Marriage Mindset

Looking to infuse more love, connection and harmony in your marriage? Try Gratitude! Dive into this episode to learn why gratitude can make such a difference and how to incorporate this practice into your marriage.

Join me for a great story about how my toddler spilled a large sum of black nail polish on our living room carpet- and how it applies to your relationships. Sometimes we see something ugly or off in our relationship and instead of believing it can change or improve, we accept that it's always going to be this way and settle. Tune in for ways to revive your relationship, no matter the stain.

This episode is the audio from one of my group coaching calls on how to choose love. Listen and learn how to choose and feel love more often. Love always benefits YOU, so why not consciously choose it more often?If you are ready to take that cold and challenging relationship in your life and make it connected and cozy, be sure to book your free Let's Get Cozy call with me here: https://calendly.com/heatherflakecoaching/letsgetcozy

This episode invites you to take a good inward look at how you talk to, treat, and care for your spouse. Be sure to join me for Let's Get Cozy. Take any relationship that is feeling cold and complicated and let me coach you to cozy! Book your free call here: https://calendly.com/heatherflakecoaching/letsgetcozy

This is a raw episode about how important I believe it is to take care of our mental health.

Do you feel like your marriage is struggling because of the choices your spouse is making? If so, this episode is for you! You don't have to be a victim or feel at the mercy of their choices. This episode will show you how to take more ownership and create more peace even when you don't like the choices your spouse is making.

You may be struggling in your marriage simply because of the things you expect from your spouse. Dive into this episode to discover your expectations, notice the damage they are causing, and learn how to release them.

Yep, that perfect couple on insta, the dream team on the pew in front of you...every marriage struggles! This is the first episode of a series on marriage struggles and how to reduce pain and become more hopeful amidst all the struggles that inevitably come along in marriage.

Do you ever notice yourself acting out but you can't totally identify why? Today I am walking you through how to tap into your emotions and thoughts so you can understand your behavior. Once you understand yourself-it is much easier to change how you are showing up. Also, if you are dreading sending your kiddos to school- this episode is for you!

Marriage is no guarantee for love. In order to feel love in your marriage you have to be intentional and purposeful about creating it forever. And how do you create love? It all starts with your thoughts. You can't feel love while thinking you married the wrong person, or that they aren't helpful. Today I share my perspective on love and ways to practice feeling more of it on purpose.

Yep, Marriage Mindset is taking an intermission. I am pausing the podcast to make some changes and make season 2 even more valuable and delicious. Tune in for a simple tip on being proud in your marriage. Take this time to catch up on the episodes, and be sure you are subscribed so you get notified when season 2 begins! Thank you so much for being here!

Today we are focusing on the things you aren't saying and why. Listen up for why you should reconsider and give voice to the things you don't usually say.

I believe one of the best antidotes to resentment is communication. If you will first understand your own resentment and then talk it through with your spouse, you will find that resentment dissolving. I'm telling you, talking it out is the key!

If you want to get new results in your marriage or life, you simply need to make new decisions. Actions create results, so a new result is just a decision or two away. If you are looking for help or support to create your results, come book a free 30 minute call with me, and I can help get you there: https://calendly.com/heatherflakecoaching/minisession

You think conflict is the problem in your marriage, but the real problem is not working through the conflict. We only create more conflict when we avoid it. Tune in for some fresh takes on conflict. If you are in the valley area of Arizona, be sure to sign up for my live class here: https://mailchi.mp/7bb442cd3472/do-conflict-better-live-classIf you want some 1-1 help in your marriage, book your free mini session here:

You got a minute? Add the 3 c's into your daily routine to increase the connection and good vibes in your marriage. Ps: They are connect, compliment, and call. You can download the free minute to win it guide here: https://mailchi.mp/4b5b07ce0090/marriage-minute-to-win-itIf you are local and want to attend my upcoming class: Do Conflict Better, you can register here: https://mailchi.mp/7bb442cd3472/do-conflict-better-live-class

How is date night going? Tune in for a different perspective on date night and how to create more connection between you and your spouse.

There are thoughts that rob you of greater connection, love, intimacy, and strength in your marriage. But, if you don't subscribe to them, they lose their power. Tune in to learn how to stop subscribing to these thoughts so you can create a more connected and joyful marriage.

We hear this phrase, but how the heck do we actually choose love? Especially when it feels hard or nearly impossible. Today I share the main obstacle in your way and 4 steps to help you choose love.If you want to book a mini session with me do so here: https://calendly.com/heatherflakecoaching/minisessionTo join my free PIF Valentine's class on February 14th at 7pm click here: https://us06web.zoom.us/j/93850258849

Valentine's day is coming up, whether you love or hate it, this episode will help you make it one of your best ever. Tune in for how to manage your expectations and create more love for you and your loved ones on February 14th. Book a mini session with me here: https://calendly.com/heatherflakecoaching/minisessionJoin me for my PIF Valentine's party here: https://us06web.zoom.us/j/93850258849

This is for the person who feels like their marriage isn't horrible, it's just kind of meh. If you want to take your marriage from mediocre to amazing, this episode will give you the jump-start you've been looking for. Here's the link to sign up for a free mini session with me: https://calendly.com/heatherflakecoaching/freecall

You know when something just feels off in your relationship but you can't quite put your finger on it? Well this episode is for you, and what to do with the "off." Here is the link for my free mini-workbook: How to love better: https://mailchi.mp/16423f0c570d/how-to-love-better-mini-workbook

Yes! Be picky! You were when you were dating. Today I share the importance of being picky about what you choose to think about your spouse. (And how to do it!) If you are looking to create more wins in your marriage, you can download my free marriage minute to win it guide here: https://mailchi.mp/4b5b07ce0090/marriage-minute-to-win-it

Do you ever have experiences that change the rest of your day or maybe even your life? Today's episode is all about turning points- how to identify them and create them in your marriage.

Did you know? 2023 is the year when you finally feel better in your marriage. It is the year when you take a stand and start creating more of what you want in your life. You ready? Let's go 2023.

Today I'm sharing a simple exercise to do before you go into the new year to recognize all you accomplished in your life and marriage this year. Celebrate all you did and became in 2022 before you go to work in 2023.

Did you know that you are literally one sentence away from a better marriage? Today I am talking about the power of the sentences in your brain and how to transform your marriage, by changing your sentences.

Today I'm sharing a metaphor to help you show up as your best self in your marriage. Don't be a spectator anymore, get up on that stage! If you want to check out my 1-1 coaching program you can do that here: https://heatherflakecoaching.com/work-with-me/ To sign up for my free coaching class on Tuesday Dec. 20th at 7pm mst, do that here: https://calendly.com/lifecoachuniversity/heather-flake-dec-20?month=2022-12

Today I am walking you through a bit of my story and how I became a life coach! I am also sharing 4 themes from my story that can help you in your marriage today. From now till December 25th you can sign up for my 1-1 coaching program and get your first month completely free. Check it out here: https://heatherflakecoaching.com/work-with-me/

Today I am sharing how to receive gifts and a unique way to use your brain to give meaningful gifts.

If you struggle being around or loving your in-laws: this episode is for you! Today i'm sharing what you can control and how to get the most of of your holiday with your family.

What you believe matters so much. Why? Because the belief precedes the how. If you can just believe, you will take action that will make your dreams a reality. What do you believe about your marriage? Your beliefs about your marriage will be reflected in how you show up every day.

Have you ever noticed how it is all the little things in your marriage that drive you crazy? Well, it is also little things that can bring you more peace, connection and joy then you ever thought possible. Listen up for why the little things deserve your attention and effort.

Holiday season is right around the corner! Make yours the best ever by being intentional about the experience you want to have this year before it even starts.

Do you actually tell the truth when someone asks: "How are you?" Today I am sharing the power behind telling the truth when it comes to how you are doing, and the positive effects it can have on your marriage and other relationships in your life.

This is a replay from my Marriage Makeover October classes. Tune into learn why it is important to dream in your marriage and the benefit of doing so.

Maybe you thought it was your spouse's job to make you happy, but I am here to tell you that it is not, and why that is actually great news. This month I am offering a free Marriage Makeover class series over zoom. I am sharing my first class with you here today. If you want to join me live for my other's here is the zoom link: https://zoom.us/j/99740893721

There are 89 days left in 2022. Did you know that is plenty of time to make a big change in your marriage? Tune in for 5 ideas to transform your marriage in just 89 days. Here is the zoom link to join me for the month of October for a Marriage Makeover: https://zoom.us/j/99740893721

You know that thing your spouse does that makes you crazy? Or the thing you judge your spouse hardcore for? Well....today I'm talking about how we often mirror that same behavior in some way. So, let's start with the man in the mirror and work on controlling that guy ;)

Today I am sharing a few different things you can do to help yourself feel better. Hint: These are things that come from within you, and you can access them right now.

You have recognized that you have lots of thoughts that don't serve you, but now what? Today I am teaching you how to change a thought. When you change one thought, it changes how you feel and what you do, and the results you create. If you want to sign up for my marriage mindset course, click here: https://lifecoachuniversity.com/the-giving-week or to subscribe to Winning Wednesday, click here: https://mailchi.mp/58463c7099c3/winning-wednesday-subscription

This week I am inviting you to audit your thoughts about your marriage. Get them out! Identify what you currently think about your marriage- because how you think about your marriage is how you experience your marriage. If you want to feel better, it all starts with your thoughts.

You are busy. You have so many demands for your time, and sometimes your marriage naturally falls to the bottom of the list. Today I am walking you through simple things you can do to help you keep your marriage a priority.

Do you struggle to ask for help or tell your spouse how you feel, or just be yourself around them? Then this episode is for you! Come learn how to be more real and how to say the hard things.

How do you answer when your spouse asks "are you ok?" If you have a hard time telling the truth or sharing how you really feel, then this episode is for you!

Today I am sharing principles I learned from training and competing in a sprint triathlon that can also help you in your marriage.

Join me today as I share a recent experience about getting on a wrong bus. You may think your marriage is wrong, or that parts of it are wrong. Today I am talking about how you can allow your feelings, see the good, and ultimately decide what route to take in order to create the marriage you want.

You have the ability to create the kind of marriage that you want. Today I'm sharing how you can create the marriage you want by accessing your desires and being in tune with what you want and why.

Today I reveal why your feelings are so important. Hint: It's because how you feel determines how you act. So if you want to show up better in your marriage, you can do so by changing how you feel, which is totally in your control.

Today I am introducing the main tool that I use when coaching my clients. I'm sharing with you the beginning part of this model and how your thoughts impact your marriage. Listen up for a quick way to assess your marriage and how to improve it.

Today I am talking about how to know if you are a good wife or not. What determines if you are a good spouse? Today I am going to tell you just that.