Safeword

In this bonus episode of Safeword, Casey Tanner (of @queersextherapy) unveils insights from their groundbreaking new book "Feel It All", a guide to sexuality that dispels the stale cultural attitudes about sex that leave too many feeling inadequate, and offers an expansive, attachment-based framework to free us and develop bolder, more satisfying relationships with our sexual selves. Along with Kamil Lewis, they dive into your questions, exploring how attachment styles shape our relationships, unraveling the mysteries of our nervous system responses, and offering education and experience on the intersection of attachment and sex.For more resources:@kamil.lewisThe Feels NewsletterGet support at The Expansive Group

Back by popular demand, on @safewordpod, we get to hear from special guest @sexwithemily! Dr. Emily Morse hosts the longest running s-x and relationship podcast, where she challenges cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Kamil, Emily, and Casey share their years of wisdom about living as s-xual health professionals. *Special discount for Safeword Listeners*Enigma Cruise and Soraya Wave are double stimulators by LELO that pleasure the clitoris and the g-spot! Use the discount code, SAFEWORD, for 25% off your purchase from lelo.com.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5806539/advertisement

Back by popular request, Kamil and Casey are talking about the age-old question: should I stay or should I go? No strangers to anxious attachment styles, our fearless hosts talk about the ways that the urge for leaving and the need for staying are always in tension.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5806539/advertisement

In this fan favorite, Yaz Harris generously taught Kamil and Casey about Dom/Sub dynamics. Along with being a professional dominant (Mx. Aerys), Yaz is also the @queersextherapy Social Media Manager. In this interview, you will learn so much! The hosts was feverishly taking notes the whole time Yaz was talking. Not only was Yaz an amazingly competent and thorough D/S educator, they were also so gentle and patient with the hosts—a couple of subs learning the ropes ;)This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5806539/advertisement

In this fan favorite rerun, Casey and Kamil help break down the intimidation factor around group s-x that many people feel. They bring a human-centered, relational approach to all your amazing questions on threesomes and beyond.Season 3 will be out in Fall 2023!This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5806539/advertisement

In this fan favorite, Casey Tanner and Kamil Lewis, answer all your questions on your secret turn ons and turn offs. They talk you through ways to tell a partner what's on your yes/no/maybe pleasure lists. They answer other questions on solo kinkiness, the secret turn ons of a s-x therapist, the relationship between our fantasies and what we want in reality, and so much more.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5806539/advertisement

On this favorite episode of Safeword revisited, Kamil is making hot use of office space and Casey gives the gift of being told what to do over Zoom. This week's theme is fantasies, so ~imagine~ a dreamy conversation about your favorite type of bedtime stories. Can you fantasize about something you'd never do IRL? Are any fantasies ever “wrong”? Will we have a tangent about anal? Plug in and find out!This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5806539/advertisement

Back by popular demand: the Masturbation Episode!Masterbation is a go-to client topic for Kamil and Casey. Our hosts rewatch Brookback Mountain for the first time since being a teenager. They talk about how self pleasure is always a vibe! Unless it's not. Which is more than okay. What does masturbation with a partner look like? Is masturbation ever a waste of time? Should parents buy a sex toy for their tween? All this, plus kegals, and more.Safeword Season 3 will be back in September of 2023.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5806539/advertisement

Back by popular demand! We're bringing you a rerun of Learning Gender Through The Body from Safeword, a fan favorite that sparked fascinating discussions. Join us as we revisit Kamil and Casey's captivating discussion with s-xuality doulah, sensualist and author Ev'Yan Whitney, offering fresh perspectives and inspiring anecdotes that will leave you entertained and enlightened.The trio discussed gender and answered all of your amazing questions, addressing topics like gender dysphoria in the bedroom, the construct of straightness, the power of breath and much more!Safeword Season 3 will be back in September of 2023.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5806539/advertisement

Relive the magic of our most popular episode! In this rerun of Safeword, we revisit Episode 12 called Bisexual Era, where we delve into the joys of bis-xuality and the challenges of living in a biphobic world. Whether you're a longtime fan or new to the show, join us as we explore bisexuality. Throughout the summer, we are sharing our most popular Episodes.Kamil and Casey dive into all of your quandaries about bisexuality. Get ready! This is Kamil's playground. They reflect on, what Kamil calls, “Casey's powerful bis-xual era.” It is still a challenging world for people with bisexual identities, and we get real about that. We also celebrate all of the ways bi folks are thriving! Check us out at @safewordpod on IG and Instagram.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5806539/advertisement

In Ep 23 of safewordpod, Kamil and I talk about initiation. S-xual and romantic, and even social initiation has never felt easy for Casey. Kamil, on the other hand, loves it. It was special to learn from each other and from all of the listener's insightful questions.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5806539/advertisement

In Ep 22, Kamil and I, Casey, dive deep into listeners' longer s-x and relationship stories and questions. We were blown away by listeners' insight and creativity. There was no official theme for this show, but we kept encountering folks who have already tried everything to tackle their challenge. Sometimes when nothing is working, it is helpful to identify where we have agency and where we just need to surrender to the not knowing.*Special discount for Safeword Listeners*Enigma Cruise and Soraya Wave are double stimulators by LELO that pleasure the clitoris and the g-spot! Use the discount code, SAFEWORD, for 25% off your purchase from lelo.com.

In Ep 21, Yaz Harris generously taught Kamil and Casey about Dom/Sub dynamics. Along with being a professional dominant (Mx. Aerys), Yaz is also the @queersextherapy Social Media Manager. In this interview, you will learn so much! The hosts was feverishly taking notes the whole time Yaz was talking. Not only was Yaz an amazingly competent and thorough D/S educator, they were also so gentle and patient with the hosts—a couple of subs learning the ropes ;)*Special discount for Safeword Listeners*Enigma Cruise and Soraya Wave are double stimulators by LELO that pleasure the clitoris and the g-spot! Use the discount code, SAFEWORD, for 25% off your purchase from lelo.com.

In Episode 20 of @safewordpod, we get to hear from special guest @sexwithemily! Dr. Emily Morse hosts the longest running s-x and relationship podcast, where she challenges cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Kamil, Emily, and Casey share their years of wisdom about living as s-xual health professionals. *Special discount for Safeword Listeners*Enigma Cruise and Soraya Wave are double stimulators by LELO that pleasure the clitoris and the g-spot! Use the discount code, SAFEWORD, for 25% off your purchase from lelo.com.

Queer dating! The greatest activity on earth? Or the most intimidating? On Episode 19 of Safeword, Kamil Lewis and Casey Tanner are here for all your queer dating quandaries. We hope these tips help you slow down, release some queer imposter syndrome and realize you got this!As always thank you listeners for these amazing questions!

Casey and Kamil help break down the intimidation factor around group s-x that many people feel. They bring a human-centered, relational approach to all your amazing questions on threesomes and beyond. 

Everyone is always talking about org-sms. And while Kamil and Casey are big fans, they know through our work, and through their personal experiences that org-sms can be complicated and hard too.  In Episode 17 of @safewordpod: they celebrate the pleasure that *comes* with org-sms; validate the challenges; and normalize all of the desires and styles of relating to org-sms.

In Episode 16, Kamil and Casey are talking about the age-old question: should I stay or should I go? No strangers to anxious attachment styles, our fearless hosts talk about the ways that the urge for leaving and the need for staying are always in tension.

*CW: Episode 15 contains themes of religious trauma, s-xual trauma, child abuse. Please take care of yourself in whatever way makes sense, whether that's pausing and seeking support or sitting this episode out. In Episode 15 of @safeword, we are talking about Religious Trauma. Casey shares about their journey from studying to be an evangelical minister to today where they proselytize their love of queerness every day. Kamil shared a more nuanced experience, growing up in the Black Baptist church, and then later, run-ins with misogyny, and s-xual shaming with former religious partners. Once again, thank you listeners, for your beautiful questions. We are honored by your vulnerability and healing work.

In Episode 14, Casey and Kamil had the tremendous honor of speaking with s-xuality doulah, sensualist and author @evyan.whitney.  The trio discussed gender and answered all of your amazing questions, addressing topics like gender dysphoria in the bedroom, the construct of straightness, the power of breath and much more! Hit the bio link @queers-xtherapy or @safeword on IG to send in your own questions and listen to our latest episodes.

Kamil and Casey dive into all of your quandaries about bis-xuality. Get ready! This is Kamil's playground. They reflect on, what Kamil calls, “Casey's powerful bis-xual era.” It is still a challenging world for people with bis-xual identities, and we get real about that. We also celebrate all of the ways bi folks are thriving! Check us out at @safewordpod on IG and Instagram.

Kamil and Casey discover that they both have been watching Gilmore Girls on repeat since high school! Amazing timing! Lorelei and Luke provide the perfect archetypal case study of avoidant and anxiously attached partners and the common conflicts that arise in this dynamic. As always, your fearless hosts answer your amazing questions on Relationship Conflict. They share tips on conflict avoidance, healthy conflict, conflict as a turn on and share their own wild adventures with conflict.

In this live recording, Casey Tanner and Kamil Lewis, answer all your questions on your secret turn ons and turn offs. They talk you through ways to tell a partner what's on your yes/no/maybe pleasure lists. They answer other questions on solo kinkiness, the secret turn ons of a s-x therapist, the relationship between our fantasies and what we want in reality, and so much more.

In this episode, Casey and Kamil address your thoughtful questions on trauma and sex, and share pieces of their own survivor stories. This episode addresses the pain and grief of sexual trauma, as well as the discomfort, hope and pleasure found in healing. Please engage with this episode at a pace that feels safe for your system, pausing or stopping when you need to.

Kamil and Casey help us navigate the wild rollercoaster we call NRE a.k.a. New Relationship Energy, and the very different by also wild LRE a.k.a Longterm Relationship Energy. The transition from from one to the other can be bumpy and daunting. That's why your hosts are here to tell you their own messy times and also what has worked for them. This episode is not actually sponsored by Costar ;)

To kickoff Season 2, Casey and Kamil answer your questions on breaking up, getting back together and everything in between. They address the pain of breakups, the lure of break-up s-x and how to address resurfacing issues with a partner. Also they share about their own experiences with messy break-ups, loving more than one person, and non-monogamy.

For the Season 1 Finale, Casey and Kamil take on your questions about cheating. They let themselves get more real and messy than before and open up about their cheating experiences. Turns out your sex therapist is human too! They also educate on how cheating is often the distraction from another issue in the room... Check out the rest of Season 1! We'll be back in September 2022 with Season 2.

Casey and Kamil therapize their first guest, Alex Lui, about his quest to recover from a trash sex education. We learn that Casey went to a Handmaids Tale summer camp, Kamil used to walk down the block to throw out her empty Birth Control packets, and Alex's mom thinks he's a sloppy masterbater. Best of all, Casey, Kamil and Alex celebrate that in spite of a homophobic, biphobic, sex-negative world, they made it!

Masturbation is a go-to client topic for Kamil and Casey rewatches Brookback Mountain for the first time since being a teenager. This week, we talk about how self pleasure is always a vibe! Unless it's not. Which is more than okay. What does masturbation with a partner look like? Is masturbation ever a waste of time? Should parents buy a sex toy for their tween? All this, plus kegals, and more in our fifth episode.

From dating app burnout to the ethics of having Tinder while monogamous, Casey and Kamil swipe through all your dating app dilemmas quicker than it takes to type out “hey there!”. It's brutal out there, from choosing an app to wondering if you'll ever meet up in person - but misery loves company, so tune into our fourth episode where we talk it all through.

Casey and Kamil reveal their first impressions of one another and discover they both had childhood lisps. They tackle questions about first queer experiences, first partnered orgasms, whether or not to disclose when it's your first time trying something, and the first time having sex after trauma.

On this episode of Safeword, Kamil is making hot use of office space and Casey gives the gift of being told what to do over Zoom. This week's theme is fantasies, so ~imagine~ a dreamy conversation about your favorite type of bedtime stories. Can you fantasize about something you'd never do IRL? Are any fantasies ever “wrong”? Will we have a tangent about anal? Plug in and find out!

In our pilot episode of Safeword… Kamil names her vibrators after Disney princesses and Casey is having the best sex of their life. Our theme this week is better sex, and we talk about orgasming, sexual spectatorship, shame around fantasies, and more. Trust us, you're in for a ride.

From sex and relationship therapists Casey Tanner (@queersextherapy) and Kamil Lewis (@kamil.lewis), Safeword is your new favorite podcast. Get those earbuds in because our first episode premieres on April 11th, 2022.