Have you ever been hijacked by your emotions at work? Or stopped to consider the importance of how our emotions shape our experience at work? In this week's episode of the Happier at Work® podcast, my guest is Dr Lola Gershfeld, founder of EmC Leaders, sheds light on the importance of understanding our emotions and attachment styles, and their impact on our workplace relationships. Her unique process helps teams build cohesive interactions, culture, and relationships in the workplace. By teaching techniques such as bonding conversations, sharing emotions, and identifying automatic thoughts, we can restructure our interactions to create a more secure bond. Emotional engagement is a crucial aspect of our lives, and it has a significant impact on our overall happiness and productivity at work. Recognising and addressing emotions in the workplace is essential for creating a positive and harmonious work environment. During my conversation with Dr. Gershfeld, we explored how failing to talk about emotions hinders our ability to connect with others and can lead to negative cycles of blame and complaint. The root cause of conflict is not necessarily differences in strategy or agenda; it's how we communicate and address each other's attachment needs and fears that flare up. Dr. Gershfeld emphasised the importance of being comfortable with sharing emotions and creating an environment where it is safe to do so. Empathy plays a crucial role in understanding that people are struggling for connection. Recognising the cues of blaming, pointing, and shutting down can help us identify when someone is struggling for connection. Our discussion also touched upon attachment theory and its implications for both personal and work relationships. It's fascinating to consider how attachment styles, shaped by our childhood experiences, can manifest in our adult interactions. Feeling secure in a relationship reduces the likelihood of triggering anxious or avoidant responses. The main points throughout this podcast include: - Attachment theory and how it relates to workplace dynamics - Our brain structure and its role in regulating our thoughts and emotions - We are wired for connection, disconnection leads to anxiety and pursuit, or avoidance and withdrawal - Asking the question “are you there for me?” Are you accessible, responsible and engaged? - How our emotions impact on our relationship with our manager - What triggers us at work - from facial expressions to certain phrases - Our three primary fears - self, other, relationship Connect with Dr Lola Gershfeld: Website: https://www.emcleaders.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lolagershfeld/ Company LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/company/emcleaders Instagram: https://instagram.com/emcleaders/ Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/emcleaders YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@emcleaders6359 Do you have any feedback or thoughts on this discussion? If so, please connect with Aoife via the links below and let her know. Aoife would love to hear from you! Connect with Happier at Work host Aoife O'Brien: Website: https://happieratwork.ie LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aoifemobrien/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/HappierAtWorkHQ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/happieratwork.ie/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/happieratwork.ie YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm0FKS19I5qSlFFmkx1YGqA
Attachment theory and understanding our own styles of attachment are foundational to mental health, and one of the most important elements of our psychology. At the same time very few people outside the mental health field talk about it, and unfortunately does not come up in treatment circles often enough. Thais Gibson is a Pastoral Counselor, Therapist, and expert in Attachment Theory. She provides education and techniques for people to understand their own attachment styles, and what to do when an attachment style is insecure from trauma or life experiences. She joins the program today to share her techniques and perspectives. To learn more about Thais and her work go to: www.personaldevelopmentschool.com. If you would like to support The Broken Brain go to www.dwighthurst.com/support to see the various ways you can help the show.
In today's episode I'm interviewing Dr. Jessica Higgins. Jessica is a Licensed Psychologist and Licensed Professional Counselor. She holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and a M.A. in Counseling Psychology. She is also a certified Dream Builder Coach and Life Mastery Consultant. Jessica offers an integrative and comprehensive blend of psychology and coaching. She specializes in helping couples shift and transform their ways of relating, guiding them on a path from confusion and heartache to clarity and authentic connection. She is also the founder and creator of Connected Couple, a comprehensive, research-based, transformational, relationship program. This program helps couples at any stage in their relationship or marriage. Today we talk about how to achieve new levels of success, meaning, and aliveness in our relationships. From a very young age Jessica had an inclination towards people, and by the time she was in junior high she knew she wanted to become a psychologist. A few years later, after going through her own relationship struggles, she started to go deeper in her own personal journey and felt very inspired and motivated to help people have access to more relationship principles that cultivate lasting love and long-term intimacy. Healthy Relationships Have Health Benefits Studies show that being in a healthy relationship or having a companion in life can actually improve our longevity. Attachment is the emotional connection that we form as infants with our main caregivers. According to this attachment theory, the healthier the bonding and relationship we had with them the better our relationships with other people will be throughout our lives. There are also FMRI studies that show how someone holding the hand of a loved one, like a significant partner, will experience less pain, so there's a sense of resilience when we can have that partnership. There is also evidence of better recovery rates in hospitals when people have significant partners with them. There are so many benefits physiologically and psychologically that we experience from being partnered. From cradle to grave we are wired to need this bonding. It is as necessary as breathing - we need connection. How Relationships and Intimacy Can Trigger Past Trauma We all have an attachment system, meaning the way that we are going to think about others in the world and how people are going to respond to us. It is affected by whether we feel safe and our needs are met. It's intellectual, so our mental thinking and our beliefs, but it's also physiological, like our nervous system, as well as emotional. So, it's really this whole triad in the working model and that gets developed at a very young age. Zero to three are the formative years and it's the relational imprint of you. This comes through the patterning of how people responded to us, if our caregivers were responsive, if they showed up for us when we cried, if they were attuned and available, etc. Or maybe they were overwhelmed or under unfortunate circumstances if there's been abuse in the family lineage. So, if we fast forward, people can have insecure attachment tendencies in adulthood if they didn't get exposure to consistent care givers in childhood. One of the ways this may show up is by being protective. They turn away from relationships, rely on themselves, and not reach out to others for help. When caregiving was inconsistent, another possibility is to be more anxious in relationships and doing more double checking for connection, such as saying “Are we still good, is everything stable, are you still with me?” That's a hypervigilance tendency. For both of these attachment styles, the studies and medical findings show that there's a lot of activation. It doesn't look like it on the outside. It can look a little indifferent, but what's happening inside the person is the heart rates increases and all the physiological symptoms of stress. So, it doesn't feel relaxed and calm and secure when connecting with another person. It's interesting to notice that these activation responses don't occur with all relationships. It tends to occur in our most intimate relationships. The nervous system sees our close relationships as necessary for survival, so one might say the nervous system is going to respond similarly to being chased by a bear. The nervous system might get triggered just as much if, for example, your husband is giving you a look and is upset with you and having an issue with you. So, that threat happens when we are deeply committed, and we get vulnerable, and if the stakes are higher, like having children together. Whatever it is that intensifies that connection is going to affect our nervous system and our attachment system gets more activated. That's when those previous insecurities might emerge and we might be surprised by them. Stages of Intimacy There are various stages in the development of intimacy. The first stage is the romance stage or even referred to as the honeymoon stage, and it's highly fueled by neurochemicals, like dopamine and oxytocin. They get us in that super excited high and we tend to over romanticize, and project and imagine who they are, but we really don't really know them yet. After 9 to 18 months we enter into the second stage, which is the power struggle stage. This is the place where we are like, “oh, that's how you do that?” or feeling the upset of the differences. At this stage we're working on how we understand each other, how we learn what we're both feeling, and how we can work together. But oftentimes many of us don't know how to do conflict very well. Conflict feels threatening, and all these things are emerging, and it can be difficult to sift through. Navigating The Complexity of Conflict One of the biggest traps we can fall into is when we might have certain expectations that aren't being communicated clearly. So, for instance, say there's a heated discussion. Partner A grew up in a family where there was a sense of connection. During a disagreement, it might get a little charged or people might yell but they all know they love each other so they're going to repair to get to a better place. Then there is Partner B, whose family is a group where they're not going to say anything hurtful and they're not going to speak in any tone that has any ounce of upset. They might pause before talking to be more regulated, or sometimes maybe they don't come back, and they don't talk about things at all. We have to recognize these very different orientations to know how to address a conflict. There are 7 to 8 irreconcilable differences that every couple has. That could be ‘the spender' and ‘the saver', ‘the planner' and ‘the spontaneous one', it could be ‘the social one' and ‘the introvert', or it could be ‘the one that's on time' and ‘the one that's always late'. We have to be able to see all these differences when we're living life together and be willing to works towards communicating our needs and trust our partner will do the same. How to Be More Curious When Conflict Feels Like Criticism The core of most disagreements is that people don't feel heard, and then they aren't feeling like they're able to collaborate and work together for a win-win. It is very common for us to describe the thing that we do not like and hope that our partner will be able to interpret and understand what we are feeling and needing. But that's a lot of decoding that most of us do not know how to do. If it's not a clear signal most people are not going to give what you're asking of them. It's not an easy thing to access, but if we can slow down and say “I wonder what he/she is feeling” or “I wonder what he/she needs right now?” because it's not about him/her criticizing me, it's about there's something happening for him/her that he/she wants and I'm not actually hearing it. So, we could prompt our partner to uncover what might really be at the core of it with questions like, “Well what's this about?” or “Can you tell me about what you're wanting?” or “How does this have value for you?” and then hopefully this will reveal the real feeling underneath the perceived criticism. When we express the feeling that is driving our usual first commentary, our partner – if they are the right partner -- will want to show up for that. No one is interested in showing up for a negative critique, but if we can understand what the other person needs, we can then pivot towards that. That's where the win-win starts to come in, but that's hard to get at when we don't slow down and identify and reveal, and then start to work with those deeper layers. Regulating Your Body can Have a Huge Impact on Having Regulated Relationships If we can support the nervous system to feel more regulated, then we can have access to have more productive conversations. Also, if there's past experiences or trauma and we haven't experienced safety in these types of conversations, then it makes perfect sense that there's going to be a lot of activation around perceived conflict. There's a concept in psychology and neuroscience where our nervous systems are constantly harmonizing and picking up information from the people around us. So, if the tone of voice changes or the facial expressions and nonverbals being perceived, we might not know why, but we'll feel the agitation of that before we have an intellectual understanding of why. We could just start to feel things ratcheting up and we might not even have a real awareness around what's really happening. That's where the importance of slowing down comes in, even to allow the nervous system to get regulated before we get into those conversations. How to Deescalate and Find Clarity Jessica finds it is helpful to create a new cycle together because that's going to create more safety and more connection in the communication. Oftentimes we're aware of the secondary emotions, the tendencies of how we might perceive our partner, but that doesn't get at the deeper layer of what is actually happening and the core of why we reacted that way. And so, we really have to work on slowing down to get to understand the deeper layer. When we can get to a place to just say “Oh, I'm acting this way because I feel nervous or scared” and here's what I'm thinking, here's where I want to go, or here's what's happening internally for me. Historically, couples wait too long to access therapy as support. But you don't have to start there. If the conflict is at a low level, if the charge on a scale from 1 to 10 is like a 3 or 4, start with journaling to unpack these difficult emotions. Keep digging deeper. The first layer will most likely be writing about why you believe you are in the right, but then you should keep writing. Why did it make you feel like that? Did it remind you of something else? If you would like to get a good journal and start doing this this you can find one here. Often times even just by having this unfiltered space where no one else but us can dictate what is going on, we can start to soften. This is because we are making ourselves feel heard and starting to come closer to the truth of why we are reacting in a certain way. And once you get closer and practice more with peeling back those layers and getting to that vulnerability that you were hiding, you can see yourself more clearly, and that maybe you were acting out of fear. Then the next step is learning to share that vulnerability with your partner. When your partner responds kindly and openly to your vulnerability is when real intimacy can be built. If the charge is higher on the scale, and there is also a backlog of problems, that's when it's probably time to seek additional support. How Can We Change Patterns Individually to Get Unstuck Together If we realize we want to make a change in our own lives, but we shy away from that change or delay on these types of conversations, while it might feel less conflictual in the moment, it can cause more difficulty in the long term. There's a term in psychology called differentiating in which we can hold on to ourselves when our partner is doing something different or even disagrees with what we're doing, and we can tolerate some of that discomfort and it can actually be highly attractive. So, we should look at change as something that has the potential to be very positive not just for the individual, but for the relationship as well. When you are hiding yourself for the perceived continuation of the relationship, that can start to resemble something closer to enmeshment or codependence. In healthy interdependence, we do rely on each other, but we can also nurture and listen to our own development and our growth. If we can do a little preparation before these conversations that we know might cause some defensiveness or tension, and if we can understand what we're needing or what that deeper request is or desire or what's not working, then we will most likely have much more productive and understanding conversations with our partners. If we can make a reveal of vulnerability and/or a request in a vulnerable way, those conversations are going to happen in a much more productive and efficient way. The Importance of Unconditional Positive Regard for Yourself Our attachments exist on a spectrum. We are not purely anxious or avoidant. So, it can take time and difficulties in relationships before we are ready and have the history to see where we need healing. As you start to get more curious about yourself, you can start to accept what your own patterns are. As you practice this more, you can realize when you are starting to act on a recurring pattern and choose to change it. That decision to change is a scary step into vulnerability, and what you have to remind yourself in those moments, is that no matter what happens with this person, you will always have your own back. Even if that person doesn't choose you after you show them vulnerability, that's okay because you are showing up for that part of yourself that's scared and feeling anxious about being rejected or abandoned. You can say to yourself “I hear you, I see you, I got you.” You will know you are with the right person if these signals or bids of vulnerability are met with a softening and a reciprocal tenderness. Vulnerability is a Risk, But the Reward Can be Beautiful Beyond Measure If you are parenting and you are taking the opportunity to work on these tough and sometimes scary emotions, you will be modeling these steps that are critical for authentic connection and bonds. Children in turn get to see that and it can shift their future relationships and their experience as a human. Being vulnerable is the same as being brave, and can have a ripple effect into future generations, positively affecting the way people build relationships in the future. In neuropsychology there's this idea that we have to ‘name it to tame it', so even just recognizing the intensity of the emotion and giving space for it (even if it's not resolved right at that moment) will help us start to regulate, and then we're in a much better position to deal with it. But if we're not willing to name it, a lot of things can happen and we will do all types of things to hide, to avoid, and to suppress. A lot of injuries happen in relationship and so when we have the tools for healing, it has profound impact on cultivating repair and resilience and health and all the good things. If you want to reach out to Dr. Jessica and learn more about how she can help you, please make sure to check out her website. She is also on social media as @drjessicahiggins (Instagram) and @EmpoweredRelationship (Facebook). You can also check out her Empowered Relationship Podcast. If you want to learn more about how stress and trauma affect us, and how to heal so that you can be better and more present in your relationships, you may want to read my book Master Your Stress Reset Your Health. In the book, I describe what I refer to as SelfC.A.R.E. based on your Stress Type. C stands for Clean Eating, A for adequate sleep, R for recovery activities, and E for exercise. I share the research behind how C.A.R.E. works in a daily routine to help us process stress and overcome trauma. To know your Stress Type, which is your unique cortisol and adrenaline levels based on how stresses have affected your adrenal function, you can take the quiz I developed. You can find the Stress Type® Quiz in the book and on my website. 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Aimee Snow is a Trust-Based Relational Intervention (TBRI) practitioner and founder of the non-profit “My Healing Home.” As a survivor of trauma and mother of seven children, she knows firsthand how adverse experiences can negatively impact youth and their development. When her two internationally adopted children joined the family from traumatic backgrounds, she sought out therapeutic programs to help reinforce her family and found Dr. Karyn Purvis's book “The Connected Child.” Dr. Purvis's TBRI system worked wonders for her family, and so after becoming a TBRI practitioner, she founded ‘My Healing Home' to serve families and caregivers of at-risk children, offering parent coaching, online classes, workshops, in-home visits, and more. Aimee joins this episode of Relentlessly Resilient to share her story, the basics of TBRI, and resources to learn more about this attachment-based, trauma-informed intervention. You can learn even more by registering for the upcoming Caregiver Community Conference on Saturday, November 18, 2023, in Riverton, Utah. Early bird tickets are available for $25 until October 1st, then the price goes up to $45. Even though we live in challenging times, we can become Relentlessly Resilient as we lean on and learn from one another's experiences. Hosts Jennie Taylor and Michelle Scharf are no strangers to overcoming adversity; Michelle lost her husband to cancer, while Jennie's husband, Major Brent Taylor, was killed in the service of our country. Their stories bond them together, and now listeners can join them weekly as they visit with others enduring challenges and who teach us how they are exercising resiliency, finding value in their grief, and purpose in moving forward. Listen to the Relentlessly Resilient Podcast regularly on your favorite platform, at kslpodcasts.com, kslnewsradio.com, or on the KSL NewsRadio App Join the Resilience conversation on Facebook at @RelentlesslyResilient and Instagram @RelentlesslyResilientPodcast. Produced by KellieAnn Halvorsen.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Understanding your attachment style is like turning on the light in a dark room. It gives you the kind of clarity that also brings relief because you grasp your behaviors and your partner's behaviors more deeply.Going through life in the dark about your attachment style is like taking a road trip with no GPS, no roadmap, and no clue about your destination. Trust me, I've spent three decades on that chaotic journey, replaying the same old mistakes repeatedly.Attachment styles can broadly be categorized into two buckets: secure and insecure.Now, if you fall into the secure attachment group, it's like winning the emotional mastery lottery. But here's the twist - even if you find yourself in the insecure attachment camp, there's no need to fret.What I mention in this episode:Analyzing your attachment style to heal your relationshipsBehaviors determined by your attachment styleHow I switch from being fearful avoidant to having a secure attachmentWhat you'll learn from it:How to discover your type of attachmentThe characteristics of secure attachmentThe four components to move toward secure attachmentTop fears for every insecure attachment styleWith love, KavethaPS- If you take the quiz and discover that you have an insecure attachment style, the good news is that you don't have to stay there forever. You can change (I have changed myself!), and my program is a good stepping stone. Book your free discovery call here: https://healyourrelationships.com/heal-your-relationships/ Got some questions for the Podcast? Submit them here: https://forms.gle/JD3Yr4HZ3XCELDE58Get access to my mini course 'Rapid Relationship Repair' just by leaving a review of my show: https://forms.gle/jGu8qmALSgRarPd8A In This Episode:00:00 Welcome back to another episode of Heal Your Relationships 01:11 The importance of analyzing your attachment style 02:13 Behaviors determined by your attachment style 03:11 How to discover your type of attachment04:41 Characteristics of secure attachment 06:23 Characteristics of insecure attachment 07:41 The four components to move toward secure attachment10:50 Top fears of anxious preoccupied attachment14:52 Top fears of dismissive avoidant attachment19:29 Top fears of fearful avoidant attachment 23:37 The backbone of Heal Your Relationships 10-week program25:14 Rate and review the podcast Resources mentioned:- Podcast episode about secure attachment in marriage - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/20-secure-attachment-in-marriage/id1622617195?i=1000571562466 - Attachment FREE quiz -
In today's episode, we're talking all about trust & trustworthiness. Trust is something that many people struggle with, oftentimes as a direct result of past experiences where trust has been breached. And as we'll discuss in today's conversation, trust is about so much more than honesty. My hope is that you'll walk away from today's episode with greater clarity about why you might struggle with trust, and the steps you can take to remediate this in your relationships. We'll cover:the interplay between trust and trustworthinessthe five pillars of trusthow self-trust and relational trust are connectedbuilding trust through small acts over timeClick here for my Building Trust masterclass
In this episode, we FINALLY talk about attachment, Leah's first love and truly what guides everything she does as a parent and a person.Attachment is a reciprocal relationship between people and begins to develop in utero and continues throughout childhood, but particularly in the first three years of life. As we respond to our babies in distress, we start to hardwire their thoughts and beliefs about themselves, other people, and the world around them.Over time, our responses to our babies change, largely when they become mobile and develop language but remain incredibly important to continue to teach them that they are safe, people will take care of them and protect them, and the world is a safe place in which they can develop, explore, and grow.Subscribe, rate, and review us on Podchaser, Apple, or wherever you listen to podcasts!Follow us on social media to join the conversation!!!FacebookInstagram
This is an Operation Podcast production, connect with us @operationpodcast. Ever wonder how our life experiences can shape our paths and understanding of love and relationships? Join us as we journey alongside Adam Lane Smith, a renowned attachment specialist, as he uncovers his path from a childhood of abuse and neglect to becoming a beacon of understanding and empathy in the field of attachment therapy. Adam's candid narrative offers a compelling look into the power of conscious choices and the courage necessary to confront our deepest fears. Adam joins Ruben to dive deep into modern masculinity, societal pressures, and the unique challenges faced by men in our contemporary society. We champion the importance of supporting one another, establishing male communities, and fostering mutual acceptance. Adam's wisdom shines as we explore the transformative power of honest communication, self-reflection, and love, and the incredible changes they can bring about in our lives and relationships. We then dive deeper into the concept of love as an action and not merely a feeling, and how a balanced relationship with fear can serve as a tool for protection and growth. Adam shares his insights on how individuals can evolve into better versions of themselves by seeking feedback and allowing their partners to express freely. This conversation will leave you reflecting on the importance of setting boundaries in relationships and the significance of consistently checking in with our partners. Join us for this thought-provoking exploration of love, fear, and personal growth! How does Adam live through love? “It is being honest with yourself in each situation about what your fear is driving you to do and then choosing to ask what is best for each person, including yourself, and DOING IT.” "There was a time when I, like many, just thought love and attachment were the same thing - a simplistic equation that didn't need dissecting… We are designed to know what love is, even if we don't get it.” - Adam Lane Smith ----- In this episode, you will learn… Love and attachment are complex interplays of emotions and not simply interchangeable terms. The episode emphasizes the importance of understanding these complexities and the power they hold in shaping our relationships and interactions. Building strong support systems and fostering mutual acceptance and understanding, particularly for men, can significantly impact societal pressures that often leave men feeling emasculated and ashamed. Love is an action, not just a feeling. Setting boundaries, allowing partners to express freely, and consistently checking in with our partners are crucial in creating healthier relationships. Fear can be a tool for protection when balanced with love. Recognizing and understanding this balance can be a powerful tool for personal growth and self-discovery. Honest communication and active listening are vital for improving relationships. By setting guidelines and allowing partners to express themselves, relationships can become stronger and more meaningful. ----- "Find that hero in your story and make yourself that hero.” - Adam Lane Smith About the guest: Adam Lane Smith is a transformative force in the field of personal development and relationships. Leveraging years of professional experience as a licensed psychotherapist, he has honed his craft as a highly sought-after Attachment Specialist and personal coach. Follow Adam @attachmentadam ----- Follow Ruben on Instagram Watch and subscribe to Live Through Love on YouTube
In this week's episode of Attachment Theory in Action, I welcome Chris Bruno of the Restoration Project for a conversation on fatherhood and attachment. Show notes: https://www.attachmenttheoryinaction.com/post/chris-bruno-fatherhood-attachment Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/T-7kDE3JLW0
Having a child in the NICU can be a very stressful and emotional experience for parents. In this episode of Raising Joy, we talk to Landy Blackmore, whose daughter, Tillie, was born prematurely and spent time in Cook Children's NICU. Landy shares her personal story and offers practical advice on how to cope with the emotional rollercoaster that comes with having a child in the NICU.Whether you're feeling overwhelmed, scared, or simply exhausted, Landy's insights and support can help you navigate this difficult time.If you're a parent whose child is in the NICU, or if you know someone who is, be sure to listen to this episode of Raising Joy!
We are discussing the practice of letting go yet again because it's something that we all find challenging af, and by we, I mean mostly me, but maybe you too. Letting go is an important practice because you cannot become who you want to be by remaining who you were in the past. We chat about how holding onto the past and past versions of yourself keeps you stuck, why letting go is so hard, and ways that not letting go shows up in your lifeWe also discuss:The importance of letting goUsing the past to define yourselfThe duality of emotions& way more than you knew you needed to know!The MF JOURNEY: ApplicationThe MF JOURNEY: Learn MoreLet's Connect! Instagram: @IamKelCal TikTok: @IamKelCal Work with Me:More Info RESOURCES FREE Clarity Session to Get UNSTUCK FREE Get Over Your Toxic Ex Strategy Session Journal Prompts 5 Step Guide to Get Over a Toxic Ex Understand Your Red Flag Style Quiz The Dumb Bitch Journaling Guide to Create Clarity & Get Unstuck Self-Love Love Language Quiz
In today's episode, we're exploring healthy interdependency. Interdependency is often cited as a key trait of secure functioning relationships, and yet many of us lack a clear picture of what healthy interdependency actually looks and feels like - especially if you have a history of insecure attachment patterns.We'll cover:the spectrum from codependency to hyper-independence interdependency as a healthy middle groundhow different attachment styles relate to codependency, independence and interdependencesigns of healthy interdependency in a relationshipJOIN THE WAITLIST FOR MY NEW COURSE ON ANXIOUS-AVOIDANT RELATIONSHIPSFurther Links & Resources Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Follow me on Youtube Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment Visit my website
About SarahSarah Hall is a spiritual teacher and Angel channeler. She specializes in communicating with Angels, Ascended Masters, and Spirit Guides to deliver messages of love to those on the path of spiritual healing and ascension. Sarah's mission is to help teach as many people as possible to hold the higher spiritual consciousness of love.Recording Date: September 8, 2023Sarah's LinksYouTube: @sarahhall444Website: https://sarahhall.com/IG: @sarahhall444Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SarahHall444/Clayton's LinksWebsite: travelingtoconsciousness.comMaster Link: linktr.ee/claytoncuteriBook: travelingtoconsciousness.com/rstj-got-volume-1Patreon Support: https://patreon.com/travelingtoconsciousnessAI Description Of EpisodeHave you ever pondered the intricate relationship between love, fear, and our shared human consciousness? What if I told you the opposite of love wasn't hate or apathy, but a lack of understanding of the beautiful connection we all share? Join me in uncovering the profound truths of our existence with the enchanting Sarah Hall, a spiritual teacher known for her extraordinary communication with angels, ascended masters, and spirit guides. We embark on a soulful journey, exploring deep-seated topics of love, divine relationships, and the higher spiritual consciousness of love.Our candid conversation explores the dynamics of love, hate, and attachment, with personal anecdotes playing a pivotal role. An exploration of my own journey, transitioning from the stereotypical 'nice guy' to a less illuminated state, brings to light how this can create polarizing attractions in relationships. We delve into the idea that love's true opposite is not hate or apathy, but rather our failure to grasp the essential connection we all share.On this journey, we also wade through the complexities of fear and love and their manifestations in our lives. The importance of self-love as the true compass of our existence, and how fear often lurks below the surface as the motivator of our actions, are huge points of discussion. Pondering the relationship between love, union, and separation, we perceive love as our gateway back to the source, and fear as an illusion of separation. So, brace yourself for an enlightening discourse as Sarah Hall shares her wisdom and insights.Timecodes(00:00:00) - Who is Sarah Hall?(00:06:40) - What is Love?(00:14:56) - Love, Hate, and Attachment in Relationships(00:22:43) - The Nature of Love and Fear(00:29:51) - Cultivating Self-Love and Recognizing Love(00:35:01) - How to Deal with Negative Thoughts(00:43:42) - The Relationship Between Fear and Love(00:52:41) - Exploring Love, Union, and Seperation Intro/Outro Music Producer: Don KinIG: https://www.instagram.com/donkinmusic/Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/44QKqKsd81oJEBKffwdFfPSuper grateful for this guy ^Support the showPatreon - Become an Episode Producer: https://patreon.com/travelingtoconsciousness
After a conflict with her husband, a veteran practitioner starts to memorize the Fa. As a result, her resentment to her husband became weaker and she learned to forgive him. The family became harmonious. This and other stories from the Minghui website. Original Articles:1. Memorizing the Fa Helped Change My Notions and Eliminate My Attachment […]
[Rerun] Dr. Kirk Honda presents his master's-level course on attachment.The full episode is available to patrons of the podcast.Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://teespring.com/stores/psychology-in-seattleCameo: https://www.cameo.com/kirkhondaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://email@example.comFebruary 15, 2021The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.comThis show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/3269717/advertisement
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Entrepreneurship is one of the biggest personal development journeys you will ever embark on. You will get triggered AF, and you're unsure how to navigate and hold space for your triggers, you'll end up building a business that feels wildly out of alignment. Our past experience will influence the way we make decisions as business owners, until we make the choice to unearth the experiences and emotionally untangle from them. When you let go, release, transmute and alchemise the stuck emotions from your past, your business will boom. Are you ready? JOIN "IDENTITY - A free experience to reconnect you to your unique identity as a leader" Breakthrough Breathwork Instagram
Should we become a podcast all about love and dating?!In Episode #410 of 'Musings', Juan & I discuss: a brief glimpse of our personal relationships, what the advent of social technology has done for searching for a significant other, all the crazy new terminology the kids are coming up with and whether it is more difficult now compared to post WW1/2 or during the industrial revolution. Massive thanks to Dave Jones, Ainsley Costello, Petar the Slav, The Podfather, Cole McCormick and Nick Malster for the support! Absolute legends, we really appreciate it.Timeline:(0:00) - Tech problems but undeterred(0:38) - Topic choice(1:34) - Wanting a relationship(6:30) - Finding a partner with dating apps(14:34) - Strategy for searching(23:30) - Short term vs long term decision(27:03) - Boostagram Lounge(37:09) - Modern dating terms(41:06) - Attachment styles & broad concepts(49:08) - Is dating harder now?(58:00) - Summary(1:03:17) - V4V: Find me a girlConnect with Mere Mortals:Website: https://www.meremortalspodcast.com/Discord: https://discord.gg/jjfq9eGReUTwitter/X: https://twitter.com/meremortalspodInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/meremortalspodcast/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@meremortalspodcastValue 4 Value Support:Boostagram: https://www.meremortalspodcast.com/supportPaypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/meremortalspodcastSupport the show
Ryan Magin (Shortform Content Expert) shares the keys to virality on social media. He has worked with Alex Hormozi, Ryan Pineda, Grant Cardone, and more and he teaches rapid content production skills & how to monetize content through being a personal brand. Fun Fact about Ryan, is that he is the man who started the “Hormozi Caption Craze” (caption style) and because of his work through that he has built a highly successful editing business. In the past year, Ryan and his team has created over 1,000 pieces of viral content for people's personal brands. His approach to video editing has more to do with psychology than anything else, and that concept is the reason his team can create so many captivating viral videos in such a short window of time. In this episode, Ryan shares his approach to interviewing people, challenges the notion of niche content, and how he goes viral over and over again. FOLLOW RYAN: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ryanmagin/ TikTok: https://firstname.lastname@example.org? YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@ryan-magin TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 - Intro 01:40 - Podcast Start 2:50 - Paying for a Seat at the Table 9:28 - Who is Ryan Magin? 17:57 - Why Conversation Content Does Better 23:13 - Views vs Followers 25:30 - Attachment to the Person not the Business 28:24 - Value Based Followers vs Bulk Followers 34:10 - Dictating How Videos will be Received 40:31 - Burner Accounts + Podcast Clips 49:03 - Document Style Content 52:00 - The Cost of a Videographer 58:50 - Struggles with Editors 1:09:35 - Team Building/ Gender Differences 1:17:50 - Different Types of Editors 1:20:39 - Ways to get Editing Jobs 1:25:51 - Advice for New Editing Agencies 1:45:27- Ryan's Fortune Cookie Advice FOLLOW 4MEDIA: Main YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/4mediamarketing Clips Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNx7auVTseV865Mu1CZX0WQ Website: https://4media.marketing/ Join Our Team: https://4media.marketing/jobs Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/4media.marketing/ TikTok: https://email@example.com? EDDIE Instagram: https://instagram.com/eddiemaalouf Twitter: https://twitter.com/imakegreatads Marketing Course: https://www.brilliantmarketers.com/ ANDREW Instagram: https://instagram.com/andrew_deitsch Website: https://andrewdeitsch.com YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/andrewdeitsch Andrew's Other Podcast: https://www.andrewdeitsch.com/podcast
In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts around anxious attachment & open relationships. While not being my personal experience, this is an area I receive a lot of requests and questions around, as various non-monogamous relationship structures grow in popularity. We'll cover:common struggles of anxious attachment and how they might show up in an open relationship structurethe importance of having a strong relationship to self when exploring open relationshipscommunication, boundaries and self-advocacywhy you should never agree to open a relationship just to hold onto someoneFurther Links & Resources Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Follow me on Youtube Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment Visit my website
To access the full episode and our conference library of 200+ fascinating psychology talks and interviews (with certification), please visit: https://twumembers.com. Embark on a thought-provoking journey as we delve into the intricacies of human nature, history, compassion, and evolution. With a poignant analogy of a lost baby's name tag at a hospital, we navigate the balance of good and bad news in life, gaining insights that resonate. Uncover the profound layers of compassion, transcending mere kindness, and discover the resolute commitment to confront suffering's root causes. Professor Paul Gilbert skillfully underscores the pivotal role of comprehending the human brain and the art of crafting intricate social systems. Attachment theories intertwine with the exploration of caring behaviors' evolution, illuminating their profound impact on emotional growth and relationships. --- This session was recorded as part of the "A Day on Evolutionary Psychology" in November 2018. To access the full conference package, as well as supporting materials, quizzes, and certification, please visit: https://theweekenduniversity.com/membership. --- Professor Paul Gilbert, FBPsS, PhD, OBE is a British clinical psychologist, the founder of compassion focused therapy (CFT), compassionate mind training (CMT) and author of books such as The Compassionate Mind: A New Approach to Life's Challenges, Overcoming Depression. He has researched evolutionary approaches to psychopathology for over 40 years with a special focus on the roles of mood, shame and self-criticism in various mental health difficulties for which Compassion Focused Therapy was developed. Professor Gilbert has written/edited 21 books and over 200 papers. In 2006 he established the Compassionate Mind Foundation as an international charity with the mission statement: “To promote wellbeing through the scientific understanding and application of compassion”. --- Interview Links: — Professor Gilbert's website: https://www.compassionatemind.co.uk — Compassion Focused Therapy: Clinical Practice and Application: https://amzn.to/3ReGXAR --- 3 Books Professor Gilbert Recommends Every Therapist Should Read: — The Discovery Of The Unconscious - Henri Ellenberger: https://amzn.to/3uzAWVF — Archetype: A Natural History of the Self - Anthony Stevens: https://amzn.to/3PeTL8F — Civilized to Death - Chris Ryan: https://amzn.to/3yuzOnE
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What is intimacy? If you Google the term you might find varying--yet similar--definitions...but what does it mean to YOU? In this episode, Kelly McDaniel (author of "Ready to Heal" and "Mother Hunger") is back to talk with Jodi regarding what intimacy really is, and the reason why in love addiction--although we might crave closeness--we struggle to tolerate authentic intimacy. Music by JD Pendley
These are questions and topics that Claude AnShin Thomas - fully ordained Zen Buddhist Monk in the Japanese Soto Zen tradition - reflects on. He reminds the listener of how to stay awake to life and how to understand more deeply the trappings of a deluded mind. This episode was recorded during a weekly zoom session of questions&responses. For more information: https://zaltho.org/ If you want to ask Claude AnShin Thomas a question: firstname.lastname@example.org Want to read up on these topics? Book recommendations: - Bringing Meditation to Life - 108 Teachings on the Path of Zen Practice (Oakwood Publishing 2021) - AT HELL'S GATE - A Soldier's Journey from War to Peace (Shambhala Publications 2003) https://zaltho.org/en/media/our-books.html Questions and their time stamps:1:10 If daily life and meditation are not two separate things, should we aim at keeping breath awareness as long as we are awake? **** 1:25 In my relationship, especially with cats, I realize that loving them comes with some attachment. How is it in practice that non-attachment doesn't mean not to love? **** 3: 34 Would you say that as humans most of our problems are created by ourselves, for example through our attitude or our behavior? **** 3:53 Do you have any recommendations for work when one is working with people with different cultural backgrounds? **** 6:55 Would you expand on a quote I read? “When the mind appears reality disappears and when the mind disappears reality appears." **** 7:14 Is suicide ever a solution? **** 7:55 You mentioned that my conditioning is being reflected back to me by my world. Do you have an example of this? **** 8:36 Earlier in this session you said that expecting love to be reciprocated is to ignore the interconnectedness of the world? Could you explain that? **** 10:42 Do you see a difference between taking one's own life and or engaging in assisted dying? **** 11:07 How would you evaluate Buddhism in context of a perspective through the Abraham religions? **** 11:55 There are those poems from Rumi. Do they speak to you? **** 12:43 How can you see that the grass loves you? **** 13:27 Yesterday you mentioned to not to seek external comfort. If you support someone in their suffering, what are you doing it for if not to comfort them? **** 14:54 How would you respond to someone who sincerely believes that they perceive dead people and can speak for them? **** 16:16 I have problems with hearing something and understanding it in that moment, then remembering and repeating it. Mostly it's too much for me. **** 17:18 How would you respond to a teenager who says that she hates her mother, that her mother doesn't deserve any love or recognition, even though the mother does a lot for them?
Have you ever missed opportunities because you were too worried about others' opinions?Join me for another minute with Morgs as we go into the powerful topic of overcoming the crippling anxiety that stems from our constant worry about the opinions of others. In this episode, we'll explore strategies to liberate you from this mindset and help you forge a life filled with freedom and inner peace. Tune in, and let's discover how to break free from the cage of other people's opinions and take bold steps toward pursuing your dreams.Episode Highlights:00:00 - Episode trailer04:16 - Attachment styles and traumas06:38 - High self-esteem and self-trust09:10 - Building self-esteem through action12:01 - Becoming trigger-less15:02 - Criticism and personal growthWant to join Morgan's Elite Mastermind and elevate your life and business results over the next 12 months?Fill out this application to join and if you're a fit, our team will reach out to you for a 1:1 call with Morganhttps://form.jotform.com/231988774922877Join the Dream Out Loud Facebook Communityhttps://bit.ly/2RSBKVFFollow me on Instagram herehttps://www.Instagram.com/morgantnelsonSubscribe to my YouTube channelhttps://www.youtube.com/@morgantnelson
Dr. Scott Lyons is the author of the book “Addicted to Drama: Healing Dependency on Crisis and Chaos in Yourself and Others”. He joins me for a discussion about all addictions - from alcohol to sex to food, and of course drama - and how they are formed. We also talk about how to heal from addiction by addressing the root. Scott also runs a Somatic Therapy school called The Embody Lab which offers fantastic training for coaches and healers. In this episode we dive into: The origins of addiction and how to define it (Disease or no disease?) Medical model vs. Humanistic model view of addiction. The opposite of addiction is connection to self and others. Finding comfort in filling voids and dissociation. The deadliness of loneliness. Why do we experience traumas differently? The defence mechanism of denial. The link between addiction and a fear of intimacy. What addicted to drama looks like? Attachment to unnecessary turmoil and nervous system activation. Making sense vs. making sensation. How are you unconsciously creating childhood patterns in your adult life? Exaggerated responses vs. an inner sense of normalcy. Assessing currencies of love from childhood. The separation of process addictions and the necessities of being human. Disrupting your inner peace with the “revving reflex”. What does it look like to recover from addiction and heal? Building tolerance for ease and connection. Creating a narrative around withdrawal symptoms. Trauma lives in your nervous system and is a felt experience. MDMA therapy and trauma. Is it possible to escape drama in the capitalist world we live in? How do you support someone who is addicted to drama? Mirror neuron responses. Taking responsibility for the role you play in relationships. Links: Book - Addicted to Drama by Dr. Scott Lyons Scott's Somatic Training School - The Embody Lab Scott's Website Scott's Instagram Scott's Facebook Scott's YouTube The Freedom From Addiction Circle See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Understanding the 5 love languages can help couples understand the secret language in their relationship dynamics. In this episode, I'll share how they play out with anxious and avoidant people and offer unique insights and practical tools on how you can share your love language with your partner so they can understand how to love you the way you want to be loved.We'll cover:The 5 different love languagesThe benefits of knowing your love language, and your partnersHow love languages play out in anxiously attached peopleA different perspective to avoidant love languagesFind me on my new Youtube channel - https://www.youtube.com/@stephanierigg/Further Links & Resources Save $150 on my Higher Love break-up course with the code PHOENIX Follow me on Youtube Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment Visit my website
In this episode, you and I are going to explore a question that one listener emailed me about attachment theories: what inner child wounds are and how to re-parent our inner child. So we'll start by going right to the heart of attachment to explore why we need to shift from saying “attachment styles” to “attachment strategies.” Then, we'll continue our exploration of why attachment discussions need to be grounded in a social-political analysis; otherwise, we risk perpetuating ableist, individualistic, and patriarchal illusions of mental health. We're going back to basics together to get at the heart of what it takes to heal.---------------------------Get full show notes and more information at: comebacktocare.com/podcastFor more BTS of this podcast, follow @comebacktocare on Instagram!Sign up for our weekly Care Collective Newsletter for information and inspiration on topics like decolonized parenting, embodied, body-based centering practices for you and your children, intergenerational family healing, and more.I invite you to join me in a virtual gathering once a month for you to digest the information in the podcast with other Social Justice Curious listeners. We'll put awareness into action together with group accountability at www.patreon.com/comebacktocareIf you enjoy the Come Back to Care podcast, we could use your support! Please consider leaving a 5-star rating and review, and share with someone who needs to hear this!The Come Back to Care podcast explores how social justice, child development science, parenting, and family systems intersect—hosted by Nat Vikitsreth, a decolonized, licensed clinical psychotherapist, somatics, and social justice practitioner, and founder of Come Back to Care.
We aren't one thing and getting to know our different parts is an effective technique to deepen healing. These "parts" are metaphorical "little beings" that live in our minds and manifest into physical or emotional reactions from traumatic events. Dr. Frank Anderson has spent decades of his life studying these parts and sharing his findings to help others utilize built-in resources like their "self-energy" to navigate their own traumas. Join us as Sue Marriott and Dr. Anderson weave together psycho-pharmacology, trauma, neuroscience, attachment, and internal family systems. More at www.therapistuncensored.com/episodes
Episode 103 of Ask Dr Jessica features Dr Sarah Bren, who hosts the podcast "Securely Attached". In this episode, we talk about what a secure attachment is exactly, and why it's important for a child's development. As parents, we want our kids to feel safe, trusting and close to us--but how do we ensure we are doing this? Dr Bren reviews the key factors to help kids securely attach, and she also discusses ways to help repair insecure attachment.To learn more from Dr Sarah Bren, check out her podcast, Securely Attached, which has new releases every Tuesday and Thursday. Her website is drsarahbren.com and her instagram is @drsarahbren. She is the co-founder and clinical director of Upshur Bren Psychology Group in Pelham, New York that offers therapeutic services and coaching for children, parents and families.Get matched with a therapist by using Better Help! Give it a try---invest in your mental health: https://betterhelp.com/askdrjessica for 10% off your first month of therapy. Thank you to Better Help for supporting the Ask Dr Jessica podcast.Dr Jessica Hochman is a board certified pediatrician, mom to three children, and she is very passionate about the health and well being of children. Most of her educational videos are targeted towards general pediatric topics and presented in an easy to understand manner. Do you have a future topic you'd like Dr Jessica Hochman to discuss? Email Dr Jessica Hochman email@example.com. Dr Jessica Hochman is also on social media:Follow her on Instagram: @AskDrJessicaSubscribe to her YouTube channel! Ask Dr JessicaSubscribe to this podcast: Ask Dr JessicaSubscribe to her mailing list: www.askdrjessicamd.comThe information presented in Ask Dr Jessica is for general educational purposes only. She does not diagnose medical conditions or formulate treatment plans for specific individuals. If you have a concern about your child's health, be sure to call your child's health care provider.
We talk to Liam O'Mahony who's interest is the related fields of Attachment, Neuroscience and Trauma and he is particular passionate about how research from these areas can be integrated into the work of psychotherapists and addiction counsellors. Find out more about the Holistic Recovery Summit here https://bit.ly/SOP-Summit2023 Thanks for listening! Support us by becoming a subscriber to The Science of Psychotherapy Academy! Or you can simply buy us a cup of coffee! Please leave a review! (Reviews are fabulously important to us! On your podcast player you should find an option to review at the bottom of the main page for the podcast - after the list of available episodes) - Here's a link for iTunes. And please subscribe to our show! You can also find our podcast at: The Science of Psychotherapy Podcast Homepage Or check us out on YouTube If you want more great science of Psychotherapy please visit our website thescienceofpsychotherapy.com Grab a copy of our latest book! The Practitioner's Guide to the Science of Psychotherapy
Ever wonder how domestic violence affects the emotional bonds crucial to our relationships? Join us as we broach this vital topic with Ruth Guerreiro, Chief Clinical Officer of Genesis Women's Shelter and Support. Together, we'll uncover the influence of domestic violence on the four types of attachment styles - secure, avoidant, ambivalent, and disorganized. Hear as Ruth unravels the devious tactics often employed by abusive partners to disrupt a mother's ability to form a secure attachment with her child.Our conversation takes us into the world of abusive fathers and the harmful tactics they employ that have a potential to leave lasting scars on their children. We shed light on the damaging messages of disrespect, inequality, and aggression these fathers subtly communicate to their children, while also undermining the mother's ability to parent effectively. This exploration promises to broaden your understanding of the psychological warfare often deployed by men in domestic violence situations.To culminate, we emphasize the power of therapy in mending the mother-child bond post-trauma and reveal the integral role that bilingual services at Genesis Women's Shelter play in supporting families impacted by domestic violence. Learn how therapies like EMDR and play therapy, bolstered by effective praise, physical proximity, and positive physical touch, can boost a child's confidence and foster a sense of secure attachment. This episode isn't simply an intellectual exercise, it's a journey into the human psyche and the resilience of the mother-child bond in the face of adversity.
This week Julie and Chrissa are joined by return guest Dr. Gloria Lee from the Brentwood Counseling Centre. Dr. Lee is a best-selling author, professor in Counseling Psychology, Clinical Supervisor and Trainer for therapists and graduate students, sought after speaker, consultant, and advocate for social justice and mental health. For over 24 years, Dr. Lee has been an authority on relationships and personal development. She has worked with thousands of individuals, couples, families, and organizations on improving their relational and mental health. Dr. Lee is passionate about all things relationships and believes that healthy relationships contribute to healthy people (in mind, body and spirit), and healthy societies. We want to hear from you! How has knowing your attachment style helped you in your own relationships? Let us know by texting or calling our anonymous number: (515)-650-3231 To start behavioral or mental health services in Iowa call Heart and Solutions at (800) 531-4236. Connect with Dr. Gloria online at: Free Gift: https://drglorialee-leadpage-quiz.lpages.co/couple-quiz-landing-page Book: https://drglorialee.com/book/ Web: https://drglorialee.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dr.gloria.lee Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drglorialee/ Connect with Heart and Solutions online at: Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/YouNeedaTraining Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2dWKD6TenIMIC76ctq21YN Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCPmrcmi5HUINpWEjHfHzTnQ/featured Podcast Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/YouNeedaCounselor Heart and Solutions Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Heartandsolutions Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/you_need_a_counselor/ Web: http://www.heartandsolutions.net
It's Q&A time once again. In this episode Thom helps out a listener who doesn't know why it might be important for her spouse to learn Vedic Meditation. Thom includes the possibility that it might in fact not be important for him to learnHe discusses the distinction between apathy and non-attachment, and the very simple yet distinct indicator that tells us which we might be experiencing. And he considers a hypothetical scenario where all of humanity becomes enlightened. More specifically, he discusses where the supply of souls seeking enlightenment comes from. Needless to say, we won't be running out of souls any time soon…Episode Highlights:[00:45] Virtuous Behavior[03:30] Dynamic Nature of Ethical Principles[04:49] Awakening Consciousness Through Meditation[07:01] Living Dharma: Aligning with Intentionality[09:31] Reinterpreting Dharma: Beyond Roles and Professions[11:14] Journey of Self-Discovery: From Virtues to DharmaUseful Linksinfo@thomknoles.com https://thomknoles.com/https://www.instagram.com/thethomknoleshttps://www.facebook.com/thethomknoleshttps://www.youtube.com/c/thomknoleshttps://thomknoles.com/ask-thom-anything/
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This episode is one of a series of recordings of live classes that I'm publishing on the podcast so you can have a preview of how I teach ahead of Free Week, which is happening in The Numinous Network from September 17-23, 2023. Get on my newsletter to receive the link when it's sent on September 17. What is Contact Nutrition and why is it so critical to develop secure attachment in a relationship? Are there socio-cultural components to secure attachment that might be missing from the popular literature? Are you wishing you could have the Cole's Notes on attachment theory and just skip right to the practical doing part? Let's get into it! Referenced in this episode: Diane Poole Heller Stan Tatkin Amir Levine Resmaa Menakem Check out the class schedule for our live events, plus a listing of on-demand video courses available with your Numinous Network membership.
In this episode, John interviews Taune Lyons, a licensed marriage family therapist, about attachment styles and how they impact our relationships of all kinds - not just romantic. They also start processing what was happening in real time during the interview, unintentionally demonstrating what happens in therapy rooms. And finally, John hears the term "big dick energy" for the first time. You can find Taune on Instagram @taunelyons or her website: www.Taunelyons.com Roughly ten minutes of self help in a shot glass. If you're looking for a wine glass, you've come to the wrong place. Marriage family therapist and best-selling author, John Kim, shares his life and love revelations as well as insights from his sessions. He pulls the curtain back and documents his journey as a therapist but more importantly, as a human being. Meet him at -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com Join his private communities -> https://theangrytherapist.circle.so/home Get his daily texts here -> https://www.theangrytherapist.com/text
In today's episode we are joined by Ashleigh Warner, family psychologist from Holistic Family Psychologist and Raising Humans Kind. Together we explore what she prefers to call respectful parenting, discussing the roles of attachment, simplicity, connection and co-regulation, the impacts of our modern system and traditional forms of discipline such as time-outs, how to navigate children who hit, her favourite shows for children under seven years of age (and like me, you might be surprised at what shows she doesn't like!) and so much more. Head to https://www.stephlowe.com/podcasts/449 for show notes, episode transcripts and more.
Attachment styles stem from childhood experiences and can significantly influence our adult relationships. It's remarkable how a parent's response to a child's needs can mold their future relationships. Managing personal emotions while catering to a child's needs can be a tough juggling act, and this is a key discussion point in our episode. Exploring attachment styles is crucial for anyone interested in personal growth, mental health, and developing healthier relationships. Understanding these styles can provide insights into our behaviors and reactions, allowing us to make more conscious choices in our relationships and interactions. So, if you've ever wondered how childhood experiences shape adult relationships, tune in to our latest episode. It's an enlightening journey into the world of attachment styles, and we're excited to be your guides on this path of self-discovery and growth.Digital Asset: Attachment StylesHere's the list of episodes related to today's discussion, and we highly recommend listening to them as well:#204 | Are You Judging People Based on the Right Thing? - https://apple.co/3PsFJDf #7 | Relationships: Why You Need Standards - https://apple.co/43d7Kmn #44 | What Are You Attached To? - https://apple.co/3VQV94R _________________Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community:Website: www.evolveventurestech.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/evolveventures/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/EvolveVenturesTech (Public Page)Private Facebook Group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/457130589193794 Emilia's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithemilia/ Emilia's TikTok - https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdkYujDR/ Bianca's IG - https://www.instagram.com/evolvewithbianca/ Connect with Emilia & Bianca from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://bit.ly/3THiEN4Show notes:[3:39] Book recommendation[7:09] Attachment styles[9:02] Emotional connection with a caregiver[13:22] The Ferber Method [18:20] Insecure attachment style[20:03] Anxious attachment style[22:24] Bree reflects on her incredible journey as a member of the Evolve Ventures team[26:47] Avoidant attachment style[34:50] A few tips to build a more secure attachment[37:39] Disorganized attachment style[39:14] Self-worth in the insecure attachment style[41:43] Build a bridge to a secure attachment style[44:15] Outro***Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt as though value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION.(Stay tuned for this coming Monday's episode!)
Amidst the complexity of Buddhist teachings, we can discern a distinctive essence lying behind the various historical forms which developed to convey the Buddha's oral message. Excerpted from the talk The Nature and Development of Buddhism given by Sangharakshita, 1968. *** Subscribe to our Dharmabytes podcast: On Apple Podcasts | On Spotify | On Google Podcasts Bite-sized inspiration three times every week. Subscribe to our Free Buddhist Audio podcast: On Apple Podcasts | On Spotify | On Google Podcasts A full, curated, quality Dharma talk, every week. 3,000,000 downloads and counting! Subscribe using these RSS feeds or search for Free Buddhist Audio or Dharmabytes in your favourite podcast service! Help us keep FBA Podcasts free for everyone: donate now! Follow Free Buddhist Audio: YouTube | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Soundcloud
Mismatched libido in a relationship is a challenge that a lot of couples face. In today's episode, I'll be answering a listener's question of how to navigate mismatched libido in a relationship, particularly in an anxious-avoidant dynamic. I'll guide you on strategies to break the anxious-avoidant spiral, by initiating open dialogue and finding a middle ground between both partners.We'll cover:It's not going to be 100% aligned all the timeHow sex shows up for anxious and avoidant attachment stylesTaking someone's behaviour as our own faultUse the code PODCAST50 for 50% off the Sex and Attachment Masterclass - https://www.stephanierigg.com/sex-attachmentFurther Links & Resources Sign up for my upcoming masterclass on Building Trust Follow me on Youtube Download the free guide: Attachment 101 Follow me on Instagram: @stephanie__rigg & @onattachment Visit my website
SCARED TO DEATH IS EXPLICIT IN EVERY WAY. PLEASE TAKE CARE WHILE LISTENING. The top of the episode story involves lore surrounding the old Athens Asylum, once found in Athens, Ohio. The asylum was absorbed by Ohio University after it closed down, and some wonder if the spirits that allegedly once haunted the asylum now haunt the campus. Then a shorter story set in Barbados. We'll explore the mystery of the old Chase Vault. Did a bunch of coffins move around on their own, not once but several times, in the early 19th century? The back half of the show provides some head scratchers! The first tale would seem to be about an entity that continually shows up in a young mans that he thinks he has a connection to but then, at the end, we learn an additional detail that makes him wonder otherwise. The final tale has Dan and Lynze questioning multi-verse. Was there a glitch in the matrix one late night, last fall? You decide.HAUNTED HALLOWEEN SHOW! We are excited to announce that we are doing another Scared to Death Live Show - Haunted Halloween - True Tales of Hallow's Eve Horror THREE! This year will be on FRIDAY THE 13th!! 6PM PST, October the 13th. The show will be available for rewatching through November 1st, Noon PT, at moment.co . Tickets will go on sale at Noon PT, Tuesday September 12th. Make your way to moment.co to get your tickets, or just go to our website for ticketing and merch, BadMagicMerch.com and we can re-direct you! Standup: If you want to see a very different side of Dan than you see here and possibly see Lynze in the crowd (she is always happy to say HI!) get on over to dancummins.tv for ticket links to shows. Come see Dan in Richmond, Burlington, Rhode Island, Lexington, Virginia Beach and Buffalo!Thank you for continuing to send in your stories, Creeps and Peepers!**Please keep doing so. Send them to firstname.lastname@example.orgSend everything else to email@example.comWant to be a Patron? Get episodes AD-FREE, listen and watch before they are released to anyone else, bonus episodes, a 20% merch discount, additional content, and more! Learn more by visiting: https://www.patreon.com/scaredtodeathpodcastPlease rate, review, and subscribe anywhere you listen. Thank you for listening!Follow the show on social media: @scaredtodeathpodcast on Facebook and IGWatch this episode: https://youtu.be/VRU7v6y5mcoWebsite: https://scaredtodeathpodcast.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/scaredtodeathpodcast/](https://www.facebook.com/scaredtodeathpodcast/)Instagram: https://bit.ly/2miPLf5This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Thank you to Courtney Cope, Principal Clinical Operations Manager and David Yadush, Senior Clinical Operations Manager at BetterHelpMailing Address:Scared to Deathc/o Timesuck PodcastPO Box 3891Coeur d'Alene, ID 83816Video/Audio by Bad Magic ProductionsAdditional music production by Jeffrey MontoyaAdditional music production by Zach CohenVarious free audio provided byhttp://freesound.orgOpening Sumerian protection spell (adapted):"Whether thou art a ghost that hath come from the earth, or a phantom of night that hath no home… or one that lieth dead in the desert… or a ghost unburied… or a demon or a ghoul… Whatever thou be until thou art removed… thou shalt find here no water to drink… Thou shalt not stretch forth thy hand to our own… Into our house enter thou not. Through our fence, breakthrough thou not… we are protected though we may be frightened. Our life you may not steal, though we may feel SCARED TO DEATH."
This week on Lit AF I share common relationship patterns for the fearful avoidant attachment type. Attachment styles help us understand common relationship patterns that keep repeating. You might think that breaking up with someone will fix the problems only to get into a new relationship with the same issues. I've totally been there. It's confusing and super annoying. But understanding your attachment style can help you create new strategies to relate to people confidently and honestly. Trust me you're not broken. I'm this episode I talk about the patterns behind the fearful avoidant. They have a huge fear of betrayal and often struggle with an internal or external feeling of chaos. Their go to emotion is anger and can use that to set boundaries from a reactionary place. If this resonates with you and you're interested in creating confident and rock solid relationships book a free discord call here: https://calendly.com/hello-3224/getting-to-secure-consult-callFollow Lit AF on Instagram: @itsmesarahcohan.comVisit the Lit AF Website: https://www.sarahcohan.com/
Sharon Herrera grew up feeling like she didn't belong. She was Mexican-American and gay, and struggled to feel comfortable in her own skin… even suffering from suicidal thoughts. But then, one supportive adult helped her turn things around. Now, Sharon is an advocate for LGBTQ+ youth in Tarrant County. She founded LGBTQ Saves, a nonprofit that provides a safe space for LGBTQ+ youth and their families to be themselves.In this episode of Raising Joy, Sharon shares her story of hope and resilience. She also talks about the importance of having supportive adults in our lives. Join us for this heartfelt conversation with Sharon Herrera.