Podcasts about Attachment

HT2664 - Our Attachment to Stuff In the early 1980s, I fumbled a lens swap and dropped an expensive view camera lens into the Pacific Ocean. I grieved then and still grieve to this day. Why is stuff so important? Every photographer I know has a piece of gear they lament selling — or losing. Isn't it silly that we can be so attached to stuff? I used to think this had something to do with the loss of potential, but now I'm not so sure. I once had a client who owned a Western store and I learned a great deal about stuff and our sense of self-identity from that experience. Show your appreciation for our free weekly Podcast and our free daily Here's a Thought… with a donation Thanks!

[Rerun] Chapter 4 in Dr. Kirk's deep dive on attachment theory. (Intro) March 21, 2019This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Support us by... Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleContact us/more info... Email: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactAbout Dr. Kirk: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/about-dr-kirk-hondaWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comGet stuff... Merch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/KIRKgram (like Cameo): https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/kirkgramThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being. Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com

Dr. Lili de Hoyos Anderson continues her deep dive into the ministry of Elijah from the spectacular fire of Mount Carmel to the still small voice that followed, revealing how God meets his servants at their breaking points, why the sealing power Elijah holds is the foundation of every family's eternal hope, and what it means to exercise righteous power in a world that has demonized it.YOUTUBE: https://youtu.be/452lhpFd7CgFREE PDF DOWNLOADS OF followHIM QUOTE BOOKSNew Testament: https://tinyurl.com/PodcastNTBookOld Testament: https://tinyurl.com/PodcastOTBookBook of Mormon: https://tinyurl.com/PodcastBMBook WEEKLY NEWSLETTERhttps://tinyurl.com/followHIMnewsletter SOCIAL MEDIAInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/followHIMpodcastFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/followhimpodcastTIMECODE0:00 - Part 2 - Dr. Lili de Hoyos Anderson2:44  Where do you stand?4:19 The Mt. Carmel contest7:17 Fire falls and fasting as spiritual weight room11:33 Bridling passions and Jezebel's threats15:46 Elijah on Mt. Horeb and the still, small, voice22:42 Will you stand forever?27:22 Attachment injuries and attachment to God30:27 Dr. Anderson's tribute to her husband Chris35:37 God can bridge any gap38:25 The sealing power worth the Restoration's talk41:18 The gospel is about uniting46:24 God's generosity with sealings49:47 Israel granted superpower status through obedience 52:07 Jesus Christ's meekness55:55 Elijah's power and meekness58:18 Addiction recovery and identifying as child of God1:01:40 The lie that sin makes you free1:03:40 The roles of Christ made possible by His Power1:07:46 End of Part 2 - Dr. Lili de Hoyos AndersonThanks to the followHIM team:Steve & Shannon Sorensen: Cofounder, Executive Producer, SponsorDavid & Verla Sorensen: SponsorsDr. Hank Smith: Co-hostJohn Bytheway: Co-hostDavid Perry: ProducerKyle Nelson: Marketing, SponsorLisa Spice: Client Relations, Editor, Show NotesWill Stoughton: Video EditorKrystal Roberts: Translation Team, English & French Transcripts, WebsiteAriel Cuadra: Spanish TranscriptsAmelia Kabwika: Portuguese TranscriptsHeather Barlow: Communications DirectorSydney Smith: Social Media, Graphic Design "Let Zion in Her Beauty Rise" by Marshall McDonaldhttps://www.marshallmcdonaldmusic.com

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk describes how to use attachment theory in therapy. (Intro) March 20, 2019 This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Support us by... Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleContact us/more info... Email: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactAbout Dr. Kirk: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/about-dr-kirk-hondaWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comGet stuff... Merch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/KIRKgram (like Cameo): https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/kirkgramThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being. Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com

Kayleigh sits down with her former therapist, Hilary Waller, to reflect on the years they spent working together after Kayleigh's amniotic fluid embolism (AFE), birth trauma, and the life-altering experiences that followed. Together, they explore the therapeutic relationship, what healing actually looks like over time, and how trauma recovery often evolves from surviving to grieving to fully living again.This conversation offers a rare behind-the-scenes look at therapy from both the client and therapist perspective. Hilary shares insights into trauma recovery, attachment, grief, identity, and the ways healing can continue long after the most acute pain has passed. It's an honest, thoughtful discussion about what it means to rebuild a life after trauma, and how relationships can become a powerful part of that process.In This Episode, We Discuss:

Growing up as millennials, we were often told not to be too loud, not to ask for help, and to push our feelings down. Attachment therapist and author Eli Harwood joins us to unpack how our upbringings shaped us and how we can break generational cycles as parents. Eli opens with a powerful reframe: our parents truly did the best they could with what they knew. From there, we dive deep into what childhood trauma actually looks like (and why so many of us don't recognize it as trauma), how to build resilience in our kids, and why the way we parent almost always traces back to how we were parented. Whether you struggle with patience, saying no, or knowing when to discipline versus when to have a conversation, Eli offers practical, connection-focused tools to help us show up differently for our kids.Key Topics Covered:What secure attachment looks like and why Eli centers her work on connection and relationship rather than control and behavior.How to identify the childhood experiences you may be carrying into adulthood without realizing they are traumas.Finding the middle ground between raising independent kids and raising kids who feel safe asking for help.The number one predictor of long-term resilience in children and how to actively foster it.Why millennial parents may struggle with patience, and why the birthing parent often has less of it than their non-birthing partner.Punishment versus conversation: how to rethink your approach when your child does something wrong.Why saying no feels so hard for millennial parents and what to do if you want to change that pattern.CONNECT WITH ELI:Instagram & Threads (@attachmentnerd): https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/attachmentnerdTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentnerdYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/@attachmentnerdGet Your Copy of Eli's Book: https://amzlink.to/az09tHmrRU6NT LINKS AND RESOURCES: BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herselfLMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF Let's connect!HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcastMEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskieferMEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreenThis episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

I sit down with Erica Komisar to talk about divorce, attachment, parenting, and the values shaping modern family life. We explore what current research says about separation and child development, why timing matters when divorce happens, and how early relationships influence who we become as adults. Erica also shares her perspective on motherhood, identity, emotional regulation, and the cultural shifts affecting relationships today. If you're navigating family decisions, raising children, or thinking deeply about what creates a meaningful life, this episode offers plenty to reflect on.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 - Introduction01:11 - Is Divorce Better Than a Bad Marriage?02:47 - Why Are Divorce and Child-Free Living Being Celebrated?09:06 - Development, Narcissism & Modern Relationships15:45 - The Pressure Between Career and Family16:09 - The Best and Worst Ages for Divorce22:47 - Stability, Attachment & Child Development23:03 - The Research Behind Early Attachment28:56 - Emotional Regulation and the First Three Years35:13 - What Stress Does to Children40:23 - Identity, Motherhood & Modern Culture44:00 - Production, Achievement & Meaning46:16 - Where to Find Erica's Work***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Satsang on 21 June 2026 conducted by Swami Sunishthananda.BankDetails for Donations:CBAA/C Name: Vedanta CentreBSB 06 3159A/C: 1056 1620 Onlineclass talk links: YouTube Link https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNzjwJ9X5QOY6NnOtrL45KA/  Available Listening Platforms Anchor https://anchor.fm/swami-sunishthananda Breaker https://www.breaker.audio/vedanta-melbourne-classes Podcasts https://www.google.com/podcasts?feed=aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy8yZGUyMTRlMC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw== Overcast https://overcast.fm/itunes1526036863/vedanta-melbourne-classes Pocket Casts https://pca.st/q0859ok9 Radio Public https://radiopublic.com/vedanta-melbourne-classes-G1PBQ4 Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/4N1MLlU3dfRvPUdz7xqY9l 

Dr Edna Lekgabe is a reproductive and perinatal psychiatrist. She joins Dr Preeya to chat about perinatal mental health - why it's so important, how it can impact pregnancy outcomes and what factors can help bonding and attachment.Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@doctor.preeya.alexander⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Books: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Eat, Sleep, Play, Love⁠⁠⁠⁠ by Dr Preeya Alexander⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Full Plate⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, out nowTo find out more about AIA Australia head to ⁠⁠⁠www.aia.com.au

If you've been "doing the work" for a while now, it's likely you have a firm grip on why you are the way you are. But many of us find ourselves stuck at the "knowledge and awareness" stage, struggling to put our insights into practice in a way that translates into lasting change. In this episode, I'm sharing thoughts on how to bridge that gap so that you don't find yourself on a never-ending hamster wheel of information-gathering that keeps you from experiencing relationships differently.LinksFree training on healing anxious attachment: http://stephanierigg.com/haa-webinar-opt-in Free resources: http://stephanierigg.com/free-resources Attachment quiz: http://stephanierigg.com/quiz Substack: https://stephanierigg.substack.com/

Frank talks with psychologist Paul Eastwick about the science of attraction, attachment, marriage, and long-term companionship.Drawing from his book Bonded by Evolution: The New Science of Love and Connection, Paul challenges the idea that relationships are mostly about status, dominance, or “mate value.” Instead, he argues that humans evolved for bonding, caregiving, emotional support, and mutual dependence.The conversation also explores online dating culture, the manosphere, sexuality, compatibility, and why people often misunderstand what makes relationships work._____LINKShttps://pauleastwick.comhttps://www.lovefactuallypod.comOur June It Has to Be Read. offering,Bonded by Evolution: The New Science of Love and Connection on BookshopI have had the pleasure of talking to some of the leading authors, artists, activists, and change-makers of our time on this podcast, and I want to personally thank you for subscribing, listening, and sharing 100-plus episodes over 100,000 times.Please subscribe to this Podcast, In Conversation… with Frank Schaeffer, on your favorite platform, and to my Substack, It Has to Be Said. Thanks! Every subscription helps create, build, sustain and put voice to this movement for truth. Subscribe to It Has to Be Said. The Gospel of Zip will be released in print and on Amazon Kindle, and as a full video on YouTube and Substack that you can watch or listen to for free.Support the show_____In Conversation… with Frank Schaeffer is a production of the George Bailey Morality in Public Life Fellowship. It is hosted by Frank Schaeffer, author of The Gospel of Zip.Learn more at https://www.thegospelofzip.com/Follow Frank on Substack, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Threads, TikTok, and YouTube.https://frankschaeffer.substack.comhttps://www.facebook.com/frank.schaeffer.16https://twitter.com/Frank_Schaefferhttps://www.instagram.com/frank_schaeffer_arthttps://www.threads.net/@frank_schaeffer_arthttps://www.tiktok.com/@frank_schaefferhttps://www.youtube.com/c/FrankSchaefferYouTubeIn Conversation… with Frank Schaeffer Podcast

The Opposite of Addiction Isn't Sobriety with Stefanos Sifandos | The Hopeaholics PodcastIn this episode of the Hopeaholics Podcast, Stefanos Sifandos joins the show for a deep and thought-provoking conversation about trauma, relationships, addiction, personal growth, and the journey toward true emotional freedom. As an internationally recognized relationship coach, author, and speaker, Stefanos has spent years helping people understand the hidden wounds that shape their behaviors, beliefs, and connections with others. He opens up about growing up in a household marked by violence, chaos, and emotional struggle, and how those early experiences led him on a lifelong search for healing and self-discovery. The conversation explores the powerful link between addiction and disconnection, why so many people avoid their emotions, and how unresolved childhood experiences continue to influence adult relationships. Stefanos also shares his perspective on attachment, vulnerability, masculinity, fatherhood, and the importance of developing a deeper relationship with yourself. Throughout the episode, he explains how generational trauma gets passed down, why meaningful connection is essential for healing, and what it takes to break destructive patterns that keep people stuck. With a unique blend of personal experience, psychology, spirituality, and practical wisdom, Stefanos offers insights that challenge conventional thinking and encourage lasting transformation.#thehopeaholics  #redemption #recovery  #AlcoholAddiction #AddictionRecovery #wedorecover #SobrietyJourney #MyStory #Hope #wedorecover #treatmentcenter #natalieevamarieJoin our patreon to get access to an EXTRA EPISODE every week of ‘Off the Record', exclusive content, a thriving recovery community, and opportunities to be featured on the podcast. https://patreon.com/TheHopeaholics Go to www.Wolfpak.com today and support our sponsors. Don't forget to use code: HOPEAHOLICSPODCAST for 10% off!Follow the Hopeaholics on our Socials:https://www.instagram.com/thehopeaholics https://linktr.ee/thehopeaholicsBuy Merch: https://thehopeaholics.myshopify.comVisit our Treatment Centers: https://www.hopebythesea.comIf you or a loved one needs help, please call or text 949-615-8588. We have the resources to treat mental health and addiction. Sponsored by the Infiniti Group LLC:https://www.infinitigroupllc.com Timestamps:00:13:24 - Growing Up Overweight, Insecure and Finding Fitness00:14:37 - Violence, Chaos and Trauma Inside His Childhood Home00:16:17 - Why His Difficult Childhood Sparked a Lifelong Study of Relationships00:23:12 - The Human Need for Belonging00:23:32 - Why the Opposite of Addiction Is Connection00:24:13 - Addiction, Isolation and the Emotions We All Share00:25:15 - Discovering He Was Neurodivergent00:35:03 - Why Society Teaches Us to Avoid Feeling00:36:23 - How Generational Trauma Gets Passed Down00:57:16 - Living in Denial and Hiding in the Shadows00:58:46 - Insecurity, Jealousy and Going Through Your Partner's Phone01:01:13 - How Fatherhood Opened His Heart01:05:08 - Working With His Wife and Confronting His Ego01:06:33 - The Meaning Behind His Book Tuned In and Turned On01:07:12 - How Childhood Shapes Adult Relationships, Love and Attachment

"And he stood between the living and the dead": A life of surrender, alignment, and openheartednessThis farbrengen will take place on Thursday night, 3 Tammuz, 5786, June 18, 2026, at Ohr Chaim Shul, 20 Forshay Rd, Monsey, NY, in tribute to the 32nd Yartzeit of the Lubavitcher Rebbe. There will be hot food served, and it will be accompanied by Live Music.

Please join us for “Creating Trauma-Sensitive Schools Conference: A Discussion with Tracy Leonard.”Tracy Leonard serves as the Executive Director of the Attachment & Trauma Network (ATN), bringing extensive experience in child advocacy, prevention, and trauma-informed education.Before stepping into the Executive Director role, Tracy served as ATN's Board President (2023–2025), helping guide strategic growth while strengthening governance, partnerships, and long-term planning. Her board service gave her a deep understanding of ATN's mission and the communities it serves.Tracy's professional career has focused on equipping adults with the knowledge and tools needed to protect and support children. Through her work with Darkness to Light, she supported and developed a national network of more than 2,000 facilitators and trained thousands of adults to recognize and respond to child sexual abuse using the Stewards of Children® curriculum.She also brings experience as a school leader and educator, having served as a K–6 site administrator in Mesa, Arizona, where the school improved from a “failing” designation to “performing plus.” Earlier in her career, she taught fine arts and early elementary education.Tracy is known for her collaborative, strategic, and mission-driven leadership. She is committed to expanding access to trauma-informed, attachment-focused resources that help families, schools, and communities support children impacted by trauma.She is an Affiliate Member of the Trust & Safety Professionals Association and a member of the American Professional Society on the Abuse of Children.Support the show

Why Your Man Shuts Down When You Try to Talk & What to Do Instead | FT: DR. Chris DavidCONNECT WITH CHARLENE On Instagram @mscharlenebyars ([https://www.instagram.com/mscharlenebyars] On YouTube @chosentraining ([https://www.youtube.com/@lovestorieswithcharlenebyars]Work with me HERE ([https://charlenebyars.com/](https://charlenebyars.com/)) CONNECT WITH CHRIS DAVID On Instagram @evolvedbychris (https://www.instagram.com/evolvedbychris?igsh=dmpya2pwNmNqeTdp) Work With Me Here: https://linktr.ee/evolvedbychris?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQPOTM2NjE5NzQzMzkyNDU5AAGnjXAnZgX9oxHKwhMERoqK6npC7-Q0YGS0suMCBsKXtusB1v_-ak8TlVB9VD4_aem_k254pW6ZWslcuWxdOfOkzg Relationship and attachment coach Chris joins the Love Stories podcast for one of the most eye-opening conversations yet. After a tumultuous 14-year marriage, a painful divorce, and years of studying human behavior, Chris built a practice helping people understand why their relationships keep failing, and what to actually do about it. In this episode, he breaks down the real difference between an avoidant man and a man who's just not that into you, why communication alone won't save your relationship, how men and women bond completely differently, the 70-30 rule for emotionally charged conversations, why you should give your man a problem to solve instead of making him the problem, and how attachment styles are fully correctable. We Cover in this whole Episode: 0:00 — Intro & teaser clips 1:30 — Host welcomes Chris; his mission explained 3:00 — How Chris got into relationship coaching 5:00 — Marrying young at 26: chemistry mistaken for love 8:00 — Mr. Nice Guy syndrome: never saying no 12:00 — Shame wounds in men and what drives people-pleasing 16:00 — Childhood, Catholic upbringing & performative love 20:00 — Why traditional marriage counseling often fails 24:00 — The affairs, the explosion, and staying another 10 years 28:00 — Post-divorce: 5 years of dating around the world 33:00 — Meeting his current partner: friendship first 37:00 — What was different this time: mindset shift 41:00 — Avoidant vs. just not that into you — the key difference 45:00 — Dismissive avoidant explained: the "perfect family" facade 49:00 — The four types of memory & emotional unavailability 53:00 — Attachment is fully correctable — here's how 57:00 — How men and women bond differently: oxytocin vs. vasopressin 1:01:00 — How to let a woman express herself without shutting down 1:05:00 — Give him a problem to solve, not make him the problem 1:10:00 — The 70-30 rule for difficult conversations 1:14:00 — Vasopressin, acts of service & why men need to feel needed 1:18:00 — The 3 A's: attention, affection, affirmations 1:21:00 — How to work with Chris / closing resources 1:24:00 — Final message: only one reason a relationship truly can't work 1:26:00 — Outro & subscribe call to action If you've ever felt unheard, disconnected, or stuck in the same relationship patterns, this episode will change the way you see yourself and your partner.

THE HOMEOPATHY HEALTH SHOW The Language of Human Milk: Lac Remedies, Oxytocin & the Foundations of Human Development with Patricia Hatherly. Episode Summary - Part-1 In this episode of the Homeopathy Health Show, we are joined by internationally respected homeopath, lactation consultant, educator, and author Patricia Hatherley, whose pioneering work with the LAC remedies has transformed the understanding of milk-based remedies within modern homeopathy. Drawing on decades of clinical experience and research, Patricia explores the profound relationship between breastfeeding, attachment, oxytocin, early childhood development, and the healing potential of remedies such as Lac Humanum, Lac Maternum, Lac Caninum, and Lac Lupinum. Together, we examine how the earliest experiences of nourishment, bonding, birth, and maternal connection shape human development and how disruptions to these processes may manifest physically, emotionally, and psychologically throughout life. This fascinating conversation bridges homeopathy, developmental science, attachment theory, and the wisdom of nature, offering unique insights into some of the deepest themes encountered in clinical practice. In This Episode We Explore Patricia's Journey into Homeopathy and Breastfeeding How a lifelong passion for mothering and breastfeeding led Patricia into homeopathy. Her transition from teacher to lactation consultant and internationally recognised homeopathic educator. The personal experiences that shaped her groundbreaking work with milk remedies. The Evolution of the LAC Remedies The origins and development of Patricia's work with milk remedies. Understanding the significance of human milk within homeopathy. Why the LAC remedies represent some of the deepest developmental themes in healing. Lac Maternum and Lac Humanum The essential differences between these two important remedies. Lac Maternum and the impact of birth trauma. Lac Humanum and the consequences of disrupted breastfeeding and nurturing. Clinical indications and key differentiating themes. Oxytocin, Attachment and Human Development The role of oxytocin in bonding, regulation, and emotional development. How modern birth interventions may affect natural oxytocin pathways. The connection between attachment theory and homeopathic prescribing. Why early nurturing experiences remain central to lifelong wellbeing. Breastfeeding and the Developing Child The unique biological intelligence contained within human milk. The influence of breastfeeding on the microbiome and immune system. Cultural and societal challenges surrounding breastfeeding today. The long-term consequences of maternal-child separation. Clinical Insights and Case Studies Patricia's experience using Lac remedies in developmental and behavioural cases. A detailed discussion of autism-spectrum presentations and long-term treatment approaches. Potency considerations and practical prescribing insights. Lessons learned from decades of clinical observation. Lac Caninum, Adoption and Identity The deeper themes of abandonment, belonging, and loss of mother. Clinical applications of Lac Caninum. The remedy's polarity, sensitivity, and transformational potential. Connections between trauma, self-worth, and identity formation. Lac Lupinum and Protective Bonding The symbolism of the wolf and its relevance to remedy understanding. Themes of protection, loyalty, belonging, and family structure. Key proving symptoms and clinical observations. Understanding the developmental significance of healthy bonding. Homeopathy, Birth and Early Trauma How birth experiences influence lifelong health patterns. The role of homeopathy in supporting children following difficult births. Patricia's reflections on miasms, labour, and the law of cure. Why birth history remains an essential part of case-taking. Human Connection in a Technological Age The importance of preserving natural processes of conception, birth, and nurturing. Concerns surrounding increasing technological intervention in reproduction. The role of human connection in healthy development. Why maternal care remains one of society's most valuable resources. About Our Guest Patricia Hatherley Patricia Hatherley is an internationally respected homeopath, lactation consultant, educator, author, and researcher whose pioneering work with milk remedies has significantly influenced contemporary homeopathic understanding. Drawing upon decades of experience supporting mothers, infants, and families, Patricia has developed a unique integration of breastfeeding science, attachment theory, developmental psychology, and classical homeopathy. Her extensive work with Lac Humanum, Lac Maternum, and other milk remedies has provided practitioners worldwide with valuable insights into the profound impact of early nurturing experiences on health and development. Patricia is a sought-after international speaker and teacher, known for her practical clinical wisdom, compassionate approach, and ability to bridge modern developmental science with homeopathic philosophy. About the Homeopathy Health Show The Homeopathy Health Show - co-hosted and produced by Atiq Ahmad Bhatti and Naila Cheema - is the world's #1 homeopathy talk show, reaching a global audience through the UK Health Radio Network and all major podcast platforms. Atiq Ahmad Bhatti, a 4th Generation Homeopath, Teacher, Educator, and Global Ambassador for Homeopathy, is joined by Naila Cheema, an experienced Homeopath and Nutritionist. Together, they bring thoughtful conversations, expert insights, and a shared passion for holistic healing to every episode. Connect with the Hosts Atiq Ahmad Bhatti - Homeopath, Educator, Broadcaster Online: www.liketreatslike.co.uk Instagram: @like_treatslike Facebook: @liketreatslike YouTube: like_treatslike Naila Cheema - Homeopath, Nutritionist, Educator Online: https://homeopathynaila.com Instagram: @homeopathnaila Facebook: @Neeli.KC Stream Now Across All Platforms UK Health Radio: https://ukhealthradio.com/program/homeopathy-health/ Podbean: https://homeopathyhealth.podbean.com/ Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/homeopathy-health-with-atiq-naila/id1715524908 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@like_treatslike/featured Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/17rSCmlPGDkiSCyHePLPFx?si=51c640498df84727 Join Our Global Community of Listeners Hosted by: Atiq & Naila Top 5% Podcast Worldwide (ListenNotes Global Ranking) #1 Global Talk Show on Homeopathy Audience in 60+ Countries Real conversations. Real stories. Real homeopathy. 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On episode 49, Michele gathers with hobbyist illustrator and author Brittany Sciolla for a great conversation to support parents, caregivers, and those connected with kids on ways to enjoy connective opportunities and to intentionally tap into those moments. This is not a “doing more” conversation but one that allows parents and caregivers to recognize and relish the moments that are already presented and how simplicity is key.On the episode we discuss: ·      Brittany's journey through her experiences of childhood trauma and attachment challenges·      Brittany's life transition from the corporate world to the creative world of illustration and attachment-focused and connection-focused work·      Tiny rituals that parents can incorporate immediately – even on the hard days·      Positive reactions when implementing the rituals·      Supports to parents or caregivers with older children·      Brittany's launch of her Connection Card Deck in summer 2026 Links:Website:https://kindredkeeps.shop/ Free Download The Little Rituals Playbook:https://kindredkeeps.myflodesk.com/littleritualsplaybook Instagram:@kindredkeeps

In this episode of Mother Mayhem, we meet a daughter navigating emotional chaos, triangulation, and repeated attachment loss caused by her mother's unstable relationships. We'll explore attachment trauma, toxic family systems, emotional unpredictability, forgiveness vs access, and what it means to finally stop building your life inside chaos.This episode is for daughters of narcissistic or emotionally immature mothers who are trying to break generational cycles, protect their children, and heal from unstable family dynamics. Join Our Community: MayhemDaughters.com/community

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In this episode, Gunter Swoboda explores the profound impact of the mentor wound—the absence of fathers, mentors, elders, and meaningful initiation—and how this hidden wound continues to shape men's identities, relationships, and emotional lives.Drawing on attachment theory, developmental psychology, and the role of rites of passage throughout history, Gunter examines how the decline of mentorship and eldering has left many men navigating adulthood without guidance or support. The episode explores the grief that accompanies what was missed, the importance of acknowledging the wound, and how healing begins by becoming the mentor the next generation needs.Topics• Understanding the mentor wound and its impact on men• Attachment theory and emotional development• The decline of traditional rites of passage• The importance of mentorship, guidance, and eldering• Grieving the absence of fathers and mentors• Reconstructing masculinity through conscious effort and connectionTakeaways• The mentor wound is a structural vulnerability, not simply personal sadness• Father absence creates deep psychological and relational gaps• Traditional rites of passage once played a vital role in initiating young men into adulthood• The decline of elders and mentorship leaves many men vulnerable and disconnected• Healing begins by grieving what was missed and becoming a mentor for othersSound Bites“Forgiveness and grief are not the same.”“Rebuilt by hand, one boy at a time.”“The next generation's right to be shown the way.”Inside This Episode• Understanding the mentor wound• How father absence affects development• Attachment theory and emotional formation• The role of rites of passage in manhood• Cultural shifts and modern masculinity• Grieving the absence of mentorship• Becoming the mentor you needed• Rebuilding masculinity through guidance, connection, and purposeGratitudeWe want to extend a huge thank you to our listeners in Charlotte for bringing North Carolina to #10 on the Top 10 USA listeners list. And to our Global Listeners, we extend our gratitude to our listeners in Instanbul (i-stan-bull) for bringing Turkey to #16 on our global listeners list! CONGRATULATIONS!! you made the Top Listeners List.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/inspire-change-with-gunter--3633478/support.PatreonIf this episode resonates with you and you'd like to go deeper into practical exercises and guided reflection, Gunter offers extended self-development resources and exercises through our Patreon community: www.patreon.com/inspirechangeSponsorDistil UnionThis episode of Inspire Change with Gunter is brought to you by Distil Union, creators of beautifully designed, functional everyday carry accessories that help bring organization, simplicity, and intention into your daily life.Distil Union blends craftsmanship with thoughtful design to help you carry what matters most — without the clutter.

Cameron Riecker is on a crusade to help Christian men step into the leadership and virtue they were called for. Whether you are single or married, man or woman, today's episode will shed light on the problems men are facing and the practical steps to overcome them. He also gives women advice on how to encourage the men in their lives.Cameron's channel: https://www.youtube.com/ ⁨@CameronRiecker⁩ NEW: Check out our Merch store! https://shop.lilaroseshow.com/Join our new Patreon community! https://patreon.com/lilaroseshow - We'll have BTS footage, ad-free episodes, and early access to our upcoming guests.A big thanks to our partner, EWTN, the world's leading religious network! Discover news, entertainment and more at https://www.ewtn.com/ Check out our Sponsors:-Seven Weeks Coffee: https://www.sevenweekscoffee.com Buy your pro-life coffee and Save up to 25% with promo code 'LILA' & get a free gift: http://www.sevenweekscoffee.com-Hallow: https://www.hallow.com/lila Enter into prayer more deeply this season with the Hallow App, get 3 months free by using this link to sign up! -Presidio Healthcare: Healthcare and doctors who share your values. Visit: https://www.presidiocare.com/lila -Cozy Earth: Better Sleep, Brighter Days - Get the highest quality sleep essentials for 20% OFF at https://cozyearth.com/lila!00:00:00 - Intro00:00:54 - Are modern men less masculine?00:03:44 - Why aren't men leading and initiating as much today?00:06:34 - Is chivalry dead?00:06:52 - Why wealth ISN'T necessary00:11:00 - What do women do that discourages men?00:14:15 - Loving others first is difficult (but Godly)00:17:03 - How satan uses parents00:20:07 - Is it harder to resist lust today?00:22:11 - #1 Wound In Men00:25:21 - What is chastity?00:29:03 - How to work on deeper wounds00:34:06 - How men can overcome insecurity?00:39:08 - Chemistry vs Compatibility00:40:35 - Little known dissection of St Francis's brain00:42:55 - How much disclosure does a man owe a woman?00:46:54 - How some women misunderstand modesty00:51:20 - Islamic Culture00:54:50 - The power of good suffering00:56:52 - How does a man know when he is ready to pursue a woman?00:58:29 - How to pray (sincerely)01:02:01 - Intentional or too intense?01:04:15 - Most underrated virtue in a husband?01:07:17 - Pay attention to how people treat their parents01:09:36 - What sustains a long term marriage?01:13:35 - Advice for women who attract the wrong guys?01:17:28 - Attachment style wounds01:19:12 - What gives you hope for modern love?

[Rerun] Dr. Kirk begins his deep dive on attachment theory by telling the story of the theory's originator, John Bowlby. (Intro) March 18, 2019This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.Support us by... Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleContact us/more info... Email: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactAbout Dr. Kirk: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/about-dr-kirk-hondaWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comGet stuff... Merch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/KIRKgram (like Cameo): https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/kirkgramThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being. Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com

Vision is one of the primary signals your nervous system reads for safety or danger. Under stress, peripheral vision collapses and the body locks into central focus. Dr. Bryce Appelbaum walks through three eye exercises that begin retraining the eye-brain connection and the felt sense of safety. ➡️ Full show notes: https://www.biologyoftrauma.com/post/vagus-nerve-and-vision-how-your-eyes-signal-safety-to-your-nervous-system In This Episode You'll Learn: 01:21 — What is neuro-optometry, and how is it different from a regular eye exam 03:46 — How do your eyes shape how you move through the world? 14:05 — Can an old concussion still be affecting you years later? 23:09 — How does early caregiving shape vision development? 33:31 — Eye exercise 1: How do you do peripheral pointing? 41:24 — Eye exercise 2: How do you do eye push-ups? 46:26 — Eye exercise 3: How do you do eye stretches and the 20-20-20 rule? 50:06 — What foods support eye and brain health? Resources/Guides: The Biology of Trauma® Professional Certificate Training trains health and helping practitioners in the same framework Lacey works from. If this episode resonated with how you want to work with clients, this is the path. ➡️ Full show notes with links and resources: https://www.biologyoftrauma.com/post/vagus-nerve-and-vision-how-your-eyes-signal-safety-to-your-nervous-system

In this episode of Regulated & Relational Tracy, Ginger, and Julie come together to mark a significant transition for the Attachment & Trauma Network: the retirement of longtime Executive Director, Julie Beem. Using this moment of change as a springboard, our hosts explore important elements of transition, both positive and negative, and the impact transition has on our bodies, our minds, and how we respond to and go about our daily lives. Through both professional insight and vulnerable personal stories Tracy, Ginger, and Julie unpack what it means to navigate change in a trauma-informed, attachment-focused way—for ourselves and for the children in our lives.Ginger Healy's current children's book, Stronger Together and other books authored by Ginger can be found: Ginger Healy publications website https://gingerhealy.com/publications Bookshop.org https://tinyurl.com/y8hcfscu

Matthew 6:9:“Pray then like this:‘Our Father in heaven…'” This is stunning. Because Jesus is teaching ordinary people how to relate to God. And He intentionally begins with intimacy. In first-century Judaism, God was holy, revered, majestic, and transcendent. And He is.But Jesus introduces something astonishing: closeness. The word Jesus uses carries familial intimacy. This is relational nearness. Jesus is saying: Prayer begins by remembering who you belong to.Before requests. Before confession. Before intercession. Belonging.Ruth Haley Barton writes, “The soul is like a wild animal—tough, resilient, resourceful, savvy, self-sufficient, and yet exceedingly shy.” Many of us have souls that have learned to hide.Prayer becomes the place where the soul slowly comes out of hiding in the presence of a safe Father.You belong first. Prayer is that place where true “belonging” begins. 

Send me a some feedback!In this episode, Mike introduces a powerful new framework for understanding the creation process: The Ladder of Desire. After nearly a decade of studying creation, consciousness, and human potential, he explores the emotional and energetic states from which we create our lives—and why the feeling behind our desires may matter more than the desire itself.At the center of this conversation is the understanding that the soul carries the dream, the mind creates the vision, and the body receives the experience. The journey from need, to want, to preference, to vision, and ultimately to anticipation is the process of releasing attachment, building internal certainty, and preparing the nervous system to receive what the soul is calling you toward.Key Takeaways1. The state you create from determines the experience of creating.Creating from need and lack creates pressure, attachment, and fear. As you move up the Ladder of Desire, you release internal conflict and move toward a place of openness and receptivity.2. The soul carries the dream, the mind creates it, and the body must be willing to receive it.True creation requires more than a vision. The nervous system must feel safe enough to embody and receive the life you are creating.3. Most people confuse wants with needs.When we believe external circumstances are required for us to be okay, we create from scarcity rather than from conscious desire.4. Vision creates the possibility, but anticipation creates embodiment.The highest expression of desire is not hoping something will happen—it is developing the internal certainty that allows you to receive it when it arrives.5. Self-sabotage is often a nervous system response, not a lack of discipline.The body naturally seeks familiar circumstances. Growth requires teaching the nervous system that new levels of success, love, abundance, and fulfillment are safe to hold.Notable Quotes“The soul carries the dream. The mind creates. The body receives.”“You do not need more things to be okay. You need to stop turning your wants into needs.”“The creation process becomes easier when you release your attachment to the outcome.”“Hope is a wish. Anticipation is knowing it's on its way.”“Your nervous system's job is to keep you alive by keeping you in familiar circumstances.”Call to ActionClick Here for Mike's Meditation BundleClick Here for the YouTube Link: Installing Future You MeditationIf this episode resonates with you, spend some time working with the practices that help your body become receptive to the life you are creating. The Installing Future You meditation is designed to help you move from simply seeing your vision in your mind to embodying it within your nervous system.If you're ready to go deeper into this work and explore how your own patterns around receiving, creation, and embodiment may be impacting your life, reach out to Mike directly. He would love to have a conversation with you about what is possible as you continue expanding your life and circumstances.Email Mike directly: mike@innerwealthglobal.comMike's Media:Website: https://www.innerwealthglobal.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mikekitkoInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/mike_kitkoTiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mikekitkoSubscribe to my YouTube: / @mikekitkoMusic Credit: "What's Left of Me" by Wes Hoffman & Friends

What if the exhaustion so many mothers experience isn't because they're doing motherhood wrong, but because they've been disconnected from what is biologically normal? In this episode, Cait sits down with Brittany Chambers, founder of Goodnight Moon Child and creator of the Integrative Infant Sleep Framework, to explore the intersection of infant sleep, attachment science, neuroscience, maternal intuition, and the cultural narratives shaping modern motherhood. Together, they unpack the messages many mothers receive about independence, sleep training, and what it means to be a "good mother," while examining what both science and ancestral wisdom reveal about the mother-baby relationship. This conversation challenges conventional beliefs, invites curiosity over judgment, and offers a powerful reminder that mothers may be far more equipped than they've been led to believe. Tune in to hear: Why Brittany believes modern motherhood has become disconnected from ancestral wisdom The neuroscience behind attachment, co-regulation, and infant sleep How Cait's experience with her three children completely changed her perspective on sleep and connection What research says about bed sharing, biological infant sleep, and maternal rest The surprising link between infant sleep expectations and postpartum mental health Why many mothers feel torn between cultural advice and their own instincts How maternal intuition gets buried beneath perfectionism and societal expectations The role of nervous system safety in child development Why Brittany believes informed consent is missing from many parenting conversations How the mother-baby relationship impacts families, communities, and future generations The connection between responsive parenting, authenticity, and personal power Why breaking generational patterns often begins with trusting yourself Connect with Brittany Chambers Instagram: @goodnightmoonchild Website: goodnightmoonchild.com Substack: Goodnight Moon Child

You have friends… so why do you still feel lonely? Friendships are more important than ever in adulthood, but they become increasingly hard to make and maintain. But we're in a real loneliness epidemic where most adults feel unseen, alone, and disconnected *even though* they have lots of connections in their lives. The real reason no one's talking about? The “depth gap” that keeps us from being truly vulnerable and connected. Because the problem isn't always that we need more friends… it's that we don't feel known by the people in our lives. In this episode, we're diving into the psychology of modern friendship with psychologist Dr. Elisabeth Crain. From attachment styles and friendship patterns to reciprocity, resentment, and friendship breakups, this interview is a roadmap for healthier, more fulfilling friendships. Tune in to hear: • Why adult friendships are harder to build and maintain  • The "Depth Gap" and why loneliness is often a quality issue, not a quantity issue • How fear of vulnerability and rejection impact intimacy • Attachment styles in friendships • Understanding your friendship blueprint and relationship patterns • Fast-burn versus slow-burn friendships… why pacing matters • Managing reciprocity, imbalance and resentment • The importance of healthy criticism • Tuning into your body's reaction to people  • The art of discernment in picking the right friendships • Why friendships fracture in adulthood Follow Dr. Elisabeth Crain: https://www.drelisabethcrain.com/ https://www.instagram.com/dr.elisabeth.crain  Subscribe to my Substack:teachmehowtoadult.substack.comFollow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Start Your Transformation Now⁠⁠  In this episode of The Jim Fortin Podcast, Jim explores the concept of practical attachment — not as an abstract spiritual idea, but as a very real, everyday force that quietly steals joy and peace of mind. Inspired by his own experience of packing up and moving on from the stunning Sedona home he spent 39 months building, Jim takes listeners on a journey through the many forms of attachment: possessions, relationships, jobs, success, identity, and even deeply held beliefs about reality. The Buddha once said that the root of suffering is attachment, and Jim makes that truth impossible to ignore by grounding it in ordinary life.  From designer clothing and Rolex watches to soul-sucking jobs and controlling relationships with adult children, Jim walks through the subtle and not-so-subtle ways people cling to things — not because of the things themselves, but because of the meaning and identity they project onto them. He shares personal stories, including the half-million-dollar loss he accepted without hesitation to finally move on, his brother's intentionally homeless life, and what it felt like to live at both ends of the financial spectrum. The real insight emerges: attachment is not about the object — it is about the energy spent protecting what we believe defines us.  If there is anything in life causing unhappiness, there is an attachment hiding beneath it — and this episode is the invitation to find it.  What You'll Discover in This Episode:  (00:00) The root of suffering — Jim opens by framing attachment not as a spiritual buzzword but as a practical, everyday pattern, challenging listeners to honestly ask: what am I actually attached to, and how much is it costing me?  (08:46) Attachment to things — From homes and cars to designer clothes and family heirlooms, Jim explores how we attach to physical possessions and the emotional weight that comes with protecting them, even long after they are gone.  (15:04) Attachment to people and relationships — Jim examines how attachment to partners, children, and even adult kids can quietly become a form of control — and how one TCP student's breakthrough came when she finally released her grip on her 23- and 24-year-old children.  (19:43) Attachment to jobs, fear, and identity — Jim unpacks why people stay in miserable jobs, how attachment to success and achievement is really about what others will think, and why peace of mind must rank above all other currencies.  (26:59) Attachment to beliefs and ideology — From MAGA to money to self-importance, Jim explains how the more we are attached to an idea, the more we must defend it — and how mistaking our perceptions for ultimate reality is one of the greatest sources of inner conflict.  (30:00) The transformational reframe — Jim closes with a grounding reminder: we are born with nothing, we own nothing, and any lack of happiness is a signal pointing directly to an attachment waiting to be examined and released.  Listen, apply, and enjoy!  Transformational Takeaway  You were born with nothing — and in truth, you own nothing. Every possession, relationship, job, and belief you cling to becomes a source of suffering the moment you mistake it for your identity. Attachment is not just about things. It is about what you have decided those things say about you. When you stop and ask, "What am I attached to right now?" — especially in moments of unhappiness or fear — you take back the one thing no possession can ever give you: peace of mind. That is the ultimate currency. The moment you can release your grip, even just a little, is the moment life stops being a prison and starts becoming a journey you are actually free to enjoy.  Let's Connect:  Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | LinkedIn  LIKED THE EPISODE?  If you're the kind of person who likes to help others, then share this with your friends and family. If you have found value, they will too. Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts so we can reach more people.  Listening on Spotify? Please leave a comment below. We would love to hear from you!  With gratitude, Jim 

Attachment is a survival imprint that lives in the body, encoded before you had language. In this episode, Dr. Aimie Apigian walks through the 6 hidden attachment pains, the adult symptoms each one creates, and why inner work alone cannot reach where the pattern lives. ➡️ Full show notes: https://www.biologyoftrauma.com/post/episode-177-6-attachment-wounds-chronic-symptoms In This Episode You'll Learn:  02:54 — How did Dr. Aimie's adopted son become her wake-up call to attachment biology? 10:12 — How does attachment loss connect to chronic fatigue and autoimmunity? 12:27 — Why doesn't awareness or inner work change attachment patterns? 15:24 — What is autoimmunity at the level of attachment biology? 25:06 — What is Hold Me attachment pain and how does it form? 31:36 — How does Hold Me pain become IBS, autoimmunity, and fibromyalgia? 40:11 — What is Support Me attachment pain and how does it shape the brainstem? 46:58 — What is See Me attachment pain and how does it shape self-worth? 47:47 — What is Understand Me attachment pain and which chronic conditions does it create? 50:20 — What is Love Me attachment pain and how does it shape adult relationships? Resources/Guides: Attachment Pain Guide — A complete map of all 6 attachment pains, the adult symptoms linked to each, and entry points for repair.  ➡️ Full show notes with links and resources: https://www.biologyoftrauma.com/post/episode-177-6-attachment-wounds-chronic-symptoms

Professor Michael Casey on Playful Learning, Trust, Breath, and Real-World Jiu-Jitsu Host Pete Deeley interviews Professor Michael Casey on why jiu-jitsu learning should start relaxed and playful, noting that fun and visible improvement keep both kids and adults training. Casey describes how he introduced his son Declan through play, community support, and avoiding "nagging dad" behavior, later adding hands-on coaching and emphasizing position before submission. They discuss building trust in a gym, safety culture, and how breathing and conscious pauses expand the space between emotion and reaction, improving self-control and maturity. Casey contrasts sport and self-defense approaches, arguing honesty about goals matters and that positional control often outweighs submissions in real-world contexts like healthcare or law enforcement. He critiques "flip the switch" self-defense claims, discourages enforcing gym culture by beating up "jerks," and advises older beginners to shop for supportive communities and advocate for themselves.   00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro 01:34 Playful Learning in Jiu Jitsu 03:49 Kids vs Adults Training Paths 06:17 Raising a Jiu Jitsu Kid 19:13 Position Before Submission 25:40 Emotions and Self Control 31:54 Breath as a Training Tool 35:52 Teaching Self Defense Framework 39:47 Mapping Fight Feelings 40:29 Fear Isn't Weakness 42:09 Rational vs Irrational Fear 44:29 Incremental Safety and Trust 48:19 Instructor Builds Support 52:35 Relaxation as a Symptom 55:05 Lessons Off the Mats 01:06:30 Commit Without Attachment 01:14:43 Resilience Through Failure 01:19:27 Jiu-Jitsu Then vs Now 01:22:02 Street Ready Jiu Jitsu 01:22:36 Sport Vs Self Defense 01:23:11 Honesty In Training 01:25:18 Why The Grind Matters 01:27:54 Jiu Jitsu As Lifestyle 01:31:21 Preserve Or Evolve 01:32:29 Culture Bowing And Gis 01:35:35 Innovation With Relson Rickson 01:45:25 Finding Your Right School 01:47:48 Starting At 55 01:49:50 Shopping Schools Smart 01:53:53 Responsibility Teaching Violence 01:56:04 Gym Enforcers And Jerks 01:57:10 When Violence Backfires 01:57:52 Reforming the Rough Student 01:59:01 Ego vs Instructor Duty 02:00:05 Helsan Beach Fight Story 02:01:20 Rickson vs Relson Street Logic 02:06:04 Gracie Culture and Upbringing 02:09:12 Training Deescalation Scripts 02:16:27 Snowstorm Deescalation Win 02:17:59 Protecting Your Daughter 02:23:57 Wrap Up and Training Connections

Why does a breakup feel like more than heartbreak? In this episode, John Kim explores why breakups can feel like a death, and why that experience is rooted in more than emotion alone. Drawing from neuroscience, attachment theory, and years of therapeutic experience, he explains what happens in the brain after a relationship ends and why healing takes time. John unpacks the hidden losses that often come with heartbreak, from the future we imagined to the identity we built inside a relationship. He also shares why recovery isn't about forgetting someone, but learning to create a new reality without them. In this episode: • Why breakups feel physically painful • The role dopamine and attachment play in heartbreak • How relationships become part of our emotional regulation system • The grief of losing a future that never actually happened • Identity loss after a breakup • Why healing is really about rewiring If someone in your life is going through a breakup, share this episode with them. Follow the podcast for more conversations on relationships, healing, and personal growth.

I break down how emotional attachment to money can quietly distort your decisions and weaken your position. I explain that whether you feel good with money or bad without it, both create dependence that should not be driving how you think or act. When money becomes emotional instead of structural, your judgment gets reactive and your execution suffers. I talk about how this shows up in real decisions, especially when emotions start influencing pricing, choices, and how you deal with people. The goal is simple, detach from money so you can stay clear, stable, and make better decisions no matter what your financial situation looks like. Show Notes: [03:21]#1 Emotion turns money into identity. [06:37]#2 Attachment for money slows down your decision speed. [10:10]#3 Detachment increases your leverage under pressure. [13:49] Recap Episodes Mentioned: 2214: How Your Poor "Money Mindset" Is Keeping You Broke 2321: Healthy Money Mindsets Next Steps: --- Execution is not a talent.   It is a standard. If your results don't match your ability, something in your approach is out of alignment. Most people do not have a motivation problem.   They have a consistency problem. Power Presence is the system for operating with greater discipline, clarity, structure, and execution under pressure. Learn more: → http://www.PowerPresenceProtocol.com  — This show is the public record of standards. All episodes and the complete archive: → http://WorkOnYourGamePodcast.com 

We can know we are loved and still not be able to let it in. The gap between believing something and feeling it in the body is not a faith problem — it's a physiological one.In this second conversation with Aundi Kolber, Michael and Julianne press deeper into what it actually takes to change: why being loved is not just a comfort but a biological prerequisite for growth, why asking someone to change before they feel safe is, in Aundi's word, cruel, and what it means to come home to yourself rather than keep fleeing from what hurts. Aundi also draws a line between the shame that keeps us stuck and the compassion that actually moves us — and why God is calling us home, not calling us out.This is a rebroadcast of one of the most-listened-to conversations in the show's ten-year history.Aundi Kolber is a licensed therapist and author of Try Softer: A Fresh Approach to Move Us Out of Anxiety, Stress, and Survival and Into a Life of Connection and Joy.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

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These are the most feared words for any budding relationship. I Love You. Everyone's advice is always “just say it when you genuinely feel it!” which is great in theory, but hard in practice for so many reasons. In this episode we chat about the ILY timeframe, why you may or may not say it and how it should be said. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

Trauma affects the voice... long-term? Can we understand undiagnosable vocal pathology in singers by looking at childhood trauma, attachment, and shame?This is the SUMMARY version of the episode - check the FULL CHOMP HERE!

Stacy talks with psychotherapist Esin Pinarli about how trauma, attachment wounds, and early life experiences continue to shape our relationships, reactions, and sense of self long after the original event has passed. They explore nervous system regulation, parenting, people-pleasing, emotional healing, and why understanding your past can help you create healthier patterns moving forward. If you've ever wondered why certain situations trigger you, why relationships can feel repetitive, or how to feel safer in your own body, this conversation offers practical insights and compassionate guidance for healing. Find Esin: eternalwellnesscounseling.com instagram.com/esinpinarli_lcsw Find Stacy: realeverything.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ instagram.com/realstacytoth⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠missionmakersart.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠missionalchemists.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The things we hide have a way of holding us captive. In this deeply moving conversation, therapist and author Michael John Cusick joins Ginny Yurich to explore why so many of us keep spinning in the same patterns, whether it's addiction, anxiety, shame, people-pleasing, overwork, or simply feeling disconnected from ourselves and the people we love most. Drawing from his own story of childhood trauma, recovery, faith, and healing, Michael shares why lasting change isn't found in trying harder but in being truly known. They discuss attachment, parenting, embodiment, faith, relationships, and the four things every human being needs from womb to tomb: to be seen, soothed, safe, and secure. This is a conversation about wholeness, freedom, and the surprising truth that healing often begins the moment we stop hiding. Links: ⁠Sacred Attachment book⁠ ⁠Restoring the Soul Podcast⁠ Michael John Cusick: https://michaeljohncusick.com Restoring the Soul: https://restoringthesoul.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Learn the traditional Prayer to St. Anthony for lost items in Latin with a full line-by-line breakdown, translation, and vocabulary explanation. This episode of the Latin Prayer Podcast explores one of the most widely used Catholic prayers for finding lost objects: keys, rings, belongings, and everyday items, while revealing its deeper spiritual meaning. We break down the Latin text of the St. Anthony prayer, explaining key phrases such as “Sancte Antoni,” “restituendi,” “inveniam,” and “veri boni” to help with Latin learning, Catholic prayer study, and traditional Catholic spirituality. Beyond the practical devotion of asking St. Anthony of Padua, patron saint of lost things, this episode reveals the prayer's interior movement: from seeking lost objects to seeking peace, detachment, and ultimately God as the highest good. Perfect for anyone interested in: - Catholic prayers in Latin - St. Anthony prayer for lost items - Catholic devotional prayers - Latin prayer translation and vocabulary - Traditional Catholic spirituality - Learning ecclesiastical Latin - Prayer for finding lost things - Catholic saints and devotions Whether you are praying for lost keys, learning Latin, or deepening your Catholic faith, this guide helps you understand both the literal meaning and spiritual depth of the St. Anthony prayer. Chapters 00:00 Introduction: The St. Anthony Prayer for Lost Items 01:00 History of St. Anthony of Padua & Patron of Lost Things 02:00 Latin Prayer Begins: “Sancte Antoni…” 03:00 Asking to Find What Is Lost & Inner Peace 04:00 Loss, Affliction, and Attachment to Material Things 05:00 Turning Toward God as the True Good 06:00 Deeper Meaning of the Prayer Explained 07:00 Choosing God Over All Things (“Summum Bonum”) 08:00 Closing Reflection & Practical Use of the Prayer 09:00 Final Prayers: Pater Noster, Ave Maria, Gloria Patri   Help us restore sacred tradition and bring timeless prayers to new ears. Support our mission and gain access to our Latin learning guides, feast day resources, and audio devotionals. Find the Free Latin Learning Guide on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/thelatinprayerpodcast A huge thank you to my Patrons! To follow me on other platforms Click on my LinkTree below. linktr.ee/dylandrego Submit Prayer Requests or comments / suggestions: thelatinprayerpodcast@gmail.com To Support FishEaters.com Click Here (  / fisheaters  ) Join me and others in praying the Holy Rosary every day; here are the Spotify quick links to the Rosary: Joyful Mysteries https://open.spotify.com/episode/1yhn... Sorrowful Mysteries https://open.spotify.com/episode/3P0n... Glorious Mysteries https://open.spotify.com/episode/3t7l... Luminous Mysteries https://open.spotify.com/episode/6vlA... 15 Decade Rosary https://open.spotify.com/episode/2q33... Know that if you are listening to this, I am praying for you. Please continue to pray with me and for me and my family. May everything you do be Ad Majorem Dei Gloriam. God Love You! Valete (Goodbye)   This podcast may contain copyrighted material the use of which may not always have been specifically authorized by the copyright owner. We are making such material available in our efforts to advanced the teachings of the Holy Catholic Church for the promulgation of religious education. We believe this constitutes a "fair use” of any such copyrighted material as provided for in section 107 of the US copyright law, and section 29, 29.1 & 29.2 of the Canadian copyright act. Music Credit: 3MDEHDDQTEJ1NBB0

Every authoritarian system eventually develops the same fear: the moment citizens begin independently interpreting reality, control starts collapsing. Families are no different. Somewhere tonight, a child quietly begins noticing contradictions. The parent who says, “I just want peace,” somehow feeds on conflict. The parent who says, “I would do anything for my child,” subtly punishes the child for loving the other parent freely. The parent who claims honesty strategically edits history depending on who occupies the room. And suddenly the child confronts the most dangerous discovery possible: “My parent needs me to see them a certain way.” That realization changes everything. Because now the child no longer functions merely as a son or daughter. The child becomes witness. Audience. Juror. Emotional historian. Psychological property. Tonight's conversation investigates what happens when wounded parents unconsciously compete for authorship over the child's reality. Not merely love. Interpretation. Who gets remembered as safe. Who gets remembered as unstable. Who gets forgiven. Who gets emotionally exiled from the family mythology. Because some parents do not merely fear losing affection. They fear being seen completely. Seen as manipulative. Seen as emotionally needy. Seen as controlling. Seen as jealous. Seen as performative. Seen as fragmented beneath the costume of “good parenting.” That terror often begins long before the child reaches adulthood. The moment children develop independent perception, they become psychologically dangerous to unresolved parents because independent perception threatens emotional propaganda. Now the child's growing consciousness destabilizes the entire emotional economy of the household. Especially inside families where love quietly became conditional upon loyalty. Some children learn this immediately. They learn which truths injure mother. Which questions threaten father. Which emotions require editing. Which parent emotionally collapses if the other parent gets humanized. And the child adapts. Not because the child is manipulative. Because the child is trying to survive intimacy without losing attachment. Attachment Theory That adaptation becomes tragic when children eventually realize they were never simply asked to feel loved. They were asked to participate in preserving the emotional identity of wounded adults too afraid to be fully seen.

It's crushing when your avoidant partner disappears. But why are they doing it...and what can you do. On of the most disruptive things happening in avoidant- anxious relationships is when the avoidant partner suddenly disappears without an explanation. We want to understand their motives, explain how this hurts us, try harder but perhaps if we understand why they tend to do this we can rest at ease - or make some hard decisions that will benefit us. This podcast is meant to guide you if you're going through this or if you've gone through this. For my book - From Anxious to Secure - https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/from-anxious-to-secureFor my mini online program - Boundary Bootcamp - https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/boundary-bootcampTo book a session with me - https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/book-a-session-with-me-ui52g6pvTo Subscribe to School of Attachment - https://stan.store/DecodingAttachmentStyles/p/weekly-coaching-tools--strategiesDisclaimer: I am a certified coach with a psychology background, not a licensed therapist. The content I share is for educational and informational purposes and is based on Attachment Theory principles. I am currently funding and researching a personal project on attachment behaviors and feelings with 175 individuals. This page is not a substitute for professional therapy, diagnosis, or treatment. Please use discernment and consult a qualified mental health professional for personal advice.I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

Being stuck in survival mode is to be a human being. Survival starts at birth, you have needs to be fulfilled or you won't survive. Survival equals attachment. A cosmic connection utilizing spiritual intelligence has absolutely NOTHING to do with survival. Accessing it and moving into love and nonattachment is a beautiful commitment to thriving. Holding on to what you fear losing, will keep you in survival and therefore anxious, numb or depressed. The spiritual connection is always available, yet humans do the same shit, different day or year. And we haven't evolved internally from survival mode. The attachment you feel to people, money, outcomes; it's not love. Took me years to move from understanding what love is not, to actually inhabiting the space of nonattachment. Tune in to learn more. ****** Take the Cosmic Frequency Quiz and discover your archetype — Survivor, Judge, Seeker, Dweller, or Oracle. It's a mirror, not a test. And what it shows you might be the thing that changes the impossible to possible. → Take the quiz at https://uncomplicatedstore.com/pages/cosmic-archetype

What keeps people stuck between where they are and where they want to be? In this episode, Michael Easley sits down with Dr. Henry Cloud to discuss leadership, vision, psychology, faith, and the practical path toward a desired future. Drawing from Dr. Cloud's book Your Desired Future, this conversation explores why talent alone is never enough, how relationships shape growth, and why many people struggle with fear, discouragement, and learned helplessness. Dr. Cloud explains how God designed people to grow through connection, community, humility, and purposeful action. From neuroscience and attachment theory to biblical leadership and emotional health, this episode offers practical insight for pastors, leaders, entrepreneurs, parents, creatives, and anyone trying to move forward in life and faith. Whether you feel stuck personally, spiritually, or professionally, this conversation will help you think differently about growth, leadership, and the future God may be calling you toward. Key Topics Covered -Why vision matters in leadership and life -The definition of a “desired future” -Why talent alone is not enough -Leadership, teams, and engaging the right people -Psychology and theology working together -Learned helplessness and loss of hope -Attachment theory and emotional health -Why God designed people for connection -Necessary endings and healthy leadership decisions -Spiritual maturity and becoming whole Chapters 00:00 – God Made Love the Foundation 00:39 – Introducing Dr. Henry Cloud 01:14 – Why Henry Cloud Wrote Your Desired Future 03:01 – Defining Leadership and Vision 05:05 – Psychology, Theology, and the Gospel 07:40 – God's Design for Leadership 11:17 – The “Finley Factor” Explained 13:49 – Why Talent Alone Is Not Enough 17:15 – The Importance of Asking for Help 19:26 – Building Vision Step by Step 20:44 – Henry Cloud's Daughter and Pursuing a Dream 24:18 – Leadership, Teams, and Necessary Talent 27:10 – Why Some People Never Reach Their Potential 30:49 – Learned Helplessness and Losing Hope 33:28 – Emotions, the Psalms, and Human Struggle 35:35 – Why Love and Attachment Matter 40:49 – Necessary Endings and Leadership Decisions 45:35 – Can People Really Change? 46:23 – Final Thoughts and Encouragement Links Mentioned Your Desired Future by Dr. Henry Cloud Watch the highlights and full version of this interview on our Youtube channel. For more inContext interviews, click here.

Dr. Adam Dorsay introduces SuperPsyched and interviews psychologist, professor, and author Dr. Alan Godwin about his book Ties That Bind: Unraveling Stories That Keep Us in the Dark, focusing on how individuals and societies accept untrue “stories” that merely sound true. Godwin shares growing up in segregated Jackson, Mississippi, where his idyllic childhood coexisted with racial terror across town, illustrating collective normalization of dysfunction. He discusses confirmation bias, motivated reasoning, and how adults construct self-justifying narratives, contrasting Jonathan Rauch's “reality-based community” (evidence, epistemic humility, tolerance for ambiguity) with a “story-based fortress” that discards disconfirming facts and becomes both protection and prison. Using clinical examples like “Katie” and modern cases of relatives drawn into conspiratorial information silos, he emphasizes attachment and identity as drivers of collective deception, argues people are often drawn out by relationships more than information, and concludes that humility is the key skill for better truth-seeking.00:00 Welcome to SuperPsyched00:52 Meet Alan Godwin02:42 Growing Up in Jackson05:43 Stories and Lying07:46 Bias and Normalization10:08 Truth Hurts Then Frees12:37 Reality Based Community14:46 Story Based Fortress18:02 Escaping the Fortress20:14 Katie and Personal Healing22:00 Harry Potter Blindness22:50 Accents and Linguistics23:27 From Self Doubt to Uncle Irving24:42 Collective Deception Online26:48 Environment Reveals the Real You28:57 Information Silos and Gaslighting30:58 Attachment and Identity Needs33:57 Sports Fandom as Microcosm36:14 Crowd Seduction and Nazi Rallies38:32 Truth Needs Trusted Relationships40:32 AI Can't Replace Human Connection41:41 Humility as the Ultimate Skill44:35 Closing Thanks and FarewellHelpful Links:Dr. Alan GodwinDr. Alan Godwin LinkedInTies That Blind: Unraveling Stories That Keep Us in the Dark Book

In this deep dive episode, I explore how secure attachment evolves across development and what children are really needing from us emotionally at each stage of childhood and adolescence. Using Erik Erikson's stages of psychosocial development as a framework, we look at the core emotional tasks kids are navigating from infancy through young adulthood, and how our role as parents shifts alongside them.   Together, we explore:   - What secure attachment looks like at different developmental stages. - How to stay connected to your child as their needs evolve over time. - Why toddlers push for independence and what they need from us in those moments. - How play, boredom, and curiosity support emotional development in early childhood - Why school-age kids become more focused on achievement, perfectionism, and peer comparison. - How social media can intensify insecurity during key developmental windows. - Why adolescence can suddenly feel so emotionally intense and unpredictable. - How to stay a secure base for your teen without escalating power struggles. - What today's loneliness epidemic can teach us about raising emotionally connected kids. - Why repair matters more than perfection in secure relationships. - How understanding your child's developmental task can completely shift the way you respond to behavior.   This episode is ultimately about learning to zoom out. Not to parent each stage perfectly, but to better understand what your child is actually working through underneath the behaviors, emotions, and developmental shifts that can sometimes leave us feeling confused or disconnected. Because when we understand the developmental needs driving our child's behavior, we can respond with more clarity, compassion, and connection.     LEARN MORE ABOUT ME:

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Jon Fogel is a parenting expert, pastor, published author, and PhD candidate who runs Whole Parent and Whole Parent Academy, a resource built around the psychology of parenting and discipline. He is the author of the bestselling book Punishment Free Parenting and a brand new children's book, Set My Feelings Free, which sold out nationwide before its second printing. He is a husband, father of four kids ranging from 18 months to nine years old, and somehow found time to install a toilet while his wife was in labor. Jon has been a guest on The Dad Edge podcast twice before, and every single time he shows up, he leaves the room differently than he found it. This episode is a live Q&A inside the Alliance, and the questions the guys brought were real. Getting a spouse on the same page. The pendulum swing between authoritarian and checked-out. A five-year-old who looks you dead in the eye before he does the wrong thing on purpose. And the hard one: what happens when your son won't respond to you the way he responds to his mom. Jon's framework is grounded in brain science and developmental psychology, and the thing that keeps hitting you as you listen is how much of what we were taught about discipline actually works against us. The reason kids shut down when we raise our voices is the same reason our partners shut down when we raise our voices. The reason kids push boundaries is not defiance. It's development. The reason your son runs to mom and not to you is not a reflection of your worth as a father. It's evolution. If you're a dad who's been doing the work but still feels like something is off in how your kids or your partner respond to you, this episode is going to give you clarity in places you didn't expect to find it.   Timeline Summary [1:01] Host introduces Jon Fogel for his third appearance, covering his role as a parenting expert, author, PhD candidate, and founder of Whole Parent Academy [2:05] Jon describes his book Punishment Free Parenting, its bestseller status, and explains that 99% of the book is about what to do instead of punishing [3:42] Jon's newest children's book Set My Feelings Free is sold out nationwide, with a second printing arriving May 20th [4:02] First question from Rich: how to get a spouse on the same page when parenting backgrounds and styles are very different [5:29] Jon explains why you should never try to correct a partner's parenting in the moment, and why the same brain science that applies to kids applies to adults [8:11] Jon introduces the H.E.A.R. framework from Harvard for conflict resolution: Hedge, Emphasize agreement, Acknowledge perspective, Reframe to the positive [10:55] Jon walks through each step of H.E.A.R. practically, showing how removing defensiveness creates space for the other person to move without feeling wrong [14:07] Jon adds a bonus tactic: developing a safe word with your partner as a mutual tap-out when someone is getting too heated to parent effectively [17:56] Second question from Chris: the pendulum swing between strict and disengaged, and why so many parents default to one or the other [19:16] Jon reframes the boundary concept using the backyard fence metaphor: boundaries are not restrictions, they are the only structure that gives a child real freedom [27:17] Third question: a five-year-old who deliberately pushes boundaries and throws food. Jon explains the difference between punishments, natural consequences, and logical consequences [30:50] Jon explains that boundary-pushing at five is a developmental need, not defiance, and offers a practical redirection strategy using a popcorn bowl at dinner [35:15] Anonymous question: son responds to mom and shuts down with dad. Jon addresses attachment hierarchy, enmeshment concerns, and why parents should largely stop parenting together [40:10] Jon explains the science of attachment hierarchy and how kids are hardwired to default to one parent under threat. He clarifies that being second in the hierarchy does not mean you are failing [44:46] Jon shares resources: Punishment Free Parenting, the children's book Set My Feelings Free, The Whole Parent Podcast, and an in-person event in Chicago on May 21st   Five Key Takeaways The worst time to correct your partner's parenting is in the moment it's happening. The same science that tells us not to discipline a dysregulated child applies directly to adults. Wait for calm, get curious about the trigger, and then use the H.E.A.R. framework to address it without creating more defensiveness than you started with. Boundaries are not restrictions. They are the structure that gives your child real freedom. A kid without clear boundaries does not feel free. They feel unsafe. The backyard fence metaphor Jon uses is worth sitting with: your job is to build the fence in the right place, not to police what happens inside it. A five-year-old who looks you in the eye before doing something he knows you don't want is not being defiant. He is developing. At that age, differentiation is a biological need, and the act of doing something dad doesn't want is how he practices becoming his own person. Understanding that changes how you respond. If your son responds better to his mom than to you, that is not an indictment of who you are as a father. Attachment hierarchy is hardwired and evolutionary. The solution is not to compete with mom in the room. It is to build a relationship with your son when she is not there. Kids who do not have their need for autonomy met will meet that need in ways you will not like. Whether it is food at the dinner table, video games at 13, or behavior that seems to come out of nowhere, the question worth asking is: where else in his day does he get to make his own choices?   Links & Resources Punishment Free Parenting by Jon Fogel — https://a.co/d/0hdOkJZl Set My Feelings Free (children's book) — second printing available May 20th In-person Chicago event with Jon Fogel and Eli Harwood — May 21st, downtown Chicago How to Deal With Your Shirt So Your Kids Don't Have to by Eli Harwood The Alliance — http://thedadedge.com/soulmates The Men's Forge — http://themensforge.com/ Shownotes: http://thedadedge.com/1485   Closing The question about attachment hierarchy near the end of this one is going to stay with me for a while. The image of your kid running toward one parent without thinking, faster than conscious thought, because their brain is trying to survive a threat — and knowing that which parent they run to has nothing to do with how hard you've worked or how much you love them — that's both humbling and freeing at the same time. Jon said it plainly: being in second place means you're in first place when the other person isn't there. Do the work. Show up. Take the alone time with your kids and build what only you can build with them. Go out and live legendary.

Forrest is joined by author, meditator, and friend Diego Perez, also known as Yung Pueblo, for a conversation about right effort, the balance between pushing through and letting go, and the death of nuance in the age of social media.  They start with Diego's experience on his recent 60-day silent meditation retreat, and what that kind of practice teaches about craving, attachment, and getting unstuck from old roles. Diego frames right effort as the middle path between forcing your life and going with the flow, and that tension leads into a conversation about social media, including the appeal of reductive advice and being told what to do. Diego closes with what he'd recommend for someone who wants some of the rewards of practice without committing to a long retreat. Key Topics:  0:00: Intro 2:02: Diego's 60-day silent retreat 8:17: Right Effort: balancing pursuit with letting go 15:49: Attachment, craving, and suffering 19:25: Diego's journey to the sensitive boy's club 25:19: Resistance: a sign that something is wrong or that we should push harder? 31:07: How to stop outsourcing your decisions & find guidance within  42:41: The limitations of labels and therapy-speak 52:26: Practices for those who aren't serious meditators 55:39: Recap Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Go to Zocdoc.com/BEING to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Visit Rula.com/BEINGWELL to find affordable, high-quality therapy that's actually covered by insurance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices