met Sally (1989) depicts "one of the most beautiful friendships on screen," according to Eastwick, and holds up well on the friends-to-lovers pathway.●      Baz Luhrmann's Romeo + Juliet (1996) was the subject of a recent Love Factually episode—"that MTV style of filmmaking" with Claire Danes and Leonardo DiCaprio.●      The incel and manosphere communities have taken 1990s attraction research and "run with it in some strange and unjustified ways."About Keen On AmericaNobody asks more awkward questions than the Anglo-American writer and filmmaker Andrew Keen. In Keen On America, Andrew brings his pointed Transatlantic wit to making sense of the United States—hosting daily interviews about the history and future of this now venerable Republic. With nearly 2,800 episodes since the show launched on TechCrunch in 2010, Keen On America is the most prolific intellectual interview show in the history of podcasting.WebsiteSubstackYouTubeApple PodcastsSpotify

Andrew Humberman BioSnap a weekly updated Biography.Andrew Huberman, the Stanford neuroscientist behind the worlds top health podcast, dropped a bombshell episode on February 12 titled Essentials The Science of Love Desire and Attachment on HubermanLab.com and YouTube, diving deep into how childhood bonds shape adult romance brain circuits for empathy and desire plus libido boosters like maca root Tongkat Ali and tribulus. PsyPost.org highlighted it the same day unpacking Hubermans take on dopamine as craving fuel not just pleasure the insula brains empathy hub and Gottman Labs four horsemen of doomed relationships criticism defensiveness stonewalling and the killer contempt dubbed relationships sulfuric acid. This release timed perfectly for Valentines buzz could cement his status as go-to guru for emotional wiring with tools to hack attachment styles from anxious-avoidant roots via Mary Ainsworths Strange Situation experiments. Meanwhile Kalshi.com launched a quirky prediction market betting whether Huberman will utter marijuana weed or cannabis on the upcoming TBPN Podcast sparking online chatter about his next hot take though no air date or confirmation yet. No public appearances business moves or fresh social mentions popped in the last few days his site teases the upcoming Protocols book preorder on brain hacks mood and performance but thats ongoing hype not new. Fans rave in newsletter comments calling it life-changing yet verified scoops stay slim to podcasts core output signaling Hubermans laser focus on science over spotlight as Valentines looms.Get the best deals https://amzn.to/3ODvOtaThis content was created in partnership and with the help of Artificial Intelligence AI

There's a subtle way we make life harder. And it looks like certainty.It looks like *thinking* we know exactly how something needs to unfold.It looks like gripping tightly to one version of the future.It looks like insisting that if it doesn't happen this way, something has gone wrong.In this episode, I share what I've been calling my Pinhole Theory - the idea that when we narrow life down to one expected outcome, we collapse infinite possibility into a tiny, controlled opening.And we completely BLOCK the divine  (the Universe, God, Spirit whatever word you like) from supporting us and stepping in.And then we wonder why nothing new comes through. Why we feel blocked, stuck, creatively VOIDIt's NOT about abandoning desire. Or passively waiting for something to happen or someone to save us. And it definitely isn't about “just surrendering and hoping for the best.”It's about DEEP inner safety.Attachment disguised as alignment.It's about how hyper-control quietly shrinks the bigness of what's currently trying to arrive for you.It's the difference between pinhole consciousness and infinite field awareness.In this episode, I'm sharing: • Why rigid expectations create unnecessary suffering • How control is often a trauma strategy, not intuition and certainly not manifestation • What happens to our perception when we're in fight-or-flight • Why some of my clients co-created faster results with less force • The relationship between regulation and creativity • The subtle way we block miracles by scripting them • And why widening the lens might be the real workI also share something personal.I've officially closed my coaching practice at EliseDanielle.com.Substack is now my primary home for everything that's unfolding.If you resonate with this episode and you feel the shift into something more spacious, more honest, more integrated, I have a feeling the community I'm creating over there is exactly what you need.✨ Subscribe to My Substack here: The Becoming ChroniclesEach month I'll be hosting a ritual,workshop, ceremony (IDK what I'm calling it yet) for my paid subscribers - and next weeks is ALL ABOUT how we can together, usher in the identity that the fire horse energy is asking us to step into. It's going to be SO FRICKEN GOOD. Can't wait to see you there. Let's Connect

Send a textWhat if you don't actually need a drink to feel confident, sexy, or safe in love?With Valentine's Day approaching, this episode of The Sober Butterfly Podcast dives deep into the connection between alcohol, attachment styles, intimacy, and subconscious emotional patterns.Host Nadine welcomes back world-renowned hypnotherapist Georgia Foster for a powerful Part 2 conversation about how drinking habits are often rooted in anxiety, the inner critic, and nervous system dysregulation — especially in dating and relationships.If you've ever wondered:Why do I drink more when I'm dating?Why do I feel anxious without alcohol on a first date?Why do I attract the same type of partner?Can I drink less without quitting entirely?How do I build confidence without liquid courage?This episode is for you.Georgia shares how hypnotherapy works to reprogram the subconscious mind, calm anxiety triggers, and shift emotional habits around alcohol. Together, Nadine and Georgia explore:The psychology of drinking in relationshipsAnxious attachment and alcohol useThe role of the inner critic in datingSober intimacy and overcoming performance anxietyHow to feel confident without alcoholRewiring subconscious drinking patternsChoosing partners based on intuition instead of familiarityNervous system regulation and manifestationHealing shame around past drinking behaviorsGeorgia also leads listeners through a powerful guided visualization designed to calm the nervous system, strengthen intuition, and help you attract relationships that are aligned with your self-worth.Whether you're sober, sober-curious, moderating, dating, partnered, or opting out of Valentine's Day entirely — this episode will help you examine your relationship with alcohol and how it impacts your romantic life.About Georgia FosterGeorgia Foster is a clinical hypnotherapist with over 30 years of experience helping high-functioning adults transform their relationship with alcohol. She specializes in moderation, subconscious behavior change, and emotional habit rewiring. Her programs focus on reducing shame, quieting the inner critic, and creating intelligent, balanced change.Learn more at: https://georgiafoster.comConnect with Nadine on Instagram @the.soberbutterfly https://www.instagram.com/the.soberbutterfly/?hl=enSupport the showPlease note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services refereed to in this episode.

Many adult patterns begin as adaptations formed in childhood. In this session, we'll explore how early experiences create energetic imprints — often called trauma, wounds, or shadow — and how, from a quantum perspective, awareness allows these patterns to shift and integrate, supporting healing and authentic living. 

In this Huberman Lab Essentials episode, I explore the psychology and biology of desire, love and attachment. I explain how childhood attachment styles can shape adult romantic relationships and how the brain and body systems influence emotional bonds. I also discuss supplements that may support a healthy libido and practical, science-based tools for understanding your relationship patterns and building stronger relationships. Read the episode show notes at hubermanlab.com. Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman Eight Sleep: https://eightsleep.com/huberman Function: https://functionhealth.com/huberman Timestamps (00:00:00) Desire, Love & Attachment (00:00:23) 4 Attachment Styles, Child & Parent (00:04:11) Attachment & Autonomic Arousal, Seesaw Analogy (00:07:26) Sponsor: Eight Sleep (00:08:44) Tool: Self-Awareness of Attachment Style, Autonomic State & Relationship (00:09:51) Brain & Neural Circuits for Desire, Love & Attachment (00:11:19) Empathy, Autonomic Matching (00:13:09) Positive Delusions, Relationship Breakdown & Failure (00:16:00) Sponsor: Function (00:17:39) Universality of Love, Autonomic Coordination (00:21:38) Self-Expansion & Relationships, Shaping Self-Perception (00:27:54) Sponsor: AG1 (00:28:44) Testosterone, Estrogen, Dopamine & Libido (00:31:52) Supplements to Increase Libido: Maca Root, Tongkat Ali (Longjack), Tribulus (00:38:55) Recap Disclaimer & Disclosures Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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Why does setting boundaries feel so scary—even when you know they're healthy?If you feel guilty saying no, anxious about disappointing people, responsible for other people's emotions, or afraid that boundaries make you selfish, this episode of Mental Health School is for you.In this episode, we unpack people-pleasing, boundary anxiety, and attachment patterns—and why boundarylessness is not a flaw, but an adaptation your nervous system learned early in life.You'll learn:• How people-pleasing forms in childhood• Why attachment felt safer than authenticity• Why boundaries trigger anxiety in the nervous system• How people-pleasing functions as a protective survival strategy• The difference between attachment-based survival and authentic self-expression• How to begin setting boundaries without becoming cold, harsh, or disconnectedDrawing from attachment theory (often discussed by Gabor Maté) and internal systems work (developed by Richard Schwartz), this episode explains why a child will always choose connection over authenticity—and how that pattern can follow us into adulthood.You'll also be guided through a calming affirmation practice designed to help your nervous system feel safe with boundaries, unwind people-pleasing, and build tolerance for authenticity without self-abandonment.If you struggle with:• people-pleasing• fear of disappointing others• difficulty setting boundaries• boundary guilt or anxiety• losing yourself in relationshipsthis episode will help you understand why boundaries feel threatening—and how to rebuild safety around being yourself.You don't need to abandon yourself to stay connected. You can be authentic and still belong.

"I'm just Type A—that's why we clash." "I'm an Alpha male. This is just who I am." "I'm anxiously attached. I can't help how I react." I hear these statements constantly in my coaching work. And every time, I watch the same thing happen: growth stops. The label becomes a shield. The framework becomes a prison. And the marriage stays stuck. In this episode, I'm examining three of the most popular psychological frameworks people use to explain their behavior—and what the research actually says about them. Spoiler: the science doesn't support what most people think it does. What We Cover: Type A personality and what the research really found (hint: it's not about drive or ambition) Alpha Male theory and the wolf study that's been debunked for decades Attachment styles—solid research that people are using in terrible ways Why these frameworks become barriers to change instead of pathways to growth The difference between using psychology as a map vs. using it as a jail cell Fair Warning This episode is direct. If you're invested in one of these frameworks, you might feel defensive listening to it. Pay attention to that reaction. It's information. Because your marriage doesn't need more explanation for why things aren't working. It needs change. And change becomes impossible when you're more committed to protecting your identity than examining your impact. This episode is about coachability—the willingness to question what you think you know about yourself in service of building the marriage you actually want. Ready to get uncomfortable?  Listen below. RELATED RESOURCES: Save The Marriage System Dangers in Marital Therapy What are You Controlling?

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Personal Flow and Attachment Soo Kim expressed a feeling of being on the "verge of something". Jevon Perra commented that Soo Kim was doing great with "not attaching to any outcome and just flowing non-judgmentally," which Jevon Perra admitted they struggle with, though they are aware of their attachments. They agreed that the unawareness of one's "craziness" is what causes trouble.Judgment and Sincerity Jevon Perra stated that they constantly have judgments, including about people who are "happy nice," like their Mormon friends, where they don't perceive sincerity. Soo Kim related to the judgment of insincerity, citing it as a major reason for a "rupture with Leila," because they judged her actions as insincere and fake. Jevon Perra agreed that having the data to be "right about my perceptions" is not the ultimate goal because their perceptions and best-case scenarios do not lead to ultimate happiness or peace.Contentment as the Highest State Jevon Perra asserted that the pursuit of achievement and accomplishment does not bring unending happiness and bliss, noting that past moments of having everything only brought momentary satisfaction. They suggested that the "other game" is to simply be content, which they considered "probably the highest state," because if one is content, their apparent energetic state does not matter as much.Illusion of the Singular Self and Happiness Set Point Soo Kim discussed the "illusion of the singular self," stating that even within a personality construct, there are multiple aspects, and the matter is which one one attaches to. Jevon Perra referenced a psychology book, The How of Happy, which suggests that most of one's happiness is set by genetics and other propensities, but about 30% comes from choices made, specifically one's speech and thoughts.The Meaning of Seriousness When asked where they fall on the happiness scale, Jevon Perra described Soo Kim as a "princess warrior type," serious about what is real and true, which Jevon Perra relates to. Jevon Perra defined being serious as meaning "life and death," explaining that to be serious is to stop playing, believe something will kill you, and stop being loose, unguarded, and oneself. They also related seriousness to suffering, where one stops "trusting God" and takes matters into their own hands, leading to suffering.The Enneagram Type Three Racket Jevon Perra shared that as an Enneagram Type Three, they are a performer who struggles to know what is truly them, losing themselves in their performances because they prioritize achievement. They explained that a "racket" is a game played to hide the "real business," drawing an analogy to a butcher shop fronting an alcohol operation during prohibition. Jevon Perra stated that their current "racket" involves engaging in human suffering to be relatable to others, but they get lost in the pain of the character they are playing.Connection versus Attachment Soo Kim questioned the sincerity of relating to people without "getting sucked in," calling it a form of insincerity and faking. Jevon Perra made a distinction between trying to relate and trying to connect, emphasizing that needing to connect is also an attachment. Jevon Perra described extreme attachment as the "needy" individual whose outward show of love is experienced as taking, not giving, because they are trying to "vampire" or suck life from the other.The Origin of Sincerity Discussing sincerity, Jevon Perra provided the etymology of the word, explaining that it is Latin for "without wax," originating from the practice of repairing broken marble statues with wax and dust. To be sincere means not hiding brokenness or what one does not want others to see; it means being transparent. Jevon Perra contrasted this with insincere interactions, such as someone being overly nice, suggesting that something is being hidden.The Progression of Relationships and Sincerity Jevon Perra discussed that normal human interactions are permission-based, with gradual sharing of more personal or "sketchy" information. They noted that always presenting only the cordial side is insincere, and relationships must progress, or the lack of progression signals an issue. If cracks are not shown willingly, Jevon Perra cautioned that they will be revealed through pressure or conflict, which is hurtful.Childhood Dynamics and Emotional Triggers Soo Kim related Jevon Perra's observations about insincerity to their own experience of being triggered and wanting to tell others how they were not hearing them, which mirrors a childhood dynamic where they learned defense mechanisms like taking things seriously to feel safe. Soo Kim felt their mother needed them to behave a certain way to feel like a "good mom," leading to a dynamic where they felt unable to be themself.The Attachment to Outcomes Jevon Perra shared their current personal lesson, which is the triggering belief that they "have to take care of people," specifically their family. This belief leads to an attachment to assuring outcomes, such as having "enough money" or ensuring their kids are not hurt, which causes incredible unrest and suffering because they try to love and attack their family at the same time by preventing harm. Jevon Perra identified the solution as releasing the attachment to outcomes, which they believe are already set by a script and soul contracts.Contentment through Trust and Release Jevon Perra concluded that the stress of trying to assure outcomes has no bearing on what happens, only providing the experience of suffering instead of contentment. True contentment comes from "trusting God," which means realizing that everything is perception. They explained that every perception creates a separate identity, which is the world of attachment and suffering.Maya and Lowering Consciousness Jevon Perra introduced the concept of "Maya" as the energy of separation that draws consciousness to lower its resonance to operate in the "super low frequency called personality called the body". They observed that the more aware they become, the more painful it is to be "a little bit off," explaining that their awareness makes them suffer more, not because awareness is negative, but because the subtle disturbance is now enough to bother them.The Princess and the Pea Parable Jevon Perra used the fairy tale of "The Princess and the Pea" to illustrate that spiritual growth makes one more sensitive to subtle disturbances, requiring less and less to bother them. They stated that the spiritual game is one of "less and less" and "letting go game, not a grab more game," leading to the realization that one is already content.The Selfish Gain of Sincerity Jevon Perra stated that the "true work" is realizing one is working for themself, as their personality's selfish gains will not bring ultimate contentment or peace. They observed that both the rich and the poor can be happy, and happiness comes from "stopping of the searching".Releasing Fear and Insanity Jevon Perra spoke about their current situation of quitting a job and not having an income, which triggers their fear that their family will "die" and it is their fault. They shared the experience of releasing attachments while on vacation, which instantly brought freedom and contentment to their life. They concluded that their ultimate insanity is thinking they are the body and personality that wants accomplishments, and the greatest enemy to the separate identity is love, because love is "all inclusive and abundant".Managing Seriousness and Awareness Jevon Perra discussed how unaware they are of many things, using the example of their watch light in sleep mode. They asked Soo Kim if their suggestion to "tread lightly" and "be innocent of the danger" was meant to combat an overly serious nature. Soo Kim confirmed that their goal was to combat their "over seriousness".Embracing Goofiness and Non-Attachment Jevon Perra shared that they sometimes go from being overly serious to being "overly goofy," which they find fun and a "light life". They concluded that life is not so serious because "you can't die," and if they lose their accomplishments, they asserted, "I'm not my accomplishments".

In this episode, I explore what it really takes to break free from the relationship patterns that keep us stuck—with trained educator and relationship expert Stefanos Sifandos. With a background in behavioral science, trauma, and somatics, Stefanos brings a grounded, embodied perspective to the way we love, attach, and relate to ourselves and others.We unpack how early experiences and unprocessed trauma quietly shape our nervous systems, our choices, and the dynamics we recreate in intimate relationships. Stefanos explains why awareness alone isn't enough, and how lasting change requires working with the body—not just the mind—to rewire safety, trust, and emotional regulation. If you've ever found yourself repeating the same cycles despite years of “knowing better,” this conversation sheds light on why that happens and what actually helps shift it.We also talk about self-leadership, emotional responsibility, and what it means to cultivate a healthier sense of self without bypassing the discomfort that growth often demands. Stefanos shares practical insights on boundaries, communication, and how to meet conflict as an opportunity for deeper connection rather than something to avoid or dominate.This episode is an invitation to relate more consciously to your partner, your past, and yourself. If you're committed to personal growth, healing relational wounds, and stepping into your highest potential with honesty and integrity, this conversation offers both clarity and depth.Order Stefanos' book, Tuned In and Turned On: A Path to True Connection, Deep Healing, and Lasting Love, at tunedinandturnedonbook.com.DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for educational purposes only and not intended for diagnosing or treating illnesses. The hosts disclaim responsibility for any adverse effects from using the information presented. Consult your healthcare provider before using referenced products. This podcast may include paid endorsements.THIS SHOW IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY:BON CHARGE | Use the code LIFESTYLIST for 15% off at boncharge.com/lifestylistQUANTUM UPGRADE | Start your 15-day free trial at lukestorey.com/quantumupgradeFOUR SIGMATIC | Get a free bag of their bestselling mushroom coffee at foursigmatic.com/lukeLVLUP HEALTH | Get 15% off with code LUKE15 at lukestorey.com/lvlupMORE ABOUT THIS EPISODE:(00:00:00) Place, Memory, and the Moment Everything Broke Open(00:20:03) How Childhood Wounds Shape Our Adult Relationships(00:33:33) Codependency, the Nervous System, and the Real Work of Intimacy(01:14:34) Celibacy, Solitude, and Rebuilding Self-Worth from the Inside Out(01:45:15) Body Shame, Transparency, and Emotional Responsibility in Relationship(02:10:35) The Mother Wound, Enmeshment, and Integrating Growth(02:32:58) Integrity, Service, and the Inner Conflict Around Being Paid to HelpResources:• Website: stefanossifandos.com• Instagram:

What really happens to the human psyche when fame, money, and constant validation collide?In this episode of The Love Doc Podcast, host Dr. Sarah Hensley and co-host Raina Butcher break down the celebrity psyche—exploring the psychology of fame, identity, relationships, narcissism, attachment styles, and the mental health challenges that come with life in the spotlight. From imposter syndrome and addiction to power dynamics, validation addiction, and public vs. private identity, they examine why celebrity relationships often implode and how fame reshapes the brain, behavior, and sense of self. Blending clinical psychology, real-world examples, and cultural analysis, this conversation pulls back the curtain on celebrity mental health, trauma, ego, and the emotional cost of being adored by millions—and what everyday people can learn from it.Tune in to The Love Doc Podcast every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert insights, and the guidance you need to navigate love and relationships in today's world. For more information on Dr. Hensley's offerings, explore the links below and connect with her on social media.Patreon link: patreon.com/TheLoveDocPodcastDr. Hensley's Hybrid Group Coaching: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/group-coachingBook one on one with Dr. Hensley or one of her certified coaches: Virtual CoachingPurchase Dr. Hensley's online courses: https://courses.thelovedoc.com/coursesTik-Tok: @drsarahhensleyInstagram: @dr.sarahhensley_lovedocFacebook: Dr. Sarah HensleyYoutube: @Dr.SarahHensleyDisclaimer: The content shared on this podcast reflects personal experiences, opinions, and perspectives. The stories told are based on real-life events as remembered and interpreted by the hosts and guests. While we may discuss past relationships, custody matters, or personal dynamics, we do so from our point of view and with the intention of healing, education, and advocacy.Identities are not disclosed unless already publicly known or permitted, and any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental unless explicitly stated. The information provided is not intended to defame, malign, or harm any individual or entity.We do not offer legal advice or psychological diagnosis. Listeners are encouraged to consult with professionals regarding their specific circumstances.By listening to this podcast, you agree that the hosts are not liable for any losses, damages, or misunderstandings arising from its content.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-love-doc-podcast--6390558/support.

This conversation provides a comprehensive overview of secured transactions, focusing on the critical concept of attachment under UCC Article 9. The discussion highlights the importance of understanding the three essential elements of attachment: value, rights in collateral, and the security agreement. It delves into advanced concepts such as floating liens, future advances, and the distinction between attachment and perfection. The conversation emphasizes the practical implications for creditors and the potential pitfalls in secured transactions, offering a quality control checklist for law students and practitioners.TakeawaysAttachment is the moment a security interest becomes enforceable against the debtor.The stakes of attachment are binary: secured vs. unsecured creditor.Value can include antecedent debt, which is crucial for attachment.Debtors must have rights in the collateral to grant a security interest.A security agreement must be authenticated and contain granting language.Floating liens allow security interests to cover future assets automatically.Future advances clauses can inflate the security interest to cover new loans.Attachment is distinct from perfection; both are necessary for creditor rights.Timing is critical; attachment occurs when the last requirement is met.A quality control checklist can help ensure all attachment elements are satisfied.secured transactions, attachment, UCC, Article 9, creditor rights, bankruptcy, collateral, security agreement, legal concepts, law school

"Trauma is not what happens to us, but what we hold inside in the absence of an empathetic witness. The salvation, then, is to be found in the body..."What if trauma isn't something to heal or release but something that formed intelligently in response to life?In this episode, I sit down with Will Rezin of Trauma & Somatics for a deep, grounding conversation on trauma, attachment, procrastination, nervous system regulation, and why so many of us never actually feel completion, only “what's next?”This episode isn't about fixing yourself. It's about understanding how you formed and what becomes possible when survival isn't the only goal anymore.

Joshua Black is a grief researcher and psychologist known for his work on Grief Dreaming and what he terms the Dream Placebo Effect. Black studies how dreams of deceased loved ones can profoundly influence the grieving process—providing comfort, meaning, and emotional regulation regardless of one's beliefs about the afterlife. Drawing on psychology, bereavement studies, and qualitative research, he examines how expectation, memory, and the dreaming mind can generate healing experiences that feel deeply real and transformative, offering insight into why such dreams can reduce distress and foster resilience during loss.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-x-zone-radio-tv-show--1078348/support.Please note that all XZBN radio and/or television shows are Copyright © REL-MAR McConnell Meda Company, Niagara, Ontario, Canada – www.rel-mar.com. For more Episodes of this show and all shows produced, broadcasted and syndicated from REL-MAR McConell Media Company and The 'X' Zone Broadcast Network and the 'X' Zone TV Channell, visit www.xzbn.net. For programming, distribution, and syndication inquiries, email programming@xzbn.net.We are proud to announce the we have launched TWATNews.com, launched in August 2025.TWATNews.com is an independent online news platform dedicated to uncovering the truth about Donald Trump and his ongoing influence in politics, business, and society. Unlike mainstream outlets that often sanitize, soften, or ignore stories that challenge Trump and his allies, TWATNews digs deeper to deliver hard-hitting articles, investigative features, and sharp commentary that mainstream media won't touch.These are stories and articles that you will not read anywhere else.Our mission is simple: to expose corruption, lies, and authoritarian tendencies while giving voice to the perspectives and evidence that are often marginalized or buried by corporate-controlled media

Welcome back to “Restoring the Soul with Michael John Cusick.” In today's episode, Michael John Cusick and Julianne Cusick dive deep into the world of neurodiversity, focusing on the unique challenges faced by couples where one partner is neurodivergent, often navigating undiagnosed autism spectrum disorder (ASD) or related conditions. Drawing on both personal experience and extensive clinical work, Julianne Cusick shares valuable frameworks—including the “umbrella” of neurodiversity—and explains how overlapping diagnoses like depression, anxiety, and mood disorders often connect.Together, Michael and Julianne tackle the realities of trauma within neurodiverse relationships, especially the emotional impact on neurotypical partners who may feel unseen or misunderstood. They unpack terms like Cassandra Syndrome and Ongoing Traumatic Relationship Syndrome, revealing why typical marriage advice sometimes falls short for these couples. You'll also hear practical insights about the importance of attunement, how the absence of emotional mirroring can lead to lasting pain, and new paths forward—like specialized neurodiversity coaching and frameworks that finally bring clarity and hope.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

A grounded conversation about why insight alone doesn't change attachment patterns, and how real healing happens through consistent, embodied action.Learn about 1-1 Attachment Coaching with Jessica here.

Send me a text! I'd LOVE to hear your feedback on this episode!Forget the roses. Let's talk about the chemistry and practice of love that your body can actually feel and your life can sustain. I explore why genuine connection lowers cortisol, boosts oxytocin, and smooths heart rate variability, and how the vagus nerve helps you shift from fight or flight to social engagement and calm. Along the way, I untangle the early attachment templates that shape how we seek closeness, react to conflict, and choose partners without letting the past dictate the future.I share practical, grounded ways to make love coherent: touch and eye contact to build trust, music and laughter to raise oxytocin, and gentle movement and breath to settle the nervous system. I also dig into belief work through BEAM Therapy to uncover and clear the subtle stories like, “I'm not enough,” “love is dangerous,” “I'll be abandoned”, that keep the heart braced. When those patterns soften, generosity replaces self-erasure, and alignment shows up as what you feel, what you say, and how you live moving in the same direction.  For working with a reliable practitioner, I highly recommend Brenda Farrugia of https://www.sobrilliant.ca/.Pets get their moment too, because the research is striking: eye contact with your dog can raise oxytocin for both of you.  Beyond sentiment, I talk rituals that outlast performative holidays, like handwritten letters that name growth and gratitude, and why boundaries are a love language for your nervous system. By choosing practices that bring you back to a steady exhale, you stop confusing chaos with chemistry and start building bonds that feel like home.If this conversation helped you rethink love, subscribe, share it with someone who needs it today, and leave a review on Apple or Spotify - tell me the one practice you'll try this week.Support the showPlease rate & review my podcast with a few kind words on Apple or Spotify. Subscribe wherever you listen, share this episode with a friend, and follow me below. This truly gives back & helps me keep bringing amazing guests & topics every week.Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sandyknutrition/Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/sandyknutritionTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sandyknutritionYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIh48ov-SgbSUXsVeLL2qAgRumble: https://rumble.com/c/c-5461001Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sandyknutrition/Substack: https://sandykruse.substack.com/Podcast Website: https://sandykruse.ca

This conversation delves into the intricacies of secured transactions under Article 9 of the Uniform Commercial Code. It emphasizes the importance of understanding the framework, classification of collateral, and the critical steps of attachment and perfection. The discussion highlights the functional approach of Article 9, the policy rationales behind it, and the implications of misclassifying collateral or failing to perfect a security interest, especially in the context of bankruptcy.TakeawaysArticle 9 is the backbone of commercial finance.Understanding secured transactions is crucial for legal practitioners.The five-step analytical framework is essential for analyzing secured transactions.Substance over labels is a core principle of Article 9.Classification of collateral is vital for determining rights and priorities.Attachment and perfection are key concepts in secured transactions.Filing a UCC-1 is necessary for perfecting a security interest.Bankruptcy law intersects with Article 9, impacting creditor rights.Misclassification can lead to significant financial losses.Mastering Article 9 requires a thorough understanding of its definitions and processes.secured transactions, Article 9, Uniform Commercial Code, collateral classification, perfection, bankruptcy, legal framework, commercial finance, creditor rights, legal education

WE'RE BACK! After a break that was much too long, Chris, Ryan, and Kayla return and take a deeper dive into the topic of attachment. Listen as they discuss how the four attachment styles manifest in relationship with our kids and make a strong case for caregivers to make sense of their histories so they can break the negative generational cycles. This episode is a must-listen for anyone wanting to make sense of their past as well as have healthier relationships with those closest to them. One Big Happy Home Web | Facebook | Instagram | YouTube | Email Produced by Dallas Stacy

They didn't leave. They just… disappeared. No goodbye. No explanation. Just silence. If you've ever been ghosted by a close friend or someone you loved, your brain probably didn't register a breakup. It got stuck. Stuck in a loop of ambiguous loss, searching for closure that never came. Today, we're breaking down the Psychology of Ghosting, why it hurts more than a normal breakup, why friendship breakups can cut even deeper, and why their silence is not a verdict on your worth. By the end of this episode, I want you to see something clearly: Their disappearance is not rejection. It's incapacity. Make Sense? Let's get into it.   Follow Dr. JC Doornick and the Makes Sense Academy:► Makes Sense Substack - https://drjcdoornick.substack.com ► Instagram: / drjcdoornick ►Facebook:  / makessensepodcast ►YouTube:  / drjcdoornick   MAKES SENSE PODCAST Welcome to the Makes Sense with Dr. JC Doornick Podcast. This podcast explores topics that expand human consciousness and enhance performance. On the Makes Sense Podcast, we acknowledge that it's who you are that determines how well what you do works, and that perception is subjective and an acquired taste. When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at begin to change. Welcome to the uprising of the sleepwalking masses. Welcome to the Makes Sense with Dr. JC Doornick Podcast. SUBSCRIBE/RATE/REVIEW & SHARE our new podcast. FOLLOW Podcast: You will find a "Follow" button in the top right. This will enable the podcast software to alert you when a new episode launches each week. Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/makes-sense-with-dr-jc-doornick/id1730954168 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1WHfKWDDReMtrGFz4kkZs9?si=003780ca147c4aec Podcast Affiliates: Kwik Learning: Many people ask me where I get all these topics, which I've been covering for almost 15 years. I have learned to read nearly four times faster and retain information 10 times better with Kwik Learning. Learn how to learn and earn with Jim Kwik. Get his program at a special discount here: https://jimkwik.com/dragon OUR SPONSORS: Makes Sense Academy: A private mastermind and psychologically safe environment full of the Mindset and Action steps that will help you begin to thrive. The Makes Sense Academy. https://www.skool.com/makes-sense-academy/about The Sati Experience: A retreat designed for the married couple that truly loves one another, yet wants to take their love to that higher magical level. Relax, reestablish, and renew your love at the Sati Experience. https://www.satiexperience.com 0:00 - Intro 1:45 - They didn't leave, they disappeared. 3:42 - My personal experience and the inspiration for this episode 6:35 - Ghosting is one of the strangest behaviors we've ever normalized 9:00 - Self Blame 10:39 - Ambiguous Loss. 12:33 - Attachment theory Comes in 14:17 - The Capacity Issue 16:14 - When the ghost reappears and returns? 24:00 - Closure is not obtained by them, it comes from you. 25:03 - Let's Run Ghosting through the IRS (Interface Response System) Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Mattes Kries | 10 Percent True | EP81 – Part 1In this episode, Mattes Kries—a former Luftwaffe Tornado IDS pilot and weapons instructor—traces his career from a hard-won start in NATO jet training through frontline Tornado operations, weapons school, and senior tactics leadership. He explains how Germany's Tornado force evolved from Cold War low-level nuclear strike toward conventional, medium-altitude employment; how lessons from U.S. and NATO exercises reshaped German tactics; and why culture, risk tolerance, and bureaucracy matter as much as hardware.Along the way, Mattes offers rare, candid insight into weapons school innovation, COMAO command without Link 16, live weapons integration, and the realities of training for combat in a force defined by safety-first constraints—grounded in vivid anecdotes and hard-earned lessons.Timestamps00:00 – The Greek instructor teaser01:58 – Welcome Mattes & Phil's subscriber questions: inspiration and most exhilarating mission12:05 – Matthew's subscriber question: history and pride in the modern Luftwaffe23:40 – Attachment to the past among today's Luftwaffe personnel29:10 – Starting out in the Luftwaffe34:02 – F-4 ambitions—and why fate had other (good) ideas41:28 – T-37 challenges (and the Greek instructor)49:00 – Turning early struggles into long-term success51:15 – Arrival on the Tornado at Büchel56:40 – Tornado IDS: roles, weapons, and mission sets1:05:35 – SIOP and nuclear strike planning1:10:40 – The MW-1 weapon system1:20:19 – Why the MW-1 was never fitted for training—and the power of German accountants1:29:30 – Staying on the boom: tanker planning as a weapons school student1:35:08 – Avoiding the KC-135 by design?1:36:35 – Responding to Starbaby's criticism of ECR capabilities vs decision-maker mindset1:54:25 – Part 2 incoming

Hier findet ihr das Buch als signiertes Exemplar (so lange der Vorrat reicht): https://www.hanser-literaturverlage.de/buch/jetzt-bin-ich-schon-wie-meine-eltern-9783446700789-t-6027 Ansonsten könnt ihr es überall vorbestellen, wo es Bücher gibt. "Jetzt bin ich schon wie meine Eltern". Wie Erziehung über Generationen wirkt. Der Titel unseres Buches ist tatsächlich schon Programm

Connection matters deeply — and yet for many of us, it's never felt more confusing. In this solo episode, Dr. Alison explores the tension many people are navigating right now: how to stay open and loving toward others without losing clarity, discernment, or yourself. Many of us were taught that love means endless accommodation, that boundaries are unkind, or that distance equals failure. Others, weary of being hurt, find themselves pulling back — unsure how to stay connected without feeling drained or unsafe. This episode sits right in the middle of that tension. Rather than offering formulas or quick fixes, Dr. Alison invites listeners to slow down and notice what's happening beneath the surface of relationships — especially the ones that feel confusing, heavy, or hard to interpret. If you've found yourself asking: How do I stay loving without losing myself? How do I know when to lean in — and when to pause? What does discernment look like in real, imperfect relationships? This conversation creates space to reflect without pressure to decide everything right away. More Resources:

Rebecca W. Walston: https://rebuildingmyfoundation.comAt Solid Foundation Story Coaching, we believe that stories shape our lives. Our experiences—both joyful and painful—define how we see ourselves and interact with the world. Story Coaching offers a unique space to explore your personal journey, uncover patterns of hurt and resilience, and gain clarity on how your past shapes your present. Unlike therapy, Story Coaching is not about diagnosis or treatment. Instead, it's about having someone truly listen—without judgment or advice—so you can process your story in a safe and supportive space. Whether you choose one-on-one coaching or small group sessions, you'll have the opportunity to share, reflect, and grow at your own pace.Jenny McGrath: https://www.indwellcounseling.comI am Jenny! (She/Her) MACP, LMHC I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Somatic Experiencing® Practitioner, Certified Yoga Teacher, and an Approved Supervisor in the state of Washington.  have spent over a decade researching the ways in which the body can heal from trauma through movement and connection. I have come to see that our bodies know what they need.  By approaching our body with curiosity we can begin to listen to the innate wisdom our body has to teach us.  And that is where the magic happens! Danielle S. Rueb Castillejo: www.wayfindingtherapy.comDanielle (00:06):Welcome to the Arise Podcast, conversations on faith, race, justice, gender, spirituality. We're jumping here and talking about this current moment. We just can't get away from it. There's so much going on, protest kids, walking out of schools, navigating the moment of trauma. Is that really trauma? So I hope you enjoy this conversation with Danielle, Jenny and Rebecca,Rebecca (00:28):A sentence that probably I'm going to record us. Maybe it's fair, maybe it's not. But I feel like everyone is, is traumatized, and I'm only using the word traumatized because I don't have a better word to say. I think there's very little time and space to give this well reasoned, well thought out, grounded reaction to everything because there's the threat level is too high. So trying to ground yourself in this kind of environment and feel like you're surefooted about the choices that you're making feels really hard. It is just hard. And I don't say that to invalidate anybody's choice. I say that just to say everything feels like it's just difficult and most things feel like there are impossible choices. I don't know. It just, yeah, it's a crazy maker.Jenny (01:45):I agree with you. And I also feel like it's like we need a new word other than trauma, because Bessel Vander Kott kind of came up with this idea of trauma working with veterans who had gone through the war. We are actively in the war right now. And so what is the impact of our nervous system when we're not going, oh, that's a trauma that happened 10 years ago, 20 years ago, but every single day we're in a nervous system. Overwhelmed. Is there a word for that? What is that that we're experiencing? And maybe trauma works, but it's almost like it doesn't even capture what we're trying to survive right now.Rebecca (02:31):Yes. And even when you just said the idea of nervous system overwhelmed, I wanted to go, is that word even accurate? I have lots of questions for which I don't have any answers, like minute to minute, am I overwhelmed individually? Is my people group overwhelmed? I don't know. But I feel that same sense of, it's hard to put your finger on vocabulary that actually taps into what may or may not be happening minute by minute, hour by hour for someone. Right? There might be this circumstance where you feel, you don't feel overwhelmed. You feel like you could see with startling clarity exactly what is happening and exactly the move you want to make in that space. And 30 seconds later you might feel overwhelmed.Danielle (03:35):I agree. It's such a hot kettle for conflict too. It's like a hot, hot kettle. Anytime it feels like you might be at odds with someone you didn't even know it was coming. You know what I mean? Jude, which just amplifies the moment because then you have, we were talking about you got your nervous system, you got trauma, whatever it is, and then you're trying to get along with people in a hot situation and make decisions. And also you don't want to do things collectively. You just want to, and also then sometimes it needs to be all about this long process, but if ice is banging at your door, you don't have time to have a group talk about whistles. It's just like you can't have a group meeting about it. You know what I'm saying? Right, right.Speaker 2 (04:37):I think if you, and I remember us having this conversation in a total other setting about what's the definition of trauma? Is trauma this event that happens or is it the feeling of your system being overwhelmed or any other host of things? But I think if we think about it from the frame of, are the support systems that I have in place either individually or collectively overwhelmed by a particular moment in time or in history, maybe that's a decent place to start. And what I think is interesting about that is that the black community is having this conversation. We are not overwhelmed. This is not new to us. This whether it's true or fair or not. There's a lot of dialogue in the black community about, we've been here before, and so there is this sense of we may not be overwhelmed in the way that someone else might be. And I still don't know what I think about that, what I feel about that, if that feels true or right or fair or honest. It just feels like that is the reaction that we are having as a collective culture right now. So yeah.It means to be resisting in this moment or taking care of yourself in this moment? Just for you, just for Rebecca. Not for anybody else. Honestly,Rebecca (06:25):I have been in a space of very guarded, very curated information gathering since the night of the election back in November of 2024. So part of my selfcare sort of for the last, I don't know what is that, 18 months or something like that, 15 months or something has been, I take in very little information and I take it in very intentionally and very short burst of amount of time. I'm still scanning headlines, not watching the news, not taking in any information that's probably in any more than about 32nd, 62nd clips because I cannot, I can't do this.(07:38):Someone, Roland Martin who is this sort of member of the Independent Black Press, said this generation is about to get a very up close and personal taste of what it feels like and looks like to live under Jim Crow. And I was scrolling to the puppies, I cannot absorb that sentence seriously, scroll on the Instagram clip because that sentence was, that was it. I was done. I don't even want to hear, I don't want to know what he meant by that. I know what he meant by that, but I don't want to know what he meant by that.(08:36):I a lovely neutral grass cloth, textured, right? The way the light lights off of it be the very little imperfections. It does something to make a space feel really special, but it's still very ated it. Yes. And I would say this is like if you want to try wallpaper, if you don't want the commitment of a large scale pattern just is a great way to go. I think if there's here the jaguar off the top.Danielle (09:16):It's interesting when you pose a question, Rebecca in our chat this morning about white America waking up. The people that I've noticed that have been the most aware for me outside of folks of color have been some of my queer elders, white folks that have been through the marches, have fought for marriage equality, have fought for human dignity, have fought as well, and they're just like, oh shit, we're going, this is all happening again.Rebecca (09:59):I think that that comes, again, a lot of my information these days is coming from social media, but I saw a clip of a podcast, I don't even know what it was, but the podcast was a black male talking to someone who appeared to me to be a white female, but she could have been something else. She didn't exactly name it, but whatever it was they were discussing like the dynamic between men and women in general. And the male who is the host of the podcast asked the female, what gives you the authority as a woman to speak about men and how they do what they do. And her answer was, and I'm going to paraphrase it, the same thing that gives you the authority as a black person to talk about white people, if you are the marginalized or the oppressed, everything there is to know about the oppressor, things about the oppressor that they don't know about themselves because you need to in order to survive. And so that is what qualifies. That was her answer. That's what qualifies me as a woman to speak about men. And when the sentence that you just gave Danielle, that's what I thought about. If you've ever had to actually live on the margins, something about what is happening and about what is coming from experience, you've seen it. You've heard it, you've heard about it. AndDanielle (12:00):I was just thinking about, I was just talking about this yesterday with my editor, how for Latinx community, there was this huge farm workers movement that ran parallel to the what Martin Luther King was doing, the civil rights movement and how they wrote letters and solidarity and Dolores Huta, these people in 90, they're in their nineties. And then there was this period where things I think got a little better and Latinos made, it's like all of that memory in large pockets of the United States, all that movement got erased and traded in for whiteness. And then that's my parents' generation. So my mom not speaking Spanish, raised not to speak Spanish, all these layers of forgetting. And then it's me and my generation and my kids we're like, holy shit, we can't tolerate this shit. That's not okay. And then it's trying to find the memory, where did it go? Why is there a big gap in this historical narrative, in recent memory? Because says Cesar Chavez and all those people, they started doing something because bad things were happening for centuries to our people. But then there's this gap and now we're living, I think post that gap. And I think you see that with the two murderers of Alex Preti were Latinos from the Texas border that had come up from Texas and they're the actual murderers and they unli him. And people are like, what happened? What happened?Are they perpetrating this crime? What does all of this mean? So I think when we talk about this current moment, it just feels so hard to untangle. JustRebecca (14:01):I think you said, I think you said that there was this period where there's all this activism that's parallel to the civil rights movement and then all that disappeared in exchange for whiteness, I think is what you said.(14:23):And if I said, if I heard that incorrectly through my cultural lens, please let me know that. But I think that that phrase is actually really important. I think this notion of what whiteness requires of us and what it requires us to exchange or give up or erase it, is something that we need to meander through real slow. And in this moment, we're talking about people of Latino descent in the United States, but we could easily be talking about any other number of cultural groups. And I have to ask that same question and wrestle with those same answers. And I think I saw recently that, again, this probably could have happened anywhere of a dozen places, some part, somewhere in the country, there's some museum that has to do with African-American history and the markers were being taken down.(15:52):But you can watch it in real actual time, the required eraser of the story. You can watch it in actual time. If you lay a clip of Alex Pertti's murder up against the Play-by-play that came out of the Department of Homeland Security, and you can watch in real time the rewriting of what actually happened. So your sense of there's this gap where the story kind of disappears. What has it been 60 years since the timeframe and history that you're talking about 1960s. It makes me wonder what was on the news in 1960? Where were they? Where and how did they intentionally rewrite the story? Did they erase markers? Did they bury information?Jenny (17:16):Where I have a few thoughts. I'm thinking about my Polish great-grandfather who had an engineering degree, and to my understanding of the family's story, because it's not often told, and he worked in a box factory, not because he wanted to or that's what he was trained for, but in the time that my great grandfather was here, Polish people were not considered white. And even my dad spent most, he spent his childhood, his early childhood, his family was the only not black family in his community. And his nickname was Spooks growing up for his first few years in life because he was the only light-skinned kid in his neighborhood. And then with the GI Bill, Polish people got adopted into whiteness. And that story of culture and community and lineage was also erased. And just the precarity of whiteness that it's like this Overton window that shifts and allows or disallows primarily based on melanin, but not just melanin based on these performances of aligning with white supremacy. And we don't tell these stories because I think going back to nervous systems, I do think,And I don't think a lot of white bodies want to contend with them. And so then we align more with the privileges that being adopted into whiteness floor to ceiling.Rebecca (19:47):You had just finished telling the story with the GI Bill that Polish people got adopted in to whiteness. And that story and that sort of culture, that origin story disappeared off the landscape. And you might not have said the word disappear. That might be my paraphrase.Jenny (20:07):Yeah. And I think on a visceral level, on a nervous system level, white bodies, whatever that means, know that story, whether that story is told or not. And so I think white bodies know we could be Renee, Nicole Goode or Alex Prety any day if we choose not to fall in line with what whiteness expects of us. And I think there are many examples through abolition, through civil rights, through current history, it is not the same magnitude of bodies of color being killed. And white bodies know if I actually give up my white privilege, I'm giving up my white privilege. And that the precarity that whiteness gives or takes away is so flimsy, I think. Or the safety that it gives is so flimsy.Rebecca (21:15):I mean, I agree with you times a thousand about the flimsy ness and the precariousness of whiteness. Say more about the sentence, white bodies know this because if the me wants to go, I don't think they do. So yeah, say more.Jenny (21:41):Well, I will say I don't think it's conscious. I don't think white people are conscious of this, but I think the epigenetic story of what is given up and what is gained by being adopted into whiteness is in our bodies. And I think that that's part of what makes white people so skittish and disembodied and dissociated, is that the ability to fully be human means giving up the supposed safety that we're given in whiteness. And I think our bodies are really wise and there is some self-preservation in that, and that comes to the detriment and further harm because we are then more complicit with the systems of white supremacy.(22:46):That's what I think. I could be wrong. Obviously I'm not every white body, but I know that the first time I heard someone say that to me in my body, I was like, yep, I know that fear. It's never been named, but having someone say white bodies probably know, I was like, yep. I think my body does know. And that's why I've been so complicit and agreeable to whiteness because that gives me safety. What do you think, Rebecca?Rebecca (23:32):I am probably I'm that am the ambivalent about the whole thing, right? Partly I get the framework that you're talking about. I've used the framework myself, this idea that what your body knows and how that forms and shapes how you move in the world and how that can move from one generation to the next epigenetically without you or spiritually without you necessarily having the details of the story. And also, I'm super nervous about this narrative that I'm nervous that the narrative that you're painting will be used as an excuse to step away from accountability and responsibility. And because I think this sort of narcissistic kind of collapse is what tends to happen around whiteness, where you're so buried under the weight of everything that we can't continue the conversation anymore. And this is the whole why we cannot teach actual American history because some white kids somewhere is going to be uncomfortable.(25:04):And so I get it. I got it. And it makes me super nervous about what will be done with that information. And I think I also think that, and this could be that my frame is limited, so I don't want this comment to come off a, but I think there's not enough work around perpetrator categories and buckets. And so where we tend to go with this is that we go, that harm moves you to victim status and then victims get a pass for what they did because they were hurt. There's not enough to me work, there's not enough vocabulary in the public discourse for when that harm made you become a perpetrator of harm as a collective group and as a consistent collective narrative for hundreds of years. And so that makes me nervous too. What I don't want is, and this is I guess part of the same sort of narcissistic collapse is that we go from cows harmed, and I do believe there's significant harm that happens to a person and to a people when they are required to be complicit in their own eraser in order to survive that. I absolutely believe there's massive harm in that. But how do we talk about then that the reaction to that is to become the perpetrator of harm versus the reaction to that is to learn to move through it and heal from it and not become the group that systematically harms someone else. And there's some nuance in there. There's probably all kinds of complexities there, but that's what my head is around all that, what I just said.Danielle (27:18):I have a lot of thoughts about that. I think I would argue that it's a moral injury, meaning? Meaning that the conditioning over time of attachment instead of what I wrote to y'all, the attachment isn't built as an attachment to one another. It was reframed as an attachment to hierarchy or system. And therefore for a long time, you have a general population of people that don't have a secure attachment to a caregiver, to people that it's been outsourced to power, basically a church system or a government system that's protecting them versus a family and a community, their culture. And in that you have a lot of ruptures and it leaves a lot of space. If your attachment is to power versus belonging to one another, you're going to do a lot of violent damage. And I would argue that that's a repeating perpetrating wound in the collective white society, that attachment to power versus attachment to community.(28:48):That's what I think. I could be wrong, but that's what I've been writing about.Rebecca (28:56):That's a pretty brilliant application of individual attachment theory to collective identity and yeah, that's pretty brilliant actually.(29:09):That's a very nuanced way to talk about what happens in that exchange of a cultural identity for access to the category. White is to say that you advertise to community and family and you tether and attach yourself to power structures, and then you hold on for dear life.Danielle (29:32):You can see it playing out across the nation. It's not that republicans and evangelicals aren't, they're actually arguing against an attachment to community and belonging and saying, we can do these things because we have power now and we're attached to that power. Jesus. They're not attached, I would argue. They're not attached to Jesus either.Rebecca (30:00):Now you want to start a whole fight. How is that attachment structure that you're identifying? And I'm going to steal that by the way, and I will quote you when I steal it. How is that a moral injury?Danielle (30:18):Well, for me, immoral injury is like someone who goes to war or goes into a battle or goes into a situation and you, at some point, someone consciously violates what they know is right or wrong. And so someone took a whole boat over here, a whole journey to do that. So even the journey itself, there's no way, it doesn't matter if they didn't have social media. It doesn't matter if the pilgrims of whatever we want to call them, colonizers didn't know what was here. They know that on lands there are people, and in that journey, they had a decision that was separating themselves saying, when I get there, I deserve that land no matter what's there. So they had all, I don't know how many months it takes to sail across the sea. It was like a month or a couple months or something. You have all that time of a people becoming another kind of people. I think(31:25):That's what I think. You talk about the transatlantic slave trade and that crossing of the water. I think in some ways white people put themselves through that and there's no way, I don't know a lot of ways to explain a complete detachment from morality, but there's something in that passageway that does it for Yeah,Rebecca (31:51):I get it. I mean, you're talking about maybe even on the pilgrim ship that landed in Jamestown passage. But(32:02):If you read, I saw this in a book written by an author by the name of Jamar Tis. He's talking about the earlier colonial days in the United States, and he's talking about how there's a series of letters that he recounts in the book. And so there's this man that is making the journey from England to the colonies, and he professes to be a missionary of Christianity. And what he's discussing in these letters is sort of the crisis of faith that if I get here and I proselytize someone that I encounter a Native American or an enslaved African I do in their conversion to Christianity, am I compelled to grant them their freedom(33:04):And the series of letters that are back and forth between this man and whoever he's conversing with on the con, and you'll have to read his book to get all the historical details. They basically have this open debate in the governing days of the colony. And the answer to the question that they arrive at both legally and religiously or spiritually is, no, I do not. Right? And whatever it is that you had to do to yourself, your faith, your understanding of people to arrive at the answer no to that question feels to me like that moral injury that you're talking about.(34:07):Cardiovascular system powers, everything we do.Jenny (34:10):I mean, it makes me think, Danielle knows that this is one of the few Bible verses that I will always quote nowadays is Jesus saying, what good is it for someone to gain the world and lose their soul? And I see that as a journey of forfeiting. Whatever this thing we want to call the soul might be for power and privilege.Rebecca (34:42):It reminds me of my kids were young and we were having a conversation at the dinner table and something had happened. I think there might've been a discussion about something in the history class that opened my kids' eyes to the nature of racism in the United States. And one of my children asked me, doesn't that mean that we're better than them?(35:17):And as vehemently as I could answer him, I was like, absolutely not. No, it does not. It does not mean that, right? Because you feel that line and that edge for a kid, a fourth grader who's learning history for the first time and that edge that would push them over into this place of dehumanizing someone else, even if it's the proverbial they and my insistence as his mother, we don't do that and we're not going to do that. And no, it does not mean that. And my whole thing was just, I cannot have you dehumanize an entire group of people. I can't, I'm not raising kids who do that. We're not doing that. Right. Which is back to Michelle Obama saying when they go low, right?Rebecca (36:37):It is that sense of that invitation to a moral injury, that invitation to violate the inherent value of another human being that you have to say, I'm not doing that. I refuse to do thatJenny (37:18):I know I'm a few years late and watching this movie, but I just watched the Shape of Water. Have you ever seen it(37:26):And there's this line in it where they're debating whether or not to save this being, and the man says it's not even human. And she says, if we don't do something, then neither are we. And this really does feel like a fight for my humanity for what does it look like to reject dehumanization of entire people groups as much as I even want to do that with ice agents right now, and things like that that make it so hard to not put people in these buckets. And how do I fight for my own humanity and willingness to see people as harmful and difficult as they may be as sovereign beings, and what potentials can come if we work to create a world that doesn't split people into binaries of victim or perpetrator, but make space for reparative justice? I don't know.Rebecca (38:58):You used the phrase reparative justice, and my thought was like, I don't even know what that is. Trying to even conceptualize any sense of that in this moment is, I mean, again, I heard a podcast of this some white man who I think is probably famous, but it's not in a cultural circle that I run in, not this race, but however he is major Trump supporter publicly in his celebrity is a Trump supporter. And he's talking on the podcast about how watching what has happened with ICE the last couple weeks has changed his perspective that he feels like it's this tipping point in his sentiment that I didn't think things like this were possible in America. And now they are. And the person that he's talking to is a black man who's pissed that you even are saying the sentence, I didn't think this was possible.(40:04):Pissed in a way of, we've been telling you this shit for 400 years, excuse my French, you can edit that out and you didn't listen. And if you had listened, we might not actually be here in this moment. And so even that conversation to me feels like attempting to do something of repair in some capacity. And you can feel the two people that are trying to engage each other just be like, I mean, you can feel how they're trying. They're sitting in the room, they're talking, they're leaving space for each other to finish their sentence and finish their thought. And you still just want to go, I want to beat the shit out of you. And I am sure they both felt that way at different moments in the conversation. So yeah,Danielle (41:12):We were in the I know. Because it's all like, I know there's all that we talk about, and then when we walk off the screen, when we get into the world, I know Rebecca, you mentioned someone got stopped at a checkpoint or my kids marching around town or Jenny, I know you're out in the wilds of Florida or wherever. I just(41:38):Yeah. Yeah. I just think there's all of this we talk about, and then there's the live daily reality too, of how it actually plays out for us in different ways. Yeah. Now I saw you take a breath. Yeah.Rebecca (41:59):Do they feel like really disconnected?(42:19):I actually think this conversation, I think, and I don't mean this one, I mean this sort of ongoing space that we inhabit in each other's lives is actually a pretty defiant response. I think there's every invitation for us to be like, see, when I see you,(43:03):I know that you some stuff going on personally, and you picked up the phone and called me the other night, Danielle, just to say, I'm just checking on you. And I was like, crap. Right. I mean, with everything that I know that you have going on both collectively and personally for you to pick up the phone and call me and go like, I'm just checking on you.(43:41):Right? But there's this swirl of, there's a whole conversation the black community is having with the Latino community right now that is some version of, screw this. And you, we not we're, it's not entirely adversarial, but it's not entirely we're doing this dance around each other right now that you could have easily just have been like, I'll talk to you in 27. You could easily have been like, I have too much going on that can't actually tend to this. Whatever it is that you heard in my voice or read on my face that made you call me, you could have chosen not to and you didn't. And that's not small.Danielle (44:49):Yeah. Thanks for saying that. I really do believe love is bigger than all of what we say is the hate and the crimes against us. I really do believe every day we wake up and we get to be the best. We get to do the best we can. Jenny,Jenny (45:26):I just feel very grateful to know you both. Yeah. I think this to me is part of what fighting for our humanity looks like and feels like in the midst of systems, creating separation of who we should or shouldn't commune with and be with. And I just feel very grateful that I get to commune and be with both of you.Danielle (46:18):Oh, good question. Do you ever feel like you're your own coach? So I have the Danielle that's like sometimes I get into trouble that Danielle, and then there's also the part of me that's like, you can do it. You got this, you got it. You can do it, so you're going to make it. So I got the coach. I had to bring her out a little bit more later lately. Also, just like I just got back from watching my kids do this walkout and man, just hearing them scream the F word and jumping around town, blowing whistles and being wild, it just made me, I feel so happy. I'm like, oh, we're doing something right. The kids, they're going to be okay. They know. So I think just I've really tried to just focus on my family and my off time. Yeah, that's kept me going. What about you two?Jenny (47:31):I have been doing standup comedy, open mic nights in Pensacola.(47:40):And it has been a very nice place for me to release my healthy aggression. Aside from the hosts, I've pretty much been the only woman there. And most of the comedians are racist and sexist, and I get up and give lectures basically. And I've been really enjoying that. It has been a good way of off-gassing and being defiant and giving me some sense of fight, which I've liked to, that has been self-care for me.Rebecca (48:30):I would probably say, actually I had to, I have this elliptical, one of those under the desk kind of pedal thingies that, and the other night I had to get on it. I feel like my whole inside was just racing, but then on the outside, I'm just sitting here, all right. And I was like, I have got to get whatever this is out of me. So there was this moment where, and it took probably 15 minutes for my body to actually start to exhale and for my breathing to kind of normalize. And that isn't because I was exerting so much energy. It took that long of just moving to get whatever it is out of me. And then also, I had this really, really great moment with my son, how you're saying, Danielle, that your kids, and then you feel like, oh, they're going to be fine. He was watching a documentary or he is watching a movie, some movie about black history, what he does. And the movie referenced this written communication between two slave traitors, one of whom was in the United States and the other one who was in the Caribbean. And they were discussing how to basically break the psyche of a person so they would remain in slavery,(50:15):Which is a crazy sentence to say, but literally they're discussing it back and forth. They're talking about how you bake a cake. And my son read it, and then he came and sat next to me and he was like, did you know about this? Not about the letter itself, the letters, but about the content in them. He was like, did you know this is what they think about us? Did. These are the things that they say and do that are purposely designed to mess with our psyche. And it just spawned this really great conversation for an hour about all kinds of things that made me go, he's going to be all right. In the sense of where I ended up, where I ended up going as his mom was like, yes, I knew. And now the fact that I raised you to do this, or I raised you to do that, or I taught you this or that, or I kept you from this or that. Does that make sense now? And then, yeah, it was just actually a very sweet conversation actually.Danielle (51:38):I love that. I do too. It's been real.   Well, first I guess I would have to believe that there was or is an actual political dialogue taking place that I could potentially be a part of. And honestly, I'm not sure that I believe that.

Episode TitleThe Attachment Style Quiz Your Therapist Would Give You (Part 2 of the Secure-Relationship Series)Episode DescriptionMost of what we do in relationships is on autopilot—shaped by how we were cared for (or not) as kids. In this episode, Sharla and Robert unpack the three main attachment styles (Secure, Anxious, and Avoidant), share eye-opening childhood reflection questions, real-life couple stories, and checklists to help you identify yourself. You'll finally understand why you chase, why they pull away, and how to stop using labels as weapons—so you can actually build the safety and closeness you both crave.Key TakeawaysYour attachment style isn't a flaw—it's an adaptation from childhood.Never weaponize labels (“You're so avoidant!”). Use them for compassion only.Secure relationships require: safety first, equal power, and the relationship that come first.The path to more security = Acceptance of who you both are + owning your impact.You can't force change in your partner. You create it through consistent safety.Quick Attachment Style Checklists (from the episode)Secure I enjoy closeness but am also comfortable alone. Disagreements don't shake me. I trust easily.Avoidant I recharge best alone. Closeness can feel smothering. I downplay emotions.Anxious I worry my partner will leave. I need frequent reassurance. Small things feel like big threats.Resources for Deeper LearningMust-Read BooksAttached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller → The book that brought attachment theory into everyday relationships. Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin → Deep dive into how your partner's brain works and how to create real security together.The Power of Attachment by Diane Poole Heller → Excellent for understanding how early wounds show up now and how to heal them.Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson → Seven conversations that can transform your relationship (Emotionally Focused Therapy classic).Next WeekWe start building that “invisible forcefield” around your relationship—specific tools to create safety and security even when your attachment styles clash.Call to Action!If this episode gave you an “aha!” moment, please leave us a 5-star rating and quick review—it really helps other couples find the show. Share this episode with your partner or a friend who's stuck in the chase-pullaway cycle. And subscribe so you don't miss Part 3!Thanks for listening — and remember: put each other first this week. The small things, done often, really do change everything. ❤️

In this mini but important episode, Christa tackles the most common, and most painful, dynamic in marriage: the anxious-avoidant pairing. If you've ever felt like you're constantly chasing your spouse for connection while they pull away, or if you feel overwhelmed by a partner who won't give you breathing room, this episode will help you understand why these attachment styles are magnetically drawn to each other and how the pursue-withdraw cycle keeps you stuck. In this intro episode, Christa gives practical steps each partner needs to take to break the cycle and move toward earned secure attachment. The key insight: Your Enneagram type is the engine, your attachment style is the steering, understanding both is where real change begins. Whether you're anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between, this episode gives you language for what's happening and hope that change is possible. Listen right here or watch on YouTube! Need mental health tips in this time? Sign up for the FREE EnneaSummit here! ⁠⁠https://www.tylerzach.com/mh26/enneasummit?ref=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.tylerzach.com%2Fa%2F2148228842%2FLS2nNmzL The Enneagram and Marriage Coaching & Certification Masterclass course begins again February 12, use code COACH for discount ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠or at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.enneagramandmarriage.com/the-e-m-coaching-masterclass⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find more about your type, the pod, freebies, and SO much more at our website right here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.EnneagramandMarriage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Love what you're learning on E + M? Make sure you leave us a podcast review so others can find us, too⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Christa's Best-Selling Book, The Enneagram in Marriage, here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://a.co/d/df8SxVx Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this tender episode, Stasi invites us into the sacred terrain of our relationship with our mothers—where nurture, protection, and self-worth are first formed, and sometimes wounded. With compassion and truth, Stasi us to let Jesus enter our stories as sons and daughters, healing what was missed and restoring what was lost. Come and discover the hope of knowing the mothering heart of God.…..SHOW NOTES:…..VERSES: Exodus 20:12 (NIV) – Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.Genesis 1:27 (NIV) – So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.Psalm 131:2 (NIV) – But I have calmed and quieted myself, I am like a weaned child with its mother; like a weaned child I am content.Psalm 139:16 (NIV) – Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.…..RESOURCES For more on the Mother Wound:Becoming Myself: Embracing God's Dream of You by Stasi Eldredge  ⁠https://amzn.to/4gYrsZy⁠Becoming Myself Video Series – Session 3 – ⁠https://wahe.art/4kd3qNM⁠The Mother Wound (for Men) – Wild at Heart ADVANCED Video   ⁠https://wahe.art/3NUnPLb⁠The Mother Wound (for Women) – Captivating ADVANCED Video  ⁠https://wahe.art/49WAHYE⁠The Mother Wound (for Women) – Captivating Retreat AUDIO  ⁠https://wahe.art/4qIog9Z⁠Stasi Referenced – The Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse by Dan Allender  ⁠https://amzn.to/4rhlf06⁠…..Don't Miss Out on the Next Episode—Subscribe for FreeSubscribe using your favorite podcast app:YouTube – ⁠https://wahe.art/4h8DelL⁠Spotify Podcasts – ⁠https://wahe.art/496zdfn⁠Apple Podcasts – ⁠https://apple.co/42E0oZ1⁠ Amazon Music & Audible – ⁠https://amzn.to/3M9u6hJ⁠

Alt-R&B artist rum.gold joins host Matt Whyte with Dr. Nim Tottenham, Chair of Psychology at Columbia University, for a live taping centered on his song and video “Is It Something I Said.” What begins as a conversation about a music video portraying a mother and son living with anxiety, grief, and hoarding becomes a striking window into Dr. Tottenham's research on how early caregiving and stress shape the developing brain — and how those early emotional environments can echo into adulthood as anxiety, attachment struggles, and dysregulation. Taped live at Ludlow House in NYC on January 27, 2026 as part of the On Air presents series.

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Something To Think About Series #323 Thought of the day from Venerable Robina Courtin

Mens Room Question: What's the story you always tell about a pet?

Ever wondered why, despite our best intentions, we keep falling into the same relationship traps? Or how two people can feel worlds apart even when they desperately want things to work? The subtle dance of self-worth, mutual respect, and compatibility often determines whether love thrives or fizzles out. Too often, we end up settling for relationships that slowly chip away at our confidence, hoping for change while ignoring the mismatch in values, traits, and emotional needs. In this episode, listeners are guided through a groundbreaking and practical approach for understanding the science behind love and relationship fulfillment. The conversation explores how to identify personal values and trait preferences, assess compatibility, break destructive patterns, and recognize the significance of self-worth in sustaining a healthy partnership. With fresh, research-backed insights, the episode offers actionable steps and honest reflections to help anyone desiring deeper connection, clarity, and empowerment in their romantic life. Zoey Charif spent two decades decoding patterns of human attraction, pulling from her background in criminology, data analytics, and a drive to challenge everything we've been taught about love. Born in Afghanistan, raised in Vancouver, and now based in Orange County, California, Zoey brings a rare blend of emotional depth, analytical precision, and lived experience to her work. Her framework is coachable and designed to help people transform their relationships.   Episode Highlights 04:43 Explaining the Love Formula: Scoring self and partner alignment. 08:41 When perceived value differs: Anxious and avoidant relationship patterns. 10:05 Attachment styles, emotional investment, and patterns of effort. 14:12 Personality dichotomies: Are we attracted to similar or opposite traits? 18:34 Distinguishing between values and traits in attraction. 21:14 Recognizing and interrupting destructive relationship patterns. 26:15 Impact of inconsistency: How decreasing value affects relationship satisfaction. 29:34 Core values: Dependability and reliability as key to relationship stability. 30:27 Using the Love Formula to rebuild connection and alignment in marriage. 33:47 Maintaining mutual admiration and fulfillment in long-term love. 36:58 The crucial role of self-worth and normalizing singlehood.   Your Check List of Actions to Take Reflect on Your Self-Worth: Honestly assess your own values and self-worth before seeking or deepening a relationship. Identify Core Values: Clearly write down the values that matter most to you in life and relationships. Rate Yourself: Give yourself a score on how well you feel you embody your own values and standards. Evaluate Your Partner: Honestly assess your partner against your values, noting alignment and gaps. Notice Trait Preferences: Identify the traits you're consistently attracted to, even if they might not serve you in the long term. Watch for Destructive Patterns: Examine your previous relationship patterns for recurring traits or behaviors that led to dissatisfaction. Communicate Openly: Share your value and trait scores with your partner as a tool for honest, non-defensive discussions about your relationship. Prioritize Self-Awareness: Regularly check in with yourself to ensure your choices align with your values and that you're not compromising your well-being for the relationship.   Mentioned Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) (*Psychology Today) (link) The Gottman Method 12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love (free guide) Love Can, In Fact, Be Calculated (Hardcover) by Zoey Charif   Connect with Zoey Charif Websites: lovecaninfactbecalculated.com Instagram: instagram.com/zoeycharif TikTok: tiktok.com/@zoeycharif?_t=8ruz0ZyCH9i&_r=1  

In this episode of Owning Your Legacy, host Laurette Rondenet sits down with Bela Gandhi, founder of Smart Dating Academy, for a powerful conversation on modern dating, emotional intelligence, and how to build healthy relationships at any stage of life.Bela shares her personal journey from heartbreak to global corporate leadership, and the pivotal decision to leave a successful career in finance and manufacturing to pursue her purpose: helping people date with clarity, confidence, and intention. Drawing on neuroscience, behavioral patterns, and real-world coaching experience, Bela explains why so many people repeat unhealthy relationship cycles and how to break them for good.This episode dives deep into dating advice for women and men navigating love after heartbreak, divorce, or long-term singleness. Bela explains why chemistry alone is not enough, how attachment hormones like oxytocin influence decision-making, and why emotional safety matters more than surface-level attraction.Topics covered in this episode include: ✅ Modern dating challenges and repeating relationship patterns ✅ Dating advice for women and men over 30, 40, 50+ ✅ Emotional safety and healthy conflict resolution ✅ Narcissism, gaslighting, and love bombing explained ✅ Why chemistry can be misleading in dating ✅ How to avoid losing yourself in relationships ✅ Attachment styles, oxytocin, and emotional bonding ✅ What makes love last long-term ✅ Building confidence, clarity, and self-awareness in datingWhether you are single, dating, married, divorced, or starting over later in life, this conversation offers grounded, practical guidance for building relationships rooted in respect, trust, and long-term compatibility.

In this deeply touching episode Cath was joined by attachment expert and psychotherapist Anne Power. Anne shared about her own attachment journey, some of her childhood story, boarding school, brief explanations about the different attachment styles, attachment in couple relationships and attachment, grief and repair in the parent child relationship. This episode will help you feel supported and seen.Anne Power first qualified at The Bowlby Centre, and later trained at WPF, Tavistock Relationships and Relate. She has worked in various settings but now works online with couples and parent-with-adult-child pairs. She has written many academic papers and two books; all of these use attachment theory to understand relationships and clinical experience. Her book Contented Couples is based on interviews with eighteen long-term couples from different traditions, including arranged marriage. It explains couple dynamics in an accessible way and describes how partners' complementary attachment patterns can work well together.Anne posts on Instagram @and_attachment with content for people who want to understand attachment in their relationships. Her TEDx talk ‘Attachment theory is the science of love', also addresses this theme and has been watched by over a million people.You can watch the TEDx talk yourself by clicking here.Anne has also recently finished writing a novel about a couple counsellor and the diverse couples who come to see her. Do watch for news and publication of her forthcoming novel on her Instagram page, or on her website where you can also download free PDFs on attachment themes at https://www.contentedcouples.com/If you're enjoying this podcast. Please leave a review and rate the podcast, this really helps others to find it.To sign up for the journal prompts and Nurture.Heal.Grow (on Substack) please head to www.cathcounihan.com or @cathcounihan on Instagram. Follow Cath on social media here:Instagram: @cathcounihanSubstack: Nurture.Heal.GrowFacebook: Cath Counihan Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Kirsty talks with physician and author Dr. Charles Glassman about how early experiences of inadequacy shape anxiety, imposter syndrome, and our adult fight-or-flight responses.   Show Notes:  Fear Is A Liar | CoachMD Main Site Facebook / Instagram / YouTube: @CoachMDOfficial Connect with the Attachment Theory in Action Podcast: ATIA Podcast Website: https://www.attachmenttheoryinaction.com/  ATIA Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/19Xm5Nhk2K/    Attachment Theory in Action Podcast is brought to you by Chaddock Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChaddockLearningNetwork/ Follow us on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/chaddocklearningnetwork/ Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chaddocklearningnetwork/   Connect with our Podcast Host: Follow Kirsty on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/krugglesatchaddock Connect with Kirsty on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kirstynolan84/

The current political climate in the U.S. is heavy and many of us are feeling it in our bodies, our relationships, and our sense of safety - even if we can't always put words to it. In this episode, I sit down with a licensed therapist to talk honestly about collective trauma - what it is, how it's different from personal trauma, and why witnessing violence, political unrest, and constant crisis through the news and social media can be so deeply activating. We explore how trauma impacts both the mind and the body, including anxiety, stress responses, overwhelm, and feelings of hopelessness.We also talk about what happens when you're repeatedly exposed to triggering videos or headlines, how political violence affects our nervous systems, and why social anxiety can feel heightened right now. She shares tools and therapeutic approaches to support healing during this time.So if you've been feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or unsure how to keep going when it doesn't feel like things are getting better, this episode is a reminder that your response makes sense and that healing is possible - especially when we do it together.

This episode is brought to you by Strong Coffee Company, Supp Co, and WHOOP. In this episode of Ever Forward Radio, psychologist and addiction expert Dr. Adi Jaffe reframes addiction, compulsive behavior, and self-sabotage as intelligent coping strategies rather than personal failures. He explains why labeling people as "addicts" creates shame and traps identity, how early childhood and even preverbal experiences shape adult behavior, and why most habits don't change through awareness alone. Dr. Jaffe introduces his SPARROW Behavioral Loop—stimulus, perception, activation, response, outcome—to show how emotions and bodily sensations, not events themselves, drive behavior. Together, they explore identity, responsibility without blame, growth mindset, emotional regulation, stoicism, belief systems, and why sustainable change comes from reshaping perception and nervous system responses rather than fighting behaviors directly. This conversation offers a compassionate, practical framework for breaking patterns and moving forward—without shame. Follow Adi @dradijaffe Follow Chase @chase_chewning ----- 00:00 – Addiction Is Not Your Identity 02:00 – Why Calling Someone an "Addict" Causes Harm 05:10 – The Thing Is Never the Thing 07:30 – Coping Starts Earlier Than You Remember 10:00 – Attachment, Safety, and Early Nervous System Wiring 14:45 – Resilience vs. Disconnection 17:20 – It's Not Your Fault, But It Is Your Responsibility 19:50 – The Sphere of Control Framework 23:30 – Perception Shapes Reality 25:45 – Introducing the SPARROW Behavioral Loop 29:15 – Why Awareness Alone Doesn't Change Behavior 33:00 – Emotional Menus & Coping Patterns 35:20 – Changing Beliefs to Reduce Triggers 38:40 – Stoicism, Detachment & Emotional Regulation 41:30 – Identity Change Without All-or-Nothing Thinking 44:50 – Becoming Someone Who Can Change 48:05 – Choosing Your Hard 49:30 – How to Know You're on the Right Path ----- Episode resources: 15% off organic coffee and lattes with code CHASE at https://www.StrongCoffeeCompany.com FREE supplement companion app at https://www.Supp.Co/everforward  $30 off physical activity tracker 5.0 at https://www.Join.WHOOP.com/everforward Watch and subscribe on YouTube Learn more at AdiJaffe.com

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2890: Tonya Lester challenges the common misconception that intense emotional entanglement equals love, revealing how unhealthy attachments and trauma bonds can masquerade as romantic connection. She outlines clear signs of emotional maturity versus toxic cycles, encouraging listeners to choose relationships that support well-being over those rooted in fear and dysfunction. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/love-vs-attachment Quotes to ponder: "Unhealthy attachments are based on fear, not emotional generosity." "Trauma bonds masquerade as love, but they are not the same thing." "Love sometimes involves seeing each other at our worst, but it does not mean bringing out the worst in each other."

Episode Overview  If you've been struggling with betrayal for a long time despite trying multiple healing approaches, this episode reveals why well-meaning practitioners and proven methodologies often miss the mark when it comes to betrayal-specific recovery.  Key Topics Covered  Why Life Coaching Isn't Enough  Life coaching excels at goal setting, accountability, and mindset shifts  Works beautifully for career advancement, relationship improvement, and business growth  Falls short for betrayal survivors because you're not starting from the same place  When betrayed, your reality is shattered and your nervous system is in crisis  The Therapy Gap  Traditional therapy covers diagnostic criteria, CBT, trauma treatment, and mental health conditions  Post Betrayal Syndrome® isn't in the DSM yet, so therapists don't know to look for it  Over 100,000 people have taken the Post Betrayal Syndrome assessment with staggering symptom statistics  Physical, mental, and emotional symptoms like brain fog, anxiety, hypervigilance, sleep and gut issues all share one underlying cause  The Trust Rebuilding Misconception  Relationship coaches often focus solely on rebuilding trust with the betrayer  Multiple aspects of trust are shattered: trust in yourself, others, your intuition, and your judgment  Rebuilding trust with your partner is actually the last piece, not the first  Why Other Modalities Fall Short  Trauma-informed training: Doesn't differentiate betrayal from other traumas  Somatic training: Critical for nervous system regulation but doesn't address the complete framework  Attachment training: Valuable for relationship patterns but doesn't address identity shattering  Grief counseling: Helpful but betrayal involves grief PLUS reality disruption, identity crisis, and complete trust shattering  The Five Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough™  General trauma treatment doesn't account for betrayal-specific stages  Someone in Stage 2 presents very differently than someone in Stage 3, 4, or 5  Understanding the stages reveals why certain responses occur and what's needed to progress  The Timing Problem  Right tools at the wrong time backfire  Stage 2 (shock/trauma) clients aren't ready for accountability structures  Stage 4 clients don't need basic nervous system regulation anymore  Proper healing requires the right modalities at the right stage  The Stage 3 Trap  What a Stage 3 Life Looks Like:  Surviving but not thriving  Managing and suppressing Post Betrayal Syndrome symptoms  Keeping people at bay out of fear  Building a safe but flat life  67% of betrayed individuals prevent forming deep relationships to avoid being hurt again  84% have an inability to trust again (out of 100,000+ studied)  The Ripple Effects:  Limited depth in relationships  Challenges with workplace collaborations and partnerships  Inability to trust yourself, your judgment, or your perception of reality  Attracting more of the same situations  Making decisions from Stage 3 thinking versus Stage 4 or 5 thinking  The Solution  Why Specialized Betrayal Training Matters:  All aspects need rebuilding: physical, mental, emotional, psychological, and spiritual  Requires a proven roadmap through all five stages  Not just talk therapy, not just somatic work, not just goal setting—all of it together at the right time  Updated PBT Certification:  Newly revised certification modules  New exam, experiential exercises, forms, and worksheets  Designed to help clients identify their current stage and move to the next one  Makes it easier to work with clients using stage-specific tools  Key Statistics  Over 100,000 people have taken the Post Betrayal Syndrome assessment  67% prevent forming deep relationships due to fear of being hurt again  84% report an inability to trust again  The Bottom Line  There's no reason to stay stuck in Stage 3. People need to get back to their lives, their work, their kids, families, and friends in the way they can only do when they heal. The roadmap exists—it's the Five Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough™.    Resources Mentioned:  Post Betrayal Syndrome® Assessment  PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Certification: https://thepbtinstitute.com/get-certified/   The Five Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough™: https://thepbtinstitute.com   For Practitioners: The more coaches, practitioners, and healers who become certified in this methodology, the more people can access the specialized help they need for betrayal recovery.    Discover why traditional therapy, life coaching, and healing methods fall short for betrayal recovery. Learn about Post Betrayal Syndrome®, the Five Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough™, and why specialized betrayal training is essential for true healing and transformation. 

Attachment styles are everywhere — but what do they actually mean, and how much do they shape the way we love? This week, Scheana is joined by leading attachment theory expert Thais Gibson (founder of The Personal Development School) to break down the four attachment styles, why our adult relationships mirror our earliest bonds, and how insecurity shows up in communication, conflict, and connection. Scheana opens up about learning she's securely attached, while her husband Brock discovered he has a fearful avoidant attachment style — sparking an honest conversation about what it really takes to make different styles work together. Thais explains why attachment styles aren't fixed, how patterns like people-pleasing, self-sabotage, and emotional withdrawal form, and what actually helps move toward secure attachment. This episode isn't about labels or blame — it's about awareness, responsibility, and doing the work. If you've ever wondered why certain relationship patterns keep repeating, this conversation might explain everything.Visit university.personaldevelopmentschool.com and use code PDS2026 for 20% off of the Personal Development School's 90-Day Attachment Healing membership.Follow us: @scheana @scheananigans Guest: @thepersonaldevelopmentschool Purchase your very own copy of the NYT Best-selling book and audiobook MY GOOD SIDE at www.mygoodsidebook.com!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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