Nacho Baby Mama

Trauma bond, a term everyone should know and everyone should be aware of. If you've ever been in an abusive relationship, physical or emotional, and every time you try to turn and run , you just can't seem to break free from the invisible chain holding you there, you are most likely caught in a trauma bond. What is trauma bonding? Why is it harmful and what are the warning signs? And most importantly, how to break free? All of that and more on this week's episode. 

And 4 months into this journey, I'm back to provide an update! This episode is for everyone who listened to the first episode (ICYMI, please go listen to episode #16 "Only Fans Enters the Chat" first and then come back for Part 2). This has a lot of good-to-know content for those thinking about getting in the game or those just getting started as a creator themselves. But is also equally as much for those with curious minds. I had to throw in a few personal experiences and stories, as I always do. I also did my best to answer the questions you most often ask me about this unorthodox side hustle, and to provide some insight into the fascinating world of adult content creation. 

Did you hear she started an Only Fans? Is that even hard? Why doesn't she just get a real job? Does she actually make any money?...Let's cut the assumptions and dive right into my personal experience as a very new adult content creator on the Only Fans platform and what it takes to be successful. SPOILER ALERT: it's not as easy as you think...Check out my page (open to both men and women) and yes, especially if we know each other. Familiar faces are always welcome! https://www.krististoybox.com/

Are you a hater? Sounds like a simple enough question, but the answer won't be. A horrible DM a few weeks ago had me reeling and begged the question, where does hate come from, and why? How? From its early origins in the 900's, to the Urban Dictionary definition we know today, this episode talks all things hate-related. Find out if you are actually a hater, or just a heavy disliker. 

Having an addictive personality doesn't make you an addict. But it CAN make you more likely to develop an addiction. We'll discuss the traits and warning signs, take an addictive personality quiz, and dig into my own personal vices a bit. Addiction isn't for quitters, so let's go.Resources: Quiz: https://fherehab.com/learning/addictive-personality-quiz/HELP: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-treatment

Your favorite mother is back baby, just in time to ring in the New Year, with advice ranging from keeping you f*uckable, but not f*uckwithable, keeping you independent rather than co-dependent, and making sure those weaves stay nice and tight. Let's talk daddy privilege, dating younger men, being the "other" woman, and the one thing love doesn't do. Stories, as told and lived through, by my favorite blonde accessory, my weave. Hang on to your ponytails bishes.  

Bust out your notebook and favorite pen, I have homework for you. Stop groaning... it's good homework. We are going to Venn Diagram pieces of your life to help you find your life purpose based on the existing traits you already possess. It sounds so easy in theory, but the reality is, many of us don't have a f*cking clue on who/what this even is. Discovering the intersection between passion, skill, and money is truly life changing. You can (and should) spare 30 minutes of your life for this. It's worth it, I promise.

Good ol' Murph and his stupid law... damned if you do, damned if you don't. Are you truly living for you, or are you living for the perception of you? Do you care so much with what others think that it drives your behavior or are you staying true to who you are? Is Kim K ugly? Is Kanye weird? Why do I post pictures of myself on my own Instagram so often? How dare I... Are social media breaks good? Who is clapping for me?! Let's discuss all of this and more on today's episode. And a word to the wise, if you can't win no matter what you do, you may as well be living for you.

I Do... not? Is traditional marriage dead? Why is the government involved? How has society shaped how we think and view love and commitment? How has religion changed how we view what is moral and acceptable? Does monogamy even exist anymore? I'm asking all the questions and debating them openly. And truth be told, I'm in the gray area. I'm not really sure how I feel about some things, I just know it definitely isn't black and white.  Your favorite baby mama is back this week to stir the pot and ask the questions that nobody else wants to talk about. The floor is now open for debate. Follow along on IG: @kristi_eide xoxo

You've heard of Big Dick Energy (BDE). Or wait, is it Big Vagina Energy (BVE)? Personally I like the latter, but tomato, tomaaaaato. It wasn't until I hit my 30's that I realized I had been living a lie... that's all I'm going to say. If you're looking to find your BDE/BVE, look no further.  Listen up and make it your mission to overcome the hurdles in life holding you back from being confident, loud, and proud as a mutha. Link to article I mention in this podcast here: https://prsuit.com/impostor-syndrome-holding-back/Download, follow, review if this podcast speaks to you. And as always, I love when you tag me & share your comments and stories related to the topics. Xoxo Nacho Fam. - K

Narcissism... we throw this word around a lot, don't we? But what is it like to be truly in bed with a narcissist? (in my case, it was great sex, but I digress...)  What I actually mean, is what is it like to be close enough to a narcissist that you become their supply? You become the one taking the brunt of their unhappiness, their insecurities, and their disapproval. In a (hyphenated) word, it's soul-crushing. The highs and lows of dating a narcissist will have you constantly scrambling to figure out WTF is going on and WTF you did wrong (hint: probably nothing). The ins and outs of my personal experience + the signs + the way out; we are barely just scratching the surface my friends. Tune in. Follow along on Instagram: @kristi_eide   

Take a seat on my therapy couch. This week I'm answering your burning questions and my level of IDGAF is at an all time high (I hope yours is too). Here's the line-up; feel free to jump around as needed: 1.  Older and wiser - how age plays into body image (2:15)2.  Single-parenting sanity hacks (10:15)3.  The question only women get asked; never men  (16:48)4.  Social media and relationships intertwined (20:39) 5.  Why you need to stop stalking your ex, like yesterday (27.34)6.  The one person I hope you meet in your lifetime (32:27)Enjoy! Follow my IG @kristi_eide to submit your questions for the next round of Q&A. 

Are you fuckwithable? And no, I don't mean in the bedroom. I mean mentally, emotionally, are you able to be broken down and controlled or manipulated by other people/things? Do you act on emotion over logic? Do you seek external validation? If so, you are fuckwithable. But the goal here is to become the opposite; to become UNfuckwithable. To become so confident in yourself that no one's opinions, words, rejections, or failures can rock you. Wanna get there? It's easier than you think. Let's get started. Trigger warning: very brief talk about an eating disorder & verbal/physical abuse.

It's the dumpster fire you love to hate. We're back and this week we are talking about online “D”ating. This topic has people scattered across the entire spectrum; from sneaky escorts to married with children. And what about building a dating profile? I have some top DO NOTs for you to consider... and by consider, I mean, don't f*cking do it. We'll talk about which dating app you should be on if I just want to hook up vs. if you're actually serious about finding Mr. Right. Plus, how to avoid getting catfished, some real life soulmate stats, and more. Come frolic with me while we talk about the dirty little world of ODing. Please share, subscribe, follow, and/or review if you enjoy this podcast so I can keep bringing you these weekly little pleasures. Find me on IG @kristi_eide. xoxo 

Let's talk about non-committal, non-available, emotionally distracted soul suckers. Yep, I'm talking about myself, and maybe you too?... we're about to find out anyways. After a brief (and perhaps ridiculous) comparison of how non-crotchless Spanx are like emotionally unavailable partners, this episode quickly gets a tad more serious as we talk about what causes emotional availability, daddy issues, a handy-dandy EU checklist, and a pep talk on how to do f*cking better. Listen solo or force your partner to tune in with you so you can finger point together. Happily ever after? Only one way to find out.If you enjoyed this episode please share with your friends, follow and subscribe. Join the baby mama drama and follow along on IG: @kristi_eide 

In this episode I am joined by a special, real-life Gen Alpha, who provides insight on what it's like growing up in today's pressure-cooker world. We're talking annoying parents, dual households, youth sports, race, and what being termed 'Generation Alpha' means. I add some statistical insights (ahem, and commentary) to these hot topics because I think most parents are asking the same questions and wondering the same things. (I did the dirty work for you, you're welcome.) Come along with my co-host and I on this 99% kid-friendly episode. LFG.

First comes love, then comes babies—we skipped marriage—then comes {record scratch}... coparenting. Wait, what? This episode scratches the surface of my own personal story on how baby daddy and I landed in opposite corners of the boxing ring and then came back together to coparent like self-proclaimed pros. I also talk about the #1 No-No when it comes to your ex, plus a few guest Q&As focused around custody arrangements, introducing significant others, and the intimidation factor of dating someone who has a close relationship with their baby mama/daddy. Grab a drink and lets kumbaya. 

In this inaugural episode, we're talking about when and why to give a f*ck; stop wasting yours on alley-oops when you could be saving them for slam dunks. I also share one of the BEST pieces of advice ever given to me from hot Dr. Chris and tell you how it relates to your life and taking back your power. Tune in and start saving your discretionary f*cks today.