Podcasts about Attachment

Drop us some Fan Mail. Thanks!When we think about attachment in adoption and foster care, we usually focus on the child. But parents bring their own attachment histories and life experiences into the relationship as well. Dr. Chaitra Wirta-Leiker explores how a parent's past can shape their parenting, influence reactions to challenging behaviors, and impact family connection and healing. Dr. Wirta-Leiker is a licensed psychologist, transnational and transracial adoptee, adoptive parent, creator of the National Adoptee-Therapist Directory, and author of the Adoptees Like Me children's book series.In this episode, we discuss:When we talk about trauma and attachment in adoption and foster care, most of the focus tends to be on the child. Why is it equally important to explore the parents' history?What do parents sometimes miss about the role their own experiences play in parenting?Why can it feel uncomfortable or even threatening for parents to turn the lens inward rather than focusing exclusively on the child?Can you give us a working definition of what you mean by "attachment" so we are all on the same page?How does that relationship from our childhood influence our parenting style now? The 4 major adult attachment styles, and what do they look or feel like in our parent-child relationship:SecureAnxious/PreoccupiedAvoidant/DismissiveDisorganized/UnresolvedMany parents hear descriptions of attachment styles and immediately start self-diagnosing. Why is that unwise or unhelpful? And what do you want parents to understand about using these concepts as tools for growth rather than labels?How do unresolved childhood experiences or trauma shape our parenting responses?Our kids with their histories of trauma, attachment disruptions, grief, losses, and trauma often bring those into our relationships. When these histories intersect with our unresolved experiences, both parent and child can feel triggered.What are some common ways our history of trauma may get activated—or "triggered"—by our adopted or foster children?How can we talk to ourselves when we feel that activation happening? Scripts we can use or messaging we can rehearse?Are there certain child behaviors that tend to be especially activating for parents with unresolved attachment or trauma wounds? What is happening neurologically and emotionally when a parent feels disproportionately angry, hurt, rejected, or powerless in response to a child's behavior?Why do you think parenting in adoption and foster care is uniquely effective at exposing unresolved issues that a parent may not have known were there?How do our parental expectations—about bonding, gratitude, trust, or family life—sometimes become obstacles to connection?What are some signs we notice when we are responding from our own history rather than from what the child actually needs in the moment?What signs can we notice in our kids to help us see that we may be responding from our own histories?What does healthy self-awareness look like for adoptive and foster parents?When parents recognize their own triggers, what practical steps can they take in the moment?How can parents begin exploring their own attachment history safely and productively?Is it possible to move toward a more secure attachment style as an adult? If so, how does that happen?What's one question parents should ask themselves when they find themselves repeatedly stuck in conflict with their child?Where would you encourage parents to begin if today's conversation has raised some difficult but important self-reflection?Resources:Grow Beyond WordsUnderstanding Attachment Between Parent and ChildAdoptee and Foster Alum Voices resource pageTherapy Resources for Adoptive, Foster, and Kinship FamiliesSupport the showPlease leave us a rating or review.  This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:Weekly podcastsWeekly articles/blog postsResource pages on all aspects of family building

What do sheep, your nervous system, and Psalm 23 possibly have in common? More than you might think.In this episode, we're exploring five fascinating facts about sheep that bring Psalm 23 to life in a fresh and meaningful way. From why sheep depend completely on their shepherd, to the purpose of anointing them with oil, to how they find safety in the shepherd's presence, you'll discover timeless truths that speak directly to your own relationship with Christ.We'll also talk about how God designed our nervous systems to experience peace—not through striving or having everything under control, but by remaining close to our Good Shepherd. If you've been feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or weary, this episode is an invitation to rest in the One who restores your soul.Join Me for Restorative Yoga!If you're in the Hattiesburg area, I'd love for you to join me for my Psalm 23 Restorative Yoga Class at March Christian Counseling. Together we'll experience gentle movement, breathwork, Scripture, prayer, and guided reflection as we learn to rest in the care of our Good Shepherd.✨ Space is limited, so reserve your spot soon!To register, call March Christian Counseling at (601) 602-3940.To learn more about counseling services, upcoming events, podcast episodes, and resources, visit www.movedbygracecounseling.com.“The Lord is my shepherd; I lack nothing.” — Psalm 23:1

806. Why does playing with your child sometimes feel more draining than delightful? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor unpacks why shared play can stir up old wounds from your own upbringing—and how noticing those tender spots can help you respond with more connection, presence, and ease, even when it feels hard. Summer Saturdays: Best of QDT Encore Episode: This episode originally aired in October of 2025.Sources:Raising a Secure Child: How Circle of Security Parenting Can Help You Nurture Your Child's Attachment, Emotional Resilience, and Freedom to Explore By Kent Hoffman, Bert Powell, Glen CooperRelated Project Parenthood Episodes: How to Understand and Fulfill Your Child's Attachment NeedsRethink Time Out: Support Your Child with Time InsUsing self compassion to regulate your own emotions as a parentEmail the show at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Pearls of Wisdom, I reflect on the theme of attachment and the freedom that comes from learning to let go.Inspired by drawing the Miser card from the Osho Zen Tarot, I explore how holding on is not only about money or possessions. We can cling just as tightly to our beliefs, opinions, identities, relationships, achievements, memories, expectations, and even our ideas of who we think we should be.So much of our suffering comes not from having these things, but from believing we cannot be without them.In this episode, I explore:• What attachment really is and how it quietly shapes our lives• Why holding on can limit our freedom• The difference between enjoying life and becoming attached to it• Letting go of identities formed through conditioning and expectation• Why some attachments protect us until we are ready to release them• Returning to awareness, presence, and inner peace

You've listened to Neville's words. Now practice living from them. Join Unlock God Mode at unlockgodmode.org and begin a 30-day journey into state, assumption, self-concept, and conscious creation.  ------------------------ Start here: nevillegoddard.com – download Neville Goddard's most powerful book free and receive weekly insights to help you manifest.  ------------------------ NEW PODCAST: Follow the brand new Neville Goddard Podcast on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favourite podcast platform. The Neville Goddard Podcast is dedicated to bringing Neville's timeless ideas into a modern, immersive format you can return to again and again. This is a modern faithful interpretation of Neville Goddard's most powerful teachings. Listen to Episode 1 on Spotify → Listen to Episode 1 on Apple Podcasts →   ---------Neville once said, “Assumption, if persisted in, will harden into fact.” That one truth is enough to change your life. The question is, how do you live from that place, day by day? That's exactly what Unlock God Mode was created to help you do.If you've been waiting for a sign to take Neville's teachings deeper and make them the rhythm of your daily life, this is it. Start your journey now: unlockgodmode.org. ---------Wonder-Working Power of Attachment (Neville Goddard, 1963 Lecture) ***Download the free Neville Goddard PDF Guide at manifestwithneville.com - Discover the transformative power of Neville Goddard's wisdom with this FREE 60-page guide on his 12 timeless principles of manifestation and reality creation.★ Follow the podcast for daily lectures from the mystic Neville Goddard ★FREE RESOURCES:• Join the FREE Neville Goddard newsletter• Join the FREE Telegram Channel• Feeling is the Secret • Full Audiobook* * *The James Xander Trip Podcast:• Listen on Spotify• Listen on Apple Podcasts• Listen on YouTubeDIVE DEEPER:• The Unlock God Mode Course• The Infinite Wealth Guided Meditation* * *ABOUT NEVILLE GODDARD:Neville Goddard (1905-1972), was an English writer, speaker and mystic. He grew up in Barbados and moved to the United States of America as a young adult. Neville Goddard was perhaps the last century's most intellectually substantive and charismatic purveyor of the philosophy generally called New Thought. He wrote more than ten books under the solitary pen name Neville, and was a popular speaker on metaphysical themes from the late 1930s until his death in 1972.Possessed of a self-educated and uncommonly sharp intellect, Neville espoused a spiritual vision that was bold and total: Everything you see and experience, including other people, is the result of your own thoughts and emotional states. Each of us dreams into existence an infinitude of realities and outcomes. When you realize this, Neville taught, you will discover yourself to be a slumbering branch of the Creator clothed in human form, and at the helm of limitless possibilities.Neville's thought system influenced a wide range of spiritual thinkers and writers, from bestselling author Dr. Joseph Murphy to Rhonda Byrne and Wayne Dyer.He has inspired and continues to inspire millions of readers around the world.* * *SOCIALS:• Neville Goddard Newsletter• Neville Goddard Telegram• Neville Goddard Instagram• Neville Goddard Threads• Neville Goddard Twitter• Neville Goddard YouTube* * *ABOUT THE COURSEUnlock God Mode is a transformative 30-day course designed to accelerate your journey towards greater wealth, love, and success through a deeper understanding and manipulation of your reality.  Comprising of 30 audio lessons, this course unfolds as a self-paced, introspective expedition into reality creation, aiding you in elevating your consciousness to what's referred to as the God Mode. Throughout this journey, practical tools will be provided daily to help enrich your life with more love, money, and success by altering your mental models and perceptions. This course combines theory and hands-on experience to create a unique deep dive into manifestation, consciousness, and reality creation. Join me on an extraordinary, 30-day adventure (1 lesson per day) and watch your reality transform. Begin the Unlock God Mode experience today »* * *Follow Neville Goddard on Telegram, Instagram, Threads, Twitter, and YouTube.★ Join the FREE Neville Goddard newsletter ★» For the Neville Goddard listener: Access the 30-Day Unlock God Mode Program «----------

[Content Warning]: Discussions of childhood trauma, addiction, feelings of isolation, abandonment wounds What does it actually take to heal, not manage, not cope, but truly heal, from the wounds we carry from childhood? In this episode of Trauma Interrupted, Jan Broberg sits down with Jessica Baum, licensed mental health counselor, founder of the Relationship Institute of Palm Beach, and author of the new book SAFE, to explore what the neuroscience of healing really tells us.  Jessica brings her expertise in interpersonal neurobiology and attachment theory to some of the questions survivors ask most: Why can't I just heal on my own? Why do my closest relationships feel the most unsafe? Why do I keep repeating the same patterns no matter how many self-help books I read?  The answer, she explains, lives in the body, in streams of implicit memory laid down long before we had words for what was happening to us. And the path is not a solo one. Healing, Jessica argues, requires at least one anchoring relationship: a safe nervous system to hold space while we revisit and integrate what we could not process alone.  Jan shares her own journey openly in this conversation, her experience of intergenerational trauma, the abandonment wounds she carried into adult relationships, and the moment when being truly believed by another person accelerated her healing in ways decades of effort had not.  Jessica also introduces her free Wheel of Attachment tool and a 40-minute bonus conversation with her mentor Bonnie Badenoch. Where To Find Jessica: Insta: @JessicaBaumLMHCBuy Jessica's Books:Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure RelationshipsAnxiously AttachedBonus Goodies From Jessica:Wheel of Attachment (PDF) Bonus 40-min conversation with Bonnie BadenochIf you or someone you know is experiencing emotional distress or suicidal ideation, please access the resources below:National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: Call/Text 988National Sexual Assault Hotline  (RAINN) : 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)National Alliance for Mental Illness: 1-800-950-6264  

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Do you think about your therapist between sessions? Check their social media? Spiral when they cancel? A licensed therapist explains why attachment to your therapist happens, why it's actually part of the process, and the exact signs that tell you when it's crossed into unhealthy territory. In this episode of Ask Kati Anything, licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton breaks down the therapeutic relationship: the single strongest predictor of whether therapy actually works. She answers listener questions about feeling "creepy" for looking up their therapist, why therapy can feel transactional and fake, and what therapists are really noticing about you in session. Then she walks through the attachment ladder, the four stages that explain why your therapist starts to feel like the only person who truly gets you, and closes with a complete checklist of healthy vs. unhealthy therapeutic relationship signs. TIMESTAMPS 0:00 What is the therapeutic relationship? 1:21 The #1 predictor of successful therapy 2:26 Q1: "I'm attached to my therapist and feel like a creep" 5:52 Attachment wounds: why your therapist fills the void 11:54 What your therapist is actually noticing in session 15:20 Q2: "I feel closer to my therapist than anyone in my life" 16:56 The attachment ladder: 4 stages of attaching to your therapist 23:13 Q3: "Therapy feels transactional and the care feels bought" 28:21 Why you need to put the phone down and just think 31:17 Q4: "My therapist rescheduled and I spiraled for days" 32:47 What a therapist's role actually is (and isn't) 35:25 Signs of a HEALTHY therapeutic relationship 42:17 Signs of an UNHEALTHY therapeutic relationship 49:08 Why boundaries in therapy matter so much 53:06 How to make sure therapy works for you THIS EPISODE IS SPONSORED BY ⁠REBOUND⁠ Rebound offers virtual, evidence-based treatment for PTSD with trauma-specialist therapists, in-network with most major insurance plans in all 50 states. Check your insurance or get matched: Head to https://hellorebound.com/askkatianything to check your insurance or get matched with a therapist. RESEARCH & RESOURCES Psychotherapy and Therapeutic Relationship https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK608012/ Perceived therapist genuineness predicts therapeutic alliance in cognitive behavioural therapy for psychosis https://bpspsychub.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/bjc.12059 The Relationship Between Attachment Needs, Earned Secure https://psycnet.apa.org/fulltext/2025-18086-004.html Client and Therapist Attachment Styles and Working Alliance https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/cpp.1944 The experience of closeness and distance in the therapeutic relationship of patients with different attachment classifications https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychiatry/articles/10.3389/fpsyt.2023.1029783/full ⁠⁠⁠ASK KATI YOUR QUESTION Leave your question in the comments below and it may be answered on an upcoming episode. MY BOOKS & WORKSHOPS https://katimorton.com THERAPY If you're looking for a therapist, BetterHelp can connect you with a licensed online professional: https://betterhelp.com/kati - Enjoy 10% off your first month! (this is an affiliate link, which means a portion of your signup helps support the podcast at no extra cost to you)SOCIALS X https://twitter.com/KatiMorton TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@katimorton Facebook https://www.facebook.com/katimorton1/ Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katimorton Pinterest https://www.pinterest.com/katimorton1/ Patreon https://www.katimorton.com/kati-morton-patreon/ Main YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/katimorton?sub_confirmation=1 Apple https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ask-kati-anything/id1502476673 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/7itqbvflj0Q9IUDqOF5NST Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katimorton PARTNERSHIPS Nick Freeman | nick@biglittlemedia.co DISCLAIMER The information provided in this video is for educational and informational purposes only and is not intended as medical or mental health advice. It should not be used to diagnose or treat any health problem or disease. Always consult with a qualified healthcare professional for diagnosis and treatment. Viewing this content does not establish a therapist-client relationship. #therapy #mentalhealth #katimorton Ask Kati Anything ep. 323 | Your mental health podcast, with Kati Morton, LMFT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

*Content Warning:  neglect, rejection, friendship betrayal, betrayal, and infidelity.Free + Confidential Resources + Safety Tips: somethingwaswrong.com/resources   SWW Sticker Shop!: https://brokencyclemedia.com/sticker-shop SWW S26 Theme Song & Artwork: The S26 cover art is by the Amazing Sara Stewart instagram.com/okaynotgreat/  Follow Something Was Wrong: Website: somethingwaswrong.com  IG: instagram.com/somethingwaswrongpodcast TikTok: tiktok.com/@somethingwaswrongpodcast  Follow Tiffany Reese: Website: tiffanyreese.me  IG: instagram.com/lookieboo Follow Dr. Marisa G. Franco: Website - https://www.drmarisagfranco.com/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco Platonic, How The Science of Attachment Can Help You Make - and Keep - Friends - https://drmarisagfranco.com/platonic-the-book/ Worth, The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment: https://drmarisagfranco.com/worth-the-book/ *Sources:  Almaatouq, Abdullah, et al. "Are You Your Friends' Friend? Poor Perception of Friendship Ties Limits the Ability to Promote Behavioral Change." PLOS ONE, vol. 11, no. 3, 2016, article e0151588, https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0151588 Center for the Study of Traumatic Stress. When Losses of Loved Ones Are Not Acknowledged: Understanding Disenfranchised Grief. Department of Psychiatry, Uniformed Services University, n.d., https://www.cstsonline.org/assets/media/documents/CSTS_FS_When_Losses_of_Loved_Ones_Are_Not_Acknowledged_Understanding_Disenfranchised_Grief.pdf Dodson, William W., et al. "Rejection sensitivity dysphoria in attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder: A case series." Neurology 7 (2024): 23-30.  Franco, Marisa G. Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—and Keep—Friends. Penguin Random House, 6 Sept. 2022 https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/676695/platonic-by-marisa-g-franco-phd/ Franco, Marisa G. Worth: The New Science of Self-Esteem and Secure Attachment. G.P. Putnam's Sons, 15 Sept. 2026, Penguin Random House,https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/784327/worth-by-marisa-g-franco-phd/ Gobin, Robyn L., and Jennifer J. Freyd. "The impact of betrayal trauma on the tendency to trust." Psychological Trauma: Theory, Research, Practice, and Policy 6.5 (2014): 505. https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2013-24397-001 Guy-Evans, Olivia. “Self-Verification Theory.” Simply Psychology, 11 May 2026, https://www.simplypsychology.org/self-verification-theory.html Here & Now Newsroom. “Research Shows We Replace Half Our Friends Every 7 Years. Here's How to Make New Ones.” NPR Illinois, 23 June 2025, https://www.nprillinois.org/2025-06-23/research-shows-we-replace-half-our-friends-every-7-years-heres-how-to-make-new-ones Hillman, James. "Betrayal." Loose Ends: Primary Papers in Archetypal Psychology, Spring Publications, 1975, pp. 63–79. Jarrett, Christian. "The Liking Gap: We Usually Think People Like Us Less Than They Actually Do." Research Digest, British Psychological Society, 13 Sept. 2018, https://www.bps.org.uk/research-digest/liking-gap Kenny, Serafina. "Having Friends Is as Important as Diet and Exercise for Living Longer, a Longevity Expert Says." Business Insider, 22 Sept. 2023, https://www.businessinsider.com/longevity-antiaging-friendship-social-interaction-relationships-2023-9 Nader, Karim. “Reconsolidation and the Dynamic Nature of Memory.” Cold Spring Harbor perspectives in biology vol. 7,10 a021782. 9 Sep. 2015, doi:10.1101/cshperspect.a021782, https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26354895/ Nussbaum, Ben. "FRIENDSHIP FLATTENS HILLS: It's time to put connections at the center of wellbeing, says relationship expert Marisa Franco." Spirituality & Health Magazine, vol. 25, no. 5, Sept.-Oct. 2022, pp. 46+. Gale Academic OneFile link.gale.com/apps/doc/A763799199/AONE?u=anon~858b38f4&sid=googleScholar&xid=6b08179d One Another. Directed by Amber Love, produced by Andrea Raby, Joycie Films, 2026. World premiere, SXSW Film & TV Festival, Austin, TX, 12 Mar. 2026. https://schedule.sxsw.com/2026/films/2249924 Romm, Cari. "Half of Your Friends Probably Don't Think of You as a Friend." The Cut, 9 May 2016, https://www.thecut.com/2016/05/half-of-your-friends-probably-dont-think-of-you-as-a-friend.html Thompson, Sophia, Kaitlyn Deaner, and Marisa G. Franco. "How to Help Clients Make Friends." Journal of Health Service Psychology 49.2 (2023): 77-85 https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s42843-023-00085-w Wallace, Anna Kodé. "Why Friendship Betrayal Feels Impossible to Get Over." The Cut, 22 Apr. 2026, https://www.thecut.com/article/friendship-betrayal-explained-psychology-summer-house.html

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564. You already know attachment styles exist. But do you know what yours sounds like? In this episode, Dr. Judy Ho goes beyond the quiz results and into the actual self-talk running beneath the surface — the quiet inner monologue that drives your relationship patterns, your emotional reactions, and the way you see yourself. Drawing from her book The New Rules of Attachment, Dr. Judy introduces four renamed attachment styles, their signature self-statements, and three evidence-based tools to start rewriting the operating system.Have a mental health question? Email Dr. Judy's team at at psychologist@quickanddirtytips.comFind Savvy Psychologist on Facebook and subscribe to the newsletter for more psychology tips.Watch on YouTube: www.youtube.com/@SavvyPsychologistMore from Dr. Ho on her other channels:Dr. Ho's website, Substack, LinkedIn.Savvy Psychologist is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips. Find a transcript at QuickandDirtyTips.com. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda presents his master's-level course on attachment. February 15, 2021This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Support us by... Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleContact us/more info... Email: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactAbout Dr. Kirk: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/about-dr-kirk-hondaWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comGet stuff... Merch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/KIRKgram (like Cameo): https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/kirkgramThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being. Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com

Original air date: Feb 11, 2025 In this episode, Lisa is joined by Mili Shoemaker, a Synergetic Play Therapy supervisor trainer, long-time consultant, and dear friend. Together, they dive into one of the most foundational concepts in Synergetic Play Therapy: attachment to self. Join Lisa and Mili as they explore: How attachment to self differs from traditional attachment theories. Why moments of mindful awareness are key to healing and integration. The connection between attachment styles, perception, and self-regulation. Practical ways therapists can foster attachment to self within themselves and their clients. Personal stories and reflections on the profound impact of this concept in therapy and beyond. Lisa also shares actionable insights, including a reflective exercise to observe and strengthen your connection to self throughout your week. Whether you're a therapist, a parent, or someone curious about deepening your self-awareness, this episode is packed with transformative insights. Grab a notebook, and tune in to learn why attachment to self is not only the cornerstone of healing but also the foundation for developing secure relationships with others. Resources mentioned:

How can the body become your most concrete resource in your personal development? What do your muscles and your posture say when all the "I know what I have to do, yet I'm still not able to act" is not working anymore?In this special episode, we explore Bodynamic, the body psychotherapy method that maps the connection between muscles, childhood developmental stages, and the way we defend ourselves as adults.Our guests are Hadi Marcher, third generation in the Bodynamic lineage, grandson of founder Lisbeth Marcher and CEO of Bodynamic International, and Mar Barbosa, clinical psychologist with over 13 years of practice and the coordinator and official representative of both Somatic Experiencing and Bodynamic in Portugal. In this episode we discussed:The research that linked 125 muscles to specific psychological themesThe 7 developmental stages and character structures (early vs. late responses)Why developmental trauma is "a lack of teaching," not a flawThe difference between Bodynamic and Somatic Experiencing (fight/flight/freeze)Why Developmental Trauma and Shock Trauma have different consequences and need to be addressed differently Mutual connection and dignity, the foundation of the methodExercises you can try today"(00:00) Intro""(02:15) The body as a resource for personal development""(04:17) Hadi Marcher's story: growing up inside the Bodynamic lineage""(06:15) Trauma, hundreds of cardiac episodes and early diagnoses""(08:46) Learning how to connect with others 'from the body to the mind'""(12:09) Mar's path: from cognitive behavioral therapy to somatic approaches""(17:17) How Bodynamic works: the muscles as a concrete entry point""(20:25) Developmental trauma as a lack of teaching""(25:28) The 7 developmental stages: from the womb to adolescence""(30:04) Lisbeth Marcher's research: 125 muscles and their psychological themes""(36:26) Character structures: collapse (early response) vs. tension (late response)""(42:51) Why you should learn to love your defense mechanisms""(46:56) Bodynamic vs. Somatic Experiencing: voluntary vs. involuntary responses""(53:52) Mutual connection and dignity: Lisbeth's story from World War II""(58:02) Attachment, bonding and authenticity""(01:08:15) What happens when developmental stages overlap""(01:12:02) Examples of defense mechanisms: emotional emptiness and self-sacrifice""(01:20:11) When our defenses trigger each other in relationships""(01:27:21) The Thailand story: connection beyond conflict""(01:35:13) Daily practices: the observer ego and centering exercises""(01:44:48) Where to find courses, therapists, and the Foundation training in Romania""(01:50:49) Behind the scenes: why a conscious relationship with your body is essential"

What if your thoughts and emotions are not who you truly are? In this deeply transformative episode of The Healing You Method Podcast, Gloria Lybecker and Gail Donohue sit down with nervous system and awareness guide Tiffany O'Hearn for a powerful conversation on emotional regulation, self-awareness, trauma healing, nervous system regulation, mindfulness, and conscious living. Tiffany shares how nervous system dysregulation can shape our reactions, relationships, beliefs, emotional patterns, and subconscious conditioning — and how learning to pause, witness, and respond with awareness can change the way we experience ourselves and the world around us. Together, they explore how trauma, triggers, anxiety, emotional overwhelm, grief, self-worth, relationship patterns, and old survival responses can begin to soften when we meet ourselves with compassion instead of shame. In this episode, we explore: ✨ Nervous system regulation and emotional healing ✨ Why you are not your thoughts, emotions, or reactions ✨ Trauma, triggers, and subconscious conditioning ✨ Conscious self-observation and self-awareness ✨ The "Witness Within" and learning to pause before reacting ✨ Healing through compassion instead of shame ✨ Self-love practices for emotional regulation ✨ Attachment, awareness, and relationship triggers ✨ Spiritual growth without toxic positivity ✨ How mindfulness creates freedom, clarity, and intentional choice Tiffany also shares her powerful "Try It On" philosophy — an invitation to experience healing practices for yourself instead of simply intellectualizing them. This grounded approach offers a compassionate way to explore nervous system awareness, emotional resilience, trauma recovery, and personal transformation. This episode is for anyone navigating anxiety, emotional overwhelm, relationship triggers, grief, self-worth, trauma recovery, nervous system dysregulation, or the desire to live with more peace, clarity, and authenticity. Whether you are on a healing journey, exploring mindfulness, deepening your self-awareness, or learning how to respond instead of react, this conversation offers practical wisdom, emotional safety, and grounded compassion. Connect with Tiffany O'Hearn: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tiffany.ohearn.9 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_embodied_alchemist TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@the_embodied_alchemist YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@the_embodied_alchemist Substack: https://traumabroughtmehere.substack.com Website: https://trythison.carrd.co Connect with Gloria Lybecker: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healing_you LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/glorialybecker Website: https://glorialybeckercoaching.com Connect with Gail Donohue: Website: https://www.gaildonohuecoaching.com

I sit down with Bill Eddy to unpack the patterns behind high conflict personalities and how they can impact our relationships. We explore the warning signs that are often overlooked, why so many people ignore red flags, and practical ways to make healthier decisions when dating or navigating difficult people.If you've ever questioned your instincts in a relationship, this conversation offers valuable tools to help you protect your peace and build stronger connections.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Introduction02:18 - Why High-Conflict Personalities Are Different08:46 - The Biggest Dating Red Flags16:55 - Why We Ignore Warning Signs24:31 - Emotional Manipulation and Love Bombing34:42 - Narcissism vs. High Conflict Behavior44:58 - Setting Boundaries Without Escalation56:20 - Personality Disorders and Relationship Patterns01:06:18 - The Role of Attachment and Childhood01:15:47 - Brief Recording Interruption01:16:15 - How to Leave a High Conflict Relationship01:25:56 - Co-Parenting and Divorce Challenges01:36:48 - Practical Advice for Choosing the Right Partner01:46:52 - Final Thoughts and Closing***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Michael continues his conversation with Dr. Curt Thompson, picking up where last week left off. There's a tender ache running underneath the neuroscience here — the ten-year-old boy on a summer evening, looking for permission to just be a kid, and the mother who couldn't see it. Most of us carry some version of that missed look, and Curt names how the body remembers what the mind can't always explain.From there, the conversation moves into the architecture behind that ache: the domains of consciousness and body, the difference between sensing and making sense, and why the left and right hemispheres were never meant to compete. Curt weaves in Scripture, his clinical work, and his own story to show how attention, attunement, and embodied presence shape not just our relationships but our capacity to receive love itself.Dr. Curt Thompson is a psychiatrist, author of Anatomy of the Soul and The Soul of Shame, and a leading voice on the intersection of neuroscience and spiritual formation. This conversation is drawn from his 12-part video series, offered in conjunction with his book, The Soul of Desire, published by InterVarsity Press.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

Betrayal doesn't only break trust in another person; it can also rupture your trust in yourself. In this episode, Vanessa explores why betrayal can feel so psychologically disorganizing, especially when harm comes from someone or something that was supposed to feel safe. We talk about betrayal trauma, betrayal blindness, attachment injury, projection, reality testing, and why not every devastating feeling is the same kind of event. The deeper healing is not becoming harder or more armored, but learning how to grieve specifically, see more clearly, and trust yourself again.Reference Links: Jennifer Freyd — Betrayal Trauma TheoryUse for: Betrayal trauma theory; harm from someone or something a person depends on or trusts.Link: https://dynamic.uoregon.edu/jjf/defineBT.htmlNote: Freyd's site defines betrayal trauma and includes betrayal blindness.Jennifer Freyd — Betrayal BlindnessUse for: Why people may not fully register betrayal when they depend on the person, institution, or system doing harm.Link: https://dynamic.uoregon.edu/jjf/defineBT.htmlNote: The site describes betrayal blindness as unawareness, not-knowing, and forgetting that can preserve relationships, institutions, or systems people depend on.Jennifer Freyd — Research OverviewUse for: General background on Freyd's concepts, including betrayal trauma, betrayal blindness, DARVO, institutional betrayal, and institutional courage.Link: https://www.jjfreyd.com/about-researchNote: Helpful author/researcher page for show notes.Sue Johnson / Emotionally Focused Therapy — Attachment InjuryUse for: Attachment injury and emotionally focused therapy as a framework for repairing relational ruptures.Link: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/6644242_Resolving_Attachment_Injuries_in_Couples_Using_Emotionally_Focused_Therapy_Steps_Toward_Forgiveness_and_ReconciliationNote: Makinen and Johnson's 2006 paper, Resolving Attachment Injuries in Couples Using Emotionally Focused Therapy.Emotionally Focused Therapy / Attachment-Based HealingUse for: Sue Johnson's attachment-based framework for couples, emotional connection, and secure bonding.Link: https://psychwire.com/free-resources/q-and-a/17qfr27/emotionally-focused-therapy-and-attachment-based-healingNote: Accessible overview of Sue Johnson's EFT frame.Peter Fonagy / MentalizationUse for: Mentalization as the capacity to understand behavior in terms of mental states: thoughts, feelings, needs, desires, intentions, and motivations.Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7009316/Note: This article gives a clear definition of mentalization and cites Fonagy/Bateman's work.ScienceDirect — Mentalization OverviewUse for: Simple definition of mentalization as understanding one's own and others' behavior in terms of internal mental states.Link: https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/psychology/mentalizationNote: Useful if producer wants a quick explanatory reference.John Gottman — Trust MetricUse for: Gottman's idea that trust can be evaluated and is central to relationship stability.Link: https://www.gottman.com/blog/trust/Note: Gottman Institute article explaining the “trust metric.”John Gottman — Trust and Betrayal MetricsUse for: Trust/betrayal metrics and the idea that small everyday moments can build or erode trust.Link: https://www.gottman.com/blog/what-makes-love-last-inside-the-love-lab/Note: Gottman Institute article referencing both trust and betrayal metrics.John Gottman — Building Trust Through AttunementUse for: Trust as built through awareness, tolerance, turning toward, understanding, non-defensive listening, and empathy.Link: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-3-phases-of-love/Note: Useful for the part of the episode about trust being built through consistency, attunement, and repair over time.John Bowlby / Attachment Theory OverviewUse for: Secure base, early bonds, and foundational attachment theory.Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4085672/Note: Broad overview of attachment theory and Bowlby/Ainsworth foundations.Earned Secure AttachmentUse for: Adults with insecure early attachment histories developing more secure attachment through reflective and relational work.Link: https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/psychology/earned-secure-attachmentNote: Use as a broad reference for earned secure attachment. If producer needs a primary citation, ask for access to the Adult Attachment Interview / Mary Main literature.For educational purposes only. This isn't therapy.If you want to go deeper, check out the written companion on Substack and explore community + training at https://www.vanessaBennett.com.Additional ResourcesExplore: VanessaBennett.comBook: The Motherhood MythCommunity: Inner Compass CollectiveTraining: Inner Compass AcademyConnect with Inner CompassFollow on InstagramConnect with Vanessa Bennett:Follow on InstagramFollow on TikTokLearn more on SubstackConnect with Vanessa Bennett on LinkedInSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Self-care podcast exploring The Lesson That Changed My Life This Year: Emotional Detachment, Signs of Attachment VS Detachment & Steps to Learning Loving Detachment. TOPICS:: ** Emotional Detachment (05:17). ** Signs of Attachment VS Detachment (23:33). ** Steps to Learning Loving Detachment (30:50).   NOTES:: Show notes: amberapproved.ca/podcast/679 Leave me a review at amberapproved.ca/review Email me at info@amberapproved.ca   Save 50% off everything in the online store: Workshops, Masterclasses and Self-Study Programs to help you address emotional eating, hormone imbalances, weight-loss blocks and more from July 5th-12th: https://amber-romaniuk.mykajabi.com/store     Take the NEW Free Hormone Imbalance Quiz here: https://amberapproved.ca/hormone-imbalance-quiz    Subscribe to newsletter: https://amber-romaniuk.mykajabi.com/newsletter-sign-up    SHOW LINKS: Click below to schedule a 30 minute Complimentary Body Freedom Consultation https://amberapproved.ca/body-freedom-consultation/  Take my free Emotional Eating Quiz here: http://amberapproved.ca/emotional-eating-quiz Listen to Episode 668 about what it's like to work with me here: https://amberapproved.ca/podcast/668  Follow me on Instagram www.instagram.com/amberromaniuk Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@amberromaniuk/    MY PARTNERS: Designs For Health Blood Sugar Bundle! One of the hardest parts of overcoming my emotional eating was the INSANE SUGAR and carb cravings. It was the intense sugar and carb cravings. That's why I created my Blood Sugar Bundle with Designs for Health to support your body while you work on emotional eating and breaking binge patterns. It includes chromium for blood sugar balance, L-glutamine to help curb cravings fast, a high-quality probiotic for gut health, and a clean Pure Paleo protein powder to keep you full and stable. I only recommend Designs for Health to my clients because they are third-party tested, family-owned, and use the highest quality ingredients. Quality matters when it comes to truly supporting your body and getting results. Get 30% off The Blood Sugar Bundle in USA and Canada automatically applied at checkout below! Canada Blood Sugar Bundle here for 30% off!  USA Blood Sugar Bundle here for 30% off! You can also get 30% off any Designs for Health supplements anytime, it's my gift to you. Canada: www.designsforhealth.ca  (code AMBER30) USA: www.designsforhealth.com (code AMBER88)

What if the way you value yourself has less to do with confidence and more to do with your earliest relationships? I explore how your attachment style shapes your sense of self-worth, why insecure attachment can leave you constantly seeking validation, and how secure attachment creates a healthier foundation. I also walk through the first practical steps you can take to rebuild your self-worth by telling the truth, expressing your needs, and becoming the safe person you've always needed.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 Introduction: Self-Worth and Attachment01:15 How Self-Worth Is Formed in Childhood03:12 Why Insecure Attachment Damages Self-Worth06:40 The Link Between Secure Attachment and Confidence07:30 Three Steps to Rebuild Your Self-Worth10:38 Step 1: Tell the Truth About Your Feelings13:05 Step 2: Express Your Needs Clearly15:45 Becoming Your Own Source of Security***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

I Swear I Don't Want or Need Anything From You, But Secretly, I Do! Your body already knows you are lying. It knows before your mouth forms the sentence. The shoulders lift. The breath shortens. The jaw sets. All of it happens the instant the other person's response falls even slightly short of the invisible standard you refuse to admit exists. That reaction is not disappointment. It is the nervous system catching you in the act of protecting an attachment you have dressed up as love. Most people never see this because the lie is too useful. The phrase “I don't need anything from you” functions as perfect cover. It lets the demand keep running while the mouth claims moral high ground. The demand stays hidden. The attachment stays fed. The suffering stays unnamed. The Buddha did not say attachment to evil things produces suffering. He said attachment itself does. When the object of attachment is the specific ways another person continues to perform, the removal of that performance produces immediate and precise pain. The structure collapses not because love was lost, but because what was called love was never free of the requirement that the other person keep supplying the exact emotional or behavioral return that made the attachment feel like connection.

Send us Fan MailYour Emotions Aren't the Problem: Non-Attachment, Regulation & the REER FrameworkWhat if your emotions were never the problem, and you were just never taught what to do with them? In this solo episode I'm getting honest about the emotional experience, non-attachment, and how we move through our feelings instead of being run by them. We talk about why we chase dopamine hits when we're not taught to regulate, what the Blue Zones reveal about staying well, and what the Bhagavad Gita says about controlling the senses (spoiler: it's like controlling the wind). I break down the Venus into Virgo transit and the honest inventory it's asking for, why proximity and frequency matter more than information, and I share the framework I finally gave a name to: REER. Regulate, Educate, Embody, Radiate. If you've done all the inner work and still feel stuck, this one's for us.In this episode:00:00 - Non-attachment as one of the biggest lessons of this lifetime02:37 - Why your emotions are the superpower, not the flaw05:44 - The "I need it right now" test and emotional authority06:40 - How far we've drifted from what actually regulates us07:42 - What the Blue Zones teach about longevity10:02 - Too much, not enough, and being perfectly you13:36 - Controlling the wind: the Bhagavad Gita on the senses15:41 - Information overload and carving out space to ground16:29 - Venus into Virgo, the South Node, and an honest inventory19:02 - Doing the inner work but getting stuck on the action19:48 - Proximity, energy, and the frequency you keep21:07 - Losing people as you level up24:05 - Mercury retrograde and your emotional patterns25:26 - You are the niche26:39 - The REER framework: Regulate, Educate, Embody, Radiate31:00 - "I control me": working with your triggers32:05 - Attune, and what's coming next weekCoffee ChatMercury Retrograde WorkbookThird SpaceAttune: 7 day nervous system regulation practice Where you can find Rochelle:Mastery Monday NewsletterSubstack InstagramWebsiteYouTubeEmail: info@rochellechristiane.com Support the showWhere you can find Rochelle:Instagram, TikTok, Website, YouTubeEmail: info@rochellechristiane.com

This week, Jake and Bob are joined by Andrew Laubacher, the Executive Director of Humanality, to explore how our digital world is reshaping our attention, attachments, and relationships. After stepping away from social media and smart phones to overcome addiction, Andrew realized that healing sometimes requires more than better habits, fasting, or more prayer—it requires recovering the way God created us to live and relate. Together, they discuss the false intimacy of online community, the loneliness epidemic, and why technology is never as neutral as we assume. Andrew also shares practical steps you can begin today to live intentionally with technology.   Key Points: Modern technology offers a false intimacy while leaving us increasingly isolated, lonely, and craving real in-person community. Human beings are biologically designed for face-to-face connection, not constant digital interaction. Technology is not neutral because every platform is intentionally designed to keep us using it. AI offers remarkable benefits but also presents significant dangers when it replaces authentic human relationships. Healing requires real encounter, attention, and attachment that technology can never fully provide. Many of today's mental health struggles exist alongside a broader crisis of addiction and overstimulation. Constant digital stimulation weakens our capacity for focus, presence, contemplation, and prayer. It also affects sleep, physical health, eyesight, and overall well-being. Living intentionally with technology allows people to recover creativity, purpose, authentic relationships, and a deeper encounter with God.   Resources: Humanality   Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 06:49 How Technology Diminishes our Humanity 14:04 Artificial Community and False Intimacy 21:03 Can AI Heal Us? 31:10 The Tension of Virtual Communication 36:54 Attention, Attachment, and Addiction 52:33 Reclaiming Your Attention 57:07 Resources and Encouragement   Connect with Restore the Glory:  Instagram: @restoretheglorypodcast  Twitter: @RestoreGloryPod Facebook: Restore the Glory Podcast   Never miss out on an episode by hitting the subscribe button right now! Help other people find the show and grow in holiness by sharing this podcast with them individually or on your social media. Thanks!

Attachment theory has become one of the most talked-about topics in the dating and relationship world.You have probably heard terms like anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, secure attachment, and disorganized attachment. Maybe you've even wondered whether your attachment style played a role in your abusive relationship.But what if attachment theory isn't about blaming yourself?In this episode, I unpack attachment styles through a trauma-informed lens and explore how understanding your attachment patterns can support healing, self-awareness, and future relationships after abuse.We discuss:What attachment theory actually is (and what it isn't)The four primary attachment stylesChildhood experiences that can contribute to different attachment patternsWhy attachment styles are adaptations, not character flawsHow attachment styles can influence dating and relationshipsThe role attachment may play in how we experience attention, connection, and love bombingWhy survivors should be cautious about using attachment theory as a form of self-blameHow coercive control and abusive relationships can create attachment injuries of their ownWhy understanding yourself is often more important than trying to become an expert at spotting abusersOne of the most important takeaways from this conversation is that attachment styles do not explain why someone was abused.Abuse happens because someone chose to abuse.Understanding your attachment style can be incredibly helpful for healing, building self-awareness, and creating healthier relationships moving forward. But it should never be used as evidence that you caused, invited, or deserved the abuse you experienced.If you've ever wondered how attachment theory fits into your healing journey, this episode is for you.Register for the Free Webinar Series - Why Co-Parenting Feels Like a Trap  here - https://mailchi.mp/risingbeyondpc/coparentingPlease leave us a review or rating and follow/subscribe to the show. This helps the show get out to more people.If you want to chat more about this topic I would love to continue our conversation over on Instagram! @risingbeyondpcIf you want to support the show you may do so here at, Buy Me A Coffee. Thank you! We love being able to make this information accessible to you and your community.If you've been looking for a supportive community of women going through the topics we cover, head over to our website to learn more about the Rising Beyond Community. - https://www.risingbeyondpc.com/Where to find more from Rising Beyond:Rising Beyond FacebookRising Beyond LinkedInRising Beyond Pinterest If you're interested in guesting on the show please fill out this form - https://forms.gle/CSvLWWyZxmJ8GGQu7Enjoy some of our freebies!Choosing Your Battles FreebieCanned Responses FreebieMic Drop Moments Freebie...

You can learn:Transformation requires lossMourning is updatingIdentity becomes attached to burdensTransformation requires psychological deathForgiveness is releaseThe Rich Young Ruler illustrates attachmentKnowledge isn't transformationThe Beatitudes point to surrenderEnds by returning to "What are you carrying?"Preview into the Lord's Prayer 00:00 Every Transformation Contains a Funeral; Why Change Hurts02:00 Mourning as Updating; Reality, Prediction & Letting Go07:15 When Identity Becomes the Burden; Jung, Kierkegaard, Nietzsche & Dostoevsky11:00 Thoughts, Identity & Psychological Death15:45 Forgiveness as Release; Putting Down What You Keep Carrying18:30 The Rich Young Ruler; Attachment, Identity & Transformation22:15 Why Information Isn't Enough; Surrender vs. Knowledge24:10 Why Even Christians Struggle to Change; The Beatitudes & Release26:05 What Are You Carrying? & & The Lord's Prayer Preview29:08 Elevate How You Navigate, MAYU Water, Daylight & ChromaElevate How You Navigate with Len & a free call https://elevatehowyounavigate.comMAYU Water, use "autism" for 10% off at https://mayuwater.comDaylight Computer Company, use "autism" for $50 off at https://buy.daylightcomputer.com/autismDaylight Kids (!!!) https://kids.daylightcomputer.com/autism ‪Chroma Light Devices, use "autism" for 10% discount at https://getchroma.co/?ref=autismX: https://x.com/rps47586YT: https://www.youtube.com/@FromTheSpectrumemail: info.fromthespectrum@gmail.com

#154: On today's episode, Han sits down with the creator and dating coach behind The Daddy Academy, Niko Emanuilidis, for the first-ever dating conversation with a man on the podcast. The girls wanted to know about modern dating, relationships, red flags, what men actually think, and what women should be looking for in a healthy partner... and Niko unapologetically gets into it.Han and Niko explore the male perspective on dating so women can better understand the other side, while also breaking down what it actually looks like to date a healthy, emotionally mature man. This episode covers why so many of us keep repeating the same relationship patterns, why healing doesn't always stop you from attracting unhealthy partners, and why the real work is learning to recognize and reject what no longer aligns with you.Niko and Han get into:How childhood wounds shape who you're attracted toWhy healing doesn't stop you from attracting unhealthy people—you simply have to stop choosing themWhy a healthy man can embody both masculine and feminine energyWhat emotional regulation actually looks like in a relationship, especially when looking for a boyfriend/long term partnerWhy women are evolving emotionally faster than menWhy relationships often become the next stage of healingThe five conversations every couple should have within the first few datesHow to know if someone is dating intentionallyThe difference between chemistry and compatibilityWhat men wish women better understood about datingWhat women should actually look for in a healthy partnerThe biggest red flags women consistently missHow to recognize love bombing before it's too lateWhy healthy love feels calm instead of chaoticThe importance of pacing and boundaries in early datingFinding your core wound and breaking unhealthy dating patternsWhat it actually takes to attract the relationship you deserveThe importance of being seen& MORE!This episode is for anyone who feels stuck in unhealthy dating patterns, struggles with attachment wounds, or wants to build a secure, emotionally healthy relationship. If you're navigating dating anxiety, love bombing, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, emotional unavailability, or the fear of being fully seen, this conversation will completely change the way you think about love.TIMESTAMPS:00:00 – Introduction01:02 – Meet Niko from The Daddy Academy02:53 – What healthy masculine energy actually looks like04:45 – Why emotionally available men are the most attractive07:06 – Why women are evolving emotionally faster than men08:57 – Do you have to heal before entering a healthy relationship?10:10 – Why you date your unfinished business10:26 – Why healing doesn't stop emotionally unavailable people from showing up17:02 – What women are really looking for in men today20:27 – The five conversations every couple should have early on23:24 – How to know if someone is dating intentionally25:33 – Why talking about past relationships matters29:09 – Learning to be fully seen in relationships32:45 – Identifying your core wound and attachment patterns33:16 – What men wish women understood about dating39:02 – The biggest dating red flags women miss39:23 – How love bombing starts with high chemistry and obsession40:00 – Why you can't rush the dating process40:58 – The difference between calm love and anxious chemistry41:22 – What healthy obsession actually looks like42:33 – Why pacing and boundaries matter in early dating46:26 – Why you should never date someone's potential48:10 – Why your time is your greatest asset while dating53:05 – How to attract the healthy relationship you deserve54:50 – Why being fully seen helps you find your person1:00:24 – Stop chasing your future spouse and start loving your own lifeCONNECT BELOW:Follow Niko hereFollow the Daddy Academy hereJoin his Dating program herefollow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠

This episode is all about attachment theory. Attachment styles have been buzzing in the pop psychology world recently. Our hosts invite listeners to learn more about attachment theory which helps us understand why we fight the way we do and why our partner reacts to conflict in the way they do. Attachment theory is based on the idea that we are here to connect and life is all about relationship and meaningful connection. Join us today as we break down attachment theory, and the attachment styles secure, anxious, avoidant and disorganized. Laurie and George help us put on our attachment lenses to make sense of relationship behaviors that are often misunderstood. You'll take away the useful tips from acronyms A.R.E and O.I.L and how to make your relationship more secure today! Let's us help you love better this year! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

You were made for beauty and goodness. You feel that, even on the hardest days. What neuroscience is beginning to show us is that this longing isn't incidental. It's written into the architecture of how you were made.In this conversation, psychiatrist and author Curt Thompson opens up the world of interpersonal neurobiology and what it has to do with the soul, how the mind is not the brain but something that emerges between bodies and relationships, how 80 to 85 percent of a newborn's neural networks can only develop in response to someone paying attention, and what it means that God started with dirt before he breathed in life. Curt also brings his own story, the parts of his inner orchestra that never got developed, and why the gospel doesn't just want the polished instruments.This is a rebroadcast of one of the most beloved conversations in the show's history.Dr. Curt Thompson is a psychiatrist and author of Anatomy of the Soul: Surprising Connections Between Neuroscience and Spiritual Practices That Can Transform Your Life and Relationships.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

In this episode, Vanessa sits down with Clara Schroeder, ecotherapist and author of Re-Nature: How Nature Helps Us Feel Better and Do Better, for a conversation about ecopsychology, climate grief, ritual, and the healing intelligence of the natural world. Together they explore why “we are nature” is not just a poetic idea, but a psychological and spiritual reality - and how separation from the earth mirrors separation from self, body, belonging, and ritual. They also discuss nature as a co-regulating presence, the specific grief that can follow climate or human-caused ecological disasters, and what it means to repair our attachment with the original mother. This is a conversation about remembering that nature is not outside of us; it is one of the oldest relationships we have.For educational purposes only. This isn't therapy.Resources mentioned:Re-Nature by Clara SchroederUse for: Guest's book, Re-Nature: How Nature Helps Us Feel Better and Do Better.Link: https://www.claraschroeder.com/bookNote: Clara's site describes the book as exploring nature connection, mental health, resilience, climate disruption, and sustainable action.Ecopsychology / Theodore RoszakUse for: Defining ecopsychology as the bridge between psychology and ecology / the human psyche and the natural world.Link: https://www.ebsco.com/research-starters/psychology/ecopsychologyNote: Useful general background on ecopsychology and its association with Theodore Roszak's The Voice of the Earth.Nature exposure and healthUse for: Research support that exposure to natural environments is associated with decreased anxiety, rumination, and other mental health benefits.Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8125471/Note: Review article on associations between nature exposure and health.Nature relatedness and mental healthUse for: Research support that stronger nature relatedness is associated with fewer symptoms of depression, anxiety, and stress.Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6069224/Note: Helpful support for the episode's claim that relationship with nature matters for mental health.Connectedness to Nature ScaleUse for: Research on emotional / experiential connection to the natural world.Link: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/222621038_The_Connectedness_to_Nature_Scale_A_Measure_of_Individuals%27_Feeling_in_Community_with_NatureNote: Mayer and Frantz's Connectedness to Nature Scale is a common measure in environmental psychology.Andy Goldsworthy quoteUse for: “We often forget that we are nature. Nature is not something separate from us…”Link: https://www.theartstory.org/artist/goldsworthy-andy/Note: This is a cleaner source than Goodreads for the quote used in the episode.Lisa Miller / Spirituality Mind Body InstituteUse for: Lisa Miller's work on spirituality, psychology, and the science of spiritual awareness.Link: https://www.tc.columbia.edu/faculty/lfm14/Note: This confirms Lisa Miller as Professor of Psychology and Education at Teachers College, Columbia University, and founder of the Spirituality Mind Body Institute.Lisa Miller — The Awakened BrainUse for: Background on spirituality, resilience, and mental health.Link: https://www.lisamillerphd.com/Note: Important: I would not use wording that says Lisa Miller “proved synchronicities are real” unless you have a specific source from her work that says that directly. Safer wording: “Lisa Miller's work explores the science of spirituality and awakened awareness.”Fractal patterns and stress reductionUse for: Nature's fractal patterns and stress/mental fatigue reduction.Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8416160/Note: Supports the episode's discussion of repeated natural patterns and nervous system regulation.Disaster / climate-related mental healthUse for: Mental health consequences of disasters, including trauma, anxiety, and depression.Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11430943/Note: Broad support for the climate grief / disaster recovery part of the conversation.Forest therapy after wildfire disasterUse for: Nature-based, community-centered support after wildfire or disaster.Link: https://natureandhealth.uw.edu/publications/forest-therapy-as-a-trauma-informed-approach-to-disaster-recovery-insights-from-a-wildfire-affected-community/Note: Useful support for nature connection as part of disaster recovery.Nature attachment theoryUse for: Nature as an attachment figure / the human-nature bond through an attachment theory lens.Link: https://eresearch.qmu.ac.uk/handle/20.500.12289/14214Note: Useful support for the “Mother Nature / original mother / attachment wound” portion of the episode.Attachment theory overviewUse for: Bowlby, Ainsworth, secure base, attachment needs, and early bonds.Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4085672/Note: Good general research overview on attachment theory and secure base.Clarissa Pinkola Estés — Women Who Run With the Wolves / life-death-life cycleUse for: Life-death-life cycle, instinctual nature, and the archetypal feminine frame.Link: https://bookshop.org/p/books/women-who-run-with-the-wolves-clarissa-pinkola-estes/9929947Note: The concept is from Estés's Women Who Run With the Wolves. I did not find a high-quality free source with the full concept explained, so best to cite the book directly rather than a secondary blog.Human evolution / Homo sapiensUse for: Vanessa's comment that humans have existed far longer than modern attachment theory / nuclear-family assumptions.Link: https://humanorigins.si.edu/evidence/human-fossils/species/homo-sapiensNote: Smithsonian source states Homo sapiens have lived from about 300,000 years ago to the present.Connect with Claire:Clara's website:https://www.claraschroeder.com/Book page:https://www.claraschroeder.com/bookInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/livingwithclarity/Book Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/ReNatureBook/Substack:https://claraschroeder.substack.com/If you want to go deeper, check out the written companion on Substack and explore community + training at https://www.vanessaBennett.com.Additional ResourcesExplore: VanessaBennett.comBook: The Motherhood MythCommunity: Inner Compass CollectiveTraining: Inner Compass AcademyConnect with Inner CompassFollow on InstagramConnect with Vanessa Bennett:Follow on InstagramFollow on TikTokLearn more on SubstackConnect with Vanessa Bennett on LinkedInSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

(0:00) The brief mystic regulated leader answer(3:19) Love is + secure attachment + connections(3:45) Kano + Mystic CG/R/FFT for personal growth & spiritual ascension(9:38) what love is + blind trust(11:07) 5D (differentiate + link, secure) vs 3D-4D (enmesh, non-secure)(12:45) Empowered divine feminines are connected to all that is, no confusion(13:30) Non-secure people vs. secure people(15:24) Suffering relationships isn't how love or relationships are supposed to go(15:34) What is love? Is it worth it? Mystic Story & POVs (20:30) Attachment & "technical" aspects Q&A "what is love? is it worth it?"(40:34) Everyone can be their own guru, spiritual master, enlightened one today + how co-regulation & self-regulation are part of this, & book suggestionsCheck out The Accessible Guide to Your Sovereign Blueprint: Nervous System Sovereignty & Conscious Self-Leadership - < a href="https://payhip.com/b/NJXhO" target="_blank">https://payhip.com/b/NJXhONot ready for the guide, check out the FREE Executive Summary here: < a href="https://payhip.com/b/VtK7k" target="_blank">https://payhip.com/b/VtK7kGet Your Sovereign Blueprint: Claim your intellectual and emotional sovereignty with this comprehensive, self-directed guide. https://payhip.com/b/jOSFYNot ready for the guide, check out the FREE Executive Summary here: https://payhip.com/b/RBz2XThe Regulated Leader - Expand Your Inner Growth Journey: Master emotional resilience and steady your nervous system fluency with the complete digital guide. https://payhip.com/b/rOUPzDownload the Free 10-Minute Mindset Practice: Shift your state and anchor your body into clarity and ventral safety under pressure. https://payhip.com/b/7PdoGYou are not your activated state: When emotions feel true self-leaders move from reactivity to steadiness. Check out the new daily steady living bundle (1 day mindset practice + 15 journal prompts)

Drop us some Fan Mail. Thanks!Question: My child is in upper elementary school, and we've been together for a while, but they still keep me at arm's length. What are some concrete things I can do now to help build a more secure attachment?Resources:Establishing Secure Attachment with Your New Foster or Adopted Tween or TeenUnderstanding and Improving Parent-Child AttachmentThe Power of Curiosity: Helping Kids Feel Safe to GrowUnderstanding How Positive Childhood Experiences (PCEs) Help Kids ThriveSupport the showPlease leave us a rating or review.  This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:Weekly podcastsWeekly articles/blog postsResource pages on all aspects of family building

Money is in the top three reasons for divorce in America. But most couples fighting about money are not actually fighting about money. They are fighting about safety, worth, and trust. Adam Lane Smith sits down with Rachel Cruze, financial expert and bestselling author, to break down why money fights are almost never about money, what your attachment style is doing to your finances, and how to finally get on the same page with your partner before the fight becomes a crisis. What you will learn in this video: 1- Why avoidant people hoard money and anxious people overspend and why both come from the same wound  2- Why joint accounts get more hate on social media than any other financial advice and what that reaction actually reveals  3- Why the prenup conversation is not about divorce but about whether you are building a team  4- Why four generations of women were told men cannot be trusted and how that is running marriages today  5- Why money fights are marriage problems in disguise  6- Why the man who earns more and still feels worthless is an attachment problem not a financial one  7- Why working together to pay off debt improves marriages even when nobody taught a marriage class  8- What to do when one partner is a saver and one is a spender and neither can understand the other  9- Why 49 percent of Gen Z women say having children is no longer important and what is underneath that number If money has been a source of fighting, hiding, or distance in your relationship, the problem probably started long before the bank account did.

[Rerun] Chapter 6 in Dr. Kirk's deep dive on attachment theory. (Intro)  March 23, 2019This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Support us by... Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleContact us/more info... Email: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactAbout Dr. Kirk: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/about-dr-kirk-hondaWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comGet stuff... Merch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/KIRKgram (like Cameo): https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/kirkgramThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being. Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com

Do you fear letting an old version of you die? Do you how onto and attach versions of yourself which are actually holding you back? Are you willing to alchemize the attachment you have to your shadow self?These are some of the questions Christie, Danny & Ellie discuss in today's podcast about ego death. The Masters of Self University PODCAST is your highest source of Sacred Truth and Universal Wisdom, offered by Rachel Fiori, mystical teacher, psycho-energetic healer, & CEO. Join our journey of soul transformation with hosts Ellie Lee, Danny Morley, and the rest of our amazing Certified Mystical Coaches of Oneness™.Student Enrollment Information:    https://www.mastersofselfuniversity.com/university-enrollmentMasters of Self University:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://mastersofselfuniversity.com/⁠⁠Learn more about CEO and Founder Rachel Fiori:   https://www.rachelfiori.com/Rachel's Book on Amazon:  ⁠https://shorturl.at/hkyLRJoin Our Free Discord Community:  ⁠https://www.mastersofselfuniversity.com/resources#discord⁠Ellie's Social Media:   ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@ellieyjlee⁠⁠⁠⁠  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/ellieyjlee⁠⁠⁠⁠Danny's Social Media:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/dannyfmorley  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@dannyfmorley  www.youtube.com/@DannyfMorley  Christie's Social Media  https://www.instagram.com/christieelouNEW EPISODES EVERY MONDAY AND THURSDAY!

When Sobriety Doesn't Bring Them Back: Why the Relationship Still Feels Different Many partners expect sobriety to restore connection. But what happens when substances stop, and emotional distance remains? In this episode, Andrea explores dopamine depletion, early recovery brain healing, emotional flatness (anhedonia), and the difference between sobriety and relational repair. If you're wondering, “They're sober… so why does it still feel off?” — this episode offers insight and grounding. In This Episode: What happens to the brain in early sobriety • Why emotional intimacy may not immediately return • The difference between behavioral sobriety and emotional repair • Attachment patterns resurfacing • How to evaluate your relationship with clarity

In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, hosts Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton talk about one of the most deeply ingrained patterns in first responder culture — the inability to ask for help — and why for so many officers, firefighters, and paramedics, independence is not just a personality trait. It is a survival skill that the job built, the culture reinforced, and the nervous system now refuses to release even when the cost of holding onto it is everything. This is not about stubbornness. This is about a profession that selects for self-sufficiency, trains it deeper, and then offers almost no pathway for the people inside it to need something without feeling like they are failing at the most fundamental level of who they are.

[Rerun] Chapter 5 in Dr. Kirk's deep dive on attachment theory. (Intro) March 22, 2019This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Support us by... Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleContact us/more info... Email: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactAbout Dr. Kirk: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/about-dr-kirk-hondaWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comGet stuff... Merch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/KIRKgram (like Cameo): https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/kirkgramThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being. Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com

send us a text via Fan Mail!I've been re-releasing all my Martha Martha episodes in great bundles over the last few weeks. This is the last one, and it's a long form, most of them have been really short . A lovely group of moms discuss their experience of conception pregnancy and birth. As the first in a series of attachment at different ages and stages, I've sought out the reflection of Catholic mothers about their journey.  In the context of seeking relationship with our children, we discuss the awakening of developing secure relationships  for both mother and child.  Covering the desire for connection, the challenges in pursuing it and the benefits, these moms share their stories, resources, concerns and blessings.  We begin by defining attachment:“Attachment” refers to a relationship that we seek as parents.  On our end, attachment requires us to be attuned to our children through physical and emotional closeness.  We seek to provide an environment where they feel safe and cared for, heard and seen.  The hunger for connection its the most fundamental need for a human being.  Our awareness and understanding of that need are the foundation for a securely attached child.  A securely attached child rests in the knowledge that her emotional and physical needs will be acknowledged and met; that love and respect are inherent and these things do not need to be earned.  A child will be comfortable expressing their needs and emotions. This ability to rest in our love creates an environment that allows their natural maturity to flourish.  https://www.spinningbabies.comhttps://www.mamanatural.com/pregnancy-week-by-week/https://us.hypnobirthing.com/about/marie-mongan-method/Made for Thishttps://www.amazon.com/Made-This-Catholic-Guide-Birth/dp/1681921715The Birth PartnerThe Womanly ArtIna May's Guide to ChildbirthApps: Gentle BirthChristian HypnobirthingChristina's novena for labour and birth: https://www.theevangelista.com/newlywed-life/2017/10/21/a-novena-for-labor-and-birth?rq=novenaContactOn Instagram at @make.joy.normal By email at makejoynormal@gmail.comSearch podcast episodes by topic www.bonnielandry.caShop my recommended resourcesThanks for listening to Make Joy Normal Podcast! 

In this episode of the Optimal Body Podcast, Doc Jen and Doctor Dom, both doctors of physical therapy, welcome back Shannon Algeo, psychotherapist and author of The Power in Your Hands. Shannon explores how smartphone and social media use mirrors insecure attachment patterns, introducing the concept of technology attachment to explain how people unconsciously turn to technology to manage anxiety, avoid emotions, and seek connection. The conversation covers how virtual interactions lack the embodied cues essential for genuine human bonding, the dangers of solitude deprivation, and the societal nature of technology attachment and the pain of digital addiction. Shannon encourages listeners to exercise compassion, small behavioral experiments, and collective action to help reclaim presence, creativity, and authentic human connection. Shannon's Resources: The Power in Your Hands Shannon on IG Shannon on YT Shannon's Website We Think You'll Love: Free Week of Jen Health Jen's Instagram Dom's Instagram YouTube Channel What You'll Learn from Shannon: 2:31 The Genesis of the Book 4:19 Attachment Theory and Technology Attachment 8:21 Virtual vs. Real World 10:51 Attachment Styles and Social Media 15:44 Negativity Bias Online 19:17 The Dangers of Instant Answers 22:10 The Importance of Solitude 30:08 Parenting in the Digital Age 36:25 The Grief of the Unlived Life 42:08 The Influencer's Dilemma 46:48 Is "Doomscrolling" Actually Relaxing? 52:15 Hope for the Future 58:07 How to Start Disconnecting For full show notes and resources visit https://jen.health/podcast/467 Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3055: Dr. Lisa Firestone explains how our earliest attachment experiences create internal “working models” that shape who we choose as partners, how we behave in relationships, and what we expect from others. By understanding these patterns and creating a coherent narrative of our childhood experiences, we can develop greater security, break unhealthy cycles, and build stronger, more fulfilling relationships. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.psychalive.org/where-relationship-patterns-come-from/ Quotes to ponder: "The way we experienced relationships in our very early lives creates an “internal working model” for how we view relationships throughout our lives." "The good news is, we are not doomed to repeat the patterns of our past. We can change our model, but we have to identify it, so we can challenge it." "If we're wondering why certain dynamics keep playing out or patterns keep developing in our relationships, it's important to consider the working models we're bringing to the table." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

HT2664 - Our Attachment to Stuff In the early 1980s, I fumbled a lens swap and dropped an expensive view camera lens into the Pacific Ocean. I grieved then and still grieve to this day. Why is stuff so important? Every photographer I know has a piece of gear they lament selling — or losing. Isn't it silly that we can be so attached to stuff? I used to think this had something to do with the loss of potential, but now I'm not so sure. I once had a client who owned a Western store and I learned a great deal about stuff and our sense of self-identity from that experience. Show your appreciation for our free weekly Podcast and our free daily Here's a Thought… with a donation Thanks!

You finally meet someone who's consistent, emotionally available, and genuinely cares about you... so why does your nervous system want to run?In this episode, I break down why healing attachment wounds often feels more uncomfortable before it feels secure. We'll explore what's happening in your brain and nervous system, why healthy love can feel threatening when it's unfamiliar, and how to stop sabotaging the very relationship you've been hoping for.✨ Ready to become more secure?

[Rerun] Chapter 4 in Dr. Kirk's deep dive on attachment theory. (Intro) March 21, 2019This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Support us by... Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleContact us/more info... Email: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactAbout Dr. Kirk: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/about-dr-kirk-hondaWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comGet stuff... Merch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/KIRKgram (like Cameo): https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/kirkgramThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being. Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com

Dr. Lili de Hoyos Anderson continues her deep dive into the ministry of Elijah from the spectacular fire of Mount Carmel to the still small voice that followed, revealing how God meets his servants at their breaking points, why the sealing power Elijah holds is the foundation of every family's eternal hope, and what it means to exercise righteous power in a world that has demonized it.YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/452lhpFd7CgFREE PDF DOWNLOADS OF followHIM QUOTE BOOKSNew Testament: https://tinyurl.com/PodcastNTBookOld Testament: https://tinyurl.com/PodcastOTBookBook of Mormon: https://tinyurl.com/PodcastBMBook WEEKLY NEWSLETTERhttps://tinyurl.com/followHIMnewsletter SOCIAL MEDIAInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/followHIMpodcastFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/followhimpodcastTIMECODE0:00 - Part 2 - Dr. Lili de Hoyos Anderson2:44  Where do you stand?4:19 The Mt. Carmel contest7:17 Fire falls and fasting as spiritual weight room11:33 Bridling passions and Jezebel's threats15:46 Elijah on Mt. Horeb and the still, small, voice22:42 Will you stand forever?27:22 Attachment injuries and attachment to God30:27 Dr. Anderson's tribute to her husband Chris35:37 God can bridge any gap38:25 The sealing power worth the Restoration's talk41:18 The gospel is about uniting46:24 God's generosity with sealings49:47 Israel granted superpower status through obedience 52:07 Jesus Christ's meekness55:55 Elijah's power and meekness58:18 Addiction recovery and identifying as child of God1:01:40 The lie that sin makes you free1:03:40 The roles of Christ made possible by His Power1:07:46 End of Part 2 - Dr. Lili de Hoyos AndersonThanks to the followHIM team:Steve & Shannon Sorensen: Cofounder, Executive Producer, SponsorDavid & Verla Sorensen: SponsorsDr. Hank Smith: Co-hostJohn Bytheway: Co-hostDavid Perry: ProducerKyle Nelson: Marketing, SponsorLisa Spice: Client Relations, Editor, Show NotesWill Stoughton: Video EditorKrystal Roberts: Translation Team, English & French Transcripts, WebsiteAriel Cuadra: Spanish TranscriptsAmelia Kabwika: Portuguese TranscriptsHeather Barlow: Communications DirectorSydney Smith: Social Media, Graphic Design "Let Zion in Her Beauty Rise" by Marshall McDonaldhttps://www.marshallmcdonaldmusic.com

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk describes how to use attachment theory in therapy. (Intro) March 20, 2019 This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Support us by... Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleContact us/more info... Email: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactAbout Dr. Kirk: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/about-dr-kirk-hondaWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comGet stuff... Merch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/KIRKgram (like Cameo): https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/kirkgramThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being. Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com

Growing up as millennials, we were often told not to be too loud, not to ask for help, and to push our feelings down. Attachment therapist and author Eli Harwood joins us to unpack how our upbringings shaped us and how we can break generational cycles as parents. Eli opens with a powerful reframe: our parents truly did the best they could with what they knew. From there, we dive deep into what childhood trauma actually looks like (and why so many of us don't recognize it as trauma), how to build resilience in our kids, and why the way we parent almost always traces back to how we were parented. Whether you struggle with patience, saying no, or knowing when to discipline versus when to have a conversation, Eli offers practical, connection-focused tools to help us show up differently for our kids.Key Topics Covered:What secure attachment looks like and why Eli centers her work on connection and relationship rather than control and behavior.How to identify the childhood experiences you may be carrying into adulthood without realizing they are traumas.Finding the middle ground between raising independent kids and raising kids who feel safe asking for help.The number one predictor of long-term resilience in children and how to actively foster it.Why millennial parents may struggle with patience, and why the birthing parent often has less of it than their non-birthing partner.Punishment versus conversation: how to rethink your approach when your child does something wrong.Why saying no feels so hard for millennial parents and what to do if you want to change that pattern.CONNECT WITH ELI:Instagram & Threads (@attachmentnerd): https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/attachmentnerdTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentnerdYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@attachmentnerdGet Your Copy of Eli's Book: https://amzlink.to/az09tHmrRU6NT LINKS AND RESOURCES: BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herselfLMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF Let's connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

I sit down with Erica Komisar to talk about divorce, attachment, parenting, and the values shaping modern family life. We explore what current research says about separation and child development, why timing matters when divorce happens, and how early relationships influence who we become as adults. Erica also shares her perspective on motherhood, identity, emotional regulation, and the cultural shifts affecting relationships today. If you're navigating family decisions, raising children, or thinking deeply about what creates a meaningful life, this episode offers plenty to reflect on.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Introduction01:11 - Is Divorce Better Than a Bad Marriage?02:47 - Why Are Divorce and Child-Free Living Being Celebrated?09:06 - Development, Narcissism & Modern Relationships15:45 - The Pressure Between Career and Family16:09 - The Best and Worst Ages for Divorce22:47 - Stability, Attachment & Child Development23:03 - The Research Behind Early Attachment28:56 - Emotional Regulation and the First Three Years35:13 - What Stress Does to Children40:23 - Identity, Motherhood & Modern Culture44:00 - Production, Achievement & Meaning46:16 - Where to Find Erica's Work***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

If you've been "doing the work" for a while now, it's likely you have a firm grip on why you are the way you are. But many of us find ourselves stuck at the "knowledge and awareness" stage, struggling to put our insights into practice in a way that translates into lasting change. In this episode, I'm sharing thoughts on how to bridge that gap so that you don't find yourself on a never-ending hamster wheel of information-gathering that keeps you from experiencing relationships differently.LinksFree training on healing anxious attachment: http://stephanierigg.com/haa-webinar-opt-in Free resources: http://stephanierigg.com/free-resources Attachment quiz: http://stephanierigg.com/quiz Substack: https://stephanierigg.substack.com/