Podcasts about Attachment

#347: Have you ever wondered why you keep falling into the same patterns, even when you know better?Maybe you say yes when you really want to say no, choose emotionally unavailable partners, work until you're completely depleted, avoid conflict until you explode, or feel guilty for having basic needs. If any of these sound familiar, this week's episode is for you.Tune in this week to learn the science behind why we repeat patterns that don't serve us. You'll hear how our childhood experiences shape our adult behaviors, why these patterns were actually intelligent survival strategies, and practical steps to start healing those unmet needs and create new, healthier patterns.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/346Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=enMentioned in this episode:End Emotional Outsourcing Is Here!For years, we've gathered here to unpack codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. Now, all those conversations, all that healing, and all the nerdy science have come together in my new book, End Emotional Outsourcing. Get your copy today: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/bookEEO Pre-Sale

Do you ever wonder why you keep repeating the same relationship patterns, even when you know better? Or why you feel totally secure with some people but anxious, avoidant, or distant with others? The truth is, your attachment style might have more to do with it than you think.   In this episode of The Divorce Revolution Podcast, I sit down with clinical psychologist and bestselling author Dr. Judy Ho to talk about her new book, The New Rules of Attachment. We break down how your attachment style shows up in every area of your life—not just relationships—and what it really takes to move toward secure attachment. Dr. Judy and I talk about how to reparent your inner child, nurture your authentic self, and finally create the kind of security and connection you've always wanted.   If you've been stuck in the same emotional cycles and want to feel grounded, secure, and confident in your relationships again, then this episode is for you.   Resources Mentioned: The New Rules of Attachment by Dr. Judy Ho: https://drjudyho.com/books/the-new-rules-of-attachment/ Join the waitlist for ReNewU, my signature group program for divorced moms ready to launch a coaching business that actually pays: https://products.ambershaw.com/signature-waitlist Nail Your Niche: https://ambershaw.samcart.com/products/nail-your-niche Cured Nutrition use code AMBER for 15% off: https://www.curednutrition.com/   What We Discuss: 00:22 What attachment styles are and why they matter more than you think 05:58 The four main attachment styles and how they form 15:34 How attachment styles connect to love languages 18:47 What reparenting your inner child really means 25:33 How to nurture your inner child's unmet needs 26:11 Why your authentic self and inner child are deeply connected 27:37 Can you really change your attachment style? (Dr. Judy says yes!) 34:58 How parenting style and temperament affect your child's attachment 42:13 How to find balance in your parenting style   Find more from Dr Judy Ho: Website: https://drjudyho.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drjudyho/   Find more from Amber Shaw: Instagram: @msambershaw Website: ambershaw.com

Jessica Baum shares her personal journey through anxiety and depression that led her into studying attachment theory and writing her books. She explains how cultural messages about independence often conflict with our biological need for connection, and how healing happens through safe, consistent relationships. Her work emphasizes the importance of “anchors”—people who can provide presence, safety, and co-regulation—as a pathway toward secure attachment and earned security. Colter, Lauren, and Jessica talk about topics such as: - Codependency = anxious attachment - Cultural pressure for independence - Healing through safe connection - Importance of anchors/secure people - Co-regulation before self-regulation - Familiar vs. healthy attraction Freebie from Jessica: https://jessicabaumlmhc.com/interview Give Me Discounts! NOCD.COM - If you're tired of unwanted thoughts affecting your relationships and other areas of your life, visit nocd.com Audible - Visit audible.com/janeaustin to get listen to this incredible reading rendition of Pride & Prejudice Skylight - Visit skylightcal.com/IDO for $30 off your 15 inch calendar.  Function - 160+ Lab Tests for $365. Learn more & get started at www.functionhealth.com/IDO Amazfit - Visit www.amazfit.com/IDO to get 10% off Spark My Relationship Course: Get $100 off our online course. Visit SparkMyRelationship.com/Unlock for our special offer just for our I Do Podcast listeners! If you love this episode (and our podcast!), would you mind giving us a review in iTunes? It would mean the world to us and we promise it only takes a minute. Many thanks in advance! – Colter, Cayla, & Lauren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

#313: If you've ever felt like you're not measuring up to where you “should” be—whether that's finding partnership by a certain age, building lasting friendships as an adult, or navigating the expectations society throws at you—this episode is for you.Today, I'm sitting down with the always insightful Shan Boodram to talk about the real journey of connecting—from romance, to friendship and everywhere in between. Shan doesn't shy away from the messy, inconvenient parts of connection—whether it's dating in a world that prizes efficiency, how algorithms influence our decisions and attachment styles, or the challenges of learning how to nurture deep friendships later in life.We dive into why your age or relationship timeline doesn't define your worth, how to find and nurture love that truly sees you, and why inconvenience might be the secret ingredient to building bonds that last. Shan shares her wisdom on how to show up authentically in both romantic and platonic relationships, break away from rigid dating rules, and live a big, joy-filled life at any stage.If you've ever questioned whether it's too late for new love or genuine friendships—or if you're simply craving more meaningful connection—hit play on this episode.We talk about:How online algorithms are impacting our attachment styles and preferencesNavigating dating and romance without falling into the efficiency trapThe truth about cultivating friendships as an adultThe power of showing up, even when it's inconvenientLetting go of dating rules and loving by your own standardsLinks & Resources:Watch Lovers by ShanJoin the Lovers by Shan communityFollow Shan on Instagram @shanboodramGet your She's So Lucky MerchSponsors:LMNT: LMNT is a zero sugar electrolyte drink mix with a research-backed ratio of electrolytes. To try it out go to drinkLMNT.com/balancedles to receive a free LMNT sample pack with any purchase.Vionic Shoes: Use code LUCKY at checkout for 15% off your entire order at vionicshoes.com.Bumble: Start your love story on BumbleGrüns: Grüns are comprehensive nutrition packed into a snack pack a day. Visit gruns.co and use the code LUCKY for 52% off your first order.Vimergy: Vimergy: Vimergy makes liquid vitamins that are clean, potent, and actually easy for your body to absorb. Visit vimergy.com and use code LUCKY for 20% off your first order.Stay in TouchFollow on IG: @shessoluckypod @lesalfredFollow on TikTok @shessoluckypod @balancedlesSubscribe to the She's So Lucky Newsletter: https://shessolucky.kit.com/bestcaseVisit our website at shessoluckypodcast.comPlease note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How does Oort cloud stay attached to the Solar System as it moves through space? How can you generate power using a black hole? What should you do if a meteorite falls into your yard? And in Q&A+, which upcoming NASA missions are worth advocating for?Watch the video here (with no ads) or on YouTube: https://youtu.be/ODUiWh9TCi0Here's a link to the full, unedited 2-hour livestream: https://youtube.com/live/f7HUnpoXkZ0

Most hiring mistakes don't happen in the interview—they happen before you ever post the job. In this episode of The Chris LoCurto Show, we break down why hiring from stress instead of strategy leads to misalignment, burnout, and costly rehires.We cover:00:02:09 – The Parable of the Net (Matthew 13:47–50)A wide net catches everything—including the wrong people. Learn how clarity in your hiring process acts as a filter, not just a funnel.00:03:18 – Attachment to Filling the Role—Not Solving the ProblemStop rushing to replace a warm body. Start by asking if the role even fits your current mission and strategy.00:12:20 – Attachment to the Resume—Not the ResultsA polished resume doesn't equal performance. We show you how to ask better questions that reveal real-world capability.00:17:49 – Attachment to Past Roles—Not Current StrategyIf your business has changed, your roles should too. Don't hire for yesterday's needs—clarify what the role needs to deliver now.00:22:20 – Attachment to Charisma—Not Culture FitCharisma fades. Culture fit endures. Learn how to look past personality and identify alignment with your core values.00:26:27 – Smart Hiring FrameworkThis episode kicks off a full series on building a better hiring system. Sign up to get every resource at chrislocurto.com/hiringframework

Happy Thursday Problemistas! We're solving problems left right and center today. No soundboard, but plenty of banter and lots of laughs, so click play and enjoy. Don't forget to leave a review. We're aiming for 1000 reviews on iTunes and Spotify, so we need all the help we can get. Whilst you're at it, send this podcast to someone who could use a therapeutic laugh. 23:40 - Question 1 - Is this a codependent corrective experience?32:00 - Question 2 - Uncommitted & casual, but he won't sleep here.44:50 - Question 3 - Two Therapists One Problem. Attachment styles.Record Your Question for Jeff and Alex : https://www.therapyjeff.com/podcastKeep up with Alex at https://alexandramoskovichpsychotherapy.comJeff's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeffJeff's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeffListen to more podcasts like this: https://wavepodcastnetwork.comDISCLAIMER: The insights shared in this podcast are for educational and entertainment purposes only, and should not be seen as a substitute for professional therapy. The guidance is general in nature, and does not equate to the personalized care provided by a licensed therapist. The callers are not therapy clients.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

“That is why the Lord says, ‘Turn to me now, while there is time. Give me your hearts. Come with fasting, weeping, and mourning. Don't tear your clothing in your grief, but tear your hearts instead.' Return to the Lord for he is merciful and compassionate, slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love.” Joel 2:12-13The book of Joel, the second of the minor prophets, is such a beautiful book. It's not long, only three chapters, but packs quite a spiritual punch. It tells of a locust swarm. It tells of a call to repentance and what it means to rejoice in the Lord. It tells of the promise of the Spirit of the Lord. It tells of God's judgment against enemy nations and blessings for God's people. Joel is surely a book that, even though it might not be the most taught-through, has a lot of recognizable truths. To help us navigate the book of Joel is Dr. David Baker. David is Professor of Old Testament at Ashland Theological Seminary and author of a number of commentaries including one on Joel. Doable Discipleship is a Saddleback Church podcast produced and hosted by Jason Wieland. It premiered in 2017 and now offers more than 400 episodes. Episodes release every Tuesday on your favorite podcast app and on the Saddleback Church YouTube Channel (https://www.youtube.com/saddleback).Resources Related to This Episode:https://www.amazon.com/Joel-Obadiah-Malachi-Application-Commentary/dp/0310207231Subscribe to the Doable Discipleship podcast at Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/doable-discipleship/id1240966935) or Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/1Zc9nuwQZOLadbFCZCmZ1V)Related Doable Discipleship Episodes: Navigating the Bible: Hosea - https://youtu.be/nWZ4TuAUSRQNavigating the Bible: Daniel - https://youtu.be/bnQ-PioWxfgNavigating the Bible: Ezekiel - https://youtu.be/hlg6gBYxqsgNavigating the Bible: Lamentations - https://youtu.be/6rrizlXeYXENavigating the Bible: Jeremiah - https://youtu.be/lXPjWl8PdRkNavigating the Bible: Isaiah - https://youtu.be/NZJLaPkgEgsNavigating the Bible: Song of Songs - https://youtu.be/Sg0CYlNBVMgNavigating the Bible: Ecclesiastes - https://youtu.be/-Wr7LCh8F9ENavigating the Bible: Proverbs - https://youtu.be/DytRT5AsZg8Navigating the Bible: Psalms - https://youtu.be/oZeesooAYUINavigating the Bible: Job - https://youtu.be/14jaf2T1eCQNavigating the Bible: Esther - https://youtu.be/7RZ7ATWQZucNavigating the Bible: Nehemiah - https://youtu.be/Gok4WDgwn5INavigating the Bible: Ezra - https://youtu.be/aBC0nEjYeyoNavigating the Bible: 2 Chronicles - https://youtu.be/OG3rHTgMgEINavigating the Bible: 1 Chronicles - https://youtu.be/lQ_Qc4zbfgANavigating the Bible: 2 Kings - https://youtu.be/04q9gDhBKTkNavigating the Bible: 1 Kings - https://youtu.be/aS-KoeQXl2kNavigating the Bible: 2 Samuel - https://youtu.be/ZbpafGgOW7cNavigating the Bible: 1 Samuel - https://youtu.be/lY8wPElSFMYNavigating the Bible: Rute - https://youtu.be/YaH-t-ZzTaMNavigating the Bible: Judges - https://youtu.be/qNGcOf2o0NUNavigating the Bible: Joshua - https://youtu.be/hF28aThBtFsNavigating the Bible: Deuteronomy - https://youtu.be/HzmNgPOM4zUNavigating the Bible: Numbers - https://youtu.be/H1HO6V9HDxsNavigating the Bible: Leviticus - https://youtu.be/08RhDCXYex4Navigating the Bible: Exodus - https://youtu.be/NB9UTpS1F3MNavigating the Bible: Genesis - https://youtu.be/ddhjMfOoasAInspiring Dreams by Keys of Moon | https://soundcloud.com/keysofmoonMusic promoted by https://www.chosic.com/free-music/all/Creative Commons CC BY 4.0https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

A practitioner in China shares her experience in learning to let go of selfish material interests and resentment towards her husband when confronted with a major tribulation in their marriage. This and other experience-sharing from the Minghui website. Original Articles:1. Letting Go of Resentment and Attachment to Self-Interest2. Life Renewed by Dafa3. Diligently Refining Myself […]

806. Why does playing with your child sometimes feel more draining than delightful? In this episode, Dr. Nanika Coor unpacks why shared play can stir up old wounds from your own upbringing—and how noticing those tender spots can help you respond with more connection, presence, and ease, even when it feels hard. Sources:Raising a Secure Child: How Circle of Security Parenting Can Help You Nurture Your Child's Attachment, Emotional Resilience, and Freedom to Explore By Kent Hoffman, Bert Powell, Glen CooperRelated Project Parenthood Episodes: How to Understand and Fulfill Your Child's Attachment NeedsRethink Time Out: Support Your Child with Time InsUsing self compassion to regulate your own emotions as a parentFind a transcript here.Have a parenting question? Email Dr. Coor at parenthood@quickanddirtytips.com or leave a voicemail at 646-926-3243.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthoodhttps://brooklynparenttherapy.com/  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Today's podcast kicks off a new series, running through November 3rd, and concludes with Dr. Karl Lehman. This 6-week series focuses on identity, attachment, wounds, lament, and securing our attachment in Christ, not your marriage.In this episode of Neurodiverse Christian Couples, hosts Dan and Stephanie welcome back neurotheologian Dr. Jim Wilder for a deep dive into identity formation, attachment, and the brain, especially as it relates to neurodiverse individuals and marriages. Dr. Wilder explains how our identity develops from infancy through adolescence, highlighting key brain regions (like the orbital prefrontal cortex, corpus callosum, and mirror neuron system) and how they contribute to our sense of self and our ability to connect with others. He discusses what happens when these developmental processes are disrupted or different — as is often the case in autism, ADHD, and other developmental differences — and how this affects relationships, emotional regulation, and group belonging. The conversation explores: How attachment and caregiver attunement in infancy shape emotional identity.Why the adolescent brain shifts focus from Who am I? to Who are my people? — and how failing to find a “herd” can impact identity.The biological and neurological reasons why change (especially in neurodiverse individuals) takes time, encouragement, and community rather than just “trying harder.”Why accountability in the traditional sense often fails, and how a supportive group offering healthy correction is much more effective for growth and transformation.How autism impacts the identity center of the brain and its implications for marital relationships  This episode sets the stage for a series on identity and attachment, touching on grief, resilience, and sacred attachment, with upcoming guests offering complementary perspectives. If you're curious about how brain development, faith, and neurodiversity intersect — especially within marriage and community — this episode provides both insight and encouragement. About Our Guest Dr. Jim Wilder:Dr. Jim Wilder has been training leaders and counselors for over 30 years on five continents. Jim grew up in South America and is bilingual (English/Spanish). He is the author of nineteen books with a strong focus on maturity and relational skills. Dr. Wilder has served as a guest lecturer at Fuller Seminary, Biola, Talbot Seminary, Point Loma University, Montreat College, Tyndale Seminary, and elsewhere.  Dr. Jim Wilder has extensive clinical counseling experience and is the chief neurotheologian of Life Model Works, a nonprofit working at the intersection of theology and brain science. Life Model Works builds on the fifty-year legacy of Shepherd's House, which began in the 1970s as a ministry to street kids in Van Nuys, California. In those early days, Jim worked with the team of volunteer counselors and Fuller Seminary faculty to build a counseling center to help broken people recover from negative habits, addictions, abuse, and trauma. By the 1990s, Jim was Assistant Director and later Executive Director of Shepherd's House, helping hundreds of pastors and churches with their toughest counseling cases. Jim was intimately involved in 1987 when Shepherd's House conducted a careful review of why some people with the same level of trauma and treatment recovered, but others did not. The results of this case-by-case study became The Life Model, a new recovery model. The Life Model study findings were published in Living from the Heart Jesus Gave You. Other podcasts we referenced:Escaping Enemy Mode Podcast:https://www.spreaker.com/episode/escaping-enemy-mode-with-dr-jim-wilder--52449734 What is LifeModel?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gOcc2QJ0tTg Fear Bonds and Love Bonds with Dr. Wilderhttps://www.spreaker.com/episode/fear-bonds-love-bonds-and-q-a-with-dr-jim-wilder--57526192 Dr. Wilder's Books for 2026 CoursesLife Passages of MenGrowing a More Human Community  

In this candid conversation, couples and sex therapist Dr. Nicole Van Ness, LMFT joins Dr. Marianne to explore how developmental trauma shapes attachment styles, body image, sexual desire, and day-to-day intimacy. Nicole explains what developmental trauma is, how it differs from or overlaps with complex PTSD, and why chronic misattunement in childhood can echo through adult relationships, stress responses, and self-regulation. You will hear practical, compassionate strategies to rebuild safety, agency, and connection in your body and with your partner. What You'll Learn Developmental trauma 101: How repeated misattunement and lack of repair in childhood influence trust, safety, and the nervous system in adulthood. Attachment and sex: How anxious and avoidant patterns can create desire pursuer–withdrawer cycles, sensitivity to rejection, and misaligned invitations for sex. Body image and pleasure: Why self-loathing, dissociation, and low interoceptive awareness can shift sex from pleasure to performance and how to return to embodied enjoyment. Masturbation as self-care: Ways self-pleasure can restore agency, support trauma recovery, and improve partnered intimacy through curiosity, consent, and pacing. Desire discrepancy: How to reframe a declined invitation as information rather than personal rejection and how to stay connected when desire levels differ. Pelvic and sexual pain: How chronic stress and hypervigilance can contribute to issues like vaginismus and pelvic floor tension and why relaxation and safety matter. Neurodivergence and RSD: Tools for identifying rejection sensitive dysphoria in the moment and naming it with your partner to reduce spirals and repair faster. Eroticism and aliveness: Gentle, stepwise practices that rebuild embodiment and pleasure, from sensing music and movement to sharing desire with a partner. Key Takeaways Trauma adaptations are creative survival strategies. They deserve respect while you learn new options that fit your current life. Pleasure requires enough safety, agency, and self-worth to receive and enjoy it. These ingredients can be rebuilt. Honest conversations about boundaries, pacing, and permission support intimacy more than duty or performance. Small, consistent body-based practices help restore interoception, reduce hypervigilance, and widen your window of tolerance during sex and affection. Gentle Practices to Try Name your nervous system state: Am I keyed up, shut down, or settled. Choose regulation first. Solo exploration with care: Treat self-pleasure like self-nurture. Slow it down. Focus on sensation, comfort, and curiosity. Low-stakes embodiment: Sway to a favorite song, notice breath, enjoy soft fabrics, or feel grass under your feet. Build from neutral to pleasant sensations. Clear invitations and exits: Ask for what you want. Offer options. Affirm that no is welcome. Agree on easy ways to pause or change course. Rejection reframe: A no is information about timing or capacity, not your worth. Validate disappointment and stay connected. Terms and Resources Mentioned Developmental Model of Couples Therapy by Pete Pearson and Ellyn Bader Complex PTSD conversations influenced by Bessel van der Kolk Codependency concepts associated with Pia Mellody Cultural touchpoints about sexuality education and agency referenced in feminist media history About Our Guest Dr. Nicole Van Ness, LMFT is a couples and sex therapist who practices virtually in Texas, California, and Florida. She integrates attachment science, nervous system education, differentiation, and sexuality counseling to help clients cultivate secure intimacy and erotic connection. She works affirmatively with diverse relationship structures and identities. Connect with Nicole: connected-couples.com Apple & Spotify. Sex & Body Image (Part 2) with Sex Therapist Dr. Nicole Van Ness, LMFT on Apple & Spotify. Work With Dr. Marianne If you want trauma-informed, neurodivergent-affirming support for eating concerns, body image, or intimacy challenges, you can work with me in therapy in California, Texas, and Washington, D.C. Learn more and schedule a free consult at drmariannemiller.com. Share the Episode If this conversation helped you, rate and review the show, share it with a friend, and subscribe so you never miss an episode.

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"Write down the vision" the Lord told the prophet Habakkuk. (Hab 2:2)  About 600 years later, John the Apostle would write down the vision of Jesus for the lives of his future disciples. (Jn 17:20-21) Catching the Lord's vision for our lives renews our attachement to his loving presence...that makes living the vision possible.

In this episode of Healthy Mind, Healthy Life, host Avik Chakraborty sits down with Amber Lavin, a relationship coach and founder of True Nature Counseling, to explore the transformative power of mindful and embodied dating. They discuss how our nervous system shapes who we're drawn to, why recognizing dating patterns is the first step toward healing, and how to create authentic, grounded relationships. From attachment theory to swiping fatigue, Amber shares actionable strategies to help you date with self-awareness, intention, and emotional integrity. If you're tired of surface-level connections and want to shift toward conscious love, this episode is for you. About the Guest:Amber Lavin is a relationship coach and counselor based in Asheville, specializing in helping women reclaim their dating lives through mindfulness, embodiment, and emotional healing. Through her work at True Nature Counseling, she helps clients understand their nervous system, shift attachment patterns, and foster deeper, healthier connections. Key Takeaways: Dating patterns often stem from nervous system imprints developed in early life. Embodied dating helps you tune into your body's cues and break cycles of unhealthy attraction. Attachment styles aren't fixed—awareness and self-regulation can help you move toward secure attachment. Dating apps aren't the problem—it's how you use them. Creating rituals around app use can lead to more intentional connections. Chemistry doesn't have to come with chaos; safety and passion can coexist in healthy love. Connect with the Guest:Website: www.truenaturecounseling.netAmber offers 1:1 coaching, workshops, and transformative dating guidance. Want to be a guest on Healthy Mind, Healthy Life? DM on PM – Send me a message on PodMatch DM Me Here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/avik Tune to all our 15 podcasts: https://www.podbean.com/podcast-network/healthymindbyavik Subscribe To Newsletter: https://healthymindbyavik.substack.com/ Join Community: https://nas.io/healthymind Stay Tuned And Follow Us!YouTube – https://www.youtube.com/@healthymind-healthylifeInstagram – https://www.instagram.com/healthyminds.podThreads – https://www.threads.net/@healthyminds.podFacebook – https://www.facebook.com/podcast.healthymindLinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/reemachatterjee/ | https://www.linkedin.com/in/avikchakrabortypodcaster #podmatch #healthymind #healthymindbyavik #mindfuldating #attachmenttheory #embodiment #emotionalhealing #relationshipcoach #wellness

In this episode of the Dad Edge Podcast, I sit down with Michael Rothman—entrepreneur, father, and co-founder of Fatherly—to talk about what it really means to show up for your family with intention and presence in a rapidly evolving world.   Before he ever became a dad, Michael was shaping the conversation around modern fatherhood. Now, with a toddler at home and a lifetime of service under his belt, he reflects on how being a present father isn't about perfection—but about presence, community, and character. We dive into powerful insights on building secure attachment with your kids, the risks of oversharing online, how marriage impacts your children more than you think, and what dads can do to lead with both strength and vulnerability.       TIMELINE SUMMARY   [0:00] – Introduction [1:25] – Why “wife care” is often harder than baby care [4:22] – The origin of Fatherly and Mike's shift from single men's media to parenting [7:20] – How Mike's dad inspired a life of service [10:44] – The awkward “birds and bees” talk and learning from what wasn't said [15:10] – Mentoring kids without fathers and the deep need for stable male figures [19:15] – Why kids seek connection in gangs, screens, or wherever they're accepted [20:30] – What it means to build a secure emotional foundation for your kids [23:47] – Attachment theory and the critical role of ages 0–3 [26:41] – Presence vs. proximity: how dads can show up without distraction [31:00] – How kids absorb emotional tension in marriage [34:01] – Should you stay in a marriage just for the kids? [36:09] – The hidden dangers of exposing your kids' lives online [38:34] – The AI risk: voice spoofing, facial recognition, and digital breadcrumbs [41:21] – What Tinybeans does differently for family privacy [45:00] – The mission behind Fatherly, Tinybeans, and The Dispatch [46:55] – Encouraging respectful debate and deeper understanding through The Dispatch     5 KEY TAKEAWAYS   1. Presence Is More Than Just Showing Up Kids feel when we're distracted. Being physically there isn't enough—our full attention is the greatest gift we can give.   2. Secure Attachment Starts Early The first three years are foundational. Love, encouragement, and consistency build the confidence kids need to thrive later in life.   3. Your Marriage Sets the Emotional Tone of the Home Children sense tension. Investing in your relationship with your partner creates the safety your kids deeply crave.   4. Be Cautious With Digital Sharing The internet remembers everything. What you post about your kids could be used in ways you can't predict. Protect their digital footprint.   5. Leadership Starts With Community Dads can't do it alone. Leading your family includes building community around you—because your kids benefit from seeing other strong, grounded men too.     LINKS & RESOURCES The Dad Edge Alliance (Join Us) – https://www.thedadedge.com/alliance 25 Questions to Spark Connection With Your Partner – https://www.thedadedge.com/25questions Dad Edge Podcast Website – https://www.thedadedge.com/podcast Tools & Resources – https://www.thedadedge.com/tools       If this episode gave you insight or encouragement, rate, review, and share it with another dad who needs to hear it. Don't forget to follow the podcast so you never miss the wisdom and real talk we bring every week. Let's keep leading our families with presence, power, and purpose.

SPONSORS: 1) MIZZEN & MAIN: Right now, Mizzen & Main is offering our listeners 20% off your first purchase at https://mizzenandmain.com, promo code JULIAN20 PATREON https://www.patreon.com/JulianDorey (***TIMESTAMPS in description below) ~ Sarma Melngailis is an American chef, cookbook author, businesswoman and ex-convict. She was the owner and co-founder of the formerly highly-regarded Pure Food and Wine restaurant in New York City. FOLLOW JULIAN DOREY INSTAGRAM (Podcast): https://www.instagram.com/juliandoreypodcast/ INSTAGRAM (Personal): https://www.instagram.com/julianddorey/ X: https://twitter.com/julianddorey SARMA's LINKS - Substack: https://substack.com/@sarmamelngailis?r=16p9u&utm_medium=ios - IG: https://www.instagram.com/sarmamelngailis/ - X: https://x.com/sarma - WEBSITE: https://www.sarmaraw.com/writing/2022/4/5/bad-vegan-is-not-a-documentary JULIAN YT CHANNELS - SUBSCRIBE to Julian Dorey Clips YT: https://www.youtube.com/@juliandoreyclips - SUBSCRIBE to Julian Dorey Daily YT: https://www.youtube.com/@JulianDoreyDaily - SUBSCRIBE to Best of JDP: https://www.youtube.com/@bestofJDP ****TIMESTAMPS**** 00:00 - Intro 01:22 - Netflix ignoring Psychological Abuse, Nexivm, Stolen Youth, Parents' Divorce 10:50 - Sarma's Autism Diagnosis, Aspergers, Sensory Disorder, Telepathy Tapes 21:53 - Thought Reading, Autism as Superpower, LSD at 13, Blue Hair Girl 32:01 - Unsupervised Childhood, Young Girls Spectrum, Older Friends, Skaters 42:36 - Book Cut Story, Virginity taken at 14, Childhood Trauma, Psychopaths, Rescue Animals 53:06 - Manipulation, Memory Holes, Vulnerability, Kids, Love & Attachment, Sick Attachment 01:02:46 - Pure Love, Younger Guys, Jealousy, Defining Love 01:13:29 - Jealousy, Cona Atists Reformed?, Sociopaths, Victim Blaming, Awareness 01:23:50 - Hyper Awareness, Second Opinions, Judging People 01:34:26 - Love Reading, Penn, Wharton, Wall St, Culinary School, Frat House 01:45:00 - Wall St, Culinary School, Brief Marriage, Wife Role 01:56:01 - Settling vs Love, Divorce, Chaos, Fighting, Extremes 02:07:27 - Conflict Avoidance, Anxiety, Friendships, Love Languages, Fear Asking Help 02:20:33 - Burden, Affirmations, Culinary School, Food, Veganism, First Scheme CREDITS: - Host, Editor & Producer: Julian Dorey - COO, Producer & Editor: Alessi Allaman - https://www.youtube.com/@UCyLKzv5fKxGmVQg3cMJJzyQ - In-Studio Producer: Joey Deef - https://www.instagram.com/joeydeef/ Julian Dorey Podcast Episode 342 - Sarma Melngailis Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

I explore the real roots of self-worth and why so many of us struggle with it despite doing “all the right things.” I share how childhood experiences shape attachment and how that impacts our ability to value ourselves as adults. I also break down the crucial practices that build self-worth — from expressing needs and boundaries to taking healthy risks. Finally, I open up about my own journey of failing my way to success and how you can begin your own process of healing.SHOW HIGHLIGHTS00:00 – What really damages self-worth02:29 – Attachment and early development07:23 – Childhood shame and adult struggles11:41 – Hostility to needs and boundaries15:23 – Expressing desires and boundaries18:58 – The risks of lacking self-worth23:24 – Doing hard things builds value25:05 – ManTalks Alliance invitation***Tired of feeling like you're never enough? Build your self-worth with help from this free guide: https://training.mantalks.com/self-worthPick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/Heard about attachment but don't know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To AttachmentCheck out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your RelationshipBuild brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they're looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | SpotifyFor more, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram

Elliott and I have recently talked about pain and grief around the assassination of Charlie Kirk. The horror and fury of losing a Godly leader are bad enough. The shocking reality that some people celebrated his murder heaps additional sorrow on those in mourning. (For more on this, please see ep. 372).At the same time, God continues to redeem and bring glory to even the most hideous of circumstances. A spiritual fire has awakened many—people are returning to church and speaking boldly about their beliefs and faith.We focus on this beauty for ashes (Isaiah 61:3).In the midst of division, we find comfort with likeminded friends—this shared grief provides healing in and of itself.For example, after listening to the episodes about Charlie, a friend from college texted me with a heartfelt, supportive response. Elliott and I discuss her text which led to a conversation about attachment.We use the framework of Attachment Theory to flesh out the tension, pain, and dissension we feel at this time. How do we move through the vicissitudes of attachment to our friends, family, country, and God?Throughout our conversation, Elliott provides Scripture to help us navigate strained connections. Ultimately, we lean on God as our secure attachment.

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2749: Rose Lounsbury shares practical strategies for helping children release their attachment to material possessions with less struggle. By blending empathy, playful techniques, and gentle guidance, she shows parents how to teach kids that letting go can feel positive and empowering. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://roselounsbury.com/teaching-kids-to-let-it-go/ Quotes to ponder: “Kids often have a hard time letting go of things because they see their stuff as an extension of themselves.” “When kids see that their things can go on to make someone else happy, it's a lot easier for them to let go.” “Always let your kids know that the final decision is theirs.” Episode references: The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: https://www.amazon.com/Life-Changing-Magic-Tidying-Decluttering-Organizing/dp/1607747308 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, Dr. Emily Upshur, and I talk about...   - How to stay connected to your older children while caring for a baby in the NICU. - Why consistency, rituals, and transitional objects can help kids feel secure when routines are disrupted. - Creative ways to maintain a sense of closeness, even when you can't physically be present. - How to involve siblings in bonding with the new baby from afar. - Why it's okay to give yourself grace and lean on support systems during this stressful time.   If you've ever worried about balancing the needs of multiple children during a family crisis, this episode offers compassionate guidance and practical strategies to help your older kids feel loved, supported, and secure—even when life pulls you in different directions.     REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES:

Today, I've invited Dr. Sarah Bren to talk to us about attachment, knowing whether or not we have a secure attachment with our kids, and how to maintain that secure attachment through the process of repair. You'll Learn:Why emotional health and achievement don't have to be an either/or (and which one often leads to the other)Why repair is so important - and how to do it rightA time I (recently) blew up over a bathing suit and had to do some repairThe most impactful skill you can learn for better relationshipsYou'll get some really practical tips about how to actually say sorry and make amends and talk to your kids when there's been a rupture in your relationship. I know you're going to love this conversation and the confidence you feel when your attachment with your kids is strong.-------------------------------------------------Dr. Sarah Bren is a clinical psychologist and a mom of two. She has dedicated her career to translating the science of attachment into simple, real-life strategies for parents wanting to support healthy child development while not losing sight of their own mental health along the way. She is also the co-founder and clinical director of Upshur Bren Psychology Group in Pelham, NY, where she and her team of highly specialized therapists work with parents, children, and families. What Is Secure Attachment?Dr. Sarah defines attachment as an instinct to form a bond that allows for physical and emotional proximity to a caregiver. It's biological and increases our chances of survival as a species. She says, “We're hardwired to create these relational bonds.”Everyone attaches, but attachment science looks to the quality of that attachment relationship. Basically, secure attachment happens when a child believes that the parent will consistently and reliably meet their basic survival needs most of the time. This includes needs like food, sleep, warmth, and safety. Attachment MythsDr. Sarah says that many parents are quite anxious about the attachment relationship with their kids. Here are a few myths you can stop worrying about right now. Myth #1: Attachment is fragile. It can feel like the stakes are really high when it comes to creating a secure attachment with your child. The good news is, “It's not that fragile of a system. Not every single move you make is going to make or break an attachment relationship. It's a pretty robust system.” Dr. Sarah says that secure attachment is actually the default. Our job is to not actively derail it. Myth #2: If there's friction in the relationship, your attachment is not secure. Smooth sailing is not a requirement for a secure attachment. You won't always get along, and there will be friction sometimes. You'll still need to hold limits. You'll still upset your child, and you'll be frustrated by them sometimes, too. In fact, when your kid is really mad and throwing their vilest muck at you, it's actually a sign that they feel safe in the relationship. They know you're not going anywhere. Myth #3: Attachment is fixed. If you experienced insecure attachment as a child, you're doomed. Dr. Sarah explains that our initial attachment relationships create a sort of blueprint that we then use to anticipate how other people will receive us, respond to us, and meet our needs in the future. Fortunately, attachment is not fixed. While early experiences are important, the blueprint is also a...

In this episode, Kristen sits down with Amber Trejo, LMFT, who specializes in complex trauma and attachment, to explore how trauma weaves into relationships, parenting, and identity, and what real healing actually looks like.    www.theintegrativetraumatherapist.com   When you purchase Amber Trejo's recommended books through these Amazon affiliate links, you're helping support the podcast at no extra cost to you:    1. What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma: https://amzn.to/4groOgh 2. Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide and Map for Recovering from Childhood Trauma: https://amzn.to/3I0jpjB 3. The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma: https://amzn.to/47GBu0r 4. Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma: https://amzn.to/47KHB3V   Subscribe and get a free 5-day journal at www.kristendboice.com to begin closing the chapter on what doesn't serve you and open the door to the real you. This information is being provided to you for educational and informational purposes only. It is being provided to you to educate you about ideas on stress management and as a self-help tool for your own use. It is not psychotherapy/counseling in any form. This information is to be used at your own risk based on your own judgment.  For my full Disclaimer please go to www.kristendboice.com. For counseling services near Indianapolis, IN, visit www.pathwaystohealingcounseling.com. Pathways to Healing Counseling's vision is to provide warm, caring, compassionate and life-changing counseling services and educational programs to individuals, couples and families in order to create learning, healing and growth.    

In this powerful conversation with Ashmita, we dive deep into the hidden forces that shape our lives — and uncover why so many of our struggles stem from just one problem: attachment.Ashmita shares how our unconscious patterns, ego-driven stories, and resistance to letting go keep us stuck in cycles of confusion, burnout, and pain. More importantly, she reveals how the path to freedom, clarity, and empowerment begins with a single shift: detachment.We explore:Challenge as doorway to your transformationWhy patterns repeat — and how to break freeAttachment as the root of struggle and conflictDetachment as the key to peace and clarityEpisode Resources:⁠⁠⁠⁠Ashmita ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Ashmita ⁠Instagram

Summary Baumholder, Germany is notorious in military lore for hauntings. Paul (now a police officer) recounts what he experienced on base, and why he believes something followed him home. He describes the most terrified night of his adult life, why he's sure he was wide awake, and the strange activity that continued for years culminating in physical scratches. What you'll hear Baumholder's haunted reputation & why it matters A hostile presence that escalated beyond the barracks Post-deployment activity at home (odd sounds, disturbances, heavy smoke odor) How he thinks about attachment vs. environment and what finally changed Next week: AAR mini-doc We'll post a AAR with photos and added context. Subscribe on YouTube and watch the Community tab for updates. Chapters 00:00 Haunting Beginnings: Paul's Military Experience 08:41 Paranormal Encounters: Life After the Military 19:44 The Cigar Smoke Mystery: Signs of the Supernatural 24:43 Seeking Help: Blessings and Spiritual Guidance 30:58 Reflections on the Unknown: Understanding the Experiences Listen & Follow Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-dads-doomsday-guide/id1488033088 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7oxBqWVlCMHRVzxkvH31iU?si=7812632d667b4fd1 Memberships (YouTube) Tap Join on our YouTube channel for ask-a-guest questions (read on air), member polls, and occasional early releases. Perks are posted in the Community tab. Submit a story First-Responder Stories (LEO/Fire/EMS; anonymous OK): https://forms.gle/nvM7bsTb96gsBB6L6 Veil Encounters (personal encounters; anonymous options): https://forms.gle/3fTnj7TeFnRcHFnE9 Email list — Veil Report (free) One artifact • one action • one insight (monthly): https://thedadsdoomsdayguide.kit.com/ec3e91fdcd Support the show Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/sohara24x About & Contact The Dad's Doomsday Guide explores exorcism & demonology, hauntings, first-responder encounters, NDEs & consciousness. Contact: podcast@dadsdoomsdayguide.com • 213-465-3252 • https://www.dadsdoomsdayguide.com/

What up, Beasts. Welcome back to the show! In this episode, I sat down with Melani and it was like holding up a mirror to the way we love, avoid, cling, or push away in relationships. We unpacked the four main attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful, and how they get wired into us through childhood experiences and even later trauma. What I loved most about this conversation is the hope threaded through it: your attachment style doesn't have to define you forever. With honesty, inner child healing, and a willingness to face the messy stuff, we can move toward secure love and healthier, more fulfilling relationships.As always, I hope something lands with you today. I hope something you hear tugs at your heart strings and/or I hope you laugh.Bio: Melani Le'ona, known as The Love Coach, is a trauma healer, relationship strategist, and expert in attachment healing. She helps men, women, and couples break destructive patterns, rewire insecure attachment, and do the deep healing required to experience secure, soulful, and aligned relationships. With a background in psychology and a no-BS approach to transformation, Melani teaches that love isn't the healer. We are. And when we do the work, we create love that's built to last. She has your roadmap to the destination you've been dreaming of!Music by Prymary: Sean Entrikin (my hot husband) on guitar, Chris Quirarte on drums, Smiley Sean on keyboards, Rob Young on bass, and Jaxon Duane on vocals.Connect with MelaniWebsite: Sheisthelovecoach.comInstagram: @sheisthelovecoachTikTok: @thelovecoachWhere else can you find me?Linktree: https://linktr.ee/beautifulbeastwithinstudiosWhat if health wasn't about rules or restriction? What if it felt more like trust, ease, and actually liking the person in the mirror?I help people rebuild their relationship with food, movement, and themselves, so health becomes something you live, not something you chase.Ready for a different kind of conversation? Let's talk. No pressure.https://beautifulbeastwithinstudios.com/exploration-chat-schedulingAffiliate LinksBreakthrough Coaching Certification: If you feel called to help others heal or grow, Sean Smith's Breakthrough Coaching Certification is where that calling becomes real. https://coachseansmith.ontraport.net/t?orid=27037&opid=43Opus Clip: I use Opus Clip mostly for captions, and it's a game-changer for turning long videos into usable clips. If you use my link, it supports the show, and I appreciate you big time! https://www.opus.pro/?via=1118d2Mary Kay: Listen… I've been using Mary Kay since I was 17. I'm 40 now and people still ask me what college I go to. Not really, but you get the idea. Grab your faves here: https://www.marykay.com/kaitienoelleBeastly Merch: https://beautifulbeastwithinstudios.com/merchUnveil the Beautiful Beast Within YOU!Zoom Background:By Behr

This episode covers:In this episode, we discuss how trauma is stored in the body, the difference between stress and trauma, and practical somatic tools to start healing, and so much more.Dr. Aimie Apigian, MD, MS, MPH, is a double Board-Certified Physician, boarded in both Preventive and Addiction Medicine with a Masters in Biochemistry and a Masters in Public Health. She is a leader, speaker and founder of Trauma Healing Accelerated, LLC where she not only continues to lead individuals in their own healing journey but trains professionals around the world to do the same.After a few years in a general surgery residency in Portland, OR, Dr. Aimie decided to forge her career path as a Trauma, Attachment and Addiction Medicine Physician.  She believes the healing journey can be accelerated by bringing in the biology piece to trauma and applying strategic tools to address the chronic effects of trauma in one's body.  Having both parented children with effects from attachment and trauma issues and then having her own health challenges from chronic stress and traumas, she is intensely invested on finding what actually works practically and how to restore the body to its highest potential for health optimizing the biology.Links mentioned during this episode:Dr. Aimie's Book, The Biology of Trauma: https://book.biologyoftrauma.com/landing-pageFree Initial Consultation with Dr. Megan: https://p.bttr.to/3a9lfYkLyons' Share Instagram: www.instagram.com/thelyonsshareJoin Megan's Newsletter: www.thelyonsshare.org/newsletter

“O Israel and Judah, what should I do with you?” asks the Lord. “For your love vanishes like the morning mist and disappears like dew in the sunlight. I sent my prophets to cut you to pieces - to slaughter you with my words, with judgments as inescapable as light. I want you to show love, not offer sacrifices. I want you to know me more than I want burnt offerings. But like Adam, you broke my covenant and betrayed my trust.” - Hosea 6:4-7We're getting deeper into the prophets now as we've moved from what are considered the major prophets to the minor prophets. Now don't let these terms color your view of these next books - the minor prophets have a lot to say. In fact, this conversation on Hosea has been one of my favorites. Honestly, I had not spent much time in Hosea before but man did re-reading it and spending time prepping for this conversation really impact me. Hosea is, yes, another prophet trying to warn Israel of the coming judgment of the Lord, but the approach Hosea takes hits home in a fresh way. To help us navigate the book of Hosea is Dr. Duane Garrett - chair of Old Testament at Southern Baptist Theological Seminary and author of a commentary on Hosea. In this conversation Dr. Garrett and I talk about the continued role of prophets, the unique structure to Hosea, and why God seems to be focusing his attention on Israel rather than the surrounding pagan nations. Doable Discipleship is a Saddleback Church podcast produced and hosted by Jason Wieland. It premiered in 2017 and now offers more than 400 episodes. Episodes release every Tuesday on your favorite podcast app and on the Saddleback Church YouTube Channel (https://www.youtube.com/saddleback).Resources Related to This Episode:https://www.amazon.com/Hosea-Joel-Exegetical-Theological-Exposition/dp/0805401199Subscribe to the Doable Discipleship podcast at Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/doable-discipleship/id1240966935) or Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/1Zc9nuwQZOLadbFCZCmZ1V)Related Doable Discipleship Episodes: Navigating the Bible: Daniel - https://youtu.be/bnQ-PioWxfgNavigating the Bible: Ezekiel - https://youtu.be/hlg6gBYxqsgNavigating the Bible: Lamentations - https://youtu.be/6rrizlXeYXENavigating the Bible: Jeremiah - https://youtu.be/lXPjWl8PdRkNavigating the Bible: Isaiah - https://youtu.be/NZJLaPkgEgsNavigating the Bible: Song of Songs - https://youtu.be/Sg0CYlNBVMgNavigating the Bible: Ecclesiastes - https://youtu.be/-Wr7LCh8F9ENavigating the Bible: Proverbs - https://youtu.be/DytRT5AsZg8Navigating the Bible: Psalms - https://youtu.be/oZeesooAYUINavigating the Bible: Job - https://youtu.be/14jaf2T1eCQNavigating the Bible: Esther - https://youtu.be/7RZ7ATWQZucNavigating the Bible: Nehemiah - https://youtu.be/Gok4WDgwn5INavigating the Bible: Ezra - https://youtu.be/aBC0nEjYeyoNavigating the Bible: 2 Chronicles - https://youtu.be/OG3rHTgMgEINavigating the Bible: 1 Chronicles - https://youtu.be/lQ_Qc4zbfgANavigating the Bible: 2 Kings - https://youtu.be/04q9gDhBKTkNavigating the Bible: 1 Kings - https://youtu.be/aS-KoeQXl2kNavigating the Bible: 2 Samuel - https://youtu.be/ZbpafGgOW7cNavigating the Bible: 1 Samuel - https://youtu.be/lY8wPElSFMYNavigating the Bible: Rute - https://youtu.be/YaH-t-ZzTaMNavigating the Bible: Judges - https://youtu.be/qNGcOf2o0NUNavigating the Bible: Joshua - https://youtu.be/hF28aThBtFsNavigating the Bible: Deuteronomy - https://youtu.be/HzmNgPOM4zUNavigating the Bible: Numbers - https://youtu.be/H1HO6V9HDxsNavigating the Bible: Leviticus - https://youtu.be/08RhDCXYex4Navigating the Bible: Exodus - https://youtu.be/NB9UTpS1F3MNavigating the Bible: Genesis - https://youtu.be/ddhjMfOoasAInspiring Dreams by Keys of Moon | https://soundcloud.com/keysofmoonMusic promoted by https://www.chosic.com/free-music/all/Creative Commons CC BY 4.0https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

Send us a Text Message and suggest a topic or guest!What terrifies parents more than anything? The thought of their child experiencing sexual abuse. Yet this fear often prevents the very conversations that could protect our children. In this powerful episode, attachment specialist Eli Harwood joins Jordan to share essential strategies for preventing and responding to childhood sexual abuse.This episode goes over:• Using anatomically correct language for all body parts from infancy to normalize discussions about bodies• Teaching body safety rules to children around ages 2.5-3• Believing children when they disclose abuse and reassuring them they will be protected• Building secure attachment as your strongest protection against abuse by creating open communication• Practicing "cooperative" rather than "compliant" parenting so children feel safe defying inappropriate authority• Continuing regular check-ins about body safety throughout childhoodVisit Eli's website for free resources and check out her Instagram @attachmentnerd for thoughtful takes on parenting and creating strong attachments with your children! Make twice the impact on marriage and families this October with a donation to Families of Character. Your donation goes directly to helping subsidize tuition for couples who can't afford 100% of our already discounted couples coaching, the Thriving Family Accelerator.

Hosted by Dr. Sarah Hensley, Specialized Social Psychologist, Attachment Theory Expert, and Founder & CEO of The Love Doc Relationship Coaching Services with Co-host Raina Butcher, Owner/CEO of Joyful Consulting, LLC. Welcome to "The Love Doc Podcast" Season II, where Host Dr. Sarah Hensley and her co-host Raina Butcher dive deep into the intricacies of love, attraction, attachment, relationships, and self-awareness. Dr. Hensley brings a wealth of knowledge and experience to help listeners navigate the complexities of modern romance. In each episode, Dr. Hensley tackles burning questions about love, relationships, and the mind's complexities, drawing from her psychological research, real-life experiences, and her own individual expertise, to provide insightful perspectives and practical advice.Episode 19, Season II: “Attachment Across the Generations: How Our Past Shapes Our Present”In this episode of The Love Doc Podcast, Dr. Sarah Hensley dives into a thought-provoking exploration of how attachment styles have been shaped and reshaped across multiple generations. While research in this area is still developing, Dr. Hensley shares her insights, blending the data we do have with her own professional expertise and observations from years of working with clients. Together, she and Raina reflect on how cultural norms, economic conditions, and parenting trends have influenced the way each generation both experiences and passes down attachment.We begin with The Greatest Generation aka the Silent Generation (1928–1945), who were shaped by the Great Depression and World War II. Their attachment strategies often leaned toward survival, self-sacrifice, and stoicism—traits that helped them endure hardship but often left emotional needs unspoken. This foundation directly influenced the Baby Boomers (1946–1964), who grew up in a time of post-war prosperity, suburban expansion, and cultural shifts. While this generation had greater stability, many were raised by emotionally distant parents still carrying war scars, creating a paradox of material abundance alongside emotional gaps.Next, we move to Generation X (1965–1980), often called the “latchkey kids.” With both parents working and divorce rates climbing, many Gen X children learned independence early but often struggled with consistent emotional attunement at home. This set the stage for Millennials (1981–1996), who came of age in a rapidly globalizing world of technology, economic instability, and shifting social values. Millennials were raised with more open conversations about emotions but also felt the weight of high expectations, student debt, and uncertain futures—all of which influence how they form and sustain attachments today.Finally, we turn to Gen Z (1997–2012) and Gen Alpha (2013–present), the most digital-native generations. Gen Z has grown up amidst political polarization, social media pressures, and the mental health crisis, shaping a cohort that is both highly self-aware and often highly anxious. Gen Alpha, still in childhood, is being raised by Millennials who are more intentional about emotional intelligence, attachment security, and breaking cycles—but also parenting in a world defined by technology, climate concerns, and shifting cultural landscapes.Dr. Hensley and Raina bring compassion and clarity to this conversation, showing how the ripple effects of one generation's experiences can echo for decades. At the heart of the discussion is a message of hope: while each generation carries wounds, each also has the opportunity to break cycles, build secure attachments, and create healthier family units for the future.Tune in to "The Love Doc Podcast" every Tuesday morning for candid conversations, expert guidance, and a deeper understanding of life, love and relationships in the modern world. 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Attachment Theory Expert Adam Lane Smith joins Gabby Reese to dive deep into Anxious & Avoidant Attachment and the neuroscience of secure relationships. Learn how to heal your nervous system and unlock true monogamy through co-solving life's challenges. Adam Lane Smith reveals the hidden science that governs our bonds, explaining how our nervous systems are "fried" by modern life and how attachment science is the future of human connection. Discover the chemical keys to lasting partnership, including the vital role of vasopressin, the hormone released when couples overcome stress and solve problems as a team.Gabby and Adam discuss: How to understand and shift your personal attachment style (Anxious, Avoidant, Disorganized) to secure. The difference between oxytocin and vasopressin and how to naturally increase your bonding hormones. Gabby's personal story of almost divorcing Laird Hamilton and the pivotal shift that transformed her marriage through honest, brave communication. The biological imperative of a "safe perimeter" and the dynamic of healthy masculinity and femininity. Why the greatest form of resilience for a child is a secure family they can always return to. How relationships can become your "medicine" and your greatest tool for a regulated nervous system and a resilient life. Connect with Adam Lane Smith:https://adamlanesmith.com/https://www.instagram.com/attachmentadam For more on Gabby Instagram @GabbyReece: https://www.instagram.com/gabbyreece/ TikTok @GabbyReeceOfficial https://www.tiktok.com/@gabbyreeceofficial The Gabby Reece Show Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@GabbyReece  The Gabby Reece Show podcast is produced by Rainbow Creative (https://www.rainbowcreative.co/)  Thank You to Our Sponsors The Reecet - Join Gabby Reece for a transformative women's retreat designed to simplify and reframe what it means to be healthy. Learn more at https://amphora.la/thereecet Laird Superfood - High-quality ingredients paired with incredible taste. Use the code GABBY20 for 20% off your purchase at http://lairdsuperfood.com CHAPTERS 00:00 Intro: Fried Nervous Systems & Attachment 03:55 The Monogamy Hormone: Vasopressin 07:14 Gabby's Story: Almost Divorcing 14:19 Secure Parenting: Safe Perimeter 19:30 The 4 Layers of Male Safety 30:00 Re-Parenting & Going Secure 36:10 Masculine and Feminine Roles 45:10 Adam Lane Smith's Path 53:20 Effeminate Men vs. Feminine 59:15 The Cost of Non-Commitment 08:45 How to Heal Anxious Men 01:13:50 Conflict Builds Strong Bonds 01:21:10 Anxious Attachment Needs Solving 01:32:00 3 Steps to Secure Attachment Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A practitioner reflects on her cultivation journey, realizing she was not genuinely cultivating due to a fundamental attachment to her own standards. Despite diligently doing the three things, she clung to notions of being a “good person” and sought respect and love. She came to understand that her conflicted relationship with her mother-in-law helped her […]

I'm thrilled to welcome Geoff and Cyd Holsclaw to this bonus episode as we talk about their new book Landscapes of the Soul. Bridging spirituality and relational neurobiology, they help us consider what it means to live a life of joy in relationship. Geoff and Cyd help us identify our attachment strategies, how they developed and how we heal. These attachment strategies, the ways we connect with others (or don't), color how we see everything, including God. Listen to the end because Cyd leads us in a beautiful practice designed to help us move a little further into safe attachment with Jesus.  Connect with the Holsclaws to learn more about what they offer, including their cohorts, at embodiedfaith.life.  If this conversation is meaningful for you, please take a minute to like, subscribe and share with a friend who needs this encouragement today. You can connect with me and find free resources at susancarson.net. Thanks for joining me today!

This talk was given by Gil Fronsdal on 2025.09.28 at the Insight Meditation Center in Redwood City, CA. ******* Video of this talk is available at: https://youtube.com/live/yPqpffV_ga0?feature=share. ******* A machine generated transcript of this talk is available. It has not been edited by a human, so errors will exist. Download Transcript: https://www.audiodharma.org/transcripts/24085/download ******* For more talks like this, visit AudioDharma.org ******* If you have enjoyed this talk, please consider supporting AudioDharma with a donation at https://www.audiodharma.org/donate/. ******* This talk is licensed by a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 4.0 License

This talk was given by Gil Fronsdal on 2025.09.28 at the Insight Meditation Center in Redwood City, CA. ******* Video of this talk is available at: https://youtube.com/live/yPqpffV_ga0?feature=share. ******* A machine generated transcript of this talk is available. It has not been edited by a human, so errors will exist. Download Transcript: https://www.audiodharma.org/transcripts/24085/download ******* For more talks like this, visit AudioDharma.org ******* If you have enjoyed this talk, please consider supporting AudioDharma with a donation at https://www.audiodharma.org/donate/. ******* This talk is licensed by a Creative Commons Attribution-Noncommercial-No Derivative Works 4.0 License

Thank you Bumble for sponsoring today's video ✨ One point of clarification on our Bumble segment today: On Bumble, all new members in the US are required to verify their phone number and photo. As part of our commitment to a safer, more trusted community, photo verification will soon be mandatory for everyone in the US.Hi my loves

send us a text via Fan Mail!00:42 - Welcome Heather 3:37 - The Baby Sleep Connection Podcast 5:39 - What to do when spouse disagrees with bed sharing 11:33 - Reducing the risk of sharing sleep space 12:24 - Supporting the emotional and developmental needs of our toddlers 19:11 - Counterwill and separation trauma26:00 - Connection, feeling safe and unconditionally loved 28:52 - Attachment and walking alongside our kids38:27 - Safety tips for bedsharing when baby is mobile Visit Heather's website:familysleep.caListen and submit a question for The Baby Sleep Connection Podcast hereOn Instagram @familysleep.ca On Facebook Family Sleep with Heather Boyd Contact On Instagram at @make.joy.normal By email at makejoynormal@gmail.com Search podcast episodes by topic www.bonnielandry.ca Shop my recommended resources Thanks for listening to Make Joy Normal Podcast!

Today, Katie is joined by Ayurvedic Practitioner, Reiki Master and friend of the podcast Angelica Neri. They explore the many facets of feminine energy, our body's innate wisdom and the courage it takes to soften our ego and forgive. Together, they share personal stories of healing, forgiveness and reconnecting with intuition through somatic movement and creative expression. With warmth and raw honesty, this episode invites you to deepen and honor your personal journey toward balance, embodied spirituality and the nurturing embrace of the Divine Mother. Ready to dive deeper into the Divine Feminine? Join Katie and The Shakti School on Monday, October 6th, at 11 am ET for a FREE live webinar called Divine Feminine Ayurveda 101. Click here to sign up! In this episode about somatic movement and much more, you'll hear: ~ Registration for the 2026 class of our Ayurveda School is now open! Click here to learn more and enroll. ~ What exactly is feminine energy? ~ How Angelica and Katie connect to their feminine ~ Living from the thinking mind vs the body ~ Finding your way back to your feminine intuition ~ The Rishtis of yoga ~ Attachment theory ~ How Angelica brings creativity and somatic movement into her yoga classes ~ Exploring and liberating the body through somatic movement ~ The importance of kindergarten vibes in middle age ~ White Tara ~ The Divine Mother archetype ~ Angelica's powerful hospice experiences ~ Breaking generational cycles ~ Powerful personal stories of healing paternal relationships ~ The Oedipus complex ~ Healing through forgiveness ~ Softening the ego ~ The true goal of enlightenment ~ The art of not reacting ~ Practical spiritual practices to heal our polarized world ~ Katie and Angelica's current somatic movement practices ~ Cultivating an authentic connection to spirituality ~ Sign up for our free mini-course about Women's Wisdom and Ayurveda!   Connect with Angelica Neri and The Shakti School: ~ Follow Angelica on Instagram ~ Listen to Angelica's The Divine Feminine Healer's Podcast ~ Follow The Shakti School on Instagram and Facebook ~ 2026 Chakra Yoga Nidra Retreat: Deep dive into the chakras with Katie as your guide in the Bahamas in spring 2026! ~ Read Katie's latest book, Glow-Worthy!   Find the full show notes here: https://theshaktischool.com/ep-224-forgiveness-somatic-movement-death-and-the-divine-mother-with-angelica-neri/

What are my boundaries? What are my needs? How do I share them with my partners? Sarah and Alex try to understand the differences between rules and boundaries, needs and desires. Mentioned in the episode:  Glitter & Greed: The Lisa Frank Story mistakescast@gmail.com | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by roy franklin: www.whateverfactory.org Links to bookshop.org are affiliate links.

On this episode of the Strip-Till Farmer podcast, brought to you by Environmental Tillage Systems, we're headed to Walnut, Ill., to catch up with strip-tiller Tanner Schoff. Schoff strip-tills corn, no-tills soybeans and uses cover crops. He recently created the Rezidue Reaper tillage attachment tool for combines to manage the heavy residue in his system.

Attachment has become a buzzword in parenting circles—but what does it really mean for your kids and your family? In this episode, we unpack the history of attachment theory, clear up common misconceptions, and share practical ways to think about what your child truly needs. We'll cover: Why “attachment” has resurfaced as such a hot topic. How attachment impacts early development and later relationships. The difference between holding information wisely vs. fearfully. The four styles of attachment—starting with what a secure attachment looks like. Real-life examples of how parents can unintentionally give fear too much power. Whether you've ever worried about separation anxiety, or just wondered, “Am I doing enough for my child?”—this episode will help you breathe easier and focus on what matters most. . . . . . .  ⁠Owen Learns He Has What it Takes: A Lesson in Resilience⁠ ⁠Lucy Learns to Be Brave: A Lesson in Courage⁠⁠ More Links: Sign up to receive the⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠monthly newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to keep up to date with where David and Sissy are speaking, where they are taco'ing, PLUS conversation starters for you and your family to share! Connect with David, Sissy, and Melissa at⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠raisingboysandgirls.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . . . . .  If you would like to partner with Raising Boys and Girls as a podcast sponsor, fill out our⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Advertise with us⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ form. JOLIE: Jolie will give you your best skin & hair guaranteed. Head to jolieskinco.com/RBG to try it out for yourself with FREE shipping.  DOSE: Save 30% on your first month of subscription by going to ⁠dosedaily.co/RBG ⁠or entering RBG at checkout.  QUINCE: Give your summer closet an upgrade—with Quince. Go to ⁠Quince.com/rbg⁠ for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns.  THRIVE MARKET: Skip the junk without overspending. Head over to ⁠ThriveMarket.com/rbg⁠ to get 30% off your first order and a FREE $60 gift.  NIV APPLICATION BIBLE: Save an additional 10% on any NIV Application Bible and NIV Application Commentary Resources by visiting http://FAITHGATEWAY.COM/NIVAB and using promo code RBG.  BOLL & BRANCH: Feel the difference an extraordinary night's sleep can make with Boll & Branch. Get 15% off plus free shipping on your first set of sheets at Bollandbranch.com/rbg⁠. Exclusions apply. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Male attention, moving on, and the truth about fast love.MAGNETIC AFFIRMATIONS (25 MINUTE):https://youtu.be/diRQevBDhio?si=RnB1gMEk4SqYlhljMAGNETIC AFFIRMATIONS (1HR+): https://21-day-break-up-glow-up-challenge.teachable.com/p/making-mind-magnetic-affirmations-all-eyes-will-be-on-you-793498

ABOUT THE EPISODE:Trevor Hanson had accumulated a pretty good life - from living on a beach in Hawaii, to getting a great job at Tesla and engaged to be married. One year later, he was unemployed, his engagement and his jaw were both broken, and he was living alone in the Reno desert.Trevor suffered depression, nightmares, and suicidal thoughts before deciding to seek therapeutic help. He developed a real appreciation for the process of therapy – but he also had ideas about how it could be better.Today, Trevor holds a master's degree in marriage and family therapy and has helped thousands of people around the world, specializing in a topic critical for everyone, especially parents, to understand: attachment. Trevor has undergone training from some of the world's top attachment experts, and today he brings his expertise and unique concepts to the podcast.When I sat down with Trevor, we discussed the basic types of attachment styles, why our ‘style' can lead to difficulties in relationships with our kids, and why being part of a supportive community is a vital part of helping us move from anxious or avoidant attachment, to secure.EPISODE RESOURCES:The Secure Self ClubThis podcast is part of a nonprofit called Hopestream CommunityLearn about The Stream, our private online community for momsFind us on Instagram hereFind us on YouTube hereDownload a free e-book, Worried Sick: A Compassionate Guide For Parents When Your Teen or Young Adult Child Misuses Drugs and AlcoholHopestream Community is a registered 501(c)3 nonprofit organization and an Amazon Associate. We may make a small commission if you purchase from our links.

We're back with part 2 of our juicy convo with Clinton Nunnally, LPC—and yep, with three therapists in the room, you know we couldn't go five minutes without talking about attachment styles. But this round isn't just about theory—it's about the real, messy, hilarious, and oh-so-human side of relationships.We're pulling apart the compatibility myths, spilling on how to tell if you're actually settling, discuss how to keep your sex life spicy without letting rituals turn into autopilot, and answer listener's questions on air. Think of it as therapy talk meets real talk—equal parts smart, sassy, and a little steamy.In this episode, we dive into:

George addresses how attachment styles shape how we relate to spiritual teachers, mentors, and even the “Self”—a nuanced look at attachment in dharma contexts.Try our free video resource "The Main Signs of Attachment Disturbance " and learn how to identify core attachment disturbances, move beyond the challenges and live a truly meaningful life. Get it now at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mettagroup.org/start-here⁠⁠⁠Mettagroup was founded by George Haas in 2003 and named the ‘Best Online Buddhist Meditation' by Los Angeles Magazine in 2011, Mettagroup uses Vipassana, or Insight meditation, as a way to help students live a meaningful life. Drawing from 2500-year-old Buddhist teachings and John Bowlby's Attachment Theory, the Mettagroup techniques serve as a model of how to connect with other people, and how to be completely yourself in relationships with others and with work.More info at ⁠⁠⁠mettagroup.org⁠⁠⁠.

Sarah welcomes Eyla Cuenca, a seasoned birth and postpartum doula, to discuss essential aspects of postpartum care, the mother-baby connection, and the societal gaps in supporting new mothers. They delve into the controversial issues of informed consent, medical freedom, and the alarming frequency of birth trauma. Aila shares her insights from over a decade of experience and offers guidance on how women can achieve a more holistic postpartum experience. This episode also highlights Eyla's educational programs, including pregnancy, doula, and postpartum education, with upcoming live trainings. Sarah emphasizes the importance of connection and healing during the postpartum period, and the conversation explores how birth choices impact long-term family health and attachment. Join us for a deep dive into understanding how to better support mothers and babies during this crucial time.Eyla's programs: Postpartum Doula Training - https://www.uncoveringbirth.com/a/2148157055/TrFGzLCFUncovering Birth Doula Training 2026 - https://www.uncoveringbirth.com/a/2147833041/TrFGzLCFReclaiming the Village - https://www.uncoveringbirth.com/a/2148154905/TrFGzLCFUncovering Birth Method Educator Training 2026 - Waitlist - https://www.uncoveringbirth.com/a/2147926632/TrFGzLCFSponsored By:→ Troscriptions | There's a completely new way to optimize your health. Give it a try at http://troscriptions.com/SARAHK, or enter SARAHK at checkout for 10% off your first order.→ Bon Charge| Go to https://us.boncharge.com/products/red-light-face-mask?rfsn=8108115.26608d & use code for SARAHKLEINER for 15% off storewide.Timestamps:00:00 Introduction to Postpartum Rift00:51 Guest Introduction: Aila Kuka01:34 Podcast Overview and Disclaimer02:42 Eyla's Background and Experience04:01 Challenges in Postpartum Care05:07 The Role of Postpartum Doulas06:36 Impact of Maternal Stress on Babies07:30 Personal Experiences with Postpartum Depression08:50 Holistic Approaches to Postpartum Care11:49 Conventional vs. Holistic Medical Approaches21:00 Birth Trauma and Hospital Experiences26:26 Conflict of Interest in Healthcare26:47 The Norms of Childbirth27:12 NICU Stays and Interventions28:18 Preventable Health Issues During Pregnancy29:56 Induction and Its Consequences31:24 Personal Birth Experiences34:05 The Role of Doulas and Birth Education37:55 Attachment and Postpartum Support41:58 Doula Training and Services48:03 Conclusion and ResourcesThis video is not medical advice & as a supporter to you and your health journey - I encourage you to monitor your labs and work with a professional!________________________________________Get all my free guides and product recommendations to get started on your journey!https://www.sarahkleinerwellness.com/all-free-resourcesCheck out all my courses to understand how to improve your mitochondrial health & experience long lasting health! (Use code PODCAST to save 10%) - https://www.sarahkleinerwellness.com/coursesSign up for my newsletter to get special offers in the future! -https://www.sarahkleinerwellness.com/contactFree Guide to Building your perfect quantum day (start here) -https://www.sarahkleinerwellness.com/opt-in-9d5f6918-77a8-40d7-bedf-93ca2ec8387fMy free product guide with all product recommendations and discount codes:https://www.sarahkleinerwellness.com/resource_redirect/downloads/file-uploads/sites/2147573344/themes/2150788813/downloads/eac4820-016-b500-7db-ba106ed8583_2024_SKW_Affiliate_Guide_6_.pdf

Click here to take the quiz and learn your Relational Blueprint type    If you've ever felt that Attachment Theory doesn't quite explain everything, then you're intuitively tuning into something that most people are ignoring. We as individuals are so much more complex than the label of "anxious" or "avoidant." Underneath every anxious woman is someone who secretly avoids love through pushing, pursuing , and proving. And underneath every avoidant man is someone who gets so anxious around intimacy, that he has to withdraw from it. Attachment theory gave us some important perspective but in this episode I want to honestly speak about the important things it doesn't address and introduce a new Blueprint system I've been developing that fills in the gaps where attachment theory fails.    This one will be powerful. Enjoy!  

If you've ever felt calm and confident when you're single, only to find yourself spiralling into anxiety the moment you start dating, there's a good reason for it.In this episode, I share why this shift happens — and why it's completely normal if you have an anxious attachment style. Attachment patterns are relational, which means they tend to lie dormant when we're on our own. But as soon as we have something (or someone) at stake, we feel more vulnerable. The more we care, the more our protective strategies kick in — sometimes in big, overwhelming ways.This episode is a reassuring reminder that there's nothing “wrong” with you for feeling this way — it's simply your nervous system doing its job in trying to keep you safe when things start to feel risky. 

Ambivalence isn't confusion or weakness, it's your nervous system doing its job. Feeling both joy and grief, relief and loss, fear and excitement, is not dysfunction but survival wisdom. In this episode of Trauma Rewired, Elisabeth Kristof and Jennifer Wallace unpack ambivalence as a neurobiological phenomenon: how the brain and body construct emotions, why conflicting truths arise during transformation, and how to metabolize them without collapse. You'll learn to notice the tug-of-war between emotions, expand capacity to sit with duality, and reframe ambivalence as part of post-traumatic growth. By honoring both sides, joy and sorrow, fear and courage, you can create deeper connection with yourself and move through change with clarity and trust. Timestamps 00:00 – Leaving Toxic Love: Relief and Grief Together 01:07 – Ambivalence Defined: Not Confusion, But Wisdom 03:07 – Brain and Body: How Emotions Are Constructed 05:42 – Building Capacity for Emotional Duality 06:39 – Transformation, Identity, and Misread Confusion 08:18 – Neuroscience of Ambivalence: Prediction, Insula, Signals 12:50 – Embodiment and Emotional Vocabulary 24:10 – Boundaries, Family Dynamics, and Attachment Chaos 27:40 – Sitting in Discomfort, Finding Safety Inside 30:59 – Loss of Identity, Grief, and Gratitude 38:08 – Joy Can Be Scary Too Topics Discussed in This Episode Ambivalence as a nervous system signal, not self-sabotage. Why leaving toxic relationships brings both relief and grief. How emotions are constructed in the brain and body. Expanding capacity for emotional regulation and duality. The role of interoception and emotional vocabulary in healing. Transformation and identity shifts as triggers for ambivalence. Attachment needs versus authenticity during change. Why joy and fear often arise together. Practical strategies to metabolize ambivalence and grow. Ambivalence as a gateway to post-traumatic growth.