The Love Well Podcast

How do you respond when tragedy interrupts your life?  Where do you turn for comfort? Who do you look to for guidance?  In today's episode, Diana speaks with Kirsten Britt, who suffered multiple tragedies back to back.  She shares tender moments of joy sprinkled between the mind-numbing chaos of the everyday pain; and how she went from feeling numb and distant to allowing herself to feel the pain. Episode Highlights: [2:03] We learn how Kirsten has dealt with multiple personal tragedies over the past few months. [2:36] “Those two things together, back to back, were very heavy for my family.” [3:15] Kirsten was with her family planning for one surprise when she received a different, unfortunate, surprise. [5:04] What Kirsten did to keep from going into “panic mode.” [5:42] This was one thing that Kirsten's little brother was always proud of. [7:12] “I'm just going to pray and hope.” [8:27] The moment Kirsten had to face the reality that her brother was really gone. [8:46] Kirsten shares a special moment she was able to have with her brother and why it's still so difficult, even now. [12:14] “Those emotions have to go somewhere.” [14:41] Kirsten got to the point where she had to acknowledge that she wasn't okay. [17:10] How you can find people you can trust, even if they accidentally hurt you. [22:17] “Your needs are not a problem.”  How the Enneagram has helped Kirsten understand herself. [25:00] What changed for Kirsten that let her know she was ready to share her story [28:09] The things Kirsten is excited about for the future. Episode Resources:  Enneagram Strategy Call

What do you do when you are the rock of your family, but suddenly you feel the cliff's edge crumbling beneath you? Do you ever struggle to practice what you preach? In today's special share-all episode, Diana takes some time to talk to us about a difficult situation she is facing in her own life. She shares her doubts, the lessons she's learned through this podcast, and what she needs from those around her right now. This important topic is for anyone and everyone, especially those who are facing a difficult trial in their life. Episode Highlights: [1:30] “I feel like a fraud... I feel betrayed." Diana shares why she's flying solo in today's episode. [5:49] “The Lord has forced me to understand the difference between confidence and arrogance." Diana struggles to talk about a hard lesson that she's had to learn in the last few weeks. [9:11] "I haven't talked to many people about this..." In the middle of a difficult trial, Diana has discovered what makes her feel loved well. [10:44] This simple action is a powerful way to show love to someone who is going through a difficult time. [13:50] “I'm really in a place where I need help." [14:32] "I said 'don't touch me, leave me alone...' and then I felt a hand on my back." [16:33] Diana wraps up her solo episode with some poignant words about spiritual warfare, and heartfelt words of advice for our listeners.   Episode Resources:   Enneagram Strategy Call    Kingdom Encounters by Tony Evans

Your first love is special and precious, and when you get to marry that person, your life feels like a dream. But, what do you do when that dream turns into a nightmare and you've lost your one true love forever? Our guest, Rebecca Grignon Reker, joins us today to share her story of loss as a newlywed, and the life she's experienced since then. Rebecca shares the tragic story of losing her husband, the scary thoughts that overcame her in the days following his death, and what ultimately helped her find happiness again. This is an important story for anyone supporting a loved one dealing with a recent loss.    Episode Highlights:   [3:07] “I died that day, as well.” Rebecca shares her heartbreaking story of loss.    [6:23] “She heard a shot, opened the door, and Peter was laying in the street.” Rebecca accounts the tragic incident when her husband was stolen from her forever.    [8:04] The days following Peter's death were a blur for Rebecca, but another tragic event not long after his death helped Rebecca to not only feel supported but give support as well.    [15:30] “It's good to stalk people.” Hear the sweet version of stalking that Rebecca engages in.    [18:12] “I never thought I would marry again… this is my family.” Peter's legacy surprised Rebecca and helped connect her with a network of people.     [22:04] Moving on from grief can be challenging, heartbreaking, and all-consuming. Rebecca shares the surprising turn of events that helped her.    [25:13] 16 years after his death, Rebecca reflects on what the grief and love for Peter looks like in her family today. “I think that will be for the rest of my life.”     [32:58] “That sounds so bad…” This unconventional method of support really helped Rebecca in her darkest moments.     [38:25] “I was screaming.” Diana asks Rebecca an extremely personal question, and Rebecca opens up with us about her struggles.    Episode Resources:   Enneagram Strategy Call 

Do you ever ask yourself why someone struggling with addiction consistently chooses pain over love? Do you have a loved one who has lost their faith in the wake of their addiction? In today's episode, our guest Anne Reynolds spends time telling us what it is like to fall away from God and into addiction. Anne tells us about her triggers, what caused her to lose her faith, and what ultimately helped her see the light. Her stories are both jaw-dropping and unbelievable – you don't want to miss them! Episode Highlights: [2:41] Anne tells us how she fell into addiction soon after her daughter was born. “I was instantly in love.”  [5:32] “I was like a wild teen again.” When her married life took a turn for the worst, Anne found herself caught up in her emotions and addictions.  [8:10] “You're there, but you're not… I took off for a long time.” Battling addiction as a young mother had some serious consequences.  [9:07] Learn about the ‘honeymoon period' that many people struggling with addiction experience. “The drug completely took over my thoughts.”  [11:12] Anne gives her thoughts on the age-old cliché that “you have to hit rock bottom before you start healing”.  [13:55] “It's when all my faith in God went down the tubes.” This traumatic event changed Anne's worldview at an early age.  [18:18] “There were some awful things happening in that house… I felt like I was stuck there.” Believing she was witnessing true evil; Anne reignited her faith in God by praying.   [20:19] After making her escape, Anne seeks help, but finds herself being shut out from those who love her. “How are we supposed to believe you?”  [25:52] “Okay God, I'm not finished yet with my rebellion, but you are real…” Anne describes when she finally felt God's love.  Episode Resources: Enneagram Strategy Call 

Imagine sitting on a plane and getting the worse news of your life: your wife is being rushed to the hospital. You can't get off the plane; you can't call anyone… what do you do? In today's episode our guest, Eric Baker, joins us and tells us about the unforgettable day that changed his life forever. We hear how he copes with losing his wife in a way he never imagined, what makes him feel helpless and hopeful, and what he needs others to understand about his family's situation. Don't miss Eric's heartfelt advice for anyone dealing with a loss or trauma. Episode Highlights: [2:45] “They wouldn't let me off the plane.” Eric tells us about an “unforgettable day” that he had with his wife. [6:11] “It was truly one of those moments in my life when I couldn't change anything.” [7:30] “They weren't telling me what was going on.” Feeling mad at God, and stranded away from his family, Eric struggles to cope with a scary situation. [10:20] After finally managing to get back to his wife, Eric comes to a stark realization. “It was quite a burden to hold everyone else up while you're crumbling inside.” [14:02] “I had these plans to enjoy our life again… that all changed.”  Eric tells us what it feels like to ‘lose' the wife he knew when he didn't actually lose his wife at all. [17:55] Eric displays his vulnerability as he talks about what it is like to feel helpless as a husband and unable to help his wife. [21:32] “They see the wear and tear it's taking.” Despite the pain, anger, and sadness, Eric continues to feel well-loved, and he shares what that looks like for him. [24:24] Eric responds to the quote “God doesn't waste our pain,” and how it makes him feel. “I'll never be thankful for the things I've gone through.” [28:54] Hear the “real and raw” of what Eric has experienced and felt during this entire ordeal. If you have friends or family who are struggling with life circumstances, this will help you understand their pain.  Episode Resources: Enneagram Strategy Call

Are you or someone you know interested in adoption? What does the adoption process look like, and how does it impact prospective adoptive parents? Today's guests, Adam and Felicia Pryor, join us to tell their family story, which includes two adoptions. We hear how the adoption process varies wildly with each child and how expecting parents are expected to cope with the unexpected and the unknown. If you or a loved one is adopting a child, you'll want to hear the Pryors' moving advice on loving well. Episode Highlights: [2:30] “It was hard for people around us to understand.” Adam and Felicia talk about their long-held dream to have both biological and adopted children. [5:00] Felicia admits that the adoption process was not what she thought it would be. “Going into it I felt one way, and once I was on the other side, I felt completely different.” [10:15] “I'm crying, I'm shaking, and I can't talk.” This part of the adoption process took the biggest toll on the Pryor family.  [13:24] We hear how emotional and uncertain the adoption can be; Felicia starts by describing their first adoption. “We were not prepared for that.”   [19:00] “There's a fine line between compassion and frustration.” Adam shares what it is like to adopt from a birth mom who suffered a tragic upbringing and struggles with drug use.   [27:08] “There was a chance that she was being held against her will in Mexico.”   [29:35] When it came time for the adopted baby's birth, the first adoption was exciting and gratifying; the second adoption was very different. “She's in the hospital fighting for her life.” [35:00] Adam and Felicia share what others did to help them feel supported and loved well during the adoption process. They also share ways in which they were unintentionally hurt. [41:09] Don't miss the key advice that Diana, Adam, and Felicia agree is the key to loving well.  Episode Resources: Enneagram Strategy Call

What motivates someone with a seemingly perfect life to throw it all away for drugs? What does it mean to hit rock bottom, and what does it take to finally walk away from it all? Today's guest, Mahogany (Mo) Tabor joins us for a very candid chat about her life as an addict. She shares her lowest moments, her views on God and faith, and she lets us in on the small victories she is now winning every day. Join us to learn what it means to love an addict well.  Episode Highlights: [1:25] “I've been to rehab thirteen times…” Mo introduces herself and is upfront about her issues with addiction.  [4:07] “I had a perfect life.” Mo shares how quickly her picturesque life fell apart. “It's in my blood.”   [7:59] “She can't understand why I kept having kids only to lose them.” After many stints in rehab, periods of recovery followed by relapses, and five children, Mo has had to accept some hard truths.  [9:00] Diana asks Mo what finally prompted her to change for the better. “I want to be very clear; it was not that.”  [11:43] Mahogany tells us why she is having success in her recovery this time around.  [13:34] We hear what others did to love Mo well during some of her most difficult times; this love ultimately helped her heal. She also shares how well-intentioned, but misplaced love enabled her addiction.  [16:05] “It's why we are having this conversation.” Diana tells us why she thinks Mo's story is so important for others to hear.  [21:34] Mo tells us who she is, today. “I honestly believe that. I don't care if I'm tricking myself.”  [23:04] Learn the three parts to loving well, and how you can support a loved one walking with addiction.   Episode Resources: Enneagram Strategy Call 

How much would your life change if you suddenly lost your independence? Imagine you are driving to work or school in the morning, like any other day, but suddenly you find yourself waking up in the middle of someone's front yard, unable to recall how you got there. Our guest today, 20-year-old Samantha Robison, found herself in that very scary, very real situation as a teen. Samantha shares what it is like to have this surprisingly common diagnosis, how she is navigating the world in a new way these days, and what she is doing to regain control of her own life as a young adult. Episode Resources: [1:21] Samantha introduces herself, and we hear why Diana asked her to be on the show today. “I woke up and I didn't really know what had happened.” [4:07] “What drugs did you take?” With the hospital staff convinced that Samantha had done drugs, and Samantha unable to keep her eyes open, it took some digging to finally get a diagnosis.  [5:16] “Now they are looking at my brain and they are saying it's really bad.” [8:48] After coming home with a new diagnosis that scared her, Samantha had to adjust to a new way of life. “Everyone in my family was just staring at me.” [11:35] “It was devastating every time.” Feeling as though she was never going to get relief, Samantha grapples with her new normal.   [14:30] Both her medication and her continued seizures were stripping Samantha of her independence, but this one thing was truly shattering for her as a 17-year-old. [16:35] “I was always afraid to ask for that.” We hear what Samantha felt she needed most after her diagnosis.  [21:40] We hear how Samantha is managing these days, how her family is coping with her diagnosis, and how she sees her independence in the future. [24:25] Samantha describes what makes her feel loved and shares her special message for anyone who may find themselves in a similar situation. Episode Resources: Enneagram Strategy Call

When your dream is to have a family, but you cannot have children of your own, what do you do? You've likely heard of IVF and adoption, but have you ever heard of embryo adoption? Our friend and author, Tiffany Childs, joins us today to share her experience building a family in this unconventional way. Tiffany explains the process of adopting embryos and shares both the highs and lows of her experience. If you are interested in learning more about embryonic adoption or hearing about the moral implications of this practice, you need to listen to this episode. Episode Highlights: [1:50] Tiffany introduces herself and shares the heart of who she is with us.  [3:35] “It was the same year that I got married that I found out.” As a teenager, Tiffany gets married, and while adjusting to her new role as a wife she learns some devastating news. [7:05] What exactly is embryo adoption? Tiffany explains the process, and how they landed on this alternative path. “The Lord kept whispering it.” [12:12] “Doctors are not always honest.” We dive into the moral and ethical issues surrounding infertility and embryonic adoption. “It challenged me to really look at what I believe.” [16:27] “Adopting embryos isn't as important as adopting children who are already living in the world.” When her close friend said this to Tiffany, she had to take a deep look at her own beliefs. [21:08] “I felt like a human casket.” After tremendous loss, Tiffany questions whether God had forgotten her and whether they were on the right path. [23:33] “I will never forget this.” After three embryonic transfers, Tiffany finally gets some good news, along with some challenging bad news. [31:45] Realizing that she was “one of those people” Tiffany is forced to adjust her perspective in order to heal and feel loved well. Episode Resources: Enneagram Strategy Call Of Souls and Snowflakes: an Adoption Story Kindle Edition

What do you do when someone you love is immersed in grief and loss? How can you both respect their grief, while helping them overcome it? Our friend Sara Reece joins us today to answer those questions. Sara explains what it means to be a bystander, and how she prepares herself to take on the grief of others. If you are interested in helping others or supporting a loved one coping with a loss, you need to listen to this episode. Diana also shares an important life update and tells us what to expect for the upcoming episodes of The Love Well Podcast! Episode Highlights: [1:59] We are introduced to our guest, Sara, and we hear why Diana calls Sara a “bystander”. [4:42] “God called me to be uncomfortable.” Diana shares how her career and faith prepared her to be “a calm in the storm” and provide support to those in need. [7:01] Sara recounts the day when her career and desire to support people dealing with grief and loss crossed. “I literally just ran.”   [10:46] “It requires presence.” Sara shares her experience with personal loss and grief. She tells us what strategies help her to cope, and how she uses those skills to help others in need. [15:46] We hear why it's important that even bystanders have support in times of need. “You just feel all of the pain that they are going through just so tremendously.” [18:11] “I was so angry… and I wasn't ready.” While walking with others through their grief is an incredible gift, not everyone will be able to handle it. Sara and Diana speak about how being a bystander can impact your personal life and share tips for our bystander listeners. [26:39] “It's the only thought that I keep having over and over.” This one phrase helped Sara get through tragedy, and she continues to take the sentiment forward with her. [28:29] If you are struggling with a loss, or know someone who is, you need to hear Sara's final words of advice. Episode Resources: Enneagram Strategy Call

How have you been able to put your 2020 experience fully in the past? What will you do to move forward into 2021? In today's special episode, Diana speaks to us on her own to share her perspective. She talks to us about her 2020 experience and how she is encouraging others to heal. Diana shares restorative advice and encouragement for 2021 where we can all be loved well.  Episode Highlights:  [0:50] Diana reflects on her 2020 experience and what she is taking forward into 2021.    [3:51] “We can feel like we are the victim.” We hear an important reminder from Diana, and she shares a delicious analogy for life.  [5:56] Healing can be a challenging process; Diana shares the first and most important step to beginning your own healing. “There really is meaning in the pain.”  [10:13] Diana tells us a story about a challenging situation where she had a hard time deciding what was right. “I was yelling at God in my head.”   [18:03] Do you ever wonder if everything happens for a reason, or if our existence during this time is a coincidence? Diana shares her perspective. “We are supposed to love well.”   Episode Resources: Enneagram Strategy Call Shane & Shane - Though You Slay Me, feat. John Piper Pathways: From Providence to Purpose, by Tony Evans Check out these episodes to hear what people are taking with them into 2021.

2020 was a challenging year for many reasons, and it impacted many of us in big ways, including our mental health. If you've never experienced mental health challenges before, chances are you did during the pandemic; if you were already suffering, the pandemic likely just piled on to an already challenging situation. In today's episode, Marriage and Family Therapist Associate Sara Semenick joins us to talk about her experience as a mental health professional during the pandemic. Sara shares valuable coping strategies and advice for anyone who may be facing mental health challenges right now.  Episode Highlights: [1:17] Sara introduces herself and talks about how she's been navigating the pandemic.   [6:18] “We are usually separate from our client's crises… but now we're experiencing it along with them.” As a trained therapist, Sara talks about coping skills and how the pandemic has changed her perspective on counseling.  [9:09] Taking care of yourself is incredibly important, especially now, and Sara speaks to how she is practicing that. “I've had to do major self-care this year.” [12:51] “It breaks my heart.” The pandemic has amplified the mental health crisis in our country, and Sara sees it every day in her practice. She shares some important information for listeners.   [16:53] “I'm working on changing that perspective.” Sara shares what she learned in 2020, and what she is taking forward into 2021.  [20:13] Do you have a word for 2021? We hear Sara's word and her intention for the year. “I've learned a lot, I've struggled a lot, but I feel like it's all for a purpose.”  [22:13] Sara tells us what it means to her to be loved well. We also hear how “truthtellers” play such an important role in Sara's life.  Episode Resources: Freedom Counselling Services Enneagram Strategy Call

If you are an educator, parent, or student, then you know that the global pandemic created some enormous education challenges for us in 2020. Balancing workloads, technology issues, student needs, and mental health are just a few of the hurdles that teachers had to overcome this past year. In today's episode, 5th grade teacher Danielle Wade joins us to talk about her experience as an educator during the pandemic. Danielle shares her favorite and most challenging moments of 2020 and speaks about what she hopes to take forward with her in 2021.  Episode Highlights: [2:28] “No matter your tenure, crazy is a good word to describe it.” Danielle talks about what it is like to be a new teacher during a global pandemic.   [7:28] “In a strange way, I'm glad we didn't know…” Making the transition to online learning at the beginning of the pandemic was a huge challenge for teachers and students. Danielle shares her experience.   [10:41] “We couldn't be with her.” Dealing with a death during the pandemic, without the ability to say goodbye, forced Danielle to learn new coping skills.   [17:00] Like many individuals, Danielle had never experienced anxiety before the pandemic started. She speaks about what that felt like for her, and how what she did to cope.   [22:46] “The beautiful parts of ourselves don't come out in those moments.” Danielle describes what it is like to be on the receiving end of the frustration parents have been feeling.   [30:29] When Danielle ended up sick with Covid-19, she was really disappointed by something that others were doing. “This isn't who I am.” She shares the trick that helped her feel better.   Episode Resources: Enneagram Strategy Call

Did 2020 challenge your faith? Have you struggled with the idea of what life will look like post-pandemic? Harry Herbert joins us today to speak about what it means to have faith during a pandemic, and how he is balancing the safety and spirituality of his congregation. Harry talks about the negative, the up-sides, and the lessons he is taking forward from the past year. If you are looking for spiritual guidance during these challenging times, this episode is for you. Episode Highlights: [2:18] “I felt personally responsible.” Harry tells us what it feels like to be a spiritual leader during a global pandemic. [4:55] “The coronavirus didn't cause them, it just revealed them.” We hear which problems Harry says were already there long before Covid-19. [8:07] Harry speaks about his fears, hopes, and where he draws his strength from. [12:32] “It is one of the most important vales and commitments you can make in your life.” Moving forward in life and finding a balance that makes you happy is as simple as this. [16:33] Harry shares his experience of being a leader in faith during a global pandemic. “They become the lightning rod for so many divisions.” [24:09] How do we learn from 2020? Harry gives us his take. “Stop and start counting.” [30:08] Harry and Diana leave us with some inspiring words for moving forward and being intentional in 2021. Episode Resources: Book a free coaching session with Diana

Looking back on this time last year, did you imagine your 2020 would be completely different? Probably. The pandemic has changed our lives, and many of us have faced hardships and uncertainty unlike ever before. In this episode, we are joined by Drew Anderson, Doctor of Chiropractor, and business owner. Drew shares his personal experience as a husband, father, and business owner during this pandemic. He talks about his anger, the lessons he has learned, and the sacrifices he has made to make this year work. This episode is for anyone who's been struggling emotionally, financially, or spiritually during this pandemic.   Episode Highlights: [1:52] “It's like a zombie apocalypse out there.” Drew talks about how the uncertainty of Covid-19 has impacted him, his family, their work, and their everyday life.  [5:17] “I felt like I had abandoned them.” When Drew was forced to close his medical practice, he experienced a full range of emotions, including the feeling that he was letting down his patients. He talks about how he got through that time of uncertainty.  [8:02] “I had to learn how to be around my kids.” We hear how Drew worked through the anger and other emotions that accompanied the consequences of being home from work.  [10:48] Once Drew was able to go back to work, he faced a whole new set of challenges, including an unexpected shutdown. “My wife even packed me a bag.”  [13:20] “Do your worst, God.” Drew talks about his experience being diagnosed and recovering from Covid-19, all while worrying about his family and financial future.  [16:29] “My thoughts on how this year was going to go were 100% wrong.” We hear Drew's reflections and lessons from 2020. He also speaks about his hopes for 2021.  [19:55] Drew speaks about how his patients have been impacted by the pandemic, and what it is like to navigate professional relationships with differing opinions.  [21:47] “It's sad that it takes something tragic to do that.” Drew speaks about what it means for him to be loved well, and how that has changed in 2020. 

Grieving any kind of sudden death can leave you feeling overwhelmed and reeling from the loss. Grieving a suicide is especially painful for survivors who are left with questions and guilt. In today's episode, we are joined by Felisha Dowdy, who shares her personal experience with suicide loss. Felisha talks candidly about how she felt when she lost her mom, what you should and shouldn't say to a survivor, and strategies she is using to get through the holidays. If you are supporting a loved one coping with grief over the holidays, you'll want to hear Felisha's tips. Episode Highlights: [2:08] “We are going to jump into the hard stuff.” Felisha tells us about the devastating loss she experienced, and how it forever changed her life. [3:18] “I was looking up at the clouds thinking ‘this is it.'” We hear how that tragic day unfolded for Felisha. She explains how she felt at the time, and what she feels now, many years later.     [7:43] Felisha has a frank discussion about what you should and should not say to someone who is grieving a suicide. “I got to a point where if one more person said that to me…”  [10:55] “I am so angry, and I don't know what to do with it.” Anger is a common and normal emotion to experience after a loss, but what do you do when it becomes overwhelming? [14:45] Felisha explains how guilt and grief have impacted her everyday life.  [18:30] “Stop acting like you get it, because you don't get it.” With all the stigma and taboo surrounding suicides, it is important for survivors to feel supported. [20:32] We hear what healing looks like for Felisha, and she shares a touching message for anyone going through a difficult time. [24:36] Coping with any kind of loss can be difficult, especially when it is sudden. Felisha explains how you can help a survivor process their feelings after a loss. [26:00] “I didn't want them to come.” The holidays can be a challenging time for anyone who has lost a loved one. Felisha explains the traditions that help her to enjoy the holidays while still remembering her mom. Episode Resource: First Hour Grief

Overcoming grief after losing a loved one can be a complicated process. Figuring out how to feel joy after loss, especially during the holidays can be painful, and often our loved ones don't know how to help us. In today's episode, Diana is joined by her friend Lisa Schardein who shares her own experience with grief and explains how she began to feel joy again. Lisa shares resources, tips for friends, and what to expect when navigating life after a death. If you or a loved one is currently experiencing grief, listen now to find out how to love them well.   Episode Highlights: [2:01] Lisa shares how she met Diana, and the tragic loss that forever changed her life. “I knew I needed help.” [4:35] “You are left to navigate it on your own.” We hear why Lisa felt so alone in the beginning, and what finally helped her to start understanding her grief.   [7:40] What does it look like to move through the grief of losing your child? Lisa shares her experience and what helped her get to the point of acceptance. “Something in me changed.” [9:43] “I was terrified, I was shaking, but I felt so empowered.” Realizing that she should give other people hope, Lisa found her passion by pushing through her own fears. [13:08] What is “grief brain”, and how does it impact the people who have lost their loved ones? “It's the way God protects us.” [16:29] “People didn't know how to be around me… it was like secondary loss.” After suffering the incredible loss of her son's death, Lisa felt a second wave of loss when she slowly began losing friends. She also shares what others did that helped her during her darkest days.  [22:40] Lisa felt a shift within herself and began pursuing a different line of work. “There is nothing out there like this.” If you are someone struggling with grief, you'll want to hear about this incredible program. [25:47] What are some things you can do to process your own grief? Lisa shares what worked for her, and what it means to truly “do the work”. [32:00] Lisa shares one of her biggest fears. She also shares tips on how we can support a friend who's lost a loved one, especially during the holidays. “You don't have to be a hero on your darkest days. Episode Resources: First Hour Grief Response

Are you interested in learning more about yourself, like why do you do the things you do? Have you heard of the Enneagram types, but aren't sure what they mean? In today's episode Diana shares her own personal Enneagram journey with us, and answers some of the common questions you may have. She shares resources, and next steps, and encourages us to truly dig deep. If you want to improve yourself, and love yourself well, this is an episode you can't miss. Episode Highlights: [1:59] At first, Diana was extremely skeptical about something that ended up changing her life. “I almost had to pull over on the side of the road… it almost took my breath away” [5:15] We hear how Diana started her Enneagram journey, and what helped her to understand her own Enneagram type. She has a great book recommendation for beginners. [6:24] “It really helped me understand the why behind my behaviours.” Out of all the different types of personality tests, why is the Enneagram the one that Diana gravitated to? [8:00] What is the difference between transparency and vulnerability? Diana shares her perspective on these two terms, and how her own personal Enneagram journey helped her to understand them.   [10:07] “Now I am actually able to respond, instead of react.” Learn how you too can achieve the freedom of leaving snap reactions in the past, and begin to respond how you truly want to, even in difficult situations. “The best part is when I see them get it.” [12:58] Diana shares a recent coaching experience, and how it helped her client. “The relief that it gave to her, and the understanding that it gave to the other family members… it is powerful.”   [16:20] “I was trying to push her to be just like me.” Diana shares a personal experience of how understanding the Enneagram types has allowed her to be a better parent. [17:53] “It's so easy to overlook this.” If you are interested in learning more about loving yourself well, listen to Diana's recommendations and advice for your next steps. Episode Resources: The Love Well Podcast The Road Back to You Free Enneagram Test Contact Diana: Diana@TheLoveWellPodcast.com

Have you or a loved one ever experienced the excruciating pain of miscarrying or losing an infant? Have you struggled with how to move on or what to say to those around you? Our friend Jessica Brown joins us for today's episode to talk about the difficult topic of infant loss. We hear about what helped, what didn't, and how they keep the spirit of their children alive. If you're struggling with loss, or trying to support someone who is, don't miss this episode. Episode Highlights [2:13] Jessica tells us about her childhood, what she thought about being a mom back then, and how that compares to her life as a parent now.   [4:59] “That was the scariest thing I've ever gone through… I felt like I didn't have anybody.” We hear about the devastating and scary situation Jessica was faced with as a young mother.   [9:11] Jessica shares the story of her son, Noah. “This hospital had a very hard decision.”   [11:55] “I wasn't completely at peace until I had him in my arms.” After enduring an incredibly painful loss, Jessica shares how she felt through her next pregnancy. [13:25] After being pushed to do something that isn't typically encouraged, Jessica found a sense of peace and happiness. “I know not everyone can handle it.” [18:15] Jessica shares what helped her after the loss of her children. She also shares what should not be said to someone suffering the loss of an infant. [20:29] “It helped in so many ways.” If you have suffered a loss, or know someone who has, this one simple thing can make the world of a difference. [26:39] Jessica and Diana offer some valuable advice on how to answer those tricky questions like: “how many kids do you have?” and “are you a mom?”.

As a single parent have you ever felt ostracized or judged by those around you? Have you ever tried to support a single parent only to have your well-meaning help hurt their feelings? In today's episode, we are joined by Audrey Bennet, a single mother who shares her experience and advice with us. We hear about how she accepted a new reality, the lessons she's learned over the years, and her number one lesson for dating after a divorce. If you're a single parent or have a single parent in your life, you'll want to hear this episode. Episode Highlights [1:30] Audrey introduces herself as a single mother and discusses how it defines her. “I was trying to figure out how to keep going.” [4:07] “When you are a single mom you have no option.” We learn about the life lessons Audrey learned early on, and what motivated her to keep going on those hard days. [7:57] “When you are a single mom, it's like you have a scarlet letter.” Feeling as though people were trying to write her story for her, Audrey took ownership of her vulnerability. She shares with us how she did that, and the positive outcomes she saw as a result. [15:23] “At the beginning I was not okay.” Audrey gives us some insight into her early days as a single mom, and how she was feeling during that time. [19:10] Single parents have unique needs that look very different to the needs of conventional parents. Audrey has some advice for anyone trying to support a single parent in their life.  [21:43] “It's like someone stepping into your story and highlighting your pain.” Hear how Audrey feels about this one well-meaning attempt at compassion. [24:09] Audrey talks about how you can love the single parent in your life well. [29:09] “That can be really dangerous.” We hear about Audrey's experience as a dating single mother. If you are a single parent, you'll want to hear the one important thing Audrey recommends before you dive back into the dating world. Episode Resources Pathways Counseling Center

Blended families are more common than ever, but that doesn't make it any easier to navigate the love and guilt associated with being a stepparent. In today's episode, Rob Whittaker joins Diana to talk about their experiences, and the lessons they've learned as parents. They share their biggest mistakes, greatest lessons, and vital advice for anyone currently navigating their own journey with blended families. Whether you've been a stepparent for twenty years, or have just started dating a single parent, you'll want to hear this episode.  Episode Highlights [1:43] Rob tells us about himself and speaks about his experience becoming a stepfather. [5:20] “I realized what an awful, selfish thought that was.” Coming into a blended family caused Rob to feel a lot of pressure and unexpected feelings that he had to process early on. [7:10] Rob and Diana discuss the surprising and somewhat extreme statistic that details how blended families experience love. “I went into this with unrealistic expectations.” [10:38] “I can now see why she hesitated.” We learn about the lessons Rob learned early on as a stepfather and how he navigated the start of his blended family. [12:15] After 11 years as a stepfather, Rob has learned a lot and shares his biggest lessons for anyone getting into a situation with stepchildren.  [15:07] “It's an impossible balancing act.” Rob and Diana share the challenges they faced in their marriages, and the guilt associated with being a blended family. [21:43] Rob shares a key piece of advice for anyone starting their journey with a blended family, and how you can ensure everyone feels loved well. [27:00] “That's something you have to watch out for, because it hurts." We hear what Rob and Diana would tell their younger selves before getting into a blended family.

Opening your heart and home to someone in need can be both rewarding and challenging, especially when that person is a child, and you're only able to show them love temporarily. In today's episode, Jody Bump joins us and shares her experience as a foster mom. We hear about the good, the bad, and the life-changing moments that she's endured throughout her journey. [1:25] Jody introduces herself and shares what it is like to be a foster parent. “It felt lonely, and like no one wanted to hear my why.” [5:30] Feeling like most people couldn't understand her, Jody was forced to come to some pretty challenging realizations. [7:58] “They came with a lot of trauma.” Jody tells us about her first few experiences with foster children placed in her home, and how she was able to meet their unique and challenging needs. [11:00] We hear how Jody's biological children reacted to having foster children in their home. “You could see it on their face.” [12:30] “This is going to make us sound heartless.” Jody shares how her family came to a difficult decision about one foster child in particular. [15:10] While navigating being a foster parent can be tough at times, the judgment from others has been consistent. “There's a lot of comments that are not needed.” [19:20] “We felt like we failed.” Choosing to end a placement is never an easy choice, and Jody explains why her family decided to do that in one challenging instance. [22:20] If you know a foster parent, you absolutely need to hear Jody's thoughts on what you should and shouldn't say and do to love them well.

What happens when we hit a point in life that causes you to feel lost in life, or there's so much pain it causes you to question your faith? In this episode, Amy Kamer shares her most vulnerable moments, life lessons, and what it means for her to be loved well. If you've ever felt lost, in pain, or are questioning your faith, this is the episode for you. [2:15] Amy starts by telling us a little about herself, and some of the challenges she has faced in recent years. “I'll never get over that. It was the biggest surprise of my life.” [5:49] “I've had some of the best and brightest in the country look at me, and they are clueless.” After the miracle of having her son, Amy begins suffering in a way she's never experienced. [9:03] “On the hardest days I am drowning in disappointment.” In an incredible act of vulnerability, Amy shares how she is truly feeling and coping with the daily challenges of her new reality. [11:25] Amy shares what she has learned about her faith in recent years. “It's not how I would define green pastures and clean water.” [14:00] After suffering so much, Amy had to stop doing something many of us do daily. The grief and bitterness were overwhelming, but Amy shares how she survived it. [16:25] “Have you ever seen the back of a tapestry?” If you've ever felt lost, like Amy felt, you need to hear the beautiful metaphor that Amy has applied to her own life. [19:13] “God, give me goals.” Amy struggled with losing her purpose after the birth of her son. Hear how she's exploring what it means to have a purpose now, and how you can too. [21:43] Amy explains what it means for her to be loved well, specifically as someone who experiences daily chronic pain. “It's such a beautiful experience to allow people to love you in meaningful ways.” [24:55] Throughout her journey and struggles to be loved well, Amy learned how to love others well in their times of need. If you've ever tried to help a loved one going through a hard time, you'll want to hear this advice.

Welcome to episode one of The Love Well podcast; a podcast dedicated to exploring the concept of loving yourself and others in ways that embrace our individual and unique needs. In today's episode, we get to know our host, Diana Cahill. In this interview with her daughter, Diana shares some of her darkest moments, as well as the life-altering insights that followed them. If you have a desire to learn how to love yourself and others well, you won't want to miss this! [2:00] Diana explains why she's decided to start this podcast, and what she wants to share with you. "I feel like it has helped to have that language to use during the difficult times." [4:09] Learn about the tool that Diana uses to help navigate her journey of self-discovery and acceptance of others. "A huge part of learning how to love well is starting by understanding yourself." [5:35] "I was terrified and trying to keep it a secret… it really set the tone for the rest of my life." We hear the devastating details of some of the challenges that Diana has faced up until this point. [7:45] Diana tells us what it was like for her to raise a blended family. "I felt like most people didn't know how to love me well." [8:50] Diana was forced to endure a situation where she felt both immense pain and joy. The juxtaposition made it difficult to feel as though she was being loved well. "It was bittersweet, and still is some days." [10:45] "Life has given us a lot of ups, downs, and curves but this felt like we just slammed into a brick wall." Diana tells us about the moment she completely lost hope. [13:28] Learn why it isn't helpful or loving someone well when we say "if you need anything, just call". [17:45] "People hurt me badly in some of the things they said, and I know they didn't mean to, but they did." If you've ever said the wrong thing when someone was hurting, you'll want to hear what Diana has to say about her own experiences. You can learn to love others well, too. To find out more about Enneagram coaching with Diana, email: Diana@TheLoveWellPodcast.com Be sure to subscribe and leave a rating and review.

Have you ever felt as though you're surrounded by people who love you, yet you're not getting the type of love and support that you need? Or maybe you've been trying to love someone who's hurting, but just don't know how? What if you could learn how to love and be loved well? Join Diana Cahill and The Love Well Podcast as she explores the concept of loving yourself and others in ways that embrace our individual and unique needs. It'll give you the push you need to begin to accept and love your whole self and set you up with the tools and wisdom you need to love others well. Be sure to subscribe and leave a rating so you miss any episodes!