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We all know that there is something fractured about the workplace, that makes it inefficient, and at times inhumane. If only someone was thinking deeply about those problems, and how to address them… Visit our Substack for the full episode: https://designbetterpodcast.com/p/clay-parker-jones That's what Clay Parker Jones is working on right now. Clay has spent close to two decades on this problem — first at the consultancy undercurrent, and today as Head of Org Design and Development at Airbnb. He advocates for investment in creativity and humanity at work, something you might think would be obvious for any company, but sadly is eclipsed by short term thinking. His new book, Hidden Patterns: A Playbook for More Human Workplaces, is one of the most cohesive philosophies of organizational structure we've come across. And his diagnosis of what's broken is simple: there aren't enough real teams. Most of us work in what he calls “co-acting groups” — people who convene for a meeting and then scatter back to their actual work. In this conversation, we get into why psychological safety stays a platitude until you make it structural, what rule of law looks like inside a company, and how to break a manager's job into atomic pieces and hand away the parts you're bad at. We also chat about why the org chart is a design problem that designers should be at the table for. Bio Clay Parker Jones leads Organizational Design & Development at Airbnb, refining how a creativity-first company learns and ships new ideas. A former Chief Strategy Officer at Black Glass, co-founder of August, and transformation lead at R/GA, his work has been recognized by B Lab and profiled in a Harvard Business School case study. A former bike mechanic with a BA in Diplomacy and World Affairs from Occidental College, Clay now resides in Brooklyn with his wife Emily and cat Ian. You can find him on the Fort Greene tennis courts in his spare time. *** Premium Episodes on Design Better This is a premium episode on Design Better. We release two premium episodes per month, along with two free episodes for everyone. New premium subscriber benefit: we've launched a private Slack workspace…join now to connect with designers, product leaders & creative practitioners in our community. And get a behind-the-scenes pass to every episode with The Roundup, where each week we bring you insights and actionable tactics from recent episodes. Premium subscribers get access to the documentary Design Disruptors and our growing library of books. You'll also get access to our monthly AMAs with former guests, ad-free episodes, discounts and early access to workshops, and our monthly newsletter The Brief that compiles salient insights, quotes, readings, and creative processes uncovered in the show. And subscribers at the annual level now get access to the Design Better Toolkit, which gets you major discounts and free access to tools and courses that will help you unlock new skills, make your workflow more efficient, and take your creativity further. Upgrade to paid Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this episode of Coaching Call, Sifu Rafael welcomes back Brigitta Hoeferle for her second appearance, continuing a powerful conversation about communication, leadership, human behavior, and the patterns that shape our success.Brigitta is a global speaker, businesswoman, NLP Master Trainer, and Chairman of the Center of NLP, established in 1986. Bringing together European precision and American ambition, she has spent years helping leaders, entrepreneurs, and organizations better understand how people think, communicate, and create lasting change.At the center of Brigitta's work is a simple but powerful philosophy: Success Comes in Patterns. The way we communicate, respond, make decisions, and interact with others creates patterns, and once we learn to recognize them, we gain the ability to change them.In this return conversation, Sifu Rafael and Brigitta go deeper into the art of communication, the science behind success, leadership, NLP, and what happens when we become more intentional about the patterns driving our lives.Watch on YouTube and subscribe:https://www.youtube.com/@sifurafaeltv?sub_confirmation=1Sifu Rafael is a master instructor and founder of Speaking Prowess, combining communication and leadership to help people unlock their potential with greater clarity, confidence, and purpose.This episode is brought to you by Sifu's Mind Body Method, a lifestyle transformation blending movement, mindset, nutrition, hydration, fasting, journaling, and faith. Learn more at sifumethod.comThat's where connecting with Sifu Rafael matters.Through Speaking Prowess and Sifu's Mind Body Method, Sifu Rafael helps leaders, entrepreneurs, and experts refine their message, command a room, and step onto more stages with clarity and confidence. From podcasts and live shows to keynote stages and curated experiences, Sifu Rafael helps people get seen, heard, and positioned as trusted voices in their industry while sharpening their speaking skills along the way.If you know you're meant to speak, lead, and impact at a higher level, this conversation is your invitation.Visit sifurafael.com to connect, explore speaking opportunities, and start positioning yourself for more stages, stronger presence, and real influence.#coachingcall #sifurafael #brigittahoeferle #communication #leadership #nlp #success

In episode three of this special series of Defensible Decisions discussing Ogletree's Talent Risk Assessor, shareholders Scott Kelly (Birmingham/Washington) and Chris Near (Columbia) are joined by Chrissy Blantz from the firm's Data Analytics team to examine separations and terminations—an area of the employment lifecycle where legal risk is often most acute. Using a hypothetical multi-state employer, the speakers walk through how a statistically significant flag in overall separation rates can be disaggregated by involuntary versus voluntary terminations and further broken down by separation reason codes to identify the actual driver behind the pattern, in this case, disproportionate use of temporary, time-limited roles. The episode illustrates how a data-driven, legally informed inquiry, conducted under privilege and properly documented, builds a defensible position even when the underlying cause turns out to have a legitimate explanation.

Hey, friend. As an estrangement coach, and as a sister in Christ, part of what I do is tell you the truth in love. Sometimes the truth stings a little. Or even a lot. But if you're hearing it in a safe space, from someone who loves you… it's bearable.  . And it's sometimes necessary to allow that hard truth to come in and be heard. If you're going to heal. If you're going to get your child back in your life… sometimes the hard truths are the transformational tipping points.  . In this episode of The Estranged Mom Coach, we're going to have a conversation with some hard truths invited to attend. But you are emotionally safe here and you can trust me to tell you the truth… in love.  . In working with many estranged mothers, I've seen some patterns that contribute to keeping the estrangement going. Patterns you may be totally unaware of, and yet they are controlling a part of your life that's left such an ache in your well-meaning heart.  . Come in, find a comfortable spot to be… and let's talk about it.  . Next Steps: 1) Apply for your FREE consultation to talk to Jenny 1:1. Find out the exact path forward to feeling better and greatly increasing your chances of getting your son or daughter back in your life. And learn how estrangement coaching can get you there: www.theestrangedmomcoach.com/schedule    ⬇️ 2) Access your audio meditation to help you cast your anxieties and worries about estrangement at the feet of Jesus: https://www.theestrangedmomcoach.com/meditation   ⬇️ 3) Join the free Facebook support community for Christian estranged mothers: https://www.facebook.com/groups/christianestrangedmothers    ⬇️ 4) Download Your Free Guide Of What To Do When Your Adult Child Estranges: https://www.theestrangedmomcoach.com/child-estrangement-next-steps  . Client Reviews… ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐  Jenny's teachings have produced results reconnecting me with my estranged daughter… I cannot express enough gratitude for the incredible support and guidance received in the most tragic time of my life from coach Jenny Good. Her faith, compassion, understanding, dedication and display of radical love has truly been life-changing for me. I was so overwhelmed with feelings of confusion, guilt, and sadness. I felt lost and didn't know how to navigate through the emotional turmoil I was experiencing. However, from the very first call, Jenny created a safe and non-judgmental space for me to share my details. Her ability to listen attentively and empathize while helping me understand a different way of thinking is truly remarkable. She understood my feelings and offered tools each session in ways I have not experienced even from therapy. I am forever thankful for the medicine she has poured into me to be the very best version of myself! This has rippled into all areas of life for me. Jenny's teachings have produced results reconnecting me with my estranged daughter! Thank you for being the vessel of unwavering faith & love that so many of us could benefit from, estranged or not. A true Godsend.  - Melinda Wyman . ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ I am living a truly happy life, and I reconciled with all 3 of my sons! Having a coach and mentor who is rooted in Christ is very important. I've experienced so much inner healing with Jenny as my Coach. I am living a truly happy life, and I reconciled with all 3 of my sons! I feel empowered to continue stepping into my full power as a mother and to live a life where my children matter, but they don't determine my worth. I am me again. - Carol Adams

In this podcast, I'm breaking down the patterns and cycles we live in, how they get formed, why they can be so hard to see, and how something you learned years ago can quietly keep running your life today. Sometimes you don't even know you have a pattern because it just feels like who you are. You keep ending up in the same friendships, relationships, emotional reactions, burnout, overthinking, people-pleasing, self-abandonment, or beliefs about yourself and eventually you have to ask, why do I keep ending up here? We're getting into how your environment, nervous system, thoughts, emotions, and behaviors all work together to reinforce what feels familiar, even when familiar isn't healthy. But awareness is only the beginning. Changing a pattern requires doing something different long enough to create new evidence. It means building the capacity to receive what used to feel uncomfortable, sit with emotions without immediately reacting to them, and separate what you feel from what is actually true about you. Kate Hastings Website: herformation.com Email: Kate@herformation.com Instagram: @coachkate1 Mission Med+ | Dr. Kristin Oakes Website: www.missionmedplus.com Text 24/7 or Call: 786-692-9775 Email: koakes@missionmedus.com Instagram: @MissionMed.Plus Discount: Mention "Coach Kate" for 10% off all services

Patreon backer Nathan asked me to figure out his episode pattern, which turned into a rambling discourse on patterns in our games in general. Enjoy! Thanks to Ray Otus for our thumbnail image. The intro music is a clip from "Solve the Damn Mystery" by Jesse Spillane, used under a Creative Commons Attribution License. If you're enjoying the show, why not consider supporting it on Patreon? You'll get access to lots of new bonus content, including my other podcast, Patron Deities!

Kate Bradley Chernis spent over a decade figuring out how to use sound to make strangers feel like friends. At Sirius/XM, she was building 200-layer audio files for 30-second commercials. Next, she was infusing radio theory into a generative AI platform before most people knew what generative AI was. Now at Backline EQ, she's using the same instinct, that sound tells you things a transcript never could, to engineer human connection at scale. This conversation covers all of it: the neuroscience, the pivots, and the parts of the journey she rarely shares out loud.In this episode:The theater of the mind and why it's the foundation of trust: when your brain constructs the story rather than receiving it passively, it taps into nostalgia, memory, and emotion — the three keystones of why we buy, connect, and believeWhy your eyes lie but your ears don't — Kate's case that sound is the most honest and hardest-to-trick human sense, and what that means for AI tools that rely entirely on transcriptsThe "rules of radio" Kate embedded into Lately's AI — word choices like "remember" versus "don't forget" that trigger different emotional responses, drawn from her training in the neuroscience of music and parasocial connectionHow Backline EQ outperformed the Microsoft/IBM/Google industry-standard language model (MFCC) by 70% in measuring team fit — using voice patterns alone, without transcriptionKate's vulnerable disclosure about a difficult period in her life after eleven years building a company and how her mother's reminder that she was a prodigy at six became the unexpected anchor that helped her begin againThe investor who finally told her to stop inventing something new and just make existing technology better and how that single pivot made everything easier for the first time in over a decadeContent Warning: This episode includes a brief discussion of suicidal ideation. The conversation is handled with care and context, but we want our listeners to be prepared.If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988 — the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline — available 24/7 in both the US and Canada.Episode Highlights:00:00 - Podcast Welcome and Content Warning00:17 - Sound Design Obsession01:20 - Meet Kate Bradley Chernis03:32 - Kinder Egg Smuggling Story04:13 - From Radio to AI05:56 - Theater of the Mind10:23 - Why Sound Builds Trust12:36 - Building Lately Secret Sauce15:23 - Voice Control and Trust21:18 - Staying Human in AI28:58 - Leaving XM and Starting Up34:27 - Early Genius, Confidence and Reinvention36:26 - Self Love and Authenticity38:38 - Imposter Syndrome Scale39:15 - Resume Exercise for Confidence42:29 - Trusting Your Gut44:10 - Loneliness and Standing Up47:05 - Entrepreneurship Lessons52:05 - Rebuilding The Village56:19 - Backline EQ Pivot01:01:37 - Patterns and the Bridge01:06:49 - Collecting Data the Hard Way01:09:56 - Sound As A Force01:11:22 - Return on Collisions01:13:20 - Saying No and Self Care01:16:57 - Closing Thanks and OutroResources mentioned:This Is Your Brain on Music — Daniel LevitinThe Art of the Start — Guy KawasakiBackline EQ Live Conversations — Kate's audio salons, every other Thursday at 2:00 PM EasternMFCC (Mel-frequency cepstral coefficients) — industry language model standard Kate's technology was benchmarked againstQuotes:“Your eyes lie. They can lie to you, but sound doesn't.” - Kate Bradley Chernis“Often people will focus so much on their life condition rather than, "No, I'm here for a reason. I just need to maybe alter the blueprint." That doesn't mean lower your expectations, it just may mean shift your standards. Shift the way you're gonna get there, timeline, trajectory.” - Dwayne Kerrigan“You have to start measuring. You have to start collecting data.” - Kate Bradley Chernis“I can make people I can't see feel like they belong. It's more than that. I can make you feel like with a conversation that is either as powerful or more powerful than if we were eye to eye in real life. That's how transcendent sound is. There's a magic there that is, well, it's magical. It's fantastical.” - Kate Bradley Chernis“Entrepreneurship's f***ing hard. This is a gladiator sport. And there is no substitute for the constant and never-ending courage that you need to have inside this, this arena.” - Dwayne KerriganAbout Kate Bradley Chernis:Kate Bradley Chernis is an early Generative AI visionary who co-founded the first closed-data, proprietary machine learning and natural language processing platform in 2014. She is the co-founder and CEO of the Backline Network, which uses curated audio-only salons to capture real-time conversational dynamics and convert them into AI that predicts and engineers group chemistry at scale. Before her career in AI, Kate spent over a decade as a rock 'n' roll radio DJ, serving 20 million listeners daily as Music Director and on-air host at Sirius/XM. An early prototype of her technology delivered Walmart a 130% ROI year-over-year for three years.Connect with Kate Bradley Chernis: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katebradleyConnect with Dwayne KerriganFacebookInstagramLinked InWebsiteDisclaimer: The views, information, or opinions expressed by guests during The Dwayne Kerrigan Podcast are solely those of the individuals involved and do not necessarily represent those of Dwayne Kerrigan and his affiliates. Dwayne Kerrigan or The Dwayne Kerrigan Podcast is not responsible for and does not verify the accuracy of any of the information contained in the podcast series. The primary purpose of this podcast is to educate and inform. Listeners are advised to consult with a qualified professional or specialist before making any decisions based on the content of this podcast.

Recognizing failure patterns is the closest thing an innovator has to seeing the future.   If you can recognize the patterns, you can change the future, because most failures are not original. They repeat, and that repetition is the pattern: the same handful of patterns reappearing in one organization after another, decade after decade.   This one stings a little.   In 2011, Bill Geiser told me, almost word for word, how the project we had spent the past two years building was going to fail. He saw the pattern before I did; I heard him say it, and I never forgot it.   The failure still happened.   This is not a pre-mortem. A pre-mortem imagines new ways your plan could fail. Recognizing failure patterns means learning from failures that have already happened elsewhere and spotting the early signals before you repeat them, while there is still time to act.   By the end of this episode, you will have four patterns in your own library, a five-minute way to check any project against them, and the four steps to take when you find one.   Let's get into it. The Smartwatch We Killed In 2004, Fossil hired a watch-technology executive named Bill Geiser to help build innovative technology for their watches. A few years later, he and I started spending real time together, me as HP's CTO, him running watch technology at Fossil. Between us, we had an idea we both believed in: a connected wearable, years before anyone used that phrase, co-innovated by HP and Fossil, with each bringing its expertise.   Fossil named the resulting platform the MetaWatch. It ran an ultra-low-power processor with a 96 by 96 display, an accelerometer, and Bluetooth. It was designed to last a week on a charge, and it shipped with a full developer kit so anyone could build apps for it. We revealed the partnership in March 2011, at an HP event in China. And between us, we had the one thing Apple did not have in 2011: distribution. HP held roughly ten percent of consumer-electronics shelf space. Fossil sold through twenty thousand retail stores that carried its watches.   Bill saw the ending before anyone. He told me in 2011: "Phil, I wouldn't be shocked if Apple evolved the Nano to take advantage of this space. They'll legitimize it in consumers' minds worldwide."   So the man building the watch spotted the failure in advance, out loud. And naming it changed nothing.   The signs kept arriving in plain sight. HP went through three CEOs in thirteen months. In August 2011, Leo Apotheker killed HP's consumer mobile strategy and WebOS, which removed the platform that made a smartwatch matter to HP at all. The battery lasted three to four hours against the original target of a week. We ran month-long approval cycles for changes that startups could implement in days.   Then I went out on medical leave. When I came back six weeks later, HP had killed Palm, WebOS, and the connected wearable project.   Here is what the ignored warning turned into. The Apple Watch shipped in April 2015. It sold 4.2 million units in its first quarter, and by that fall Apple was selling three out of every four smartwatches on the planet. The market we walked away from grew from three hundred thousand units in 2012 to forty-five million by 2018, and Apple held fifty-one percent of the market share.   The idea was never the hard part. It never is. The hard part is committing. What Recognizing Failure Patterns Means Nothing that killed the MetaWatch was new, and none of the signals were faint. They were loud; they were ignored, and each one was a pattern that has killed projects for decades.   Recognizing failure patterns has two halves. The first is building a library of how failures repeat. The second is matching the situation in front of you against that library, and forcing what you find into an actual decision while the fix is still cheap. Bill did the first half. Neither of our companies did the second, and the gap between those halves is where the Apple Watch came from.   Here are four entries for your library, straight from this one failure. Each one ends with a test question. By the end, you will have a four-question checklist, and then I will show you what to do when a pattern shows up. Pattern 1: Success Protects Itself Fossil's traditional watch business grew from $950 million in 2004 to $3.25 billion by 2013. It was tripling while we were building the thing that might replace it, and that growth made cannibalizing it politically impossible. Fossil never had to kill the MetaWatch outright. Fossil positioned the watch as a two-hundred-dollar development platform, something no ordinary customer would ever be handed at a retail counter.   When we constrain what we're innovating so it doesn't risk the present, we've lost the future.   Test it: Is the new thing priced, staffed, or positioned so that it cannot hurt the current thing? If the answer is yes, this pattern is already running. Pattern 2: The Warning That Changes Nothing Bill's warning was specific, early, and exactly right, and it still changed nothing. I heard it directly, and hearing is not the same as deciding: nobody re-ran the plan with "Apple arrives and legitimizes the category" as an input, no roadmap changed, and no budget moved.   Test it: What decision changed after the warning? If the honest answer is none, the warning was never acted on, no matter how many people remember hearing it. Pattern 3: The Problem Nobody Owns A week of battery life was the MetaWatch's central promise, and it shipped at three to four hours. Both companies saw the gap. No one owned fixing it. The hardest problem on the project sat on the seam between two companies, and problems that sit on seams get reported, tracked, and carried forward without ever belonging to anyone who can be asked why the problem is still there. We ran that partnership for two years and never settled whose job it was to lose sleep over the one number that mattered most.   Test it: Who owns the hardest problem, by name? If the answer is a partnership, a committee, or a pause, then nobody owns it. Pattern 4: The Pace Mismatch Earlier, I shared that we ran month-long approval cycles for changes a startup could implement in days. That is a pacing problem: the organization's internal pace versus the market's. A smartwatch in 2011 was a fast-moving product running through slow-moving machinery, and no amount of talent inside the project could close that gap. The delay was structural, not personal.   Test it: How long does one small change take to approve, against how fast the market moves? Time a real one. Do not estimate it. Five Minutes on a Project That Died The four patterns are the start of your library. Before you use it on a live decision, test it on a dead one.   You have a dead project in your past. Everybody does. Pick the one that still stings and give it five minutes against the four test questions.   Was an existing success being protected while the project starved, in pricing, staffing, or positioning? Did people raise a warning, and what decision changed after it was said? Who owned the hardest problem, and can you name the person? And how long did a small change take to approve, against how fast the market was moving?   When I run the MetaWatch through those four questions, I find all four patterns. Your project will probably show fewer. Every pattern you find is one you will now recognize as it happens on the project you are working on right now. The Four Steps When You Spot a Failure Pattern Which brings up the harder half of the skill, because recognition alone did not save us. Suppose you had been standing next to me in 2011, holding all four of these patterns. It would not have been enough. Being right about the future means nothing without the organizational machinery to act on that insight.   So when a failure pattern appears on a live project, follow this sequence.   Step one: Say the failure pattern out loud, in the room where the decision lives. Not in the hallway afterward. Use the pattern's name.   Step two: Get it onto the decision memo. A warning that lives only in conversation changes nothing. Write the pattern and what it costs into a document that will drive a decision.   Step three: Attach an owner. If you identify a critical problem, assign it to one person. Not a team or an organization. Someone you can ask next sprint why the problem is still there.   Step four: Attach a date. Being early provides an advantage, and a failure pattern without a date on it fades unnoticed.   Bill was right for four years, and Apple was the one who acted on it. That could have been us if we'd had the organizational courage to back our vision with meaningful resources. Conclusion You now have what nobody handed me in 2011: four patterns of failure, a five-minute check, and the four steps to run when you spot one. What you do in the room where the decision lives is the part Bill's warning never got. Additional Resources How HP and Fossil Handed Apple the Smartwatch Market: The inside story of vision without execution: why being right about the future means nothing without the courage to act on breakthrough insights. https://www.philmckinney.com/how-hp-and-fossil-handed-apple-the-smartwatch-market/ The story of MetaWatch with its founder, Bill Geiser: https://www.philmckinney.com/the-difference-between-a-good-idea-and-a-great-idea-is-the-timing-s11-ep25/

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In this episode of Rheuminations, host Adam J. Brown, MD, untangles the confusing serologies of lupus by learning about their discoveries from the beginning. He answers questions like what's the deal with immunofluorescence patterns, why does SSA/SSB have two names (Ro/LA), and is double-stranded DNA antibody really attracted to both strands? ·       The story of antibodies in lupus. 3:27 ·       The "LE" factor. 10:11 ·       The changing fluorescent patterns of the staining of the nucleus/ENAs. 18:50 ·       The anti-Smith antibody. 24:51 ·       The mysteries of SSA and SSB. 28:52 ·       Double-stranded DNA. 36:32 ·       Crithidia luciliae. 40:30  We'd love to hear from you! Send your comments/questions to Dr. Brown at rheuminationspodcast@healio.com. Follow us on Twitter @HRheuminations @AdamJBrownMD @HealioRheum. References: Aarden LA, et al. Ann NY Acad Sci. 1975;doi:10.1111/j.1749-6632.1975.tb29197.x Alspaugh MA, et al. Arthritis Rheum. 1976;doi:10.1002/art.1780190214 Aslpaugh MA, et al. J Clin Invest. 1975;doi:10.1172/JCI108007 Arana R, et al. J Clin Invest. 1967;doi:10.1172/JCI105677 Clark G, et al. J Immunol. 1969;PMED:4179557 Dubois EL, et al. Blood. 1957;doi:10.1182/blood.V12.7.657.657 Friou GJ, et al. J Immunol. 1958;doi:10.4049/jimmunol.80.4.324 Hargraves MM. Proc Staff Meet Mayo Clin. 1949;doi:10.1016/S0025-6196(25)08519-2 Haserick JR, et al. Am J Med Sci. 1950;doi:10.1097/00000441-195006000-00010 Rowell NR, et al. Arch Dermatol. 1963;doi:10.1001/archderm.1963.01590200064012 Tan EM, et al. J Clin Invest. 1966;doi:10.1172/JCI105479 Tsokos GC. J Immunol. 2006;doi:10.4049/jimmunol.176.3.1295

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Health Affairs Publishing's Rob Lott speaks to Grace Mackleby of the University of Southern California about her recent paper that explores how vertically integrated Medicare Advantage plans and hospital systems set prices, finding that most affiliated and unaffiliated plans pay similar rates, with notable variation in certain markets. Order the August 2026 issue of Health Affairs.Sign up for our free Health Affairs newsletters to stay up to date on health policy news and analysis.

Wondering if your child's struggles are ADHD, Anxiety, or Dysregulation? The answer may be deeper than a diagnosis. Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge explains how Regulation First Parenting™ helps parents understand emotional dysregulation and support lasting calm by addressing the nervous system first.Parents often ask, "Is it ADHD? Anxiety? Or something else?" If you've been caught in an endless cycle of searching for the "right" diagnosis, this episode offers a powerful mindset shift.Behavior is communication, and what you're seeing on the outside is often your child's overwhelmed nervous system asking for help.Instead of chasing labels, discover more about how becoming a dysregulation detective helps you understand what your child truly needs. Learn simple questions that reduce overwhelm, uncover patterns, and help you respond with calm instead of confusion. Is It ADHD, Anxiety, or Dysregulation? How Can You Tell?Many children with ADHD, anxiety, OCD, autism, or other challenges can look remarkably similar. They may worry excessively, lose focus, shut down, or become emotionally reactive.A diagnosis explains what your child has—but it doesn't always explain what's driving the behavior.Rather than asking, "What's wrong with my child?" begin asking, "How regulated is my child's nervous system?" That single shift changes everything.Key takeaways:Different diagnoses can share the same dysregulated nervous system.Focus on regulation before chasing labels.Behavior is communication—not defiance.For example, two children may both struggle to focus—one with ADHD and one with anxiety—but both are reacting to an overwhelmed nervous system.Why Does My Child Melt Down Even When Nothing Seems Wrong?Meltdowns rarely happen "out of nowhere." Parents should be curious about what happened before the behavior.Ask yourself:Was it after school?Was sleep poor?Were they overstimulated?Has their stress been building for days?Patterns reveal nervous system overload. Once you begin spotting those patterns, you're no longer reacting—you're understanding.How Do I Know What My Child's Nervous System Needs?Instead of focusing only on stopping behaviors, ask:What happened right before this?What state is my child's nervous system in?What does my child need before I ask them to do something difficult?The answer might be:MovementA snackA hugA breakA visual reminderA calmer approach from youHelping doesn't mean perfection—it means less reactivity and more success over time.If you're tired of walking on eggshells or feeling like nothing works…Get the FREE Regulation Rescue Kit and finally learn what to say and do in the heat of the moment.Become a Dysregulation Insider VIP at www.drroseann.com/newsletter and take the first step to a calmer home.Why Does Regulating Myself Help My Child?One of the biggest breakthroughs parents experience is realizing they don't need to control every behavior—they need to regulate themselves first.When you stay calm:Your child borrows your regulation.Power struggles decrease.You break the cycle of co-dysregulation.Let's calm the brain first. Everything else becomes easier from there.

What happens when success looks great on paper, but the person carrying it feels exhausted, stuck, or disconnected?On this episode of I Am Refocused Radio, host Shemaiah Reed sits down with Annie Yatch, founder of Reinvention, XO, a former counterterrorism analyst turned leadership reinvention strategist and performance coach. Annie works with founders, CEOs, investors, and high-capacity leaders to identify the hidden patterns influencing how they lead, make decisions, build relationships, and respond under pressure.Drawing from a background that includes counterterrorism analysis, entrepreneurship, behavioral strategy, emotional intelligence, and leadership performance, Annie explains why reaching the next level isn't always about working harder or finding another business strategy. Sometimes the operating system underneath the success needs to change.Shemaiah and Annie explore burnout, over-functioning, identity, leadership under pressure, subconscious patterns, nervous system regulation, relationships, delegation, and the courage required to reinvent yourself when the life that once worked no longer fits.This conversation is for the entrepreneur, executive, creator, or high achiever who has accomplished a lot but knows there is another way to lead, live, and grow.Can you keep your ambition without allowing success to consume you? Can you remain powerful without carrying everything yourself? And what happens when reinvention becomes less about becoming someone new and more about finally leading from who you truly are?Learn more about Annie Yatch and Reinvention, XO at ReinventionXO.comBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/i-am-refocused-radio--2671113/support.Subscribe now at YouTube.com/@RefocusedNetworkThank you for your time. 

Andrea Samadi shares her personal resting heart rate data to show why measuring over time matters more than fixating on a single score. She explains how trends reveal stress, recovery, and adaptation, and why comparing yourself to your own baseline is the most useful approach. Learn practical steps to measure consistently, contextualize changes, experiment with one behavior, and use your physiological data to make intentional improvements in sleep, recovery, and performance. BONUS EPISODE 3: ON THIS EPISODE, WE'LL COVER ✔ What resting heart rate can reveal about stress, recovery, and adaptation over time ✔ The story hidden in my own data — from a high of 57 bpm in February to 53 bpm in August ✔ Why the six-month trend matters — and what my 2% lower average may be telling me ✔ How stress and training load can show up in your physiology before you consciously recognize it ✔ Why recovery and nervous-system regulation matter for building a more resilient baseline ✔ How to find your own RHR baseline instead of comparing yourself with someone else ✔ How to look for deviations and patterns across weeks and months—not individual days ✔ How to connect RHR with sleep, HRV, recovery, training, stress, and life events ✔ How to run your own personal experiment: change one variable, measure, and see what happens ✔ The bigger lesson: What gets measured over time can reveal a story you couldn't see day to day. Welcome back to the Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast, where we bridge neuroscience, social and emotional learning, and human performance so we can create measurable improvements in our well-being, achievement, leadership, productivity, and results. I'm Andrea Samadi, and if you've been following along through Season 16, you'll know that we've been building what I call The Brain's Operating System for Human Performance—a neuroscience-based framework designed to help us understand how the different systems of the brain and body work together to influence how we learn, adapt, connect, lead, and ultimately how we perform. We are currently in Phase 3 where we are covering Movement, Learning and Cognition. If you just finished Episode 405[i] with Dr. Kristen Holmes, you know we've been looking at recovery as an essential part of our Movement Loop. Movement → Brain Activation → Attention → Learning → Recovery → Adaptation → Performance → Greater Capacity. And Kristen's work has reinforced something I've learned after years of tracking my own physiology: What gets measured gets improved. But this week, I wanted to dive into my own personal data to show us something I think is easy to miss: Sometimes what gets measured over time reveals a story you simply couldn't see day to day. When we're looking at a wearable every morning, it's easy to become focused on today's number. Today's recovery score. Today's HRV. Today's resting heart rate. Was it higher? Was it lower? But one number—or even one week—rarely tells us very much about the direction we're actually moving. It's when we begin to zoom out that patterns emerge. And that's exactly what happened when I looked more closely at my resting heart rate this year. What initially looked like a collection of numbers began to tell a much bigger story about stress, recovery, consistency, and adaptation. So my hope for this episode isn't that you compare your resting heart rate to mine. Your numbers will be different. My hope is that this episode encourages you to become curious about your own data. Maybe you track sleep. Maybe it's HRV. Resting heart rate. Recovery. Exercise. Blood pressure. Steps. Or even something as simple as your energy, mood, or ability to focus. Take one metric and zoom out. Look at three months. Six months. Maybe even a year. And instead of asking, “Is today's number good or bad?” Ask a different question: “What is the trend that I'm seeing here, trying to tell me?” Is something improving? Is something slowly moving in the wrong direction? Does your physiology change during periods of higher stress? (like you will see mine did). Can you see what happens when you sleep more consistently, exercise differently, recover better, or change one habit? Because sometimes the most valuable insight isn't found in today's score. It's hidden in the pattern. And once you can see the pattern, you have information you can actually use. That's really the purpose of sharing my personal data with you today. Not to say, “Here's what worked for me, so you should do exactly the same thing.” But to show you what can happen when we become students of our own physiology. We measure. Find the tool that works best for you. We notice. Patterns…ups and downs. We experiment. We become intentional with our behaviors to change/improve the numbers. We adjust and try something new/different. And then we measure again. Because ultimately, what gets measured gets improved—but what gets measured over time can reveal the story that you tell you more than just a bunch of numbers. And sometimes that story shows us exactly where our next opportunity for change might be. And that's exactly what happened with my resting heart rate. Earlier this year, I watched my monthly average climb to 56...and then 57 beats per minute. You can see my data in the show notes. Sept and October were even, at 54, and then something happened in November that took my RHR up, and it kept climbing.  I know what was happening in those months to cause the increase. And I went all out to protect my recovery. I worked on rest, hydration, extra exercise, and recovery sessions. Then it began coming down. in March 54 in April 53 The 56 in May isn't the most accurate representation of what was happening with my data, as we travelled internationally and there were 5 days my whoop didn't calculate my score correctly (something to do with the change in time zones) so I'm not going to say that I was stressed out during a relaxing vacation. But something happened that caught my attention. You can see it with the graphics in the show notes. My newest six-month WHOOP average dropped from 55 to 54 beats per minute—2% lower than the previous six months. This NEW result was highlighted in GREEN for me to notice the improvement. For the first time in this story, the baseline itself had moved. And that's what we're going to dive into today. Because this episode isn't really about whether 53 is a good resting heart rate. It's about something much more useful: Do you know your baseline with YOUR RHR—and do you know which direction it's moving? Even better, if you can forsee that it will be moving up, like I knew it was going to in January/February, do you have strategies in place to buffer the stress, and keep this number as close as you can to your baseline? Let's dive into this bonus episode. The Story Behind My Resting Heart Rate: Do You Know Yours? There's a number I've been watching for the past year. I watched it raise higher (when I'm stressed) and go lower when I'm doing all the right things to rest and recover. When I zoom out and look at this number over the past year, it tells a fascinating story about my fitness, recovery, stress, and the way my body is adapting. That number is my resting heart rate. And today I want to ask you: Do you know yours? Because one of the biggest lessons I've learned from nearly five years of tracking my physiology is something we've talked about throughout this podcast: What gets measured gets improved. But I think I need to add something to that. What gets measured over time reveals the story. And my newest data makes that clearer than ever. PART 1 — WHAT IS RESTING HEART RATE? Resting heart rate, or RHR, is simply the number of times your heart beats per minute while your body is at rest. Normal Ranges and Fitness[ii] Average adults: 60 to 100 bpm. Active adults: 55 to 85 bpm. Athletes: 40 to 60 bpm, because their heart muscle is strong and pumps blood with ease For adults, resting heart rate varies considerably between individuals. Fitness, genetics, age, sleep, stress, illness, medications, hydration, alcohol, temperature and training load can all influence it. So I'm not interested in comparing my resting heart rate with someone else's. I'm interested in comparing me with me. That's where wearable data becomes useful. Instead of asking: “Is 53 good?” I'm asking: “What is happening to my baseline over time?” And that distinction matters. PART 2 — MY RHR STORY BEGAN WITH A RISE When I first looked at this data, I focused on January and February. My monthly resting heart rate had climbed: January: 56 bpm. February: 57 bpm. Those numbers weren't alarming. I was experiencing higher levels of stress than usual at that time, and I was even prepared for the stress. But relative to my baseline, (55 bpm) the rise caught my attention. And that's an important distinction. A wearable isn't diagnosing why something happened. It can't look at 57 and tell me: “Andrea, this is stress.” But it can show me that something has changed. Then I can look at the rest of my life. How am I sleeping? How am I training? What's my stress level? Am I recovering? What has changed? That's when data becomes feedback. I was ready to implement some stress reduction strategies to get my RHR and nervous system back to its baseline. PART 3 — THEN THE PATTERN CHANGED After February, here's what happened: March: 54. April: 53. May: 56 (International Trip impacted this data) June: 53. July: 55. August: 53. And I love this part of the story because it wasn't a perfectly straight line. My RHR didn't simply go: 57...56...55...54...53. Real physiology rarely works like that. There were fluctuations. May went back to 56. July went to 55. But my resting heart rate kept returning to 53. April: 53. June: 53. August: 53. That's when I began wondering whether I was seeing something more meaningful than a few good months. And now I have another piece of evidence. PART 4 — THE NEW SIX-MONTH RESULT My newest WHOOP six-month report covers February 23 through August 21, 2026. And this is where the story gets interesting. My previous six-month average resting heart rate was: 55 bpm. My newest six-month average is: 54 bpm. WHOOP shows that as: 2% lower than the previous six months. One beat per minute doesn't sound dramatic. But I'm not looking for dramatic. I'm looking for adaptation. Something to show me that my body responded to the extra recovery that I was implementing to buffer the higher stress. For the first time in this particular story, the six-month average itself has moved down. And that means I'm no longer looking only at a few isolated low readings. The trend is beginning to move. PART 5 — THE AVERAGE WAS HIDING THE STORY This may be my favorite lesson from this entire experiment. Earlier, when I looked at a different six-month window, my average RHR was 55 bpm. And the previous six months? Also 55. If I had stopped there, I could have concluded: Nothing changed. But underneath that average was a changing pattern. My RHR had risen to 57 in February. This makes sense to me when I glance at the data. Then it repeatedly returned to 53 with my focus being on rest/recovery. And eventually the rolling six-month average moved from 55 to 54. This is why one measurement rarely tells the whole story. Trends matter. And sometimes your body is changing before the average catches up. PART 6 — 57 TO 53 There's another way to look at the data. February was my highest monthly average in this January–August period: 57 bpm. August is: 53 bpm. That's approximately 7% lower than that February high. I want to be careful with this number because I'm comparing two monthly endpoints—not two six-month averages. So I wouldn't call this a 7% improvement in my overall cardiovascular health. But it is another signal inside the larger pattern. What was happening in February? What is currently happening in August? And when multiple signals begin pointing in the same direction, (showing an improvement) I'm  paying attention. PART 7 — WHAT CHANGED? This is where I think self-experimentation becomes powerful. I didn't respond to the higher numbers by simply exercising harder. I've spent this year becoming much more intentional about recovery and regulation. Sleep. Daily movement. Zone 2 work. Meditation. Hydration. Infrared sauna. Red-light therapy. Paying attention to training strain. And increasingly, listening to what my physiology is telling me instead of automatically pushing through fatigue. I've also been experimenting with removing alcohol at different times this year, and the changes I've seen in recovery, HRV, sleep stress and resting heart rate have given me another variable to continue watching. I can't take this dataset and say: “This one behavior caused my RHR to fall.” There are too many variables. But I can say: The environment surrounding my physiology changed—and my trend changed with it. That's worth paying attention to. PART 8 — WHY DOES A LOWER RHR MATTER? In many people, particularly when associated with aerobic fitness, a lower resting heart rate can reflect a heart that is able to pump blood efficiently with fewer beats at rest. Training can increase stroke volume—the amount of blood pumped with each heartbeat. That means the heart may not need to beat as frequently to deliver the same cardiac output at rest. Autonomic regulation also plays a role. The sympathetic nervous system helps mobilize us for action. The parasympathetic nervous system supports rest-and-recovery processes. Resting heart rate reflects influences from both, along with many other physiological factors. That's why I don't view RHR as a standalone score. I view it as one piece of my physiological dashboard. RHR. HRV. Sleep. Recovery. Training load. And, most importantly: How I actually feel. PART 9 — THIS CONNECTS DIRECTLY TO THE MOVEMENT LOOP Remember the Movement Loop we've been building in Phase 3: Movement → Brain Activation → Attention → Learning → Recovery → Adaptation → Performance → Greater Capacity. My RHR data brings us directly back to the part of the loop I don't want us to overlook: Recovery → Adaptation. Exercise provides the stimulus. But we don't become fitter during the stimulus itself. The body needs an opportunity to respond to that stimulus. To repair. To replenish. To adapt. And eventually, that adaptation may become visible in our trends. That's why recovery isn't the opposite of performance. Recovery is part of the process that makes performance possible. PART 10 — THE BIGGER LESSON This episode isn't really about whether your resting heart rate should be 53. Mine doesn't need to be yours. Your number might be completely different. The question is: Do you know your baseline? And more importantly: Do you know which direction it's moving? What increases it? What decreases it? Because your physiology is constantly responding to the way you're living. Training. Sleeping. Recovering. Working. Traveling. Eating. Drinking. Managing stress. And sometimes those changes are happening quietly beneath the surface. Until you measure them. PART 11 — HOW TO IMPLEMENT THIS IN YOUR OWN LIFE So now I want to turn this over to you. I've shown you my resting heart rate story. What's yours? And you don't need five years of WHOOP data to begin looking for it. You just need enough information to establish your baseline, and then you need to become curious about what causes that baseline to change. Here's how I would start. STEP 1 — FIND A WAY TO MEASURE YOUR RESTING HEART RATE CONSISTENTLY First, find the measurement tool that works for you. Maybe that's WHOOP. Maybe it's an Apple Watch, Garmin, Oura Ring, Fitbit, or another wearable. Or maybe you're tracking your resting heart rate another way. The specific device isn't the most important part of this experiment. You can even just count your pulse beats that you get in one minute while resting. Just stay consistent as you measure. If you're going to look for a trend, you want to compare measurements collected under reasonably consistent conditions. We're not trying to find the lowest number we can possibly produce. We're trying to understand our normal pattern. STEP 2 — LEARN YOUR BASELINE Next, don't start by asking: “Is my resting heart rate good?” Start with: “What is normal for me?” Look at your data over time. If you have it, look at your last month. Then three months. Six months. And eventually a year. What number—or range—does your RHR tend to return to? For me, I knew that my baseline was somewhere around the mid-50s. That's why 56 and 57 caught my attention. Those numbers weren't necessarily concerning when compared with somebody else's resting heart rate. Someone else I know has a RHR of 80 and that's in the normal range. The higher scores mattered to me, because they represented a change from my baseline. That's the first lesson: Compare yourself with yourself. STEP 3 — LOOK FOR THE DEVIATIONS Once you understand your baseline, look for the places where your data moves away from it. Don't immediately label the change as good or bad. Just become curious. When did your RHR rise? When did it fall? Was it one unusual night? Several days? Several weeks? Or did your monthly average actually begin to move? This is where we stop looking at individual dots and begin looking for a pattern. STEP 4 — PUT YOUR LIFE NEXT TO YOUR DATA Now comes the part that I think is the most interesting. Take the RHR graph and mentally place your life beside it. Ask yourself: What was happening here? Was work unusually stressful? Were you traveling? Were you sleeping less? Were you sick? Had your training load increased? Were you drinking more—or less—alcohol? Had you changed your exercise routine? Were you recovering differently? What was happening emotionally? What was happening physically? This was important in interpreting my own data. When I saw my RHR increase in January and February, I knew what was happening in my life during those months. And when I saw May increase, I also had context: I had been traveling internationally, and I knew there were issues with several days of my wearable data. Context changes interpretation. A graph can show you what changed. Your life can help you investigate why. STEP 5 — LOOK AT MORE THAN ONE METRIC Here's another important point. Don't interpret resting heart rate completely by itself. Put it next to other information. What was happening with your HRV? Your sleep? Your recovery? Your training load? Your energy? Your stress? And most importantly: How did you feel? One metric gives us a clue. Multiple signals moving together can give us a much richer picture. Think of it as your own physiological dashboard. You're looking for relationships between the signals rather than allowing one number to define whether you're doing well. STEP 6 — CHOOSE ONE VARIABLE TO EXPERIMENT WITH Now we move from observation to action. Ask: “What is one behavior I could change consistently and then watch what happens?” Maybe it's getting to bed earlier. Maybe it's improving hydration. Adding more Zone 2 exercise. Building recovery days into your training. Meditating. Walking. Changing your alcohol intake. Or simply protecting more downtime during a stressful period. Choose something that's meaningful and realistic for you. Then give it time. This is important because we're not trying to manipulate tomorrow morning's score. We're trying to see whether consistent behavior begins to influence a trend. STEP 7 — MEASURE AGAIN And now we come back to the beginning. Measure. Notice. Experiment. Adjust. And measure again. You might even keep a very simple note beside your data: What changed this month? You could write: Higher workload. Travel. Better sleep. Started Zone 2. Stopped drinking alcohol. Illness. Vacation. More recovery. Over time, you begin creating something much more useful than a collection of numbers. You're creating a map of how your body responds to your life. DISCOVER YOUR RHR STORY So here's the experiment I want to leave you with. Pull up your resting heart rate data. And ask yourself these five questions: What is my baseline? When does my RHR move above or below that baseline? What was happening in my life when it changed? What other physiological signals moved with it? What is one behavior I could intentionally change and measure over time? Then zoom out. Don't judge yourself by tomorrow morning. Look for the story. Because the goal isn't to achieve somebody else's resting heart rate. The goal is to understand your own physiology well enough to recognize when something changes. And then have strategies available to respond. That's where measurement becomes useful. It moves us from simply collecting information... to using information to make better decisions. REVIEW — WHAT DID WE LEARN? Before we close, let's pull everything together. We started with one simple metric: resting heart rate. We learned that RHR tells us how many times our heart beats per minute while we're at rest—but the number becomes much more useful when we stop comparing ourselves with other people and begin comparing ourselves with ourselves. Then we looked at my own story. My RHR rose to: 56 bpm in January. And then: 57 bpm in February. Because I understood what was happening in my life at the time, those increases gave me information I could use. Rather than simply pushing harder, I became increasingly intentional about recovery. Then the pattern began to change. My RHR repeatedly returned toward 53. And eventually something even more interesting happened. My newest six-month average moved from: 55 bpm → 54 bpm. WHOOP identified that as: 2% lower than my previous six-month average. One beat per minute. Not dramatic. But that's exactly the point. We're not looking for dramatic. We're looking for patterns. We're looking for evidence that the system may be adapting over time. And that's why my biggest lesson from this experiment isn't: “My resting heart rate is 53.” It's: “I understand my resting heart rate better than I did before.” I know my baseline. I know some of the circumstances that push it higher. I'm beginning to understand some of the behaviors associated with it moving lower. And most importantly, I know to keep watching the trend. CONCLUSION — BECOME A STUDENT OF YOUR OWN PHYSIOLOGY This brings us back to something Dr. Kristen Holmes reinforced in Episode 405: What gets measured gets improved. But after looking at this data, I want to expand that idea. What gets measured gives us information. What gets measured consistently reveals patterns. And what gets measured over time can reveal a story. That's the opportunity I hope you take away from this episode. Become curious about your own physiology. Not obsessed with it. Not controlled by a score. Curious. Learn your baseline. Notice when something changes. Put that change into the context of your life. Experiment thoughtfully. And then zoom back out and see what happened. Because ultimately, we're not collecting data just to collect more data. We're trying to turn: Data → Awareness → Action → Adaptation. And that brings us right back to our Movement Loop: Movement → Brain Activation → Attention → Learning → Recovery → Adaptation → Performance → Greater Capacity. Your resting heart rate is only one metric. But it gives us a perfect example of what adaptation can look like when we stop staring at today's number and start paying attention to the larger pattern. So sometime after listening to this episode, open your own data. Go back three months. Six months. A year if you can. And ask yourself: “What story has my body been trying to tell me?” You might be surprised by what you find. COMING NEXT — BONUS EPISODE 4 And there's one part of my own physiological dashboard that I deliberately haven't explored deeply today. Sleep. Because recovery doesn't end when we stop exercising. Some of the most important recovery processes happen while we're asleep. So before we return to Dr. John Medina and move deeper into attention, learning, and cognition, I want to stay with the recovery side of our Movement Loop for one more bonus episode. In Bonus Episode 4, we're going to investigate restorative sleep. What exactly is restorative sleep? How can we measure it? What can our sleep data tell us? And perhaps most importantly: How can we use that information to improve the way we recover, adapt, and perform? We'll apply the same approach we used today. Not just: “How did I sleep last night?” But: “What story is my sleep telling me over time?” Because movement creates the stimulus. Recovery creates the opportunity to adapt. And sleep may be one of the most important places where that recovery takes place. I'll see you next time for Bonus Episode 4: The Story Behind My Restorative Sleep. REFERENCES [i]Neuroscience Meets Social and Emotional Learning Podcast EPISODE 405 “Movement Isn't Enough: How Recovery Drives Adaptation”  https://andreasamadi.podbean.com/e/movement-isnt-enough-how-recovery-drives-real-adaptation/   [ii] Health Direct “What is RHR?” https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/resting-heart-rate

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Leave an Amazon Rating or Review for my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! Check out the full episode: https://greatness.lnk.to/1532DM Mel Robbins delves into the nuanced aspects of healing trauma and building resilience without the traditional resources of therapy or workshops. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing trauma in various forms, broadening the definition beyond conventional perceptions. Robbins discusses the concept of "ghosts in the nursery," highlighting how trauma patterns get automated in the nervous system, influencing behavior without conscious awareness. She provides practical insights into breaking these patterns, focusing on creating pauses and understanding boundaries as a means of self-preservation. Sign up for the Greatness newsletter! Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon Chadwick debriefs Plum's survivor story and examines how the patterns she experienced with her mother shaped her vulnerability to coercive control in her marriage. Brandon explores how unpredictable rules and moving goalposts taught Plum to overfunction, question herself, and believe she could never do enough. He also discusses her mother's need to maintain a victim identity, how parental approval caused Plum to override her concerns about her future husband, and why the relief she felt in his absence was important information from her body. The episode also examines how viewing abuse as a series of separate incidents can keep victims focused on solving the latest conflict. Once Plum recognized that the silent treatments, gaslighting, sexual coercion, accusations, financial abuse, and violence were all part of a larger pattern of control, she gained the clarity needed to leave. That same pattern recognition eventually helped Plum understand her relationship with her mother and end contact with her. If you are in search of therapy from professionals dedicated to dealing with TRAUMA - Narcissist Apocalypse recommends REBOUND THERAPY and they can be reached at  hellorebound.com/na Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@pm.me Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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Episode Highlights With KatieWhy healing often requires unlearning more than learningThe invisible beliefs, identities, and patterns that kept me stuck … even when I was doing “all the right things”How clinging to control, perfection, and certainty created more stress than peaceThe surprising nervous-system science behind letting go (and why your biology resists it)How my identity as a “fixer,” “caretaker,” and “high achiever” held me back from true healingHow rewriting internal stories (“I am responsible for everything” ? “I am allowed to live with ease”) transformed my health, business, parenting, and relationshipsHow grief, loss, and major life transitions became openings rather than endingsWhy releasing old stories frees up enormous energy, creativity, and resiliencePractical ways to start letting go in your own life … without fear, force, or overwhelmThe difference between surrender and giving up, and how to tell which one you're doingHow to trust yourself, your body, and your path even when it doesn't fit the old rulesResources MentionedLetting Go: The Pathway of Surrender by David R Hawkins, MDAwareness: Conversations with the Masters by Anthony De MelloJust Thrive:Just Thrive Health has been one of my longtime favorite brands for gut health and they have an amazing Daily Gut Detox. Your immune system, gut barrier, and digestion get the support they need to stay strong and healthy. You can find this and their probiotics at justthrivehealth.com/wellnessmama or use code wellnessmama for 20% off your order. HiyaHiya created a super powered chewable vitamin for kids that packs twelve organic fruits and vegetables plus fifteen essential vitamins and minerals into every dose. Try it at hiyahealth.com/wellnessmama.

English singer-songwriter Laura Marling has spent years writing songs about imagined futures, family and motherhood. First she wrote the album Song for Our Daughter before she had kids, then Patterns in Repeat after becoming a mom. Now, she's surprised everyone with an entire album of Raffi songs. Laura speaks to Q guest host Garvia Bailey about discovering one of Canada's most beloved musicians, what she learned from his approach to making music for children, and how motherhood has completely changed the way she writes, performs and sees the world.

In this episode of Acta Non Verba, Marcus Aurelius Anderson talks with Stefanos Sifandos, an author and transformational advisor. They discuss closing the gap between outer success and inner freedom. Stefanos shares his own journey through childhood bullying, addiction, and self-worth struggles. He explains how self-forgiveness, radical honesty, and genuine relational connection create lasting transformation. The conversation also covers fatherhood, marriage, control, resilience, and living in one's truth. Episode Highlights: 0:55 Marcus introduces Stefanos Sifandos and his 25 years working with Olympians, CEOs, and top performers. 10:06 Stefanos explains that self-forgiveness comes from being met with compassion and non-judgment. 22:12 They discuss truth-telling as a remedy for disconnection in relationships. 38:06 Stefanos opens up about the profound love he feels as a father. Stefanos Sifandos is an author and transformational advisor. He has spent 25 years working with Olympians, world champions, CEOs, and leaders at the top of their fields. His work focuses on closing the gap between outer success and inner freedom. He uses behavioral science, trauma resolution, and spiritual truth to guide his clients. His new book, Tuned In and Turned On, is available now at tunedinandturnedonbook.com. Learn more about the gift of Adversity and my mission to help my fellow humans create a better world by heading to www.marcusaureliusanderson.com. There you can take action by joining my ANV inner circle to get exclusive content and information.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Kristen Gonzalez is the founder of Luxx Era Research, helping women transform health through mindset, science-backed wellness, and sustainable habits to break generational patterns and build lasting vitality. Top 3 Value Bombs 1. Success is often simpler than people think; it requires commitment, consistency, and the willingness to take action rather than waiting for perfect conditions. 2. Generational health patterns are not permanent. By changing habits, mindset, and daily behaviors, you can create a healthier future for yourself and your family. 3. Sustainable wellness starts with small wins. Momentum builds when you focus on consistent actions rather than chasing perfection. Check out Kristen's website to schedule a free 15-minute consultation - Kristen Gonzalez Website Sponsors HighLevel - The ultimate all-in-one platform for entrepreneurs, marketers, coaches, and agencies. Learn more at HighLevelFire.com. Strawberry - Discover what's possible with a professional coach by your side. Start today and get 50 percent off your first coaching session at Strawberry.me/fire.

David Baszucki is the co-founder and CEO of Roblox, a platform built around a simple idea: give people the tools and incentives to create together. In this short conversation we discuss how a health decision saved his son's life and how it changed how he eats, why bureaucracy compounds unless you actively destroy it, monitoring your mind before making decisions, and why the best products often improve by removing complexity. It's time to listen and learn. ------ Chapters: (0:00) How Keto Can Help Treat Bipolar Symptoms (2:38) Connection Between Physical and Mental Health (3:58) Current Metabolic Routine (4:40) How Your Metabolic State Affects Decision Making (5:48) The Signs of a Great Product (6:32) Bureaucracy is the Enemy of Progress (ALT: Why You Need to Destroy Bureaucracy) (7:20) Giving Feedback that Actually Motivates (7:50) The Key to Feedback is Tone (8:44) The Email You Should Never Send (9:53) Patterns in Bad Decision Making (10:38) Principles of Good Decision Making (11:19) Mental Models for Problem Solving (11:56) The Gaming World Said the Avatar Was a Disaster. He Didn't Listen. (ALT: Why the Gaming World Hated the First Avatar) (12:58) When Instinct and Data Disagree (14:12) Roblox's Magic Decision Making Quadrant (14:38) Inner Monologue of the Best CEOs (15:36) Manufacturing Threats to Achieve Alpha (16:08) Mistakes in Roblox History (18:30) Biggest Generated Universe in World (19:33) Roblox Community's Pushback on New Avatars (20:20) Capital Allocation Strategy (22:28) Building Incentives on Early Roblox (24:31) Early Disagreements on API (26:18) How Erik Cassel Supercharged Roblox (27:05) The Economic Model that Almost Ruined Roblox (31:43) How Robux Works (32:22) Robux as Future Digital Currency (33:34) What True Focus Looks Like (35:14) How Roblox Uses AI (36:11) Age Ban and Verification Policy (38:29) Is Age Verification Slowing Growth at Roblox? (38:56) Positioning and Optionality for Long Term Growth (39:43) The Future of Immersive Gaming (42:51) Reaction to Ready Player One (43:48) Advice For To a 16-Year-Old Wanting to Start a Company ------ Newsletter: The Brain Food newsletter delivers actionable insights and thoughtful ideas every Sunday. It takes 5 minutes to read, and it's completely free. Learn more and sign up at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠fs.blog/newsletter⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ------ Follow Shane Parrish: X: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://x.com/shaneparrish⁠ Insta: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/farnamstreet/⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/shane-parrish-050a2183/⁠ ------ Follow David: X: https://x.com/DavidBaszucki ------ Thank you to the sponsors for this episode: +Applovin: Launch your first AppLovin campaign and grow your business: https://applovin.com/shane +Matic: the robot vacuum that does it all—grab yourself a year of free bags here. ⁠http://maticrobots.com/shaneparrish⁠ +HeyGen is a message-first AI video platform that helps people and AI agents turn ideas into professional video in minutes. Try for free at https://www.heygen.com/tkp +LMNT: My go-to zero sugar electrolytes — get a free LMNT Sample Pack here: https://DrinkLMNT.com/TKP NOTE: This episode discusses health and medical topics for informational purposes only. Shane and his guest are not medical professionals, and nothing in this conversation should be considered medical advice. Please do your own research and consult a qualified healthcare professional before making decisions about your health. NOTE: Shane and guests may hold positions in assets discussed in this episode. This podcast is not investment advice and is intended for informational and entertainment purposes only. Nothing in this conversation should be considered investment advice, financial guidance, or a recommendation to buy or sell any security. Always do your own due diligence or consult with a qualified financial advisor before making investment decisions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, I'm joined by my sister Renee for a very real conversation about motherhood, identity, parenting, and breaking generational patterns. We talk about missing your old life while still loving motherhood, navigating mom triggers and meltdowns, repairing after you snap, and learning to parent in a way that actually feels aligned for you and your family. This is more of just a sister's chat and catch up than your typical interview style. So if you like just being a fly on the wall with two sisters chatting, you'll love this conversation! Ways to work with Corinne: Join the Mind Your Hormones Method, HERE! (Use code PODCAST for 10% off!!)Mentioned in this episode: Follow Renee on Instagram @reneeseely_ Redefining Motherhood with Renee — Renee's six-month program for moms focused on redefining who you are in this season, building capacity, intentional parenting, and creating a life that works for you. (DM Renee and remember to mention the MYH podcast for half off! Valid through August)Join the Mind Your Hormones Community to connect more with me & other members of this community!Come hang out with me on Instagram: @corinneangealicaOr on TikTok: @corinneangelicaEmail Fam: Click here to get weekly emails from meMind Your Hormones Instagram: @mindyourhormones.podcast Disclaimer: always consult your doctor before taking any supplementation. This podcast is intended for educational purposes only, not to diagnose or treat any conditions. 

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In this episode of the Sacred Purpose Podcast, Lisa Malia and Beth Clayton explore themes of vulnerability, grief, and the journey of self-discovery. They discuss the impact of the 'good girl' archetype on personal growth and leadership, emphasizing the importance of embracing both light and shadow in our lives. The conversation delves into the transformative experiences that arise from navigating grief and the role of community in healing. Beth shares her insights on intimacy and relationships, highlighting the significance of being authentic and transparent in our connections with others. In this conversation, Beth Clayton and Lisa Malia explore the profound journey of self-discovery, healing, and the transformation of inner demons into guardians. They discuss the importance of facing our fears, the emotional depth of personal growth, and the complexities of navigating relationships as we evolve. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of understanding our own patterns and the role of the 'wild daughter' archetype in embracing our authentic selves.   Takeaways: Grief can be a profound teacher and companion. The 'good girl' archetype often protects us from facing grief. Leadership involves showing vulnerability and humility. Self-discovery is a continuous journey, often through dark times. Embracing both our light and shadow leads to wholeness. Community plays a crucial role in healing and transformation. Intimacy requires authenticity and transparency. We all have parts of ourselves that need to be acknowledged and integrated. The journey of healing can reveal unexpected allies and lessons. Transformation often comes from surrendering to the process. Empathy arises from personal experience and humility. Facing our demons can lead to profound self-discovery. Demons can transform into guardians when we embrace them. The journey of healing is not just about lessons but about experiencing aliveness. Navigating relationships requires understanding our own changes. We put down patterns, not people, in our growth journey. Sovereignty is about becoming the one we were looking for. Intimacy requires discernment and understanding of our own needs. Grief is a necessary part of the healing process. The wild daughter archetype represents our authentic self in the journey.   Beth Clayton is the founder of Born Wild™, an initiatory journey guiding highly sensitive, visionary women from unmasking their Good Girl conditioning into embodied Untamed sovereignty — so they can build a life and legacy that finally reflect the truth of who they are and the depth of their hunger. A TEDx Broadway speaker, somatic mentor, and ceremonialist with over 15 years of experience — and an MFA in Acting from one of the nation's top conservatories — Beth blends nervous system work, mythic storytelling, archetypal embodiment, and ritual to create immersive transformational thresholds rather than traditional coaching programs. Her work calls women back to the wisdom of their bodies, the medicine of their lived experience, and the leadership that emerges when they root into who they have always been — before the masks. Follow Beth: On Instagram Take The Good Girl Quiz   Follow Lisa: Join The Feminine Leadership Loung Community and access breathwork portal: Join for free here  On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisamalia.evoke/ On LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisamalianorman/   Sound Bites: 00:00 "I feel very porous and softened right now." 09:28 "I was scared and not completely embodied." 09:52 "My job is to do my work." 21:22 "I can lead anyway." 29:24 "I had done enough work at that point." 30:01 "The light is found in the dark." 33:12 "I was waiting to be chosen." 35:26 "We all have a room in us." 36:28 "Facing our demons is brutal and beautiful." 37:16 "I love my demons so much." 40:00 "We learn how to stay with ourselves." 56:33 "We put down patterns, not people." 67:17 "The wild daughter is our authentic self."   Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Divine Timing 02:58 Navigating Grief and Vulnerability 06:00 The Good Girl Archetype and Its Impact 09:00 Leadership Through Humility 11:44 The Journey of Self-Discovery 15:00 The Dark Woods of Transformation 18:04 Embracing Both Light and Shadow 21:01 The Missing Piece of Self 24:10 Intimacy and Relationships 27:00 The Role of Community in Healing 35:47 Embracing Our Demons 40:00 The Journey of Aliveness 45:12 Navigating Relationships and Sovereignty 55:12 Patterns vs. People: A Shift in Perspective 65:02 The Wild Daughter and Good Girl Archetypes

Dr. Thomas Winder continues to share profound insights about Mount Hermon's candidacy for the site of Jesus' Transfiguration. What connections exist between this pivotal New Testament event and the Torah? Listen on your favorite PODCAST platform now!         Visit Dr. Winder's website to learn more about his work!         https://holylandresearchinstitute.org         ➡️ HELP US FUND THE NEXT FILM!

Family can be one of the greatest sources of joy in our lives, but it can also be the source of some of our deepest pain.Favoritism. Jealousy. Divorce. Rejection. Competition. Anger. Broken relationships. Patterns that seem to get passed from one generation to the next.Joseph knew what it was like to grow up in a dysfunctional family.In Genesis 37, we're introduced to a 17-year-old Joseph and a family filled with tension. His father, Jacob, openly favored him over his brothers. His brothers resented him. Competition and jealousy were everywhere. And before long, that family dysfunction would lead to devastating consequences.But Joseph's story also shows us something incredibly hopeful:Your family history does not have to determine your future.God can take someone from a broken background, transform their life, and use them for a greater purpose.As we begin Joseph's story, we'll discover three truths that can help us deal with the pain and dysfunction in our own families.GOD CAN USE YOU, EVEN IF YOUR FAMILY ISN'T PERFECTUnhealthy family patterns have a way of repeating themselves. Jacob carried dysfunction from his past into his own home, and his children suffered because of it.But you don't have to repeat what you grew up with.With God's help, you can be the person who says, "It stops here."You can break unhealthy patterns and begin a different legacy for the generations that come after you.GOD HAS A CALLING ON YOUR LIFEIn the middle of Joseph's chaotic family life, God began giving him dreams. Joseph couldn't see everything God was doing yet, but God was already preparing him for what was ahead.The same is true for you.God sees you. God loves you. And God has a purpose for your life.Your past doesn't disqualify you from being used by God.GOD'S PROVIDENCE IS AT WORK EVEN WHEN YOU DON'T SEE ITJoseph's story would include rejection, betrayal, false accusations, temptation, disappointment, and years of waiting. Yet behind everything Joseph experienced, God was working.Sometimes we can clearly see what God is doing. Other times, His work is happening behind the scenes.That doesn't mean everything that happens to us is good. It means God is powerful enough to take even the painful and broken parts of our stories and work through them for His purposes.If you've ever thought:"God can't use me.""I'm destined to repeat my family's mistakes.""Nothing good can come from what I've been through.""I'm all alone."Then Joseph's story is for you.Your story isn't over.God can redeem your pain, break unhealthy cycles, and use your life for something greater than you can see right now.

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Success on the outside doesn't always reflect what's happening beneath the surface.In this episode, we sit down with Executive & Leadership Coach Angelica Ventrice, creator of The Identity Trap™, to explore the hidden identity patterns that drive burnout, overextending, and unsustainable success for founders, entrepreneurs, and leaders.Angelica shares her journey from a successful career in pharmaceutical sales to becoming a sought-after coach and TEDx speaker. We dive into the concept behind The Identity Trap™, why so many high achievers unknowingly fall into it, and what she's learned after coaching hundreds of leaders over the past 15 years.We also discuss why so many successful people struggle in silence, what organizations are still missing when it comes to developing high-performing leaders and teams, and the lasting message Angelica hopes audiences take away from her TEDx talk.Whether you're building a business, leading a team, or striving for success without sacrificing yourself in the process, this conversation offers a fresh perspective on what sustainable leadership really looks like.Instagram: @theangelicaventriceEmail: angelica@angelicaventrice.comAngelica Ventrice | High-Performance Coach & Keynote Speaker

What if ancient symbols, sacred geometry, magic squares, and modern artificial intelligence are all pointing toward the same fundamental idea: patterns shape how we understand reality?Gary Leckey of the Orion Institute joins me for a wide-ranging conversation about magic squares, geometry, occult symbolism, consciousness, artificial intelligence, manifestation, and the human imagination.We explore the idea of symbols as a compressed language, why traditional occult systems were built around precise sequences and correspondences, and how AI is changing our ability to analyze old manuscripts and recognize patterns that once took researchers years to uncover.But there is also a danger: AI can recognize real patterns while simultaneously creating convincing connections that were never there.So where does the machine end and the human observer begin?We discuss whether AI can ever truly imagine, whether consciousness is more than computation, the relationship between the creator and the creation, and why human imagination may remain the one thing artificial intelligence cannot replace.Featuring Gary Lackey of the Orion Institute.Unity Manifest Podcast — Hidden Patterns, Consciousness, and RealityAppleSpotify

Why do we keep struggling with the same things—even when we genuinely want to change? Ellen Krause is joined by Pastor Ike Miller to talk about how Jesus meets us not only in our sin and brokenness, but also in the places underneath them. You'll learn how vulnerability can open the door to healing, what it means to “hit the wall” in your faith, and how to listen to your pain so you can begin getting to the root of what's really going on.In this episode, we discuss:How sin can be hiding unhealthy ways of coping with pain How vulnerability can create space for healing in our relationships What it means to “hit the wall” in your faith journeyHow God can use difficult seasons to deepen our understanding of Him Practical ways to listen to your pain and uncover what's beneath the surface How getting to the root of your pain can lead to greater freedom and healingTheology That Heals: How the Good News of Jesus Not Only Saves Us but Makes Us WholeWant Ellen to share your comment on the show?

Most trauma has a place you can avoid. Medical trauma lives inside your body, so there is nowhere to go. Dr. Aimie sits down with Dr. James Jackson for the second half of their conversation on medical trauma. What will surprise you is how much recovery is available while the symptoms are still present. This is Part 2 of a two part conversation. Part 1 is here. ➡ Full show notes + resources: https://bit.ly/BOT190 Dr. Jackson works with people recovering after critical illness, and he is direct about something most clinicians avoid saying. Patients have been taught that recovery means every symptom is erased. That standard fails most bodies. He offers a different measure, along with the markers that actually move. Dr. Aimie also shares why she left general surgery residency after four years, and the one question she started asking her patients that changed everything about how she practiced.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN: 02:55 — Why do you carry the source of a medical trauma with you? 05:35 — What is acceptance and commitment therapy? 06:37 — How can you be fine right now? 07:09 — Why did Dr. Aimie leave general surgery residency? 08:17 — What happens when you ask a patient what their diagnosis means to them? 11:40 — Why should no one else decide what counts as a big trauma? 13:33 — Why is overselling recovery a problem? 14:46 — What does a rich recovery actually look like? 15:32 — What are the objective markers that recovery is happening? 17:02 — How should we talk about post-traumatic growth? 20:22 — Why can no one recover from medical trauma alone?   "If the trauma happened in your body, you're carrying that around. You're carrying it around, and you can't avoid it. It's always there." — Dr. James Jackson   If you have quietly decided you are not recovering because something still hurts, this episode is for you.   RESOURCES: Take the free 2-Minute Assessment for Discovering Your Pattern of Stored Trauma. You cannot change a pattern you cannot see. Find your primary pattern of responding when life becomes too much, then see how the other four show up. Get The Biology of Trauma. Avoidance and the pattern of disconnection are on page 117, chapter nine, The Patterns of Pain: Recognizing Stored Trauma in the Body. Reclaiming Your Life from Medical Trauma by Dr. James C. Jackson, PsyD. This episode is educational and is not medical advice. Please work with your own qualified healthcare provider for decisions about your care.

In this episode: What do we actually mean when we talk about gay trauma? The lasting effects of growing up feeling different or unsafe Shame, rejection, bullying, and the closet How trauma can influence sex, dating, intimacy, and attachment Seeking validation through sex, attention, and relationships Recognizing survival behaviors we've carried into adulthood Why healing doesn't mean becoming less sexual or less adventurous Creating healthier connections without judging the choices that got us here Dan Werner's work helping gay men understand and move through trauma A thoughtful, revealing conversation about where our patterns come from—and what becomes possible when we finally understand them. Hot Topics and Advice! Follow Steve V's new Substack and get 20% Off now through the end of August: Hot Gay Summer: https://tagspodcast.substack.com/2d41ff56 Follow our Special Guest Dan Werner on IG: @dwerner3 Follow Stevie on IG: @iam_stevev Follow Kodi on IG: @mistahmaurice Rate and Review us! Wanna drop a weekly or one time tip to TAGSPODCAST - Show your love for the show and support TAGS! Visit our website: tagspodcast.com Needs some advice for a sex or relationship conundrum? Ask TAGS! DM US ON IG or https://www.talkaboutgaysex.com/contact Follow Of a Certain Age on IG: @ofacertainagepod Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Ohio Congressman Max Miller has denied allegations that he abused his ex-wife and their young daughter. Evidence that he has tried to marshal in his own defense has sparked conversations about abuse: specifically, why victims might behave in a certain way and why abusers might behave in a certain way. Our guests explore it: Lisa Nolan, director of prevention education at Willow Domestic Violence Center Jerri Lynn Sparks, former congressional press secretary and author of "Surviving Madmen"

In this episode of A Deliberate Pause, we explore where lasting change really begins. It's easy to focus on what we want other people—or our circumstances—to do differently. But meaningful change starts closer to home: with us. When we pause long enough to see how we're showing up, we give ourselves the opportunity to choose differently. And those small, deliberate choices can begin changing not only how we experience our lives, but our relationships too. Learn more: www.shiragura.com

— What if many of the struggles we face today—our relationships, self-doubt, anxiety, or the ways we cope with life's challenges—are rooted in emotional patterns that began long before we were aware of them? As children, we all have fundamental emotional needs, and when those needs go unmet, we often develop beliefs and protective strategies that help us survive but may no longer serve us as adults. In today's conversation, we'll explore the science of Schema Therapy and how understanding these deeply ingrained patterns can help us heal childhood wounds, cultivate self-compassion, build healthier relationships, and strengthen what therapists call our "Healthy Adult"—the part of us that can respond to life with wisdom, resilience, and love. Valeria sits with Dr. Leslie Muetzelfeldt  — She is a Chartered Clinical Psychologist and she works with adults in private practice in Central London.   Her background includes neuropsychology, Intensive Care/ Major Trauma and Adult Mental Health. Dr Muetzelfeldt employs an integrative, person-centred approach using Schema Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), Mindfulness and EMDR. Her warm and empathetic approach aims to help adults develop self-compassion and healthier relationships by processing childhood traumas, building emotional resilience, and an ability to tolerate uncertainty.  Learn more about Dr. Leslie Muetzelfeldt and her work!

Toxic relationship dynamics can be painful, frustrating, and emotionally exhausting. But what if some of the most important patterns affecting those relationships are happening beneath the surface? In this episode, Brandy shares three powerful insights to help you look at toxic relationship patterns differently—and begin recognizing what may need to shift at a deeper level. Because sometimes the obvious problem is only part of the story. There may also be underlying feelings of powerlessness, rejection, guilt, insecurity, sensitivity, or emotional reactiveness that continue influencing the way a relationship feels and unfolds. In this episode, you will discover: Three hidden emotional patterns that may be affecting difficult relationships Why fear of rejection or abandonment can create feelings of powerlessness How emotional reactiveness can unintentionally keep conflict going Why feeling deserving of better can be an important part of creating change The important difference between anger and genuine strength Why using anger to access your power can create additional problems How confidence, wisdom, and self-worth can help create a healthier internal shift Why transforming yourself can sometimes change the entire relationship dynamic This is not about overlooking harmful behavior, abandoning healthy boundaries, or pretending painful experiences did not happen. Sometimes, removing a person from your life is absolutely necessary. But removing a person and transforming the emotional pattern are not always the same thing. When you begin identifying what is truly underneath the pattern, you may be able to create a much deeper level of healing, freedom, strength, and change. Free Mind-Body Healing Training If you'd like a deeper understanding of mind-body healing and how self-healing works: Click here to join the FREE training. Brandy Gillmore's Mind-Body Healing: Scientific Research If you'd like scientific research on mind-body healing, you can view Brandy Gillmore's work published in a Medical Journal. Personal Empowerment and Self-Healing Courses If you're ready to heal yourself and change your life: Click here to explore our GIFT Mind-Body Healing™ and the GIFT Method™ Courses and GIFT Workshops.   Connect With Brandy Follow Brandy on Facebook Follow Brandy on Instagram Questions? Discover more at https://brandygillmore.com or email support@BrandyGillmore.com   Important Note: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a replacement for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Please continue to consult your doctor or qualified healthcare provider as recommended. Click here to view our full disclaimer- https://brandygillmore.com/terms/. © Brandy Gillmore / Human Potential Revolution, Inc. All Rights Reserved. This podcast and all related content are provided solely for personal, noncommercial use. No portion may be copied, recorded, transcribed, closely paraphrased, adapted, repackaged, distributed, taught, or used to create or support any course, coaching program, training, certification, product, service, or derivative content without prior written permission. This content may not be uploaded to, entered into, stored in, used by, or incorporated into any artificial-intelligence, machine-learning, voice-cloning, digital-replica, data-training, or related system. By accessing, listening to, viewing, downloading, or otherwise using this content, you agree to our Intellectual Property and Content Use Terms. If you do not agree, do not access or use the content. Full Terms: https://brandygillmore.com/content-terms  Permissions: support@brandygillmore.com   

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You can be inches from the life you want—and still find a way to pull yourself backward. AJ and Johnny sit down with clinical neuropsychologist Dr. Judy Ho to uncover why self-sabotage appears in careers, health goals, relationships, and everyday habits. They explore the hidden fears, beliefs, and cognitive distortions that make change feel threatening, including black-and-white thinking, catastrophizing, comparison, low self-concept, and the excessive need for control. You'll learn how to recognize your triggers, question the stories your mind creates, separate thoughts from facts, and replace destructive patterns with practical “if-then” plans. Judy also explains why willpower alone isn't enough—and how aligning your goals with your values can create motivation that lasts when discipline fades. Chapters 00:00 – Why we sabotage the goals we want04:45 – The problem with New Year's resolutions08:00 – How fear activates self-defeating behavior12:30 – The four LIFE drivers of self-sabotage19:15 – Recognizing cognitive distortions24:40 – How to question and change destructive thoughts35:30 – Stop treating every thought like a fact41:00 – Rebuilding habits with the ABC framework44:20 – Turn obstacles into practical if-then plans51:10 – Why values create lasting motivation55:25 – Build your personal blueprint for change58:05 – How self-sabotage damages relationships01:03:10 – A daily exercise for catching negative thoughts A Word From Our Sponsors Get $250 off select AirDoctor air purifiers by using promo code CHARM at ⁠⁠⁠⁠AirDoctorPro.com⁠⁠⁠⁠. Shopify is where you go to start your business, and everything you need to sell is already there from day one. Start your free trial by going to ⁠⁠⁠⁠SHOPIFY.COM/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with top talent ready to help your business grow by going to ⁠⁠⁠⁠UPWORK.COM⁠⁠⁠⁠. This year, skip breaking a sweat AND breaking the bank. Get your summer savings and shop premium wireless plans at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠mintmobile.com/charm⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ self sabotage, procrastination, cognitive distortions, behavior change, psychology, personal growth, willpower, motivation, habits, goal setting, mindfulness, self awareness, cognitive behavioral therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy, negative thinking, fear of change, limiting beliefs, emotional regulation, relationships, values Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Show DescriptionWe tackle a listener question about why junior front-end devs are expected to know so much beyond HTML and CSS, then get into Dave's real-world fix swapping old WebKit line-clamp hacks for the new CSS line-clamp property and the subtle bugs that kind of truncation work can cause. They also debate whether AI tools like Claude or Copilot deserve co-author credit on commits, gripe about agent-only coding workflows that skip linting and hide what's actually happening, and wrap up looking at new platform features like the navigation API and a proposed CSS-based routing approach using @route and @view-transition. Listen on WebsiteWatch on YouTubeSponsorsNotionWrite custom tools for Notion Agents that generate assets, query live data, and hit any API. Listen for incoming webhooks from any app, then run workflows with Notion Agents, pages, databases, and external APIs. All of this, on a hosted runtime. Workers are isolated sandboxes managed by Notion, so the code behind your syncs, tools, and workflows runs on our infra instead of your servers.