Podcasts about Perfectionism

Have you ever found yourself caught in a whirlwind of infatuation, unable to discern between love and obsession? In this conversation, Dr. Alexandra and journalist and author Amanda McCracken discuss limerence, a state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person, typically characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one's feelings. Drawing from her compelling new book, When Longing Becomes Your Lover, Amanda shares her personal journey through the complexities of limerence, shedding light on how modern dating practices and social media amplify this intense emotional state. Beyond the macro/cultural factors, you will hear about the individual risk factors that can lead to patterns of limerence, such as painful early experiences and certain neuro-wirings/diagnoses, like ADHD and autism. You will also hear about how Amanda approached healing from her limerent patterns and opened herself up to a healthy, reciprocal intimate partnership.Resources worth mentioning from the episode:When Longing Becomes Your Lover: Breaking from Infatuation, Rejection, and Perfectionism to Find Authentic Love: A True Story of Overcoming Limerence by Amanda McCracken https://bookshop.org/p/books/when-longing-becomes-your-lover-breaking-from-infatuation-rejection-and-perfectionism-to-find-authentic-love-a-true-story-of-overcoming-limerence-a/ef0e30a5bd30e10b?aid=116429&ean=9781546008538&listref=2026-most-anticipated-memoirs-and-essay-collections&next=tLearn more about Amanda McCracken: https://www.amandajmccracken.com/Follow Amanda McCracken on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thelonginglabListen to The Longing Lab Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-longing-lab/id1606581375Dr. Tom Bellamy's Living With Limerence: https://livingwithlimerence.com/about/Reimagining Love episode Crushes, First Love, and Heartbreak: Supporting Teens Through Relationship Milestones with Lisa A. Phillips https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/crushes-first-love-and-heartbreak-supporting-teens/id1588419386?i=1000704425459&l=ruContinue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274Access Resources, like quizzes and courses: https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/resourcesOrder Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530Cultivate connection by subscribing to Dr. Alexandra's Loving Bravely newsletter: https://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/Learn more on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In this fascinating episode of the Compared to Who? podcast, Heather Creekmore is joined by Dr. Brook Sheehan to explore the topic of listening to your body—addressing misconceptions, fears, and spiritual questions that often come up in conversations about health and self-care. Dr. Brook Sheehan shares her powerful personal story, including growing up in a conventional medical model, her diagnosis with cerebral palsy, and her journey to becoming a chiropractor. Through her experiences, Dr. Brook discusses how she moved from ignoring her body’s signals to idolizing health—and finally, to navigating a balanced, grace-filled approach to honoring the wisdom God built into our bodies. Highlights include: The difference between bodily wisdom and New Age thinking from a Christian perspective How tuning into simple “this or that” decisions each day can help rebuild trust with your body Destigmatizing emotional eating and recognizing that body signals aren’t always black and white Practical cues to listen for—like cravings, random sneezing, and dry skin—and how to respond with compassion and wisdom Encouragement for everyone who feels “broken” or out of touch with what their body needs The importance of grace over perfection in both spiritual and physical health Dr. Brook also offers her “Body Signal Decoder” as a valuable resource for listeners who want to decode common body signals from a holistic perspective, covering physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual pillars. Where to Find Dr. Brook Sheehan: Instagram & all resources: @drbrooksheehan Ready to step out of comparison and into living with more compassion toward your body? This episode is for you! For community, encouragement, and support this Lent, check out the “Waiting for Weight Loss” series and free community at waitingforweightloss.com launching Tuesday, February 17! Thank you for tuning in to Compared to Who?—where we’re always learning to stop comparing and start living! Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

In this episode, Lesley breaks down self-love beyond surface-level self-care and explains why it's foundational to confidence, boundaries, resilience, and healthy relationships. She explores why self-love is often misunderstood, why it can feel so hard to practice, and how societal expectations shape the way women treat themselves. This conversation sets the foundation for a two-part series, with practical tools and practices coming in the next episode. If you have any questions about this episode or want to get some of the resources we mentioned, head over to LesleyLogan.co/podcast https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/. If you have any comments or questions about the Be It pod shoot us a message at beit@lesleylogan.co mailto:beit@lesleylogan.co. And as always, if you're enjoying the show please share it with someone who you think would enjoy it as well. It is your continued support that will help us continue to help others. Thank you so much! Never miss another show by subscribing at LesleyLogan.co/subscribe https://lesleylogan.co/podcast/#follow-subscribe-free.In this episode you will learn about:What self-love actually means beyond self-care and affirmations.How self-love differs from narcissism and self-interest.The importance of self-love in building confidence and resilience.How self-love strengthens confidence through self-commitment.The impact of societal pressure and past experiences on self-love.Episode References/Links:Episode 153: Tanya Dalton - https://beitpod.com/ep153Learning To Love Yourself by Gay Hendricks - https://a.co/d/9r14YqcEpisode 628: Frances Naudé - https://beitpod.com/ep628Episode 610: Amy Ledin - https://beitpod.com/ep610What Happened to You? by Oprah Winfrey & Bruce D. 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What I interpret that as we can't be it till we see it and just sort of like ourselves, like what I don't want you to do is not have that self-love that's like true self-love. Lesley Logan 0:20  Welcome to the Be It Till You See It podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring. I'm Lesley Logan, Pilates instructor and fitness business coach. I've trained thousands of people around the world and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt. My friends, action brings clarity and it's the antidote to fear. Each week, my guest will bring bold, executable, intrinsic and targeted steps that you can use to put yourself first and Be It Till You See It. It's a practice, not a perfect. Let's get started.  Lesley Logan 1:03  Hey, Be It babe, how are you? Oh my gosh. Okay, so we're doing a two episode series on self-love and a two episode series on burnout, and these kind of came out of doing this series on the habits. And, you know, we've had so many amazing guests on the pod, and it made me think of like they talk about how you have to love yourself, like, I can't even tell you how I probably should have looked it up. How many episodes we have had guests tell us, like, love yourself. Like, you have to have, like, love for yourself. And, like, it got me thinking, like, you know? And you're like, yeah, yeah. Like, you think you know what that means. And then you're like, wait, what does it mean? Like, what? What is self-love, you know? And is it important? And what if we don't do it? And how is it different than burnout, and how is it different than a habit, and how is it different than, like, all these other things. And so I kind of wanted to do just like, a whole episode on, like, what is self-love? Why do we struggle with it? Why do we need it? It's important, right? So we're going to just like, kind of dive in. And if you think I know it already, sure, you can skip this episode and go the next one, which is going to be the tools and the tips and the tricks and the mantras, but I hope we can have, like, a conversation. I mean, obviously you're not here, but like, you can talk in the car together, of like, what, what does this mean? And maybe you have different interpretations, right? Also, in the next episode, I'll share some of the ones that you guys have sent about that with here. I think you guys sent some for self-love and some that kind of go with burnout. And so I'm excited about it. Lesley Logan 2:20  Okay, so first of all, here is the dry like what the professionals psychology, things like that have to say. Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that involves prioritizing your physical, psychological and spiritual wellbeing with the same kindness and compassion you would offer a loved one, I would also say you'd offer anyone, because I see a lot of people offer strangers more of these things than they do themselves. It includes accepting yourself blahs and all setting healthy boundaries, practicing self-care and treating yourself with respect. This is not the same as narcissism, which involves excessive self-interest, but rather a fundamental regard of your own happiness and worth. And I think, like, if we could just, like, leave that right there. You know, like, there's so many things in that it's like, oh, that's what self, like, it's not the same as like, I mean, yes, there are some tools I'll share that like, about loving yourself, like I love myself, but like, actually, these are the ways you can be in self-love. You can be prioritizing your physical, psychological, spiritual well being with the same kindness and passion you would offer a loved one. Another way of saying this that I found on the line was be the adult you always needed to yourself. Tell yourself the words the younger version of you always needed to hear. And that might mean you have to go learn about, like, reparenting right there. And that would be like a therapist, right? So hopefully, like, if any of these things spark your interest, like you are working with a professional therapist of some kind in that way, but like, especially if it involves, like, the reparenting of yourself, and I think a lot of us have to go through that. And by the way, I know a lot of moms are listening, and including mine, like, it's not that you didn't do a great job. You did the best you could, some people, right? And also, there's still things that happen in our lives outside of what our parents did or didn't do that, like are part of what we brought up to ourselves as an adult. And there's stories that we tell ourselves, and those all affect how we treat ourselves, psychologically, physically, spiritually, right? Okay, so just to make sure we are saying things in the same way, same thing in different ways, so that if you have a different way of viewing these words, you get an education around self-love today, here's another thing. So this means self-love can include self-acceptance, so recognizing accepting both your strengths and your weakness without harsh self-criticism. And I think this is the hardest for me, so I'll just give anecdotes to each of these, because I think that at least I like that when people do it. So I think it's easy for us to accept the good parts about ourselves, but then we're really harsh about the not so great parts, and again, not that you like don't try to better what those are. But I think a lot of people who are attracted to the show because I do the same thing, like, we like attract alike is we are then constantly trying to better the things that we don't like about ourselves. Great. Do that, and also don't be harsh, right? There's a difference between a harsh self-criticism and an awareness of things that could be better, but still loving yourself despite of or in spite of that, right? Self-compassion. Self-love is self-compassion. Treating yourself with kindness, especially during difficult times. I definitely struggle with compassion for myself when I kind of do the thing I know I shouldn't have done at the time, and then, you know, you're like, I shouldn't procrastinate right now, and then you do and then, like, everything blows up in your face. I will go into a harsh criticism. I will have a lack of self-compassion. All of that affects the self-love. And when you don't love yourself, it makes it really difficult for you to show up as the highest version of yourself, that's for sure. And it also it makes it really hard for us to accept love and support from others. It's almost hard for us to receive compassion for other people, because we're not giving it to ourselves, and so we don't even recognize compassion when it comes from someone else, right? Self-care is self-love. Actively taking care of your physical, emotional, mental health through actions like eating well, exercising, gain enough rest, and engage in activities you enjoy. And by the way, when it's when I say, whenever you hear me say, eating well or healthy, I think you need to understand like fueling yourself appropriately, right? What allows you to have the best sleep of your life? What allows you to do the movement practice you like, what allows you to do the life you want to live? So there's no such thing as good or bad food or good or bad bodies, right? So, but what are the things that make you feel well? Are you eating foods that you know are going to make you feel like crap? For example, I love Kettle Corn. I really love Kettle Corn, and I can have a handful of Kettle Corn, no problem. But I can't stop with a handful of Kettle Corn most of the time. And so when I am kind of oftentimes being a little too in my head, being a little hard on myself, like having a stressful day, of course, I had to have more Kettle Corn, because why not just really make the already hard day I'm having even harder. And when I have half a bag of Kettle Corn, I feel like my stomach hurts. I have like my skin crawls, and I have the worst night's sleep, right? Well, in doing that, I am not giving myself the self-care that I need, because I'm now affecting tonight's sleep, which means I am not loving myself for the whole day and night, which is going to affect tomorrow, right? So getting enough rest is self-care. That is self-love. And I get really I in researching this, I was really excited, because I find myself, when I lead my retreats, or I lead some of these workshops that I do, like talking to people about, like, why it's so important that they go for a walk in the morning, if that's what they want to do, they want to walk in the morning. Why is it so important? Why is it so important they do Pilates? Because doing activities that help you sleep well, move well, be pain free, are all an act of self-love, and every time I see people not doing it in modernist oftentimes for others, what I'm seeing in the room is like a lack of self-love, and it's limiting how much you can love others. I'm just gonna say it, right? Lesley Logan 8:22  Okay. Boundary setting. So knowing your limits and saying no when necessary to protect your well being like setting boundaries and upholding those boundaries is self-love. We had a great episode about boundaries with Tanya Dalton. I still really love and recommend that episode. It's so, so good. And what I will say is I know that I come across as someone who is like the strictest of boundaries. I'm gonna tell you right now, I still feel bad when I have to uphold those boundaries, but I know I have to uphold the boundaries because I love myself so much. I know I cannot. I cannot go beyond my limits and still be the person I need to be tomorrow for all the people, right? I will let more people down tomorrow if I let go of my boundaries today, right? All right. Self-respect is self-love. Hvonoring your needs and not sacrificing your well being to please others. Self-respect is self-love. And I I think like we can all nod along and then go, ooh, am I respecting myself? And I will say, the older I get, the easier self-respect is for me to do. The younger I was, the harder it was, right? Because there's like, things that you're like, trying to prove, and you don't want to be liked, and there's all these different things. And so I would just say, like, you know, please explore self-respect with yourself, because if you don't have that, that's like your boundary setting, your self-care, your compassion, your acceptance, I think, is all going to fall under, like the actions you take to respect yourself and then positive self-talk, but consciously replacing negative self-talk with more positive and supportive affirmations. And by the way, if you listen to habit series, it's really hard to do. It's really hard to replace the negative self-talk with positive words, because you have to first, then be aware of the negative self-talk, and you have to, like, get quicker at catching it. So it might take you a whole day right now to catch yourself being an ass to yourself. And then as you are like, okay, I want to have a better, positive self-talk, self-respect, self-compassion, self-care. So that's acceptance, blah, blah, blah. So then maybe you take some of the tools that we're doing, and all of a sudden you realize, whoa, I caught myself talking negatively to myself in half a day. Well, most people are gonna get mad at themselves it took half a day. What you have to do is actually celebrate that it only took half a day, and it can get better. Then it's gonna take you three hours, and then it's gonna take you an hour, and this can take you 30 minutes, and take you three minutes, and it's gonna take you three seconds, that can take years. So give yourself the space and grace and have some positive self-talk and find ways to replace negative things, or maybe tell a friend, like, if you hear me talking about it myself, I need you to do something. Lesley Logan 10:43  In Cambodia, we have a lot of girls who are apologizing all the time. So as soon as anyone said, I'm sorry, we'd also scream, not helpful, not helpful. You know, and it was, it became something we laughed about. It was so funny, we actually realized, like, wow, a lot of times when I'm saying I'm sorry, I really mean, excuse me, right? And that's a better way to replace it. Okay, so why does this matter? Like, why is it important to have any self-love? So what the therapists and psychologists and brain people are saying is, it is a foundation for a happy and fulfilled life, right?Lesley Logan 11:14  So what I interpret that is we can't be it till we see it and just sort of like ourselves. Like, what I don't want you to do is not have that self-love, that's like true self-love, and then envision a woman who you think is going to be the thing you should be being it until you see and you go and be it till you see it, but she also doesn't love herself. Like, that'd mean you get all the destination, and you didn't, you didn't make sure it was like, you know what I mean? Like you just become more of something else, but you're not in love with yourself along the way. And so I definitely want to make sure that as you be it till you see it, part of that is loving yourself like how and maybe that's your work this year is like, I'm gonna be it till I see it in self-love, right? Maybe it's not just like a whole person. Maybe it's an area. Lesley Logan 11:57  Self-love increases self-confidence, self-worth and resilience. And I was like, oh, that's so of course, like, yes, I believe that confidence comes from keeping the commitments you said you would to yourself, okay? It's very easy for a lot of you to keep commitments to other people. So I was very specific, keeping the commitments to yourself that you said you would. That is where self-confidence comes from. But to do that, you have to have all these different areas of self-compassion, self-care, self-love, boundaries, right, self-respect. So when you have self-love, it increases your self-confidence, your self-worth and resilience. And I was like, yes, oh my gosh, that is such an easier way of getting towards having self-confidence, right? It's loving yourself. It leads to healthy relationships with others. You know, we often attract people who mirror a lot about how we feel about ourselves. And like, oh my God, isn't it so embarrassing to, like, look back at the boyfriends you have when you're younger? You're like, what were you thinking? But also, if you think about, like, wow, that's the amount of love I was willing to give myself from myself. So of course, that's what I was willing to accept from somebody else you know. And so if you are in some ways trying to be it till you see it in having a loving, wonderful relationship, I would definitely do some inventory and some self-reflection around what is going on with your self-love. And then another thing of why it's so important is a lack of self-love can contribute to feelings of inadequacy, anxiety, depression and burnout. We're gonna have a series on burnout. So of course, this is going to have an overlap with that.Lesley Logan 13:23  But, you know, I have always said, like, burnout happens when, in the Pilates industry, it happens a lot when people are under-charging and over, you know, working and, yeah, they did that because they have a lack of self-love. Because if you had self-love, you would be charging your worth and keeping your boundaries. Right? Like, a lack of self-love can contribute to feeling of inadequacy. And so like, with all the people with self, imposter syndrome, and I know there's people saying imposter syndrome is, like, made up, but also, like, sure, maybe it is. And also, there's a ton of people who feel inadequate, have anxiety, which is basically fear, okay? Gay Hendricks, in his book says anxiety and fear are the same thing. And depression, well, of course, I mean, I think you can love yourself and still have a low day, so I'm not going to say you won't ever be depressed, but it is going to contribute to those feelings. And so I do wonder, like, if the more we have some self-respect, self-compassion, have positive self-talk, how that is going to improve our feelings of around us, like, does it actually mean that your imposter syndrome just becomes less and less and maybe you only feel it when you're brand new at something? I believe that's it. That's why self I think self-love is even more important than I thought when we started doing the series. Like, I was like, oh yeah, of course, we have to have self-love. Let's figure out how to help people do that. And then I'm like, oh my God, this is so the most important fucking thing we can all be doing. Lesley Logan 14:41  Okay. So what can self-love look like? So some of this stuff is going to sound redundant, but again, I'm saying it all because I think we need to hear the same things in different ways. So some of you might be like, oh, got it. I gotta work on my boundaries. I gotta work on my self-talk. Gone, done. You don't need any more. And some of us are like, okay, I need all these things. But what does it look like? And this is where I am always like, okay, tell me the how. I got it. I'm in. I love it all. I co-sign. Tell me how, right. I'm a how girl. So what does self-love mean to you, and what does it look like? So it can mean talking to and about yourself with love. So, like, one of the things you could do is like, notice this week how you talk about yourself. Are you talking about all the things you messed up when you tell a friend about how the day went? Are you talking about how you, like, did something really amazing, right? Talking to and about yourself with love. I walk around this house and I like, do different things, like, oh my God, wow, I just connected that to that I'm so amazing. Like, I get really pleased with myself when, like, I had to move my Reformer the other day without Brad and I took the carriage out, stood inside the frame, squatted down, like I was doing a little like deadlift, and then, like, move the frame and put the thing out. I'm like, so strong. I'm so glad I could be independent. Like that, that is an act of self love, that kind of talk, right? So you, these are, like, there's little things you can do that in every single day, little ways you can do that in every single day. Lesley Logan 16:01  Prioritizing yourself. That self-love looks like prioritizing yourself. Self-love looks like giving yourself a break from self-judgment. So maybe you start to notice you're judging yourself, and you're like, I gotta replace it with positive words. What if you just didn't? What if you just stopped just to go, okay, I'm gonna set a timer for 15 minutes and go do something else, think of something else, like, take a break from the judgment. Okay, maybe it means getting rid of mirrors for a bit. Or, you know, things like, if that, where in your life are you actually judging yourself the most? How can you like? Is there a way you can take a pause from that project? Is there a way that you can set yourself up for success? You're actually like, get like, you can actually give yourself a break from the self-judgment. Self-love can look like trusting yourself, trusting yourself. I think a lot of us get really excited about a decision we make, and then we ask other people how they feel about that, and then we change our decision based on others. And look, I change my decisions a lot based on input from others when I'm like working on a project with the team, whatever. But like, that's not what I'm talking about. Yes, if someone gives you better information, you should bring that in and but also, if you know that you need to sleep for seven hours, and other people are like, oh, I can't believe you only need to sleep for seven hours, trusting yourself is way better than going, hmm, I guess I'm wrong. Maybe. I mean, they said I should sleep for eight hours. If you know, what is it you need. Gotta trust yourself, right? Like, that's some of the best things you can do. I found, like, you know, Brad and I've been like, advocating for our health a lot lately. And one of the things I've noticed that when I talk to my doctors in a way that has I'm advocating myself. I have the paperwork to say, like, when I sleep this many hours a night, I feel like X, Y and Z in the morning. And when I sleep for this many hours a night, I feel like this. And when I do blah, blah, blah, I feel like this. When I do this, when I talk like that, they don't doubt me. They actually go, okay, so what I'm hearing is blank, and what that sounds like is when you do X, Y and Z. So because I'm trusting myself, I'm not going, you know, I mean, when I sleep this many hours, I feel the best when I sleep this many hours, I don't like, I'm not doubting myself, I'm trusting myself. And then, therefore, my doctor and I can work as a team together. And so what I'm saying is, like, oftentimes we don't give off that we trust ourselves. And so other people feel like, Oh, you're asking a question you want me to put in. You want me to like, I'm going to give you some suggestions. And then that doesn't help with the trust, right? Self-love looks like being true to yourself, being true to yourself. And, you know, that goes, that goes hand in hand with one thing we're gonna talk about in a second. So I'll tell that's right when I get to that one. But I just want to say, like, being true to yourself. So if you don't, if you don't know how to be true to yourself, I really need you to take some time. Frances Naudé's episode is around the same one dropping, and she talks a lot about how, like, you have to live at your highest self. And she has some tips on like, how do you be true to yourself? How do you trust yourself? Being nice to yourself is a way to look at self-love. So if you have self-love, you are nice to yourself. You're wondering what self-love looks like, be nice to yourself. What do you if you know you need to get up and go get a glass of water, go do that. That is being nice to yourself, that is listening to yourself, is trusting yourself, right? I used to like, okay, so when I was teaching Pilates, I would go to the bathroom between every single client. Now that I work at a desk most of the time, I have found myself falling into that ADHD thing where I just keep working until like, oh my God, like, I finally have earned the right to go to the bathroom. And someone like voted me and going, ADHD, ladies, you don't need to earn the right to go to the bathroom. Just go to the bathroom. Being nice to yourself is going to the bathroom. It's just like getting up, hitting pause, and that is self-love. That is self-love. Okay, so do you see how, like, all of a sudden, self love becomes so much easier? Yes, some of these things are harder to do, break, taking a break from self-judgment, especially if you've been doing it for your whole life. But you can also just simply be nice to yourself, and that could kick off the self-love ball and domino. Lesley Logan 20:00  All right, setting healthy boundaries. So, at the be true to yourself. One of the things I know about me is I do need time alone. And we had my in-laws came to visit. Was so much fun, but also, like with them here, it meant that I didn't have a lot of time by myself, and so I didn't talk to any of my friends or other family members during that time, not because I didn't want to, but because I knew that I needed the times I could have alone, I needed them alone. Being true to myself was making sure I had time as an introvert to recharge and refuel, and it meant I needed to keep my boundaries up and not give in to oh my God, I feel so bad. I haven't talked to that person. Of course I feel bad. I'm still gonna feel bad, but also I'm not. I can't feel bad and tired and shitty. So loving myself, being true to myself, understanding like, yes, it is. I'm sure some people think it's weird and annoying. I need to have so much time by myself, but I need to do that so I can be there for others, and setting healthy boundaries around that is important. We also, then had a friend who needed to use our guest bedroom 48 hours later. And of course I wanted to help go, yeah, stay as long as you want. No, we just had too many in our, we had two people in our house for 10 days. We have people coming to our house next week. I can't do that, so here's what I can do. And do you want to know something? They're okay with it. They're totally fine with it. They didn't go, oh, what a bitch, like, what a bitch. No, because they, too, have healthy boundaries because they love themselves. So self-love is setting healthy boundaries and keeping them. Lesley Logan 21:24  Forgiving yourself when you aren't being true or nice to yourself. So I love that this is like at the end, because it's like, oh my God, I, like, by time you hear all this, you'd be like, well, here's all the different ways I didn't love myself today. So, forgive yourself, and that is an act of self-love for you today, and you'll just do better the next time, right? So, and I think that this is a really good, like, maybe thing to write down or think about it, just remember that self-love isn't just about loving the easy parts of ourselves. It means loving every single part of ourselves. So even the inner critic, like, in fact, maybe the inner critic just needs to be loved a little bit, right? So, why is it so hard? Why is it so hard to love ourselves? I feel like, oh my God, it's actually just like Lesley just gave out so many different ways I could love myself and it should be so easy. Like, why is it so hard? So this is, well, the patriarchy, we're just gonna say. But seriously, women often struggle with self-love due to societal expectations to prioritize others. Perfectionism is another reason why we have a struggle with self-love and being bombarded with unrealistic beauty and life standards. So it is hard to love ourselves when every single time you look in the magazines and on TV and all this, you're being shown what the standard for beauty and being a wonderful woman is, and you feel like you aren't able to match and meet those so of course, it's hard. You won't. It's like, how you have to like, I mean, if the resiliency you have to have to like, see those people and go, I don't need to look like them, and I'm still amazing. That takes time. So if you are struggling with comparing yourself to what society says is what we're should be living up to, you are not alone. It takes a long time it and what I would say is, like, go back to the things that we did, and what is something easy you can do. Because as you start to build your self love muscle, becomes easier to not fall for the expectations of society, which, by the way, isn't going to be there for you, right? Even if you reach whatever they think the bar is, they're gonna move the bar anyways. So past negative experiences make it hard to love ourselves, right, such as criticism, trauma, feeling undervalued, these things can also deeply impact self-worth. Lesley Logan 23:22  So like, let's be real. Who, the stories that you got from people who were around you in your life at pivotal times, and the experiences you had, those things can affect you, especially if you had a family member or friend who told you you weren't beautiful, you weren't lovable, you weren't pretty. If you heard that and then something like, hey, I feel that, and I really do hope that you are not just doing self-reflection, but actively seeking someone who can help you, because you are so worthy of self-love, and as you've already learned, self-love is so important when it comes to all the other things you want to have in your life, it'd be really hard to have an amazing, wonderful partner who loves you if you don't love yourself, because it's gonna be hard for you to feel and believe that love is true. I'm not saying you can't attract it or that you don't have that. I'm saying like it's just going to be hard for you to believe that it's real and true. Right now I want you to have that, okay? Additionally, cultural conditioning can teach women to be quiet, put others first, and feel guilty for practicing self-care, making self-love seem selfish or out of reach. And I will say that this last part is really important to me. As a woman business owner who serves female mostly, and a few good men clients in our membership, it's online. Women will cancel the membership because of all the demands on them that they feel from others, and they have a hard time putting themselves first because they feel selfish or indulgent or that, you know, I just like, you know, I can't do all of it, so if that's why I do none of it, you know, or I'm only using five minutes at a time, so I should cancel this. The male members never do that. That's not why they quit. They quit because, like, oh, I'm taking three months off for. Surgery, that's when they quit. So I say that because, ladies, we have to take the perfectionism off the table. Love ourselves, be proud of the few minutes we do do and then prioritize those. It is essential. And if you didn't listen to the episode with Amy Ledin, the most recent one we had in December, go listen to that. She's a mom of five with cancer, and she's kicking ass, and she prioritizes her movement. And, you know, I'm not saying that you have to do everything like she does, but I want you to have an example of people can be busy, can have hard lives, and still can love themselves enough to put themselves first, right? Lesley Logan 25:35  All right. So the other things, obviously, we have societal, cultural pressures. So there's prioritizing others. Women are often socialized to be caregivers. Definitely have to be the caregivers. They're often because we are still paid less. They're often the ones that need to leave the workplace, if that's what's needed in a family, someone gets sick. We obviously know we have a lot of women who listen to the show, who are in the sandwich generation, and so it's really, it really does mean that you put other people first, and over time, that means maybe not loving yourself as much as you could be, and that is affecting other areas in your life and your belief in yourself and what you can do and what's possible. So I'm not saying don't take care of others. What I'm saying is you have to prioritize yourself first and then take care of others. Because truly, your ability to care for others isn't a Venn diagram of what you can actually do, and where I see a lot of people struggle with that, we'll talk more about it in burnout series when they give more, right? So love yourself enough. Prioritize yourself over others. Other reasons why it's really hard for us as women is unrealistic expectations. We talked about that with society, the standard of beauty, blah, blah, blah. Oh my God, the motherhood bull crap. Oh my, the Instagram on, on, you know, all this trad wife stuff like, if that's what you want, that's what you want, that's great. But ladies, you do not have to be that as a mom, you can be whatever you want, right? So what are these unrealistic expectations people are putting on us suck? So what are the expectations you want for yourself? I can be true to that. That's self-love, right? And then obviously society has this immense pressure for us to be perfect. The past experience, in personal history, in your childhood experience, so remember, that's the childhood experience you had. Those like early experience with caregivers and emotional neglect or inconsistent caregiving, that can lead to a belief that you're not inherently lovable, which makes it really hard to love yourself. So a great book to explore, this is, What Happened to You? I love this book is with Oprah and Dr. Bruce Perry, and I think it's a really great way to have empathy for yourself, but also empathy for others. So obviously, so many people experience trauma, especially as children, that can affect your ability to love yourself. There could have been a life event. You could have gone self-love all day long, and then a life event happened. And so one, be, have so much compassion for yourself. And then let's figure out where, where that happened, and what are these things that we talked about so far that could help you work on that self-love? Feeling undervalued. So you know, when we're underpaid or under supported, or we're not aware of our worth and demanding that because we don't have our boundaries up, we're gonna feel undervalued. That's going to affect our self-love, right? That's really hard. So, and then there's internalized beliefs, the shoulds the guilt or the need for external validation. So if you are someone who is needing external validation to love yourself, it is going to be hard, right? So we do have to figure out a way around that. That might be you have to do something within therapy to do that, because many women tie their worth to external achievements and validation they receive from others, rather than internal sense of self-acceptance. And so if you don't have an internal sense of self-acceptance. It's hard to have that self-compassion, and if you're always waiting for someone else to love you before you love yourself, it makes it really hard to receive that love, right? Lesley Logan 28:28  So okay, in the next episode, we're going to go around some tools for self-love. There's some great books that I want to give you. There's some mantras I want to give you, but what I'd love for you to do as your homework, as I would just love for you to like reflect upon this, maybe listen to it again. What were the things that stood out in the self-love that surprised you, or maybe good and you're like, oh, that's, that's where I'm struggling right now. I would love to know, I'd love for you to share it. You can share it via beitpod.com/questions. You can bring it as a you know, just share that. You can leave it in a review. You can comment on this video on YouTube or on our Instagram, because I would love to hear like what a part of self-love is easy for you, what part is a challenge for you. And by the way, my ADHD ladies, it is harder for us because internalized negative feedback. Women with ADHD may have a lifetime of being misunderstood or criticized for symptoms leading them to believe that they are inherently flawed, and so a lot of women with ADHD are diagnosed late, if at all, and so they're often like, there's like, oh my God, there's something wrong with me. I don't I don't fit in the way people do, and so they have a hard time with self-love. So hi, my ADHD ladies, this part, I wanted to make sure you knew it. It can be harder for us, right? Blaming oneself for failures like because there's a tendency to attribute failures to internal flaws and successes to luck, personal factors, which damages self-esteem, which makes it hard to have self-love. There's a hightened sensitivity to rejection. So women with ADHD are often more highly sensitive to feedback or rejection, leading them to interpret things more negatively. And personally, I see you, and that means it's harder to have self-compassion, right? So, and then also, women with ADHD, often go through a shame cycle. This sensitivity can lead to a cycle of shame and self-criticism, making it difficult to accept strengths or celebrate achievements, which is why we have a wins day. We win on Friday, like we have a wins day, win, W-I-N-S day on purpose, because I need that for me to keep having the self-love it because it's hard for me, like it's hard for me to go ever, like with the ADHD, with all that stuff, it's like, can be so hard to celebrate things until they're done. So I purposely have this in place so that there is a celebration of wins every single Friday for all of us, so that we can have, maybe we can get rid of that shame cycle just a little bit right, and have more ease and self-love. And then lastly, societal expectations. So on top of what we talked about, societal expectations on women in general, combined with undiagnosed or late diagnosed ADHD symptoms, can lead to feelings of measuring up and harsh self judgment. That harsh self-judgment, as we know, makes it hard to have self-love, self-compassion, kind words. Lesley Logan 30:55  You're all so amazing. I really hope that you guys are liking these little series. If there are other ones, you have topics you want us to bring up, or guest we want to bring in, please let us know. Right now, what part of the self-love comes easy for you, what part is hard, and then stay tuned to our next episode, where we'll go over some tools. Thanks so much until next time, Be It Till You See It. Lesley Logan 31:14  That's all I got for this episode of the Be It Till You See It Podcast. One thing that would help both myself and future listeners is for you to rate the show and leave a review and follow or subscribe for free wherever you listen to your podcast. Also, make sure to introduce yourself over at the Be It Pod on Instagram. I would love to know more about you. Share this episode with whoever you think needs to hear it. Help us and others Be It Till You See It. Have an awesome day. Be It Till You See It is a production of The Bloom Podcast Network. 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In this episode, we're joined by M.Ed, Master Life Coach, and IFS Practitioner Andrea Tessier to explore how the next-level version of you is already inside—she is just crowded by protective parts. Andrea introduces the power of Internal Family Systems (IFS) to help you build unshakeable self-trust and step into a model of liberated leadership.Tune in to learn:How to identify and unblend from the protective sub-personalities—like the perfectionist, inner judge, and people-pleaser—that create hesitation in your leadership.The secrets to navigating the cycle of self-doubt and over-responsibility by shifting from generic external roadmaps to your own internal guidance.Practical ways to use the power tool of unblending to regain your agency and create space for compassionate self-leadership when you feel internal resistance.How to lead from your wise, calm core to make bold decisions and step into your authority with grace and courage.By learning to navigate your internal world with compassion, you unlock the ability to lead your business and life from a place of deep alignment.Free Gift: Self-Trust Starter KitThe Self-Trust Starter Kit is a powerful introduction to Internal Family Systems (IFS) and shows you how to understand the parts of you that create self-doubt, hesitation, and overthinking. Inside, you'll learn how to work with these protective patterns so you can build genuine, embodied self-trust from the inside out. If you're ready to make confident decisions, honour your inner wisdom, and lead yourself with clarity, this guide will show you where to begin.Andrea's Giveaway Contribution: IFS Coaching Experience 90-minute IFS Coaching Experience—a deep, personalized session designed to help you understand the parts driving your patterns and reconnect with the clarity of your Self. Together, we'll explore what's been blocking your confidence and map out a customized path forward so you can lead yourself with greater ease, alignment, and conviction. You'll walk away with a personalized roadmap and a renewed sense of inner authority (Valued at $500!).Connect with Andrea: Website | Instagram---Enter the Book Launch Celebration Giveaway!

In this episode, we are joined by Wellness and Empowerment Coach Megan Caldwell to explore how high-achieving women can get off autopilot and break free from the endless chase for "balance." Megan introduces her ROCKSTAR Framework™, a holistic approach designed to help you move from a monotonous state of "doing" to a life of deeper presence, energy, and actual fun.Tune in to learn:Why color-coding the perfect planner and checking all the boxes still leaves many high-achieving women feeling disconnected and exhausted.The secrets to breaking free from the cycles of people-pleasing and perfectionism that lead to repeated rounds of burnout.How to implement the ROCKSTAR Framework™ to prioritize value-aligned action and stop treating fun as an afterthought.Practical ways to practice "Permission Granting"—identifying where you've been living for others and choosing to follow your own curiosity instead.It's time to stop going through the motions and start taking the value-aligned action required to feel like the rockstar of your own life. Free Gift: Guided Meditation & Planning CallReady to decrease your overwhelm right now? Receive two free gifts: a 5-minute Guided Release & Reset Meditation and a private 30-minute Increase Your Energy, Get Control of Your Calendar and Feel Like a Total Rockstar Breakthrough Planning call with Megan Caldwell!Megan's Giveaway Contribution: ROCKSTAR Foundation CourseThe ROCKSTAR Foundation Course is designed to help you gain clarity on what is most important and create the roadmap to help you get into action.  Feeling stuck or overwhelmed, this course will help you get back into alignment with what it is you truly desire for yourself and your life. Connect with Megan: Website | Podcast | Instagram ---Enter the Book Launch Celebration Giveaway!

Dr Kirk Honda answers patron emails and interviews Dr Mark Whittington about using metaphors in therapy. For more info on Dr Whittington go to: https://metaphoricaltherapy.com/about/dr-mark-whittington/ February 9, 2026This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.00:00 When should I be concerned about body image issues in my relationship? 29:29 How do you treat perfectionism? 45:57 Metaphor Therapy with Dr. Mark Whittington 1:13:47 Where else can Dr. Mark Whittington be found? Become a member: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOUZWV1DRtHtpP2H48S7iiw/joinBecome a patron: https://www.patreon.com/PsychologyInSeattleEmail: https://www.psychologyinseattle.com/contactWebsite: https://www.psychologyinseattle.comMerch: https://psychologyinseattle-shop.fourthwall.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/psychologyinseattle/Facebook Official Page: https://www.facebook.com/PsychologyInSeattle/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kirk.hondaThe Psychology In Seattle Podcast ®Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com(By The Daily Telegraph. Copyright holders of the image of Madeleine at three are Kate and Gerry McCann. The age-progressed image was commissioned by Scotland Yard from forensic artist Teri Blythe for release to the public. Both images have been widely disseminated by the copyright holders, and have been the subject of significant commentary., Fair use, https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?curid=39861556)

There is a particular kind of frustration that comes from knowing yourself well enough to recognize a pattern, and still feeling unable to stop it. You understand what you are doing. You may even understand why. And yet the behavior keeps showing up anyway. In this conversation, I'm sitting down with licensed marriage and family therapist and mental health educator Kati Morton to talk about why habits that no longer serve us can be so hard to change. Not because we lack insight or discipline, but because many of these patterns began as emotional coping habits. At one point, they helped us feel safer, more connected, or more in control. Over time, they quietly turned into ways we stay stuck. We explore how early relationship experiences shape perfectionism and control patterns, why self-sabotaging behaviors make sense once you understand the nervous system's role in survival, and how shame keeps habits locked in place rather than motivating change. Kati shares why willpower is rarely the solution, and what compassionate habit change actually looks like when you stop trying to override yourself and start listening instead. We also talk about what happens when these patterns show up inside relationships, how to raise concerns without controlling or shaming your partner, and why understanding the function of a habit matters far more than trying to eliminate it. This episode is about breaking habits that keep you stuck by learning how to meet the underlying need in a healthier, more sustainable way. As you listen, I invite you to reflect on this question: What has this behavior been doing for me, and what might become possible if I approached myself with more curiosity and less judgment? Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why willpower is not enough to change habits 03:49 How early relationship blueprints shape behavior 08:51 Perfectionism, people pleasing, and self-abandonment 12:25 Conditional love and control patterns 18:06 Nervous system regulation and survival responses 24:04 Emotional coping habits outside of relationships 31:03 Why shame reinforces habits 37:54 Addressing the root instead of cutting off symptoms 44:27 Supporting change in relationships without control 50:53 More from Kati Morton If this episode brought clarity to patterns you have been struggling with, and you would like support as you work toward change that actually lasts, I want to extend a personal invitation. You can schedule a free consultation with me or a member of my team. This is a private, secure space where you will answer three quick questions so we can help match you with the right counselor or coach for what you are navigating right now. Think of it as a thoughtful starting place, not a commitment. Just support, perspective, and help finding the right next step. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Growing Self Special thanks to this month's sponsors of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast: Shopify — The all-in-one platform for building and growing your online business. Visit shopify.com/lhs  to explore their tools and access exclusive listener discounts. Working Genius — A powerful assessment that helps entrepreneurs and leaders focus on what they naturally do best. Get 20% off with code LHS at workinggenius.com

Do you ever feel like you're being measured — even when no one is saying anything out loud? Measured by how you look. By how your kids behave. By how put-together your life appears. By what other moms seem to be doing better than you. Maybe you don't call it “image.” Maybe you call it pressure. Or comparison. Or trying not to fail. Or just wanting to be seen as a good mom. In today's episode, we continue our series on the sneaky things that steal our joy by talking about another quiet idol in our culture: the idol of image. Not just caring what people think — but letting what people think shape how you live. We talk about how image takes over when: • You feel anxious about how others see your parenting • You hide your struggles instead of asking for help • You compare your life to what you see online • You perform instead of rest • You feel like you have to hold everything together This episode will help you: • Recognize where image is driving your choices • Understand why it leaves you exhausted and insecure • See how comparison is robbing you of peace • Learn how to live from identity instead of performance • Begin trading pressure for freedom and approval for peace If you've been feeling tense, unseen, or like you're never quite enough — this conversation will help you name what's really going on underneath it. You were never meant to manage an image. You were meant to live from who God says you are. And that's where freedom begins. love, Brittany    Ready to become a peaceful wife and Mama? Sign Up for the Pain to Peace Academy HERE. Come say hi and join the Morning Mama Facebook Group! I would love to hear your story and know your name.    ALL THE LINKS FOR ALL THE THINGS! Morning Mama Website Pain to Peace Academy Morning Mama Facebook Group Follow Us on Instagram Find a Restoration Therapist Come say hi by emailing hello@morningmamapodcast.com

If your bright child avoids tasks or seems unmotivated, it's not laziness. Why smart kids struggle often comes down to a dysregulated nervous system and executive functioning challenges. Dr. Roseann Capanna-Hodge, expert in Regulation First Parenting™, shows how understanding regulation transforms behavior.Parenting a gifted child can feel like walking a tightrope. You know your child is capable of great things, yet the constant battles over homework, chores, or tasks leave you questioning yourself. Why are smart kids struggling so much, even when they have all the abilities to succeed? Understanding why smart kids struggle can transform your parenting approach and help your child thrive without shame, pressure, or frustration. By the end, you'll have actionable steps to support regulation, executive functioning, and motivation—so the “lazy” label finally makes sense.Why does my gifted child avoid starting tasks?Many parents of gifted children notice that their kids stall before beginning tasks. It's tempting to think they're unmotivated, but the truth is rooted in brain regulation.Underactive prefrontal cortex: Your child's brain may lack the “go” signal for planning and initiating.Overactive emotional center: They feel failure deeply, so avoidance feels safer.Low mental energy: Bright brains burn through energy quickly, leaving little for sustained effort.

n this powerful and deeply validating episode of A Heartfelt Chat with Dr. Foojan, Dr. Foojan Zaine sits down with Agatha Peters, Nigerian-American psychotherapist, founder of Beautiful Sunshine Therapy, and author of Trapped in Their Script: Reclaim Your Life from Narcissistic Parents and Cultural Expectations. This conversation shines a light on the hidden emotional abuse experienced by adult children of narcissistic parents—especially within collectivist, immigrant, and African cultures, where family loyalty is often prioritized over individual mental health and emotional safety. Drawing from clinical expertise and lived experience, Agatha Peters breaks down what narcissistic personality disorder really is (and what it is not), how narcissistic parents cause long-term psychological harm, and why cultural expectations can make healing feel nearly impossible. Together, Dr. Foojan and Agatha explore how survivors can begin healing without completely abandoning their culture, identity, or family ties. If you struggle with people-pleasing, guilt, chronic self-doubt, emotional manipulation, or identity loss, this episode offers clarity, validation, and real therapeutic guidance. ⏱️ Clickable Timestamps 00:00 – Introduction & episode overview 01:19 – Meet Agatha Peters: psychotherapist, author, and survivor 03:00 – What narcissistic personality disorder really is (clinical perspective) 06:24 – Narcissistic parents vs. “self-centered” behavior 07:45 – Emotional abuse, gaslighting, and walking on eggshells 09:28 – Why children blame themselves and perform for approval 10:19 – Why narcissistic parents don't seek therapy or change 10:22 – Agatha's personal journey growing up with a narcissistic parent 12:10 – The first step to healing: accepting you can't change them 13:20 – Gaslighting, reality confusion, and the power of journaling 14:41 – Living someone else's life & never being “good enough” 15:58 – Separating your identity from your parent 16:14 – Cultural authoritarian parenting vs. narcissistic abuse 17:27 – Jealousy, competition, and never meeting expectations 18:12 – Perfectionism, achievement, and internalized shame 18:51 – About the book Trapped in Their Script 19:09 – Cultural expectations, loyalty, and immigrant family pressure 20:40 – Is healing possible? Hope, growth, and emotional freedom 21:24 – Choosing yourself without betraying your roots 22:25 – “Love is not supposed to hurt” 23:13 – Where to find Agatha Peters and her work 23:43 – Closing message & empowerment

Is building a personal brand actually optional for healthcare providers anymore—or has it become a requirement for long-term freedom and impact? In this episode, Dr. Lauryn sits down with registered nurse and online business mentor Alyssa Schomaker to unpack why personal branding is no longer a “nice to have” for providers who want to scale beyond one-to-one care.Together, they dive into what it really takes to build a profitable online business from zero followers, why niching down is non-negotiable in 2026, and how organic content—not ads—can fuel sustainable growth. Alyssa shares hard-earned insights on overcoming perfectionism, building trust with small audiences, and creating scalable offers that don't lead to burnout. If you're a healthcare provider feeling stuck, bored, or boxed in by traditional models, this conversation will challenge how you think about growth, visibility, and freedom.Key TakeawaysPersonal branding is no longer optional for healthcare providers who want to scale impact, income, and autonomy beyond one-to-one care.Niching down accelerates growth and trust, even with a small audience, and makes organic marketing far more effective.Organic content beats ads early on, allowing providers to build credibility, community, and sustainable revenue without sacrificing profit margins.Perfectionism is the biggest growth blocker, and B-minus action consistently outperforms polished content that never gets posted.About the GuestAlyssa Schomaker is a registered nurse, online business mentor, and founder of Freedom Collective Co® and the Online Health Business Academy™. She built her first online health coaching brand to six figures in its first year, eventually scaling to seven figures and helping over 14,000 women transform their lives. Today, Alyssa helps health and wellness practitioners, clinicians, and physicians build personal brands, create premium scalable offers, and grow simple, sustainable online businesses that expand impact without burnout.Work with Alyssa and Freedom Collective CoFollow Alyssa on InstagramResourcesFollow Dr. Lauryn: Instagram | X | LinkedIn | FacebookFollow She Slays on YouTubeSign up for the Weekly Slay newsletter!Mentioned in this episode:To learn more about CLA and the INSiGHT scanner go to the link below and enter code SHESLAYS when prompted.CLADo you need help in your practice with the busy work that you or your staff don't like doing? If you said yes, then you've got to check out the virtual chiropractic assistants offered by Chiro Matchmakers.Chiro MatchmakersHolistic Marketing HubHolistic Marketing HubGo from surviving to thriving with Genesis Chiropractic Software. Learn more and get your special discount using the link...

Perfectionism has a sneaky way of showing up in fitness, even when your intentions are good. It sounds like needing the perfect plan, the perfect week, or the perfect amount of motivation before you start. And when something doesn't go exactly right, it can feel easier to stop altogether than to keep going imperfectly. In this episode, I talk about why that mindset keeps so many women stuck, not because they don't care or don't try, but because the pressure to do everything perfectly makes consistency feel impossible.  I walk through what your body actually needs to adapt and change, why repeated effort matters more than flawless execution, and how learning to show up imperfectly is what builds real momentum. This is about releasing the pressure and choosing habits you can return to, even when life feels messy. Here is what you will learn: • Why perfect plans usually fall apart in real life • How all-or-nothing thinking interrupts progress • What your body actually responds to when it comes to change • Why repetition matters more than intensity • How imperfect follow-through builds confidence over time If this episode resonated, you may also enjoy: Episode 556: 5 Mindset Swaps That Made Motivation Irrelevant If you want more from me, be sure to check out…  Follow me on Instagram: @juliealedbetter | @embraceyourreal | @movementwithjulie Movement With Julie | App: https://sale.movementwithjulie.com/ Macro Counting Made Simple Online Academy: https://www.macrocountingmadesimple.com/ Website: www.juliealedbetter.com

What if the reason you haven't finished the thing you keep thinking about isn't motivation, discipline, or follow-through — but fit? In this episode, Eric is joined by Katherine Mutti Driscoll, PhD, an AuDHD coach, educator, and author, for a conversation that starts with writing a book and quickly becomes something much bigger: how neurodivergent adults actually get meaningful work done. They explore why so many ADHD and AuDHD adults carry "someday projects" for years, how structure (not willpower) turns intention into action, and why unmasking isn't just about identity — it's about designing systems that work with your nervous system instead of against it. Writing is the case study. Adaptation is the point. In This Episode, We Talk About Why motivation isn't the real problem for ADHD and AuDHD adults How an interest-based nervous system shapes creativity and follow-through The role of structure, deadlines, and external accountability in finishing big projects ADHD, autism, and the balance between novelty and predictability Unmasking your process and letting go of "normal" ways of working Why you don't have to love the process to do meaningful work Perfectionism, imposter syndrome, and surviving the one-star review Dictation, movement, printing drafts, and other non-traditional workflows How support, containers, and community make progress possible A Key Takeaway You don't need to become more disciplined. You need a container that fits. When the system works for your brain, the work has a chance to happen. About the Guest Katherine Mutti Driscoll, PhD is an AuDHD coach, educator, and author. She holds a PhD in education, is trained through the International ADHD Coach Training Center and Impact Parents, and is currently studying to become a mental health counselor. Katherine is the author of The ADHD Workbook for Teen Girls and is currently working on her second book focused on Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. Website: https://catherinemuttidriscoll.com Book (The ADHD Workbook for Teen Girls, New Harbinger): https://www.newharbinger.com/9781648482809/the-adhd-workbook-for-teen-girls/ Resources & Links Mentioned ADHD reWired (podcast, resources, and programs): https://www.adhdrewired.com ADHD reWired Coaching & Accountability Groups: https://www.adhdrewired.com/arc Adult Study Hall (ADHD-friendly virtual coworking): https://www.adultstudyhall.com Internal Family Systems (IFS / parts work): https://ifs-institute.com Interest-Based Nervous System (ADDitude overview): https://www.additudemag.com/interest-based-adhd-nervous-system/

Ayurveda can feel deeply nourishing and also overwhelming especially when you've been learning for a long time and don't know where to begin, how to stay consistent, or how to soften self-pressure along the way. In this solo Ayurveda Q&A episode, Colette answers thoughtful questions from the Elements of Ayurveda Podcast Community, exploring how to work with overwhelm, perfectionism, and stress through the lens of daily habits, nervous system health, and rhythm rather than rigidity. This episode is an invitation to approach your health with more awareness, curiosity, and compassion, and to remember that healing doesn't require doing everything perfectly, it asks us to show up gently and consistently. In this episode, you'll learn: Where to begin with Ayurveda when you've absorbed a lot of information and feel overwhelmed Why daily habits are one of the most underestimated, yet powerful tools for long-term healing How perfectionism can arise from different doshic patterns, especially Vata nervous system instability and Pitta rigidity or intensity Practical ways to soften perfectionism and support the nervous system through grounding, rhythm, and compassion How to stay consistent with Ayurvedic routines during busy or stressful periods without relying on willpower Why community, shared reflection, and support play a vital role in sustainable healing A contemplative closing reflection on shifting from self-criticism to curiosity Mentioned in this episode: Elements of Ayurveda Podcast Community   A conscious, supportive online space to deepen your Ayurvedic journey together, including: Early access to podcast episodes Monthly live Zoom meetups Member forums for discussion and Q&A Mindfulness and self-care practices Seasonal group challenges Check out all the details on the community here... https://www.elementshealingandwellbeing.com/community Daily Habits for Holistic Health  A 28-day self-paced online program designed to help you bring Ayurvedic wisdom into lived, daily practice. Click here for details on this program https://www.elementshealingandwellbeing.com/daily-habits Online Ayurvedic Consultations Personalised guidance for diet, lifestyle, and daily rhythms tailored to your unique constitution and life circumstances. Book your consulation here... https://www.elementshealingandwellbeing.com/consultations Episode 8 - Ayurveda and the Circadian Rhythms Sponsor: This episode is supported by Kerala Ayurveda Academy, offering comprehensive Ayurvedic education for beginners, advanced students, and wellness professionals online, in person, and through their immersive ALL Levels India Immersion Trip (Summer 2026) where you'll learn and heal through authentic Ayurvedic traditions in their place of origin. Early bird registrants receive $500 off when you enroll by March 1. As a special bonus, receive $50 off tuition for a beginner long-term Ayurvedic Training Program, or 10% off any short program, when you apply or register using the code ELEMENTS. Links Visit keralaayurveda.us/courses. India Immersion: https://www.keralaayurveda.us/courses/indiaimmersion/ Certification Trainings: https://www.keralaayurveda.us/courses/ayurvedic-certifications/ Short Programs: https://www.keralaayurveda.us/courses/programs/continuing-education/ Check out Colette's online services:  Online Consultations https://www.elementshealingandwellbeing.com/consultations At-home Digestive Reset Cleanse https://www.elementshealingandwellbeing.com/digestive-reset-cleanse Online Daily Habits for Holistic Health Program https://www.elementshealingandwellbeing.com/daily-habits Reset-Restore-Renew Program https://www.elementshealingandwellbeing.com/reset-restore-renew Have questions on Colette's online services? Book a FREE 15 min Services Enquiry Call here. https://www.elementshealingandwellbeing.com/consultations Do I have an accumulation of ama/toxins in my body? Take this quiz to find out https://www.elementshealingandwellbeing.com/resources Stay connected on the Elements Instagram https://www.instagram.com/elementsofayurvedapodcast/ and Facebook https://www.facebook.com/elementshealingandwellbeing Thank you for listening! If this episode supported you, please consider leaving a review and if you think this information would be helpful to family or friends, please share this episode so we can spread this wisdom of Ayurveda.  Stay tuned and stay aligned with the Elements of Ayurveda Podcast. Thanks for listening!

The Workplace Problem No One Trains Leaders For: Grief Grief doesn't politely stay home. It shows up in meetings, deadlines, silence, irritability, and decisions that suddenly feel harder than they used to. And most leaders don't recognize it when it arrives. Instead, grief at work gets mislabeled as disengagement, attitude, or a performance problem. In this deeply personal episode of The Leadership Sandbox, Tammy J. Bond steps into a conversation leaders are rarely trained to handle—but are guaranteed to face. Drawing from her own experience with sudden loss and ongoing family challenges, Tammy unpacks how grief quietly impacts capacity, behavior, and trust inside organizations. This is not a therapy episode. This is a leadership episode.     In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why grief doesn't "end" when bereavement leave does How grief shows up at work in ways leaders often misinterpret The difference between a performance issue and a capacity issue Why treating grief like a character flaw erodes trust Three practical leadership moves that create safety without lowering standards How to apply the COMMAND Leadership Operating System to moments of grief What it really means to lead humans—not just workflows     What Grief Often Looks Like at Work: Slower thinking and decision fatigue Missed details or forgetfulness Irritability or a shorter fuse Withdrawal in meetings Perfectionism or micromanaging Being present—but not fully functional These are not motivation problems. They are capacity challenges.     Leadership Moves That Matter: Name reality without making it weird Create a capacity plan—not a sympathy speech Keep the standard and adjust the path Grief doesn't remove accountability. It requires clearer priorities and fewer moving parts.     COMMAND in Action: Claim Reality – Grief exists in your workforce whether you acknowledge it or not Own Impact – Your response sets the emotional temperature Map the System – Leave, workload, coverage, expectations Move the Behavior – Check-ins, clarity, flexibility with structure Anchor the Standard – Humanity and accountability can coexist Normalize Accountability – Fewer priorities, clearly measured Deploy & Defend – Protect people from being punished for being human     Bottom Line Grief isn't a performance issue first. It's a capacity issue. And capacity is a leadership responsibility. If you only know how to lead people on their best days—you don't yet know how to lead.     Listen & Share If this episode resonated, share it with a leader, manager, or team member who could benefit from a more human approach to leadership during hard seasons.      

Do you know how much your subconscious patterns are quietly shaping your relationships, reactions, and everyday life? Victoria sits down with Thais Gibson, PhD, renowned attachment theory expert, researcher, and founder of the Personal Development School, for a grounded, eye-opening masterclass on attachment, emotional healing, and the subconscious mind. Thais breaks down the four attachment styles and her six practical paths to healing, while Victoria experiences a vulnerable, real-time emotional unlock that brings the science into lived experience. Tune in if you want to understand your triggers, shift long-standing relationship patterns, and learn actionable tools to build more secure attachment in your relationships and daily life.Want to go deeper? Check out the Personal Development School at personaldevelopmentschool.com and use code PDS2026 for 20% off her 90-day Attachment Healing Membership.Follow Thais on Instagram: @thepersonaldevelopmentschoolPlease note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Beth Feraco joins us to unpack why rushing fat loss often backfires - and what actually needs to be in place before results can stick.This conversation explores readiness, stability, and why slowing down is often the fastest path forward.Connect with Beth:IG: https://www.instagram.com/bethferacofitness/TIK TOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@bethferacofitnessPODCAST: https://www.cutthecrappod.com/‣ Apply to Join Dieting From The Inside Out Here: https://inquire.hamiltontrained.com‣ Grab the Food Noise Solution Guide Here: https://inquire.hamiltontrained.com/food-noiseTIMESTAMPS:(00:00) - Time-based fat loss goals and why they backfire(01:35) - What's new with Beth(05:25) - Readiness before advanced fat loss goals(08:24) - Dieting on top of food noise & poor relationship with food makes everything worse(10:11) - Keeping systems simple during chaotic seasons(12:26) - Perfectionism vs consistency in weight loss(15:05) - Why “all-or-nothing” thinking sabotages progress(16:58) - Comparison and chasing other people's results(20:03) - GLP-1s and scope-of-practice concerns(21:03) - Why not all weight loss is good weight loss(25:27) - How to decide who to trust online(30:33) - Menopause, habits, and the boring basics that matter(33:15) - Why lifestyle changes still matter in midlife(38:59) - Awareness, data, and catching weight gain earlier(40:01) - Traits of clients who keep results long-term(42:57) - Where to find Beth(43:31) - Outro + resources

Things are heating up in the Weekly Accountability Time Management Class, and this episode is all about one of the most important topics for any working actor: how to refresh your toolkit for 2026. I have five essential points to cover that will help you align your tools with the actor you are becoming. Let's get started. Align Your Tools with the Actor You Are Becoming Every piece of your toolkit should answer one question: What are the roles that I am calling in with my tools? Your headshots, your reels, your clips, your website, your resume—they aren't random. They are signals to casting directors. They are signals to producers. They are signals to writers and directors. If your tools reflect who you were five years ago, they can't sell who you are now and who you want to become. Think about 2026 by asking yourself: Does this material tell the story of the actor I want to be booked as today and in the future? As Marianne Williamson says, we are powerful beyond measure when we act with intention. And here's a PPR quote for you: Your tools are not decoration. They are direction. Audit Your Materials Without Drama This can be challenging, so I'm just going to warn you ahead of time. Most actors avoid looking at their tools because they attach their entire self-worth to a headshot or a clip. But you cannot update what you refuse to see. Do a calm, natural review: What's working here? What feels outdated? What is missing? Look at your materials like a business owner, not a wounded teenager. Jen Sincero, author of the Badass books, says: What you choose to focus on expands. So I don't want you focusing on that wounded teenager or that wounded child. I want you to be focusing on who you are today and who you want to become—the actor you are today and the actor you want to become. Update Your Target Lists with Precision We talk about this in the weekly accountability and time management class all the time, so listen up. Your career is not the industry as a whole. Your career is a specific group of casting directors, agents, managers, and creatives who are a fit for you. Just for you. Once a month, I want you to be cleaning up your list. Remove people who no longer make sense to you anymore. Add the new shows, offices, and companies that are a match of where you want to be heading. Precision makes your outreach more effective and less emotional. Again, Jen Sincero: You're going to have to push past your comfort zone if you want to change. You can't have the career you want being the person that you are. You need to change. A vague career plan creates vague results. We don't want to be vague. Simplify Your Marketing So You Can Actually Do It Hello? If you can't actually do it, it's not good time management. An overcomplicated system will die by February. Your marketing needs to be simple enough that you can maintain it on a busy week. A basic outreach schedule. A template email. A simple tracking sheet or a simple tracking system. These things are enough. The question is not how fancy is my system and how impressive is it. The question is: Will I be able to use this when I'm tired? Gabrielle Bernstein says: When you relax, you receive. And my quote is: If your system is exhausting, it's not a system, it's a stall tactic. Ooh, ouch. Did you just go, oof? Did you just go, oh, PPR, how could you? Yeah, that's a bit of a stab in the gut. And here's a bonus: Perfectionism leads to procrastination, leads to paralysis. Commit to One Improvement Each Month Instead of trying to overhaul everything all at once, pick one upgrade per month. Maybe in one month you update headshots and you choose the best ones. Or in February or March or April or May you clean up your reel. Or in another month you're refining your resume or a website. This is one of the things I talked about in my class—putting your business on a schedule for 2026. So important to do that. So important to do that. These focused upgrades in a year will move you much further than one frantic burst that burns you out. Remember that your career is built in layers. Join the Weekly Accountability & Time Management Class If you want help with any of this, I'd love to see you in the weekly accountability and time management class. It's super affordable. It's super fun. And guess what? You get a class for free.

What if success isn't about scaling faster, shipping more, or chasing perfection — but about building something so honest it can last for generations?In this episode, I sit down with Gerry Khouri, Founder & Managing Director of Bufori, one of the world's longest-running handcrafted automobile companies. For nearly 40 years, Gerry has gone against almost every rule of modern business — choosing craftsmanship over scale, long-term thinking over short-term returns, and integrity over imitation.We explore what Gerry had to unlearn to stay in the game for decades: the myth of perfection, the pressure of shareholder expectations, and the idea that success must look a certain way. This conversation is a masterclass in leadership, product thinking, and building businesses that endure.Key TakeawaysPerfection is a fantasy — luxury is honesty. Products that last are built on integrity, not impossible standards.Success starts with finishing, not selling. The real win is building something real — everything else is a bonus.Craftsmanship scales through capability, not volume. Deep skills create optionality and diversification.The real competition isn't the market — it's yourself. Long-term builders focus on self-mastery, not rivals.Great businesses are built by people who challenge you, not agree with you.Additional InsightsGerry built his first car in a garage behind his house — bigger than the house itself — with no external funding.Bufori operates debt-free after nearly 40 years, an extreme outlier in modern manufacturing.The company makes more parts in-house than most car manufacturers, turning necessity into innovation.What started as survival-driven resourcefulness became multiple profit centers through engineering services.Leadership longevity comes from unlearning ego, listening deeply, and leading by example.Episode Highlights00:00 – Episode RecapGerry Khouri reflects on a pivotal realization: perfection doesn't build lasting products — honesty, craftsmanship, and long-term thinking do. This mindset reshaped how he built cars, teams, and a business designed to outlive him.02:15 – Guest Introduction: Gerry KhouriBarry introduces Gerry Khouri, founder of Bufori, a handcrafted automobile company that has spent nearly four decades defying the rules of modern manufacturing.04:14 – Building the First Car Against All OddsGerry shares how a backyard hobby, relentless passion, and going against everyone's advice led him to build his first car from nothing.07:10 – Redefining What Success Really MeansSuccess wasn't about money or validation — it was about starting something and finishing it, no matter the odds.11:54 – Leading Without ResourcesWith no books, no mentors, and no capital, Gerry explains how necessity forced invention and deep mastery of craft.19:50 – Unlearning Perfectionism in a Luxury BusinessWhy perfection is an illusion, and how focusing on luxury, durability, and intention keeps products moving forward.23:12 – What Craftsmanship Actually Looks LikeGerry breaks down what it means to truly “make” a product — from designing for repairability to building for generations.27:29 – Competing With Yourself, Not the MarketThe most dangerous competitor isn't another company — it's complacency and losing the hunger to improve.31:10 – Unlearning Shareholder-First ThinkingWhy prioritizing...

Send us a textWhat if your obsession with "healthy eating" is actually making you less healthy? In this episode of The Strong(HER) Way podcast, fitness and nutrition coach Alisha Carlson tackles the uncomfortable truth about orthorexia: the eating disorder disguised as wellness that's silently taking over the lives of high-achieving moms everywhere.This isn't about demonizing clean eating or telling you to give up your health goals. It's about learning the difference between healthy intentionality and harmful rigidity (and understanding how perfectionism around food can sabotage both your mental health AND your actual results).Alisha breaks down the science behind why high-achieving, perfectionist women are especially vulnerable to orthorexic patterns, what it actually looks like in everyday mom life, and most importantly, how to pursue your body composition goals in a way that's sustainable, flexible, and free from obsession.If you've ever felt anxious about eating "off plan," guilt-ridden after enjoying birthday cake, or isolated because of your food rules, this episode is your permission slip to do things differently.What You'll Learn:What orthorexia actually is (and what it's NOT—having goals isn't disordered)Why perfectionist, high-achieving moms are especially prone to orthorexic patternsThe key signs that your "healthy eating" has crossed into disordered territoryHow to tell the difference between healthy structure and rigid food rulesThe science behind why restriction and food anxiety actually sabotage fat lossHow to pursue body composition goals WITHOUT obsession, anxiety, or rigid rulesWhy your relationship with food is affecting your kids more than you thinkA practical roadmap for building flexible structure around nutritionHow to have both food freedom AND make progress toward your health goalsPerfect For:High-achieving moms who meal prep and eat "clean" but feel anxious about foodWomen who have body composition goals but suspect their relationship with food isn't healthyPerfectionist moms who struggle with all-or-nothing thinking around nutritionAnyone who's ever felt guilty, stressed, or isolated because of their food choicesMoms who want sustainable fat loss and muscle building without sacrificing their mental healthKey Takeaways✅ Orthorexia is not just about weight, it's about purity and control. It's an obsessive fixation on "clean" eating that can damage your physical health, mental health, and relationships.✅ Having body composition goals is NOT the same as having an eating disorder/ disordered eating. The difference is in the how, the why, and the cost—not whether you care about what you eat.✅ Perfectionist moms are especially vulnerable. Research shows that socially prescribed perfectionism aka the pressure to excel at everything is one of the strongest predictors of orthorexic behavior.✅ Rigid food rules actually sabotage your results. Chronic food anxiety elevates cortisol, restriction leads to metabolic adaptation, and the all-or-nothing cycle keeps you stuck in yo-yo patterns.✅ You don't have to choose between food freedom and fat loss. Flexible structure—intention without obsession—leads to better long-term results than rigid rules ever will.✅ Your kids are watching and learning from your relationship with food. Healing orthorexic patterns isn't just about you—it's about breaking a generational cycle.✅ Self-compassion isn't soft, it's strategic. Research shows self-compassion leads to MORE consistent behavior change than self-criticism, especially for perfectionist

Listen to my Morning Monologue: I'm sharing my take on pressing issues, enlightening research on human behavior, answering questions I get by email, and my favorite, most instructive interactions with callers. Everything you'll hear is designed to help you become a better spouse, parent, family member, co-worker, friend, and human being. It's the free therapy you need! Call 1-800-DR-LAURA / 1-800-375-2872, email drlaura@drlaura.com, or make an appointment at DrLaura.comFollow me on social media:Facebook.com/DrLauraInstagram.com/DrLauraProgramYouTube.com/DrLauraJoin My Family!!Receive my Weekly Newsletter + 20% off my Marriage 101 course & 25% off Merch! Sign up now, it's FREE!Each week you'll get new articles, featured emails from listeners, special event invitations, early access to my Dr. Laura Designs Store benefiting Children of Fallen Patriots, and MORE! Sign up at DrLaura.com Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Join Alan P. Brown to understand why adults with ADHD are more likely than our neurotypical peers to struggle with poor self-image, and learn how to let go of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and procrastination to get things done. ADHD and Self Esteem: Resources Free Download: Social Anxiety Facts and Falsehoods Read: 25 Positive Affirmations That Uplift ADHD Brains Read: "What Happens When We Begin Logging Tiny Wins" Read: Self-Sabotage and ADHD: Are You Your Own Worst Enemy? Access the video and slides for podcast episode #593 here: https://www.additudemag.com/webinar/adhd-self-esteem-perfectionism-people-pleasing/ This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/additude and get on your way to being your best self. This episode is also brought to you by Neuroclinic USA. Learn more at NeuroclinicUSA.com. Thank you for listening to ADDitude's ADHD Experts podcast. Please consider subscribing to the magazine (additu.de/subscribe) to support our mission of providing ADHD education and support.

Do you ever feel like joy is just out of reach? Is it something you have to work for, fake, or wait for some future version of yourself to finally experience? Heather Creekmore gets it—and she’s opening up in this episode with honesty about her own struggles to feel true joy, even while doing “all the right things” as a Christian. In this episode, Heather Creekmore shares her journey through perfectionism, body image battles, and chasing joy through achievements, life changes, and even motherhood, only to find that joy can’t be manufactured through striving, positivity, or “arriving.” What actually blocks our joy, and how do we finally break free? You’ll hear: The difference between happiness and joy—why this matters more than you might think The three big “joy blockers” and how they can sneak into anyone’s life (even when you know all the right answers!) Vulnerable storytelling about wrestling with body image, marriage, and motherhood, and what happens when joy doesn’t show up as you hoped Practical, faith-based strategies for actually growing in joy—no matter what your circumstances Encouragement to stop chasing “just over yonder” happiness and instead, rest in the truth of where joy is really found A free resource just for you: The “Obsessed to Blessed” mini-course at improvebodyimage.com/obsessed-to-blessed, helping you bookend your search for joy and freedom from body image struggles Whether you’re feeling joyless, weighed down by shoulds, or just yearning for something real and lasting, this conversation is a hug for your soul and a nudge towards real hope. If you’re ready to stop comparing and start living, this episode is a must-listen. Resources Mentioned: Free Mini-Course: “Obsessed to Blessed” – learn more and sign up at improvebodyimage.com/obsessed-to-blessed Work with Heather and her team to find your joy. Learn more here: https://www.improvebodyimage.com/christian-body-image-courses-and-coaching Don’t miss out—press play and rediscover the joy that’s closer than you think! Subscribe, share, and join the community as we break free from comparison and uncover the joy that lasts. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

In this episode Victoria continues the exploration of leadership through the lens of the High Potential Trait Indicator (HPTI), building on the foundation laid in Part One.The conversation focuses on three critical leadership traits: Risk Approach, Ambiguity Acceptance, and Competitiveness — how they show up in individuals, teams, and organizations, and what happens when these strengths are overplayed. Through real-world examples, candid self-reflection, and DISC personality parallels, Victoria and Heather unpack how leaders navigate uncertainty, make decisions, manage conflict, and balance ambition with collaboration.The episode also introduces the concept of leadership derailers — the ways our greatest strengths can turn into liabilities when taken too far. By walking through common derailment patterns like perfectionism, aloofness, excessive caution, and passive resistance, listeners are invited into a practical and compassionate discussion about self-awareness and growth.This episode reinforces that leadership isn't about perfection or titles — it's about learning how to adapt, evolve, and lead effectively in everyday moments, both professionally and personally.Episode Timestamps00:00 – Facilitating opposing viewpoints: why more than one thing can be true00:00:32 – Welcome to Discovering You: Where Personality Meets Possibility00:01:00 – Mood check-in and DISC color conversation00:02:15 – Personal context and emotional awareness in leadership00:03:00 – DISC explained through a football analogy00:03:30 – Recap of HPTI and leadership traits from Part One00:04:00 – Trait #4: Risk Approach explained00:04:30 – High vs. low risk approach and DISC connections00:05:00 – Why risk approach matters in leadership00:05:30 – When high risk becomes a liability00:06:00 – How risk approach shows up in teams and groups00:07:00 – Personal reflections on risk tolerance and decision-making00:08:30 – Trait #5: Ambiguity Acceptance defined00:09:00 – Organizational culture and ambiguity tolerance00:09:30 – Leadership performance under uncertainty00:10:00 – The dangers of excessive ambiguity acceptance00:10:45 – Real-world facilitation examples and collaboration00:12:00 – Overplaying strengths and adaptability in business00:13:30 – Trait #6: Competitiveness explained00:14:15 – Healthy vs. unhealthy competitiveness in leadership00:15:00 – Individual and team dynamics around competition00:16:00 – Competing with others vs. competing with yourself00:18:45 – When competitiveness influences participation and motivation00:19:00 – Leadership derailment: when strengths become risks00:19:30 – Overview of the 10 common leadership derailers00:21:00 – Self-reflection: identifying personal derailment patterns00:22:30 – Perfectionism, excessive caution, and leadership awareness00:23:00 – Growth, coaching, and leadership beyond titles00:24:00 – Closing thoughts and how to learn moreIf you're interested in learning more about team building, coaching, strategic hiring and onboarding, let's connect!discoverwhatworks@gmail.com

Welcome to another episode of Endure to the End with Josh and Caitlin.In this episode, we respond to questions from our Instagram community and dive into a thoughtful discussion about how this generation is living the gospel differently than previous generations.We talk about the difference between doctrine and culture, especially here in Utah. Perfectionism can sometimes creep into church life in ways that aren't really doctrinal at all. We want to be careful not to judge ourselves or others by human standards that God never intended.Service and church callings are meant to help us grow and connect with one another and with God. But enduring doesn't require us to be perfect. It requires us to be sincere, humble, and willing to keep trying.We also explore how we want to teach our children — focusing on gospel principles instead of comparisons. We discuss boundaries, agency, and why growth comes line upon line. Just like you can't cheat running, you can't cheat spiritual progression either.The main takeaway:Give your best effort. Trust God's grace. And don't get trapped chasing an image of perfection.We close with a powerful scripture from Ether 12:27 about weakness, humility, and the sufficiency of grace in our lives.Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enduretotheendpod/Zunex Pest Control: https://www.instagram.com/zunexpestco/00:03 – Welcome and introduction00:25 – Instagram questions from listeners00:43 – Responding to intense submissions01:03 – How this generation lives the gospel differently01:18 – Teaching doctrine over culture02:04 – Perfectionism and cultural pressure02:47 – Avoiding judgment by human standards05:10 – Pressure felt by millennials08:23 – Comparison as the thief of joy10:08 – You can't cheat spirituality11:43 – Scripture about not running faster than strength12:24 – Balancing capacity and grace15:41 – Personal experience with postpartum and callings19:08 – Accountability and agency21:30 – Peace through sincere service24:38 – True closeness with God27:17 – Lessons learned from friction33:09 – Testimony of service41:03 – Becoming more Christlike42:03 – Scripture: Ether 12:2744:16 – Final thoughts44:41 – Closing testimony

Want the Full Episode? Upgrade to the Premium Podcast Experience - https://rachelhollis.supercast.comDive even Deeper in the Coaching Community - Rachel Hollis CoachingCheck out Upcoming Live Events!!In today's episode, Rachel addresses the common struggle of losing momentum with new goals shortly after setting them, especially at the start of a new year. Instead of focusing solely on the goal, she emphasize the importance of building sustainable systems that can support achieving these goals. Let's figure our your system!Get your copy of Rachel's New Book Here: Audible, Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Books-A-Millon, Bookshop.org, or wherever books are sold!00:00 The Excitement and Disappointment of New Year Goals00:39 The Importance of Systems Over Goals01:57 Defining Your 2026 Vision03:32 Building Effective Systems for Success04:41 Recap and Setting Up for February08:52 Personal Health Journey and System Failures14:22 Experimentation and Perfectionism in Systems15:20 Creating Your Personalized System Framework21:18 Exclusive Content and CommunitySign up for Rachel's weekly email: https://msrachelhollis.com/insider/Call the podcast hotline and leave a voicemail! Call (737) 400-4626Watch the podcast on YouTube: http://youtube.com/@MsRachelHollisFollow along on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/MsRachelHollisTo learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Would you like access to our advanced agency training for FREE? https://www.agencymastery360.com/training Do you feel you're giving everything to your agency and only getting exhaustion as a result? Agencies grow best when they're built around clarity, empathy, and self-awareness. Whether it's pricing, boundaries, team management, or AI, the common thread is intention. Today's featured guest understands that you don't need to hustle harder. You need to design smarter, around who you are, how you work best, and what kind of business you actually want to run. She'll share her perspective on agency growth, self-awareness, leadership, and how AI should actually be used inside a modern agency and provide a real look at what it takes to build an agency that's profitable, human, and sustainable without losing yourself in the process. Ingrid Schneider is the CEO and founder of Stay in Your Lane, a fractional CMO and franchise development agency, and Train in Your Lane, an AI education company helping teams build real AI intuition. What started as fractional work after being laid off during the pandemic has grown into a 16-person team running full marketing departments, launching brands, building LMS platforms, and training companies like Ben & Jerry's and Ace Hardware on how to actually use AI to solve problems. In this episode, we'll discuss: Going from survival mode to self-worth: pricing and confidence. How to set boundaries and protect your brain. Design an agency that energizes you, not drains you. Managing people, not just performance with a human-first approach. Subscribe Apple | Spotify | iHeart Radio Sponsors and Resources This episode is brought to you by Wix Studio: If you're leveling up your team and your client experience, your site builder should keep up too. That's why successful agencies use Wix Studio — built to adapt the way your agency does: AI-powered site mapping, responsive design, flexible workflows, and scalable CMS tools so you spend less on plugins and more on growth. Ready to design faster and smarter? Go to wix.com/studio to get started. Building an Agency on Trust and Integrity Ingrid doesn't come from a tidy, linear career path. After being laid off as a CMO during the pandemic, she made the decision to not work for anyone else again. She started doing fractional CMO work to replace her salary, focusing on trust, authenticity, and doing the work well. What began as a solo operation three and a half years ago is now a full team serving a wide range of clients. Some rely on Ingrid's team to run their entire marketing department. Others bring them in for focused, fractional engagements. The growth didn't come from aggressive sales tactics—it came from being reliable, human, and honest about what they were good at. Learning Your Worth and Unlearning Survival Mode When Ingrid landed her first client, she charged $3,000 a month for two brands. And that client still complained about pricing. Like many agency owners, she was focused on replacing her salary, not building a business. Survival mode has a way of shrinking your sense of value. Learning her worth didn't come from a pricing spreadsheet. It came from personal work deconstructing old beliefs, recognizing her own capabilities, and understanding the impact she could have on others. Ingrid talks openly about how her upbringing and past experiences shaped her tendency to underprice herself and overextend. As her confidence grew, so did her standards. She began collecting people with grit, sometimes hiring for attitude over experience, and building a team she trusted deeply. The biggest lesson for her was: if you don't believe in your value, your pricing, and your agency, will reflect that. Preventing Agency Burnout: How to Set Boundaries Running a business can be incredibly stressful, which is why many owners can relate to being in fight or fly mode all the time. However, this is the worst thing for both your health and your business because chronic stress will affect your brain and get you to a point known as "flipping your lid." According to Ingrid, this term, which she learned from Dr. Daniel Siegel, describes what happens when stress pushes you into fight, flight, or freeze. Logic goes offline. Creativity disappears and everything feels harder. For agency owners, this shows up as exhaustion, impatience, and bad decisions, and healing will mean confronting the reality that you can't run a business well if your body and brain are in survival mode. In her case, Ingrid found healing by emphasizing boundaries as a leadership responsibility. Knowing where your value is best served, trusting your team, and recognizing when their lids are flipped allows you to lead with empathy instead of pressure. The agency doesn't need a burned-out hero. It needs a regulated, self-aware leader. Designing an Agency That Energizes You, Not Drains You This is a lesson that agency owners that currently feel miserable with their business and wanting to give up should learn. Drawing your boundaries will look different to everyone, but you can start by asking yourself what you want to do every day and what you never want to do again. Just draw a circle on a piece of paper and start writing. Inside: the work that gives you energy. Outside: everything that drains you. You'll see that most likely what you need is to redesign your agency around this. You can't be all things to all people. Agency that try usually end up miserable and unprofitable. Wins and losses both matter, but only if you're paying attention to what they're teaching you. Topline revenue means nothing if you hate how you're earning it. Sustainable growth comes from aligning what's good for the business with what actually fills your cup. That alignment is what keeps agencies alive long-term. Managing People, Not Just Performance with a Human-First Approach As an empath, Ingrid leads with a people-first approach rooted in Trust-Based Relational Intervention (TBRI). When something goes wrong, she looks at three things in order: herself, the system, and then the person. Are expectations clear? Do they have the resources they need? Is she showing up with patience? Perfectionism isn't the goal in her agency because perfection is stressful, unrealistic, and unnecessary. Instead, the focus is on doing really good work while protecting the team's mental energy. This is where AI comes in, not as a shortcut for thinking, but as a way to remove the minutia that burns people out. This has been the case for Ingrid, who enjoys managing people. If this is not your case, then focus on hiring people who can manage themselves. But remember you have to learn to let go if you want a self-managing team. There are countless ways to reach the same outcome and speed isn't always the metric that matters most. Sometimes the "slow" work produces the best results. Using AI to Empower Teams, Not Create More Noise Ingrid's approach focuses on education and the fact that everyone should be training their AI intuition to be able to understand how an AI tool works and how it could help them. She trained her own intuition by changing her social media algorithms to feed her AI micro-learnings. From there, it became about application: looking at every agency task and asking, Can AI help solve this better? Her team runs weekly "show and tell" sessions where they demo how they used AI to solve real problems. There's also an AI policy but it's framed as a permission slip, not a rulebook. Team members can experiment with tools on a company card, and if they prove value, the agency commits. The bigger point is this: if you're not empowering your team to use AI thoughtfully, you're holding them back. This isn't about pumping out more content—it's about freeing up human brains to do the work that actually matters. Do You Want to Transform Your Agency from a Liability to an Asset? Looking to dig deeper into your agency's potential? Check out our Agency Blueprint. Designed for agency owners like you, our Agency Blueprint helps you uncover growth opportunities, tackle obstacles, and craft a customized blueprint for your agency's success.

Inside episode 88 of the EA Campus podcast, you'll hear a conversation many Executive Assistants will recognise, even if we've never quite named it before. In this episode, we're talking about perfectionism in the EA role. Where it comes from, how it quietly shows up in day-to-day work, and why it can start holding us back rather than helping us do better work.As EAs, we care deeply about standards, accuracy, and getting things right, because our work affects our Executive's time, priorities, and credibility. In The EA Campus Ep88, we explore how those high standards can slowly turn into overthinking, hesitation, and unnecessary pressure, especially when every task starts to carry the same emotional weight.Inside The EA Campus Ep88We talk through what perfectionism actually looks like in real EA work. From delaying low-risk decisions, to rechecking work late in the day, to holding things back for one more sense-check when the context is already there. This episode also looks at how judgement really develops in the role, not through getting everything right the first time, but through making decisions, seeing how they land, and adjusting next time.If you've ever felt tired by your own standards, or noticed that being “careful” sometimes slows things down more than it helps, The EA Campus Ep88 will feel familiar, practical, and reassuring. The EA Campus

The start of a new year is the perfect time to get your finances in check. The internet's favorite financial expert Vivian Tu aka Your Rich BFF is here to break down how to take control of your finances right now, from getting out of debt to building a future that actually feels aligned. As a former Wall Street trader turned CEO of Your Rich BFF, New York Times bestselling author, and Chief of Financial Empowerment at SoFi, Vivian shares simple, actionable tools including an easy equation to decide what's worth buying, how to improve your financial situation starting today, and how to have honest money conversations with your partner so you can win together as a couple. She also opens up about her upcoming book Well Endowed, a practical roadmap for navigating big adult money decisions like home ownership, marriage, and family planning, all while aligning your spending with your values, goals, and legacy. Tune in for the perfect mindset shift to start the year feeling confident, informed, and empowered about your money!Pre-order your copy of Well Endowed at richbffbook.com.Follow Vivian at @yourrichbff on Instagram and TikTok.// SPONSORS // Premier Protein: Find your favorite flavor at premierprotein.com or at Amazon, Walmart, and other major retailers. BetterHelp: Visit betterhelp.com/realpod today to get 10% off your first month.CozyEarth: Go to cozyearth.com and use code REALPOD for 20% off best selling temperature-regulating sheets, apparel, and more.Vuori: Go to vuori.com/realpod to receive 20% off your first purchase and enjoy free shipping on any U.S. orders over $75 and free returns.Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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In this live broadcast, I'm going to walk through a bunch of the real-life battles you've been writing to me about—forgiveness, trauma, OCD, anxiety, perfectionism, sexuality, grief, and purpose—and show how they actually connect. We'll talk about why “just forgive and move on” often backfires for people with deep father wounds, abandonment, and spiritual abuse, […]

As a continually recovering perfectionist myself, I share why that drive to do everything just right can actually hold kids back from starting, trying, and growing. We've all heard “progress over perfection,” but I wanted to explore what that really looks like in everyday life, especially for teenagers who can freeze up when things don't feel exact or guaranteed.The kitchen, in my opinion, is one of the best places to practice letting go of perfection. When I filmed Teens Cook Real Food with eight real teens who were mostly beginners, we captured the messy, real-life moments: broken eggs, small cuts, burned food, and lots of learning along the way. I intentionally pushed them to measure like TV chefs, eyeball seasonings, and move faster than felt comfortable, all to help loosen that grip of perfectionism. Cooking shows us that food doesn't need to be flawless to be delicious, and that it's actually pretty hard to completely mess things up.When kids can aim for “yummy” instead of “five-star restaurant quality,” they gain confidence, experience, and momentum. If you have a teen whose perfectionist tendencies keep them from trying new things or putting themselves out there, cooking can be a powerful and practical way to help them grow.Get the parenting video series now at raisinghealthyfamilies.com/teenvids or check out Teens Cook Real Food at raisinghealthyfamilies.com/teenscookResources We Mention for Overcoming Perfectionism in the KitchenTeens Cook Real Food courseFree 3-part video series on parenting teens intentionallyTeen Tidbit 1 on ownershipTeen Tidbit 2 on agencySubscribe to the podcast so you don't miss any episodes this week! Apple, Spotify, other options Kitchen Stewardship Raising Healthy Families follow Katie on Instagram or Facebook Subscribe to the newsletter to get weekly updates YouTube shorts channel for HPH Find the Healthy Parenting Handbook at raisinghealthyfamilies.com/podcast Affiliate links used here. Thanks for supporting the Healthy Parenting Handbook!

A friend said something to me a few months ago (while I was complaining) that stopped me in my tracks: “Everyone wants a village — but nobody wants to be a villager.”And once I heard it, I couldn't un-know it. So many of us (AKA, me!) say we want deeper friendships, stronger community, people who show up for us… yet we're participating in a culture that prioritizes convenience, hyper-independence, comfort, and productivity over closeness. We've optimized ourselves out of connection. We interact with services, not people. We protect our peace so hard, we don't even consider the needs of others. We complain about loneliness and how hard it is to make friends as adults, but most people opt out of the effort and inconvenience that comes with community and togetherness.So today, we're unpacking the loneliness epidemic, the friendship recession, and what modern society is getting wrong about community-building. Most importantly, we cover how to actually be a villager, even when you're busy, burnt out, uncomfortable, or socially awkward.We weren't meant to do life alone. And the village you're looking for might start with you.If you've been craving deeper friendships, more support and belonging, and being a part of something bigger than yourself, this episode is your reminder that community is built through effort, presence, generosity, and a willingness to be inconvenienced for the sake of care and connection.Tune in to hear:What it really means to “be a villager” (and why closeness comes at a cost)The role convenience culture plays in loneliness and isolationThe mental and physical health benefits of strong social tiesWhy self-care is overrated, because healing isn't a solo sportHow to start building your village through consistent micro-connectionsReciprocity, generosity, and why community is about equity, not equalitySaying yes more, and becoming a supportive attendeeHow to avoid social burnout and people-pleasingHow to show up as a village leader (the art of hosting and building what doesn't exist)Taking social risks and dealing with rejectionLetting yourself show up imperfectly — messy house, bad mood, and all Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

We think the after life will be perfect in every way, but that is not the picture that Scripture paints.  From Eden to new creation, Kaitlyn and Mike explore why scripture calls creation "good" instead of "perfect," why only God has perfection, and why eternal life won't be static, boring, or frozen in place. Instead, it's a future of growth, learning, and flourishing—far better than the perfection we imagine now.   0:00 - Theme Song   0:55 - Should the Word Be Used to Describe Something on Earth?   3:35 - Was Eden perfect?   12:48 - Sponsor - With & For: Psychology and Spirituality for Thriving Podcast. Check it out now! https://pod.link/1712333330   14:00 -Perfectionism   22:02 - Orienting Toward Heaven   25:28 - End Credits

Maybe you've had that moment too. The one where burnout shows up quietly, and you sit in your car before work holding back tears, wondering how your life became so small. For anyone experiencing career burnout or questioning their sense of self, this conversation may feel familiar.For Lin Yuan-Su, that moment was a quiet breaking point. She had the job, the title, the security. But none of it felt like her. What began as a career built to please others became a life that asked her to finally listen to herself. That morning became a line in the sand moment where she realized success alone was not enough.Her story is about what happens when you stop performing and start trusting your own truth. It's about learning to make peace with the child who only knew how to survive, and letting her grow into the woman who can finally breathe.What You'll Hear:The hidden pressure of living up to other people's expectationsThe breaking point that began in a silent parking lotHow cultural and familial stories shaped her sense of worthThe moment she chose to walk away from success that no longer fitReconnecting with her inner child after years of silenceBuilding a life that feels aligned instead of approvedGuest Bio:Lin Yuan-Su is a transformational success coach who helps high-achieving professionals simplify their path to success so they can create lives they love without burnout or hustle that no longer serves them. With a background in nutrition and healthcare, Lin once looked accomplished on paper but felt deeply unfulfilled. She works with leaders and entrepreneurs who look successful on the outside but feel disconnected on the inside. A spontaneous moment of truth set her on a path toward purpose, ease, and flow. Today, she guides others to align with their truth, quiet the noise, and live in a way that feels like freedom.Discover more about Lin at: www.enlightenedsuccess.comListen and follow: www.thelifeshiftpodcast.com/followSupport the show for ad-free and early release episodes: www.patreon.com/thelifeshiftpodcastSubscribe to the newsletter: https://thelifeshiftpodcast.beehiiv.com/

In this powerful and deeply relatable conversation, Wendy sits down with psychotherapist and author Israa Nasir to unpack the hidden cost of hustle culture and why so many of us—especially in midlife—feel exhausted, disconnected, and never quite “enough.”   Together, they explore toxic productivity, perfectionism, burnout, and self-worth, while offering compassionate, practical insights on how to slow down, reset your relationship with work, and create a more sustainable, fulfilling life—without guilt.   What You'll Learn What toxic productivity really is—and the subtle signs it's running your life How self-worth, perfectionism, and people-pleasing fuel burnout The difference between being busy vs. being truly productive Why boundaries alone aren't enough (and what to address first) How to shift from hustle-driven living to healthier, value-aligned productivity  

Perfectionism can look like "high standards," but in real life it often turns into burnout, bottlenecks, and teams that overthink everything. In this episode, Brandon Laws sits down with Jason F. McClennan, author of The Magic of Imperfection, to unpack his three-quarter baked philosophy: a practical way to ship smarter, get better feedback, and unlock innovation without lowering the bar. Jason breaks down the difference between quarter-baked, half-baked, three-quarter baked, and the illusion of "fully baked." They also dig into how leaders can build cultures where failure is treated as valuable data, how to use feedback without taking it personally, why deadlines must be owned, and how teams can avoid mission drift before they waste months heading in the wrong direction. If your team is stuck polishing the last 10% while everything else suffers, this conversation will help. Key timestamps 00:00 Intro and why "imperfection" is a leadership advantage 01:00 The three-quarter baked idea and why perfectionists struggle with it 02:40 How perfectionism fuels burnout and steals time from real work 04:30 Quarter-baked vs half-baked vs three-quarter baked (and why the timing matters) 06:45 The Buckminster Fuller dome story: reframing failure as a data point 08:55 How leaders reward learning, not just outcomes 09:45 The "crit" method: separating ego from work so feedback actually helps 12:00 The significance meter: calibrating effort so everything is not treated like heart surgery 14:00 "If you accept the task, you own the deadline" and why that changes everything 15:30 Momentum surfing: when to push, when to pause, and why grinding backfires 18:30 Process turning into bureaucracy: how to spot when the system is blocking the outcome 20:10 End-game thinking and mission drift: the two boats metaphor for team alignment 22:30 How to bring a team along when perfection is the default culture 23:40 Becoming a "trim tab": how individual contributors can shift big organizations 25:20 Bird-dogging vs micromanaging: checking in as a sign of care and performance 27:15 Communication hierarchy in hybrid work: reducing noise, increasing clarity 29:00 Building an inner compass: trial, error, and learning without shame 30:00 Final thoughts and where to find Jason's work A QUICK GLIMPSE INTO OUR PODCAST Podcast: Transform Your Workplace, sponsored by Xenium HR Host: Brandon Laws In Brandon's own words: "The Transform Your Workplace podcast is your go-to source for the latest workplace trends, big ideas, and time-tested methods straight from the mouths of industry experts and respected thought-leaders. About Xenium HR Xenium HR is on a mission to transform workplaces by providing expert outsourced HR and payroll services for small and medium-sized businesses. With a people-first approach, Xenium helps organizations create thriving work environments where employees feel valued and supported. From navigating compliance to enhancing workplace culture, Xenium offers tailored solutions that empower growth and simplify HR. Whether managing employee relations, payroll processing, or implementing impactful training programs, Xenium is the trusted partner businesses rely on to elevate their workplace experience. Discover how Xenium can transform your workplace: Learn more https://www.xeniumhr.com/ Connect with Brandon Laws: LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/lawsbrandon Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lawsbrandon About https://xeniumhr.com/about-xenium/meet-the-team/brandon-laws Connect with Xenium HR: Website https://xeniumhr.com/ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/company/xenium-hr Facebook https://www.facebook.com/XeniumHR Twitter https://twitter.com/XeniumHR Instagram https://www.instagram.com/xeniumhr YouTube https://www.youtube.com/user/XeniumHR

Have you ever felt like you're doing all the things… and it still doesn't feel like enough? In this warm, honest episode, Allie interviews author, speaker, and neuroscience coach Robyn Graham, who gets real about perfectionism—where it comes from, why it shows up so strongly for so many girls and women, and how it quietly messes with our mental health, relationships, and even our faith. If you've ever struggled with the pressure to "keep it together," look a certain way, or perform your way into being worthy… you're not alone. Together, they unpack the roots of perfectionism (hello, culture and social media), what's actually happening in your brain and nervous system when you're stuck in overdrive, and why calming your body is a huge part of healing your mind. You'll also walk away with practical tools—like small mindset shifts and simple language changes—that can help you step out of the exhausting cycle of striving. This conversation is full of grace, truth, and deep exhale energy—a reminder that you don't have to earn rest, love, or wholeness. You're allowed to be human… and still be held. Subscribe to never miss and epiosde and share this with friends! If you love it, leave a review!  Show Notes Connect with Us Free guide: "5 Keys to Walking In Your Worth." wonderfullymade.org Allie's Books Social Media Reset: A 30-Day Guided Journey to Unplug, Reconnect with God, and Reclaim Your JoyWonderfully Made: Discover the Identity, Love, and Worth You Were Created For Social Media @wonderfullymade_org @alliemariesmithTikTok Resources Life Coaching for Teen GirlsSocial Media Reset CourseWonderfully Made Young Women's Course Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Perfectionism 02:11 Understanding Perfectionism and Its Impact 02:44 NEWCHAPTER 03:27 Robin's Personal Journey with Perfectionism 06:06 Cultural Influences on Perfectionism 10:50 The Control-Perfectionism-Anxiety Connection 13:05 Pursuing Excellence vs. Striving for Perfection 18:12 Practical Mindset and Language Shifts 24:29 Neuroscience of Perfectionism 28:44 Regulating the Nervous System 33:18 Final Encouragement and Hope  

Did you like the episode? Send me a text and let me know!! Episode Summary Do you feel a pit of dread in your stomach every Sunday afternoon? You aren't alone. In this deep dive, we decode the "Sunday Scaries" not as a symptom to be suppressed, but as a vital alarm bell from your inner self.We analyze insights from top psychologists, entrepreneurs, and mindset experts to reveal why your body physically rejects your current routine. We explore the concept of the "Zone of Genius" (popularized by Gay Hendricks), dissect the neuroscience of fear versus excitement, and provide a roadmap for pivoting without blowing up your life.If you are tired of living for the weekend and dreading the weekdays, this episode is your first step toward finding your "Assignment."Key TakeawaysThe Dread is Data: That 4 p.m. anxiety is an inner compass signaling a profound misalignment in your life.The 4 Core Fears: We break down the psychological blocks (Imposter Syndrome, Perfectionism, etc.) that keep you stuck.F.E.A.R. Reframe: Learn why "False Evidence Appearing Real" paralyzes you and how to flip anxiety into anticipation.Zone of Genius: Why delegating tasks you are merely "good at" is essential to avoid burnout and find high-satisfaction work.The "Toddler's Doodle": Why the path to success is never a straight line and how to get comfortable with the zig-zags.Timestamps(01:32) – Intro: The physical timeline of Sunday Dread (from coffee to sleeplessness).(02:24) – The Diagnosis: Why dread is a symptom of living someone else's life.(04:11) – The Financial Reality: Calculating the emotional cost of the status quo vs. the fear of change.(05:16) – The 4 Core Fears: Imposter syndrome, perfectionism, fear of failure, and generalized fear.(06:03) – Neuroscience Hack: Why fear and excitement are the same chemical reaction.(07:43) – The Antidote: Defining the "Zone of Genius" (high satisfaction, low effort).(08:43) – The Myth of the Straight Line: Why your career path looks like a "toddler's doodle."(1 Reclaim your "zone of genius" by letting Opus Clip automatically turn your long-form podcast into dozens of viral-ready shorts—start your free trial today at podnationopus.com For a 15% discount on your first purchase go RYZEsuoerfoods.com use code PODNA15 Thank you for being a Skoobeliever!! If you have questions about the show or you want to be a guest please contact me at one of these social mediasTwitter......... ..@djskoob2021 Facebook.........Facebook.com/skoobamiInstagram..... instagram.com/uepodcast2021tiktok....... @djskoob2021Email............... Uepodcast2021@gmail.com Skoob at Gettin' Basted Facebook PageAcross The Start Line Facebook Community Find out what one of the four hurdles of stop is affecting you the most!!Black Friday coaching Sale now!! 65% off original price! go to stan.store/skoob to book your appointment and take advantage of this limited time offer! On Twitter @doittodaycoachdoingittodaycoaching@gmailcom

In today's episode, I'm talking to Amber Trejo, a licensed marriage and family therapist who specializes in complex trauma and attachment, about what might be under the perfectionism, shame, and self-loathing. Amber explains how complex trauma often forms when there was never a true baseline of safety growing up, how, while it can be painful to realize we might hurt our kids, the repair matters FAR more than perfection, and so much more.Healing from complex trauma and things like perfectionism, shame, and self-loathing doesn't start with “being better,” it starts with awareness, curiosity, and support. Whether that's therapy, learning, or simply beginning to ask yourself gentler questions, please know you are not broken, and you are NOT alone!In this episode, we cover:Amber's journey into understanding & working with complex traumaWhat complex trauma (C-PTSD) is + how growing up without a baseline of safety impacts the nervous systemThe key difference between PTSD and complex traumaHow emotional neglect often goes unrecognized, even in childhoods that felt “good”Why shame is central to complex trauma + how it often shows upHow complex trauma affects relationships, conflict & nervous system capacityWhy repair matters more than perfection in parentingHow to support yourself + loved ones when navigating complex trauma Make sure to hit subscribe/follow so you never miss an episode! Find the complete show notes here: https://terryndrieling.com/under-the-perfectionism Connect with Amber:Follow on Instagram @integrativetraumatherapistConnect on FacebookFollow on TikTokCheck out her websiteSend her an email at ambie0406@gmail.com Connect with Terryn:Follow on Instagram @terryn.drielingCheck out my websiteSend me an email at

Some families are living on an emotional rollercoaster. One minute everyone seems fine. The next, it feels like the wheels are coming off. In this episode of Complicated Kids, I sit down with Dr. Kate Lund, a licensed clinical psychologist, resilience expert, and twin mom, to talk about resilience as a way of living rather than a trait you either have or do not have. Instead of seeing resilience as "you hit a challenge and bounce back," we explore what it looks like to build a steadier baseline so you can ride the waves of real life with a little more ease. Dr. Kate shares how she helps parents understand their own context first. That includes their nervous system, history, strengths, and the particular stressors they are carrying. From there, we talk about practical tools for modulating your stress response, including a simple daily relaxation practice that helps you learn what "regulated" actually feels like in your body so you can return to it more often. We also talk about timing. Kids of all ages need space to feel their feelings before they can look for possibilities or "what's next." We walk through real-life examples, including college rejections, tough games, and everyday disappointments, and how to sit with your child's emotions without rushing to fix them. A big part of this conversation focuses on perfectionism and comparison. Dr. Kate and I discuss why there is no resilience formula, why siblings in the same family can need completely different things, and how to move away from "perfect outcome" thinking and toward doing what is optimized within your own context. If you've ever wondered how to be a grounded leader in your family while still being a real human with your own feelings and limits, this episode will give you language, tools, and a more compassionate way to think about resilience for both you and your kids. Key Takeaways Resilience is a lifestyle, not a moment. Regulation becomes more accessible when tools are woven into daily life instead of saved for crises. Your nervous system sets the tone. When you are already stressed, even small challenges can overwhelm the whole family. A simple daily practice matters. A five-minute breathing practice paired with a calming word can teach your body what calm feels like. Self-awareness comes before strategy. Resilient parenting starts with being honest about your own strengths, limits, and stress patterns. Every child has their own context. Siblings can need completely different support based on their nervous systems. Validation comes before possibility. Kids need their feelings acknowledged before they can move forward. Sharing struggles builds connection. Age-appropriate honesty shows kids that resilience includes falling down and getting back up. Perfectionism blocks resilience. Growth happens when you work within your real life, not an imaginary ideal. There is no one-size-fits-all formula. Resilient families stay curious and adjust over time. Possibility lives on the other side of hard things. Holding a long view allows hope without minimizing today's challenges. About Dr. Kate Lund Dr. Kate Lund is a licensed clinical psychologist, resilience expert, author, and host of The Optimized Mind podcast. With specialized training from three Harvard Medical School–affiliated hospitals and more than two decades of clinical practice, she helps parents, athletes, students, and entrepreneurs thrive within their unique contexts. She is the author of Bounce: Help Your Child Build Resilience and Thrive in School, Sports, and Life and Step Away: The Keys to Resilient Parenting. Dr. Kate also volunteers at Seattle Children's Hospital with her dog, Wally, supporting young patients facing medical challenges. About Your Host, Gabriele Nicolet I'm Gabriele Nicolet—toddler whisperer, speech therapist, parenting life coach, and host of Complicated Kids. Each week, I share practical, relationship-based strategies for raising kids with big feelings, big needs, and beautifully different brains. My goal is to help families move from surviving to thriving by building connection, confidence, and clarity at home. Complicated Kids Resources and Links

In this week's episode, we are joined by author and speaker Colleen Carroll Campbell for a thoughtful conversation on perfectionism and faith. Colleen reflects on how impossible expectations, especially in motherhood, can quietly take root and drain joy. We explore how surrender, grace, and humility help parents model trust in God rather than control.Be sure to check out Colleen's Substack for reflections on the everyday. You can purchase her book by following this link.

Hey Clutterbugs! Decluttering motivation, cleaning tips, and how to stop perfectionism paralysis—today I'm breaking down why you feel stuck in clutter and how to finally get your home organized.If you're overwhelmed by mess, doom piles/doom boxes, clutter anxiety, or you keep procrastinating because it won't be “perfect,” this episode will help you start (and finish) in just 5 minutes.Today we're talking about radical exposure to “good enough” (aka doing it a little messy on purpose) so you can break the perfectionism cycle and actually make progress. Because “later, when I can do it right” is how clutter wins.I'm also sharing what happened during our Take Your House Back all-day declutter live… including the moment I totally hit a wall emotionally. But the real point of this episode isn't the tears, it's the breakthrough: the reason so many of us stay stuck isn't laziness, it's the fear of doing it wrong. Website: http://www.clutterbug.me YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@clutterbug TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@clutterbug_me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clutterbug_me/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Clutterbug.Me/ Seana episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Idnl9vmrEHM #decluttering #clutterbug #organization #homeorganization #cleaningmotivation #declutteryourhome #minimalism #messyhouse #overwhelmed #perfectionism #productivity #adhdorganization #motivation #tidying #home Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you're ready for structured daily guidance to help you retrain the anxiety loop and respond to fear differently, visit anxietyguyprograms.com to find the program that fits what you're going through right now. ✨ Today's Episode: In today's episode, I'm breaking down three hidden patterns that quietly keep anxiety alive in the background of your life: perfectionism, people-pleasing, and guilt. These aren't just "bad habits." For many people, they're early survival strategies your nervous system learned to stay safe, stay connected, and avoid rejection. The problem is that what once helped you cope can now keep your body stuck in hypervigilance, tension, and overthinking. You'll learn how perfectionism trains your system to believe it's never safe to rest, how people-pleasing keeps you scanning others for approval, and how guilt becomes an invisible leash that pulls you back into overdoing and self-abandonment. Most importantly, I'll give you simple, practical ways to start putting these weights down without creating more fear or pressure. ▶️ Listen & Subscribe: Apple Podcasts: Subscribe Here Spotify: Subscribe Here YouTube: Subscribe Here Episode page: Catch up on previous episodes here

Have you ever noticed how much mental energy you spend wondering if you're doing this parenting thing "right"? Maybe you replay conversations in your head, second-guess a boundary you set, or feel that pressure to do just a little more…just in case. That pressure doesn't come from being overly critical or demanding — it comes from caring deeply. And from the belief that if you can just find the right way to handle things, you'll finally be able to relax. Today, I'm continuing the Mindset Traps of Parenting Teens and the Empty Nest series with a focus on perfectionism. In this episode, we're going to talk about how the search for the “right” way fuels anxiety, erodes self-trust, and keeps you carrying more than you need to. And we'll explore what it actually looks like to decide what's enough — without waiting for your kid or your life to be different first. This episode will change how you think about effort, responsibility, and what it really means to let go in this stage of motherhood.

Feeling stuck at the same revenue level? In this tactical, no-fluff convo with Leila Hormozi, we unpack what's really holding entrepreneurs back from scaling. From breaking past $100K to building a team that drives growth, Leila shares what separates stuck solopreneurs from powerful CEOs. If you're ready to scale smarter—not harder—this one's for you.Click play to hear all of this and:[00:51] Why so many entrepreneurs get stuck before they ever start building[01:38] The #1 reason people don't hit six figures (and how to overcome it)[03:57] What to do when you are the bottleneck in your business[04:41] From six to seven figures: what changes in your mindset and strategy[06:11] The power of staying focused—and how “shiny object syndrome” kills momentum[08:00] Why perfectionism is actually a form of fear (and how to drop it)[10:09] How Leila learned to lead, and why it changed everything in her business[12:00] The hiring mindset shift every founder needs to scale a team

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about...   - How to understand what is really happening when a young child becomes intensely frustrated or self critical. - Why perfectionistic behaviors in early childhood are often developmentally normal and when they may begin to impact confidence or emotional well being. - What to do in the moment when your child is dysregulated and why reassurance, praise, or growth mindset language often does not land when emotions are running high. - How staying curious about your child's negative self talk can actually support resilience and self awareness over time. - Ways to protect your child's inner voice and self esteem without trying to rush her out of uncomfortable feelings.   If your child gets stuck in frustration, takes mistakes personally, or is hard on themself, this episode will help you learn how to support their long term emotional growth.     REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES:  

Celebrity hairstylist and author Chris Appleton joins Vic for a powerful conversation inspired by his new book, Your Roots Don't Define You, about what happens when you finally live in alignment with who you truly are. Known for creating iconic looks for stars like Ariana Grande, Jennifer Lopez, and Kim Kardashian, Chris opens up about his journey of coming to terms with his sexuality later in life, raising two children, and overcoming his darkest moment. He shares how accepting himself changed everything, both personally and professionally, along with four simple questions you can ask yourself when you feel stuck, and a powerful reframe that turns envy into motivation. Plus, get Chris' opinion on the side vs middle part debate and tips for healthy, hydrated hair! Tune in for an honest, inspiring conversation about self-acceptance and stepping into your truth. Grab Chris' new book, “Your Roots Don't Define You” at yourrootsdontdefineyou.com!Follow Chris on TikTok @chrisappletonhair & Instagram @chrisappleton1// SPONSORS //Premier Protein: Find your favorite flavor at premierprotein.com or at Amazon, Walmart, and other major retailers. Durable: Visit durable.com/realpod and get started with Durable for free today. When you're ready to publish your website, use code REALPOD for 30% off all plans. BetterHelp: Visit betterhelp.com/realpod today to get 10% off your first month.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if becoming your best self didn't require perfection? In this personal growth podcast clip, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife and Carolyn Bever explore how to feel happier and more fulfilled by leaning into the process, not the outcome. Their conversation touches on self-compassion and the kind of personal development that actually lasts. If you've been trying to stop being a perfectionist or looking for self-help podcasts that feel uplifting instead of overwhelming, this moment is for you. It's thoughtful, relatable, and full of practical self-improvement ideas for women. Listen to the full episode here: https://www.aboutprogress.com/blog/how-to-strive-for-excellence Sign up as a Supporter to get access to our private, premium, ad-free podcast, More Personal. Episodes air each Friday! More for Moms Conference use code “LISTENER” for $20 off Leave a rating and review Check out my ⁠workshops⁠! Follow About Progress on YOUTUBE! Book Launch Committee ⁠Free DSL Training⁠ Full Show Notes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices