Podcasts about patterns

We all have patterns we can see clearly…and still can't seem to stop. Dr. Rick and Forrest explore how avoidance fuels these patterns, and how we can break the avoidance loop by updating our expectations and predictions about the future. They discuss what avoidance coping is, how the brain works as a prediction machine, why that means insight alone usually isn't enough to break a pattern, and what the current science of exposure and expectancy violation says about how change actually happens.  This is the first of two episodes dedicated to this topic, the second will focus on how to brave our feared experiences and go from insight to action. Key Topics: 00:00: Intro: avoidance coping and mental predictions 8:07: Five types of avoidance behaviors 17:35: The invisible cage 23:50: Predictive processing 29:49: Identity and high confidence predictions 34:30: How avoidance can perpetuate painful experiences 40:01: Exposure and the Inhibitory Learning Model 52:00: Answering common questions 56:07: Recap Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link. Sponsors Go to Zocdoc.com/BEING to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today. Let Rocket Money help you reach your financial goals faster. Join at RocketMoney.com/BEINGWELL. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Refusing to take a loss when the trade has turned, and the reason for getting into the trade in the first place is no longer valid, is one of the biggest problems traders face. In this video, Ryan Mallory discusses the pitfalls that comes with refusing to take the loss and instead opting to become a bagholder on one's trades. Be sure to check out my Swing-Trading offering through SharePlanner that goes hand-in-hand with my podcast, offering all of the research, charts and technical analysis on the stock market and individual stocks, not to mention my personal watch-lists, reviews and regular updates on the most popular stocks, including the all-important big tech stocks. Check it out now at:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.shareplanner.com/premium-plans⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Are you ready to step into your next chapter? This week, we're revisiting one of the most powerful conversations ever shared from the Powerhouse stage with transformational speaker and Heart Talks founder, Brittainy Noel, who will be returning to join us again at Powerhouse 2026. In this inspiring conversation, Brittainy unpacks what it really takes to break free from the patterns keeping you stuck, create space for your next-level identity, and get radically honest about the life you're meant to live. Through an interactive audience Q&A, we tackle everything from fear of success and slowing down to self-worth and embracing your own transformation. If you're standing at the edge of your next upgrade, this episode is your invitation to take the first step.   HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Welcome to the stage, Brittainy Noel, transformational speaker and creator of Heart Talks! 03:35 What role does destruction play in the transformation process? 07:40 Ways to discover your identity, even if you don't know who you are yet. 12:05 What did we have to let go in order to be successful? 18:25 How to navigate the fear of success when facing opportunity. 21:55 The simplest way to celebrate your wins, big or small. 25:15 Tips to overwrite limiting beliefs you've been living with for years. 30:10 How to shift out of survival mode and tap into your inner worthiness. 36:50 Why we need to slow down and be more present. 40:05 Brittainy's invitation for you to become the main character of your life.   RESOURCES + LINKS Save $200 on your ticket for the 2026 Powerhouse Women Event HERE!   FOLLOW Brittainy: @brittainynoel Powerhouse Women: @powerhouse_women Lindsey: @lindseymarieofficial Visit the Powerhouse Women website: powerhousewomen.co Join the PW Community Facebook Group: facebook.com/groups/powerhousewomencommunity

RESOURCES- Join my 3-Day Abundance Challenge and get step-by-step coaching to manifest financial, spiritual, and relational abundance. Sign up now at danetteabundance.comCONNECT WITH DANETTEInstagram: @thedanettemayFacebook: Danette MayTikTok: @thedanettemayNEW TV Show on Youtube: @TheDanetteMayListen to The Danette May ShowRead my book: danettemay.com/embraceabundancebookGet The Rise book: therisebook.comWork with Danette: danettemay.comIn this quick but powerful episode, I share how childhood trauma and abuse can program your subconscious mind to expect negative experiences, distrust good things, and stay stuck in patterns that feel familiar but painful. If you've ever felt like good things are unsafe, too good to be true, or “not meant for you,” this conversation will help you understand how trauma can shape your thoughts, beliefs, relationships, and self-worth.I also walk you through a simple NLP reframing technique to help you shift from victim mentality into survivor energy, change the way you speak about yourself, and begin rewiring limiting beliefs. This isn't about fake positivity or spiritual bypassing. It's about acknowledging what happened, taking your power back, and using your words, thoughts, and daily choices to create a new direction for your healing, confidence, and life.IN THIS EPISODE:(0:00) Welcome to the episode(2:10) How to join the free workshop(2:59) A powerful lesson on healing trauma patterns(3:08) Why good things can feel unsafe after trauma(4:30) How to reframe limiting beliefs with NLP(5:07) The power of your words and self-talk(6:09) Questions that help you break the victim cycle(7:08) Why healing is not spiritual bypassing(7:29) A real example of reframing a trauma belief(8:22) How to stop blaming and reclaim your power(09:10) Final reminder for your healing journey

Light runs one clock in your body. Food runs a completely different set of clocks — in our gut, our liver, our metabolism. And when those two signals misalign, we can negatively influence our health. This episode digs into meal timing through the lens of chrononutrition: the real science behind when we eat, what it does to the gut microbiome, and why a late-night dinner isn't just a calorie decision. Plus: what happens to your gut's rhythm after a disrupted week, and my own decades-long, still-imperfect evolution of meal timing and the pitfalls I mostly can now avoid!   LET'S TALK THE WALK! Join here for support, motivation and fun! Wellness While Walking Facebook page Walking to Wellness Together Facebook GROUP Wellness While Walking on Instagram Wellness While Walking on Threads Wellness While Walking on Twitter Wellness While Walking website for show notes and other information wellnesswhilewalking@gmail.com RESOURCES AND SOURCES (some links may be affiliate links) TIMING OF MEALS AND OUR HEALTH! The Power of When: Discover Your Chronotype – and Learn the Best Time to Eat Lunch, Ask for a Raise, Have Sex, Write a Novel, Take Your Meds, and More, Dr. Michael Breus Sleep Drink Breathe: Simple Daily Habits for Profound Long-Term Health, Dr. Michael Breus Chronotype Quiz What's Your Sleep Type? (alternative quiz) "8-hour time-restricted eating linked to a 91% higher risk of cardiovascular death," American Heart Association Newsroom, heart.org (interesting, but perhaps not a final determination of fasting for cardiac health) HOW TO RATE AND REVIEW WELLNESS WHILE WALKING How to Leave a Review on Apple Podcasts on Your iOS Device 1.   Open Apple Podcast App (purple app icon that says Podcasts). 2.   Go to the icons at the bottom of the screen and choose "search" 3.   Search for "Wellness While Walking" 4.   Click on the SHOW, not the episode. 5.   Scroll all the way down to "Ratings and Reviews" section 6.   Click on "Write a Review" (if you don't see that option, click on "See All" first) 7.   Then you will be able to rate the show on a five-star scale (5 is highest rating) and write a review! 8.   Thank you! I so appreciate this!   How to Leave a Review on Apple Podcasts on a Computer  1.   Visit Wellness While Walking page on Apple Podcasts in your web browser (search for Apple Podcasts or click here)  https://www.apple.com/apple-podcasts/ 2.   Click on "Listen on Apple Podcasts" or "Open the App" 3.   This will open Apple Podcasts and put in search bar at top left "Wellness While Walking" 4.   This should bring you to the show, not a particular episode – click on the show's artwork 5.   Scroll down until you see "Rating and Reviews" 6.   Click on "See All" all the way to the right, near the Ratings and Review Section and its bar chart 7.   To leave a written review, please click on "Write a Review" 8.   You'll be able to leave a review, along with a title for it, plus you'll be able to rate the show on the 5-star scale (with 5 being the highest rating) 9.   Thank you so very much!! OTHER APPS WHERE RATINGS OR REVIEWS ARE POSSIBLE Spotify Goodpods Overcast (if you star certain episodes, or every one, that will help others find the show)  Castbox Podcast Addict Podchaser Podbean   HOW TO SHARE WELLNESS WHILE WALKING Tell a friend or family member about Wellness While Walking, maybe while you're walking together or lamenting not feeling 100% Follow up with a quick text with more info, as noted below! (My favorite is pod.link/walking because it works with all the apps!) Screenshot a favorite episode playing on your phone and share to social media or to a friend via text or email! Wellness While Walking on Apple – click the up arrow to share with a friend via text or email, or share to social media Wellness While Walking on Spotify -- click the up arrow to share with a friend via text or email, or share to social media Use this universal link for any podcast app: pod.link/walking – give it to friends or share on social media Tell your pal about the Wellness While Walking website Thanks for listening and now for sharing! : )       DISCLAIMER Neither I nor many of my podcast guests are doctors or healthcare professionals of any kind, and nothing on this podcast or associated content should be considered medical advice. The information provided by Wellness While Walking Podcast and associated material, by Whole Life Workshop and by Bermuda Road Wellness LLC is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or treatment, and before undertaking a new health care regimen, including walking.     Thanks for listening to Wellness While Walking, a walking podcast and a "best podcast for walking"!

Father's Day may be behind us, but many mothers are still carrying fears about the future of their children. Will the painful patterns of the past repeat themselves? Are children with absent fathers destined to follow the same destructive paths?In this episode, we look to Ezekiel 18 and discover the powerful truth that even though generational sin patterns may be real, they are not binding chains for those who walk with God. Through Scripture, practical encouragement, and biblical examples, this episode reminds moms that their children are not doomed by the sins of the fathers. In Christ, God writes new stories, restores sinful legacies, and offers true freedom.If you are raising children while carrying the weight of painful family history, this conversation will encourage you to parent from faith instead of fear and to trust God with the future of your family.Takeaways:Generational patterns are real, but they are not stronger than God's redemptionYour children are not defined by the sins of the fathersMoms can intentionally build a new spiritual legacy of trust in GodFreedom begins when we replace lies with truth and walk in forgivenessConnect:To connect with Perspective Ministries and learn more about resources for widows, single mothers, and fatherless children, visit Perspective Ministries

Listen and subscribe to Money Making Conversations on iHeartRadio, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, www.moneymakingconversations.com/subscribe/ or wherever you listen to podcasts. New Money Making Conversations episodes drop daily. I want to alert you, so you don’t miss out on expert analysis and insider perspectives from my guests who provide tips that can help you uplift the community, improve your financial planning, motivation, or advice on how to be a successful entrepreneur. Keep winning! Two-time Emmy and Three-time NAACP Image Award-winning, television Executive Producer Rushion McDonald interviewed Anne Lester.

Listen and subscribe to Money Making Conversations on iHeartRadio, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, www.moneymakingconversations.com/subscribe/ or wherever you listen to podcasts. New Money Making Conversations episodes drop daily. I want to alert you, so you don’t miss out on expert analysis and insider perspectives from my guests who provide tips that can help you uplift the community, improve your financial planning, motivation, or advice on how to be a successful entrepreneur. Keep winning! Two-time Emmy and Three-time NAACP Image Award-winning, television Executive Producer Rushion McDonald interviewed Anne Lester.

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Send Us A Question You Want ON AIR!In this episode of She Cultivates Podcast, I'm joined by a licensed mental health counselor, Dr. Shainna, for a powerful conversation about self-love, self-sabotage, and the hidden beliefs that often keep us stuck. We dive into what healthy self-love actually looks like beyond bubble baths and self-care trends, and how self-sabotaging behaviors can quietly impact our relationships, confidence, goals, and personal growth.Whether you've struggled with people-pleasing, perfectionism, negative self-talk, fear of failure, or feeling like you're constantly getting in your own way, this conversation will help you better understand the patterns behind those behaviors and how to begin breaking free from them.In this episode, we discuss:• What self-love truly means and what it looks like in everyday life• Common ways self-sabotage shows up in women's lives• How past experiences and limiting beliefs impact our choices• The difference between self-protection and self-sabotage• Why setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable or guilt-inducing• How to identify unhealthy patterns and begin changing them• How to show yourself compassion while doing the work of healingThis episode is a reminder that self-love isn't about perfection, it's about learning to trust yourself, honor your needs, and choose growth even when it's uncomfortable.If you've ever felt stuck between who you are and who you want to become, this conversation is for you.Connect with Dr. Shainnahttps://www.instagram.com/drshainna/https://theselfloveworkbook.com/?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQPOTM2NjE5NzQzMzkyNDU5AAGniuM4MjR7abwwg3HGsQ_u2-gtu19qB4F7sgEhqT63W52eXXln82mUHqfn6-M_aem_84PGsSI9LpWgYAlJtM8NhwSave 15% off your Skin Deep Connect Cards using link below https://shop.theskindeep.com/SHECULTIVATESORLWould love to hear from you! Leave a voicemail, ask a question, or share your story to be a part of the conversation. https://www.speakpipe.com/SheCultivatesPodcastSchedule your Call for 1X1 Community Event Coaching https://www.shecultivatesorl.com/service-page/community-strategy-intensive?utm_medium=page_links Buy Your Community Driven Event Guidehttps://www.shecultivatesorl.com/product-page/community-driven-event-guideBuy She Cultivates Merchhttps://www.shecultivatesorl.com/product-page/merchSupport the podcasthttps://www.buzzsprout.com/1132322/supportFollow me on Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/elizabethsabby/For questions, comments or collaborations please email: shecultivatespod@gmail.com Support the showSupport the podcasthttps://www.buzzsprout.com/1132322/supportSubscribe to She Cultivates podcast and leave a review. Follow me on Instagram  https://www.instagram.com/elizabethsabby/For questions, comments or collaborations please email: shecultivatespod@gmail.com 

What if the problem you think you have isn't actually the problem at all — and the rules you've been living by were never designed for you in the first place? What if your people-pleasing, your overachieving, and your drive to prove yourself are all symptoms of something much deeper?In this episode, Kathryn sits down with Mikaela Gaffenstone — lifelong nomad, behavior analyst, master nutrition coach, witch, and professional life untangler — to explore the hidden patterns keeping high-achieving women stuck. From the trauma roots of people-pleasing and the manipulation hidden inside pain-point marketing, to why niching down may be working against your multifaceted nature, this conversation goes deep. Mikaela shares how behavior analysis, human design, and a healthy dose of humor can help you stop proving yourself to ghosts from your past — and start building a life and business that's actually, authentically yours.BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING TO THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL DISCOVER:● Why the problem clients bring to coaches — whether it's time management, more clients, or a better funnel — is almost always a symptom masking the real issue underneath, and how untangling the stories beneath the surface is what actually creates lasting change.● How people-pleasing is deeply wired into high-achieving women from childhood and shows up as degrees, helper identities, and relentless busyness — all while leaving the woman herself completely depleted and, often, profoundly lonely.● Why pain-point marketing works against long-term motivation because the further someone gets from their pain, the more their drive evaporates — and what needs to replace it so momentum doesn't collapse at the midpoint.● How embracing your multifaceted, multi-passionate nature rather than niching yourself into a box is not just more authentic but more effective — especially for Geminis, manifesting generators, and anyone who has ever been told they are simply too much.And while you're here, follow us on Instagram @creativelyowned for more daily inspiration on effortlessly attracting the most aligned clients without spending hours marketing your business or chasing clients. Also, make sure to tag me in your stories @creativelyowned.https://www.instagram.com/creativelyowned/Start using Wispr Flow, the crazy handy voice-to-text AI that turns speech into clear, polished writing in every app. Click here.https://ref.wisprflow.ai/kathryn-thompsonGet Blotato, the content engine I use that combines 8-apps-in-1 to streamline content creation across multiple platforms. Click here.https://blotato.com/?ref=kathrynFind out how to own your unique edge, amplify who you truly are and get paid for it, take your business to cosmic proportions, and have fun doing it, grab it here!!https://www.creativelyowned.com/quizBuild your own quiz using Interact Quizzes, click here.https://get.tryinteract.com/n6e4h5axrophJoin The Selling the Invisible AI Lab, a curated membership for founders who want to discover how to use AI in their business.https://creativelyowned.com/ai-lab

Keith Weinhold explores why your greatest investment might actually be in yourself.  He's joined by Daniel Thomas Hind, an elite executive coach and former COO who works privately with seven- and eight-figure entrepreneurs and real estate investors to rebuild their health, sharpen their thinking, and strengthen their leadership.  He shares success stories, including Terry Kerr's transformation, and encourages listeners to apply for his private coaching to achieve uncommon results. Together they unpack how high achievers slip into burnout, sacrifice their well-being and relationships, and unintentionally create company cultures shaped by their own unresolved habits. Episode Page: GetRichEducation.com/611 For access to properties or free help with a GRE Investment Coach, start here: GREmarketplace.com GRE Free Investment Coaching: GREinvestmentcoach.com Get mortgage loans for investment property: RidgeLendingGroup.com or call 855-74-RIDGE  or e-mail: info@RidgeLendingGroup.com Invest with Freedom Family Investments.  For predictable 10-12% quarterly returns, visit FreedomFamilyInvestments.com/GRE or text  FAMILY to 66866  Unlock truly passive real estate income—visit flockhomes.com/GRE today to see if your properties qualify for a 721 exchange with Flock Homes. To get in the best physical, mental, and professional shape of your life, go to DanielThomasHind.com and apply for Daniel's intensive 1-on-1 coaching for burnt-out entrepreneurs and executives. Will you please leave a review for the show? I'd be grateful. Search "how to leave an Apple Podcasts review"  For advertising inquiries, visit: GetRichEducation.com/ad Best Financial Education: GetRichEducation.com Get our wealth-building newsletter free— GREletter.com  Our YouTube Channel: www.youtube.com/c/GetRichEducation Follow us on Instagram: @getricheducation Complete episode transcript:   Keith Weinhold  0:01   Welcome to GRE. I'm your host, Keith Weinhold. On this investing show, it's been a long time since we've discussed investing in yourself. We do that today with an amazing guest on Get Rich Education.   Keith Weinhold  0:15   Since 2014 the powerful Get Rich Education podcast has created more passive income for people than nearly any other show in the world. This show teaches you how to earn strong returns from passive real estate investing in the best markets without losing your time being the flipper or landlord. Show host Keith Weinhold writes for both Forbes and Rich Dad Advisors and delivers a new show every week. Since 2014 there's been millions of listener downloads in 188 world nations. He has a list show guests and key top selling personal finance author Robert Kiyosaki. Get rich education can be heard on every podcast platform, plus it has its own dedicated Apple and Android listener phone apps. Build wealth on the go with the Get Rich Education podcast. Sign up now for the Get Rich Education Podcast, or visit getricheducation.com    Keith Weinhold  1:04   You know, Mid South Home Buyers, that top Memphis turnkey provider. I learned that a secret weapon behind their explosive growth is more than just you buying their properties, it's an executive coach. For nine years now, their CEO, Terry Kerr, and his COO, Pat Nix have worked privately with a coach who I've now learned from too, and he doesn't market himself online anywhere. After 12 years behind the scenes, that coach is now making himself available exclusively for GRE listeners. His name is Daniel Thomas Hind. If you're a hard-charging business owner or investor who wants to get in the best shape of your life, physically, mentally, and professionally. You can fill out an application for a free consult. This is private one on one coaching for those willing to go to uncommon lengths to achieve uncommon results. Thanks to Daniel, we've all become better leaders, better operators and better men. It started by showing up for ourselves. Now it's your turn. Go to Daniel Thomas hind.com H I N D, that's Daniel Thomas hind.com and sign up before Spotsville Flock Homes helps multifamily owners exit the operator grind, whether it's your six plex or a 50 unit apartment, through a 721 exchange. This defers your capital gains tax. It's a strategy long used by institutions. Now you can swap tenants and toilets for passive income and zero management. Request your initial valuations. See if your property qualifies at flcokhomes.com/gre that's F L O C K homes.com/G R E.   Speaker 1  2:50   You're listening to the show that has created more financial freedom than nearly any show in the world. This is Get Rich Education.   Keith Weinhold  3:06   Welcome to GRE from Rome, New York to Rome, Oregon, and across 188 nations worldwide. I'm Keith Weinholder. You're listening to Get Rich Education. Your hardest opponent out there is rarely the market, the economy, your boss, or even your schedule, your opponent is the part of you that knows what to do and still hesitates to do it. You are your own biggest obstacle, and deep down you know it. I know this about myself too. We all keep sort of choosing familiar frustration over unfamiliar progress, a personal stay in the same bad routine, same underperforming relationship, same cluttered inbox, same poor money habit, or same low energy pattern, not because you love it, but because it's predictable and it's safe. Growth, though, requires a new identity. Staying stuck only requires repetition, and we all know how to do that already. You delay asking for the sale, or you delay asking the attractive woman out, and you justify that by telling yourself, oh, you're still refining the strategy, but deep down you know that the real issue is discomfort. We're talking about the skills that build yourself today, perhaps somewhat like we did in two episodes with Chris Voss. When you learned how to be a good negotiator, one thing I've learned from today's guest is about culture. Culture is governed by what you tolerate at your company. Do you have a policy? Where you've got to reply to an email within 24 hours. Well, if you start tolerating 48 hour replies, you've tolerated less, and that becomes the new culture. And it also shows that you're going to let other policies slide too. If you let this one slide, do you expect your property manager to physically inspect your unit every six to 12 months, that's something I kind of like. Well, then don't tolerate anything less than that. And parenting is all about tolerance. I'm going to ask our guest about that. I'm also going to ask, how would you even know when you're burnt out at work? What are the hard signs to look for. How would you even know? Another thing that I want to ask about is how he discusses that you are the way that you are because of the shape that you took when you were under pressure. But I want to start by talking about health, and then transitioning. Today's guest talks in a way where you know, at least once today, I'm pretty sure you're going to say to yourself, gosh, it sounds like he's talking about me. It's been the most interesting thing.    Keith Weinhold  6:16   Earlier this year, I learned that a lot of top business owners, including some that you've heard here on the show, have had their life transformed, including pretty explosive growth in their business from working with an executive coach. And then I learned from them all, oh, it's the same guy, it's the same coach. I discovered that he's helping a lot of hard-charging business owners and investors basically get in the best shape of their life, physically, mentally, professionally. He's been especially good with types that burn out. He's also the founder of something called The Apprenticeship, where he helps corporate professionals become pro coaches. In a former life, he was a COO who helped grow a fast-scaling company tenfold, and today he's a marathon runner. He's also a literary novelist working on his second book, and since I met him in person in California recently, I've learned from him too. So I'm pleased to announce that we have this sort of secret weapon behind so many people on the show today. Welcome to GRE, Daniel Thomas Hind,   David Thomas Hind  7:22   Keith. Thank you. That's one heck of an introduction. Hi, I'm gonna have to save that and bring it with me. That's very kind of you to say, and it's a pleasure to be here.   Keith Weinhold  7:31   Oh, you're like, gosh, I can't possibly live up to that now. For those in the audio, only Hind is spelled H I N D, you know, Daniel, I'm happy to have you, because I know, and I've learned that you just really don't market yourself much, frankly, because you don't have to. You just sort of get these organic referrals from people that you already coach, but you do have a website, and it's just uncanny how, when I visited your site, people are doing video testimonials, and I'm like, oh, I know that person, and I know that person, but these people hadn't told me about you for so long, and Daniel, I think when it comes to making the best version of ourselves, or at least moving that way, we talk about wealth building on this show an awful lot, but that has quite an intersection with health.   David Thomas Hind  8:19   Yeah, it does, so my philosophy is first and foremost that health is wealth, right? It's a cliche, but so often hard-charging executive types, whether those are business owners or members of a leadership team, founders, or investors, so often these types of folks, because they're so passionate, they're so driven by the thing that they're working on, that they're building, that they'll often let other things in their life go, and sometimes it's just a season, but often, more often than not, at least with the people that I work with, and see that season turns into many seasons, turns into years, turns into a pattern, right? And it becomes this pattern, this ingrained way of being that, unless gone unchecked, can really cause problems in the long run, and so a lot of people don't exactly know what executive coaching is, and it can mean many different things for many different people. For me, it really is the intersection of your physical well-being, which, of course, includes your diet, your fitness, your nervous system, the health of your nervous system, your sleep quality, it has to do with the way that you organize and structure your days, right? So many of us just enter into a default way of doing life, and we don't. Creatures of habit,   Keith Weinhold  9:55   Yeah   David Thomas Hind  9:56   We're creatures of habit, and for successful people, those habits have helped us succeed and get to where we are, but because of that, we often don't stop and think, well, is this actually serving me anymore, or has some of these habits that used to be healthy and good for me, have they kind of metastasized into something not so healthy, maybe even dangerous or destructive, and then for these sort of people who I'm working with, right, many of them are at the top of organizations, and so these habits, these ingrained ways of being, might seep out and filter out into the company culture, into how we interact with people below us, right, and so my work is an intersection of personal health, personal development, business health, business development company culture, and so we're looking at the leader, the founder, how he shows up for himself in life, how he shows up for others, and how that defines the world around him, that he is usually, or she doesn't have to be, he, he, or she is usually at the center of, right, and so it's quite profound, because I get to be as intimately involved with people I really respect, people who have accomplished so much and who hold themselves to such high standards, and still want more, still know that there's better, still know that there's so much of themselves that they can improve upon, right? So I get a really meaty, holistic, complete inside look of these people's lives and their businesses, and so I get to work in like many businesses at once with incredible people. I'm very blessed and very lucky.   Keith Weinhold  11:37   Well, when it comes to one not having their health, I know a lot of times you told me about how you have a quote successful person, but they're successful in business, not their health. I think a lot of it comes down to one's mental conditioning, even from when they were substantially younger, shaping our worldview. I think a lot of people are programmed with this, I'm supposed to be X, I'm supposed to get this degree within 10 years. I'm supposed to be executive level with a corner office, and I'm supposed to have an eight figure net worth by that age. You know, not that all of these are bad things individually. In fact, it could be a reflection that you're contributing to society, but you know, it's sort of, are you overweighted toward professional accomplishments? Is this program supposed to stuff that you got from somewhere, the stuff that's making you unbalanced and ultimately unfulfilled. So, really, it's the success in one area comes at the expense of what? That's how I think about it. And I know you have a number of stories of helping people with just this,   David Thomas Hind  12:40   I do. And so, let me first comment on the pattern that you're describing, and then I'll, yeah, that I think the best way to really talk about is to show what that looks like in an actual example, so it's it's this shape you took under pressure concept is is a concept that I talk about with all of my clients, so every successful entrepreneur that I know has developed a specific psychological structure that they've adopted to help them survive in the early years, right, when it was just them, or maybe them and their partner, and they were going for it, they were relentless, they were acting with an insane sense of urgency, an inability to sit still. Everything felt at risk, and they really had to sacrifice basically everything else to make this thing happen. It's not the case of everybody, but most people that I know who have accomplished a lot, that they share a similar origin story, and it was like go all in for five years, forget everything else, kind of thing.    Keith Weinhold  13:39   Exactly.   David Thomas Hind  13:40   It looks like some version of that, and so for the ones who succeed and make it through that phase, that's incredible, but you know the cliche is what got you here won't get you there. It's like when by operating that way you have adopted specific ways of being, psychological patterns, ways of relating to other people, beliefs about yourself, and beliefs about, like, how unreliable other people can be, and it can really turn into a dangerous operating system when you have to start building a team and training that team and relying on that team, and then creating a shared team culture, right, a company culture, it's not just like silly exercises that you put like on the wall, like these are our values, doing like trust falls backwards, like a culture is the behaviors that you take on, and like the uniform that you put on that everybody on the team has bought into, right, and so unfortunately, most cultures are shaped by the leadership team's worst qualities, because those qualities are the things that, like, we don't hold together, right? Like, if it's this person who lashes out because somebody doesn't get it, a media. The perfect example of somebody who really has embodied all parts of the coaching, from health to your inner psychology and mindset, and how that impacts your business health and your team and the corporate culture, is my client Terry Kerr. He is the founder of Mid South Home Buyers, and I know that Terry's been a guest on this show a number of times. What an incredible person. I've had the pleasure of working with Terry for close to 10 years now, and I've been working with his COO for close to eight years as well. So, I've gotten a real inside look at that team, and Terry, when he came to me, had let go of parts of himself that he had always held sacred, which was his health and his wellness. Long story short, we started working together. I helped him redesign the way that his life was constructed, pretty much no surprise, everything about his day was oriented towards business, from the second that he woke up to the second that he went to bed. So we really re-architected, we put a lot of intentionality into re-architecting the flow of his day, so that he can make sure that he's prioritizing other parts of himself and his family, his personal health, etc.    David Thomas Hind  13:40   Over time, he lost, I think, that first year he lost something like 60 pounds. He took on meditation as a practice. He started exercising daily, and Terry was a skateboarder growing up, so he was always, yeah, he was big into fitness and in his own ways, and just had let it go for the sake of the company, because for years it was just him building this thing, and most people would say, "Wow, I've done it, like I'm successful, I overcame these things that were weighing me down, and we're done here, but Terry was so opened up by the experience that he wanted to keep going, and he didn't even know what that meant, but over time he's invited me into the way that he operates. Period. As a leader, making decisions for his business, how does he interact with his employees, with his leadership team, so I've effectively become like the inside man, basically become like an AI, but a person who you can run decision making through, right? So, as to check those parts, those impulses, those impulsive parts of ourselves that just like want to do something, I've become like a check for him, so we're communicating on a daily basis. What are the most important things that we need to accomplish today? Are we making sure that you're spending time with your family? Are we making sure that you're getting your exercise in? Is your assistant organizing your food and dinners and everything else for you? Where are you going out to restaurants?   David Thomas Hind  17:59   Right, it's that level of intentionality of being part of almost every decision that over time, like at first we have to put a lot of attention into, because we're building new habits and we're breaking old ones, but over time these become ingrained and then we can start to take on new projects, new habits and routines and ways of being that we want to basically program, and so over these past 10 years, the company has absolutely exploded, and I'm not going to say that it's because of me, but I am going to say it's because Terry has taken on personal growth and growth in general as a vocation, and not allowing his own stops and blocks get in the way of the company going where it needs to go, and so over that time they've really changed the leadership structure. They've let a lot of people who weren't cultural fits go. They have assembled an entire leadership team now below the owners who have a lot more responsibility, whereas everything used to just go right up to the owners, and, and they were pretty much deciding on everything. So we really created a structure, a culture. We've let people go who no longer fit. We brought new people in who do, and you know, I will say that it's a direct result of that level of intentionality and specificity that Terry brings to his day every day, and Terry has given me his blessing to talk about him, or else I would never reveal so much of a person's inner life and inner work like that. But it's just his story is such an inspiring one for me, and that is so cool to get to share with others.   Keith Weinhold  19:38   I'm glad that you checked with Terry, because as you're talking about this I'm thinking I better talk to Terry after this and ask him if this is okay, but it's been said that culture, including company culture, is not what you say or what you do, it's what you tolerate.   David Thomas Hind  19:54   Yeah, well, that's what we said before, is that most found. Treat culture as like an HR exercise, right. Meanwhile, the actual culture of the company is it's shaped by the leader's worst qualities, and so a lot of investors listening to this show probably have teams, whether it's property managers or assistants, contractors, partners, and your team's culture is a mirror of the parts of yourself that you haven't dealt with yet, right. And so it's really your responsibility to fix that. That is the job of the leader. You are at the top, everybody's looking at you. It's not a job for everybody. Most people would prefer not to have that level of attention, and even if you think that you want that level of attention, your true self, the part that wants to just like leave me alone and let me do my work, that part of you, to call it the child, call it the baser self, whatever you want to call it, doesn't want that attention, because it requires constant reinvention, constant opening yourself up to take this on, so yeah, your team's culture is a mirror of the parts of yourself that you haven't dealt with yet. If you fix the leader, you're going to fix the culture, and Mid South Home Buyers is a perfect example of that.   Keith Weinhold  21:18   Yes, this concept about the shape that you take under pressure,   David Thomas Hind  21:23   you don't know how to give yourself relief. So, here's another case in point. Like, this seems like such a simple fix, but you'd be surprised, because this is representative of a number of people that I work with. Like, Terry hadn't given himself an actual vacation in decades, so   Keith Weinhold  21:41   gosh,   David Thomas Hind  21:42   just taking a week or taking two weeks to go to Europe, which he and his wife do every year now.   Keith Weinhold  21:49   Yeah, I know they went to France not long ago.   David Thomas Hind  21:51   Yeah, that's representative of a maturation of the person who can trust that the team can take care of things, who can trust that the business isn't going to fall apart because he's not there at the center of it. You know, we form addictions with just being involved, having to read every email, making sure that we're involved in every conversation. Again, that's a sort of ingrained habit that you learn from the beginning, because it was just you. You did have to be involved in every conversation, if you weren't there, would be no thing to exist. There would be no business, right? But some people might not have a problem with this. I don't know those people. Most people I do know have a real problem with letting go, with changing, with maturing with the company as it demands, so that you're not just bleeding yourself dry day in and day out, right. So, physical burnout, cognitive decline, relationship decline, or let's call it numbing, leadership erosion, right? If you don't check these parts of yourself, all this stuff that you've worked so hard to build, this incredible life that you have assembled, and your accomplishments, they start to whittle away, so that level of identity crisis is on the table if you don't check these parts of yourself, and so I don't want to sound like doom and gloom, but I am describing the costs of success. These are actually typical for people who get to the very top, and the thing is that there aren't a lot of people at the very top, so you don't really want to talk about it. It sounds ungrateful, or term I like to call champagne problems, right? Like, oh, look at the multimillionaire be upset because he has to work so much, right? It's like nobody really is going to have sympathy for that, so you're not going to parade that around, but you know these people are people too, and everybody needs outlets, and everybody needs to express themselves, and everybody can change the way that life is, so again, that's where I come in.   Keith Weinhold  23:49   Yes, at some point a leader has got to back off and tell themselves if it gets done 95% of the way that I would have gotten it done, but it doesn't take any of my time, that could very well be a win, and then they're probably not going to be deemed as wearing the micromanagement hat all the time either. 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I learned about an executive coach that's behind the success for a number of guests that we've had here on the show. It's just been uncanny at how he's transformed others' lives. And since meeting him in person earlier this year, I've now learned from him too. And you know, Daniel, one of the things I learned about that I didn't know before is some people can get burnt out so bad that not only is it messing with their physical health and it's derailing their relationships, but burnout can actually create cognitive decline and more problems. So, first of all, How can one identify when they've reached the burnout point? How will they know? Yeah,   David Thomas Hind  27:00   that's a great question. Obviously, it doesn't come in a one size fits all, but it usually follows this sort of pattern, right? Let's say you've got the portfolio, you've got the cash flow, you've got things are working on paper, you should be happy, right? On paper, you are living some version of the dream that you told yourself 510 15 years ago. However, it doesn't feel that way. You feel worse than you did ever before, or at least within the past recent memory.   Keith Weinhold  27:35   Yeah, that's amazing.   David Thomas Hind  27:36   So that's the place to start looking. Look, everybody has seasons of just, you gotta go through it, something happens, you need to work really hard, you need to bust it, and that's fine. I'm not talking about direct tiredness or exhaustion. What I'm talking about is more of like an existential.. what's like, why is this not feeling the way I hoped it would? Right, I sacrificed everything for this, for xyz, whatever xyz is, and I have xyz, but it feels so empty, or I just, I can't appreciate it, or I'm always on to the next thing. Yeah, and all of this I'm going to call is some version of burnout, because what that means is that you're not able to actually appreciate your life that you've worked so hard for, and so for some it's like this never-ending fascination with the next, the future constant needing to build, and there's nothing wrong with that, but it comes from almost more of like an addictive place, like you're addicted to making things happen, you can never slow down, and underneath it all, there's actually no real joy or satisfaction. It's pure adrenaline, it's pure cortisol, and we like the cortisol bump when it's like, you know, we're feeling it, we're just going for it, we're getting it, but there is going to be a day where that flips upside down, and the exhaustion is almost impossible, because you don't know how to achieve satisfaction other than through sheer output. It's like a marathon runner who can never stop running, like literally never, right? You're just, you're running 20 hours a day, you can't get the high, unless you're crushing yourself, and so that's one form of burnout. Another form of burnout is just I don't have the juice anymore. It's actually experiencing the other side of your nervous system shutting down. It's your body can't produce the raw materials to have you primed and ready to go anymore, so whether that's a hormonal issue, whether that's a cortisol issue, whether you have heart problems, the body keeps the score. So a lot of people that I work with, we're going to have to do a lot of health optimization, working on their diet, their sleep patterns. Patterns, exercise, getting their hormones dialed in, micronutrients, maybe peptides. There's a lot of things that we need to do to rehabilitate the system, because they're just wrecked. When your nervous system is that mainlined for years, it wrecks you in a way that leaves you just totally empty, and it's not like, oh, you know, going on a vacation and getting extra sleep is going to fix this. No, this is like, you need months and months of targeted repair. It doesn't mean that you're completely useless, you can't be working, but what I am saying is you're going to need to reprioritize. Priority means number one, right? So, what are your priorities? As we've been discussing today, it's clear that the sort of person that I work with, and if this is at all resonating with you, the listener, the sort of person that you are, is somebody who is so focused on your mission, you do feel the sense of mission, you are so goal-oriented, and that's the best part of life, is you wake up every day and you know what you want and you're going for it, and I would never want to change that about anybody who has that, because I think we're all looking for that at the end of the day. That is the sweet spot of life. When you have found that thing and you're going for it, my job is never to make that wrong. My job is to actually support the human being who is operating on that level to make sure that they can stay on that level, right, so without doing that, the problem is that you actually lose the thing that you love the most, you lose the joy, you lose the energy for it. I mean, I've worked with people who are on the cusp of selling their business simply because the weight of having to wake up every day and go in and work with others and like, lead the ship.   David Thomas Hind  31:42   It just felt so overbearing, because no surprise, this person had gone 20 years without actually taking care of themselves. They were 60 pounds overweight, they were not sleeping, they were getting maybe five hours of sleep a night. You know, the culture has changed online over the past few years, which is a good thing, but a lot of people used to wear, you know, I don't sleep at all as like a badge of honor, right? Again, this person's marriage was on the ropes. They weren't spending time with their children. They'd become a shell of a person who were just who was miming their normal life. They was just, they were kind of pantomiming normal life. They were going through it, but they weren't really there. And the weights, think about it like this. When you're tired, when you get a bad night of sleep, like a really bad night of sleep, or maybe, God forbid, two nights of bad sleep in a row, every little thing that next day is grating, right? Yeah, the person who cuts you off, it just.. it's that much more annoying, right? That meeting that was supposed to happen, the person has to cancel, and it's like, oh my god, I just.. my whole day was centered around this. How, how selfish of them, right? Everything becomes that much more grating. So, imagine that times 10 years, 15 years, 20 years, right? The weight of everything feels so impossible that they can't hold it together anymore, and so I know a lot of people who have fantasized about selling their business, the thing that they, you know, which is like so paradoxical, because it's not, it's not that they need to sell it, it's not that that was actually even a goal, it's just that they can't imagine themselves having to do this any longer, and they, for whatever reason, they have blinded themselves from seeing that there's another way, it doesn't have to be this way, but it does take work, and that's a problem, because upstream of this, you ask me, what is a sign of burnout? A sign of burnout is saying, oh my god, I can't do anything about this, it's as hopeless, right? This is like a hopeless feeling, so it's not hopeless, and especially for somebody like that, for the sort of person that we're talking about, you're actually more resourced than most people on the planet to take this on,   Keith Weinhold  33:46   like they say, when you have health, you can want everything, when you don't have health, you only want one thing, and yeah, how people can be prevented from getting into that condition by avoiding burnout, some people have such an identity crisis that you know they don't know who they are outside the business, and they would kind of be terrified to find out, maybe that's another sign that you're burned out and you need some help, but you know finding life balances is sort of a tricky word, there are sort of supporters and detractors of the whole life balance school of thought too, but you know, Daniel, one thing I found interesting is, I asked you, how you ever got into coaching, and how you do this, and, like, you know, how you have the aptitude to even help a person go become a coach, and I know you told me that it sort of happened organically, you started helping out friends, and then it really grew into something where you help people professionally.   David Thomas Hind  34:43   Yeah, so health is clearly my primary focus. It has been for years, and I started as a health and wellness coach 1213 years ago. It wasn't something that I designed, I didn't say this is going to be the thing that I. Do with my life, it just sort of happened. I had always been very health conscious. Well, I have been since my 20s, I should say. I actually grew up a fat kid, so I have that ingrained in me, and I think that that shaped a lot of the person that I became later on, which is probably a story for another time. But since my early 20s, I've been very health focused, health conscious, and people took notice of that, and became part of my identity. And after graduating from college, a few years out, a lot of my friends went into Wall Street. They were working 18 hour days, literally sleeping at the office, and started reaching out for help. So I started making guides for them, and then I realized no, they actually need more personal attention, because there's an accountability factor. A lot of people know intellectually what to do, but it's the behavioral, it's the following through with it. It's yeah, but it's 10pm and I'm exhausted, and I have three more hours to go to get this project done, and all I want to do is like shove junk food in my mouth, right? It's those moments where your intellect completely goes away, and that primal overdrive takes over. So I started shaping myself into somebody who became extremely available for my clients, where I really thought of myself as a partner in their daily experience, and part of my role is to give them the information, but most of the time these people are actually the experts of their own lives, so like I couldn't tell a surgeon how to do his work or her work, right? And that's not my role, but my role can be to be a partner in their life experience, to make sure that they're following through with their intentions.    David Thomas Hind  36:38   These people hold themselves to very high standards. Are you following through with that? How are we making your goals achievable on a daily basis? So, let's think about the long term, the medium term, the week term, and then the daily term, right? What are the rocks that we're moving this month, this week, today, actually being able to share all these things? Right, talking about the hard things, this thing happened at work when it came to food and health coaching, like, you know, I just want to go and blow off steam and go to the club tonight, or go drinking with my friends, or whatever, and you know, having somebody to actually talk that through with, to make sure that, yeah, but how is that going to impact tomorrow, and this other thing that you said you wanted to accomplish, right? So, as a young man I had no training going into any of this other than my own fascination with health, my own health transformation and journey in my early 20s, but this call it menage of personal growth, routine building, habit building, psychological construct of why do we know better but do the opposite, why do we do things that are wrong for us, right? And then, how do we check that part of us and build new patterns? So, as I grew in my entrepreneurial journey, and as an operator, I started to incorporate what I was learning in the work with my clients, and I started to choose clients who were growth-oriented and who tended to be entrepreneurs and people who were building things or what then turned into members of leadership teams, etc. etc. etc. And yeah, it's been this symbiotic journey of my personal growth informs the work that I do with my clients and vice versa. And then, of course, over time I got more formal training and have never stopped trying to become better, so that I can really service my clients as well as possible.   David Thomas Hind  38:26   I mean, they put a lot of trust in this relationship, and from my side, I try to show up as the most powerful service provider they've ever experienced. I really think of myself as a partner, less of a coach, more of like a partner. I think of myself as like the COO of their life, I am extremely present for them. We're communicating throughout the day, through text, through voice memo. We do weekly calls.   David Thomas Hind  38:50   Yes, it was kind of funny, Daniel. I remember when I first asked, what your coaching style was like? Like, ask if you do a weekly email or a Zoom call with those people. Yeah, I quickly learned, oh no, it's not like that at all.    David Thomas Hind  39:02   No, we're in the trenches together. Anybody on the outside of your life wouldn't necessarily know that I'm there on your team, I'm on the phone behind the screen, but it's because I want this to be as private of an experience as possible. So, full confidentiality, this is very private. I become somebody that you can share the like scariest, worst, most vulnerable parts of yourself, not judge you and help you turn those into strengths. I feel like I said, we're game planning just about every day together, and really, I give as much energy as you're gonna give, so somebody who is resistant to this sort of work, you're not going to get a lot out of it. I can't force anything, because it's not like I'm in the room with you, right? We are communicating digitally, but I do try to make myself as present in your life as possible, because a lot of people at the top don't have a lot of people. That they trust, you know, they're always providing for other people, they don't provide for themselves as much, they let themselves go. So to have somebody who's giving that back to them can be very, very, very, very, very life affirming and life giving. And yeah, I feel like I have the best job in the world that really nobody knows about, that I couldn't have possibly constructed or imagined for myself either. And it's like a very unique thing in the world, and I'm just so, so grateful that I, that I can do it.   Keith Weinhold  40:25   It is, it gets so personal. Yes, you're frequently texting and messaging people, and yeah, I mean, you must know a lot of information before that client's spouse even does in a lot of cases. Yeah, what an unusual and interesting thing to be doing. Well, Daniel, I hope it's not an imposition, but if you're still open to it, I know you mentioned before that you know that we haven't known each other all that long, but just based on our mutual friends that you would potentially offer private one on one coaching to GRE listeners, so if you're still open to that, tell us about it and what it takes to apply to work with you.   David Thomas Hind  41:00   Yeah, I appreciate that, and I do have spots available, so if anybody, thank you, listening today thought, wow, the way that he's speaking about his clients is how I feel about myself, right? Anything that I said, then I'd say you're a good candidate. So the best way to get in touch with me is just to go to my website, it's my full name, Daniel Thomas Hind, h i n d.com and you can fill out an application, and if you're a good fit, we'll get on a call, it's a free consultation, and on that call we talk about you, we talk about you, and I'm going to find out what it is that you actually want, what it is that's getting in the way, and how I might be able to serve, and that's the only way that we can work together. There's one offering, it's private one on one coaching, and it is an uncommon way to get extraordinary results. So I'm looking for people who believe that there's more, and if you lead with that, then you're gonna, you're gonna get what you want. So, yeah. For anybody who that resonates with, I would love to talk to you.   Keith Weinhold  42:10   Well, Daniel, this has been terrific. I think you said at least one thing that resonates with a lot of people, where they thought, oh my gosh, I can see myself with what he is describing right now, because we all have this gap between who we are and who we could be, the gap in the gain. If this is potentially of interest to you, yes. Thanks, Daniel. You can visit danielthomashind.com That's been great having you here on the show.   David Thomas Hind  42:36   Thanks, Keith. It's been a real pleasure, and it's been a pleasure getting to know you as well. So, more to come.    Keith Weinhold  42:47   The ideal person that Daniel helps is someone named Pierre. Pierre is between the ages of 38 and 50. He's either a tech founder, agency owner, online business owner, real estate investor, or some other flavor of entrepreneur who has built a business doing 500k to 5 million plus a year and is taking home around 350k or more than that, and by every measure that other people use to judge a life, Pierre has won, and he knows it, that's part of what makes this so confusing for him, because Pierre's pain points are physical burnout, which Daniel and I talked about, cognitive decline from the burnout, and before I met Daniel, I didn't even know that burnout could cause cognitive decline, leadership erosion, a marriage on autopilot, where a marriage becomes just another thing that you're managing rather than living. Pierre's also got an identity crisis, and he's got success as the trap, because by every measure that other people use to judge a life, Pierre has won, and that's what makes a situation like this, so confusing, because see, he can't complain to anyone, since from the outside everything looks perfect. But here's what makes someone like Pierre coachable: he's a winner. He's always expected more of himself than anyone around him would dare to ask. He's someone who has never been satisfied with good enough, and he's always been willing to get uncomfortable to unlock the next level. He didn't build a multi million dollar business by accident. You build that by being relentless, being honest with yourself, and refusing to coast. And that same instinct is the reason that Pierre knows he needs coaching. He's not looking for someone to make him feel better about where he is. He's looking for someone to grab him by the shoulders and hoist him into the best version of himself that he knows is still in there. He wants a revamp, health, business, marriage, identity, creativity, purpose. The whole thing, he wants to feel like himself again, and he's willing to do whatever it takes to get there. Pierre's dream outcome is that 12 months from now, he is the healthiest, most creatively alive, highest agency version of himself that he's ever been. He runs the business on his terms, he has built or launched the thing that he's been sitting on for years. Maybe it's the new product, or maybe it's the book that he's always wanted to write. He's taking vacations with his family. He has a phone off policy from dinner time on, so that he's present and he knows who he is when he's not performing. In fact, there's very little performing because he's in flow and the magic is back, so Pierre really describes the journey. Big thanks to Daniel Thomas Hein.   Keith Weinhold  45:54    Today, so great to host him, considering that he rarely does public appearances like this. Next week, it'll be back to our core real estate content. Hey, and a thanks too to the amazing Terry Kerr, the founder of Mid South Homebuyers. He's such a giving guy that it's really no surprise that he would let his story be told for your benefit. So we got to talk about the part that you don't see here. What's behind a person as successful as a property provider to all these hundreds or 1000s of investors across the nation. If you think that performance coaching can help you, you can apply, but since it is highly personalized one on one coaching, he can only take a select few, but it's a rare opportunity. You can do so at Daniel Thomas hind.com and from there you can go on and talk about your favorite subject, which is talking about yourself with him. Until next week, I'm your host, Keith Weinold. Don't quit your daydream.   Speaker 1  46:58   Nothing. Nothing on this show should be considered specific personal or professional advice. Please consult an appropriate tax, legal, real estate, financial, or business professional for individualized advice. Opinions of guests are their own. Information is not guaranteed. All investment strategies have the potential for profit or loss. The host is operating on behalf of Get Rich Education LLC exclusively.    Keith Weinhold  47:24   The preceding program was brought to you by Your Home for Wealth Building, getricheducation.com

Have you ever felt like you've done all the things-read the books, hired the coach, gone to therapy and yet somehow you still find yourself stuck in the same patterns?In this powerful conversation, Holly sits down with neuro-somatic practitioner and Identity X expert Riana Malia to explore what happens when personal growth reaches a point where traditional mindset work isn't enough. Together, they unpack how subconscious programming, stored emotions, and outdated identities can quietly shape our decisions, relationships, and business success.If you've ever wondered why you keep repeating the same cycles despite your best efforts, this episode offers a fresh perspective (and practical tools) to help you create lasting change.Tune in to hear:00:00:03 – Why doing more work isn't always the solution when you're feeling stuck00:04:57 – Understanding the conscious mind vs. the subconscious mind and how old patterns continue to run the show00:09:08 – The surprising signs that stored emotions and outdated identities may be holding you back00:12:11 – The restaurant menu analogy: why clarity about what you actually want changes everything00:16:04 – How negative thought patterns shape your reality and what neuroscience says about rewiring them00:18:12 – Rihanna's simple 72-hour "Away vs. Toward" exercise for shifting your focus and state in real time00:23:07 – The frequency metaphor: how changing your internal channel changes what you experience00:26:11 – Why high-achieving women self-sabotage right before breakthroughs and how to stop the cycle00:32:14 – The "mental pantry cleanout" exercise for releasing old stories and creating new momentum00:37:09 – Books, Maui, rest, and the importance of creating space for yourself outside of work00:41:04 – Where to connect with Riana and take the E.L.L.I.E. assessment for deeper self-discoveryCONNECT WITH RIANA:Website: https://www.rianamalia.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rianamalia/What's Standing Between You And Extraordinary Love Quiz: https://quiz.rianamalia.com/ 

Send us Fan MailBill and Bryan continue their series on the hidden patterns that quietly cap sales performance. Building on last episode's conversation about "drift," they dig into two more limiting patterns: fear (and why naming it is the first step toward detachment) and the belief that bigger outcomes simply "aren't possible." Along the way, they tackle the either/or trap — the binary thinking that convinces salespeople they have to choose between income and time, ambition and family, more and enough — and make the case for replacing it with "and." Plus, a bizarre drone-rescue story that turns into a surprisingly useful metaphor.This episode also kicks off the celebration of ASP's 20th anniversary — Bill and Bryan want to hear from you. Send in an audio or video sharing what the podcast has meant to you for a chance to attend an exclusive live coaching celebration this September.The Insider program is open for enrollment. To check out our small learning group, go to http://advancedsellingpodcast.com/insiderIf you haven't already, join 14,000+ other sales professionals in our LinkedIn group at advancedsellingpodcast.com/linkedinIs it time to make a BOLD move in your business? If so, download our brand new book, "12 Bold Moves - Insider Secrets to Reinventing Yourself and Your Business." http://12boldmoves.com

Yup… we're doing it. In 2021 I sat across the table From Lewis Howes and his beautiful now-wife, Maria, listening to them gush over their then-new relationship… and how from Day One, therapy was a non-negotiable. Both individually and as a couple, they committed to working on themselves to give such a special union the best chance possible.I've never forgotten that.Fast forward to one year ago when I met Ryan, I immediately knew he was special. Our connection was special. And more than anything… it is a thing worth protecting and growing. Patterns are a real thing. And to be honest, I have more than a bag of destructive patterns…individually and relationally. I'm aware enough to know these days that if I don't continue to peel back the layers of healing, I will continue to repeat those patterns which have destroyed precious things historically.This podcast is about that. And it's about how over the last year Ryan and I have both committed to diving in head first.Relationships are mirrors… and sometimes those damn mirrors are hard to look into. But only by allowing the mirrors to be held up, can we become aware of our blind spots and ultimately (hopefully) evolve into two people who can hold a healthy relationship. :)This conversation touches on communication, self-awareness, people-pleasing, vulnerability, and the courage it takes to be fully seen by another person. We explore how our past experiences still shape the way we show up today and why healthy relationships often reveal the parts of ourselves that still need attention.In this episode, we discuss:Why personal growth doesn't stop when you find the right relationshipThe relationship patterns we never want to repeatHow unspoken expectations can create distance and resentmentThe challenge of balancing ambition, family, friendships, and connectionWhat vulnerability actually looks like in a healthy relationshipThe fears and insecurities that still show up for both of usChoosing curiosity over defensiveness during difficult conversationsHow growth often begins where comfort endsMore than anything, this episode is a reminder that the strongest relationships aren't built by two perfect people. They're built by two people willing to keep learning, keep communicating, and keep choosing each other through every season of growth.Here are the key moments from the episode:00:00 What Happens When Old Patterns Return04:03 Why We're Finally Talking About Long Distance07:07 Redefining What “Failed” Relationships Really Mean10:23 Can the Honeymoon Phase Actually Last Forever?13:19 When Your Partner Notices Every Tiny Shift16:11 The Fear of Being Fully Seen18:06 When People-Pleasing Starts Stealing Your Peace21:56 The Pattern Heidi Refuses to Repeat26:16 Why We Chose Therapy Before Things Broke29:21 The Truth About High Expectations in Love33:36 When Independence Makes Partnership Harder36:52 Becoming the Average of the Right People37:43 Losing Yourself to Be Loved40:10 What Comes Next After the Therapy Intensive41:47 Why Therapy Is a Tool, Not a Last Resort43:31 Awareness Is Where Real Change BeginsConnect with Heidi:Website: https://heidipowell.net/Email: podcast@heidipowell.netInstagram: @realheidipowellFacebook: Heidi PowellYouTube: @RealHeidiPowellTrain with Heidi on her Show Up App: https://www.showupfit.app/

Welcome to the Strength Connection!Dr. Heidi Heron brings a rare blend of clinical psychology, coaching, neuroscience, and consciousness studies to conversations about how people change, grow, and create meaningful lives.A clinical psychologist, author, master coach, and internationally recognised trainer in Neuro-Linguistic Programming for more than 25 years, Heidi has been helping people understand how the mind works and how to change the patterns that shape their thoughts, emotions, and behaviour. She has trained thousands of coaches, therapists, and leaders around the world to create meaningful and lasting change in their own lives and in the lives of others.In this interview, Dr. Heidi shares her 25+ years of expertise in NLP and psychology, focusing on helping people find their authentic selves and overcome subconscious patterns. Discover how the mind works, the power of language, and practical tools to create lasting change.Check out more from Heidi at:https://www.heidiheron.com/https://www.instagram.com/dr.heidiheron/https://www.facebook.com/DrHeidiHeronChapters00:00 Introduction to Dr. Heidi Heron and NLP01:49 The Journey to Authenticity and Wholeness05:18 Understanding Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)08:02 The Language of the Subconscious Mind10:33 Patterns of Self-Perception and Identity12:31 The Autopilot of the Unconscious Mind18:26 Fear of Success vs. Fear of Failure20:47 Recognizing and Overcoming Limiting Beliefs27:30 Understanding Patterns and Emotional Responses30:53 Cultural Perspectives on Hustle and Success33:34 The Importance of Patience and Long-Term Thinking36:21 The Role of Fear and Love in Motivation48:36 Integrating Mind and Body for Holistic Growth

In this episode of Fishing the DMV, we head back to Buggs Island Reservoir, also known as Kerr Lake, for a full summer fishing report with Captain Zach from Threadfin Guide Services. If you are looking for the latest information on Buggs Island fishing, Kerr Lake fishing, Kerr Lake striper fishing, Buggs Island striped bass, Kerr Lake bass fishing, and summer patterns across the Virginia and North Carolina border, this episode is packed with valuable fishing insight.Captain Zach breaks down what is happening right now on Kerr Lake as the lake moves into its summer fishing patterns. We talk about current water conditions, water clarity, water temperature, lake levels, and how those factors are impacting the bite for striped bass, spotted bass, largemouth bass, walleye, white bass, and other species on Buggs Island.A major focus of this episode is Kerr Lake striper fishing and Buggs Island striped bass fishing. Zach explains how the shad spawn and herring spawn transition into the early summer striper pattern, why the fish are moving from nighttime topwater feeding into deeper schools, and how anglers can target them with deep water jigging, slab spoons, offshore-style jigs, braid-to-fluorocarbon setups, and vertical presentations. We discuss how stripers are being found in deep water, why staying directly over the school matters, and how fish can move quickly when feeding on bait.We also get into topwater striper fishing on Buggs Island and Kerr Lake, including the nighttime bite during the shad and herring spawn, fishing Cotton Cordell RedFins, and why calm, dark nights can create some of the best striper action of the year. Zach also previews the late summer and early fall topwater striper bite, when giant schools of striped bass can erupt on the surface and create some of the most exciting fishing anywhere in Virginia or North Carolina.This episode is not just about striper fishing. We also dive deep into Kerr Lake bass fishing, including summer bass fishing, spotted bass fishing, and largemouth bass fishing patterns. Zach explains how anglers can still catch bass shallow during the summer, especially around rock piles, brush piles, bluegill beds, willows, points, and baitfish activity. We talk about topwater bass fishing, big worm fishing, shallow rock piles, clear water sight-fishing opportunities, and why hot weather can be a great time to throw oversized soft plastics for largemouth bass.For anglers interested in spotted bass fishing, Zach breaks down why Buggs Island has become such an exciting spotted bass fishery. We discuss shallow topwater bites, offshore schools, points, deep water structure, and the possibility of truly giant spotted bass living in Kerr Lake. We also talk about how spotted bass, largemouth bass, and striped bass can all relate to blueback herring, threadfin shad, rock, brush, and offshore structure during the summer.Captain Zach also shares his thoughts on the changing fish populations in Buggs Island Reservoir, including the decline of white bass fishing, the increase in walleye catches, and what he is seeing while guiding across the lake. We discuss Kerr Lake walleye, white bass, catfish, carp, fly fishing opportunities, and how Threadfin Guide Services targets multiple species throughout the year across Virginia fishing and North Carolina fishing destinations.If you fish Buggs Island, Kerr Lake, Lake Gaston, southern Virginia, northern North Carolina, or any large reservoir with striped bass, largemouth bass, spotted bass, herring, shad, and offshore structure, this episode will help you better understand summer fishing patterns and how to adjust your approach.Please support Fishing the DMV on Patreon!!! https://patreon.com/FishingtheDMVPodcast If you are interested in being on the show or a sponsorship opportunity, please reach out to me at fishingtheDMV@gmail.com Threadfin Guide Service website: https://www.threadfinguide.com/about Threadfin Guide Service on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/threadfinguideservice/?hl=en Book a guide trip right here: https://anycreek.com/threadfinguideserviceLMD Enterprises: http://lmdoil.com/ Jake's bait & Tackle Website: http://www.jakesbaitandtackle.com/  Link to Tactical Fishing Company: https://tacticalfishingco.com/  Fishing Pro Tech: https://www.facebook.com/FishingProTech  Phone Number: (757) 566-1278 Email: lin@fishingprotech.us Fishing Pro Tech Address: 7812-A Richmond Road, Toano, VA, United States, 23168  Flint Financial Planning: https://bit.ly/43t8h5N  Max4 Fishing: https://bit.ly/4unuiOsSupport the show

Jump into Talk Cosmos on June 21 from 1-2 p.m. PDT for the “Summer Solstice Vibrational Patterns”. Join us as we explore these vibrant energies through VA's unique lens and embrace the solstice as an energy portal into this season's full potential!Through the unique lens of Vibrational Astrology's software system, we will discover distinct collective consciousness patterns. Deep within the 2026 summer solstice chart, these frequency patterns profoundly shape this season.Since pre-historic days, humanity kept watch on the seasonal turns by observing the sky. Embraced as a spiritual portal to celebrate abundance, the Summer Solstice launches the return of the light in the Northern Hemisphere. Traditional bonfire rituals lit up the night sky, to symbolize life's manifestation and renewal.SOLSTICE LATIN ROOTS On June 21st at 8:24:13 a.m. GMT and at 4:24:13 a.m. EDT, the Sun transits 0° Cancer while it appears to stop for three days and ‘hover' over the northern Tropic of Cancer. This apparent ‘celestial pause', known as SOL-STICE derived from Latin roots, literally means: “Sun” "Stops".Earth tilts on its 23°26' north south axis, placing Earth's northern hemisphere to lean closest to the Sun during its annual orbit. Daylight stretches to its fullest, casting long shadows to ignite our spirits with warmth and possibility.UPCOMING: FRACTAL COSMOS CONFERENCERegistration for the 2nd Annual Fractal Cosmos Vibrational Astrology Conference on November 22-24, 2026 (fractalcosmos.org) opens during July. Online – join from anywhere.LINDA BERRY, PAC, MSSW: received her Professional Astrology Certificate (PAC) in Vibrational Astrology January 2015 from Avalon School of Astrology studying with David Cochrane the Founder of Vibrational Astrology (VA). They continue to share their research material to build Vibrational Astrology knowledge. Linda created “Frequency Finder”, a VA Add-on to Sirius and Kepler Astrological Software.Linda's an International Consultant with clients worldwide, Teaches VA classes, the VA Research Group Moderator, and Author. Website: Astrosleuth.org | Fractal Cosmos Vibrational Astrology Conference - Annual. Website: fractalcosmos.comHer free Daily Blog: “The Vibrational Astrology Diary” Vibrational Astrology & Sabian Symbols, and for a paid Personalized Monthly Report. email: Linda @ AstrologicalDepth dot com.ROBERT PACITTI: Professional consulting astrologer; visionary behind Deep Earth Astrology. Specializing in vibrational and psychological techniques. Over a decade of experience in the world of natural magic. Grand Pendragon in the Ancient Order of Druids in America & Director of the MAGUS Druid Gathering in Gore, VA. Co-Director of the Fractal Cosmos Vibrational Astrology Conference. Faculty for the Centre for Relationships and Astrology. Consultations focus, Archetypal & Harmonic.Email: deepearthastrology@gmail.com. Website: deepearthastrology.com | Facebook.com/SacredConnections13; Facebook.com/rjpacittifractalcosmos.org SUE ‘ROSE' MINAHAN: Evolutionary Astrologer & Consultant. Speaker, Writer. Student of Vibrational Astrology with Linda Berry, Dwarf Planet University graduate, Kepler Astrologer Toastmaster (KAT); Founder of Talk Cosmos since April 7, 2018. Weekly conversations awaken heart and soul consciousness, TalkCosmos.com | YouTube.com/@TALKCOSMOS.#SummerSolstice #VibrationalAstrology #Astrology2026 #TalkCosmos #SueRoseMinahan #lindaBerry #RobertPacitti #DavidCochrane #AstroSleuth #DeepEarthAstrology #MagusGathering #Tarot #ancientOrderofDruidsinAmerica #EvidenceBasedVibrationalAstrology #ChironinTaurusSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if the biggest thing standing between you and the life you want isn't your circumstances, but the patterns you keep repeating? In this powerful mashup episode, I bring together some of the most transformational conversations I've ever had about breaking free from the habits, beliefs, and emotional patterns that silently shape our lives. So many people think their future is determined by their past, but what you're about to hear will challenge that idea completely. From wealth creation and personal growth to healing and spiritual awareness, these conversations reveal how your life can change the moment you become conscious of the patterns you've been running and decide to create new ones. Tony Robbins shares why most people stay trapped in fear, stress, and survival mode, and how changing your state and physiology can unlock a future far bigger than your current circumstances. He breaks down why a compelling future is essential for success and why the stories we tell ourselves determine the direction of our lives. John Edward adds a powerful perspective on self-awareness and personal responsibility, explaining how recognizing the patterns that drain your energy is often the first step toward meaningful change. Gabby Bernstein opens up about the hidden emotional triggers and protective behaviors that keep so many people stuck. Together, we explore how our past experiences create unconscious reactions that continue to influence our decisions long after the original pain is gone. Dan Martell shares his incredible journey of transformation and reminds us that the very things we believe disqualify us from success are often the exact experiences that qualify us to help others and fulfill our purpose. Throughout this episode, I challenge you to stop making excuses, stop letting fear dictate your future, and start becoming intentional about the emotions, habits, and beliefs that drive your life. The truth is that every breakthrough begins with awareness. Once you recognize the patterns that have been controlling you, they lose their power. That's when real change becomes possible. If you've been feeling stuck, frustrated, or like you're capable of more than you're currently experiencing, this episode will give you the tools and perspective to break free. The life you want isn't waiting for a different version of you. It's waiting for you to finally let go of the patterns that no longer serve you and step into the person you were created to become. Key Takeaways: Why most people unknowingly live their lives through repeating emotional and behavioral patterns Tony Robbins' strategy for breaking out of fear and creating a compelling future How changing your physical state can immediately change your mental and emotional state Why awareness is the first step to eliminating destructive patterns Gabby Bernstein's insights on triggers, emotional wounds, and unconscious protective behaviors How to stop allowing past experiences to dictate future decisions John Edward's perspective on taking ownership of your energy and personal growth Dan Martell's powerful lesson that your greatest struggles may be your greatest qualification Why success requires responsibility, while excuses keep you trapped How to intentionally create new patterns that lead to abundance, peace, and fulfillment

Episode OverviewThe Articulate Fly host Marvin Cash sits down with fly tying guru Allen Rupp, founder of Fly on the Water and Dave Whitlock's hand-selected legacy tier, for a deep dive into the classic fly patterns that built modern fly fishing. Rupp traces his fly tying education back to childhood phone calls with Bob Clouser, in-person mentorship from Lefty Kreh and George Harvey, and decades spent learning directly from Dave Whitlock, explaining why patterns like the Clouser Minnow, the Half and Half, Lefty's Deceiver and Whitlock's Near Nuff Crayfish and Sculpin remain so effective that newer materials and techniques rarely improve on them. The conversation ranges from the upper Potomac River, where Rupp first learned to tie and fish, to saltwater destinations like the Seychelles and the Amazon, where his Semper Fli patterns are now requested by name by local guides. Rupp and Cash dig into why presentation matters more than fly choice (a lesson Rupp learned fishing a single hare's ear nymph for an entire year), how legends like Whitlock and Clouser relentlessly simplified their patterns rather than complicating them, where to source increasingly scarce natural materials like hand-plucked mallard flank and Cree hackle, and which adhesives belong on every serious tier's bench. Whether you fish for smallmouth bass, stripers, bonefish or golden dorado, this episode is a masterclass in why the old patterns still catch fish and what they can teach today's tiers about durability, simplicity and effective design.Key TakeawaysHow focusing on a single fly pattern for an entire season can teach anglers that presentation matters more than fly choice.Why classic patterns like the Clouser Minnow, the Half and Half and Lefty's Deceiver remain more effective than many modern variations.How simplifying a fly pattern down to its essential materials often makes it more durable and more effective than adding complexity.Why choosing the right adhesive for a material (soft adhesive for soft materials, rigid adhesive for hard surfaces) prevents premature fly failure.When to source fly tying materials from non-fly shop retailers like craft and fabric stores.How filling Clouser Minnow thread wraps with resin in a triangle or heart shape creates a fly that is nearly weedless.Techniques & Gear CoveredRupp walks through the construction logic behind classic patterns including the Clouser Minnow, the Half and Half, Lefty's Deceiver, the CK Baitfish, Chico's Bonefish Special, Lou Tabory's Snake Fly and Dave Whitlock's Near Nuff Crayfish and Sculpin, explaining how each pattern's simplicity contributes to its durability and fish-catching consistency. He details specific tying fixes including pre-treating deer hair eye cavities with Flexament before adding Goop and a final drop of Flexament to prevent eyes from popping off, and filling Clouser Minnow thread wraps with resin in a triangle or heart shape to create a snag-resistant profile. On adhesives, Rupp runs a bench of nine different products including Zap-A-Gap in two viscosities, Softex, Tuffleye and various other cements, matching soft adhesives to soft materials like deer hair and rigid adhesives to harder surfaces. For tools he favors Mark Petitjean bobbins for fine thread work and Renomed scissors for their durability and lifetime warranty, while sourcing scarce natural materials like Cree hackle, hand-plucked mallard flank and dry fly saddles from specialty sellers.Locations & SpeciesRupp's tying and fishing roots trace to the upper Potomac River and the Mid-Atlantic region of Maryland, Virginia and Pennsylvania, where he learned from guide Mark Kovach and crossed paths with Lefty Kreh and Bob Clouser at regional fly fishing shows. His classic patterns now see action well beyond home water, targeting smallmouth bass and trout in eastern rivers, striped bass at night from Virginia to Maine on Lou Tabory's Snake Fly, and trevally and golden dorado in destinations like the Seychelles and South America, where his Semper Fli pattern has become a guide favorite.FAQ / Key Questions AnsweredWhy do classic fly patterns like the Clouser Minnow and Lefty's Deceiver still outperform many modern variations?Allen Rupp explains that classic patterns endured because their originators relentlessly simplified them down to only the materials necessary for action and durability rather than adding complexity for visual appeal. Newer flies often look more elaborate but can introduce problems like tails that foul on the cast, while classics like the Deceiver (just bucktail, feathers and flash) remain reliably effective.How does fly choice compare to presentation in catching more fish?Rupp credits mentor Brad Yoder with the lesson that presentation matters far more than fly pattern, after fishing a single gold-ribbed hare's ear nymph exclusively for an entire year. He caught roughly the same number of fish as he had with pattern variety, reinforcing that learning to fish one fly in every water condition teaches more than chasing the next new pattern.What is the best adhesive to use on different fly tying materials?Rupp's rule, learned from Dave Whitlock, is to match a soft, flexible adhesive like Flexament to soft, flexible materials like deer hair and reserve rigid adhesives like Zap-A-Gap for harder surfaces. Using a rigid adhesive on a flexible material creates a stress point that cracks and fails after a few fish.Where can tiers find scarce natural materials like Cree hackle and quality mallard flank?Rupp sources hard-to-find feathers and fibers from a mix of specialty sellers, friends who hunt and hand-pluck birds, and even craft stores like Michaels and Joann Fabrics for items like glass beads, foam and embroidery materials. He notes that machine-plucked commercial mallard flank is often unusable for patterns requiring intact feather shape, making hand-plucked birds essential for some classic ties.What is swing nymphing and where did the technique originate?Swing nymphing is a technique Rupp developed independently as a teenager on the upper Potomac by adapting light jig presentations to a fly rod, only to later learn that Charlie Brooks had pioneered the same approach on the Yellowstone River decades earlier. Rupp covers the technique in an upcoming magazine article and credits Harry Murray's writing for connecting him to its origins.SponsorsThanks to TroutRoutes for sponsoring this episode. Use ARTFLY20 to get 20% off of your TroutRoutes Pro membership.Related ContentS7, Ep 66 - Tales of a Fly Fishing Legend: Remembering Dave WhitlockBONUS - Mastering the Beast: A Deep Dive into Bob Popovics' Legendary Fly with Captain Ben WhalleyS4, Ep 150 - FLY TYING REDUX: Soft Hackles with Allen McGeeConnect with Our GuestFollow Allen on Facebook, Instagram and YouTube.Follow the ShowFollow The Articulate Fly on Facebook, Instagram, Threads and YouTube.Follow our Substack newsletter for episode updates, tips and resources.Support the ShowShop through our Amazon link to support the podcast.Join our Patreon community to support the show.If you are in the industry and need help getting unstuck, learn more about our consulting options.Subscribe & AdvertiseSubscribe to the podcast in your favorite podcast app.Think our community is a good fit for your brand? Advertise with us.Helpful Episode...

Alena Ledeneva is Professor of Politics and Society at the University College London and a founder of the Global Informality Project. Her research focuses on informal practices, and she has written several Russia-focused books, including Russia's Economy of Favours, How Russia Really Works and Can Russia Modernise. The Global Informality has also published 3 volumes of its Global Encyclopaedia of Informality. Alena is here today to talk about her new book Russian Pendulum: Paradoxes, Practices and Patterns (UCL Press, 2026), which has been shortlisted for the 2026 Pushkin House Book Prize. Adam Quinn is a Glasgow-based researcher whose work focuses on activism, social movements and state-society relations in the Post-Soviet space.  Alena's new book: art, music, text in a new UCL Press book in open access: Russian Pendulum: here The accompanying music: Delphian Records classical album The System Made Me Do It composed by Benjamin Woodgates: here And a brilliant review of the music: here Plus, a nice mention in the BBC sounds for dark: here Enjoy the podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

Alena Ledeneva is Professor of Politics and Society at the University College London and a founder of the Global Informality Project. Her research focuses on informal practices, and she has written several Russia-focused books, including Russia's Economy of Favours, How Russia Really Works and Can Russia Modernise. The Global Informality has also published 3 volumes of its Global Encyclopaedia of Informality. Alena is here today to talk about her new book Russian Pendulum: Paradoxes, Practices and Patterns (UCL Press, 2026), which has been shortlisted for the 2026 Pushkin House Book Prize. Adam Quinn is a Glasgow-based researcher whose work focuses on activism, social movements and state-society relations in the Post-Soviet space.  Alena's new book: art, music, text in a new UCL Press book in open access: Russian Pendulum: here The accompanying music: Delphian Records classical album The System Made Me Do It composed by Benjamin Woodgates: here And a brilliant review of the music: here Plus, a nice mention in the BBC sounds for dark: here Enjoy the podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/world-affairs

Alena Ledeneva is Professor of Politics and Society at the University College London and a founder of the Global Informality Project. Her research focuses on informal practices, and she has written several Russia-focused books, including Russia's Economy of Favours, How Russia Really Works and Can Russia Modernise. The Global Informality has also published 3 volumes of its Global Encyclopaedia of Informality. Alena is here today to talk about her new book Russian Pendulum: Paradoxes, Practices and Patterns (UCL Press, 2026), which has been shortlisted for the 2026 Pushkin House Book Prize. Adam Quinn is a Glasgow-based researcher whose work focuses on activism, social movements and state-society relations in the Post-Soviet space.  Alena's new book: art, music, text in a new UCL Press book in open access: Russian Pendulum: here The accompanying music: Delphian Records classical album The System Made Me Do It composed by Benjamin Woodgates: here And a brilliant review of the music: here Plus, a nice mention in the BBC sounds for dark: here Enjoy the podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/russian-studies

Alena Ledeneva is Professor of Politics and Society at the University College London and a founder of the Global Informality Project. Her research focuses on informal practices, and she has written several Russia-focused books, including Russia's Economy of Favours, How Russia Really Works and Can Russia Modernise. The Global Informality has also published 3 volumes of its Global Encyclopaedia of Informality. Alena is here today to talk about her new book Russian Pendulum: Paradoxes, Practices and Patterns (UCL Press, 2026), which has been shortlisted for the 2026 Pushkin House Book Prize. Adam Quinn is a Glasgow-based researcher whose work focuses on activism, social movements and state-society relations in the Post-Soviet space.  Alena's new book: art, music, text in a new UCL Press book in open access: Russian Pendulum: here The accompanying music: Delphian Records classical album The System Made Me Do It composed by Benjamin Woodgates: here And a brilliant review of the music: here Plus, a nice mention in the BBC sounds for dark: here Enjoy the podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/anthropology

If you've been "doing the work" for a while now, it's likely you have a firm grip on why you are the way you are. But many of us find ourselves stuck at the "knowledge and awareness" stage, struggling to put our insights into practice in a way that translates into lasting change. In this episode, I'm sharing thoughts on how to bridge that gap so that you don't find yourself on a never-ending hamster wheel of information-gathering that keeps you from experiencing relationships differently.LinksFree training on healing anxious attachment: http://stephanierigg.com/haa-webinar-opt-in Free resources: http://stephanierigg.com/free-resources Attachment quiz: http://stephanierigg.com/quiz Substack: https://stephanierigg.substack.com/

Episode Summary In this episode of Business Coaching Secrets, Karl Bryan and Road Dog get real about what separates truly elite business coaches from the rest. Karl unpacks the mindsets, systems, and beliefs that drive top coaches—and why persistence, identity, and serving before selling are the real secret weapons. The duo also dive into the controversies around billionaire entrepreneurs like Elon Musk, using them as powerful lessons in mindset, resilience, and value creation. If you want a step-by-step breakdown of what it actually takes to get more coaching clients, boost results, and build confidence (for yourself and your clients), this episode delivers the playbook. Key Topics Covered What Makes an Elite Business Coach Three Levels of Coaches: Hiders (avoidant), Wingers (improvising), and Installers (system-driven). Patterns of Success: Top coaches are "all in," keep it simple, focus on systems, and are resilient in the face of setbacks. Embracing Delayed Gratification: Like treasure hunter Mel Fisher, elite coaches believe in the long-term payoff and stick with it when others quit. Thinking in Percentages: Why tracking improvements as percentages—not raw numbers—is a pro's approach to growth and client results. The Mindset Ladder: From Identity to Lasting Results Winning the Battle in the Locker Room: Your mindset isn't just about positive thinking; it's about upgrading your core identity, beliefs, and values. Identity Drives Performance: What you believe about yourself shapes your daily behaviors and long-term outcomes. Action vs. Self-Sabotage: Without an identity shift, short-term wins won't stick open the door for self-sabotage. Lessons from Elon Musk: Mindset, Reinvestment, and Critics The All-In Mindset: Elon's willingness to risk it all, learn from failure, and reinvest in his vision is a playbook for business coaches. Serving Before Taking: Real wealth is created by solving big problems—focus on value and impact over comfort or luxury. Overcoming Fear, Doubt, and Limiting Stories Change How You Talk to Yourself: The stories you repeat about who you are become your reality. Three Powerful Beliefs: (a) It's possible, (b) I am the person for this, (c) It will be worth it. Don't Practice to Practice—Practice to Improve: 1% better every day creates exponential growth over time. Taking Real Action: "Three Conversations a Day" Empathy Isn't Enough: Are you actually reaching out to business owners in pain, or just feeling bad for them? Three Bone System: Always come prepared with three value bombs for every interaction. Serve from a Place of Love and Urgency: Operate from your deepest "why"—not just sales tactics. Notable Quotes "You just gotta go all in, right? Don't practice to practice. Practice to improve." —Karl Bryan "Optimists run the world. The end." —Karl Bryan "If your why doesn't make them cry, you're not done establishing it." —Karl Bryan "What you say to yourself about yourself when you're by yourself absolutely matters." —Karl Bryan "Empathy is great, but are you going to do anything about it?" —Karl Bryan Actionable Takeaways Pick Your Level: Get honest—are you hiding, winging it, or installing a real system with clients? Choose "installer." Track Progress as Percentages: Frame client wins as percentage improvements for real, motivating progress. Upgrade Your Identity: Audit the stories you tell yourself. Change "I struggle to get leads" to "I'm a person who always finds a way." Practice 1% Better Daily: Focus on continuous improvement rather than perfection. Serve Before You Sell: Make three real, solution-focused conversations daily your habit; lead with value, not desperation. Have Three Value Bombs Ready: Be prepared to drop actionable strategies with every prospect, no matter the direction of the conversation. Operate from Your "Why": Reconnect to the deeper reason you started coaching, and let that urgency propel action and outreach. Don't Let Setbacks Stop You: See obstacles as learning moments, not permanent failures. Resources Mentioned Books: Outwitting the Devil by Napoleon Hill Software & Tools: Profit Acceleration Software™ (by Karl Bryan) – for demonstrating instant, tangible value to clients Platforms: Focus.com – For Karl Bryan's daily emails and strategies

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Every part of your life has a rhythm, and your finances are no exception. On today's episode, “Just Like a Well‑Written Poem, Your Financial Life Has Its Own Rhythm," host Jacquette continues her exploration of the parallels between poetry and money. She shows how the same tools (meter, repetition, and pacing) poets use to shape meaning also show up in your money life. Your savings, investments, spending, earnings, pricing, etc., create a pattern...a beat. The real power lies in deciding whether that pattern is intentional or unrecognized and unwanted.Want More? Check Out:www.jacquettetimmons.comwww.jacquettetimmons.com/digital-productswww.instagram.com/jacquettemtimmonsBuyMeACoffee.com/JacquetteSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The panel covers everything from chatterbait and frog fishing around grass to targeting bass near beaver dams and using Google Earth to locate hidden fish-holding areas before arriving at the lake. They also share valuable advice for co-anglers, including simple but effective Senko presentations that could make the difference between cashing a check and going home empty-handed. One thing is certain at Potholes: bass can be caught deep or shallow, and anglers will have multiple ways to compete for the win. If you're fishing the event or simply love bass fishing strategy, this episode is packed with insights that can help you understand one of the West's most versatile fisheries. Guests: • Travis Archer • Bradley Tiller • Curtis Reno In This Episode: • Current conditions at Potholes Reservoir • Why Potholes is one of the West's most versatile bass fisheries • Chatterbait strategies around grass and emerging vegetation • Frog fishing opportunities for big bites • Fishing around beaver dams and overlooked cover • Using Google Earth to locate productive water before practice • Finding hidden pockets, channels, and key structure • Deep versus shallow bass patterns • Co-angler strategies and why a Senko can be a game changer • Tournament-winning opportunities across multiple techniques • What anglers need to do to compete for a Mercury-powered Vexus 1880 Tournament Information: BAM Trail Mercury / Vexus Boats Pro-Am Potholes Reservoir – Mardon Resort June 19-21, 2026 Follow Along: • Daily livestream coverage • Live weigh-ins from Mardon Resort • Tournament updates at BAMTrail.com • Results, stories, and coverage from Bass Angler Magazine Presented By: Mercury Marine, Vexus Boats, Tackle Warehouse, Bass Angler Magazine, BAM Trail About BAM Podcasts Bass Angler Magazine's is a bi-monthly podcast series its available free on Simple Cast, iTunes, Spotify, Google Play and Amazon. Stay tuned as we discuss the latest in bass fishing, lure trends, ways to catch fish, tournament wins and things of interest to bass anglers.BASS ANGLER MAGAZINE (BAM), a veteran owned quarterly print and digital magazine, designed, and printed in the U.S.A. Covering largemouth, smallmouth and spotted bass, Bass Angler was created specifically to help you become a better, more informed bass fisherman. As the industry's most informative bass fishing magazine, we provide you in-depth exclusive new features with the world's top anglers.Subscribe to Bass Angler Magazine print and or digital here

You feel busy and a little stuck, like your life filled up while you weren't looking. Most people call that being on autopilot. There's a Pattern happening underneath it. I call it Decision Drift, and in this video I show you where it hides and the one move that takes your life back off autopilot.There are a hundred of these Patterns and I post a new one every week, so follow along.Want to do this work with me in real time? https://www.impactfulandpaidcoachworkshop.com/homeThe written version lives on Substack: https://coachkellyj.substack.com

With everyone buying the SpaceX (SPCX) IPO, it is time to have a discussion about these initial public offerings, and how it is likely to ruin many traders and investors portfolios. In this podcast episode, Ryan Mallory details the traps and potential problems that you must know about when it comes to trading stocks and their IPOs.Be sure to check out my Swing-Trading offering through SharePlanner that goes hand-in-hand with my podcast, offering all of the research, charts and technical analysis on the stock market and individual stocks, not to mention my personal watch-lists, reviews and regular updates on the most popular stocks, including the all-important big tech stocks. Check it out now at:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.shareplanner.com/premium-plans⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Bliss in Triple Rhythm–A Toolbox for Poets: Nine Ways to Shape A Word Song: Shown in 300 Original Poems by Martin Bidney https://www.amazon.com/Bliss-Triple-Rhythm-Toolbox-Poets/dp/1987402561 Mmartinbidney.org This book of word songs in unexpected melodic patterns will surprise you by its equally unusual liveliness. I’m so eager to begin singing for you that, as you noticed, I’ve already written a prefatory poem in one of the varied kinds of triple rhythm units I’ll be illustrating (la LA la; weak STRONG weak; one TWO three; x/x). The strangest thing I’ll be doing in my collection is to bring about a resurrection of ancient stanza patterns embodying the musical structures I love. The uncustomary triple-rhythm stanza forms richly displayed will acquire a real if unlikely novelty by presenting tools so extremely old. About the author Martin Bidney, Professor Emeritus at Binghamton University (NY), writes poetry books that are dialogues. In “Shakespair” he converses in Shakespearean sonnets with the 154 that the bisexual Bard himself wrote in the 1590s about his boyfriend and girlfriend. In “A Unifying Light” Martin converses with Qur’anic passages on the topic of Jews and Christians in the Qur’an and the Islamic virtues they embody. “East-West Poetry” shows Martin replying, in poems, to passages from both the Qur’an and Rumi. “Poems of Wine and Tavern Romance” offers 103 dialogues between Martin and Hafiz, the 14th century Persian pub poet he translates, a Muslim Sufi who was bisexual, like Shakespeare, and whom Germany’s greatest poet, Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, called his “twin” brother! (Martin translates Hafiz from the same version Goethe used.) In fact, Martin has also translated Goethe’s own “West-East Divan” (divan means “collection”) and wrote conversational reply poems to all of Goethe’s 240 lyrics. Martin’s dialogue book with the greatest Polish poet, Adam Mickiewicz, contains, on facing pages, the sonnets he wrote in response to the “Crimean Sonnets” he translated from Polish. In “Like a Fine Rug of Erivan” he translates 39 Pushkin poems from Russian and recites them on a CD. His wide-ranging fascination with revelatory writing stems from “Patterns of Epiphany,” where Martin pioneered a method of analysis he has since applied to over 20 authors.

What if your struggles with weight loss, confidence, or follow-through have less to do with discipline and more to do with the invisible rules you've been living by since childhood? In this episode, Dara explores how the beliefs and expectations you learned growing up can quietly become your "default settings" as an adult. From perfectionism and people-pleasing to fear of failure and self-sabotage, these unconscious patterns may be keeping you stuck without you even realizing it. You'll learn why failure isn't actually the problem, how your brain works to keep you in familiar territory, and why lasting change requires creating your own definition of success instead of chasing someone else's. If you've ever felt frustrated because you know what to do but struggle to follow through, this episode will help you understand what's really happening beneath the surface. In This Episode, You'll Learn: How childhood "rule books" continue to influence your decisions today Why 95% of your thoughts are automatic and subconscious The connection between failure, self-sabotage, and your comfort zone How your brain creates a "homeostasis" that can keep you stuck Why success must be defined by your values—not someone else's standards The hidden cost of staying in familiar patterns Three practical steps to break free from self-sabotage Questions to Reflect On: What were the unspoken rules in your childhood? How do you define success for yourself? What patterns do you repeat when you're afraid of failing? What is self-sabotage costing you in your life right now? Ready to Go Deeper? Join Dara's 4 day masterclass - Stop Sabotaging Your Weight Loss, running June 23-36, 2026. Find out what patterns are sabotaging your weight loss and how to overcome them! Register today.   Subscribe for more on overcoming perfectionism!

High conflict at work rarely announces itself. By the time it becomes a formal HR complaint or a leadership crisis, the patterns were visible much earlier—and the tools most organizations rely on to stay fair often make things worse, not better.Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, and Megan Hunter, MBA, co-founders of the High Conflict Institute in Scottsdale, Arizona, are joined by Michael Lomax, JD, HCI speaker, trainer, and attorney, for Part 2 of a four-part workplace series. They break down the WEB method for early conflict assessment—Words, Emotions, Behavior—and explain why HR's focus on neutrality and incident-by-incident handling can inadvertently protect the person driving the conflict while penalizing the target.It's All Your Fault is produced by TruStory FM.Full Show Notes & ResourcesSubmit Questions | Bookstore | WebsiteWatch this episode on YouTubeImportant Notice: Our discussions focus on behavioral patterns rather than diagnoses. For specific legal or therapeutic guidance, please consult qualified professionals in your area. (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault (01:48) - Assessing Workplace Conflict Early and Accurately (04:53) - Potential Costs of Getting It Wrong (09:13) - Patterns of Behavior (18:56) - Documenting Impact (20:38) - Personality Disorders (21:57) - Reactivity Drives Response (25:29) - Managing Difficult HCPs (31:02) - What to Assess First (35:30) - Wrap Up

Alright, folks, let's dive into some juicy family dynamics! Today, we're peeling back the layers on why family gatherings feel like stepping into a well-rehearsed play where everyone knows their lines—especially those cringe-worthy ones. The real kicker? It's not about the events themselves; it's about the patterns we've been stuck in since we were knee-high to a grasshopper. We're talking about those age-old scripts we keep repeating, and trust me, they're not as random as you think. Spoiler alert: it's your nervous system playing tricks on you, making you time travel back to your childhood every time Uncle Bob brings up politics at the barbecue. So grab your favorite snack, settle in, and let's explore how we can break those patterns without putting the blame on anyone else—because, really, who has the energy for that?Takeaways:Navigating family dynamics often unveils deep-rooted patterns that we unknowingly perpetuate, impacting our emotional well-being.The key to transforming how we interact with family involves reframing blame and focusing on personal accountability instead.Our nervous systems have been conditioned from childhood to react in predictable ways during family gatherings, leading to emotional time travel.Mastering the art of storytelling about our experiences can significantly alter our emotional responses and improve our overall happiness.Links referenced in this episode:amandahest.ca/bookacall

390: This special Mental Health Compilation brings together highlights from conversations with Joe Hudson, Maggie Nick, Gabby Reece, and Dr. Nicole LePera. Through these powerful discussions, we explore emotional regulation, resilience, nervous system health, reparenting the inner child, and the patterns that shape our relationships, behaviors, and sense of self. We discuss practical tools for managing stress and overwhelm, breaking generational cycles, building emotional awareness, and creating healthier habits that support long-term mental well-being. Whether you're looking to better understand yourself or navigate life's challenges with more confidence and clarity, this episode offers some of the most impactful mental health insights we've shared on the podcast. → Leave Us A Voice Message!  Topics Discussed: → Emotional regulation and nervous system health → Why we suppress emotions and how it impacts our well-being → Breaking generational patterns and cycles → The "good kid" mindset, perfectionism, and people-pleasing → Parenting, shame, and emotional resilience → Reparenting your inner child → How childhood experiences shape adult relationships → Building self-awareness and emotional intelligence → Vulnerability, resilience, and personal growth → Managing stress, overwhelm, and emotional triggers → Identity, achievement, and self-worth → Healing old wounds and creating lasting change Sponsored By:  → OGEE | Thanks to today's sponsor, Ogee: A higher standard for beauty. Go to https://ogee.com/BEWELL and use code BEWELL to get 20% off certified organic makeup that performs like luxury. → Be Well By Kelly Protein Powder & Essentials | Get $10 off your order with PODCAST10 at https://bewellbykelly.com. → Branch Basics | First-time customers can save 15% on a Starter Kit with code BEWELLPODCAST at branchbasics.com/BEWELLPODCAST.  → Kosterina | You can shop all my favorites at https://www.kosterina.com/bewell and use code KELLY for 15% off your first order. → Shop minnow's new apré-ski capsule collection at https://shopminnow.com and enter code MEETMINNOW15 at checkout to receive 15% off your first order. Timestamps:  → 00:00:00 - Introduction → 00:01:38 - Joe Hudson: Why We Suppress Emotions → 00:06:12 - Anger, Stress & Emotional Expression → 00:12:08 - Emotional Health, Relationships + Connection → 00:18:45 - Parenting, Vulnerability & Nervous System Regulation → 00:20:23 - Maggie Nick: The "Good Kid" Identity → 00:30:48 - Perfectionism, People-Pleasing + Shame → 00:35:02 - Breaking Generational Patterns → 00:39:14 - Why Children Internalize Criticism → 00:42:24 - Gabrielle Reece: Resilience, Adversity + Growth → 00:47:18 - Identity Beyond Achievement → 00:52:04 - Hypervigilance, Childhood Experiences + Relationships → 00:56:42 - Success, Balance + Life Priorities → 01:00:26 - Dr. Nicole LePera: Reparenting The Inner Child → 01:04:18 - Childhood Conditioning & Survival Patterns → 01:08:12 - People-Pleasing, Attachment + Emotional Triggers → 01:12:35 - Healing Old Wounds & Creating Lasting Change → 01:16:28 - Final ThoughtsFurther Listening:  → Repressed Emotions, Anxiety + Why Self-Improvement Doesn't Exist | Joe Hudson → Stop Hustling for Worth, Heal People-Pleasing, + Feel Enough | Maggie Nick → Gabby Reece on Wellness, Marriage, Motherhood & Mental Strength → Reparenting Your Inner Child, Self-Abandonment + Nervous System Healing | Dr. Nicole LePera Check Out: Joe Hudson:  → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joehudson_aoa?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== → http://artofaccomplishment.com Maggie Nick:  → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/maggiewithperspectacles/reels/ → TikTok:  → New Book:  Gabby Rece:  → https://gabriellereece.com/ → Instagram Dr. Nicole LePera → Website: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/ → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist → New Book: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/books/reparenting-the-inner-child/ Dr. Nicole LePera → Website: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/ → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist → New Book: Reparenting The Inner Child Check Out Kelly: → Instagram → Youtube → Facebook

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Are you seeing things in your marriage or a relationship that feel a little intense or puzzling…and you’re not sure if they're normal or actually signs of a toxic relationship? If so, it's important to pause and look at the pieces of the puzzle together to see what they might be telling you. To discover if you're in a toxic relationship take our free emotional abuse test. Here are five things that might seem “normal,” but aren’t: SIGNS OF A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP THAT ARE EASY TO MISS 1. HE WANTS TO MOVE THE RELATIONSHIP FORWARD QUICKLY When you’re in a relationship with someone who seemingly shares and cares about your values and interests, it’s easy to be swept up by the intensity of it all. Especially if the relationship seems to happen at the “right” time, and things move forward quickly. But this level of intensity and pace doesn’t give you time to slow down and really think about why you seem so compatible. 2. HE WANTS CONSTANT ACCESS TO YOU, BUT HE’S CLOSED OFF It might seem caring for your partner or husband to want to know where you are all of the time. But is it reciprocal or does it feel one-sided, like he needs constant visibility into your life, while parts of his remain just out of reach? Many women in these situations describe a quiet, hard-to-explain feeling that something isn't adding up. Like he's keeping close tabs on them… while also keeping options, information, or even other relationships carefully hidden. 3. HIS MOODS SHIFT SUDDENLY AND YOU DON’T KNOW WHY Think about it…in healthy relationships, partners are usually aware of the reasons why one partner isn’t in a good mood. They typically communicate about bad days at work or when they’re not feeling well. But in toxic relationships, that level of trust and communication often isn’t there, because one partner doesn’t want it to be. Everything's fine, until it's not, and then, it suddenly is again…And you're left trying to figure out what changed. 4. HE‘S UPSET OVER SMALL THINGS Things that don't seem like a big deal, suddenly are signs of a toxic relationship. For example, you miss a turn on the way to his best friend’s birthday party… and suddenly it's not about directions anymore. He's accusing you of being disrespectful, or doing it on purpose because you don’t want to go. Or you might simply ask him to help with the groceries, and suddenly he’s angry because, “you don’t respect his time and all the things he has to do.” 5. HE’S A DIFFERENT PERSON WHEN OTHERS ARE WATCHING Things feel tense, confusing, or even cold behind closed doors…but in public, he seems calm, kind, hardworking, and completely put together. For example, during counseling or around friends, he might appear thoughtful, patient, and willing to work on the relationship. He says the right things. He looks sincere. Other people may even be impressed by how hard he's trying. But when you're alone again, it's different. The warmth disappears. The tension returns. And you're left trying to reconcile the version of him everyone else sees…with the version you live with every day. If you relate and you need support, we’re always online to help you. Go to btr.org/group/ to see my daily support group schedule. TRANSCRIPT: EARLY SIGNS OF A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR HUSBAND Anne:  I did an interview with a member of our community. We’re going to call her Iris, She talked about how his toxic patterns showed up in her marriage and what happened when she started using the strategies she learned in my workshop. Here’s that interview. Welcome, Iris.  Iris: Thank you. Glad to be here. Anne: Let’s start at the beginning of your story. Can you talk about how you felt when you first met your husband? Iris: He was very charming, and he seemed extremely sincere. Now I understand that he was love bombing me and was trying to make things go fast. It was very intense. And he preyed upon me at a time when I was really ready to get married and have kids. Everybody was getting married and having kids. So he went right for what was the most vulnerable part of me. And we met through a young adult single thing in our group. He proceeded to be very attentive. Anne: When you say young adult, single thing, that sounds a little bit like my faith. What’s your faith background? Iris: it’s the Catholic church. It’s actually Theology on Tap, which is at a brew pub, and you can buy a drink and mingle. And then they have a speaker. Anne: Kind of Matt Fraddish. Iris: Yes. Anne: I actually know Matt Fradd in real life. Iris: And I don’t go to the Catholic church anymore. But that was a huge part of our marriage and, we were really in a circle of pretty devout people. Which also I think contributed to my willingness to submit to him. Anne: When you say submit, can you talk about that a little bit more? EARLY CONTROL DISGUISED AS CARE AND SHARED VALUES Iris: Hindsight, there were red flags before we married. There were early signs of coercive control. It dates me, but cell phones weren’t the norm yet. And he bought me a cell phone so he could reach me more easily. He was pretty volatile. He asked me to marry him within a month or two and I deferred and we dated longer, but he was just intense. Then he would be very sorry. He would cold shoulder me at points. He’d be angry for things that were weird, wasn’t very flexible. Now I know these were signs of a toxic relationship. We went through nine months of marriage prep. So many Christian circles focus on the idea that the man is the head. I saw that in my parents' marriage too. My dad made all the decisions. My mom was independent in some ways, but she still did what he wanted. I think I expected marriage to look like that. The husband leads and the wife follows. Even though I was independent, had a master's degree, was over 30, and had traveled, I still lived in a huge Christian community where that model of marriage was everywhere. NOT RECOGNIZING SIGNS OF A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP Anne: And you just mentioned nobody actually says that, but they actually do say that, it might not be in so many words. It might not be so directly, but they like actually say it. And if you call ’em out and say, “Hey, you said this.” They usually deny it. “Of course, I didn’t say that.” And you’re like, “What? You did.” That’s the part that’s really confusing. The therapists come in or the clergy comes in, or the friends and family, and they gaslight you too. It’s like, “You’re putting words in my mouth. I didn’t say that.” Especially when they find out what he is really like, and you’re like, “What?” “You told me this.” “Well, I never did.” And they for sure did. It’s almost like no matter what you do, you can’t win. There are friends of mine and maybe friends of yours too, who are amazing and they’re like, “Oh my word, I said the wrong thing.” That is so validating. I feel like when I meet people like that, it’s easy to be like, “It’s okay did the ‘wrong thing’ too. I was doing the best I could and I didn’t know that he was abusive. And I didn’t know what was happening, and didn’t recognize signs of a toxic relationship. So I can’t blame you either.” But, for the other people who continue to not believe us and deny that they said or did certain things. ‘That’s harder. Cause it becomes this almost group of unhealthy people that you’re dealing with, rather than just the one unhealthy person. Iris: Right. Signs of a Toxic Relationship: The Sudden Switch After Marriage Anne: Did you end up going to couple therapy? Iris: In the Catholic Church you do Pre-Cana, which is pre-marriage counseling, and they saw some things that were concerning. He was very intent that he could change things. They would categorize it like how we were different. I think she said to me, “Life might always be kind of hard for him.” ‘Cause that’s what she was seeing.. He works very hard, so he seems very sincere. And he met with the man in the couple we met with. And read books and was very sincere. They said to us, “Oh, we’ve never seen somebody work so hard to try to improve themselves so that they’re ready for a marriage.” He impressed them, and I remember feeling exhausted by that point. And it was a mask. I now know that these were signs of a toxic relationship. Anne: Like you shouldn’t have to work that hard. to be normal. They are hard workers, because it would be very hard to pretend all the time. Iris: Right, and that’s how he lives. He has a mask all the time. We had this huge Catholic wedding, like an hour and 20 minute long mass. And it was that night the switch flipped. And he was angry. He cold shouldered me. We’d waited till our wedding night, and he said things that were incredibly humiliating. Seeing THE SAME SIGNS OF A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP IN OTHER WOMEN’S STORIES Iris: Then the next morning he would hardly talk to me. And we left the beautiful hotel. We were to go to a morning brunch at my parents, with guests who were from outta town and our families. And he was furious because people had decorated our car. And he had to stop at a car wash to rinse everything off before we even got to the wedding brunch. Anne: I used this story in my book. Iris: You did? Anne: Yes, this story. Someone else had the same story. Iris: Isn’t that amazing? Like how these Chucks do the same thing to us and have all the same signs of a toxic relationship. Anne: ‘ Like Twilight Zone. Cause you never gave me that story. Iris: isn’t that amazing? I feel like that in group a lot. I’m like, “Oh, that happened to me.” Anne: BTR has been like me trying to fit all the pieces together. And as I’ve tried to fit all the pieces together, things became very clear. And I’ve become very good at seeing in the dark. So this piece of the puzzle I was trying to get it to fit. Like why did he do that? I’ve never met you before, but I spent a lot of time piecing just this piece. With the other pieces that I had of other people’s stories to say, what was this about? I’ve spent so much time with this story in my brain and what it meant. I’m like, holy cow. Iris: Thank you. Thank you for somewhere to tell it, because it was something that felt so shameful for such a long time, rejected, and humiliated. RECOGNIZING THE PATTERNS OF EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE PARTNERS Iris: So we went to that wedding brunch, and I knew he was on edge the whole time. Other people didn’t necessarily see that. We got back to the house we were making our home together, which was his house. And he was angry, he didn’t want to go on our honeymoon, but I was like, I’ve been planning a wedding. All I have been thinking of is being able to go rest on a beach. So he agreed to go, and it was a really a horrible week. He was just fighting. His anger and unreasonableness, were more signs of a toxic relationship. It’s so hard, because he can make it feel like I’m also participating. We finally came home after the week, and at several points I thought maybe I should just fly home,’because it was awful. How would I even ask somebody to come and pick me up? What would I say? What would I do? Feeling so humiliated, like we had this big wedding, we’d done all this preparation, so we finally came home and I remember the first morning after we’d gotten home. He got up, he didn’t even talk to me. He grabbed his mountain bike, and he went mountain biking all day. That was a pattern that repeats throughout our marriage, where he just does his own, yeah. Anne: I had a mountain biking all day incident as well that I wrote about in my book. All of a sudden I’m like, what is happening? This is Twilight Zone, yes. Iris: No way. The Chucks, it’s the Chuck thing, which has been the most powerful thing to learn. WOMEN HAVE DIFFERENT RESPONSES Anne: Surreal that they’re all the same. I think that’s one of the powerful things about our group sessions is that the women are so different. We all react differently and we’re all doing the right thing. Because all of our personalities are different. So some of us want to protect ourselves by being quiet and sitting back and that’s the right thing for us. Some of us want to fight the guy, because that’s how our personality is. But they do all the same things. It doesn’t seem the same, because we haven’t acted the same. And I think the thing that like really helps it all come together is when you realize they’re so transactional. That they’re going to manipulate you in whatever way works for you, all signs of a toxic relationship. So if you’ve been trying to protect yourself in a certain way, they’ve been countering your protection methods in a certain way. And then when you change up the way you’re trying to protect yourself, they almost become like a different person. But they’ve been that same exact person the whole time. It’s just that they’re so transactional that they’re like, oh, that’s not working anymore. I have to do this other thing. And this whole new set of problems comes out so they can be super, super nice or super aggressive. But the whole time, it’s manipulation and lies. Did he ever go through a time where he seemed like he was really great? WHEN PREGNANCY AND BAD ADVICE KEEP YOU STUCK WITH SIGNS OF A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP Iris: I got pregnant right away, so I probably would’ve left, but then I was pregnant and trying to navigate that. When I found out I was pregnant with my first baby, I went to therapy right away, and that therapist just didn’t have the skills to recognize an emotional cycle of abuse and really gaslit me. Then got pregnant again when my daughter was nine months old. So I had two babies, under 18 months old. That was another thing. In my faith, that I grew up with, you’re supposed to accept all babies. That was something that really kept me trapped. I knew once I was pregnant that I would always have to be linked to him. And that was incredibly devastating and terrifying. I think the Christian, and I’m going to say trope, I don’t want to make fun of anybody, but the trope of marriage that you just have to work hard enough and it will all be fine. That really was so damaging when signs of a toxic relationship are present. He did tell me early in our marriage that he had struggled with porn. He did the Every Man’s Battle stuff and everything like that. Also he confided in me that he’d used some at work. He has a security clearance and was about to be interviewed with a, polygraph. He was afraid they would ask him something like that. At the time, he was abusive our whole marriage, but it was the most intense. I didn’t even have the wherewithal to understand that. It was disturbing, it made me feel awful. But I didn’t have any brain space to process what to do with that. He downloaded it on me to get it off his chest. HE WAS Emotionally ABUSIVE ALL OF THE TIME Iris: After my second baby was born, he was probably seven months old, I tried to leave to go to a mom’s group. My ex-husband was angry with me because of my daughter, who’s my older one. I was working on potty training her. And I let her wear pants without underwear. She pooped and he was furious. He came up behind me in the bathroom and pushed me against the counter and said, “Next time, make sure she wears underwear.” So he was abusive all of the time, disrupted my sleep, and would wake me up in the night angry if I coughed. I had to sleep on 18 inches of the bed or less, without moving to not anger him. The reaction I had was to kick him to get him to back up. That’s when he grabbed me by the throat and started to strangle me. And I know now, but I felt terrible later. All I wanted to do was leave. I got my coat and I got in the car and I left. My children were still in the house with him. I just wanted to get away. I went to the mom’s group like everything was fine. But I was dissociated and in trauma. I had gone to my therapist then within a day or two and just poured everything out. And her response was, other women have it worse. And I was so humiliated, like feeling somehow I had caused this. Even though like I knew, I have education. I was in my thirties, I knew that wasn’t right. But the abuse had taken so much of my strength. That kept me so trapped for so long. It made it harder to open up. Therapists aren’t equipped to see signs of a toxic relationship Iris: And we went to so many marriage therapists, who just aren’t equipped. Because Chuck is charming, and they just don’t understand the dynamic except for one therapist who we did not go back to. They didn’t see the signs of a toxiC relationship. But she was crazy. So we went in, it was this dilapidated house. She was far back in the house. The door was open. We went in and sat down. Literally a dog with sores and the cone of shame came out, and she was like, I’ll be right there. Chuck was like, so wigged out. She came out and talked to us for a little while. She also had paranoid notes tacked up on her wall. Anyway, she talks to us for a little while, and Chuck is so wigged out, so Chuck is walking out. And before we leave she says, I want to give you something. And she hands me a page, and it has books on it. So I went home and ordered it, and then it came and I didn’t read it, like I couldn’t read it. I didn’t read it for the longest time, because it was just so painful. But that was the only therapist who saw the signs of a toxic relationship. And then I found out the next week she lost her license, in the newspaper. Anyway, she was the only one who saw the abuse and handed me a key. Anne: So she handed you a clue. When His “I Choose You” Doesn't Add Up Iris: A clue, and she was right. I had gone to other therapists over the years. I looked just crazy, because I would just cry. One therapist had different offices and I would always go to the wrong one. because I had no short term working memory available. Chuck disrupted my sleep. I’d be in the shower, he’d bring the baby in screaming and put them on the bath mat and I’d have to get out and take care of the baby. He’d drive angry, the list goes on and on. I just didn’t have the words to explain. We went to a mom’s group event where dads were invited. And he was angry at me the whole time, but only I knew that. And then I had to get in the car and drive home with him. So it was really intense. And then at about the seven year mark, he decided that marriage worked for him. It was such a delight, such a relief to have him gone for two weeks. He came home from a business trip. And he said, “I realized it’s been you the whole time. You’re really the one that I want to be married to.” Anne: Oh Iris: Right. Anne: Wait, he was having an affair. Iris: I don’t know. Anne: That sounds like something someone would say if they just broke up with someone. Because they’re like trying to choose between the person they’re having an affair with. In my book, I put the pieces together. FROM THE DAY WE GOT MARRIED, THERE WERE SIGNS OF A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP Anne: After interviewing over 200 women and hearing their stories. I’m pretty good at knowing what happened. I think in this situation, he’s having an affair and she breaks up with him. He’s feeling bummed about it. He might say out loud to you, I decided I want to be with you. Iris: Mm hmm Anne: You don’t have the context of the affair, of him breaking up with her. So this really weird out of the blue statement, “I’ve decided I want to be married to you.” When he’s been married to you for seven years is odd. It also feels like a relief, “Oh, maybe he just didn’t want to be married to me before, and now he’s choosing me.” But you don’t realize what a weird out of place thing that is, because he makes you feel better in that moment. I don’t know if that rings true to you, but it seems that would be the order of events that would precipitate out of the blue, telling you, “Oh, I’m choosing you now.” Iris: Yeah, it didn’t make me feel better, because from the day we got married, he was horrible. it was awful. Anne: So you’re like, great. Now this awful person really wants to be married to me. Iris: It felt like a lie. Now that I understand how Chuck works, like there was something he wanted, he didn’t really love me. Somebody who really loved me and realized they were wrong would’ve not said that. I think they would’ve said, ” I’ve been horrible. I can see why you wouldn’t even want to be married to me, but I realized I really want to be married to you. They would’ve said something to try to heal that. Anne: Some effort to repair. Seeing the Patterns and Signs of a Toxic Relationship Anne: Instead it was more signs of a toxic relationship. Iris: I think so. And I think that’s why it felt awful. Because he manipulated me. Which I don’t think I could verbalize at that time, but he manipulated again. Anne: Were you about to leave at that time? Was there anything about you that was different? Iris: He knew that I was unhappy, but he was abusive all of the time, yeah. Anne: Did you ever find out about explicit media use? Iris: He told me, in hindsight, he’d invited a single woman that he’d never met to our wedding. Which was weird. It was a last minute thing, and I feel like she was probably a backup. Anne: You’ve said three stories now that sound exactly like other stories. I have heard this before. Your story includes all the classic, down to the detail. Iris: Wow Anne: Of inviting someone else to the wedding. Iris: The Chuckness of it. Anne: You got a winner. Iris: He’s a doozy. He told me later that he didn’t actually want to get married. Then when I look at inviting this woman to the wedding, he didn’t admit that for many years. But when he did, I was like, oh, so she must have been the escape hatch. If he didn’t go through with marrying me, he would’ve had someone in the wings. FEELING HELPLESS Iris: I suspect he continues to use porn. He is in cybersecurity, and he always had three computers in his office. So I wonder if one of those he used. I don’t know. I’ve always been curious about what that was. I don’t think I was as tuned into that until I was leaving the marriage. And then there wasn’t much that I had access to. There wasn’t anybody that seemed to have that language who I could talk to. I just felt really helpless, and he was very manipulative and very controlling, the love bombing, he is very good at. The other part was that I was super reactive at that point. So I felt very guilty about my responses to his behavior. Even though it was less intense and further apart. But the reality is that those first seven years, in the bedroom, total coercion, marital rape, and everything now that I have words for, had happened. By that point, like there was very little he had to do to make me comply, to try to stay out of his way. I would try to have a separate life, while maintaining that Christian marriage appearance. It took me a long time to see these as signs of a toxic relationship. Anne: We would probably call it like survival mode. You are trying to survive and that’s why a lot of people use the word survivor when they talk about abuse victims, because every day you’re just trying to survive. Why Getting Help Feels So Scary at First Iris: Yeah, daily. Navigate all of the things that are happening that just don’t make any sense. And I don’t have the words for. I think during the pandemic, I started to see your Instagrams. And it was like, oh, that’s what’s happening, those are the words. That’s what this is. And beginning to be able to label things and feel like I’m not alone. Then, wanting to join group, but then being afraid. What if it doesn’t help, I don’t want Chuck to know I’m joining? Just feeling do I really want to do that? because I felt like if I go through that door, I can’t go back. Anne: Can we talk about that for a minute? because a lot of women have told me that. I followed you on Instagram, or I listened to the podcast, and I didn’t start attending group sessions because I knew it would change everything. What is it about BTR that is different in that way? It’s different than maybe therapy or something. Is it because you’re going to finally get help to look at it. Seeing the signs of a toxic relationship can be scary at first. Iris: This can make me cry. I think, because no one had helped. So I think there was an element of, I could try this and probably it’s still not going to help. By that point, looking for help for so long and thinking, I don’t know that anything will help. then being so vulnerable and beaten down. I think there’s a sense of like, does anybody really want to help me? Do I deserve help? because it certainly seems like it’s my fault. So being very afraid to join a group. Like it’s terrifying the first day. BTR FELT LIKE AN ANSWER TO PRAYER Anne: Once you did attend a group session? Were you surprised at what happened? Iris: Yeah, the first day I joined, you hear that zoom beep and you are in group and feeling so afraid. But I was so welcome. it was like I could take a breath, even though really I was crying so hard. Hearing everybody talk, hearing the coaches talk, feeling like the words made sense. I didn’t share that first time, but just crying afterwards. Like there’s somewhere that gets this. There’s somewhere where there are other women who understand this. I’ve never met anybody who knows what’s happening to me. In my story, something that’s amazing was that when my daughter was a baby, there was this show on daytime TV called Starting Over House. It was a reality show for women to go to this house and start over. They had two coaches, and I remember watching these women go, and they had all different kinds of problems that they were trying to grow from or whatever. All I wanted was to take my baby and join that house. It was a reality show. I’m sure it would not have been really super helpful. But I just wanted to have people love on me and help me figure out my marriage. That’s all I wanted. So when I came to Betrayal Trauma Recovery group, I’m not kidding you, two of the coaches looked like those two coaches on that show. It just felt like it was a prayer answer. HIS ANGER WAS THERE ALL THE TIME Iris: So Sharon and Renee, two coaches loved on me and made me feel like I wasn’t crazy. And helped me to slowly unravel what had been happening and what had happened to me, and find my voice. I joined in the spring, I was already starting to take steps in my marriage to not engage with Chuck. By July, he was angry with me all of the time. Which I’ll come back to in just a minute. But , before I had joined, he had done some really angry driving in the car. He’d been angry one day when I had locked the door to the master bedroom, because I like to pray and meditate. And then I had gotten in the shower without unlocking it. Because I just want privacy from two kids, a dog and a Chuck. He banged on the door for as long as I was in the shower, and I could hardly hear him, but it scared the pants off of my kids. I felt like I didn’t know what to do. When I joined group, I finally started to have some strategies and observe him. Sometimes I forget all the things that happened. Right before I joined in February, he bought a new car and asked for money from his father. Then he came to me and said, “I didn’t spend all the money on the car. I saved some, so either you can go to marriage therapy with me.”, which he’d been threatening, and I didn’t want to go to marriage therapy with him because we’d been many, many times. GROUP HELPED ME SEE THE SIGNS OF A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP Iris: He said, “Either you go to marriage therapy with me, and I’ll buy a car for our daughter, or I’m going to divorce you. Not long after that, I ended up joining group. Then he said, “I used that money to file for divorce. I hired an attorney, and how do you want me to serve you your papers?” At that point, I had enough skill to say you can have me served, thank you. And it was super calm. And then I actually jumped in group and was able to just process. One of the things that was so amazing was that everything happening to me in real time, I could then go in a group, get support, be in my closet, my car, or at the library. The more I went towards health and boundaries, the angrier he got. So he actually continued to ask me for two months how I wanted my divorce papers. I can see how divorce and emotional abuse were intertwined, he was using the threat of divorce to try to control me. I would say, “You can have me served.” And he would say, I don’t want to pay $400. He did that until I got a paper in the mail and I thought that I was being served. I didn’t think I could be served in the mail, which you can’t in my state, but it was actually that they were going to kick it out of the system. I took that paper to an attorney, because I had been interviewing attorneys. That kicked off the divorce process. Because I was served. Anne: That whole time he is asking, “How do you want to be served? And you’re like, “Just serve me.” DEALING WITH CONTROL WHEN HE FILED FOR DIVORCE Anne: He's trying to get you to do something to stop the divorce. He threatens you—if you don't toe the line, I'll divorce you. When you’re like, okay, go ahead and divorce me, then he’s escalating. Using all the tricks and signs of a toxic relationship that worked before. He reminds me of my ex, who said that. Then he didn’t file. Because he thought that would instigate me repairing. Or me doing the thing I was supposed to do. And when I didn’t do it, I don’t think he wanted to file for divorce. It’s just that he couldn’t figure out how to control me anymore. He was like, well, I guess I have to make these things happen. And it sounds the same in this scenario, where he’s trying to get you to do something. Because a normal person, if they’re like, how do you want me to serve you? And you say, oh, just serve me. They’d be like, okay. And they would serve you. Iris: Right, it was control. I was so thankful I could go back in group and have the framework, putting my lab coat on, doing one step at a time. Getting shored up so that I wouldn’t be bowled over by his behavior. I finally hired an attorney, and my attorney notified his attorney. Chuck came to me and said, “Well, that’s not fair. You didn’t tell me you had an attorney. And now we both have to decide to dismiss the divorce. I can’t just decide myself.” Anne: Like not to get divorced? After he’s filed, he’s like, wait. Now that you’ve responded to me serving you with divorce papers, we actually have to get divorced. Iris: Right. Anne: That sounds like my Chuck too. INDIVIDUAL SESSIONS HELPED ME GET READY FOR EACH BIG BATTLE Iris: Really, it’s like they’re all going by the same playbook. I think realizing that these are all the signs of a toxic relationship was huge. And it allowed me to understand that my job was to be strategic. Chuck does a lot of stupid as a strategy. That attorney he hired in July, by the time our status conference was in October, he’d used all of his retainer. Which was $5,000, and nothing had happened yet. Because he is a Chuck and likes to call his attorney to talk. So then right after the status conference, he fired the attorney and then went pro se for a while. I was so thankful that I had BTR, that I could do group. I could do the Betrayal Trauma Recovery individual sessions to get ready for each big barrier or battle with him, so that I went in calm and focused. It really allowed me, in my divorce process to understand that this was the best thing for me. Even though he was trying to control me. It was finally the door out. And he kept coming back to me and asking, “Do you really want a divorce?” And I would say, “You could move out.” But he never would. One of the other things was that understanding that there was going to be so much out of my control and really focusing on what was in my control. In my coaching sessions with Renee and with Sharon, being able to determine what my top priorities were. My priorities weren’t numbers. My priorities were big picture. And then I said, these are the things that are most important and this is what I want to work towards. And it helped me. I feel like things worked out well for me. WE SETTLED AN HOUR BEFORE COURT Iris: So having enough money to restart and go back to school. Having stability for my kids, not selling the house immediately so that my daughter could finish high school. Like those were the big picture things. And because Chuck just wants to fight, it was the 11th hour literally. He hired an attorney again, just weeks before our divorce was final. But we ended up settling like an hour before court. I was able just to hang on, to understand it was going to be like that no matter what I did. Like I didn’t have any control over him, and I really got up that morning not knowing what was going to happen. And being at peace in that, and that I was doing all the things that I needed to do, and to let go of that so that I wasn’t in a battle with him. That was incredibly powerful. Hard but powerful. So it’s been final for two years. And the post separation abuse continues, and BTR’s been incredibly helpful in that. I was able to stay in our marital home for a year till our daughter graduated, and then last year that sold. So I moved out and things just lined up. In part because he was so disorganized. I think that worked out in my favor. And I’m now in school finishing a post Master’s certificate in school counseling. And I got hired last fall as a school counselor. So I’m working full-time as a school counselor while finishing my certificate. Just having somewhere to work out the technical stuff and then the emotional stuff, to understand how to be strategic. RESTARTING MY LIFE Iris: Because I could stay in that place rather than be in his blender. Which is what it was for 18 years. I have been able to restart my life and feel so grateful and fortunate. That I’ve had the support, and he continues to be abusive. And my daughter now is 19 and my son is 17. And so being able to talk about that and how he behaves helped me. I know that at some point, I won’t have to interact with him as much. Or at all once my kids are bigger. But because of the type of abuser he is, because of the types of things he did to me, I know that I am at greater risk of him being dangerous to me physically. And so being able to unpack that, but also, understanding that I have a right to safety and that I can take steps to do that and not feel bad about it. He’s much sneakier now. He’s incredibly angry with me and feels like the divorce was unfair. Because his goal is control, he can’t control me anymore, I think is one reason why he’s angry. It is palpable when I’m around him. He seethes at me. Other people may not be able to see it because he’ll mask it until there’s nobody around. But I think it has been invaluable to me to have a community where I can process that and then take steps to be safe from all the signs of a toxic relationship. When I finally blocked him, which was scary to do, because we have two kids. And that was easier to be able to text and call. It was just another vector for him to get to me. BLOCKING HIM FELT SO EMPOWERING Iris: So blocking him and doing email only. It felt so empowering to make that decision and be able to unpack that in group and also get the support of “Yay, you finally blocked him.” Like I’d been talking about it for so long. And trying to figure out the signs of a toxic relationship, There are the big steps to leave abuse and there are smaller ones too. Sometimes it’s the little ones that felt really hard. Especially because then my kids would know that I blocked him. Moving away from abuse is hard. I left the house today because I have somebody cleaning my house, which I started hiring somebody. So that I can do all that I’m doing. because I’ve been in school and working full-time and parenting two teens, and it feels so empowering. When they walked in today, I was thinking, because I was coming to talk to you and I was like, they’re helping me leave abuse. And I can say that to you. I think you know that. But he was abusive with cleaning. He would wake me. He likes things clean. He’d wake the kids cleaning and it’s very controlling. But to have a clean house and not be abused, it’s hard to express. This is my safe space, and I get to decide how it gets clean. I get to decide how to spend my money. I get to make choices now that I couldn’t make before. I’m just so incredibly grateful that BTR, I can make choices and know that I can. Thank you. LEARNING THE STRATEGIES IS INVALUABLE Anne: You are so brave and so strong. Look at you. You’ve got a good job. You have enough money to be able to hire someone to help clean your house, and the lack of guilt. Because some people have the money, but they’re like, I still can’t. I should be able to, no, like look at all the amazing things that you’ve accomplished. When it comes to divorce, if people ask me my situation, I say I am proudly divorced. I am so happy divorced. And I also say things like abuse doesn’t work out for a lot of people, but it worked out so well for me. Because everything that I have gained from learning about the signs of a toxic relationship and the strategies of protecting myself, has been invaluable. Like our confidence just grows day by day. That little voice in our heads and that little like charge that feels like I’m doing something wrong or I can’t do this or I can’t do that just starts to fade away. And life feels so free and wonderful. I’m so happy for you. It’s wonderful. Good job. Iris: Thank you, thank you for starting BTR and your podcasts were such a beacon for me too. Before I started group of these voices saying, “You’re not alone, you’re not crazy.” Listening to your voice, I still probably need to hear that a lot, because he makes me feel crazy. So thank you. Anne: Well, thank you, without women like you who listen and come and use our services, we wouldn’t be here. So thank you. Our services are incredible. Our team is incredible. It’s such a safe place. THE DIFFERENCE WITH BTR SERVICES Anne: I’ve been thinking a lot about the difference between BTR and the difference in our services is that it’s so real. You really have women you can see who know your story. You can talk to them every single day in person . And they’re never going to blame you or judge you. It’s never going to be that you made some kind of soul contract, like the weird stuff that you might hear from people who somehow try to blame you. I’m like, there’s no reason to ever say any of it had anything to do with you. because you were surviving the best you could the whole time, and you were going for help, and no one gave you the right information. And none of that has anything to do with you. They are helping you deal with the signs of a toxic relationship. That’s the crazy thing about abuse. You’re doing every single thing right and you still can’t get the right information. Despite you trying to get it for years. Some people don’t believe it, because they can’t imagine that would happen. But it happens every day with so many women all over the world. Anyway, thank you for your support of BTR. Iris: It is really such a privilege to be in this community. I felt, loved on and prayed for fiercely. BTR GIVES US THE STRATEGIES THAT WE NEED Iris: I remember when I first started. I thought they’re giving us the weapons that we need to fight the battle. Almost under the cover of darkness. They sort of come into our homes, our cars, our closets, and give us the weapons we need to fight the evil that is happening to all of us. Like all of a sudden realizing the support, but also the education that BTR does, is invaluable, to help us recognize and deal with the signs of a toxic relationship. I could get out of my reactive brain and really start to think, “Oh, this is what’s happening. Okay, this is what I can do. Chuck is doing this. This is what I’ve always done, but I don’t have to do that. I can do this.” It changed everything. Anne: Well, I am so glad, thank you so much, Iris, for taking the time to share your story with me today. Iris: Thank you.

Dr. Caroline Leaf is a cognitive neuroscientist and bestselling author who has spent over 40 years studying the relationship between the mind and the brain. At a time when neuroplasticity was still emerging as a field, she was already building clinical tools to help patients recover from brain injuries, trauma, and conditions that conventional medicine had written off as permanent. In this conversation, we go deep into a distinction that changes everything: the mind is not the brain, and once you understand that, you stop being a victim of your own biology.What We Dive Into:1. The brain does not generate thoughts. It responds to the mind. Everything you think, feel, and choose originates in the mind and then gets coded into the brain and body. 2. Depression, anxiety, and other mental health labels are not diseases you have. They are signals pointing to an underlying thought that needs to be found and restructured. 3. You cannot change what happened, but you can change the impact it has on your present and future. Through a process of deconstructing and reconstructing toxic thought networks, the grip of the past loosens. Know Thyself, but not by yourself. A guided space to return home to yourself.https://www.knowthyselfcollective.com✨THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS:https://www.bioptimizers.com/knowthyselfUse code KNOWTHYSELF to save 15% at checkout___________00:00 Intro03:11 The Difference Between Mind and Brain07:17 Why the Brain-Is-Boss Model Gets It Wrong12:25 Consciousness Beyond the Physical Body14:25 Quantum Physics, Microtubules, and the Mind21:24 Science and Spirituality Converging23:41 Early Research: Neuroplasticity and Traumatic Brain Injury28:50 Mind-Driven Change: Telomeres and Cellular Health31:56 Working in South Africa: Healing Through Mental Frameworks34:31 The Origin of the Neurocycle40:13 The Non-Conscious, Subconscious, and Conscious Mind49:35 How Thoughts and Memories Build Into the Brain and Body51:59 The Five Steps of the Neurocycle57:01 Step One: Gather Awareness01:00:24 Step Two: Reflect01:02:10 Steps Three to Five: Mindstorm, Recheck, Active Reach01:09:28 Community Questions: Fear of Losing Your Identity01:14:32 Working Through Shame, Grief, and Emotional Signals01:15:46 Retroactive Causation: Changing the Past Through the Present01:19:28 Intelligent Design, Choice, and the Source Behind Life01:22:45 Mindsets, Patterns, and Teaching Children01:25:58 Stress as Intelligence: The New Book___________✨MORE FROM DR. LEAF↳Website (for books, courses, 1:1 coaching): https://drleaf.com/↳Neurocycle app: https://drleaf.com/neurocycle-app↳Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-dr-leaf-show/id1334767397↳Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@DrCarolineLeaf↳Neurocycle Certification: https://drleaf.com/certified-strategist

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In this episode: Why can it be so hard to fully be ourselves, especially when we know we're here to do things differently? In this episode, Frida explores how family patterns, unconscious loyalties, and our deep need for belonging can shape who we believe we're allowed to be. Through the lens of Family & Systemic Constellations, she shares a different perspective on purpose, visibility, self-trust, and the courage it takes to follow your own path. This is an invitation to honour where you've come from while becoming more fully yourself. About Frida: 4/1 emotional Manifestor Frida Kabo is a Family & Systemic Constellations facilitator and host of The Healing Business Revolution podcast. She helps healers and purpose-led business owners create meaningful lives and businesses that work for them through self-trust, visibility, and systemic awareness. Connect with Frida: www.fridakabo.com IG: @fridakabo -- Start Here: If you're unsure where you are in your Manifestor journey, begin with our quiz: Where Are You in Your Manifestor Journey? Discover whether you're in a Discovering, Healing, or Leading phase — and the resources that support your current season as a Manifestor.

Yesterday I experienced a noticeable pattern that couldn't be explained away as mere coincidence. It points to something most people never stop to consider: that the "coincidences" woven through your life might not be random at all. Many people want to dismiss synchronicities, but I see them as signs of an intelligent Universe speaking to us. Join me, Kara Goodwin, LIVE for this Soul Elevation conversation about synchronicities: what they actually are, what they might be pointing to, and why tuning in to them could fundamentally shift how you experience your spiritual awakening. I'll share real examples from me own life (just yesterday, in fact) and introduce a completely new framework for how we understand meaningful coincidences, spiritual signs, and the hidden structure of lived experience. We're moving past the surface-level explanation we've all heard before. In this LIVE stream we'll explore: ✦ Why synchronicities are far more than coincidence ✦ The deeper framework behind what they actually are ✦ What the universe may be showing you through these signs ✦ What synchronicities might be trying to tell you ✦ Real examples  If you've been experiencing signs from the Universe, noticing patterns you can't explain, or feeling the pull of something bigger on your spiritual path, don't miss this one. Sean McNamara episode: https://youtube.com/watch?v=duZ-KYVGj6k&feature=youtu.be 

In today's episode of The Successful Nurse Coach Podcast, Laura tackles one of the most common challenges new nurse coaches face: comparison. From feeling behind in your business to questioning your abilities and worthiness, comparison has a way of stealing confidence and creating unnecessary suffering.Laura shares personal stories from her own journey, including lessons from mentors, networking experiences, and moments when comparison nearly derailed her confidence. She also breaks down why nurses are especially vulnerable to comparison and offers practical strategies to shift from self-judgment to self-trust.If you've ever felt like you're not moving fast enough, not experienced enough, or not good enough, this episode is a powerful reminder that your journey is unfolding exactly as it should.Connect with us:Instagram: @successfulnursecoachesWebsite: www.thesuccessfulnursecoaches.comWatch the full episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/j1X_j8wStVMMentioned in this episode:Cohort 7https://www.nurselifecoachacademy.com/

In this episode of "F-Stop Collaborate and Listen," Matt Payne welcomes back Jason Bradley, publisher and content director of Wild Eye Magazine, to explore the intersection of passion, creativity, and photography publishing. Jason Bradley shares his journey from underwater photography to founding Wild Eye, gives insight into the evolving landscape of nature photography magazines, and stresses the importance of printing images for creative growth. The conversation covers how photographic history and community influence his work, tips for getting published, why writing matters, and the differences between fine art and "postcard" photography. There's also discussion about the revitalization of analog processes, building a photography community, and special giveaways for listeners. Links and Resources Mentioned This Week Jason Bradley / Bradley Photographic Lab Wild Eye Magazine Muench Workshops John Shaw Book Ansel Adams: A Biography by Mary Street Alinder John Sexton Ted Orland Vital Impacts (Amy Vitale's foundation) Patterns by Jon McCormick Bob Talbot Crush It by Gary Vaynerchuk Support the show on Patreon Support Matt Payne's Book Wild Eye Magazine promo code "FSTOP": wildeyemagazine.com (use code at checkout) Bradley Photographic Print Lab promo code "FSTOP": bradleyprintandphoto.com (mention code at checkout)

Send us Fan MailBill and Bryan dig into what they call "patterns of limitation" — the ingrained habits and mindsets that quietly cap your sales growth, often disguised as things that are already working.They explore four key patterns worth examining: the tendency to focus on the big picture while ignoring critical details, the trap of pursuing vague or undefined problems with prospects, the danger of plateauing without recognizing it, and the gradual drift away from your core purpose and identity as a seller.The conversation also includes a fun detour into time zones, a live phone interruption from Bill's wife, and a preview of their upcoming 20th anniversary celebration event in September — where every listener who submits a video is invited to join.This is Part 1 of a two-part series. Part 2 picks up on the concept of drift.The Insider program is open for enrollment. To check out our small learning group, go to http://advancedsellingpodcast.com/insiderIf you haven't already, join 14,000+ other sales professionals in our LinkedIn group at advancedsellingpodcast.com/linkedinIs it time to make a BOLD move in your business? If so, download our brand new book, "12 Bold Moves - Insider Secrets to Reinventing Yourself and Your Business." http://12boldmoves.com

Kyle Grieve discusses what bubbles are, why they form, and why they always feel different in real time. He'll examine historical patterns through frameworks from Insana, Kindleberger, and Howard Marks, and explain how investors can protect themselves by focusing on intrinsic value over narratives rather than speculation. IN THIS EPISODE YOU'LL LEARN: (00:00:00) Intro (00:02:31) Why understanding bubbles is critical for long-term investor survival (00:04:31) How “this time is different” fuels every historical bubble (00:05:37) Why smart money, incentives, and career risk inflate bubbles (00:07:21) How investors rationalize bubbles using new, useless KPIs (00:08:56) The predictable emotional arc: skepticism, euphoria, panic, collapse (00:10:04) Why price detaches from intrinsic value during bubbles (00:12:28) Kindleberger's five stages: displacement, boom, revulsion, discredit (00:30:58) Lessons from tiny bubbles like plank roads and Beanie Babies (00:53:01) How human nature, not technology, causes recurring bubbles (01:08:44) How to protect portfolios from bubbles by focusing on value, not narratives Disclaimer: Slight discrepancies in the timestamps may occur due to podcast platform differences. BOOKS AND RESOURCES Join the exclusive ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TIP Mastermind Community⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Track ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Intrinsic Value Portfolio⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Buy Trendwatching. Follow Kyle on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠X⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Linkedin⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Related ⁠books⁠ mentioned in the podcast. Ad-free episodes on our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Premium Feed⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. NEW TO THE SHOW? Get smarter about valuing businesses through ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Intrinsic Value Newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Check out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Investor's Podcast Starter Packs⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Follow our official social media accounts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠X⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Try our tool for picking stock winners and managing our portfolios: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TIP Finance⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Enjoy exclusive perks from our ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠favorite Apps and Services⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. Learn how to better start, manage, and grow your business with the ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠best business podcasts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. SPONSORS Support our free podcast by supporting our ⁠⁠⁠⁠sponsors⁠⁠⁠⁠: ⁠Plus500⁠ ⁠Netsuite⁠ ⁠Vanta⁠ ⁠Shopify⁠ References to any third-party products, services, or advertisers do not constitute endorsements, and The Investor's Podcast Network is not responsible for any claims made by them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://theinvestorspodcastnetwork.supportingcast.fm

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