Podcasts about rejection sensitivity

In this week's episode we are joined by some very special guests to have our first ADHD Roundtable Discussion. We welcome back Brendan Mahan (ADHD Essentials), Rene Brooks (Black Girl, Lost Keys), and Aurora Remember Holtzman (Embracing Intensity) to the show to talk about ADHD, impulsivity, parenting, rejection sensitivity, and physical symptoms that co-occur with the diagnosis. In a very special moment, and vulnerable share, Rene opens up about her experiences with navigating her race and her ADHD, and how even in 2020 there are issues with finding women of color that openly talk about their diagnosis. What is ADHD: Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is one of the most common mental disorders affecting children. ADHD also affects many adults. Symptoms of ADHD include inattention (not being able to keep focus), hyperactivity (excess movement that is not fitting to the setting) and impulsivity (hasty acts that occur in the moment without thought). There are three different types of ADHD, depending on which types of symptoms are strongest in the individual:Predominantly Inattentive Presentation: It is hard for the individual to organize or finish a task, to pay attention to details, or to follow instructions or conversations. The person is easily distracted or forgets details of daily routines.Predominantly Hyperactive-Impulsive Presentation: The person fidgets and talks a lot. It is hard to sit still for long (e.g., for a meal or while doing homework). Smaller children may run, jump or climb constantly. The individual feels restless and has trouble with impulsivity. Someone who is impulsive may interrupt others a lot, grab things from people, or speak at inappropriate times. It is hard for the person to wait their turn or listen to directions. A person with impulsiveness may have more accidents and injuries than others.Combined Presentation: Symptoms of the above two types are equally present in the person.Click here to find:Brendan MahanRene BrooksAurora Remember HoltzmanIf your ready to work with us, or for more information on Being UnNormal check out our website at www.beingunnormal.comFollow us on social media!Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/beingunnormalInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/beingunnormalpodcastSupport the show (http://www.pateron.com/beingunnormal)

EPISODE Episode 19 TITLE The Key To Helping Someone with Rejection Sensitivity is Helping Them Develop a Sense of Security GUEST Jared DeFife Ph.D. EPISODE OVERVIEW Dr. DeFife works with people who are emotionally intense, tend to be perfectionistic and sensitive to criticism. He talks about Rejection Sensitivity, which has 3 primary components. Dr. DeFife talks about the 3 Cs to help if you experience Rejection Sensitivity.  We talk about 2 types of perfectionism, muscle dysmorphia and the benefits of self-disclosure and authenticity by therapists in the therapeutic relationship. HIGHLIGHTS Rejection Sensitivity Anxious anticipation of [rejection] Ready perception of [seeing rejection in neutral situations when it may not be there] Intense reaction to [criticism, failure, set backs, exclusion, lack of belonging] Rejection Sensitivity is highly correlated with aggression and hostililty—this can look like behavior that is snide or snippy. The person engages in hostile and rejecting behavior, then creates the rejection due to their behavior. The person ends up creating what they are most afraid of. They get into this vicious cycle. Rejection Sensitivity can also include reactions where the person engages in social avoidance or shutting down. Rejection Sensitivity is a process that people engage in to avoid feeling shame. In Anxious Anticipation Of—the person imagines that they probably won’t be accepted or liked before the interaction. They may imagine that the other person will think they’re stupid. Perfectionism isn’t really about wanting things to be perfect At the root, it’s that other people will see that we’re defective and inadequate Perfectionism can be a survival skill for some, and if you take it away, you’re taking away the way they believe they can fit in. There are different types of perfectionism Self-oriented perfectionism—competing against yourself (like an athlete would). This can be a healthy form of perfectionism. Socially prescribed perfectionism—If I don’t get this right, people will think I’m an idiot, or I’ll be rejected.     Rejection Sensitivity is transdiagnostic—you will see it across many different diagnoses like depressive disorders, anxiety disorders, personality disorders, eating disorders and substance use disorders. Muscle dysmorphia—"is a subtype ofbody dysmorphic disorder (BDD), in which people, mostly males, are obsessed with the size of their muscles.  They worry that they are not muscular or lean enough or that their bodies are too underdeveloped and weak.  Their symptoms cause significant distress and hinder their ability to socialize, go to work, and/or participate in daily activities.  In many cases, people with muscle dysmorphia have average or above average muscularity.”  Quoted from https://mghocd.org/what-is-muscle-dysmorphia/ The Key to helping someone with Rejection Sensitivity is to help them develop a sense of security. The way to do this is with the 2 Cs Calmness—to calm down that fueled intense reactivity Clarity—learning what your wants and needs are, and knowing your life story so you are clear about your own desires, motivations and interests Connections—having safe relationships with others where you can be vulnerable, and open with others and you don’t have to keep your feelings to yourself Being a psychologically health person isn’t about being a perfect person. Of course it’s  about being vulnerable RESOURCES— Don’t Take It Personally! The Art of Dealing With Rejection Elayne Savage PhD Books by Brene Brown--https://www.google.com/search?q=brene+brown+books&oq=brene+brown+books&aqs=chrome..69i57j0l5.2786j0j7&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8 Mentalization Based Therapy Schema Therapy DBT—Dialectical Behavioral Therapy Metacognitive Interpersonal Therapy Radically Open DBT   BIO Jared DeFife, PhD (www.jareddefife.com) is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Atlanta, GA and an Adjunct Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at the Emory University School of Medicine. Dr. DeFife specializes in helping people who identify as “emotionally intense”, perfectionistic, self-critical, and interpersonally sensitive to criticism or rejection. His practice integrates from interpersonal and personality-focused therapies drawing from Schema-Focused, Mentalization-Based, and RO-DBT approaches for chronic depression/anxiety, interpersonal problems, and personality disorder concerns. Dr. DeFife has published widely in professional journals and been a frequent media commentator on mental health and interpersonal relationships for numerous television, podcast, and print outlets including the BBC World News, Psychotherapy Networker, Yahoo! Health, Self, Bustle, Women’s Health and Men’s Health magazines, and The Huffington Post. He is a regular blog contributor to Psychology Today.   PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer.  Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California.  We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. LINKS Website—https://www.jareddefife.com/   http://grantome.com/grant/NIH/R01-MH081948-04   https://www.ffri.hr/~ibrdar/komunikacija/seminari/Downey,%201996%20-%20Rejection%20Sensitivity%20for%20intimate%20relationsh.pdf   https://www.researchgate.net/publication/200008742_Self-esteem_and_rejection_sensitivity_in_close_relationships     Dr. Elaine Aron’s website— https://hsperson.com/   HSP Self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-test/ HSP Child self-test-- https://hsperson.com/test/highly-sensitive-child-test/   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com

Have you, or your ADHD child or pour ever gone into a rage or withdrawn from others over nothing? What triggers ADHD’ers into instant rage or expression?  Dr. Bill Dodson and I discuss Rejection Sensitivity – a common issue with ADHD. When one with ADHD perceives she or he has been rejected, discounted or unheard … watch out! You need … Read more about this episode...