Podcasts about Attachment

Being stuck in survival mode is to be a human being. Survival starts at birth, you have needs to be fulfilled or you won't survive. Survival equals attachment. A cosmic connection utilizing spiritual intelligence has absolutely NOTHING to do with survival. Accessing it and moving into love and nonattachment is a beautiful commitment to thriving. Holding on to what you fear losing, will keep you in survival and therefore anxious, numb or depressed. The spiritual connection is always available, yet humans do the same shit, different day or year. And we haven't evolved internally from survival mode. The attachment you feel to people, money, outcomes; it's not love. Took me years to move from understanding what love is not, to actually inhabiting the space of nonattachment. Tune in to learn more. ****** Take the Cosmic Frequency Quiz and discover your archetype — Survivor, Judge, Seeker, Dweller, or Oracle. It's a mirror, not a test. And what it shows you might be the thing that changes the impossible to possible. → Take the quiz at https://uncomplicatedstore.com/pages/cosmic-archetype

What keeps people stuck between where they are and where they want to be? In this episode, Michael Easley sits down with Dr. Henry Cloud to discuss leadership, vision, psychology, faith, and the practical path toward a desired future. Drawing from Dr. Cloud's book Your Desired Future, this conversation explores why talent alone is never enough, how relationships shape growth, and why many people struggle with fear, discouragement, and learned helplessness. Dr. Cloud explains how God designed people to grow through connection, community, humility, and purposeful action. From neuroscience and attachment theory to biblical leadership and emotional health, this episode offers practical insight for pastors, leaders, entrepreneurs, parents, creatives, and anyone trying to move forward in life and faith. Whether you feel stuck personally, spiritually, or professionally, this conversation will help you think differently about growth, leadership, and the future God may be calling you toward. Key Topics Covered -Why vision matters in leadership and life -The definition of a “desired future” -Why talent alone is not enough -Leadership, teams, and engaging the right people -Psychology and theology working together -Learned helplessness and loss of hope -Attachment theory and emotional health -Why God designed people for connection -Necessary endings and healthy leadership decisions -Spiritual maturity and becoming whole Chapters 00:00 – God Made Love the Foundation 00:39 – Introducing Dr. Henry Cloud 01:14 – Why Henry Cloud Wrote Your Desired Future 03:01 – Defining Leadership and Vision 05:05 – Psychology, Theology, and the Gospel 07:40 – God's Design for Leadership 11:17 – The “Finley Factor” Explained 13:49 – Why Talent Alone Is Not Enough 17:15 – The Importance of Asking for Help 19:26 – Building Vision Step by Step 20:44 – Henry Cloud's Daughter and Pursuing a Dream 24:18 – Leadership, Teams, and Necessary Talent 27:10 – Why Some People Never Reach Their Potential 30:49 – Learned Helplessness and Losing Hope 33:28 – Emotions, the Psalms, and Human Struggle 35:35 – Why Love and Attachment Matter 40:49 – Necessary Endings and Leadership Decisions 45:35 – Can People Really Change? 46:23 – Final Thoughts and Encouragement Links Mentioned Your Desired Future by Dr. Henry Cloud Watch the highlights and full version of this interview on our Youtube channel. For more inContext interviews, click here.

Dr. Adam Dorsay introduces SuperPsyched and interviews psychologist, professor, and author Dr. Alan Godwin about his book Ties That Bind: Unraveling Stories That Keep Us in the Dark, focusing on how individuals and societies accept untrue “stories” that merely sound true. Godwin shares growing up in segregated Jackson, Mississippi, where his idyllic childhood coexisted with racial terror across town, illustrating collective normalization of dysfunction. He discusses confirmation bias, motivated reasoning, and how adults construct self-justifying narratives, contrasting Jonathan Rauch's “reality-based community” (evidence, epistemic humility, tolerance for ambiguity) with a “story-based fortress” that discards disconfirming facts and becomes both protection and prison. Using clinical examples like “Katie” and modern cases of relatives drawn into conspiratorial information silos, he emphasizes attachment and identity as drivers of collective deception, argues people are often drawn out by relationships more than information, and concludes that humility is the key skill for better truth-seeking.00:00 Welcome to SuperPsyched00:52 Meet Alan Godwin02:42 Growing Up in Jackson05:43 Stories and Lying07:46 Bias and Normalization10:08 Truth Hurts Then Frees12:37 Reality Based Community14:46 Story Based Fortress18:02 Escaping the Fortress20:14 Katie and Personal Healing22:00 Harry Potter Blindness22:50 Accents and Linguistics23:27 From Self Doubt to Uncle Irving24:42 Collective Deception Online26:48 Environment Reveals the Real You28:57 Information Silos and Gaslighting30:58 Attachment and Identity Needs33:57 Sports Fandom as Microcosm36:14 Crowd Seduction and Nazi Rallies38:32 Truth Needs Trusted Relationships40:32 AI Can't Replace Human Connection41:41 Humility as the Ultimate Skill44:35 Closing Thanks and FarewellHelpful Links:Dr. Alan GodwinDr. Alan Godwin LinkedInTies That Blind: Unraveling Stories That Keep Us in the Dark Book

In this deep dive episode, I explore how secure attachment evolves across development and what children are really needing from us emotionally at each stage of childhood and adolescence. Using Erik Erikson's stages of psychosocial development as a framework, we look at the core emotional tasks kids are navigating from infancy through young adulthood, and how our role as parents shifts alongside them.   Together, we explore:   - What secure attachment looks like at different developmental stages. - How to stay connected to your child as their needs evolve over time. - Why toddlers push for independence and what they need from us in those moments. - How play, boredom, and curiosity support emotional development in early childhood - Why school-age kids become more focused on achievement, perfectionism, and peer comparison. - How social media can intensify insecurity during key developmental windows. - Why adolescence can suddenly feel so emotionally intense and unpredictable. - How to stay a secure base for your teen without escalating power struggles. - What today's loneliness epidemic can teach us about raising emotionally connected kids. - Why repair matters more than perfection in secure relationships. - How understanding your child's developmental task can completely shift the way you respond to behavior.   This episode is ultimately about learning to zoom out. Not to parent each stage perfectly, but to better understand what your child is actually working through underneath the behaviors, emotions, and developmental shifts that can sometimes leave us feeling confused or disconnected. Because when we understand the developmental needs driving our child's behavior, we can respond with more clarity, compassion, and connection.     LEARN MORE ABOUT ME:

Welcome to Wake Up! with Joni, the podcast where embodied consciousness meets leadership through awareness — awakening lived, not theorized. What happens when heartbreak cracks open the identity you spent a lifetime building? In this deeply honest, funny, and transformational conversation, Joni sits down with Dr. Stephen Paul Edwards — spiritual counselor, speaker, and author of The Venus Flytrap — to explore trauma, toxic relationships, reinvention, emotional healing, and the awakening that can emerge from life's darkest nights. After childhood trauma, psychiatric hospitalization, addiction, multiple marriages, and profound emotional collapse, Steven shares the wisdom he gained through heartbreak, obsession, boundaries, healing, and remembering who he truly is. Together, Joni and Steven unpack: ✨ Why we repeat relationship patterns ✨ The hidden gifts inside heartbreak and emotional pain ✨ Trauma, triggers, and emotional healing ✨ Why "toxic" relationships may actually be teachers ✨ The power of boundaries and vulnerability ✨ Attachment, identity, and freedom ✨ Why we keep running — and what happens when we stop ✨ Remembering who you really are beneath the pain This episode is filled with humor, truth, compassion, and powerful perspective shifts for anyone navigating heartbreak, reinvention, trauma, or personal awakening. Connect with Dr. Stephen Paul Edwards

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What if your relationship with God doesn't have to feel like a performance review? In this rich conversation, Michael Cary sits down with author and counselor Michael John Cusick — author of Surfing for God and his newest book Sacred Attachment — to explore one of the most liberating ideas in spiritual life: that your connection to God is unbreakable, and you don't have to earn it. We explore: • What “sacred attachment” actually means and why it changes everything about how we relate to God • How attachment theory (seen, soothed, safe, secure) shapes not just our human relationships but our relationship with God • Why “trust and obey” and “know more, do better” Christianity leaves so many of us exhausted and stuck • The root connection between early attachment wounds and addiction • Michael Cusick's powerful “Five W's” framework: wretchedness, weakness, woundedness, warfare, and wiring • The “delta” — the gap between what we know to be true (no condemnation!) and what we actually feel — and why information alone doesn't close it • What freedom actually is: not the absence of sin, but the presence of your deepest desire • Why transformation doesn't happen through information — and what actually moves the needle You'll walk away with: A fresh, grace-soaked understanding of who God is toward you — even on your worst days. Whether you're in recovery or just weary from trying harder, this episode will help you exhale and come home. Sacred Attachment is not just for people in addiction recovery — it's for anyone who has ever felt like they're failing at the Christian life. You can find more resources from Michael Cusick at: https://restoringthesoul.com https://michaeljohncusick.com   Learn more about our programs: https://living-truth.org   The Living Truth Podcast; Conversations that shed light on the deeper issues that unlock healing from porn addiction, sex addiction, and sexual betrayal. #LivingTruthPodcast #ChristianRecovery #FaithAndHealing #AddictionRecovery #MenInTheBattle #WomenInTheBattle #LivingTruth

We always promise to pull back the curtain on real relational work, but this week, we are right in the thick of it. In this raw and deeply transparent episode, Trey and Lauren unpack a real-time relational rift that occurred just days ago. What started as a seemingly "small" lie via text message; Trey claiming he was playing in a golf tournament just to avoid an event, became the catalyst for a profound exploration of trauma responses, defensive coping mechanisms, and the long road of generational healing.They break down exactly what happened when the truth came out, how old wounds from past marriages and family histories immediately flooded the bedroom, and the exact step-by-step tools they used to intervene at the level of physical sensation to find their way back to connection.Key Takeaways:• Trey confesses to bending the truth to escape an obligation, acknowledging his dislike for lying but falling into a childish trap of "jazzing up" reality. Lauren shares the immediate somatic impact of the confession; feeling her body drop into a free-falling vortex due to past trauma with a lying father and a gaslighting first husband.• Lauren breaks down the clinical anatomy of a trigger. When a threat enters the relationship, it creates overwhelming physical sensations, which drive us toward old safety-seeking behaviors. These behaviors inevitably impact and trigger our partner, spinning the couple into a reactive loop.• Trey and Lauren map out their respective morning-after coping mechanisms. Lauren recognizes her body wanting to flee to the "separation bus" and slipping into an over-functioning "child maid" archetype. Meanwhile, Trey unpacks his "Soldier of Fortune" shadow side; the urge to isolate, run away, and believe it's just easier to be Peter Pan on his own than to pay a massive emotional toll for a mistake.If you want to learn how to map your own attachment cycles, identify your safety-seeking behaviors, and build a relationship container strong enough to hold your shadows and your triggers, let's do the work together.Request your free 15-minute consult at sexedforyou.com/freeconsult.About ThemLauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia, where Lauren owns and operates Sex Ed for You. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, while increasing the possibility of pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence (World Health Organization).Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples, and families, as well as to the social and economic development of communities and countries (World Health Organization). When individuals are blocked from sexual health, they are often stunted in their ability to develop sensual play, embodied connection, and enjoyment.Learn More & ConnectLearn more about Sex Ed for You: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com⁠Schedule a FREE CONSULT with Lauren: ⁠https://www.sexedforyou.com/freeconsult⁠Learn more about partnered communication and relational education on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/⁠Subscribe to the YouTube channel for conversations about sex, partnership, communication, and love: ⁠https://youtube.com/@thepartnershippodcast⁠Important RemindersThis is not a “how to” podcast, but rather a “how they” podcast. Lauren and Trey share personal experiences, perspectives, and reflections, inviting listeners to learn from what resonates, question what doesn't, and decide what feels aligned for their own lives.Lauren is not a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.

Welcome to another bonus episode of From Mrs. to Ms.! These special episodes are where Andrea and Ozzie dive into the hottest relationship shows, dating trends, and pop culture moments through the lens of dating, relationships, and emotional compatibility.In this bonus recap, we're breaking down Episode 4 of Netflix's Age of Attraction. The honeymoon phase is officially over as hidden truths, jealousy, communication breakdowns, and major red flags start surfacing among the couples.Is age really the issue—or are emotional maturity, honesty, and compatibility the real deal breakers?In This Episode• Jorge's biggest red flag yet• Why omission can feel like dishonesty• Attachment styles showing up in real time• Long-distance relationship challenges• The pressure of celibacy and marriage expectations• Dating younger versus emotional maturity• Which couples seem built for the real world⏱️ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Intro & Is the Honeymoon Phase Over?02:37 Couples Reveal Their Real Ages08:24 Jorge's Secret: The Truth About His Kids15:36 Derek & Pfeiffer: Real Connection or Just Coasting?17:40 Leah & Chris: Trust Issues Begin20:44 Vanessa & Logan: Age Gap Insecurities27:52 Libby & Andrew: Growing Closer?29:09 John & Theresa Heat Things Up34:32 Vanelle & Jorge's Celibacy Struggles38:13 Final Thoughts: Does Age Really Matter?

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Welcome back to another episode of the unSeminary podcast. Today we're joined by Rebecca Maxwell, a licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of Jacksonville Counseling Services. With 15 years of prior church ministry experience and now leading a growing counseling practice, Rebecca brings a unique perspective that bridges biblical truth and clinical insight. Are you feeling unprepared when people come to you with deep emotional or mental health struggles? Wondering how to respond wisely without overstepping your role? In this conversation, Rebecca helps church leaders better respond to crises and care for people in more informed and effective ways. Why pastors often feel unprepared. // Rebecca reflects on her years in ministry and recognizes that many church leaders simply lack the training needed to identify and respond to mental health challenges. While pastors are often the first call when someone is in crisis, most have received minimal formal education in this area. As a result, well-intentioned leaders can miss important warning signs or unintentionally cause harm. Rebecca emphasizes that pastors don't need to become therapists—but they do need a basic framework for recognizing distress and knowing how to respond appropriately. Slow down before you try to solve. // One of the most common mistakes leaders make in crisis situations is moving too quickly to solutions. Offering Scripture or advice immediately—while well-meaning—can sometimes shut people down if they don't first feel heard. Rebecca encourages leaders to practice the “ministry of presence”: allowing individuals to tell their story, expressing empathy, and bearing witness to their pain. This approach helps regulate emotions and creates space for truth to be received later, when the person is more grounded and able to process it. You don't need all the answers—but you need a plan. // A critical takeaway for church leaders is the importance of knowing where to turn for help. Rebecca stresses that leaders don't need to be experts, but they must have a resource network in place. This includes vetted counselors, crisis resources, and trusted professionals they can contact when situations escalate. Without this preparation, leaders may feel stuck or overwhelmed in high-pressure moments. Addressing misconceptions about mental health. // Rebecca also addresses a harmful but common belief in some church contexts—that mental health struggles are simply a sin issue. While sin can play a role, this perspective oversimplifies the complexity of the human mind. She explains that just as the body can become ill, so can the mind. Ignoring this reality can lead to shame, misdiagnosis, and ineffective care. Instead, churches need a more integrated understanding of people as whole beings. Why the church must engage this conversation. // If churches remain silent on mental health, people will seek answers elsewhere—from social media, AI tools, or secular sources that may lack biblical grounding. Rebecca urges leaders to step into this space with confidence and compassion, offering both truth and practical support. The church has an opportunity to be a trusted starting point for healing—but only if it is equipped to respond. A practical next step for every church. // Rebecca strongly recommends that anyone working with people receive basic crisis training, such as QPR (Question, Persuade, Refer). This short training equips leaders to recognize warning signs, respond appropriately, and guide individuals toward help. It's a simple but powerful step that can literally save lives. To learn more about Rebecca Maxwell and her book, Jesus and Your Mental Health: Linking God’s Word and Modern Science to Find Peace about Mental Health, visit JesusAndYourMentalHealth.com and download a sample here. Explore additional resources at jacksonvillecounseling.net. Thank You for Tuning In! There are a lot of podcasts you could be tuning into today, but you chose unSeminary, and I'm grateful for that. If you enjoyed today's show, please share it by using the social media buttons you see at the left hand side of this page. Also, kindly consider taking the 60-seconds it takes to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes, they're extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and you can bet that I read every single one of them personally! Episode Transcript Rich Birch — Hey friends, welcome to the unSeminary podcast. So glad that you have decided to tune in today. You’re gonna be rewarded for that. I know that the conversation we’re having today, that this week, probably four or five times, you’ve thought about issues adjacent to this, and it’s gonna be super helpful. We are leveraging an expert. We’re gonna take advantage of this person to really help you this week and to help you solve some real problems. Rich Birch — Excited to have Rebecca Maxwell with us. She is a licensed marriage and family therapist. She started Jacksonville Counseling Services in 2015 to serve her Florida community with counseling services that integrate best practices with a biblical foundation.Rich Birch — The cool thing about Rebecca, well, there’s lots of cool things about her, but one of the cool things about her is prior to her voyage into marriage and family therapy, she spent 15, not 50 years in…Rebecca Maxwell — I look amazing.Rich Birch — Yeah, exactly. …in church ministry with children, adolescents, and family. So it’s just a great background, dual background for us to kind of tap into today. Rebecca, welcome to the show. So glad you’re here.Rebecca Maxwell — Yeah, glad to be here, Rich.Rich Birch — Apologize for the 50 year. That’s…Rebecca Maxwell — Hey, I mean, I look good for doing this for 50 years.Rich Birch — Yeah exactly. Why don’t you kind of give us a bit of a background? Tell us, fill out that, you know, bio a little bit. Tell us a little bit about yourself.Rebecca Maxwell — Yeah, so I’m married to a pastor, but I want to just be clear that I was in ministry first.Rich Birch — Yes. Good. Good.Rebecca Maxwell — I fell I fell into ministry ah after getting a degree in management from Georgia Tech… Rich Birch — Okay. Rebecca Maxwell — …and the Lord just kind of opened some doors, and I had to figure out what that was going to look like. Started in ministry to teenagers, youth. And did that faithfully for many years and also did a little bit of adult discipleship and kids ministry along the way, kind of got my training as I went along. Rebecca Maxwell — And there was a there was a point where God was just really beginning to lay the foundation for a different direction, a new call. And I spent a couple semesters in seminary trying to figure that out and ah didn’t think that was where the Lord was taking me to finish that training. And a friend, honestly, this was the best question I’ve ever been asked. She asked me, Rebecca, what do you love about youth ministry? What’s the favorite what’s your favorite part of your job?Rebecca Maxwell — And I said, you know, I love talking to teenagers and their parents about life stuff. And she said, well, I think you’d make a great counselor. And so that was the that was the the great question that got me in the direction of seeking more training in counseling. And I did marriage and family therapy because I was working with family so much… Rich Birch — Right. Rebecca Maxwell — …and really believing that the health of the family was so important to the health of the kids. And the kids were really like my driving force in what I was doing. Rich Birch — So cool. Rebecca Maxwell — So that it took me in that direction and along the way got to do some cool things in ministry and now working alongside churches in Christian, biblically based, also clinically informed counseling.Rebecca Maxwell — And so I have a practice in Jacksonville of there there’s about 18 of us now. And along the way, God gave me an experience that allowed me to to really know that I needed to be distinctively Christian and biblically based in my practice, that that was going to be important for my community. And so that’s that’s what we do. We try to bridge the best of psychological science with what the Bible says…Rich Birch — Yeah, so good. Rebecca Maxwell — …and serve our community.Rich Birch — Well, friends, you can see why I’m excited to have Rebecca on the on the call today, because I think, well, there’s a lot there, but there’s you know this idea of of being clinically informed and biblically based. I think you have a lot to help us think through these issues you know as pastors, as leaders. You know We’re wrestling with these kinds of questions all the time.Rebecca Maxwell — Of course. Rich Birch — We’re thinking about all of these things, referring people, and all this this comes up all the time. So you spent 15 years in church ministry before going down this road of being a licensed therapist. What did you see during those years as you reflect back on that time that made you realize, hey, maybe maybe church leaders need more help in this space? I’m declaring that I think we do. So, you know, I’m putting those words in your mouth. So, you know, don’t you know don’t be offended, listeners. That’s me saying that. But what do you what do you think?Rebecca Maxwell — Yeah, I think that I didn’t know what I was seeing when I was in ministry with some students and their families. I just knew that there was distress… Rich Birch — Right. Rebecca Maxwell — …and I didn’t know why in some cases. And not everything was a mental health issue, but I certainly missed a lot of those. I didn’t know how to meet kids and families who were in like mental crisis moments.Rebecca Maxwell — So, you know, my husband has been all the way through seminary. And so I know that he took one class in pastoral counseling that I helped him with.Rich Birch — Right.Rebecca Maxwell — And so this is a big issue in our community. And I don’t think that church leaders are generally well-equipped, like broadly. Rich Birch — Right.Rebecca Maxwell — I know there are there are more and more church leaders who are doing a deeper dive into understanding mental health and mental illness. But I would say by and large, the training isn’t there. And the problem with that is that people, parishioners, are going to go to their church leaders first when they’re struggling because they’re trusted. They’re a trusted source of on life. And so if our folks aren’t trained well, they can unintentionally cause harm. And I want to emphasize unintentionally… Rich Birch — Right, right. Rebecca Maxwell — …because nobody wants to miss something or cause harm. And, you know, they may accidentally just miss things. And, you know, suicide continues to be on the rise. And we don’t want to miss the pleas, the cries of a desperate person. And we also don’t want to minimize those. Rebecca Maxwell — We don’t want to give, you know, Christian euphemisms that don’t really address and see what’s going on deeper. Because not people don’t always show you what’s going on deeper right in the beginning. So a little bit of training goes a long way. And I know having been there and even now today, like we just don’t have enough, enough knowledge.Rich Birch — Right.Rebecca Maxwell — And church leaders are never going to be master’s level therapists. That’s not I’m asking for.Rich Birch — No. Right. Rebecca Maxwell — But I think we can have a better partnership to help each other.Rich Birch — Yeah, that’s, that’s good. Well, let’s, let’s start. I want to come back to the the suicide question in a minute. Rebecca Maxwell — Okay.Rich Birch — So I want to put a a bookmark in that and come back to that. Cause there’s specifically, I want, I got a couple of questions around that, that I’d love to get your thoughts on. But let’s go back to that idea of pastors getting the first call. Many of us have been in on that, right? We get the, you know, a family’s in crisis mode. Something’s falling apart. I can’t, I can’t deal with this situation.Rich Birch — In fact, actually, I’ve used this yeah as like an example when training campus pastors where I’m like, there’s, you know, when someone calls you with a crisis call like that, what you say in the first 30 seconds matters. Rebecca Maxwell — Yeah. Rich Birch — Like actually that, you know, even on the phone, you know, hey, you know, so what, what happens, talk to us from your perspective, what, what usually happens in that conversation or what, where, where could that go sideways? How do we, how do we end up maybe intentionally we’re trying, unintentionally we’re trying to help, but we, things just don’t go right because we do something dumb, you know, in the, in the first little bit.Rebecca Maxwell — Well, think all of us are problem solvers. And so we want to give someone a solution to the thing that they’re experiencing. Rich Birch — Right. Rebecca Maxwell — And so that’s where we can like well-intentioned, we can kind of drop people. Because if we too quickly try to just point them to a scripture or give them a truth, which is true, we can tell them some true things about who God is and, and where he’s working and those sorts of things. And again, it’s true. But sometimes in that moment, it’s not helpful. Rich Birch — Right.Rebecca Maxwell — Sometimes a person needs to get out a little bit more of what they’re experiencing and just have someone to bear witness to their pain, right? And we see this in the scripture. Jesus did this over and over where he he he spent that time with someone to kind of bear witness to their pain before he sent them in a different direction.Rebecca Maxwell — And obviously we need both of those. I don’t want people just swimming around in the pain forever either. That’s not helpful. But I do think we move too quickly sometimes when we get that first call. You know, we just want to solve that thing. Rich Birch — Yep.Rebecca Maxwell — And sometimes we just need to kind of slow down and the and give the ministry of presence.Rich Birch — What’s a good way, maybe maybe put a bit more kind of practical bones on that. I love that idea of the ministry of presence. Hey, we’re just going to, my job right now is just to be here with you. Talk us through what that looks like.Rebecca Maxwell — Yeah, I think it’s allowing someone to get their story out. And sometimes that’s not convenient because sometimes it’s long, you know.Rich Birch — Yep.Rebecca Maxwell — So to get their story out to and to be listening for the strengths and the positives that the person might be saying but isn’t quite aware of.Rebecca Maxwell — And actually…Rebecca Maxwell — you know, this, this happened yesterday to us. Rich Birch — Okay.Rebecca Maxwell — And so maybe like a story will help.Rich Birch — Yeah, yeah, that’s great.Rebecca Maxwell — Someone called in to our main office line and got one of actually my personal assistant, didn’t get the clinical admin, but got my personal assistant. And asked the question, if I kill myself, will I go to hell? Rich Birch — Wow.Rebecca Maxwell — Yeah. And my personal assistant knew enough to reach out to our team right away. And so I was able to help kind of walk her through what to do. And some of the things that I told her were just keep this person talking, right? Ask about their life, all aspects of what’s going on. Let them get their story out. Because what happens when we put words to our experience and someone bears witness to that is the emotions don’t have such a grip on us. They kind of relax a little bit.Rebecca Maxwell — And my assistant told me that as she was able to kind of just continue to keep this this woman talking, that she could just, over the phone line, experience kind of that release, that she got a little bit of relief, not ultimate relief…Rich Birch — Right.Rebecca Maxwell — …but a little bit of relief just in telling her story. And my personal assistant, I was able to walk her through listening for the strengths, listening for the positive things, that then you can come back around to. Not minimizing or negating the struggle, but bringing more balance to the truth. Because because then when they when they calm down and they’re more in their logical brain then you’re able to deliver truth in a way that they can grab onto. Rich Birch — That’s good. Right. Rebecca Maxwell — But when they’re heightened and they’re in such distress trying to kind of speak truth in that moment just kind of bounces off of them. Does that make sense?Rich Birch — Yeah. Yeah, there’s that moment of like it’s like that fight or flight thing that’s going on in our brain, right? Rebecca Maxwell — Yes. Rich Birch — Where we’re just like, I just want out of this situation… Rebecca Maxwell — Yeah. Rich Birch — …whatever’s happening to me… Rebecca Maxwell — Yes. Rich Birch — …and and none of us make, you know, wise decisions in those moments.Rebecca Maxwell — No.Rich Birch — Yeah, that’s, that’s, that’s amazing. How did your, well, first of all, like, I think all of our churches have got a call like that, maybe not exactly that one, but you get that call that’s like, whoa, this is, this is heavy. And particularly, yeah, so so how how did your, how did your assistant know what to do in that moment? How did you, like, that doesn’t, is that under other duties as assigned? How does, how did you, how are they prepared for that?Rebecca Maxwell — Well, I think one, she doesn’t have the clinical experience, but she is a believer and she’s walking with the Lord and she has the ultimate power source within her. So she knew to immediately start kind of praying in her spirit as she was talking.Rich Birch — Right. Right. Right.Rebecca Maxwell — And then she knew where to go. She knew who to call on.Rebecca Maxwell — And I think that that’s another important concept for church leaders is: Who are you going to call on in a crisis?Rich Birch — Yep.Rebecca Maxwell — When you are sitting with someone who is actively considering ending their life, or they’re just in a really, maybe they’re not at that point, but there’s they’re dealing with something else.Rich Birch — Right.Rebecca Maxwell — Who are you going to call on? You don’t, I tell church leaders, you don’t have to have all the answers. You don’t have to know exactly what to do and where to where to point people, but you have to know where to go to resource yourself. Rich Birch — Yep.Rebecca Maxwell — And that’s what my personal assistant knew. Rich Birch — Right. Rebecca Maxwell — She knew how to resource herself, how to get some help. And so I was able to, you know, she’s on the phone and I'm texting her questions and things like that… Rich Birch — Right. Okay. Rebecca Maxwell — …so she knew where to go. Yeah.Rich Birch — Yeah, that’s cool. You know, a best practice i’ve we’ve seen in many churches, ah but I’m surprised, I still am surprised that when I bumped into churches and they don’t have this, is like a resource list of like, here are some trusted counselors, some trusted people to talk about. Talk to us about that from your side. You’ve seen both sides of that equation. How do we develop a list like that? How do we how do we make that available? How do we how do we do that in a way that is most helpful for for our team, for maybe our staff, or for people who are just at our church.Rebecca Maxwell — Yeah, it takes a little bit of time, but there are resources in your community. You just have to find them, usually.Rich Birch — Right. Yep.Rebecca Maxwell — And there are some purely online resources as well. I think the first step is probably gaining some understanding of the different types of clinicians who are out there… Rich Birch — Right. Rebecca Maxwell — …and and what they’re best suited for, what issues they’re best suited for.Rich Birch — Right.Rebecca Maxwell — You may have someone in your congregation who is a counselor. And so that might be a good first step is to get them on board to help you create a vetted list to what should I be asking when I want to partner with someone?Rebecca Maxwell — Because it’s one thing to say, I’m a Christian and a counselor. It’s another thing to say, I am counseling from a biblical framework. I’m counseling from a biblical worldview. And so you know, understanding how to make that distinction, you know, someone in, in your congregation may, may have the ability to do that.Rich Birch — Right.Rebecca Maxwell — But just how to ask the right questions so that you can begin to build a resource list of, like I said, we are biblical worldview clinically, like informed. And so you, you want to have some people like that… Rich Birch — Right. Rebecca Maxwell — …because we are operating under the license of our state. We have a code of ethics that we’re following. We have oversight. And I think that’s really important. You also have biblical and pastoral counselors that are some are very, very well trained. But you need to understand like what that lane is… Rich Birch — Right. Rebecca Maxwell — …and what is a more clinically informed lane. And so, and a lot of people don’t have that understanding and rightfully so. Right? There’s so many different practitioners and we don’t, we don’t really know who has kind of what skills and what’s appropriate in their lane.Rich Birch — Yeah, absolutely. you got to do a little bit of research around even the language that’s used, you know, the difference between like a life coach and a counselor… Rebecca Maxwell — Right. Rich Birch — …and a therapist. Rebecca Maxwell — Right. Rich Birch — And, you know, like, and, you know, be a little bit suspicious of people if they’re like, hey, I want to get on that list. And are there any from your—give us the inside scoop—are there any red flags that you would have? Let’s say I’m reaching out, I’m talking to a number of therapists in my community and, if somebody says something or is there something that, you know, I want to be wary of, of, ohh I’m not sure we necessarily want to point people in their direction?Rebecca Maxwell — Yeah, I think this is a more subtle one. Rich Birch — Yep. Rebecca Maxwell — But I think when someone says I’m a Christian, but you know, I really don’t bring that into my practice at all. Rich Birch — You want to ask some follow-ups?Rebecca Maxwell — Yeah, let’s ask some follow’s ah some follow ups. Rich Birch — Yes. Yeah. Rebecca Maxwell — Because in general, and I’ll kind of expound on this particular one… Rich Birch — Yep. Rebecca Maxwell — …regardless of what the clinician’s faith background is, we are trained to um to bring up a person’s spiritual part of self as part of holistic practice.Rich Birch — Right.Rebecca Maxwell — Unfortunately, a lot of clinicians are just leaving that part out completely. Rich Birch — Okay. Yep. Rebecca Maxwell — Because of politics and taboos and, you know, and we don’t want to get in trouble sometimes with our our licensing boards, right? Rich Birch — Right.Rebecca Maxwell — But we are all trained to see a person holistically. And we would, in in my field, we would say bio, psycho, social, spiritual—biological, psychological, social/relationships, and spiritual. But we’ve we’ve kind of left out the spiritual. And so, we should all, no matter whether you’re a Christian or not, we should all be asking and inquiring about a patient’s spiritual life. Rich Birch — Right.Rebecca Maxwell — And that’s a really easy open door. So if someone says, you know, I’m such and such, but I don’t…you know, I really don’t bring that up and in counseling at all. I understand that they’re afraid to, and there’s, I understand.Rich Birch — Right.Rebecca Maxwell —But you really want a clinician who’s not afraid to inquire more generally about a person’s spiritual life.Rich Birch — Right. Right.Rebecca Maxwell — And I think that’s a big one.Rich Birch — Yeah. And the combo of doing that in a licensed environment, you know, so you’re getting kind of the best of both worlds there really makes a lot of sense. Like, Hey, were, you know, I understand why, you know, that makes, that makes sense. That’s a good, that’s a good line there. Rich Birch — So kind of a different, it’s related, but different train of thought. I know there are churches out there that have like a, a negative view on on like mental health… Rebecca Maxwell — Yeah. Rich Birch — …on mental illness, on counseling in general. They they it gets really black and white. And they’re it’s like, like I have a family, yeah, I have a family member who their pastor told them, you know, it’s just totally a sin issue and like andRebecca Maxwell — Yes.Rich Birch — They had been struggling with issues for a long time. And, you know, that was a huge weight on their on their life… Rebecca Maxwell — Yeah. Rich Birch — …that they carried, you know, for a well into their kind of 80s, late into life. And talk to us, unpack that for us. Like I think that’s just a dangerous approach, but help us and understand that mindset. Why is that dangerous? What’s behind that instinct?Rebecca Maxwell — I think that I think the instinct is probably good that the Bible gives us everything we need for life and godliness.Rich Birch — Right.Rebecca Maxwell — And I think sometimes it’s just potentially a misinterpretation of just a holistic understanding heart, soul, mind, and strength of a person. That the mind…because in Deuteronomy, it, it, it doesn’t say heart, soul, mind, and strength that comes in Jesus words in, Mark. And I think also Luke, But in Deuteronomy, it’s heart, soul, strength. And so mind is not broken out in that original text.Rebecca Maxwell — And then I believe that it is broken out and listed in the New Testament because I really think Jesus wanted to highlight that. And we see, I mean, the mind is talked about about 180 times in the New Testament. And so it’s a really important aspect of us.Rebecca Maxwell — And so think that unintentionally the mind is not considered distinctly and is maybe not seen as an object of brokenness and illness in the same way, right? Like we see, obviously we see if the pancreas doesn’t work properly, we have diabetes, right?Rich Birch — Right.Rebecca Maxwell — Or we get cancer and obviously that’s not our fault. But the mind is the thing we have the most control over. And so think people think that that’s just a sin issue. You just need to stop or do something differently. And we don’t have the full understanding, especially because science is still understanding the interplay between the mind and the physical brain… Rich Birch — Right. Rebecca Maxwell — …and how they interact with each other. And so I just don’t think a lot of people have kind of caught up with understanding that, you know, that is a distinct part of self that can be broken, just like the body can be broken.Rich Birch — Right. Just like having a broken leg or whatever. Rebecca Maxwell — Right.Rich Birch — Yeah, and that I think that’s a great that is a great transition to, you’ve actually written a book on this that I’d love to unpack a little bit. You use this you know whole self integration—heart, soul, mind, and strength. It’s kind of at the core of what you’re talking about. Why don’t you walk us through that framework a little bit more? The book we’re talking about is “Jesus and Your Mental Health: Linking God’s Word and Modern Science to Find Peace about Mental Health”.Rich Birch — I would love people to pick up copies of this. We’ll get to that in a bit, but kind of unpack how that those four inform the framework of the conversation in this book.Rebecca Maxwell — Yeah, so it’s really like setting our thinking on holistic health and putting mental health right inside the framework of whole self. So we do things to, we do things to help our physical health and our spiritual health and our relational health. And so we probably ought to be thinking about the health of our mind. You know, again, it’s mentioned 180 times plus in the New Testament.Rich Birch — Wow.Rebecca Maxwell — So it must be pretty important, this renewing of our mind and how we go about that. And this idea that we’re integrated. So our mind impacts our body, impacts our soul, and our soul impacts our body, impacts our mind, impacts our relationships. Like it’s all integrated. Rich Birch — Right.Rebecca Maxwell — And we can utilize some of the healthy habits of the other three parts to help our mind. And we can utilize this thing we have control over our mind to impact the other parts of self. And we know this just anecdotally in our own lives, right? Like very simple things like when my dad taught me to throw a softball, he had me point at the target and direct my body… Rich Birch — Right. Rebecca Maxwell — …and my mind and my eyes in that direction. And then the ball went there. Rich Birch — Right. Rebecca Maxwell — Well, we can use that concept, you know, in all of mental health, you know, where we direct our mind, the rest of us follows.Rebecca Maxwell — And so really just understanding that integration and how we can use it for the common good and not, not separating this mental health and continuing to stigmatize it as, you know, sin just a sin problem. I think that’s where we go wrong, is that if you have and a malady of the mind, it’s really a sin problem. Sometimes it is. Rich Birch — Right, right. Rebecca Maxwell — But it’s a little more complicated than that as well.Rich Birch — Right. Yeah, it it seems like there’s a false dichotomy in a lot of leaders’ minds around, um well, it’s exactly were talking about, Bible and psychology, Bible and therapy. Like there’s there’s like those two things can’t interact with each other. Which which side of that equation do you experience more? Like, is it more from like church leaders that are skeptical or is it more from maybe leaders who are from outside the church who you’ve mentioned this already, who don’t pursue kind of the spiritual conversation? Which of those do you see? Cause I can see it from both sides where I’m like, oh, I could see on both sides of that conversation.Rebecca Maxwell — Absolutely.Rich Birch — People are like, and then we’re not meeting in the middle. And that’s why it’s great that you exist and why your organization exists. So, uh, talk to us about where do you see the pressure more from?Rebecca Maxwell — I really see it on both sides, honestly… Rich Birch — Right, right. Rebecca Maxwell — …just kind of like you’re describing, you know. Secular psychology really wants to leave out, you know, spirituality and um any, any, really any firm truth, you know, absolute truth.Rich Birch — Right, right.Rebecca Maxwell — And then the church, because of that, a lot of times just in general, we’ll be like, well, we got to throw all of that away because it’s not useful at all.Rich Birch — Right, overreact.Rebecca Maxwell — And I just, I don’t, I don’t think that’s helpful. We, we utilize science, scientific concepts in our everyday life. And so we, you know, we need to find the the good and the truth in what, you know, research based psychological science is showing us because there is some common good there, just like there is in, you know, other discover scientific discoveries.Rich Birch — Well, I I think this is a great resource. I’m so glad you’ve put this book together. And I’d love to talk about how you could see it being used. I know for me, and we’ll link in the show notes actually to a sample of the book. So you can, you don’t even have to buy anything. Just look at the sample to start before you buy it. I so I thought this could be a great resource for us as like a staff team to read through as kind of like a, hey, here’s like a primer on some of these issues for us to be thinking about, even just to kind of frame the conversation to be thinking about these things.Rich Birch — Who are you picturing as you put this together? What’s what’s your kind of vision for how you hope this resource will be used by churches?Rebecca Maxwell — Yeah. When I wrote the book, I was picturing someone kind of like me and my friends who are, you know, love the Lord, love their families, are trying to help their families live in health in all aspects of their life. And as I was writing it, what I realized with also some prompting of my pastor was that this could be a really great resource for equipping churches.Rebecca Maxwell — The very people that I wrote it for, the mamas, you know, in that are serving in the church and very involved, but also church staff and volunteer leaders, because what I’m trying to give people is really a grounding for how to think about mental health and mental illness from a suffering, you know putting it in like a suffering standpoint. And then equipping them with a ton of scripture to back up the understanding of the mind and the brain and how to have a healthy mind, what happens when the mind isn’t healthy and then some common both some common roots of mental illness, including trauma and family of origin issues, and then some, some really common problems in the area of mental health, anxiety, depression, grief, and loss, so that people can be equipped with a resource that they can hand to someone, or they can say, Hey, read chapter seven on anxiety… Rich Birch — Right. Rebecca Maxwell — …you know, and someone is going to get a biblical understanding of where anxiety shows up in the scripture. How Jesus shows up in that? What are some practical ways that psychological science gives us to deal with that? What does the Bible say about how to deal with that? And let’s kind of put all of these things together.Rebecca Maxwell — So they’re really going have both just under an understanding of grounding in mental health and also some practical ways to address those issues. And then really ending with like, hey, how do you know when you need more help than what this book can give you?Rich Birch — That’s good.Rebecca Maxwell — And how do you find the right person to help you?Rich Birch — Yeah, it’s fantastic. Yeah, there’s, you know, just even as I’m flipping through looking at the chapters, like just so much helpful stuff in here, identity and self-esteem. Who does Jesus say I am? Attachment. How did my childhood impact my relationship? Trauma. That’s a word we hear all the time. Rebecca Maxwell — Yeah.Rich Birch — Where is Jesus when that happened? And I think there’s just, this is gonna be so helpful for so many leaders to check out and and to and to use as a resource.Rich Birch — I think this is the kind of book, like you said, I could picture, hey, I got five copies of this and I’m gonna end up in a conversation where it’s maybe not somebody that’s in like an immediate crisis right now, but they maybe their kid is wrestling with these issues. And on top of, yes, I’ll meet with them, I’ll pray with them. And yes, here’s the list of counselors, but like, here’s a book to read as well to help you think through this. I think this could be incredibly helpful for people.Rebecca Maxwell — I hope so. Yeah.Rich Birch — Yeah, where where do where can people get, if they want to get copies of this book, where do we want to send them to pick up copies of this?Rebecca Maxwell — Yeah, anywhere books are sold online. So Amazon and Barnes and Noble, Walmart, Target, places like that. And folks can reach out to me about getting like bulk copies. Rich Birch — Oh, great.Rebecca Maxwell — They may already have places they get bulk books, but they can reach out to me to get that. I have some other resources like discussion guides that I am happy to give if people reach out to me – discussion guides and other just resources for folks that maybe, I’ve had a bunch of people reach out because they want to kind of do a book study with their disciple group or things like that.Rich Birch — Right. Rebecca Maxwell — So, you know, my goal really is to equip the church. I want the church to be the the trusted source where people can come to and begin a healing journey. And so I think this will help equip people in the church, both, you know, paid staff and lay leaders to to really help people.Rich Birch — If people want to reach out to you, where where do we want to, where do we do that? Where do we want them to do that to? To reach out to you?Rebecca Maxwell — Yeah, the best is probably my website, JesusAndYourMentalHealth.com.Rich Birch — Love it. That’s great. I want to talk about that trusted source idea that you just referenced there. This conversation is a conversation that’s happening in the broader culture. It’s just happening, right? Rebecca Maxwell — Yes. Rich Birch — Like it’s, you you know, you open up, I read The Economist all the time. Every week in The Economist, there’s some sort of article that is, if not directly talking about this, it’s connected to it. What happens when the church in general just stays silent on the mental health issues? What happens if we if we don’t engage this? Kind of inspire us a little bit.Rebecca Maxwell — Yeah, well, there’s a lot of noise. And so people are going to go to TikTok and Instagram and even ChatGPT…Rich Birch — Right. Yes.Rebecca Maxwell — …to get there their information. And they’re not always going to get biblically informed information. Rich Birch — Right. Rebecca Maxwell —And that’s why it’s so important that we’re equipped because people are coming to churches more and more for practical guidance on the stuff that they’re actually going through. Rich Birch — Yep.Rebecca Maxwell — And the Bible is not silent on the practical stuff. And so we want to be well-equipped to go to the scripture with them and to point them in the right direction and to give them some kind of guardrails and guidance for finding help. Otherwise, it’s like you’re kind of floating out in this sea of information. I wouldn’t even say knowledge or wisdom, but information.Rich Birch — Yes.Rebecca Maxwell — And you don’t really know where to anchor.Rich Birch — Bullet points. Checklist. Yes. Yes. Five steps to.Rebecca Maxwell — Right.Rich Birch — Yeah, that’s yeah, that’s ah yeah, that’s so good. It’s interesting on the AI thing. There’s but bunch of studies that have shown that’s really the primary use how people are using ChatGPT, particularly. They’re using it as like a counselor.Rebecca Maxwell — Yeah.Rich Birch — And um I I mean, there’s like that’s dangerous. So it’s incredible. Well, this has been a great conversation. Any kind of final words you’d say as we wrap up today’s discussion?Rebecca Maxwell — Yeah. You know, kind of, I think the thing I want to leave people with is a little bit of where we started in the beginning, which is managing crisis. Something that’s really, I think, important for anybody working with people is to get trained in how to prevent suicide. And there is a training called QPR instead of CPR. Rich Birch — Yeah, let tell us about this. Yeah, yeah, tell us about this. Yep.Rebecca Maxwell — It’s QPR question, persuade, respond. And it’s like an hour long, maybe 90 minute online training or anyone that works with people can be trained in how to basically do CPR for people that are having a mental health crisis that could literally save lives. And the skills that are taught in that are transferable to people that aren’t in crisis. Rebecca Maxwell — And so that’s the thing I mostly want to leave. Like there’s a lot of information to be found. And obviously I would love people to get my book, but I really want everyone that works with people to be trained in how to respond to people who are having a mental health crisis, how to know what to say, how to persuade them to get help. I think that, you know, we could, we’re, we could really save lives there.Rich Birch — Yeah, that’s, that’s, how do we go about finding QPR training? Like if we, I think this is, again, what a great takeaway. You’ve landed this great takeaway right here at the end, even for our staff teams. Let’s get that on our schedule. Rebecca Maxwell — Totally.Rich Birch — Like I I think about the people that are answering the phone at the church. I’m like, I was thinking about that earlier when you were talking about your assistant. I'm like, man, I want to make sure that they get the kind of training because, you know, I don’t want to fumble that ball. So where, where do we, where would people find training this QPR training?Rebecca Maxwell — Yeah. You can find them online. I think it’s qpr.org, but I’m kind of looking it up as we speak because I’m like, dang it, I should have had that reference.Rich Birch — Right. Yep. Sure. Yeah. Yeah. ahRebecca Maxwell — QPR.Rich Birch — No, no, that’s okay.Rebecca Maxwell — It’s QPR. qprinstitute.com Rich Birch — Perfect. QPR Institute.com. Rebecca Maxwell — qprinstitute.com Rich Birch — Great. Perfect. That’s, that’s fantastic. Well, Rebecca, I really appreciate you being on today and helping us serving us. I want to make sure folks, again, the name of that book is “Jesus and Your Mental Health: Linking God’s Word and Modern Science to Find Peace about Mental Health”. Grab that at Amazon or Barnes and Noble. We’ll put links in the show notes to that. We’ll put links in the show notes to your website, anywhere else we want to send them online so they can track with you or with the book?Rebecca Maxwell — Yeah, our our practice website is jacksonvillecounseling.net. Rich Birch — Perfect.Rebecca Maxwell — So we only really can practice in Florida, Texas, Colorado. That’s where we have.Rich Birch — Yes.Rebecca Maxwell — But we do have a blog, a mental health blog on there. I have a podcast called Jesus and Your Mental Health. So those are some other resources just, you know, to get more information about mental health concepts. You know, we all love a good podcast and bite-sized learning on something. Rich Birch — Yes.Rebecca Maxwell — So those are a couple couple couple extra things for folks.Rich Birch — Well, Rebecca, I appreciate you being here today. Thanks so much for being on the show.Rebecca Maxwell — Yeah. Thanks, Rich.

This week Kirsty sits down with Amie Cooper and Cindy Painter from Flourishing Families of South Carolina. The conversation delves into the experiences of foster and adoptive parents and how attachment is important, not only in the parent-child dyad but in systems as a whole.   Show Notes:  www.flourishingfamilies.org https://www.flourishingfamiliessc.org/meettheneed https://www.facebook.com/flourishingfamiliesofsc https://www.instagram.com/flourishingfamiliessc Connect with the Attachment Theory in Action Podcast: ATIA Podcast Website: https://www.attachmenttheoryinaction.com/  ATIA Podcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/19Xm5Nhk2K/    Attachment Theory in Action Podcast is brought to you by Chaddock Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChaddockLearningNetwork/ Follow us on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/chaddocklearningnetwork/ Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chaddocklearningnetwork/   Connect with our Podcast Host: Follow Kirsty on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/krugglesatchaddock Connect with Kirsty on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kirstynolan84/

Jon Fogel is a parenting expert, pastor, published author, and PhD candidate who runs Whole Parent and Whole Parent Academy, a resource built around the psychology of parenting and discipline. He is the author of the bestselling book Punishment Free Parenting and a brand new children's book, Set My Feelings Free, which sold out nationwide before its second printing. He is a husband, father of four kids ranging from 18 months to nine years old, and somehow found time to install a toilet while his wife was in labor. Jon has been a guest on The Dad Edge podcast twice before, and every single time he shows up, he leaves the room differently than he found it. This episode is a live Q&A inside the Alliance, and the questions the guys brought were real. Getting a spouse on the same page. The pendulum swing between authoritarian and checked-out. A five-year-old who looks you dead in the eye before he does the wrong thing on purpose. And the hard one: what happens when your son won't respond to you the way he responds to his mom. Jon's framework is grounded in brain science and developmental psychology, and the thing that keeps hitting you as you listen is how much of what we were taught about discipline actually works against us. The reason kids shut down when we raise our voices is the same reason our partners shut down when we raise our voices. The reason kids push boundaries is not defiance. It's development. The reason your son runs to mom and not to you is not a reflection of your worth as a father. It's evolution. If you're a dad who's been doing the work but still feels like something is off in how your kids or your partner respond to you, this episode is going to give you clarity in places you didn't expect to find it.   Timeline Summary [1:01] Host introduces Jon Fogel for his third appearance, covering his role as a parenting expert, author, PhD candidate, and founder of Whole Parent Academy [2:05] Jon describes his book Punishment Free Parenting, its bestseller status, and explains that 99% of the book is about what to do instead of punishing [3:42] Jon's newest children's book Set My Feelings Free is sold out nationwide, with a second printing arriving May 20th [4:02] First question from Rich: how to get a spouse on the same page when parenting backgrounds and styles are very different [5:29] Jon explains why you should never try to correct a partner's parenting in the moment, and why the same brain science that applies to kids applies to adults [8:11] Jon introduces the H.E.A.R. framework from Harvard for conflict resolution: Hedge, Emphasize agreement, Acknowledge perspective, Reframe to the positive [10:55] Jon walks through each step of H.E.A.R. practically, showing how removing defensiveness creates space for the other person to move without feeling wrong [14:07] Jon adds a bonus tactic: developing a safe word with your partner as a mutual tap-out when someone is getting too heated to parent effectively [17:56] Second question from Chris: the pendulum swing between strict and disengaged, and why so many parents default to one or the other [19:16] Jon reframes the boundary concept using the backyard fence metaphor: boundaries are not restrictions, they are the only structure that gives a child real freedom [27:17] Third question: a five-year-old who deliberately pushes boundaries and throws food. Jon explains the difference between punishments, natural consequences, and logical consequences [30:50] Jon explains that boundary-pushing at five is a developmental need, not defiance, and offers a practical redirection strategy using a popcorn bowl at dinner [35:15] Anonymous question: son responds to mom and shuts down with dad. Jon addresses attachment hierarchy, enmeshment concerns, and why parents should largely stop parenting together [40:10] Jon explains the science of attachment hierarchy and how kids are hardwired to default to one parent under threat. He clarifies that being second in the hierarchy does not mean you are failing [44:46] Jon shares resources: Punishment Free Parenting, the children's book Set My Feelings Free, The Whole Parent Podcast, and an in-person event in Chicago on May 21st   Five Key Takeaways The worst time to correct your partner's parenting is in the moment it's happening. The same science that tells us not to discipline a dysregulated child applies directly to adults. Wait for calm, get curious about the trigger, and then use the H.E.A.R. framework to address it without creating more defensiveness than you started with. Boundaries are not restrictions. They are the structure that gives your child real freedom. A kid without clear boundaries does not feel free. They feel unsafe. The backyard fence metaphor Jon uses is worth sitting with: your job is to build the fence in the right place, not to police what happens inside it. A five-year-old who looks you in the eye before doing something he knows you don't want is not being defiant. He is developing. At that age, differentiation is a biological need, and the act of doing something dad doesn't want is how he practices becoming his own person. Understanding that changes how you respond. If your son responds better to his mom than to you, that is not an indictment of who you are as a father. Attachment hierarchy is hardwired and evolutionary. The solution is not to compete with mom in the room. It is to build a relationship with your son when she is not there. Kids who do not have their need for autonomy met will meet that need in ways you will not like. Whether it is food at the dinner table, video games at 13, or behavior that seems to come out of nowhere, the question worth asking is: where else in his day does he get to make his own choices?   Links & Resources Punishment Free Parenting by Jon Fogel — https://a.co/d/0hdOkJZl Set My Feelings Free (children's book) — second printing available May 20th In-person Chicago event with Jon Fogel and Eli Harwood — May 21st, downtown Chicago How to Deal With Your Shirt So Your Kids Don't Have to by Eli Harwood The Alliance — http://thedadedge.com/soulmates The Men's Forge — http://themensforge.com/ Shownotes: http://thedadedge.com/1485   Closing The question about attachment hierarchy near the end of this one is going to stay with me for a while. The image of your kid running toward one parent without thinking, faster than conscious thought, because their brain is trying to survive a threat — and knowing that which parent they run to has nothing to do with how hard you've worked or how much you love them — that's both humbling and freeing at the same time. Jon said it plainly: being in second place means you're in first place when the other person isn't there. Do the work. Show up. Take the alone time with your kids and build what only you can build with them. Go out and live legendary.

Amanda Smith lived as a lesbian for 12 years. She dressed like a man, dated feminine women, and was convinced God had made her that way. Then, alone in a new city with nothing but a Bible her mom had given her, everything changed. Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse sits down with Amanda Smith, a staff missionary with Desert Stream Living Waters, to talk about the journey out of a lesbian identity, the real contributing factors behind same-sex attraction, and what the Church gets right — and wrong — when walking alongside people in sexual and relational brokenness.

On this episode of The Healer Revolution Podcast, I sit down with Blaise Kennedy, spiritual teacher and creator of Developmental Architecture, a framework that bridges consciousness, nervous system healing, relational growth, embodiment, and emotional development.Blaise's work focuses on helping people move beyond insight alone and into actual lived transformation. Instead of chasing peak experiences or spiritual bypassing, he teaches a grounded approach to healing that includes nervous system capacity, relational safety, emotional honesty, embodiment, and integration.In this conversation, we discuss:• The difference between insight and embodiment• Why healing often does not happen in isolation• Nervous system regulation and spiritual growth• Attachment, relationships, and emotional maturity• Why people can feel “aware” but still stuck• Moving from awakening into lived changeThis was one of my favorite conversations on spirituality and healing because it felt deeply human, practical, and honest.https://www.blaisekennedy.com/media-podcasts/thr✨ Working with Amanda

Elle Russ chats with Rob Mack about the modern state of dating, relationships, loneliness, happiness, and human connection in an increasingly disconnected world. Together, they explore everything from dating app fatigue, commitment paralysis, and "strategic singledom" to the rise of polyamory, self-awareness culture, trauma patterns, friendship, and the misunderstood meaning of "alpha" traits in men and women. Drawing from both positive psychology research and personal experience, Elle and Rob unpack the emotional realities behind modern relationships with humor, insight, honesty, and philosophical depth. The conversation dives into modern loneliness, the paradox of choice, attachment, self-worth, emotional presence, and why learning to enjoy your own company may be one of the foundations of a healthy relationship. www.coachrobmack.com   FREEBIES: Free Thyroid Guide + Video Series: https://www.elleruss.com/thyroid-guide Free Confidence eBook & Workbook: https://www.elleruss.com/7secrets Elle's website: https://www.elleruss.com   #theellerussshow

If you've ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same relationship with a different person, this episode is for you. I sit down with Sarah Baldwin — Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, member of the world-renowned Polyvagal Theory training team, and one of the most respected voices in trauma resolution working today — and together we go deep into parts work, attachment patterns, and why your nervous system is the one choosing your relationships until you do this work. Sarah shares her own extraordinary healing journey with breathtaking honesty, and this conversation genuinely felt like listening to a poem.Connect with Sarah:https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/Free Workbook: https://programs.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/how-to-gain-control-over-how-you-feel-workbookNavigating Your Nervous System Waitlist: https://programs.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/navigating-your-nervous-system-waitlisthttps://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/WORK WITH ME 1:1:❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support:https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewformDOWNLOAD FOR FREE:Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go-guideAttatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinayt.com/attachment-practice Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinayt.com/connect-and-groundAlive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-alignedTrigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:https://marinayt.com/resources CONNECT WITH  ME:Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:"Until you do this work, you are all in arranged relationships. You think you're choosing. You're not. Your nervous system is choosing for you." — Sarah Baldwin"Trauma healing is state dependent. You need the same flavouring of the dynamic you were wounded in — and nothing replicates that like a romantic relationship." — Sarah Baldwin"When you're triggered, adult you flies out the window. For all intents and purposes, you're five years old — and it would be life or death for a five year old to be alone in the middle of a city." — Sarah Baldwin"The truest love story ever written is the one you have with your parts. Falling in love with every single one of them — including the ones that were trying to drown your partner." — Sarah Baldwin"What you feel in any given moment may not be the truth of that moment. It may be the truth of something that happened a very long time ago." — Sarah Baldwinparts work, somatic experiencing, attachment healing, people pleasing, nervous system regulation, trauma healing, relational patterns, inner child healing, somatic healing, fear of abandonment, romantic relationships and trauma, polyvagal theory, codependency healing, emotional regulation, self trust, embodiment, protective parts, deep within podcast, Sarah Baldwin, somatic coaching

If you have ever looked at your teenager and thought, “Why are we suddenly having toddler-level emotional meltdowns again?” this episode is going to make so much sense. I had such a fascinating conversation with Tania Johnson from the Institute of Child Psychology about what is actually happening inside the teenage brain, and honestly, it completely reframed some things for me as a parent.We talk about why teens and toddlers are surprisingly similar from a brain development perspective, why emotional outbursts and withdrawal are actually normal parts of development, and what parents can do to stay connected without smothering their kids. I especially loved how practical this conversation became. Tania has such a gift for taking complicated psychology concepts and making them feel doable in real life.One of my biggest takeaways from this episode was the reminder that connection is still the foundation of parenting during the teen years. Even when they roll their eyes, shut their doors, or seem like they do not want us around, attachment and relationship still matter deeply.In this episode, we cover:Why the teenage brain develops similarly to a toddler's brainWhat co-regulation actually looks like during emotional momentsWhy talking less can sometimes help more with teensWhat is happening when your teen explodes and then withdrawsWhy parents should step back into connection after conflictHow attachment continues shaping mental health during adolescenceSimple family rituals that help teens feel loved and connectedWhy family meals matter more than most parents realize! Resources We Mention for Parenting Teens with ConnectionCheck out Tania's book: The Parenting Handbook: Your Guide to Raising Resilient Children by Tania Johnson and Tammy Schamuhn (Amazon / Bookshop.org)What Is Nervous System Work, and Why Is It Important?Teens Want to Be in Control. Here's Why They're NOT (& What They Can Do About it) Direct from a Teen AuthorTable talk: why you need to prioritize family mealsDon't miss #LifeSkillsNow - register right now!Kitchen StewardshipRaising Healthy Families follow Katie on Instagram or FacebookSubscribe to the newsletter to get weekly updatesYouTube shorts channel for HPHFind the Healthy Parenting Handbook at raisinghealthyfamilies.com/podcastAffiliate links used here. Thanks for supporting the Healthy Parenting Handbook!

Forrest is joined by author, meditator, and friend Diego Perez, also known as Yung Pueblo, for a conversation about right effort, the balance between pushing through and letting go, and the death of nuance in the age of social media.  They start with Diego's experience on his recent 60-day silent meditation retreat, and what that kind of practice teaches about craving, attachment, and getting unstuck from old roles. Diego frames right effort as the middle path between forcing your life and going with the flow, and that tension leads into a conversation about social media, including the appeal of reductive advice and being told what to do. Diego closes with what he'd recommend for someone who wants some of the rewards of practice without committing to a long retreat. Key Topics:  0:00: Intro 2:02: Diego's 60-day silent retreat 8:17: Right Effort: balancing pursuit with letting go 15:49: Attachment, craving, and suffering 19:25: Diego's journey to the sensitive boy's club 25:19: Resistance: a sign that something is wrong or that we should push harder? 31:07: How to stop outsourcing your decisions & find guidance within  42:41: The limitations of labels and therapy-speak 52:26: Practices for those who aren't serious meditators 55:39: Recap Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Go to Zocdoc.com/BEING to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Visit Rula.com/BEINGWELL to find affordable, high-quality therapy that's actually covered by insurance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sponsored By: → Ora Organics | Head to https://ora.organic/pages/drg and use my code HEALTHYSELF30 to enjoy 30% off your first Ora order today. Episode Description The way you show up in relationships today was decided before you even knew how to speak. Eli Harwood is a licensed therapist, the creator of Attachment Nerd, and the author of How to Deal with Your (Anxiety, Anger, Self-Doubt, Insecurity, Trauma) So Your Kids Don't Have To. She spent nearly 20 years sitting with families watching parents who desperately wanted better for their children but had no roadmap for how to actually get there. This conversation goes deep into why 50% of us never experienced secure attachment, what that did to our sense of self, and what it actually takes to break the cycle before it passes to the next generation. In this episode, you'll discover:  • Why chaos can feel more like home than safety, and why the people who confuse you are often more magnetic than the people who make you feel secure  • What happens developmentally when a child grows up in an unpredictable home and how that wound silently shapes every relationship, every breakup, and every parenting moment that follows  • The difference between intellectually knowing this work and actually doing it, and why your kids will find every unhealed part of you no matter what This one is for every parent, every soon to be parent, and every adult who is still trying to figure out why love feels so complicated. Find Eli:   • Website: https://www.attachmentnerd.com   • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd   • TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@attachmentnerd   • YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@attachmentnerd   • Book: How to Deal with Your (Anxiety, Anger, Self-Doubt, Insecurity, Trauma) So Your Kids Don't Have To — https://www.amazon.com/Deal-Your-____-Kids-Dont/dp/1632175967 Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 1:41 - Meet Eli Harwood: Licensed Therapist & Creator of Attachment Nerd  2:34 - Rapid Fire: Familiar vs. Safe, Anxiety vs. Love & Why "Boring" Partners Feel Wrong  8:18 - What Brought Her to This Work (Her Own Insecure Childhood)  10:33 - What Happens to a Child's Sense of Self When Parents Are Unavailable or Chaotic 12:22 - The Upside-Down Parent-Child Relationship: When Kids Take Care of Their Parents 16:27 - Children Know by Age One Whether Their Caregivers Are Reliable 19:32 - The Still-Face Experiment: What Happens When a Parent Goes Emotionally Blank  22:44 - How Kids Cope: Performing, People-Pleasing, Drinking, Managing  25:00 - You Notice Others' Tension Before Your Own (And Why)  27:41 - What Secure Attachment Actually Looks Like in a Family  30:12 - Breaking Generational Patterns: Why Knowledge Alone Isn't Enough  33:43 - How to Apologize to Your Kids the Right Way  38:08 - Fighting in Front of Your Kids: What the Research Actually Says  43:12 - The Moment He Turned the Lens Inward (And Why Relationships Are the Boot Camp) 47:05 - Your Kids Are Heat-Seeking Hovercrafts for Whatever Is Unhealed in You  51:33 - Why This Research Is Now Accessible (And Why It Wasn't Before)  55:22 - What We Bring Into Relationships When We Don't Have a Healthy Sense of Self  59:42 - The Book: A Guidebook for Parents Who Didn't Have Secure Modeling Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Attachment theory dominates modern dating advice, but this might be leading men in the wrong direction. In this episode, I explain why emotional attachment matters more for women, and how its misapplication distorts expectations in relationships. Instead, I argue that men should detach – not out of indifference, but in order to lead with clarity and confidence. This is how men show up at their best. Join my community: The Captains' Quarters. Attend bimonthly group consultations where I respond to members' questions and work through their problems in real time. Participate in AMAs with notable guests, access nearly 100 hours of unpublished content, receive discounts on individual consultations, gain a community of supportive, like-minded individuals, and much more. Use this link to enlist: https://the-captains-quarters.mn.co Access me 24/7 with Orion AI: Trained on my entire body of work, Orion AI allows me to weigh in on your situation in real time. Bridge the gap between theory and execution with actionable, personalized advice. Text or talk in over 70 languages. Available on Telegram and iMessage. Start your free trial today: https://oriontaraban.ai Buy my book, "Starry Night" Ebook: https://amzn.to/4qJrh9U Audiobook: https://amzn.to/3LuUJRS Paperback: https://amzn.to/4sGcqOY Buy my book, "The Value of Others" Ebook: https://amzn.to/460uGrA Audiobook: https://amzn.to/3YfFwbx Paperback: https://amzn.to/3xQuIFK Book a paid consultation: https://oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations Subscribe to my newsletter: https://oriontarabanpsyd.com Social Media TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@oriontaraban Facebook: https://facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ Instagram: https://instagram.com/psyc.hacks Twitter: https://twitter.com/oriontaraban Website: https://oriontarabanpsyd.com Orion's Theme: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WrXBzQ2HDEQ Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: https://stellargre.com. Become a Stellar affiliate and earn a 10% commission for every membership purchased by a new student you conduct into the program: https://stellargre.tapfiliate.com. GRE Bites: https://www.youtube.com/@grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXw/join Sound mixing/editing by: valntinomusic.com Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world. #psychology #relationship #men

Dr. Dan explores attachment theory, its relevance, misconceptions, and its impact on adult relationships and parenting. He emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and growth beyond fixed attachment styles.Key topicsAttachment theory origins and core conceptsMain attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganizedImpact of childhood experiences on adult relationshipsMisconceptions and limitations of attachment theoryThe role of self-awareness and therapy in changing attachment patterns

This is a Grave Talks CLASSIC EPISODE! PART TWOWhat began as a simple afternoon at the park turned into a moment that would change Soula Vaitsis's life forever.As a young girl, Soula experienced a terrifying encounter when an unseen force pulled her hair, followed by the appearance of a glowing woman in white with hollow, dark eyes hovering nearby. It was a moment that marked the beginning of years of unexplained and increasingly disturbing experiences.Over time, Soula came to believe this was not just a random encounter—but an attachment that followed her throughout her life, manifesting in encounters with spirits, dark energy, and something far more sinister.In this classic episode of The Grave Talks, Soula shares her chilling journey, the experiences that shaped her understanding of the paranormal, and how she ultimately found a way to break free after years of living with an unseen presence.#TheGraveTalks #HauntedChildhood #ParanormalAttachment #DarkEntity #WomanInWhite #GhostStories #ParanormalPodcast #SpiritEncounters #SupernaturalExperiences #HauntedLife #DemonicEncounter #ApparitionLove real ghost stories? Want even more?Become a supporter and unlock exclusive extras, ad-free episodes, and advanced access:

Tonight's conversation tears apart one of the most dangerous fantasies modern people carry: the belief that a painless life automatically equals a healthy one. Entire identities now get constructed around comfort optimization, emotional sedation, curated peace, avoidance rituals, dopamine management, and psychological escape routes disguised as “healing.” Meanwhile, people continue repeating the same relationships, the same betrayals, the same loneliness, the same panic, the same emotional collapses wearing different faces and different names.

How does attachment repair clear blocks for deep insight in your meditation practice? Enrollment Now Open!Meditation x Attachment™Level Two | Attachment HealingNext Cohort Begins June 3, 2026https://www.mettagroup.org/meditation-x-attachment-level-twoA 6-month meditation-based virtual group and 1.1 mentorship program designed to usher you into living a more meaningful life.

This is a Grave Talks CLASSIC EPISODE!What began as a simple afternoon at the park turned into a moment that would change Soula Vaitsis's life forever.As a young girl, Soula experienced a terrifying encounter when an unseen force pulled her hair, followed by the appearance of a glowing woman in white with hollow, dark eyes hovering nearby. It was a moment that marked the beginning of years of unexplained and increasingly disturbing experiences.Over time, Soula came to believe this was not just a random encounter—but an attachment that followed her throughout her life, manifesting in encounters with spirits, dark energy, and something far more sinister.In this classic episode of The Grave Talks, Soula shares her chilling journey, the experiences that shaped her understanding of the paranormal, and how she ultimately found a way to break free after years of living with an unseen presence.#TheGraveTalks #HauntedChildhood #ParanormalAttachment #DarkEntity #WomanInWhite #GhostStories #ParanormalPodcast #SpiritEncounters #SupernaturalExperiences #HauntedLife #DemonicEncounter #ApparitionLove real ghost stories? Want even more?Become a supporter and unlock exclusive extras, ad-free episodes, and advanced access:

In this episode of The Jimmy Rex Show, Jimmy sits down with parenting expert Reem Raouda to unpack one of the most important conversations a parent can have: what it actually means to create emotional safety for your children.They discuss why love alone isn't enough, how early childhood shapes emotional development, common parenting mistakes that create anxiety and disconnection, and what parents can do to build trust, confidence, and stronger relationships with their kids. This is a practical conversation for any parent who wants to raise emotionally healthy children.Follow Reem Raouda: IG

Today's Scripture: Ruth 1:16–18 What's the difference between love that strengthens your soul and loyalty that slowly erases you? In today's reflection on Ruth 1, Dr. Alison Cook explores Ruth's freely chosen commitment to Naomi—and why healthy love never uses guilt, pressure, or control to make someone stay. This episode offers a nuanced look at staying, leaving, agency, and the kind of attachment that is faithful, honest, and free. We explore: *How to recognize the difference between chosen love and fear-based loyalty *Why Ruth's commitment to Naomi is not a picture of codependency *How secure attachment gives people agency instead of trapping them *Why guilt-driven love can slowly lead to self-erasure *When staying can be rooted in freedom—and when leaving may be an act of wisdom Go Deeper: Start reading about inner attachment, when you preorder The Secure Soul Connect with Dr. Alison on Instagram: @dralisoncook Join 80,000+ Soul Menders in Dr. Alison's free email community for ongoing reflection and support. While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.‍ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

(Group Learning Program) - Chapter 15 - True Love: Love Without Attachment at Wat Tung YuLove and relationships are one of the most challenging aspects of life. We oftentimes sabotage our relationships without even knowing it. In the unEnlightened state, we misunderstand "What is True Love?" and how to love in relationships.In this Podcast, David will teach you how we misunderstand "love" and "what is true love" providing you guidance to develop sustaining, fulfilling, and satisfying relationships that are full of "true love".——-Daily Wisdom - Walking The Path with The BuddhaDedicated to the education of Gotama Buddha's Teachings to attain Enlightenment.https://www.BuddhaDailyWisdom.com(See our website for online learning, courses, and retreats.)Group Learning Program - LIVE Interactive Online Classes, Book, Audiobook, Videos, Podcast and Personal Guidancehttps://mailchi.mp/f958c59262eb/buddhadailywisdomThe Words of The Buddha - Pali Canon in English Study Grouphttps://mailchi.mp/6bb4fdf2b6e0/palicanonstudyprogramFREE Book - Developing a Life Practice: The Path That Leads to Enlightenmenthttps://www.buddhadailywisdom.com/freebuddhabooksFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DailyWisdom999YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DailyWisdom999Podcast: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/buddhadailywisdom/Support our efforts to share The Teachings of Gotama Buddha with you and worldwide for all people using this link.https://www.buddhadailywisdom.com/supportbuddha#buddhism #learnbuddhism #enlightenment #dhamma #dharma #buddha #meditation #meditationretreat #meditationcourse

Original air date: September 3, 2024 Lisa welcomes Tammi Van Hollander, LCSW, RPT-S, to explore a transformative approach to bibliotherapy. Moving beyond the traditional view of books as cognitive tools, Tammi introduces us to using bibliotherapy as a means for co-regulation, attachment, and creating a sense of safety within the therapeutic space. Tammi, who was initially trained in client-centered play therapy, shares her journey of discovering the profound impact that books can have when used as co-regulators. Through her experiences and insights, she reveals how stories can extend beyond mere words, becoming powerful tools that facilitate deeper connections between children and their caregivers. Key Takeaways: Tammi's Journey with Bibliotherapy: How she discovered the power of books as a co-regulation tool. A Paradigm Shift: Using bibliotherapy from a "bottom-up" approach to support attachment, safety, and emotional regulation in children. Integrating Books into Play Therapy: Practical strategies for making books an extension of a child's play, fostering a more client-centered therapeutic experience. Engaging Kids Who Aren't Interested in Reading: Innovative ways to use books beyond just reading the words. Types of Bibliotherapy: Differentiating between developmental, therapeutic, and play-based bibliotherapy. Enhancing Parent-Child Relationships: How books can strengthen the bond between parents and children, addressing attachment and repair in relationships. Attunement and Trusting the Process: The importance of being present and attuned to the child, allowing books and other tools in the therapy space to facilitate healing naturally. *Check out Tammi's new book on Amazon, PESI website, or Tammi's website: The Bibliotherapy Toolbox: 100+ Creative and Playful Story-Based Interventions to Help Kids Create Safety, Overcome Challenges, and Build Resiliency. *Tammi Van Hollander, LCSW, RPT-S™, is a leading expert in attachment, sandtray play therapy, and sensory integration with over 25 years of experience. She holds a Master of Social Work from the University of Pennsylvania and advanced training from the Family and Play Therapy Center in Philadelphia. Tammi is the author of Casey's Greatness Wings and The Bibliotherapy Toolkit, and she delivered a TEDx Talk, "Stories in the Sand: Healing Trauma, Anxiety, and Grief," in 2023. Connect with her on Instagram and Facebook. Podcast Resources:  Synergetic Play Therapy Institute Synergetic Play Therapy Learning Website FREE Resources to support you on your play therapy journey  Aggression in Play Therapy: A Neurobiological Approach to Integrating Intensity * If you enjoy this podcast, please give us a five-star rating and review on Apple Podcast, subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts, and invite your friends/fellow colleagues to join us.

What if the patterns in your relationships are not just about communication, compatibility, or choosing the wrong person, but subconscious wounds your nervous system learned years ago? In this episode, Dr. Taz sits down with Thais Gibson, PhD, bestselling author, counselor, speaker, attachment theory expert, and founder of The Personal Development School, to explore how attachment styles, childhood conditioning, core wounds, subconscious programming, and nervous system regulation shape the way we love, fight, connect, and pull away.In this episode, Thais explains why the conscious mind often cannot overpower the subconscious mind, and why so many people keep repeating the same relationship patterns even when they know better. She breaks down the four attachment styles: secure, anxious, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant, and explains how each style can show up in adult relationships, dating, marriage, family dynamics, conflict, ghosting, love bombing, emotional shutdown, clinginess, and the painful push-pull cycle.Dr. Taz and Thais discuss why affirmations may not be enough to heal deep core wounds, why the subconscious mind responds more to emotion and imagery than language, and how childhood experiences can become the lens through which we interpret adult relationships. Thais also shares a practical 21-day rewiring exercise using memory, emotion, visualization, and repetition to help shift core wounds like abandonment, betrayal, shame, unworthiness, and fear of being trapped.If you're listening to this and thinking, “I know something is off in my body, but I don't know where to start,” join the Circle here:

Send me a text! I'd LOVE to hear your feedback on this episode!If women are wired for connection, why do some of our worst social pains come from other women? This episode unpacks the biology, psychology, and social conditioning behind female competition and what to do about it.I explore the tend-and-befriend stress response, oxytocin, cortisol, and nervous system safety, and then connect the quality of female friendship directly to midlife health, cognitive protection, and healthy aging. High-strain relationships aren't just emotionally exhausting — they carry a measurable physical health toll.I name what rarely gets named: scarcity conditioning, the patriarchal bargain, tall poppy syndrome, social media's strategic withholding, and how shame — as Brené Brown's research shows — spills outward as blame, silencing, and social coalitions. Attachment theory and the norm of reciprocity round out the picture.You'll leave knowing the clear signs of an unsafe friendship and three grounded ways to protect your energy without compromising your integrity.Topics covered:The "tend and befriend" response and female bonding hormonesHow friendship quality drives midlife wellness and brain healthShame resilience and why women sometimes wound the people closest to themTall poppy syndrome, exclusion, and reputation managementPractical boundaries for navigating toxic female dynamicsJoin here:  Sandy K Inner Circle Join me here:  Sandy K Inner CircleSupport the showJoin The Sandy K Inner Circle -- my private women-only subscription community where we go deeper than the podcast ever could.Every month you get:A live Q&A with Sandy on ZoomAn exclusive podcast episode nobody else hearsA practical curated downloadAccess to our private women-only Facebook community for wide open discussions on all topicsNo agendas. No noise. No bias. No trendy health advice from those who pay for their platforms. No medical advice. Real conversations you will not find anywhere else.Founding member spots are limited at $47 CAD/month.Join us here: sandykruse.substack.comFor women only. By invitation.Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/sandyknutrition/Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/sandyknutritionTikTok:  https://www.tiktok.com/@sandyknutritionYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIh48ov-SgbSUXsVeLL2qAgRumble:  https://rumble.com/c/c-5461001Linkedin:  ...

Inside the Troubled Teen Industry: Wilderness Therapy, Residential Treatment, and the Harm Done to Kids – An Interview with Chelsea Maldonado and Dr. Will Dobud Dr. Will Dobud and survivor advocate Chelsea Maldonado on wilderness therapy, residential treatment, institutional abuse, and what therapists need to know to support troubled teen industry survivors.  Curt and Katie talk with Dr. Will Dobud and Chelsea Maldonado about what actually happens inside the troubled teen industry, why the marketing rarely matches the reality, and how wilderness therapy programs and residential treatment facilities continue to operate despite decades of survivor testimony, documented abuse, and youth deaths.  The conversation covers why so many adopted youth and foster youth end up in these facilities, how restraints, isolation, and medical neglect produce lasting trauma, and why power dynamics and institutional structure undermine real therapeutic work. Will and Chelsea also discuss the silence of professional associations after youth deaths, the recent Atlantis Leadership Academy case in Jamaica, and what therapists working with troubled teen industry survivors can do to create safer therapeutic relationships.  In this episode, we discuss:  What therapists get wrong about wilderness therapy and residential treatment Why "round the clock therapy" marketing rarely matches the reality inside facilities How restraints, isolation, and medical neglect cause lasting harm Why adopted youth and foster youth are disproportionately placed in these programs The role of power dynamics and institutional structure in the troubled teen industry Why survivors are highly traumatized and highly therapy resistant How therapists can work more safely and effectively with survivors The silence of professional associations after youth deaths in licensed, accredited facilities  Timestamps:  07:34 – What actually happens inside troubled teen industry facilities 13:04 – Katie reflects on her own residential treatment experience 16:28 – Common harms: restraints, medical neglect, sexual abuse 19:38 – Power, conversion-style programming, and adopted youth 24:31 – Why these facilities still exist 28:07 – Attachment, restraints, and institutional contradictions 33:00 – What actually helps youth in crisis 38:14 – The Atlantis Leadership Academy case and survivor-led advocacy  Guests: Dr. Will Dobud, Senior Lecturer in Social Work at Charles Sturt University and former wilderness therapy field guide whose research focuses on improving outcomes for teenagers and exposing harm in the troubled teen industry (willdobud.com). Chelsea Maldonado, troubled teen industry survivor, lead researcher for the Trapped in Treatment podcast, and consultant to Paris Hilton's nonprofit 11:11 Media Impact (1111mediaimpact.com).  Full show notes and transcript: mtsgpodcast.com  Join the Modern Therapist Community  Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/mtsgpodcast Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/therapyreimagined  Modern Therapist's Survival Guide Creative Credits  Voice Over by DW McCann: https://www.facebook.com/McCannDW/ Music by Crystal Grooms Mangano: https://groomsymusic.com/

This is a hot topic podcast episode that you do not want to miss! I sat down with therapist, Lauren Verbilla, to talk about reparenting the heart and inner child healing.  We cover an array of topics such as:-Inner child healing and reparenting ourselves-Why these therapeutic modalities are important-What the "Window of Tolerance" is and how we can work with it in our own lives-Attachment styles and their definitions-How we can show up better as parents to our children-Lauren shares what she has been reparenting within herselfThank you for tuning in. If this resonates with you, please pass it along to a friend!Here is the link to Lauren's course, Reparenting The Heart. Big love and magic,Julie & Lauren xo

Why would someone become romantically or sexually attracted to a serial killer, violent offender, or notorious criminal? In this deep forensic psychology exploration, we examine hybristophilia—sometimes called the “Ted Bundy Effect”—through the lenses of attachment theory, trauma psychology, psychodynamics, media influence, dark personality traits, and parasocial obsession. This episode explores famous criminal cases, psychological theories, ethical controversies, and the uncomfortable reality that attraction and danger sometimes become psychologically intertwined.

Non-attachment means releasing your grip on outcomes, people, and things while still engaging fully with life. This guide explores the difference between attachment and engagement, letting go of the need to control results, and finding freedom in uncertainty. Non-attachment is not indifference—it is participation without possession. The quiet moment is where you practice releasing your hold, discovering that the things you cling to only cause suffering when they change or leave.

A woman in China was sent to a detention center over a legal dispute, and encountered a practitioner who taught her about cultivation, Dafa, and meditation. Here she shares her remarkable cultivation journey over the past 21 years. This and other experience-sharing from the Minghui website.Original Articles:1. Obtaining the Fa in a Detention Center and Saving Sentient Beings in Prison2. Some Thoughts About Helping Practitioners Organize Their Cultivation Experience Sharing Articles3. Eliminating the Attachment to Self-Protection To provide feedback on this podcast, please email us at feedback@minghuiradio.org

You decided to practice conscious non-monogamous relating, so you made well-thought-out, enthusiastic relationship agreements that reflect your values. And THEN, your partner actually goes on that date. Panic sets in, and those agreements are no match for what feels like a threat to your very survival.We call this attachment panic, and it's what happens when jealousy activates our pre-verbal, survival-level attachment system. It's not just an uncomfortable experience–when unchecked, these feelings can keep you stuck in a cycle of promising things to yourself and others that you can't deliver.So what can you actually do about it? This isn't just about ‘getting over it.' We're not dealing with states that we can reason our way through. That's why we made this episode – we're exploring why attachment panic happens, how it shows up, and what you can do to build your capacity, without white-knuckling your way through or abandoning your values entirely.In this episode, we talk about:— Why you can't just think your way through attachment panic— The specific conditions that trigger attachment panic— How the fear of betrayal or abandonment can activate infantile survival strategies— The cycle of promising things you can't deliver, and how that creates shame spirals— How attachment panic shows up differently in different relationships— The difference between discomfort and panic, and why that distinction matters— Why transparency doesn't equal control, and how the illusion of control feeds panic— How to make smaller, more realistic agreements that match your actual nervous system capacity— The importance of the stories we tell ourselves— Why some people experience attachment panic around their partner dating but not around their own dating— How to reparent yourself through panic— Why relationships don't have to be comfortable to be meaningful— Practical strategies for building capacity— How earned secure attachment is built brick by brick through intentional practice— Why different relationships serve different purposes in our growthResources mentioned in this episode:— Episode 114: Non-monogamy is a psychological growth lab: Are you ready?— Episode 170: Jealousy & Attachment Panic— Episode 198: Why does jealousy freak out the nervous system?JOIN The Year Of Opening® community for a full year of learning & supportLearn the 5 secrets to open your relationship the smart wayAre you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at www.JoliQuiz.comGet the answers you want to create the open relationship of your dreams! Sign up for an Ask Me Anything hereMusic: Dance of Felt by ⁠Blue Dot Sessions

In this Mind Architect × ParentED Fest conversation, Dr. Gordon Neufeld explains why peer orientation — not independence — is the real risk facing today's teenagers, and what parents can do about it.Dr. Gordon Neufeld is one of the world's leading developmental psychologists, with over 50 years of experience working with adolescents, families, and youth in the juvenile justice system. He is the founder of the Neufeld Institute and the author of the bestselling book Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers (co-authored with Dr. Gabor Maté).The host of the conversation is Diana Bălan — Neufeld Institute representative, founder of Urban Mowgli, and co-founder of ParentED Fest — joining us to explore:Myths about older children's needs and relationship responsibility in parentingHow to reconnect when you feel you've lost your teenager's heartWhy emotional maturity has nothing to do with age, education or IQAddiction as a "flight from vulnerability" and what true prevention looks likeThe connection between critical thinking and emotional developmentHow screens, social media, and AI quietly displace the relationships our children needSexuality, peer pressure, and the disappearance of critical thinking in adolescenceWhy conflicting feelings are actually a sign of emotional maturityResources mentioned: Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers — by Gordon Neufeld & Gabor MatéNeufeld Institute - Dr. Neufeld's educational platform offering courses on attachment-based development for parents and educatorsSigmund Freud on the relationship between Attachment and SexualityAbraham Maslow about "on the other hand" thinking as a marker of cognitive maturityCarl Rogers' unconditional positive regard as an analogy for AI's behaviorAristotle on humans as esentially relational creaturesWilliam Golding's Lord of the Flies as an analogy for today's hyper-polarized world, as influenced by screens and social media Acest episod este produs și distribuit cu susținerea LIDL România și face parte din colaborarea cu ParentEd Fest, cel mai mare festival dedicat parentingului de la noi din țară."(00:00) Intro""(02:04) Welcome and guest introduction""(05:31) Myth-busting: older children do NOT stop needing their parents""(09:10) Who is primarily responsible for the parent-child relationship""(11:45) Peer orientation: what happens when we lose our kids""(17:30) Why emotional maturity has nothing to do with age""(19:30) Where to start rebuilding the relationship with a teenager""(21:57) Why parenting is not primarily a role or a set of responsibilities""(23:44) Addiction as a 'flight from vulnerability'""(26:20) How to prevent teenagers falling into addiction traps""(29:49) How do we recognize a relational problem with our teen""(31:23) The lost skill of grieving: feeling the hole""(37:19) School, ADHD suspicions and the disappearance of curiosity""(39:45) Critical thinking: why it can't be taught and its basis in emotion""(46:02) How screens hijack our need for togetherness""(49:41) AI, the rise of 'artificial intimacy' and becoming emotionally insulated""(52:08) Healthy sexuality as a glove on attachment, not the opposite""(55:35) Tolerating differences and conflicting feelings as a sign of maturity""(57:08) Gordon Neufeld's message to parents: YOU are the answer"

Fifty years ago, a physician talking about spirit attachments might have been dismissed as delusional. Today, more people are asking whether unseen forces may influence human consciousness, health, and emotion. On this episode of Richard Syrett's Strange Planet, Dr. Karen Kan explores energy healing, entity attachment, and the chilling possibility that some thoughts, illnesses, and emotional disturbances may not originate entirely within us. GUEST: Dr. Karen Kan is a physician, holistic healer, and spiritual teacher who blends conventional medical training with consciousness-based healing and energy medicine. She is the founder of the Academy of Spiritual Medicine and creator of the TOLPAKAN™ Healing Method. Dr. Kan is the author of Guide to Healing Chronic Pain: A Holistic Approach and Sensitivity Is Your Superpower, exploring the hidden relationship between consciousness, energy, and human healing. WEBSITE: Academy of Light Medicine BOOKS: Sensitivity is Your Superpower Guide to Healing Chronic Pain - A Holistic Approach FOLLOW RICHARD Website: https://www.strangeplanet.ca YouTube: @strangeplanetradio Instagram: @richardsyrettstrangeplanet TikTok: @therealstrangeplanet SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS!!! MARS MEN Mars Men helps you reclaim your edge with natural testosterone support for energy, focus, and strength Go to MenGoToMars.com right now, for a limited time, listeners of this program get 50% off for life, plus free shipping AND 3 free gifts. QUINCE Luxury, European linen that gets softer with every wash! Turn up the luxury when you turn in with Quince. Go to Quince dot com slash RSSP for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. CARGURUS CarGurus is the #1 rated car shopping app in Canada on the Apple App and Google Play store. They've got hundreds of thousands of cars from top-rated dealers, plus advanced search tools that let you zero in on exactly what you want. And you can set real-time alerts for price drops and new listings — so you never miss a great deal. Buy your next car today with CarGurus at cargurus dot ca. Go to cargurus dot ca to make sure your big deal is the best deal. ⁠ BECOME A PREMIUM SUBSCRIBER!!!⁠ ⁠https://strangeplanet.supportingcast.fm⁠ Three monthly subscriptions to choose from. Commercial Free Listening, Bonus Episodes and a Subscription to my monthly newsletter, InnerSanctum. Visit ⁠https://strangeplanet.supportingcast.fm⁠ Use the discount code "Planet" to receive $5 OFF any subscription. We and our partners use cookies to personalize your experience, to show you ads based on your interests, and for measurement and analytics purposes. By using our website and services, you agree to our use of cookies as described in our Cookie Policy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit ⁠megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://strangeplanet.supportingcast.fm/

What is “the thing” you are waiting for that you may not think you're waiting for? I never thought that survival was such an overarching theme to my daily life. All that “had to” or “necessary,” was just an outpouring of survival. Life is f-ing short, if you're like me you may not realize the amount of survival you've invested in rather than the good stuff. And doing the same shit, different day? That's not living. That's just waiting. Tune in if today seems like you've been waiting forever for “the thing!”

I spent two weeks in unity consciousness once—pure oneness, no suffering, no problems. Then I woke up and watched it all slip away. My guest Aaron Abke, author of Three Beliefs of the Ego, knows exactly what that feels like. Your ego isn't your enemy; it's a mental habit of grabbing onto form. Sadness, anger, and fear aren't obstacles—they're your internal GPS pointing directly to three beliefs: lack, attachment, and control. This conversation flips the script on chasing enlightenment through retreats and plant medicines. You don't need more freedom. You just need to know where you're pointing your attention.00:00 Aaron's Two-Week Enlightenment Experience03:42 Growing Up Christian & Losing His Faith04:46 The Dark Night of the Soul After Divorce05:36 The Two-Week Unity Consciousness Awakening08:24 Coming Back Down & Ego's Sneaky Return14:08 What The Ego Actually Is (It's Not What You Think)17:09 The Three Beliefs: Lack, Attachment, Control23:00 Sadness, Anger & Fear as Your Emotional GPS30:50 How To Correct Lack & The Giving Paradox35:50 Forgiveness As The Way Out of Suffering41:55 Truth vs Illusion: Three Criteria For Reality53:54 Living From The Heart Chakra 51% of The Time LEARN MORE ABOUT AARON ABKEBook: Three Beliefs of the Ego: A Sufferer's Guide to Freedom YouTube: youtube.com/aaronabke Website: 4DUniversity.comJOIN MY COMMUNITY In The Space Between membership, you'll get access to LIVE quarterly Ask Amy Anything meetings (not offered anywhere else!), discounts on courses, special giveaways, and a place to connect with Amy and other like-minded people. You'll also get exclusive access to other behind-the-scenes goodness when you join! Click here to find out more --> https://shorturl.at/vVrwR Stay Connected: - Instagram - https://tinyurl.com/ysvafdwc- Facebook - https://tinyurl.com/yc3z48v9- YouTube - https://tinyurl.com/ywdsc9vt- Website - https://tinyurl.com/ydj949kt Life, Death & the Space Between Dr. Amy RobbinsExploring life, death, consciousness and what it all means. Put your preconceived notions aside as we explore life, death, consciousness and what it all means on Life, Death & the Space Between.**Brought to you by:Dr. Amy Robbins | Host, Executive ProducerPodcastize.net | Audio & Video Production | Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Most people assume temptation is about weakness or willpower. But the wilderness story in Matthew 4 reveals something far older — evil moves first against the places where we have not been seen, soothed, safe, and secure.In this conversation, Michael and AJ Denson walk slowly through the baptism and temptation of Jesus, presenting them as a portrait of attachment under siege. They explore how the devil's opening accusation — if you are the Son of God — lands precisely where God's voice had just spoken identity and belonging, why hunger, loneliness, and exposure aren't just physical states but the exact conditions evil exploits, and what it means that after the ordeal, angels came and attended to him — a scene almost never preached, yet the one that puts the bow on the whole story.This is a co-host episode from Michael's ongoing series unpacking Sacred Attachment, chapter by chapter.Support the showENGAGE THE RESTORING THE SOUL PODCAST:- Follow us on YouTube - Tweet us at @michaeljcusick and @PodcastRTS- Like us on Facebook- Follow us on Instagram & Twitter- Follow Michael on Twitter- Email us at info@restoringthesoul.com Thanks for listening!

What if the body already knows exactly how to heal… but modern life keeps interrupting the process? In this profoundly emotional and paradigm-shifting conversation, Darin sits down with Australian wellness expert, author, and speaker Andi Lew for a sweeping exploration of trauma, birth, attachment, nervous system regulation, chiropractic philosophy, purpose, intuition, breast implant illness, and the forgotten wisdom of the human body. From the way we enter the world through birth, to the emotional wounds that shape our identities, to the systems that disconnect us from nature and ourselves, this episode is ultimately about one thing: reclaiming your innate intelligence and reconnecting to what it truly means to be human. What You'll Learn Why symptoms like fevers, coughing, and rashes may actually be signs of healing The body's innate intelligence and how modern medicine often suppresses it How trauma and emotional suppression shape physical health outcomes The connection between birth practices, attachment, and nervous system development Why "cry it out" parenting may create emotionally disconnected adults How posture, movement, and chiropractic care impact longevity and vitality The hidden reality of breast implant illness and medical gaslighting How trauma can unconsciously drive cosmetic enhancement decisions Why purpose, creativity, and service are essential for healing How reconnecting to nature, vulnerability, and authenticity changes everything   Chapters 00:00:03 – Welcome to SuperLife and the mission of reclaiming sovereignty 00:00:33 – Sponsor: plastic toothpaste tubes, toxins, and environmental impact 00:01:06 – Endocrine disruptors and hidden exposure from everyday products 00:01:35 – Bite Toothpaste Bits and sustainable wellness solutions 00:02:47 – Introduction to Andi Lew 00:03:03 – 30 years teaching holistic health and wellness 00:03:24 – Symptoms as signs of healing—not dysfunction 00:03:51 – Chiropractic philosophy and the nervous system as master controller 00:04:07 – The hidden dangers of the cosmetic industry 00:04:19 – Introducing "Treasure Chest" and breast implant illness 00:04:49 – Trusting nature and reclaiming innate power 00:05:08 – Instant connection and unscripted conversation 00:05:43 – Why storytelling itself is healing medicine 00:06:35 – Indigenous wisdom, dreamtime, and human connection 00:07:00 – Education, service, and sharing wisdom with the world 00:07:30 – The courage required to share your voice 00:08:03 – Aging naturally and embodying wellness principles 00:08:47 – "Connected" and the body's innate healing intelligence 00:09:11 – Why vomiting, fevers, and rashes may be healing responses 00:09:53 – The danger of suppressing symptoms instead of listening to them 00:10:15 – Norwegian researcher: "The body never makes a wrong choice" 00:11:08 – Inflammation as intelligent communication from the body 00:11:32 – Emotional healing through chiropractic care 00:12:14 – The shocking story of abuse ending after nervous system treatment 00:13:09 – Purpose, excitement, and why "your cells sing" 00:14:01 – Courage, the heart, and following what excites you 00:14:47 – Childhood rejection of pharmaceuticals and synthetic medicine 00:15:11 – Discovering chiropractic philosophy and innate intelligence 00:16:10 – Reactive medicine vs proactive wellness 00:16:35 – Birth, attachment, and nervous system programming 00:17:15 – Vaginal birth, microbiome transfer, and stress adaptation 00:18:03 – Elective cesareans, fear conditioning, and birth trauma 00:18:29 – The disturbing origins of modern birthing positions 00:19:03 – Lotus birth and allowing natural cord detachment 00:19:43 – Returning the placenta to the earth and the cycle of life 00:20:09 – Dependency culture and forgetting our innate power 00:20:34 – "Cry it out" parenting and neurological consequences 00:21:18 – Babies "feigning death" and nervous system overwhelm 00:21:40 – Emotionally unavailable babies becoming disconnected adults 00:22:06 – Attachment parenting and human brain development 00:22:23 – Sponsor: Manna Vitality and frequency-based wellness 00:24:18 – Questioning inherited systems and reclaiming connection 00:24:53 – Darin reflects on premature birth and separation trauma 00:25:59 – The unconscious programming created in childhood 00:26:53 – Mothers instinctively regulating babies through movement 00:27:29 – Synchronizing heartbeats, breathing, and body temperature 00:28:19 – Breastfeeding, immunity, and sacred connection 00:28:39 – "If breastfeeding offends you, put a blanket over your own head" 00:29:16 – Society disconnecting us from natural immunity and instincts 00:30:00 – Jaw alignment, breastfeeding, and healthy aging 00:30:47 – Chiropractic care, posture, and visible signs of aging 00:31:29 – Humans as reflections of nature itself 00:32:04 – Reclaiming connection to nature and innate wisdom 00:33:13 – Motherhood, surrender, and slowing down 00:33:37 – Lactation consultants and forgotten ancestral wisdom 00:34:01 – Co-sleeping, hormones, and nervous system healing 00:34:27 – "Velcro babies" and learning presence through parenting 00:35:15 – Why babies teach adults to slow down 00:36:00 – Purification, attachment, and emotional regulation 00:37:03 – Darin reflects on Andi's embodied wisdom and energy 00:38:20 – Leaving Australia with two suitcases and a calling to serve 00:39:08 – "Hurrying up to slow down" 00:39:40 – Creativity, AI, and reclaiming imagination 00:40:21 – Permission, dreams, and pursuing your true calling 00:41:07 – Trauma, identity, and self-liberation 00:41:59 – Bruce Lipton, epigenetics, and changing gene expression 00:42:38 – Perception shaping biology and reality itself 00:43:02 – Darin's emotional reaction to Andi's April Fools joke 00:45:04 – Introducing "Treasure Chest" and breast implant illness 00:46:16 – Childhood trauma and the decision to get implants 00:47:05 – Feeling disconnected from femininity and identity 00:47:46 – Depression, anxiety, and unexplained physical symptoms 00:48:43 – Six surgeons, medical gaslighting, and ignored intuition 00:49:28 – "Women know their bodies" 00:49:53 – Beauty standards and the historical control of women 00:50:35 – The disturbing origins of breast implants 00:51:15 – Trauma, healing, and turning pain into purpose 00:52:01 – Why leaning into discomfort creates liberation 00:53:08 – Accountability, surrender, and refusing victimhood 00:53:55 – Darin reflects on Andi's energetic embodiment 00:54:59 – "You are not your age—you are your energy" 00:55:23 – Botox, emotional masking, and relationship disconnection 00:56:34 – The systems designed to keep humanity disconnected 00:57:19 – Edward Bernays, propaganda, and engineered consumerism 00:58:16 – Selling unhappiness to create endless consumers 00:58:39 – Human imagination, intuition, and untapped potential 00:59:09 – Dreams, synchronicities, and alternate perceptions of reality 01:00:15 – Near-death experiences and reclaiming health after explant surgery 01:00:59 – Returning to the "divine organic state" 01:01:26 – Breast implants as inflammatory drivers and systemic shutdown 01:02:09 – The body walling off toxins through scar tissue 01:02:29 – "If I don't get this out of me now, I'm dying" 01:02:50 – Waking up after surgery and "coming back online" 01:03:24 – The extraordinary healing intelligence of the body 01:04:05 – Closing reflections on reconnection, healing, and human potential     Thank You to Our Sponsors Bite Toothpaste: Go to trybite.com/DARIN20 or use code DARIN20 for 20% off your first order. Manna Vitality: Go to mannavitality.com/ and use code DARIN12 for 12% off your order.     Join the SuperLife Community Get Darin's deeper wellness breakdowns — beyond social media restrictions: Weekly voice notes Ingredient deep dives Wellness challenges Energy + consciousness tools Community accountability Extended episodes Join for $7.49/month → https://patreon.com/darinolien     Find More from Andi Lew Website: andilew.com Instagram: @andi.lew Podcast: Well To Do Book: Treasured Chest     Connect with Darin Olien: Website: darinolien.com Instagram: @darinolien Book: Fatal Conveniences Platform & Products: superlife.com New Show: Roadmap to Happiness Key Takeaway "The body is not broken. It's constantly communicating, adapting, protecting, and trying to guide us back into alignment. But modern life has disconnected us from that wisdom. Real healing begins the moment we stop suppressing the signals, start listening deeply, and reconnect to nature, purpose, vulnerability, and the innate intelligence already living inside of us."

Set the context for a joyful, exuberant day with a short, powerful message from Sadhguru. Explore a range of subjects with Sadhguru, discover how every aspect of life can be a stepping stone, and learn to make the most of the potential that a human being embodies.  Conscious Planet: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.consciousplanet.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Sadhguru App (Download): ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://onelink.to/sadhguru__app⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Official Sadhguru Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://isha.sadhguru.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Sadhguru Exclusive: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://isha.sadhguru.org/in/en/sadhguru-exclusive⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Inner Engineering Link: isha.co/ieo-podcast Yogi, mystic and visionary, Sadhguru is a spiritual master with a difference. An arresting blend of profundity and pragmatism, his life and work serves as a reminder that yoga is a contemporary science, vitally relevant to our times. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Attachment is a drug. And most of us are out here completely addicted to people we just met.   After 3 months of slowing down in Brazil, really connecting to nature and looking at how I date and how much of my attraction has been coming from dopamine and oxytocin rather than actual clarity, I recorded this episode just for the girlies.   This is the raw, real, personal solocast about how to date in the early phases without getting super attached from the get-go. And yes, how to stop going psycho around someone you just met.    In this episode we explore: