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Are you asking yourself safe or dangerous questions? In this hot off the mic interview with Liam Bowler of The Body Awake podcast we dive deep into the process of curiosity and inquiry and how to know when it's time to act instead of freezing in analysis paralysis. Listen in as I interview a fellow Montanan about his experience with practicing introspection as a pathway to self-love. This interview prompted me , almost immediately, to shift how I approach my reaction to suffering within myself. Why it’s important to ask the dangerous questions Why to sit with suffering instead of trying to relieve it How to move from inquiry into action Links Mentioned: Fearless Self-Love Retreat: www.fearlessselflove.com Dancing Spirit Ranch https://www.dancingspiritranch.com/workshops-retreats/ Brené Brown: The Daring Way https://thedaringway.org/ Email Andrea & Sara to sign up for the retreat bonus: hello@fearlessselflove.com The Body Awake http://www.thebodyawake.com/about/ Camp Kitchen where Andrea will be cooking www.ravenwoodolc.org Liam’s interview with Kimberly Ann Johnson http://www.thebodyawake.com/#/kaj/ Liam’s Body Work practice https://dynamicalignmentbodywork.com/ Stephen Porgus Polyvagal Theory http://stephenporges.com/ Liam’s first interview with Irene Lyon http://www.thebodyawake.com/#/se-irene/ Banksy http://banksy.co.uk/ Liam’s upcoming workshops http://www.thebodyawake.com/workshops/ Liam’s YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCR1pE63MWey2Fq9QMCfiyRQ Show Highlights: 00:58 Fearless Self love Retreat Bonus Details 02:48 Easeful Living Practice ~ What questions are you asking yourself? 05:15 Interview with Liam Bowler begins, Liam helps folks understand their body’s intelligence as well as their educational needs 10:14 Dangerous Questions are the ones that might change your life. Are you asking them? 22:44 Liam shares about dark days and months in his life and explore how he would interact with his younger self today 31;58 How to ask a dangerous question, the intimacy and the power behind the words 36:31 Liam’s invitation to reflect on what is being evoked by dangerous questions -- what is keeping you from being vulnerable? 41:38 Why try to relieve our own suffering? The pain of witnessing suffering and how it causes us to try to wish it away. 45:49 Anatomy of the Autonomic nervous system 49:55 How Liam navigates self-care and self-love as a practitioner and how he supports his clients and students in navigating their own dangerous questions with love and care Favorite Quotes “There is a growing interest among us, not just a ‘fix me’ mentality, but a kind of education, which comes in many forms.” --Liam Bowler “Education is the kindling of a flame, not the filling of a vessel.” ― Socrates “Owning your own experience is infinitely more infinite and ambody and non-checked out.” -- Liam Bowler “You’re not doing anything wrong here by suffering.” -- Liam Bowler “Don’t wait for yourself to be perfectly healed and integrated before you start trying...to make something better.” -- Liam Bowler “I have so much more to learn about myself.” -- Andrea Catherine, as inspired by Paula Greenstein “Upon awakening, what gets liberated from what?” -- Adyashanti “I have, lots in my life, used that lack of needing to solve something as a conceptual bunker, with which to hide from taking action.” -- Liam Bowler “Self-hatred is one of the most narcissistic things out there; meanwhile life is happening.” -- Liam Bowler “Do you care who gets the credit?” -- Liam Bowler “Where are you hiding behind inquiry?” -- Liam Bowler Meet Liam: I’m Liam Bowler, a licensed massage therapist, structural bodyworker, musician and rock climbing guide (among other things, of course). Some of my loves lately: these heartbreakingly beautiful Montana sunsets, my weekly "Spotify suggests" playlist, yoga, cutting my own hair, this podcast, learning how my car works, meditation, taking my neighbors' dog for walks in the hills behind my house. I live in Missoula, Montana, and make regular trips to Seattle—for work and fun—and sometimes other places, too. If you'd like what I do to come near you, please shoot me a line and let me know. You can learn more about my bodywork practice at my website for that: Dynamic Alignment Bodywork.
This is not about relationship advice, or the mature loving relationship of many years. Nor is it about being in-lust. Rather it is about that in-love place, You can’t wait to see that person again, your life is overflowing with feelings and emotions. We explore the connection of being in love with another to loving ourselves, as well as the revolutionary qualities of being in love, both the wonderful and the challenging. People’s lives change when they fall in love. Listen in as Michael and I riff on confidence, taking risks, fantasizing, and the value of throwing out sensibility from time to time. This is not an episode only for those in love or on the verge of it. We also talk about how to access the benefits of being in love when we’re not. How falling in love changes us for the better and the worse Why gaining confidence come from taking risks How to dance with your dreams and benefit from fantasizing Fearless Self-Love Retreat: www.fearlessselflove.com Dancing Spirit Ranch https://www.dancingspiritranch.com/workshops-retreats/ Brené Brown: The Daring Way https://thedaringway.org/ Email Andrea to sign up for the retreat bonus: andrea@groundedhere.com Fearless Self-Love Retreat www.fearlessselflove.com S1 E20: The Humanity of Self-Love with Michael Joseph https://www.groundedhere.com/season-1 Show Highlights: :58 Fearless Self love Retreat Bonus Details 03:08 Easeful Living Practice ~ Love note to self 06:48 Interview with Michael Joseph begins -- he’s seen over 100 people in that in-love stage & what it has to do with self-love 18:06 What’s confidence have to with it? How being in love bolsters our courage to try new things and also our tolerance for unhelpful behavior 24:25 Patterns of falling in love: enlivening of the senses 31:19 How to get connection with ourselves, fearlessness, oxytocin if we’re not in love 41:20 Dance with the dream, the benefits of fantasizing 48:18 The value of trusting and, at times, questioning our intuition 56:06 Courageous Self-Care Tip: Take a risk! Your Favorite Quotes “When we see someone in love, sometimes we actually think, ‘they’re crazy, why are they doing that, what’s that about, why are they risking everything?’” -- Michael Joseph “[Being in love] has a bright side, it has a danger to it, but it’s very enriching.” -- Michael Joseph “Sometimes we connect with parts of ourselves in loving another person that had been forgotten...or we didn’t know was there... we actually not only fall in love with the person, but we may fall in love with a part of ourselves that have been lost.” -- Michael Joseph “How am I allowing my connections with others to inform my connection with myself?” --Andrea Catherine “We often attribute to another, a power that was already in ourselves.” -- Michael Joseph “Sometimes that in-love feeling is really kind of a need we’re speaking to--I need some stimulation, I need some novelty, I need something to test myself against.” -- Michael Joseph “Falling in love is sort of like an emotional extreme sport.” -- Michael Joseph “Andrea, you need to go inside yourself, and find what makes you strong.” -- Paras Moghtader, Andrea’s friend (S1 E7 Fearless Abundance of Yoga & Ayurveda) https://www.groundedhere.com/season-1 “Tapping into the dream of yourself, and taking a step in the direction of that dream, that’s self-love.” -- Michael Joseph “You get confidence by risking being told no.” -- Michael Joseph Meet Michael: I'm a therapist, musician, rock climber, basketball player. I've spent the last 30+ years of my life exploring in my own life and with my clients the nature of love, life, emotional suffering and emotional joy. I feel privileged to be in a profession where I have the opportunity learn something everyday about life in conversation with the people who come to me.
Do you believe you are worth the love you give others? I don’t mean do you think others should love you as much as I mean, do you believe you deserve your own love. Yes, you can pause here. Breathe. This is a big question. It’s the question Melanie Redd and I explore in this wide-ranging interview in which she shares her story of self-love by way of parenthood at an early age, launching a fitness business and learning new sports in her forties. Melanie has passion for making self-love a prerequisite for meeting particular fitness goals. Looking at our bodies with disgust gets us nowhere we want to be, and fast. Listen in for tips to move gently into self-love no matter what your wellness goals are. Why authenticity is worth the hard work How to take a compliment, and mean it! How to learn something new at any age Links Mentioned in Your Episode: Fearless Self-Love Retreat: www.fearlessselflove.com Dancing Spirit Ranch https://www.dancingspiritranch.com/workshops-retreats/ Brené Brown: The Daring Way https://thedaringway.org/ Email Andrea to sign up for the retreat bonus: andrea@groundedhere.com Fearless Self-Love Retreat www.fearlessselflove.com Shapr App where Melanie & I met http://www.shapr.co/ Natha Campanella Interview Cancer Season and Pitta Dosha ~ http://fearlessselflove.libsyn.com/bonus-6-cancer-season-pitta-dosha Glennon Melton’s Love Warrior https://momastery.com/blog/about-glennon/ Can You Take a Compliment? Blog Post https://www.groundedhere.com/single-post/2018/01/15/Can-You-Take-A-Compliment Yoga Health Coaching www.yogahealthcoaching.com Show Highlights: 02:15 Fearless Self-love Retreat Early Bird Bonus Details!! 06:36 Easeful LIving Practice ~ Cooling Breath 11:14 Interview with Melanie Redd begins 14:14 What does it mean to deserve self-love? 18:58 Melanie’s personal journey into self-love and self-care -- intentional life disruption as an act of self-love 32:42 The work it takes to be authentic and why it’s worth it. We can all do hard things. 52:21 How to take a compliment -- “Thank you, it’s true.” (hat tip: Yoga Health Coaching community) 1:05:40 How to shift and name boundaries in order to show up and being loving to myself. 1:10:03 Learning new things at any age is possible, including skateboarding at 40 and snowboarding at 42 Favorite Quotes “I’m learning to skateboard; what’s the big deal?” -- Melanie Redd “There is great risk for people to not love themselves.” -- Melanie Redd “The moment I found out I was pregnant was the day I started practicing the figure-it-out way of life.” -- Melanie Redd “I’m done sending my representative; I’m going to send me!” -- Andrea Catherine (in reference to Glennon Melton in Love Warrior) “I just don’t want to feel, ever again, like I’m coming from that place of inauthenticity, and I want to do the work that it takes to be authentic.” -- Melanie Redd “You’ve got to work on yourself, and I don’t think I can help you with it.” -- Melanie’s husband “The act of being vulnerable includes admitting what we don’t know.” --Andrea Catherine Meet Melanie: Melanie Redd is a Fitness business owner and runs a virtual training program for holistic exercise and total wellness programs. She is also a Strength & Conditioning Coach for a highschool football team and specializes in Functional Movement and corrective exercise for athletic performance and reduced injury risk.