Life in the military wasn’t easy. I worked different schedules and traveled to different places for deployments and trainings. The Military life put a strain on me and made it difficult to be the mom I desperately wanted to be. My one goal was to make sure the relationship with my daughter was much better than the one my mom and I had. I left the military to make my goal happen and boy was I in for an unexpected ride. This is the story behind my Facebook posts and Instagram pictures. You are not alone. Since leaving the military for my daughter I have gained a son and my lovely man. We are now on this journey together.Let’s remove the U in guilt and Grow in Love Together.
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Asking yourself the question "what does she need right now?" before jumping into being the disciplinarian can change how things play out when it comes to communicating with your daughter.Let me know on Instagram how much you enjoyed this episode!XxChariseSupport the show (http://cash.app/$CharishFree)
Was this phrase said to you when you were growing up? It certainly was said to me, more times than I care to count. In this episode, I talk about how this phrase is hurting your relationship with your daughter.Support the show (http://cash.app/$CharishFree)
Connecting with your daughter can be as simple as holding her hand. Support the show (http://cash.app/$CharishFree)
You say you know your daughter but, how much do you really know her?In this episode, I talk about the mistakes you may be making in your relationship and ways for you to genuinely get to know your daughter.Support the show (http://cash.app/$CharishFree)
Are you guilty of telling your daughter all of the the things you didn't have as a kid and she should be grateful for all that you have given her?NEWS FLASH: She doesn't care!It's time to really evaluate where that feeling of trying to make them be more grateful comes from. Is the real reason that you would like them to be more grateful or is this something where you need to look within and find your own gratitude.Support the show (http://cash.app/$CharishFree)
Today's tip is all about not only giving her a simple gift but wrapping it. Wrapping her gift will bring more meaning to the gift you are giving her. The gift can be something very simple that you won't necessarily have to go to the store for!Support the show (http://cash.app/$CharishFree)
It's truly about the simple things when it comes to connecting with your daughter. Keep it simple. No need to whip out the credit card for a mani/pedi day. Connecting with your daughter gets to be simple. I've implemented simple connection by using the 5 love languages. The 5 love languages are Physical Touch, Receiving Gifts, Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, and Acts of Service. The tips I share on a daily basis are SIMPLE and not necessarily always EASY to implement. Implementation is going to take ACTION on your part. Keep it simple.It's about the quality of time spent.And in all that you do when connecting with your daughter make sure you remove the U in guilt and Grow In Love Together.Support the show (http://cash.app/$CharishFree)
Why do we stop giving the same enthusiasm we once gave to our daughter when she began to walk?This tip is talking about connecting by giving her a high-five with a splash of enthusiasm! I talk about keeping that same excitement you once had for her when she first learned to say "mama", first learned to walk, and first learned her ABC's. Support the show (http://cash.app/$CharishFree)
Show her some love today by helping her do something that you would normally have her do something on her own. If she normally makes her bed, take time and help her do that.If she normally folds her laundry on her own, help her do that.If she normally cleans her room on her own, help her do that.Less focus on the fact that she KNOWS how to do the things and more focus on the opportunities to connect that can be inserted into your daily activities. Support the show (http://cash.app/$CharishFree)
To connect today, forget the extra stuff and say the simple phrase, "I love you". I'm sure you say I love you but do you JUST say I love you with nothing else before or after the phrase?Connecting by saying the phrase "I love you", will help combat the feeling of people pleasing. Saying just that phrase will send the signal that YOUR love for HER is unconditional.Support the show (http://cash.app/$CharishFree)
When a friend says that they are struggling with something, you stop and talk about it. Even when you don't know all of the answers, stop and talk about it. Being comfortable with the uncomfortable. Be comfortable with no script. Be comfortable with not knowing all of the answers. Let's support each other. Use what you have and push forward. Don't wait until you have all of the pieces to begin. The piece that you are giving to that friend may be the piece that they need. You don't have to have every piece, by yourself, to succeed. Growing In Love Together is what we do here. Don't wait, just start it. Today is the day that you need to start DOING the thing."It is not about what you did wrong but, what you can do right" -Lovely Man DeeTo be notified of all NEW episodes, make sure you subscribe!Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, OvercastIs the podcast hub you use not listed? Let me know! Remember, remove the "U" in guilt and Grow In Love Together,XxChariseEpisode edited by: XXjackxjillzXX
It just grinds my gears when I don't get an ACTUAL apology. My version of an apology is the person who wronged me to sit me down, look me in my eyes, and list off all the ways that they hurt me and list all the ways they were going to change and/or make it right. Do I get that type of apology? No. In this episode I dive into WHY I crave to be seen even when my lovely man is upset. I walk through what triggers me and how I push through the triggers.So much from my childhood sticks with me now and working through that is not an easy feat but I am here for all of it.Does this episode resonate with you? Do you have triggers that you can't seem to pinpoint and YOU want to make a change TODAY my current round of the G.R.O.W. & F.L.O.W. program is for YOU. I know what is possible. I am the product of what is possible when you use the GROW & FLOW method and that is why I created my 10-week program that OFFICIALLY begins on February 22nd. CLICK HERE to enroll.Are you listening to this episode AFTER February 22nd? Check out my WEBSITE for the latest happenings in the GILT world. I'd also love for us to connect on Facebook and/or Instagram.To be notified of all NEW episodes, make sure you subscribe!Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, OvercastIs the podcast hub you use not listed? Let me know!Remember, remove the "U" in guilt and Grow In Love Together,XxChariseEpisode edited by: XXjackxjillzXX
In this episode I ask my lovely man, Dee, questions around growth and he brought so much of his knowledge and experience to the conversation. Our journey hasn't been the easiest but, it has certainly been adventurous and I wouldn't be able to do this life that we have built without him. There is so much power in unity and I am so grateful for the unmatched unity that we share. I hope the love and our wonderful journey in it shines through in this beautiful conversation that I enjoyed so much. I am sooooo excited to share a piece of what our relationship, on a daily, looks like. Because I know what is possible, I am so passionate about helping women who are emotionally exhausted find emotional strength, balance, and peace with the G.R.O.W. & F.L.O.W. method and that is why I created my 10-week program that begins on February 12th. CLICK HERE to enroll! This program is for you if you find that you seem to be repeating the same behaviors because no one seems to be hearing you. This program is for you if you feel that you are not being heard. This program is for you if you feel like you are not being treated according to your worth. Enroll in my program and let's get you to a place where you are EMPOWERED, UNSHAKEABLE, and UNSTOPPABLE! Are you listening to this episode AFTER February 12th when the course enrollment has closed and would like to connect? Check out my WEBSITE for the latest happenings in the GILT world. I'd also love for us to connect on Facebook and/or Instagram.To be notified of all NEW episodes, make sure you subscribe!Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, OvercastIs the podcast hub you use not listed? Let me know!Remember, remove the "U" in guilt and Grow In Love Together,XxChariseEpisode edited by: XXjackxjillzXX
In this episode I just really wanted to talk about that common thing that my friends say to me when I let them know about something my lovely man did. I am always at a loss for words because I am unsure of what I should be saying back.I talk about why I feel he is a good man -- ME being a good woman to him. The love I have for him, the way I am with him brings that good man out. I was not always a good woman TO him and that all changed when he challenged me.My goal is to help women live from a place of empowerment, be their best self, and feel the value they truly desire. The 10-week program G.R.O.W. & F.L.O.W. is designed to do just that! CLICK HERE to enroll! The program begins February 12th. I have a special something for you when you mention that you heard about the program on my podcast! So, be sure to let me know!This program is for you if you find that you seem to be repeating the same behaviors because no one seems to be hearing you. This program is for you if you feel that you are not being heard. This program is for you if you feel like you are not being treated according to your worth. Enroll in my program and let's get you to a place where you are EMPOWERED, UNSHAKEABLE, and UNSTOPPABLE!Are you listening to this episode AFTER February 12th when the course enrollment has closed and would like to connect? Check me out my WEBSITE for the latest happenings in the GILT world. I'd also love for us to connect on Facebook and/or Instagram.To be notified of all NEW episodes, make sure you subscribe!Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, OvercastIs the podcast hub you use not listed? Let me know!Remember, remove the "U" in guilt and Grow In Love Together,XxChariseEpisode edited by: XXjackxjillzXX
I'm not gonna lie, when Kim Hanlon inquired about being a guest on this podcast, I was not sure if talking about grief would be a good fit for you all. When I tell you that this lovely lady is doing something amazing, I mean it!The episode is centered around grieving the loss of my mom. It seems crazy because she is actually alive but, I really learned that because she isn't around there were parts of our relationship that I needed to grieve. This episode is simply a conversation between Kim and I where we talk about dealing with grief that isn't necessarily a death. This was truly an eye opener to me about where my heart is and how I can continue to heal past these things that I have not really faced head on.Kim Hanlon is a Health Educator and advanced certified Grief Recovery Method Specialist. Her partner, Ilana, and she cofounded Yahdav and Hanlon, providing both individual and corporate grief support. They know that grief and loss can inhibit how one engages in their life’s work and relationships. Their transformative tools and programs provide powerfully healing grief support within a warm, safe, calm environment to help clients gain closure, and regain life energy and creativity.If you would like to connect with the amazing Kim Hanlon and her partner they can be found on Facebook, LinkedIn, and YouTubeTo become aware of grief that you may not have fully processed, tap into this FREE worksheet for Building Your Grief Awareness.If you would like to learn a little bit more about grief and the terms surrounding it here is Important Grief Terms worksheet.To be notified of all NEW episodes, make sure you subscribe!Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, OvercastIs the podcast hub you use not listed? Let me know!I am certainly still in the giving mood and want to extend the gift of a 50-minute Growing In Love Session. The session would be you, and me taking an in depth look at your love languages and going over your current desires. We will discuss what’s not working and create a clear, actionable plan that you can put in place to help you get where you want to go. Not just in your relationship with your partner but friendships, and relationships with your family too.Remember, remove the "U" in guilt and Grow In Love Together,XxChariseEpisode edited by: XXjackxjillzXX
Resilience (noun): The capacity to recover quickly from difficultiesIn this episode I spoke with Tina Dodds about resilience building after trauma. We both discussed certain points in our lives where we had to bounce back and how we went about doing that. It was such an honor speaking with Tina about her experiences and I really appreciate the authenticity she brought to you all!Tina has been helping people transform their lives for over 20 years. She speaks on a major turning point in her life that turned her focus on working with busy moms to help them live more and stress less, which is something I definitely value and I know you will too. Too many of us are taking better care of everyone else, struggling to prioritize our time, and are overwhelmed by the weight of our responsibilities. So, she helps us stop losing sleep over how we are going to juggle it all and start taking action towards creating lives we are excited to wake up to.Listen in as we take you on the journey of resilience building!To connect with the amazing Tina Dodds, visit her WebsiteTap into this free resource if you want to experience a positive shift in your life: https://bit.ly/3mLnoA9.To be notified of all NEW episodes, make sure you subscribe!Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, OvercastIs the podcast hub you use not listed? Let me know!It is easy to listen to a podcast and/or read a book and feel empowered in the moment but then the challenge becomes that many of you need ongoing support to help you implement the tools and resources and because I'm committed to helping you get the results you desire, I'd love to offer you something special. First let me say that this gift isn't going to apply to everyone and that's okay - This gift is for YOU if you're a woman in a relationship. This gift is for you if you're 100% committed to your relationship, learning your desires, and doing what you need to in order to communicate those desires. If that sounds like YOU then I want to extend to you the gift of a 50-minute Growing In Love Session. This would be you, and me taking an in depth look at your love languages and going over your current desires. We will discuss what’s not working and create a clear, actionable plan that you can put in place to help you get where you want to go. Not just in your relationship with your partner but friendships, and relationships with your family too. I only have a few openings so if this is for YOU then make sure you book your session TODAY!Remember, remove the "U" in guilt and Grow In Love Together,XxChariseEpisode edited by: XXjackxjillzXX
SELF CARE. SELF CARE. SELF CARE.Everyone said it, I heard it, and I did things that the world saw as self care but I was NOT feeling cared for. I went on a mission to look for women to connect with and ask them "What ways do you care for yourself that aren't the 'normal' ways to do it?"I connected with this AMAZING woman who set my soul on fire! She and I had a MIND BLOWING conversation where we talked about so many ways to take care of ourselves! Let me tell you, the ways we talked about did NOT involve spending any money! Dani Kenney is an International Life and Business Coach &Certified Practitioner of NLP, EFT, TIME Techniques and Clinical Hypnotherapy. She is dedicated to helping female entrepreneurs master their energy and their mindset so they can make more money, make a bigger impact and create a life they are obsessed with! She has over 10 years of experience in high-level business management, leadership and coaching. She has coached and led workshops for women all over the world. When she's not busy helping women create the life and business of their dreams she enjoys playing and going on adventures with her husband and two daughters.You can connect with Dani Kenney on Facebook, Instagram, or her Website!Don't forget to grab the FREE Meditation Bundle!To be notified of all NEW episodes, make sure you subscribe!Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, OvercastIs the podcast hub you use not listed? Let me know!If you don't want to miss when LIsa and I go live, join the Facebook Community.Remember, remove the "U" in guilt and Grow In Love Together,XxChariseEpisode edited by: XXjackxjillzXX
I am excited to introduce guest #2.... Lisa Gay Nichols!Lisa and I connected during a Social Media Session hosted by The Mamahood Club and from the first time she spoke, I knew I wanted to get to know more about her work. She told me about her experience with her teen, I listened to her book on audible, and I knew she had something valuable to share with my audience. I asked if she would be a guest on this podcast and she said YES! I couldn't be more thrilled with our conversation and I look forward to her going live with me in my FREE Facebook Community!Lisa is a certified life coach who helps moms resolve conflict with their teenagers and have peace in their homes. After her own experience raising a difficult teenager in today’s world, Lisa left the corporate world to support parents as they find their way through this challenging journey. Lisa is the bestselling author of two books on parenting teens who lives in Concord, California.If you want to know more, then you are going to want to lean in and listen to this conversation. It's not every day that you can hear a wonderful Life Coach for Parents speak.If you would like to connect with Lisa and all things related to her awesomeness:FREE Download of her books:https://www.lisagaynichols.com/Moms Tapping Meetup Group:https://www.meetup.com/Moms-Tapping-Group/Facebook Page:https://www.facebook.com/tappingintoyourtrueself/For tips, support, and encouragement, join her Facebook groupTo be notified of all NEW episodes, make sure you subscribe!Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, OvercastIs the podcast hub you use not listed? Let me know!If you don't want to miss when LIsa and I go live, join the Facebook Community.Remember, remove the "U" in guilt and Grow In Love Together,XxChariseEpisode edited by: XXjackxjillzXX
I am so excited to have my FIRST guest on the podcast! I hope you can hear the excitement in my voice. We talk about ways to thrive during a pandemic. I don't know about you but, I go straight from working at my dining room table to mom mode within seconds. I became EXTREMELY overwhelmed with all the things and had to reset and set boundaries. Talking with Sarah definitely reminded me of how to do that.Sarah Alexander is a Boundaries Personal Trainer that bring women back to self acceptance and alignment by encouraging whole body connection and clarity. Sarah moved to Melbourne, Australia in 2011. When she first arrived she had difficulty adjusting and loneliness and depression occurred. As a result, she learned how to turn inwards and start exploring embodiment practices, creativity, and expression of self as her lifelines.It was truly a pleasure speaking with Sarah about ways I could set up boundaries and come to a sense of self while having to be "on" all the time for my family.If you would like to connect with Sarah:Website: www.sarahelizabethalexander.comFacebook: Sarah AlexanderTo be notified of all NEW episodes, make sure you subscribe!Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, OvercastIs the podcast hub you use not listed? Let me know!If you're a resilient woman, join the NEW Facebook Community that was made just for women like us!Remember, remove the "U" in guilt and Grow In Love Together,XxChariseEpisode edited by: XXjackxjillzXX
Has it been crazy time for you? It has been a crazy time for me.With the pandemic, distance learning, and everything in between I have been searching for ways to take care of myself. I find that the words self care are thrown around so often that I've almost become numb to it. I've come to the point where I am not sure what that even means now. I can't schedule a whole spa day. How will I implement self care? I can't have much time away from my kids so, HOW can I implement self care?Well, come with me on this journey to new ways of caring for yourself. I have asked a few guests to come and tell you and I about unconventional ways that we can care for ourselves. Be sure to jump into the FREE Facebook Community to see the journey.To be notified of all NEW episodes, make sure you subscribe!Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, OvercastIs the podcast hub you use not listed? Let me know!If you're a resilient woman, join the NEW Facebook Community that was made just for women like us!Remember, remove the U in guilt and Grow In Love Together,XxCharise
When it comes to our kids it can easily feel like they need us more than we need them and if we begin to rely on them there is a FAT chance they will disappoint.The truth is, yes, they will disappoint us IF we are constantly wanting them to live up to our standards the first time they put their hands to something that we have done forever and ever. Accept that they are not perfect, and just like us, they have to work through the mistakes towards perfection.Growing in Love Together means taking on each others shortcomings. As a family we contribute to one another, no one person should contribute more. If it seems you are contributing more than your family, dive into part 2 of this series, reevaluate how much YOU are taking on and redistribute the load with these easy steps!To be notified of all NEW episodes, make sure you subscribe!Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, OvercastIs the podcast hub you use not listed? Let me know!If you're a resilient woman, join the NEW Facebook Community that was made just for women like us!Remember, there is strength in vulnerabilityXxCharise
They need me, I don't need them...Have you heard yourself say those words concerning your significant other? Have you heard yourself saying those words concerning your kids?Yea, me too.In the first part of this 2 part series I talk about the meaning of VALUE, how the attitude of "they need me, I don't need them" really put a strain on my relationship with Dee, and how I changed my perspective.Let me know how this episode changes YOUR perspective, hit me up: Facebook InstagramTo be notified of all NEW episodes, make sure you subscribe!Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, OvercastIs the podcast hub you use not listed? Let me know!if you're a resilient woman, join the NEW Facebook Community that was made just for women like us!Remember, there is strength in vulnerabilityXxCharise
Hurtful words, lets face it, HURT! How many times have you brushed off a hurtful word because someone said they were "just playin" or said "you can't take a joke?".Are the hurtful words people said to you seem to be stopping you from being your best self? Do you need a practical way of shutting out the hurtful words so you can peacefully move on with your life and do bigger and better things?In this episode I talk about a very practical way to begin your journey into freedom from hurtful words!After you have heard this episode, hit me up on Facebook and/or Instagram and let me know what you think of the exercise I teach you.To be notified of all NEW episodes, make sure you subscribe!Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, OvercastIs the podcast hub you use not listed? Let me know!Join my NEW Facebook Community: Sisters Offering Assistance to RiseRemember, there is strength in vulnerabilityXxCharise
A song that inspires me daily. This song is about strength for every day in every troubling situation.Hit me up on Facebook and/or Instagram and let me know what you think!To be notified of all NEW episodes, make sure you subscribe!Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, OvercastIs the podcast hub you use not listed? Let me know!Join my NEW Facebook Community: Sisters Offering Assistance to RiseRemember, there is strength in vulnerabilityXxCharise
Are you tired of living in guilt and shame?Are you trying to figure out how to lift yourself out of it?Are their things you know you need to grow past in order to propel forward?In this episode I talk about how the last part of the song and how it has helped me, in many relationships, to propel forward. I take you on the journey of my past and my present to illustrate that this song is so much more than an intimate relationship song but a song for ALL relationships.I speak about 3 things I'd like you to remember and here are the links for quick access to do those things:Subscribe:Apple PodcastsSpotifyGoogle PodcastsOvercastIs the podcast hub you use not listed? Let me know!Hit me up:FacebookInstagramJoin my NEW Facebook Community: Sisters Offering Assistance to RiseRemember, there is strength in vulnerabilityXxCharise
Trust issues!!? Who has them?I know I do...... did..... maybe still do a little. Past relationships can cause this.Verse 3 of my song talks about trust and how to begin to trust again. It isn't easy but it sure can be done.
Are you tired of your past holding you back in your current situation? Are you ready to stare your past in the face and take charge? Are you ready to Grow In Love?If yes, then.... this episode is most certainly for you!! You are a resilient woman and I know you can make it through anything!Let me take you on a journey and share the reasons behind this Song of a Resilient Woman.
Communication has been at the forefront of our relationship the last year or so and this Shelter in Place has placed us in a position where we have to talk with one another. I am so grateful for this time we have with one another.
Hang in there as I talk it out with you my thoughts and feelings that have gone on since the events of COVID-19 began to change my work environment. This journey has taken an extreme turn and I'm here for ALL of it.
I take you through the feelings of helplessness, selfishness, and realizations as I discuss the days that my daughter was in the facility with "the crazies". You know what I'm talking about, those straight jacket slobbering people you see in the movies. I even discuss the days thereafter and how we began to grow in love together.
My truth. This episode is my truth and I needed to share it. When you feel you are ready, share your truth with me. I'm listening.
Looking back, it isn't always easy to embrace the journey that you took to get to your present circumstances. It's easier to smile, show the glitz, glamour, and finished product. In this episode I strip away the gold and take you on the journey and share how it all began.Like what you hear? Screenshot and share on Instagram and Facebook!Instagram: @ActiveDutyToActiveMommyFB: Charise Freeman