Podcasts about you just don't understand women

Have you ever been in a meeting and shared an idea, only to have it ignored? Then, 10 minutes later, a guy shares the same idea, and your boss says “Great idea!” (Grrr.) Or maybe you’ve been told you apologize too much, don’t speak up enough, or that you need more “confidence” or “leadership presence.” (Ugh.) In this episode, we tackle three aspects of communication: first, how and why women’s speech patterns differ from men’s; second, how women can be more assertive in meetings; and third, how women can deal with interrupters (since the science shows women get interrupted more often than men do). Guests: Deborah Tannen is a professor of linguistics at Georgetown University.  She is best known as the author of the bestseller “You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation.” Jill Flynn is a founding partner at Flynn Heath Holt Leadership. Amy Gallo is an HBR contributing editor and author of the “HBR Guide to Dealing with Conflict.” Our theme music is Matt Hill’s “City In Motion,” provided by Audio Network. For links to the articles mentioned in this episode, as well as other information about the show, visit hbr.org/podcasts/women-at-work.

Summer's not over yet! Whether you are looking for a beach read, memoir, thriller, biography, or non-fiction book, we've got you covered! Roxanne gives her summer book recommendations during a very special luncheon at the Pine Orchard Yacht & Country Club in Branford, Connecticut.  Following Roxanne's speech, stay tuned for a behind the scenes interview with Clay Smith, the Editor-In-Chief of the renowned, Kirkus Reviews and now host of the new literary podcast Fully Booked.    Be sure to like us on Facebook and join our mailing list to hear more news about Just the Right Book Podcast We’re trying to get a better demographic handle on the people like yourself who listen to Just The Right Book Podcast. Just go to our website, www.BookPodcast.com, and click on the “Listener Survey,” it should take you about 30 seconds and would  be most helpful to us. Thank you in advance for this! Books in this episode: You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation by Deborah Tannen You're the Only One I Can Tell: Inside the Language of Women's Friendships by Deborah Tannen Anything Is Possible by Elizabeth Strout My Name Is Lucy Barton by Elizabeth Strout Olive Kitteridge by Elizabeth Strout Exit West by Mohsin Hamid A Gentleman in Moscow by Amor Towles Victoria: The Queen: An Intimate Biography of the Woman Who Ruled an Empire by Julia Baird Hourglass: Time, Memory, Marriage by Dani Shapiro  This Close to Happy: A Reckoning with Depression by Daphne Merkin Where the Light Gets in: Losing My Mother Only to Find Her Again by Kimberly Williams-Paisley  The Arrangement by Sarah Dunn The Wrong Side of Goodbye by Michael Connelly The Late Show by Michael Connelly How Propaganda Works by Jason Stanley On Tyranny: Twenty Lessons from the Twentieth Century by Timothy Snyder The Secret History of Wonder Woman by Jill Lepore The Leftovers by Tom Perrotta Mrs. Fletcher by Tom Perrotta One Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel Garcia Marquez The Good Daughter by Karin Slaughter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Deborah Tannen is a mega bestselling author and renowned Georgetown linguist. Her previous book, You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation, was on the NY Times Bestseller List for four years, and as Roxanne puts it, "has become the bible for the differences in the way in which girls and women and boys and men converse." Tannen joins Just the Right Book to discuss her new book, You're the Only One I Can Tell: Inside the Language of Women's Friendships, guiding us to understand the conversational ingredients and behavior that bond or break our friendships with women. Be sure to like us on Facebook and join our mailing list to hear more news about Just the Right Book Podcast Books in this episode: You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation by Deborah Tannen You're the Only One I Can Tell: Inside the Language of Women's Friendships by Deborah Tannen A Connecticut Yankee in King Author's Court by Mark Twain Poem in this episode: Some People by Rachel Field  Isn’t it strange some people make You feel so tired inside, Your thoughts begin to shrivel up Like leaves all brown and dried! But when you’re with some other ones, It’s stranger still to find Your thoughts as thick as fireflies All shiny in your mind!   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To understand the 2012 election, you had to ask a political scientist. To understand the 2016 election, you need to call a linguist.At least, I did. Deborah Tannen is a Georgetown University linguist who's done pioneering work in how men and women's communication styles differ. Her book You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation, was on the New York Times best seller list for nearly four years, including eight months as number one. But I got to know her earlier this year, as part of a reporting project to understand Hillary Clinton's leadership style, and the ways in which it's lost — and even a liability — on the campaign trail.Tannen's work has helped me understand not just Clinton and Trump's communication styles, but my own — her analysis of how men and women communication at home, and in the workplace, is useful no matter who you are. This episode, more than any other I've done, is full of practical insight into situations we all face daily. Among our topics:-How she became a linguist-Why everyone in her doctoral program was recording the conversations at dinner parties-The ways in which linguistics can solve the same problems as psychology-How cultural attitudes about interruptions and silence lead to miscommunication and frustration (I found this one *very* relevant)-The debate over African-American Vernacular English, and the crucial research that both powered it, and has been forgotten about it -The components of what she calls “conversational style” and how they vary depending on who you are-How gender roles can create conflict within relationships, even just in end-of-the-day check-ins with your partner-Why women are perceived to speak more than men, even when they're speaking less-How gendered forms of communication have changed perceptions of Hillary Clinton-Why she tries to never use the word "sexism" when discussing evaluations of Clinton and other female politicians-How expectations of good leadership are caught up in gendered ideas of what leaders look and sound likeAnd so, so much more. Enjoy! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Deborah Frances Tannen is an American professor of linguistics at Georgetown University. Although she has lectured worldwide in her field, and written or edited numerous academic publications on linguistics and interpersonal communication, she is best known for her general-audience books on interpersonal communication and public discourse. She became well-known in the United States after her book You Just Don't Understand - Women and Men in Conversation was published in 1990. It was on the New York Times best seller list for nearly four years, was for eight months the number one best seller, and was subsequently translated into 29 other languages and on best-seller lists in six other nations. She has since made numerous appearances on major television and radio shows as an expert on interpersonal communication, and has had material published in many major newspapers and magazines. You're Wearing That? Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation, her latest book, was also on the best seller list. She is the author of several popular books about the way people in social situations talk to each other. By studying these interactions, she attempts to help others to understand them and so get along better in relationships.