Podcasts about Perfectionism

Why do your fingers and toes sometimes feel freezing cold when the rest of you feels perfectly comfortable? It's actually your body doing something very deliberate to protect you. Listen and discover what's going on — and why warming those fingers and toes back up can be so difficult. https://health.clevelandclinic.org/why-are-my-hands-and-feet-always-cold-and-should-i-worry Are you getting enough sleep? Is it good-quality sleep? Why did you wake up at 3 a.m.? For a lot of people, sleep has become something to measure, manage and worry about. But all that effort may actually be making sleep worse. Sleep physiologist Stephanie Romiszewski says one of the best things you can do for your sleep may be to stop trying so hard. She has worked in sleep research at Harvard Medical School and is author of Think Less, Sleep More: From Panic & Perfectionism to Stress-Free Sleep (https://amzn.to/3SOGsmM). Listen as she explains why sleep is more resilient than you think — and how worrying about it can become the real problem. There is something almost irresistible about “new.” A new phone, new car, new clothes, new gadgets — new things grab our attention and promise that life will somehow be a little better once we have them. And today, getting something new is easier than ever. But all that novelty comes at a price in money, time and attention. Eric Athas, an editor at The New York Times, explores why we are so attracted to new things, why the feeling wears off so quickly and what we may gain by resisting the urge to constantly upgrade. He is author of Saying No to New: Why New Things Are Stealing Your Time, Money, and Happiness―And How to Take Back Your Life(https://amzn.to/4iTUs9c). Goosebumps are strange when you think about them. They appear when you're cold, scared or even moved by music — yet they don't seem to accomplish much. Turns out they once served a very useful purpose. Listen and discover why humans still get goosebumps even though we no longer have much use for them. https://humanorigins.si.edu/education/fun-facts/why-do-we-get-goose-bumps PLEASE SUPPORT OUR SPONSORS MONARCH: Write your own money story with Monarch! Use promo code SYSK at ⁠⁠⁠https://Monarch.com⁠⁠⁠ to get your 1st year of Monarch Core half off at just $50 TREES.COM: Right now, ⁠⁠⁠https://Trees.com ⁠⁠⁠have great deals on planting essentials, up to half off on select plants. And listeners to our show get 20% OFF their purchase when using the promo code SYSK at checkout. VINTED: Ready to clean out your closet and make some extra money?Download the Vinted app for free and start listing! With no seller fees, you keep every dollar you earn and for a limited time, enjoy free shipping in the US on Vinted. WAYFAIR: Ready to upgrade your home for way less? Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Wayfair.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ right now to shop all things home and get your space ready for less.  QUINCE: Find your next Fall favorites at Quince! Go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Quince.com/sysk⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too! DELL: Built for those who want better. The Dell XPS, built for you! PLANET VISIONARIES: In partnership with The Rolex Perpetual Planet Initiative, this is Planet Visionaries. Listen or watch wherever you get your podcasts! KA'CHAVA: Ka'Chava's new Salted Caramel is the perfect balance of mouthwatering flavor and benefits. Embrace your salty side. Go to ⁠⁠https://kachava.com⁠⁠ and use promo code SYSK to get 15% off your first order! INDEED: Get a $75 Sponsored Job credit to help get your job the premium status it deserves at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://Indeed.com/PODCAST⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is the world's most researched, recommended, and criticized form of therapy. Clinical psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen joins Forrest to talk about what CBT is, its history, its strengths and weaknesses, and why it's gotten such a bad rap. They walk through the common criticisms: that it's spreadsheet therapy, that it's a form of self-gaslighting, and that it has an, er, "complex" relationship with insurance companies. They then apply the best of the CBT toolkit to Ellen's areas of expertise: self-criticism, perfectionism, procrastination, and social anxiety.  About our Guest: Ellen is a clinical psychologist at Boston University's Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders and the author of How to Be Yourself and her newest book, ⁠How to Be Enough: Self-Acceptance for Self-Critics and Perfectionists⁠. Key Topics: 00:00: Dr. Ellen Hendricksen and what differentiates CBT 7:54: Is CBT warm? 10:25: The first wave: behaviorism 19:57: The second wave: cognitive therapy and Aaron Beck 26:18: The third wave: mindfulness driven approaches 31:44: How the same problem would be handled by the three waves 34:53: Issues of fit 38:00: Critique 1: CBT is reductive 42:30: When CBT is a poor fit: trauma, intellectualizers 53:27: CBT for social anxiety and perfectionism 1:01:14: The two ingredients of perfectionism  1:07:46: Perfectionism and procrastination  1:25:07: Recap Support the Podcast: We're on Patreon! ⁠If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.⁠ Sponsors Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/beingwell⁠.  MasterClass keeps adding new classes, so there's never been a better time to get in. Get at least 15% off any annual membership at ⁠https://MasterClass.com/BEINGWELL⁠ Level up your bedding with Quince. Go to ⁠https://Quince.com/BEINGWELL⁠ for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five-day returns. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can't start the task, or can't stop redoing it? Both get called laziness, but they're driven by opposite fears — and treating them the same way is why so many fixes don't stick.DrB breaks down the real difference between ADHD procrastination and ADHD perfectionism, how the two feed each other into one paralyzing loop, and the specific skills that interrupt each one.Key Points CoveredWhy ADHD procrastination is a task-initiation and emotional avoidance issue, not a time management issueWhy perfectionism in ADHD is often compensatory armor, not high ambitionThe key distinction: procrastination fears starting, perfectionism fears finishingHow the two patterns feed each other into a self-reinforcing loopFour practical skills — shrinking the first step, defining "done" in advance, externalizing the start, and separating drafts from identityLinks Mentioneddrbarbaracohen.com — All episodes + show resourcesIt Was Never You Masterclass – More Than ADHD Coaching (FREE), September 22, 2026, 10 am – 2 pm pacific time + VIP hour:  https://itwasneveryoumasterclass.com/ Get Sh*t Done (GSD) Program Information – 9-month programhttps://www.drbarbaracohen.com/gsdprogramGrant assistance page for help with funding for GSD program:https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/financial-assistance The Transformation Club (TTC) – if time or money commitments have been holding you back - the affordable membership program for Executive Function skills development:https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/ttcprogram Free PDF - 13 Signs Weak Executive Functioning Is Holding You Back:https://www.drbarbaracohen.com/Executive-Function Follow me on Dr B Facebook Page and enjoy live videos and moreFollow me on Instagram and enjoy relevant resources To Help The Show:Subscribe at your favorite listening spot, and my podcast player has social media links (icons) in the episode player so you can share episodes you love with others!Please rate the show and leave a thoughtful review on iTunes so I know you're benefiting from the episodes. The greater the number of reviews, the higher the ranking, and the easier it will be for others to find the show; people who also need this information. Let's put an end to the worldwide needless suffering together! We can do this! 

Fan Mail: Tell Wendy how you're saying yes to yourself!Want to come inside La Menarderie? On Saturday, September 19, Wendy is opening the doors (virtually!) for a live tour of the château she and her friend Liz have been bringing to life in the French countryside. Come see the treasures she's sourced, what they've been working on, and this beautiful old property while it's still very much in progress. The tour is live on Zoom and will not be recorded.JOIN THE LIVE TOUR: wendy-harrop.myflodesk.com/lamenarderietourIn this episode, Wendy sits down with Christine Carron of Good Jelly to challenge the idea that meaningful progress requires more pressure, discipline, or hours spent working. Christine helps highly capable creatives find patterns of progress that honor how they actually work, rather than forcing themselves into someone else's system. Together, they explore what changes when you stop treating yourself like an assembly line, recognize the wins you usually dismiss, and begin leading your creative work with more spaciousness, self-trust, and delight.They explore:Why your creative process is allowed to look different from everyone else's and change from one project, season, or day to the next How perfectionism and undefined finish lines keep you working without ever feeling the momentum of what you've completed Christine's practice of creating “done boosts” by naming your endpoints and becoming flagrantly generous in acknowledging your progress This is a conversation about making room for creativity without running yourself into the ground. If you're doing meaningful work but constantly focused on what remains unfinished, Christine offers a more sustaining way to recognize your progress and keep moving.Connect with Christine:Website: https://www.goodjelly.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christine-carronInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/leagueofgoodjelly/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@goodjellyWatch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/gwb5WONWrI8Referenced in this Episode:Aransas Savas' Episode, The One Question that Shifts Everything: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1872382/episodes/18652692 Episodes with Rachel Jackson:How to Stop Performing and Start Trusting Yourself | Rachel Jackson: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1872382/episodes/18586302Saying Yes To Your New Version With Rachel Jackson: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1872382/episodes/13455977________________________________________________________________________________________Connect with Wendy:LinkedinInstagram: @wendy.harropFacebook: Phineas Wright HouseWebsite: Phineas Wright House PWH Farm StaysPWH Curated Experience and TravelInterested in being a guest on the show? Send your pitch to podcast@phineaswrighthouse.comPodcast Production By Shannon Warner of Resonant Collective Want to start your own podcast? Let's chat!If this episode resonated, follow Say YES to Yourself! and leave a  5-star review. It helps more women in midlife discover the tools, stories, and community that make saying YES not only possible, but powerful.

When two ADHD experts get together to talk about neurodivergence, we can skip the basics and go so much deeper. In this episode, I'm joined by Kate Moryoussef — ADHD coach, EFT practitioner, author of The ADHD Women's Wellbeing Toolkit, and host of the ADHD Women's Wellbeing Podcast — to explore what it really takes to navigate life as a late-identified neurodivergent woman. We dive into the complex reality of managing your capacity, navigating perimenopause alongside ADHD, unlearning lifelong perfectionism, and why true well-being goes far beyond quick social media hacks. Kate shares openly about her own lived experience, the reality of post-event energy crashes, and how she builds a supportive ecosystem to burn bright without burning out. In this episode, we cover: The deep need for in-person connection and finding "your people" as a late-diagnosed woman The intersection of ADHD, perimenopause, and lifelong hormonal struggles Protecting your energy, honoring bodily cues, and navigating post-adrenaline crashes Why self-identification is valid and how to support yourself while on long assessment waitlists Moving beyond the binary of ADHD as either a "superpower" or a curse Setting boundaries around sleep, screen time, and constant dopamine consumption The hidden perfectionism behind workaholism, people-pleasing, and the internal "not enough" narrative Why coaching, therapy, and nervous system regulation work together as a holistic toolkit The future of neurodivergence assessments and moving toward more fluid, holistic diagnostic pathways Key reminder  You don't need to tick every box, fix everything, or prove your worth by pushing past your limits. Whatever you have done today is enough, and you are worthy of rest. About Kate Moryoussef  Kate is a Women's ADHD Lifestyle and Wellbeing Coach, EFT practitioner, author, and podcast host. Diagnosed at 40, she combines lived experience with professional expertise to help women understand themselves with clarity, compassion, and realistic, sustainable strategies. Connect with Kate Website: www.adhdwomenswellbeing.co.uk Listen to Michaela's guest episode on Kate's podcast: https://www.adhdwomenswellbeing.co.uk/podcast Resources & Links ✨ Join my free Nervous System Reset to help you move from overwhelm to calm (without having to sit still!): www.thethomasconnection.co.uk/reset ✨ Golden Event (London, October 9th): An intimate day for nine women to pause, restore capacity, and build purpose without burnout: https://thethomasconnection.thrivecart.com/golden-in-person-event-oct-2026/ Enjoyed this episode? Please follow the podcast, leave a rating or review, and share this episode with someone who is navigating a new diagnosis or trying to find the words to speak to the doubters. It helps more people discover Pause, Purpose, Play and supports the podcast to reach those who need it most.

Ever feel a wave of resistance right before hitting "post" on social media?In this episode of The Catholic Coaching Podcast, Matt and Aaron dive into the messy, real-life process of starting a social media account from scratch—exposing the exact self-sabotage and mental friction that holds coaches back from sharing their message.Whether you're struggling with technical overwhelm, perfectionism, or just feeling unprepared, Matt and Aaron unpack how to navigate the "take twos," embrace the resistance, and move forward in obedience to your calling.In this episode, Matt and Aaron cover:• Overcoming Resistance: Why feeling threatened by new habits is completely normal—and how to push through.• Perfectionism vs. Obedience: Shifting your perspective from obligation to answering a genuine call.• Embracing "Take Twos": Why quick, imperfect content builds momentum faster than over-polished videos.• Overcoming Tech Overwhelm: Practical ways to record and share content without getting stuck in technical details.If this episode helped you gain clarity and confidence in your coaching business, please like, subscribe, and share it with another coach who needs encouragement today!Send us Fan MailSupport the show____________________► Make sure to SUBSCRIBE to the Metanoia Catholic YouTube Channel!► Discover How God Is Speaking to You In Prayer► Find out your temperament: Take the Free Quiz► Get the Conversation Starter Guide (FREE) ► Take the Quiz: WHAT TYPE OF COACH ARE YOU?► GET THE DAILY SEVEN JOURNAL!This interactive journal will help you transform your life from the inside out by teaching you how to grow in gratitude, set healthy goals, and gain mastery over your thoughts.► JOIN THE ACADEMY!Your online resource of classes, tools, and community to ramp up your growth and really change your life. Learn from the Metanoia Catholic coaches in webinars, live coaching calls, Lectio Divina, and more with your monthly membership.____________________► SUB...

Feel the Fear and Audition Anyway Working actors are not fearless actors. They have just learned how to move when they are afraid. This morning I woke up with what I can only describe as generalized anxiety. And I knew I could take a shower and stew in my own anxiety juices for a while, or I could just do something. So I attacked the email inbox. About 20 minutes later I was like, woo, I am ready, I am going. The anxiety was gone and I was zip-zopping through my day. That is the whole thing. It is not about feeling confident first. Confidence usually comes after the action. Fear Is Not Always a Stop Sign Fear can mean growth. Visibility. Vulnerability. Possibility. I have come to look at fear as an indication of what still needs to be worked on in me. For actors this shows up in a few ways. Avoiding self-tapes because perfectionism feels safer. And what do I always say about perfectionism? Perfectionism leads to procrastination leads to paralysis. Waiting to be fully ready before taking action. You are going to be waiting a long time. Shrinking after one bad class or one audition you feel you messed up. I cannot tell you how many auditions I walked out of thinking that is never going to happen, and then I booked the job. Fear does not mean stop. Sometimes it means you are finally moving. You are out of your comfort zone. And life and adventure begin outside your comfort zone. Perfectionism Is Just Fear in a Different Outfit Perfectionism often hides fear of judgment, fear of rejection, fear of being visible. It keeps you stuck in preparation instead of participating. And what we want to be doing is participating. In life, in our scenes, in the business. The 10 Seconds of Courage Exercise Sometimes you only need 10 seconds to send the email or upload the tape. Here is the exercise. Say to yourself, for the next 10 seconds I am going to do what I would do if I were brave. And then do it. Push the click. Send the email. Do the thing. You have 10 seconds. Journal Prompts What opportunities have you talked yourself out of lately? And what if discomfort was not proof that you were failing? What if it was proof that you were moving forward or that you had something to learn? The Bottom Line The entertainment industry rewards resilience. Rejection, waiting, and uncertainty are all built into this business. Emotional resilience matters just as much as talent does, because your talent is not going to get to shine unless you are emotionally resilient. Your dream career may live on the other side of that uncomfortable visibility. Feel the fear and move anyway. Want to Keep the Conversation Going? I am introducing something called buddy coaching. You and a friend apply to coach with me together at 50% off. It can be someone from your acting class, someone you want to learn and grow with. EMAIL ME and make sure to CC your potential buddy. If you want private coaching or just a free consultation, click that link too. We will take it from there. As I always say, stay safe and treat yourself real well.

What does it means to know enough, and why do so many of us have our sense of self-worth tangled up with the need to appear certain, informed, and never wrong? The common obstacles of perfectionism, yearning for power and to feel "special," along with anxiety are fueled by a world of constant information, public scrutiny, and the subtle pressure to prove our intelligence. It makes a tough environment to come back to the wisdom Socrates shared 2,500 years ago: real wisdom lives in knowing what you don't know.  The good news: getting comfortable with being wrong is a practice, not a personality trait. And the more you do it (starting small and safe), then the more your nervous system learns that doubt isn't dangerous.   About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek.   Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).   Listen & follow the Joy Lab Podcast on your favorite listening app: Spotify | Apple | YouTube   Full transcript here   Sources and Notes for Our Element of Enoughness: Related Joy Lab Episodes: Ep. 215: Are You Curious to Learn or Confirm?  Ep. 285: Why Doing Enough Is Enough + Why Perfectionism Predicts Burnout, Depression, & Anxiety, Not Performance Ep. 284: Having Enough: Why Acquiring More Will Never Fill the Hole in Your Self-Worth Ep. 283: You Are Enough: The Science and Practices of Enoughness Bellam, S., Curran, T., Hill, A. P., & Stoeber, J. (2025). Perfectionism and work performance: A meta-analysis. https://doi.org/10.1111/joop.12570 Carver, C. S., Lawrence, J. W., & Scheier, M. F. (1999). Self-discrepancies and affect: Incorporating the role of feared selves. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167299025007002  Crocker, J., & Park, L. E. (2004). The costly pursuit of self-esteem. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.131.3.392  Crocker, J., & Park, L. E. (2004). Reaping the benefits of pursuing self-esteem without the costs? Reply to Schmuck and Sheldon (2004), Sheldon et al. (2004), Pyszczynski et al. (2004), and Kernis (2004). https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.130.3.430 Crocker, J., Karpinski, A., Quinn, D. M., & Chase, S. K. (2003). When grades determine self-worth: Consequences of contingent self-worth for male and female engineering and psychology majors. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.85.3.507 Crocker, J., & Wolfe, C. T. (2001). Contingencies of self-worth. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-295X.108.3.593 Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2004). Avoiding death or engaging life as accounts of meaning and culture: Comment on Pyszczynski et al. (2004). https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.130.3.473 Freudenberger, H. J. (1974). Staff burn-out. Journal of Social Issues, 30(1), 159–165. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1540-4560.1974.tb00706.x  Harari, D., Swider, B. W., Bujold Steed, L., & Breidenthal, A. P. (2018). Is perfect good? A meta-analysis of perfectionism in the workplace. https://doi.org/10.1037/apl0000324 Hewitt, P. L., & Flett, G. L. (1991). Perfectionism in the self and social contexts: Conceptualization, assessment, and association with psychopathology. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.60.3.456 Higgins, E. T. (1987). Self-discrepancy: A theory relating self and affect. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-295X.94.3.319 Joseph, S., & Linley, P. A. (2005). Positive adjustment to threatening events: An organismic valuing theory of growth through adversity. https://doi.org/10.1037/1089-2680.9.3.262 Kernis, M. H. (2005). Measuring self-esteem in context: The importance of stability of self-esteem in psychological functioning. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1467-6494.2005.00359.x Kirkpatrick, L. A., & Ellis, B. J. (2001). An evolutionary-psychological approach to self-esteem: Multiple domains and multiple functions. In G. J. O. Fletcher & M. S. Clark (Eds.), Blackwell handbook of social psychology: Interpersonal processes (pp. 411–436). Blackwell. Leary, M. R. (2000). Sociometer theory and the pursuit of relational value: Getting to the root of self-esteem. https://doi.org/10.1080/14792772043000045  Maslach, C. (1981). The measurement of experienced burnout. https://doi.org/10.1002/job.4030020205   Park, L. E., & Crocker, J. (2005). Attachment styles and contingencies of self-worth. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167205277030 Pyszczynski, T., Greenberg, J., Solomon, S., Arndt, J., & Schimel, J. (2004). Why do people need self-esteem? https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.130.3.435 Schaufeli, W. B., Leiter, M. P., & Maslach, C. (2009). Burnout: 35 years of research and practice. https://doi.org/10.1108/13620430910966406  Lynn Twist's Book: The Soul of Money   Questions this episode was made for: Q: Why do I feel like I have to know everything and never be wrong... and how do I stop? A: This episode traces the drive to perform knowledge back to things like anxiety about judgment and the desire for specialness, along with the amygdala hijack that makes being wrong feel like a survival threat, and offers a practical strategy: exposure. Practice being wrong in small, safe ways until your nervous system recalibrates and realizes it isn't catastrophic.   Q: Can you actually be too certain? Isn't confidence a good thing? A: Being too certain can be detrimental. This episode unpacks the differences between genuine knowledge, intellectual humility, and the performance of certainty for reasons outside of genuine knowledge.     Key moments: [00:30] Setting the scene: Athens, 2,500 years ago — a friend asks the Oracle of Delphi who is the wisest person in the city [02:30] Socrates' conclusion: maybe he was wiser because he knew what he didn't know, and didn't shy away from that unknowing; kept asking questions [03:30] Intellectual humility: holding your beliefs loosely, staying curious, genuinely believing you might be wrong [04:00] The Enoughness layer: the belief that you have to prove your knowledge to be worthy; knowing more makes you enough [05:00] It's exhausting to feel like you need to know all the answers, to be right all the time — and none of us can actually succeed at it [05:30] Two drivers: anxiety (fear of being judged for being wrong) and the desire for power or certainty as protection from vulnerability [07:00] The desire for specialness: inflating self-esteem through the performance of knowing it all [07:30] Research on narcissism and conspiratorial thinking: conspiracy theories offer the feeling of uniqueness — "I know something you don't" [10:00] Henry: a small pitch for narcissism — a little bit isn't bad; we all want to feel special sometimes; full-blown narcissists wouldn't be listening to this anyway [11:00] The belonging need: we don't have to stand out to belong, but we do need to be seen as worthy of inclusion — so we avoid sticking our neck out and being wrong in front of others [11:30] Social media amplifies this: anything put out publicly can be validated or challenged — rarely challenged without feeling diminished [14:00] The internet requires a new kind of resilience and emotional regulation we haven't trained before in human history — much of which is what Joy Lab works on [15:30] Being wrong is so often worse in our heads than in real life — especially when we're willing to admit it; humility actually strengthens connection [17:30] Henry: when the fear of being wrong tips into clinical anxiety or mood problems — perfectionism creates a downward spiral [18:00] The amygdala hijack: the midbrain can't distinguish between a perceived threat (being wrong in front of others) and a real physical threat — fight or flight activates as though lives are at stake [18:30] How to get out: exposure — practice being wrong in small, safe ways; when your nervous system learns it isn't catastrophic, it recalibrates  [20:30] Good news: we have many opportunities every day to practice being wrong — the more you check in, the more you notice them [21:00] The Experiment for this episode works on getting more comfortable with being wrong   If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review us wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts!    Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. 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Ask Rachel anythingAre you trying so hard to be a good parent that you might be doing too much for your tween or teen, and accidentally making life harder for both of you?In this episode of Parenting Teenagers Untangled, Rachel Richards talks with clinical psychologist and author Dr. Tara Porter about her new book "Good Enough" and why good enough parenting is actually the best kind of parenting.Drawing on more than 25 years working in adolescent mental health, Tara explains how so many teens—whatever their diagnosis—secretly feel they are not “enough”: not clever enough, organized enough, pretty enough, or successful enough. She links this to a wider achievement-obsessed culture, fueled by:An education system caught in a “grade arms race”Social media's like-and-kudos economyThe professionalization of parenting and the tsunami of advice aimed at parentsAgainst this backdrop, Tara shares her three core principles of good enough parenting:A good enough attitude – Letting go of perfection, resisting the urge to optimize every aspect of your child's life, and accepting that zigzags and setbacks are normal.Relationship-based parenting – Prioritizing connection over outcomes, being “like wallpaper” in the background: present, warm, and available without crowding them or trying to control everything.Firm and kind boundaries – Finding the balance between warmth and firmness (authoritative parenting), gradually letting go of authority through the teen years so that by adulthood, your child is guided by their own internal compass, not your rules.Rachel and Tara explore:Rescuing vs building resilienceTwo common struggle patterns in teensThe perfectionist achiever The rebellious non-complier How to set boundaries that still protect the relationshipBetter conversations with teensTara's two key listening tools:Empathy – stepping into your teen's perspective, so they feel genuinely understood.Curiosity – asking open questions rather than jumping in with solutions.Rachel adds the idea of “LUFU – Listen Until they Feel Understood”, and both discuss why advice rarely lands until a teen first feels deeply heard.Mental health labels vs hope and growthRachel's personal blog on getting the balance right Dr Tara PorterSupport the showPlease hit the follow button if you like the podcast, and share it with anyone who might benefit. You can review us on Apple podcasts by going to the show page, scrolling down to the bottom where you can click on a star then you can leave your message. Please don't hesitate to seek the advice of a specialist if you're not coping. There's no shame in reaching out for support. When you look after yourself your entire family benefits.Find all the tips from the episode on Substack: My email teenagersuntangled@gmail.comMy website has a blog, searchable episodes, and ways to contact meInstagramFacebook

It's the day after Norense's 31st birthday. And instead of just celebrating, he's asking a question most of us avoid: why is it so hard to let ourselves be celebrated?Recorded audio-only from his new Upper East Side apartment (sirens and all), this episode digs into the voice of doubt that convinces you that you can't clap for yourself until you've "arrived" — that you can't receive love, help, or celebration because you're not where you thought you'd be by now.Norense gets honest about his own struggle to receive — the birthday dinner he almost didn't have, the friend who pushed past his hesitation to make it happen, and the conversation that's stuck with him for years: "You serve everyone... but do you think some of it is for you?"Then he takes it to the Word: the progression of Matthew 3 and 4 — baptized, tested, then preaching, then followers — and why so many of us want the followers without ever opening our mouths.In this episode:Why the voice of doubt won't let you celebrate yourself — and why "where you are is not who you are"The "perfect product" lie: why believing you have to be finished before you date, build, or receive is demonicWhy you can't love others well without a revelation of how well you're lovedThe birthday dinner story: what happens when a friend refuses to let you say no to your own celebrationDon't say no for somebody else — why holding back your ideas robs the people they were meant for"Apathy is adjacent to death" — and why passion is proof you're aliveThe Matthew 3–4 progression: baptized, tested, preaching, then followers — and why the world wants followers without preachingHow God uses technology for His glory — from Roman roads carrying the gospel to the smartphone in your handWhy heaven celebrates the one — so what makes you think you have to earn celebration?Key Truth: "Celebrate it before you think it deserves celebrating. On your birthday, you better celebrate — because there's air flowing through your lungs, and you didn't have to be allowed to make it to this day."Key Verse: Matthew 4:17 — From that time Jesus began to preach, and to say, Repent: for the kingdom of heaven is at hand.If this episode hit you:Rate and review the Mind Bully Podcast — it helps this message reach more homes and hearts, one thought at a time.

Send us Fan MailFollow Mackenzie on Instagram here.Some stories are not for scrolling past. This one belongs to Mackenzie Shelton.For six years she built a real estate business while raising a family, and she did it the way high achieving women usually do. All of it. Perfectly. Herself.Then early in 2020 she found out she was pregnant with her fourth. At about ten weeks she lost the baby, with complications so serious she came close to needing a transfusion. She did not feel right for months.Her body made the decision her calendar never would have. She had to slow down.The problem was the train did not stop. She had spent six years building something that could not just sit there while she healed. So she started asking a question she had never asked before. What if I do not have to carry all of this.She asked her husband for help. She hired help. She built systems for the things that kept turning chaotic.And she says something honest about her faith in that stretch. She had not been leaning on it much. She had a business coach and a plan and a very secular way of growing. The season that broke her open is the season she started praying about her business instead of just her body.Out of that came her book, The Serenity Solution, about freedom from control, perfectionism, and the pressure to do it all.There is a story in this episode you will retell. To keep her sanity with four kids, she hired a friend to clean her house once a month. She was one of that friend's first clients. That friend now runs a six figure cleaning business with a staff.Mackenzie also leads a real estate team seven years in, where the average agent earns around $150,000 a year, and most of those women are single mothers running their lives on systems. She and her husband run a real estate investment business and bought a forty acre farm outside Council Bluffs, Iowa three years ago.When people tell her they do not know how she does it all, she tells them the truth. She does not.Find Mackenzie on Instagram at MackenzieLeeShelton. Her book, The Serenity Solution, is on Amazon.This is The Calling Table Sessions on the Stuck No More Voices Podcast. One seat. One woman. One story handled with care.If you are a Christian woman leader with a story that could reach the woman you used to be, there is a seat here for you at theresacroft.com/yourseat.Share this episode with the woman who came to mind while you were listening.Register Click HERE:  The Calling Activation Study; Discover the Story That Connects Your Calling to the People You're Meant to Serve.To be a guest on the Calling series:  https://theresacroft.com/your-seatHome TheresaCroft.comInstagram: https://instagram.com/theresacroftFacebook: https://Facebook.com/theresamcroftYouTube: https://YouTube.com/@theresacroftMore Podcast Episodes on Apple and Spotify

As a quiet and shy bookworm growing up, Melissa Gendreau, LMHC, learned to believe that she needed to perform and be perfect in order to be accepted. That mindset followed her into adulthood, shaping the way she viewed herself and contributing to a deep sense of shame, including shame from a teenage relationship that went wrong. Yet even before Melissa fully knew Jesus, God had already placed a desire in her heart to give her life for His kingdom and help people who were hurting. In this episode, Melissa openly shares how those early experiences shaped her understanding of herself and how God began to change that perspective. As Melissa came to know Jesus, she discovered that the way she had been assessing herself was not the truth. Through time, practice, and learning to trust what God says about her, she began to believe that she was who He said she was. Today, as a therapist, Melissa helps others who feel stuck in places of shame, drawing from both her professional experience and her own journey of healing. I loved her honest and vulnerable sharing, and I hope her story encourages you to look beyond the labels and expectations you have placed on yourself and discover who God says you are.   Connect with Melissa:  Website: https://melissagendreaupllc.com/ Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/melissagendreaupllc/ Linked In: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melissa-gendreau-39908b327/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/forwardpathwithmelissa/ Podcast:  Forward Path with Melissa    To inquire about counseling, email Louise at Louise@louisesedgwick.com.  

Success can become a survival strategy when the nervous system learns that achievement equals safety. In this episode of Trauma Rewired, Jennifer Wallace and Elisabeth Kristof are joined by entrepreneur and Brain Based partner Margy Feldhun to explore how unresolved trauma can drive perfectionism, relentless productivity, emotional repression, and eventual burnout. Together, they unpack why so many high achievers feel successful on the outside while feeling disconnected, numb, or chronically stressed on the inside. You'll learn how the fight response can masquerade as ambition, why emotional repression often fuels performance until it no longer can, and how nervous system regulation allows success to become something you can actually experience instead of constantly chasing. If you've ever felt like you're accomplishing everything yet still can't relax, this conversation will help you understand why—and show you a different path toward sustainable achievement, healthier relationships, and authentic fulfillment.      In This Episode Why high achievement is often rooted in nervous system survival rather than true capacity How the fight response fuels perfectionism, overworking, and burnout The hidden cost of emotional repression in business, leadership, and relationships Why external success cannot create internal safety How perfectionism, shame, and hypervigilance become performance strategies The difference between emotional repression and emotional suppression Why high performers often experience burnout despite outward success How emotional processing improves leadership, decision-making, and resilience The connection between chronic stress, migraines, pain, and emotional repression Why nervous system regulation creates sustainable success instead of survival-driven achievement How learning to process emotions leads to greater presence, authenticity, and healthier relationships Practical first steps for rewiring achievement patterns through Neurosomatic Intelligence (NSI).      Featured in This Episode

You replay the conversation, reread the text 100 times, re-analyze the comment, Google the symptom, or fixate. The loop promises that if you think hard enough, you can prevent the bad outcome and finally feel safe. But Heather Creekmore explains that the real issue usually isn’t the topic of the thought. It’s the grip it has on your brain. Overthinking often reveals a deeper desire for control and safety, especially when life feels uncertain. In this episode: Why overthinking can feel productive, responsible, or even spiritual at 06:08 How body-image obsession can become an attempt to control one small part of life when everything else feels uncertain at 08:38 Why telling yourself to “stop thinking about it” usually doesn’t work at 12:10 What Martha’s story teaches about setting down the need to hold everything alone How to exchange a posture of control for a posture of trust Why obsessive thoughts grow stronger in isolation Five ways to interrupt the loop - and none of them sound like "just stop thinking about it." A super practical, physical practice for surrender you can start using today! Mentioned in this episode: The final 40-Day Journey starts Monday, September 14th. Join here. Replays are available for missed sessions or if you're learning about it after 9/14/2026. Heather Creekmore’s upcoming book, Did I Say the Right Thing? and a Million Other Micro Fears That Keep Christian Women Stuck, which she says launches in February and is available for preorder on Amazon. (Amazon affiliate link) Meditate on 1 Peter 5:7, casting anxieties on God because he cares for you. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

The Founderz Lounge Episode #104 with Don Varady and Steve Bon.When does the founder become the bottleneck holding the business back?In this episode, Don and Steve break down the warning signs that show up when founder leadership turns into control, micromanagement, and too many decisions running through one person.They get into why every important decision needing your approval is a red flag, how “nobody can do it like I can” slows growth, and why founders have to learn the difference between staying involved and refusing to let go.Don and Steve also talk delegation, teaching your team how to think critically, empowering leaders to make decisions, and the ego that can make founders hold onto control long after the business has outgrown it.If you are a founder or business owner trying to scale a business, build stronger leadership, improve business systems, or figure out whether you are the one slowing growth down, this episode is for you.Come for the banter. Leave thinking more like a founder.Timestamps:[00:00] Trailer[01:04] When the Founder Becomes the Bottleneck[01:54] Founder Bottleneck Warning Signs[04:07] Leadership vs Control[06:38] Working More as the Business Grows[08:09] When Your Team Stops Making Decisions[13:31] Letting Leaders Challenge You[15:56] Signs You're Slowing the Business Down[18:38] Micromanager vs Absentee Founder[19:16] Perfectionism vs Speed[19:57] Firing and Delegation[21:04] What Your Executive Team Really ThinksKey Takeaways:• “Is it leadership or control?” ~Don Varady• “We were too scared to let go.” ~Don Varady• A founder who will not delegate can become the biggest thing slowing the business down. ~Don Varady• Micromanagement kills growth faster than an absentee founder because the team never gets room to move. ~Don Varady• “Every department's waiting on you” is one of the clearest signs you have become the bottleneck. ~Don Varady• If the team is not thinking critically, the founder still has to ask why they were not taught or empowered to do it. ~Steve Bon• “It's never gonna be perfect. Move.” ~Steve Bon• At some point, founders have to let other people hold the “brand baby” and learn how to lead without controlling everything. ~Don VaradyConnect with Don and Steve…Don Varady:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/don.varady/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/donvarady/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/don-varady-450896145 Steve Bon:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephenbon Instagram: https://instagram.com/stevebon8 Tune in to every episode on your favorite platform: Website: https://www.thefounderzlounge.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheFounderzLounge Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0Nurr4XjBE747qJ9Zjth0G Apple Music: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-founderz-lounge/id1461825349 The Founderz Lounge is Powered By:Clean Eatz:Website: https://cleaneatz.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CleanEatzLife/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cleaneatzlife/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJRGrE-Xv4IMW_DbxSOTGGA Bon's Eye Marketing:Website: https://bonseyeonline.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bonseyemarketing Instagram: https://www.linkedin.com/company/bon's-eye-marketing/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/bon's-eye-marketing/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@bonseyemarketing9477  

Have you ever taught a pupil who produces excellent work most of the time, but becomes overwhelmed, angry or tearful after making one tiny mistake? Perfectionism can look like a positive quality from the outside, yet it may be hiding intense anxiety underneath.In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, you'll learn why some perfectionist pupils are more vulnerable to dysregulation and how to distinguish healthy high standards from a fear-driven need to avoid mistakes.You'll also discover the two different motivations behind perfectionism, what research tells us about anxious pupils' responses to errors and practical ways to help them tolerate mistakes, recover and carry on.Important links:Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbookDownload other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources.php

How much of who we are is truly ours—and how much has been shaped by the expectations, beliefs, and stories we've inherited?In this episode of Her Village, Jacqueline sits down with Dr. Nicole Wordlaw, clinical psychologist, author, and longtime Buddhist meditation practitioner, to explore what it means to reconnect with our own inner knowing.Nicole's book, Waking Up Alone: Navigating the Narrow Passage Through Master-Slave Narratives, combines memoir with an exploration of identity, power, relationships, and the conditioning that can shape how we understand ourselves and our place in the world.Together, Jacqueline and Nicole discuss the ways women can become accustomed to looking outside themselves for reassurance and validation, how motherhood can challenge our sense of identity, and what it looks like to begin rebuilding self-trust.They also explore Nicole's concept of the “inner teacher,” the difference between belonging and changing ourselves in order to belong, and why finding our way back to ourselves doesn't mean we have to do it without community.In this conversation, we explore:The personal journey behind Waking Up AloneHow inherited stories and expectations influence our identitiesPeople-pleasing, perfectionism, and the pressure to do life “right”Motherhood, identity, and continuing to grow as an individualWhat it means to find and follow your inner teacherRebuilding self-trust when you feel disconnected from your own voiceThe role of community in becoming more fully ourselvesWhether you're navigating motherhood, a life transition, or simply wondering what you actually want beneath all the noise, this conversation is an invitation to get curious about the stories you've been living by—and remember that you're allowed to keep becoming.Connect with Dr. Nicole Wordlaw:Website: https://www.nicolewordlaw.com/Book: Waking Up Alone: Navigating the Narrow Passage Through Master-Slave NarrativesConnect with Her Village:Instagram: @hervillagehqExplore the podcast and community: joinhervillage.coIf this episode resonates with you, share it with a friend who might need the reminder that she's allowed to trust herself and keep becoming, too.Support the show__________________________________________________________________________________Her Village is more than a podcast—it's a space for real connection, honest conversations, and meaningful friendships in the places we live.If you want to go deeper and stay connected beyond the podcast, you can join us here: joinhervillage.co

Many people approach the task of organizing with our heads full of myths, urban legends, and flat-out lies we've collected from TV shows, mass-market books, well-meaning family members, and other people's entrenched beliefs. In episode #317 of The Clutter Fairy Weekly, Gayle Goddard, professional organizer and owner of The Clutter Fairy in Houston, Texas, uncovers the realities hiding behind common myths, misconceptions, and limiting beliefs that interfere with efforts to declutter and organize our stuff.Show notes: https://cfhou.com/tcfw317The Clutter Fairy Weekly is a live webcast and podcast designed to help you clear your clutter and make space in your home and your life for more of what you love. We meet Tuesdays at noon (U.S. Central Time) to answer your decluttering questions and to share organizing tools and techniques, success stories and “ah-hah!” moments, seasonal suggestions, and timeless tips.To participate live in our weekly webcast, join our Meetup group, follow us on Facebook, or subscribe to our mailing list. You can also watch the videos of our webcast on YouTube.Support the show

Send us Fan MailWe treat perfectionism like a personality quirk — but for many of us, it started as a survival strategy: being "perfect" felt like the only way to stay safe or loved. This episode unpacks where perfectionism really comes from, how it shows up in adulthood (burnout, procrastination, fear of feedback), and what it takes to loosen its grip.Self-criticism, perfectionism, the inner critic, self-compassion.Support the showDisclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for therapy or professional mental health care.Want more? Subscribe now and take a seat In Session! https://www.buzzsprout.com/1679131/supportFollow us on Instagram: @insessionthepodcast Join our Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/insessionthepodcast/

This episode is all about procrastination's cousin - the "workin' on it" mode, how we get ourselves stuck in the trap of perfectionism, where we overcomplicate, overplan, and overwork on projects as a way to avoid visibility. We'll dive into how and why your subconscious avoids the spotlight, and more importantly, how to rewire your brain so that it can feel easier to show up, finally share the things you're working on, and feel SAFE being seen.Try Doddle Hypnosis App Free for 7 Days (and check out the hypnosis session specifically paired with today's episode): https://www.emilieleyes.com/doddle-hypnosis Preorder Emilie's upcoming book, HYPNOTIZE YOURSELF: Harness the Power of Modern Hypnosis to Build the Life You Want (coming January 19, 2026)! https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/798997/hypnotize-yourself-by-emilie-leyes/Enroll in the 6-week, Hypnotic Empowerment 2.0 course (use code LIKEYOURLIFE40 at checkout for 40% off):  https://www.emilieleyes.com/hypnotic-empowerment-2-0 If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe and leave a review!~~ Emilie's InstagramEmilie's TikTokDoddle Hypnosis Instagramwww.emilieleyes.com ~~NOTE: The topics covered in this podcast are for educational purposes only, and do NOT replace the advice from licensed medical professionals. If you are unsure of whether these tools discussed are right for you, please consult wi...

In this live broadcast, I share how perfectionism and a law-based mindset “bewitched” my walk with God and how the book of Galatians unlocked a new experience of grace, sonship and emotional freedom. I talk about what Paul really meant by bewitchment, why performance-driven Christianity feels spiritual but actually keeps us in a yoke of […]

Do you feel like you have to prove your worth through the shear amount of work you do or prove your value by making sure you're seen as busy, always hustling, and super productive? Do you feel burned out, overwhelmed with work, or simply feeling that you're just doing too much? If so, this is the "doing enough" episode, and we hope you come away acknowledging that you're wired to do enough (often more than enough) and that the pressure to do more is something we layer on top of that natural wiring, and it is likely more harmful than good. We'll dig into perfectionism and how it can push us into doing too much and its association with anxiety and depression. We'll also explore more of the burnout research and how perfectionism and the myth of productivity are related to burnout. Importantly, we'll talk about some practical strategies to help you identify what might be driving you to do too much and how you can soften your expectations. Additionally, feeling burned out and overwhelmed with work can have less to do with the amount of work you're doing and more to do with the lack of support from your employer and other key factors related to burnout. This is that canary in the coal mine phenomenon. If you can relate to that, we also have some strategies to consider.     About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek. The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab App.   Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible)   Full transcript here   Sources and Notes for Our Element of Enoughness: Related Joy Lab Episodes: Ep. 223: Breaking Free From Pathological Productivity  Ep. 206: Time Poverty & Busyness: Too Busy to Be Well  Ep. 201: Balance Perfectionism & Do-Too-Muchism Bellam, S., Curran, T., Hill, A. P., & Stoeber, J. (2025). Perfectionism and work performance: A meta-analysis. https://doi.org/10.1111/joop.12570 Carver, C. S., Lawrence, J. W., & Scheier, M. F. (1999). Self-discrepancies and affect: Incorporating the role of feared selves. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167299025007002  Crocker, J., & Park, L. E. (2004). The costly pursuit of self-esteem. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.131.3.392  Crocker, J., & Park, L. E. (2004). Reaping the benefits of pursuing self-esteem without the costs? 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A meta-analysis of perfectionism in the workplace. https://doi.org/10.1037/apl0000324 Hewitt, P. L., & Flett, G. L. (1991). Perfectionism in the self and social contexts: Conceptualization, assessment, and association with psychopathology. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.60.3.456 Higgins, E. T. (1987). Self-discrepancy: A theory relating self and affect. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-295X.94.3.319 Joseph, S., & Linley, P. A. (2005). Positive adjustment to threatening events: An organismic valuing theory of growth through adversity. https://doi.org/10.1037/1089-2680.9.3.262 Kernis, M. H. (2005). Measuring self-esteem in context: The importance of stability of self-esteem in psychological functioning. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1467-6494.2005.00359.x Kirkpatrick, L. A., & Ellis, B. J. (2001). An evolutionary-psychological approach to self-esteem: Multiple domains and multiple functions. In G. J. O. Fletcher & M. S. Clark (Eds.), Blackwell handbook of social psychology: Interpersonal processes (pp. 411–436). Blackwell. Leary, M. R. (2000). Sociometer theory and the pursuit of relational value: Getting to the root of self-esteem. https://doi.org/10.1080/14792772043000045  Maslach, C. (1981). The measurement of experienced burnout. https://doi.org/10.1002/job.4030020205   Park, L. E., & Crocker, J. (2005). Attachment styles and contingencies of self-worth. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167205277030 Pyszczynski, T., Greenberg, J., Solomon, S., Arndt, J., & Schimel, J. (2004). Why do people need self-esteem? https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.130.3.435 Schaufeli, W. B., Leiter, M. P., & Maslach, C. (2009). Burnout: 35 years of research and practice. https://doi.org/10.1108/13620430910966406  Sonnetag, S., & Fritz, C. (2014). Recovery from job stress: The stressor-detachment model as an integrative framework. https://doi.org/10.1002/job.1924 Tricia Hersey's website Lynn Twist's Book: The Soul of Money   Questions this episode was made for: Q: Why do I feel guilty or anxious when I'm not being productive, even when I know I need a break? A: We are naturally wired to engage and do, and then we layer on extra expectations, perfectionism, and the belief that our worth is tied to visible busyness. It's essential to first bring awareness to what's driving us to do more than enough. This episode offers strategies for that mindful awareness and ways to come back into more balance.     Q: Is burnout really just about working too many hours, or is there something deeper going on? A: Dr. Christina Maslach's six-factor burnout model shows that most of what drives burnout has nothing to do with logged hours. Lack of control, insufficient rewards, breakdown of community, absence of fairness, and value conflicts are additional factors. This episode explains how we have to look at the big picture (rather than just blaming ourselves) to create real change.     Key moments: [00:00] Welcome — Enoughness Ep 3: doing enough [00:30] The two-week vacation thought experiment: what comes up in your body when you imagine truly stepping away? [01:00] Itching to check email just in case, guilt about doing nothing, loss without a to-do list — all very normal, and worth examining [01:30] We are already wired to do enough — the pressure to do more is something we layer on top of that natural drive [02:00] We attach our doing to our worth, and to what others can see: always busy, always achieving, always on [03:00] Henry: email changed everything — from 9-to-5 availability to always-on; the inbox that empties for 10 minutes and then refills [04:30] Text messaging took it further — the expected response speed keeps accelerating. The result: a state of constant alertness, constantly scanning for something important, hard to resist the impulse to check [05:30] We've trained ourselves to react immediately to the relentless drumbeat of more — mindfulness emphasizes being over doing, but there's so much pulling against it [06:30] 150 years ago, news took weeks to cross the country by horse, ship, or foot — always-on is entirely new territory for our nervous systems. We apologize for a three-day email delay — when it would have taken six weeks round-trip to even get the apology back [07:30] Recap of Hewitt and Flett's three perfectionism types; self-oriented perfectionism connects most directly to "doing enough" [08:00] Even self-oriented perfectionism doesn't operate in a vacuum — we write stories about how others are judging our response times [09:30] Henry: perfectionism usually starts in childhood — good report card means a parent is proud; fitting in becomes the price of admission to belonging; We internalize: "I am worthy if I accomplish enough; if I perform well enough; if I don't fail" [10:30] Perfectionism is a losing game because the standard always moves — there's always another rung on the ladder [11:00] Did high achievers get there because of perfectionism? The evidence says they likely got there in spite of it [11:30] 2018 meta-analysis: "Is Perfect Good?" — teases apart excellence-seeking vs. failure-avoiding perfectionism [12:00] Excellence-seeking: weak, inconsistent relationship with performance — small effect with many disclaimers [12:30] Failure-avoiding: did not predict improvements in performance; 2025 Bellam et al. meta-analysis: overall relationship inconclusive [13:00] What perfectionism does predict: moderate-to-large associations with anxiety, depression, and burnout [13:30] You can strive for greatness, have high expectations, work really hard — and that is very different from believing your worth is at stake if you don't hit perfect [14:00] Henry: perfectionism predicts suffering, not performance — reviewing your work at midnight for the third time out of terror is not diligence; it's hurting yourself [14:30] Aimee: doing enough is enough — this is not about shirking responsibility; personal drive and responsibility can exist without perfectionism [15:30] Dr. Christina Maslach's six factors of burnout: work overload, lack of control, insufficient rewards, breakdown of community, absence of fairness, value conflicts [16:00] Most of burnout has nothing to do with logged hours — the other five factors point to things much deeper [16:30] The canary-in-a-coal-mine analogy: if the bird stops singing, it's not because the bird isn't resilient enough; it's a sign something is wrong with the mine [17:00] We are the canaries — and we need to ask: what is happening in the mine? Does it ignore the conditions and just tell you to fly faster? [17:30] The most toxic mines are built from feelings of not being enough — and some of those mines were built for us and we're expected to fly in them anyway [18:30] Henry: the canary doesn't belong in a coal mine; we've built a toxic personal mine where worth is entirely dependent on what we produce or achieve [19:00] The solution isn't to make yourself stronger or tougher — it's to change the mine, or get out of it [19:30] Psychological detachment: Sonnentag and Fritz research — people who mentally detach during off-hours report less exhaustion and more energy the next day [20:00] Being physically home but mentally rehearsing tomorrow's problems means you don't get restored the same way — the Experiment will work with this [20:30] Rest is your right and your biological need — in a culture of side hustles, grindsets, and constant optimization, it is essential [21:00] Tricia Hersey, "The Nap Bishop": "Rest is resistance" — it's what will fight some of those toxic mines [21:30] Henry: choosing to rest is choosing to say "my worth isn't measured by what I produce; I'm enough even when I'm doing nothing" [21:45] "Sometimes I sits and think, and sometimes I just sits" — sometimes putting it in simple terms is exactly what's needed [22:00] Head to JoyLab.coach to access the Experiments — this week's works on psychological detachment and sitting [22:30] Closing wisdom from Tricia Hersey: "Rest is not a reward or luxury reserved for those who make a certain amount of money. Rest is a right. Rest is our divine right, and no capitalist agenda can have access to it."   If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review us wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts!    Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program. Please see our terms for more information. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. – 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at helpline@nami.org. Visit NAMI for more. You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org. Find more mental health resources here. 

Perfectionism is one of the sneakiest traps I coach high-achieving, high-responsibility women through, and today I'm breaking down exactly why. We're going three levels deep: the top-level story and behavior, the mid-level symptoms, and then the deeper truth underneath all of it, which isn't actually "fear of failure" like a lot of us would say or think.   It's that perfectionism is an unconscious permission slip to avoid mastering the gray area, because the ambiguity of the middle is scarier than the certainty of all-or-nothing ever will be.   If you've ever lost and regained the same 20 pounds, made a hundred plans that never turned into real change, or told yourself "I'm just a perfectionist" like it's a personality trait instead of an avoidance strategy, this episode is for you. I'm sharing my own story of learning to win in the gray after years of all-or-nothing extremes in competitive bodybuilding, and how rebuilding self-trust, not stricter rules, is what actually gets you unstuck.   —   For the high-achieving hot girls that want to recover better, support glowier skin, and promote longevity through better cellular health, get up to 39% off Mitopure Gummies with code EMDUNC and make wellness easier than ever. Fitness, health, and holistic wellness for $22/month Interested in a luxury 1:1 online health coaching experience? Look no further than FENIX ATHLETICA, where we fuse science and soul for life-long transformation (inside AND out). Follow me on Instagram Follow EMBody Radio on Instagram

Send us Fan MailI'm doing what I'm supposed to do. I'm showing up. I'm putting in the work. So why does it still feel like I'm falling short?Matt and Steve talk about the nagging belief that you should always be doing more—at work, in recovery, and in life. That leads them into a bigger question: are you doing things because they actually help, or because you're trying to prove you're doing recovery the “right” way? Prayer, meetings, reading, routines, productivity—even good habits can become boxes to check when the purpose gets lost.Recovery isn't about performing it perfectly. Eventually, it becomes about learning how to live: handling difficult days, treating people well, taking care of yourself, and building a life you no longer need to escape from.Support the show

Ella Langley's country song "Be Her" describes a woman who seems to have it all figured out — grounded, secure, at peace — and an aching desire to become her. At first blush it sounds like a song about envying someone else. Yet, the lyrics aren't describing another woman; Langley sings about the version of herself she wishes she could become. In this episode, we use that ache as a lens on one of the sneakiest idols we build: not comparing ourselves to an influencer or a stranger, but to an idealized version of ourselves. It's a "her" that stays just out of reach. We talk about why that chase can never actually deliver peace, what Scripture says about being transformed into an image that isn't self-made. To have this kind of ache is human, but there's only one place the ache can be cured. Key Scripture references: 1 Samuel 16:7 (man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart) Romans 12:2 (do not be conformed, but transformed) 2 Corinthians 3:18 (being transformed into his image, from one degree of glory to another) Colossians 3:3 (your life is hidden with Christ in God) Ephesians 2:10 (we are his workmanship) Discussion questions for listeners / community: If you pictured your idealized self right now, what would she look like? What is she doing that you're not? What peace or security do you think "becoming her" would actually give you? Name it specifically. Where have you been conforming to a self-made image instead of letting yourself be transformed? What would it look like this week to bring your ache for peace directly to God instead of to another round of self-improvement? A note on the source material: This episode discusses themes and reported artist commentary about Ella Langley's song "Be Her" (from her 2026 album Dandelion) but does not reproduce song lyrics. Listeners are encouraged to listen to the song themselves for the full experience. Links: Join our next 40-Day Journey here: https://www.improvebodyimage.com/40-day-challenge Check out Heather's books on body image, aging, and comparison here: https://www.improvebodyimage.com/books-for-christian-women-body-image Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

Caroline Nield was 48 when she discovered she was autistic.Until then, she had spent years wondering why certain parts of life seemed harder for her than they appeared to be for other people. She rehearsed conversations before they happened. Phone calls needed preparation. Friendships could be difficult to maintain. Changes to familiar routines could feel disproportionately unsettling.And, like many women who receive an autism diagnosis later in life, she had become very good at adapting and masking.Caroline's route to diagnosis began when her son was diagnosed as autistic. As she learned more about autism – including sensory differences, social communication and repetitive behaviours – she began recognising herself.When her own diagnosis eventually came, her overwhelming feeling was relief.Rather than giving her another label, Caroline says it helped her begin stripping away some of the labels she had already given herself, like shy, stubborn, difficult.We talk about what autism can look like in women, why so many women reach midlife without recognising that they are neurodivergent, and the difference that self-understanding can make.Caroline also shares some wonderfully relatable examples from everyday life – from supermarket layouts and favourite sandwiches to friendship drift, phone calls and the need for routine.We also explore:• Why autism in girls and women has historically been overlooked• Masking and learning to copy other people socially• The relief – and sometimes grief – that can accompany a late diagnosis• Sensory differences and the need for routine• Friendship and the feeling of never quite fitting in• Executive functioning, overwhelm and the “too many tabs open” brain• Perfectionism and the freeze response• Finding ways of working that suit your own brain• Caroline's decision to pursue acting in her 40s• Leaving a 20-year HR career and retraining as a coach• Why understanding yourself can be the beginning of treating yourself more kindlyWhat struck me most about our conversation was that this isn't really a story about acquiring a label.It's about finally having an explanation, and, perhaps, being able to look back at yourself with a little more self-compassion.FIND CAROLINEInstagram: @caroline_nieldFacebook: Caroline NieldLinkedIn: Caroline NieldCaroline also mentions her free two-minute quiz exploring patterns including cognitive overload, perfectionism, overgiving and the freeze response. AGEING WONDERFULLY WELLMy book, Ageing Wonderfully Well: The Good News about Midlife and Growing Older, is now available worldwide:https://geni.us/AgeingWonderfullyWell Get full access to Midlife & Beyond with Jo Blackwell at joblackwellmidlifeandbeyond.substack.com/subscribe

Join Me To Build Your Best Fall – https://buildyourbestfall.com/ You can name my attachment style, your Enneagram number, and your diagnosis over dinner without blinking. But when the house goes quiet and nobody needs anything from you, you feel strangely unreachable to yourself.That gap between knowing the language and feeling connected is the question I want to explore: what does it take to feel secure from the inside out?Therapist and author Dr. Alison Cook is back with me to walk through her new book, The Secure Soul, and the three parts of me that are running the whole operation, whether I realize it or not. In this episode, we look at how to understand those parts, move toward a more secure life from the inside out, and find what it takes to feel secure from the inside out.What You'll Learn in This Episode:Why we're the most psychologically informed generation ever and still feel so alone, and how information becomes actual transformationThe three parts of you running the show: the Controller, the Shadow, and the Young One, and how to tell which one is drivingWhy shame and self-condemnation never create lasting change, and the one thing that doesA gentle, practical process for uncovering what's underneath a habit you keep wishing you could stopHow to hear from the youngest version of yourself, and why she holds your creativity and courageWhat it means that you're not the single parent of your own soulTimestamps:(00:42) – Why the most psychologically informed generation still feels so alone(01:20) – When head knowledge never becomes transformation(02:22) – The London prayer walk: getting curious instead of forcing(06:42) – The three parts of you: the Controller, the Shadow, and the Young One(10:01) – Running the whole operation and quietly resenting it(11:55) – The observing eye, agency, and bids for connection(14:12) – Why the Shadow gets wrongly cast as the villain(15:43) – A gentle process for uncovering what drives a habit you want to change(19:05) – How to hear from the youngest version of yourself(23:36) – Uncertainty, guilt, and the entrepreneurial woman(24:26) – The extra child inside you(28:04) – Mending a tear in your soul: rupture, repair, and the "if only"(32:57) – What a secure soul looks like on an ordinary day(34:04) – You are not the single parent of your soul(35:40) – Fun questions: The Artist's Way, movies, and a product she swears byLinks to great things we discussed: The Secure SoulAlison's QuizAlison's Book Recommendation: The Artist's WayAlison's Movie Recommendation: Minions & Monsters & SurvivorAlison's Product Recommendation: HelloFreshFunction HealthUplift AppJoin me on Substack: Wise Woman MethodAlli on YouTubeI hope you loved this episode!

DYSLEXIA & ADHD EXPLAINED BookDyslexia & ADHD Explained - https://truthaboutdyslexia.com/dyslexia-adhd-explained-from-the-inside-book/Kindle: https://amzn.to/3RTlm6mPaperback - https://amzn.to/3S9MU7lAdded Sleep TesterAdded Sleep Tester Offer | Added Nutrition  $10 off WIRED10 code at checkoutIn this episode, Stephen Martin explores the overlap between dyslexia and ADHD, how neurodiversity influences perception, and the importance of flexible thinking in understanding these challenges.TakeawaysPerfectionism is often misunderstood and not exclusive to ADHD.Visual thinking can create a disconnect between mental images and physical execution.Accepting the crossover between dyslexia and ADHD can lead to better self-understanding.Learning to let go of fixed beliefs about neurodiverse traits can reduce self-judgment.Perfectionism often stems from childhood experiences and societal expectations.Dyslexia, ADHD, neurodiversity, perfectionism, mental health, learning challenges, self-acceptance, adults with dyslexia, support for adults.Join the clubrightbrainresetters.comGet 20% off your first orderaddednutrition.comIf you want to find out more visit:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠truthaboutdyslexia.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join our Facebook Group⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠facebook.com/groups/adultdyslexia⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Is perfectionism quietly affecting your relationship with food? In this episode, I sit down with clinical psychologist Dr. Ellen Hendriksen to explore how perfectionism fuels anxiety, food obsession, and self-criticism—and how self-compassion can help you create lasting freedom. If you're tired of chasing impossible standards and want a healthier mindset around food and life, this conversation is for you.When Healthy Eating Becomes an ObsessionI share how my own wellness journey slowly shifted from wanting to nourish my body to becoming consumed by food rules, labels, and the pressure to eat perfectly.The intention started from a good place—but over time, "healthy" became stressful instead of freeing.Perfectionism Is About Worth, Not StandardsDr. Hendriksen explains that perfectionists aren't simply people with high standards.They're people who believe they have to earn love, acceptance, or belonging by achieving, performing, or getting everything right.That distinction changes everything.The Hidden Habits That Keep Anxiety AliveTogether, we explore the patterns that perfectionists often fall into:-All-or-nothing thinking-Fixating on mistakes instead of progress-Constant self-criticism-Moving the goalposts every time success is achievedThese habits don't motivate growth—they fuel anxiety and keep us disconnected from ourselves.Excellence Doesn't Require PerfectionOne of the biggest takeaways from this conversation is that letting go of perfection doesn't mean lowering your standards.It means pursuing excellence with self-compassion instead of self-judgment.Growth becomes sustainable when your identity isn't tied to your performance.Perfection promises certainty, but often delivers anxiety.Healing begins when you stop chasing flawless and start embracing authentic.You don't have to earn your worth.You already have it.Book your FREE 30-minute Food Freedom Call and start your journey to lasting change! www.sherryshabanfitness.com/clarityDiscover the skill that will set the next generation of coaches apart.Grab your FREE copy of ‘Irreplaceable Coach Playbook': www.mpwfpractitioner.comListen & SubscribeCatch more episodes at www.makepeacewithfood.com/podcast or subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or YouTube so you never miss an episode!Connect & Go DeeperJoin our Facebook Community: www.myfoodfreedomlifestyle.comWork with Sherry: www.sherryshaban.com/transformExplore more resources: www.makepeacewithfood.comShare Your TakeawayTag us on Instagram (@makepeacewithfoodofficial), Facebook (@MakePeaceWithFoodOfficial), TikTok (@sherryshaban), or LinkedIn (sherryshaban) and share your biggest insight from this episode!

We are in our essence, imperfect. On this show, we explore perfectionism and the dis-ease that follows. Be grateful for a perfect kiss, perfect goodbye or even a perfect cookie.  Recognize that no single person is perfect...but maybe a chocolate chip cookie.Aim high and start tapping into your next Side Quests- your purposeful pursuit through a meaningful activity that awakens part of you that your career alone never could. Who are you becoming? Once again, thanks for signing up for our Substack newsletter where you will get exclusive stories and receive a customized Side Quest flywheel.  https://sidequesttosignificance.substack.com/ Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/success-made-to-last-legends--4302039/support.

Listen to today's podcast... Can you find time? Stop looking. You will never find it. It isn't lost. Sometimes we lose time because we are procrastinating. This could be because jobs or tasks are difficult or time consuming, but it is not procrastination if the job doesn't rank in importance or urgency. So why else do we procrastinate? Perfectionism – have you ever wanted something to turn out ‘just right', that you got overwhelmed by the details and couldn't move forward?  There are 3 books waiting to be written, but the thought of them being less than spectacular keeps me from sitting down to write.  Fear of failure, success, or finishing – Like the examples above, sometimes procrastination is also fueled by the fears that we have.  Dislike task or person – I hate tackling my monthly finances.  It wouldn't be so bad if I actually did them monthly.  However, I procrastinate, and I end up doing them every 3 months or so.  I get frustrated and annoyed which makes me want to put the task off even more. Too tired – I need my sleep. If I am worn out, all those little tasks are easy to draw out or avoid all together. Take One Action Today To Build Your #Resiliency!      Here are today's Tips For Building Resiliency and Celebrating Do It Day: Find the answer to ‘What's In It For Me”.  Why is this task/decision important?  What will I achieve once it is completed? Use positive self talk to keep you moving forward. Watch out for time gobblers. Reward yourself.  Make it fun. If you like today's wellness tips, let me know. You can leave me a review on amazon or through your #alexa app. Looking for more tips to build your resiliency? Look for my book on Amazon called Stress Out. 52 Weeks To Letting More Life In #mentalhealth #hr

What if the patterns that once helped you survive are now the very patterns keeping you stuck?In this powerful new episode of Let's Break the Silence with Angeline, I sit down with Dr. Elizabeth Pritchard, international keynote speaker, researcher, Authentic Leadership coach, and Co-founder and Director of WALT Institute.With more than 30 years of experience across leadership, neuroscience, and research, Dr. Elizabeth helps individuals and organizations recognize the patterns influencing how they think, respond, make decisions, and lead.But this conversation goes much deeper than leadership in the workplace.We talk about identity, self-leadership, adversity, survival patterns, high achievement, neuroscience, and the courage to choose differently.One of the biggest questions we explore is:Is the person you had to become to survive still the person you want leading your life today?Dr. Elizabeth also shares an important truth that deeply resonates with me:What happened yesterday does not have to decide how we show up today or tomorrow.In this episode, we explore:• Why we repeat patterns even when they no longer serve us• How to recognize the patterns we can't always see ourselves• The neuroscience behind automatic behaviors and responses• Survival patterns vs. our authentic identity• Why authentic leadership begins with self-leadership• Perfectionism, overworking and the pressure to prove ourselves• How adversity can influence the way we lead• Creating space between a trigger and our response• Breaking old patterns and making different choices• Becoming the person your past could never have predictedIf you've been feeling like you've outgrown an old version of yourself but aren't quite sure what comes next, this conversation is for you.

Our latest Member Spotlight podcast features Alex Fine, Founder and CEO of Fun (fun.xyz), the payments company building the deposit and withdrawal rails behind platforms such as Polymarket, Aave, and Lighter. Fun moves more than $18 billion annually for users in over 100 countries, following a recent $72 million Series A led by Multicoin Capital and SignalFire.In conversation with 3i Members Co-Founder and Chairman Mark Gerson, Alex traces his path from a Bay Area kid who idolized startup founders the way other kids idolized rappers or sports stars to building the infrastructure that quietly moves billions on-chain. He entered Stanford already planning to drop out and now focuses on solving one of crypto's biggest challenges: making blockchain payments reliable at scale.In this episode, Alex shares:The investor playbook: how first-principles thinking shapes his approach to building a business and his conversations with investorsThe $100,000 black hole: how a $400,000 transfer lost $100,000 in conversion and why solving that problem is at the core of what Fun doesWhy "good enough" isn't: why "move fast and break things" is the one startup mantra Fun can't afford to followWhere blockchain growth is heading: why 98% of Fun's business is already outside the U.S. and why Alex sees trillions moving on-chain00:00 Welcome and introduction01:27 The first company, built in middle school03:22 Stanford, and deciding to leave04:23 Who should go to college now06:27 The problem: money sent into a black hole07:14 Why value moves from databases to blockchains09:01 What databases cannot do11:37 A $400,000 transfer that arrived as $300,00014:09 Mistake-proof rails, and why the biggest orders get the worst price15:50 Why Fun stays invisible to the consumer16:35 Why early startups have no moat19:55 Talent density21:13 Perfectionism, six nines, and Henry Ford24:10 Rejecting work-life balance25:29 The top priority: pull-based fiat rails26:42 When the world hears about Fun27:55 Ten years out29:39 Reflecting on 3i

Devon Gimbel has created a successful business helping professionals and entrepreneurs have amazing travel experiences using rewards credit card points, but to do so, she had to make big decisions around what she actually values, what makes her happy, and finding her purpose. Tune in this week to hear how she navigated this, how perfectionism, judgment, and self-doubt show up for us all, and most importantly, what you can do about them.   Get the full show notes and more information here: https://habitsonpurpose.com/61 Join the Habits on Purpose newsletter for extra tools, prompts, and stories between episodes: https://habitsonpurpose.com/

Do you tend to think of perfectionism as a sign that you care about doing things well? In this episode, I'm returning to the topic of perfectionism, the many ways it can show up, and how it can hold you back through procrastination, self-criticism, fear of mistakes, and the exhausting cycle of high achievement and burnout.       I explore why messy, imperfect action can be such an effective way to challenge perfectionist tendencies by helping you get started, experiment, and build your tolerance for mistakes. I also introduce another approach: choosing precision over perfectionism, and focusing your attention on being clear and specific about what actually matters rather than trying to get everything exactly right.       By the end of this episode, you'll have several ways to approach perfectionism differently. You'll be invited to get precise about what you want, define your goals and priorities clearly, focus on the next step in front of you, and set expectations that reflect the energy and capacity you actually have while remaining flexible about how you get there.                                                               Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://maisiehill.com/295                   Join us in the Powerful membership, or join the waitlist: https://maisiehill.com/powerful

It's easy to feel like you don't have enough; it's the message we constantly receive through media and advertisements. It's the message that once you have this thing, or make this much, then you will be happy... all of your dreams will come true! The truth is actually the opposite as this kind of grasping for more is associated with mood problems, anxiety, and stress.  We'll dig into this trap of "having enough" and how we can break free from it and embrace our enoughness.  About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek. The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab App.   Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).   Listen & follow the Joy Lab Podcast on your favorite listening app: Spotify | Apple | YouTube   Full transcript   Sources and Notes for Our Element of Enoughness: Related Joy Lab Episodes:   Ep. 236: The Power of Good Enough Parenting & Calling Out Our Moms Our Grief series starts here: Ep. 252: The Grief of What Should Have Been & The Loss of Not Being Truly Seen (Grief Recovery & Healing Series part 5) More on Savoring:   Ep. 44: Savoring Your Past Without Ruminating or Romanticizing Ep. 45: Mindfulness, Savoring the Present Moment, & Overcoming FOBO (it's kinda like FOMO) Ep. 46: Savoring the Future: A Refreshing Skill to Boost Mood & Help Navigate Depression Ep. 47: Mindsets & Mental Health: How Thoughts About Yourself & The World Impact Your Wellbeing Ep. 197: How Savoring Shifts Your Mood, Mindset, & Behaviors Ep. 198: Unfractured Focus: Mastering the Art of Savoring in a Distracted World Our Authenticity series starts here: Ep. 216: Unmasking Your True Self: Exploring Authenticity and Awe Ep. 268: Humility Can Be Stressful... But Worth It for Mental Health Ep. 273: How to Build Confidence (When You Don't Feel Confident Yet)  Bellam, S., Curran, T., Hill, A. P., & Stoeber, J. (2025). Perfectionism and work performance: A meta-analysis. https://doi.org/10.1111/joop.12570 Carver, C. S., Lawrence, J. W., & Scheier, M. F. (1999). Self-discrepancies and affect: Incorporating the role of feared selves. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167299025007002  Crocker, J., & Park, L. E. (2004). The costly pursuit of self-esteem. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.131.3.392  Crocker, J., & Park, L. E. (2004). Reaping the benefits of pursuing self-esteem without the costs? Reply to Schmuck and Sheldon (2004), Sheldon et al. (2004), Pyszczynski et al. (2004), and Kernis (2004). https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.130.3.430 Crocker, J., Karpinski, A., Quinn, D. M., & Chase, S. K. (2003). 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E., & Crocker, J. (2005). Attachment styles and contingencies of self-worth. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167205277030 Pyszczynski, T., Greenberg, J., Solomon, S., Arndt, J., & Schimel, J. (2004). Why do people need self-esteem? https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.130.3.435 Schaufeli, W. B., Leiter, M. P., & Maslach, C. (2009). Burnout: 35 years of research and practice. https://doi.org/10.1108/13620430910966406  Lynn Twist's Book: The Soul of Money   Questions this episode was made for: Q: Why do I keep thinking that getting more money, success, or recognition will finally make me feel okay? And why doesn't it ever work? A: This episode explains the psychology of contingent self-worth and the neuroscience of hedonic adaptation: when you stake your value on external things, the bar always moves, the reward always fades faster than expected, and there is never enough; understanding the mechanism is the first step to stepping off the treadmill.   Q: Someone I love seems to measure their worth entirely by what they have or what they've achieved — how do I understand that, and is there a way out? A: Henry's story of his patient and Aimee's story of her father both illuminate how the having-more strategy develops and why it becomes impervious to reason; this episode also names the false-self as the construction that drives the endless proving, and points to the inner compass that is always there underneath it. The good news is that there is a way out and this series explores those paths to enoughness.    Key moments: [00:00] Welcome — Enoughness part 2: having enough [00:30] Having enough isn't really about the amount — it's the belief that acquiring this much will make the bad feelings go away  [01:00] Conditional acceptance and love: growing up having to produce, perform, or prove before being given love — the untended grief that drives the proving [01:30] Francis Weller: what happens when we aren't born into a village with a full, joyous welcome of our gifts  [02:00] Henry's story: a venture capital executive, clearly depressed, sent to therapy against his will  [04:00] CBT couldn't break through — his thinking was so distorted he was impervious to reason; he clung to the belief that he added no value whatsoever  [05:00] The lesson Henry learned viscerally: it is futile to try to fill a hole in self-worth by accumulating money or anything else we value  [05:30] If you believe external achievement proves your worth, there will never, ever be enough — and what a drain on one's energy and vitality  [06:00] Aimee's father: grew up needing to grasp for more, family lived week to week — so grasping for more was genuinely what they needed to survive  [06:30] AImee Prasek "Money can absolutely buy relief from misery, but it doesn't buy happiness or joy with the same predictability."  [07:00] The neuroscience: dopamine tracks more with anticipation of getting the thing than with actually getting it — the reward at arrival is inconsistent and can be short-lived  [07:30] Most things can be taken away — a shaky foundation if you've built your identity or worth on them  [08:00] Aimee's father attached his worth to signs of success — culture pushes this onto us too  [09:00] His business fell apart and everything came crashing down — Aimee believes his contingent self-worth collapsed with it [09:30] Watching strangers take back the repossessed items — cars, boats, pieces of him; everything he'd staked his value on, gone in a day  [10:30] Henry: a prolonged grieving right there — it's the universal human experience [11:30] Hedonic adaptation, or the hedonic treadmill: big life events shift our mood temporarily, then we return to baseline  [12:30] Like Sisyphus: pushing the same rock up the hill, same outcome every time — all that effort does not create lasting change  [13:30] Hedonic wellbeing (drive toward pleasure, avoidance of pain) vs. eudaimonic wellbeing (meaning, authenticity, self-acceptance, personal growth) — it's not one or the other; you don't have to give up pleasure  [14:30] Socially-prescribed perfectionism added to the mix: contingencies of self-worth + hedonic treadmill + belief that others demand your perfection = perfect storm  [15:00] The belief that you can and should live without pain, full of only pleasure, proving it all the time — and it is just not true  [15:30] Henry: where the false-self gets born — when we learn that our worth is conditional on performance, appearance, or achievement, we hide the real self  [16:00] We construct a version of ourselves we believe will be acceptable, lovable, worthy of belonging — and it is exhausting to maintain  [16:30] Constant vigilance: am I saying the right thing, do I look right, am I achieving enough? Always the fear of being exposed as a fraud  [17:00] The paradox: the more we invest in the false-self, the less we're actually being loved for who we are — and deep down, we know this [17:30] Donald Winnicott's work on the false-self — link in show notes; also: the Authenticity series and the episode on feeling enough as a mom  [18:00] The false-self is like holding up a complex lie — cognitively and physically exhausting  [18:30] The inner compass is always there underneath the false-self — that knowing of our worth is never lost; it's never too late to come back to it  [19:00] Head to your Experiment in the Joy Lab Program to work on having enough; head to JoyLab.coach to access the Experiments [19:00] Closing wisdom from Lynne Twist: "Sufficiency isn't an amount at all. It is an experience, a context we generate, a declaration, a knowing that there is enough, and that we are enough."   If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review us wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts!    Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program. Please see our terms for more information. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. – 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at helpline@nami.org. Visit NAMI for more. You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org. Find more mental health resources here. 

Perfectionism Is Keeping You StuckIf you keep waiting until you feel completely ready, have the perfect plan, or know exactly how things will turn out, you may never begin.In this episode of Family in Focus, I'm talking about how perfectionism can quietly turn into procrastination, especially when you're trying to make meaningful changes for yourself or your family.We'll explore why you don't need to have everything figured out before you take the first step, how being honest about your own imperfections can strengthen your relationship with your child, and why real change begins by showing up as you are.In this episode:• How perfectionism can keep you from getting started• Why procrastination is sometimes a form of self-protection• What happens when you wait for the perfect time or perfect plan• Why your child doesn't need you to have everything figured out• How being real can create deeper connection with your family• Why imperfect action is still meaningful progressChapters:00:00 Embracing Imperfection: The Journey Begins00:26 Introduction to Family in Focus02:37 How Perfectionism Leads to Procrastination05:41 The Power of Being Real in ParentingWatch the full video episode on YouTube.New episodes every Wednesday.Want more support for raising children with confidence instead of fear or shame?Join The Exhale, my free newsletter:https://www.wendyschofermd.com/the-exhaleLearn more about working with me:https://www.wendyschofermd.comSchedule a consultation:https://wendyschofermdscheduling.as.me/consultFollow along:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wendyschofermd/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@wendyschofermdFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/wendyschofermd/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wendy-schofer-md/About Dr. Wendy SchoferDr. Wendy Schofer is a board-certified pediatrician with more than 20 years of experience helping families build healthier relationships with food, body image, and emotional well-being. Through Family in Focus, she shares evidence-based, compassionate parenting strategies that help families thrive.While Dr. Wendy Schofer is a physician, this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not medical advice.This episode explores parenting perfectionism, procrastination, fear of failure, authentic parenting, imperfect action, family connection, and how parents can begin making meaningful changes before they feel completely ready.

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What happens when explosive success turns your ADHD business strategy upside down? Dani Donovan returns to reveal the hidden reality of scaling a tool for neurodivergent communities and keeping up with sudden demand.For every ADHD entrepreneur, founder, or business owner with ADHD navigating rapid growth, delegation struggles, and high cognitive load, this conversation offers actionable clarity. Discover practical insights on ADHD business operations, accountability, and real-time decision-making when your business evolves faster than expected.EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS & TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - How Viral Products Create Explosive Demand06:00 - ADHD Product-Market Fit and Underserved Audiences12:00 - Building and Launching a Viral Product19:00 - Content Marketing, TikTok Virality and Storytelling26:00 - Scaling Too Fast and Business Operations33:00 - Perfectionism, Burnout and Entrepreneurial Growth40:00 - Email Lists, Algorithms and Sustainable Business Growth47:00 - Entrepreneurship, Autonomy and What Comes Next3 Key Takeaways:Find—and serve—the underserved audience. When you truly solve a need for people who've been overlooked, you can create explosive demand. Building something specifically for the ADHD community, with real-life empathy and nuance, was the game-changerPrepare to adapt at warp speed. Virality can supercharge your business, but also breaks systems you thought could scale. Managing inventory, support, and planning for unpredictable spikes is a different beastDon't skip the foundations—even if you're “too busy.” Invest in core systems you own—like email lists—not just social media channels. Otherwise, you're at the mercy of algorithms or outside platforms.About today's guest, Dani Donovan:Dani Donovan is an award-winning designer and creator of the viral hit product, "The Anti-Planner: How to Get Sh*t Done When You Don't Feel Like It." Known for her relatable ADHD comics, tweets, and TikToks, she's been helping shape the online neurodiversity community since 2018, and her work has helped thousands of people seek an ADHD diagnosis and treatment.Connect with Dani: Website - Instagram - TikTok - XDani's viral tweet: "Finding out you have ADHD as an adult feels like being told you suck at Mario Kart your entire life and then finding out your game generates 40 times more banana peels than it's supposed to"About the Anti-Planner:Tapping into her own frustrations and the lived experiences of ADHD peers, Dani Donovan spent over 3,000 hours creating The Anti-Planner, calling it a “productivity spellbook.”It is a lovingly designed, non-linear, highly personalized compendium of over 100 strategies for overcoming procrastination and building emotional resistance.Dani obsessed over every detail: the comforting size, playful illustrations, durable faux-leather binding, gold foil, thick paper, pen loop, and rounded corners. It is gorgeous, practical, and nothing like all the planners you've bought and abandoned two weeks later.Buy your copy of the Original Anti-Planner here. (Dani also has a Clean version if you are not so sweary…)P.S. If you missed my previous interview with Dani Donovan episode (and The Anti-Planner's original “theft” story!), it's a must-listen! Ep #318_ Somebody Stole My Sh*t: Copycats, Counterfeiters and How to Protect What You've BuiltYour ADHD-ish™ host, Diann Wingert Diann Wingert brings decades of experience as a psychotherapist and serial business owner and is now a sought-after coach to entrepreneurs with ADHD traits. Her style is direct and strategic, with a dash of humor, and filled with the insights of someone who lives and breathes the neurodivergent experience.Diann is a fierce advocate for self-acceptance and meaningful growth at the intersection of neurodivergence and entrepreneurship. She is the creator of the ADHD-ish™ Method and host of the top-rated ADHD-ish™ podcast.Want to grow your business AND survive your own success while doing so? Book a free consultation with me and let's talk about how I can help.© 2026 ADHD-ish™ Podcast. Intro music by Ishan Dincer / Melody Loops / Outro music by Vladimir / Bobi Music / All rights reserved.

Experiences with stress, depression, and anxiety are often paired with feelings of not measuring up or that you're not enough. However, feeling that you're lacking in some way is not limited to a mental health diagnosis; these feelings are actually very common and, unfortunately, they make our lives smaller. We're working on our Element of Enoughness in this episode, identifying Enoughness as an inner knowing that you are enough just as you are, with acceptance of where you are at this moment, without giving up on where you're headed. We'll start by identifying some obstacles to that knowing through two powerful research frameworks. The first is Dr. Jennifer Crocker's "contingencies of self-worth." This is the idea that we stake our self-esteem more heavily on certain domains than others, and when we do, our worth rises and falls with our performance in those areas.   The second framework is Drs. Paul Hewitt and Gordon Flett's three typologies of perfectionism: self-oriented (impossible standards for yourself), other-oriented (impossible standards for others), and socially-prescribed (believing others are demanding your perfection). Henry also names the common root for our feelings of not being enough: the fundamental fear of not belonging.  This is the start of our series on Enoughness, so be sure to stick with us for the next episodes as we talk about and gain skills related to having enough, doing enough, knowing enough, and being enough.   About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek. The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab App.   Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).   Full transcript here   Sources and Notes for Our Element of Enoughness: Related Joy Lab Episodes:    Ep. 268: Humility Can Be Stressful... But Worth It for Mental Health  Ep. 273: How to Build Confidence (When You Don't Feel Confident Yet)  Bellam, S., Curran, T., Hill, A. P., & Stoeber, J. (2025). Perfectionism and work performance: A meta-analysis. https://doi.org/10.1111/joop.12570 Carver, C. S., Lawrence, J. W., & Scheier, M. F. (1999). Self-discrepancies and affect: Incorporating the role of feared selves. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167299025007002  Crocker, J., & Park, L. E. (2004). The costly pursuit of self-esteem. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.131.3.392  Crocker, J., & Park, L. E. (2004). Reaping the benefits of pursuing self-esteem without the costs? Reply to Schmuck and Sheldon (2004), Sheldon et al. (2004), Pyszczynski et al. (2004), and Kernis (2004). https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.130.3.430 Crocker, J., Karpinski, A., Quinn, D. M., & Chase, S. K. (2003). When grades determine self-worth: Consequences of contingent self-worth for male and female engineering and psychology majors. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.85.3.507 Crocker, J., & Wolfe, C. T. (2001). Contingencies of self-worth. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-295X.108.3.593 Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2004). Avoiding death or engaging life as accounts of meaning and culture: Comment on Pyszczynski et al. (2004). https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.130.3.473 Freudenberger, H. J. (1974). Staff burn-out. Journal of Social Issues, 30(1), 159–165. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1540-4560.1974.tb00706.x  Harari, D., Swider, B. W., Bujold Steed, L., & Breidenthal, A. P. (2018). Is perfect good? A meta-analysis of perfectionism in the workplace. https://doi.org/10.1037/apl0000324 Hewitt, P. L., & Flett, G. L. (1991). Perfectionism in the self and social contexts: Conceptualization, assessment, and association with psychopathology. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.60.3.456 Higgins, E. T. (1987). Self-discrepancy: A theory relating self and affect. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-295X.94.3.319 Joseph, S., & Linley, P. A. (2005). Positive adjustment to threatening events: An organismic valuing theory of growth through adversity. https://doi.org/10.1037/1089-2680.9.3.262 Kernis, M. H. (2005). Measuring self-esteem in context: The importance of stability of self-esteem in psychological functioning. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1467-6494.2005.00359.x Kirkpatrick, L. A., & Ellis, B. J. (2001). An evolutionary-psychological approach to self-esteem: Multiple domains and multiple functions. In G. J. O. Fletcher & M. S. Clark (Eds.), Blackwell handbook of social psychology: Interpersonal processes (pp. 411–436). Blackwell. Leary, M. R. (2000). Sociometer theory and the pursuit of relational value: Getting to the root of self-esteem. https://doi.org/10.1080/14792772043000045  Maslach, C. (1981). The measurement of experienced burnout. https://doi.org/10.1002/job.4030020205   Park, L. E., & Crocker, J. (2005). Attachment styles and contingencies of self-worth. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167205277030 Pyszczynski, T., Greenberg, J., Solomon, S., Arndt, J., & Schimel, J. (2004). Why do people need self-esteem? https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.130.3.435 Schaufeli, W. B., Leiter, M. P., & Maslach, C. (2009). Burnout: 35 years of research and practice. https://doi.org/10.1108/13620430910966406    Questions this episode was made for: Q: What does "you are enough" actually mean? Isn't that just an excuse to stop growing? A: Enoughness, as Joy Lab defines it, is the inner knowing that you are enough just as you are, with acceptance of where you are, without giving up on where you're headed. Enoughness is distinct from self-esteem (which rises and falls with performance) and is closer to unconditional self-worth; this episode explains the distinction and why believing you are enough actually makes you more open to genuine growth, not less.   Q: Why do I feel so driven to prove myself even when I know it's exhausting and not working? A: That's the contingencies of self-worth in action. When we stake our self-esteem on certain domains, we strive or perform not to learn or grow but to prove our worth; this episode explains the mechanism, its real costs, and why loosening those contingencies is not giving up on goals but can help free yourself from letting outcomes dictate your value.    Key moments: [00:00] Welcome to the brand new Element of Enoughness  [00:30] Opening fact: you are enough — and the Zen teaching Henry loves: "You're perfect as you are, and you could use a little improvement"  [01:00] Aimee's working definition: Enoughness is the inner knowing that you are enough just as you are, with acceptance of where you are, without giving up on where you're headed  [01:30] Contentment spiked with hope — Enoughness is not a ceiling, it's a foundation  [02:00] Why Enoughness is hard to define operationally — but viscerally familiar; we know what having it and lacking it feels like  [03:00] Henry: this topic lives in the conversation around scarcity and abundance — how much is enough is a question we don't give enough thought to  [03:30] Most of us carry on as though we don't have or aren't enough — striving, or feeling bad for what we think we lack  [04:00] The rare person who feels comfortable in their own skin: receives praise but doesn't need it — and stands out for it  [04:30] Four dimensions to explore: having enough, doing enough, knowing enough, and being enough  [06:00] Two key frameworks for the month: contingencies of self-worth (Dr. Jennifer Crocker) and typologies of perfectionism (Drs. Hewitt and Flett) [06:30] Contingencies of self-worth: we don't stake self-esteem equally on everything — certain domains carry more of our worth  [07:00] Three key claims: contingencies motivate where we put attention and effort; they influence how we react in those domains; they can lead to fragile self-esteem linked to higher depression and anxiety  [07:30] Contingencies turn "I feel good about myself" into "I feel good about myself if..."  [08:00] Crocker's college student study: students who tied self-worth to academic performance studied more hours — but extra studying did NOT predict a higher GPA  [08:30] They were studying to prove worth, not to learn — and reported more conflict, more academic struggle, more dissatisfaction by end of freshman year  [09:30] Key takeaway: you can be motivated to do well without attaching self-worth to the outcome — that's actually the more effective route  [10:00] Loosening contingencies isn't surrendering goals — it's refusing to let outcomes or others' judgments dictate your value  [10:30] Henry: inadequacy is closer to the truth than insecurity — the belief that we're not enough permeates almost everything  [11:00] Buddhist psychology: grasping — endless grasping — as the manifestation of not-enoughness  [11:30] No matter how much we get of the thing we think will fill us up, it doesn't last — this tragic gap drives anxiety and depression  [12:30] Aimee: feeling inadequate shakes our sense of security and safety — evolutionary roots, we need the group to survive  [13:00] Important distinction: self-esteem (rises and falls with performance), fragile self-esteem (staked on outcomes we grasp onto), and self-worth (intrinsic, not performance-dependent)  [14:00] Baumeister's challenge to the self-esteem movement of the '80s and '90s — hollow self-esteem building is at best unsubstantiated, potentially harmful  [14:30] Baumeister and Vohs, "Narcissism as Addiction to Esteem": chasing self-esteem through reality-detached praise creates a dopamine-like loop — feels good briefly, drops quickly, tolerance builds, need more and more  [15:30] The addiction pattern: constantly chasing the next hollow boost, convinced it'll finally hold — and it never does [16:30] Henry: why do we give our lifeblood chasing what we know deep down won't give us what we want?  [17:00] The fundamental human drive: to belong — to be seen, appreciated, cared about — once basic biological needs are met  [17:30] The tension: deep need to belong vs. the illusion that we are separate and must go it alone  [18:00] Neuroscience of belonging: newly born neurons immediately extend to connect with others — if insufficiently connected, they shrivel and die; same for us  [19:00] Introduction of perfectionism typologies from Drs. Paul Hewitt and Gordon Flett  [19:30] Type 1 — Self-oriented: punishing standards for yourself, intense drive to be perfect and avoid failure  [19:45] Type 2 — Other-oriented: same rigid standards applied to others — hard on relationships, linked to more loneliness  [20:00] Type 3 — Socially-prescribed: believing others are demanding your perfection and will judge you if you fail — most linked to depression, hopelessness, and possibly suicidal ideation  [21:00] Henry: socially-prescribed perfectionism feels like the loneliest of the three — you're playing by rules you didn't design, trapped in a system you didn't agree to  [21:30] All three stem from the same root: the fundamental fear of not being enough, of not belonging  [22:00] Self-oriented: "If I'm not perfect, I'm not worthy of belonging" — attacking yourself to earn your own permission to exist  [22:30] Other-oriented: projecting the fear outward — demanding others meet standards because that's what you believe it takes to matter  [23:00] Socially-prescribed: the loneliest — responding to what you believe the world demands, even though that belief deserves to be questioned  [23:30] Most of us carry all three — when we can name these patterns, we have a choice; we can loosen the grip  [24:00] Aimee: all of these types come from a good place — wanting to matter, wanting others to matter — it's driven by a desire for connection  [25:00] Pushback addressed: will believing you're enough make you lazy, entitled, or narcissistic? No — Enoughness is not the same as self-esteem  [25:30] Enoughness is a neutral, solid ground — you can feel bad about a mistake and still feel like enough as a person  [26:00] When you feel like enough: you can take criticism without your value collapsing; apologize without self-destruction; make mistakes and still belong  [27:00] Joy Lab Program Experiment for Enoughness — head to JoyLab.coach  [27:30] This is a collective experiment — to feel like enough, we have to offer that to others  [28:00] Closing wisdom from Lao-Tzu: "When you are content to be simply yourself and don't compare or compete, everyone will respect you."   If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review us wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts!    Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program. Please see our terms for more information. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. – 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at helpline@nami.org. Visit NAMI for more. You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org. Find more mental health resources here. 

George talks with UK-based voiceover engineer and demo producer Henry Willard about the rise of virtual engineering and why more actors are bringing their own engineers into remote directed sessions. Henry explains how having someone handle recording, playback, timing, and client requests can free the actor to stay where they belong: in the performance. They also explore Henry's approach to creating authentic commercial demos, why overproducing auditions can backfire, the never-ending battle with mouth noise, common home-studio mistakes, and the realities of producing audiobooks by hand in an increasingly automated world. And because two audio engineers can only behave themselves for so long, there's plenty of talk about Pro Tools, headphones, plugins, noise reduction, Macs vs. PCs, and keeping your processing chain simple. Timeline 00:00 Sponsor and Sound Check 01:00 Meet Henry Willard 03:00 Running an Audio Business with Two Young Kids 05:00 The Reality of Working from a Home Studio 07:00 Why Voice Actors Are Hiring Their Own Engineers 10:00 What a Virtual Engineer Actually Does 11:00 Henry's Start in Remote Recording 14:00 How COVID Changed the Voiceover Workflow 16:00 Building a Freelance Voiceover Engineering Business 19:00 Getting Into Voiceover Demo Production 20:00 Making a Demo Sound Authentic—not Overproduced 22:00 Music Choices That Can Ruin a Demo 24:00 Henry's “Palette Call” for Building Personalized Demos 27:00 Why Demo Spots Need a Beginning, Middle, and End 28:00 Mouth Noise, Perfectionism, and Over-Editing 29:00 Mac vs. Windows for Voiceover Recording 34:00 How Much Mouth Noise Should You Actually Remove? 35:00 RX Mouth De-click and the Problem with Overprocessing 37:00 Alternatives to RX and When Your Headphones Are Too Good 39:00 Fix the Room and Mic Technique Before Adding Plugins 40:00 The Wrong Mic, the Wrong Input—and Other Common Mistakes 43:00 Henry's Approach to Audiobook Production 46:00 Punch and Roll vs. Continuous Recording 49:00 AI Proofing vs. Actually Listening to the Audiobook 51:00 Why Henry Takes a Premium Approach to Audiobook Editing 53:00 Henry's Favorite Tools: Pro Tools, Editus Keys, and Headphones 58:00 Keeping Plugins Simple 59:00 Waves NS1 and Noise Reduction 1:00:00 Apollo C-Vox and Real-Time Noise Reduction 1:02:00 More Audio Geekery—and an Invitation to Pro Audio Suite

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Most burnout conversations focus on systems, strategies, and workflow. And those things matter. But what happens when the inbox is clear, the charting is done, and something still feels wrong? Dr. Annia Raja is a clinical psychologist whose practice is almost entirely dedicated to serving doctors in therapy, and she sees this pattern regularly. The practical strategies work, until they reveal something underneath that the strategies were never going to reach. In this episode, she talks about the deeper psychological dynamics that underpin burnout in medicine, why the traits that made someone an excellent doctor often have roots that go much further back than medical school, and why therapy does not have to wait for a crisis. Timestamped Highlights [05:00]: Dr. Raja describes what happens when a doctor finally clears their inbox and gets their clinical day under control, and why for some of them the relief they expected does not arrive. [09:00]: She introduces the tangled ball of yarn as a more honest metaphor than the onion for understanding how medicine, personality, childhood, and relationships interweave in burnout, and what it means for how recovery actually works. [12:00]: Why rest is not a destination you arrive at, and what she keeps finding in therapy when doctors finally create time away and discover they do not know what to do with it. [16:00]: The ruminative pattern she sees most often in female doctors, where it comes from, and why telling someone to simply stop replaying an interaction is never going to work. [20:00]: The real reason most doctors wait until crisis to seek therapy, including the specific fears around credentialing and licensing boards, and what has changed in the US that most doctors do not know about. [26:00]: The difference between symptom-focused therapy and depth-oriented therapy, and why she makes a specific case for the latter with high-achieving doctors who have already tried every other fix. Three Key Takeaways 1. Practical strategies work until they reveal what they cannot fix. Dr. Raja is not dismissive of workflow strategies, charting systems, or inbox management. She sees their value. What she also sees, regularly, is doctors who have implemented all of those things and still feel something is off. When the busyness clears, what is left? Who are you when you are not overwhelmed? For some doctors, that question is more confronting than the overwork ever was. The strategies address the surface. Therapy, she argues, addresses what is underneath it. 2. The traits that make doctors vulnerable to burnout usually started long before medical school. Dr. Raja describes burnout not as something medicine creates from scratch but as something medicine builds on top of. Perfectionism, people-pleasing, hypervigilance, martyrdom tendencies, these patterns often have roots in family environments, childhood experiences, and personal histories that preceded medicine by decades. Medical training did not create them. It found them, rewarded them, and amplified them. Understanding that changes what recovery needs to look like. 3. You do not have to be in crisis to go to therapy. Dr. Raja uses the gym as her analogy, and it is a good one. You do not go to the gym only when something is broken. You go to maintain, to build capacity, to stay ahead of what would otherwise accumulate. Mental and emotional care works the same way. She is direct about the credentialing fears that keep doctors from seeking help and equally direct about what has changed. Over 40 US state boards have now removed the intrusive mental health history questions from their applications. The barrier many doctors think is there may no longer exist. Guest Bio Dr. Annia Raja is a clinical psychologist based in California whose practice is dedicated almost entirely to serving doctors in therapy. She practices across multiple US states through PSYPACT and offers private pay sessions specifically to protect her clients' confidentiality and privacy. She will be speaking at the White Coat Investor Conference in February 2027. Find her at helmpsychologygroup.com and on Instagram at Helm Psychology. Would you like to view a transcript of this episode? Click Here Charting Champions is a premiere, lifetime access Physician only program that is helping Physicians get home with today's work done. All the proven tools, support and community you need to create time for your life outside of medicine. Learn more at https://www.chartingcoach.ca Enjoying this podcast? Please share it with someone who would benefit. Also, don't forget to hit “follow” so you get all the new episodes as soon as they are released. Come hang out with me on Facebook or Instagram. Follow me @thechartingcoach to get more practical tools to help you create sustainable clinical medicine in your life. Questions? Comments? Want to share how this podcast has helped you? Shoot me an email at admin@reachcareercoaching.ca. I would love to hear from you.

This week, Tee is joined by Abbie Davidson, founder and editor of The Filtery, where she helps people reduce everyday toxic exposures without fear or overwhelm. Abbie has worked in sustainability and wellbeing for over a decade, a path that deepened after she became severely ill from a moldy air conditioner and was diagnosed with Chronic Inflammatory Response Syndrome (CIRS). She holds a Certificate in Healthier Materials & Sustainable Building from Parsons School of Design and a Building Biology Advocate™ Certification, and is passionate about making safer product swaps accessible and sustainable for the long term. In this episode, Abbie breaks down the exhausting pursuit of a "toxin-free" life and why chasing perfection can backfire, leading to fear, overwhelm, and burnout instead of real health protection. She shares how her own CIRS diagnosis reshaped her relationship with toxic exposures and pushed her toward a more balanced, sustainable approach. Tee and Abbie explore what it actually looks like to protect your health without falling into the perfectionism trap. The conversation also dives into one of Tee's favorite topics: how to actually reduce toxic exposure without the anxiety spiral. Abbie shares how she researches and recommends safer products in a way that's realistic for the long haul, and points listeners to her free Swaps Spreadsheet, featuring her top 2 brand picks across 100+ product categories. Whether you're just starting to rethink what's under your sink or looking for a sustainable middle ground, this episode offers a refreshing, guilt-free way to think about clean living.   Connect with Abbie:  Website  Instagram  Facebook  LinkedIn  Newsletter: Sign up for Abbie's free weekly newsletter!   Grab Abbie's free Swaps Spreadsheet, her top 2 product picks across 100+ categories, at thefiltery.com/swaps   Follow Therese "Tee" Forton-Barnes and The Green Living Gurus:  The Green Living Gurus Website Instagram YouTube Facebook Healthy Living Group on Facebook   Austin Air Purifiers: For podcast listeners, take 15% off any Austin Air product; please email Tee@thegreenlivinggurus.com and mention that you want to buy a product and would like the discount.   See all products here: Austin Air   Tip the podcaster! Support Tee and the endless information that she provides:  Patreon  Venmo: @Therese-Forton-Barnes last four digits of her cell are 8868    For further info, contact Tee:  Email: Tee@thegreenlivinggurus.com  Cell: 716-868-8868   DISCLAIMER: ALL INFORMATION PROVIDED HERE IS GENERAL GUIDANCE AND NOT MEANT TO BE USED FOR INDIVIDUAL TREATMENT. PLEASE CONTACT YOUR PROVIDER OR DOCTOR FOR MEDICAL ADVICE.   Produced By: Social Chameleon

Have you ever started a new habit feeling completely motivated, only to fall off a few days or weeks later and wonder, “Why can't I ever stick with anything?” I can totally relate, and if you're a mom... you might feel the same, too. For so many moms, we need to know that the answer isn't a lack of discipline. Perfectionism, overwhelm, unrealistic expectations, and the way we've been taught to approach habits can really make lasting change much harder than it needs to be. In this episode of Chick Chat, I sit down with Monica Packer, habit and identity coach, host of the About Progress podcast, and author of the book Sticky Habits. As a recovering perfectionist and mom of five, Monica knows firsthand how difficult it can be to pursue personal growth while managing the demands of motherhood. Together, we discuss: Why so many women struggle to make habits stick The “hidden habit saboteur” that may be getting in your way Why self-care can feel almost impossible for busy moms What we've been taught wrong about building habits What actually makes a habit sustainable Monica's five categories of Sticky Habits Where to start when you've tried routines before and nothing seems to last How one tiny shift can begin creating real momentum What to remember when you're convinced you simply aren't disciplined enough If you're tired of starting over or feeling like you have to completely overhaul your life to make progress, this conversation offers a much more realistic way forward for us women. Learn more about Monica and her work at aboutprogress.com and follow her on Instagram @aboutprogress.

Mandy Balak spent years being the founder, builder and person who could handle everything — until she began questioning what all that achievement was costing her. In this conversation, we explore the difference between chasing and choosing, why the leaders who pause may ultimately win, and how to keep your ambition without making your health, identity and peace the price of success. Mandy is the President of The Gathering and author of Chasing Enough: The High Achiever's Guide to Sustainable Success, publishing September 22, 2026. EXCITING STUFF! My second book now available for pre-order! You're Invited: A Life-Changing Conversation with History's Greatest Wisdom Teachers Get your MENTAL FITNESS BLUEPRINT here! A special thanks to our mental fitness + sweat partner Sip Saunas   Connect with Marc: https://konect.to/marcchampagne   Timestamps: 00:00 — The question that opens every interview: “Who are you?” 02:31 — Leadership starts with knowing what you stand for 03:38 — Mandy's weekly ritual for staying aligned with what matters 05:42 — Why comparison can pull us toward someone else's definition of success 07:39 — Who was “Mandy Pandy” before the world told her who to be? 09:05 — The best parts of Mandy's father — and the complicated parts of their story 12:22 — Learning that she had to earn her place 14:29 — The pause that finally interrupted decades of survival mode 15:52 — Why Mandy deliberately sought out healthier models of success 17:20 — How The Gathering came back into Mandy's life at exactly the right time 21:04 — Why “the leaders who pause win” 23:28 — The chasing leader vs. the choosing leader 25:19 — Why capacity may be the most important leadership metric 28:46 — How Mandy resources herself during an intense season 33:10 — Perfectionism, the lone wolf and learning to ask for help 36:05 — Forget the to-do list. Why we need “done lists” 37:45 — Why the person who can't stop and the person who can't start may have the same problem 40:05 — Notice. Release. Rise. 41:08 — What Mandy Pandy would say to her today * Special props

What if some of the qualities you've learned to call “strength” are clues to a wound underneath? You may be responsible, independent, productive, and good at taking care of everyone else. But when those patterns become extreme, they can sometimes point to wounds you've learned to carry alone. In this week's episode, Dr. Alison is joined by therapist and author Sheila Wise Rowe for a conversation about the less obvious ways trauma can shape our lives. Together, they explore how people-pleasing, perfectionism, self-sufficiency, minimizing pain, and avoiding conflict can become protective responses—and why healing begins by getting curious about what those patterns are trying to tell us. You'll learn: *How trauma can show up in ways we may not immediately recognize *Why people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-sufficiency can become protective patterns *How family and community wounds can shape us across generations *Why minimizing your pain can keep you disconnected from what needs care *The role of lament in bringing your real emotions before God *Why healing rarely happens alone *How small steps, safe people, and God's presence can help create lasting change Healing doesn't require you to minimize what happened or convince yourself that someone else had it worse. It begins with noticing what is true, allowing God into the places that hurt, and taking one small step toward connection. More Resources: With every purchase of Dr. Alison's newest book, The Secure Soul, you'll get exclusive access to her Soul Tending Video Library, including  “Boundaries for the Deeply Feeling Woman” and her masterclass “Healing the Wounds That Still Shape You.” Connect further with @dralisoncook on Instagram

In this episode of Workday Playdate, Erin sits down with Yana Carstens, an integrative executive coach, to explore why high performers often burn out faster than anyone else—and why the solution isn't always to simply lighten the workload. Yana makes the case that burnout is often a reflection of our internal operating system: the beliefs, identities, and patterns that shape how we respond to pressure, achievement, and success. If you've ever wondered why you can know you need better boundaries and still struggle to set them, this conversation is for you. Yana shares how somatic awareness, mindset recalibration, honest communication, and authentic connection can help you recognize the patterns driving exhaustion and create a more sustainable way to succeed. Inside This Episode: Burnout Is More Than a Workload Problem: Yana explains why burnout isn't always about having too much on your plate. For high performers, the deeper issue can be the internal wiring that tells us we need to be responsible, perfect, useful, or constantly achieving in order to feel worthy. Your Body Is Giving You Data: Physical signals like neck tension, shoulder aches, and anxiety aren't just inconveniences to push through. Yana shares how these signals can act like a dashboard, revealing when we're operating from old patterns or beliefs that no longer serve us. Your Strengths Can Become Your Blind Spots: Traits like responsibility, high standards, and a strong drive to help others can be powerful strengths—but they can also become “anchors” that keep us stuck. Yana explores how hyper-responsibility, perfectionism, and people-pleasing can quietly fuel burnout. Recalibrate Your Internal Operating System: Instead of automatically reacting to stress, Yana offers practical ways to pause, notice what's happening internally, and question the beliefs driving our responses. She shares tools for shifting from autopilot into more intentional, values-aligned action. Use Your Values as Your Wind: Yana uses the metaphor of a boat, anchors, and wind to explain the difference between disempowering beliefs that hold us back and core values that help us move forward. The goal isn't to eliminate stress, but to make sure we're navigating it in a direction that actually matters to us. What to Do Now: Notice Your Signals: The next time you feel tension, anxiety, irritation, or exhaustion, pause and ask what your body might be trying to tell you before you automatically push through. Question the Belief: When you notice yourself overworking, people-pleasing, or striving for perfection, ask: “What am I believing I have to do or prove right now?” Find Your North Star: Identify one core value that matters most to you right now, then consider whether your current habits, boundaries, and decisions are moving you toward it—or keeping you anchored. About the Guest Yana Carstens is an integrative executive coach who helps high-performing leaders understand the internal patterns that influence how they work, lead, and respond to stress. Through a combination of mindset work, somatic awareness, and practical coaching tools, Yana helps people recalibrate their internal operating systems so they can pursue meaningful success without sacrificing their well-being. Her work centers on helping leaders build greater self-awareness, healthier boundaries, authentic connection, and a more sustainable relationship with achievement. Your Freebie Networking doesn't have to feel performative, transactional, or awkward. Download our Networking Without Feeling Weird toolkit for practical strategies to help you build genuine connections while staying confident, clear, and grounded.  Whether you're walking into a conference, meeting new colleagues, or simply trying to expand your circle, this two-part resource will help you network in a way that actually feels like you. Connect with Yana Carstens Yana's LinkedIn Yana's website Connect with Erin Diehl x improve it! Leadership Playground online membership community Erin's website Erin's Instagram Erin's TikTok Erin's LinkedIn improve it!'s website improve it!'s Instagram Connect with Erin Diehl

Episode Description:This is a From the Archive episode with Arianna Huffington.Arianna Huffington returns to the show for a conversation about sleep, success, reinvention, and the cultural delusion that burnout is the price of achievement.James begins by asking practical sleep questions: Is nine hours too much? Can sleep be split into two four-hour blocks? Arianna explains that for most people, seven to nine hours is the real range, and that sleep should leave a person fully recharged, not limping through the day waiting for a second shift of rest.From there, James rewinds to Arianna's career. Before The Huffington Post, before Thrive Global, before The Sleep Revolution, Arianna had already spent decades writing, appearing on television, entering politics, changing positions, and reinventing herself. She credits her mother with giving her the belief that failure was not the opposite of success, but a stepping stone toward it.One of the central stories is Arianna's second book being rejected by 36 publishers. Out of money and unsure whether she should remain a writer, she walked into a bank in London and asked for a loan. The manager gave it to her. That small act kept her on the path.James and Arianna then talk about The Huffington Post: its rough launch, brutal early reviews, the team behind it, the importance of creating a platform, and the thrill of giving unknown people a chance to be heard. Arianna tells one of her favorite stories about a homeless teenager whose writing on HuffPost helped lead to Harvard discovering him.The conversation then turns to the 2007 collapse that changed Arianna's relationship with sleep. Arianna says the problem was not just personal overwork. It was a collective belief that sleep deprivation is required for success. But James pushes her on the personal side too, and Arianna acknowledges perfectionism: building a company, raising daughters, trying to be a perfect mother, and working through the night after college-tour days with her daughter.Arianna's answer is not a rigid sleep doctrine. It is a series of small steps. Build a transition. Remove devices from the bedroom. Lower the lights. Take a bath or shower. Read a physical book. Use gratitude as the closing scene of the day. If you wake up at 3 a.m., meditate instead of spiraling.The episode closes with joy. For Arianna, sleep is not only about health and productivity. It is about being present enough to experience life while it is happening.Editorial Note:This is a From the Archive episode. References to Arianna's role at The Huffington Post, HuffPost's size and global expansion, her contract, sleep resources, and digital products reflect the original recording period.This episode discusses sleep, medication, insomnia, health, and wellbeing. It should not be treated as medical advice. Anyone dealing with chronic insomnia, sleep medication dependence, depression, narcolepsy, or other health concerns should speak with a qualified clinician.What You'll Learn:Why Arianna says sleep deprivation is not a requirement for achievement.How her 2007 collapse changed her view of success, productivity, and wellbeing.Why most people need seven to nine hours of sleep.Why she sees failure as a stepping stone, not the opposite of success.How her mother shaped her courage, optimism, and relationship to fear.Why The Huffington Post was built as both a journalistic enterprise and a platform for voices.How brutal early reviews tested the HuffPost team.Why Arianna believes teams matter most during hard times.How perfectionism contributed to her burnout.Why sleep affects health, productivity, decision-making, creativity, and joy.Why dreams matter for memory, insight, and new ideas.How to start a sleep transition with small microsteps.Why removing devices from the bedroom is one of the first practical changes.How gratitude can become the “closing scene” of the day.Why waking up in the middle of the night is not the problem—the stress spiral is.How meditation can help turn middle-of-the-night waking into rest.Why being exhausted makes people miss the moment.Timestamped Chapters:[03:02] Arianna Huffington ReturnsJames introduces Arianna and The Sleep Revolution, and they start with the practical question of how much sleep is enough.[03:51] Can You Split Sleep Into Two Blocks?James asks about sleeping four hours in the afternoon and four at night; Arianna explains why waking up fully recharged matters.[05:16] The Secret Origins of Arianna HuffingtonJames moves from sleep to Arianna's long career of writing, media, politics, public life, and reinvention.[06:20] Failure as a Stepping StoneArianna credits her mother with teaching her to aim high and see failure as part of the path.[08:06] Rejected by 36 PublishersArianna remembers running out of money in London, walking into Barclays Bank, and receiving the loan that helped her stay a writer.[09:52] The Huffington Post BeginsArianna explains HuffPost as both a journalism operation and a platform for known and unknown voices.[11:28] The Magic of the InternetArianna tells the story of a homeless teenager whose HuffPost piece helped bring him to Harvard's attention.[11:48] When the Launch Reviews Were BrutalJames asks whether Arianna ever worried HuffPost would fail, and she remembers harsh early criticism.[12:42] Everything Is Rigged in Your FavorArianna describes the spiritual belief that helped her move through fear, uncertainty, and dark periods.[13:18] Moving Continents After HeartbreakArianna explains how leaving a relationship in London led to her life in America, her daughters, her career, and The Huffington Post.[14:19] Life After Selling HuffPostJames asks how Arianna's life changed after the sale, and she explains why the company still felt new because it kept evolving.[15:20] The Collapse That Changed EverythingArianna connects her 2007 collapse from exhaustion to the wellness work that eventually became The Sleep Revolution.[16:32] The Collective Delusion About SleepArianna explains why modern culture wrongly treats sleep deprivation as essential to achievement.[18:02] Perfectionism, Work, and MotherhoodJames pushes on the personal side of Arianna's burnout, and she identifies the pressure to be perfect at work and at home.[20:16] Why Sleep MattersArianna lays out the benefits of sleep across health, productivity, decision-making, creativity, and emotional life.[21:53] What the Brain Does While We SleepArianna explains why sleep is not passive downtime, but a period of active cleanup and restoration.[23:21] Sleep and ProductivityArianna argues that sacrificing sleep for work backfires because it reduces judgment, creativity, engagement, and performance.[25:08] Sleep as a Performance EnhancerJames brings up willpower and negotiation, and Arianna adds the example of athletes using sleep to improve performance.[26:49] First Understand the CrisisArianna explains why people need to change their minds about sleep before they can change their habits.[27:30] Dreams, Memory, and InsightArianna talks about dreams and recommends writing them down when you wake up.[28:32] Sleeping Pills and Better AlternativesJames asks about medication, and Arianna points to behavioral approaches and sleep preparation.[29:50] The Sleep TransitionArianna explains the importance of beginning somewhere, even with just five or ten minutes.[30:57] Escort Your Devices Out of the BedroomArianna recommends turning off phones, laptops, and tablets before bed and creating a clean boundary between day and sleep.[31:24] Bath, Books, Temperature, and GratitudeArianna describes her wind-down routine: water, dedicated sleep clothes, lower lights, a cool room, physical books, and three things she is grateful for.[33:42] The 3 A.M. Anxiety SpiralJames shares his method for postponing middle-of-the-night anxieties until the afternoon.[34:14] Meditation in the Middle of the NightArianna says waking up is not the problem and explains why meditation helps her return to sleep.[36:28] Sleep, Wellbeing, and JoyJames asks whether Arianna feels happy, and she says sleep helps her bring more joy into everything she does.[37:49] Don't Miss the MomentArianna defines joy as being fully engaged and grateful, and shares her mother's reminder that this moment is all we have.Additional Resources:Arianna Huffington Official WebsiteThe Sleep Revolution — Penguin Random HouseThrive — Arianna HuffingtonThrive Global — Arianna HuffingtonArianna Huffington's TED Talk: “How to succeed? Get more sleep”Pulitzer Prize: David Wood of The Huffington PostThe Female Woman — Google BooksSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Being authentic sounds like a simple goal, but the reality is much more complicated. Especially when you're building something, creating content, or putting yourself out there, there's a constant balance between being real and being intentional.   In this episode, I'm joined by my friend and colleague Mark Butler for a conversation about perfectionism, authenticity, content creation, and what it really means to put yourself out there. Mark and I talk about where perfectionism can be useful, where it can keep us stuck, and how our strengths can sometimes become the very things that slow us down.   Watch the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/fBbmgr59s6w   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://jodymoore.com/579   Follow me on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/jodymoorecoaching/