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Welcome to How to Cope! A new podcast exploring just how we can best manage our mental health, when the global coronavirus crisis is doing its very best to pummel our sanity into a pulp. Each episode, writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde will explore one element of the overwhelming amount of changes we're all having to deal with - and help us all find our way through this the best way we can. From relationship challenges to mood swings, loneliness to parenting crises, Covid-19 is having all sorts of unprecedented impacts on our lives. So we're going to talk, share advice, and laugh our way through this, from a socially-responsible distance of at least 2 metres, of course.   Music credit: Cold Funk by Kevin MacLeod Link: https://incompetech.filmmusic.io/song/3522-cold-funk License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/ See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lucy Clyde + Becky Howard


    • May 4, 2021 LATEST EPISODE
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    How to Cope with Moving Forward (even if you're not sure you want to)

    Play Episode Listen Later May 4, 2021 25:24


    Just over a year ago, the pandemic felt like a scary new reality that we didn't want to confront. Now, as we face the prospect of returning to our pre-Covid lives, we're faced with the bizarre situation of feeling apprehensive about living free of restrictions. Why is this so hard on our mental health? In this episode of How To Cope, we look back at a year of doing the podcast, and how things have changed SO much. We also explore why we're feeling strange right now, living in the ‘soup of uncertainty' and why so many of us aren't feeling that excited about restrictions finally lifting. We talk about how the pandemic has messed with our sense of time, and how we can start to come to terms with what we've all been through. This will be our last episode for a little while – thank you SO much for listening so far!

    Erin Kelly, bestselling author, on how she coped with lockdown

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 20, 2021 39:23


    As a bestselling author of psychological thrillers He Said/She Said, The Poison Tree and her latest book Watch Her Fall, Erin Kelly had had 20 years of experience in working from home when lockdown hit. But that doesn't mean it was a straightforward journey: she had to radically adjust her writing life to look after her two children, start homeschooling and also finish her latest novel. Through this challenging time, Erin's learned a good few things about herself – not least that she was suffering with clinical depression during the first lockdown. She shares her mental health story, how she actually found things harder after the crisis period passed, and how ultimately, the pandemic might have helped her mental health in the long run. We also chat to Erin about how the pandemic has affected our relationships with our children, what positive aspects she's been able to take from it, and how lockdown meant she was able to glean better, more honest insights from ballet dancers when researching her latest betseller. Erin's latest book Watch Her Fall is available now: https://www.waterstones.com/book/watch-her-fall/erin-kelly/9781529377293 How to Cope is hosted by writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde. You can follow us on Twitter @_beckyhoward @lucysclyde @cope_podcastThank you so much for listening. Please like, subscribe and share, it makes a real difference and we really appreciate it. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    Simon Raymonde, ex-Cocteau Twin and Bella Union boss, on his life-changing pandemic

    Play Episode Listen Later Apr 8, 2021 41:18


    Music has always been Simon Raymonde's life. As a member of seminal band Cocteau Twins during the 80s and 90s, and latterly as the head of Bella Union record label – which looks after artists including Tim Burgess, Fleet Foxes, John Grant and Father John Misty – going to gigs, travelling, and releasing music was everything. But thanks to the Covid-19 shutdown, he's had to change everything – and through it, has discovered a new way to live his life. We chat to Simon about leaving London for the South coast, the impact of lockdown on him and his artists, and how he sought solace during Lockdown 1 by working on his new Lost Horizons album. But it wasn't until the start of this year that Simon made some radical changes to his life, afforded by Lockdown 3. Realising he had reached a fork in the road when it came to his own health and wellbeing, he embarked on a totally new approach, and has found the results life-changing. We talk to Simon about how the pandemic provided him with this epiphany, why he feels he's now a better husband and father, and how he feels about a post-Covid future. We also share some love about his artist Tim Burgess' Twitter Listening Parties, and why they've proved such a hit during Covid times.The new Lost Horizons album In Quiet Moments is out now In Quiet Moments | Lost Horizonslosthorizonsband.bandcamp.com › album › in-quiet-m... How to Cope is hosted by writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde. You can follow us on Twitter @_beckyhoward @lucysclyde @cope_podcastThank you so much for listening. Please like, subscribe and share, it makes a real difference and we really appreciate it.

    Fear of the Post-Lockdown Future

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 31, 2021 29:02


    With lockdowns easing, why are many of us feeling worried and fearful about the future, rather than all skipping happily down the road(map)? In this episode, we explore the ways in which we've become Covid Conditioned – falling (a little bit) in love with the safety and containment of lockdown life when the world outside has become very risky indeed. We also talk about the unwelcome return of FOMO, and how lockdown has actually given many of us breathing space from the oppressive social pressures of our previous lives – how we can make sure this doesn't come back again? It's also all about the collective trauma of living through a global pandemic, and we share some helpful tips about working our way out of this (clue: it's not all about doing it on your own – and it's also not our fault we feel like this….)How to Cope is hosted by writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde. You can follow us on Twitter @_beckyhoward @lucysclyde @cope_podcastThank you so much for listening. Please like, subscribe and share, it makes a real difference and we really appreciate it.

    Jake Tyler, mental health campaigner, on walking his way through depression

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 18, 2021 44:59


    When Jake Tyler found himself contemplating suicide, his mental health was at rock bottom. He took an unconventional approach to helping himself, and started an epic walk around the entirety of the UK, becoming an accidental campaigner for mental health along the way. Now Jake's written a book about his experiences – A Walk From The Wild Edge – which details his journey in brilliantly relatable, moving and funny prose. Having moved from a place where he dealt with his life stresses with drink and drugs, he now knows how to truly help his own mental state and why walking is at the heart of this. Jake talks to us about how he coped in lockdown, how he feels about ‘cracking himself open' through the book, and what people's reactions might be. We also chat about the moment of epiphany he had that set him on his journey and how we're still a long way from shedding the shame, and achieving true openness around mental health. Thanks so much to Jake for joining us. His book A Walk From The Wild Edge, is out now: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Walk-Wild-Edge-Jake-Tyler/dp/024140116X How to Cope is hosted by writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde. You can follow us on Twitter @_beckyhoward @lucysclyde @cope_podcastThank you so much for listening. Please like, subscribe and share, it makes a real difference and we really appreciate it. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    Learning to thrive in a pandemic, with author Neema Shah

    Play Episode Listen Later Mar 4, 2021 44:30


    For author Neema Shah, going into lockdown gave her the chance to embrace living in an introvert's world. Although often mistaken for an extrovert (like both of us at How To Cope), she found the enforced quiet gave her more energy, allowed her writing to thrive, and discovered it as a form of mindfulness. But it wasn't all plain sailing. Neema had to come to terms with releasing her heralded debut novel Kololo Hill during a pandemic, and moving all her celebrations onto social media. She talks about coming to terms with a digital launch, and how she manages to get the most out of social media by not letting it dominate her time. We also chat to Neema about what she misses about normal life, how speaking different languages changes your personality, and her top tip for dealing with Covid stress. Kololo Hill is out now: https://www.waterstones.com/book/kololo-hill/neema-shah/9781529030501 How to Cope is hosted by writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde. You can follow us on Twitter @_beckyhoward @lucysclyde @cope_podcastThank you so much for listening. Please like, subscribe and share, it makes a real difference and we really appreciate it. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    Parental Burnout - And What We Can Do About It

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 25, 2021 32:38


    For those of us with children in the house, being a parent in lockdown can feel like slogging our way through a very dark tunnel. With energy levels much lower than before, and schooling expectations much higher, it's no wonder that many of us feel as if we're constantly failing. In this episode, we talk about the crazy difficulties of being a parent now we're nearly a year into the pandemic, and how we may have lost sight of just how much we're asking of ourselves. When we're being asked to tolerate an intolerable situation, parental burnout is a natural conclusion. But what is it and can we do anything at all about it? The answer is YES, and it's a surprising one… We also chat about being sick of the sound of your own nagging voice (hey, where's FUN ME gone?) and how the lockdown is affecting kids too. How to Cope is hosted by writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde. You can follow us on Twitter @_beckyhoward @lucysclyde @cope_podcastThank you so much for listening. Please like, subscribe and share, it makes a real difference and we really appreciate it. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    Rob da Bank, DJ and meditation guru, on life without live music

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 16, 2021 42:12


    Rob da Bank has been getting the party started for decades, ever since he first started DJing in the 1990s. But one of the biggest casualties of the Covid-19 crisis has been live music and festivals, and with the 2021 summer festival season now in doubt, we caught up with Rob to found how he has coped with this radical change in his life. We chat to Rob about how he's managing with homeschooling his four sons at home in the Isle of Wight, and why being able to spend time outdoors and in nature is keeping him going. As the co-founder, along with his wife Josie, of legendary festivals Bestival and Camp Bestival, we also talk about the sense of connection and belonging that people get from festivals, how they're nourishing for our souls and how we're all missing those release valves in our lives because of the lockdowns. Rob has moved into meditation teaching in the past few years, and so we also talk to him about how he's shifted his focus from making people happy through DJing, to helping them discover their true self through meditation. Rob and Josie now run Sleep Retreat, an ‘antidote to 21st century living' where yoga and meditation provide a calm respite from our over-screened worlds. https://sleepretreat.net Thanks so much to Rob for talking to us – we hope you enjoy it. How to Cope is hosted by writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde. You can follow us on Twitter @_beckyhoward @lucysclyde @cope_podcastThank you so much for listening. Please like, subscribe and share, it makes a real difference and we really appreciate it.

    Damian Barr, writer + presenter, on how he's coping through Covid

    Play Episode Listen Later Feb 4, 2021 57:26


    For natural extrovert Damian Barr, lockdown has presented a new set of challenges. Without being able to enjoy unplanned, unscheduled interactions and the layers of connection we have in our normal life, he's had to learn how to live in the present and slow down. In this brilliantly insightful and honest chat, we speak to Damian about how he has coped with the past year, and how, having lived through the Aids pandemic of the 80s and 90s, and survived a traumatic childhood, he was unusually well equipped to deal with the immediate emergencies thrown at us by Covid. Damian also opens up about his experience of online bullying on social media last summer – and how a forced break from digital platforms has led him to entirely reassess his relationship with social media, consider what he puts online and also rediscover a love of speaking on the phone. He also talks about why he's gone back into therapy and how he's approaching 2021 (it's about dreams, not plans). Thanks so much to Damian for talking to us – we hope you enjoy it. Damian's next Literary Salon Live featuring Russell T Davies and Ruth Coker Burks is February 18th https://www.theliterarysalon.co.uk/get-tickets Damian's book You Will Be Safe Here is available in paperback now: https://www.waterstones.com/book/you-will-be-safe-here/damian-barr/9781408886052 The second series of the Big Scottish Book Club is on iPlayer: https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episodes/m000bc3j/the-big-scottish-book-club How to Cope is hosted by writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde. You can follow us on Twitter @_beckyhoward @lucysclyde @cope_podcastThank you so much for listening. Please like, subscribe and share, it makes a real difference and we really appreciate it. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    Being pregnant and having a baby during a pandemic, with Times fashion editor Harriet Walker

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 21, 2021 40:14


    Author and fashion editor of The Times, Harriet Walker, announced her pregnancy to friends and family just as the UK went into lockdown last March. Suddenly she found herself dealing not only with a full-time job and the heightened emotions and physical strains of pregnancy – but also looking after her toddler daughter at home, too.In this episode of #HowToCope, Harriet talks about how she managed with the knife-edge of stress and emotion during that time, and how being viciously trolled for an honest article she wrote was harder to deal with when all our emotions were so close to the surface.She shares the unusual experience of launching her debut novel, The New Girl, during a pandemic, what it was like to give birth and look after her newborn son during these intense and changed times, as well as what she's learned about herself and her mental health.How to Cope is hosted by writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde. You can follow us on Twitter @_beckyhoward @lucysclyde @cope_podcastThank you so much for listening. Please like, subscribe and share, it makes a real difference and we really appreciate it.The New Girl, by Harriet Walker is available in hardback now: https://www.waterstones.com/book/the-new-girl/harriet-walker/9781529304008 and is available for pre-order in paperback: https://www.waterstones.com/book/the-new-girl/harriet-walker/9781529304046This episode was recorded remotely in December 2020. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    Toxic Stress and what it's doing to us

    Play Episode Listen Later Jan 12, 2021 29:48


    Toxic stress is here, and the effects on our mental health are real. Unbelievably, it's almost been a year since the Covid-19 pandemic took hold in the UK, and the collective stress experienced by us all is very different now to how it was back at the start.Unlike general stress – which tends to follow an up and down pattern – toxic stress is where the stressor doesn't go away. With all of us on lockdown and unable to find our usual releases from this unending stress, how can we cope?In this episode, we chat through the different types of toxic stress affecting us – from general pandemic awfulness, to adapting to the constantly shifting goalposts and the self-inflicted toxic stress of social media. We look at some solutions to alleviating the toxic stress load on our bodies and minds – what can we do to stop the revving brain?How to Cope is hosted by writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde. You can follow us on Twitter @_beckyhoward @lucysclyde @cope_podcastThank you so much for listening. Please like, subscribe and share, it makes a real difference and we really appreciate it.

    Coping with a Covid Christmas

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 21, 2020 28:08


    'A Christmas like no other' doesn't even begin to cover what we're all dealing with right now. With the festive season upon us, it's hard to feel positive when so many of us can't see our families, are battered by the depressing news landscape, or are just burned out from nearly a year of dealing with toxic pandemic stress.So how can we cope at this particularly tricky time of year and look after our mental health? Despite the fact we've been living with Covid since March, everything feels a bit sharper and more painful right now. In this special seasonal episode, we chat through how we can stop the slide into despair during this time, and find joy in some small rays of sunlight (the vaccine! No catering stress or family rows!).We also look back at 2020, what, if anything we've learned about ourselves and what we can take into the New Year. Our collective mental health has been one of the focuses of this difficult year - let's keep the conversation going to help each other.

    Scarlette Douglas, TV presenter, on life choices and finding her true self

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 15, 2020 35:12


    TV presenter Scarlette Douglas started off 2020 with a list of goals to achieve – land a new TV show, be on the radio and find love – and incredibly, she ticked off all three of them, despite the chaos wreaked on her career by the pandemic.Scarlette, who presents A Place in the Sun on Channel 4, saw all her work disappear with the arrival of Covid, but this gave her an unexpected opportunity to rest, switch off and work out what was important to her in her life. She realised there were lots of insecurities and anxieties she hadn't addressed within herself, and began a period of intense self-reflection where she was able to finally ask herself, ‘what are you running from?'Scarlette shares with us the incredible changes she's been through this year, and how it's left her more humble, more true to herself and less self-conscious than ever before.How to Cope is hosted by writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde. You can follow us on Twitter @_beckyhoward @lucysclyde @cope_podcastThank you so much for listening. Please like, subscribe and share, it makes a real difference and we really appreciate it.

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    Why it's OK to miss our holidays, with travel writer Anna Hart

    Play Episode Listen Later Dec 4, 2020 39:52


    As a travel writer for global publications, Anna Hart's life was grounded in more ways than one by the pandemic. But she's found that this year has actually turned out to be the most interesting and fulfilling year to be a travel writer she's ever known.Anna talks to us about how Covid-19 totally upended her world: from a last-minute return back from the US, to dealing with despair about her work and career, and finding a way through the chaos to continue writing about travel in a totally new way.We also explore the links between travel and mental health, why it's totally acceptable to miss our holidays and why Anna feels passionately that travel is more than just a privilege, it's an important way many of us cope.Anna's book Departures: A Guide to Letting Go, One Adventure at a Time, is out now: https://www.waterstones.com/book/departures/anna-hart/9780751577051How to Cope is hosted by writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde. You can follow us on Twitter @_beckyhoward @lucysclyde @cope_podcastThank you so much for listening. Please like, subscribe and share, it makes a real difference and we really appreciate it. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    The Resilience Myth

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 26, 2020 26:34


    Resilience has been a buzzword during the pandemic, but what if you're feeling like your resources have run totally dry? As Lockdown 2 drags on to the bitter end, we explore this idea of being resilient, and why it's actually not massively helpful with how to cope.From the way that resilience can feel like a blaming term (if you're not resilient, it's somehow all your fault, right?), to why we need our environment to support us for feelings of resilience to flourish, in this episode we explore why resilience really isn't all it's cracked up to be.Oh, and how when it's in short supply, it's very easy to make terrible Netflix film choices…How to Cope is hosted by writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde. You can follow us on Twitter @_beckyhoward @lucysclyde @cope_podcastThank you so much for listening. Please like, subscribe and share, it makes a real difference and we really appreciate it. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    Erica Davies, fashion influencer and stylist

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 17, 2020 46:53


    Erica Davies is one of the UK's most influential fashion Instagrammers, with 166k followers. So how did the Covid pandemic impact how she worked, how she coped, and her take on fashion and how it makes us all feel?For the last few years, former newspaper fashion editor Erica has been on a momentous trajectory (we're not allowed to say the ‘J' word

    Lockdown 2 & Why It Feels Harder

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 10, 2020 30:33


    Lockdown 2 is here for those of us living in England, but you won't find us out clapping for carers, baking banana bread or manically scheduling social Zoom calls this time around. No, in this lockdown the general mood is a bit bleaker – we're all dealing with lower energy levels, pessimism and a sense of ‘what's the point?'In this episode of How To Cope, psychotherapist Lucy Clyde and writer Becky Howard explore just why our coping mechanisms for the spring lockdown won't work this time.We talk about why we're all still psychologically bruised and not fully recovered from the impacts of the first lockdown, and why our faith in being able to control the virus has been battered.With all of us suffering from pandemic fatigue, an unsatisfying lack of visible results from our sacrifices and an utter intolerance for high-level bullshit (hello, government), it's time to bring out some new ways to look after our mental health.Thanks so much for listening! Please like, subscribe and share

    Living alone under lockdown, with Becky Barnes of Huff Post UK

    Play Episode Listen Later Nov 3, 2020 36:21


    In her role as Audience Editor of the publishing site Huff Post UK, Becky Barnes is responsible for helping people make sense of the overwhelming amount of information and news about the global pandemic. But during the first lockdown, she found spending her entire working day immersed in negative information, and living on her own, took its toll on her mental health.In this insightful and honest chat, Becky talks to us about why she experienced her worst mental health ever during 2020, and how her fun and fulfilling life as a busy single woman in London was totally transformed by Covid. Since going through the first lockdown, Becky's discovered lots about what has helped improve her mental health; from giving up alcohol to tracking her menstrual cycle and learning how to be her own best friend.Becky's recently launched a weekly roundup of uplifting news to keep us going – because we need joy more than ever. Subscribe to The Brightside here: https://subscribe.huffpost.com/NewsLetter/preference/Subscribe/?list=uk-brightside&src=email&How to Cope is hosted by writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde. You can follow us on Twitter @_beckyhoward @lucysclyde @cope_podcast See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    Sex toys and self-esteem with Julia Margo of Hot Octopuss

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 20, 2020 30:51


    Many business have suffered during lockdown, but the opposite has happened to the sex toy industry. Online sales of sex toys of all types have rocketed, but why? And what's the link between sex toys, self-pleasure and mental health?To answer our questions we're joined in this episode by Julia Margo, COO of Hot Octopuss. Julia explains the research that links sexual pleasure with improved mental health, and how their focus on marginalised groups left behind by mainstream conversations makes a huge difference to peoples' self-esteem.We talk about why there needs to be less stigma around using sex toys, and why using them taps into the deep human need for pleasure, especially during times of stress and crisis.We also chat about how Julia coped personally with running a sex toy business with three young children in the house, and why Becky still can't watch a sex scene on TV without pulling her jumper over her head…How to Cope is hosted by writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde. You can follow us on Twitter @_beckyhoward @lucysclyde @cope_podcastHot Octopuss: https://www.hotoctopuss.com/Thanks so much for listening!

    Running a business through Covid, with Steph Douglas of Don't Buy Her Flowers

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 9, 2020 47:52


    How do you cope when you've got a business that's skyrocketing under Covid, plus three kids at home? That's what we wanted to find out from Steph Douglas, whose gift-box business Don't Buy Her Flowers found that sales went through the roof when the shops closed.We chatted to the brilliant Steph about how she found herself working full-on under highly adrenalized conditions, how she coped with the guilt about doing well when other industries suffered, and the intense pressure and responsibility she felt. It wasn't until she had a break from work that Steph found herself struggling with her mental health – she shares how she managed this and what her plans are to cope with Pandemic: The Return. Plus – the universal experiences of crying in Tescos and dishwasher rows with your partner…How to Cope is hosted by writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde. You can follow us on Twitter @_beckyhoward @lucysclyde @cope_podcastDon't Buy Her Flowers: https://www.dontbuyherflowers.com/ Thanks for listening - please like, subscribe and share

    Matthew Knight of Leapers, the freelancer's mental health platform

    Play Episode Listen Later Oct 2, 2020 41:08


    It's our first guest! Matthew Knight set up Leapers, the online project and community supporting the mental health of the self-employed, a few years ago. But the platform's popularity has rocketed during Covid-19, as thousands of freelancers found they needed extra support and help as the pressures of the pandemic and work uncertainty built up.In this episode, writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde talk to Matthew about how the Leapers community helped each other through the first lockdown, how he managed to cope himself with the extra responsibility, and how he's preparing for the upcoming Covinter...We chat through everything from the importance of a good vent with colleagues, why it's difficult not to take an unsubscribe personally, why therapy is just like dating, and amid all the doom and gloom, reminding ourselves of the positives of working for yourself.Thanks for listening!

    Lockdown, Part 2: Crappy Days Are Here Again

    Play Episode Listen Later Sep 25, 2020 28:41


    We're back! And so is lockdown! After having a brief summer holiday from the pandemic, where we didn't think about Covid-19 for – oooh – at least 5 minutes, and we were Eating Out to Help Out, it turns out that it was just a brief intermission before the Return Of The Virus.

    So, How Was It For You?

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 14, 2020 34:52


    Lockdown is easing, we're venturing out, but why don't things feel OK yet? Even if we HAVE had a haircut?It's because we're returning not to a post-Covid world, but one where the virus is still with us, and that post-apocalyptic 28 Days Later vibe is now normal. What's it doing to our mental health?Psychotherapist Lucy Clyde and writer Becky Howard wrap up the first series of How To Cope with a look into why the new outside world feels a very tense and stressful place to be. We look back at what we've been through on lockdown these past four months, big ourselves up for what we've all achieved in this crazy state, and have some helpful advice for how to face the next few uncertain months.Plus - we record our FIRST episode together in person!Thanks so much for listening to series 1 of How To Cope. Please like, subscribe and review our podcast - and you can follow us on Twitter @cope_podcast. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    Frustration, Fracture + Why We're Getting Super-Judgey

    Play Episode Listen Later Jul 2, 2020 30:51


    After 100+ days of lockdown, it's no wonder frustration is high as we've all felt desperate, a bit depressed and lonely. But now as lockdown begins to ease for some of us, what's happening as our 'we're all in this together' united society starts to fracture?Psychotherapist Lucy Clyde and writer Becky Howard delve into the nation's mental health as we start to experience a personal choice pandemic. Whether you're still shielding, and nothing's changed or are back at work, have kids back at school, or are happily going down to the beach with the crowds, there are hundreds of new, different choices we all have to make every day.With Covid-19 still looming over every part of our lives, it's no wonder we're emotional and confused - but what's behind all that appetite for public shaming that's everywhere? We get to the bottom of it!Thanks for listening - please like, subscribe and share! Follow us on Twitter too, at @cope_podcast See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    How To Hold Onto Hope

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 25, 2020 25:57


    Hope is a powerful emotion. But how can we feel hopeful, when often the pandemic leaves us feeling pretty hopeless? Whether that's feeling down about our future, the economy, our family, or even our likelihood of hugging friends in the next few months, it's easy to be overwhelmed by negative feelings.But just like the legendary late George Michael, we've gotta have faith. In this episode, writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde look into just how we can do this - remembering that feelings AREN'T facts (who knew?) and that really, the worst-case scenarios very rarely happen.Also - listen in for a fun reminisce down memory lane of another unpopular virus - our good old friend norovirus.Thanks so much for listening! Please like, subscribe or leave us a review - it means so much to us. You can also follow us on Twitter @cope_podcast. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    The Emotional Slump + What It's Doing To Us

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 17, 2020 33:09


    We're all in a collective emotional slump right now, feeling tired, fed up, angry and just plain old BORED with the continuing, seemingly never-ending life under coronavirus. AAAGGGHHHHH....With the manic positive energy of early lockdown long gone, and people feeling disillusioned with things, this mounting frustration as weeks become months (and months) is manifesting itself in all sorts of different emotions.In this episode, writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde delve into the different mental health challenges this is presenting us with - for some of us it's futile raging anger, for others is depleting exhaustion. And for some of us it's a touch of melancholia - but how can we deal with this and get through it?Listen in to find out how - and also discover Lucy's incredible lockdown super-power at the top of the episode...Thanks for listening. Please like, subscribe and share and follow us on Twitter @cope_podcast See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    Post-Lockdown Anxiety

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 9, 2020 28:08


    Post-lockdown anxiety is here: with loads of us feeling anxious, stressed and worried about post-Covid life. We want to go out, but we also DON'T want to go out. What's going on?We thought when we were finally allowed out from our homes, that we'd all be skipping down the street, gaily singing 'free at last!' (or was that just us?)But in fact, dealing with a post-lockdown world is WAY more complicated than returning to our pre-Covid lives. Many of us are super stressed about the prospect of returning to an office, going on public transport, or sending our kids back to school. Have we all developed Stockholm syndrom for coronavirus?In this ep, writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde delve deep into the roots of post-lockdown anxiety - and discover why it's all about lack of control, developing boundaries and exploring just how the hell we're supposed to be polite now with the new post-Covid etiquette disrupting everything we used to know.Also, why Mary Poppins is what Becky wants more than ANYTHING right now...Thanks for listening! Please like, subscribe and review. You can also follow us on Twitter @cope_podcast See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    Coronavirus Guilt + Why It's Different

    Play Episode Listen Later Jun 3, 2020 27:40


    Why is guilt something we're feeling over the coronavirus pandemic? After all - unless we've taken a trip up to Durham recently, we've probably done nothing wrong.But in fact, feeling guilty is a totally normal response. Whether it's guilt over NOT having the worst pandemic experience ever, guilt over social media or guilt over whether we should really buy that packet of salt and vinegar crisps or not (you'll have to listen to find out what that's all about) - it's a feeling that's shifted shape during these strange times. Writer Becky Howard and psychologist Lucy Clyde explore guilt and what we can do about this confusing emotion.Thanks for listening and follow us on Twitter @cope_podcast See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    Why Uncertainty Is Exhausting - And How We Fill The Void

    Play Episode Listen Later May 26, 2020 26:55


    Feeling worried and stressed about our uncertain future, now that we're living through a global pandemic?Yep, us too. Because does ANYONE know what our world will look like in six weeks' time? Let alone six months' time? No matter what those in charge claim, no-one really knows what's coming after Covid-19.When the only thing we can be confidently certain about is what we're eating next, uncertainty is everywhere. And when us humans have too much uncertainty to face, we start to fill this void with our own projections - which can be pretty wild.In this episode, Becky Howard and psychologist Lucy Clyde explore the destabilising nature of uncertainty that the coronavirus pandemic has landed on us all. Why is it so hard for us to cope with? Why do some of us decide that a military coup is the next logical step? And what is there that we can actually be hopeful about?Thanks for listening and follow us on Twitter @cope_podcast See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    Loneliness - And The Problems With Digital 'Diet Friendship'

    Play Episode Listen Later May 19, 2020 24:45


    We're all feeling SO lonely during this pandemic, isolated from our pre-Covid lives – and we're not afraid to talk about it.Because, yes it's possible to be really lonely even if you're in a house full of people on lockdown. Becky + Lucy explore the difference between loneliness and solitude, and whether going through this corona-coaster is easier for introverts or extroverts (and really, what the hell is an ambivert?)We also talk about the issue of digital connection and why it's so exhausting and unsatisfying to be on all those Zoom meetings. It's the diet version of in-person full-fat friendship – but why? We've got the answers!Please like, subscribe and follow us on Twitter @cope_podcast. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    Trailer - How To Cope

    Play Episode Listen Later May 18, 2020 1:14


    Welcome to How to Cope! A new podcast exploring just how we can best manage our mental health, when the global coronavirus crisis is doing its very best to pummel our sanity into a pulp.Each episode, writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde will explore one element of the overwhelming amount of changes we're all having to deal with - and help us all find our way through this the best way we can.From relationship challenges to mood swings, loneliness to parenting crises, Covid-19 is having all sorts of unprecedented impacts on our lives. So we're going to talk, share advice, and laugh our way through this, from a socially-responsible distance of at least 2 metres, of course. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    When You're A Rubbish Parent During Lockdown

    Play Episode Listen Later May 12, 2020 26:39


    Lockdown with children in the house is really hard - how do we cope with our kids without losing our own sanity to the stresses of dealing with a global pandemic?If you've got kids, it's likely your parenting has taken a total battering. From rules flying out the window, to screens taking over and nowhere to hide (apart from the bathroom), many of us feel we're doing a really bad job right now.In this episode, writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde talk about crappy pandemic parenting – and why we should stop gaslighting our own kids and embrace freeing ourselves from the tyranny of routine. Because there are some silver linings to be had...If you enjoyed this episode, please like and subscribe! Also - you can follow us on Twitter: @cope_podcastThanks for listening See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    Dealing with Crazy Mood Swings

    Play Episode Listen Later May 7, 2020 29:37


    Anger, sadness, tears, rage, numbness - our mood swings are extreme during the coronavirus crisis.Feeling all over the place? Us too! With a global pandemic to cope with, many of us are finding it a struggle to understand our emotions. Flipping into fits of anger, followed by uncontrollable weeping and sometimes even a terrifying numbness has become the 'new normal' as our isolated existence takes its toll on our mental health. In this episode, writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde explore the phenomenon of the 'coronacoaster' mood swing, what do do when you're struck by emotional lightning and why the thought of a Pret tuna baguette can sometimes be the tiny little thing that makes us feel LOADS better... See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

    What We've Lost During the Lockdown

    Play Episode Listen Later May 5, 2020 30:48


    Welcome to How to Cope! A new podcast exploring just how we can best manage our mental health, when the global coronavirus crisis is doing its very best to pummel our sanity into a pulp.This time round, writer Becky Howard and psychotherapist Lucy Clyde are exploring loss. From loss of freedom, to loss of jobs, socialising, control, and even losing the choice to pay for an overpriced hipster coffee, it's something that's affecting all of us. So how can we deal with it? See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

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