Podcasts about Attachment

This episode is brought to you by Strong Coffee Company, Supp Co, and WHOOP. In this episode of Ever Forward Radio, psychologist and addiction expert Dr. Adi Jaffe reframes addiction, compulsive behavior, and self-sabotage as intelligent coping strategies rather than personal failures. He explains why labeling people as "addicts" creates shame and traps identity, how early childhood and even preverbal experiences shape adult behavior, and why most habits don't change through awareness alone. Dr. Jaffe introduces his SPARROW Behavioral Loop—stimulus, perception, activation, response, outcome—to show how emotions and bodily sensations, not events themselves, drive behavior. Together, they explore identity, responsibility without blame, growth mindset, emotional regulation, stoicism, belief systems, and why sustainable change comes from reshaping perception and nervous system responses rather than fighting behaviors directly. This conversation offers a compassionate, practical framework for breaking patterns and moving forward—without shame. Follow Adi @dradijaffe Follow Chase @chase_chewning ----- 00:00 – Addiction Is Not Your Identity 02:00 – Why Calling Someone an "Addict" Causes Harm 05:10 – The Thing Is Never the Thing 07:30 – Coping Starts Earlier Than You Remember 10:00 – Attachment, Safety, and Early Nervous System Wiring 14:45 – Resilience vs. Disconnection 17:20 – It's Not Your Fault, But It Is Your Responsibility 19:50 – The Sphere of Control Framework 23:30 – Perception Shapes Reality 25:45 – Introducing the SPARROW Behavioral Loop 29:15 – Why Awareness Alone Doesn't Change Behavior 33:00 – Emotional Menus & Coping Patterns 35:20 – Changing Beliefs to Reduce Triggers 38:40 – Stoicism, Detachment & Emotional Regulation 41:30 – Identity Change Without All-or-Nothing Thinking 44:50 – Becoming Someone Who Can Change 48:05 – Choosing Your Hard 49:30 – How to Know You're on the Right Path ----- Episode resources: 15% off organic coffee and lattes with code CHASE at https://www.StrongCoffeeCompany.com FREE supplement companion app at https://www.Supp.Co/everforward  $30 off physical activity tracker 5.0 at https://www.Join.WHOOP.com/everforward Watch and subscribe on YouTube Learn more at AdiJaffe.com

Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 2890: Tonya Lester challenges the common misconception that intense emotional entanglement equals love, revealing how unhealthy attachments and trauma bonds can masquerade as romantic connection. She outlines clear signs of emotional maturity versus toxic cycles, encouraging listeners to choose relationships that support well-being over those rooted in fear and dysfunction. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.tonyalester.com/blog/love-vs-attachment Quotes to ponder: "Unhealthy attachments are based on fear, not emotional generosity." "Trauma bonds masquerade as love, but they are not the same thing." "Love sometimes involves seeing each other at our worst, but it does not mean bringing out the worst in each other."

Episode Overview  If you've been struggling with betrayal for a long time despite trying multiple healing approaches, this episode reveals why well-meaning practitioners and proven methodologies often miss the mark when it comes to betrayal-specific recovery.  Key Topics Covered  Why Life Coaching Isn't Enough  Life coaching excels at goal setting, accountability, and mindset shifts  Works beautifully for career advancement, relationship improvement, and business growth  Falls short for betrayal survivors because you're not starting from the same place  When betrayed, your reality is shattered and your nervous system is in crisis  The Therapy Gap  Traditional therapy covers diagnostic criteria, CBT, trauma treatment, and mental health conditions  Post Betrayal Syndrome® isn't in the DSM yet, so therapists don't know to look for it  Over 100,000 people have taken the Post Betrayal Syndrome assessment with staggering symptom statistics  Physical, mental, and emotional symptoms like brain fog, anxiety, hypervigilance, sleep and gut issues all share one underlying cause  The Trust Rebuilding Misconception  Relationship coaches often focus solely on rebuilding trust with the betrayer  Multiple aspects of trust are shattered: trust in yourself, others, your intuition, and your judgment  Rebuilding trust with your partner is actually the last piece, not the first  Why Other Modalities Fall Short  Trauma-informed training: Doesn't differentiate betrayal from other traumas  Somatic training: Critical for nervous system regulation but doesn't address the complete framework  Attachment training: Valuable for relationship patterns but doesn't address identity shattering  Grief counseling: Helpful but betrayal involves grief PLUS reality disruption, identity crisis, and complete trust shattering  The Five Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough™  General trauma treatment doesn't account for betrayal-specific stages  Someone in Stage 2 presents very differently than someone in Stage 3, 4, or 5  Understanding the stages reveals why certain responses occur and what's needed to progress  The Timing Problem  Right tools at the wrong time backfire  Stage 2 (shock/trauma) clients aren't ready for accountability structures  Stage 4 clients don't need basic nervous system regulation anymore  Proper healing requires the right modalities at the right stage  The Stage 3 Trap  What a Stage 3 Life Looks Like:  Surviving but not thriving  Managing and suppressing Post Betrayal Syndrome symptoms  Keeping people at bay out of fear  Building a safe but flat life  67% of betrayed individuals prevent forming deep relationships to avoid being hurt again  84% have an inability to trust again (out of 100,000+ studied)  The Ripple Effects:  Limited depth in relationships  Challenges with workplace collaborations and partnerships  Inability to trust yourself, your judgment, or your perception of reality  Attracting more of the same situations  Making decisions from Stage 3 thinking versus Stage 4 or 5 thinking  The Solution  Why Specialized Betrayal Training Matters:  All aspects need rebuilding: physical, mental, emotional, psychological, and spiritual  Requires a proven roadmap through all five stages  Not just talk therapy, not just somatic work, not just goal setting—all of it together at the right time  Updated PBT Certification:  Newly revised certification modules  New exam, experiential exercises, forms, and worksheets  Designed to help clients identify their current stage and move to the next one  Makes it easier to work with clients using stage-specific tools  Key Statistics  Over 100,000 people have taken the Post Betrayal Syndrome assessment  67% prevent forming deep relationships due to fear of being hurt again  84% report an inability to trust again  The Bottom Line  There's no reason to stay stuck in Stage 3. People need to get back to their lives, their work, their kids, families, and friends in the way they can only do when they heal. The roadmap exists—it's the Five Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough™.    Resources Mentioned:  Post Betrayal Syndrome® Assessment  PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Certification: https://thepbtinstitute.com/get-certified/   The Five Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough™: https://thepbtinstitute.com   For Practitioners: The more coaches, practitioners, and healers who become certified in this methodology, the more people can access the specialized help they need for betrayal recovery.    Discover why traditional therapy, life coaching, and healing methods fall short for betrayal recovery. Learn about Post Betrayal Syndrome®, the Five Stages from Betrayal to Breakthrough™, and why specialized betrayal training is essential for true healing and transformation. 

Attachment styles are everywhere — but what do they actually mean, and how much do they shape the way we love? This week, Scheana is joined by leading attachment theory expert Thais Gibson (founder of The Personal Development School) to break down the four attachment styles, why our adult relationships mirror our earliest bonds, and how insecurity shows up in communication, conflict, and connection. Scheana opens up about learning she's securely attached, while her husband Brock discovered he has a fearful avoidant attachment style — sparking an honest conversation about what it really takes to make different styles work together. Thais explains why attachment styles aren't fixed, how patterns like people-pleasing, self-sabotage, and emotional withdrawal form, and what actually helps move toward secure attachment. This episode isn't about labels or blame — it's about awareness, responsibility, and doing the work. If you've ever wondered why certain relationship patterns keep repeating, this conversation might explain everything.Visit university.personaldevelopmentschool.com and use code PDS2026 for 20% off of the Personal Development School's 90-Day Attachment Healing membership.Follow us: @scheana @scheananigans Guest: @thepersonaldevelopmentschool Purchase your very own copy of the NYT Best-selling book and audiobook MY GOOD SIDE at www.mygoodsidebook.com!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Kamini Wood explores the confusing emotional reality of missing someone from a relationship, role, or system that was harmful to your wellbeing. She challenges the common misconception that longing for a person or a past situation means you made the wrong decision to leave, explaining that these feelings are often a natural withdrawal response from a nervous system accustomed to a specific attachment bond. Wood makes a critical distinction between missing a person and missing the "hope" or the version of them you believed in, reframing this experience as a necessary stage of grief rather than a signal to override your boundaries. By separating logical decision-making from emotional timelines, she provides high achievers with strategies to hold space for their humanity without abandoning their clarity, encouraging listeners to anchor into their core values while allowing the waves of grief to pass.

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Today we have Dr. Caroline Leaf, who unpacks the difference between mind and brain, how attachment patterns are learned, not labels, and gives us practical tools to transform how we show up in dating! Find out your Dating Personality Type for free by taking our QUIZ here! https://www.heartofdating.com/quiz Join Basics of Dating! The 6-Week Program for the Christian single feeling stuck, anxious, or healing from heartbreak. https://www.heartofdating.com/basics-of-dating   Love Heart of Dating Podcast? Want to support us AND be a part of the fam? Join us on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/heartofdating Subscribe to our YouTube channel here! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ1PswEXEyeSddMmOSiRKGw Crushing on a cutie? Download this FREE Resource on how to show interest: https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/how-to-show-interest  Want to further your dating knowledge? Check out our ultimate dating library! https://www.heartofdating.com/resource/ultimate-dating-library  Kait wrote a book! Snag Thank You For Rejecting Me on Amazon: https://amzn.to/3E59cLQ Want to meet some epic Christian Singles? Join our huge HOD Family on FB! https://www.facebook.com/groups/heartofdatingpodcast  Come hang with us on the gram: http://instagram.com/heartofdating http://instagram.com/kaitness https://www.instagram.com/jjtomlin/?hl=en Interested in advertising on this show? Learn more here! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/16V_c91F1iIYNZOVvrEinrB9h2dsZq-kZFqYYEDQ4A60/viewform?edit_requested=true  . . . . .  Check out this week's sponsor: Cozy Earth: This episode is sponsored by Cozy Earth. Head to cozyearth.com and use my code HEARTOFDATING for up to 20% off the best bedding sets.  . . . . .  A quick thank you to one of our friends! Compassion International: Do you have a burning desire to be a parent but feel stuck in singleness? Do you want to make lasting, powerful impact in your life as a single? We are a proud partner of Compassion International. Our community of singles has sponsored hundreds of kids all around the world, and we'd love to invite you to join us on this compelling mission. http://compassion.com/heartofdating Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fear of abandonment can quietly run your life, shaping how you think, how you react, and how safe you feel in your relationships. In today's episode, we're getting very real about what fear of abandonment actually looks like in adulthood and how it shows up differently depending on your attachment style. Whether you identify as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, this episode will help you understand the roots of these patterns, why they feel so intense, and how they may be sabotaging your ability to experience deep, secure connection.Inside the episode:How fear of abandonment develops and why it's so closely tied to insecure attachment stylesThe key ways anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment express fear of abandonment in adult relationshipsWhy this fear keeps you stuck in fight-or-flight—and what becomes possible when you begin healing itIf you're ready to go deeper and start your journey toward secure love, you can explore the Empowered. Secure. Loved. offers here:

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Chiropractic adjustments don't cure; they facilitate the body's ability to adapt."   Timestamps: 00:03 – Introduction: Why breast implants are finally front and center 01:18 – Andi Lew's story, Treasured Chest, and her explant movement 03:14 – Chiropractic blind spot and why some patients don't get better 04:43 – Trauma, the heart, and "treasured chest" 09:48 – Disconnection, programming, and the "Forever Customer" model 13:37 – Generational trauma and reinterpreting the trigger for implants 17:58 – The shocking origin story of breast implants 24:41 – Attachment parenting, breastfeeding, and early-life connection 28:00 – Edward Bernays, propaganda, and how health is sold to us 36:23 – Reggie Gold, innate intelligence, and Andy's mission through chiropractic Resources:   Remember to Rate, Review, and Subscribe on iTunes and Follow us on Spotify!   Learn more about Dr. Stanton Hom on:   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drstantonhom  Website: https://futuregenerationssd.com/    Podcast Website: https://thefuturegen.com Twitter: https://twitter.com/drstantonhom  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stanhomdc  Stay Connected with the Future Generations Podcast:   Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/futuregenpodcast  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/futuregenpodcast/    Links:    https://www.thehivemethod.co/ https://www.instagram.com/thehivemethod.co   About Andi Lew Andi Lew is a highly qualified and sought after wellness expert presenter. 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These days, Dr. Alexandra talks about discernment when approaching the high volume of content available in the realm of mental wellness, self-help, and relationships, so you can sift through what works for you and what doesn't. And a guiding principle is that insight alone is not sufficient. Engaging with content that helps you go from just knowing some new things to embodying these lessons contributes to your depth of understanding and potential for healing. Today's guest found her way into her work through eagerly reading self-help book after self-help book trying to understand herself but determined that the piece she needed for her own healing was the felt, somatic experience of being safe in relationships. And that's not necessarily a romantic relationship, either - that is any anchoring relationship: friends, family members, mentors, pets. This guest is Jessica Baum, licensed psychotherapist and author of the books Anxiously Attached and more recently, Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships, which is the focus of this conversation. You will hear Dr. Alexandra and Jessica Baum discuss:the science of how relationships offer us these healing anchors, and how to create experiences of safety in our bodies, both from the outside in, and the inside out. the dynamic nature of attachment styles, or patterns as Jessica calls them, which runs counter to the way many folks speak about them these days.The Wheel of Attachment, which brings more nuance to the whole topic of attachment. how to begin this type of somatic work to understand our own dynamic attachment patterns and to engage our right hemisphere of the brain more often to enrich and deepen our connections. healing in romantic relationships, and how that's not always available to us in every pairing - but healing through doing our own work always is! Resources worth mentioning from the episode:Safe: An Attachment-Informed Guide to Building More Secure Relationships by Jessica Baum https://jessicabaumlmhc.com/safeConscious Relationship Group https://consciousrelationshipgroup.com/Jessica Baum on IG @jessicabaumlmhc https://www.instagram.com/jessicabaumlmhc/?hl=enContinue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Cultivate connection by subscribing to Dr. Alexandra's Loving Bravely newsletter: https://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/Learn more on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

A practitioner in France wanted to improve in his cultivation and sought to uncover what fundamental attachment might be impeding his progress. Through intensive self examination he realized that he has an attachment to being noticed, and having a strong presence among others. The attachment manifests in many ways, including jealousy, anger, and judging others. This and other experience-sharing from the Minghui website.Original Articles:1. Breaking Through Human Notions and Finding My Fundamental Attachment2. Changes in the External Environment Stem from the True Manifestation of One's Inner Heart3. I Dreamed of Master After I Submitted My Paper To provide feedback on this podcast, please email us at feedback@minghuiradio.org

Venerable Robina is known for her clarity in presenting Buddhist concepts in a straightforward, no-nonsense and compassionate way, and will teach on the topic of dependent origination and emptiness. Lama Tsongkhapa writes lyrically about Lord Buddha's teachings on dependent arising – the "king of logics" to prove emptiness, as Lama Yeshe puts it. With this perfect view, Je Rinpoche says, we can never "fall into the abyss of the great mistake" of nihilism, one of the commonest misconceptions about emptiness. Over two sessions, we will investigate how in his gradual path literature he skillfully leads us to the eradication of ego-grasping, the primordial assumption of a fear-driven, bereft, separate self, which simply doesn't exist. We start by applying the law of karma – an example of the first level of dependent arising: cause and effect -which gradually counteracts our pervasive feelings of hopelessness and self-pity, causing us to realize that we are the source of our own happiness and suffering. Next, we get to the root of the problem by becoming our own therapists: delving deep into our mind and identifying our delusions – attachment, aversion, jealousy and the rest – and recognizing that they are fabrications rooted in ego-grasping. Now, combining our practice with Bodhicitta, we are equipped to understand the subtler levels of dependent arising and to use this logic to uproot ego-grasping itself. Summary of the teaching - The teachings in the first and second scopes of the Lamrim. The first one, Karma is the implicit teaching that we really start to get, it's a brilliant example of dependent arising, so it can help us loosen the grip of ego already. Second, when we get to the middle scope we start studying the mind, how these neuroses, delusions, afflictions, are these conceptual states of mind that distort and exaggerate the status of things; we start to understand emptiness and dependent arising, and how ego grasping is the root misconception. Attachment exaggerates the deliciousness of the cake, aversion exaggerates the ugliness of the cake (after five pieces), and they are both (and all the delusions are) rooted in the deepest assumption, which is ignorance, that imposes upon the delicious cake, intrinsic, inherent delicious cake. Ignorance exaggerates the very ontological status of the delicious cake itself. That's underneath the other delusions, and that's why it's much harder to unpack it. So start with the body and speech, control your body and speech, then begin to control the branch delusions, and now we begin (plus with Bodhichitta) to be prepared to get to the root delusion, to uproot that by realising emptiness and getting the hell out of Samsara and becoming a Buddha. Questions about - eons of practice, defining sentient beings, subtle impermanence not being emptiness, and is ego grasping purely a human form of suffering?  Mahamudra Centre for Universal Unity, North Island, New Zealand, 10th-11th May 2025.

Attachment patterns in relationships come in several forms. Where does this stem from, and how can Christians both address and overcome it? Join us for a special in-depth conversation with author and speaker Ashley Minor.

Lawrence Joss delves into the complex issue of parental alienation and estrangement, emphasizing that these challenges are not merely family issues but systemic problems that require a broader understanding and intervention. He introduces five key reasons that contribute to these dynamics, drawing insights from therapist Kathy Himlin, who has extensive experience working with families affected by these issues. The conversation highlights the emotional turmoil children face when feeling rejected by a parent, the detrimental effects of prolonged separation, and the role of the legal system in exacerbating these problems. Joss and Himlin discuss actionable steps for parents to repair relationships and the importance of attachment-focused parenting in fostering reconnection.Key TakeawaysParental alienation is a systemic issue, not just a family problem.Children often feel rejected when they reject a parent, indicating an attachment rupture.Time without contact deepens trauma and reinforces feelings of rejection.The legal system can worsen family dynamics by prioritizing litigation over healing.Attachment-focused parenting can help reopen doors to connection.Chapters00:00 – Parental Alienation Is More Than a Family Problem 01:06 – Who This Episode Is For & Why Awareness Matters 01:55 – Children Reject When They Feel Rejected 03:33 – Understanding Attachment Ruptures in Development 05:04 – Why Time Without Contact Deepens Trauma 07:01 – Foster Care vs. Family Court: A Critical Gap 08:45 – How the Legal System Can Worsen Alienation 09:29 – When Litigation Replaces Healing 10:20 – Attachment-Focused Parenting That Reopens Doors 13:39 – Healing Is Still Possible, Even After YearsIf you wish to connect with Lawrence Joss or any of the PA-A community members who have appeared as guests on the podcast:Email - familydisappeared@gmail.comLinktree: https://linktr.ee/lawrencejoss(All links mentioned in the podcast are available in Linktree)Connect with Dr. Rebecca Bailey:https://polyvagalequineinstitute.comPlease donate to support PAA programs:https://www.paypal.com/donate?hosted_button_id=SDLTX8TBSZNXSsa bottom partThis podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-hostGlaze Gonzales- Podcast ManagerConnect with Lawrence Joss:Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/Email- familydisappeared@gmail.comThis podcast is made possible by the Family Disappeared Team:Anna Johnson- Editor/Contributor/Activist/Co-hostGlaze Gonzales- Podcast ManagerConnect with Lawrence Joss:Website: https://parentalalienationanonymous.com/Email- familydisappeared@gmail.com

Attachment theory is everywhere right now — anxious, avoidant, fearful, secure — but after infidelity, simply understanding your attachment style doesn't stop the emotional whiplash. In this powerful episode, Lora Cheadle is joined by Bryan Power, a Certified Integrated Attachment Theory Coach, for an honest, grounded conversation about how attachment wounds actually show up after betrayal — and what it really takes to heal them. Together, they break down the four attachment styles, explore why betrayal hits attachment at its core, and walk through the six pillars of Integrated Attachment Theory — practical tools that move you from survival and confusion into clarity, safety, and secure connection. This episode goes beyond theory. You'll learn why insight alone doesn't regulate the nervous system, how subconscious wounds drive behavior, and what helps betrayed partners stop feeling “crazy” when triggers hit — without excusing betrayal or bypassing accountability. If you've ever thought, “I know what's happening — so why does it still hurt this much?” — this episode is for you.   Top 3 Takeaways Knowing your attachment style doesn't equal healing You can name your pattern perfectly and still panic when your partner withdraws. Healing happens through felt safety, not logic alone. Betrayal exposes unhealed attachment wounds — in both partners Infidelity doesn't come from nowhere. It often reveals deep subconscious beliefs around safety, abandonment, worth, and betrayal that were never healed. Secure attachment is built — not born Through the six pillars of Integrated Attachment Theory — core wounds, needs, emotions, boundaries, communication, and behavior — couples can move toward safety, clarity, and conscious connection.   Favorite Quote “Attachment wounds don't heal through understanding. They heal through safety — again and again — in real time.” About Bryan In 2024 Bryan Power and his wife would go from having a pretty good relationship to a complete relationship failure. That failure culminated with a restraining order his wife would put against him for her emotional safety. During that breakup time, Bryan would discover the Integrated Attachment Theory Program that would ultimately provide him with the insights and tools necessary to put their relationship back together. Now Bryan uses his inspirational story, personal insights and the integrated attachment theory program to teach others how to use their breakup the get the breakthroughs they have been looking for.  Resources & Links https://www.myrelationshipfail.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/bryanwpower/ https://www.youtube.com/@myrelationshipfail https://www.instagram.com/myrelationshipfail/   About Lora Lora Cheadle, JD, CHt is a former attorney turned betrayal recovery coach, hypnotherapist, and author who helps women rebuild their identity and reclaim their power after infidelity and profound emotional betrayal. Using her signature Life Choreography® approach, she integrates legal insight, nervous system regulation, somatic practices, and deep spiritual support to help clients move from shattered to sovereign.   Resources & Links Download the free Betrayal Recovery Guide: https://betrayalrecoveryguide.com Book your $97 Intro Session: https://introductorysession.com Learn more about Rise & Reign: https://loracheadle.com/rise-and-reign Follow on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook @loracheadle   LOVE THE SHOW? TAKE THE NEXT STEP Don't just listen—start healing.   Download your FREE Betrayal Recovery Tool Kit and take back your power with clarity, confidence, and support that meets you where you are. ✅ Calm the chaos ✅ Rebuild self-trust ✅ Stop the spiral of second-guessing ✅ Reclaim your worth and your future

Join me and my guest Jamie Goff, PhD (drjaimegoff.com), founder of The Empathic Leader, LLC. In a world obsessed with productivity and job performance, Jaime brings a refreshing take: Leadership isn't just about what you do -- it's about who you are. She is the author of a new book, The Secure Leader, that sits at the intersection of emotional intelligence and leadership, offering tools to lead from a more grounded, secure place without hustling harder. Dr. Goff's thought leadership has been featured in journals such as the Journal of Feminist Family Therapy and Early Childhood Development and Care, as well as in TD Magazine, the leading publication for talent development professionals. SHOW NOTES SPONSORED BY: Power of You! https://leader.blainebartlett.com/power-of-you Summary In this conversation, Blaine and Jaime Goff explore the intersection of emotional intelligence and leadership, particularly in the healthcare sector. They discuss the challenges leaders face, the importance of self-awareness, and how attachment theory influences leadership styles. Jaime shares her personal journey into leadership development and the insights gained from her experiences, emphasizing the need for leaders to cultivate emotional intelligence to foster engagement and retention within their teams. The discussion also touches on cultural lessons from popular media, illustrating how these narratives can inform leadership practices.   Takeaways Emotional intelligence is crucial for effective leadership. Leaders often face challenges related to span of control. Retention and engagement are key issues in healthcare. Cultural narratives can provide valuable leadership lessons. Attachment theory influences how leaders manage conflict. Self-awareness is essential for personal and professional growth. Leaders can earn security in their relationships with others. Controlling behavior can hinder team flourishing. Emotional intelligence enhances a leader's influence. Everything in nature serves a purpose, including leadership. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Summary:In this episode of the Better Divorce podcast, host Paulette Rigo speaks with parenting coach and psychotherapist Todd Sarner about the complexities of parenting in today's technology-driven world. They discuss Todd's upcoming book, 'The Calm and Connected Parent,' which emphasizes the importance of attachment in parenting. The conversation explores the challenges posed by technology, the significance of secure attachment, and the dynamics of co-parenting, especially in the context of divorce. Todd shares insights on how to balance technology use with parenting, the importance of connection, and the role of parents in fostering resilience in children.Takeaways:Parenting is more about who you are than what you do.Attachment first parenting prioritizes relationships over discipline.Technology can hinder children's ability to form secure attachments.Parents need to agree on technology use for their children.Children benefit from limits and boundaries set with compassion.Connection is essential before setting limits with children.Secure attachment is the key determinant of a child's potential.Co-parenting requires communication and alignment between parents.Children often seek connection through technology when they lack it in real life.Understanding attachment science can improve parenting strategies.About Todd:Todd Sarner is a parenting coach and psychotherapist with over 20 years of experience helping families create more connection, calm, and cooperation at home. A former Faculty Member of the Neufeld Institute, Todd has guided more than 2,000 families through the daily struggles of parenting—power struggles, meltdowns, and family stress—always with an attachment-first lens. He is the Director of Transformative Parenting and the author of the upcoming book The Calm & Connected Parent: An Attachment-First Guide to Raising Resilient Kids in the Age of Screens and AI (November 18, 2025).SIGN UP FOR my Better Divorce Blueprint PROGRAM: https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/bdbWEBSITE - resources for those in need of Certified Divorce Coaching and Private Mediation Services :https://betterdivorceacademy.com/SOCIAL MEDIA - bit.ly/betterdivorceacademyBuy my book and workbook: Better Divorce Blueprint https://betterdivorceblueprint.com/RESOURCES - https://betterdivorceacademy.com/reso...AUDIOBOOK FROM AUDIBLE - https://www.audible.com/pd/Better-Div...Are you looking for answers and guidance? BOOK a 30 minute assessment consultation: https://calendly.com/betterdivorceaca...#divorce #mediation #coaching #lifeafterdivorce #divorcesupport

Therapy and companionship has become the #1 use case for AI, with millions worldwide sharing their innermost thoughts with AI systems — often things they wouldn't tell loved ones or human therapists. This mass experiment in human-computer interaction is already showing extremely concerning results: people are losing their grip on reality, leading to lost jobs, divorce, involuntary commitment to psychiatric wards, and in extreme cases, death by suicide.The highest profile examples of this phenomenon — what's being called "AI psychosis”— have made headlines across the media for months. But this isn't just about isolated edge cases. It's the emergence of an entirely new "attachment economy" designed to exploit our deepest psychological vulnerabilities on an unprecedented scale. Dr. Zak Stein has analyzed dozens of these cases, examining actual conversation transcripts and interviewing those affected. What he's uncovered reveals fundamental flaws in how AI systems interact with our attachment systems and capacity for human bonding, vulnerabilities we've never had to name before because technology has never been able to exploit them like this.In this episode, Zak helps us understand the psychological mechanisms behind AI psychosis, how conversations with chatbots transform into reality-warping experiences, and what this tells us about the profound risks of building technology that targets our most intimate psychological needs. If we're going to do something about this growing problem of AI related psychological harms, we're gonna need to understand the problem even more deeply. And in order to do that, we need more data. That's why Zak is working with researchers at the University of North Carolina to gather data on this growing mental health crisis. If you or a loved one have a story of AI-induced psychological harm to share, you can go to: AIHPRA.org. This site is not a support line. If you or someone you know is in distress, you can always call or text the national helpline in the US at 988 or your local emergency services RECOMMENDED MEDIA The website for the AI Psychological Harms Research CoalitionFurther reading on AI PscyhosisThe Atlantic article on LLM-ings outsourcing their thinking to AIFurther reading on David Sacks' comparison of AI psychosis to a “moral panic” RECOMMENDED YUA EPISODESHow OpenAI's ChatGPT Guided a Teen to His DeathPeople are Lonelier than Ever. Enter AI.Echo Chambers of One: Companion AI and the Future of Human ConnectionRethinking School in the Age of AI CORRECTIONSAfter this episode was recorded, the name of Zak's organization changed to the AI Psychological Harms Research Consortium Zak referenced the University of California system making a deal with OpenAI. It was actually the Cal State System.   Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

We pretend this conversation lives between truth and lies, but it never has. It lives between capacity and collapse. Between what can be known and what can be survived. Between what feels morally clean and what actually keeps human systems intact. Truth does not enter a vacuum. It enters bodies. Nervous systems. Attachment histories. Unfinished developmental arcs. And the most dangerous lie we tell ourselves sounds like virtue: that truth, by virtue of being accurate, must always heal. That belief has destroyed more relationships, more psyches, and more lives than deception ever could.

We pretend this conversation lives between truth and lies, but it never has. It lives between capacity and collapse. Between what can be known and what can be survived. Between what feels morally clean and what actually keeps human systems intact. Truth does not enter a vacuum. It enters bodies. Nervous systems. Attachment histories. Unfinished developmental arcs. And the most dangerous lie we tell ourselves sounds like virtue: that truth, by virtue of being accurate, must always heal. That belief has destroyed more relationships, more psyches, and more lives than deception ever could.

In this episode, we sit down with dating and heartbreak recovery coach Cole Zesiger for a deeply honest conversation about what really happens after a breakup—and why healing is so much harder than people want to admit. We talk about why heartbreak can feel all-consuming, how our brains are wired for attachment, and why “just move on” is some of the least helpful advice out there.Together, we explore what it actually takes to recover after loss, rebuild a meaningful life, and create healthier relationship patterns moving forward. Whether you're newly single, stuck in an on-again/off-again cycle, or simply wanting to understand yourself better in relationships, this conversation is packed with insight, compassion, and practical guidance that meets you where you are—without shortcuts or shame. Episode Highlights:[0:00] – Welcome to Insights from the Couch and why heartbreak deserves real conversation [2:10] – Meeting Cole Zesiger and how his own divorce shaped his work [6:45] – Why rebounds “work”… until they don't [9:30] – The evolutionary psychology of heartbreak and why it feels unbearable [14:50] – No contact explained: why space is necessary for healing [18:25] – Social media, blocking vs. muting, and why tiny “hits” keep you stuck [23:45] – Why people stay frozen in grief for years [26:55] – Colette shares her own hard-earned lesson about no contact [31:10] – How people actually get back together in a healthy way [36:00] – Rebuilding your life after heartbreak: the six key areas that matter [41:50] – Attachment styles and why we repeat the same relationship patterns [48:00] – Forgiveness, letting go, and reclaiming your energy [55:10] – Why healthy relationships are worth the risk, according to long-term research Links & Resources·         Cole Zesiger on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachcolezesiger ·         X's and Knows: The Breakup Advice You Don't Want to Hear: https://www.amazon.com/Exs-Nos-Breakup-Advice-Dont/dp/1394324138·         Cole's Website: https://coachcolezesiger.com If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Pre-order The Cost of Quiet now! Colette's new book, The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations that Create Secure, Lasting Love, launches February 3rd. Secure your copy today and get VIP bonuses available only before launch day. https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book

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This episode is for anyone who swears they're "fine" while secretly letting work run their entire nervous system. Erin and Nicole get honest about toxic attachment to jobs, the martyr complex disguised as responsibility, and why being the most dependable person in the room isn't the flex you think it is. If you've ever said "I'll just do it," treated every email like a five-alarm fire, or confused being needed with being valuable, this one might hit close to home. Here's what you'll hear: Why a toxic job isn't always the problem, sometimes it's your attachment to being needed How "I'll just do it" turns into martyrdom and quietly wrecks teams and leaders The difference between being responsible and absorbing everything like it's your fault Why not every urgent thing is a crisis and why you're not the crisis manager What it actually looks like to care about your work without letting it run your nervous system If you'd like quick tangible tips and practical corporate career advice to level up your authentic leadership, download the 10 simple "plays" to stop selling out and start standing out at https://bauthenticinc.mykajabi.com/freebie To connect with Erin and/or Nicole, email: hello@bauthenticinc.com If you like jammin' with us on the podcast, b sure to join us for more fun and inspiration! Follow b Cause on Twitter (really it's mostly Nicole) Follow Erin on LinkedIn or Instagram Join the b Cause Podcast Facebook Group Take our simple, fun and insightful"What's your workplace superhero name?"quiz Unleash your Authentic Superpower with Erin's book,"You Do You (ish)" Check out our blog for more no-BS career advice Work with Us Or just buy some fun, authentic, kick-ars merch here DISCLAIMER: This episode is not explicit, though contains mild swearing that may be unsustainable for younger audiences. Tweetable Comments "You could work in the most functional place, you could own the business, and still have a toxic attachment to the role you have." "We often confuse responsibility with absorption. Just because you own something doesn't mean it has to become your inner essence." "The things that make us feel safe are sometimes the very things that make us appear inflexible." "You are not the crisis manager unless your job is literally crisis manager. Not everything urgent is a crisis."

The types of attachment were theorized by British psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s. They are widely used to help us understand how we react to situations in our relationships, whether it be with romantic partners, friends or family members.   Bowlby relied on research on the impact of early separations between infants and their mothers, and emphasized the importance of attachment relationships in the social and emotional development of children, as well as their long-term mental health. What exactly is an attachment style? And what about the other two types? In under 3 minutes, we answer your questions ! To listen to the latest episodes, click here: ⁠⁠Why are we obsessed with presenteeism?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠What is the snowball method of paying back debt?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠What is PimEyes, the powerful tool ending online anonymity?⁠⁠ A Bababam Originals podcast written and realised by Joseph Chance. First Broadcast: 28/5/2023 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr Kirk answers patron emails. January 19, 2026This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.00:00 Why is secure attachment presented as preferential?24:57 Is there any evidence that humans are wired for long term partnership? 46:29 What has helped Dr. Honda recover from break-in trauma?Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com(By The Daily Telegraph. Copyright holders of the image of Madeleine at three are Kate and Gerry McCann. The age-progressed image was commissioned by Scotland Yard from forensic artist Teri Blythe for release to the public. Both images have been widely disseminated by the copyright holders, and have been the subject of significant commentary., Fair use, https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?curid=39861556)

Leadership and Mindset Coach Dr. Lorri Sulpizio joins the show to talk about the ups and downs of dating later in life, attachment styles and why it's so hard to be vulnerable. Check out Dr. Lorri Sulpizio on InstagramOr on her website, lorrisulpizio.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/lesbian-chronicles-coming-out-later-in-life--5601514/support.

I've been feeling different lately, at peace, confident, secure. Today, I will reflect on the reason I feel so present, and how you can too. I'll discuss how your desires, such as wanting a family, a relationship, and success, can hinder your happiness, but also your progress. Then I get into your questions: what to do when you're feeling anxious over delayed texts, I'll discuss how to calm yourself down and handle the emotion in the moment. I'll talk about how true security is so much more than just feeling confident all the time. Then I'll touch on what to do when you're not physically attractive to them, and how to handle the excitement of meeting someone new, and how to not get too ahead of yourself.Work with me, subscribe to my Substack, or find out your dating personality: ⁠⁠https://confidencechris.com/links

Burnout isn't about working too many hours. And imposter syndrome isn't a confidence problem. In this episode, I sit down with Garrett Wood, clinical hypnotherapist, executive functioning specialist, and founder of Gnosis Therapy, to unpack what's really happening beneath burnout, high masking, and the boom-and-bust cycle so many high achievers are stuck in. Garrett works with executives, founders, and entrepreneurs who want high performance without sacrificing their health, relationships, or peace of mind. His work is rooted in biopsychosocial science and nervous-system-first performance, helping leaders build success through their well-being—not at its expense. Together, we explore imposter syndrome, nervous system debt, misalignment, and why traditional fixes like mindset work, balance, or self-care often don't stick. This conversation offers a radically different—and deeply validating—lens on burnout and sustainable success. What You'll Learn in This Episode 1. Burnout Is Nervous System Debt (Not Weakness) Burnout happens when stress, pressure, and constant masking outweigh recovery and regulation. Your body has a bio-budget, and when withdrawals exceed deposits, burnout becomes inevitable—no matter how "resilient" you are. 2. Why Imposter Syndrome Persists for High Achievers Garrett explains why imposter syndrome often shows up in capable, high-performing people—and how it's tied to nervous system overload, attachment patterns, and identity pressure rather than lack of skill or experience. 3. The Power of Integration: Subconscious, Conscious & Somatic Lasting change doesn't come from mindset alone. Garrett's work integrates: Subconscious (clinical hypnotherapy) Conscious (outcome-based coaching) Somatic (body-based regulation) This is why change holds—even under pressure. 4. Burnout as Misalignment, Not Fragility People don't burn out because they're fragile. They burn out when there's a mismatch between their biology, beliefs, and environment. You can thrive at 80 hours or break at 40—alignment makes the difference. 5. The 7 Drivers of Sustainable Success Garrett walks through the seven areas that determine whether success feels energizing or depleting: Sensory intelligence Bio-budgets (energy, sleep, recovery) Emotional regulation Core beliefs Attachment patterns Values alignment Executive functioning strengths Burnout always lives in the gap between nervous system needs and environment across these dimensions. 6. Why "Balance" and Self-Care Don't Fix Burnout Many high achievers try downtime, vacations, boundaries, or mindset work—and still feel stuck. We talk about why these tools fail when they're not paired with nervous system calibration and identity alignment—and how recovery needs to be systematic, not accidental. Key Takeaways Burnout is nervous system debt, not personal failure Imposter syndrome is often physiological, not psychological Sustainable success is built through well-being, not sacrifice Alignment matters more than hours worked High performance can feel lighter, calmer, and more fulfilling Connect with Garrett Wood Website: https://www.gnosistherapy.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gnosistherapy/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gnosistherapy/

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Geoffrey Blaylock Returns: The Information That's Gap Killing Addicts | The Hopeaholics PodcastIn this powerful return episode, Geoffrey Blaylock comes back to the Hopeaholics Podcast to continue the conversation on addiction as a brain-based disease, diving even deeper into the realities that families and individuals often misunderstand. Building on his previous appearance, he expands on trauma, attachment, and epigenetics, while challenging outdated intervention models and the damaging belief that addiction is simply a choice. He explains how impaired decision-making, toxic shame, and nervous system dysregulation keep people trapped in cycles of relapse and self-destruction. Through compelling analogies and real-world clinical examples, he clarifies why education is one of the most critical tools in saving lives. Geoffrey also discusses how addiction affects not just the individual, but entire family systems, often pulling loved ones into their own form of emotional dysregulation. The conversation emphasizes the importance of compassion without enabling, accountability without punishment, and support rooted in neuroscience rather than fear.Check out Geoffrey's First Episode:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CeJN23-Gsx4#thehopeaholics #redemption #recovery #AlcoholAddiction #AddictionRecovery #wedorecover #SobrietyJourney #MyStory #Hope #wedorecover #treatmentcenter #natalieevamarieJoin our patreon to get access to an EXTRA EPISODE every week of ‘Off the Record', exclusive content, a thriving recovery community, and opportunities to be featured on the podcast. https://patreon.com/TheHopeaholics Go to www.Wolfpak.com today and support our sponsors. Don't forget to use code: HOPEAHOLICSPODCAST for 10% off!Follow the Hopeaholics on our Socials:https://www.instagram.com/thehopeaholics https://linktr.ee/thehopeaholicsBuy Merch: https://thehopeaholics.myshopify.comVisit our Treatment Centers: https://www.hopebythesea.comIf you or a loved one needs help, please call or text 949-615-8588. We have the resources to treat mental health and addiction. Sponsored by the Infiniti Group LLC:https://www.infinitigroupllc.com Timestamps:00:03:17 - Subjective vs Objective Decision Making00:04:29 - Critique of Traditional Intervention Model00:06:03 - Memory-Based Intervention Approach00:07:13 - Frontal Cortex Shutdown in Addiction00:09:32 - Toxic Shame and Fight-or-Flight00:17:39 - Is Addiction a Choice or a Disease00:18:50 - Who Would Choose Skid Row00:19:32 - Addiction as a Brain Disease00:20:15 - What Makes Us Human and the Frontal Cortex00:21:14 - Education Creates Empathy00:23:01 - Why Addiction Is Not Purely Genetic00:24:03 - Epigenetics Explained00:26:16 - Cultural Trauma and Addiction Myths00:29:15 - Identical Twins With Different Outcomes00:32:22 - Why Children Self-Medicate00:34:57 - Addiction as a Disease of Decision Making00:37:34 - Donuts, Dopamine, and Survival Brain00:39:12 - Unacceptable Lack of Addiction Education00:41:07 - Attachment and Early Development00:43:18 - Toxic Ownership and Core Beliefs00:48:19 - Trauma Profiles and Identity Formation

TakeawaysPeople can change their feelings over time.Empathy and understanding are crucial in relationships.Resentment builds up from unaddressed issues.Difficult conversations are necessary for growth.Self-awareness enhances communication effectiveness.Relationships require effort from both partners.Attachment styles influence relationship dynamics.Love is about commitment, not just enjoyment.Iteration is key to improving relationships.You can influence your partner's feelings positively.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Relationship Dynamics03:17 Understanding the Heart vs. Head in Relationships06:22 The Impact of Social Media on Relationship Expectations09:07 Resentment: The Silent Relationship Killer12:08 The Importance of Difficult Conversations15:17 Self-Awareness and Empathy in Relationships18:15 Navigating Imbalance in Relationship Efforts21:23 Influence vs. Control in Relationships24:09 Personal Growth and Relationship Repair27:43 Understanding Growth Mindset in Relationships28:38 The Fluctuation of Effort in Relationships31:18 The True Meaning of Love33:11 Resentment and Its Impact on Love34:27 The Importance of Hope in Relationships36:25 Navigating Difficult Conversations38:17 The Role of Self-Reflection in Relationships40:34 Effective Apologies and Forgiveness45:26 Attachment Styles and Their Impact on Communication51:30 Balancing Emotional Needs in Relationships54:54 The Power of Iteration in Personal GrowthAndre is an expert and savant in human psychology. His background for decades was studying Psychology and combining it with Engineering principles to predict human behavior, deescalate conflict and persuade world leaders.Now he's helping clients use these strategies in their marriages, and taking them from the brink of divorce to a loving and committed relationship again.Connect With Andre:https://www.saveyourmarriagealone.com/Cody's content: https://linktr.ee/cjones803#podcast #purewisdompodcast #personalgrowth #motivation #mindset #facingfears #selfidentity #inspiration #selfimprovement #psychology #entrepreneurship #fitness #fitnessmotivation #business #career #dating #relationships #lifecoach #healthandwellness #workout #coaching #relationshipadvice #marriagecounseling #emotionalintelligence #communicationskills #attachmenttheory #self-awareness #empathy #conflictresolution #personalgrowth #marriagetipsDisclaimer: Any information discussed in this podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not intended to act as a substitute for professional, medical, legal, educational, or financial advice. The following views and opinions are those of the individual and are not representative views or opinions of their company or organization. The views and opinions shared are intended only to inform, and discretion and professional assistance should be utilized when attempting any of the ideas discussed. Pure Wisdom Podcast, LLC, its host, its guest, or any company participating in advertising through this podcast is not responsible for comments generated by viewers which may be offensive or otherwise distasteful. Any content or conversation in this podcast is completely original and not inspired by any other platform or content creator. Any resemblance to another platform or content creator is purely coincidental and unintentional. No content or topics discussed in this podcast are intended to be offensive or hurtful. Pure Wisdom Podcast, LLC, its host, its guest, or any company participating in advertising through this podcast is not responsible for any misuse of this content.

Some of the most important questions we carry are the ones we're afraid to say out loud — even in therapy. In this episode, John answers real, vulnerable questions about self-worth, dating, anger, emotional safety, and long-term relationships. These are the thoughts people whisper to themselves at night, hesitate to bring into the room, or feel ashamed for having at all. This conversation isn't about quick fixes. It's about slowing down, telling the truth, and understanding what's really happening beneath the surface. Host Links: Surf, Sex & Pancakes - Join John Kim for a surf retreat in Costa Rica. Sign up HERE

How do you actually heal and change—not just cope or try harder? In this solo episode, Dr. Alison reflects on five core insights about faith, attachment, and the inner life—not as a plan for self-improvement, but as wisdom for formation. January often comes with pressure to reset, optimize, and fix ourselves. But many of us begin the year already tired — weary of striving, and hungry for something deeper. This episode offers a different invitation. Rather than asking what to change, Dr. Alison invites us to notice how we are already being formed — especially in moments of stress, fear, and uncertainty. In this conversation, Dr. Alison explores: Why faith is not just what we believe The hidden way your nervous system influences your spiritual life What many “spiritual struggles” are really pointing to The missing ingredient most change efforts overlook Why striving for perfection keeps so many people stuck Growth isn't about eliminating fear or complexity. It's learning where to return when fear inevitably shows up.

In today's episode, I'm opening up a brand-new series that I felt deeply called to create, Healing the Roots of Attachment. We're starting with the mother wound and how early caregiving experiences shape your attachment style, your nervous system, and the way you show up in romantic relationships. If you've ever noticed yourself spiraling in dating, pulling away when things get close, or repeating painful relationship cycles, this conversation will help you understand why and more importantly, remind you that these patterns are not permanent. This episode is about awareness, compassion, and reconnecting to the part of you that deserves safety, attunement, and secure love.Inside the EpisodeHow the mother wound forms and how emotional attunement, comfort, delight, and repair shape your internal working model of loveThe connection between the mother wound and anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles in adult relationshipsWhy self-soothing, self-compassion, and emotional regulation are learned and how these patterns can be rewired through healing and supportThis episode is Part 1 of a 3-part series. In the next episode, we'll explore the Father wound and how it influences attraction, safety, and self-worth. In Part 3, we'll bring it all together with inner child healing and the path to becoming securely attached.

Are you struggling to connect with your child—even though you love them deeply and are trying your best?Have you ever wondered why behavior issues, emotional distance, or constant conflict keep showing up in your family—no matter how hard you work at parenting?In this powerful episode, we break down a truth that changes everything: good parenting ultimately comes down to strong attachment and connection with your children.Whether you're parenting toddlers, teens, or somewhere in between, every behavior—tantrums, rebellion, withdrawal, anxiety, defiance—points back to attachment. And the good news? Attachment can always be rebuilt.We dive deep into why early attachment matters, how patterns formed in infancy can carry into the teen years and adulthood, and—most importantly—what you can do now to repair broken bonds, rebuild trust, and create lasting connection with your child.This episode is both hope-filled and practical, showing parents exactly how small, intentional changes—like presence, co-regulation, physical affection, and emotional attunement—can completely transform family dynamics.If you've ever felt discouraged, blamed yourself, or wondered if it's “too late,” this conversation will give you clarity, direction, and confidence moving forward.Family work is the most important work—and success is in the details.Watch the full video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SQxLUerQ1z0

The Spiritual Truman Show of Relationship presents human intimacy as a meticulously orchestrated system rather than a spontaneous romantic occurrence. It appears that each person we encounter is intentionally sent to awaken a specific aspect within us, within a highly reflective relational environment that is already finely tuned. —much like a universe governed by narrow physical constants that permit matter, stars, and life to cohere. Attraction, conflict, repetition, and rupture follow ratios, not randomness. What appears as chemistry or fate often reflects internal parameters that quietly determine which relational outcomes remain viable. Einstein's insight into universal constants revealed a cosmos balanced within razor-thin tolerances. Alter one value slightly and structure collapses. Human relationships seem to obey a similar architecture. Attachment strategies, nervous-system thresholds, and identity maintenance behaviors function like constants that shape relational gravity.

The Spiritual Truman Show of Relationship presents human intimacy as a meticulously orchestrated system rather than a spontaneous romantic occurrence. It appears that each person we encounter is intentionally sent to awaken a specific aspect within us, within a highly reflective relational environment that is already finely tuned. —much like a universe governed by narrow physical constants that permit matter, stars, and life to cohere. Attraction, conflict, repetition, and rupture follow ratios, not randomness. What appears as chemistry or fate often reflects internal parameters that quietly determine which relational outcomes remain viable. Einstein's insight into universal constants revealed a cosmos balanced within razor-thin tolerances. Alter one value slightly and structure collapses. Human relationships seem to obey a similar architecture. Attachment strategies, nervous-system thresholds, and identity maintenance behaviors function like constants that shape relational gravity. 

Why does it feel like every WLW couple is breaking up right now?In this episode, Alix and Kayla unpack the recent wave of WLW breakups—from emotional burnout and attachment styles to visibility pressure, queer dating dynamics, and why sapphic relationships can feel so intense. They discuss common breakup patterns, listener perspectives, and how queer relationships navigate communication, community overlap, and healing after a split.00:00 Intro + why WLW breakups feel everywhere02:30 Is this actually a trend or just queer visibility?05:10 Intensity, fast bonding, and emotional burnout09:40 Attachment styles & communication issues15:20 Community overlap and post-breakup fallout20:30 Social media, comparison, and pressure25:40 What healthy WLW relationships need to survive30:10 Final thoughts on healing & moving forward#WLW #QueerPodcast #LesbianBreakups #Sapphic #QueerRelationships #WLWDating #QueerCulture #LesbianPodcastConnect with us on social media: IG: @wivesnotsisterspod | TikTok: @wivesnotsisterspod | Youtube: @wivesnotsisterspod Follow our hosts on Instagram: @kaylalanielsen @alix_tucker You can also watch our episodes on Youtube at youtube.com/@wivesnotsisterspod!

Then those who feared the Lord spoke with each other, and the Lord listened to what they said. In his presence, a scroll of remembrance was written to record the names of those who feared him and always thought about the honor of his name.17 “They will be my people,” says the Lord of Heaven's Armies. “On the day when I act in judgment, they will be my own special treasure. I will spare them as a father spares an obedient child. 18 Then you will again see the difference between the righteous and the wicked, between those who serve God and those who do not.” - Malachi 3:16-18The book of Malachi, the final book of the Old Testament, is incredibly special. Yes, all books of the Bible are special, but after this conversation I will say Malachi now has a special place in my heart. Only four chapters, so quite a bit different than Zechariah, Malachi is a book focused on relationship between God and his people. It's a book about his love. It's a book about our sin. It's a book that should bring up a lot of self-reflective questions as you read it but is anchored in the truth of God's love for you and his promise of mercy. There's a lot to unpack in Malachi and to help us do it is Dr. Peter Adam, former principal of Ridley Theological College in Melbourne and author of The Message of Malachi. I had a wonderful time talking with Peter about Malachi.Doable Discipleship is a Saddleback Church podcast produced and hosted by Jason Wieland. It premiered in 2017 and now offers more than 450 episodes. Episodes release every Tuesday on your favorite podcast app and on the Saddleback Church YouTube Channel (https://www.youtube.com/saddleback).Subscribe to the Doable Discipleship podcast at Apple Podcasts (https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/doable-discipleship/id1240966935) or Spotify (https://open.spotify.com/show/1Zc9nuwQZOLadbFCZCmZ1V)Related Doable Discipleship Episodes: Navigating the Bible: Zechariah - https://youtu.be/t3beJht6tZUNavigating the Bible: Haggai - https://youtu.be/pGFOmTPUgI4Navigating the Bible: Zephaniah - https://youtu.be/VtKeFsLeG4MNavigating the Bible: Habakkuk - https://youtu.be/89l0HUQceIwNavigating the Bible: Nahum - https://youtu.be/USg64a6Kk8wNavigating the Bible: Micah - https://youtu.be/Tcm3HykhkS8Navigating the Bible: Jonah - https://youtu.be/PxhIyhLSgJQNavigating the Bible: Obadiah - https://youtu.be/jB6W-TM5Y-oNavigating the Bible: Amos - https://youtu.be/8DqVHu7leDUNavigating the Bible: Joel - https://youtu.be/Ilg6r300q4UNavigating the Bible: Hosea - https://youtu.be/nWZ4TuAUSRQNavigating the Bible: Daniel - https://youtu.be/bnQ-PioWxfgNavigating the Bible: Ezekiel - https://youtu.be/hlg6gBYxqsgNavigating the Bible: Lamentations - https://youtu.be/6rrizlXeYXENavigating the Bible: Jeremiah - https://youtu.be/lXPjWl8PdRkNavigating the Bible: Isaiah - https://youtu.be/NZJLaPkgEgsNavigating the Bible: Song of Songs - https://youtu.be/Sg0CYlNBVMgNavigating the Bible: Ecclesiastes - https://youtu.be/-Wr7LCh8F9ENavigating the Bible: Proverbs - https://youtu.be/DytRT5AsZg8Navigating the Bible: Psalms - https://youtu.be/oZeesooAYUINavigating the Bible: Job - https://youtu.be/14jaf2T1eCQNavigating the Bible: Esther - https://youtu.be/7RZ7ATWQZucNavigating the Bible: Nehemiah - https://youtu.be/Gok4WDgwn5INavigating the Bible: Ezra - https://youtu.be/aBC0nEjYeyoNavigating the Bible: 2 Chronicles - https://youtu.be/OG3rHTgMgEINavigating the Bible: 1 Chronicles - https://youtu.be/lQ_Qc4zbfgANavigating the Bible: 2 Kings - https://youtu.be/04q9gDhBKTkNavigating the Bible: 1 Kings - https://youtu.be/aS-KoeQXl2kNavigating the Bible: 2 Samuel - https://youtu.be/ZbpafGgOW7cNavigating the Bible: 1 Samuel - https://youtu.be/lY8wPElSFMYNavigating the Bible: Rute - https://youtu.be/YaH-t-ZzTaMNavigating the Bible: Judges - https://youtu.be/qNGcOf2o0NUNavigating the Bible: Joshua - https://youtu.be/hF28aThBtFsNavigating the Bible: Deuteronomy - https://youtu.be/HzmNgPOM4zUNavigating the Bible: Numbers - https://youtu.be/H1HO6V9HDxsNavigating the Bible: Leviticus - https://youtu.be/08RhDCXYex4Navigating the Bible: Exodus - https://youtu.be/NB9UTpS1F3MNavigating the Bible: Genesis - https://youtu.be/ddhjMfOoasAInspiring Dreams by Keys of Moon | https://soundcloud.com/keysofmoonMusic promoted by https://www.chosic.com/free-music/all/Creative Commons CC BY 4.0https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

This Dhamma talk & Q&A was offered on January 9, 2026 at Abhayagiri Buddhist Monastery.

You think you know how to please a woman. Most men miss the basics.I sit down with Certified Intimacy Coach, Surrogate Partner & Somatic Intimacy Guide and & Virgin Island TV Expert Andre Lazarus to talk about what men misunderstand about sex, connection, and their own bodies. We cover emotional vulnerability, masculine and feminine energy, erectile dysfunction, rapid ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and why performance pressure kills pleasure. Andre shares what actually helps men reconnect with sensation, desire, and confidence in bed. This conversation goes deeper than technique. It starts with presence.In this episode: 00:00 Why most men miss the basics of intimacy01:10 Welcome to Taboo To Truth02:05 Introducing Andre Lazarus03:40 From U.S. Marine to intimacy work05:15 The biggest misconception men have about intimacy07:40 Why vulnerability feels dangerous for men10:10 Midlife dating and emotionally unavailable men12:45 Masculinity, culture, and emotional shutdown15:20 The little boy behind the tough exterior17:40 Masculine and feminine energy in relationships20:30 Who seeks this work and why22:45 What surrogate partner therapy really involves25:10 Attachment, endings, and rejection27:30 Sexual challenges men bring into sessions29:40 Practical tools to reconnect with the body31:45 Rapid fire questions and closing thoughtsWant a deeper look? Watch the full episode on YouTube for a more visual experience of today's discussion. This episode is best enjoyed on video—don't miss out!Karen Bigman, a Sexual Health Alliance Certified Sex Educator, Life, and Menopause Coach, tackles the often-taboo subject of sexuality with a straightforward and candid approach. We explore the intricacies of sex during perimenopause, post-menopause, and andropause, offering insights and support for all those experiencing these transformative phases.This podcast is not intended to give medical advice. Karen Bigman is not a medical professional. For any medical questions or issues, please visit your licensed medical provider.Looking for some fresh perspective on sex in midlife? You can find me here:Email: karen@taboototruth.comWebsite: https://www.taboototruth.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/taboototruthYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@taboototruthpodcastConnect with Andre Lazarus:Linktree: https://linktr.ee/comingcloserwithandreInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/comingcloserwithandreAndre Lazarus is a somatic intimacy guide and trusted voice on relationships, sexuality, and embodied connection. A former U.S. Marine, he brings a grounded perspective to vulnerability and desire. He is known for his work as a professional surrogate partner on the UK series Virgin Island, where he helped participants navigate intimacy with safety...

In this episode, Lantz Howard sits down with authors and marriage experts Jill and Mark Savage, and the author of 14 books, No More Perfect Marriage. Together, they explore how attachment styles shape our marriages, leadership, and emotional presence—often without us realizing it.Jill and Mark unpack the familiar “cat and dog” dynamic—anxious pursuit and avoidant withdrawal—and how these patterns quietly fuel conflict, distance, and misunderstanding. Drawing from decades of marriage ministry, personal story, and clinical insight, they invite couples and leaders to move beyond performance, perfection, and coping strategies into secure attachment, honest connection, and lasting intimacy.This conversation is especially relevant for high-capacity leaders and husbands who are successful externally but longing for a deeper connection at home. Rather than offering quick fixes, this episode calls men and women into courageous self-awareness, emotional maturity, and a marriage rooted in grace—not perfection.Join the FREE 30 Day Champion Husband Challenge at ChampionHusband.comGet your personalized High Performance Marriage Scorecard Learn more about coaching with Lantz Howard at www.lantzhoward.com

If you want to feel happier in your relationships, understanding Enneagram types changes everything. This growth-focused conversation dives into love, happiness, and emotional intimacy through the lens of personality. You'll learn why different Enneagram personality types experience emotions and relationships differently and how couples can grow and heal by improving communication, mindset, and self-awareness through understanding each other's Enneagram type. In this episode, I'm sharing a meaningful and wide-ranging conversation with Ian Morgan Cron, a bestselling author, psychotherapist, Enneagram teacher, and host of the Typology podcast. Together, we explore how Enneagram types shape relationship dynamics, why misunderstandings happen even in loving partnerships, and how learning each other's emotional wiring can lead to deeper connection instead of ongoing frustration. We talk about why love and attachment can feel so powerful, why it's often harder than expected to let go of unhealthy relationships, and how personality patterns influence conflict, empathy, and emotional pacing. We also dig into Enneagram and relationships, including how different Enneagram types process feelings, respond to stress, and experience intimacy in very different ways. I share personal insights about discovering my own Enneagram 7 tendencies and how that awareness changed the way I understand closeness, independence, and emotional connection in my own relationships. As you listen, I invite you to notice where you may be assuming your partner experiences the world the same way you do. Understanding Enneagram personality types isn't about labeling or fixing yourself or your partner. It's about building compassion, improving communication, and creating relationships where both people feel understood and emotionally safe. Episode Breakdown: 00:00 The Relationship Mistake That Affects All Enneagram Types 03:55 Dr. Lisa's Enneagram Shift: From Type 3 to Enneagram 7 10:15 Enneagram Testing and Why Many People Mistype 15:54 Enneagram 7 in Relationships: Emotional Pacing and Empathy 23:43 Is Love Addictive? Attachment and Codependency in Relationships 34:50 Enneagram Types and Relationships: Using Differences to Grow 39:13 Compatibility vs. Companionability in Enneagram Relationships 52:05 A Relationship Exercise to Understand Your Enneagram Dynamic If this episode helped you see your relationship patterns more clearly, or helped you understand why certain dynamics keep repeating, I'd love to offer you a thoughtful next step. You're invited to schedule a free consultation designed to help you find the right kind of support for where you are right now. By answering three quick questions, we'll thoughtfully match you with a counselor or coach who understands relationships, personality, and the kind of growth you're working toward. This is a private, secure experience and a genuine gift of support, and it only takes a couple of minutes to get started. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyGrowing Self

You're not alone if your toddler is clinging to you at bedtime or sneaking into your bed at night, but that doesn't mean it has to STAY that way!In this episode, attachment based sleep coach Heather Boyd helps your toddler sleep in their own bed without the battles, while staying responsive and loving. Whether your toddler is starting to resist bedtime or your whole family is exhausted from night wake-ups, this episode gives you practical, realistic, and gentle strategies for reclaiming sleep.Here's what we are covering:Why 12–24 months is such a common age for sleep space strugglesIs it realistic to expect your toddler to sleep in their own bed all night?How to encourage independence while staying responsive and nurturingAdjustments to bedtime routine and sleep environment to support the transitionGradual vs. “all-in” approaches for moving your toddler to their own bedTools to support toddler sleep: clocks, comfort items, and moreHandling mid-night bed exits without reinforcing clingy behaviorResponding to protests and crying without escalating bedtime battlesSetting boundaries without turning bedtime into a power struggle----------------------------------------------------------------------------IMPORTANT LINKS•✨ Join our Mom Club on Patreon HERE ✨

"I set out to write a book about what to do to make a great work of art. Instead, it revealed itself to be a book on how to be.” —Rick Rubin. This episode is what I learned from reading The Creative Act: A Way of Being by Rick Rubin. Episode sponsors: ⁠ Ramp⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ gives you everything you need to control spend, watch your costs, and optimize your financial operations —all on a single platform. Make history's greatest entrepreneurs proud ⁠⁠⁠by going to Ramp.com and learn how they can help your business control your costs and save time and money.⁠⁠⁠ Automate compliance, security, and trust with Vanta.⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Vanta helps you win trust, close deals, and stay secure—faster and with less effort⁠⁠⁠⁠. ⁠⁠⁠Find out how increased security leads to more customers by going to Vanta⁠⁠⁠. Tell them David from Founders sent you and you'll get $1000 off. https://www.vanta.com/founders Collateral⁠⁠ transforms your complex ideas into compelling narratives. Collateral crafts institutional grade marketing collateral. Storytelling is one of the highest forms of leverage and you should invest heavily in it. You can do that by going to ⁠⁠https://collateral.com Some of my favorite quotes: (00:00) Just one habit, at the top of any field, can be enough to give an edge over the competition. (1:00) It must have been frustrating for these elite athletes, who wanted to get on the court and show what they could do, to arrive at practice for the first time with this legendary coach only to hear him say, Today we will learn to tie our shoes. The point Wooden was making was that creating effective habits, down to the smallest detail, is what makes the difference between winning and losing games. Each habit might seem small, but added together, they have an exponential effect on performance. Just one habit, at the top of any field, can be enough to give an edge over the competition. (8:41) Faith allows you to trust the direction without needing to understand it. (10:16) If you make the choice of reading classic literature every day for a year, rather than reading the news, by the end of that time period you'll have a more honed sensitivity for recognizing greatness from the books than from the media. This applies to every choice we make. The friends we choose, the conversations we have, even the thoughts we reflect on. All of these aspects affect our ability to distinguish good from very good, very good from great. They help us determine what's worthy of our time and attention. Because there's an endless amount of data available to us and we have a limited bandwidth to conserve, we might consider carefully curating the quality of what we allow in. (14:25) We're affected by our surroundings, and finding the best environment to create a clear channel is personal and to be tested. (27:57) Rules direct us to average behaviors. If we're aiming to create works that are exceptional, most rules don't apply. Average is nothing to aspire to. The goal is not to fit in. Communicate your singular perspective. (28:30) It's a healthy practice to approach our work with as few accepted rules, starting points, and limitations as possible. Often the standards in our chosen medium are so ubiquitous, we take them for granted. They are invisible and unquestioned. (29:00) The world isn't waiting for more of the same. Often, the most innovative ideas come from those who master the rules to such a degree that they can see past them or from those who never learned them at all. (38:50) Fear of criticism. Attachment to a commercial result. Competing with past work. Time and resource constraints. The aspiration of wanting to change the world. And any story beyond “I want to make the best thing I can make, whatever it is” are all undermining forces in the quest for greatness. (42:32) To hone your craft is to honor creation. By practicing to improve, you are fulfilling your ultimate purpose on this planet.

In today's episode, I sit down with the amazing Jessica Baum, psychotherapist and author of Anxiously Attached and Safe, for a powerful and deeply personal conversation about how our early attachment patterns shape everything, our relationships, our sense of safety, and even how we show up as parents. Jessica brings a rare mix of clinical expertise and lived experience, making this a must-listen if you've ever felt stuck in the same patterns or wondered, "Can I really heal this?"We explore the science behind attachment styles, what secure connection actually feels like, and how healing isn't just about understanding, it's about feeling, co-regulating, and being anchored in safe relationships. Whether you're navigating a breakup, parenting with intention, or ready to call in healthier love, this episode will meet you right where you are.I trust you will get what you need from this episode, and make sure you come let me know how it resonated with you on instagram @the_human_design_coachBig love,MxxJessica's Details:Socials -https://www.facebook.com/@beselffullhttps://www.instagram.com/jessicabaumlmhc/https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessica-baum-lmhc-cap-038a1538/Book - https://www.amazon.com/Safe-Attachment-Informed-Building-Secure-Relationships/dp/0593850815Free gifts for listeners: https://jessicabaumlmhc.com/safeBodyGraph Chart SoftwareCreate your own Human Design chart tool with BodyGraphChart! Embed a chart tool on your own website, so you can engage with your leads, grow your business, teach Human Design the way YOU want to teach it and create success!Get BodyGraphChart here: https://bodygraphchart.com?via=emmadunwoodyUse the code humandesignpodcast for 30% off for 6 months!OTHER RESOURCESWant more on Human Design? Explore the ways to get involved below:Get Your Free Human Design Chart: https://www.emmadunwoody.com/get-your-chartThe Feminine Success Framework: https://www.emmadunwoody.com/feminine-success-frameworkMaggie - Magnetic by Design AI: https://www.emmadunwoody.com/maggieThe HDx Collective: https://www.emmadunwoody.com/collectiveHuman Design Unhinged: https://www.humandesignunhinged.com/Secret Podcast: The Human Design Podcast (Unhinged): https://thehumandesignpodcast.supercast.com/Instagram @the_human_design_coachMusic: Spark Of Inspiration by Shane Ivers - https://www.silvermansound.comSupport the show

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Today's special guest is Renata Ellera, a clinical psychologist from Brazil who writes the smart and relationship-focused Substack Love Better. Our fun discussion covered a range of topics including cute Instagram couples ruining people's perspective of their own relationships, advice we would give to anxiously attached women dating avoidant guys, cultural differences between here and Brazil, attachment in only children, school refusal, and a million other topics all related to attachment and human relationships!Follow Renata here: https://substack.com/@ellerarenataWatch my prior episode with her here: https://lovebetter.substack.com/p/sexuality-and-intimacy-in-couplesJoin my awesome Midlife Women's Group here: ⁠drpsychmom.com/mwg⁠To get over 200 more episodes, most recent "Being With An Avoidant Partner Can Feel Like Eating Fake Food", subscribe here! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/drpsychmomshow/subscribe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ For my secret Facebook group, the "best money I've ever spent" according to numerous members: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/drpsychmom⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For coaching from DPM, visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.drpsychmom.com/coaching/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠For therapy or coaching, contact us at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.bestlifebehavioralhealth.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Welcome 2026! Kicking off the new year with a replay episode from our powerful interview with Dr. Stan Tatkin, this discussion dives into inner workings of relationships from a biological and societal perspective, and his book, In Each Other’s Care. Click Here to View the Original Episode Shownotes  Conflict in relationships is inevitable – find out the ins and outs of repair for healthy relationships. We are back with relationship expert, Dr. Stan Tatkin to explore the inner workings of relationships from a biological and societal perspective, and his new book, In Each Other’s Care. All humans are complicated creatures and if we spend enough time with each other, it’s going to get tense.  That part is OK, but what happens after arguing disconnection or tension is what really matters. Sue Marriott & Dr. Tatkin take a deep dive into addressing conflicts, building secure attachments, and abandoning gender stereotypes for a more inclusive discussion. Follow along to explore healthy interdependence, couples’ purpose, and secure functioning. “A secure functioning partnership works on problems, not each other” – Dr. Stan Tatkin Time Stamps for In Each Other’s Care – Healthy Relationships  5:44 – Dr. Tatkin’s view on telehealth & virtual therapy 8:36 – How PACT approaches virtual therapy 16:05 – Understanding procedural memory 19:08 – Break down of insecure attachment 22:53 – What does secure functioning look like? 28:48 – Attachment in polyamorous relationships 37:47 – Exploring healthy interdependence in relationships 44:50 – An example of a couple's purpose 53:41 – The importance of gender inclusivity when talking about relationships Resources for today’s episode, In Each Other’s Care – Healthy Relationships Stan Tatkin’s Website – Information about his practice, sessions The PACT Institute – Dr. Tatkin’s official website Relationships are Hard, but Why? – Dr. Tatkin’s TedTalk A free excerpt – from Dr. Tatkin’s new book @DrStanTatkin – Instagram account Dr. Stan Tatkin – Facebook Page @DrStanTatkin – Twitter account Dr. Stan Tatkin – LinkedIn account Dr. Tatkin’s newest book. About our Guest – Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT Clinician, author, researcher, PACT developer, and co-founder of the PACT Institute.  Dr. Tatkin is an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine.  He maintains a private practice in Southern California and leads PACT programs in the US and internationally. He is the author of We Do, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Relationship Rx, Wired for Dating, What Every Therapist Ought to Know, and co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships, and the recent, In Each Other's Care.   Beyond Attachment Styles course is available NOW!   Learn how your nervous system, your mind, and your relationships work together in a fascinating dance, shaping who you are and how you connect with others. Online, Self-Paced, Asynchronous Learning with Quarterly Live Q&A’s – Next one is January 23rd! Earn 6 Continuing Education Credits – Available at Checkout As a listener of this podcast, use code BAS15 for a limited-time discount. Get your copy of Secure Relating here!! You are invited!  Join our exclusive community to get early access and discounts to things we produce, plus an ad-free, private feed. In addition, receive exclusive episodes recorded just for you. Sign up for our premium Neuronerd plan!! Click here!! Join us again in Washington, DC for the 49th Annual Psychotherapy Networker! March 19-22nd! In person and online options available. Get your discounted seat HERE!

Eli Harwood, licensed therapist, creator of Attachment Nerd, and author of Securely Attached and Raising Securely Attached Kids, joins Hunter Clarke-Fields to explore the crucial role of attachment in parenting. In this conversation, they discuss how early relational patterns shape children's development, the four main attachment styles, and practical strategies for fostering secure connections with kids. Eli also highlights the importance of self-compassion, repairing disconnection, and leveraging community support to nurture emotionally resilient families. Parents will leave with actionable insights to strengthen connection, support emotional well-being, and cultivate secure attachment in everyday life. ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is the host Mindful Parenting Podcast (Top 0.5% podcast ), global speaker, number 1 bestselling author of “Raising Good Humans” and “Raising Good Humans Every Day,” Mindfulness Meditation teacher and creator of the Mindful Parenting Course and Teacher Training. Find more podcasts, Hunter's books, blog posts, free resources, and more at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠MindfulMamaMentor.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Discover your Unique-To-You Podcast Playlist at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mindfulmamamentor.com/quiz/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠/mindfulmamamentor.com/mindful-mama-podcast-sponsors/⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices