Podcasts about Attachment

Attachment metadata and patterns now help refine Google's models. It teaches AI how users exchange information. Today we explain how this unusual training source works.Get the top 40+ AI Models for $20 at AI Box: ⁠⁠https://aibox.aiAI Chat YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@JaedenSchaferJoin my AI Hustle Community: https://www.skool.com/aihustleSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today's episode is such a special one. I'm sitting down with one of our incredible ESL graduates, Carlina, whose story of healing, sobriety, self-discovery, and stepping into secure, emotionally available love will move you to your core. If you've ever struggled with repeating relationship patterns, feeling “too much,” navigating disorganized attachment, or doubting whether secure love is possible for you… this conversation will give you so much hope. Carlina gets incredibly vulnerable about breaking cycles, building belief in herself, healing family relationships, and attracting a securely attached partner who meets her with patience, consistency, and kindness. You won't want to miss this one.Inside the episode, we cover:How disorganized attachment, numbing, and girl-bossing into avoidance kept Carlina stuck in the same cycles and the moment she decided she couldn't do it anymore.The exact beliefs she rewired inside the program (including “I'm too much” and “I'll always be left behind”) and how that opened the door to healthy, secure partnership.What it feels like to date someone emotionally available, patient, consistent—and how secure love allowed her to soften, receive, and be her authentic self.If Carlina's journey spoke to you and you're feeling that pull… this is your sign. The Empowered.Secure.Loved. Program is closing applications THIS YEAR, and once doors close, they are closed. If you're ready to stop repeating patterns, heal at the root, and finally step into the love and life you deserve, now is the time to apply.

Join us as we explore the transformative journey of Todd Sarner, a dedicated parenting coach and couples counselor, who shares his unique insights into attachment-first parenting. Through Todd's personal story of transitioning from an aspiring psychotherapist to a parenting expert, we learn about the crucial role of attachment in nurturing both child development and adult relationships. Todd offers valuable perspectives on how prioritizing connection with children can resolve behavioral issues and foster healthier family dynamics. Listen in as we discuss the complexities and triumphs of couples counseling for parents and uncover how understanding each child's unique needs can lead to more harmonious relationships. In our engaging conversation, we also address the significance of balancing predictability and technology in parenting. Todd shares his observations from his travels and experiences, highlighting the benefits of daily rituals and structured routines in creating a grounded family environment. We discuss the challenges faced by high-achieving families and the importance of managing children's screen time. Todd introduces his upcoming book, "A Calm and Connected Parent," offering practical advice for cultivating a stable and organized approach to parenting. Discover transformative resources at transformativeparenting.com and explore the masterclassforparents.com platform for further engagement with Todd's innovative parenting programs.   Connect with Todd: Website: www.transformativeparenting.com LinkedIn: Todd Sarner, MFT Instagram: @tparenting Facebook: Transformative Parenting YouTube: Transformative Parenting with Todd   Let's keep the conversation going!Website: www.martaspirk.com Instagram: @martaspirk Facebook: Marta Spirk Want to be my next guest on The Empowered Woman Podcast?Apply here: www.martaspirk.com/podcastguest  Watch my TEDx talk: http://bit.ly/martatedx   Discover and unlock your potential in Suzanne Roberts' book and documentary, It's Deeper Than That: Pathway to a Vibrant, Purposeful, and Liberated Life.  You are guided to reconnect with the self-renewing energy at your core, where clarity returns, purpose ignites, and your life expands beyond what you thought was possible.  Learn more at UnifyingSolutions.com   

Modern dating isn't just “cute kilig stories” anymore. It's ghosting, orbiting, love bombing, FUBU, dating apps, and a whole generation trying to heal childhood wounds through romantic partners. Twins Danah and Stacy Gutierrez unpack how media, MTV dating shows, hypersexual culture, and social media shaped the way they dated: from FUBU “situationships” and toxic patterns, to attachment styles, daddy issues, and why so many women settle for low-quality love just to feel chosen. They talk about: * How MTV, reality dating shows, and K-culture shaped their early views on love and sex * Why so many relationships now start with sex and end in confusion * Attachment styles, childhood wounds, and why you keep chasing emotionally unavailable people * Dating apps, ego boosts, and why “options” can destroy real connection * What healthy dating should look like: emotional safety, shared values, and building instead of performing This isn't a glamorization of their past, but a reckoning with it. If you've ever stayed with the wrong person just to feel seen, or molded yourself to fit a man's preference, this conversation is for you. Come for the chismis, stay for the uncomfortable truth, and maybe walk away with a little more clarity about why you date the way you do.

If you've ever lain awake wondering, "Am I messing my kids up?"—you're in good company.   So many of us are parenting without a clear template. This is where the language of attachment can be a gift—not as a label to shame you, but as a tool to understand how you were shaped, how you're parenting now, and how Jesus can bring healing and security into the story.   In this episode, Jamie and Heather sit down with Valerie Isaacs, a licensed professional counselor supervisor, reflective consultant, and mental health trainer.   It's honest, eye-opening, grace-filled, and full of hope for every stage of the parenting journey.   Show Notes: Check out Valerie's Podcast: The Whole Person Parenting Podcast (with Valerie Isaacs)   Attachment Style Quiz   The Still Face Experiment: A powerful demonstration of how babies respond to connection and disconnection.   Understanding Attachment Styles   About Church on the Move: We are a family of churches in northeast Oklahoma. Our mission is to introduce people to the real Jesus. A lot of people know about Jesus but have yet to experience the life-changing power of His grace and truth. Knowing Jesus has transformed our lives, so our goal for each of our worship services, from our kids' environments on up, is to help people know that same love. We actively pursue Jesus in everything we do, and we believe He's given us a vision for a church that is deeply centered on Him and His word. Find more information about service times, locations, and ministries by visiting: https://churchonthemove.com

In this episode, I'm joined by world-renowned trauma expert Dr. Diane Poole Heller for a profound conversation on attachment wounds, healing relational trauma, and the path back to secure connection. Diane shares insights from decades of work in Somatic Experiencing and her DARe™ model, helping us understand why so many of us feel unsafe in intimacy—and what we can do about it.We explore the origins of avoidant, ambivalent, and disorganized attachment patterns, how early ruptures shape adult relationships, and why nervous system regulation is key to healing. Diane brings a grounded, compassionate perspective to the messy, tender process of becoming securely attached, whether you're in a relationship or not.This conversation is full of lightbulb moments, practical takeaways, and gentle reminders that secure connection is not just possible—it's our birthright.Connect with Diane:www.traumasolutions.comhttps://www.instagram.com/traumaattachmenttraining/❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support:https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform❥❥❥Stay or Go Course: ⁠https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go⁠ ❥❥❥❥ FREE RESOURCE: a step-by-step process of working with your triggersTRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERSThis powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your lifeDownload here:⁠ ⁠https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted⁠⁠Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:“Connection is a biological imperative—we're wired to attach, even when it hurts.”“You don't have to wait for a perfect childhood to have a great adulthood.”“Healing attachment wounds isn't about fixing—you're not broken. It's about reconnecting.”“Our patterns were brilliant survival strategies. But they're not always the best relationship strategies.”“Secure attachment can be earned, at any stage of life.”attachment healing, trauma recovery, somatic experiencing, secure attachment, avoidant attachment, anxious attachment, nervous system healing, childhood trauma, relationship wounds, emotional safety, trauma-informed relationships, intimacy healing, healing attachment styles

Many of us move through life repeating the same painful relationship patterns—feeling unsafe, unseen, or disconnected, even when we're trying our hardest to "do everything right." Invisible wounds from early experiences quietly shape the ways we love, cope, and relate as adults. Instead of recognizing these patterns as natural adaptations, we often turn the blame inward, not realizing that our attachment styles and protective behaviors are rooted in the body and nervous system as much as the mind. Real healing isn't about forcing change or consuming endless self-help advice—it's about reshaping your internal sense of safety on a deeply felt, embodied level. In this episode, we explore how secure, nourishing relationships begin with understanding the implicit memories, sensations, and patterns that live inside us. Learn how to meet old wounds with compassion, honor the protective parts that once kept you safe, and gently build new internal anchors of stability and trust. Using tools like the Wheel of Attachment and the practice of "finding your anchors," this episode offers both a clear roadmap and grounded encouragement for anyone ready to move beyond survival mode and experience connection that feels authentic, spacious, and truly supportive. Jessica Baum is a licensed psychotherapist, certified addiction specialist, and Imago couples therapist with advanced training in EMDR, CBT, DBT, and experiential therapy. She founded the Relationship Institute of Palm Beach and leads a global coaching company supporting clients worldwide. Passionate about trauma, attachment, and interpersonal neurobiology, Jessica helps individuals and couples heal and reconnect. Her bestselling book, Anxiously Attached, has made her a respected voice in nurturing secure, fulfilling relationships.   Episode Highlights 05:55 How early experiences shape our sense of safety. 07:48 Implicit memories and relationship patterns. 11:09 The importance of somatic (body-based) memory. 13:14 Reconnecting with the body for healing. 18:42 Understanding and honoring protective behaviors. 21:40 Building trust in healthier relationship dynamics. 25:00 The essential role of anchors in healing. 26:06 Why healing requires relationships, not willpower. 31:43 Finding and cultivating emotional anchors. 35:05 The Wheel of Attachment: A nuanced approach. 37:45 Earning security through supportive experiences. 40:31 Moving toward fulfillment: Real connection and support.   Your Check List of Actions to Take Slow down and take mindful pauses to help connect with your body and increase present-moment awareness. Notice physical sensations during interactions, especially in moments of emotional intensity, to access implicit memories and attachment wounds. Practice developing interoception—your ability to sense internal bodily states—to better understand your emotional responses in relationships. Identify and honor your protective patterns ("protectors") rather than judging them; acknowledge they were there to support you. Seek out safe "anchors" or individuals who can offer emotional co-regulation and support your healing process. Use the "Wheel of Attachment" framework to explore how your early relational dynamics show up in current relationships. If you lack supportive anchors, resource from memories of secure figures (e.g., a teacher, grandparent) or pursue professional support. Engage in relationships and healing spaces where vulnerability, witnessing, and somatic attunement are encouraged, facilitating earned secure attachment over time.   Mentioned Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love SAFE (Interview and freebies link) Nurturing the Heart (Dr. Bonnie Badenoch's website) Conscious Relationship Group (Facebook group) (link) Relationship Institute of Palm Beach ERP 342: How Love Transforms Our Nervous System — An Interview With Jessica Baum ERP 276: Understanding The Need For Both Self-Regulation And Co-Regulation In Relationship – An interview With Deb Dana ERP 261: How To Strengthen Your Relationship From A Polyvagal Perspective – An Interview with Dr. Stephen Porges ERP 423: How To Transcend Trauma (And The Effects Experience In Relationship) — An Interview With Dr. Frank Anderson 12 Relationship Principles to Strengthen Your Love (free guide)   Connect with Jessica Baum Websites: beselffull.com Facebook: facebook.com/consciousrelationshipgroup YouTube: youtube.com/@jessicabaumlmhc Instagram: instagram.com/jessicabaumlmhc  

In this episode of The Light Inside, we delve into the intricate dynamics of limerence and its connection to attachment trauma. Joined by licensed psychotherapist Leah Marrone, author of Serial Fixer: Breaking Free of the Habit of Solving Other People's Problems, we explore how unresolved attachment imprints shape our behaviors and relationships.Limerence, often mistaken for intense longing, is revealed as a response to old wounds, manifesting as hypervigilance, overfunctioning, and a compulsive need to fix or rescue others. These patterns, while appearing as care, often mask deeper fears of abandonment and a struggle for self-worth.Leah shares insights on how early attachment experiences condition us to regulate anxiety by overcommitting to others' needs, often at the expense of our own well-being. We discuss the importance of self-awareness, setting boundaries, and the power of validation in creating healthy, balanced relationships.Throughout the conversation, we emphasize the need for practitioners and caregivers to recognize their own patterns of overfunctioning and to cultivate self-trust and resilience. By doing so, we can better support others without falling into the trap of serial fixing.Tune in to learn how to navigate these complex dynamics and foster genuine connections that allow for mutual growth and healing."Serial Fixer: Breaking Free of The Habit of Solving Other People's Problems"Timestamps:00:00:00 - Introduction to Limerence and Attachment Trauma00:01:15 - Mint Mobile Advertisement00:02:19 - Limerence and Attachment Patterns00:03:04 - Introduction of Guest: Leah Marrone00:03:42 - Childhood Conditioning and Over-committing00:06:02 - Hyper-responsibility and Nervous System Safety00:08:10 - Emotional Suppression and Connection00:10:39 - Threat and Safety in Emotional Responses00:12:48 - Recognizing Somatic Cues00:15:02 - Differentiating Roles in Relationships00:18:09 - Supporting vs. Solving in Therapy00:21:03 - Invisible Labor and Emotional Interactions00:24:01 - Urgency and Shame in Fixing Behavior00:27:04 - Effective Listening and Present Moment Awareness00:30:19 - Building Resilience and Self-trust00:33:04 - Vulnerability in Guiding Conversations00:36:09 - Holding Space and Managing Tension00:38:46 - Monitoring Unconscious Over-resourcing00:41:15 - Social Stigma and Mental Health00:43:57 - Self-martyrdom in Caregiving Roles00:45:36 - Personal Reflection on Fixing Behavior—CreditsFeatured Guest: Leah MaroneHost: Jeffrey BeseckerExecutive Program Director: Anna GetzProduction Team: Aloft Media GroupMusic: Courtesy of Aloft Media GroupConnect with host Jeffrey Besecker on LinkedIn.Music by Aloft Meade and Jeffrey Besecker“Anxiety Effect” by Aloft Media“Falling Down”  written by Aloft Media“Wanting and Waiting” by Aloft Media

In this powerful continuation of their conversation, Connie Going goes even deeper into what it really means to pursue ethical, child-centered adoption. She talks about why hopeful adoptive parents must process their own trauma before stepping into adoption, the danger of trying to be the “perfect” Facebook family, and how truly loving a child means also honoring and supporting their birth parents. Connie breaks down creative, attachment-focused parenting strategies (including why traditional discipline and “cry it out” can backfire for kids with trauma), and shares real-life stories from older child adoption, foster care, and reunions with birth families. She also unpacks intervention cases in Florida, federal and state subsidies, and how race and funding impact private and foster adoption. Throughout, Connie returns again and again to the same core message: build your toolbox, stay flexible, care for your own nervous system, and keep the child's story—and their connections—at the center of every decision.

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“Then Jonah prayed to the Lord his God from inside the fish. He said, ‘I cried out to the Lord in my great trouble, and he answered me. I called to you from the land of the dead, and Lord, you heard me! You threw me into the ocean depths, and I sank down to the heart of the sea. The mighty waters engulfed me; I was buried beneath your wild and stormy waves. Then I said, “O Lord, you have driven me from your presence. Yet I will look once more toward your holy Temple.”'” Jonah 2:1-4The book of Jonah is without a doubt the most known book of the prophets and perhaps one of the most well known of the Old Testament. That is to say, most of the story is well known. From the earliest ages the story of Jonah and the fish or Jonah and the whale is taught in church classrooms around the world. But usually that story ends in chapter 2 . . . but there are still two more chapters to the book of Jonah and, you know what, the conversation today spends most of its time in chapter 4. To help us navigate the book of Jonah is Dr. T. Desmond Alexander, Senior Research Fellow in Biblical Studies at Union Theological College. So let's leave what you think you know about Jonah behind and strap in as Desi Alexander takes us on a really fun and thought-provoking journey into the book of Jonah. Doable Discipleship is a Saddleback Church podcast produced and hosted by Jason Wieland. It premiered in 2017 and now offers more than 450 episodes. Episodes release every Tuesday on your favorite podcast app and on the Saddleback Church YouTube Channel (https://www.youtube.com/saddleback).Resources Related to This Episode:https://www.amazon.com/Obadiah-Jonah-Micah-Introduction-Commentaries/dp/0877842752Subscribe to the Doable Discipleship podcast at Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/doable-discipleship/id1240966935) or Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/1Zc9nuwQZOLadbFCZCmZ1V)Related Doable Discipleship Episodes: Navigating the Bible: Obadiah - https://youtu.be/jB6W-TM5Y-oNavigating the Bible: Amos - https://youtu.be/8DqVHu7leDUNavigating the Bible: Joel - https://youtu.be/Ilg6r300q4UNavigating the Bible: Hosea - https://youtu.be/nWZ4TuAUSRQNavigating the Bible: Daniel - https://youtu.be/bnQ-PioWxfgNavigating the Bible: Ezekiel - https://youtu.be/hlg6gBYxqsgNavigating the Bible: Lamentations - https://youtu.be/6rrizlXeYXENavigating the Bible: Jeremiah - https://youtu.be/lXPjWl8PdRkNavigating the Bible: Isaiah - https://youtu.be/NZJLaPkgEgsNavigating the Bible: Song of Songs - https://youtu.be/Sg0CYlNBVMgNavigating the Bible: Ecclesiastes - https://youtu.be/-Wr7LCh8F9ENavigating the Bible: Proverbs - https://youtu.be/DytRT5AsZg8Navigating the Bible: Psalms - https://youtu.be/oZeesooAYUINavigating the Bible: Job - https://youtu.be/14jaf2T1eCQNavigating the Bible: Esther - https://youtu.be/7RZ7ATWQZucNavigating the Bible: Nehemiah - https://youtu.be/Gok4WDgwn5INavigating the Bible: Ezra - https://youtu.be/aBC0nEjYeyoNavigating the Bible: 2 Chronicles - https://youtu.be/OG3rHTgMgEINavigating the Bible: 1 Chronicles - https://youtu.be/lQ_Qc4zbfgANavigating the Bible: 2 Kings - https://youtu.be/04q9gDhBKTkNavigating the Bible: 1 Kings - https://youtu.be/aS-KoeQXl2kNavigating the Bible: 2 Samuel - https://youtu.be/ZbpafGgOW7cNavigating the Bible: 1 Samuel - https://youtu.be/lY8wPElSFMYNavigating the Bible: Rute - https://youtu.be/YaH-t-ZzTaMNavigating the Bible: Judges - https://youtu.be/qNGcOf2o0NUNavigating the Bible: Joshua - https://youtu.be/hF28aThBtFsNavigating the Bible: Deuteronomy - https://youtu.be/HzmNgPOM4zUNavigating the Bible: Numbers - https://youtu.be/H1HO6V9HDxsNavigating the Bible: Leviticus - https://youtu.be/08RhDCXYex4Navigating the Bible: Exodus - https://youtu.be/NB9UTpS1F3MNavigating the Bible: Genesis - https://youtu.be/ddhjMfOoasAInspiring Dreams by Keys of Moon | https://soundcloud.com/keysofmoonMusic promoted by https://www.chosic.com/free-music/all/Creative Commons CC BY 4.0https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

In this solo episode, Krista schools us on Internal Family Systems, parts work, and attachment styles, while sharing her most recent (+ vulnerable!) dating experiences. Gain a deeper understanding of your inner world to set you up for healthier relationships! Morning Microdose is a podcast curated by Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik, the hosts and founders of Almost 30, a global community, brand, and top rated podcast.With curated clips from the Almost 30 podcast, Morning Mircodose will set the tone for your day, so you can feel inspired through thought provoking conversations…all in digestible episodes that are less than 10 minutes.Wake up with Krista and Lindsey, both literally and spiritually, Monday-Friday.If you enjoyed this conversation, listen to the full episode on Spotify here and on Apple here.

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Learn the skills to Regulate your Emotions, join the membership: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com/membership Childhood trauma doesn't just live in your memories—it rewires how you show up in relationships. If you've ever panicked when someone leaves your text on read, overshared on a first date, or pulled away when closeness feels scary, you're not alone. These patterns are often rooted in attachment wounds from early experiences of neglect, control, or fear. In this video, we explore how Complex PTSD (CPTSD) and attachment injuries from childhood trauma disrupt the ability to form safe, secure relationships as an adult. You'll learn the 7 most common ways CPTSD shows up in love and friendship—like fear of abandonment, people-pleasing, emotional dysregulation, or repeating toxic patterns. We'll also dive into attachment styles—anxious, avoidant, disorganized—and how they develop from early relational wounds. Most importantly, you'll discover 5 stages of healing that can help you rebuild secure attachment. From slowing down in new relationships, to reparenting yourself with compassion, to creating earned secure attachments, there are clear steps you can take to change the way you connect. Healing from Complex PTSD takes time, but healthy, lasting relationships are possible. You can rewire your nervous system, learn to trust, and finally feel safe being loved. Looking for affordable online counseling? My sponsor, BetterHelp, connects you to a licensed professional from the comfort of your own home. Try it now for 10% off your first month: https://betterhelp.com/therapyinanutshell Learn more in one of my in-depth mental health courses: https://courses.therapyinanutshell.com Support my mission on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/therapyinanutshell Sign up for my newsletter: https://www.therapyinanutshell.com Check out my favorite self-help books: https://kit.co/TherapyinaNutshell/best-self-help-books  Therapy in a Nutshell and the information provided by Emma McAdam are solely intended for informational and entertainment purposes and are not a substitute for advice, diagnosis, or treatment regarding medical or mental health conditions. Although Emma McAdam is a licensed marriage and family therapist, the views expressed on this site or any related content should not be taken for medical or psychiatric advice. Always consult your physician before making any decisions related to your physical or mental health. In therapy I use a combination of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Systems Theory, positive psychology, and a bio-psycho-social approach to treating mental illness and other challenges we all face in life. The ideas from my videos are frequently adapted from multiple sources. Many of them come from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, especially the work of Steven Hayes, Jason Luoma, and Russ Harris. The sections on stress and the mind-body connection derive from the work of Stephen Porges (the Polyvagal theory), Peter Levine (Somatic Experiencing) Francine Shapiro (EMDR), and Bessel Van Der Kolk. I also rely heavily on the work of the Arbinger Institute for my overall understanding of our ability to choose our life's direction. And deeper than all of that, the Gospel of Jesus Christ orients my personal worldview and sense of security, peace, hope, and love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/comeuntochrist/believe If you are in crisis, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Hotline at https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org or 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or your local emergency services. Copyright Therapy in a Nutshell, LLC

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What qualities define this attachment style (helplessness, etc) and how does this impede on your ability to play and have fun? What's the greater impact on your life? What's the path for healing, and how does play factor into this?

Hello Beloved. In a world where our attention spans are shrinking, true hope for our livelihoods—and our lives—emerges when we step beyond binary thinking. Embracing shades of gray opens the door to richer, more nuanced perspectives on every situation.By accepting that multiple truths can coexist, we lift the crushing weight of forcing every decision into a rigid right-or-wrong box.Nurturing trust in our intuition and inner wisdom erodes the compulsion for constant external approval or lengthy defenses.This quiet inner confidence fortifies the seamless harmony of body, mind, heart, and soul, while awakening our natural capacity to weather doubt and exhaustion.What Holds Us Back from Revelations of Self-CompassionThe Moment Everything Changes — exists at a threshold in a moment when the familiar path and the unknown future collide. Here, we stand at the Choice Point.It's not a single decision. It's a recurring crossroads where we face the most primal question: Asking: Do I stay with what I know, or do I step toward what calls me?The First SOVEREIGN SOUNDS SERIES Podcast showcases the etymological breakdown (more fun than you think - super empowering) through the story of Florence Nightingale back in 1854, choosing to leave her comfortable English life to revolutionize medicine in a war-torn hospital that told through the ETYMOLOGY of “COMPASSION".”If you want to hear and transform your relation to this word, you can upgrade at any point to unlock The Light Between Oracle App + Private Episodes where I channel these downloads. Dismantling the Four Walls of Self-DoubtYou face it every time you consider leaving a job, ending a relationship, speaking a truth, or claiming your authentic self.The Choice Point is where transformation begins. But it's also where most of us freeze.Understanding the forces that keep us paralyzed at the threshold—and more importantly, how to move through them—is the work of reclaiming our power.The Four Walls of the PrisonFear of the Unknown: The Primary ObstacleFear is the gatekeeper of the Choice Point.Not the fear of failure or consequences—though those exist. The deepest, most paralyzing fear is the fear of not knowing what comes next. Our nervous systems are wired for certainty. Uncertainty triggers our threat-detection systems.When we contemplate the unknown, our amygdala fires. Our breath shortens. We retreat to what we know, even if it's painful, because painful and known feels safer than uncertain and new.This is why people stay in unfulfilling jobs, relationships that drain them, and lives that don't fit. The devil you know is more manageable than the devil you don't.The truth: The unknown is not dangerous—it's just unfamiliar. And familiarity is not safety; it's often just habit wearing the mask of security.Attachment to Past Patterns and “Known Suffering”There's a paradox at the heart of human psychology: We become attached to our pain.Our wounds become our identity. Our limiting beliefs become our armor. The story we've told ourselves for years—“I'm not worthy,” “I'm too broken,” “People like me don't get to have that”—becomes so familiar that it feels like truth.When offered the possibility of transformation, we unconsciously cling to the pattern. Because at least we know how to survive it. At least there's a narrative. At least there's a reason.This is what psychologists call the “comfort in suffering”—the twisted familiarity that makes even pain feel like home.The Choice Point asks us to grieve what we're leaving behind, even if it was killing us. And that grief is real. That loss is real. Even when the old pattern was destructive, letting it go means losing an identity we've spent years constructing.The truth: Healing requires grieving. But the cost of staying is always higher than the cost of going.Narrow Paths vs. Opening to Infinite PossibilitiesHere's something CRITICAL and why active concious thinking is foundational. Our minds are pattern-recognition machines designed for efficiency, not expansion.The mind works by creating neural pathways. The more we travel a particular thought or behavior, the deeper the groove becomes. Over time, these grooves feel like the only paths available. The mind literally cannot perceive possibilities outside these worn tracks.This is called “cognitive narrowing,” and it's hardwired into our neurology.When faced with a Choice Point, the mind does what it's trained to do: it generates only the solutions it's already mapped. It says, Here are your three options” when actually there are 300. It insists, “This is realistic” while dismissing what's possible as fantasy.We are collectively re-aligning the “all is mind.”The Choice Point isn't just about willpower or courage. It's about expanding the mental field itself—opening to possibilities the conditioned mind cannot yet perceive.This requires what we might call a “frequency shift”—a change in consciousness that literally opens new neural pathways and allows previously invisible solutions to appear.Trust: The Key That Unlocks the TransitionAll three obstacles—fear, attachment, and mental narrowing—lock together into one immovable wall: lack of trust.Trust in ourselves. Trust in the process. Trust that the ground will hold us when we take a step into the unknown.Without trust, we're trying to move through the Choice Point while our nervous system screams “danger.” We're negotiating with fear rather than transcending it.But trust isn't blind faith. It's not ignoring real risks or pretending danger doesn't exist.True trust is remembering that you've already survived every difficult moment in your life. You've moved through uncertainty before. Your body knows how to adapt. Your spirit has weathered storms you thought would destroy you.Trust is recognizing that there's an intelligence working through you—not just your rational mind, but your intuition, your embodied wisdom, your spiritual knowing. Align with that larger intelligence and each Choice Point becomes navigable.This is where language transforms the nervous system itself. When we reclaim the word Trust from its distorted meanings—blind obedience, naïveté, passivity—and return it to its root (a Germanic word meaning “to comfort” or “to strengthen”), we literally change our nervous system's response to the unknown.The truth: You have everything you need to move through the Choice Point. You just need to remember it.The Evolution of Language: How We Lost Our WayFrom Collective Intuition to Fragmented Mind - our ancestors didn't face the Choice Point as we do.Early human societies operated from a place of collective intuition—a kind of group consciousness where decisions emerged from shared sensing rather than individual analysis. Bodies, hearts, and minds moved as one intelligence.There was no paralyzing individual choice. There was knowing. A seamless trust in the collective direction.Then came language.Language was revolutionary and traumatic simultaneously.Words gave us the ability to communicate across time and space. They allowed civilization to build. But they also fragmented us. Words separated the knower from the known. They created subject and object, self and other, safety and danger.As language developed, it slowly replaced embodied knowing with mental analysis. We stopped trusting our gut. We started overthinking. We moved from intuition to ideology.By the time we reached the Enlightenment, trust in the mind had become supreme—and trust in the body, intuition, and collective wisdom had atrophied almost completely.This is why the Choice Point feels so isolating and terrifying now. We're making the decision alone, with only the overthinking mind as our guide. We've lost access to the embodied wisdom and collective knowing that would make the transition feel natural.The Body, the Heart, and Language All Different Channels of KnowingHere's a crucial distinction: The body and mind speak different languages.The body knows through sensation and intuition. It receives information instantaneously—what some call “gut feeling” or “heart knowing.” This wisdom doesn't require analysis. It just is.The mind knows through logic, language, and analysis. It requires evidence, reasoning, and time to process.Neither is superior. They're complementary intelligence systems.But as language became the dominant channel of communication, the body's wisdom became marginalized. We learned to doubt our gut. We were told to “think logically” and ignore our feelings. We were trained to second-guess intuition and defer to external expertise.This created a crisis at the Choice Point: We're using only half our intelligence to make full-life decisions.The path through the Choice Point requires both channels:The mind to discern the practical details and logistics The body to feel the rightness or wrongness of the direction The heart to connect with why this choice matters The spirit to sense the alignment with our larger soul purposeWhen all four are integrated, the Choice Point becomes a place of clarity rather than paralysis.Language as a Living Entity: How Words Shape Our ChoicesHere's where things get deeply revolutionary: Language is not fixed. It breathes.Words are living frequencies that carry the imprint of human consciousness across time. When a culture shifts, words shift with it. And when we understand how a word has been distorted, we can reclaim its original power.Consider how certain words—like Trust, Faith, Surrender, Intuition—have been shaped and twisted by different historical periods.Medieval Europe: Trust was tied to God and divine order. There was a collective framework holding the trust.Industrial Revolution: Trust narrowed. It became about institutions and external authority. Trust in the system. Trust in the expert. Trust in the hierarchy.Modern Era: Trust fragmented further. We distrust institutions. We distrust expertise. We distrust each other. And most dangerously, we distrust ourselves.The result: We're trying to move through the Choice Point with no trust at all.And, my beloved…. here's the liberation: By understanding how the word has been distorted, we can restore its original frequency.When we trace Trust back to its roots—to mean “to comfort,” “to strengthen,” “to hold steady”—we access a different nervous system response. We're not just intellectually deciding to trust. We're activating a frequency in our body that remembers trust as a felt experience, not a concept. Words are spells and shape consciousness.The Architecture of the Choice Point: Three PhasesTransformation at the Choice Point unfolds in distinct phases:Phase 1: Awareness (The Recognition)You begin to see that the current path no longer fits. Something is calling. The discomfort that once seemed normal now feels intolerable.This is where most people get stuck—they see the problem but convince themselves to adjust to it rather than change it. They re-narrate the suffering as meaningful. They spiritualize their dysfunction.True awareness requires honest grief: admitting that something in your life is not working.Phase 2: The Threshold (The Fear)You stand at the actual Choice Point. The old path is visible behind you. The new path is invisible ahead of you.This is where all four obstacles crystallize: Fear screams Attachment pulls backward The mind insists the new path doesn't exist Trust evaporatesThis phase is not meant to be comfortable. Discomfort at the Choice Point is a sign of integrity, not a sign to turn back.Phase 3: The Leap and Landing (The Integration)You move through. The ground holds. You begin to integrate the new frequency. The new path becomes visible as you walk it—not before.Most people want to see the entire new path before they step forward. But that's not how transformation works. We get vision as we move, not before.Four Practices for Moving Through the Choice Point* Embody Your BodyPractice feeling sensation without narrative. Place your hand on your heart. Notice: What does your body know that your mind hasn't admitted yet?Your body doesn't lie. It carries wisdom your mind has trained itself to ignore.Reclaim Trust as a FrequencyRepeat: “I remember the word. I reclaim the root. I restore the power.”Place your hand on your heart and feel what trust actually feels like—not as a concept, but as a sensation of being held, strengthened, comforted.* Expand Your Mental FieldAsk: “What possibilities exist beyond what I can currently imagine?”This simple question opens neural pathways. It signals your brain that there are more options than the three the conditioned mind has offered.Connect to Collective KnowingYou don't have to figure this out alone. There's an intelligence working through human history, through your bloodline, through the zeitgeist of this moment.Ask: “What wants to emerge through me? What is my soul's larger purpose in this transition?”Express Your Choice Point ExerciseIn Closing: While the new paradigm hasn't fully materialized yet. We're all standing in the threshold together.The opportunity is that we're not paralyzed alone anymore. We're standing at the threshold with millions of others who are also choosing to evolve. The Mantra for the Choice PointAs you contemplate your own threshold, return to this again and again:I remember: My body knows. My intuition knows. My spirit knows. I've survived every difficult moment. I have access to more wisdom than my overthinking mind.Surrender as power, not weakness.Intuition as light intelligence, not fantasy.I restore: The power to choose. The power to transform. The power to walk into the unknown and have it become known as I move. CHOOSE to Deepen Your ExplorationThis deep exploration is a small reflection of The Sovereign Sounds Series Podcast that creates one word as a conceptual map of a Choice Point. The vertical energetic origin and the horizontal effects through time as it became a frequency of power over and power under. The Choice Point is calling. Trust is the key. And you have everything you need to move through.Incantations and Reflections for IntegrationAs you sit with this exploration, journal on:* Where am I standing at a Choice Point right now—even if I haven't fully admitted it?* What pattern am I most attached to, even though it no longer serves me?PS: Be on the lookout for the first privast podcast drop and over $258+ intuitive enriching resources to help you on your evolutionary journey. Join and upgrade HERE!Kassandra Get full access to The Light Between at thelightbetween.substack.com/subscribe

Struggling with boundaries? Attachment expert Daphna Lender reveals why "gentle parenting" trends miss the mark. Learn the neuroscience-backed technique of parental self-regulation that transforms difficult moments with your kids. Discover why your own nervous system holds the key to effective boundaries. With 30 years of clinical experience, Daphna shares evidence-based strategies for managing challenging behaviors in children and teens. Learn how to "clear your screen" before setting boundaries, why listening with curiosity changes everything with teenagers, and the surprising power of disengagement. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/783

Dr Pat Ogden is a pioneer in somatic psychology, the developer of Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, and one of the leading voices revolutionising our approach to trauma treatment. This conversation explores how sensorimotor psychotherapy can help us understand and treat attachment wounds - particularly those picked up in early life. You'll learn: — How the body starts to “shape” itself based on our relationship with our early caregivers — The underlying principles that sensorimotor psychotherapy is built upon — Why how we organise our experiences may be the most important factor in our mental health and wellbeing — How sensorimotor psychotherapy helps to elicit unconscious and implicit patterns, so that healing can take place. And more. You can learn more about Pat's work by going to: https://sensorimotorpsychotherapy.org. --- Pat Ogden, PhD, is a pioneer in somatic psychology, the creator of the Sensorimotor Psychotherapy method, and founder of the Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute.  Dr. Ogden is trained in a wide variety of somatic and psychotherapeutic approaches, and has over 45 years of experience working with individuals and groups.  She is co-founder of the Hakomi Institute, past faculty of Naropa University (1985-2005), a clinician, consultant, and sought after international lecturer. Dr. Ogden is the first author of two groundbreaking books in somatic psychology: Trauma and the Body: A Sensorimotor Approach to Psychotherapy  and Sensorimotor Psychotherapy: Interventions for Trauma and Attachment (2015) both published in the Interpersonal Neurobiology Series of W. W. Norton. Her third book in this series, The Pocket Guide to Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, published in 2021, and she is working on Sensorimotor Psychotherapy for Children, Adolescents and Families with Dr. Bonnie Goldstein. Her current interests include groups, couples, children, adolescents, and families; complex trauma; Embedded Relational Mindfulness; implicit bias, intersectionality and culture; the relational nature of shame; presence, consciousness, and the philosophical/spiritual principles that underlie Sensorimotor Psychotherapy. --- Interview Links: — Dr Ogden's website - http://sensorimotorpsychotherapy.org/ — Dr Ogden's books - https://amzn.to/47gGd5I

You absolutely can heal from disorganized attachment and I'm living proof of it. For over a decade, I was stuck in chaos, emotional highs and lows, and constant self-doubt. My relationships were a reflection of the deep wounds I hadn't yet faced. In this episode, I'm opening up about my own journey with disorganized attachment, the rock-bottom moments, the painful patterns, and the neuroscience-backed healing process that helped me finally become secure and build the peaceful, healthy love I once thought was impossible.Inside the Episode:How disorganized attachment forms and the unpredictable caregiving patterns that create it.Why you keep attracting chaos in love (and how to stop recreating your childhood pain in adult relationships).The exact process I used to rewire my attachment style and finally experience secure, emotionally regulated love.Healing disorganized attachment is so possible but it starts with saying yes to yourself. Inside the Empowered.Secure.Loved Program, I walk you through my proven neuroscience-based framework that has helped over 1,000 women become securely attached and attract the kind of love they once thought didn't exist.✨ Applications are closing soon for this year. Don't wait! This is your moment to heal, to rewire, and to step into the peaceful love you deserve.

Do your evenings disappear into chaos—feeding, cleaning, and collapsing into bed exhausted? Are you wondering how to stay calm and connected while parenting toddlers who seem to need you every second?In this episode, Greg & Rachel reveal the mindset and framework behind calm parenting toddlers—how to meet your child's needs without losing yourself, gently transition from co-sleeping, and end night wakings without cry-it-out. You'll learn why the 0–5 window shapes your child's identity, confidence, and future emotional health—and how your calm presence now builds secure attachment and independence later.They also share why dads don't babysit—they lead, and how fathers can bring energy, joy, and true relief to moms in the toddler trenches. You'll leave with practical, doable shifts that make family life lighter, calmer, and far more fulfilling.

Dr. Gordon Neufeld is a developmental psychologist with over 50 years of clinical experience and a graduate degree from the University of British Columbia, where he taught psychology for 20 years. He is the author of the international bestseller "Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers", co-authored with Dr. Gabor Maté.His groundbreaking contributions to developmental psychology include the six stages of attachment development, the construct of counterwill, and his revolutionary understanding of how tears and futility drive human adaptation and transformation.In this profound conversation, Dr. Neufeld explains his attachment framework and why feeling futility is essential for both childhood development and adult healing.

High-achieving and still feeling lost in love? In this episode, Amanda Carroll unpacks why smart, successful women keep choosing the wrong men—and how to break the cycle fast. You'll learn how the “sex & status” blueprint conditions you to confuse adrenaline with chemistry, why your nervous system panics around healthy men, and the exact steps to rewire attraction toward reciprocal love—a partnership built on safety, respect, and mutual growth. In this episode, you'll learn:The real reason you're drawn to emotionally unavailable men (it's not your fault)How “sex and status” trains your body to chase chaos over connectionWhat Reciprocal Love is—and how to recognize it on date oneThe 6 Roots of Real Love to spot in a healthy partnerA simple nervous-system strategy to make peace feel like passion❤️ Ready to stop chasing chaos and start attracting calm, committed love?Book your free Dating Strategy Call with Amanda Carroll.

Cole Zesiger is a breakup and relationship coach specializing in breakup recovery, dating advice, and relationship coaching. After a divorce at 23 and another breakup soon after, he began sharing his journey on social media—growing to over 750,000 followers across Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, and more. Key Topics: ⭐ Breakups as catalysts for self-growth ⭐ Attachment styles and relationship patterns ⭐ The importance of communication and emotional expression  ⭐ Healing and rebuilding after heartbreak ⭐ Comparing past and current partners ⭐ Finding meaning in loss ⭐ Forgiveness as a step toward closure  ⭐ The role of spirituality and belief in something greater  ⭐ Avoidant vs. anxious behaviors in dating  ⭐ Creating a well-rounded life post-breakup  ⭐ Modern dating and social media illusions  ⭐ Chemistry and compatibility  ⭐ Three pillars of a lasting relationship  ⭐ The concept of "no contact"  ⭐ Self-accountability and co-creation in relationships   ➡️ Join the Waitlist for David's Men's Program "Relate": https://forms.gle/2AXhmyNweasETaso7 Connect With David - The Authentic Man: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theauthenticman_/ Website: https://www.theauthenticman.net/ For Coaching: hello@theauthenticman.net Newsletter: https://www.theauthenticman.net/home-subscribe   Connect With Cole: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachcolezesiger/ Cole's Book "exsandnos": https://coachcolezesiger.com/exsandnos Website: coachcolezesiger.com Tiktok: Tiktok.com/colezesiger Youtube: Youtube.com/coachcolezesiger  

In dieser inspirierenden Episode spreche ich mit Elena Lustig, Entwicklerin von ProAge Yoga, über die Kraft des Loslassens und warum das Älterwerden auch ein Genderthema ist.Elena teilt ihre einzigartige Verbindung von Yoga-Philosophie und buddhistischen Lehren und gibt dir eine einfache, aber wirkungsvolle 5-Minuten-Meditations-Technik an die Hand, die du sofort umsetzen kannst. Wir sprechen über Attachment vs. Non-Attachment, warum wir nie mit unserem Körper zufrieden waren, und wie Dankbarkeit dein Mindset transformieren kann.In dieser Episode erfährst du: ✨ Warum "ProAge" mehr ist als nur ein Begriff – es ist eine Haltung ✨ Eine simple Atemmeditation für mehr innere Ruhe (auch wenn dein Geist nie still wird!) ✨ Wie du aufhörst, dich mit deinen Gedanken zu identifizieren ✨ Warum das Patriarchat noch immer bestimmt, wie wir älter werden "dürfen" ✨ Elenas kraftvolle Dankbarkeits-Routine für mehr Fokus auf das GuteElena hat bereits über 100 Yoga-Lehrerinnen in ProAge Yoga ausgebildet und baut eine Community auf, die zeigt: Wir sind perfekt, so wie wir sind – wir müssen es nur erkennen.—----*Werbung: BLACKROLL: Mein Lieblings-Kissen, Recovery Rollen, Resistance Bänder zum Training - all dies findest du bei Blackroll in hoher Qualität und mit Code youroptimum-10 sparst duhttps://blackroll.com/de/products/blackroll-recovery-pillow?aff=375 (*Werbung)—---Elena Lustig (56) ist Gründerin von ProAgeYoga® und beschäftigt sich intensiv mit den Herausforderungen und Vorteilen des Älterwerdens. Ein buddhistisches Retreat zum Thema „bewusstes Sterben“ veränderte vor über 30 Jahren ihren Blick auf Vergänglichkeit und Neubeginn und Yoga wurde für sie zum Werkzeug, um das Älterwerden proaktiv zu gestalten. Als ProAge-Aktivistin und Influencerin hat sie ein ganzheitliches Programm rund ums Älterwerden entwickelt. Nach dem Motto: „Älter zu werden bedeutet, besser zu werden“ inspiriert sie durch Ihre persönlichen Erfahrungen, ihren ganzheitlichen Ansatz und ihren Humor. Sie ist zertifizierte Anusara-Yoga-Lehrerin,  Autorin, Coach und Speakerin. In ihrem Podcast „FCK NTI AGE“ diskutiert sie über das Älterwerden. Ihre Bücher sind: „Innen.Aussen“ 2016 „ProAgeYoga“ 2019„ProAgeLife“ 2022Hier sind Elenas Links:www.elenalustigyoga.comhttps://www.instagram.com/elena.lustig/https://www.linkedin.com/in/elena-lustig-4b5a00109/Kontakt & Support:Optimum You by Barbara Birke:Barbara findest du hier: www.optimum-you.deIG: https://www.instagram.com/youroptimum/ABBONIERE DEN OPTIMUM YOU NEWSLETTER: https://courses.optimum-you.com/newsletter-opt-in-deutschDisclaimer: Dieser Podcast ersetzt keine medizinische Beratung. Konsultiere bei gesundheitlichen Fragen immer einen Arzt.#GesundheitNach40 #FrauenGesundheit #Muskulatur #KrafttrainingfürFrauenErwähnte Themen: Wechseljahre, Perimenopause, Ernährung, Blutzuckerregulierung, Meal Prep, Overnight Oats, gesunde Routinen, Mindset, 80/20-Prinzip, Krafttraining, Hormone, Stress

Dr. Alexandra is in-studio with her husband, Todd, for this special two-part conversation about loving across potentially dealbreaking differences. Inspired by the Netflix show, Nobody Wants This, starring Kristen Bell and Adam Brody, Dr. Alexandra and Todd reflect on navigating a faith difference, with Dr. Alexandra ultimately converting to Judaism in preparation for their marriage. They discuss the larger question: how can a couple go about navigating ANY potentially dealbreaking difference? In this second part of their studio conversation, Dr. Alexandra and Todd talk about scorekeeping, with gender differences, attachment styles and general disposition/worldview in mind, best practices for the “winner” and “loser” in a change/sacrifice scenario, how to approach making sacrifices to stave off resentment…and then the REAL juicy stuff: does Todd hate that Dr. Alexandra is now a Swiftie like him? Plus, hear her hot take on shelving conversations for later.Resources worth mentioning from the episode:Reimagining Love Episode, Nobody Wants This: How to Love Across Potentially Dealbreaking Differences (Part 1) with My Husband, Todd https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/nobody-wants-this-how-to-love-across-potentially-dealbreaking-differences-with-my-husband-todd/Watch our FULL IN-STUDIO CONVERSATION on YouTube:https://youtu.be/4R40kazeU4Q?t=9Reimagining Love Episode, Love Stories: Toddcast https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/love-stories-toddcast/Managing Back to School Stress on MasterClass:  http://masterclass.com/backtoschoolContinue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Cultivate connection by subscribing to Dr. Alexandra's newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Learn more on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

“The Lord says to Edom, ‘I will cut you down to size among the nations; you will be greatly despised. You have been deceived by your own pride because you live in a rock fortress and make your home high in the mountains. “Who can ever reach us way up here?” you ask boastfully. But even if you soar as high as eagles and build your nest among the stars, I will bring you crashing down,' says the Lord.” - Obadiah 1:2-4Obadiah is the shortest book of the Old Testament. Standing at one chapter, 21 verses, it's a quick yet pointed announcement of judgment against the land of Edom. While the book is short, it didn't stop my guest and me from talking about it for nearly 45 minutes. Obadiah has a lot to teach us on what God is judging Edom about, while also warning us what to be on the lookout for in our own lives. It's a book about the results of pride, violence, and apathy. To help us navigate the book of Obadiah is Dr. Paul Raabe, Professor Emeritus of Exegetical Theology at Concordia Seminary, author of a commentary on Obadiah, as well as a new commentary on Isaiah and Reclaiming the Creedal Jesus in America. Doable Discipleship is a Saddleback Church podcast produced and hosted by Jason Wieland. It premiered in 2017 and now offers more than 450 episodes. Episodes release every Tuesday on your favorite podcast app and on the Saddleback Church YouTube Channel (https://www.youtube.com/saddleback).Resources Related to This Episode:https://www.amazon.com/Obadiah-Anchor-Yale-Bible-Commentaries/dp/0300139713https://www.amazon.com/Isaiah-13-27-Commentary-Paul-Raabe/dp/0758681267/Subscribe to the Doable Discipleship podcast at Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/doable-discipleship/id1240966935) or Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/1Zc9nuwQZOLadbFCZCmZ1V)Related Doable Discipleship Episodes: Navigating the Bible: Amos - https://youtu.be/8DqVHu7leDUNavigating the Bible: Joel - https://youtu.be/Ilg6r300q4UNavigating the Bible: Hosea - https://youtu.be/nWZ4TuAUSRQNavigating the Bible: Daniel - https://youtu.be/bnQ-PioWxfgNavigating the Bible: Ezekiel - https://youtu.be/hlg6gBYxqsgNavigating the Bible: Lamentations - https://youtu.be/6rrizlXeYXENavigating the Bible: Jeremiah - https://youtu.be/lXPjWl8PdRkNavigating the Bible: Isaiah - https://youtu.be/NZJLaPkgEgsNavigating the Bible: Song of Songs - https://youtu.be/Sg0CYlNBVMgNavigating the Bible: Ecclesiastes - https://youtu.be/-Wr7LCh8F9ENavigating the Bible: Proverbs - https://youtu.be/DytRT5AsZg8Navigating the Bible: Psalms - https://youtu.be/oZeesooAYUINavigating the Bible: Job - https://youtu.be/14jaf2T1eCQNavigating the Bible: Esther - https://youtu.be/7RZ7ATWQZucNavigating the Bible: Nehemiah - https://youtu.be/Gok4WDgwn5INavigating the Bible: Ezra - https://youtu.be/aBC0nEjYeyoNavigating the Bible: 2 Chronicles - https://youtu.be/OG3rHTgMgEINavigating the Bible: 1 Chronicles - https://youtu.be/lQ_Qc4zbfgANavigating the Bible: 2 Kings - https://youtu.be/04q9gDhBKTkNavigating the Bible: 1 Kings - https://youtu.be/aS-KoeQXl2kNavigating the Bible: 2 Samuel - https://youtu.be/ZbpafGgOW7cNavigating the Bible: 1 Samuel - https://youtu.be/lY8wPElSFMYNavigating the Bible: Rute - https://youtu.be/YaH-t-ZzTaMNavigating the Bible: Judges - https://youtu.be/qNGcOf2o0NUNavigating the Bible: Joshua - https://youtu.be/hF28aThBtFsNavigating the Bible: Deuteronomy - https://youtu.be/HzmNgPOM4zUNavigating the Bible: Numbers - https://youtu.be/H1HO6V9HDxsNavigating the Bible: Leviticus - https://youtu.be/08RhDCXYex4Navigating the Bible: Exodus - https://youtu.be/NB9UTpS1F3MNavigating the Bible: Genesis - https://youtu.be/ddhjMfOoasAInspiring Dreams by Keys of Moon | https://soundcloud.com/keysofmoonMusic promoted by https://www.chosic.com/free-music/all/Creative Commons CC BY 4.0https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

High-conflict divorce doesn't just end a marriage, it can shake your identity, your parenting, and your ability to feel grounded. Joining me to share guidance for parents at the beginning, in the thick of it, or still processing the aftermath is divorce coach Karen McMahon.   Together we explore:   - What defines a high-conflict parent and how this dynamic impacts families. - Why trying to change your ex keeps you stuck—and where your real power lies. - Practical strategies to co-parent effectively, even when cooperation feels impossible. - How to protect kids from the emotional "shrapnel" of conflict while staying grounded yourself. - How unresolved trauma and attachment patterns can influence who we choose as partners—and how to break those cycles. - The role of boundaries, support systems, and self-healing in transforming not just your divorce, but your identity moving forward.   Whether you're in the midst of a high-conflict divorce or supporting someone who is, this conversation offers compassionate insight and practical tools to help you reclaim your confidence, protect your children, and move forward with grace.     LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST:

In this episode, Victoria explores attachment theory and DISC. From childhood caregiver bonds to professional relationships, Victoria unpacks how our early emotional experiences influence how we lead, connect, and collaborate.Listen in to learn the four main attachment styles - Anxious/Preoccupied, Avoidant/Dismissive, Fearful/Disorganized, and Secure - as well as the workplace applications, emotional regulation strategies, and “superpowers” for each. Victoria and Heather also share their own quiz results, laugh about their high-C tendencies, and reveal how self-awareness and emotional intelligence can help shift attachment patterns toward security.Victoria often says DISC is a great tool to have in your toolkit. So, what would DISC look like as tools you might find in a toolbox?High D - Hammer; maximum output, one hit could get the job doneHigh I - Flashlight; bright, illuminating the wayHigh S - Wrench; slowly, steadily does what's neededHigh C - Level; ensures accuracy and precisionEpisode Timestamps00:00 – Are you laughing?01:00 Today's Mood Meter02:00 – DISC as tools in a toolbox03:00 – What is Attachment Theory? 04:00 – How early experiences shape adult relationships06:00 – The Four Attachment Styles explained and how to take the quiz at attachmentproject.com08:00 – Style 1: Anxious/Preoccupied13:00 – Style 2: Avoidant/Dismissive17:00 – Style 3: Fearful Avoidant/Disorganized19:00 – Style 4: Secure21:00 – Leadership through attachment22:00 – Can your attachment style change?23:00 – “It's a sketch, not a portrait.” Using DISC and attachment insights to grow self-awareness24:00 – Closing thoughts and where to learn more about attachment stylesNotable Quotes “I think it's important to clarify that attachment is a spectrum, and so you may not fit one completely.” “Our greatest challenges often reveal great strengths. Our attachment styles can also be our superpowers.”“It's a sketch, not a portrait… we have all four DISC factors in us somewhere.”Resources MentionedTake the free attachment style quiz and explore detailed resources: https://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/Mark Brackett's How We Feel app and the Mood Meter framework: https://marcbrackett.com/how-we-feel-app-3/Key Takeaways:Attachment theory shapes how we connect, communicate, and lead based on early caregiver bonds.It's a spectrum — your style may shift across personal and professional relationships.Each style has both triggers and strengths:● Anxious: Seeks reassurance; strong collaborator.● Avoidant: Values independence; focused achiever.● Fearful: Cautious but highly responsive.● Secure: Balanced, trusting, and empathetic.Self-awareness and emotional regulation help shift from reaction to response.Attachment styles can evolve through secure relationships, therapy, or emotional intelligence work.If you're interested in learning more about team building, coaching, strategic hiring, and onboarding, let's connect!

Unlock God Mode is a 30-day framework designed to help you embody Neville Goddard's law of assumption and truly nevilize your life. Inside, you'll find transmissions and practical exercises that guide you into living from the end, reshaping your self-concept, and manifesting deliberately, consistently, and powerfully.

In this episode, Kappy shares what's on his plate at the moment. Links and handles mentioned in this episode:Acamaya | Chef Ana Castro | Lydia CastroBeaterBladeClean Plate ClubShare Our Strength | Feeding America | Hunger Free America | Food Bank Finder | Hunger Hotline | Volunteer InfoThe Blue Food Cookbook | Andrew Zimmern | Barton Seaver | Iain McPherson BtD EpisodeFrom Roy Panettone | IGFollow Beyond the Plate on Facebook and X.Follow Kappy on Instagram and X.www.beyondtheplatepodcast.com www.onkappysplate.com

What if “enough” wasn't a number — but a moment? This conversation explores the quiet art of leaving nothing essential undone. We talk about the trap of “more” — more savings, more time, more planning — and how it steals the urgency that makes life vivid. To die with zero regrets isn't to die empty; it's to die complete. Like an artist who finishes a painting not because it's perfect, but because it says what it needed to say. We explore how generosity, timing, and intention turn ordinary years into extraordinary ones. It's not about consuming your wealth — it's about converting it into meaning. Takeaways: Treat time as your most valuable currency. Design your life around moments that matter. Give forward — not backward. SPONSORS

How does Metta practice support attachment repair? How does this fit within the greater Mettagroup Method approach?Try our free video resource "The Main Signs of Attachment Disturbance " and learn how to identify core attachment disturbances, move beyond the challenges and live a truly meaningful life. Get it now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mettagroup.org/start-here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Mettagroup was founded by George Haas in 2003 and named the ‘Best Online Buddhist Meditation' by Los Angeles Magazine in 2011, Mettagroup uses Vipassana, or Insight meditation, as a way to help students live a meaningful life. Drawing from 2500-year-old Buddhist teachings and John Bowlby's Attachment Theory, the Mettagroup techniques serve as a model of how to connect with other people, and how to be completely yourself in relationships with others and with work.More info at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mettagroup.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

​Warning: This sleep hypnosis is designed to induce an eyes-closed trance. Do not listen to this audio while driving or doing anything that requires your complete attention.Ready to get them out of your head?Imagine what you could do with all that mental energy. Forgetting an Ex might be impossible, but does it have to hurt forever? This gentle daytime session can help you see that something new is possible.Love, Limerence, Attachment, Break-up, Divorce, Emotional Pain!You deserve to move on. It can be hard to believe that the best times are ahead of you, and hypnosis can suspend disbelief and make space for resolution in your brilliant unconscious mind. #Hypnosis #BreakuphypnosisVisit ⁠⁠⁠https://www.adriannehart.com/⁠⁠to reach me or join my group hypnosis for deeper transformation this Wellness Wednesday. #loveandlimerence#limerence#breakup#divorce#forgettinganex

In this transformative episode of Parenting Great Kids, Dr. Meg Meeker welcomes psychotherapist and parenting coach Todd Sarner to unpack powerful, research-backed parenting strategies that prioritize connection and attachment over behavior control. Sarner challenges the traditional "behavior-first" models and instead encourages a relational, attachment-first parenting style that fosters emotional regulation, trust, and long-term resilience in children.From exploring the root causes of conflict to rethinking discipline through the lens of unmet needs, this episode provides practical tools, mindset shifts, and actionable advice for parents navigating the complexities of raising emotionally healthy children in today's world. Todd also teases key insights from his upcoming book, The Calm and Connected Parent, making this a must-listen for any caregiver wanting to parent with purpose, empathy, and strength.About Our GuestTodd Sarner, MFT, is a psychotherapist and parenting coach who has spent over 20 years helping parents turn daily struggles into lasting connection and cooperation at home. He is the founder of Transformative Parenting and the author of the forthcoming book The Calm & Connected Parent: An Attachment-First Guide to Raising Resilient Kids in the Age of Screens and AI (November 2025). Blending attachment science with practical psychology, Todd offers clear, compassionate tools that move beyond theory into real-world strategies parents can use in heated moments. He specializes in working with high-achieving, thoughtful parents who often feel like they're doing everything “right” but still experience conflict, disconnection, or digital-age pressures. Through his coaching, teaching, and writing, Todd empowers families to help their children thrive emotionally while creating more calm and connection at home.

If you've ever felt like the weight of motherhood, work, and life is too much to bear, this episode will help you breathe again. Behavioral science professor and life coach Dr. Amber Curtis joins us to unpack what's really behind the stress and overwhelm so many moms experience - and how understanding your brain and nervous system can help you reclaim peace, productivity, and joy. Dr. Amber shares her own journey from burnout and near suicide to finding science-backed tools for emotional regulation, self-compassion, and true calm. You'll walk away with a new understanding of how your brain works under stress, why “just managing your time better” isn't the answer, and practical ways to start rewiring your responses in the moment. In this episode we talk about:

In this powerful conversation, I welcome Don Miguel Ruiz Jr. to discuss his new book, The Poisoned Arrow: A Toltec Guide to Overcoming Fear. Miguel shares candidly about how the book emerged from personal experiences, including a concussion, caregiver's fatigue, and a cancer scare, making it a deeply authentic exploration of fear in real-time healing. The discussion weaves together Toltec wisdom, modern challenges such as AI and social media, and practical approaches to working with both rational and irrational fears.About my GuestDon Miguel Ruiz Jr. is a Toltec Master of Transformation and author of multiple books, including The Five Levels of Attachment and The Mastery of Self. He carries forward the teachings of his grandmother, Madre Sarita, the spiritual head of their family. From that early age, he was called upon to translate Madre Sarita's prayers, lectures, and workshops from Spanish into English. In this way, through constant repetition and review, he learned the content of her teachings in both languages. Miguel now brings ancient Toltec wisdom into practical, accessible language for modern life, transforming the lives of countless souls. Find his work:The Poisoned Arrow: A Toltec Guide to Overcoming Fear - Available wherever books are sold

In this part 3 of our Attachment series, therapist Rebecca Prolman joins John Kim to unpack how childhood misattunement wires shame, why anger isn't the enemy, and how “emotional completion” helps you reclaim the parts you exiled to survive. They explore corrective relationships (why real safety can feel scary), co-regulation for kids, and practical steps to move from fawning to sovereignty. Key topics & takeaways: Shame as a survival strategy that blocks primary emotions (grief/anger) Emotional completion: feeling what shame protected so it can release Co-regulation vs. punishment/time-outs for children's anger Corrective relationships: safety, grief, and why “boring” can be secure Depth sustains attraction; chemistry alone burns out Naming early ruptures without making caregivers “villains” Methods mentioned: NARM — Neuro-Affective Relational Model (Dr. Laurence Heller ). Resources (as mentioned by Rebecca): Try Rebecca's mini course if you're new to this work; consider the 5-module course for deeper practice HERE Parts 1 HERE & Part 2 of this series HERE

Are your toddler's meltdowns leaving you “touched out” and wondering how to stay calm? What if the fastest way to end tantrums is more connection—not more limits?In this video, we break down attachment parenting for toddlers—the practical, science-aligned way to reduce tantrums, boost cooperation, and rebuild calm (in you and your child). You'll learn why kids imitate your emotions but can't yet regulate them, how to be the adult in the room, and the exact strategies we used to go 16+ years without tantrums in our home.We'll show you how to increase your capacity (food, sleep, recovery) so you're not running on empty, plus simple co-regulation tools like cuddle-pauses, couch resets, and family calm breaks. Attachment isn't coddling—it's how kids become secure and independent. When their emotional bucket is full, clinginess drops and behavior improves. Parenting isn't convenient—but it can be effective.Key Takeaways✅ Attachment first makes every other parenting strategy work better✅ Capacity over boundaries: build yourself up so you can show up✅ Food & sleep are fuel for patience, presence, and self-control✅ Fill the bucket daily: secure kids act better and rebel less✅ Pause > push through: a 2-minute cuddle beats a 20-minute battleMemorable Quotes

Set the context for a joyful, exuberant day with a short, powerful message from Sadhguru. Explore a range of subjects with Sadhguru, discover how every aspect of life can be a stepping stone, and learn to make the most of the potential that a human being embodies.  Conscious Planet: ⁠https://www.consciousplanet.org⁠ Sadhguru App (Download): ⁠https://onelink.to/sadhguru__app⁠ Official Sadhguru Website: ⁠https://isha.sadhguru.org⁠ Sadhguru Exclusive: ⁠https://isha.sadhguru.org/in/en/sadhguru-exclusive⁠ Inner Engineering Link: isha.co/ieo-podcast Yogi, mystic and visionary, Sadhguru is a spiritual master with a difference. An arresting blend of profundity and pragmatism, his life and work serves as a reminder that yoga is a contemporary science, vitally relevant to our times. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Alexandra is in-studio with her husband, Todd, for this special two-part conversation about loving across potentially dealbreaking differences. Inspired by the Netflix show, Nobody Wants This, starring Kristen Bell and Adam Brody, Dr. Alexandra and Todd reflect on navigating a faith difference, with Dr. Alexandra ultimately converting to Judaism in preparation for their marriage. They discuss the larger question: how can a couple go about navigating ANY potentially dealbreaking difference? You'll hear their reflections on Dr. Alexandra's decision to convert to Judaism, as they discuss the implications of being the 'sacrificing partner' versus the one being 'sacrificed for'. You will also hear how attachment differences and family of origin dynamics impacted their relationship and what they've learned from it all over the years. You'll come away from this episode with:A deeper understanding of how interfaith dynamics can enrich or challenge relationships.Insights into the importance of communication in overcoming differences.Practical advice on navigating family of origin roles and attachment styles to enhance relationship intimacy.Resources worth mentioning from the episode:Reimagining Love Episode, Love Stories: Toddcast https://dralexandrasolomon.com/podcasts/love-stories-toddcast/Managing Back to School Stress on MasterClass:  http://masterclass.com/backtoschoolContinue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Cultivate connection by subscribing to Dr. Alexandra's newsletter: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/subscribe/Learn more on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

“Do what is good and run from evil so that you may live! Then the Lord God of Heaven's Armies will be your helper, just as you have claimed. Hate evil and love what is good; turn your courts into true halls of justice. Perhaps even yet the Lord God of Heaven's Armies will have mercy on the remnant of his people.” - Amos 5:14-15The book of Amos has a bit of a reputation. It's not known for being the most fun of the minor prophets. It doesn't pop up in many sermons, you don't see many Bible studies focused on it. There are many reasons why this is the case. Amos is a harsh book - he doesn't hold back on what he has to say. In chapter 8 it says, “The Lord said, ‘Like this fruit, Israel is ripe for punishment! I will not delay their punishment again. In that day the singing in the Temple will turn to wailing. Dead bodies will be scattered everywhere. They will be carried out of the city in silence.'” Again . . . not the most fun read. However, the true heart of the book of Amos is an incredibly important message about how you view God. It's a book about justice. It's a book about repentance. It's a book about the true heart of worship. To help us navigate the book of Amos is Dr. Danny Carroll, Scripture Press Ministries Professor of Biblical Studies at Wheaton College. Danny has studied, taught, and written about Amos for decades, including writing some commentaries on the book. Today he'll explain why Amos has captured his attention for so long, why it's such a unique book in the prophets, and how the church, particularly in America, should pay extra attention to its warnings.Doable Discipleship is a Saddleback Church podcast produced and hosted by Jason Wieland. It premiered in 2017 and now offers more than 400 episodes. Episodes release every Tuesday on your favorite podcast app and on the Saddleback Church YouTube Channel (https://www.youtube.com/saddleback).Resources Related to This Episode:https://www.amazon.com/Book-Amos-International-Commentary-Testament/dp/0802825389Subscribe to the Doable Discipleship podcast at Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/doable-discipleship/id1240966935) or Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/1Zc9nuwQZOLadbFCZCmZ1V)Related Doable Discipleship Episodes: Navigating the Bible: Joel - https://youtu.be/Ilg6r300q4UNavigating the Bible: Hosea - https://youtu.be/nWZ4TuAUSRQNavigating the Bible: Daniel - https://youtu.be/bnQ-PioWxfgNavigating the Bible: Ezekiel - https://youtu.be/hlg6gBYxqsgNavigating the Bible: Lamentations - https://youtu.be/6rrizlXeYXENavigating the Bible: Jeremiah - https://youtu.be/lXPjWl8PdRkNavigating the Bible: Isaiah - https://youtu.be/NZJLaPkgEgsNavigating the Bible: Song of Songs - https://youtu.be/Sg0CYlNBVMgNavigating the Bible: Ecclesiastes - https://youtu.be/-Wr7LCh8F9ENavigating the Bible: Proverbs - https://youtu.be/DytRT5AsZg8Navigating the Bible: Psalms - https://youtu.be/oZeesooAYUINavigating the Bible: Job - https://youtu.be/14jaf2T1eCQNavigating the Bible: Esther - https://youtu.be/7RZ7ATWQZucNavigating the Bible: Nehemiah - https://youtu.be/Gok4WDgwn5INavigating the Bible: Ezra - https://youtu.be/aBC0nEjYeyoNavigating the Bible: 2 Chronicles - https://youtu.be/OG3rHTgMgEINavigating the Bible: 1 Chronicles - https://youtu.be/lQ_Qc4zbfgANavigating the Bible: 2 Kings - https://youtu.be/04q9gDhBKTkNavigating the Bible: 1 Kings - https://youtu.be/aS-KoeQXl2kNavigating the Bible: 2 Samuel - https://youtu.be/ZbpafGgOW7cNavigating the Bible: 1 Samuel - https://youtu.be/lY8wPElSFMYNavigating the Bible: Rute - https://youtu.be/YaH-t-ZzTaMNavigating the Bible: Judges - https://youtu.be/qNGcOf2o0NUNavigating the Bible: Joshua - https://youtu.be/hF28aThBtFsNavigating the Bible: Deuteronomy - https://youtu.be/HzmNgPOM4zUNavigating the Bible: Numbers - https://youtu.be/H1HO6V9HDxsNavigating the Bible: Leviticus - https://youtu.be/08RhDCXYex4Navigating the Bible: Exodus - https://youtu.be/NB9UTpS1F3MNavigating the Bible: Genesis - https://youtu.be/ddhjMfOoasAInspiring Dreams by Keys of Moon | https://soundcloud.com/keysofmoonMusic promoted by https://www.chosic.com/free-music/all/Creative Commons CC BY 4.0https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Many people struggle with anxiety, relationship patterns, or chronic health conditions without realizing these challenges stem from attachment trauma stored in the body. Attachment isn't just about relationship styles or emotional patterns—it lives in our nervous system, immune system, and cellular biology, creating survival mechanisms that formed before we could even walk. In this episode, I reveal how attachment trauma begins in utero and shapes three distinct childhood survival styles that show up in your life today. I share my own rocking chair moment with my adopted son Miguel, explaining how that experience led me to discover the three critical elements that create secure or insecure attachment: attunement, neurodevelopment, and biology. You'll learn about the six types of attachment pain—from "hold me" to "love me"—and discover why people-pleasing, perfectionism, chronic overwhelm, and even autoimmune conditions trace back to these early survival adaptations. Whether you're a professional working with attachment issues, someone recognizing your own patterns, or a parent wanting to break intergenerational cycles, this episode bridges conventional psychology with nervous system regulation and functional medicine. You'll understand why traditional talk therapy often hits a wall with attachment healing, and what becomes possible when you address the body's stored attachment pain across all three levels: mind, body, and biology. In this episode, you'll learn: [00:00:22] Why attachment trauma lives in your body's cells and immune system, not just your relationship patterns [00:05:11] Three critical elements that create secure or insecure attachment: attunement, neurodevelopment, and biology [00:10:32] Critical Element #1 - Attunement: The trust cycle and co-regulation through eye contact, touch, and need responsiveness [00:15:34] The Rope Test: discovering your primary childhood survival style in relationships when survival feels at stake [00:18:48] Critical Element #2 - Neurodevelopment: How tummy time and crawling gaps create anxiety, ADHD, and sensory issues [00:24:41] Critical Element #3 - Biology: Which neurotransmitters promote connection versus protection in your nervous system [00:27:49] Attachment Pain #1 - Hold Me: Early holding needs and global high intensity activation pattern [00:30:02] Attachment Pain #2 - Hear Me: When your needs weren't heard and you learned to rescue others while feeling empty [00:32:56] Attachment Pain #3 - Support Me: Movement support gaps that create "I can't" default thinking and overwhelm [00:35:22] Attachment Pain #4 - See Me & Attachment Pain #5 - Understand Me: Being different and unique, yet feeling drained when people don't understand you [00:37:05] Attachment Pain #6 - Love Me: Perfectionism, high inner anxiety, and the fear of being unlovable [00:40:35] The repair approach: addressing body, mind, and biology across all six attachment pain types Main Takeaways: Attachment Lives in Your Body, Your Mind: Attachment trauma isn't only about relationship patterns or emotional wounds—it's stored in your nervous system, immune system, digestive system, and cells. Your body holds muscle memory of childhood survival patterns that show up as chronic health conditions, hypervigilance, people-pleasing, and perfectionism decades later. Three Critical Elements Create Your Attachment Foundation: Attunement (co-regulation through touch and responsiveness), neurodevelopment (movement milestones like crawling), and biology (neurotransmitter balance) all determine whether you developed secure or insecure attachment. Gaps in any one of these elements create attachment pain that requires repair across all three levels. The Trust Cycle Builds Nervous System Security: When babies experience the repeated pattern of need-dysregulation-need met-regulation-connection, they develop inborn trust that "when I have a need, I'm going to be okay because they always come." Without enough repetitions of this trust cycle, the body stores the belief that survival depends on protection rather than connection. Your Childhood Survival Style Shows Up Today: The Rope Test reveals whether you pull people close, push them away, or feel confused in relationships when your survival feels threatened. These aren't conscious choices—they're stored patterns from how your young self had to survive. Whether pulling close or pushing away, both responses come from protection mode, not connection. Six Sequential Attachment Pains Create Distinct Patterns: Hold me (birth to months), hear me (first year), support me (second year), see me (age three), understand me (age four-five), and love me (age six-seven) represent sequential developmental stages. Each creates specific thoughts, feelings, physical symptoms, and coping mechanisms that can be identified and repaired. Chronic Illness Traces to Stored Attachment Pain: IBS and autoimmunity connect to "hold me" attachment pain, food issues and emotional eating link to "hear me" attachment pain, and back pain flare-ups and stomach ulcers signal "understand me" attachment insecurity. These aren't random—they're the body's downstream response to unresolved attachment trauma. Notable Quotes: "For him, survival meant protecting his heart." "There's an existential anxiety that is created when you don't know if you really exist." "You can have had great parents and still have these survival patterns from your childhood.  "Everything that I experience today is filtered through my attachment foundation."  "If I don't change my filter, I will continue to recreate the same pain for the rest of my life." Episode Takeaway: When my five-year-old adopted son told me he would kill me tomorrow while I held him like a baby, I realized his survival depended on protecting his heart—not connecting. That rocking chair moment launched six years of searching that revealed attachment isn't just psychological, it's biological. Your attachment foundation formed through three critical elements: attunement, neurodevelopment, and biology. Gaps create six sequential attachment pains that live in your nervous system and show up as chronic health conditions, relationship patterns, and survival responses today. True repair requires addressing all three levels simultaneously—mind, body, and biology—because everything you experience is filtered through your childhood attachment foundation. Resources/Guides: The Biology of Trauma book - Available now everywhere books are sold. Get your copy Foundational Journey - If you are ready to create your inner safety and shift your nervous system, join me and my team for this 6 week journey of practical somatic and mind-body inner child practices. Lay your foundation to do the deeper work safely and is the pre-requisite for becoming a Biology of Trauma® professional.  Related Episodes: Episode 69: How Attachment Shapes Our Biology and Behavior with Dr. Aimie Apigian Episode 128: How Attachment Trauma Drives Anxiety, Autoimmunity & Chronic Illness Your host: Dr. Aimie Apigian, double board-certified physician (Preventive/Addiction Medicine) with master's degrees in biochemistry and public health, and author of the national bestselling book "The Biology of Trauma" (foreword by Gabor Maté) that transforms our understanding of how the body experiences and holds trauma. After foster-adopting a child during medical school sparked her journey, she desperately sought for answers that would only continue as she developed chronic health issues. Through her practitioner training, podcast, YouTube channel, and international speaking, she bridges functional medicine, attachment and trauma therapy, facilitating accelerated repair of trauma's impact on the mind, body and biology. Disclaimer: By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical, psychological, or mental health advice to treat any medical or psychological condition in yourself or others. This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always consult your own physician, therapist, psychiatrist, or other qualified health provider regarding any physical or mental health issues you may be experiencing. Comment Etiquette: I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Please share and use your name or initials so that we can keep this space spam-free and the discussion positive

Joining me this week is Dr. Peter Vermeulen, psychologist, author, and founder of Autism in Context. Peter has spent more than 35 years helping families, educators, and clinicians better understand autism and what it truly means to live a happy, meaningful life.   Together we explore:   - Why happiness and well-being deserve as much attention as therapies or interventions for autistic individuals - and what we can learn from autistic people who are thriving. - How reframing "stereotyped interests" as passions and talents can open doors to meaning, confidence, and even careers. - Why predictability is so essential for autistic children's sense of safety and how parents can build that into daily routines and relationships to foster a secure attachment bond. - Just like you feed your child before they get hangry, how parents can "pre-regulate" their child's nervous system throughout the day to prevent overload, meltdowns, and dysregulation. - Why autistic children absolutely do form attachments — and how differences in communication and perception can lead to misunderstandings in connection, not an absence of it. - Practical ways to nurture love and security (Spoiler: things like creating predictable rituals, using concrete symbols, establishing shared routines to strengthen your bond, and more!)   Peter's message is both deeply compassionate and hopeful: autistic individuals are capable of happiness, love, and purpose — and when we meet them with curiosity and respect for how their brains see the world, we can help them build lives filled with meaning and joy.     LEARN MORE ABOUT MY GUEST:

This episode is brought to you by Audible, Fatty15 and LMNT. Today I we sit down with psychotherapist and author Jessica Baum to explore how our earliest attachment patterns and trauma bonds shape the way we love, connect, and heal. Drawing from her groundbreaking new book SAFE: A Process for Creating Safe and Intimate Relationships with Yourself and Others, Jessica explains how the body stores implicit memory, why safety—not strength—is the gateway to healing, and how we can transform our nervous system responses to build secure, authentic relationships. Together, Chase and Jessica dive into the neuroscience of trauma healing, the difference between familiar love and real safety, the role of co-regulation, and how facing your own fears of abandonment can lead to the deepest peace and connection you've ever known. Follow Jessica @jessicabaumlmhc Follow Chase @chase_chewning ----- 00:00 – Why we repeat unhealthy relationship patterns 02:00 – How childhood attachment and body memory shape love 04:00 – Safely feeling what we've suppressed 06:00 – When healing triggers hidden trauma 07:30 – Safety as the gateway to true healing 10:00 – The science of trauma healing and earned security 13:30 – Safe love vs. familiar love 15:30 – Vulnerability, intimacy, and doing the work 17:00 – Healing while single vs. within a relationship 18:00 – Finding anchors: people who help you feel safe 19:30 – Why we crave love even after pain 20:50 – Mistaking intensity for love and trauma bonding 23:30 – Starting the work and finding support 25:00 – How to "therapy yourself" and identify core wounds 27:00 – How trauma lives in the body 30:00 – The nervous system, polyvagal theory, and safety cues 33:00 – Understanding nervous system states (ventral, sympathetic, dorsal) 35:00 – Co-regulation and energetic connection 38:00 – How to recognize a trauma bond 41:00 – Learning to be safe alone 43:00 – Healing abandonment and generational patterns 47:00 – Revisiting childhood wounds without parents 50:00 – Parenting, awareness, and intergenerational healing 52:00 – "It's not your fault, but it is your responsibility" 54:00 – Talking to your inner child and resourcing safety 56:00 – Anchors, inner and outer, for emotional regulation 59:00 – Revisiting painful memories and integrating trauma 01:00:30 – How trauma healing improves physical health 01:03:00 – Compassion, memory, and changing your past 01:06:00 – The role of compassion in creating safe relationships 01:09:00 – The science and humility behind SAFE 01:13:00 – Redefining "Ever Forward": slowing down to heal ----- Episode resources: Get Jessica's book for FREE with your 30-day trial of Audible  Get an additional 15% off the already discounted 90-day starter kit of C15:0 essential fatty acids at https://www.Fatty15.com/everforward  Get a FREE variety sample pack of LMNT electrolytes with any purchase at https://www.DrinkLMNT.com/everforward  Watch and subscribe on YouTube

John Kim and Rebecca Prolman unpack how childhood attachment wounds and the shame-based adaptations they create - shape adult relationships. They trace core capacities (connection, attunement, trust, autonomy, love/sexuality) and show how co-regulation and healthy boundaries restore intimacy and desire. Resources mentioned: NARM (NeuroAffective Relational Model) framework and a 5-module course by Rebecca you can find HERE Part 1 of this series HERE

Dr Kirk Honda reviews an article by Dr Pascal Vrticka that debunks myths about attachment theory.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.00:00 Dr. Pascal Vrticka01:04 Are dads 'secondary moms'? 02:13 Is the Triune Brain Model a good explanation of attachment?09:13 Is synchrony better for attachment? 29:53 Is Oxytocin just the love hormone? 36:31 Is Polyvagal Theory supported by current literature?45:31 Are there parenting hacks that work for everybody? 49:41 Is there really a left and right brain?  50:51 Does attachment involve more than just fear and stress?52:38 Why is parent-child bonding important to say? 53:13 Do parents always need to be 'on'?54:03 Is attachment parenting based on attachment theory?1:10:55 Should parents let their babies cry it out?1:15:25 Do we inherit our attachment style?1:26:24 Are Buddhism and attachment theory related? Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaNovember 3, 2025The Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com

Welcome to another episode of Restoring the Soul. Today, Michael John Cusick is joined by author, speaker, and men's group leader Drew Boa to discuss Drew's groundbreaking new book, Outgrow Porn: Find Lasting Freedom Without Fighting an Exhausting Battle.This conversation dives deep into breaking free from pornography—not through more willpower or "white-knuckling," but by truly healing and growing emotionally, relationally, and spiritually. Drew shares how his approach helps men connect with their inner child, understand their sexual fantasies, and use practical tools (14 of them, to be exact) to experience genuine freedom. They also discuss the impact of betrayal and sexual addiction on wives and partners, highlighting the importance of support and compassion for everyone affected.Together, Michael and Drew challenge the traditional “battle” rhetoric around pornography recovery and invite listeners into a paradigm-shifting journey—one where lasting change is possible and shame doesn't get the final word.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

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