Complex, multilayered emotion aka bitterness
This is our most requested episode topic yet! Join me and my husband, James, this week as we share about keeping intimacy alive while caring for a newborn. No easy feat! But we have learned so much about how to balance both and this journey has deepened our love for each other. In this episode, we'll share our perspectives on what it's like trying to care for one another and a baby when you're running on empty, how to still fill up each other's cups while avoiding resentment (as much as possible), and the excitement around rediscovering your intimacy as a couple in a new phase of life. At the end of this episode, we leave you with two powerful questions that can transform your intimacy - for life. May this episode support you in the wild journey of raising babies while caring for a marriage! Key Topics: When filling up your own cup is replaced by a newborn [1:57] Where men need to create intimacy that's replenishing to the mother in the newborn stage [5:03] Resentment is smoke on the fire of a desire or need for more support [7:19] Cultivating space around baby to allow for deeper intimacy with each other [11:15] Rekindling intimacy and excitement in “the new you” as co-parents [14:09] Most relationships die waiting for spontaneity [17:45] How can you love your partner differently every single day? [22:00] —- If you're curious about my offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts!
The theme of this episode is adapted from Brene Brown's book, "Atlas of the Heart". Each chapter focuses on a group of emotions that are common places we go to when we feel _____. (that represented a blank) The chapter on jealousy, envy and resentment is from chapter 2, Places We Go When We Compare. She so exquisitely dives into this group of emotions head on and without consideration for our readiness! Ouch! She is lively and easy to attend to which opened up our platform to discuss the same. In our frank conversation, we address some motivations behind what we are truly feeling towards a partner or colleague that really did nothing spiteful to us but maybe they are living their best life and we are no where close to that zip code. Hope you find the "achy" parts of this conversation not so painful by the end of the show! Enjoy! Resources: https://brenebrown.com/book/atlas-of-the-heart/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/intense-emotions-and-strong-feelings/201102/what-can-jealousy-teach-you https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/science-made-practical/202012/the-power-positive-envy If you want to work with us, visit our website: www.thewholephysician.com. We have private coaching and CME courses available. We are also available to lecture for your institution as a part of their wellness program. Sign up for our Weekly Well Check by clicking the link. The Weekly Well Check is your weekly dose of encouragement and your only access to secret insider sales on our products. If you'd like something you can use today, download our free Top 10 Mindset Hacks for Doctors here. For a free quote on Own-Occupation Insurance, you're welcome to use our affiliate link: patternlife.com/drivetime
Is your blend like a fraction broken out this way? 92% bio-mom calling the shots and 8% bio-dad preventing an all-out war? How do you protect your kids when co-parenting is toxic, hostile, narcissistic, or otherwise threatening? We start with the basics - defining co-parenting and parallel parenting. In our FB community this is a BIG topic. Let's talk about stepfamily parenting here and virtually. A small group of innovative women creating Stepmama Strategies that work!Use your voice! Be heard! Apply for Stepmama Think Tank!https://www.stepfamilypodcast.com/think
When we talk about feelings, who wants to feel resentment? NOT ME! And yet, it's a feeling state that comes up for me in my life and instead of feeling shame that I feel it, I'm talking about it and how I've discovered a tactic to move out of it. Listen in and then make sure you've subscribed because this is a two-part series: next week I keep the fun parade going with a convo about how resentment shows up in our M&Ms: marriage and motherhood! Thanks for being on this journey with me warriors! I love being able to bring you tools like the one I speak of today as I consider resentment a problem causing feeling, versus a problem solving feeling. Not something I want my warriors to feel frequently. LET'S GO! ⭐️Want to support me in the New Year? I'd be super grateful! For the price of a coffee, Support Susie and the Love Your Life Show: https://patreon.com/susiepettit ⭐️Join the greatest community for women over 40 here: https://www.smbwell.com/membership ⭐️Do you get my weekly Wednesday email? Come join the fun! http://bit.ly/2gYQMlA ⭐️Grab some of my favorite products here: https://www.amazon.com/shop/smbwell ⭐️Are we friends on Instagram? Let's catch up! https://www.instagram.com/smb.wellness ⭐️Show Notes Here: https://www.smbwell.com/233 ⭐️Have a preteen? Learn the basics to support your changing child here: https://smbwell.com/parenting ⭐️Want a life coach? I'd be honored to be yours! https://smb.as.me The post Resentment and Shame appeared first on Susie Pettit.
This week our topic is Letting Go and today's Meeting of the Minds we are discussing the skill of forgiveness. To forgive is a process that begins with the understanding of the Ego and its Resentment and Regret programs. Forgiveness becomes a Skill that allows you to release the Ego's tether to your past. Once severed you become free and shift to another level of life. ________________________________________________________ Join The Stress Mastery Community today for FREE! Click here to register HERE! Love the show? Tweet me a shoutout at: @Billcortright Want to sponsor episodes of The Stress Mastery Podcast? Email Bill at : Bill@livingrightwithbillcortright.com Mentioned in this show: Join the private Facebook Group: The Stress Mastery Podcast Subscription/SocialLinks: Subscribe on iTunes Subscribe to the The Stress Mastery Mailing List Watch on Youtube www.livingrightwithbillcortright.com Instagram: @livingrightwithbillcortright Facebook at Bill Cortright STAY INSPIRED!
Did you know that you could be too close to your parents or your children? In today's episode, Laura will unpack the issue of enmeshment, why it is troublesome and even traumatic, what it might look like in adulthood and steps you can take to start the healing process. New episodes drop every Wednesday, so be sure to subscribe so you never miss one!
This week on "I've Been Meaning To Listen To That", Andrew & Michael review JOLENE by Dolly Parton with special guests Lisa Gilroy & Ashleigh Hairston! Plus Andrew, Michael, Lisa & Ashleigh discuss Dolly's heartache after her professional breakup with Porter Wagoner, compare and contrast her career trajectory with Paddington Bear, and discover that "I Will Always Love You" is actually about Ashleigh's love of French fries! Michael's Pick: I Feel For You by Chaka Khan Andrew's Pick: High Road & Resentment by Kesha Lisa's Pick: Kiss it Better by Doja Cat and SZA Ashleigh's Pick: CROWN by CHIKA Follow Lisa Gilroy on Twitter (@TheLisaGilroy) & Instagram (@thelisagilroy) Follow Ashleigh Hairston on Twitter (@shleighcrystal) & Instagram (@ashleighcrystal) Follow Andrew Ambrose Lee on Instagram (@aundrewalee) Follow Michael Limentato on Twitter (@limentaco) & Instagram (@limentaco) Follow Sean Wilkinson on Instagram (@diabetictwink) Follow Stefanie Senior on Instagram (@stefmsenior) & Twitter (@stefmsenior) Cover Art by Olivia Jensen (Twitter: @oliviaaj22, Instagram: @oliviajensen_art) Theme Song by OTNES (Twitter: @mxotnes Instagram: @mxotnes) Follow us at (@ibmtltt) on Tiktok & Instagram, and email us at email@example.com Have a good daaay! --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/ibmtltt/message
We all know that we don't love feeling jealous, but do we know the difference between jealous and envy? When we feel them, where do we go from there? What about when we feel resentful of someone? Where does this emotion come from and who is responsible for it? In this episode, we deep dive into these emotions using Brene Brown's work as a guideline. Resentment is in the envy family, along with a host of other unpleasant emotions. We give some ideas on how to process these difficult feelings. Time Stamps 10:54 - Our language shapes our world, 13:20 - Comparison isn't inherently bad, it's a natural part of being human 18:00 - Stay in your lane and your journey 19:54 - Humans are happier if they are forced to commit to a decision 26:15 - Feeling content with fashion 32:30 - Definition of Jealousy vs. Envy 34:09 - Malicious envy vs. just plain envy 38:45 - Resentment is a part of the envy family 42:00 - What do I need that I'm afraid to ask for? 43:00 - Schadenfreude & Freudenfreude 45:20 - Cultivating flame-keepers 50:32 - “Rejoice in the success of others” 52:30 - Develop Freudenfreude using “Shoy” and “Bragitude” 54:52 - Social media can be a detriment for our ability feel freudenfreude Related episodes: How to Process Jealousy and Resist the Gaping Pit of Comparison Comparison vs. Contentment Books and links we mentioned: Atlas of the Heart // Brené Brown Decide Already by Hidden Brain Sponsor: GABB WIRELESS We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device! Thank you for the kind reviews! We appreciate them so much. Here is how to leave a review for us on iTunes: Open Find the Magic in the podcast app Scroll to the bottom of the page Click on write a review Tap the stars to rate us and then write us some feedback:) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/findthemagic/support
Michael Kohan Elevate Life Project: Mindfulness | Spirituality | Success | Personal Growth Podcast: Why Having Difficult Conversations Is Worth It What's your true purpose? Free Quiz by visiting https://elevatelifeproject.com/purpose If you liked this Podcast, please subscribe in Itunes and write us a review. This is what helps us stand out, so more people can find this show. To Write us a Review please open up this Podcast in the Itunes Store on your computer and search for Living Life on Purpose https://elevatelifeproject.com/podcast Show Notes Why Having Difficult Conversations Is Worth It Go on any forum right now. Ask people which sentences they least like to hear in conversation. You will probably find famous among the first ten examples, “We need to talk.” Whether you hear this sentence at home or in the office, it never fails to give you a knot in your stomach. You hate that sentence. It shows that a problem needs your attention as soon as possible. You are going to have a difficult conversation. We fear difficult conversations for various reasons because they are uncomfortable and hurt feelings. They may escalate into arguments. As a result, we hope it will disappear if we avoid the subject altogether. But whether in personal life or business, these conversations are unavoidable. Here are some reasons you should embrace having difficult conversations: The problem never goes away, no matter how long you ignore it. Suppose you decide to ignore an infected wound on your arm. You can cover it up with a huge band-aid or hide it under clothing. Will that make it go away? No, you will still have a giant wound on your arm. Eventually, you'll deal with it. Having difficult conversations is similar. It makes you anxious and uncomfortable, but the problem does not go away when you ignore it. It goes away when you deal with it. You get to understand the other person's point of view. We believe that whatever side we are on in a disagreement is right. Willingness to have a challenging conversation shows that you can open your mind to a different viewpoint than you may be used to. You approach the conversation with the right attitude and listen to and validate the person you talk to. You come out of the encounter knowing more than you did when you went in. It helps you expand your worldview or make necessary improvements. You accept responsibility for your part in causing the problem. No problem is one-sided. When you are open to difficult conversations, you accept that you played a part in causing the issue. The person you have the conversation with, your spouse or boss, or whoever can sense your humility and is more likely to be open and honest and accept responsibility for their part in the matter. Therefore, solutions appear faster. You get better at having those conversations. Difficult conversations are unavoidable. If you avoid one at home, you will meet one in the workplace. And you can't run away all the time. The more difficult conversations you have, the better you get at having them. Learn how to approach hard conversations. Learn how to diffuse tense situations. Your communication skills will improve. You will also be able to put yourself and the person you're talking to at ease. It makes us have better relationships. No human relationship is full of laughs all the time, unless, of course, you're running a comedy club. Always find the best way to put things out there hurting no one's feelings. When you do that successfully in personal relationships, you build stronger bonds. Even in complex and awkward situations, you learn to be yourself around your friends and partners. Resentment festers when problems are in the dark. So talk things out. Dropping hints on its own is ineffective. You have more of an opportunity to solve a problem when you understand it. Difficult conversations make that possible. If you're hesitating to have a difficult conversation, don't allow fear to hold you back. Once you learn to make the most of difficult conversations, you'll wonder what you were so afraid of. Maintain your composure and talk. It may go your way, or it may not. In the end, though, the result will be worth the trouble.
Brenda Reiss, The world's leading forgiveness coach, and I have a powerful conversation about letting go of resentments in your relationships. In this episode, we covered: 1. Why is it hard to release resentments? 2. Can some people be addicted to anger and resentment? 3. What happens to ourselves and our relationships when we don't let go of resentment? 4. What are the steps to letting go of resentment? 5. When should we NOT be focused on forgiveness? Watch this podcast in video format: HERE Connect with Brenda: https://brendareisscoaching.com/ Freedom Through Forgiveness: 8 Week Forgiveness and Self-Acceptance Online course -Save $50 on the full pay or the 2-pay option usign these discount codes: Save50 Save50-2P Connect with me: Dr. Zoe Shaw on Instagram Dr. Zoe Shaw on Facebook
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Comedian David McSavage joins Tony to chat all about his career. From creating legendary Irish comedy show, The Savage Eye to working with his family on his new podcast venture, "And That's Why We're Not Together". David and Tony also delve into each others different experiences with recovering from alcoholism and using it in their work.
In this episode we will delve into the complex and often tumultuous history of the Italian unification movement. In this episode, we will be discussing the role of the Papacy as reactionaries during the Risorgimento and its impact on the movement. We will also delve into the phenomenon of Brigandage, a form of organized crime that plagued Italy during this time, and the massive emigration from Italy due to extreme poverty and conflict between regions, classes, and cultures. The Papacy, under Pope Pius IX, was a significant obstacle to the Risorgimento movement. The Pope and the Catholic Church were deeply conservative and opposed to the liberal and nationalist ideals of the Risorgimento. They saw it as a threat to their power and influence in Italian society. This resistance led to a series of conflicts between the Papacy and the Italian government, including the Capture of Rome in 1870, which marked the end of the Papal States and the beginning of the unification of Italy. The poverty and conflict during the Risorgimento also led to a massive emigration from Italy. Millions of Italians left the country in search of better opportunities abroad, particularly in the United States. This emigration had a significant impact on the country, both socially and economically, and is still felt to this day. #Risorgimento #ItalianUnification #Papacy #Brigandage #Emigration #Poverty #Conflict #Regions #Classes #Cultures Today's Guest: Joseph Pascone, Host of Turning Tides Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/turning-tides/id1653316649 You can learn more about the History of Papacy and subscribe at all these great places: http://atozhistorypage.com/ https://www.historyofthepapacypodcast.com email: firstname.lastname@example.org https://www.patreon.com/historyofthepapacy parthenonpodcast.com https://www.gettr.com/user/atozhistory Beyond the Big Screen: Beyondthebigscreen.com The History of the Papacy on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6DO2leym3kizBHW0ZWl-nA Get Your History of the Papacy Podcast Products Here: https://www.atozhistorypage.com/products Help out the show by ordering these books from Amazon! https://smile.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/1MUPNYEU65NTF Music Provided by: "Sonatina in C Minor" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) "Funeral March for Brass" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) "String Impromptu Number 1" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) "Intended Force" Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Agnus Dei X - Bitter Suite Kevin MacLeaod (incomptech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 Licensehttp://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/ Begin Transcript:
Get ready for a podcast episode that feels more like a much-needed therapy appointment, because Dr. Nicole LePera, aka the widely beloved Holistic Psychologist, is back! And it's another brilliant conversation where she and Jessica go into all things psychology, emotional regulation, and empowerment. If you're navigating difficult family dynamics, neurodivergence, hypervigilance, or resentment, this is the episode for you. We go into all the unmet childhood needs we can now fulfill in adulthood to get a deep, true healing. And you'll definitely want to catch Dr. LePera's top tips on how to create real, lasting change in your life. If you're ready to get back on track, pop in your headphones, and settle in. This is a good one!Find the Complete Show Notes Here -> https://tobemagnetic.com/expanded-podcast In This Episode We Talk About:A brilliant conversation with return guest Dr. Nicole LePera!All things empowerment, psychology and emotional regulationChildhood needs that we can now meet in adulthoodThe importance of labeling emotions and compassionate observance of selfTips and tools for navigating projection, resentment and angerNew habits - do's and don'ts for creating lasting changeHow Dr. LePera defines the authentic selfNeurodivergence and hypervigilance!Not putting your self-worth in the hands of othersBoundaries, balance, grounded calmHow to navigate difficult family dynamics and patterns THEMES / TIME STAMPS:The importance of labeling your emotions (00:11:22)Tips on navigating projection, resentment, anger (00:18:21)How Dr. LePera defines the authentic self! (00:56:52) Resources:Text Us: +1-213-423-5226 - (texting is only for US, Canada, & Puerto Rico)Alexis Smart x TBM EXPANDED Flower RemedyTBM Manifestation JournalLooking To Start Your Pathway Manifestation Membership? - Use code EXPANDED for $20 off your first month of The Pathway or $20 off any a la carte workshop. It's Not Too Late To Join the Manifestation Challenge — Manifest the life you desire in 2023Share your experience with the Manifestation Challenge! In The Episode:Bon Charge - 15% off with code MAGNETICIce RollerRed Light MiniExpanded Ep 72 x Andy Mant of Bon ChargeExpanded Ep. 36 x Andy Mant Bon ChargeWhere To Find Dr. Nicole LePera!IG: @the.holistic.psychologistNew Book How To Meet Yourself - Dr. Nicole LePera (book)Dr. Nicole LePera WebsiteSelf-Healers CircleSelf-Healers Soundboard (podcast)How To Do The Work - Dr. Nicole LePera (book)SubmitSubmit to Be a Process Guest
MINDFULLY TENDING TO ANGER & RESENTMENT Welcome back. I am so happy to have you here with me today to talk about mindfully tending to feelings of anger and resentment. Sometimes when we have relentless anxiety and intrusive thoughts, anger can feel like the only emotion we can access. For those of you who don't know me, well, you might be surprised to hear maybe not to know that I actually have quite a hot temper. I get hot really quick emotionally, and I don't know if it's because as a child I didn't really allow myself to feel anger. I think societally, I was told I shouldn't be angry. And so, when it comes up inside me, it heats up really quick to a boiling point. And my goal for this year is not—let me be very clear—is not to say I am going to stop being angry because that is actually the problem. It is not to say I can't feel angry and I shouldn't feel angry. It's actually to tend to my anger and start to listen to what anger is trying to communicate to me. My goal with you today is to walk you through how you can do that. And I'd love if you would stay with me for a short meditation where we mindfully tend to anger and resentment. IS ANGER & RESENTMENT HEALTHY? I think the first thing I want to mention here is that anger and resentment are actually really normal healthy emotions. Nothing to be guilty of, ashamed of, annoyed by, nothing to judge, that the anger and resentment are actually healthy emotions. They come from a place of wishing things could be better or improved, and they usually show up when we experience some kind of injustice in the world or in our daily life. Maybe someone hurt your feelings or they acted in a way that made you feel unsafe. Maybe someone stopped you from succeeding. Maybe somebody judged you and you experienced that as a threat. WHY DO I FEEL SO ANGRY? Anger can show up for many reasons. Maybe it's because you're noticing the injustices in the world and that makes you angry. That political things can really make people show up in anger. And again, that doesn't mean there's anything wrong, but expressing it in a healthy way can be really useful because bottling it up, it usually numbs other feelings, it can wear down your mental health, and it can mean—and I have learnt this the hard way—is that we then explode and end up saying things we don't mean, or doing things we don't want to do that don't align up with our values or showing up the way that we want. And for me, that's a big part of my goal this year. Now, the reason I actually am doing this, this is not a scheduled podcast, is yesterday my husband and I were having a disagreement. And sometimes I have to remind myself like, disagreements aren't a problem. Because in my mind, disagreement is like, “Oh my gosh, terrible things are about to happen and I'm very scared. Please love me forever.” You know what I mean? And my husband has to keep gently saying like it's okay that we don't agree on everything. We were having a disagreement and I could feel the anger showing up in my body. And I was trying to really focus on just being mindful of that experience, because when I don't do that, my immediate response is, “Fight. Let's go to war. Let me show you how you are wrong. Let me be very clear in my boundary that you cannot cross,” which is all fine. Again, none of that's wrong, but I could feel myself heating to a boiling point in a very, very short amount of time. I've been really trying to instead of acting on anger in certain situations-- again, there's nothing wrong if you need to act on anger. WHEN IS ANGER APPROPRIATE? Sometimes if you're in a dangerous position, you need to act on anger. But I'm really working on allowing anger, befriending and tending to anger. Anger can be our friend. Like, what's the problem? Let's actually have it, Kimberley. Let's actually feel it. Let's actually feel it go through my body. Let's allow it to burn itself off. And let's do that, not because we got to make our point and make sure they know we're right, but because you actually felt it. You allowed it, you rode the wave of it, it burnt off. And it always burns off. That's the thing. That's mindfulness—to recognize that everything is temporary. If you say-- I'm talking to myself here. If you say what you say when you're angry, you mightn't have said it in a way that is effective as if you had said that thing a few moments later when you've let a little bit of that anger burn off. Again, I'm not saying here that there's anything wrong with just saying what you need to say, but for me personally, I'm really trying this year. One of my biggest goals is respect through my words. Respect through my words. Really pausing and being really intentional with my words. And I know that when I'm angry, that is absolutely not happening. So, we know that expressing anger is fine. We know that bottling it in is usually problematic. Pretending you're not mad is also inauthentic. Sometimes my husband's like, “You're so clearly mad.” And I'm like, “No, I'm not.” And he's like, “Yeah, it's all over your face, my friend.” People can sense it. And then they're questioning like, “Why isn't she being honest with me?” WHY DOES ANGER FEEL DANGEROUS? But I want to acknowledge that anger can feel like an emotional rollercoaster. It does stress out the body. Anger can feel very dangerous sometimes. It can feel very scary to some people, particularly if you have anxiety about it. Some people are really afraid of what they'll do if they get angry and so they avoid anger and they avoid confrontation and they avoid setting boundaries in fear that anger will come up. Now, there are a few ways you can bring mindfulness to anger, and that is, first, to recognize it, to observe it. Another way you can diffuse anger is to use your body. This is a big one for me because when I'm angry, I have so much adrenaline pumping through my body, which is a healthy response. We need that. Like if there was a burglar at my door, anger would show up and my brain would send out adrenaline and that would allow me to either fight or run away or wrestle him or whatever it may be. So, I feel a lot of that adrenaline in my body and it does take time to burn off. And so, sometimes moving my body can be really helpful—stretching, taking a walk, taking some breaths, which we're going to do today. Some people want to journal, chat with a friend. That irritation and frustration that we feel in our body, it's okay to move your body and tend to it in that way. The last thing I would add is often when we are angry or if we haven't been mindful in the emotion and sensations and experiences that lead up to anger, we can actually notice that our thoughts are very distorted. Here is an example. My husband and I are having a disagreement about a very normal thing. It was a very pretty non-issue issue. But in my mind I could. Once I was really being mindful, I could notice thoughts like, we should agree, we're going to always fight if we don't agree. It's like, okay, that doesn't have to be the case. I was also having thoughts like if he doesn't agree, well then, I won't get my way and then I'll be held down. I'm having this very catastrophic thought—I'll be held down and ruled by my husband. It's like, well, that's not true either. He's never going to do that. I'm noticing all these thoughts. If he disagrees with me, that means he's judging me and thinking I'm bad. Can we actually look at that distortion as well? Because maybe that's me mind reading. I'm just giving you some examples. I'm not saying these are all ways happening, but these are some examples. Sometimes we have thoughts like, no, you should not think that way. You need to think my way. My way is the only way. PS, I do that a lot sometimes. I'm just telling you the truth here. But again, that doesn't mean we have to act on those thoughts. If we can just acknowledge them and be like, “Okay, let's be in choir.” Is that in fact true? Do we all have to agree? How wonderful is it that my husband and I don't agree on some things because he has actually taught me how to change the way I think about some things that have benefited me. It just took a lot of stubbornness on my part to be flexible enough to see his side of the story. And so, if we can observe the distortions of our thinking, sometimes that can be really helpful. But let's also reserve some space here for the situations where you don't have any distortions and the person is being very unkind and they are hurting you. That's different. Then, what we can do is we can use that anger as information so that we know what we need to do to protect ourselves. Sometimes it's setting a boundary. “You can't speak to me like that.” Sometimes it's saying, “You can't come into my house and do these things to me.” Sometimes it's saying, “I'm going to not follow you on Instagram if it makes me angry.” Or if you're seeing a bunch of things that's not helpful to your mental health and is making you compare and get angry, maybe you might want to not follow that person anymore. And so, anger, again, if you can see it for what it is, is an opportunity to listen to what is going on and be mindful and just acknowledge, and then if need be, make some changes gently that line up with your values. And so, that's really important for us to recognize. IS ANGER MASKING ANOTHER EMOTION? Now there's one-- again, I keep saying that. There's one other thing I want you to think about, which is, sometimes underneath anger is another emotion—fear, shame, guilt. For me, I actually realized about a month ago, and I'll just share this with you, sorry, is I was noticing a lot of resentment showing up, particularly—if I'm being completely honest with you all, which I always want to be—a lot of resentment around the fact that I live in America. And I was noticing it showing up and going, “This is really weird. Why is resentment showing up? I chose to live here. I knew that was my choice, but a lot of resentment was showing up.” And through talking with a dear friend underneath this anger and resentment, and I felt myself having a tantrum over it, I realized I was deeply grieving and missing my family. Usually, I just feel miss like I'm missing them and I feel sad, but the anger and resentment was masking me from it. And when I acknowledged that, I realized I'm staying in anger because the sadness was “too painful.” In my mind, it felt unbearable. And so, my brain presented to me an opportunity to stay in resentment and anger and really cycle and ruminate on that instead of dropping down into the sadness that I felt. So, again, anger is complex but also quite simple if we talk about it, like two opposing things at the same time. But what I want to offer to you is, all of these feelings are completely normal. If we can just simply acknowledge them with a sense of kindness, if we can stay with the sensation, if we can stay in compassion for ourselves, we can actually write out these emotions and they can be, what I say to myself, it's not a problem. That's my new thing. I keep saying to myself like, “Oh, I'm noticing anger. That's not a problem. It's totally okay for you to feel this, Kimberley.” “Oh, I'm noticing anxiety. That's totally not a problem, Kimberley. Let's stay with it. Let's feel it.” ANGER AND RESENTMENT MEDITATION And so, let's begin with a short meditation to where you may practice that. Now, if you're driving, number one, please do not close your eyes. Number two, if you're feeling an urge to turn off this podcast now and be like, “I got what I needed,” please just listen. You don't even have to practice. I just want you to listen to what I'm saying and see if anything lands. Here we go. We're going to mindfully tend to feelings of anger and resentment. Bring your awareness to whatever is going on for you right now... and allow your body to rest as you feel the pool of gravity down on the chair or the bed or whatever it is that you're resting on. And as you are aware of your weight sinking down to that point of contact between you and the floor, the chair, or the bed, I want you to notice what sensations are you noticing right now. Where does anger show up for you? Where does resentment show up for you? Are they the same or are they different? And just take some time to notice any resistance towards noticing anger and resentment. And if you notice any tension or resistance, gently turn towards them. Maybe you offer a gentle hello to them. Good morning. Good evening. And as you notice them rise and fall in your body, offer some acceptance as best as you can that they're there. If you notice that you're tensing up around them with each outbreath, see if you can let go or release any tension in your muscles or in your mind. Again, not trying to get rid of them, but also not holding on to them. Soften your body as best as you can, bringing acceptance to those sensations. Continuing to breathe in no particular fashion at all, except whatever feels easy for you. Notice any thoughts as they arise and they pass through your mind. Notice if there's any thoughts of blame or shame or guilt or aggression. And notice them for what they are, which is emotions, sensations. See if you can let them come and go, rise and fall without over-identifying with the content of those thoughts, without engaging with the content. Just note them. “Oh, I'm noticing blame. I'm noticing the urge to punish that person. I'm noticing the urge to create justice. I'm noticing the experience or urge to neutralize the pain they've caused me by punishing them.” And see if you can just notice them, maybe as clouds in the sky just floating by. No need to rip them out of the sky. Just notice them. And as you notice they're floating by, can you let go of them? Can you let go of needing to control them or make them go away? And we want to do this kindly and gently. Sometimes it's helpful to gently bring the sides of your mouth up and gently smile. Not to make the feelings again go away, but to let your brain know that you're here, that you're not going to judge it for what it's experiencing, and that you've got your back here. And now, allow your awareness to broaden and gather the whole experience of breathing into your body with ease. As you breathe in, knowing that you're breathing in, and breathing out, knowing that you're breathing out. Can you feel an awareness that flows through you as you breathe? And can your breath be an anchor in this present moment? Noticing each breath as you inhale and exhale. Noticing any judgment you have for yourself as you have these sensations, any self-criticism. Again, just note them, acknowledge them. Try to remind yourself that anger is a normal and healthy emotion. You may also want to congratulate yourself for tending to your anger in this moment, instead of internalizing it or displacing it onto other people. And every time you notice your mind has wandered, gently bring your mind back to the breath or the awareness of these sensations in your body. Now again, expand your awareness back to feeling gravity pull you down as it sits and stands or lies. If there's anything left behind here, some pain, some discomfort, let's set the intention to keep this practice going where we're going to be non-judgmental and compassionate towards this experience. We're going to cultivate acceptance and acknowledgment of this and your entire experience. Gently allow the breath to bring you back to the present. I want to thank you for having the courage to do this exercise with me. The more you offer this practice to your mind, the more the mind will start to see anger again as nothing but an emotion that is knowledge and information for us to make decisions about how we want to move forward. It's a healthy action towards decision-making, boundary-setting, self-compassion, acceptance. And you're doing this for the benefit of yourself and for the benefit of others. Slowly come back. Open your eyes. Notice what's around you. And I'm going to offer to you to keep going into the day with this practice. Okay. Thank you for practicing with me today. I wish you nothing but a beautiful day of joy and kindness and warmth and love. Please also remember, it is a beautiful day to do hard things. I will look forward to seeing you next week. Thank you for spending your very valuable time with me today. I hope this was helpful.
Today, we are answering your questions! We talk through: Acid Reflux Explanation and Supports Gallbladder Removal Support What's the deal with Red Light Therapy? Fat Loss & How to Support This Respectfully Feeling Stuck How to Let Go of Anger and Resentment Just a reminder, Body Basics is launching soon! Body Basics is exactly how it sounds, the foundations of your physical body and nervous system that we teach to every client. It is everything we come back to time and time again when supporting ourselves and others. You'll find a waitlist link in the show notes to get access to the lowest price this course will ever be. Body Basics Course Waitlist Connect with your hosts: Kiara's Instagram Kiara's email newsletter Gaby's Instagram Gaby's email newsletter
Did you know the true definition of spiritual abuse? In this episode, Laura will unpack what spiritual abuse actually is, the types of spiritual abuse, and a few ways to challenge yourself to begin the process of healing. New episodes drop every Wednesday, so be sure to subscribe so you never miss one!
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Resentment is something everyone feels from time to time throughout the life of their marriage. While resentment is common in marriage, it doesn't have to tear your marriage apart so that you two are eternally miserable in a co-parenting roommate dynamic or send you straight down the road to divorce. What if you started seeing resentment as a valuable clue to how you can make your marriage better? So that you can feel closer and more satisfied in it? In this episode of The Marriage & Motherhood Podcast, I share: - The differences between how a healthy couple handles resentment and how an unhappy one does - What resentment is rooted in - The impact resentment has on your relationship when left undealt with or when you don't have the proper tools to deal with it - What's going on behind the scenes when we act from our resentment Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, share it with someone you know would benefit from listening to this too! Interested in receiving support with getting your marriage back on track? Book a complimentary clarity call here to learn what coaching can do for you and your marriage!
Do you remember ever feeling frustration, anger, or bitterness toward someone? Do you remember thinking that the situation was unfair or not right? That emotion you felt might have been resentment. In Brené Brown's Atlas of the Heart, resentment is defined as “the feeling of frustration, judgment, anger, better than, and/or hidden envy related to perceived unfairness or Injustice.” And in this episode, we'll dive deeper into this emotion. What can we learn about resentment? Here are three points we discuss: Resentment comes from envy How resentment plays in relationships and family dynamics Resentment is detrimental to us, but might not even affect the person we feel resentment toward “To be able to be honest about how we're feeling with someone we care about is one of the most vulnerable and courageous things we can do.” What causes resentment? A lot of factors play into us feeling this emotion. It can be failing to communicate our boundaries, needs, and expectations. Saying “yes” to things we never should have agreed to. Not letting yourself fulfill a need you have. Suppressing your thoughts and feelings. There might be a myriad of factors and causes, but at the heart of all this is envy. What can you do when you recognize resentment in yourself? The first thing is to try to identify what's causing your resentment. Is there an unfulfilled need? What are you envious of? What are your expectations? The important thing is to first identify them so you can deal with them. Another thing to do is to see the other person and recognize that just like you, they're human with their own flaws, needs, and desires. This will help you better come from a space of compassion and empathy. Then you need to forgive and let go. “Instead of sitting at your desk, fuming and stewing in irritation, you can choose to see the other person's humanity. They truly are just like you. They feel the same emotions, they have the same fears, and they want the same things.” In the end, resentment harms us and only us. It causes friction in our relationships. It makes us bitter. It blocks our creativity. It worsens our health. And it prevents us from experiencing joy. How we choose to deal with our emotions is on us. So now I ask you, what will you do the next time you feel resentment? Journal prompts for when you're feeling resentful: What or who is triggering this feeling of resentment inside me? What do I need but am afraid to ask for? Have I shared my true feelings with the person who needs to hear them? Why or why not? Is there a need I can meet for myself? Is there a boundary that I need to set? How can I move this energy through my body? Resources: Atlas of the Heart Book Club: https://www.meghanthomas.com/atlas-of-the-heart Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown: https://amzn.to/3IDyzci Comfortable with Uncertainty: 108 Teachings on Cultivating Fearlessness and Compassion by Pema Chodron: https://amzn.to/3GqlP6d Heart Talk by Cleo Wade: https://amzn.to/3vOtaHK Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode, we dive into the conversation around resentment in our relationships. How it happens, what happens when there is no other option BUT to speak them, and how to provide a safe space for your partner to be able to share their resentments as well. Follow me on Instagram - @theesexualalchemist Follow me on TikTok - @theesexualalchemist
Do you feel resentful towards your partner? This is so common.Most women feel resentment in marriage but very few women go through the process of releasing resentment.Why should you? Well, it turns out there are all kinds of health benefits and quality of life increases.This, of course, doesn't make it an easy task. Releasing resentment is a process, but it can be done.Hit play to hear my five steps to releasing resentment and a little bit about my journey on this topic.Mentioned on this episode : Ep. 25 - How My Failed Marriage Turned Me into a Badass CoachFree Guides:FREE Masterclass: 5 Ways to Deepen the Connection with Your Partner21 Questions That Will Bring You and Your Partner Closer Than Ever!4-Step Guide To Self-Empowerment, Better Communication and Deeper Intimacy With Your PartnerIG: @partnershipalignedElana@partnershipaligned.comBook your free consult and start improving your relationship today!
When we start to want something more from where we are now, usually it only ends up in 2 things: satisfaction or resentment. Satisfaction is when you've begun to actually do something about what you want, while resentment starts when you don't negotiate and just start taking what you can get. In this episode, Rosie Zilinskas is joined by self-made digital entrepreneur and mom of three, Alexandra Nicole Nolan. They share a discussion on what it's like to be a woman in the corporate world and why people have struggled to negotiate and often live in resentment for not being able to do enough about it. Tune in to learn how you can gain courage in chasing what you want in a dog-eat-dog world!
Resentment, guilt, shame, anger… Holding on to these emotions is like wishing death upon someone else, and then drinking the poison yourself. Inside of this episode: -I discuss the negative impacts of holding onto Forgiveness -I take you through a guided meditation to release whatever you've been holding on to -I talk about what we can feel instead of guilt, shame, anger (and how to connect to what you want to intentionally create by choosing a different fuel source) Don't miss this one. It will help make 2023 feel lighter, brighter, and filled with love. ALSO! I can't believe it but my book is available on Amazon! Crazy! If you haven't grabbed it yet, it is .99 cents for the first week! GRAB IT HERE! P.S. Did you know you can start off 2023 with free coaching from me?! CLICK HERE TO SIGN UP!
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Did you know that how we process trauma as an adult is directly impacted by what we experienced growing up? In today's episode, Laura is going to discuss adult trauma, how processing it (or not processing it) is impacted by your story, identify how your coping skills might keep that trauma stuck, and then how to process adult trauma in a healthy way. New episodes drop every Wednesday, so be sure to subscribe so you never miss one!
Clinical psychologist Dr. Kelly Flanagan, author of the bestselling novel “The Unhiding of Elijah Campbell,” joins Brian as a guest host to talk about estrangement, resisting resentment, and creating a device contract with your older kids. GUEST: Dr. Kelly Flanagan, clinical psychologist and author Follow The Common Good on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram Hosted by Aubrey Sampson and Brian From Produced by Laura Finch and Keith ConradSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Resentment blocks the flow of grace / evolve or repeat / devotion shrinks the ocean of the material world down to the amount of water in a calf's footprint / To do the right thing, when it is difficult, is a sign of goodness. To do it without resentment is a sign of greatness. / Lord Rama had no resentment / Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone's face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love? These are the real questions. SB 5.1.19-21
Have you ever needed to explain why you felt pulled towards something that mattered to you, but couldn't? But our question is - do you need to explain and always have an answer? Sometimes the need to justify actually can hinder someone from taking action and follow one's passion and calling. For ourselves and for others, isn't it better to come from a place of love rather than condemnation, and encouragement rather than obstacles? Err on the side of extending grace and humanity to others, and don't feel like you're on the stand, subject to judge and jury, when you're figuring out your Why. We don't always need to know the answer to a Why. And that's ok.
Resentment blocks the flow of grace / evolve or repeat / devotion shrinks the ocean of the material world down to the amount of water in a calf's footprint / To do the right thing, when it is difficult, is a sign of goodness. To do it without resentment is a sign of greatness. / Lord Rama had no resentment / Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone's face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love? These are the real questions. SB 5.1.19-21
It's that time of year! You're back to work; for many of you, it's time to have your annual performance appraisal. However, depending on your company and your manager, your performance appraisal might be a lackluster experience. And that may leave you feeling resentful. And if you're a manager, how you conduct your performance appraisal meetings with your direct reports says a lot about how invested you are in the process and how invested you are in them. In this episode, I will walk you through some of my best practices to help you prepare for and conduct your performance appraisal meeting. Whether you're getting your performance appraisal or delivering one to your team, this information is relevant. And I'll share some guidance on how to deal with any resentment you're feeling before, during, or after the performance appraisal process. Click Here to Register for My Free Webinar on January 17th at 12:00 pm EST, “Preparing for Your Performance Appraisal Meeting – What to Do Before, During, And After to Ensure Success” or visit https://johnneral.com for more information. Key Topics & Time Stamps: · Introduction (0:00)· Get Your Free Guide (1:54)· Register for Free Performance Appraisal Webinar (2:30)· What is a Performance Appraisal? (4:05)· Your Thoughts About Your Performance Appraisal (7:50)· Dealing with Resentment (11:54)· John's Tip to Help You Prepare for Your Performance Appraisal Meeting (23:00)· Wrap-Up (25:00) List of Resources:· Get Your Free Guide - 5 Mistakes Mid-Career Professionals Make (And Need to Stop Doing) · Your Mid-Career GPS – Four Steps to Figuring Out What's Next by John Neral· SHOW UP - Six Strategies to Lead a More Energetic and Impactful Career by John NeralThank you for listening to The Mid-Career GPS Podcast. Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts here. Visit https://johnneral.com to download your free guide, "5 Mistakes Mid-Career Professionals Make (And Need to Stop Doing) and more information about your leadership and career transition. Connect with John on LinkedIn here.Subscribe to John's YouTube Channel here. Follow John on Instagram @johnneralcoaching.
Resentments are something we feel from time to time especially if we are not on our healing journey. Resentments, envy and jealousy are all under the same umbrella. You can resent someone for various reasons which we will discuss in this episode. The energy from resentment and anger reside in the gallbladder and the liver. Holding onto resentment with the idea that you are protecting yourself is like drinking poison and thinking you will get better. Be compassionate with yourself while you are on this healing journey. When you release the resentments you free yourself up to receive the positive energy and no longer allow that person or situation to have power over you. Become a Patreon! www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Socials Services and Website www.thepositivityxperience.com
Of all the mysteries of the World Wars, Germany's is perhaps the most mysterious. We discuss this country with the fastest growing industrial power, the largest and most powerful socialist movement, and (perhaps) the most arrogant imperialist at the helm. We conclude with some notes on some interesting (but not especially well liked by us) … Continue reading "WWCiv 9: Imperial Resentment, Industrial Power, Inevitable Socialism: Germany before WW1"
This holiday season was much different than any other holiday season. It had more love, gratitude, joy and connection than I could ever remember. I think coaching has been the key to creating that reality. In this podcast I dive into how I've contributed to disconnect and fractures in my relationships with the people I love and how I want to show up moving forward. If you feel the same sense of frustration and resentment toward the people you love in your life, coaching can really help you move forward in those relationships in a way that will feel better. If you are looking for more help I am here for you. You can schedule a free consultation on my website here.
The daily distribution consists of different recovery quotes daily from various resources, including; Twenty-Four Hours a Day, A.A. Thought for the Day, Daily Reflections, Big Book Quote, Just for Today, As Bill Sees It, plus more! This podcast is a short daily audio provided by the online recovery group Transitions Daily. Transitions Daily also distributes this same content in a daily email with a secret Facebook group for discussion. Go to www.DailyAAEmails.com for more information. Do you want to stop drinking? Have you ever listened to sobriety podcasts? Does alcoholism or addiction run in your family? Have you tried Alcoholics Anonymous or the 12 Steps of A.A.? Are you considering how to get sober? Are you seriously thinking about sobriety for the first time? Is alcohol controlling your life as never before? If so, you will definitely want to check out this recovery podcast.
Jesus Followers Have, Are, and Will Face Derision, Persecution, and Death; But God Addresses “Impossible” Situations and Transforms Lives MESSAGE SUMMARY: The Apostles did not get into their life roles, after Jesus Resurrection and Ascension, without much grief and anguish; but Jesus transformed their lives. God addresses impossible situations in our lives, too; and then He transforms our lives, through His grace, into something of beauty. Jesus' Cross was an impossible situation, but now we view the Cross as a sign of triumph -- our triumph as believers and followers of Jesus! In John 10:27-30, Jesus succinctly describes how He transforms the lives of those that follow Him: “My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me. I give them eternal life, and they will never perish, and no one will snatch them out of my hand. My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all, and no one is able to snatch them out of the Father's hand. I and the Father are one.”. Additionally, in today's uncertainties and fears and with the new and uncharted paths that our life today demands that we follow, Paul, in Colossians 1:5-6, gives us hope through God's Grace and the Gospel: “because of the hope laid up for you in heaven. Of this you have heard before in the word of the truth, the gospel, which has come to you, as indeed in the whole world it is bearing fruit and growing—as it also does among you, since the day you heard it and understood the grace of God in truth". TODAY'S PRAYER: Father, when I think about my losses, it can feel like I have no skin to protect me. I feel raw, scraped to the bone. Looking at Job and Jesus helps, but I must admit that I struggle to see something new being birthed out of the old. Enlarge my soul through the trials and losses of my life. In Jesus' name, amen. Scazzero, Peter. Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Day by Day (p. 101). Zondervan. Kindle Edition. TODAY'S AFFIRMATION: Because of who I am in Jesus Christ, I will not be driven by Resentment. Rather, I will abide in the Lord's Compassion. “I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in Me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from Me you can do nothing.” (John 15:5). SCRIPTURE REFERENCE (ESV): Colossians 1:5-6; John 11:25-26; John 10:14-18; Psalms 31a:1-12. A WORD FROM THE LORD WEBSITE: www.AWFTL.org. THIS SUNDAY'S AUDIO SERMON: You can listen to Archbishop Beach's Current Sunday Sermon: “What Is God's Will for Me in This New Year?”, at our Website: https://awordfromthelord.org/listen/ DONATE TO AWFTL: https://mygiving.secure.force.com/GXDonateNow?id=a0Ui000000DglsqEAB
Penny felt an increased agitation or disgust every time she see her husband. Her husband always hears passive-aggressive words and sarcastic remarks from her every time they talked but he doesn't know the reason why Penny acts that way. Are you having a hard time identifying or dealing with resentment? Want to know how to prevent resentment in your marriage? Check out this helpful episode where Kyle Hargrove and Nina Roesner talked about this fungus that eats and destroys relationships. Be sure to grab our free pdf of our website, https://greaterimpact.org, and Stop Walking on Eggshells today!
Do you ever feel like you try and try but just don't feel like your relationship with God is getting deeper? In today's episode, Laura will talk about the ways in which your trauma can actually be a barrier to relationship with God. She will cover 4 areas that get in the way--comparison, attachment, your coping strategies and your parents. You will discover what might be getting in the way of a deeper relationship with God and how to take one step toward healing. New episodes drop every Wednesday, so be sure to subscribe so you never miss one!
Does the thought of a new year's resolution just add more to your plate? Are you starting the year already feeling tired or overwhelmed? Not everything has to be activity. Allow yourself the relief of knowing a job well done can begin first with a pause and breath before taking action. Don't subscribe to frenetic energy, pushing through in soldier mode. There is value and prescription in being still and breathing. It's ok to choose to rest and digest, instead of fight or flight. Resolve to renew, refresh, restore and rejuvenate. There's peace in a deep breath and strength in “still”ness.
Today, Cait reports live from The Burnout Panel. She joins Vanessa Zamy, Audrey Holst, Aileen Axtmayer, Dr. Sandra Lewis, and Dr. Sharon Grossman to talk about quiet quitting. These experts in the burnout field weigh in on what they believe is causing quiet quitting to be so rampant and the changes business leaders can make to help their employees feel included, safe, happy, and valued. Quiet quitting is often a response to overwhelm and can be a coping mechanism for burnout. If your body does not feel safe in your work environment, you are likely going to start to disengage. It is also important to evaluate your current interests and values and see that they align with your role. When people choose to quiet-quit it tends to be due to no longer feeling aligned with their work. To get a handle on quiet quitting, first you need to regenerate your nervous system, so that it is not always on high alert for danger. In order for employees to feel valued, leaders must pay attention and create a safe, fun, and inclusive work environment. If employees start to feel undervalued, they will become resentful and more likely to engage in quiet quitting behaviors. quiet quitting is not always a choice, sometimes it is a natural reaction to burnout. When it is not being used as a coping mechanism and is instead a conscious choice, it is important for leaders to really pay attention to the work environment. If employees are actively choosing to disengage, they likely feel resentment for some perceived unfairness and they may even feel completely out of alignment with the work they are doing. When employees and employers understand the causes behind quiet quitting, changes can be made to make a better work environment for all. Quotes • “There are two questions that the body is always scanning for is, am I safe, and do I belong. And this combination of perfectionism with an individual and within an organization can create a bit of a survival situation where people are showing up to work, their bodies are feeling like they are walking into a tiger's cage every single day, their body is getting flooded with cortisol on an everyday basis. And that is bouncing off of coworkers, and it's creating a really tough environment, which is creating those people who are starting to disengage out of survival.” (2:12-2:42 | Audrey) • “When you can create space as an employer or as an employee to really examine these parts of yourself and understand where you're at with each of them, you can then use that framework to understand where your work might not be in alignment anymore, and what you can do to really shift and feel like your values, interests, personality and skills are aligned with the work that you're doing.” (5:29-5:51 | Aileen) • “Achievement is what will allow you to feel pleasure once you've put in the work.” (7:33-7:41 | Dr. Sharon) • “Resentment and quiet quitting have one major thing in common and that is a feeling or perception of unfairness.” (8:34-8:42 | Cait) • “With support we can create conversations that allow resentment to be explored in a positive and beneficial way. Resentments turn into boundaries, and boundaries help protect us.” (9:17-9:28 | Cait) • “The first thing is to start with regenerating and rejuvenating our nervous system so that then we can start to hear our creativity again.” (11:15-11:21 | Dr. Sandra) • “Whether you're leading an entire business, or you're leading a team in a department, or you're about to become a leader, and you want to do it better than your current boss is, remember rewards, refreshments and recreation. Quiet quitting is preventable.” (13:51-14:04 | Vanessa) • “Quiet quitting is a coping mechanism for burnout when it is used not as a choice but as a natural reaction. So I think we have to separate choosing quiet quitting to protect yourself and quiet quitting because you're so burned out that you have no other choice and you're just trying to make it through your day and not get fired.” (14:48-15:09 | Cait) Links Connect with The Burnout Panel: Aileen Axtmayer https://www.linkedin.com/in/aileenaxtmayer/ Cait Donovan https://www.linked.com/in/caitdonovan Sandra Lewis https://www.linkedin.com/in/sandraylewis/ Audrey Holst https://www.linkedin.com/in/audrey-holst/ Sharon Grossman https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharongrossman/ Vanessa Zamy https://www.linkedin.com/in/zamyvanessa/ XOXO, C If you know that it's time to actually DO something about the burnout cycle you've been in for too long - book your free consult today: bit.ly/callcait https://friedtheburnoutpodcast.com/quiz Podcast production and show notes provided by HiveCast.fm
Dhamma talk by Ajahn Mudito on the 19 Jun 2022, at the Buddhist Society of Victoria (BSV). Bhante Mudito was born in a remote village in Northern-Finland. After completing military service, he travelled to the United States where he attended chef school and worked in a high-end hotel for a few years. While living in New York his long-time interest in Buddhism evolved as he started meditating with different groups. He sought after many teachers and found many of them to be too lofty of simply too boring. But then the stars aligned when Ajahn Brahm wrote his hit book Open the Door of your Heart and on the book promotion tour he came to New York where Mudito fell in love with Ajahn and his simple teachings. He has followed Ajahn Brahm ever since and in 2010 he went to stay in Bodhinyana and ordained as a monk in 2012. Please visit the BSV Podcast Channel and BSV YouTube Channel Please support the BSWA in making teachings available for free online via Patreon. To find and download more precious Dhamma teachings, visit the BSWA teachings page: https://bswa.org/teachings/, choose the teaching you want and click on the audio to open it up on Podbean. This talk was retrieved from Buddhist Society of Victoria, visit the BSV Podcast Channel and BSV YouTube Channel. Please support BSWA in making these teachings available by donating via Patreon or our General Expenses Fund. To download the audio, click on the audio tracks' title to open up in Podbean. More dhamma teachings are available from: BSWA Podcast Channel (Dharma talks and guided meditations) BSWA DeeperDhamma Podbean Channel (retreats and suttas) BSWA YouTube Playlists Books and articles are available on our website. Please support the BSWA in making teachings available for free online via Patreon. To find and download more precious Dhamma teachings, visit the BSWA teachings page: https://bswa.org/teachings/, choose the teaching you want and click on the audio to open it up on Podbean.
Do you think it's too late for you to seek counseling? Do you think you are too far gone? Are you frustrated that counseling hasn't worked for you in the past? If any of this sounds like you, then today's podcast will be one you don't want to miss. As a close to the year 2022, Laura will help you assess the year we just had, identify what's holding you back, and help encourage you in your mental health journey. New episodes drop every Wednesday, so be sure to subscribe so you never miss one!
Do you set resolutions for the new year, but soon abandon them? Consider being objective-driven rather than goal-oriented, to set yourself in the right direction. An objective is about limitless opportunity and possibility, whereas a goal is finite and concrete, as if a zero-sum game. An objective is a beacon beyond you that is calling you, and goals are the microscopic steps aiming forward. Missteps in the direction of an objective doesn't mean halting or abandoning the journey. Celebrate the successes along the way and encourage the developing identity in the direction of transformation, resolving not just what you do, but more so who you want to be, and how you want to show up in the world.