Sabzi Life

Saira and Faizan talk about what role choice plays in how we process our emotions. How do we move through emotions and not let outside situations define us any longer. Saira uses the example of captain, first mate, and sheriff to talk about how we are consciously making choices as well as fighting what has become automatic.

Saira and Faizan are talk about why relationships seem to be so hard. There seems to a lot of pain and anguish. We talk about the theory of attachment and how we move forward beyond control and the roles that we play in the family.

Saira and Faizan are talk about why it is sometimes difficult to get on the same page as a couple. And how looking at old wounds and childhood may hold the answers to why we do things the way we do them.

Saira and Faizan are talk about how important conversations require active listening skills and a willingness to look at our own belief systems. And Faizan apparently has a perfect face for podcast...

Saira and Faizan are back after being busy not doing much. And one thing we have been doing, or at least struggling with, is relaxing. We discuss the difference between relaxation and avoidance. Faizan discusses his challenges with that pesky voice that starts bothering him that leads him to numbing out rather than truly relaxing. Sometimes all we need is to give ourselves permission to relax consciously.

In order to get through all the changes a relationship goes through, the foundational work involving mental, emotional, spiritual work must be undertaken. The work allows us to become more engaged and stable in our relationships as well as our interactions with the greater world.

There are times we fight to fit in to different places or communities yet end up finding ourselves still feeling lonely. Dr. Saira and Faizan discuss why belonging maybe better than just fitting in.

Saira and Faizan turn their focus on what they have in midst of all the turmoil. To make time and space for reflecting on the opportunities provided to us by those that have come before us is an important practice when things don't seem to be working out.

Saira and Faizan are still struggling to figure out what is next. We are processing the anger and attempting to set a path forward for ourselves. Education is key. Who gets to tell the story is also a big key. We are still at a loss of what to do about the racism other than continue having the uncomfortable conversations.

A part of us is broken that in 2020 we still have to talk about the injustices many in the world face. And we struggle to talk about it at all. We started this podcast with the idea that you get to hear what we talk about on our couch - no scripts, no preparation. Just plain talk about the many topics Saira and Faizan love to talk about. In this episode, we had difficulty putting words to our feelings. We are at a loss of what to do about the racism and a lack of care for others that we see being presented to us. We can start with taking responsibility for our own actions (or lack of) and try to figure out what is to come next.

Are we living our life or are we living expectations set by others. Saira and Faizan discuss how comparing ourselves to others prevents us from being us. What we don't realize is that we do not understand what challenges the others have overcome and what they face today. Music: “Funk Game Loop” Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/

Our childhood define us more than we can possibly imagine. Our experiences shape us as adults and how we interact with the world. We talk about how our healing journey helps us reshape our relationships and interaction with the world. Music: “Funk Game Loop” Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/

So what happens when life throws your projects a curveball. We had a grand vision for how our new wellness centre would look but with the current lockdown there wasn't much we could do but re-think our approach and forge a new path forward. This means evaluating everything, identifying what works, cut out things that don't, and sticking with the new plan while being open to what the future may bring. Music: “Funk Game Loop” Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/

Saira and Faizan go deep into the feeling of loss. We discuss how losing somethings have made us aware of the importance of it in our lives. Music: “Funk Game Loop” Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/

We are back! Back from dealing with loss, shame, and questioning our self-worth. Join Faizan and Saira as we restart our conversations on the couch to talk about how our grief brought up our shame and to question our worth and value. Music: “Funk Game Loop” Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/

Are you single and looking to be in a relationship? Faizan and Saira continue the conversation from the previous episode focused on singles. Music: “Funk Game Loop” Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/

We are back and talking about how we avoided taking on our passion projects. Saira and I talk about thoughts and its impact on our physical and emotional health. Music: “Funk Game Loop” Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/

We talk about how unprepared we feel to be handle life as parents even though we have been at this for a while. It is a roller coaster we can’t get off of and one we are still doing our best to navigate.  Music: “Funk Game Loop” Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) Licensed under Creative Commons: By […]

Saira and Faizan talk about a model that has helped in making sense of the different relationship challenged. The model has been created by Dr. Chuck Spezanno of Psychology of Vision.  Music:“Funk Game Loop” Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 3.0 Licensehttp://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/

How does a conversation on Valentines Day turn to Gaslighting? Only the most complex mind like Saira’s can make sense of the weird transition. Join us as the podcast goes off the rails but you may still learn a few things (maybe). Music: www.bensound.com

This week Faizan and Saira talk about how to have healthy fights except that Faizan still doesn’t believe that he ever starts a fight…unless he is hangry, of course. Music: bensound.com

Join us as Saira talks about her passion – counseling. She talks through what makes counseling effective and what she means by “graduating” her clients. Music: bensound.com

This week we talk about our struggles with getting healthy and how emotions have impacted our journey. We talk about how building strong support systems is critical to long-term success and how “diets” aren’t enough for a health body. Also, Faizan tried talking about “other” options and Saira shut that down fast early on! Music: […]

Join our two little Sabzis as we talk about effective parenting. You may be shocked to learn that we raise our voices and scold our kids. Shocking but true! This week we talk through parenting – all the struggles of our style and trying to grow with our kids. There are no books that can […]