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Because we're all humans who see the world from our unique perspective, it is inevitable that we will experience conflict in all of our relationships. As we increase our emotional maturity we are able to lean into these conflicts to create connection rather than contention. But what does it look and sound like? That's what we're talking about on this podcast. I have lots of examples for you to understand where you are in your journey to stronger emotional maturity, and be sure to check out the show notes below for more podcasts that will grow your capacity and skills for having more emotionally mature conflict. Thanks for listening! Want to learn more about this concept? Check out these podcasts: #3 Resolving Conflict on Apple on Spotify #5 Learning to Listen on Apple on Spotify #20 Blame and Responsibility on Apple on Spotify #77 Other People's Opinions on Apple on Spotify #110 The Cost of Being Right on Apple on Spotify #117 Anti-Responsibility on Apple on Spotify #118 100% Responsibility on Apple on Spotify #147 Hijacked By Your Emotions on Apple on Spotify #148 Grace & Grudges in Our Relationships on Apple on Spotify #156 The Benefits of Being Wrong on Apple on Spotify #164 How Being in Control is Destroying Your Life on Apple on Spotify #165 I Would Never Act That Way on Apple on Spotify #166 Imaginary Friends on Apple on Spotify #167 I Didn't Sign Up For This on Apple on Spotify #193 No Back-Burner Issues on Apple on Spotify #194 When You Feel Sad, Or Bad, or Mad on Apple on Spotify #196 How to Break the Blame/Defense Cycle on Apple on Spotify #197 Connecting Through Conflict on Apple on Spotify #216 One Up and One Down Relationships on Apple on Spotify #239 How to Own Your Own on Apple on Spotify #242 Circling Back Around on Apple on Spotify #243 Having More Honest Communication on Apple on Spotify #244 The Relationship Circle on Apple on Spotify #245 Transactional Relationships on Apple on Spotify #251 Contention is a Choice on Apple on Spotify #258 Communication That Connects on Apple on Spotify #272 Stay In Your Lane on Apple on Spotify #286 How Miscommunication Destroys Relationships on Apple on Spotify #288 When You're in a Tough Marriage on Apple on Spotify #289 Why Our Relationships Needs Validation on Apple on Spotify #290 Resentment and Contempt in Our Relationships on Apple on Spotify #297 Why Can't We Just All Get Along on Apple on Spotify #298 Friendship in Marriage on Apple on Spotify #304 Personalities, Preferences, and Perspectives on Apple on Spotify #307 Curiosity, Not Criticism on Apple on Spotify #319 Get Ready to Rock The Boat on Apple on Spotify #331 Sense of Self on Apple on Spotify #332 Sense of Self – It's All In Your Head on Apple on Spotify #346 How to Stop Reacting and Start Responding on Apple on Spotify #357 How to Be More Understanding on Apple on Spotify #369 Normal, Difficult, Human Interactions on Apple on Spotify #370 Conscious Conflict on Apple on Spotify #386 Overcoming Resentment on Apple on Spotify #392 Vulnerability and Validation on Apple on Spotify #404: People Over Problems and Processes on Apple on Spotify #405: How to Create a Partnership on Apple on Spotify #408: When You Get Triggered on Apple on Spotify Are you curious about what it would be like to work with me? Here are three options: Group coaching classes are available at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Talk with Tanya is a free monthly webinar where you can ask me anything and we can have a great discussion. You can sign up for that at tanyahale.com/groupcoaching Interested in one-on-one coaching and a free 90-minute coaching/consult with me? Access my calendar at: https://tanyahalecalendar.as.me/
The Dad Edge Podcast (formerly The Good Dad Project Podcast)
I opened this episode by asking Kaseena Birnbaum about something I'd heard her talk about online: the 72 hour rule, a simple commitment she and her husband made years ago to never go more than three days without prioritizing physical intimacy in some form. What made this conversation different from a lot of marriage talks I've had is how honest Kaseena was about how hard that was for her to actually implement, even though it ended up being, in her words, the single thing that changed their entire marriage. We got into what was really underneath her own resistance early on: unaddressed resentment, unspoken expectations, and a cultural upbringing that made talking openly about sex feel shameful. Kaseena shared the exact moment her husband finally understood that her "no" wasn't rejection of him, just exhaustion in that moment, and how that reframe changed everything for both of them. We also talked through the small, everyday behaviors, being observant, following through on your word, creating emotional safety, that build the kind of trust and attraction that makes physical connection feel natural instead of like an obligation. Timeline Summary [1:02] Kaseena's unusual name and a lighthearted detour into the pressure of naming your own kids [3:49] Introducing the 72 hour rule and what changed after Kaseena and her husband started following it [6:20] Why implementing the rule was far harder for Kaseena than she expected [9:21] A full introduction to Kaseena: marriage coach, content creator, and mother of two [10:06] Resentment as "the polyp," and why it quietly grows until it becomes something much bigger [11:26] Unpacking unspoken and unmet expectations as the root of most disconnection [16:12] Larry announces the first-ever Dad Edge Day with the Arizona Cardinals, November 15th [16:49] Naming an expectation your spouse never actually agreed to isn't really their failure [17:51] The Instagram story that resonated with Larry: flirting all day, then feeling "smoked" by evening [19:53] Understanding the "baby mode" reaction men fall into after being turned down [24:03] The moment Kaseena's husband learned that her "no" wasn't rejection, just exhaustion [25:48] What specific behaviors outside the bedroom actually build attraction and trust [29:06] Larry announces a rare, small-group preview of the Dad Edge Business Boardroom Brotherhood [31:05] Getting curious instead of triggered when your spouse is having an off day [34:23] The two or three things Kaseena hears most often from clients in crisis [37:35] How Kaseena coaches couples: identifying the one shift that will move the needle fastest [41:13] Why small, consistent follow-through matters more than big romantic gestures [42:19] The grocery list example: how small broken promises quietly erode trust [43:47] Why offering two specific options works better than an open-ended "what can I help you with" [45:01] What Kaseena is most excited about next for her mission and message [48:10] Where to find Kaseena and the 72 hour rule challenge Five Key Takeaways Resentment behaves like a polyp: not every instance turns into something serious, but nearly every serious breakdown started as an unaddressed resentment that was left to grow. Most disconnection in a marriage traces back to expectations that were never actually communicated out loud. If your spouse doesn't know what you expect, you can't fairly hold them accountable for missing it. A "no" to intimacy is often a no to the current moment, not a rejection of your spouse as a person. Understanding that distinction can remove years of unnecessary hurt and insecurity. Trust is built or broken in small, ordinary moments, following through on what you said you'd do, being observant, noticing when something's off, far more than through grand gestures. When your spouse is overwhelmed or triggered, respond with curiosity instead of reacting personally. Getting curious about what's really going on defuses conflict far faster than matching their energy. Links & Resources Making Marriage Sexy: https://www.instagram.com/makingmarriagesexy The Dad Edge Day at State Farm Stadium: https://thedadedge.com/nfl The Dad Edge Podcast: https://thedadedge.com/1532 The Dad Edge Boardroom Mastermind: https://thedadedge.com/guest Closing What's staying with me from this conversation is how simple Kaseena's reframe actually is: a no is usually a no to the moment, not a no to you. So much unnecessary hurt in a marriage comes from taking things personally that were never meant that way. Whether it's the 72 hour rule, addressing an expectation you've never said out loud, or just getting curious instead of defensive the next time your spouse is having a hard day, small, consistent shifts are what actually rebuild connection. Go out and live legendary.
Resentment can become a heavy burden. Forgiveness can set us free. In this week's sermon, The Rev. M. Dion Thompson explores Jesus' teaching on forgiveness in Matthew 18:21-35 and reminds us of God's boundless mercy toward us. He challenges listeners to consider how forgiveness can transform hearts and restore broken relationships. But the sermon doesn't stop there. Fr. Dion uncovers a powerful insight from the parable: the role of those who witness injustice. Their voices matter. Unless the people speak, injustice often goes unchallenged. This message offers both comfort and challenge as we consider what mercy, forgiveness, and faithful witness look like in our own lives today. Listen now and reflect on this question: “Should you not have mercy for my children as I've shown mercy to you?”
Better understanding and rooting out resentment helps you move towards recovery. Though the desire of the road to recovery from resentment is that it would be quick and easy, it's often longer and harder than one might expect. Even with sincere desire to do so, pain is often hard to process and release.
Gray divorce has exploded, with the divorce rate for people 50 and older more than doubling since 1990 and this age group now making up 40% of all divorces, up from just 8% in 1990, per Bowling Green State University research. Chalene Johnson breaks down why marriages that looked solid for decades are suddenly ending. She unpacks a 2024 study on late in life divorce, the empty nest reckoning that leaves couples with nothing left to talk about, and how perimenopause and menopause change mood, libido, and patience enough to end a marriage nobody saw coming. Then there's the gray affair. Chalene turns to relationship expert Esther Perel's research on why people in happy, decades-long marriages still stray, plus the surprising odds that a couple stays together after one is discovered. Topics discussed: gray divorce, gray affair, Bowling Green State University, Esther Perel, empty nest, menopause, perimenopause, midlife crisis, betrayal trauma. Join Chalene on Patreon her private podcast to hear all the latest on the Penthouse Drama
Brett Boone joins Sean Sharif, RJ Choppy, and Bobby Belt to analyze the Seattle Mariners' struggles and Ezekiel Duran's emergence as an MVP-caliber player for the Texas Rangers. They transition to football with Nick Eatman to preview the Dallas Cowboys' season opener against the New York Giants, focusing on the defensive unit under Christian Parker. Finally, a crossover segment with the K&C Masterpiece addresses a contentious fantasy football league "freeze-out" involving Bobby Belt's unique draft strategy. (00:01:57) Brett Boone Baseball Analysis (00:07:10) Ezekiel Duran Impact Performance (00:13:00) Media Roles In Baseball (00:18:55) Giants vs Cowboys Preview (00:23:30) Cowboys Defense Expectations (00:29:10) Jerry Jones Contract Comments (00:36:50) Fantasy Football League Drama (00:41:45) Draft Strategies and Resentment
Resentment can feel incredibly justified.You know what happened.You know what they did—or didn't do.And you know how much it hurt.But what if there's more underneath your resentment than the offense you're holding onto?In this episode, we're taking a closer look at the conditions that create resentment in marriage—and some of them may be much less obvious than you think.Because resentment isn't always just about what your spouse did.Sometimes it's also telling you something important about you.Inside this episode, we:Explore what resentment may actually be doing for you emotionallyLook at why certain hurts are so much harder to move past than othersUncover the more obvious conditions that cause resentment—and the ones that require much more honest self-reflectionTalk about why you can still feel resentful even when your spouse has apologized or the situation happened a long time agoExamine the surprising connection between resentment and your own boundaries, expectations, and choicesExplore why trying to "just let it go" often doesn't workGive you a different question to ask yourself when you can't seem to move past an offenseIf you've been carrying resentment toward your spouse and haven't been able to shake it, this episode will help you look beneath the anger and understand what may really be keeping it alive.Want some help figuring out what to do next?If resentment has become a real barrier in your marriage and you're ready to understand what's happening and what you can actually do about it, I invite you to schedule a private consultation with me.We'll talk about where things are right now, what you want to change, and whether working together would be the right next step.BOOK A PRIVATE CONSULTATION CALLHave something happening in your marriage you want help with?Marriage Coach Mondays begins September 21.For five weeks, I'm opening up a free space where you can bring the real situations happening in your marriage—the conversation you don't know how to have, the resentment you can't seem to shake, the pattern you keep getting pulled into, or the question you can't quite answer on your own.Come to one call or join me for all five. Bring what's happening, and I'll help you see it differently and get clearer about what you can do next.SIGN UP TO ACCESS MARRIAGE COACH MONDAYS
Messy Family Podcast : Catholic conversations on marriage and family
"The Holy Rosary, by age-old tradition, has shown itself particularly effective as a prayer which brings the family together." —St. John Paul II, Rosarium Virginis Mariae, no. 41 Summary Have you ever gathered the family to pray the Rosary—and wondered if all the fidgeting, correcting, and frustration were helping your children love prayer or simply teaching them to endure it? In this episode, we take an honest look at praying the Rosary with kids. Perseverance matters, but so do creativity, patience, and sensitivity to the needs of your particular family. The goal is not merely to finish five decades or imitate another Catholic household. It is to form children who know that prayer is a place of peace, connection, and love—and who will reach for the Rosary throughout their lives. We explore why this ancient prayer is so powerful: it is scriptural, meditative, intercessory, communal, and contemplative. It is also a "graduated" prayer that can be entered into by a small child, a busy parent, or a contemplative saint. We share practical ideas for making it part of real family life, from praying one decade or taking a walking Rosary to using pictures, Scripture, candles, audio recordings, car rides, and bedtime routines. Your family Rosary does not have to look perfect to bear fruit. Begin small, make room for children to be children, and create an atmosphere they will remember with affection. Give them more than a completed Rosary—give them a lifelong prayer of their own. Key Takeaways 1. Love is the goal. The deeper purpose is not completing the Rosary but helping children develop a lifelong love of prayer. 2. Discern what serves your family. Your Rosary does not need to look like anyone else's. Consider your children's ages, personalities, and needs. 3. Begin small and get creative. Try one decade, a walking Rosary, sacred images, Scripture, car rides, or bedtime prayer. 4. Create an atmosphere of peace. Children may forget what you said, but they will remember how family prayer felt. 5. Lead through witness. Praying as a couple and allowing your children to see that you treasure the Rosary can be powerful formation. Couple discussion questions 1. Is the way we currently pray helping our children love prayer—or merely teaching them to endure it? 2. What practical change could make our family Rosary more peaceful, engaging, and appropriate for our children's current ages? 3. How can we strengthen our own prayer life as a couple so our children encounter the Rosary as something we genuinely love? Resources Link to lead like a dad waitlist Messy Family Rosary App Apple Android
If You're a FAN leave me a message :-) But more importantly, let us know what you think, suggestions, topics, constructive criticism... ALL WELCOME!!Difficult people can hijack your entire day if you treat every moment of ego, jealousy, criticism, carelessness or ingratitude as a personal attack.In this episode of 15 Minute Mondays, I take a powerful Stoic principle from Marcus Aurelius and rework it through a modern coaching lens: expect human weakness before the day begins, not to become cynical, but to stop being emotionally ambushed by predictable behaviour.You cannot control who walks into your day. You cannot control whether people arrive wise, fair, grateful, calm or self-aware. But you can decide that their blindness will not become the author of your character.This episode is about staying grounded when others are reactive, choosing cooperation without becoming naïve, and refusing to let another person's lack of character recruit you into losing yours.Key TakeawaysDifficult people are not interruptions to the human experience; they are part of it.Expecting poor behaviour is not pessimism; it is emotional preparation.Another person's behaviour becomes injury only when you allow it to define your worth, mood or character.Resentment often punishes the person carrying it more than the person who triggered it.Mature cooperation does not mean tolerating everything; it means staying humane while keeping boundaries.Your character is too valuable to be controlled by whoever behaves worst today.The real test is not whether difficult people appear; it is whether you remain in ownership when they do.#15MinuteMondays #TheSuccessBlueprint #MindworxCoaching #DanielCraigJohnson #Stoicism #MarcusAurelius #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfLeadership #PersonalDevelopment #MindsetShift #LeadershipDevelopment #InnerStrength #CharacterDevelopment #Resilience #ExecutiveCoachingSupport the showSponsored by Doc Marty Mushrooms, with a 20% discount code mentioned in the episode. www.docmarty.comContact me:Daniel@the-success-blueprint.co.zawww.mindworx.bizdaniel@mindsworx.comInstagram: @Mindworx_Coaching
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Bro. Jordan Foster presents "When A Rebuke Turns Into Resentment" from Matthew 26, during a worship service at Immanuel Baptist Church, Florence, Ky. Please visit us at 7183 Pleasant Valley Road Florence KY 41042, or call us at (859) 586-6829. Church links: Website: https://www.ibcflorence.com Daily Devotions: https://www.ibcflorence.com/devotions Free App: http://www.ibcflorence.com/ibc-app Our entire list of recent sermons: https://www.ibcflorence.com/recent-sermons Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/ibcflorence Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ibcflorenceky Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ibcflorence/ Podcasts: https://soundcloud.com/user-658781358 Live Stream: https://www.youtube.com/ibcflorence/live We would love to know how to pray for you! Romans 10:9
Read OnlineThe Joy of ReconciliationJesus said to his disciples: “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have won over your brother.” Matthew 18:15When someone sins against us, especially in a grievous way, anger and condemnation can quickly arise as strong temptations. Our natural sense of justice often takes over, and we may find ourselves rationalizing a response rooted in judgment rather than compassion. In today's Gospel, however, Jesus offers the much better path—to seek reconciliation, not division. The ultimate goal is to win the sinner back to God and restore the bond of communion.Sin touches every human relationship, with the sole exception of the one shared between Jesus and His Blessed Mother. Their mutual and perfect charity rendered sin and division entirely absent from their union. What a sublime and singular gift they shared!But we are not perfect. Even the most loving and holy relationships are affected by human weakness, and sin inevitably creeps in. We sin against others, and others sin against us. Sometimes the sin is deliberate and deeply wounding. Other times, it stems from weakness or the absence of fully formed virtue. Regardless of its source, every sin inflicts harm and weakens the communion we are called to share and deeply desire.In today's Gospel, while Jesus appears to be addressing serious sin that severs a person from sanctifying grace—mortal sin—the same principles apply to all offenses, even venial sins and spiritual imperfections. The Christian response to sin must always be grounded in mercy. Whether we are correcting or being corrected, the goal must always be to heal, to restore, and to deepen our unity in Christ.To begin applying these spiritual principles, call to mind those toward whom you may harbor resentment. Start with your family, since familial bonds—due to their natural closeness—are especially vulnerable to sin. Resentment born of sin is often present in close relationships. While some wounds may have caused deep fractures, even the most loving bonds can suffer subtle injuries. Prayerfully examine these relationships in your life.If the wounds are deep and hostilities strong, the path forward is usually clear: Seek to win over your brother, sister, parent, or spouse. And if you are the one who has caused the wound, then humbly acknowledge your sin without excuses. This is always the better path. Always.To aid this process, it is helpful to recognize a hidden dynamic: Holding onto resentment or anger can bring a certain emotional satisfaction. Though it may seem surprising, this is often the case. Anger energizes the emotions and creates a charged feeling that, while disordered, can feel gratifying—like a drug that fuels addiction.The first step is to recognize this disordered emotional pattern for what it is. The next step is to realize that a healed and reconciled relationship offers a deeper and more lasting fulfillment that is far superior to the fleeting satisfaction of resentment or hostility. Winning over another—or being won over by one we have wronged—is profoundly rewarding. It transcends emotion and enters the realm of grace, producing true peace and spiritual joy.Reflect today on the first step of reconciliation outlined by Jesus in the Gospel: “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone.” Take sin seriously. Acknowledge its presence in your relationships, especially the close ones. See yourself both as one who is sinned against and as one who sins. Identify the offenses that diminish love. Confront those sins with courage and humility. Reject the false comfort of resentment, and seek instead the true consolation that comes from unity and charity. This is the path that leads to a share in the holy love between Jesus and His Blessed Mother—a love they desire us to know and live.Lord of perfect mercy, Your Sacred Heart burns with a deep desire to win us back to Yourself—fully reconciled and united in love. I repent of my sins before You, and I pray that Your love, living within me, may become a wellspring of mercy for others. I forgive all who have sinned against me, and I repent of the sins I have inflicted upon others. Restore every relationship in my life, Lord, and endow them with the same pure and holy love You shared with Your Blessed Mother. Jesus, I trust in You. Image via Adobe StockSource: Free RSS feed from catholic-daily-reflections.com — Copyright © 2026 My Catholic Life! Inc. All rights reserved. This content is provided solely for personal, non-commercial use. Redistribution, republication, or commercial use — including use within apps with advertising — is strictly prohibited without written permission.
Morning Mantra: "Kind people don't keep score."If you expect something in return for being a kind person, you are treating your relationships as transactional. You care more about what's in it for you than what you bring to it.Relationships should be reciprocal. But they will not always be equal as sometimes you give more than you get. And other times you receive more.That's just how it works.Scorekeeping breeds resentment. Resentment damages trust and respect. Give with an open heart and you'll soon discover who appreciates your kindness and who you can let go.#BeKindAnyway #BeHappy #BeHorsey #BeHippie #HorseHippie #MorningMantra #WordsToInspire #InspirationalQuotes #SmallBusinessOwner #WomenOwned #HorseHippieBoutique #MorningMotivation #Equestrian #HorseLover #QuotesToInspire #HorseHippieBoutique
TRANSparental is not a compliment. It is one parent crossing into the other parent's office and running both while that other parent is still alive, still named, or still on the court paper. Necessity can start it. Pride finishes it. The child grows up under a government that will not stand for review. Some of that government is triage. Fists. Needles. A man or woman who never came. A child who refuses that person is not your trophy. That child is reporting a crime scene. Steal that report, dress it as “he just wants his daddy,” and you are doing the abuser's paperwork. The rest is occupation. You took the vacant shift. Then the shift took your name. Then the child's loyalty became how you sleep. Then warmth toward the living predecessor became betrayal. Courts never bought Gardner's syndrome as medicine. They still see the campaign. Dead phones. Erased photos. Drop-off speeches in your cadence. A kid fluent in your wound and starved of their own hours. Resentment is the fuel. You are not “triggered.” You are parenting the breakup through a body that did not choose it. Happy weekends get colder rules. The face at the door does the sentencing before the mouth does. Pawn-ograhy is the method. Spy. Messenger. Confidant. Stand-in. Trophy. Midnight audience. The child is footage so you can finish a fight you would not finish with an adult. Family systems already caught you. Triangulation. Coalition across generations. Parentification. Enmeshment. You promoted a kid or kept a kid small so you would not have to be one grown person in a room with another grown person. Gatekeeping is not only locking out danger. It is starving a usable parent until they look useless, then pointing at the corpse you made. Fathers run the same play with money and myth. A check is not a father. A slogan is not a mother. Poverty and court delay dress monopoly as fate. High conflict between houses can wound worse than the empty chair. The strong-mother hymn can sanctify a throne. The discarded-father hymn can bless a quit. Nonresident parents who actually stay in cut harm. An excellent solo parent still does not cancel the hunt. Age arrives. The child can smell adults without your narration. A new partner applies for a job that was never posted. You call it protection. The child calls it later, when they cannot hold a partner without managing them like a parent. The spiritual charge is theft. You assigned a child to complete a romance and a gender office they did not apply for.
In this special episode of Whiskey Soured, we're celebrating 20 years of Beyoncé's iconic B'Day album—and what better time to do it than around Queen Bey's birthday? We're going track by track through B'Day, revisiting the songs, vocals, visuals, performances, and unforgettable moments that made this era so special. From “Déjà Vu” to “Resentment,” and more, we're flashing back to the memories that gave us LIFE and, in some cases, genuinely changed our lives.But this isn't just an album review. We're talking about where we were when these songs dropped, the memories attached to them, our favorite moments from the era, and why B'Day still hits 20 years later.Pour yourself something good and join us as we raise a glass to Beyoncé, B'Day, and an album that gave us absolutely NO reason to be acting the way we were acting in 2006.
Deep Resentment Leads To Futility And Unhappiness The Big Book warns us that deep resentment leads only to futility and unhappiness. That does not mean we were never hurt, mistreated, or given legitimate reasons to be angry. It means that carrying those injuries long after they happen can begin damaging us more than the original event. Today we'll talk about what resentment does to our thinking, how easily we can keep feeding the same story, and why recovery asks us to find a way forward instead of allowing anger and bitterness to keep controlling our lives. We may not be able to change what happened—but we can decide how much of today we are still going to give to it. #TheDailyTrudge #Resentment #AlcoholicsAnonymous #BigBook #Recovery #Sobriety #AARecovery #Acceptance #Forgiveness #Freedom
You love the kids you've been called to care for. You're grateful most of the time. But sometimes your hidden feelings are still, well.... complicated. You may feel frustrated by how much is asked of you, lonely in the load you're carrying, jealous of other moms who seem to have it easier, or ashamed that motherhood doesn't always feel the way you thought it would. In this week's episode, Dr. Alison is joined by longtime friends, ministry leaders, and authors of the new book Moms on the Way, Kathy Tuan-MacLean and Tara Edelschick for an honest conversation about the complicated emotions moms are often afraid to admit out loud. Drawing from their research with more than 700 women, they explore why shame and resentment thrive in isolation—and what can happen when we finally bring those feelings into the light. You'll learn: *Why motherhood can become fertile ground for comparison and shame *What resentment is really telling you *How to discern between something that is simply hard and something that genuinely needs to change *How hidden shame and resentment can isolate you from yourself, others, and God *What to do when these hidden emotions creep in More Resources: Connect with Kathy and Tara here. Get Moms on the Way: Following Jesus Through the Challenges of Motherhood here.
Book Alan's Business Breakthrough Session. Your first 30-minute coaching call is FREE. Learn how to prioritize success and let your quality of life become the byproduct. - https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-breakthrough-sessionFitness is forever, it's a lifestyle. Get jacked and join the Next Level Fitness Accountability Group. This group is invite-only. Reach out to Kevin or Alan on Instagram:Kevin: https://www.instagram.com/neverquitkid/Alan: https://www.instagram.com/alazaros88/_______________________What if the resentment you feel toward your goal is not a lack of discipline, but evidence that you never understood what it would truly require? In this episode, Kevin and Alan probe why success can become frustrating when your willingness is lower than the cost of your ambition. Drawing from Kevin's experience working through travel and lifestyle tradeoffs, along with Alan's coaching conversations around willingness, sacrifice, and alignment, they explain why most people do not fail because they lack goals. They fail because they underestimate the standards, consistency, and hard choices those goals demand.They discuss how to tell the difference between a dream worth pursuing and an outcome that no longer fits your values. You will also hear why relationships, comfort, time, and identity often become the real price of personal growth, and how to decide what you are willing to give up without building a life you later regret. Before you blame the goal, audit the price tag. Your comfort may be writing checks your future cannot cash._______________________NLU is more than a podcast. From the Next Level Dreamliner to Group Coaching, we provide tools and communities to help you grow with more clarity, consistency, and accountability.Visit our website and socials through the links below.
Send us Fan MailResentment doesn't usually sound like yelling. It sounds like “I'm fine,” feels like distance on the couch, and shows up as keeping score in your head. Ken and Tabatha Claytor get real about how resentment slowly destroys a marriage, not through one huge betrayal, but through small disappointments that never get processed and eventually turn into emotional coldness. We talk through personal stories from our own 27-year marriage, including seasons where resentment hid behind silent treatment, avoidance, and even “weaponizing” intimacy. Then we break down the most common triggers we see in marriages everywhere: finances, sex, time demands from work or ministry, and unmet expectations about leadership and support. If you've ever felt yourself withdrawing, struggling to make eye contact, or feeling repulsed by touch, we help you name what's happening and why it matters. You'll also get a clear, practical roadmap for how to overcome resentment in a relationship: acknowledge it honestly, stop rehearsing the offense, address issues early, communicate with truth and softness, forgive repeatedly, replace criticism with appreciation, rebuild emotional connection on purpose, pray together, and get counseling or mentorship before things get worse. We ground it all in Scripture, including 1 Corinthians 13:5, “love keeps no record of wrongs,” and we close with a guided prayer to renounce resentment and recommit to your covenant. If this helped you, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs hope for their marriage, and leave a review so more couples can find the tools to heal and rebuild.GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888
This week's Ask Me Anything explores the challenges men face when life tests their identity, discipline and relationships. Ryan and Kipp discuss balancing fitness with family, staying sober, managing anger, rebuilding identity after losing a career, navigating divorce and fatherhood, reconnecting with the outdoors, and defining a meaningful legacy. Along the way, they emphasize personal responsibility, healthy boundaries, reflection, identity, and developing the skills and values that endure beyond circumstances. They also share practical strategies for handling temptation, anger and conflict, while highlighting the importance of brotherhood, challenge and time away from the noise of everyday life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Jiu-Jitsu Camp and the Importance of Brotherhood 02:03 - Imposter Syndrome, Vulnerability and Earning Your Place 06:34 - Fitness, Marriage and Being Present as a Father 12:56 - Staying Consistent After Quitting Alcohol 19:14 - Getting Control of Anger 30:10 - Identity Beyond Your Career 37:01 - Divorce, Resentment and Protecting Your Kids 40:20 - Why Men Are Drawn to the Outdoors 46:33 - What Legacy Really Means 49:58 - Iron Council and the Upcoming War Room Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
I think resentment is one of the biggest things that can crack a relationship. We get hurt, minimize it, swallow it, and keep moving until all those little things start piling up. Eventually, the resentment becomes so big that we don't see the person or the relationship the same way anymore. In this episode, I talk about why we need to learn how to express ourselves before resentment turns into a giant pile, how to know what is actually worth bringing to the table, and why resolving resentment doesn't always mean getting an apology from the person who hurt us. I also talk about how to bring up resentment without blaming or attacking someone, taking ownership for my own part, and figuring out whether a relationship is still worth investing in. I break down the difference between doing life with someone, at someone, or around someone - and why honest relationships require us to be willing to talk about the hard shit. I talk about: Why resentment can create hairline cracks in a relationship. How swallowing small hurts can eventually turn into a giant pile of resentment. Why I don't believe we can always depend on someone else to give us closure. How to decide what is actually worth expressing. Why I sometimes overexpress and need to work things out on my own first. Why bringing up resentment should come from a place of response rather than reaction. How taking ownership for my own part can change the conversation. What someone's response to my hurt can tell me about their capacity for the relationship. Why some relationships may have simply been outgrown. How children, finances, and other responsibilities can make resentment harder to address. Why I think we have a responsibility to express valid hurt before the pile gets too big. The difference between doing life with someone, at someone, and around someone. How to think about resentment differently in romantic relationships, friendships, and family. Why some resentment may need to be processed without ever being expressed directly. Why working through resentment is a muscle that requires reps. If this episode resonated with you, be sure to follow the podcast, leave a rating, and share it with someone who might need to hear it.
What is killing the sexual intimacy in your marriage? For many couples, intimacy doesn't disappear overnight. It slowly gets pushed aside. Resentment builds. Schedules get packed. Phones get more attention. Conflict goes unresolved. Emotional connection begins to disappear. And eventually, what happens outside the bedroom starts affecting what happens inside it. In Episode 310 of the Family Meeting Podcast, Thomas and Lysandra Osterkamp discuss five common sex killers that can damage physical and emotional intimacy in marriage: bitterness, busyness, technology, unresolved conflict, and emotional neglect. In this episode, we discuss: How bitterness and resentment affect sexual intimacy. Why busyness can slowly push your marriage to the bottom of your priorities. How phones, screens, and technology compete for your spouse's attention. Why unresolved conflict often follows couples into the bedroom. How emotional neglect creates physical distance. Practical ways to protect and rebuild intimacy in your marriage. A healthy sex life isn't only about what happens in the bedroom. How you speak to each other matters. How you handle conflict matters. How much attention you give each other matters. Whether your spouse feels emotionally connected to you matters. If physical intimacy has become difficult, infrequent, or nonexistent in your marriage, don't only focus on sex. Look for what may be happening underneath the surface. What is creating distance between you? What resentment hasn't been addressed? What conflict hasn't been resolved? What has become more important than your relationship? And when was the last time your spouse genuinely felt pursued by you? Whether you're currently struggling with sexual intimacy or simply want to protect the connection you already have, this episode will help you identify some of the biggest threats to intimacy and begin doing something about them. Subscribe for weekly conversations on marriage, parenting, and faith. Bonus Resource: Send an email to info@familymeeting.org for our Marriage Intimacy Killers Assessment. For more information: https://linktr.ee/familymeeting
In this episode, we talk about how we navigated the difficult (for one of us) and life-changing decision to leave our careers, friends, and family in the US to move to Ireland in 2019.
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Can holding a grudge actually make you more productive?JB opens his perpetual disappointments diary, a running record of tiny betrayals, disliked cities and household annoyances. What starts as a list of grievances turns into a surprisingly honest conversation about resentment, motivation and the long game.The crew also marvels at the University of Texas landing a free Chris Stapleton show, revisits Austin's Arboretum through Sandy's rollerblading memories and reflects on Dolly Parton's extraordinary legacy. Then JB takes the Rapid Fire hot seat to reveal his gummy-bear weakness, his most prized possessions and whether he would rather be a pirate or a ninja.Subscribe to The JB and Sandy Show, leave a review and share the episode with someone who keeps their own mental list of perpetual disappointments.
Back-to-school stress can expose an unequal division of labor in a blended family—especially when the stepmom is managing school supplies, schedules, transportation, meals, forms, and everyone's emotions while her partner waits to be told what to do.In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia explains why resentment is rarely about one forgotten form or shopping trip. It often develops because the stepmom is carrying the invisible mental load: noticing what needs to happen, planning it, assigning tasks, answering questions, following up, and preventing anything from falling apart.Alicia explores the difference between completing a task and taking complete ownership of it, why “Just tell me what you need” still leaves one person managing the household, and how overfunctioning can unintentionally teach a partner to underfunction.In this episode, Alicia discusses:Why invisible labor increases during the school yearHow back-to-school responsibilities become a source of relationship resentmentWhy completing a task is different from owning itWhy asking a stepmom to delegate still leaves her carrying the mental loadHow overfunctioning creates an unhealthy family patternWhy stepmoms often stay silent until they explode...and more!Resentment does not always mean a stepmom is ungrateful or controlling. It may be a sign that she has been carrying more responsibility than she can sustainably manage—and that the couple needs clearer roles, stronger follow-through, and a more honest division of labor.Explore couples coaching with Alicia for support with blended-family roles, resentment, communication, parenting stress, and partnership here.Join The Stepmom Side Community for practical support from women who understand the realities of stepfamily life here. Support the showWant a specific topic covered? Let me know here.After you listen to this, tag me on Instagram @aliciakrasko and let me know what you think!Get all the FREE RESOURCES here.Want to learn more about The Stepmom Side community? Here's where you get all the info. Looking forward to connecting with you on the inside.All things Alicia visit www.aliciakrasko.comGet on the list, get behind the scene info on Stepmom life, and tips delivered to your inbox.
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Gentlemen, welcome to the fourth and final episode of this month's series with my wife Jessica, and I want to start by saying thank you for showing up for this one, since August actually had five Fridays this year, which means she recorded a full bonus episode she didn't have to do. Today we're tackling something that trips up more marriages than almost anything else: roles and expectations, and specifically, all the unspoken assumptions about who does what that quietly cause resentment when they're never actually talked about. Jessica and I get into the finances first, how I took over bill paying for our first five years of marriage and, driven by my own anxiety around debt, paid things down so aggressively it actually put us in a bind more than once. We talk through why swapping our roles, me handling investing and her handling the day to day bills, ended up being the right fit for both of us, and why neither of us wants to trade back. From there we get into dinner, probably the single area that's caused us the most quiet frustration over the years, from Jessica's years of resentment doing all the cooking to the practical shift we finally made once we actually talked about it out loud instead of just enduring it. We also open up about how we split the harder parenting conversations, why the sex talk with our boys has always fallen to me, and why Jessica has become the one I lean on for basically every other hard conversation in our house. I share what I've learned watching her approach conflict, calm, strategic, and incredibly well timed, compared to my own instinct to just react in the moment. We close out by talking through how we split up kids' sports and activities, and what boundaries actually held up over 22 years of marriage. If your marriage has ever hit friction over who's supposed to be doing what, and you've never actually sat down and talked about it, this conversation is a real look at how two people figured that out over two decades together, including the parts that took way too long to fix. Timeline Summary [1:02] Introducing the fourth and final episode of the August series with Jessica [12:56] Reflecting on last week's lower-energy episode and setting up today's topic: roles and expectations [14:12] Larry announces Roommates to Soulmates cohort three, starting September 16th [16:33] Why unspoken and unknown expectations are what actually trip couples up the most [19:00] The early years of bill paying: Larry's aggressive debt payoff and the strain it caused [21:52] Why paying bills stressed Larry out so deeply, no matter how much money was in the bank [24:36] Checking in on whether Jessica still feels good about handling the bills 17 years later [25:39] Introducing the second financial role: why Larry handles all the investing [27:05] Larry's own journey from investing overwhelm to genuinely loving it today [30:45] Confirming neither of them wants to trade financial roles, and why that alignment matters [31:27] Introducing the dinner problem: why family meals can become a major source of strife [32:52] The moment, about a year ago, Jessica finally said out loud that she hated cooking [33:32] The fix: splitting cooking nights and having the non-cooking spouse handle cleanup [37:55] Larry announces the first-ever Dad Edge Day with the Arizona Cardinals, November 15th [42:22] Checking in on what Jessica would still change about how dinner works today [43:24] Jessica's regret: never requiring the kids to eat what was served instead of making separate meals [46:34] Why the sex talk role has always fallen to Larry, and how he approaches it with their boys [52:36] Breaking down Jessica's calm, strategic approach to conflict versus Larry's reactive instinct [57:14] A callback to an earlier, lighter moment in the series about Larry's past drinking [1:00:49] How they split kids' sports and activities, and the assumptions each of them still carries [1:03:22] What comes next: Jessica joining monthly, and how to submit topic ideas [1:04:51] Introducing two free resources: 25 Intimate Conversation Starters and 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage Five Key Takeaways Roles that feel natural today were often built through real trial and error, not instinct. Larry and Jessica swapped financial responsibilities after outside mentors pointed out they'd assigned them backward, and it took years to get right. Resentment builds fastest around unspoken expectations. Nearly every friction point in their marriage, from bills to dinner, traces back to one person assuming a role the other person quietly grew to dread. Sometimes the fix is simple once you finally say the hard thing out loud. Jessica's years of resentment around cooking dissolved almost immediately once she told Larry directly that she hated it, leading to a workable rotation within one conversation. Timing matters as much as the message when addressing conflict. Jessica's approach of waiting for a calm moment, rather than confronting an issue in the heat of frustration, consistently produces a better outcome than reacting immediately. Roles don't have to be permanent or symmetrical to work. Twenty-two years in, the goal isn't a perfectly even split of every responsibility, it's each person operating in the role that actually fits them, while staying willing to revisit it when it's not working. Links & Resources Shownotes for this episode: http://thedadedge.com/1524 Roommates to Soulmates (Larry's 8-week marriage coaching cohort; next cohort starts September 16th, with free preview calls): http://thedadedge.com/soulmates The Dad Edge Day at State Farm Stadium (Arizona Cardinals vs. Los Angeles Rams, November 15): https://thedadedge.com/nfl Closing Wrapping up this series, what stands out most is that Jessica and I don't have this figured out because we never struggled, we have it figured out because we finally stopped avoiding the hard conversations about who does what and why. Every role we've settled into came from a real conversation, sometimes an overdue one, not from assuming the other person would just handle it or just deal with it forever. If something in your own marriage has quietly been building resentment because nobody's actually said it out loud, let this be the nudge to finally have that conversation. Go out and live legendary.
What does it look like to forgive when the hurt runs deep, and how can we keep walking in forgiveness when painful feelings return? Through Jesus' teaching in Matthew 18 and the remarkable testimony of Corrie ten Boom, we see that forgiveness is not merely an emotion but an act of faith and obedience empowered by the Holy Spirit. As we remember how freely God has forgiven us for Christ's sake, we can forgive those who have wounded us, and trust God with the healing process. Forgiveness may happen in a moment while healing takes time, but as forgiven people, we are called to forgive—believing that Christ can free our hearts from bitterness and lead us into His peace, love, and freedom.
Most men rebuilding after loss carry an anger they've never said out loud — not at the loss itself, but at a life that kept moving, at people who moved on faster, sometimes even at the person they lost. In this episode, Ron looks at Gottman's Four Horsemen research on why unspoken resentment is one of the strongest predictors that a relationship is in trouble, and applies it to the relationship every man in grief has with his own silence. This is Week 1 of a new arc on what happens when the weight we carry never gets said out loud. Free guide, The Weight You're Carrying Alone, is linked in the show notes. Rewrite The Story, Ron Simplified Myers, widower grief, men's grief, rebuilding after loss, grief recovery for men, widower support, healing after loss, unspoken resentment, grief and anger, resentment after loss, moving on after loss, grief journey for men, rebuilding identity after loss, Uplifting Life Partners, anger after loss, silent grief men, Four Horsemen, Gottman research, losing a spouse
There are passages in St. Isaac that can sound almost impossible to modern ears. His words on vigil are among them. “Do not imagine,” he tells us, “that among all the works of monastics there is any practice greater than night vigil.” We hear such words and immediately think of sleep deprivation, bodily exhaustion, long hours of psalmody, standing in darkness while the rest of the world sleeps. We wonder whether such a practice belongs to another age, another kind of human being, perhaps even another understanding of the spiritual life. But this is precisely where we can misunderstand Isaac. Vigil becomes incomprehensible when it is separated from desire. If we begin with asceticism, vigil appears severe. If we begin with love, it begins to make sense. The lover understands the night. There are moments when we do not want an evening to end because we are with someone we love. There are conversations in which we cease looking at the clock. A mother remains awake beside a sick child without calculating the sacrifice. Someone awaiting the return of the beloved listens for every sound in the night. Love changes our experience of time. And so it is with the saints. They did not remain awake because they despised sleep. They remained awake because they had discovered Someone for whom it was worth losing sleep. This is the secret of vigil. “That I May Be With You” The Fathers understood the spiritual life far less as the fulfillment of religious obligations than as the awakening of desire. Beneath fasting, silence, solitude, tears, prostrations, psalmody, and vigil lies a single movement of the heart: I want God. Not merely His gifts. Not consolation. Not religious experiences. Not even virtue considered as a possession. God Himself. This is why St. Isaac describes the mind of the one who keeps vigil as becoming light and buoyant, taking flight “as it were on wings.” The ascetic is not merely staying awake. Something within him is being released. During the day the mind is scattered among a thousand things. We speak. We answer. We plan. We remember. We anticipate. We defend ourselves. We attend to necessities. Even when these things are good, the heart becomes divided among them. Then comes the night. The voices diminish. The demands cease. The world grows quiet. And the soul discovers again the One whom it has been seeking beneath everything else. This is why vigil was so precious to the Desert Fathers and remains so in the teaching of the great modern elders. It creates a space in which the heart can become undivided. The night says: There is nowhere else I need to go. There is nothing I need to accomplish. There is no one before whom I need to justify myself. There is only God. And I am here. The Recovery of Wonder Yet there is something even deeper in Isaac's teaching. Vigil is not merely about attention. It is about wonder. Isaac tells us that the one who perseveres in vigil begins to “gaze upon” heavenly realities. His language is deliberately extravagant: the soul comes to possess “the eyes of Cherubim.” What does this mean? It means that purification changes how we see. The tragedy of fallen existence is not simply that we commit sins. It is that we gradually cease to be astonished by God. We become accustomed to everything. Accustomed to the Gospel. Accustomed to the Eucharist. Accustomed to the name of Jesus. Accustomed to the Cross. Accustomed even to the astonishing claim that the Creator of heaven and earth desires communion with us. And when wonder disappears, desire soon weakens with it. The Fathers knew that the heart must be awakened again. This is one reason vigil has such power. In the silence of the night, familiar words can suddenly become new. “Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God…” We may have spoken those words ten thousand times. Yet in the stillness something can happen. Jesus. The Name becomes luminous. God is here. God sees me. God desires me. God has called me into existence that I might share His life. And suddenly prayer is no longer something we are performing. It is encounter. Wonder gives birth to desire, and desire gives birth to greater attention. Then the soul begins to understand why the saints stayed awake. The Vigil of the Lover This is why we must be careful not to turn Isaac's teaching into another spiritual program. Stay awake longer. Say more psalms. Sleep less. Accumulate hours. Isaac himself warns against precisely this distortion. A person may endure “prolonged psalmody,” weariness of the tongue, and “night-long standing,” and yet receive little fruit because the mind is elsewhere. The body is standing before God while the heart is wandering through the world. Isaac asks, with characteristic directness: Why sow so much seed if we continually prevent it from bearing fruit? Vigil without attention becomes habit. Vigil without desire becomes endurance. Vigil without love becomes religious achievement. And religious achievement can quietly feed the very ego that asceticism is meant to dismantle. The true vigil begins somewhere deeper. Stay with Me. This is the invitation hidden within the night. Christ in Gethsemane asked His disciples, “Could you not watch with me one hour?” Perhaps every vigil is, in some mysterious way, our answer to that question. Yes, Lord. I will stay. Not because I am strong. Not because I am an ascetic. Not because I want to imagine myself among the saints. I stay because You are here. Why Vigil Requires the Day This also explains something that Isaac emphasizes strongly and that can easily be overlooked. The vigil cannot be separated from the way we live during the day. If we spend the day deliberately filling the mind with noise, agitation, curiosity, argument, distraction, and endless encounters, we should not be surprised if those same things accompany us into prayer at night. Isaac therefore insists that the monk who desires the fruit of vigil must guard himself from unnecessary disturbance during the day. This is not contempt for the world. It is custody of the heart. The Fathers understood something about human consciousness that our age desperately needs to rediscover: what we give ourselves to leaves traces within us. Everything enters the heart. Images. Conversations. Arguments. News. Resentments. Fantasies. Fears. The opinions of others. The desire to be seen. The need to respond. The mind carries these things into silence. Thus vigil actually begins long before nightfall. It begins with how we guard the heart throughout the day. The School of Freedom This is one reason the disappearance of vigil from much contemporary Christian life is significant. We have not merely lost an ascetical practice. We have lost one of the great schools of desire, attention, and freedom. The modern world teaches us to flee silence. It places a device in our hand capable of filling every empty moment. It trains the eyes to seek novelty and the mind to expect constant stimulation. The Fathers move in precisely the opposite direction. Be still. Remain. Watch. Wait. Listen. Do not flee the emptiness. Because eventually you may discover that it was never empty. Someone was waiting for you there. The purpose of vigil is not to prove that we can conquer the body. It is to become free enough to recognize the presence of the Beloved. “I Sleep, but My Heart Is Awake” The goal, then, is ultimately something greater than remaining physically awake. The goal is wakefulness of heart. “I sleep, but my heart is awake,” says the Bride in the Song of Songs. There is the mystery. The deepest vigil eventually becomes a state of the soul. A person begins to live before God. The Jesus Prayer continues beneath thought. The remembrance of God becomes increasingly continuous. The heart waits for Him. Looks toward Him. Listens for Him. Desires Him. This is the angelic quality Isaac sees in vigil. The angels do not merely “stay awake.” They exist in ceaseless attention to God. Their life is beholding. And Isaac dares to say that through vigil the human person begins to participate in this same movement. The eyes of the heart open. Wonder returns. Desire intensifies. Prayer deepens. The mind grows light. And gradually the soul discovers that the ascetical life is not fundamentally a life of deprivation. It is a life of fascination. The Night Is Not Empty Perhaps this is what we most need to recover from Isaac. We will never understand the asceticism of the Fathers if we begin with what they gave up. We must begin with what they saw. They saw a Beauty before which the beauties of the world grew pale. They tasted a sweetness that made lesser consolations seem small. They discovered a Love so immense that solitude became communion, silence became fullness, fasting became hunger for God, and vigil became the refusal to leave the presence of the Beloved. This is why the teaching on vigil belongs so naturally beside the language of desire and wonder. The ascetic does not remain awake merely because a rule commands it. He has glimpsed something. And because he has glimpsed it, he wants to see more. Wonder awakens desire. Desire gathers the scattered heart. The gathered heart becomes attentive. Attention becomes prayer. And prayer becomes communion. Then something remarkable happens. What once appeared burdensome becomes precious. The night that once seemed long becomes too short. Silence that once frightened us becomes the place we long to enter. And the prayer that once seemed an obligation becomes something from which we are reluctant to depart. The saints kept vigil because they discovered that the night was not empty. The Beloved was there. And once the heart knows this, the deepest question is no longer: Why would anyone remain awake to pray? It becomes: How could love not want to remain? --- Text of chat during the group: 00:18:08 Bob Čihák, AZ: P 222, Homily 20 00:23:28 David Swiderski: The last time we discussed this and sleeping 8 hours straight and for most of time people at least in Europe slept "2" times I went back to my Grandfather's diary and it appears the wood stoves in Northern Wisconsin only lasted 4hrs and you would need to get up and feed the fire so they naturally did vigils and took advantage of the break in sleep. In Spain and Latina America they have a nap in some areas due to the heat (2 hour lunch) and are up till 1 or 2 am. It seems modern western society is a new adaptation of what was a practice for hundreds of years. 00:25:10 Ryan Ngeve: Father what is one to do if these practices and deprivations make us more agitated/irritated and downcast, especially towards others, as they tend to do? 00:39:01 Gwen's iPhone: my cat does! 00:39:24 James Hickman: Is it safe to call vigils a means to the end, which is nearness to the Lord, such that a super practical means to find closeness with the Lord is this watching for him when there are fewer distractions (not that we are safe from distractions in the night, but that the many combating us in the day are perhaps different in kind or number than those distractions of the night)? 00:42:15 Rod Castillo: I pray my daily rosary at 2 am. It's the only time the house is quiet enough to allow me to devote myself completely to it. 00:43:46 James Hickman: Reacted to "I pray my daily rosary at 2 am. 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In this episode of The Healing Point Podcast, we explore chronic fatigue, heavy menstrual bleeding and the resentment that can continue to sit underneath the surface, even after a great deal of inner work.The conversation begins with the experience of carrying too much, particularly as a woman, mother and daughter, and the resentment that can build when responsibility feels uneven. From there, we look at what happens when that resentment becomes a familiar emotional position, one the mind keeps returning to even when we consciously understand the pattern. We talk about the enormous amount of energy it can take to stay engaged with frustration and resentment, and how this can keep the body activated. We explore the idea of duality, the tendency of the mind to move between right and wrong, fair and unfair, one side and the other, and what changes when we begin to step out of that polarity and return to a more centred place. We also explore becoming the observer of our thoughts, recognising familiar thoughts as invitations rather than instructions, and learning to decline the ones that pull us back into old emotional patterns.The deeper question becomes: what is resentment costing you?Because sometimes the next stage of healing is less about understanding where the pattern came from, and more about noticing how much energy we are still giving it now.This episode is a conversation about resentment, fatigue, hormones, awareness and the possibility of finding a different relationship with the stories we have carried for a long time.To explore more of my work, you can find me here: Instagram @thehealingpoint._ YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@thehealingpointukOr my website www.traceystevens.orgThere you'll find courses, workshops and resources exploring the relationship between the body, the mind, our emotional patterns and the deeper awareness that allows us to create change.You can also explore From Symptom to Inner Wisdom, my 21-part audio course on understanding the deeper patterns behind symptoms and learning to become the observer of the mind.Explore From Symptom to Inner WisdomIf you have a question you'd like to explore with me on the podcast, I'd love to hear from you. You can email me at info@traceystevens.org With LoveTracey xCredits: This podcast is edited by Rhiannon Walsh @AlignedElementsAcupunctureMusic licensed from www.purple-planet.com
Today we're talking about what it really looks like to go from a home to a homestead, and I get to answer a question I've been asked for years in real time: If I had it all to do over again, what would I do differently? LFTN Stocking Exchange Reminder that the LFTN Stocking Exchange is coming up. Get it on your radar! Featured Event: Soil Microscopy Class Soil and Microscopy Intensive Learn to look at what is actually happening in your soil and better understand the biology that makes healthy soil work. LivingFreeInTennessee.com Sponsors Above Phone AbovePhone.com Strong Roots Resources StrongRootsResources.com Tales from the Prepper Pantry Building new shelves Consolidating freezer fat Meatloaf is the big project of the week Processed all peppers for salsa futures Frugality Tip: 100% Cotton Throws Buy a cotton blanket at Aldi for $15 Sew it in half and you get two throws for the price of one No unnatural plastic yuck in your throws Operation Independence SRF sponsorship has really come through! Holler Roast is up 20% since the weeks of the fair Thanks, y'all! Main Topic: From Home To Homestead One of the questions I get when on panels and suck is "If you had it to do all over again, how would you build your homestead?" Or "What are the 2 or 3 biggest mistakes you made early on in building your homestead?" As homestead advising types we tend to tell people to build things one at a time and go slowly so that you can get your systems working. Or we say get a permaculture plan in place first. Or we have more practical advice like infrastructure before livestock, get your zone 0 in place before you do anything else, etc All these things are true and not true at the same time What is homesteading? The eternal question, more controversial than what is off grid? (Reminds me of the how libertarian are you arguments) Homestead Where You Are Is land required? Mindset change Ongoing learning Then came the question: If you had it all to fro over again Holler Hub being developed for a year with Basecamp Lodge as the event center Fighting a type one error at the Holler Homestead where I live Acceleration of the challenges this year, remediation, health impacts, processing past grief and letting things go that hold you back (Resentment episode) So if I had it to do all over again, how would I build my homestead differently? That is a question you can't really answer unless you are doing it The opportunity The reality: move, brought almost nothing with me, sourcing all new personal items as well as transforming basecamp into a homestead that can accommodate events AND serve as a live learning model for others who want an immersive experience in growing food and health living Pros: I own the property and home Its got good bones I have the experience and connections to do this right We are already set up with a basement classroom and open concept kitchen that works great for teaching I have income streams developed I am really good at "If I cannot do x then what CAN I do? Cons: this is a normal house not a home set up to accommodate pantry, power outages, processing animals and food, gardening, etc. (Now fuel efficient) I come to this without the funds to do it in my personal checking account I am still encumbered by past messes (although fewer) that I have made for. Myself This will be very much like when I was younger on the homestead and was just starting out, only I am not, in fact younger :D Plastics So how will we start? The assessment is this week. What have we got? What do we need? How will we navigate what to do first? This may become the constant topic of the podcast or a segment - I don't really know, But it is the BUILDING of the Holler Hub in real time and I am excited to finally answer the question for real - what would you do if you had it all to do over again? I guess we will find out. But one thing is true - the one most important part of homesteading that you can never let languish - BE FEARLESS.
Some of my favorite conversations on this podcast are the ones where we stop trying to make non-monogamy look perfect and just talk about what it's actually like.This is absolutely one of those episodes.For this Rewind, I'm bringing back my conversation with sex educator Dirty Lola, and ohhhh, there is so much good stuff in this one.Lola takes us through her journey from experimenting with non-monogamy before she even had language for it, to marriage and monogamy, swinging, polyamory, divorce, and eventually building relationships that feel much more aligned with who she actually is.And we talk about the messy parts.Jealousy. Resentment. Agreements that don't work. Agreements people say yes to and then don't actually follow. Feeling unheard. Learning how to ask for what you need. Figuring out what information you actually want about your partner's other relationships.And, of course, compersion.One of my favorite parts of this conversation is how honest we both are about the idea that compersion is supposed to be this magical gold standard of successful polyamory.Sometimes Lola feels it.Sometimes I feel it.And sometimes neutral is fucking fantastic.Because healthy non-monogamy isn't about never feeling jealous or being delighted every time your partner falls in love with someone new. It's about knowing yourself well enough to recognize what's happening, communicate about it, create boundaries that actually support you, and take responsibility for what you do with your feelings.We also get into something I wish more people understood about agreements: don't say yes to something you don't actually agree to.A reluctant yes followed by broken agreements isn't healthier than having the uncomfortable conversation in the first place.Say no. Keep talking. Get curious about what each of you actually needs. Find the version that works for everyone involved.That's collaboration.In this episode, we talk about:Lola's journey from monogamy to swinging and polyamoryDiscovering non-monogamy before having language for itWhat happens when one partner identifies as polyamorous and the other doesn'tJealousy as information instead of something to eliminateRecognizing the unmet needs underneath jealousyRules, boundaries, agreements, and what happens when they're brokenWhy saying yes when you really mean no creates resentmentLearning how to disagree and collaborate instead of fightHow being heard can completely change conflictBreaking old relationship patterns in healthier relationshipsCompersion, jealousy, and why neutrality is a perfectly wonderful place to beKnowing how much you actually want to hear about your partner's other relationshipsWhy it's okay to want some moments to feel like they're just yoursThe very human reality of polyamoryWhy not every form of non-monogamy is polyamoryLola's simple, free practice for getting out of your own head before a difficult conversationThere is so much laughter in this conversation, but there's also a ton of wisdom about what it really takes to build relationships where you can be honest, messy, imperfect, and still deeply loving.If you're navigating jealousy, trying to figure out your boundaries, opening a relationship, or wondering why you don't feel that mythical nonstop compersion everyone keeps talking about, this episode is absolutely worth another listen.Because you don't have to be perfectly polyamorous.You just have to be willing to know yourself, tell the truth, communicate, and keep learning.Enjoy this Rewind with Dirty Lola.Send us Fan MailSupport the show
Adult friendship doesn't happen by accident, it happens on purpose. In this conversation with Ashley, co-owner of our counseling practice and my best friend, we talk about why making friends as an adult is genuinely harder, why so many good friendships quietly fade under busyness, and what it actually takes to move a friendship from surface-level to real. We will also discuss concrete takeaways—things you can actually do this week. We will talk about: Why making friends as an adult is harder than it was in school and what actually work? Why friendships fade during busy seasons, and how to keep them alive without grand gestures What keeps friendships stuck at surface level and how to move toward real depth Practical takeaways for building, maintaining, and deepening friendships A real, honest conversation between two friends who run a counseling practice together Five key takeaways: Proximity repeated over time beats instant connection Be the one who initiates, even when it's vulnerable Lower the bar for contact; small deposits count Name the season instead of disappearing Ask one real question instead of five surface ones
We all deal with resentments, holding on to harm that has been caused in the past. This is a painful experience.When you hold on like this, you feel the pain repeatedly.Sometimes these resentments may feel like they offer security from future harm. But with forgiveness, you can free up space in the heart to allow love and care to take root. The practice of forgiveness will help you let go of these painful experiences and offer freedom to the mind and heart.Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/find-your-daily-calm/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
When children push back, a parent's natural instinct is often to tighten the screws and enforce more rules—but this usually just fuels the fire. In this episode of Parenting Matters Now, Dr. Roger Smith explains why this happens using a simple concept called "relationship math": Rules + Regulation - Relationship = Resentment and Rebellion. Visit me at: https://rogersmithmd.com/ This has been a production of ThePodcastUpload.com
Today is a good day to die.Which means it's a good day to come alive.In this reflection on Psalm 51, John Ortberg explores an old Christian word that doesn't get used much anymore: mortification.It sounds miserable.But properly understood, mortification isn't about becoming miserable.It's about becoming free.John describes two selves within us: the impulsive self, driven by whatever we happen to want right now, and the valuing self, shaped by what we most deeply believe matters: love, joy, peace, patience and generosity.The goal of the spiritual life isn't to spend every day desperately resisting everything we want.It's to increasingly become the kind of person who is no longer controlled by destructive desires.Drawing from Psalm 51, Romans 8, and Flannery O'Connor's A Good Man Is Hard to Find, John explores Jesus' strange invitation to die in order to truly live.To mortify is to liberate.And it can begin with one very small act today.In this episode: What “mortification” actually means Jesus' paradox of dying in order to live Samuel Johnson on how death clarifies life Flannery O'Connor's A Good Man Is Hard to Find Psalm 51 and David's prayer of repentance The impulsive self vs. the valuing self Why following Jesus isn't endless miserable resistance How destructive desires lose their power Mortification as liberation A simple practice for becoming more free today Scriptures: Psalm 51 • Romans 8:13 • 2 Samuel 11–12 • Matthew 16:25#Psalm51 #JohnOrtberg #Psalms #SpiritualFormation #Freedom #DyingToSelf #ChristianFaith #BibleStudy #Jesus #Transformation
Jason Allen joins Let's Talk Memoir for a conversation about growing up working poor on Eastern Long Island with an alcoholic father, the threat of different types of violence, his father's quickness to anger, trying to get sober, the difficulty of committing to recovery, his brother's hard drug addiction, rethinking a memoir a million times, finding a narrative focus, the querying process, how writing memoir can feel cathartic, knowing what to cut and what to keep in our manuscripts, balancing our vision of what we know to be true with what other people say about our work, finding hope, and his new memoir Boys Without Fathers. Ronit's upcoming workshop: Writing Dynamic Memoir: From Lived Experience to Gripping Story https://www.lmcmurtrylitcenter.org/workshops/writing-dynamic-memoir-from-lived-experience-to-gripping-story Also in this episode: -writing and publishing in different genres -choosing a small indie press for our work -incorporating stand-alone pieces into memoir Books mentioned in this episode: The Glass Castle by Jeanette Walls The Liar's Club by Mary Karr The Art of Memoir by Mary Karr Wild by Cheryl Strayed Jason Allen writes fiction, creative nonfiction, and poetry. For his novel, The East End, Bonnie Jo Campbell provided the cover blurb: “Every page is filled with wise insights about social class and the human heart.” Jason has since been nominated for an Edgar Award and the Georgia Author of the Year Award, and recently completed his memoir, Boys Without Fathers, which will be released September 1st, 2026. His poetry collection, A Meditation on Fire, is now with Black Lawrence Press, and he has published essays with Salon, Literary Hub, and The Strand Magazine. Jason teaches creative writing in the MFA program at Wichita State University and lives in Kansas with his sweet rescue dog, Luna. Website: https://www.jasonallenauthor.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jason.allen.908132/ Instagram: Jason_Allen_Books Preorder link for Boys Without Fathers: https://square.link/u/URHWk0x0
Dependable. Reliable. Accommodating. Do these words describe you? Often seen as positive attributes, our need to embody these traits can sometimes lead to overcommitment and burnout. Bridgette and Lindsey talk through how constant overexertion for others can leave us with nothing for ourselves at the end of the day; how resentment can appear in our lives; and how boundaries can allow relationships to thrive.Key TakeawaysSurvival mode looks different for everybody and includes being overproductive or constantly flexible for others' needs over our own.Generational, cultural, and learned behavior contributes to our belief that productivity and dependability overshadow a person's need for relaxation.In professional settings, burnout can feel like a personal failure or shameful, making workplace culture on mental health integral to organizational wellbeing.Resentment due to stress looks different for everyone, including annoyance, flattened emotional response, and simply saying “yes” instead of assessing capacity.Boundary-setting does not limit a relationship or someone's commitment; it allows breathing room for everyone to communicate transparently about needs and space.Resources Mentioned“Employers need to focus on workplace burnout: Here's why” by American Psychological Association, 12 May 2023.Denise Albieri Jodas Salvagioni et al. “Physical, psychological and occupational consequences of job burnout: A systematic review of prospective studies”, PloS One vol. 12(10), 4 Oct. 2017.Connect and Learn More☑️ Bridgette Stumpf | LinkedIn☑️ Lindsey Silverberg | LinkedIn☑️ Volare | LinkedIn | Instagram | Facebook☑️ Subscribe to the TraumaTies newsletter ☑️ TraumaTies Website | Instagram | TikTok | YouTube☑️ Subscribe Apple Podcasts | SpotifyBrought to you by Volare, TraumaTies: Untangling Societal Harm & Healing After Crime is a podcast that creates space and conversations to dissect the structural and systemic knots that keep us from addressing trauma.Rooted in a belief that survivors of crime deserve respect for their dignity in the aftermath of victimization, Volare seeks to empower survivors by informing them of all of the options available and working to transform existing response systems to be more inclusive of the diverse needs that survivors often have after crime.Volare also provides free, holistic, and comprehensive advocacy, therapeutic, and legal services to survivors of all crime types. Visit our website to learn more about how to access our trauma-informed education training and how to partner with us to expand survivor-defined justice.
Welcome back to another episode of "Women of Impact!" In this riveting first half, host Lisa Bilyeu sits down with the profoundly insightful Afrika Brooke. They delve deep into the nuances of honesty and accountability in our relationships. Afrika shares her powerful reflections on defensiveness in relationships, emphasizing the difference between desired and embodied values. We'll hear from Lisa as she opens up about her own journey with her husband, Tom, detailing how they navigate giving each other permission to hold one another accountable without slipping into defensiveness.Afrika and Lisa discuss the impact of direct honesty, the importance of practicing honesty to avoid self-righteousness, and how addressing insecurities can lead to true alignment with one's goals. This part of the episode sets the stage for understanding how self-awareness and emotional intelligence play critical roles in personal growth and intimate connections. Get ready to uncover groundbreaking insights that will transform the way you communicate and relate to others around you.SHOWNOTES00:00 Understand your fears before addressing patterns.19:01 Environment shaped my hyper independence and feelings.26:29 Fragmented identity led to decade-long alcohol struggle.38:24 Resentments led to manipulation in relationships.42:04 Shame and embarrassment hinder self-awareness.53:39 Ownership interrupts conflict through personal responsibility.01:01:45 Apologetic demeanor affects many, especially women.FOLLOW LISA:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/Twitter: https://twitter.com/lisabilyeuYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpactTik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=enSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
Feeling stuck in your sex life? Take the free quiz to find your sexy spark again: https://thebetterbedroom.comSEX WITH ADHDYou're in the middle of sex and somehow your brain wanders off to grocery lists, Hamilton the musical, or the ceiling fan clicking. Then the shame kicks in. If that's you, this episode is going to change how you think about it completely.Heather sits down with Cate Osborn, ADHD content creator, sex educator, and best-selling author of The ADHD Field Guide for Adults, to break down what ADHD and neurodivergence actually have to do with sex and intimacy. Spoiler: everything.They cover why the ADHD brain treats sex like just another series of tasks (same as making a sandwich), why kink might be the most naturally ADHD-friendly toolbox there is, how executive dysfunction shows up in the bedroom, the surprising links between ADHD and erectile dysfunction, orgasm difficulty, and hormonal shifts, and, for partners of someone with ADHD, where explanation ends and excuse begins.In this episode:00:00 Intro 01:35 Why so many of Heather's clients turn out to be neurodivergent 02:53 Executive functioning and how it touches every part of your sex life 04:15 The comorbidities nobody talks about (anxiety, OCD, disordered eating) 04:42 What "AuDHD" is and why it matters 06:45 The sexual assault statistics that stopped Heather in her tracks 08:04 Inside The ADHD Field Guide for Adults 14:11 Why kink might be the perfect tool for an ADHD brain 18:20 The real reason you get distracted during sex 23:50 "I'm thinking about Hamilton the musical", checking out mid-sex 25:10 Eye contact, communication, and knowing your own needs 36:12 The partner side: what's fair to ask, and where accountability comes in 44:34 Resentment, parentified relationships, and sex drive 45:43 Orgasm difficulty and erectile dysfunction, explainedCurious about coaching with Heather? Book a free Pathway to Passion consultMore from Cate Osborn: InstagramBuy The Book This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis: Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp
Please enjoy this Summer Salon Series episode of Breaking Form Selects: Rigoberto González Support Breaking Form by reviewing the show on Apple Podcasts here.Aaron's STOP LYING is available from the Pitt Poetry Series. BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE is available from Bridwell Press. James's ROMANTIC COMEDY is available from Four Way Books. Notes:Rigoberto González was born in Bakersfield, California and raised in Michoacán, Mexico. He earned a BA from the University of California, Riverside and graduate degrees from University of California, Davis and Arizona State University. He is the author of To the Boy Who Was Night: Poems Selected and New (2023), The Book of Ruin (2019), Unpeopled Eden (2013), winner of a Lambda Literary Award, and Black Blossoms (2011), all published by Four Way Books. His other poetry collections include Other Fugitives and Other Strangers (Tupelo Press, 2006) and So Often the Pitcher Goes to Water Until It Breaks (University of Illinois Press, 1999), a National Poetry Series selection. González has also written multiple books in other genres including the novel Crossing Vines (University of Oklahoma Press, 2003), the memoir Butterfly Boy: Memories of a Chicano Mariposa (University of Wisconsin Press, 2006), the critical essay collection Pivotal Voices, Era of Transition: Toward a 21st Century Poetics (University of Michigan Press, 2017), and the book of stories Men without Bliss (University of Oklahoma Press, 2008).Read more about González (and more poems by him) here. Read this essay on González by Darrel Alejandro Holness here. Read this essay penned by González on writing memoir.Watch this short, fabulous interview with Rigoberto González here (~20 min). And watch González read his poem "A Note on Resentment" (~2 min).Poems we read include:"What Smells Dead""Casa""Thinking Stones""Carnivore"
One of the most dangerous things we can do is hide our vulnerabilities instead of bringing them into the light. Sometimes the patterns we defend are the very patterns God is trying to expose. Anger. Pride. Fear. Resentment. Justification. We can become so accustomed to unhealthy behavior that we don't even recognize it anymore—especially when it was part of the environment we grew up in. The real question isn't, “Am I better than I used to be?” It's: “Am I representing Christ in the way I respond today?” Don't let pride, fear, or the desire to appear strong keep you from confronting what's happening inside your heart. Pray for God to open your eyes. Ask Him to expose the agreements, wounds, and patterns that you've normalized. Then have the courage to surrender them. True strength isn't pretending you have no weaknesses. It's allowing Christ to transform them. “Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts.” — Psalm 139:23 Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God. To see more, be sure to subscribe to the podcast at
Are you consuming endless podcasts, books, and sermons but finding your life stuck in the exact same spot? In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down the critical difference between being a roaring river and a stagnant swamp. Most men don't have an information problem—they have a direction problem. Unapplied knowledge turns into a shallow, rotting pond that breeds resentment, irritability, and inaction. Discover how to establish rigid boundaries ("banks") in your life, implement the 48-Hour Rule for immediate execution, cap your inputs, and surround yourself with real accountability so your knowledge actually flows into meaningful strength. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 The Analogy of Two Waters 01:30 Why a River Needs Banks to Have Power 02:26 You Don't Have an Information Problem 04:55 What Boundaries and Banks Actually Do 06:05 The Danger of Stagnant Knowledge 08:00 How Unused Insight Rotates into Resentment 09:45 Action Rule 1: The 48-Hour Rule 11:30 Action Rule 2: Single-Point Accountability 12:50 Action Rule 3: Cap Inputs, Raise Outputs 16:00 Feeding Everything Downstream Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
Few things feel as uncomfortable as realizing someone harbors resentment toward you. Whether it is a partner, a family member, or a close friend, walking on eggshells around someone else's bitterness is emotionally exhausting. Today we are diving into how to handle this dynamic without losing your cool or getting defensive. It's important to understand why people hold onto resentment, how to listen without taking on blame that isn't yours, where to draw the line on disrespect, and why you ultimately have to accept that you cannot force someone else to let go. Thanks for listening! Find us on YouTube Channel: www.YouTube.com/StephanieLynCoaching
"Resentments are the number one offender." In this episode, Chip and Veronica discuss the nature of resentments, how they are like drinking poison and wanting the other person to die. How they seduce us into staying stuck and block us from growing. They confess their own resentments and the methods they use to get free of them. To learn more, visit the show notes.
Stepparent burnout doesn't start in a dramatic moment. It develops quietly as a stepparent keeps giving, serving, adjusting, but ends up with this increasing feeling of being invisible, rejected, or alone.A stepparent may believe that loving their family means doing more. But when healthy investment turns into over-functioning, the result is often resentment or emotional withdrawal. Then burnout can set in.In this episode, we help stepparents recognize the warning signs of burnout and invite biological parents to listen with curiosity (not defensiveness). The goal is simply to understand the difficult dynamics that tend to create pressure on a stepparent and consider a more sustainable family structure.We'll walk you through four practical steps that can help. And we'll explore the difference between healthy disengagement and emotional abandonment.Stepparent burnout doesn't mean you're failing. It may simply mean your current strategies aren't working. With honest communication, realistic expectations, healthy limits, and stronger teamwork, couples can reduce resentment and build a home where everyone has room to breathe.You'll DiscoverThe often-overlooked warning signs of stepparent burnoutWhy feeling like an outsider can cause a stepparent to over-functionHow to distinguish healthy investment from self-erasureFour practical steps for reducing resentment and rebalancing family rolesWhat healthy disengagement looks like without withdrawing from the familyResources from this Episode:Episode 235. Stepparenting Takes Two: How to Build Connection and Avoid Common Wrong TurnsEpisode 204. 4 Facets of Stepparenting: Defining Appropriate Roles and ResponsibilitiesEpisode 230. Everyday Decisions, Big Tension: The Hurtful Patterns That Create Blended Family DivisionEpisode 157. 3 Seasoned Stepmoms Share How They've Survived and Thrived in Their Blended Family JourneyEpisode 236. Does it Ever Get Easier? How to Stay Hopeful by Playing the Long Game [with Gayla Grace]Episode 203. How to Make Better Decisions and Solve Problems as a United TeamReady for some extra support?We all need some extra support along the blending journey. You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home. Schedule your free call here: https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionSubscribe or Follow the Show Click here to subscribe on YouTubeClick here to follow on Apple PodcastsClick here to follow on SpotifyLeave a Review in Apple PodcastsIf you're feeling extra helpful, we would be so grateful if you left us a review over on Apple Podcasts too. Your review will help others find our podcast — plus they're fun for us to read too! :-) Just click here to Review, select “Ratings and Reviews” and then select “Write a Review” — let us know what your favorite part of the podcast is. Thank you, we really appreciate your feedback!Click Here to join us on YouTube and be sure to subscribe!
Philosopher Stefan Molyneux takes on the claim that there is no such thing as truth and shows how that idea falls apart under its own weight. He answers listener questions on natural selection, envy of talent, marriage as a bond for children, human nature outside of force, just war and free speech under surveillance.Questions:Why do humans hate Natural Selection?It is clearly the most obvious structure of the designer...Treating the institution of marriage as a sort of clown car with way too many, no longer strictly related to the idea, underlying concepts crammed in, how would you strip it down to its bare minimum?Listened to your Sunday morning chat. You stated most people are not virtuous, vapid and essentially non thinking individualistically. I'm a believer in Anarchism, and agree with you most people are this way, but wouldn't this make anarchy not likely? I'm starting to think most people want to be slaves.Is there any validity to the concept of a "just war"? What are the requirements?I wonder how right was Kaczynski, how likely that with advances in tech society will still be free?E.g. with all cameras, AI, social engineering, and such stuff.Secular reasons not to cheat on your wife/ husband.Would love to hear your thoughts on fear.The truth about Charlie KirkWhat is the distinction between UPB and Habermas and Apels performative contradiction argument?JOIN ME IN NASHVILLE SEPTEMBER 12! https://wordwardebate.com/Use code STEFAN for 10% off!GET FREEDOMAIN MERCH! https://shop.freedomain.com/SUBSCRIBE TO ME ON X! https://x.com/StefanMolyneuxFollow me on Youtube! https://www.youtube.com/@freedomain1GET MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING', THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI, AND THE FULL AUDIOBOOK!https://peacefulparenting.com/Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!Subscribers get 12 HOURS on the "Truth About the French Revolution," multiple interactive multi-lingual philosophy AIs trained on thousands of hours of my material - as well as AIs for Real-Time Relationships, Bitcoin, Peaceful Parenting, and Call-In Shows!You also receive private livestreams, HUNDREDS of exclusive premium shows, early release podcasts, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!See you soon!https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/FREEDOMAIN2026
What does a nervous man on a first date in a crowded restaurant have to do with the darkest impulses a human being can harbor? In this lecture, Jordan Peterson takes a scene so ordinary you have lived it a dozen times and slows it down until something unsettling appears underneath. Every glance across that table, he argues, is already serving a hidden aim, and the direction of that aim quietly decides whether the person sitting across from you is a partner to love or a tool to use. From the biology of why we pair bond, through the four dark traits that psychologists spent fifty years mapping, to the story of two brothers and a sacrifice gone wrong, Peterson traces how ordinary desire curdles into something monstrous, and how the same attention, aimed differently, becomes the foundation of trust, marriage, and everything worth building. What begins as dating advice ends somewhere you will not expect, with a burning sword, a fleeing prophet, and a question you answer without meaning to every time you look at another person. This lecture was filmed on March 24th, 2024, in Phoenix, Arizona. Unlock the ad-free experience of The Jordan B. Peterson Podcast and dive into exclusive bonus content on DailyWire+. Start watching now: http://dwpluspeterson.com/yt ALL LINKS: https://feedlink.io/jordanbpeterson // LINKS // Peterson Academy https://petersonacademy.com Books - https://www.jordanbpeterson.com/books/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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