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269. Questions for More Connection and Laughter in Marriage with Casey and Meygan Caston   *Disclaimer* This episode contains some mature themes and listener discretion is advised.   2 Corinthians 1:4 NIRV "He comforts us in all our troubles. Now we can comfort others when they are in trouble. We ourselves receive comfort from God."   *Transcript Below*   Questions and Topics We Cover: Will you share three of the questions from your most recent book, specifically the ones people have told you unlocked the best conversations in their own marriage? You say you're an unlikely couple to help support marriages. Will you share a glimpse of your own backstory? What are a handful of ideas for ways couples can strengthen their connection with one another?   Casey and Meygan Caston are the Co-Founders of Marriage365. Casey and Meygan were perfect examples of what not to do in marriage. Three years into marriage, they found themselves having racked up more than $250,000 in debt, fighting constantly, and were ready to call it quits. Despite the 12 failed marriages between their parents, they knew this wasn't the legacy they wanted for themselves or their children. They began reading and educating themselves on how to do marriage the right way. The result of their journey is Marriage365, where they millions of people worldwide through their books, social media, retreats, and their online streaming service, Marriage365.   Marriage 365 Website Marriage 365 App Marriage 365 Books Marriage 365 Coaching   Thank You to Our Sponsor: WinShape Marriage   Sample of Previous Episodes on Sexual Intimacy on The Savvy Sauce: 4 Fostering a Fun, Healthy Sex Life With Your Spouse With Certified Sex Therapist and Author, Dr. Jennifer Konzen 5 Ways to Deepen Your Intimacy in Marriage with Dr. Douglas Rosenau  6 Ten Common Questions About Sex, Shared Through a Biblical Worldview with Dr. Michael Sytsma 89 Passion Pursuit with Dr. Juli Slattery 108 Anatomy of an Affair with Dave Carder 135 Healthy Ways for Females to Increase Sexual Enjoyment with Tracey LeGrand 155 Sex in Marriage and Its Positive Effects with Francie Winslow, Part 1 156 Science and Art of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage, Part 2 158 Making Love in Marriage with Debra Fileta 165 Mutually Pleasing Sex in Marriage with Gary Thomas 186 Sex Series: Enhancing Female Pleasure and Enjoyment of Sex: An Interview with Dr. Jennifer Degler 218 Secrets of Sex and Marriage: An Interview with Dr. Michael Sytsma Special Patreon Release: Protecting Your Marriage Against Unfaithfulness with Dave Carder 252 Maximizing Sexual Connection as Newlyweds to Long Term Marriages and Recovering from a Sexless Marriage with Dr. Clifford & Joyce Penner   Connect with The Savvy Sauce on Facebook, Instagram or Our Website   Please help us out by sharing this episode with a friend, leaving a 5-star rating and review, and subscribing to this podcast!   Gospel Scripture: (all NIV)   Romans 3:23 “for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”   Romans 3:24 “and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.”   Romans 3:25 (a) “God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood.”    Hebrews 9:22 (b) “without the shedding of blood there is no forgiveness.”    Romans 5:8 “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”    Romans 5:11 “Not only is this so, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.”    John 3:16 “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.”   Romans 10:9 “That if you confess with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.”    Luke 15:10 says “In the same way, I tell you, there is rejoicing in the presence of the angels of God over one sinner who repents.”   Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus”   Ephesians 1:13–14 “And you also were included in Christ when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation. Having believed, you were marked in him with a seal, the promised Holy Spirit, who is a deposit guaranteeing our inheritance until the redemption of those who are God's possession- to the praise of his glory.”   Ephesians 1:15–23 “For this reason, ever since I heard about your faith in the Lord Jesus and your love for all the saints, I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better. I pray also that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened in order that you may know the hope to which he has called you, the riches of his glorious inheritance in the saints, and his incomparably great power for us who believe. That power is like the working of his mighty strength, which he exerted in Christ when he raised him from the dead and seated him at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every title that can be given, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way.”   Ephesians 2:8–10 “For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast. For we are God‘s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.“   Ephesians 2:13 “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far away have been brought near through the blood of Christ.“   Philippians 1:6 “being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”   *Transcript*   Music: (0:00 – 0:11)   Laura Dugger: (0:12 - 1:15)  Welcome to The Savvy Sauce, where we have practical chats for intentional living. I'm your host, Laura Dugger, and I'm so glad you're here.    Today's message is not intended for little ears. We'll be discussing some adult themes, and I want you to be aware before you listen to this message.    I'm thrilled to introduce you to our sponsor, WinShape Marriage. Their weekend marriage retreats will strengthen your marriage while you enjoy the gorgeous setting, delicious food, and quality time with your spouse.   To find out more, visit them online at winshapemarriage.org.    Welcome to The Savvy Sauce, Casey and Meygan.   Casey Caston:  Thanks for having us. Excited to be here.   Laura Dugger: So, thrilled to have both of you, and let's just dive right into one of your sweet spots. How can open-ended questions change a marriage?   Casey Caston: (1:16 - 2:33)  Yeah, well, if you think about when we first met somebody that we fell in love with, fell attracted to that first date, as you're sitting across the table, you are looking at that person with so much curiosity. Like, who is this person? What are their hopes and their dreams and their life experiences?   What are they afraid of? Where are they going in life? And that curiosity drove us to ask really good open-ended questions.   Like, tell me more about yourself. It's funny because we were just reading in Proverbs this morning that in a man's heart, he has a purpose, but a man of understanding draws from the deep wells to pull that out. And I just, I always think about how a great question plums the deep wells of a man's heart or woman's heart.   And that attraction, that energy we feel, helps us with asking great questions. But then what happens is when we get married and we move into the wash, rinse, repeat of childcare and chores and, you know, the mundaneness of going to work, coming home, dinner, like, it can really sap all of the romance out of a relationship. And so, what happens is we fall into asking really boring questions.   Meygan Caston: (2:33 - 2:34)  Like, how was your day?   Casey Caston: (2:34 - 2:36)  What's picking up the kids?   Meygan Caston: (2:36 - 2:37)  What's for dinner? Yeah.   Casey Caston: (2:38 - 3:18)  So, we realize that when the well is dry, so to speak, you're not asking those great questions. We need prompts. We need an outside prompt because I don't think naturally we would ask great questions to spark this, you know, connecting conversation.   And I will tell you too, that if you just dropped in and, you know, just ask your spouse, like, “Hey, so, tell me some boundaries we need to set up with your parents.” People are going to be like, “Excuse me, where did that question come from? And what's the question behind the question?   What's your motivation here?” But those are conversations we need to have. We just need prompts.   So, yeah.   Laura Dugger: (3:19 - 3:32)  Well, I love that response. And I'm also curious after working with so many married couples, what have you seen as that connection between these amazing prompts for open-ended questions and emotional intimacy?   Meygan Caston: (3:34 - 4:20)  Yeah. Well, kind of like what Casey was mentioning about, um, just that curiosity of getting to know each other. I think the other part of asking those open-ended questions and having these deeper conversations is really about intentionality.   Like you still care about me. You still want to know about my heart. Well, for us, 25 years later, I still care about you.   I still love you. And I think that of course, as women, we long for that emotional connection. And I don't think that men realize it, but they actually long for that too.   And it's creating a safe place for spouses to share, to cry, to even, um, dream together about their future. And I think, again, if we don't give ourselves those opportunities and we're not intentional with that, we get stuck in the mundaneness of marriage.   Casey Caston: (4:20 - 5:03)  But, uh, and I would add to that, that curiosity, Meygan, I've talked about how curiosity is the pursuit of something. Right. And we all long to be desired to be pursued.   I mean, that is, that underlying communication is so powerful in relationships, because if you think about it, if you're not being pursued and your spouse isn't curious, I mean, that's like the, the heart of apathy. It's like, I don't care. And I know that people aren't intentionally trying to communicate that, but when you feel that, like my spouse doesn't really care about what I dream about or what I'm hoping to achieve this year, they just come home and they just watch TV or they're on their phone.   Meygan Caston: (5:04 - 5:18)  Right. That communicates a lot non-verbally. And so, that's why these open-ended questions are something that we should never stop being a learner of each other and of ourselves.   And that will provide that emotional intimacy.   Laura Dugger: (5:19 - 5:45)  That's so good. And obviously your resources are amazing. I would love, because you have these 365 Connecting Questions for Couples.   And so, I want to just hear maybe three of these questions that come to mind for you guys, especially as you've heard, these are the ones that tend to unlock something deeper in the conversation.   Meygan Caston: (5:46 - 6:07)  Absolutely. So, August 3rd is, are you someone who spends a lot of time in deep thought, processing things before making a decision, or do you tend to make quick decisions? Why or why not?   That question has genuinely sparked so much conversation between us and even like with our kids and other couples. Maybe you can explain why.   Casey Caston: (6:07 - 6:11)  Yeah. Well, I'm Mr. Impulsivity, so.   Meygan Caston: (6:11 - 6:29)  Yeah, you are. Where I, I don't, I wouldn't consider myself a deep thinker, but I definitely like to make pros and cons lists and think through things. But if you think about a dynamic between a husband and a wife, you know, there are so many decisions that you make together, small and large, your whole life, every day.   Casey Caston: (6:29 - 6:30)  Decision-making is huge in relationships.   Meygan Caston: (6:31 - 6:57)  And it's an everyday thing that couples are tackling. And it's important to know that no one is better than the other. It's not that a deep thinker is better than a more impulsive person. It's kind of more just naturally how you are. Have you always been this way? Do you like that about yourself?   Wow. You know, well, when it comes to these bigger decisions, I do spend, make more time, you know, thinking through and pros and cons. Oh, well, with small decisions, I'm more impulsive. I mean, you could just talk about that for hours and hours.   Casey Caston: (6:57 - 7:01) Yeah. But what's interesting is I tend to think more futuristic and big picture.   Meygan Caston: (7:01 - 7:01)  Yes.   Casey Caston: (7:01 - 7:03)  Even though I'm impulsive in the moment.   Meygan Caston: (7:03 - 7:05)  And I cannot, I can't do that.   Casey Caston: (7:05 - 7:06)  You are Ms. Realist.   Meygan Caston: (7:06 - 7:08)  Just tell me today, tell me this week.   Casey Caston: (7:09 - 7:10)  I can't think about this fun sponge.   Meygan Caston: (7:11 - 7:11)  Yes. Yeah.   Casey Caston: (7:12 - 7:15)  Because I'm like, let's dream big. And she's like, yeah, but what's happening today?   Meygan Caston: (7:16 - 7:49)  Yeah. Yeah. Another great question is January 18th.   How can we romance each other during the day in anticipation of sex? Because as we all know, us ladies, we need the foreplay. But again, I think that husbands also enjoy the foreplay.   But I don't think that couples are having these conversations. I think they think a foreplay is, well, once we enter into the bedroom, you know, and what we like to say is it's anything positive is foreplay. So, a thoughtful text, you know, a flirty I'm going to grab your hand to empty out the dishwasher.   Casey Caston: (7:49 - 7:50)  Amen.   Meygan Caston: (7:50 - 7:55)  Yeah. You know, it's those kinds of conversations. But like, I would never think of asking you that.   Casey Caston: (7:56 - 7:56)  Right.   Meygan Caston: (7:56 - 7:58)  Right. Thankfully for those.   Casey Caston: (7:58 - 8:10)  But as you know, Laura, like couples that need to talk about their sex life. And if you don't talk about your sex life, most oftentimes there's a lot of assumptions. And that leads to, you know, dysfunction.   Meygan Caston: (8:11 - 9:14)  Well, and missed expectations. Totally. Yeah. And then I have another question. April 25th is how do our differences help complement each other?   Oh, so, kind of another one of those things, like with making decisions. Every single couple has differences. And we always tell people Casey, and I are more different than alike.   I think people see us online and whatnot. And they hear, oh, we're both extroverts. We are. So, we have some similarities. We're both stubborn, very competitive, both competitive. But in the day-to-day operations of who Casey and Meygan are, we make decisions, we run our lives, run our business, run our business.   We are completely opposite. And what I think it's good to do for couples is to actually own your differences rather than shy away from them or make yourselves feel bad, like, oh, I wish we were the same. I get it.   You know, we actually are attracted to those things when we're dating. That's why opposites attract. But then when we get married, it's like, why doesn't he do everything the same way? I do it because I do it the right way. That's what we think. Right.   Casey Caston: (9:15 - 9:21)  Well, you heard the joke that marriage is about becoming one. And in the earlier years, it's about which one.   Meygan Caston: (9:21 - 10:14)  Yeah. Which one? Which figure out?   Yeah. And so, that question really allows you to identify your differences, but then go, how do they balance each other out? And I think for me, as someone who is organized, type A Casey's very spontaneous.   If we were both type A and structured, we wouldn't have a lot of fun. We really wouldn't. His spontaneity really brings out that side of me.   But if we were both spontaneous, our bills would never be paid, and we'd be broke. So, you know, I'm a I'm a saver. He's a spender.   You can see the balance in that. It's good that we're both those things. Right.   I'm on time. He's late. We could continue going on and on and on and on.   But I think that he's a risk taker. I'm a complete play it safer. And so, those really draw out a beautiful balance in our marriage versus trying to change one another.   So, I hope that question sparks listeners to really ask your spouse that and have fun with the conversation.   Laura Dugger: (10:15 - 11:03)  Well, you chose three great ones. I love it. And they draw out such different parts of our personality.   You highlighted where Casey's more futuristic. Meygan, you're more present. Some people will connect with questions that direct them more past oriented.   And so, our orientation to time comes out and the meta conversations, the talking like having the conversation about your conversation. Just so much goodness. And yes, especially with sexual intimacy.   So, many couples report that it is much harder to engage in conversation about sex rather than just have sex. And like you said, missed expectations can be one of the blow ups there, among many other things. So, you have questions that don't shy away from all forms of intimacy.   Meygan Caston: (11:04 - 11:10)  Yeah. And to also say we have a lot of fun questions, too. Like, tell me about what your bedroom looked like when you were a teenager.   Casey Caston: (11:11 - 11:12)  That's a great one. I love that one.   Meygan Caston: (11:12 - 11:47)  Let's talk couples. If you had a really hard day with the kids or at work, pick a fun question. You don't have to go by the date.   If you don't like the question, it's triggering, then flip to the next one. But going back to that emotional intimacy and connection that you were talking about, Laura, is you have to have those deep questions and those conversations. And you did when you were dating, because if you went on a date with your husband and you were like, hey, tell me, you know, what do you want to do when you retire?   And he was like, I don't know. Yeah, you'd be like snooze fest. This guy's boring, right?   Or if he was on his phone the whole time, there was something intriguing about your spouse.   Casey Caston: (11:47 - 11:48)  I don't know. I don't know.   Meygan Caston: (11:48 - 12:01)  Yeah, there was something intriguing about your spouse when you were dating and you were asking those questions that should never stop. Just like we hear that quote, never stop dating your spouse. Well, never stop learning about your spouse.   It's the same thing. Absolutely.   Laura Dugger: (12:02 - 12:16)  And I love how you two have such a humble approach because you say that you're a very unlikely couple to help support marriages. So, will you let us in on your own backstory?   Meygan Caston: (12:17 - 12:46)  Yeah, well, can I just start off by saying this? We live in a county that has one of the highest divorce rates in the nation. So, it's 72 percent divorce rate where we live.   We also come from there's 12 marriages between our parents. So, we come from so much divorce and trauma. And then we also got married very, very, very young.   So, all those statistics were against us on top of that. I'm just going to start off by saying that. Casey Caston: (12:46 - 13:18)  Yeah, my mom's been married six times. So, when by the time I hit junior high, I had probably like nine different iterations of home life and different dads and step siblings and half brothers. And all of that between both of our parents.   There's just there's some mental illness. There's affairs. There's all this trauma that was really unprocessed.   But then when Meygan and I saw each other, it was like we knew the wounds that we shared. It was like almost like a trauma bond.   Meygan Caston: (13:19 - 13:19)  Yeah.   Casey Caston: (13:19 - 14:08)  Like, oh, I've got abandonment. So, do you. And, you know, let's do it's like, wow.   So, let's make each other happy. And dating was just all the fun stuff, right? It was long walks along the beach.   It was going to street fairs or, you know, going out and having fun. And then we're like, if this is what life could be like, then we should do this forever and ever and ever. And just, you know, we were so doe eyed of like and optimistic about how marriage life would look like.   So, then once we did get married, done, done, done, we had to like work through stuff. Now, I was so conflict avoidant because I was afraid if there was conflict, then that means that there's going to be distance between Meygan and I and she might leave me.   Meygan Caston: (14:08 - 14:24)  Oh, there's another there's another difference. I'm a fighter. He's a fighter.   So, anytime we would have conflict triggers, you know, emotional regulation, I was like, we're going to go for it. Now, of course, my fighting tactics were not healthy. I yelled. I blamed. I was very aggressive, assertive.   Casey Caston: (14:24 - 14:37)  Conflict was very scary for me. Now. Now, Meygan, she's like wanting to deal with issues. And here I am, like trying to run for the hills. And she's like, he doesn't care about me. And I'm like, I'm trying to protect the marriage by not dealing with it.   Meygan Caston: (14:37 - 14:49)  So, you never really resolved anything. We would fight really bad. We broke all the fighting rules.   And then there was no true resolve, no apologies, no remorse. And you just kind of move forward.   Casey Caston: (14:49 - 15:06)  And so, then we piled ourselves like we had over two hundred fifty thousand dollars of debt when we started to try to work on getting pregnant. We we dealt with infertility. We I have ADHD, so that creates a lot of that's fun.   A lot of fun for the marriage.   Meygan Caston: (15:06 - 15:08)  The divorce rate is very high with ADHD.   Casey Caston: (15:08 - 15:10)  My life gets to teach you patience.   Meygan Caston: (15:11 - 15:11)  Yeah.   Casey Caston: (15:12 - 16:44)  But and then we have a child with special needs as well. So, we we had like if there's something that could go wrong, it it went wrong. We had you know, once we got married, there was toxic in-laws that boundaries that were crossed.   So, it just nothing for us came easy. And so, that's why we were the least likely to succeed in marriage. I mean, if we there was a couple doomed from the get go, it was Meygan and I believe a hundred percent that God used those trials, those hardships to create marriage.   Three sixty five. He gave us the strength to, you know, have the courage to say we're not going to follow in our parents footsteps. We're going to change that.    You know, it ends with us literally like we are going to change and break this generational sin because it goes back many, many generations for both of us. Our whole family is littered with divorce. And now like when we approach marriage, it because of where we've come from, it wasn't all flowery.   It was really tough. We have to be practical and very tactical with our advice, because when you're sitting across from a couple that's angry and resentful. We have to sit there and go, we know what that's like.   And here's exactly what you need to do next. I'm not going to give you a platitude. I'm not going to give you some flowery statement or we're not going to just talk through it.    No, we're going to give you a tool and an action step that's going to help you. Laura Dugger: (16:46 - 18:56)  Let's take a quick break to hear a message from our sponsor. Friends, I'm excited to share with you today's sponsor, WinShape Marriage. 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During your time away in this beautiful place, you and your spouse will learn from expert speakers and explore topics related to intimacy, overcoming challenges, improving communication and more.   I've stayed on site at WinShape before, and I can attest to their generosity, food and content. You will be so grateful you went to find an experience that's right for you and your spouse. Head to their website, winshapemarriage.org/savvy. That's W-I-N-S-H-A-P-E marriage dot org slash S-A-V-V-Y. Thanks for your sponsorship.   I'd love to hear even more into the redemption part of it, because Marriage 365, you had shared before we had recorded that you launched that in 2013. So, just to get the timeline straight, had you already done some work and some counseling before you launched that?   Meygan Caston: (18:56 - 19:26)  Or what was that journey? Yeah, so, we always say we it took us two years to fall in love and get married. It took us three years to destroy our marriage, and it took about four or five years to repair our marriage.   It was, as you know, Laura, it is not a quick fix when your marriage is as bad as ours. And so, our story is unique in the sense where we were both not wanting to get help for our marriage. I love you, babe, but he was resistant.   He didn't want to go to therapy. His family didn't go to therapy. That wasn't normalized.   Casey Caston: (19:26 - 19:31)  Well, my faith background said that therapy is bad from the from the devil.   Meygan Caston: (19:31 - 19:38)  It was specifically your parents. But from the devil. Yeah, because I have a faith background, too. And my parents went to therapy. But that's what I was saying.   Casey Caston: (19:38 - 19:40)  My background was that you don't do that.   Meygan Caston: (19:40 - 21:16)  Yeah. So, I was wanting to get divorced and he wouldn't divorce me. He was like, no.   So, if you're going to do it, you got to do it. And so, I got help for myself. And I had the most amazing woman who a therapist who just walked me through basically how to save my marriage by myself.   And she goes, listen, you know, at the end of the day, if you want to make a better marriage, it starts by making a better you. You have zero control over Casey. You have 100 percent control over you.   He's not here. You are. I can show you how to communicate, how to forgive him even without getting an apology.   I can show you how to bring to his defenses down. I can show you how to create boundaries so he doesn't yell at you anymore. I mean, and that's literally for 13 months I worked on myself. And I believe that that is what genuinely changed everything. And that's really the message behind Marriage 365 is if you want to make a better marriage, it starts by making a better you. Stop waiting around for your husband or your wife to get on board.   They may never. Then you're only going to build resentment while you sit there and wait. At the end of the day, you're responsible for how you show up.   And so, in that 13 months, the hope was, of course, that I would positively influence Casey, which I did. And he saw the change in me. Everything changed.   I mean, like we both used to be yellers, right? We would both yell and scream. And I was like, I'm not going to yell anymore.   Like, I just I don't want to be a yeller of a mom. I don't want to be a yeller of a wife. Like, I don't like this part of me. My mom was a yeller. I mean, oh, yeah, I hate this. And I just remember like one day he came walking in and he was all heated and frustrated and he started yelling at me. And do you remember what I did, babe?   Casey Caston: (21:17 - 21:33)  Yeah. She looked at me and calmly said, you know, I can tell that you're very upset. I really want to have to listen to what you want to share with me.   Why don't you go outside, take a break, come back in? We're going to sit back on the couch. We can talk about it. I'm here for you. And I was like, what a change.   Meygan Caston: (21:33 - 22:07)  Who is this person? I changed the way that we did marriage. I did that.   And I tell people that I didn't do that once. I didn't do it twice. I did that for months because we had habits we had created.   But I was like, that was like a new boundary. I'm like, I'm not going to engage with him when he's angry. It's been triggered.   Nothing good is coming from this. So, it was all of that we started to really adopt and learn together because he's like, you're a different person. Like, it was obvious we were doing the tango.   And now I was doing the rumba and he was over there doing the tango. And I'm like, come join me in the healthy rumba over here because it's way better.   Casey Caston: (22:07 - 22:09)  And so, for toxic tango.   Meygan Caston: (22:09 - 23:20)  Yeah, we went to a marriage. Yeah, we went to a marriage intensive. And we did some therapy.   We did a lot of self-help. But through that journey, this is kind of where we started Marriage 365 is. First off, we couldn't afford therapy.   We needed to pay off all that debt that we had with a lot of student loan debt, a lot of stupid debt. What do you do if you can't afford therapy? What do you do if you don't have a good therapist?   What do you do if you have a bad experience with therapy? What do you do if the books aren't enough? And that was there was a really big hole and missing part in the marriage.   I don't say industry, but in the marriage space, where were all the online resources? Because this was back again in like 2010 when like podcasts weren't even around, social media was just becoming a thing. And it was really hard.   We were really disappointed with the lack of resources there were for marriage. And it felt like every church you go to, there was, you know, the missions ministry and the children's ministry and the youth groups. And all those are great.   Where in the world are all the marriage ministries? Then we found out only 3% of churches have actual paid marriage ministries. And I thought, that's messed up.   That's reverse. It's supposed to be the opposite, because then everything else will work itself out, as we know, with what research shows.   Casey Caston: (23:20 - 23:21)  Same with men's ministry, by the way.   Meygan Caston: (23:21 - 23:22)  Yes, same with men's ministry.   Casey Caston: (23:22 - 23:23)  Men's and marriage.   Meygan Caston: (23:23 - 23:26)  That's like the stepchild.   Casey Caston: (23:26 - 23:33)  Tech guy slash men's guy slash, you know. Children's persons can also do marriage.   Meygan Caston: (23:33 - 23:40)  So, we really just started helping our friends out. Obviously, people could see the change. Then people would come to us. We started helping couples at our church.   Casey Caston: (23:40 - 23:48)  And we had a ghoul pool. Like people were like, we give you guys another like ten months and then we're expecting you.   Meygan Caston: (23:48 - 23:51)  Yeah, everyone that knew us thought we'd get divorced.   Casey Caston: (23:51 - 23:52)  We were messy.   Meygan Caston: (23:52 - 23:58)  We were bad. Yeah. So, to see the complete transformation. And again, I go back to that work we did was on ourselves.   Casey Caston: (23:58 - 25:31)  And I just have to say that if you want to make a better marriage, it starts by making a better you. If you're hearing that. And you're kind of in a one sided marriage right now, I got to just say, I know that message sucks because it's a message that says you have to go first.   And that's not fair. In a marriage, you're supposed to be a team. But I do want to say there's so many couples that are stuck. Waiting for their spouse to join them on the let's get healthy train. So, their spouse doesn't join them. And then what they do is they kind of lean back, fold their arms and go, well, I guess we're stuck.   But I want to say that that's there is a message of empowerment to say you do have influence and the ability to steer your marriage in a healthy way. I have lots of regret that I did not join that train much sooner. But the story is that Meygan, you know, became the hero of our journey.   And that is something that I work actively so that I'm never in that place again, that I am the one that's always actively trying to improve myself, that I'm a better communicator, that I'm not a yeller, which we've ditched that a long time ago, that that I'm considered of Meygan's needs. And I'm even like attuned to like, what is she feeling? And how do I meet her where she's at?   Laura Dugger: (25:32 - 25:54)  Which is amazing that watching Meygan, it was compelling enough for you to join in. And it's admirable on both sides, the work that you've done. And are there any specific areas that you grew in that now you teach couples? I'm thinking specifically under conflict and repair or communication.   Casey Caston: (25:55 - 27:42)  Yeah. So, I remember those early years and every single week was chaos to chaos. Like coming home, it'd be like, what's for dinner?   I'm hungry and we need to make a decision now. Or, you know, it's Friday night or Saturday morning. What's going on this weekend?   Or where's all our money going? It was very, it was very reactionary. And I remember reading through Stephen Covey's, you know, Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.   And the first habit is be proactive. You cannot be intentional with your life. You cannot create purpose and meaning unless you are proactive with your life.   So, Meygan and I, you know, I'm working in a company and every single week we get together and we go through what are everyone's goals? What do we need to accomplish this week? We find alignment and the week goes really well.   We've got KPIs. We've got all these like, hey, as a team, you know, work team, here's what we're trying to accomplish this week. And it just kind of dawned on us like, well, why don't we do that in marriage?   Why don't we do that for a family? You got a family of six. You got six people running around the house. All have agendas. And you are trying to find alignment so that, hey, this is what the family is all about this week, right? We've got tournaments.   We've got parties. We've got projects. We've got meals.   And I think for so many couples we talk to, they live. Life with purpose on like building their career or their business or purpose with other areas of their life. And then when it comes to family, they wing it.   Meygan Caston: (27:42 - 27:43)  They just wing it.   Casey Caston: (27:43 - 28:31)  Yeah. And it's like, well, if it's meant to be, it's meant to be. It's the winging attitude creates chaos.   And so, Meygan and I love to teach this tool called the Weekly Marriage Business Meeting. And it is all of the logistics of our relationship schedules, meal plans, budgets, connection time, sexy time, alone time, self-care time. Yeah.   And and we kind of set with intention the week ahead for us. And we go through all the decisions of who's going, what, where, when. And all of that's done.   So, when you walk into the day, you're not like stressed about what's supposed to be happening. There is alignment and there's no missed expectations.   Meygan Caston: (28:31 - 29:27)  Yeah, there's no fights anymore about, well, you said you'd be home at six. No, I didn't. I said I'd be home at seven.   We sync our calendars. And I think, too, a big thing with this is we've noticed we fight when we don't do this now. It's one of those tools that it's prevented most of conflict.   I mean, we say it will on average for the most couples that use it. We have at least over 10,000 couples we know right now currently using it that are our members that they say it cuts conflict in half in half, because what you're doing is you're even scheduling that connection time or date night time where you're like, no matter how busy we are, when are Casey and Meygan going to get to be Casey and Meygan?   And that's so important, because again, if you're winging it and you're just trying to find time to connect, well, you've got four kids, we've got two teenagers. It's never going to happen. Right. And so, the weekly marriage business meeting is definitely one of the amazing and favorite worksheets and tools that we've taught and that we use ourselves because it works.   Casey Caston: (29:28 - 29:28)  Yeah.   Laura Dugger: (29:28 - 29:59)  What a game changer. That is awesome and so practical, so intentional, which we're all about. But then also we had talked about emotional intimacy earlier and emotional intimacy is interconnected with sexual intimacy and communication is the root issue.   And that's what you teach couples. So, what are some conversations that couples can begin so that they can grow in both of those types of intimacy and enjoyment?   Casey Caston: (30:01 - 31:34)  Yeah, so, I feel like I have to start off by saying I got this so wrong when we were first married. It's OK. I forgive you now.   Yeah, because, you know. Let's just let's be we'll be we'll be completely transparent. So, Meygan and I waited to have sex until we were married.   So, now I actually waited till I was married to have sex. And I thought that under that purity guideline, I was promised maybe by a youth group, maybe by a convention, that if you withhold sex and remain pure, God is going to bless you with the best sex life when you're married. And that just simply did not happen.   Like when we first got married, I really got went into the bedroom thinking. I don't know what foreplay is, but let's have intercourse until I come and then we're done. And that's sex. That's our sexual intimacy. And we missed out on so many intimate ways of knowing each other and sex being an obligation and something like I just was demanding of it from Meygan. And. What I've come to discover and what I love to teach other men is that sex is so much more broader than just having intercourse. I mean, there was this total understanding like, well, I feel good during intercourse. This feels very stimulating, which means that Meygan must feel the exact same way while we're having intercourse.   Meygan Caston: (31:35 - 31:35)  Nope.   Casey Caston: (31:36 - 32:35)  Because that's because listen, I never had sex before. But anytime I watched a rom com, you know, the guy threw up, you know, against the wall or they're having intercourse and she's going and he's going and they're having a great time. Like this must be what sex is all about.   And what I've discovered now and I get to teach other men is that emotional intimacy is kind of the birthplace of sexual expression of love, right? That we we create safe places for our wives to to open up. And because of that, they become more willing and wanting that that sexual expression rather than us just coming in and saying, OK, it's time for sex.   Let's go. And so, when we talk about just this book, this 365 Connecting Questions for Couples, I tell my guys, I'm like, hey, if you want to have great sex, start here because that is foreplay.   Meygan Caston: (32:35 - 33:48)  That's start here. It's good to know my heart, not just use me for my body, which can feel like that for a lot of people. And I think going back to the emotional intimacy, I think that, again, you had that when you were dating or you wouldn't have gotten married.   There was no way you were. If the person was boring, closed off, if, you know, your spouse was just completely on their phone every time, you wouldn't have had that second, third, fourth date. So, there was emotional intimacy at some point, which means you can't ever say we never had it.    You can always get it back, but you can have to be intentional. And I think a great way is we call it connection time. I think date night scares a lot of people.    I think it's the idea of. We have to go to a restaurant, we have to spend money, we have to find a babysitter, all these hurdles that you have to go through to make it happen, so then couples just don't even do it. So, we're like, listen, if you if that's overwhelming to you, then try connection time.    And really what that is, it's still undivided, you know, attention and time with you and your spouse. Maybe it's smaller, maybe it's 15 minutes, 30 minutes. And I know for when our kids were little, we played board games and card games and they'd go to bed, you know, at 7:30 or 8:00 PM.    And we would bring out Yahtzee.   Casey Caston: (33:48 - 33:51)  There'd be a lot of trash talking over chutes and ladders.   Meygan Caston: (33:52 - 34:29)  But we would play. We would play games. And it was our time to connect.    And when we didn't talk about the kids, you know, we just chatted about our day and again, going through some of these connecting questions that didn't even really exist yet, but they were in our heads. Taking a walk with the dog and, you know, going to a little local coffee shop, even if it's just 30 minutes and sharing and talking and exploring that emotional intimacy should never stop again. And that's going to give people opportunities to then go into the bedroom, like Casey mentioned, more willing and more excited to be intimate to each other because it's like, oh, that's right.    We like each other. We're still married. We're still friends.   Casey Caston: (34:29 - 35:15)  You bring up a great point. Like I said, I think sitting down over the table, staring at each other can be intimidating for a lot of guys, because especially if this is not a regular habit in your relationship and taking a walk for guys when we're doing something and maybe it's less intimidating because we're not even staring at each other. But that kind of like getting the, you know, oxytocin going, like getting moving, like that kind of adrenaline can actually stimulate guys for good conversations and processing things.    And so, what we hear from a lot of couples that take our book, maybe they'll take a picture of the question and they'll go, Hey, let's take a walk. And then they'll use the question on their walk.   Meygan Caston: (35:15 - 35:15)  Yeah.   Casey Caston: (35:15 - 35:24)  And that gets conversations going. So, if that's like a on ramp onto this, that's a that's a great starting point for a lot of people.   Laura Dugger: (35:24 - 36:48)  Oh, that's so good. And I love how you say just an on ramp, because the goal is more intimacy overall together to know one another, be known. And I love that you're showing this is not a manipulation factor.    This isn't ask these questions so we can be more active in the bedroom, regardless of whichever spouse is the higher desire one. But this is to really enhance all levels of your relationship. And as you talk about oxytocin, it just makes me think such an interesting cycle that the Lord created where I will speak more stereotypically that where women require the emotional connection and then they open up and enjoy sex more.    But then men, once they've had sex and they just have this like 500 percent increase of oxytocin in this neurochemical bath that opens them up emotionally. And we could see it even as we view our differences. You could be upset because they're opposite or we can see it as a gift that they can fuel one another.    And then we get more of a holistic picture of overall intimacy. So, I'll also link to quite a few episodes because we do about one per month where we dive deeper into sexual intimacy. S   o, I can link all of those in the show notes.    But Casey, were you going to say something?   Meygan Caston: (36:49 - 36:50)  I want to say something to it.   Casey Caston: (36:51 - 37:16)  He loves. Well, so, we're talking chicken and egg, right? Like who gets the emotional intimacy, who gets the physical intimacy first?    And I just think that there's if we approach our relationship with selfishness, well, then neither people get satisfied. But if we are in an approach to serve one another and be selfless lovers. So, men would be like, you know what?    I want to meet my wife's emotional needs.   Meygan Caston: (37:16 - 37:16)  Yeah.   Casey Caston: (37:17 - 37:38)  Like and I do believe that men are the spark of initiation. If you're a husband out there listening to this, like that one of your greatest gifts to marriage is initiation. You were the one who asked for the first date.    You were the one who got down one the knee. You are the spark of initiation. And I believe that God's created women as nurturers of that initiation.   Meygan Caston: (37:39 - 37:41)  And to clarify, you're not talking just about initiating sex.   Casey Caston: (37:41 - 37:43)  Well, yes. Just everything.   Meygan Caston: (37:43 - 37:55)  Initiating, just initiating, initiating a weekly marriage business meeting. Women are so turned on by when a husband's like, hey, I don't necessarily know what we want to do for a date night, but I want to take you on a date. Can I get an amen, Laura?   Laura Dugger: (37:55 - 37:56)  Right, sister?   Meygan Caston: (37:57 - 38:14)  Hey, women are turned on. Listen, men, women are turned on. If you say, you know what?    I know that like this has been an issue with my parents and I don't even know how to handle it, but I really want to have that conversation. Oh, my gosh. Just initiating the conversation is all we're looking for.    It's OK that you don't have all the answers.   Casey Caston: (38:14 - 38:14)  Yeah.   Meygan Caston: (38:14 - 38:23)  But for men that avoid stonewall, escape, numb out, busy themselves, it is such a turnoff. It is so not what we want.   Laura Dugger: (38:23 - 39:55)  I want to make sure that you're up to date with our latest news. We have a new website. You can visit theSavvySauce.com and see all of the latest updates. You may remember Francie Heinrichsen from episode 132, where we talked about pursuing our God given dreams. She is the amazing businesswoman who has carefully designed a brand-new website for Savvy Sauce Charities. And we are thrilled with the final product.    So, I hope you check it out there. You're going to find all of our podcasts now with show notes and transcriptions listed a scrapbook of various previous guests and an easy place to join our email list to receive monthly encouragement and questions to ask your loved ones so that you can have your own practical chats for intentional living. You will also be able to access our donation button or our mailing address for sending checks that are tax deductible so that you can support the work of Savvy Sauce Charities and help us continue to reach the nation with the good news of Jesus Christ.    So, make sure you visit theSavvySauce.com.    Okay, so, then continue the conversation with just overall intimacy. What are some examples of de-escalation techniques that you recommend to couples who are in conflict, ones that can maybe help the strained relationships so that they can be repaired?  Yeah.   Meygan Caston: (39:55 - 42:19)  Yeah. So, a big thing that I've learned as someone who's very direct, I can tend to be on that, like I mentioned, fighter side. And I know a lot of women, studies have shown 75 percent of us ladies are the ones that typically bring up the issues.    So, just be aware that there is a gender difference there. And if you're a dude, there's nothing wrong with you if you're in, you know, that 75 percent or 25 percent. But I think the biggest thing I've recognized is to remind your spouse in the very beginning of the conversation, why you're having the conversation.    You know, I love you. I love us. I want to see us be the best people that we can be.    I want to see us enjoy marriage and enjoy life. I love you. Like bring the positivity and the reminder that you're better together than apart.    And really, that's part of what we call a soft startup, right? There's a lot of different soft startups you've heard of. You know, I feel when you I need those work to but I like to take it a little bit deeper to say, remind your spouse how much that you love being married to them.    Or again, whatever the issue is like we have the most. Let's say it's parenting. Casey and I are very different in our parenting styles.    Last night would have been a great difference of how that happened. But like reminder that like we both love our children. We both want the best for our kids.    No one doubts that. We both have made we made two beautiful, wonderful, quirky children. Right.    And so, even you can start the conversation with that. But I wish that more people did that because I think people are are, you know, I'm really upset about something. OK, well, the second you say that defenses, sorry, but defenses are going to go up.    We want to keep the conversations defenses low, guards low, right, de-escalation. And so, use soft startups, use kind, positive language. But I think another thing behind that would be come to the conversation processed.    Do not have these conversations 11 o'clock at night when you're tired or when you're hungry. Do not have these conversations when it just happened and you haven't had the time to just like stop. Think about what do I really need?    Why did that trigger me? What am I hoping to achieve? Why is my husband acting this way?    Oh, is he under a lot of stress? Yeah, we got to give ourselves time to sit and process before we even use those soft startups. So, that would be my advice for de-escalation.   Casey Caston: (42:20 - 43:04)  And mine actually would be an apology. I think that we all make mistakes. And when you think about a couple that's maybe living reactively, just winging it, I doubt that there's ever an apology that's given on either side because it takes a little it takes awareness to recognize, gosh, you know what?    My that little comment I just made that probably had a little zing to it. Or, you know, I really let my spouse down by not parenting the children the way she would want me to. Or, you know, I said I was going to do something and I didn't.    And I let my partner down. You want to de-escalate a tense situation. Apologize.   Meygan Caston: (43:04 - 43:04)  Yeah. Own it.   Casey Caston: (43:05 - 43:12)  When you apologize, you know, you're taking all of the heat out of the fire. They really are.   Meygan Caston: (43:12 - 43:16)  And you're validating your spouse's feelings. Who doesn't want to be validated and seen? Everybody does.   Casey Caston: (43:16 - 43:38)  And then you're taking responsibility and accountability for your actions, which is the trust builder for relationships. So, that's why when you talk about high conflict relationships, there aren't a lot of there's not a lot of trust there. It's not a safe place anymore.    So, to create that safety, we want to we want to build trust back into the relationship.   Laura Dugger: (43:39 - 43:50)  Those are fantastic. And do you guys just have maybe a handful of ideas for ways that couples can strengthen their marriage with one another?   Meygan Caston: (43:51 - 44:09)  Absolutely. I would say, obviously, the weekly marriage business meeting. I mean, I know we talked about it, but the important thing is to schedule it, put it in the calendar because you don't want to wing it.    And that way it's showing, oh, you're prioritizing us. Taking walks has been a big one for us. Playing games is a big one.   Casey Caston: (44:09 - 45:18)  The 60 second blessing is where we intentionally spend time. 60 seconds reminding our partner of how much we love them, using our words to say, like, I saw how hard you work for the family. I love how you take care of the kids and kind of reminding your partner, like I see the goodness in each other.    I think it's really important because. Day to day life, we can just be very transactional, and if we again, we have any sort of criticism or, you know, our words just are not flavored with life, well, proverb says, you know, our words have the power to give life or to give death. Right.    So, the words that we speak, if we evaluate. Are we producing what I call weed seeds? Or are we planting fruit trees?    Because weed seeds choke out the garden. Those sharp, critical words can leave your garden looking pretty shabby, whereas being intentional by speaking positive over each other. It's like planting fruit trees.    And who doesn't like a good, juicy orange? Right.   Meygan Caston: (45:18 - 47:15)  Well, and the 60 second blessing, you know, you start off by writing five to seven positive things you love about your spouse. And so, one spouse shares their list for 60 seconds and then the second spouse shares their list. And it's this habit that we actually started doing after our marriage intensive that we did as we were repairing our marriage because we had yeah, we had we had spoken such mean and harsh words or just a lot of roommate stuff.    And we needed that positivity. And it's a great foreplay tip, by the way, just to sit, sometimes sit down and go, I just need to tell you how wonderful you are. Like, who doesn't want to hear that about themselves?    I think another thing that Casey and I have recognized it is the only thing, by the way, Laura, in our marriage, the only thing that has ever stayed consistent. That's we have fun together. We laugh a lot, even in hard times.    Yeah, it wasn't as enjoyable, but we still had fun. And, you know, again, fun is different for everybody. We don't ever want to judge someone else's fun.    But we are constantly like we we are sarcastic. But that's for us because we have high trust levels. I usually tell couples if you're, you know, in a fair recovery or you have low trust levels, sarcasm is probably not great.    But we're very playful. We have again, we play a lot of fun games and we play ping pong and cornhole and we take our dogs on our dog on a walk. And we, you know, we're going to try to go ax throwing in April.    We've never done that before. Like there are fun that we've taken dance lessons. So, we like to think out of the box and do new things or things that we know that like how many games of Yahtzee have we played?    I don't even know. I mean, we've lost count. Or gin rummy, you know, I mean, we just play Sequence or Rummikub like we play them all.    And for that for us, that's really fun. We dance a lot. We love the 90's music.    Like get out your favorite playlist and just dance and sing and be goofy. Like I think if couples were to laugh and enjoy each other more and be able to laugh with themselves, I think that there would be more marriages that would stay together. Laura Dugger: (47:16 - 47:39)  That is something that I've even experienced in this time together. You guys are so fun to be around. And that's very life giving to others.    But I can see where it starts in that secret place between just the two of you, your best friend. And you share a lot of this goodness with Marriage 365. So, can you let us know all the different things that you have to offer?   Casey Caston: (47:40 - 48:48)  Yeah, I would probably say the number one way that people experience all of the resources that we've created over the years is through our mobile app. So, we have an app that has over a thousand pieces of videos, workshop, worksheet, excuse me, courses, challenges. We even have a checkup so you can actually rate kind of your marriage.    And that is a great way for people to be able to have access, you know, on the spot if they're dealing with an issue, they don't know how to get through and they're looking for a tool or a conversation to help them work through that. That our app provides such a valuable resource. I mean, beyond that, you know, some couples need a little bit more hands on approach.    So, we do coaching. We have a coaching staff actually to handle all the incoming couples that are saying, hey, can you can you help us out? And again, I just want to say coaching is really, really focused on giving action plans and homework and accountability to our clients.    And coaching is really, really helpful if you're like, I just need to know what to do next.   Meygan Caston: (48:48 - 49:17)  Yeah. We do intensives for couples that are in crisis, you know, there that are seriously considering separation or divorce or an affair recovery and that we have an over 90 percent success rate because we went through an intensive when we were struggling and it was something we knew we wanted to get trained on and do. And it's a full two days with Casey and I.    I mean, two days back-to-back. We know you. We get Christmas cards from all of our couples, you know, every year.    We love it. And it's they become almost I mean, yes, they're our clients, but they almost become like our friends.   Casey Caston: (49:17 - 49:45)  Yeah. And then probably personally, one of my favorite things that we do is we host our own couple's getaway. And this is a four-day experience.    It's not your it's not like a typical retreat where you're sitting in a conference room, you're just getting lectured all day. We're actually facilitating tools and then giving couples opportunities to work on them. Then some free time to really spend some time making great memories.    We have a dance party. It is a ton of fun.   Meygan Caston: (49:45 - 49:55)  We make sure. Yeah, we make sure it's fun. It's more it's definitely more for couples who are doing OK or want to do better, not they're not ideal for couples in crisis because it's going to be very uncomfortable.   Casey Caston: (49:55 - 49:56)  I love our retreats.   Meygan Caston: (49:56 - 49:57)  I know.   Casey Caston: (49:57 - 49:58)  I love interacting with her.   Meygan Caston: (49:58 - 50:05)  And of course, we have our social media. You can just search Marriage 365 and then we have our website, too. And we have our books, of course.   Casey Caston: (50:05 - 50:09)  Oh, and I have a men's group. I know I launched a five-week men's reset. . Meygan Caston: (50:09 - 50:34)  Needless to say, Laura, we're really busy. I do a lot. I think that's what's funny, right?    I think that people see us online and they think that we just have an Instagram, or we just have Facebook. And I'm like, we've been doing this for 12 years and we have a staff of 12 people. So, we reach a lot of people.    And we because marriage is never a one stop, you know, one size fits all. It's it's true. There are so many different dynamics, and we want to be able to help as many people as we can.   Laura Dugger: (50:35 - 50:59)  Wow. Thank you for sharing that. We will add all of those links.    I love all these different offerings that you have and that will meet people in whatever phase they're in. But you two already know we are called The Savvy Sauce because savvy is synonymous with practical knowledge. And so, as my final question for both of you, what is your Savvy Sauce?   Meygan Caston: (51:00 - 51:47)  Mine would be I would want every single person to think about becoming more confident. And that starts with becoming more self-aware. I think that that is completely changed who I am.   And I'm we're raising two kids, and I see the confidence that they have. And we're modeling that but also walking them through how to be self-aware. And really, that starts with having to be one with your thoughts, turning off the phone, sorry, turning off the podcast, sometimes turning off the music and just actually sitting and really going.    Do I really know my thoughts, my feelings, my values, my personality, my good, my bad, my ugly? And we don't do this enough. We are busy ourselves.    We're distracted constantly. And I think that it's really harming our mental health. And so, that would be my savvy sauce.   Casey Caston: (51:47 - 52:30)  Hmm. I love that, babe. It's kind of hard because we find so much alignment.    I mean, I would that's exactly what I would say, too. Um, I, you know, my focus in twenty, twenty-five has really been turned towards helping husbands. And there's a quote that Henry David Thoreau says that many men live lives of quiet desperation and they die with their songs still inside them.    And most guys are terrified of stopping and evaluating. And so, for me, creating space too. Listen, I do a 10, 10, 10 practice in the morning.   Meygan Caston: (52:30 - 52:32)  That's what I thought you were going to say.   Casey Caston: (52:32 - 52:32)  Yeah, yeah.   Meygan Caston: (52:32 - 52:36)  Well, I was like, I bet you he's going to talk about it because it's been life changing for you.   Casey Caston: (52:36 - 53:01)  Yeah. So, I spend 10 minutes of scripture reading. So, that's input.    Then I spend 10 minutes of quiet meditation where I'm sitting and I'm in a listening posture. And I mean, I think about everything from lasagna to the last wave I serve to. But there's intentionality about just opening myself like here I am.    I'm ready to be downloaded on like what you have for me today.   Meygan Caston: (53:01 - 53:02)  God be one with your thoughts.   Casey Caston: (53:03 - 53:18)  Yeah. And all sorts of things come up. And then I spent 10 minutes journaling.    And that process is just and that's like the output. Right. So, now I've got input.    I've been listening and now I get to write stuff out. And that's been a huge game changer for me.   Laura Dugger: (53:19 - 53:43)  Wow, I love both of those. You two are just refreshingly vulnerable and such an incredible mixture of intentional and lighthearted. And it has been so great just to sit under your teaching today.    So, thank you for sharing your story and for helping all of us. And thank you just for being my guests.   Meygan Caston: (53:43 - 53:45)  Oh, you're welcome. It was a pleasure to be here.   Casey Caston: (53:45 - 53:49)  Yes, you asked great questions that plumb the deep wells of Casey Meygan.   Laura Dugger: (53:52 - 57:35)  One more thing before you go. Have you heard the term gospel before?   It simply means good news. And I want to share the best news with you. But it starts with the bad news.   Every single one of us were born sinners, but Christ desires to rescue us from our sin, which is something we cannot do for ourselves. This means there is absolutely no chance we can make it to heaven on our own. So, for you and for me, it means we deserve death, and we can never pay back the sacrifice we owe to be saved.   We need a savior. But God loved us so much, he made a way for his only son to willingly die in our place as the perfect substitute. This gives us hope of life forever in right relationship with him.   That is good news. Jesus lived the perfect life we could never live and died in our place for our sin. This was God's plan to make a way to reconcile with us so that God can look at us and see Jesus.

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Tony (11, M) Story.  Now we sleep with the alarm on every night.   Elopement:  involves leaving a safe or supervised area without permission. poses a risk to the individual's safety. can occur in various settings. is a common behavior in individuals with ASD. Virginie (10, M) Stories and Service Dog.   Single Mom (9, M) heading to the judge and calls me asking for papers.  Here you go…   Let's note that Elopement was masked behind broader buckets and I think this is a miss.  We need to name and discuss this very challenging behavior.   FB Survey.  4 hours.  100+ votes, 100 comments.   https://www.facebook.com/groups/syngap/posts/1734514154096968/ 76% of respondents eloped (35% F, 41% M) 24% didn't (17% F, 7% M)   11 F, no elopement at home - but sometimes tries to elope while at school. C ( has always been an eloper - kid has a sixth sense for when someone leaves the door unlocked C elopes and age 16 years old H 9 girl constantly running away B-7.5 years old Girl - 3 Fourteen. She doesn't anymore, but used to. Not to the degree that other families struggle, but we definitely had to keep an extra close eye/ear. Had bells on all our doors, etc. Did get a call from our neighbor once while I was making dinner saying that S had just walked into her house, that she was safe, and was helping to give their baby a bath. Thankfully they were very good friends and took it in stride. (S was about four at the time.) Boys age 7. He has for awhile Boy, age 8.5. Just started eloping more so recently, in the last year. 11, girl Boy age 15 13 year old girl Girl-3 Ty 10 elopes since he can walk. It's our biggest problem. Boy age 8 but has been doing it for a while Age 7, girl. Boy - 14y/o Boy age 9… he's a track star! Boy age 12, has eloped since he could walk/run. It probably peaked around age 6 and got better with meds. Elopement is less frequent now but scarier now that he's older and higher. Boy 10. Always has wandered and will still now run off knowing he's not suppose to Any chance he gets 13 My boy (22 y/o) always was and is now a master of escape, he can hear if I turn the key in the door, front door has an alarm fitted just in case Boy , 25 the risk is high because he looks typical 25 yo female, requiring alarms, cameras,and specialized door locks.  In a state that says that these measures are unlawful restraint and invasion of privacy   Frazier, 2025. Extremely High finding as a Symptom of SYNGAP1.  See Table 2 of Quantifying neurobehavioral profiles across neurodevelopmental genetic syndromes and idiopathic neurodevelopmental disorders https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/dmcn.16112   McKee, 2025.  Notes the significantly heightened enrichment of Autistic Behavior and Behavioral Abnormality vs. Rett, Angelman or Epilepsy cohorts.  See Figure 2B of Clinical signatures of SYNGAP1-related disorders through data integration. https://www.gimjournal.org/article/S1098-3600(25)00066-8/abstract   Cunnanne, notes impulsivity (which is a euphemism for elopement if I have ever heard one) and has three quotes in Table 1 (see below), but also notes in Figure 2 that both ASD and lack of danger awareness came up in almost every interview.  See SYNGAP1-Related Intellectual Disability: Meaningful Clinical Outcomes and Development of a Disease Concept Model Draft.  https://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=5098346   Impulsivity quotes:   Runs toward streets - “He wouldn't stop himself from running into the road. He climbs things in that house that you're like‘oh my god, how are you going to get out of that?'”   Jumps into pools - “He would walk into a pond. We were at the pool the other day…and he just walked off the edge and just fell into the water and was like… he would have just drowned.”   Runs toward crowds - “She was a bolter. So that was always scary. We had a few scares where you look away for a moment, I mean, we always had somebody with her, but it could be a moment's time and it's like where'd you go, you thought she was right there.”   FUNDRAISING 3 events in 3 states… https://mailchi.mp/curesyngap1.org/3-events-1-mission-support-syngap1-families-this-fall?e=e95ed9a1c4  Gala for SYNGAP1 August 22, 2025 - Farmingdale, NJ cureSYNGAP1.org/Gala5 Beacon of Hope September 12, 2025 - Boston, MA cureSYNGAP1.org/Beacon25 Scramble for SYNGAP October 4, 2025 - Greer, SC cureSYNGAP1.org/Scramble   Also, Conference is in 107 Days https://curesyngap1.org/events/conferences/cure-syngap1-conference-2025-hosted-by-srf/   STUDIES - MATTER https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/1yRPHMRY3pXPgbOacDM9Sr906VejdJWsonUWvqRD9VVI/edit?usp=sharing    Pubmed is at 37 (One a week!) https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/?term=syngap1&filter=years.2025-2025&timeline=expanded&sort=date&sort_order=asc   SHARE BLOOD TO THE SRF BIOBANK AT CB! 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Are your impulsive decisions costing you your peace, goals, or relationships? Do you constantly feel like you need instant results — and when they don't come, you spiral or quit? In this episode, I will unpack the real psychology of impulsivity and impatience — including what your brain is doing, why your nervous system craves urgency, and how this pattern is silently sabotaging your success. You'll learn: *The neuroscience of impulsive behavior (dopamine, reward systems & poor delay gratification)  *How childhood trauma and unmet emotional needs train you to seek fast relief *Why emotional regulation is more important than motivation *What you can do today to stop letting impatience run your life If you struggle with quitting too soon, overreacting, or chasing quick fixes — this episode will give you the clarity and tools you need to rebuild your self-trust and make calm decisions that align with your real goals.

You know the feeling—that moment when everything feels just a little too much and suddenly you're spiraling into a full-on emotional crash? Yeah, we've all been there. But what if you could catch yourself before the meltdown, shift your perspective, and handle stress like the emotionally intelligent queen (or king

This week we are excited to have a live coaching session! We welcome Melissa and Selina and Jeremiah coach her through the difficulty she experiences with her daughters impulsivity. Interested in being coached on our show? Get in in contact with Jeremiah and Selina today! Phone: 208.557.1227 email: info@coreconnection.org Website: Core Connection   Our email: mentalhealthpod21@gmail.com

In this gripping episode of the Secret Life Podcast, host Brianne Davis-Gantt takes a deep dive into the often-misunderstood world of psychopaths and sociopaths. With her unique blend of insight and humor, Brianne explores the key differences between these two personality types, unraveling the complexities of their behaviors and the underlying causes that shape them.Throughout the episode, Brianne shares her experiences working with individuals who exhibit these traits, emphasizing that while psychopaths are often born with certain genetic predispositions, sociopaths develop their behaviors through environmental factors and trauma. She highlights the stark contrasts in their behaviors—psychopaths tend to be controlled and manipulative, while sociopaths exhibit impulsive and erratic tendencies.Listeners will gain valuable insights into the characteristics that define these personalities, from the lack of empathy and emotional connections to the calculated and often charming facade that psychopaths can present. Brianne provides practical advice for recognizing and protecting oneself from these individuals, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care.This episode serves as a powerful reminder of the impact that understanding personality disorders can have on our relationships and well-being. Tune in for a thought-provoking conversation that encourages listeners to navigate their interactions with empathy and awareness, all while safeguarding their own mental health.

Summary:   Can love really be quantified? In this enlightening episode of Higher Density Living, Zoey Charif reveals how heartbreak and data led her to design the groundbreaking Love Formula. From spiritual growth to psychological clarity, discover how compatibility, self-love, and purpose can be measured and mastered. Tune in and transform your understanding of relationships through the lens of consciousness and calculated connection.   Overview:   What if your most painful breakup held the key to unlocking your highest potential in love? This episode explores that profound question through the eyes of Zoey Charif, an Afghan-born, Vancouver-raised analyst turned relationship alchemist. After enduring cycles of unhealed romantic patterns, Zoey transmuted her emotional pain into purpose by crafting the “Love Formula”—a method to assess compatibility based on values, traits, and emotional intelligence.   Jason Rigby and Zoey dive into how trauma, distorted self-worth, and cultural expectations can shape our relationship choices unconsciously. Zoey's approach doesn't eliminate emotion—it elevates it. Listeners will learn how to calculate their “Self Score,” identify top values, and consciously match with a partner whose score complements their own. From admiration as a foundation for love to understanding why purpose heals, this episode bridges the analytical and the ethereal, offering spiritual seekers a method to love wisely and fully.   Timestamps: 00:00 Introduction to Love and Self-Awareness 02:39 Personal Insights and Self-Discovery 05:30 The Love Formula Explained 08:25 Understanding Compatibility and Attraction 11:07 The Role of Purpose in Relationships 13:59 Navigating Emotions and Impulsivity 16:45 Mismatch Relationships and Their Consequences 19:26 Celebrating Success in Relationships 22:10 Addressing Insecurities and Communication 25:00 The Impact of Trauma on Self-Worth 27:22 Understanding Toxicity in Relationships 30:25 Identifying Imbalances in Partner Dynamics 33:00 The Role of Self-Confidence in Relationships 37:35 Exploring Personality Types in Relationships 43:10 The Importance of Boundaries 48:50 Recognizing Deceivers in Dating   Quotes: “You can admire your partner without losing yourself.” – Zoey Charif “Our emotions are primal. Our choices are divine.” – Jason Rigby “Love isn't luck. It's clarity, courage, and calculation.” – Zoey Charif   Takeaways: Self-awareness is crucial for healthy relationships. The Love Formula helps measure compatibility scientifically. Understanding personal values can improve relationship choices. Attraction should not overshadow compatibility in relationships. Purpose in life can enhance relationship satisfaction. Emotions can cloud judgment; clarity is essential. Mismatched values often lead to relationship breakdowns. Celebrating each other's successes strengthens bonds. Jealousy often stems from insecurity and low self-worth. Recognizing toxic patterns can prevent future heartache.   Resources:

In this Huberman Lab Essentials episode, I explore the biology and psychology of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), and discuss both prescription and non-prescription treatment options. I discuss the neural circuits involved in attention and concentration, emphasizing dopamine's role in regulating and coordinating focus. I explain how common prescription stimulants like Ritalin, Adderall, and Modafinil act on the brain to treat ADHD, and discuss non-drug approaches, including supplements and behavioral training to support focus. The episode offers tools and insights beneficial not only for those with ADHD but for anyone seeking to improve attention and focus. Read the episode show notes at hubermanlab.com. Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman Eight Sleep: https://eightsleep.com/huberman Joovv: https://joovv.com/huberman Timestamps 00:00:00 Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) 00:01:10 ADHD Challenges, Attention, Impulsivity, Hyperfocus, Time Perception, Working Memory 00:05:22 Sponsor: Eight Sleep 00:07:03 Dopamine & Focus; Default Mode Network & Task Network 00:11:57 ADHD & Low-Dopamine Hypothesis, Stimulants, Sugar 00:16:15 ADHD Prescriptions, Ritalin, Adderall, Stimulants 00:18:05 Sponsor: Joovv 00:19:18 Children, Learning to Focus & ADHD Prescriptions 00:22:26 Attentional Blinks, Tool: Improve Focus, Open-Monitoring, Panoramic Vision 00:26:28 Blinking, Dopamine & Time Perception, Tool: Visual Focus Training 00:30:39 Sponsor: AG1 00:32:16 Ritalin, Adderall, Modafinil, Side Effects, Tapering 00:34:05 Omega-3 Fatty Acids, EPA, DHA & Attention Effects; Phosphatidylserine 00:36:01 Modafinil, Armodafinil 00:36:51 Acetylcholine, Alpha-GPC 00:38:55 L-Tyrosine, Dopamine, Preexisting Conditions & Caution 00:39:51 Smartphones & Focus, Tool: Limiting Smartphone Use 00:41:56 Recap & Key Takeaways Disclaimer & Disclosures Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Huberman Lab Essentials episode, I discuss both healthy eating and clinically recognized eating disorders, including anorexia, bulimia and binge eating disorder. I explain how brain circuits, hormones such as leptin and reward systems interact to regulate appetite, satiety and overall eating behaviors. I also discuss the serious health risks associated with anorexia, explain how disrupted eating habits contribute to its development and highlight evidence-based treatments for anorexia. Finally, I explore binge eating and bulimia, discussing the underlying causes and the pharmacological treatments commonly used to support recovery. Read the episode show notes at hubermanlab.com. Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman LMNT: https://drinklmnt.com/huberman Function: https://functionhealth.com/huberman Timestamps 00:00:00 Eating Disorders 00:01:05 Fasting, Intermittent Fasting, Healthy Eating 00:06:10 Self-Diagnosis Caution 00:07:20 Sponsor: LMNT 00:08:52 Eating Disorders, Anorexia Nervosa 00:12:39 Hunger & Satiety; Appetite, Body Fat & Brain 00:17:20 Homeostasis & Reward Systems, Eating Disorders 00:21:12 Sponsor: AG1 00:22:49 Anorexia, Puberty, Hyperacuity & Food 00:25:55 Decision-Making vs Reflexes/Habits, Anorexia 00:29:29 Anorexia & Breaking Habits, Therapies & Family-Based Models 00:32:08 Distorted Self-Image & Anorexia 00:35:03 Sponsor: Function 00:36:43 Bulimia & Binge-Eating Disorder, Impulsivity & Prescription Treatments 00:40:28 Recap & Key Takeaways Disclaimer & Disclosures Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this honest and eye-opening episode, Lindsey Maestas dives deep into the impact of ADHD on relationships and friendships. With vulnerability, faith, and research-backed insight, she explores why many people with ADHD subconsciously seek out chaos, conflict, toxic relationships, or emotionally unavailable partners. It isn't out of desire, but as a way of seeking out neurological stimulation. Lindsey discusses how ADHD can intensely heighten feelings of rejection, create a cycle of emotional highs and lows in relationships, often leading to toxic dynamics, chronic arguing, and feelings of inadequacy or isolation. She unpacks the difference between laziness and ADHD Paralysis, explaining the brain science behind task initiation struggles and why shame is often misdirected.  Whether you've been diagnosed with ADHD, have a partner or friend who struggles with it, or simply relate to the patterns of emotional burnout, impulsive decisions, or feeling like you're “too much” in relationships, this episode is a lifeline. Lindsey encourages self-compassion and offers tangible insight to help you understand your brain, regulate your emotions, and build healthier, more stable connections without sacrificing your joy.  Don't forget to give a quick rating and review on Spotify or the Podcasts app (pretty please!) SUBSCRIBE for more conversations like this.  Follow along with me on IG: @livingeasywithlindsey

My guest is Dr. Marc Berman, PhD, a professor of psychology at the University of Chicago whose research explores how different physical environments—particularly nature and patterns found in nature—can positively impact our ability to focus, our cognitive performance and our mental and physical health. We discuss how our physical environment influences our attention, stress levels and brain and heart health. He explains how even brief periods in nature and exposure to natural images and sounds can restore and improve attentional capacity, reduce mental fatigue and help combat rumination and depression. Whether you live in a city, suburb or rural area, this episode offers simple science-backed strategies for incorporating nature and natural elements into your daily life to positively transform your cognitive ability and mental and physical health. Read the episode show notes at hubermanlab.com. Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman Helix Sleep: https://helixsleep.com/huberman BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/huberman Our Place: https://fromourplace.com/huberman LMNT: https://drinklmnt.com/huberman Timestamps 00:00:00 Marc Berman 00:02:14 Direct vs Involuntary Attention, Mental Fatigue, Attention Restoration Theory 00:06:59 Attention Fatigue, Focus & Vision, Tool: Restoring Attention in Nature 00:11:26 Sponsors: Helix Sleep & BetterHelp 00:13:50 Focused Work, Tool: Pre-Work Nature Breaks to Enhance Focus 00:15:54 Nature Walks & Cognitive Benefits, Comparing Nature vs Urban Environments 00:21:31 Nature, “Softly Fascinating Stimulation”, Fractals 00:27:12 Nature Images & Sounds, Cognitive Benefits 00:30:03 Urban vs Nature Images, Complexity & Image Compression; Semantics 00:40:44 Time Perception & Nature; Art Galleries 00:45:32 Tools: Resetting Attention & Nature Break; Features of a Restorative Nature Environments vs Focused Workspace; Length of Time in Nature 00:52:47 Sponsors: AG1 & Our Place 00:55:59 Nature, Time & Widening Attention; Fractals & Nature 01:02:21 Nature vs Urban Environments & Brain, Social Media & Attention 01:09:44 Depression & Rumination, Mental Well-Being, Attention & Nature 01:14:56 Sleep vs Wakefulness; Protecting Attention, Social Media 01:24:44 Sponsor: LMNT 01:26:19 Impulsivity, Texting & Attention, Meditation vs Nature Restoration 01:33:10 Passive Restorative vs Passive Depleting Activities, “Mental Obesity”, Shrinking Attention Span 01:37:31 Kids, Phones, Tool: Nature Free Play; Social Happy Hour, Tool: Solitary Nature Breaks 01:45:30 Physical Health Benefits of Nature, Trees & Indoor Greenery; Aquariums 01:53:26 Thoughts, Feelings & Physical Spaces, Biophilic Design, Bringing Nature Indoors 02:01:03 Nature Breaks, Incorporating Nature into Schools, Work, Home & Cities; Forest Bathing 02:09:18 Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify & Apple Follow & Reviews, Sponsors, YouTube Feedback, Protocols Book, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter Disclaimer & Disclosures Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a text$100 OFF All July PMDD Private Sessions-No Code Needed!Click to Book a Private PMDD SessionFollow me on InstagramFollow me on TikTokHave you ever said something in the heat of the moment that you instantly regretted? That impulsive text message you can't unsend? The dramatic exit from an argument that made everything worse? If you're nodding right now, this episode is for you.Impulsivity is perhaps the most destructive force in PMDD relationships, yet it's rarely discussed as a central symptom affecting both partners. While we often associate premenstrual dysphoric disorder with mood swings and physical discomfort, the brain's inability to regulate emotional responses during the luteal phase creates the perfect storm for damaging impulsive behaviors.During low serotonin periods before menstruation, the brain's "feel good" chemical plummets, making it biologically more difficult to pause before acting. This isn't just about snapping at your partner—it manifests as blocking them on social media, making dramatic relationship ultimatums, overspending, binge eating, or even threatening self-harm. For partners without PMDD, the chronic stress of relationship volatility creates its own impulsivity patterns, leading to reactive behaviors that further damage trust.What makes impulsivity particularly insidious is how it hijacks your decision-making. In those critical moments, the brain focuses entirely on escaping uncomfortable emotions, completely blind to future consequences. I share my own experiences with impulsivity—from booking unnecessary trips to binge-eating chips during luteal phase (those Sweet Heat Lay's are my kryptonite!)—alongside practical tools like the 90-second rule that allows emotional chemicals to settle before reacting.The most powerful insight? Recognizing your personal impulsivity pattern. Do you become impulsive when feeling rejected? Offended? Overwhelmed? Once identified, you can create an "impulse buffer zone" with five safe activities to interrupt the pattern before damage occurs. For partners, simple practices like waiting 10 minutes before responding to heated messages can preserve relationship health during turbulent moments.Ready to break the impulsivity cycle? Download my "Pause the PMDD Panic" worksheet to customize these tools to your specific patterns. Your relationship doesn't have to be at the mercy of impulsive moments—with awareness and practical strategies, you can navigate PMDD without causing lasting damage to the connections that matter most.

Pastor Chris Ansell of Restoration Community Church continues a series through the book of Judges. Samson was a figure with such promise (Judges 13), but who was stirred more by his senses than the Spirit of the Lord. We will see both Samson's violent nature, as well as the Lord's purposes being accomplished through his behavior. Passages: Judges 14:1-15:20; Exodus 34:15-16; Acts 2:23; 1 Corinthians 13:1-3; Galatians 5:22-23

Have you been told you're “too dramatic”? Have people responded to the way you've reacted to things with invalidating statements, like “it's not that big of a deal,” “you're overreacting,” or “you're too sensitive”?This week on Tips from an ADHD Coach, Jaye talks about how ADHD can make it harder for us to manage our emotional responses and how this can create a snowball effect of negative emotions.Related resourcesTrouble with self-regulation: What to knowADHD and emotionsTimestamps(00:00) Intro(00:45) Janice's quote(02:50) ADHD and emotional regulation(06:00) Impulsivity and big feelings(08:19) What can we do?(14:37) Recap(15:55) CreditsWe love hearing from our listeners! Email us at adhdcoachtips@understood.org Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

Enjoying the podcast? Tell us what you think below and give us a review or rating. As always we'd love to hear your suggestions and feedback. Send us an email: podcast@pensionbee.com. ADHA can affect how your brain handles things like planning, focus and organisation, which can make it particularly challenging to stay on top of your finances. Things like paying off debt, saving into a pension, paying a bill on time can feel really overwhelming.  In this episode we explore exactly why money and ADHD can clash, find out what can help, and take a look at how to build systems that could work for you.  Join our host, Philippa Lamb, and our expert panel as they break it all down. Dr Tara Quinn, Registered Practitioner Psychologist; Krystle McGilvery, Financial Strategist and Behavioural Expert; and Emily Tribe, Head of Culture, Inclusion and Wellbeing, PensionBee   Episode Breakdown: 01:27 What is ADHD?  05:13 Managing money with ADHD 06:33 The ADHD tax 07:57 Executive dysfunction  09:53 Impulsivity 13:38 Time blindness  18:37 Body doubling 20:19 Emotional dysregulation 22:06 Support and resources 23:45 ADHD and the finance industry   Further reading and listening: To learn more about ADHD and finances, check out these articles from PensionBee: Episode 40 transcript (Blog) E15: How can we achieve financial inclusion? (Podcast) 8 easy steps to build an effective budget (Blog) The effects of debt and how we can break the cycle (Blog) How can I improve my credit score? (Blog)  How PensionBee's supporting vulnerable customers (Blog) Savings and investments  Pension contributions (Pensions Explained)  Pensions Age (Pensions Explained)   Other useful resources: The ADHD Tax (ADHD Traction) “I've lost over £4000 because of the ADHD tax” (BBC) Our view of ADHD needs to change – the disorder presents differently in women and girls (The Independent)  The ADHD Tax study (Monzo)  Harnessing neurodiversity to create accessible banking (NatWest) Neurodiversity at Barclays (Barclays)  UK challenger bank Neuros to offer money management for neurodiverse users (FinTech Futures) ADHD and Money (Think ADHD) How to be financially responsible whilst having fun (Female Invest) ADHD in adults (NHS)  ADHD UK ADHD Foundation    Catch up on the latest news, read our transcripts or watch on YouTube: The Pension Confident Podcast The Pension Confident Podcast on YouTube   Follow PensionBee (@PensionBee) on TikTok, YouTube, Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook, X and Threads. Follow Dr Tara Quinn on Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook, YouTube and X. Follow Krystle McGilvery on Instagram and LinkedIn.  

In this Best of Summer favorite, Shannon returns to one of the most raw and relatable topics in autism parenting—behavior.From meltdowns and aggression to sensory challenges and emotional outbursts, this episode is for every mom trying to stay calm in the chaos while figuring out what their child's behavior is trying to say.With heartfelt honesty, Shannon shares her personal stories as Jordan's mom and brings in the lived experiences of other moms inside the NYAAM community. You'll learn practical, real-world strategies to teach replacement behaviors, set boundaries with love, and manage your own emotions when things feel out of control.This episode is a reminder that you don't have to have it all figured out—and that grace under pressure is a skill we learn, one step at a time.In this episode of Not Your Average Autism Mom, Shannon dives into one of the most challenging aspects of raising a child on the spectrum—managing behaviors. With heartfelt stories from her own journey as Jordan's mom and insights from moms in the NYAAM community, she explores how to balance understanding and validating your child while setting clear boundaries and expectations.Shannon shares practical strategies for managing meltdowns, teaching replacement behaviors, and building your resilience muscle along the way. You'll learn why it's okay not to have all the answers and how every twist and turn is an opportunity for growth—for both you and your child.Whether you're navigating aggression, sensory challenges, or emotional outbursts, this episode reminds you that you're not alone. Together, you and your child will figure it out, one step at a time.Tune in for encouragement, strategies, and the reminder that you're stronger than you think.

If you've ever thought, “Who is this bigger, louder version of my sweet child?” — you're not alone. In this eye-opening conversation, Wendy and Terry sit down with therapist and teen brain expert Yshai Boussi (author of Staying Connected with Your Teen) to break down what's really going on inside the teenage mind. From dopamine surges to impulsivity and independence, learn why teens act the way they do — and how you can stay connected, set limits, and support them through these intense years. Whether you're in the teen trenches or preparing for them, this episode will leave you feeling informed, empowered, and hopeful. For links & more info about everything discussed in this episode, head to ⁠www.freshstartfamilyonline.com/279.⁠ Grab my FREE Quick Start Learning Bundle & discover 3 secrets to empower, connect, and build true collaboration with your strong-willed child! Head to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://freshstartfamilyonline.com/power⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Don't forget to check us out over on ⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A spur of the moment decision can change your life forever.  That's a powerful moment.  Take a break, talk to God, don't hesitate.  

Amy MacIver is joined by Professor Renata Schoeman, Head of Healthcare Leadership at Stellenbosch Business School, to unpack the complexities of ADHD — one of the most common neurodevelopmental disorders in children. Presenter John Maytham is an actor and author-turned-talk radio veteran and seasoned journalist. His show serves a round-up of local and international news coupled with the latest in business, sport, traffic and weather. The host’s eclectic interests mean the program often surprises the audience with intriguing book reviews and inspiring interviews profiling artists. A daily highlight is Rapid Fire, just after 5:30pm. CapeTalk fans call in, to stump the presenter with their general knowledge questions. Another firm favourite is the humorous Thursday crossing with award-winning journalist Rebecca Davis, called “Plan B”. Thank you for listening to a podcast from Afternoon Drive with John Maytham Listen live on Primedia+ weekdays from 15:00 and 18:00 (SA Time) to Afternoon Drive with John Maytham broadcast on CapeTalk https://buff.ly/NnFM3Nk For more from the show go to https://buff.ly/BSFy4Cn or find all the catch-up podcasts here https://buff.ly/n8nWt4x Subscribe to the CapeTalk Daily and Weekly Newsletters https://buff.ly/sbvVZD5 Follow us on social media: CapeTalk on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CapeTalk CapeTalk on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@capetalk CapeTalk on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ CapeTalk on X: https://x.com/CapeTalk CapeTalk on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CapeTalk567 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why do some people struggle to control their actions when emotions run high? What happens in the brain when impulsive decisions take over? Why do some brains lose control under high arousal, while others stay composed?  In this episode of Under the Cortex, host Özge Gürcanlı Fischer-Baum speaks with Matthew V. Elliott from the University of California at Berkeley. Elliott's study published in APS's journal Clinical Psychological Science explores the science of emotion-related impulsivity —a trait linked to psychiatric disorders, aggression, and even suicidality. Fischer Baum and Elliott discuss how a new model of brain function, the GANE model, helps explain why heightened physiological arousal makes it harder for some people to regulate their emotions, what norepinephrine does to “hotspot” brain regions, and what this means for mental health treatments.  If you're interested in learning more about this research, visit psychologicalscience.org.    Send us your thoughts and questions at  underthecortex@psychologicalscience.org   

What Is Elopement in Autism? Elopement—also known as wandering—is a common behavior among children with autism. It refers to when a child leaves a safe environment without permission, often placing themselves in potentially dangerous situations. According to the National Autism Association, 49% of autistic children have attempted to elope, and the behavior typically peaks between ages 4 and 7. Understanding the causes of elopement is the first step toward reducing its frequency and improving safety. Top Causes of Elopement in Autistic Children 1. Sensory Overload or Sensory Seeking Many children with autism experience sensory processing differences. They may find certain environments too loud, bright, or overwhelming, leading them to flee. Others may seek out sensory-rich experiences—like spinning fans, running water, or flashing lights—and wander off in pursuit of them. 2. Communication Difficulties Children with limited or nonverbal communication skills may elope as a way to express a need or emotion. Elopement becomes a nonverbal message, saying “I'm upset,” “I need a break,” or “I don't understand.” 3. Escaping Demands or Transitions Some children elope to avoid non-preferred activities, such as schoolwork, chores, or social interaction. Elopement can function as a behavioral response to challenging expectations or transitions. 4. Anxiety and Fight-or-Flight Responses Autistic children often experience anxiety in social or unfamiliar settings. For some, running away is a natural response to overwhelming fear, acting as a way to self-soothe or find safety. 5. Impulsivity and Poor Executive Function Children on the autism spectrum may also struggle with impulse control and planning. In some cases, they may run impulsively without a clear goal or without recognizing potential dangers. 6. Goal-Directed Wandering Not all elopement is escape behavior. Sometimes children are simply trying to reach a desired location—like a favorite playground, a relative's house, or even a store they remember. One of the most common, yet unknown, triggers for elopement is phenol sensitivity. Elopement is from many things but the sensory overload and impulsivity also come from phenols known to contribute to eloping.  Phenols are the natural colorings in foods such as in fruits and vegetables. Phenols are also in the artificial colorings that are in yogurt, candy, and popsicles, etc. Used industrially, they help form and are contained in plastics. They can be an allergen, whether from food or plastic products. People with poor methylation are often phenol sensitive. It is very common for children on the autism spectrum to be allergic to phenols. This is often due to an ill digestive tract. Normally the body could properly utilize and eliminate phenols. Phenols and salicylates are in most foods. Candida/yeast overgrowth and leaky gut contribute to phenol sensitivity. Leaky gut will allow these chemicals to enter the bloodstream in high  concentrations. This alarms the body and triggers an immune response which creates an allergy to these chemicals... Click Here or Click the link below for more details! https://naturallyrecoveringautism.com/220

In the latest episode of The Bernie Fratto Show, Bernie begins the show explaining why the Nuggets v. Thunder series has him most intrigued after an anticlimactic Saturday of hoops, and Draymond’s postseason history of excessive actions, suspensions, and flagrant fouls. FOX Sports Radio NBA Analyst Mark Medina joins the show to talk about the Celtics dominating win over the Knicks, the Nuggets knocking off the young Thunder, if the Warriors are cooked & possible Lakers offseason moves. Bernie goes through the Anonymous NBA Player Poll and which specific questions stuck out to him and why there is no real offseason when it comes to the NFL. Plus, Brand New Editions of Brand-New Fool & What My Name & your calls during the Midnight Hour! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode I'm answer some big questions from a student inside MWM. Today you'll get answers to the following:What exactly is intuition according to Human Design? Is it your authority?How can I tell the difference between my sacral yes and being impulsive?How can I tell if I am initiating too much? These are very common questions that I hear all the time from students who practice and embody Human Design on a regular basis. If you too have wondered these things, you'll love today's episode! Sign up for the Digestion Masterclass before May 15th, 2025 to get in on the upcoming live Q&A! (Recording will be provided for ALL future students).Looking for more help with embodying, understanding, and practicing your design? Get inside Manifest with Madeline the membership! Click here to learn more and sign up now.Follow Madeline's on Instagram @healthy_madelineLook up your Human Design Chart HereBook a reading with Madeline hereVisit Madeline's website here

Welcome jet pilot, pastor, and author Ricky Brown to unpack the five “hazardous attitudes” every church leader must watch out for—straight from FAA training and powerfully applied to ministry. Ricky draws on his dual experience as a commercial pilot and church planter to share practical, soul-tending wisdom for avoiding burnout and moral failure. Ricky's new book, The 5 Hazardous Attitudes: Ways to Win the War Within, breaks these down through powerful fables and life lessons. Greg and Ricky dive deep into the signs of anti-authority, invulnerability, macho attitudes, impulsivity, and resignation, and how each can destroy ministry, marriages, and leadership if not confronted. Explore more of Ricky's work, speaking, and resources at rickybrown.org. View Ricky's Speaker Reel Instagram: @allthingsrickyb   Connect with Greg Nettle and Stadia Church Planting at https://stadia.org   01:00 - Meet Ricky Brown: Pastor, pilot, and author 02:15 - Planting a 70% unchurched church during the pandemic 04:00 - Tending to your soul as a leader 05:35 - The story behind “The 5 Hazardous Attitudes” 06:15 - Overview of the 5 attitudes: anti-authority, invulnerability, macho, impulsivity, resignation 08:00 - Anti-authority and unresolved trauma 10:00 - Invulnerability: "It won't happen to me" 12:45 - Macho: Proving your worth as a leader 15:00 - Impulsivity: Acting too fast under pressure 18:50 - Guardrails for impulsivity: See your team as safety rails, not speed bumps 20:00 - Aviation stories that mirror leadership failures 23:00 - Resignation: Why leaders give up too soon 25:00 - Leading through darkness and not quitting before breakthrough 26:30 - Where to find Ricky's book and workbook: [rickybrown.org](https://www.rickybrown.org/) 27:00 - Final words on biblical leadership and self-awareness

Von shares his personal journey with ADHD, discussing the importance of therapy, the challenges of impulsivity, and the impact of his diagnosis on his self-esteem. He reflects on coping mechanisms, including video games, and emphasizes the need for accessible mental health resources. Von also addresses the complexities of managing ADHD without medication and encourages listeners to seek help when needed.Chapters (00:00) Introduction and Personal Update(03:49) The Importance of Therapy(06:30) Understanding ADHD (09:37) Impulsivity and Addiction(12:49) Self-Discovery and Relief(15:38) Navigating Impulse Control(18:33) Coping Mechanisms and Video Games(21:25) Managing ADHD Without Medication(29:29) Conclusion and Final ThoughtsFollow Me on Social Media:https://www.instagram.com/thevoncastshow/https://www.instagram.com/shibavon/ https://www.iamvon.net/

Ever felt like your brain just can't stop – or won't stop?Ideas, overthinking, random thoughts and that constant inner monologue that never shuts up – some might call it the ADHD chatter.If you know, you know.And let's be honest, it can leave you wondering if there's something wrong with you.Well today's guest will tell you that you are not alone. And you are definitely not broken.In this episode, I sit down with Alex Partridge – founder of Unilad and host of the ADHD Chatter Podcast – for an honest conversation about what it's really like living with ADHD. No pretending. Just the chaos, the truth and what it actually feels like.Alex doesn't just talk the talk. From building viral empires to wrestling with the reality of an ADHD diagnosis later in life, he's lived it. And now, he's using his voice to shift the way we think about neurodiversity – one real conversation at a time.Here's what we Untangle in this episode: 

Muitas pessoas usam a metáfora "bateria social" para se referir à capacidade de socialização. Sabia que o termo é usado formalmente em outras áreas? E que tem relação com os conceitos de introversão e extroversão? Saiba o que a ciência tem a dizer sobre isso.Confira o papo entre o leigo curioso, Ken Fujioka, e o cientista PhD, Altay de Souza.>> OUÇA (56min 16s)*Naruhodo! é o podcast pra quem tem fome de aprender. Ciência, senso comum, curiosidades, desafios e muito mais. Com o leigo curioso, Ken Fujioka, e o cientista PhD, Altay de Souza.Edição: Reginaldo Cursino.http://naruhodo.b9.com.br*APOIO: INSIDERIlustríssima ouvinte, ilustríssimo ouvinte do Naruhodo, chegou abril, o mês de aniversário da INSIDER!E adivinha quem sai ganhando? Quem entende que menos é mais! Ou seja: você e eu!Você já sabe que eu uso INSIDER há anos, tanto para o trabalho quanto para o lazer. Porque eu quero menos consumo por impulso, mais peças que duram e uma moda que valorize o meu estilo pessoal.E eu sei que você tava só esperando uma desculpa pra comprar aquela camiseta da INSIDER que eu vivo usando e sobre a qual vivo falando bem... Então, vem experimentar INSIDER você também!Em abril, o cupom NARUHODO mais os descontos do site podem chegar a até 30% de desconto. É isso mesmo: 30% de desconto!Para aproveitar, o jeito mais fácil é usar o endereço https://bit.ly/naruhodo-abril-2025 ou clicar no link da descrição deste episódio: o cupom será aplicado automaticamente no carrinho.INSIDER: inteligência em cada escolha.#InsiderStore*APOIO: HOMO ACADEMICUSAqui no Naruhodo, a gente vive falando sobre as dificuldades da vida acadêmica. Ao mesmo tempo, a gente acredita que ela pode ser mais legal e menos solitária.Por isso temos a felicidade de divulgar um projeto admirável: o HOMO ACADEMICUS.O HOMO ACADEMICUS surge como um esforço comunitário que ambiciona inspirar as pessoas a buscar outras formas de viver a universidade. Que une pessoas de vários países da América Latina, como Brasil, Peru, Chile, Equador, Argentina e México. E também diferentes áreas do conhecimento e habilidades, como de escrita, edição, tradução, design e pesquisa.Ele é um podcast? É. Traz temas como as regras não ditas da universidade, gestão do tempo, violência na universidade, comunidades de pesquisas, escrita acadêmica, entre outros.Mas HOMO ACADEMICUS é também muito mais que um podcast, e será cada vez mais. É capacitação, é reflexão, é diálogo.E traz ainda uma ideia muito bacana: os Clubes de Escuta, que são redes de apoio que vocês - estudantes, pesquisadores e professores - podem criar para discutirem os desafios de seus contextos, usando como suporte os recursos que são preparados para cada episódio.Então conheça hoje mesmo essa belíssima iniciativa:homoacademicus.org*REFERÊNCIASInnovative and Introverted: How Introverts Function in the Creative Workplacehttps://scholarcommons.sc.edu/senior_theses/290/“I have to charge my social battery”: Perspectives from autistic young adults on Quality of Lifehttps://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/13623613241245578A neuropsychological battery to detect specific executive and social cognitive impairments in early frontotemporal dementiahttps://academic.oup.com/brain/article-abstract/132/5/1299/356114EMOTICOM: A Neuropsychological Test Battery to Evaluate Emotion, Motivation, Impulsivity, and Social Cognitionhttps://www.frontiersin.org/journals/behavioral-neuroscience/articles/10.3389/fnbeh.2016.00025/fullARCHITECTURE OF UTOPIAN SOCIAL BATTERY IN THE NEOLIBERAL CITIEShttps://digitalcommons.bau.edu.lb/apj/vol27/iss1/6/Meta-analytic relations between personality and cognitive abilityhttps://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10266031/The Social Accumulator as a Concept to Manage Social Energy in the Age of Digital Transformationhttps://personales.upv.es/thinkmind/dl/journals/sysmea/sysmea_v16_n34_2023/sysmea_v16_n34_2023_1.pdfThe Friendship Field - an Agent-Based Model on Dyadic Friendship Formation Driven by Social Batteryhttps://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-3-031-34920-1_24Running on Empty: How COVID Has Affected Our Social Skillshttps://scholarshare.temple.edu/items/7e9bec4d-341c-4bd4-8d7c-49d39b2d2038THE PERSONALITY FEATURES OF INTROVERTS AND EXTROVERTShttps://interoncof.com/index.php/denmark/article/view/7806Association between dopamine receptor D2 Taq IA gene polymorphism (rs1800497) and personality traitshttps://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/20503121241241922The Relationship Between Personality Type (Introvert and Extrovert) and Hypertension in the Productive Age: A Review of Current Literature https://www.ijscia.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/Volume5-Issue6-Nov-Dec-No.792-1700-1704.pdfAssociation between DRD4 gene and perception of architectural spaces by using EEGhttps://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/00038628.2024.2367981?casa_token=hXKeCOJhh-YAAAAA:E1N2yzfdf4alR2Vnqp25QYpY24DmKkhikbp-Hmarrrr2aDtnHZwhTj1P9rbsVQL6XXR-GcG2wPHyNaruhodo #103 - Testes de personalidade funcionam?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uZl_y6N6hHANaruhodo #348 - Sentir medo e ansiedade é algo ruim?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u30dN7ACvE4Naruhodo #309 - Por que sentimos medo? - Parte 1 de 2https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xNwl26ZbVD8Naruhodo #310 - Por que sentimos medo? - Parte 2 de 2https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cqkh5IdfQQMNaruhodo #343 - O que é e como funciona uma relação estética?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rrF27pTFGg8Naruhodo #333 - Quais as consequências do excesso de reuniões virtuais?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XMQdUfCWKEkNaruhodo #404 - Por que algumas pessoas gostam de terminar as coisas e outras não?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pTSZ--4TKMkNaruhodo Entrevista #18: Kil Sun Leehttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kPYpe01Eh5w*APOIE O NARUHODO!O Altay e eu temos duas mensagens pra você.A primeira é: muito, muito obrigado pela sua audiência. Sem ela, o Naruhodo sequer teria sentido de existir. Você nos ajuda demais não só quando ouve, mas também quando espalha episódios para familiares, amigos - e, por que não?, inimigos.A segunda mensagem é: existe uma outra forma de apoiar o Naruhodo, a ciência e o pensamento científico - apoiando financeiramente o nosso projeto de podcast semanal independente, que só descansa no recesso do fim de ano.Manter o Naruhodo tem custos e despesas: servidores, domínio, pesquisa, produção, edição, atendimento, tempo... Enfim, muitas coisas para cobrir - e, algumas delas, em dólar.A gente sabe que nem todo mundo pode apoiar financeiramente. E tá tudo bem. Tente mandar um episódio para alguém que você conhece e acha que vai gostar.A gente sabe que alguns podem, mas não mensalmente. E tá tudo bem também. Você pode apoiar quando puder e cancelar quando quiser. O apoio mínimo é de 15 reais e pode ser feito pela plataforma ORELO ou pela plataforma APOIA-SE. Para quem está fora do Brasil, temos até a plataforma PATREON.É isso, gente. Estamos enfrentando um momento importante e você pode ajudar a combater o negacionismo e manter a chama da ciência acesa. Então, fica aqui o nosso convite: apóie o Naruhodo como puder.bit.ly/naruhodo-no-orelo

Have you noticed a pattern of extremes in your life? All in or all out, never just 'enough'?In this episode of our "Tangled In..." mini-series, I'm diving deep into the experience of ‘Chasing Highs' that I know so many of us can relate to. I'm exploring my own experiences with restlessness, the pursuit of ‘more' and that feeling of never being truly satisfied… Why do I and so many others with ADHD, often experience an intense need to chase highs? I'll break down the science behind this, including the role of dopamine, executive function challenges like working memory and time blindness, and the impact of self-belief and societal pressures.I'll walk you through how this shows up in my own life, from the subtle to the messy. And we'll explore:✨ Why dopamine plays such a huge role in our constant search for stimulation 

Sometimes we research a decision so much that we get stuck and never take action. Other times, we jump in without enough information and immediately regret it. And sometimes, we need a mix of both. In today's episode, I'm sharing my real and raw experience with my recent CO2 laser treatment—what I wish I had known, what I'm learning through the process, and how this applies to so many areas of life.THANK YOU TO THIS WEEK'S SPONSOR ~

Welcome to Crystal Clear Tarot!An integrated system that follows the natural rhythm of the cosmos and helps us connect to something bigger than ourselves.It is not just about Tarot or Astrology in isolationIt is about creating connections between multiple wisdom traditions by understanding the energetic properties that connect these systemsA holistic practice incorporating the physical, emotional, and mental world we live inA progression that helps you monitor your progress through immediate feedback10-day Content Schedule: Every 10 days we focus on the current solar decanWe begin March 20, 2025 with the Two of Wands (first decan of Aries and we will progress through all 36 decans of the zodiacThe instagram account we mentioned is: https://www.instagram.com/yoga.energy.school/This Series Is For:Practitioners seeking deeper integration of various wisdom traditionsStudents of Tarot wanting to understand astrological correspondencesYoga practitioners interested in expanding their practice Crystal enthusiasts looking for timing and systematic applicationAnyone desiring a structured approach to spiritual developmentBrief Historical ReferencesThe Egyptians (circa 3000-2000 BCE) divided the night sky into 36 groups of stars called "decans" (from Greek "deka" meaning ten, as each ruled approximately 10 days)These decans were primarily used for timekeeping at nightThey were not yet connected to zodiac signs (the 12-sign zodiac came later) or Tarot (which didn't exist)When the Babylonian zodiac of 12 signs was adopted in Hellenistic Egypt after 300 BCE, the decans were reorganized to fit within the zodiac framework (3 decans per sign)Texts attributed to Hermes Trismegistus incorporated these astrological conceptsTarot cards originated in 15th century Italy with no initial astrological associationsThe systematic correspondence between the 36 decans and the 36 numbered Minor Arcana cards (2-10 of each suit) was developed much laterAleister Crowley further refined this system for his Thoth Tarot deck designed 1938-1943The Astrological Framework:The zodiac wheel divided into 36 decans (10° segments of each sign)Each decan corresponds to a specific Minor Arcana card in the Thoth TarotThe Sun's journey through these decans creates a natural sequenceThis ancient system dates back to Egyptian astrology and was refined through Hermetic traditionsTWO OF WANDS First Decan of Aries (March 20-29, 2025)March 20 marks the astrological new year as the Sun enters the first decan of Aries, corresponding to the Two of Wands in the Thoth Tarot deck—the Lord of Dominion.This card represents the pure initiatory fire of Mars in Aries, the planet in its home sign expressing its most potent qualities of action, will to manifest, courage, determination, enthusiasm and pioneering spirit.Two crossed thunderbolts emanating flamesPredominant colors red and orange—pure fire energyElemental quality: Cardinal Fire—initiatory, pioneering energy Shadow aspects: Impulsivity, aggression, domineering tendencies, impatienceKey challenge: Directing powerful initiatory energy constructivelyCore opportunity: Harnessing will to bring ideas into formTHE EMPEROR & ACE OF WANDSSupporting Cards for the First Decan of Aries (Two of Wands)THE EMPEROR (Major Arcana IV)Ruling Sign: AriesRam/Lamb imagery: Representing

Hey there! In this episode of Human Design Hive, we're talking about decision fatigue and how your Human Design authority can help you break free from it. If you've ever felt completely drained by the countless choices you face each day or found yourself making impulsive decisions just to "get it over with," you're in the right place. Human Design reveals your unique decision-making system that's been with you all along, we're just going to help you remember how to use it.In this episode, you'll discover:- How we make an astounding 35,000 decisions daily (and why that exhausts us)- The difference between using your mind vs. your authority for decisions- How each authority type experiences decision fatigue differently- Practical experiments to strengthen your connection to your authorityKey Points Covered:The Reality of Decision Fatigue [01:44] We explore how making countless decisions each day, from what to wear to what to watch on Netflix, creates a mental and emotional drain that becomes increasingly difficult to manage. Understanding this fatigue helps explain why we sometimes make impulsive choices or avoid decisions altogether.The Mind vs. Authority Dilemma [05:59] We discuss how we've been conditioned to approach every decision through our mind, which disconnects us from our natural wisdom. While our mental capacity got us to the top of the food chain, over-relying on it actually makes decision-making harder, not easier.Symptoms of Decision Fatigue [09:00] Four main symptoms emerge when we're in decision fatigue:Procrastination (putting off decisions)Analysis paralysis (overthinking to the point of indecision)Impulsivity (making rash decisions for quick relief)Avoidance (never making the decision at all)Understanding Your Authority [11:55] We break down the different authorities in Human Design and how each one offers a specific way to make decisions:Sacral Authority [20:00]What it feels like: A visceral yes/no response in the bodySplenic Authority [25:12]What it feels like: An intuitive knowing that speaks onceEmotional Authority [31:12]What it feels like: Clarity that comes with time through emotional wavesEgo/Will Authority [37:00]What it feels like: Following what your heart truly wantsSelf-Projected & Mental Authority [41:00]What it feels like: Speaking your truth and hearing resonanceReflector Authority [45:06]What it feels like: Clarity that comes through a lunar cycleLearning to Trust Your Authority [53:00] I share a personal story about following my authority when meeting my husband, demonstrating how our authority often leads us correctly even before we understand it.Practical Experiments [59:00]Incarnation Cross of the Week [01:09:00] The Left Angle Cross of Healing (Gates 25, 46, 58, 52)YJoin our monthly community call on Monday, March 26th at 7pm where we'll continue this conversation. Register Here:HDH Community CallJoin the HDH podcast over on Substack! Get new episodes (and bonuses) delivered straight to your inbox! https://danaphillips.substack.com/Want to know all the details of what makes you uniquely YOU? Grab your fully customized, easy to understand Human Design Guidebook NOW: https://www.humandesignhive.com/guidebookWant insight on your design, on your time? Check out the customized Audio Human Design Reading: https://www.humandesignhive.com/audio_readingGrab your FREE copy of your Human Design chart (Bodygraph) Here: https://www.humandesignhive.com/freechartReady to dig into your Human Design with Dana? Book a chart reading now! https://cal.com/DanaHDHNeed some Human Design informed intuitive guidance? Check out my Email Intuitive Reading offer! https://humandesignhive.com/EmailReadingFollow Dana on IG: Instagram (@humandesignhive)Website: https://www.humandesignhive.comemail: Dana@humandesignhive.com This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit danaphillips.substack.com/subscribe

What if the very quality that makes those early, intoxicating moments of romance so vibrant—the spontaneous weekend getaway, the surprise bouquet of flowers—later becomes the source of relationship friction? The human brain, particularly one wired with ADHD, contains multitudes of contradictions, and nowhere is this more evident than in how impulsivity shapes our intimate partnerships.This week on the show, relationship expert Melissa Orlov peels back the layers of impulsive behavior in ADHD relationships with Pete Wright and Nikki Kinzer. Pete's personal confession—renting a convertible for a romantic coastal drive during courtship, then later purchasing an entire car during what should have been a routine oil change—illuminates the Jekyll-and-Hyde nature of impulsivity that Melissa has observed in thousands of couples."It came from somewhere," Melissa notes of impulsive words and actions that wound our partners. But where? The answer lies in a neurological tightrope walk between present-moment reward and long-term relationship consequences. The ADHD partner experiences the euphoria of now, while their significant other bears witness to the aftermath, creating an asymmetrical emotional experience that compounds over time.What of verbal impulsivity—those cutting remarks that can never be unsaid? Melissa offers a revelation that ADHD partners are "blessed with the ability to move on quickly," while non-ADHD partners ruminate, creating relationship dissonance long after the moment has passed.Let us take our cues from Melissa's "verbal cues," pattern interrupters in relationship conflict. The deliberate absurdity of an agreed-upon word like "hamburger" or "aardvark" serves as a circuit breaker during emotional escalation—a linguistic tool that transcends the heat of argument to preserve relationship integrity. It's a Safe Word, but for your ADHD.This is an invitation to understand how neurological differences fundamentally shape our perception of time, commitment, and connection—and how awareness of these differences might just be the greatest relationship skill we can develop.Links & NotesADHD MarriageIntent to Action Membership ProgramThe ADHD Effect on MarriageThe Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHDSupport the Show on PatreonDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (00:39) - Support the Show! Become a Patron! (01:40) - Introducing Melissa Orlov (06:58) - Auto-Impulsivity (09:32) - Impulsivity is Not a Monolith (12:38) - How We Fight (15:22) - Trust & Boundaries (19:10) - Fidelity (20:43) - Breaking out of Impulsive Patterns in Relationships (25:16) - Collaborating with the Non-Impulsive Partner (31:19) - Transparency (34:24) - Emotional Dysregulation & Verbal Cues (41:30) - Learn more about Melissa's work ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

There is so, so much to take in this week. Hands up if you already know what The Mercator projection is? Plus, more control panel misery for Mr Whitehall and the G.O.A.T DL initialism yet.You can email your questions, thoughts or problems to TheWitteringWhitehalls@gmail.comOr, perhaps you'd like to send a WhatsApp message or Voice note? Why not?! Send them in to +447712147236This episode contains explicit language and adult themes that may not be suitable for all listeners.Please review Global's Privacy Policy: https://global.com/legal/privacy-policy/

Why is making a decision sometimes the hardest thing in the world? For those with ADHD, the labyrinth of choices can feel impossibly complex. Each twist and turn demands attention and energy—resources that are already stretched thin. This week Nikki and Pete peel back the layers of decision-making through the ADHD lens, unraveling why such a seemingly simple act can feel like scaling a mountain.At the heart of it lies one of ADHD's most challenging riddles: the executive functions. These are the mental tools we use to plan, prioritize, organize, and remember, but for those with ADHD, these tools often feel dull or misplaced. Enter the paradox of choice. Too many options? Paralysis. Too much time? Overthinking. Too little time? Impulsivity. Each scenario is riddled with traps.Decision-making with ADHD is an art, not a science. It's messy, it's nonlinear, and it requires flexibility and self-compassion. Join Nikki and Pete as they navigate this intricate process, offering insights, stories, and strategies to help you make decisions that feel right—without the second-guessing, the self-doubt, or the endless spiral of overthinking.Links & NotesSupport the Show on PatreonDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:42) - Become a Patron • Support the Show! (02:44) - Decisions, Decisions, Decisions! (25:40) - This is the How-To Part ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

In this episode of The Wise Effort Show, Dr. Diana Hill explores the themes of impulsivity, intimacy, and connection during uncertain times. Joined by Greg, a former Coast Guard intelligence officer turned social worker, they engage in a spontaneous and intimate conversation about acceptance, existential fear, and human connection. Listen and Learn:Saying yes to what is, even if you don't like what isWalking through that door with some intention as to how you walkFeeling of helplessness when systems break downWhat it means to find hopeRelated ResourcesGet enhanced show notes for this episodeWant to become more psychologically flexible? Take Diana's on-demand course, "Foundations of ACT."Diana's EventsReserve your spot in Diana's Costa Rica retreat in 2025!See Diana at an upcoming eventConnecting With DianaSubscribe for free on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.Leave a 5-star review on Apple so people like you can find the show.Sign up for the free Wise Effort Newsletter.Become a Wise Effort member to support the show.Follow Diana on YouTube, Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook, and Diana's website.Leave feedback for the showThanks to the team, Craig and Ashley Hiatt, and Benjamin Gould of Bell & Branch for your beautiful music.We can put our energy where it matters most and savor the good along the way.

As ADHD women entrepreneurs, we've never followed the rules—and let's be real, we don't want to. Today's episode dives into how to take your ADHD quirks (hello, impulsivity and creative chaos!) and use them as a fucking supercharger for your business. We'll talk about why breaking the rules might be your next best move, how impulsivity can fuel innovation, and the ultimate game-changer: simplifying your business so it works for your brain instead of against it.Plus, I'm sharing a deeply personal update about my health journey and why learning to trust myself is the ultimate gift my ADHD diagnosis gave me. You don't want to miss this one.Learn:

Q&A: Social Skills, ADHD, Impulsivity, Physically Explosive, Testing, Refusal, AnxietyDo you have a child who struggles with focus, impulse control, social skills, or anxiety? Does your child ever become physically explosive? Should we get testing done? What should we focus on in the teen years? What about kids who refuse to do things or go places? This Q&A is packed with insights and strategies for toddlers, teens, and everyone in between.Take advantage of our Winter Sale and begin 2025 with hundreds of practical strategies that really work with your strong-willed kids. Visit https://celebratecalm.com/products to take advantage of our Winter Sale and make 2025 DIFFERENT.AG1AG1 is offering new subscribers a FREE $76 gift when you sign up. You'll get a Welcome Kit, a bottle of D3 & K2 AND 5 free travel packs in your first box. Go to https://drinkag1.com/calm HAPPY MAMMOTHGet 15% off on your entire first order at https://HappyMammoth.com with the code CALM at checkout. HUNGRYROOT.COMGet 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to https://hungryroot.com/ and use code CALM.ONE SKINGo to https://oneskin.co and use code KIRK at checkout for an exclusive 15% off your first purchase.COZY EARTHWrap yourself and your kids in Cozy Earth luxury...with 40% OFF! Visit https://cozyearth.com/ and use my exclusive 40% off code CALM. AIRDOCTORHead to https://AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code CALM to get UP TO $300 off today! AirDoctor comes with a 30-day money back guarantee, plus a 3-year warranty—an $84 value, free!IXL LEARNINGGet an exclusive 20% off an IXL membership when you sign up today at https://IXL.com/KIRK.This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at https://betterhelp.com/CALMPOD to get 10% off your first month and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Q&A: Social Skills, ADHD, Impulsivity, Physically Explosive, Testing, Refusal, Anxiety Do you have a child who struggles with focus, impulse control, social skills, or anxiety? Does your child ever become physically explosive? Should we get testing done? What should we focus on in the teen years? What about kids who refuse to do things or go places? This Q&A is packed with insights and strategies for toddlers, teens, and everyone in between. Take advantage of our Winter Sale and begin 2025 with hundreds of practical strategies that really work with your strong-willed kids. Visit https://celebratecalm.com/products to take advantage of our Winter Sale and make 2025 DIFFERENT. AG1 AG1 is offering new subscribers a FREE $76 gift when you sign up. You'll get a Welcome Kit, a bottle of D3 & K2 AND 5 free travel packs in your first box. Go to https://drinkag1.com/calm  HAPPY MAMMOTH Get 15% off on your entire first order at https://HappyMammoth.com with the code CALM at checkout.  HUNGRYROOT.COM Get 40% off your first box PLUS get a free item in every box for life. Go to https://hungryroot.com/ and use code CALM. ONE SKIN Go to https://oneskin.co and use code KIRK at checkout for an exclusive 15% off your first purchase. COZY EARTH Wrap yourself and your kids in Cozy Earth luxury...with 40% OFF! Visit https://cozyearth.com/ and use my exclusive 40% off code CALM.  AIRDOCTOR Head to https://AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code CALM to get UP TO $300 off today! AirDoctor comes with a 30-day money back guarantee, plus a 3-year warranty—an $84 value, free! IXL LEARNING Get an exclusive 20% off an IXL membership when you sign up today at https://IXL.com/KIRK. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at https://betterhelp.com/CALMPOD to get 10% off your first month and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Aiden answers your questions about conceptualization and making the adult brain better at Chess. Send your questions to @AidenAtDontMove on Twitter, or aiden@dontmoveuntilyousee.it Read the series about mantras and taming your intuition here: https://dontmoveuntilyousee.it/your-enthusiastic-friend To learn more about Don't Move Until You See It and get the free 5-day Conceptualizing Chess Series, head over to https://dontmoveuntilyousee.it/conceptualization

Mr. Joe explores the overall status of him mental health. He discusses microdosing, as well as Autism. Mr. Joe also provides information and feedback on Gabapentin.

The difference in diagnosing a delusion or deception is in discerning the distress. The history and differential associated with gender dysphoria. Criteria: Gender Dysphoria in Adolescents and Adults 1 A marked incongruence between one's experienced/expressed gender and assigned gender, of at least six months' duration, as manifested by at least two or more of the following: • A marked incongruence between one's experienced/expressed gender and primary and/or secondary sex characteristics (or in young adolescents, the anticipated secondary sex characteristics) • A strong desire to be rid of one's primary and/or secondary sex characteristics because of a marked incongruence with one's experienced/expressed gender (or in young adolescents, a desire to prevent the development of the anticipated secondary sex characteristics) • A strong desire for the primary and/or secondary sex characteristics of the other gender • A strong desire to be of the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one's assigned gender) • A strong desire to be treated as the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one's assigned gender) • A strong conviction that one has the typical feelings and reactions of the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one's assigned gender) The condition is associated with clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning. Caveats • The Gender Dysphoria diagnosis functions as a double-edged sword. It provides an avenue for treatment, making medical and surgical options available to TGNC people. However, it also has the potential to stigmatize TGNC people by categorizing them as mentally ill. • The ultimate goal would be to categorize TGNC treatment under an endocrine/medical diagnosis. • In the past, TGNC patients were disproportionally diagnosed with psychotic/mood disorders to explain their gender variance. Because of this, many in the community are understandably skeptical of mental health and psychiatric care. • There are some genetic explanations for gender dysphoria, categorized in DSM–5 by using the diagnostic specifier “with a disorder of sex development.” Parents and physicians of these patients are typically aware of the genetic anomaly from birth, with treatment beginning in childhood. Ruling out Psychiatric Illness • It is common for TGNC people who have grown up in an unsupportive environment to express symptoms characteristic with personality disorders. Impulsivity, mood lability, and suicidal ideation occur commonly. This does not necessarily qualify them for a personality disorder diagnosis because personality disorders are typically lifelong and pervasive. TGNC people typically show a reduction or disappearance of these symptoms once they are in a supportive gender-affirming environment. • There are no studies indicating that psychiatric illness causes gender dysphoria as a consistent condition over time, although delusions or unstable personality characteristics may manifest as intermittent thoughts or feeling of gender incongruity. Additionally, TGNC people can have other psychiatric disorders (e.g., psychotic, bipolar, depressive, substance use disorders) just as anyone else that is not related to their gender variance. • Gender dysphoric symptoms may be the primary focus of treatment, but don't overlook the possibility that other psychiatric symptoms may need to be treated first depending on severity. • TGNC people can have psychiatric symptoms of psychotic, anxiety, and mood disorders just like any other part of the population. References 1. American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (5th ed.). Arlington, VA: American Psychiatric Publishing Life lived is life learned.  Every experience has facts, concepts and applications.  These arestories from the eclectic life of Lonnie Jones.

This week, Vanessa and special guest Courtney Brown explore the theme of Impulsivity in Chapter 24 of Harry Potter and the Half Blood Prince! They discuss Draco and Harry's fight, Hermione's “I told you so” moment, and the big kiss! Throughout the episode we consider the question: when is impulsivity fun and when is it harmful?Thank you to Julia for this week's voicemail! Next week we're reading Chapter 25, The Seer Overheard, through the theme of Jealousy with Jolie Doggett.--It's two sickles to join S.P.E.W., and only five dollars to join our Patreon for extra content every week! Please consider helping us fill our Gringotts vault so we can continue to make this show. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, Vanessa and Matt explore the theme of Ambivalence in Chapter 23 of Harry Potter and the Half Blood Prince! They discuss Slughorn's lesson, the splitting of souls, and Harry's destiny! Throughout the episode we consider the question: how does our ambivalence still lead us to a choice?Thank you to Marissa for this week's voicemail! We're off for the holidays but we'll be back in 2025 reading Chapter 24, Sectumsempra, through the theme of Impulsivity with Courtney Brown.--It's two sickles to join S.P.E.W., and only five dollars to join our Patreon for extra content every week! Please consider helping us fill our Gringotts vault so we can continue to make this show. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever wonder why it always seems like you have said “yes” to more than you can effectively manage, when you have ADHD? Impulsivity and people pleasing tendencies play a role, but our unique relationship with time that might be the biggest factor, making business success a lot more challenging. We have trouble accurately estimating how much time, energy and effort our commitments actually take, especially when they are shiny and new. A neurotypical person has a 12-16 week “time horizon” on average, while ours can feel a lot closer to 12-16 minutes at times. The reason for this time distortion is that ADHD brains tend to perceive time in just two categories: Now and Not Now, whatever we are focused on at the moment, and everything else, from an hour from now to the rest of our lives. Before I share specific strategies for “stretching” your time horizon, We will identify your specific overcommitment style—impulsivity, people-pleasing, perfectionism or FOMO. Then, I'll help you build a time horizon toolkit for more realistic planning and better decisions in general. What you'll get from this episode:Emphasize making space for what matters mostSet intentional limits & boundaries for future successFewer mistakes, apologies and regrets. Use these strategies as a pattern interrupt to increase mindful actionRemember, the key to managing your commitments with ADHD is not about squeezing more in, but about making space for what truly matters. Ready to take fast action?

SED 514: Cha Cha Moments: Navigating Anxiety, Impulsivity, and Focus Challenges in Rare Disease ParentingWhat would you do if your child faced anxiety so intense it disrupts their daily life, paired with impulsivity and struggles with focus?In this episode, we dive into Tess's journey with anxiety, impulsivity, and executive function challenges—issues that may resonate with many parents navigating similar struggles. Learn about how we're uncovering the roots of these behaviors and seeking effective strategies to help Tess thrive.Discover how anxiety and attention challenges can compound care complexities for children with rare conditions.Learn about the tools and assessments we're using, like the NICHQ Vanderbilt Scale, to better understand these behaviors.Gain practical insights for managing impulsivity and staying resilient as a caregiver.Hit play now to hear this heartfelt first part of Tess's story and take away valuable tips to support your own caregiving journey. ALSO: I'm launching a mobile app to help men connect with each other. The idea is to see our friends more often, and make new friends, too. More information is available here.

Click here to send us a topic idea or question for Weekend Wisdom.Does your child struggle with planning/organizing, time management, and impulse control? Join us for our interview with Dr. Joyce Cooper-Kahn, a clinical child psychologist who specializes in the treatment of children and adolescents with ADHD, executive functioning challenges, and other learning disabilities. She is the author of Late, Lost, and Unprepared: A Parents' Guide to Helping Children with Executive Functioning.In this episode, we cover:What is executive functioning?Example of executive functioning skills?What is it like for kids, youth, and adults who struggle with executive functioning?What is the experience of families with a child/youth with executive functioning difficulties?Why do some kids struggle with executive functioning? What other disabilities often occur with this deficit?At what age do we usually expect executive functioning skills to start developing?Who can diagnose an executive functioning disability, and why is it important to get a diagnosis?What can parents do to help kids improve their executive functioning skills or learn to live without them?Use real life to teachTeach rather than punishCollaborate with the child or youthBehavior modificationAdjust expectationsWhen should you allow your child to experience natural consequences for behavior?Practical tools for helping kids plan and organize.Practical tools for helping kids shift gears or handle transitions.Practical tools for helping kids with working memory challenges.Practical tools for helping kids control impulses.Additional resources:Late, Lost, and Unprepared: A Parents' Guide to Helping Children with Executive FunctioningBoosting Executive Skills in the Classroom: A Practical Guide for EducatorsSupport the showPlease leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content: Weekly podcasts Weekly articles/blog posts Resource pages on all aspects of family building

Hey Team!I was recently thinking about some of the ways that ADHD can manifest in seemingly opposite ways. One moment, we're laser-focused, and the next, we're completely derailed by the tiniest hiccup.In this episode, we'll be exploring the idea of the dichotomy of ADHD. How it can feel like even our symptoms are inconsistent. We'll be looking at how our ADHD brains can take us from hyperfocus to total distraction, from being impulsive to utterly paralyzed, and why sometimes we thrive in chaos but crumble over minor setbacks.And we'll also be looking at how while many of these ideas may feel like they are in total opposition, that they may in fact have a similar root cause.Support me on PatreonAsk me a question on my Contact PageFind the show note at HackingYourADHD.com/193This Episode's Top Tips Realize that many of the dichotomies of ADHD actually come from the same source, such as hyperfocus and being unable to focus both stem from a lack of ability to regulate our focus.Often, when we encounter one of these dichotomies, we need to work on reframing what's going on so that we can apply an appropriate strategy.Regardless of what you're doing, but especially when you are over-functioning, it's important to take care of your needs.

This is episode 5 of a 6-part special series on sleep with Dr. Matthew Walker, Ph.D., a professor of neuroscience and psychology at the University of California, Berkeley and the host of The Matt Walker Podcast. In this episode, we explain the connection between sleep and improved mood, emotional regulation and mental well-being.  We explain the role of rapid eye movement (REM) sleep in processing emotions and memories and why sleep deprivation causes feelings of agitation, impulsivity and emotional reactivity. We also discuss why disrupted sleep is a hallmark feature of PTSD, anxiety, depression, suicidality, and other psychiatric conditions. We explain protocols for improving REM sleep and other sleep phases in order to harness the therapeutic power of quality sleep to feel calm and emotionally restored. This episode describes many actionable tools to improve sleep for those struggling with specific mental health issues or for anyone wanting to bolster overall mental well-being. The next episode in this special series explores dreams, including lucid dreaming, nightmares and dream interpretation. For show notes, including referenced articles and additional resources, please visit hubermanlab.com. Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman Eight Sleep: https://eightsleep.com/huberman LMNT: https://drinklmnt.com/huberman BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/huberman InsideTracker: https://insidetracker.com/huberman  Momentous: https://livemomentous.com/huberman Timestamps (00:00:00) Sleep & Mental Health (00:01:09) Sponsors: Eight Sleep, LMNT & BetterHelp (00:05:14) Emotions & Sleep, Amygdala (00:17:27) Emotional Memory & Sleep (00:25:48) “Overnight Therapy” & REM Sleep, Noradrenaline (00:29:13) Sponsor: AG1 (00:30:27) Sleep to “Remember & Forget”, Trauma; REM Sleep (00:38:27) Hinge Analogy; Motivation, Impulsivity & Addiction (00:47:08) Tool: Improve REM Sleep, Social Jet Lag, Alcohol & THC, Addiction (00:56:18) Sponsor: InsideTracker (00:57:23) Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) & REM Sleep (01:06:53) Noradrenaline & REM Sleep, PTSD & Prazosin (01:09:40) Addiction, Non-Sleep Deep Rest (NSDR); Liminal States (01:16:46) Anxiety & Sleep, Mood vs. Emotions (01:23:50) Deep Non-REM Sleep & Anxiety, Sleep Quality (01:28:51) Tool: Improve Deep Non-REM Sleep, Temperature; Alcohol (01:34:56) Suicidality & Sleep, Pattern Recognition; Nightmares (01:46:21) Depression, Anxiety & Time Context (01:51:24) Depression, Too Much Sleep?; REM Changes & Antidepressants (01:57:37) Sleep Deprivation & Depression (02:01:34) Tool: Circadian Misalignment & Mental Health, Chronotype (02:04:05) Tools: Daytime Light & Nighttime Darkness; “Junk Light” (02:13:04) Zero-Cost Support, Spotify & Apple Reviews, Sponsors, YouTube Feedback, Momentous, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter Disclaimer