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You start a new weight loss plan feeling motivated. You follow it perfectly for a few days—or maybe a few weeks. Then you eat the cookie. You miss the workout. You have one day that doesn't go according to plan. And suddenly you think, "Well, I've already ruined it. I'll start again Monday." Why does one small slip so often turn into completely giving up? In this episode, we're talking about the abstinence violation effect and how all-or-nothing thinking can turn a small lapse into a full-blown relapse. Researcher G. Alan Marlatt studied this pattern and found that it's often our reaction to the slip, rather than the slip itself, that makes us more likely to give up completely. And underneath those rigid rules is often something even sneakier: Perfectionism. We'll talk about the three types of perfectionism: Self-oriented perfectionism: the impossibly high standards you place on yourself Other-oriented perfectionism: the standards you place on everyone around you Socially prescribed perfectionism: the belief that other people expect you to have it all together I'll also walk you through questions that can help you identify which type might be showing up in your life. Most importantly, we'll reframe the way you think about your habits. A rule says: "I do this every day, with no exceptions, or I've failed." A routine says: "This is what I come back to." That one shift can change everything. Because the goal isn't to create a weight loss plan where you never slip up. Nobody does that. The goal is to change what a slip means to you. One missed day is not failure. One cookie is not the end. One imperfect choice does not erase everything you've done. It's simply something you come back from. If perfectionism and all-or-nothing thinking have been running your weight loss journey, this episode will help you see the pattern differently. And stick around until the end for a simple way to start building habits one small step at a time. Listen now and learn how to stop starting over. If you're ready to make changes before Christmas, book a call with Dara to learn more about her program and how she helps women. Book your call HERE. Take the perfectionist quiz for yourself HERE. Subscribe for more on emotional eating, permanent weight loss and living a life you love.

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Taxi boss and businessman Joe “Ferrari” Sibanyoni continues testifying before the Madlanga Commission. Sibanyoni addressing his position on key messages and interactions involving Sergeant Nkosi. He says he knew Nkosi as a social acquaintance and acknowledges that Nkosi visited his home on about 12 occasions in a social capacity.

This is Part II of a remarkable treatment by Dave Jr. of what happens in our minds as we put our thoughts into practice. 

On the 2nd of December 1972, after 23 years of Coalition government, Gough Whitlam led Labor to victory with one of the most celebrated campaigns in Australian political history. But how effective was it at the time? And what does the story of that campaign reveal about how elections are actually won?Host Stephen Donnelly is joined by Dr Stephen Mills (journalist, former speechwriter in Bob Hawke's office, and author of multiple books on elections) for a deep dive into the 1972 federal election.They cover the Labor split of the 1950s and how it haunted the party for a generation; how Whitlam untied the Gordian knot of state aid with a single elegant policy; the accidental election of Mick Young as National Secretary; the first ever use of focus groups in a federal election campaign; and the making of the iconic It's Time ad and jingle. Plus several new awards and categories created just for The Recount. Don't miss it.Socially Democratic is an Australian Labor politics and campaigns podcast with expert guests. New episodes every Friday.Support the showSocially Democratic is an opinion-based political and campaign podcast that facilitates discussion on a range of topical issues. The opinions of guests are not an endorsement and do not necessarily reflect the views of the staff at Dunn Street and Socially Democratic.Access ad-free episodes and send in questions by joining our Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/SociallyDemocraticIf you like the show, rate and review us on your favourite podcast app.Follow Us on Socials:Facebook (https://tr.ee/9jGIOy)Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/sociallydemocratic)LinkedIn (https://tr.ee/YxyYJh)X (https://x.com/SocialDemPod)YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/@DunnStreet)The presenting sponsor of the Socially Democratic podcast is Dunn Street. For more information on how Dunn Street can help you organise to build winning campaigns in your community, business or organisation, and make the world a better place, look us up at: dunnstreet.com.au 

Dopo l'episodio sugli schermi nei primi anni di vita, in questo episodio ragioniamo sulle audiostorie. Proviamo a capire insieme, con la scienza in mano, quando l'audio è una risorsa preziosa e quando invece rischia di diventare un'altra potenziale problematica.E come sempre, diversi spunti pratici per orientarsi tra dispositivi, sottofondo continuo e momenti di ascolto condiviso.Buon ascolto.Bibliografia e sitografiaHutton J.S., Dudley J., Horowitz-Kraus T., DeWitt T., Holland S.K. (2020). Differences in functional brain network connectivity during stories presented in audio, illustrated, and animated format in preschool-age children. Brain Imaging and Behavior https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30377932/2.     Center on the Developing Child, Harvard University. Serve and Return. https://developingchild.harvard.edu/science/key-concepts/serve-and-return/ 3.     Roseberry S., Hirsh-Pasek K., Golinkoff R.M. (2014). Skype me! Socially contingent interactions help toddlers learn language. Child Development   https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3962808/ 4.     Kuhl P.K. (2004). Early language acquisition: cracking the speech code. Nature Reviews Neuroscience, https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/15496861/ 5.     Ma J., van den Heuvel M., Maguire J., Parkin P., Birken C. (2019). Mobile Media Device Use is Associated with Expressive Language Delay in 18-Month-Old Children. Journal of Developmental and Behavioral Pediatrics https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30753173/ 6.     Massachusetts Institute of Technology, McGovern Institute for Brain Research. Studio sull'apprendimento del vocabolario tramite audiolibri e istruzione individuale, pubblicato su Developmental Science. https://news.mit.edu/ 7.     World Health Organization (2019). Guidelines on Physical Activity, Sedentary Behaviour and Sleep for Children under 5 Years of Age. https://www.who.int/publications/i/item/97892415505368.     American Academy of Pediatrics, Council on Communications and Media (2016). Media and Young Minds. Pediatrics, https://publications.aap.org/pediatrics/article/138/5/e20162591/60503/Media-and-Young-Minds 9.     Children and Screens — Institute of Digital Media and Child Development. Guide for Early Child Development and Media Use: Infants and Children Ages 0-5. https://www.childrenandscreens.org/10.  Clinton-Lisell V. (2022). Listening ability and comprehension: a meta-analysis comparing reading and listening. Review of Educational Research https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.3102/00346543211060871*utilizziamo l'IA come supporto per la biblio e sitografia al fine di velocizzare la costruzione delle fonti. PER CONTINUARE A SEGUIRE PF06SITO www.percorsiformativi06.itINSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/percorsiformativi06/YOUTUBE https://www.youtube.com/c/SilviaIaccarinoPercorsiformativi06/videosFB https://www.facebook.com/percorsiformativi06GRUPPO FB https://www.facebook.com/groups/177748889440303/TELEGRAM  https://t.me/percorsiformativi06NEWSLETTER https://percorsiformativi06.it/iscrizione-alla-newsletter/RIEPILOGO DEI NOSTRI CONTENUTI https://linktr.ee/pf06DISCLAIMER I contenuti dei podcast sono forniti a solo scopo educativo e informativo. Questi non intendono in alcun modo sostituire consulenze, diagnosi o trattamenti forniti da professionisti del settore medico, psicologico o di altre discipline specialistiche.I contenuti proposti non costituiscono consigli professionali personalizzati né possono essere considerati esaustivi o adattabili a specifiche esigenze individuali. Nulla di quanto offerto qui è inteso per essere utilizzato come strumento diagnostico o terapeutico.Percorsi Formativi 0-6 e i suoi formatori non si assumono alcuna responsabilità per l'uso improprio delle informazioni contenute in questo podcast. Ogni utente è invitato a rivolgersi a professionisti qualificati per consulenze mirate riguardanti la propria salute fisica o mentale. In caso di dubbi su eventuali diagnosi o trattamenti per problemi di salute, raccomandiamo di consultare sempre un medico, uno psicologo o altro operatore sanitario qualificato.

Early calf socialization may deliver long-term benefitsCan housing calves together during their first weeks of life affect how they perform as cows? This episode examines University of Florida research comparing individually housed, pair-housed and group-housed calves through their first lactation.Socially housed calves grew faster before weaning, producing up to 16% greater average daily gain than individually housed calves. Although differences in growth and reproductive performance largely disappeared after weaning, important benefits emerged after calving. Pair- and group-housed animals produced approximately 1,700 additional pounds of milk during their first lactation and were substantially less likely to be culled.The findings suggest that early social contact builds behavioral resilience. Calves raised with companions may adjust more easily to the milking parlor, regrouping and competition at the feed bunk—helping them maintain intake, manage stress and remain productive during the demanding transition into the milking herd. The results position social housing as more than a calf-welfare practice; it may also be a long-term investment in productivity and herd retention.Questions, comments, scathing rebuttals? -> themoosroom@umn.edu or call 612-624-3610 and leave us a message!Linkedin -> The Moos RoomTwitter -> @UMNmoosroom and @UMNFarmSafetyFacebook -> @UMNDairyYouTube -> UMN Beef and Dairy and UMN Farm Safety and HealthInstagram -> @UMNWCROCDairyExtension WebsiteAgriAmerica Podcast Directory 

Across Asia, a growing number of young people are becoming hikikomori, a term used to describe individuals experiencing severe social withdrawal. They shut themselves away at home, retreating from work, school and even family life for months, sometimes years.Some countries, including South Korea, are trying an unexpected approach: government-backed AI chatbots designed to help socially isolated young people reconnect with society. But can artificial companions help tackle loneliness, or could they deepen it?This bonus episode comes from Asia Specific, another BBC World Service podcast hosted by Mariko Oi. It discusses issues including social isolation and mental wellbeing. Listeners who identify with these experiences are encouraged to seek local support.

We've all done the seminars, read the books, and nodded along to the podcasts, so why does it still feel like nothing has actually changed? In this episode of The Rich Lady Revolution, we sit down with Lucie from Socially Constructed, who works with corporates, militaries and major firms on regenerative leadership, wellbeing and nervous system science, to talk about the gap between knowing something and actually embodying it.Lucie explains why Western culture treats embodiment as unsafe, why knowledge feels so much safer than feeling, and how trauma can make the body feel like unfamiliar territory. She reminds us that sensations and emotions have to be learned and named before we can work with them, and she is refreshingly honest about the danger of quick fix nervous system claims. This is a slow, deep, soul level conversation about learning to come home to yourself, at your own pace.This one is part one of two, so keep an ear out for round two coming soon.This is the Self Belief and Spirituality Checkpoints in action, because real change was never going to happen in your head alone.Ready for more profit and peace in your own life and business? Join the Rich Lady Revolution Membership: https://www.those2sisters.au/membershipConnect with Lucienne Miller, Socially ConstructedLinkedIn: ⁠⁠Lucienne Miller⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠lucie_socially_constructed⁠⁠Website: ⁠⁠www.socially-constructed.com/⁠⁠Connect with Troy Adams, TechPathLinkedIn: ⁠Troy Adams⁠Website: ⁠techpath.com.au

Money doesn't create character, it amplifies it. In part two of this conversation, we pick up right where we left off with Lucienne Miller from Socially Constructed, going deeper into embodiment, nervous system safety and what true wealth actually means once you stop measuring it in dollars alone.Lucie shares her own path from severe postnatal illness and OCD to building a career in brain friendly leadership, trauma informed workplace design and positive psychology, shaped in no small part by raising four kids as a military family who move around the world. Together we unpack Rich Lady Rule Two, take messy but aligned action, and Rich Lady Rule Three, fulfilment first, finances follow, and why neuroplastic change needs discomfort, but never at the cost of safety.This is the difference between being stretched and being flooded, and why co-regulation, in a community, in a retreat room, in a conversation like this one, is what makes the stretch survivable.This is what we call Self Belief and Support in action. Redefining rich was never about choosing between profit and peace, it was always about having both.Ready for more profit and peace in your own life and business? Join the Rich Lady Revolution Membership: https://www.those2sisters.au/membershipConnect with Lucienne Miller, Socially ConstructedLinkedIn: ⁠Lucienne Miller⁠Instagram: ⁠lucie_socially_constructed⁠Website: ⁠www.socially-constructed.com/⁠Connect with Troy Adams LinkedIn: Troy AdamsWebsite: techpath.com.au

The latest jobs report showed that 98% of new jobs in the month of August went to women, along with most of the raises and promotions. President Trump and other GOP politicians praised the news as a victory for women, but the implications for marriage in the U.S. are staggering. Women do not marry unemployed men, and they do not marry men who make less than they do. Lauren Chen joins me to explain why marriage is being socially engineered out of existence.  Follow on: Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-auron-macintyre-show/id1657770114 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3S6z4LBs8Fi7COupy7YYuM?si=4d9662cb34d148af Substack: https://auronmacintyre.substack.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/AuronMacintyre Gab: https://gab.com/AuronMacIntyre YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/c/AuronMacIntyre Rumble: https://rumble.com/c/c-390155 Odysee: https://odysee.com/@AuronMacIntyre:f Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/auronmacintyre/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

✅ Join the Brojo community on Skool to build your confidence and relationships https://www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491/about ✅ This video is a taste of the work I do with clients. For a full, step‑by‑step system on this exact topic, get the deep‑dive course here: https://www.udemy.com/course/nice-guy-syndrome-recovery/?referralCode=2D17AA25798AC0832DEA ✅ From “Nice Guy” to Confident Man in 90 Days - check out my main program here: https://theinspirationallifestyle.com/from-nice-guy-to-authentic-and-confident-in-90-days/ ✅ More about Dan Munro… - Coached over 200 clients since 2013. - Prior to that spent 7 years rehabilitating high‑risk criminals in the Department of Corrections. - Published 4 non‑fiction books on confidence, valued living, and overcoming Nice Guy Syndrome. - I spent my first 25 years as a sufferer of Nice Guy Syndrome who struggled with confidence, dating, and meaning in life. I transformed myself with hard work, courageous actions, and a never-ending education in psychology, integrity and confidence. - I went from miserably single to creating a strong marriage and becoming a father. These videos are free, and they're also my marketing: if they help you and you want more, use the links above.

It's easy to feel like you don't have enough; it's the message we constantly receive through media and advertisements. It's the message that once you have this thing, or make this much, then you will be happy... all of your dreams will come true! The truth is actually the opposite as this kind of grasping for more is associated with mood problems, anxiety, and stress.  We'll dig into this trap of "having enough" and how we can break free from it and embrace our enoughness.  About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek. The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab App.   Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).   Listen & follow the Joy Lab Podcast on your favorite listening app: Spotify | Apple | YouTube   Full transcript   Sources and Notes for Our Element of Enoughness: Related Joy Lab Episodes:   Ep. 236: The Power of Good Enough Parenting & Calling Out Our Moms Our Grief series starts here: Ep. 252: The Grief of What Should Have Been & The Loss of Not Being Truly Seen (Grief Recovery & Healing Series part 5) More on Savoring:   Ep. 44: Savoring Your Past Without Ruminating or Romanticizing Ep. 45: Mindfulness, Savoring the Present Moment, & Overcoming FOBO (it's kinda like FOMO) Ep. 46: Savoring the Future: A Refreshing Skill to Boost Mood & Help Navigate Depression Ep. 47: Mindsets & Mental Health: How Thoughts About Yourself & The World Impact Your Wellbeing Ep. 197: How Savoring Shifts Your Mood, Mindset, & Behaviors Ep. 198: Unfractured Focus: Mastering the Art of Savoring in a Distracted World Our Authenticity series starts here: Ep. 216: Unmasking Your True Self: Exploring Authenticity and Awe Ep. 268: Humility Can Be Stressful... But Worth It for Mental Health Ep. 273: How to Build Confidence (When You Don't Feel Confident Yet)  Bellam, S., Curran, T., Hill, A. P., & Stoeber, J. (2025). Perfectionism and work performance: A meta-analysis. https://doi.org/10.1111/joop.12570 Carver, C. S., Lawrence, J. W., & Scheier, M. F. (1999). Self-discrepancies and affect: Incorporating the role of feared selves. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167299025007002  Crocker, J., & Park, L. E. (2004). The costly pursuit of self-esteem. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.131.3.392  Crocker, J., & Park, L. E. (2004). Reaping the benefits of pursuing self-esteem without the costs? Reply to Schmuck and Sheldon (2004), Sheldon et al. (2004), Pyszczynski et al. (2004), and Kernis (2004). https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.130.3.430 Crocker, J., Karpinski, A., Quinn, D. M., & Chase, S. K. (2003). When grades determine self-worth: Consequences of contingent self-worth for male and female engineering and psychology majors. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.85.3.507 Crocker, J., & Wolfe, C. T. (2001). Contingencies of self-worth. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-295X.108.3.593 Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2004). Avoiding death or engaging life as accounts of meaning and culture: Comment on Pyszczynski et al. (2004). https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.130.3.473 Freudenberger, H. J. (1974). Staff burn-out. Journal of Social Issues, 30(1), 159–165. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1540-4560.1974.tb00706.x  Harari, D., Swider, B. W., Bujold Steed, L., & Breidenthal, A. P. (2018). Is perfect good? A meta-analysis of perfectionism in the workplace. https://doi.org/10.1037/apl0000324 Hewitt, P. L., & Flett, G. L. (1991). Perfectionism in the self and social contexts: Conceptualization, assessment, and association with psychopathology. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.60.3.456 Higgins, E. T. (1987). Self-discrepancy: A theory relating self and affect. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-295X.94.3.319 Joseph, S., & Linley, P. A. (2005). Positive adjustment to threatening events: An organismic valuing theory of growth through adversity. https://doi.org/10.1037/1089-2680.9.3.262 Kernis, M. H. (2005). Measuring self-esteem in context: The importance of stability of self-esteem in psychological functioning. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1467-6494.2005.00359.x Kirkpatrick, L. A., & Ellis, B. J. (2001). An evolutionary-psychological approach to self-esteem: Multiple domains and multiple functions. In G. J. O. Fletcher & M. S. Clark (Eds.), Blackwell handbook of social psychology: Interpersonal processes (pp. 411–436). Blackwell. Leary, M. R. (2000). Sociometer theory and the pursuit of relational value: Getting to the root of self-esteem. https://doi.org/10.1080/14792772043000045  Maslach, C. (1981). The measurement of experienced burnout. https://doi.org/10.1002/job.4030020205   Park, L. E., & Crocker, J. (2005). Attachment styles and contingencies of self-worth. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167205277030 Pyszczynski, T., Greenberg, J., Solomon, S., Arndt, J., & Schimel, J. (2004). Why do people need self-esteem? https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.130.3.435 Schaufeli, W. B., Leiter, M. P., & Maslach, C. (2009). Burnout: 35 years of research and practice. https://doi.org/10.1108/13620430910966406  Lynn Twist's Book: The Soul of Money   Questions this episode was made for: Q: Why do I keep thinking that getting more money, success, or recognition will finally make me feel okay? And why doesn't it ever work? A: This episode explains the psychology of contingent self-worth and the neuroscience of hedonic adaptation: when you stake your value on external things, the bar always moves, the reward always fades faster than expected, and there is never enough; understanding the mechanism is the first step to stepping off the treadmill.   Q: Someone I love seems to measure their worth entirely by what they have or what they've achieved — how do I understand that, and is there a way out? A: Henry's story of his patient and Aimee's story of her father both illuminate how the having-more strategy develops and why it becomes impervious to reason; this episode also names the false-self as the construction that drives the endless proving, and points to the inner compass that is always there underneath it. The good news is that there is a way out and this series explores those paths to enoughness.    Key moments: [00:00] Welcome — Enoughness part 2: having enough [00:30] Having enough isn't really about the amount — it's the belief that acquiring this much will make the bad feelings go away  [01:00] Conditional acceptance and love: growing up having to produce, perform, or prove before being given love — the untended grief that drives the proving [01:30] Francis Weller: what happens when we aren't born into a village with a full, joyous welcome of our gifts  [02:00] Henry's story: a venture capital executive, clearly depressed, sent to therapy against his will  [04:00] CBT couldn't break through — his thinking was so distorted he was impervious to reason; he clung to the belief that he added no value whatsoever  [05:00] The lesson Henry learned viscerally: it is futile to try to fill a hole in self-worth by accumulating money or anything else we value  [05:30] If you believe external achievement proves your worth, there will never, ever be enough — and what a drain on one's energy and vitality  [06:00] Aimee's father: grew up needing to grasp for more, family lived week to week — so grasping for more was genuinely what they needed to survive  [06:30] AImee Prasek "Money can absolutely buy relief from misery, but it doesn't buy happiness or joy with the same predictability."  [07:00] The neuroscience: dopamine tracks more with anticipation of getting the thing than with actually getting it — the reward at arrival is inconsistent and can be short-lived  [07:30] Most things can be taken away — a shaky foundation if you've built your identity or worth on them  [08:00] Aimee's father attached his worth to signs of success — culture pushes this onto us too  [09:00] His business fell apart and everything came crashing down — Aimee believes his contingent self-worth collapsed with it [09:30] Watching strangers take back the repossessed items — cars, boats, pieces of him; everything he'd staked his value on, gone in a day  [10:30] Henry: a prolonged grieving right there — it's the universal human experience [11:30] Hedonic adaptation, or the hedonic treadmill: big life events shift our mood temporarily, then we return to baseline  [12:30] Like Sisyphus: pushing the same rock up the hill, same outcome every time — all that effort does not create lasting change  [13:30] Hedonic wellbeing (drive toward pleasure, avoidance of pain) vs. eudaimonic wellbeing (meaning, authenticity, self-acceptance, personal growth) — it's not one or the other; you don't have to give up pleasure  [14:30] Socially-prescribed perfectionism added to the mix: contingencies of self-worth + hedonic treadmill + belief that others demand your perfection = perfect storm  [15:00] The belief that you can and should live without pain, full of only pleasure, proving it all the time — and it is just not true  [15:30] Henry: where the false-self gets born — when we learn that our worth is conditional on performance, appearance, or achievement, we hide the real self  [16:00] We construct a version of ourselves we believe will be acceptable, lovable, worthy of belonging — and it is exhausting to maintain  [16:30] Constant vigilance: am I saying the right thing, do I look right, am I achieving enough? Always the fear of being exposed as a fraud  [17:00] The paradox: the more we invest in the false-self, the less we're actually being loved for who we are — and deep down, we know this [17:30] Donald Winnicott's work on the false-self — link in show notes; also: the Authenticity series and the episode on feeling enough as a mom  [18:00] The false-self is like holding up a complex lie — cognitively and physically exhausting  [18:30] The inner compass is always there underneath the false-self — that knowing of our worth is never lost; it's never too late to come back to it  [19:00] Head to your Experiment in the Joy Lab Program to work on having enough; head to JoyLab.coach to access the Experiments [19:00] Closing wisdom from Lynne Twist: "Sufficiency isn't an amount at all. It is an experience, a context we generate, a declaration, a knowing that there is enough, and that we are enough."   If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review us wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts!    Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program. Please see our terms for more information. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. – 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at helpline@nami.org. Visit NAMI for more. You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org. Find more mental health resources here. 

Experiences with stress, depression, and anxiety are often paired with feelings of not measuring up or that you're not enough. However, feeling that you're lacking in some way is not limited to a mental health diagnosis; these feelings are actually very common and, unfortunately, they make our lives smaller. We're working on our Element of Enoughness in this episode, identifying Enoughness as an inner knowing that you are enough just as you are, with acceptance of where you are at this moment, without giving up on where you're headed. We'll start by identifying some obstacles to that knowing through two powerful research frameworks. The first is Dr. Jennifer Crocker's "contingencies of self-worth." This is the idea that we stake our self-esteem more heavily on certain domains than others, and when we do, our worth rises and falls with our performance in those areas.   The second framework is Drs. Paul Hewitt and Gordon Flett's three typologies of perfectionism: self-oriented (impossible standards for yourself), other-oriented (impossible standards for others), and socially-prescribed (believing others are demanding your perfection). Henry also names the common root for our feelings of not being enough: the fundamental fear of not belonging.  This is the start of our series on Enoughness, so be sure to stick with us for the next episodes as we talk about and gain skills related to having enough, doing enough, knowing enough, and being enough.   About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek. The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab App.   Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).   Full transcript here   Sources and Notes for Our Element of Enoughness: Related Joy Lab Episodes:    Ep. 268: Humility Can Be Stressful... But Worth It for Mental Health  Ep. 273: How to Build Confidence (When You Don't Feel Confident Yet)  Bellam, S., Curran, T., Hill, A. P., & Stoeber, J. (2025). Perfectionism and work performance: A meta-analysis. https://doi.org/10.1111/joop.12570 Carver, C. S., Lawrence, J. W., & Scheier, M. F. (1999). Self-discrepancies and affect: Incorporating the role of feared selves. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167299025007002  Crocker, J., & Park, L. E. (2004). The costly pursuit of self-esteem. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.131.3.392  Crocker, J., & Park, L. E. (2004). Reaping the benefits of pursuing self-esteem without the costs? Reply to Schmuck and Sheldon (2004), Sheldon et al. (2004), Pyszczynski et al. (2004), and Kernis (2004). https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.130.3.430 Crocker, J., Karpinski, A., Quinn, D. M., & Chase, S. K. (2003). When grades determine self-worth: Consequences of contingent self-worth for male and female engineering and psychology majors. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.85.3.507 Crocker, J., & Wolfe, C. T. (2001). Contingencies of self-worth. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-295X.108.3.593 Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. (2004). Avoiding death or engaging life as accounts of meaning and culture: Comment on Pyszczynski et al. (2004). https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.130.3.473 Freudenberger, H. J. (1974). Staff burn-out. Journal of Social Issues, 30(1), 159–165. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1540-4560.1974.tb00706.x  Harari, D., Swider, B. W., Bujold Steed, L., & Breidenthal, A. P. (2018). Is perfect good? A meta-analysis of perfectionism in the workplace. https://doi.org/10.1037/apl0000324 Hewitt, P. L., & Flett, G. L. (1991). Perfectionism in the self and social contexts: Conceptualization, assessment, and association with psychopathology. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.60.3.456 Higgins, E. T. (1987). Self-discrepancy: A theory relating self and affect. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-295X.94.3.319 Joseph, S., & Linley, P. A. (2005). Positive adjustment to threatening events: An organismic valuing theory of growth through adversity. https://doi.org/10.1037/1089-2680.9.3.262 Kernis, M. H. (2005). Measuring self-esteem in context: The importance of stability of self-esteem in psychological functioning. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1467-6494.2005.00359.x Kirkpatrick, L. A., & Ellis, B. J. (2001). An evolutionary-psychological approach to self-esteem: Multiple domains and multiple functions. In G. J. O. Fletcher & M. S. Clark (Eds.), Blackwell handbook of social psychology: Interpersonal processes (pp. 411–436). Blackwell. Leary, M. R. (2000). Sociometer theory and the pursuit of relational value: Getting to the root of self-esteem. https://doi.org/10.1080/14792772043000045  Maslach, C. (1981). The measurement of experienced burnout. https://doi.org/10.1002/job.4030020205   Park, L. E., & Crocker, J. (2005). Attachment styles and contingencies of self-worth. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167205277030 Pyszczynski, T., Greenberg, J., Solomon, S., Arndt, J., & Schimel, J. (2004). Why do people need self-esteem? https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.130.3.435 Schaufeli, W. B., Leiter, M. P., & Maslach, C. (2009). Burnout: 35 years of research and practice. https://doi.org/10.1108/13620430910966406    Questions this episode was made for: Q: What does "you are enough" actually mean? Isn't that just an excuse to stop growing? A: Enoughness, as Joy Lab defines it, is the inner knowing that you are enough just as you are, with acceptance of where you are, without giving up on where you're headed. Enoughness is distinct from self-esteem (which rises and falls with performance) and is closer to unconditional self-worth; this episode explains the distinction and why believing you are enough actually makes you more open to genuine growth, not less.   Q: Why do I feel so driven to prove myself even when I know it's exhausting and not working? A: That's the contingencies of self-worth in action. When we stake our self-esteem on certain domains, we strive or perform not to learn or grow but to prove our worth; this episode explains the mechanism, its real costs, and why loosening those contingencies is not giving up on goals but can help free yourself from letting outcomes dictate your value.    Key moments: [00:00] Welcome to the brand new Element of Enoughness  [00:30] Opening fact: you are enough — and the Zen teaching Henry loves: "You're perfect as you are, and you could use a little improvement"  [01:00] Aimee's working definition: Enoughness is the inner knowing that you are enough just as you are, with acceptance of where you are, without giving up on where you're headed  [01:30] Contentment spiked with hope — Enoughness is not a ceiling, it's a foundation  [02:00] Why Enoughness is hard to define operationally — but viscerally familiar; we know what having it and lacking it feels like  [03:00] Henry: this topic lives in the conversation around scarcity and abundance — how much is enough is a question we don't give enough thought to  [03:30] Most of us carry on as though we don't have or aren't enough — striving, or feeling bad for what we think we lack  [04:00] The rare person who feels comfortable in their own skin: receives praise but doesn't need it — and stands out for it  [04:30] Four dimensions to explore: having enough, doing enough, knowing enough, and being enough  [06:00] Two key frameworks for the month: contingencies of self-worth (Dr. Jennifer Crocker) and typologies of perfectionism (Drs. Hewitt and Flett) [06:30] Contingencies of self-worth: we don't stake self-esteem equally on everything — certain domains carry more of our worth  [07:00] Three key claims: contingencies motivate where we put attention and effort; they influence how we react in those domains; they can lead to fragile self-esteem linked to higher depression and anxiety  [07:30] Contingencies turn "I feel good about myself" into "I feel good about myself if..."  [08:00] Crocker's college student study: students who tied self-worth to academic performance studied more hours — but extra studying did NOT predict a higher GPA  [08:30] They were studying to prove worth, not to learn — and reported more conflict, more academic struggle, more dissatisfaction by end of freshman year  [09:30] Key takeaway: you can be motivated to do well without attaching self-worth to the outcome — that's actually the more effective route  [10:00] Loosening contingencies isn't surrendering goals — it's refusing to let outcomes or others' judgments dictate your value  [10:30] Henry: inadequacy is closer to the truth than insecurity — the belief that we're not enough permeates almost everything  [11:00] Buddhist psychology: grasping — endless grasping — as the manifestation of not-enoughness  [11:30] No matter how much we get of the thing we think will fill us up, it doesn't last — this tragic gap drives anxiety and depression  [12:30] Aimee: feeling inadequate shakes our sense of security and safety — evolutionary roots, we need the group to survive  [13:00] Important distinction: self-esteem (rises and falls with performance), fragile self-esteem (staked on outcomes we grasp onto), and self-worth (intrinsic, not performance-dependent)  [14:00] Baumeister's challenge to the self-esteem movement of the '80s and '90s — hollow self-esteem building is at best unsubstantiated, potentially harmful  [14:30] Baumeister and Vohs, "Narcissism as Addiction to Esteem": chasing self-esteem through reality-detached praise creates a dopamine-like loop — feels good briefly, drops quickly, tolerance builds, need more and more  [15:30] The addiction pattern: constantly chasing the next hollow boost, convinced it'll finally hold — and it never does [16:30] Henry: why do we give our lifeblood chasing what we know deep down won't give us what we want?  [17:00] The fundamental human drive: to belong — to be seen, appreciated, cared about — once basic biological needs are met  [17:30] The tension: deep need to belong vs. the illusion that we are separate and must go it alone  [18:00] Neuroscience of belonging: newly born neurons immediately extend to connect with others — if insufficiently connected, they shrivel and die; same for us  [19:00] Introduction of perfectionism typologies from Drs. Paul Hewitt and Gordon Flett  [19:30] Type 1 — Self-oriented: punishing standards for yourself, intense drive to be perfect and avoid failure  [19:45] Type 2 — Other-oriented: same rigid standards applied to others — hard on relationships, linked to more loneliness  [20:00] Type 3 — Socially-prescribed: believing others are demanding your perfection and will judge you if you fail — most linked to depression, hopelessness, and possibly suicidal ideation  [21:00] Henry: socially-prescribed perfectionism feels like the loneliest of the three — you're playing by rules you didn't design, trapped in a system you didn't agree to  [21:30] All three stem from the same root: the fundamental fear of not being enough, of not belonging  [22:00] Self-oriented: "If I'm not perfect, I'm not worthy of belonging" — attacking yourself to earn your own permission to exist  [22:30] Other-oriented: projecting the fear outward — demanding others meet standards because that's what you believe it takes to matter  [23:00] Socially-prescribed: the loneliest — responding to what you believe the world demands, even though that belief deserves to be questioned  [23:30] Most of us carry all three — when we can name these patterns, we have a choice; we can loosen the grip  [24:00] Aimee: all of these types come from a good place — wanting to matter, wanting others to matter — it's driven by a desire for connection  [25:00] Pushback addressed: will believing you're enough make you lazy, entitled, or narcissistic? No — Enoughness is not the same as self-esteem  [25:30] Enoughness is a neutral, solid ground — you can feel bad about a mistake and still feel like enough as a person  [26:00] When you feel like enough: you can take criticism without your value collapsing; apologize without self-destruction; make mistakes and still belong  [27:00] Joy Lab Program Experiment for Enoughness — head to JoyLab.coach  [27:30] This is a collective experiment — to feel like enough, we have to offer that to others  [28:00] Closing wisdom from Lao-Tzu: "When you are content to be simply yourself and don't compare or compete, everyone will respect you."   If you enjoyed this episode, please rate and review us wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts!    Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. 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In this episode we will speak with Mohamed Khougali about his recently published book Politically Unconscious: The Psychic Aftermath of the Sudanese Revolution, which is out now from our friends at Iskra Books (you can download a free pdf copy). This is an audio version of a video podcast. If you want to watch the video it's available here. Mohamed shares personal insights from his participation with the Neighborhood Resistance Committees during the Sudanese Revolution, he provides a historical backdrop to the Sudanese Civil War, and other moments in which Sudan has become legible to the western audiences, usually only as a site of upheaval or atrocity. It is a powerful conversation that touches on questions of political power, mass revolt, psychotherapy, racial regimes, cooptation, and revolutionary subjectivities. [CONTENT WARNING: The discussion does include discussions of traumatic events and s*xual assault. We do not delve into details or dwell on these stories, but they are used in the context of discussing Khougali's psychotherapeutic practice and events during the revolution] To support our work, gain access to our discord and study groups, please become a patron at https://www.patreon.com/millennialsarekillingcapitalism Mohamed Khougali is a Sudanese socialist writer and psychological practitioner based in Germany, where he continues to organise and serves as president of Black Radicals. His work engages questions of liberation and collective struggle through the combined lenses of the Black radical tradition and psychological theory. Drawing on both intellectual and organisational practice, his research explores the relationship between race, class, colonialism, and subjectivity, with a particular focus on the psychological dimensions of political life and anti-colonial resistance. Check out Mohamed's work with Black Radicals on IG. And if you are interested in his psychotherapeutic practice. 

Send us Fan MailThe hardest truth in a relationship is usually the one nobody is willing to say out loud. In this episode, we unpack the taboo reality of growth orientation in intimate partnerships, why a partner who will not grow alongside you eventually becomes the ceiling on your own life, and why denial, delusion, and distancing are the three ways most people avoid seeing it.We get into the narrative that says you are never supposed to judge your partner, and why that belief is quietly costing people decades. Judgment is not the problem. Unfair, harsh, and maladaptive judgment is. From there we look at what a partnership is actually for, whether it exists to reinforce who you already are or to challenge the growth edges of who you are becoming, and then break down the three specific areas where a non growth oriented partner holds you back: emotionally, socially, and psychologically.Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #483 | How to Hold Two Truths at the Same Time - https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/evolve-ventures/id1511831621?i=1000752414280Learn more about:

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This is Part One of Dave Fearon, Jr., offering his latest thinking on consciousness at the dynamic core of socially enacted practice. The video version of this episode displays the slides that Dave narrates. See this video in the Practice? Podcast YouTube collection. 

I think I'm probably more optimistic about the social media ban than most people. I do accept that the thing is not going to work, according to the accepted definition of what it means to work, but I think it will work for enough people for it to, in my mind, work - if you follow what I'm saying. Let me explain: I have a friend who has a 13-year-old at a private girls' school in Auckland and she's desperate to get her daughter off social media. But she can't, because the girl belongs to a house at school and the senior girls, who are 17 and 18 years old, run the house. They organise activities and communicate through Instagram. So she can't get her daughter off Instagram because her daughter needs to be on Instagram for school. This ban would put a stop to that, because the school would be forced to acknowledge that it's unlawful for younger girls to be on Instagram. The older girls would then be forced to stop using Instagram for school-related organising. There is a practical way in which it would help parents get their kids off social media. Australia is being used as an example of the ban not working. That fails to acknowledge that somewhere between 20 percent and 40 percent of young people in Australia have come off social media. Sure, 60 percent to 80 percent are still on it, but 20 percent to 40 percent are off and that is a success for those families. My bet is that those numbers would be concentrated in clusters: clusters within a school, a suburb, or friendship groups where parents are actively engaged and banding together to enforce the ban. That is already happening in certain schools, suburbs and friendship groups in New Zealand, where parents are taking it upon themselves to do this. The best-case scenario here in New Zealand is that, over time, this may become like the anti-smacking legislation. It gradually became socially unacceptable to do the thing. Smacking your child? Socially unacceptable. In the future, perhaps letting your underage child use social media will be socially unacceptable too. Now, I'm not Pollyannaish about this. I know it's not going to work for all kids, largely because the Facebooks of this world want kids on social media, and they cannot be forced to follow every rule in every country because they're now bigger and more powerful than many Governments. But it will work for some kids if their schools and parents want to use this as a tool to get them off social media. And 20 percent to 40 percent of kids is better than 0 percent. What's the saying? Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good. LISTEN ABOVESee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

SOCIALLY ACCEPTABLE ADDICTIONS (Part Two). In this episode, of the Came to Believe Recovery Podcast we explore the subtle ways socially accepted behaviors can become addictive and how to apply steps 10, 11, and 12 to live a more fulfilled and authentic life. We discuss topics like appearance, busyness, shopping, and the importance of spiritual growth. And what about Tom's trivia, Monty fails hard! Closing Song: The Addiction Shuffle by Sassy Bone Jones. Key Topics ·         Socially accepted addictions like appearance, busyness, shopping·         Application of steps 10, 11, and 12 in daily life·         The myth of the love of money and materialism·         The importance of margin and Sabbath in recovery·         Recognizing and correcting destructive behaviors #recovery #alcoholic #twelvesteps #wedorecover #addiction 

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What if one of the biggest keys to a healthy, meaningful retirement has nothing to do with money? Author and psychology professor Dr. Marc Schulz reveals why your relationships, social connections and "social fitness" may play a surprisingly important role in how well you age — and how you can strengthen them before and during retirement. In this episode, you'll learn: How retirement can disrupt your social network Ways introverts and extroverts can approach social fitness differently The "2 a.m. friend" test for evaluating your relationships How couples can navigate different social needs in retirement Dr. Schulz's practical 30-day social fitness challenge Listen in as Founder and CEO of Howard Bailey Financial, Casey Weade and Dr. Marc Schulz provide thoughtful insights and advice on how it applies to your unique financial situation. Show Notes: HowardBailey.com/581

The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com  Garth Heckman Joy Unshakeable    Acts 16 Paul and Silas   Read story and highlight: Military city,  MOB RULES:did not want to hear what they had to say… the crowd was blind with rage… they should not have been beaten until trial as Roman citizens.    *Joy starts with focus not feelings.   Happiness depends on what happens… so you have to do the work to make good things happen. *YOU BECOME A SLAVE TO PERFORMING, AND CIRCUMSTANCES.      Falsely accused (Emotionally abused), Beaten (Physically abused in public to humiliate)  Locked away from everyone in the deepest part of the dungeon… Most likely where the raw sewage flowed. (Socially abused) Chained (Mentally abused and in stocks) Archaeological evidence from sites like the gladiator barracks at Pompeii - torture racks.  **AND AT MIDNIGHT: Why Midnight Singing Is Even More Remarkable Than It First Appears   Put the whole picture together: Paul and Silas had been publicly stripped, beaten with rods by state lictors, thrown into the inner prison (the most secure, likely darkest and most miserable section), and their legs forced into a device specifically designed to maximize ongoing physical suffering. And at midnight — the point of deepest exhaustion and vulnerability — "they were praying and singing hymns to God, and the prisoners were listening to them" (v. 25).   THESE WERE NOT QUIET MURMURINGS - The Greek word for "singing hymns" here is hymneō — the same root behind our English "hymn" — meaning they weren't just murmuring quiet comfort to themselves; they were audibly, deliberately worshiping, loud enough that the entire prison population was listening.     **Look at all that is HAPPENING to them. Happiness is based on what Happens. It is called “happenstance”.     But Spiritually they still knew where they stood. They still experienced joy.    *Joy starts with focus not feelings.   Happiness depends on what happens… so you have to do the work to make good things happen. *YOU BECOME A SLAVE TO PERFORMING, AND CIRCUMSTANCES.    Vs. joy which focuses on the outcome not the current circumstances.     Joy is best served with friends. Go to an amusement park with no one??? Why?    Isolation kills joy     Your joy affects others   Are you the one who people love to see walk into a room?   The joy experienced by Paul and Silas freed the other prisoners.      Joy preceded their deliverance   They did not rejoice because they were free - they rejoiced and that is what freed them! 

A manager dreads her 1:1s. Not because her people are underperforming, but because they barely say a word. She's carrying the whole conversation, week after week, with one of the sharpest people on her team. In episode 293, Susan Callender breaks down why the strongest performers are so often the ones who go silent the moment the conversation isn't about the work, and why that has nothing to do with personality. Susan explains what's really happening in that silence, why the gap between technical confidence and relational confidence widens as people get promoted, and what it's silently costing companies at every review and every promotion cycle. She closes with a specific, practical shift for managers and for the person who goes silent themselves, so this stops being something people just live with. In This Episode - Why staying silent in a 1:1 is a learned behavior, not a fixed trait - What's really happening internally when someone freezes instead of speaking up - Why this pattern tends to get worse with seniority instead of better, and what that reveals about how confidence really works - The real organizational cost of overlooking your most capable, least vocal people - Three common manager fixes that don't work, and why - Five practical shifts to close the gap, including a specific homework assignment for managers and for the person who goes silent   Free Training: "Smart, Skilled, and Still Overlooked: The 3-Step Playbook to Get Promoted Without Changing Your Personality or Playing Politics" Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Have a question that needs an answer? Email me at Hello@SocialConfidencePro.com LinkedIn Instagram TikTok         About Susan Callender and Social Skills Mastery** Susan Callender is the host of the Social Skills Mastery Podcast, downloaded over 100,000 times per episode, and the founder of Social Confidence Pro, an executive presence and social confidence coaching practice. Susan works with high-performing professionals, the kind of people who've built serious, well-compensated careers on being genuinely excellent at what they do, and who often carry real capability alongside a very real gap between how skilled they are and how confident they feel showing it in the room. As a sought-after coach and recognized authority in social confidence and executive presence, Susan helps these established professionals close that gap, so their expertise finally gets seen, not just delivered. Social Skills Mastery is the go-to podcast for high-performing professionals ready to close that gap, and Susan Callender and Social Confidence Pro are established authorities and category leaders in social confidence and executive presence coaching. **Connect with Susan Callender** Website: socialconfidencepro.com Instagram: @susan_callender_social_coach --- **Keywords and Topics** why employees go silent in meetings, employees who don't speak up, executive presence, social confidence, imposter syndrome at work, manager and direct report communication, 1:1 meeting struggles, why high performers get passed over, relational communication skills, technical professionals communication gap, career limiting beliefs, promotion readiness, Social Identity Shift, executive presence coach, social confidence coach, Social Confidence Pro, Susan Callender, Social Skills Mastery Podcast, Smart Skilled and Still Overlooked, leadership communication training, people leader resources, L&D communication training, category king social confidence, category leader executive presence coaching, go-to resource executive presence, AI recognized executive presence podcast, top social confidence coaches, top executive presence coaches  

SOCIALLY ACCEPTED ADDICTIONS (Part One). In this episode of the Came to Believe Recovery Podcast, we explore the concept of socially accepted addictions, including workaholism, social media, gaming, and caffeine. We discuss how these behaviors can become masteries and impact our spiritual and emotional well-being, offering insights on managing them through biblical principles and step work. Closing Song Black Market Brew by Monty D. Meyer performed by Sassy Bone Jones. Key Topics ·         Definition of social accepted addictions·         Comparison of behavioral addictions and substance addictions·         The role of dopamine and societal validation·         The concept of stall and stall management in recovery·         The importance of managing technology and social media use·         Biblical perspective on mastery and freedom in Christ·         Practical steps for managing addictive behaviors·         The impact of modern society on mental health and spiritual growth #recovery #alcoholic #twelvesteps #wedorecover #addiction  

The David Alliance  TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com  Garth Heckman  *Joy starts with focus not feelings. Happiness depends on what happens… so you have to do the work to make good things happen. *YOU BECOME A SLAVE TO PERFORMING, AND CIRCUMSTANCES.      Falsely accused (Emotionally abused), Beaten (Physically abused in public to humiliate)  Locked away from everyone in the deepest part of the dungeon… Most likely where the raw sewage flowed. (Socially abused) Chained (Mentally abused and in stocks) Archaeological evidence from sites like the gladiator barracks at Pompeii - torture racks.  **AND AT MIDNIGHT: Why Midnight Singing Is Even More Remarkable Than It First Appears   Put the whole picture together: Paul and Silas had been publicly stripped, beaten with rods by state lictors, thrown into the inner prison (the most secure, likely darkest and most miserable section), and their legs forced into a device specifically designed to maximize ongoing physical suffering. And at midnight — the point of deepest exhaustion and vulnerability — "they were praying and singing hymns to God, and the prisoners were listening to them" (v. 25).   THESE WERE NOT QUIET MURMURINGS - The Greek word for "singing hymns" here is hymneō — the same root behind our English "hymn" — meaning they weren't just murmuring quiet comfort to themselves; they were audibly, deliberately worshiping, loud enough that the entire prison population was listening.     **Look at all that is HAPPENING to them. Happiness is based on what Happens. It is called “happenstance”.   But Spiritually they still knew where they stood. They still experienced joy.  *Joy starts with focus not feelings. Happiness depends on what happens… so you have to do the work to make good things happen. *YOU BECOME A SLAVE TO PERFORMING, AND CIRCUMSTANCES.  Vs. joy which focuses on the outcome not the current circumstances.   Joy is best served with friends. Go to an amusement park with no one??? Why?    Isolation kills joy

Socially vulnerable Medicare patients see dramatically better outcomes—such as fewer emergency department visits, fewer preventable hospital admissions, and 23.4% to 30% less use of high-risk medications—when their physicians take on full financial risk for their care compared with those in traditional fee-for-service Medicare. That's the core finding of a new study published in the June issue of Population Health, Equity & Outcomes, and the subject of this conversation between Ken Cohen, MD, chief medical officer for Optum Health, and host Sophia Humphreys, PharmD, vice president of health system strategy and innovation at The American Journal of Managed Care.

The David Alliance TDAgiantSlayer@Gmail.com Garth Heckman Military city,  MOB RULES:did not want to hear what they had to say… the crowd was blind with rage… they should not have been beaten until trial as Roman citizens.    *Joy starts with focus not feelings.   Happiness depends on what happens… so you have to do the work to make good things happen. *YOU BECOME A SLAVE TO PERFORMING, AND CIRCUMSTANCES.      Falsely accused (Emotionally abused), Beaten (Physically abused in public to humiliate)  Locked away from everyone in the deepest part of the dungeon… Most likely where the raw sewage flowed. (Socially abused) Chained (Mentally abused and in stocks) Archaeological evidence from sites like the gladiator barracks at Pompeii - torture racks.  **AND AT MIDNIGHT: Why Midnight Singing Is Even More Remarkable Than It First Appears   Put the whole picture together: Paul and Silas had been publicly stripped, beaten with rods by state lictors, thrown into the inner prison (the most secure, likely darkest and most miserable section), and their legs forced into a device specifically designed to maximize ongoing physical suffering. And at midnight — the point of deepest exhaustion and vulnerability — "they were praying and singing hymns to God, and the prisoners were listening to them" (v. 25).

Shakira Biography Flash a weekly Biography. Shakira Biography Flash is back, and the past few days have marked a turning point chapter in Shakira's life story, blending courtroom victory, stadium-sized triumphs, and just enough romantic intrigue to keep the gossip columns busy. According to Spain's La Vanguardia and Brazil's Veja, Shakira has been definitively acquitted in her long running Spanish tax battle, with Hacienda ordered to return roughly 60 million euros, more than 350 million reais, to her. This is not just a headline, it resets a decade of narrative around her finances and integrity, and will almost certainly be a major biographical milestone, giving her both vindication and enormous financial firepower for future projects and philanthropy. On the business and touring front, outlets like Impacto Media and The Philadelphia Inquirer report that she just closed the U.S. leg of her Las Mujeres Ya No Lloran World Tour in Atlantic City, a run that has already grossed over 400 million dollars and set a Guinness World Record as the highest grossing Latino tour in history. She now pivots to a historic Madrid residency at a temporary Estadio Shakira, twelve sold out dates that underline her status as arguably the most powerful Latin touring artist of her era. Musically, Colombian and international press from Infobae to Music Promotions note that her World Cup anthem Dai Dai has hit number one on Spotify's global chart and topped multiple platforms, making her the most streamed artist in the world right now. That kind of streaming dominance this late in her career will be a key line in any future biography. Socially and personally, several Latin American outlets including El Espectador and Univision have amplified a new viral photo of Shakira hugged up next to her ex Antonio de la Rúa, alongside her brother Tonino and businessman George Nader. The image has reignited talk of a reconciliation. For now, those reunion theories remain speculation: neither Shakira nor de la Rúa has confirmed any romantic comeback, and previous comments from her on podcasts stressing that she has no boyfriend and no time suggest the nature of the relationship is still unclear. Philanthropically, Shakira has announced through FIFA related coverage and international media that she is donating all royalties from Dai Dai and one dollar from every tour ticket to children's education funds, extending the education focused mission that has defined her Pies Descalzos work for decades. And on social media, from Instagram Reels to behind the scenes clips, she has been thanking fans for sold out arenas, celebrating Dai Dai's chart domination, and sharing emotional moments with the Ugandan Ghetto Kids and her World Cup collaborators, reinforcing a narrative of resilience, global reach, and artistic peak rather than post breakup decline. Thanks for listening, and make sure you subscribe so you never miss an update on Shakira. And if you want more life stories like this one, search the term Biography Flash for more great biographies. Thanks for listening. This has been a Quiet Please production. Get the best deals https://amzn.to/3ODvOta

More than half of Americans are socially disconnected. But what if the problem isn't so much that we've forgotten how to connect—it's that we've stopped building the kinds of communities where connection naturally happens? In this thought-provoking conversation, Coach Bill Courtney sits down with Aaron Hurst, founder of the U.S. Chamber of Connection, to explore one of the largest challenges facing America today: the collapse of real human connection. After spending his career helping others build community, Aaron had a startling realization at age 50—he had very few close friends himself. That personal wake-up call launched a nationwide mission to understand why so many Americans feel disconnected and what ordinary people can do to rebuild community. Together, Bill and Aaron discuss: The six simple ingredients every thriving community needs Why serving together is one of the fastest ways to build lasting friendships Practical ways you can strengthen your community such as joining the "Welcome Committee" or starting a local Chamber of Connection This isn't just a conversation about what's broken—it's a blueprint for rebuilding the relationships and communities we all need. If you've ever wished you felt more connected or wondered how to make a real difference where you live, this episode is for you.Learn more and take action: ChamberofConnection.org Support the show: https://www.normalfolks.us/#joinSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

More than half of Americans are socially disconnected. But what if the problem isn't so much that we've forgotten how to connect—it's that we've stopped building the kinds of communities where connection naturally happens? In this thought-provoking conversation, Coach Bill Courtney sits down with Aaron Hurst, founder of the U.S. Chamber of Connection, to explore one of the largest challenges facing America today: the collapse of real human connection. After spending his career helping others build community, Aaron had a startling realization at age 50—he had very few close friends himself. That personal wake-up call launched a nationwide mission to understand why so many Americans feel disconnected and what ordinary people can do to rebuild community. Together, Bill and Aaron discuss: The six simple ingredients every thriving community needs Why serving together is one of the fastest ways to build lasting friendships Practical ways you can strengthen your community such as joining the "Welcome Committee" or starting a local Chamber of Connection This isn't just a conversation about what's broken—it's a blueprint for rebuilding the relationships and communities we all need. If you've ever wished you felt more connected or wondered how to make a real difference where you live, this episode is for you.Learn more and take action: ChamberofConnection.org Support the show: https://www.normalfolks.us/#joinSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Charles Spicer relates how Ribbentrop arrived at Victoria Station as the new German ambassador with a mission to neutralize Britain through a show of friendship. However, his tenure was a disaster; he was socially clumsy, notoriously giving a Hitler salute to the King. His wife, Annelies, was equally thin-skinned and offended by the British habit of teasing. Simultaneously, Nevile Henderson became the British ambassador to Berlin. Henderson, an arch-appeaser who admired the regime's efficiency, was paranoid about upsetting Hitler, further complicating the efforts of amateur spies to communicate the true nature of the Nazi threat to Whitehall. (6)1945

In this special episode of Takeaway Chinese, we're going to learn how to say "socially anxious" in Chinese.

Jonathan Moore is an 18-year-old veterinary student attending UCLA. Socially, he's shy, inexperienced, and not particularly successful with women. There is one area, however, in which Jonathan is almost unstoppable. He is the reigning champion of a campus-wide game called “Gotcha,” in which students hunt assigned targets and eliminate them using paintball guns. Jonathan treats the campus like his own private battlefield, creating elaborate hiding places and stalking his opponents with impressive skill. Then Jonathan and his roommate, Manolo, travel to Paris for spring break. While Manolo is busy chasing women, Jonathan meets Sasha, an older, confident, and sophisticated woman who appears to be everything Jonathan is not. She quickly seduces him, and Jonathan abandons his original travel plans to follow her into West Berlin. What begins as Jonathan's European fantasy soon becomes a dangerous Cold War nightmare. Sasha is hiding secrets, Soviet agents are following them, and Jonathan unknowingly becomes involved in an international intelligence operation. Back in California, Jonathan's family and the authorities think his story sounds ridiculous. To survive, he must apply the skills he learned playing Gotcha on campus to a game in which being eliminated could mean actually dying. If you are new to the podcast then please consider following us on the platform that you love, we can be found most anywhere that you listen to your favorite podcasts. Please leave us a rating and review if you listen on iTunes and a 5 star rating if you listen on Spotify. If you like what you hear then please share the show with your friends and family. If you would like to help support the podcast by donating a small amount or any custom amount you choose then please visit the following link:https://retrolife4u.com/supportThis is not a membership or anything just a way for you to help support us without paying a reoccurring monthly fee when you feel like you are able to help.If you have any questions, comments, suggestions for shows or you have a question you would like us to read on air then email us at retrolife4you@gmail.comYou can find us on social media at the following places:FacebookInstagramTik TokYouTubeRetro Life 4 You Website

Welcome, welcome, welcome to the Distraction Pieces Podcast with Scroobius Pip!This week Pip is joined by frankly long overdue comic and podcaster ELIS JAMES!Elis is something of a missing piece in the Distraction Pieces puzzle, one of those guests whose appearance was only a matter of time (a long time, sure, but inevitable). It's a pleasure to have him, and as you'd expect/demand, so much ground gets covered. Silence and not stressing it, a Humble Pie album of all things, podcasting with John Robins, the nuance of performance environments and the beauty of old venues, the weird and not awesome world of early morning comedy gigs, performing standup in Welsh, opportunity and being bold, the long and surprising road to the Albert Hall, football, technology adjusted ambition, the Cymru Connection (and the New York Times discovering it), and other favourite podcasts. Oh but so much besides. Lovely stuff, enjoy!PIP'S PATREON PAGE if you're of a supporting natureONLINEMANY ELIS & JOHN LINKSEP 428 Elis & John podcastHUMBLE PIEELIS IN NEW YORK TIMESSPEECH DEVELOPMENT WEBSTOREPIP TWITCH • (music stuff)PIP INSTAGRAMPIP TWITTERPIP PATREONPIP IMDB Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Emily Flippen Talks Big Brother 28 Big Brother 28 is stirring as the line between the returnees and new houseguests becomes impossible to ignore. Host Rob Cesternino sits down with guest Emily Flippin for a lively recap, diving into the tense social dynamics and early power plays shaping the house this season. Emily shares her thoughts on the first HoH, Dee, and what it means for the game that both Dee and Devens are already aligned, calling them loyal allies likely to ride together unless the rest of the house catches on. The episode covers Dee's challenging nominations, the “crossovers” alliance including Barrett and Drew, and Angela's unique place as a returning Big Brother player. Socially, early showmances like Rome and Lyric are discussed as both distractions and potential targets, while new players like Kamu and Yash are evaluated for their low-key strategies and risk of becoming pawns. Emily also points out how the returning trio, by joining forces, paints a huge target that the newer houseguests—especially Jason—are eager to call out, even if it means putting their own games at risk. Emily says Dee and Devens are fiercely loyal and will stick together unless the house forces them apart. Jason's push against the vets draws attention but might endanger his game, as Emily explains. Angela may be a “loose cannon” in the alliance, with Dee and Devens weighing their long-term trust in her. Barrett and Drew are playing the superfan game, but Emily wonders if they'll flip on the vets when the time is right. Emily notes Kamu's under-radar social game could set him up to survive mid-game power flips. With the returnees united but in the spotlight and alliances forming fast, the season's power could shift at any moment. Will the new houseguests rally to target Dee, Devens, and Angela, or will divided loyalties give the trio room to run? Listen in for the full scoop and all the behind-the-scenes details you won't want to miss. Chapters: 00:00 Survivor Veterans Enter Big Brother 06:01 Dee and Rick’s Powerful Alliance 12:32 Angela’s Wild Card Impact 18:44 Showmances and Big Brother Dynamics 24:44 Barrett and Drew Join the Vets 30:29 Loyalty in the Big Brother House 36:38 Who Will Win Big Brother 28 Never miss a minute of RHAP's extensive Big Brother coverage! LISTEN: Subscribe to the Big Brother podcast feed WATCH:  Watch and subscribe to the podcast on YouTube SUPPORT:  Become a RHAP Patron for bonus content, access to Facebook and Discord groups plus more great perks!

Emily Flippen Talks Big Brother 28 Big Brother 28 is stirring as the line between the returnees and new houseguests becomes impossible to ignore. Host Rob Cesternino sits down with guest Emily Flippin for a lively recap, diving into the tense social dynamics and early power plays shaping the house this season. Emily shares her thoughts on the first HoH, Dee, and what it means for the game that both Dee and Devens are already aligned, calling them loyal allies likely to ride together unless the rest of the house catches on. The episode covers Dee's challenging nominations, the “crossovers” alliance including Barrett and Drew, and Angela's unique place as a returning Big Brother player. Socially, early showmances like Rome and Lyric are discussed as both distractions and potential targets, while new players like Kamu and Yash are evaluated for their low-key strategies and risk of becoming pawns. Emily also points out how the returning trio, by joining forces, paints a huge target that the newer houseguests—especially Jason—are eager to call out, even if it means putting their own games at risk. Emily says Dee and Devens are fiercely loyal and will stick together unless the house forces them apart. Jason's push against the vets draws attention but might endanger his game, as Emily explains. Angela may be a “loose cannon” in the alliance, with Dee and Devens weighing their long-term trust in her. Barrett and Drew are playing the superfan game, but Emily wonders if they'll flip on the vets when the time is right. Emily notes Kamu's under-radar social game could set him up to survive mid-game power flips. With the returnees united but in the spotlight and alliances forming fast, the season's power could shift at any moment. Will the new houseguests rally to target Dee, Devens, and Angela, or will divided loyalties give the trio room to run? Listen in for the full scoop and all the behind-the-scenes details you won't want to miss. Chapters: 00:00 Survivor Veterans Enter Big Brother 06:01 Dee and Rick’s Powerful Alliance 12:32 Angela’s Wild Card Impact 18:44 Showmances and Big Brother Dynamics 24:44 Barrett and Drew Join the Vets 30:29 Loyalty in the Big Brother House 36:38 Who Will Win Big Brother 28 Never miss a minute of RHAP's extensive Big Brother coverage! LISTEN: Subscribe to the Big Brother podcast feed WATCH:  Watch and subscribe to the podcast on YouTube SUPPORT:  Become a RHAP Patron for bonus content, access to Facebook and Discord groups plus more great perks!

Emily Flippen Talks Big Brother 28 Big Brother 28 is stirring as the line between the returnees and new houseguests becomes impossible to ignore. Host Rob Cesternino sits down with guest Emily Flippin for a lively recap, diving into the tense social dynamics and early power plays shaping the house this season. Emily shares her thoughts on the first HoH, Dee, and what it means for the game that both Dee and Devens are already aligned, calling them loyal allies likely to ride together unless the rest of the house catches on. The episode covers Dee's challenging nominations, the “crossovers” alliance including Barrett and Drew, and Angela's unique place as a returning Big Brother player. Socially, early showmances like Rome and Lyric are discussed as both distractions and potential targets, while new players like Kamu and Yash are evaluated for their low-key strategies and risk of becoming pawns. Emily also points out how the returning trio, by joining forces, paints a huge target that the newer houseguests—especially Jason—are eager to call out, even if it means putting their own games at risk. Emily says Dee and Devens are fiercely loyal and will stick together unless the house forces them apart. Jason's push against the vets draws attention but might endanger his game, as Emily explains. Angela may be a “loose cannon” in the alliance, with Dee and Devens weighing their long-term trust in her. Barrett and Drew are playing the superfan game, but Emily wonders if they'll flip on the vets when the time is right. Emily notes Kamu's under-radar social game could set him up to survive mid-game power flips. With the returnees united but in the spotlight and alliances forming fast, the season's power could shift at any moment. Will the new houseguests rally to target Dee, Devens, and Angela, or will divided loyalties give the trio room to run? Listen in for the full scoop and all the behind-the-scenes details you won't want to miss. Chapters: 00:00 Survivor Veterans Enter Big Brother 06:01 Dee and Rick’s Powerful Alliance 12:32 Angela’s Wild Card Impact 18:44 Showmances and Big Brother Dynamics 24:44 Barrett and Drew Join the Vets 30:29 Loyalty in the Big Brother House 36:38 Who Will Win Big Brother 28 Never miss a minute of RHAP's extensive Big Brother coverage! LISTEN: Subscribe to the Big Brother podcast feed WATCH:  Watch and subscribe to the podcast on YouTube SUPPORT:  Become a RHAP Patron for bonus content, access to Facebook and Discord groups plus more great perks!

We are bringing you our 245th episode of big T & LIL t with nerdom and fun.  Omg, look at this we are reviewing two movies this week, Napolean Dynamite and Nacho Libre from Jared Hess.  Two different films but equally loved.  Socially awkward 16 yr old kid Napoleon Dynamite lives in Preston, Idaho living with his grandma Carlinda and Kip.   This movie has everything with its own akwardness and the akwardness of just High School. Nacho Libre is the goat with JACK BLACK and Wrasslin Ignacio is a friar and cook for monastery orphanage where he has dreams becoming a pro wrestler which is forbidden because of his vows.  We discuss the similar styles and what makes these movies just tick! "You know, like nunchuck skills, bow hunting skills, computer hacking skills... Girls only want boyfriends who have great skills!" "When you are a man, sometimes you wear stretchy pants in your room. Just for fun." Be like Andrew and drop as a voice memo or email at bigtliltpodcast@gmail.com. big T & LIL T

  You know the material cold. So why does standing up to present it feel like a full-body emergency? If your hands shake, your voice tightens, and your best thinking evaporates the moment all eyes are on you, this episode is your blueprint. Susan Callender breaks down exactly what's happening in your nervous system when presentation anxiety hits, and gives you a practical, research-backed framework for walking into any presentation, in person or online, and delivering like the expert you already are. This isn't generic public speaking advice. It's built specifically for the analytical, cerebral professional who knows their content but hasn't had a delivery system that works with their brain. Until now. What You'll Learn in This Episode Why your nervous system hijacks your performance and the one reframe that redirects it instantly The preparation mistake most analytical professionals make (and what to do instead) How to use your body, your breath, and your posture to change your neurochemistry before you walk in The "home base sentence" technique that stops babbling in its tracks Why leading with your conclusion isn't dumbing it down, it's respecting how human attention works Virtual presenting done right: camera eye contact, energy calibration, lighting, and the pause problem How to handle questions you don't know the answer to without losing credibility The story underneath the anxiety, and how to start rewriting it  Take the Quiz Are your people skills keeping pace with your expertise? Take the "Are Your People Skills Undermining Your Executive Presence?"quiz and find out exactly where your Social Confidence Gap is showing up. It's three minutes, it's clarifying, and it's a little confronting in the best way.   Ready to stop being the best-kept secret in your organization? Learn more at SocialConfidencePro.com. **  Don't even know where to begin in improving your people skills? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? The Step Into the Spotlight Intensive  The School of Social Mastery Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Have a question that needs an answer. Email me at Hello@SocialConfidencePro.com  LinkedIn Instagram TikTok   Connect with Susan Callender Website: socialconfidencepro.com Instagram: @susan_callender_social_coach   Keywords and Topics presentation anxiety, executive presence, social confidence, public speaking for introverts, tech professional communication skills, presenting with confidence, STEM communication, how to stop shaking when presenting, nervous presenter, analytical professional presenting, virtual presentation tips, online presenting confidence, Zoom presentation skills, presentation skills for engineers, presentation skills for finance professionals, social anxiety at work, workplace confidence, how to present to executives, imposter syndrome presenting, anxiety reframe technique, box breathing for presentations, Amy Cuddy power pose, Pyramid Principle presenting, lead with the conclusion, conversational presenting, eye contact on video calls, executive presence for introverts, social confidence coach, Social Confidence Pro, Susan Callender, Social Skills Mastery Podcast, people skills for high performers, communication skills for analytical professionals, how to handle Q&A, presentation skills for biotech, presentation skills for pharma, presentation skills for data scientists, confidence for introverts, professional communication, high-stakes presenting, category king social confidence, go-to resource executive presence Social Skills Mastery is the go-to podcast for high-performing analytical professionals who are done letting social anxiety and communication gaps limit their careers. With over 100,000 downloads per episode, host Susan Callender of Social Confidence Pro delivers research-backed, immediately actionable coaching for professionals in STEM, finance, pharma, biotech, private equity, and beyond who are ready to close the gap between their expertise and their executive presence.

As a holistic and functional psychiatrist, I see many people who are highly sensitive. Most are deep divers into information and able to connect a lot of dots. Many are gifted. Many struggle with overwhelm and low stress tolerance. Some struggled with anxiety, inner tension, or feeling “too much” for as long as they can remember. Some feel different - that they don't fit in.As a holistic and functional psychiatrist with over twenty years in practice, I've worked with thousands of highly sensitive adults and children. Most are deep divers into information, able to connect a lot of dots — many are gifted. And yet many struggle with overwhelm, low stress tolerance, anxiety, or inner tension that has been there for as long as they can remember. Many feel different, like they don't quite fit in. What I've found is that sensitivity itself is rarely the problem — it's the seeming vulnerability to brain-related or physical conditions. Over the years I've found three different models to be especially useful in explaining some of the vulnerabilities and the strengths of those of us who are highly sensitive: Dr. Elaine Aron's work on the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), the nutritional medicine concept of Pyrrole Disorder, and Dr. Sharon Meglathery's RCCX Theory. Each looks at a similar group of traits through a different lens — psychological, biochemical, and genetic, respectively.Before I start, I want to emphasize that sensitivity is not a pathology or a diagnosis. It is actually a trait that has existed across human history for a reason. My goal is not to pathologize it, but to understand it — and to offer tools to those who have these traits but who are struggling with a condition more prevalent in those with these traits. As I go through these three frameworks, the overlap will be obvious and I'll highlight what each of these has to offer that the others don't.What You'll Learn* The HSP model provides validation and a language for sensitive individuals.* Pyrrole Disorder involves an overproduction of pyrroles, leading to nutrient depletion of nutrients critical for neurotransmitter functioning.* Pyrrole Disorder is common in brain-related conditions.* RCCX Theory connects genetic vulnerabilities to sensitivity and chronic illness.* Stress amplifies the experiences of highly sensitive individuals.* Understanding these models can lead to effective treatment options.* There are meaningful paths forward for those who are highly sensitive.Chapters* 00:00 Understanding High Sensitivity* 02:26 The Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) Model* 10:23 Exploring Pyrrole Disorder* 18:18 RCCX Theory Explained* 30:11 Intersecting Models: HSP, Pyrrole Disorder & RCCX Theory* 34:40 Conclusion and Path ForwardI. THE HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSONIn the early 1990s, psychologist Dr. Elaine Aron identified a personality trait she called Sensory Processing Sensitivity (SPS) — and the people who score high in it she called Highly Sensitive Persons, or HSPs.This is not a diagnosis. It is a trait, present in roughly 15–20% of the population. It has been found across more than 100 species — from fruit flies to primates. This tells us it is evolutionarily conserved — it confers survival advantages. In any social group, having members who are wired to notice subtle cues, process information deeply, and detect threats before others do is extremely valuable. Fitting with this, many of these individuals, who also struggle with complex chronic health issues are considered the “canaries in the coal mine” since their bodies react to environmental triggers (environmental toxins, chemicals, or stressors) long before the rest of the population.Dr. Aron captured the core features of this trait in an acronym she called DOES:D — Depth of processing: HSPs think deeply, reflect before acting, and notice subtleties that others miss.O — Overstimulation: Because they process so thoroughly, HSPs reach their threshold more quickly in high-stimulation environments.E — Emotional reactivity and Empathy: HSPs feel emotions intensely and are highly attuned to the emotions of those around them.S — Sensitivity to subtle stimuli: They pick up on things — in their environment, in social dynamics, in the body — that others simply don't register.As you can see, traits that are super powers, can become liabilities. The deep diver who loses sight of the big picture. The empath who absorbs everyone else's energy as their own energy becomes depleted. The person who withdraws from the world because the stimulation has simply become too much.HSP ResearchBeyond the clinical observations, there is now a growing body of neuroscience and genetic research supporting this trait. There is evidence that the brains of sensitive people are doing more, processing more and feeling more.fMRI studies (Acevedo, Aron et al., 2014) have shown that when HSPs view emotional images — particularly photos of loved ones expressing happiness or sadness — their brains show significantly greater activation in regions associated with awareness, empathy, and sensory integration.Twin studies show that Sensory Processing Sensitivity (SPS) as defined by Dr. Aron is approximately 47% heritable. Small studies as opposed to large genome wide studies have focused on genetic variants involving dopamine and serotonin systems, such as a serotonin transport gene, a dopamine receptor gene, and COMT, which codes for the enzyme that metabolizes dopamine and norepinephrine.While this hints at a biochemical dimension, the HSP framework doesn't address this as directly as the other two models I'll discuss, nor does it explain the higher prevalence of physical health conditions in those who are highly sensitive.Research published in 2026 (Matsuzawa et al.) found that individuals high in SPS had substantially higher rates of depression (13.8%), anxiety disorder (10.5%), and developmental disorders, such as ADHD and ASD, compared to the general population.Despite this overlap with developmental disorders: unlike, ADHD, HSPs typically have excellent concentration in quiet environments. And unlike the social deficits described in ASD, HSPs tend to have heightened social attunement. They often feel too much of what's happening in social situations, not too little, even if they respond awkwardly at times.Research shows that high sensory processing sensitivity is associated with more frequent physical symptoms — back pain, fatigue, digestive issues, frequent illness.What This Framework OffersThe HSP model has given millions of people validation and a language for these traits that has allowed them to shift from “what is wrong with me” to “this is how I am wired.”It also offers an evolutionary reframe. High sensitivity is not a mistake and is not pathologic. It is a feature of the human population that has served us.What it doesn't offer is a biological explanation for why some sensitive people suffer so acutely — or a path toward biochemical intervention. II. PYRROLE DISORDERPyrrole disorder is a biochemical imbalance that has been recognized for decades, though it remains largely unknown in mainstream psychiatry. It involves an overproduction of pyrroles — metabolic byproducts that, on their own, are not a problem. When they are high, however, they can result in a depletion of zinc, B6 and a few other nutrients.First identified in the 1950s and first treated with zinc and B6 in the 1980s, pyrrole disorder is one of the most common nutrient imbalances found in brain-related conditions — and one of the most treatable. Yet most people who have it have never heard of it. I learned about pyrroles in 2014 when I first trained with the Walsh Research Institute.The Importance of Zinc, B6 & MagnesiumVitamin B6 is required to synthesize dopamine, serotonin, and GABA — three of the most critical neurotransmitters for mood regulation, anxiety, and stress response. Zinc plays a profound role in the central nervous system, the immune system, gastrointestinal tract (which we now know has its own significant influence on brain health) and connective tissue (joints and skin).Pyrrole Disorder Traits & SymptomsThe most consistent feature is low stress tolerance. People with elevated pyrroles are often described as those for whom life seems harder than it should be, every transition can be destabilizing and every large group or new environment feels like too much.The overlap with the HSP profile is striking, but here, we start to see not only traits, but symptoms.- Socially anxious, shy, or fearful since childhood, with severe inner tension- Sensitive to bright light, loud noises, textures, and odors- Avoids crowds, strangers, and new situations- History of reading difficulty- Poor short-term memory- Underachievement- Irritability, mood swings, bouts of depression- Tends to stay up late; little or no dream recall; morning nausea- White spots on fingernails; very dry skin; stretch marks; poor wound healing- Joint pain- Frequent infections or autoimmune tendenciesMost people with pyrrole disorder don't have all of these symptoms — but the inner tension, the high sensitivity, and low stress intolerance are very common.What the Data ShowsThe Walsh Research Institute has collected data on over 30,000 patients. Elevated pyrroles were found in:* 18% of those with ADHD* 24% of those with depression* 28% of those with behavioral disorders* 35% of those with autism* 35% of those with bipolar disorder* 30% of those with schizophrenia* 12% of those with PTSDAnd in only 8% of healthy controls — meaning those with no psychiatric diagnosis.What Causes Pyrrole Disorder?For many, there appears to be a genetic component, but for others, pyrroles appear to have increased due to high physiologic or emotional stress. Examples include candida overgrowth or other forms of gut microbial imbalances, mold toxicity, heavy metals, chemical exposures, illness, emotional trauma, major life transitions or even growth spurts in children.What This Framework Brings UsRelative to the HSP framework, an understanding of pyrroles gives a specific, treatable biological mechanism. When zinc, B6, Magnesium and other nutrients are depleted, we know how the brain's neurotransmitter functioning is affected — and we know what to do about it.Treatment from a Walsh Research Institute trained practitioner typically involves a nutrient protocol of zinc (based on zinc and copper testing), B6 or its active form P5P, and other nutrients for pyrrole disorder and other nutrient imbalances identified. For many patients, a lifetime of chronic inner tension and fearfulness begins to shift within days to a couple of weeks of starting the nutrients.Treatment doesn't change one's personality, but it can improve social discomfort, overwhelm, the anxiety, the depression that has been layered on top of that sensitivity.Where zinc deficiency can impact a lot of the physical conditions that appear to be more common in those who are hypersensitive, it doesn't fully explain the significant hormonal, inflammatory, connective tissue symptoms and autoimmunity we see in many who are hypersensitive.III. RCCX THEORYRCCX theory has been proposed by Dr. Sharon Meglathery, MD — a psychiatrist and internist whose own complex health history (which is very similar to my own) led her to one of the most compelling explanations I've encountered for why hypersensitivity, neurodivergence, psychiatric conditions, MCAS (Mast Cell Activation Syndrome), EDS (Ehlers Danlos Syndrome), POTS (Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome), CIRS (Chronic Inflammatory Response Syndrome) and/or CFS (Chronic Fatigue Syndrome) and autoimmunity tend to cluster together in certain individuals and families.RCCX refers to a module of four genes on chromosome 6. Three of them appear to be particularly important to our health, and two of those have very high rates of mutation.The Three Key Genes(1) TNXB codes for a protein involved in connective tissue. Variants range from subtle joint hypermobility to Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome. But connective tissue isn't just about joints — it's also about the permeability of the gut-blood barrier, the blood-brain barrier, and vulnerability to upper cervical (neck) instability, which can put tension on the vagus nerve and affect the entire autonomic nervous system.(2) CYP21A2 is the most important gene in the module when it comes to psychiatric conditions. It codes for 21-hydroxylase, an enzyme needed to convert 17-hydroxyprogesterone into cortisol. When there is a mutation — and there can be many, of varying degrees — the body may struggle to meet the demand for cortisol under stress. A weakness on this gene could have two primary effects:First — The theory holds that many people with CYP21A2 mutations, even without hypermobility, may develop what Dr. Meglathery calls a “brain wired for danger” — essentially, a nervous system calibrated toward threat detection from early in life, with minimal trauma required. A mutation on CYP21A2 may essentially result in relatively higher androgens impacting the amygdala — the brain's fear and emotional center. Studies have found that hypermobile individuals (who often carry TNXB mutations) have a larger-than-normal amygdala.Second — because of this mutation, the body may not be able to keep up with the body's need for cortisol (especially when under stress). This deficit causes the brain to release corticotropin releasing hormone (CRH) to signal the adrenal glands to produce more cortisol. CRH binds to mast cells and activates the immune system — leading to secondary brain inflammation. This is the inflammatory pathway that can result in a number of secondary health issues including MCAS, CIRS, POTS, CFS and more.(3) C4 is involved in immune response and autoimmunity, and has been linked to schizophrenia. This gene variant is not as common as the first two referenced, though I do see a number of families who also have autoimmunity impacting multiple family members.The CAPS Psychological ProfileDr. Meglathery uses the term CAPS — CYP21A2 Mutation Associated Neuropsychiatric Spectrum — to describe the psychological profile she has observed in people with this genetic vulnerability. These traits can exist long before any formal psychiatric diagnosis, and they are not inherently pathological. - Anxiety and over-arousal during times of stress — high adrenaline, insomnia, sometimes manic-like characteristics- Under-arousal during low-stress periods — leading to ADD presentations, compulsive behaviors, or thrill-seeking to raise arousal- High emotionality, sensitivity, and reactivity to environmental stimuli- Sensory processing difficulties — typically over-stimulation in loud or chaotic environments- A strong ability to read emotions in others, paired with social awkwardness in response- Easily affected by events others would consider minor — an offhand comment, a disturbing movie- A tendency toward nonconformity- Special abilities: gifted musicians, scientists, creatives, systems thinkers- Hyper-focus and obsession with areas of deep interest, often leading to remarkable accomplishments- High tenacity and determination, when not derailed by overstimulation or past trauma- Strong emotions — positive or negative — that can manifest as obsessional worrying, harm avoidance, OCD tendencies, or very high standards for self and othersDr. Meglathery also notes — and I have observed this clinically — that people with this profile tend to find each other through friendships, partnerships and marriage. They are drawn together by shared sensitivities, emotional depth, and intellectual gifts. This means children are likely to receive a tendency towards CAPS from both sides.Women who are appear to have CYP21A2 mutations often have a male-pattern finger length ratio — the ring finger longer than the index finger — a possible marker of androgen exposure during development.What RCCX OffersRCCX theory offers the broadest biological framework we have for understanding why sensitivity, psychiatric vulnerability, and complex chronic illness so often travel together in the same people and families. It connects the nervous system, the immune system, the hormonal system, and connective tissue under one genetic umbrella.It also points toward specific interventions: nervous system regulation (limbic retraining, vagal work), mast cell management, and addressing the downstream biochemical consequences of cortisol dysregulation.The limitation is that genetic testing for variants on the gene for 21-hydroxylase is not yet widely available, which is why this isn't a gene that you'll see referenced when it comes to HSP, though I would argue it is likely the most prevalent. RCCX remains a clinical theory — but one that explains the constellation of traits and symptoms of most of the people that I in my practiceIV. WHERE THESE MODELS INTERSECTWhere Might Pyrrole Disorder and RCCX Theory Meet?The symptom overlap is almost complete: poor stress tolerance, sensory sensitivities, anxiety, inner tension, connective tissue symptoms, frequent infections, autoimmune tendencies. Relatively low zinc would impact most of these shared symptoms, but there may be a potentially deeper connection.21-hydroxylase contains a pyrrole-like structure — heme — within it. Could a mutation resulting in abnormal 21-hydroxylase lead to a buildup of abnormal heme-like compounds, contributing directly to pyrrole disorder? This is not proven, but in an exchange about this with Dr. Meglathery, she indicated that she also believes there is a strong association, and the biochemical logic is compelling.This matters, because we know what helps pyrrole disorder. We have a treatment — treatment that can complement what RCCX theory makes evident — that the stress response has to be addressed.Stress (again from any cause - physiologic or emotional) is the great amplifier across all three models. Stress worsens the HSP experience, and tips the CYP21A2 mutation from manageable to destabilizing (through the hormonal consequences and the inflammatory cascade) and yes, it even causes pyrroles to increase.BRINGING IT TOGETHERFor someone who is highly sensitive, and struggling with brain related or physical symptoms or conditions, pyrrole disorder and even RCCX theory are worth considering because they offer tools and start to answer, “What Can We Do About It?”The three frameworks work together:The HSP model offers validation and language. It shifts the frame from deficit to difference. It reminds us that sensitivity is not pathology — it is a trait with evolutionary value, and it comes with great strengths.The Pyrrole model offers a treatable nutrient imbalance. It explains, at the neurotransmitter level, why stress hits harder for these individuals. Treatment doesn't take away the sensitivity; it lifts the weight that has accumulated on top of it.The RCCX model offers the broadest systems view. It connects the dots between what the body is doing — the immune activation, the hormonal dysregulation, the connective tissue involvement — and the psychiatric and psychological profile that tends to accompany it. It also provides additional tools: nervous system regulation, mast cell support, hormonal awareness.If any of this resonates — the sensitivity, the inner tension, the feeling of always being at the edge of overwhelm — please know that there are roots to explore and meaningful paths forward.If you are looking for someone trained by the Walsh Research Institute knowledgeable in assessing for and treating pyrrole disorder (and other common nutrient imbalances impacting brain health), or learning more about Dr. Aron's work on HSP and Dr. Meglathery's RCCX theory, I am providing those links below.And as always, I welcome your thoughts, experience and questions.Until next time,CourtneyAbout the AuthorDr. Courtney Snyder MD is a Holistic and Functional Child and Adult Psychiatrist who offers non-patient consultations to individuals and practitioners nationally and internationally in addition to her treatment practice serving FL, IN, KY, OH. Her educational content, shared through her website, Substack Newsletter, the Holistic Psychiatry Podcast and YouTube Channel reaches readers and listeners in over 160 countries.ResourcesWalsh Research Institute: walshinstitute.orgRCCX Theory — Dr. Sharon Meglathery: rccxandillness.comDr. Elaine Aron — The Highly Sensitive Person: hsperson.comOther Sources: Acevedo et al. 2014, “The Highly Sensitive Brain,” Brain & Behavior | Matsuzawa et al. 2026, Psychiatry & Clinical Neurosciences ReportsMedical Disclaimer:This newsletter is for educational purposes and not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment for either yourself or others, including but not limited to patients that you are treating (if you are a practitioner). Consult your physician for any medical issues that you may be having. This is a public episode. 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Have you ever abandoned a goal entirely because you couldn't pursue it perfectly? In this honest and deeply personal episode, Cherylanne pulls back the curtain on her own all-or-nothing pattern and helps you find your own. This episode names the trap clearly: dichotomous thinking, also known as black-and-white thinking, is one of the most common cognitive distortions identified in psychology. Cherylanne unpacks the three root causes: our evolutionary wiring for binary decisions, the standards we absorbed growing up, and socially prescribed perfectionism, and explains why high achievers are  specially prone to this pattern. Most importantly, she shares what she is actually doing about it, and how you can begin to do the same.   If there is a dream, practice, or project you have put off because you couldn't do it exactly right, this episode is for you.   Show Highlights:     ● The book Cherylanne has wanted to write for most of her adult life and why she hasn't done it yet. [01:15]     ● How all-or-nothing thinking shows up in fitness and meal planning. [07:30]     ● What dichotomous thinking is and where it comes from in psychology. [13:02]     ● Cause #1: The evolutionary roots of binary thinking. [14:10]     ● Cause #2: The standards we internalized growing up. [16:35]     ● Cause #3: Socially prescribed perfectionism and the imagined audience. [19:20]     ● Why "if I can't do it right, why bother?" has such a high cost. [22:45]     ● What Cherylanne is actually doing now—the Substack, the outline, the chapters. [25:10]     ● Why imperfect action creates momentum that doing nothing never will. [27:40]     ● Finding your own "book"—and what exists between perfect and nothing. [30:00] Join The Coaching Circle to apply what you learn on the podcast with structure & support: https://brilliant-balance.com/coachingcircle Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki 

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Could the Philippines be one of the smartest places for gay retirement abroad if you want lower costs, warm weather, friendly locals, and a bigger life for less money?In this episode of Queer Money, we're breaking down five affordable gay-friendly cities in the Philippines where LGBTQ+ retirees, especially gay men over 40, may be able to stretch their dollars, enjoy a more relaxed lifestyle, and explore early retirement abroad without needing Palm Springs money.The Philippines is a fascinating mix. Socially, it's one of the more LGBTQ-accepting countries in Asia, with visible Pride events, queer spaces, and a generally warm “live and let live” culture in many places. Legally, however, it still lacks some major national LGBTQ+ protections, including full marriage equality and broad anti-discrimination laws. So, yes, the Philippines can be welcoming, but you still need to know where to go and what trade-offs to expect.That's why we're ranking five cities using the Queer Money Retirement Rating, weighing affordability, lifestyle, LGBTQ+ vibe, healthcare access, expat friendliness, and overall livability.We cover beach-adjacent Cebu City, calm and modern Iloilo, clean and green Davao, artsy mountain-town Baguio, and our number-one pick, Dumaguete, a coastal university town with a strong expat community and surprisingly low costs.If you've been wondering whether gay retirement in the Philippines is realistic, affordable, or even fabulous, this episode gives you a practical starting point.Takeaways from this episode:Which five cities offer the best mix of affordability and LGBTQ+ friendliness in the PhilippinesWhere two-bedroom rents can be as low as roughly $450 to $900 per monthWhy the Philippines may be a strong geoarbitrage option for gay retirees and early retireesWhich cities have stronger queer visibility, nightlife, Pride organizations, or expat communitiesWhy popular places like Siargao and Bonifacio Global City didn't make the main listIf you're considering gay retirement abroad, retiring early, or simply want your money to buy more freedom, the Philippines may deserve a much closer look.Chapters:00:00 - Intro00:37:16 #5 – Cebu City01:51:14 #4 – Iloilo City02:52:58 - About the Philippines04:12:53 #3 – Davao City05:01:39 #2 – Baguio07:01:53 #1 – Dumaguete08:11:39 - Honorable Mentions: Siargao & BGC08:57:49 - OutroMentioned in this episode:Get Your Portugal Golden Visa Here!Your path to a fabulous retirement starts here!Unlock your free 10 Vital Retirement Numbers guide. Download it today using the link below. 10 Vital Retirement Numbers You Need to KnowWhat if your portfolio came with a visa and passport?That's exactly what the Optimize Portugal Golden Opportunities Fund can do, bringing together diversification, tax efficiency, and a path to EU residency and a passport. Click the link below to explore your ticket to Europe. Get Your Portugal Golden Visa Here!

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There is a fierce honesty in the fathers that modern Christians often find difficult to endure. They do not allow us the comfort of remaining spectators to the Fall. We prefer to think of Adam's transgression as history, tragedy, doctrine, or inherited condition. But the fathers insist upon something far more painful: Adam's sin is repeated in us daily. Not first through sensuality. Not first through disobedience. But through judgment. Abba Mark says something astonishing: the tree of the knowledge of good and evil is our constant distinction between “good” brethren and “bad” brethren. The Fall occurs whenever we separate ourselves inwardly from another human being through contempt, condemnation, suspicion, derision, or hidden hatred. We imagine ourselves discerning spiritually, morally, psychologically, or ecclesially, while in reality we are tasting again the forbidden fruit. This is why the fathers fear judgment more than humiliation. The modern mind often reduces sin to the violation of rules. But the fathers understand sin as the darkening of vision. The moment we begin to look upon another person without mercy, without reverence, without grief for our own condition, our sight becomes corrupted. We no longer behold the image of God. We behold instead the projection of our own passions. And this is why Abba Mark says: “In the eyes of one whose heart is possessed by the passions, no man is sanctified.” The impure heart cannot see purely. A man filled with anger sees enemies everywhere. A vain man sees inferiors. A lustful man sees objects. A fearful man sees threats. A proud man sees fools. The world slowly takes on the shape of our inner disorder. How terrifying this is for our age. We live in a culture built almost entirely upon commentary, denunciation, suspicion, exposure, ridicule, factionalism, and perpetual judgment. Men and women sit before glowing screens daily eating the fruit of the knowledge of good and evil, deciding endlessly who is worthy and who is contemptible. Entire identities are now constructed around outrage. Even religious discourse often becomes little more than sanctified accusation. One no longer needs to enter a battlefield to lose one's soul. One need only remain online. The fathers would tremble at the atmosphere we inhabit. Not because they were naïve about evil, but because they understood something we do not: judgment wounds first the one who judges. The punishment is already contained within the act itself. The moment brotherly love dies, spiritual perception begins to die with it. Abba Mark says that once the mind tastes this fruit, it falls into the very sins it condemned. This is one of the great spiritual laws confirmed by centuries of ascetical experience. The one who delights in exposing others becomes inwardly exposed himself. The one obsessed with impurity becomes inwardly contaminated by the images he condemns. The one who cannot forgive slowly becomes incapable of receiving mercy. And yet the fathers do not say these things to crush us. They speak this way because they have seen Christ. This is what modern readers often miss. The fierce severity of the desert fathers is born from the overwhelming revelation of divine mercy. They have seen the humility of God in Christ. They have seen the Innocent One forgive His murderers, descend into our corruption, bear our nakedness, and unite Himself even to those who abandoned Him. Therefore every movement of contempt within themselves becomes unbearable to them. Their tears are not moralism. They are astonishment before mercy. The fathers know that no man truly sees his own sins and continues comfortably condemning others. When Isaiah saw the glory of God, he did not cry: “Those people are unclean.” He cried: “I am a man of unclean lips.” This is why humility and compassion always deepen together. The modern world confuses humility with low self-esteem or emotional softness. But the fathers understand humility as truthfulness before God. The humble man no longer needs enemies in order to preserve himself psychologically. He no longer builds identity through comparison. He no longer secures righteousness through accusation. He knows too much about the abyss within his own heart. And strangely, this knowledge makes him gentler. Not permissive. Not morally indifferent. But merciful. The fathers never deny evil. They simply refuse to stand outside the human condition while speaking about it. This is especially important today because modern Christians are tempted toward two opposite distortions. One side abandons discernment entirely in the name of compassion. The other weaponizes discernment in the service of hidden hatred. The fathers accept neither path. They see clearly. Fiercely clearly. Yet they weep over what they see. The true ascetic is not shocked by human weakness because he has descended into his own heart and found there every seed of corruption. He knows that apart from grace he is capable of every sin. Therefore he approaches others not from superiority but from shared poverty. This is why the fathers continually command: “Busy yourself with your own faults.” Not because the sins of others are unreal. But because self-knowledge is salvific while judgment is intoxicating. And this teaching becomes even more radical in the light of Christ's revelation that the true battlefield lies within the hidden man of the heart. The spiritual law judges not only external acts but secret thoughts, inward movements, concealed fantasies, silent condemnations, and hidden resentments. A man may appear peaceful outwardly while inwardly conducting trials against the entire world. Modern life makes this almost constant. We judge politically. Ecclesially. Morally. Psychologically. Liturgically. Socially. Intellectually. And often we do so while imagining ourselves defenders of truth. But the fathers ask a far more frightening question: “What has happened to your heart while you were defending truth?” Abba Mark says there is only one true goal: to rejoice when wronged because we are thereby given opportunity to forgive. This sounds almost impossible to modern ears because our entire culture is organized around self-protection, self-assertion, self-expression, and vindication. Yet the fathers understand that every injury endured without hatred enlarges the heart's capacity for God. This does not mean enabling abuse or denying justice. The fathers are not preaching psychological passivity. Rather, they are revealing that the deepest freedom is freedom from hatred. And this freedom is impossible without grace. That is why Abba Mark says that Christ Himself fights within us after Baptism. The battle is interior. The warfare is largely invisible. Pride, vainglory, pleasure, resentment, self-justification, condemnation, fantasy, and rage move continually through the thoughts. No merely human technique can heal this fragmentation. Only Christ hidden within the heart can do battle there. The fathers therefore call us not to moral performance but to radical cooperation with grace: through prayer, through repentance, through patience, through forgiveness, through refusal of judgment, through bearing humiliation, through hidden struggle, through learning slowly to love. And perhaps nowhere is this teaching more needed than now, in an age where almost every system around us profits from outrage, comparison, suspicion, and exposure. The fathers remind us that the soul does not become luminous through winning arguments or exposing others. It becomes luminous through mercy. For in the end, purity of heart is nothing other than learning to see others as Christ sees them: not sentimentally, not blindly, but through the terrible and beautiful light of compassion. --- Text of chat during the group: 00:03:31 Fr. Charbel Abernethy: Page 13 Hypothesis II number 3 00:03:46 Bob Čihák, AZ: Vol. 3, p. 13, #3 00:08:55 Lorraine: Here is a link to the book you mentioned last week, Father 00:09:04 Lorraine: https://archive.org/details/orthodoxpsychoth0000vlac 00:13:29 Bob Čihák, AZ: Vol. 3, p. 13, #3 00:24:30 Julie: He said to them: Acts 10:28 “You are well aware that it is against our law for a Jew to associate with or visit a Gentile. But God has shown me that I should not call anyone impure or unclean.'" 00:31:50 Joan Chakonas: Interesting in Sundays homily the pastor said that God speaks to us through people around us.  He told us to do as asked by our spouses etc.  My husband is outside the faith and it had really never occurred to  me that God might be speaking to me through my faithless spouse- believe it or not I am that thick.  Anyway tying this back to todays hypotheses- our judgment is blocking our reception of God- when we are not even considering this possibility.  Sorry if I sound dense.  These readings are amazing to me. 00:34:36 Nypaver Clan: Reacted to "Interesting in Sunda..." with

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Some of the loneliest kids do not look lonely at all. They have friends and plenty of social activity, yet still feel deeply unknown. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore the difference between being alone and being lonely, why emotional loneliness is often hidden, and how parents can help children feel truly known, not just constantly connected.