Podcasts about Solitude

Step into the late-night twilight zone with Walter Sterling on The Other Side of Midnight. In this jam-packed, eccentric hour, Walter and UFO expert Dave Scott dive into the deep end of conspiracy theories—from the suspicious, rapid cleanup of Ground Zero and Sandra Bullock's secret alien sightings to whether Queen Elizabeth was actually a shape-shifting reptilian. Plus, Walter rants about the corruption of the Port Authority, exposes a famous radio host who died broke, advises a caller whose girlfriend describes him as merely an "interesting feature" in her life, and shares an introvert's ultimate survival guide to surviving social interaction. It's wild, it's unfiltered, and it's the perfect antidote to your late-night insomnia.

Pour célébrer les trois premières saisons de Folie Douce, et vous faire découvrir des épisodes que vous auriez loupés, on vous propose cet été de réécouter les moments les plus forts du podcast avant de lancer la nouvelle saison à la rentrée !D'ici là bel été, et prenez soin de vous.Cet épisode de Folie Douce a été diffusé le 13 février 2026.Ce début d'année a des allures de dystopie, je sais. J'ai moi-même un petit coup de mou, comme je vous le confie dans l'introduction de cet épisode, qui tombe à pic.Mon invitée, la poétesse Kiyémis, déteste les dystopies. Et nous propose, pour balayer la peur, de convoquer la joie, la joie comme outil de résistance, responsabilité collective et pratique politique. Oui la joie est une déraison, voire une folie face à la violence du monde. Mais le monde n'est-il pas lui-même absolument déraisonnable ?Je connais Kiyémis depuis longtemps. J'observe depuis des années sa voix s'épanouir et ses vers fleurir « et refleurir » - du titre de son magnifique roman sur l'histoire de sa grand-mère - sur nos plaies. Sa dernière production est un ouvrage collectif intitulé : « Pour la Joie, Une ode à la résistance poétique et politique » (ed. Les Liens qui Libèrent), un ouvrage collectif où l'on retrouve à ses côtés les plumes de plusieurs autrices : Rim Battal, Douce Dibondo, Claude-Emmanuelle Gaian-Maull, Nadia Yala Kisukidi, Mélissa Laveaux, Fania Noël, Laura Nsafou et Coline Pierré.Plongez vous dans cet épisode, imbibez-vous du rire de Kiyémis, des quelques lignes qu'elle lit pour vous à voix haute, et convainquez-vous, avec nous, que « l'autre rive existe ». Une expression qui oblige à l'espoir, à l'amour, à la lutte. Elle est une façon de fuir la peur qui paralyse et d'habiller de lumière la colère, qui reste une boussole mais, à la longue, épuise les corps.De corps, il est beaucoup question aussi dans notre échange. Kiyémis aborde son enfance de petite fille « solaire » qui aime écrire, rêvasser et danser devant son miroir, suivie d'une adolescence où les injonctions à « se faire petite » ont eu raison de son élan. Elle qui est l'autrice d'un essai sur la grossophobie « Je suis votre pire cauchemar », nous invite à faire corps avec ce corps et à l'envisager comme un navire puissant, un survivant magnifique capable de nous faire jouir de la beauté du monde et surtout de créer.Car la clé de la leçon de Kiyémis c'est créer. Dans son cas, écrire. Elle nous désigne ainsi la possibilité de grandir non pas malgré mais à partir des traumatismes des générations précédentes. « Les roses héritent des épines, mais aussi des couleurs », souligne-t-elle vers la fin de notre échange, dans un passage que vous n'êtes pas prêtes d'oublier.Bonne écoute et n'hésitez pas à nous faire des retours sur vos plateformes de podcasts et sur les réseaux sociaux.Photo : Adeline Rapon

Our website - www.perksofbeingabooklover.com. Instagram - @perksofbeingabookloverpod Facebook - Perks of Being a Book Lover. To send us a message go to our website and click the Contact button.   You can find Marian Yee at marianyee.com or on IG at @mariangyee   Remember the 1996 film Jerry Maguire and its famous line, “You had me at hello?” Well, our guest this week, Marian Yee, had me at hello with her novel 4 Janes, which is a genre- and time-bending re-imagining of Charlotte Bronte's Jane Eyre. It is a novel that you'll want to read a second time (or even a third) and discuss with others because there are so many layers.    And our book rec segment features female authors in translation. August was Women in Translation month and yes we missed it by a few days, but we still have some great suggestions to last you all year long. We've got historical fiction set in a brothel in early 20th century Japan, a fantasy filled with Norse mythology, a psychological thriller set in Iceland, a family saga set in early 20th century Mexico filled with magical realism, the story of an old woman and her neighbors living outside Chernobyl, and the plight of young women in a mental asylum in Paris.   Books Mentioned in This Episode:   1- 4 Janes: A Novel by Marian Yee  2- Jane Eyre by Charlotte Brontë  3- The Lioness of Boston by Emily Franklin  4- Love and Other Monsters by Emily Franklin  5- Thirteen Perfect Fugitives: The True Story of the Mob, Murder, and the World's Largest Art Heist by Geoffrey Kelly  6- One Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel García Márquez  7- The Whisper Man by Alex North  8- War and Peace by Leo Tolstoy  9- War and Peace: The Graphic Novel by Leo Tolstoy, Alexandr Poltorak, and Dmitry Chukhrai 10- The Ministry of Time by Kaliane Bradley  11- Say Hello to My Little Friend by Jennie Capo Crucet  12- Sister Novelists: The Trailblazing Porter Sisters Who Paved the Way for Austen and the Brontës by Devoney Looser  13- Snap by Susin Nielsen 14- 5 Star Read by Fellow Book Lover Brenna Julian - Echo by Pam Muñoz Ryan  15- The Murmur of Bees by Sofía Segovia, translated from Spanish by Simon Bruni 16- The Mad Women's Ball by Victoria Mad, translated from French by Frank Wynne  17- Baba Dunja's Last Love by Alina Bronsky, translated from German by Tim Mohr  18- A Woman of Pleasure by Kiyoko Murata, translated from Japanese by Juliet Winters Carpenter  19- The Night Guest by Hilda Knutsdottir, translated from Icelandic by Mary Robinette Kowal  20- Odin's Child by Siri Pettersen, translated from Norwegian by Siân Mackie and Paul Russell   Media Mentioned: 1- The Last Seen Podcast - https://www.wbur.org/podcasts/lastseen/last-seen-season-one 2- One Hundred Years of Solitude (Netflix, 2024 - present) 3- The Whisper Man (Netflix, 2026) 4- The Mad Women's Ball (Amazon Prime, 2021)      

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The loudest voices in life aren't always the most important ones. When our days are filled with constant activity, it's easy to miss the gentle voice of God calling us closer. Solitude and silence aren't empty moments—they're opportunities to be renewed, refocused, and reminded that lasting peace is found in His presence.

We please. We rescue. We perform. We hold everything together - until sometimes we disappear or reach for escape.But what if these familiar responses are not fixed identities? What if they are intelligent adaptations: ways we learned to secure safety, belonging, continuity or relief?Following last week's introduction to From Mask to Map, Ashley explores the Nine Adaptation Patterns at the heart of this developing body of work: the Pleaser, Rescuer, Performer, Chameleon, Strong One, Perfectionist, Controller, Vanisher and Escaper.Moving through the different ways we reach towards belonging, attempt to hold ourselves and the world together, or create distance from overwhelming intensity, Ashley considers the protective purpose, genuine strengths and present-day costs carried within each pattern.These are not diagnoses, personality types or nine new boxes in which to place ourselves. With careful attention to Neurodivergent Nuance, Ashley explores why the behaviour alone cannot reveal the whole pattern. Structure may be an essential accommodation rather than control. Solitude may be restoration rather than disappearance. Social fluency may be joyful expression rather than compulsory performance. What matters is the job the behaviour is performing, the freedom we have around it and the price we may now be paying.Ashley also returns to the work of Jungian analyst Dr James Hollis and his question of what, beyond survival, may be seeking expression through us as meaning and purpose.Through recollection, Shakespeare's “ravelled sleave of care” and the image of the Weaver, the episode becomes an invitation to gather every thread of our experience without mistaking any single pattern for the whole design.The episode closes with a brief guided practice, The Weaver and the Thread.The complete guided exploration of the Nine Adaptation Patterns - including discovering your own configuration and mapping the way forward - will be exclusive to the founding From Mask to Map group coaching and hypnotherapy cohort beginning on 15 September. The programme is fully online, limited to ten people and available worldwide, with replays provided for those unable to attend live.Spaces are still available. Visit integrativeiom.co.uk/from-mask-to-map for full details.Our Sponsors:

100 Years of Solitude continues with The Queen Of Madagascar. In episode 2, a new character upsets the precarious balance of peace in the Buendia household. But first, we have to find out how Colonel Aureliano is still alive after his attempted suicide. There's breeding, exports, gramophones, and a lively carnavale all to be seen this episode.Steve Barnes is guitarist for stoner metal band Introvoid, and also plays guitar for the cover band Electric Fist. He has been hosting the Sweet Child Of Time Podcast since 2021.Lindsey Dunn's writings, reviews, podcasts and music can be found at https://www.1ofmystories.comCheck out our main website for all info, videos, and episodes:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.sweetchildoftime.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Please support the show at⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://patreon.com/mlmpod.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join us at our Marsh Land Media Discord channel:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://discord.gg/aRdKmv9Ybc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Our podcast is brought to you by Zencastr! Use "sweetchildoftime" as your promo code for 30% off if you join:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://zen.ai/34YswfAyb8Tg_68Rugun28BAv0U3EeXAvPbnN9FTzpOU9gDo6uemPt2NxY_ET4N0⁠⁠⁠

What happens when leaders face intense pressure to compromise short-term gains for long-term survival?In this episode of Lead The Team, host Ben Fanning sits down with Mark Niemiec, Global Chief Revenue Officer for SAP Customer Experience.Mark shares the story of a massive enterprise deal where his team walked away from a short-term commission boost to do the right thing for the business long-term—and why the customer's head of procurement called days later to thank him for not "taking the bait."Key Takeaways & HighlightsDon't Take the Bait: Why holding the line under extreme pressure builds enduring businesses."Down and Out" Leadership: A game-changing framework learned at Cisco on pushing decision-making power to the front-line teams closest to the customer.Intellectual Honesty: The importance of holding "strong opinions, loosely held" and letting go of ideas when better facts arrive.The Premium on Judgment: Why high-level judgment and context are becoming the ultimate executive skills in the era of AI.Lead Through Influence: How to navigate culture and lead large teams without relying on command-and-control hierarchy.Episode Chapters00:00 – "Don't Take the Bait": The Deal That Missed the Quarter00:34 – Intro: Mark Niemiec (Global CRO, SAP Customer Experience)01:32 – Discovering "Down & Out Leadership" at Cisco03:36 – Front-Line Empowerment vs. Centralized Control06:58 – The High-Stakes Deal: Choosing Long-Term Survival Over Short-Term Cash08:30 – "You Didn't Take the Bait": The Call from Procurement10:35 – Lessons from a $20/hr Temp Job: Making an Impact Fast13:18 – The #1 Trait Every Leader Needs: Intellectual Honesty14:20 – Strong Opinions, Loosely Held17:10 – What to Do When the Playbook Fails19:02 – Yoga, Solitude, and Stoicism for Better Decision-Making21:34 – Leading Through Influence at SAP23:53 – AI & The Future of Leadership: Why Judgment is at a Premium27:05 – Stoic Philosophy in Modern BusinessConnect & FollowSubscribe to Lead The Team on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and YouTube so you never miss an episode!Get Vital Episode Insights: Join the weekly email list at benfanning.com/insight.Build Your Corporate Podcast: Learn about our profitable 5-step podcast framework for your company at BenLeads.com/schedule.-----Connect with the Host, #1 bestselling author Ben FanningSpeaking and Training inquiresSubscribe to my Youtube channelLinkedInInstagramTwitter

durée : 00:37:25 - Le téléphone sonne - par : Ali Baddou - Dans un monde hyperconnecté, d'où vient notre sentiment de solitude ? Les réseaux sociaux, les intelligences artificielles sont-ils en train de nous isoler ? Nous sommes de plus en plus nombreux à nous confier à des machines… A qui profite ce nouveau marché de la solitude ? - équipe : Karline Desrosiers, Marie Merier - invités : Serge Tisseron Psychiatre et psychanalyste Vous aimez ce podcast ? Pour écouter tous les épisodes sans limite, rendez-vous sur Radio France

1er épisode solo de la rentrée solo je vous raconte mon été, celui où je suis parti trois semaines à Stockholm écrire le livre sur lequel je travaille depuis un an et demi.Un livre sur ce que la technologie nous retire quand elle nous facilite tout.Ce départ est né d'une sensation que je traîne depuis longtemps, ce pincement au ventre chaque fois que je demande mon chemin à Google Maps plutôt qu'à un humain, chaque fois que je fais rédiger un texte par une IA, chaque fois que ma vie devient un peu plus pratique et un peu plus vide en même temps. Je me suis imposé une règle : aucune ligne de ce livre ne serait écrite par une machine. Et pour tenir cette règle, il me fallait un endroit où rien ne viendrait m'aider à fuir.Ce que je n'avais pas vu venir, c'est que je partais écrire un livre sur la friction dans le pays qui a le mieux réussi à la faire disparaître. Et que ça allait d'abord me mettre à terre.Dans cet épisode, nous parlons de la première semaine, celle où je n'ai adressé la parole à personne et où la solitude que je croyais désirer m'a serré le ventre pendant sept jours pleins. De l'effet de dévitalisation, ce mot que j'ai fini par trouver pour désigner ce qui nous arrive collectivement. Du papillon qui doit déchirer sa chrysalide lui-même sous peine de ne jamais voler. Du pigeon de Skinner, que je porte en moi chaque fois que j'essaie d'affiner ma routine du matin. De la nuit où j'ai décidé de jeter la moitié de mon manuscrit. Des Suédois qui s'effacent plutôt que de vous contredire, et de ce que ma sœur m'a dit à ce sujet qui m'a scié. Du Rat Park et de la cage confortable qu'on se construit tous. Et du moment où j'ai griffonné mon numéro de téléphone sur un bout de papier, à mon âge, pour le tendre à quelqu'un.Je me suis questionné sur ce que la solitude fait vraiment, sur la différence entre celle qu'on choisit et celle qui nous tombe dessus, sur ce qu'on croit épargner à nos enfants en leur retirant l'attente et l'ennui, et sur ce qui reste d'une société quand elle a poli tous ses angles.C'est un épisode long, personnel, et sans doute le plus intime que j'aie enregistré. Si vous vous êtes déjà surpris à ne pas savoir ce qui vous avait fait sourire ou pleurer dans la journée, il est pour vous.3. Citations marquantes« Comprendre un piège ne vous permet pas d'en sortir. Vingt ans plus tard, je suis plus accro que jamais. »« Je critique, je rejette, et je reste. C'est sans doute la définition la plus honnête de ma situation, et peut-être de la vôtre. »« J'ai reçu des mails de lecteurs qui me remerciaient pour ce texte que je n'avais pas écrit. Le fait que ça marche m'a prouvé l'efficacité du système et a creusé le vide encore un peu plus. »« Si vous ouvrez le cocon du papillon pour lui simplifier la vie, vous le condamnez : il ne pourra jamais voler. »« On est devenus des athlètes de la certitude dans un monde qui réclamerait plutôt des acrobates de la complexité. »(Bonus si besoin d'un sixième extrait pour les réseaux)« Je suis venu écrire sur ce qui nous arrive quand on retire toutes les frictions d'une vie, et je me suis retrouvé dans un pays qui a fait exactement ça, mais à l'échelle d'une culture entière. »4. Idées centrales discutées 1. L'effet de dévitalisation≈ 09:30 Les systèmes conçus pour nous retirer les frictions de la vie, l'attente, l'effort, l'ennui, le désaccord, finissent par nous vider de l'intérieur. Ils réduisent notre capacité à décider, nos compétences, jusqu'au sens qu'on donne à notre existence. On devient performants, productifs, et vides. Pourquoi ça compte : c'est le mot qui manquait. Tant qu'une sensation n'a pas de nom, elle existe dans le corps mais pas dans la conversation collective. Nommer permet d'agir.2. Savoir ne suffit pas≈ 03:10 Vingt ans à connaître parfaitement les mécanismes d'addiction des plateformes, et vingt ans à y céder quand même. La lucidité n'est pas un levier de changement. Pourquoi ça compte : ça disqualifie toute la littérature qui promet qu'il suffit de comprendre pour se libérer, et ça déplace la question du côté de l'environnement plutôt que de la volonté individuelle.3. Le vivant se renforce par la résistance, pas par le rendement≈ 21:00 La friction est un mauvais élève en ingénierie, on la supprime pour gagner en rendement. Mais un arbre se renforce sous le vent, les valvules du cœur avec le flux du sang, et le papillon a besoin de l'effort qui brise la chrysalide pour que ses ailes se remplissent. Pourquoi ça compte : les designers de la Silicon Valley ont appliqué la logique de la machine au vivant sans vérifier qu'elle s'y appliquait. C'est une erreur de modèle, pas une erreur de morale.4. Friction n'est pas souffrance≈ 23:00 La souffrance réelle, celle de la maladie, du deuil, de la précarité, ne construit rien, elle épuise et elle diminue, et elle demande de la justice et du soutien. Les frictions du quotidien, elles, font grandir quand on les traverse. Pourquoi ça compte : sans cette distinction, tout le propos bascule dans le discours réactionnaire du « c'était mieux quand c'était dur ». C'est le garde-fou de l'épisode.5. La bonne solitude a besoin de micro-liens≈ 32:00 Le flot d'écriture n'est pas venu de l'isolement pur. Il est arrivé au moment précis où j'ai commencé à échanger trois mots avec le type de la cantine et la femme de la sécurité. J'avais besoin d'être seul pour écrire et de ces quelques regards pour tenir debout pendant que j'écrivais seul. Pourquoi ça compte : ça renverse le mythe de l'artiste retiré du monde, et ça donne un dosage concret plutôt qu'un idéal.6. Ce n'est pas la substance qui crée l'addiction, c'est l'isolement≈ 51:30 Le rat seul se tue à la morphine, les rats du Rat Park en consomment jusqu'à dix-neuf fois moins, et ceux qui étaient déjà accros réduisent d'eux-mêmes une fois replacés dans la vie sociale. Pourquoi ça compte : appliqué à nos écrans, ça déplace tout le débat. La question n'est pas de savoir si TikTok est mauvais, mais de savoir dans quelle cage on le consomme.7. Le désaccord est un muscle qu'on a laissé fondre≈ 42:00 Les Suédois s'effacent plutôt que de vous contredire, et le résultat n'est pas un enfer, c'est doux, propre et sûr. Mais le prix, c'est un lien social qui se dévitalise. Nous suivons le même chemin avec les bulles de filtres et la disparition des lieux où l'on croisait des gens qui ne pensaient pas comme nous. Pourquoi ça compte : c'est la friction dont personne ne parle, parce que tout le monde a envie de s'en débarrasser. Et c'est peut-être celle qui nous manquera le plus.Questions structurantes de l'épisode(Format solo : ce sont les questions que je me pose à voix haute et qui portent le récit. Utilisables telles quelles pour les chapitres, les descriptions courtes, ou comme angles de relance sur les réseaux.)Pourquoi ma vie devient-elle un peu plus pratique et un peu plus vide en même temps ?Comment peut-on connaître parfaitement les mécanismes d'un piège et y rester enfermé vingt ans ?Qu'est-ce qu'une sensation qui n'a pas de mot ? Existe-t-elle vraiment tant qu'on ne peut pas la nommer ?Que se passe-t-il exactement quand on retire à un être vivant toutes les résistances qu'il rencontre ?Où passe la ligne entre la friction qui construit et la souffrance qui détruit, et pourquoi les confond-on autant aujourd'hui ?Est-ce que la solitude qu'on désire est vraiment celle qui nous fait du bien ?Qu'est-ce qui a changé entre une époque où l'attente était le décor et une époque où elle est devenue une agression ?Pourquoi cherche-t-on à affiner jusqu'à son repos, et qu'est-ce que ça dit de notre rapport au hasard ?Que faut-il pour accepter de jeter la moitié d'un travail quand une solution confortable est à portée de main ?Combien de décisions ai-je réellement prises aujourd'hui, et combien ont été prises pour moi ?Que devient une société qui a réussi à supprimer le conflit de ses relations quotidiennes ?Est-ce qu'on protège nos enfants en leur retirant l'attente, l'ennui et l'échec, ou est-ce qu'on les prive de ce qui nous a construits ?Hébergé par Audiomeans. 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Greetings All You Young Jazz Lovers, May 25th 2026 marked the passing of The Saxophone Colossus... Sonny Rollins. A man of his on invention and conviction, a true artist and pioneer, a non conformist. He seemingly reinvented himself over the years and each version was an improvement on the previous one. Not just as a performer but as a human being. Sonny Rollins believed in the future and wanted to be there and be ready for it. "I think when the creative person ends, he continues in the next existence. I'm a person who believes this life isn't the be-all and end-of-everything. A spiritual person doesn't feel like that." Sonny Rollins (2009) This episode is proof of his theory because Sonny Days Are Here..... forvever. Enjoy, Brian "Katzpheno" Phoenix featuring: Little Lu (1980) Did You See Harold Vick? (2000) Pent-Up House (1956) Without A Song (1962) When Your Lover Has Gone (1956) St. Thomas (1956) I Could Write A Book (1963) Blossom (1980) Solitude (1957) Three Little Words (1965)

Alain de Botton est écrivain et philosophe. Il est également le fondateur de The School of Life, il a écrit Le cours de l'amour, un livre que j'ai lu il y a quelques années et qui m'a franchement retourné, parce qu'il commence là où tous les films s'arrêtent : le jour d'après le mariage.C'est le retour de l'été et ca m'a semblé bien de diffuser cet épisode en cette dernière semaine d'aout.Petite précision avant de démarrer : cet épisode a d'abord été diffusé en anglais. J'ai quand même tenu à le proposer en français, parce que ce qu'Alain raconte sur l'amour me paraît trop utile pour rester réservé à celles et ceux qui sont à l'aise avec l'anglais.Il y a un moment dans la conversation où je me suis vu, moi, dans ce qu'il décrivait. Il explique, statistiques à l'appui, que les enfants d'alcooliques tombent massivement amoureux de personnes qui ont un problème d'addiction. Pas par malchance. Parce que nous ne sommes pas attirés par ce qui nous rend heureux, nous sommes attirés par ce qui nous est familier. Et on peut passer une vie entière à rejouer la même scène en croyant chaque fois faire un choix neuf.Dans cet épisode, nous parlons de l'idéal romantique et de ce qu'il nous fait faire, des papillons dans le ventre et de ce qu'ils cachent vraiment, du complexe d'Œdipe relu comme un manuel pratique, des drapeaux rouges à repérer dès le premier dîner, de la sexualité qui s'éteint dans les couples aimants, du polyamour et des dégâts qu'il laisse parfois, de l'infidélité comme tentative maladroite de se rapprocher, des ruptures et de la manière décente de partir, des enfants qui abîment le couple, et de ce qu'on appelle la folie de l'autre.J'ai discuté avec Alain des questions que tout le monde se pose et que personne n'ose formuler à voix haute : est-ce qu'on peut faire changer quelqu'un, comment savoir qu'on a vraiment tout essayé, pourquoi les hommes hétérosexuels ont si peu de mots pour dire ce qu'ils ressentent, et pourquoi les applications de rencontre ont un intérêt économique à ce que vous ne trouviez personne.Ce qui m'a le plus marqué, c'est sa réponse finale. Derrière l'argent, la gloire et l'amour, ce que nous cherchons tous, dit-il, c'est le calme que nous avons connu nourrisson. Et il ajoute une phrase que je n'ai pas réussi à me sortir de la tête : le bruit qui est à l'intérieur de nous a d'abord été un bruit extérieur.Bonne écoute.3. Citations marquantes« Nous ne sommes pas attirés par ce qui nous rend heureux. Nous sommes attirés par ce qui nous est familier. »« Il ne s'agit pas de trouver quelqu'un de sain d'esprit, tout le monde est fou. Il s'agit de trouver quelqu'un capable d'explorer sa folie avec un minimum de maturité. »« Le modèle économique des applis de rencontre repose sur votre échec. C'est une machine à sous : le bonheur, oui, mais pas maintenant, revenez demain. »« Se déshabiller, c'est intéressant. Mais se mettre psychologiquement à nu, ça, c'est la vraie aventure. Et ça ne devient jamais ennuyeux. »« Il n'existe pas d'équilibre entre vie pro et vie perso. Tout ce qui vaut la peine d'être fait va déséquilibrer votre vie. »4. Idées centrales discutées 1. Nous aimons dans un décor que nous n'avons pas choisi (≈ 02:35) Alain ouvre sur cette maxime de La Rochefoucauld : certaines personnes ne seraient jamais tombées amoureuses si elles n'avaient jamais entendu dire que ça existait. Nos émotions reçoivent des encouragements discrets de la société qui nous entoure, et l'idéal romantique en fait partie. Pourquoi ça compte : si nos attentes viennent du décor, elles peuvent être révisées. C'est une bonne nouvelle déguisée en fatalité.2. L'attirance suit le familier, pas le bonheur (≈ 12:52) Le mouvement romantique promettait qu'en suivant son cœur, on choisirait mieux. La psychologie moderne dit l'inverse. Nous rejouons les schémas de frustration de l'enfance parce qu'ils ressemblent à la maison. Pourquoi ça compte : c'est l'explication la plus solide au sentiment de « je retombe toujours sur le même profil » que tant de gens décrivent.3. Les perversions sexuelles sont des terreurs de l'intimité (≈ 25:39) De l'exhibitionniste au voyeur, Alain lit ces comportements comme des refus de la réciprocité : il faut imposer, ou observer de loin, parce que se regarder dans les yeux est insupportable. Pourquoi ça compte : le même mécanisme, en version douce, explique l'amant qui disparaît le lendemain matin. Le désir de connexion et la terreur d'être englouti cohabitent chez tout le monde.4. Les applications de rencontre ont besoin de votre échec (≈ 32:06) Leur modèle repose sur une promesse jamais tenue, exactement comme une machine à sous. Alain reste pourtant optimiste sur la technologie : il imagine une IA témoin du couple, qui signalerait ce que nous ne savons pas entendre. Pourquoi ça compte : ça déplace le débat, le problème n'est pas la technologie, c'est le modèle économique qu'on lui a collé dessus.5. On ne cherche pas quelqu'un de sain, on cherche quelqu'un de lucide (≈ 19:59) La bonne définition d'une attente réaliste, selon lui : quelqu'un capable d'annoncer sa folie avant de la vivre, et de s'en excuser après. Pourquoi ça compte : ça remplace la quête épuisante de la personne parfaite par un critère observable dès les premiers mois.6. Le dialogue a une limite, et il faut l'accepter (≈ 49:05) C'est le moment le plus vulnérable de la conversation. Alain vit de l'idée que les mots transforment les gens, et il admet que ce n'est pas toujours vrai : le traumatisme ferme des portes qu'aucun argument n'ouvre. Pourquoi ça compte : certaines des ruptures les plus douloureuses viennent de là, quitter quelqu'un qu'on aime et qui ne peut pas comprendre.7. La folie de l'autre peut devenir le lieu de l'intimité (≈ 21:28 en germe, développé à 1:20:59) Ce n'est pas la nature du problème qui décide, c'est la manière dont il est porté. Dire « j'ai un problème avec le sexe, aide-moi » peut être plus intime que le sexe lui-même. Pourquoi ça compte : ça retourne complètement la logique des drapeaux rouges. Le défaut avoué relie, le défaut caché détruit.5. Questions posées dans l'interviewComment l'idéal romantique de l'âme sœur a-t-il façonné ce que nous attendons de l'amour, et quels sont les pièges de ces attentes ?Comment prend-on du recul par rapport à un idéal romantique dans lequel nous baignons depuis toujours ?Que valent les papillons dans le ventre, et que sommes-nous censés ressentir quand nous tombons amoureux ?Faut-il suivre son intuition en amour, ou s'en méfier ?Que pensez-vous de l'idée que l'amour dure trois ans ?Quelles sont les attentes réalistes qu'on peut avoir d'une relation ?Existe-t-il des drapeaux rouges fiables, et quelles questions faut-il poser dès les premiers dîners ?Nous vivons dans une société sans friction, Uber, Airbnb, tout doit être fluide. Cherche-t-on aussi un partenaire sans friction ?Est-ce que les hommes hétérosexuels sont plus démunis que les femmes face à leurs propres émotions ?Comment accueillir la folie de son partenaire sans se perdre soi-même ?Peut-on faire changer quelqu'un, et à quelle vitesse ?Comment garder le désir sexuel vivant dans un couple qui s'aime depuis longtemps ?Pourquoi tant d'hommes réclament-ils aujourd'hui des relations ouvertes ?Pourquoi deux personnes qui se sont profondément aimées deviennent-elles des étrangères ?Peut-on pardonner une infidélité, et comment ?Comment savoir qu'on a vraiment tout essayé et qu'il faut partir ?Comment la société devrait-elle évoluer pour améliorer la qualité de nos relations ?Peut-on faire trop de thérapie ?6. Références citées dans l'épisodeAuteurs et philosophesLa Rochefoucauld (≈ 02:48) : « Il y a des gens qui n'auraient jamais été amoureux s'ils n'avaient jamais entendu parler de l'amour. » La citation matrice de tout l'épisode, reprise plus tard à propos du polyamour (≈ 56:47).Sénèque (≈ 17:34) : « Pourquoi pleurer sur des parties de la vie ? Elle appelle tout entière les larmes. » Cité comme exemple de pessimisme réconfortant.Nietzsche (≈ 19:44) : pour vivre, nous avons besoin de certaines illusions.Freud (≈ 33:26) : le complexe d'Œdipe, relu comme modèle des compétences nécessaires à l'âge adulte. Alain note au passage que Freud écrivait mal et qu'il a besoin d'être commenté.Spinoza (≈ 33:50 et ≈ 42:55) : cité comme exemple de penseur qui ne dit pas le meilleur de sa pensée, puis L'Éthique comme exemple de complexité que nous aimons pour de mauvaises raisons.Racine, Shakespeare, Tolstoï (≈ 49:05) : convoqués pour dire que même la plus belle éloquence ne fait pas bouger quelqu'un qui est fermé émotionnellement.Flaubert, Madame Bovary (≈ 59:09) : Emma lit les mauvais livres, ceux qui lui disent que sa vie est ennuyeuse.Livres et créations d'Alain de BottonLe cours de l'amour (The Course of Love) (≈ 00:33) : cité par moi en intro comme le livre qui m'a marqué.The School of Life (≈ 00:33 et ≈ 1:27:43) : l'institution qu'il a fondée, sa chaîne YouTube, et le terrain de ses explorations à venir.Livre français discuté sans être nomméL'amour dure trois ans (≈ 17:34) : je lui soumets la thèse, il répond qu'il ne connaît pas le livre, se félicite qu'il ne soit pas traduit en anglais et refuse d'y croire un vendredi matin à 11h20. [Auteur non nommé dans l'épisode : Frédéric Beigbeder]Cinéma et cultureÉric Rohmer (≈ 59:09) : le cinéaste qui nous apprend la patience des conversations ordinaires.Gladiator (≈ 59:09) : l'exemple inverse, le récit à l'échelle héroïque qui rend la vie quotidienne décevante.Personnes citéesEsther Perel (≈ 18:20) : mentionnée comme la voix à convoquer sur la durée du désir.Invitée d'un précédent épisode de Vlan! (≈ 1:27:26) : je mentionne une conversation qui m'a fait comprendre que le bruit est surtout intérieur. [Nom mal transcrit dans le fichier, à vérifier avant publication]Lieux et imagesLe Bois de Boulogne (≈ 25:39) : l'exemple de l'exhibitionniste.Sainte-Lucie, Saint-Barthélemy (≈ 1:09:21) : les îles de son histoire de plage, la démonstration la plus drôle de notre amnésie sentimentale.Timestamps clés00:00 — Pourquoi cet épisode est en anglais J'explique en français le contexte de l'épisode et pourquoi je tenais à le proposer malgré la barrière de la langue.00:33 — Alain de Botton, School of Life et Le cours de l'amour Mon introduction : pourquoi ce livre m'a marqué, et pourquoi les 20 ou 30 questions les plus difficiles sur l'amour sont réunies ici.02:35 — « Certains ne seraient jamais tombés amoureux s'ils n'en avaient jamais entendu parler » La maxime de La Rochefoucauld comme point de départ : nos émotions ne poussent pas dans le vide, elles sont encouragées par la société. L'idéal romantique nous dit que l'autre doit tout deviner sans qu'on ait à parler.04:59 — La question simple qui fait tomber l'idéal Comment saurai-je que je suis aimé ? À quoi le reconnaîtrai-je ? Vingt personnes dans une pièce donneront vingt réponses différentes selon leur âge, leur pays et leur musique. Nous sommes des créatures hautement suggestibles, et c'est ce qui nous rend libres de changer.06:27 — Les papillons dans le ventre, deux heures suffisent-elles ? Je raconte cette femme rencontrée récemment qui, après deux heures, savait déjà qu'elle ne ressentait rien.07:07 — La solitude originelle et la quête de la maison De l'intérieur d'un corps à l'extérieur du monde, du doudou serré dans les bras à l'adolescence qui cherche un autre corps. Les papillons, c'est la reconnaissance d'une maison perdue, dans une couleur de cheveux, une odeur, un angle de cou, un certain humour.10:58 — Mariages arrangés, romantisme, et le retournement Le passage de la logique dynastique au règne du sentiment, entre 1750 et 1870. Une révolution qui a produit des résultats bien plus paradoxaux qu'on ne le croit.12:52 — La statistique qui fait mal Les enfants d'alcooliques tombent massivement amoureux de personnes qui ont un problème d'addiction. Nous ne sommes pas attirés par le bonheur, nous sommes attirés par le familier.15:43 — Faut-il suivre son intuition ? Non sans la soumettre à examen. Et surtout : tenez un journal de ce que vous vivez, parce que la mémoire réécrit tout. Faites confiance à ce que vous avez ressenti sur le moment, pas à ce que vous imaginez maintenant.17:34 — « L'amour dure trois ans » ? Sa réaction est une des plus drôles de l'épisode. Puis l'argument sérieux : nos goûts ne changent pas si vite, et on ne change pas d'amis tous les trois ans.19:59 — Personne n'est sain d'esprit La seule attente réaliste : quelqu'un capable d'annoncer sa folie juste avant de la vivre, et de s'en excuser après. Il vaut mille fois mieux quelqu'un qui dit « j'ai peur de l'intimité » que quelqu'un qui ne répond plus au téléphone.21:37 — Drapeaux rouges : les vraies questions du premier dîner Un premier dîner est un entretien psychologique. Demandez l'histoire de la personne, sa relation avec ses parents, et observez surtout sa capacité à répondre. « Je ne sais pas, je n'y ai jamais pensé » est en soi une réponse.24:28 — La moitié d'entre nous a peur de s'approcher Environ 50 % des gens portent l'idée inconsciente que se rapprocher de quelqu'un finit mal. Presque tout le monde veut aimer, et presque tout le monde a un obstacle.25:39 — Les perversions sexuelles comme terreurs de l'intimité L'exhibitionniste, le voyeur, et jusqu'au cas le plus tragique. Toutes des manières de refuser la réciprocité. Et le même mécanisme, en version douce, chez l'amant qui promet de rappeler et ne rappelle jamais.28:50 — La vie sans friction et le partenaire sans friction Je lui parle du livre que je veux écrire sur la société du sans-couture, et de cette manie de collectionner les gens en les jetant dès la première imperfection.29:53 — Et si l'IA aidait vraiment les couples ? Son scénario optimiste : une intelligence artificielle témoin du couple, qui signale ce qu'on n'a pas entendu. « Il a mentionné son père trois fois et vous n'avez rien dit. »32:06 — Les applis de rencontre sont des machines à sous Leur modèle repose sur l'échec répété et la promesse du prochain coup. Un appel direct aux entrepreneurs qui écoutent.33:26 — Le complexe d'Œdipe, enfin expliqué utilement Ce que Freud voulait vraiment dire, et pourquoi il l'a mal dit. L'enfant a besoin d'être reconnu comme désirable sans jamais être séduit, et sans jamais être ignoré. Les deux dangers symétriques.38:18 — Pourquoi les conversations entre hommes hétérosexuels sont si ennuyeuses Ça commence dans la cour de récréation, quand pleurer devient une accusation. Ça finit par un adulte qui ne peut dire presque rien de ce qu'il est.40:36 — Quand une remarque sur des chaussures est entendue comme une condamnation à mort Pourquoi certaines personnes vivent toute critique comme une annihilation, et ce que ça révèle de ce qui leur est déjà arrivé.42:55 — Un plaidoyer pour la simplicité Nous adorons la complexité, Spinoza, l'astrophysique, et nous la respectons parfois là où elle n'a rien à faire. Trois heures de discussion quatre fois par semaine sur le sens d'un mot n'est pas une preuve de profondeur.44:26 — Ce qu'est l'amour mature Savoir s'excuser, séparer le passé du présent, distinguer la personne en face de soi de son père ou de sa mère. Et l'analogie du coureur olympique : tout le monde ne peut pas être dans votre équipe.46:36 — On ne change pas sur ordre Les gens changent, mais quand ils le décident, jamais sous la pression. Plus vous insistez, moins c'est possible.47:58 — L'âge émotionnel n'a rien à voir avec l'âge civil Nous tombons amoureux de personnes qui ont notre âge émotionnel. D'où les écarts de vingt ans qui fonctionnent, et les couples du même âge qui se décrochent.49:05 — L'aveu le plus vulnérable de l'épisode Il vit de l'idée que les mots transforment les gens. Et il reconnaît que le traumatisme ferme des portes qu'aucune éloquence n'ouvre. Certaines ruptures naissent exactement là.51:42 — Le désir qui s'éteint dans un couple aimant Le conflit entre le besoin de paraître respectable et la vérité de nos désirs. Plus on a besoin de quelqu'un, moins on ose lui montrer qui on est vraiment.54:17 — Polyamour : « du sang sur le tapis » Son expérience personnelle des amis qui appellent à trois heures du matin. Sans condamner celles et ceux pour qui ça fonctionne.55:51 — L'hôtel, et le partenaire redevenu inconnu La proposition concrète : sortir de la routine, et se rappeler que la personne qu'on croit connaître par cœur reste largement une inconnue.56:23 — Pourquoi tant d'hommes veulent une relation ouverte Une lecture historique et économique du mariage bourgeois, et ce qui se libère quand la contrainte financière disparaît.58:33 — Les histoires d'amour finissent toutes trop tôt Les films s'arrêtent au moment où les deux se trouvent. On ne les voit jamais préparer le dîner vingt ans plus tard.59:09 — Madame Bovary lisait les mauvais livres Rohmer contre Gladiator. Ce que nous regardons décide de ce que nous jugeons digne d'intérêt dans notre propre vie.1:01:06 — La passion, mais psychologique Deux personnes pressées de se retrouver le soir pour reparler de leur enfance. Se mettre psychologiquement à nu, voilà l'aventure qui ne s'épuise jamais.1:02:49 — Le chagrin d'amour est une forme de mort Il refuse de minimiser. Certains en meurent. Et c'est pire quand on ne comprend pas pourquoi l'autre est parti.1:04:09 — Les règles de la décence quand on quitte quelqu'un On prend une amende pour 25 km/h de trop, et on peut disparaître de la vie de quelqu'un après vingt ans sans que personne ne dise rien. Son message le plus direct : si vous savez, partez maintenant.1:07:17 — Peut-on rester amis ? Plus vous avez aimé, plus l'amitié sera pâle. Le meilleur terrain pour une amitié après coup, c'est ironiquement quand on ne s'est pas beaucoup aimés.1:09:21 — Le fichier « problèmes avec X » et l'histoire de la plage Sa méthode contre l'amnésie sentimentale, illustrée par son incapacité chronique à se souvenir qu'il déteste la plage.1:12:11 — L'enfant est une perte, et il faut le savoir La structure tragique de la parentalité, les associations inconscientes qui s'installent quand quelqu'un devient père ou mère, et pourquoi le sexe devient plus compliqué.1:13:47 — « L'équilibre vie pro vie perso n'existe pas » Tout ce qui vaut la peine d'être fait déséquilibre la vie. Il vaut mieux se préparer que se plaindre.1:14:44 — Un plaidoyer pour le compromis Rester pour les enfants n'est pas automatiquement une lâcheté. Refuser tout compromis, c'est un système totalitaire appliqué à sa propre vie.1:16:14 — Comment savoir qu'il est temps de partir Quand vous avez vraiment tout essayé. Les six mois de plus qui semblent perdus vous économisent des années de regrets.1:19:42 — L'infidélité comme tentative de se rapprocher Certaines trahisons disent l'inverse de ce qu'on croit : je ne veux pas sortir, je veux entrer.1:20:59 — La folie de l'autre comme chemin vers l'intimité « J'ai un problème avec le sexe, aide-moi » peut créer plus d'intimité que le sexe. Ce n'est pas la nature du problème qui compte, c'est la manière dont il est porté.1:23:07 — La question qu'on ne lui pose jamais Personne ne l'interroge sur Œdipe ni sur l'exhibitionnisme. Il vient de dire ce qu'il attendait depuis longtemps de pouvoir dire.1:24:10 — L'âge psychologique de l'amour Après les mariages arrangés et l'ère romantique, une troisième époque s'ouvre. Il n'y a qu'une seule voie, l'intelligence émotionnelle.1:25:00 — Peut-on faire trop de thérapie ? Non, mais on peut la faire mal. Et beaucoup de thérapeutes sont mauvais, imposant leur vision du monde à leurs patients.1:26:38 — La porte qu'il ferme : l'anxiété Ce que nous cherchons derrière l'argent, la gloire et l'amour, c'est le calme du nourrisson qui vient de manger.1:27:26 — « Le bruit intérieur a d'abord été un bruit extérieur » La phrase de fin, en une ligne.1:27:43 — Ce qui l'attend La School of Life, et cette immense toile sombre de la vie émotionnelle dont il découvre un morceau à la fois. Suggestion d'autres épisodes à écouter : [BEST OF] Esther Perel : repenser le couple à l'âge du choix infini (https://audmns.com/fHyNTYA) [Hors-Serie] Tout ce que j'aurais voulu savoir en amour avec Alain de Botton (partie 1) (https://audmns.com/jiDhQhD) [Hors serie] Tout ce que j'aurais voulu savoir en amour avec Alain de Botton (partie 2) (https://audmns.com/vUBKEkK)Hébergé par Audiomeans. Visitez audiomeans.fr/politique-de-confidentialite pour plus d'informations.

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Crocodilopolis by John Manuel Arias is a riveting meditation on legacy, myth and masculinity which follows brothers locked in a power struggle after a dark family secret threatens their once-powerful political dynasty. John joins us to talk about the anxiety of a sophomore novel, sibling rivalry, global mythology, and tropical plants with cohost Isabelle McConville. This episode of Poured Over was hosted by Isabelle McConville and mixed by Harry Liang.                     New episodes land Tuesdays and Thursdays (with occasional Saturdays) here and on your favorite podcast app.   Featured Books: Crocodilopolis by John Manuel Arias One Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel García Márquez Song of Solomon by Toni Morrison East of Eden by John Steinbeck The Dew Breaker by Edwidge Danticat The God of Small Things by Arundhati Roy Sula by Toni Morrison Beloved by Toni Morrison The House of the Spirits by Isabel Allende Lonely Crowds by Stephanie Wambugu Blindness by José Saramago The Grand Paloma Resort by Cleyvis Natera Lolita by Vladimir Nabokov   TBR Featured Books: Crocodilopolis by John Manuel Arias Fruit of the Drunken Tree by Ingrid Rojas Contreras Swamplandia! by Karen Russell

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Join our book club!lifeonbooks.com/bookclubBooks mentioned in this episode:Animal Spiral Juan Rosahttps://amzn.to/3RRZ1G7https://bookshop.org/a/103053/9781917260329Our Share of Night by Mariana Enriquezhttps://amzn.to/4lpQrsDhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780451495150Out by Natsuo Kirino https://amzn.to/44zddqhhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780593311950Electric Shamans at the Festival of the Sun by Monica Ojedahttps://amzn.to/4gH25hUhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9781566897556Orders of Semblance by Robert S. StickleyDiscontent by Beatriz Serranohttps://amzn.to/3SqT5nEhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9798217006762Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas by Hunter S. Thompsonhttps://amzn.to/4xSYymthttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780679785897Myra Breckenridge by Gore Vidalhttps://amzn.to/4bWs5TNhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780525566502Gates of Fire by Steven Pressfieldhttps://amzn.to/4xN0Q6phttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780553383683American Gods by Neil Gaimanhttps://amzn.to/4bX1xllhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780062472106100 Years of Solitude by Gabriel Garcia Marquezhttps://amzn.to/42sHkQ1https://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780060883287Gravity's Rainbow by Thomas Pynchonhttps://amzn.to/42x7mjXhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780143039945The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo by Stieg Larssonhttps://amzn.to/4p4z2GjCatch-22 by Joseph Hellerhttps://amzn.to/3LfAMy3https://bookshop.org/a/103053/9781451626650Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichiehttps://amzn.to/4xS0rj5https://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780307455925Atomic Habits by James Clearhttps://amzn.to/4g9trwXhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780735211292The Tunnel by William H. Gasshttps://amzn.to/3TYQ2DUhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9781628976366Idiocy by Pierre Guyotathttps://amzn.to/4ikQdDqhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9781681379197By Night in Chile by Roberto Bolanohttps://amzn.to/48OXGpIhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9781250321749Trout Fishing in America by Richard Brautiganhttps://amzn.to/4vcGzGQhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780547255279Grapes of Wrath by John Steinbeckhttps://amzn.to/42WE3r4https://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780143039433Moby Dick by Herman Melvillehttps://amzn.to/3SZDjNqhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780142437247Book of the New Sun by Gene Wolfehttps://amzn.to/3SGr8bLhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9781250781253A Posthumous Confession by Marcellus Emantshttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9781590173473https://amzn.to/4qjp1XfHard Rain Falling by Don Carpenterhttps://amzn.to/40WFDJjhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9781590173244Look Out Cartridge by Joseph McElroyhttps://amzn.to/4gaPMdthttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9781941088333Terra Nostra by Carlos Fuenteshttps://amzn.to/3JzA2DkJR by William Gaddishttps://amzn.to/44pKEfnhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9781681374680Of Mice and Men by John Steinbeckhttps://amzn.to/3SKlbukhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780140177398Ulysses by James Joycehttps://amzn.to/4cTgKUOhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780679722762Don Quixote by Miguel de Cervanteshttps://amzn.to/3SKltkUhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780060934347Infinite Jest by David Foster Wallacehttps://amzn.to/4lVzrJzhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/97803169200492666 by Roberto Bolanohttps://amzn.to/48EyX5yhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780312429218Mending Bodies by Han Lai Chuhttps://amzn.to/4i7zZgShttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9781949641769Want to read one book from every country? Check out our resource online:https://linktw.in/ZeoltyGet my favorite rotating bookshelf here:https://www.flycitymall.com/?ref=edbiqqxe&utm_source=goaffproFollow me on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/alifeonbooks/Follow Andy on Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/metafictional.meathead/

Why Are We So Lonely Even When We're Not Alone?   Host Curtis Chang talks with psychologist and podcaster Dr. Alison Cook about why America's loneliness epidemic can't be solved by simply adding more people to our lives. They explore how attachment wounds, anxiety, distraction, and modern life leave us disconnected—and how solitude and honest prayer can become paths toward healing. Dr. Cook offers a practice for loneliness: "recognize and return"—name what you feel, then remember, "I am loved even here."   02:46 - Why Do We Minimize Loneliness? 05:12 - What Is Attachment Theory? 10:31 - Childhood Wounds and Cultural Context 13:42 - Where God Enters the Healing Process 16:14 - The Inner Dialogue with God 20:44 - The Importance of Solitude 27:20 - The Modern Epidemic of Loneliness 35:16 - Loneliness as a Holy Longing 39:22 - Spiritual Practices for a Healthy Inner Life   To give to Good Faith: https://goodfaith.org/donate   Mentioned in This Episode: Dr. Cook's The Secure Soul: Finding Inner Strength and Connection When Trust Doesn't Come Easy The U.S. Surgeon General's report: Our Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation Professor Irvin D. Yalom's Existential Psychotherapy Dietrich Bonhoeffer's Life Together   Scriptures: Psalm 42 (ESV) Psalm 131 (ESV) Psalm 139 (ESV) Genesis 2 (ESV) Romans 8 (ESV)   More From Alison Cook: Dr. Alison Cook's Website Dr. Alison Cook's The Best of You podcast   Follow Us: Good Faith on Instagram Good Faith on X (formerly Twitter) Good Faith on Facebook   The Good Faith Podcast is a production of a 501(c)(3) nonpartisan organization that does not engage in any political campaign activity to support or oppose any candidate for public office. Any views and opinions expressed by any guests on this program are solely those of the individuals and do not necessarily reflect the views or positions of Good Faith.  

Over the past couple of years, the Permian has been dominated by one story: natural gas takeaway constraints and negative prices at the Waha Hub. That has changed recently, however, as more pipelines have entered service, and now plans for the Solitude Pipeline System have been unveiled. 

Father Robert Nixon, OSB, joins the Son Rise Morning Show to continue exploring Thomas à Kempis' Solitude and Silence: The Cloister of the Heart. They discuss why habits—especially the habit of excessive talking—can be so difficult to break, even when we sincerely repent and resolve to change. Father Nixon explains how our minds can justify returning to old behaviors and why perseverance, prayer, discipline, and God's grace are essential to lasting conversion.Support the show: https://www.sacredheartradio.com/donate-now/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Father Robert Nixon, a Benedictine monk from New Norcia, Australia, joins the Son Rise Morning Show to continue exploring Thomas à Kempis’ Solitude and Silence: The Cloister of the Heart. This discussion focuses on a challenging lesson for the spiritual life: learning to restrain ourselves even from things that are perfectly lawful and harmless. Father Nixon explains how practicing restraint in small things—what we eat, what we say, and even when we choose to remain silent—helps develop the self-mastery needed to resist what is genuinely harmful. They also reflect on Proverbs 17:28 and the surprising wisdom of silence: sometimes the best response is simply to listen, rather than feel compelled to speak.Support the show: https://www.sacredheartradio.com/donate-now/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Marlon and Jake explore the power of setting in novels—and why the best stories feel like they couldn't have happened anywhere else. They discuss settings that become characters in their own right, fictional worlds they'd love (or absolutely hate) to inhabit, and books that made unexpected places fascinating. Plus: why a modern-day Captain Nemo might just be a tech bro. Amerika by Franz Kafka Treasure Island by Robert Louis Stevenson Mutiny on the Bounty by Charles Nordhoff and James Norman Hall Moby-Dick by Herman Melville Master and Commander by Patrick O'Brian Robinson Crusoe by Daniel Defoe The Long Ships by Frans G. Bengtsson The Haunting of Hill House by Shirley Jackson We Have Always Lived in the Castle by Shirley Jackson Masters of Atlantis by Charles Portis Wise Blood by Flannery O'Connor The Last of the Mohicans by James Fenimore Cooper Steppenwolf by Hermann Hesse Gormenghast trilogy by Mervyn Peake Dubliners by James Joyce The Ballad of the Sad Café by Carson McCullers Jane Eyre by Charlotte Brontë Tinker, Tailor, Soldier, Spy by John le Carré Journey to the Center of the Earth by Jules Verne Twenty Thousand Leagues Under the Sea by Jules Verne The Bridge of San Luis Rey by Thornton Wilder One Hundred Years of Solitude by Gabriel García Márquez The Catcher in the Rye by J. D. Salinger From the Mixed-Up Files of Mrs. Basil E. Frankweiler by E. L. Konigsburg The Merry Adventures of Robin Hood by Howard Pyle The Swiss Family Robinson by Johann David Wyss My Life in the Bush of Ghosts by Amos Tutuola The Lord of the Rings by J. R. R. Tolkien Ragtime by E. L. Doctorow A Room with a View by E. M. Forster Macbeth by William Shakespeare Dune by Frank Herbert The Last Man by Mary Shelley Little House in the Big Woods by Laura Ingalls Wilder

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Susanna Clarke's "Piranesi" has held popularity for a few years now and has been dubbed a "modern classic." What makes it classic? Readers wander "The House" with lovable Piranesi while he figures out the meaning of his life and uncovers some life-changing secrets. All the while, it teaches lessons on life, loneliness, simplicity and change.

100 Years of Solitude is back for season 2, which debuted on August 5, 2026. Steve and Lindsey discuss where we left off from Season 1, and we remind the listeners as well as ourselves about General Moncada, as his storyline ends within the first few minutes of the episode. We catch up with Colonel Aureliano and his never ending war, Ursula as she speaks for the town of Macondo, Pilar who never grew bitter, Amaranta who has seemed to not change much, Aureliano Jose who doesn't seem to have the stomach for war, Jose Arcadio Segundo and his turn to the church, Aureliano Segundo and his solace found in his grandfather's workshop, and Remedios and her difficulty in staying fully clothed.Steve Barnes is guitarist for stoner metal band Introvoid, and also plays guitar for the cover band Electric Fist. He has been hosting the Sweet Child Of Time Podcast since 2021.Lindsey Dunn's writings, reviews, podcasts and music can be found at https://www.1ofmystories.comCheck out our main website for all info, videos, and episodes:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.sweetchildoftime.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Please support the show at⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://patreon.com/mlmpod.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Join us at our Marsh Land Media Discord channel:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://discord.gg/aRdKmv9Ybc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Our podcast is brought to you by Zencastr! Use "sweetchildoftime" as your promo code for 30% off if you join:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://zen.ai/34YswfAyb8Tg_68Rugun28BAv0U3EeXAvPbnN9FTzpOU9gDo6uemPt2NxY_ET4N0⁠⁠⁠

Jean-Pierre, 72 ans, souffre d'une profonde solitude et dit qu'il accepte parfois des relations déséquilibrées pour ne pas rester seul. Il raconte une précédente relation avec une femme souffrant de troubles psychiatriques, marquée par de la violence, au point qu'une procédure est en cours après qu'elle l'a percuté en voiture. Il cherche aujourd'hui à faire une rencontre amoureuse, tout en reconnaissant sa difficulté à se protéger face à des personnes fragiles ou abusives. Chaque soir, en direct, Caroline Dublanche accueille les auditeurs pour 2h30 d'échanges et de confidences. Pour participer, contactez l'émission au 09 69 39 10 11 (prix d'un appel local) ou sur parlonsnous@rtl.frHébergé par Audiomeans. Visitez audiomeans.fr/politique-de-confidentialite pour plus d'informations.

Tell and Wren face a wraith—a sorcerer gone rogue—in this third and final book in the Children of the Black Glass middle grade fantasy series. Now a captive in Desert's house, Wren learns the evil sorcerer has melded herself into a human body to become a wraith. Wielding even more power, more strength, and more magic than ever before, Desert's still not satisfied…not until she consumes Wren's too. Tell will stop at nothing to save his sister, and while he lacks magic himself, he discovers one of their friends has mystical powers and is as determined as Tell is to save Wren—the girl who once saved him. Separated for the first time, Tell and Wren are both left to rely on their quick wits, mountain training, and allies old and new to vanquish Desert once and for all. As desperate sorcerers prepare to battle the twisted wraith, they know losing would mean losing the city of Halfway…and each other.Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/arroe-collins-unplugged-totally-uncut--994165/support.

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Join our book club!lifeonbooks.com/bookclubBooks mentioned in this episodeAnimal Spiral by Luis Rosahttps://amzn.to/4i67O1Mhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9781917260329Our Share of Night by Mariana Enriquezhttps://amzn.to/4bNIkCwhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780451495150The Week of Colors by Elena Garrohttps://amzn.to/4xCvdfIhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9781949641899Out by Natsuo Kirinohttps://amzn.to/4idi9ZMhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780593311950Mending Bodies by Han Lai Chuhttps://amzn.to/4i7zZgShttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9781949641769Woodworm by Layla Martinezhttps://amzn.to/45YEvHbhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9781949641592The Crying of Lot 49 by Thomas Pynchonhttps://amzn.to/4bQTIxrhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780060913076Omensetter's Luck by William H. Gasshttps://amzn.to/4ws50Qkhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780141180106Trieste by Dasa Drndichttps://amzn.to/4xIp2XRhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780544538504The Flanders Road by Claude Simonhttps://amzn.to/3SsXSFghttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9781681375953Gravity's Rainbow by Thomas Pynchonhttps://amzn.to/4zit6zphttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780143039945Marshland by Otohiko Kagahttps://amzn.to/4xhQvjnhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9781628974041Trout Fishing in America by Richard Brautiganhttps://amzn.to/3TVpIKMhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780547255279Infinite Jest by David Foster Wallacehttps://amzn.to/4fXL2YLhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780316602921The Pale King by David Foster Wallacehttps://amzn.to/4qiFawChttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780316074223Ulysses by James Joycehttps://amzn.to/3Sej1mmhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780679722762As I Lay Dying by Faulknerhttps://amzn.to/3TRPijShttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780940450264100 Years of Solitude by Gabriel Garcia Marquezhttps://amzn.to/4wLyetHhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780060883287Dune by Frank Herberthttps://amzn.to/4xa6Ea8https://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780441013593Crime and Punishment by Fyodor Dostoevskyhttps://amzn.to/4wCweE0https://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780679734505Moby Dick by Herman Melvillehttps://amzn.to/4xILJLuhttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9780143105954Hard Rain Falling by Don Carpenterhttps://amzn.to/4zhSo0Ahttps://bookshop.org/a/103053/9781590173244Want to read one book from every country? Check out our resource online:https://linktw.in/ZeoltyGet my favorite rotating bookshelf here:https://www.flycitymall.com/?ref=edbiqqxe&utm_source=goaffproFollow me on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/alifeonbooks/Follow Andy on Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/metafictional.meathead/

Danseuse, courtisane et légende vivante, la Belle Otero a traversé son temps comme une héroïne de roman, avant de tout perdre, dans le silence et l'oubli.Franck Ferrand vous entraîne dans les coulisses éblouissantes de la vie de la célèbre danseuse et courtisane Otero, surnommée "La Belle Otero". De son enfance misérable en Espagne à son triomphe sur les scènes parisiennes, en passant par ses frasques et ses amours tourmentés, cet épisode retrace le destin hors-norme de cette femme devenue une véritable icône de la Belle Époque.

In this episode of Lead Culture, Jenni Catron shares what she learned during an extended summer break and why stepping back can be essential for sustainable leadership. She reflects on the tension between doing and being, the challenge of slowing down, and how time away revealed deeper questions about purpose, significance, and identity.Jenni opens with a reminder that culture does not take care of itself and that leaders must lead with intention. She then shares how her sabbatical included time with friends and family, reading, rest, and intentional disconnection from social media, email, and Slack. Even though the break was restful, it also surfaced a struggle many overachievers face: feeling significant only when they are productive.A major takeaway from the episode is that nothing magical happened on sabbatical — and that was the point. Instead of chasing big ideas or a new vision, Jenni focused on stillness, presence, and making space for what matters most. She describes how this time helped her recognize the importance of creative space, mental rest, and the right-brain work of meaning-making and reflection.Jenni also connects her personal experience to a broader cultural insight, referencing Arthur Brooks' research on how modern life often overvalues efficiency and problem-solving while undernourishing meaning, creativity, and human connection. She shares how this tension was made even more vivid in the wake of an EF3 tornado in her community, where people rallied together and reminded her that people are the point.Key TakeawaysHealthy leaders need rhythms that sustain them.Rest is productive when it creates space for meaning and clarity.Leaders often confuse being with doing.Creativity, stillness, and reflection are essential leadership practices.People should remain the priority, even in busy or crisis-filled seasons.Questions Jenni Asks LeadersWhat can you do that disrupts your rhythms and lowers your heart rate?How can you disconnect your doing from your being?Are you making space for quiet, creativity, and presence?What rhythms do you need to lead in a healthy, sustainable way?Resources MentionedInvitation to Solitude and Silence by Ruth Haley BartonThe Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark ComerThe Sabbatical Journey by Alan BriggsThe Meaning of Life by Arthur BrooksJenni's book Clout: Discover and Unleash Your God-given InfluenceClosing EncouragementJenni ends by encouraging leaders to protect the rhythms that keep them healthy, purposeful, and present — not only for their own well-being, but for the health of their teams and cultures. To connect with Jenni, email jennicatron@get4sight.com.We need your help to get the LeadCulture podcasts in front of more leaders! There are three simple things you can do that truly help us:Review us on Apple podcasts Subscribe - we're available wherever you listen to podcasts.Share - let your friends know about the podcast by sharing your favorite episode on social media!

In this episode, host Elizabeth Pitman sits down with Andrew R. Jones to discuss his new book, Ten Treasures of Learning to Pray, the third and final installment in his trilogy built around Martin Luther's framework of oratio, meditatio, and tentatio. Andy walks through several of the treasures God deposits into our lives through prayer — from persistence and solitude to forgiveness — and shares the biblical prayer guides, like Hannah and Hagar, who have shaped his own life of faith.Episode Timestamps0:00 — Introduction & Welcoming Andy Jones Back1:15 — Andy's Feelings as the Trilogy Comes to a Close2:00 — Understanding Luther's Oratio, Meditatio, and Tentatio5:00 — What Sets Ten Treasures of Learning to Pray Apart7:00 — Why Prayer Is a Treasure9:00 — The Story of Andy's Grandfather and His Baseball Cards11:00 — The Treasure of Persistence14:00 — Solitude and Community as Paired Treasures17:00 — Forgiveness: A Treasure to Be Hoarded and Shared19:00 — Why We Can't Forgive Ourselves22:00 — Andy's Favorite Prayer Guides: Hannah and Hagar24:00 — How to Pray Using the Collect Format27:00 — A Prayer Practice to Try This Week29:00 — ClosingAbout the GuestAndrew R. Jones lives in the San Francisco Bay Area, where he enjoys running, hiking, and adventuring with his wife, Stephanie. He has served the church in a variety of roles and locations, utilizing the gifts of speaking, teaching, and writing. As a curious author and parish pastor, he is known for conveying deep spiritual concepts in ways everyone can understand. You can find his weekly writings on his Substack, Bible Curious.Resources MentionedTen Treasures of Learning to Pray by Andrew R. Jones — cph.orgTen Lies Satan Loves to Tell by Andrew R. Jones - cph.orgTen Questions to Ask Every Time You Read the Bible - cph.orgConcordia Publishing HouseBringing you God's enduring Word in a changing world.

You'd think fear is what stops you from doing hard things. At 25, with zero rowing experience, Taryn Smith crossed the Atlantic alone. 3,000 miles, 46 days, and I learned that the fear was never the obstacle. It was the signal she was finally in the right place.In this episode, Dr. Gabrielle Lyon and Taryn Smith discuss:Why fear is a "metric of success," not a stop sign, and how to train yourself to move toward discomfort instead of away from itHow food becomes visible performance fuel when you're the only engine, and how to preserve muscle on limited calories using protein and daily amino acidsThe "long-term optimist, short-term realist" mindset that carries you through a slog with no end in sightThe post-achievement crash nobody warns you about, and why the low after a big win is predictableWhether or not you'll ever touch an oar, you'll walk away with a portable mental framework for facing anything you've been avoiding, and a clearer sense of who you are when no one's watching.Want ad-free episodes? Subscribe to Forever Strong Insider: https://bit.ly/4u5VSRe

There is a great mercy hidden within these unsettling sayings from the Evergetinos. The Desert Fathers do not speak to us about spiritual warfare in order to make us preoccupied with the devil. They speak about it so that we might become sober, humble, and utterly dependent upon Christ. This is one of the great blessings the Desert Fathers continue to offer the Church. They expose what ordinarily remains hidden. Modern man tends to imagine temptation almost exclusively in terms of dramatic moral choices. We think of sin as something obvious placed before the will: Will I do this or will I not? But the Fathers understood the human heart far more subtly. Long before the temptation becomes an obvious choice, something has often already begun moving within us: a thought entertained, an irritation indulged, a desire awakened, an image cherished, a conversation replayed, praise secretly enjoyed, an injury remembered, a judgment formed, prayer postponed. The enemy rarely begins by asking us to renounce God. He asks only that we become slightly inattentive. And so Abba Simon gives us one of the most important sentences in tonight's reading: “Keep watch inside your cell, and keep watch outside it.” The brother cannot understand why he leaves his cell, becomes caught up in the distraction of others, laughs when they laugh, talks when they talk, and then discovers upon returning that the peace he formerly possessed has disappeared. He wants to move between recollection and distraction without consequence. Abba Simon tells him gently but firmly: That is impossible. The heart carries within itself what it consents to. This is why nepsis—watchfulness—is so central to the spirituality of the desert. The Fathers discovered that the cell is not merely a physical room. Ultimately, the cell is the heart. We must learn to inhabit it wherever we are. Solitude without vigilance will not save us, nor will activity necessarily destroy us. What matters is whether the heart remains awake before God. The modern elders say the same. St. Porphyrios continually warned against becoming fascinated with darkness. We do not overcome darkness by staring at it. We turn toward Christ. St. Paisios likewise spoke with great realism about the suggestions of the enemy, yet his emphasis was always upon humility and trust in God. St. Silouan and St. Sophrony understood perhaps most deeply that spiritual warfare is finally a battle over where the heart will abide: in itself or in Christ. This is precisely why these passages must never be read merely intellectually. We can study the taxonomy of temptation and still remain utterly blind to ourselves. Indeed, that may itself become another temptation. The moment I read these sayings and begin identifying the passions of other people, I have already missed their purpose. The proper response is much simpler: There but for the grace of God go I. “Satan Is Not Dead” Perhaps the most sobering saying tonight is the Elder's response to the man who declares, “I am dead to the world.” “You may say that you are dead, but Satan is not dead.” What extraordinary spiritual realism. The Fathers distrust premature declarations about ourselves. I have conquered this passion. I am beyond that temptation. This no longer affects me. I have reached dispassion. I understand myself now. No. The desert teaches us never to presume upon yesterday's victory. This is not because the Fathers are pessimistic about grace. Quite the opposite. They are so convinced of the power of grace that they refuse to confuse grace with human self-confidence. A man who knows his weakness can be extraordinarily strong because he clings to Christ. A man convinced of his strength is already standing dangerously alone. This is why the account of the dying monk is so striking. Satan says, “You have eluded me,” and even then the Elder replies: “I do not yet know whether I have eluded you.” There is no spiritual swagger here. No confidence in accomplishments. No inventory of virtues. Only vigilance until the final breath. The Trembling of Agathon Then comes Abba Agathon. He has spent his life seeking God. Yet as death approaches and the brothers ask whether he is confident that his deeds have been pleasing to God, he answers: “God's judgment is one thing, man's another.” This is not neurotic scrupulosity. It is humility purified of illusion. Agathon knows something we continually forget: we cannot finally stand outside ourselves and judge our own souls. Even our virtues may contain admixtures we cannot perceive. Generosity may conceal a hunger to be needed. Zeal may conceal anger. Orthodoxy may conceal pride. Asceticism may conceal self-reliance. Service may conceal the desire for recognition. Even repentance itself can become subtly self-absorbed. Therefore Agathon places himself entirely before God. And notice how the story ends. He dies in joy. This is crucial. The humility of the Desert Fathers does not lead to despair. It leads to freedom. Agathon has nothing left to defend. Nothing to prove. Nothing to claim for himself. He places everything into the hands of God and ascends “as one who greets his friends and loved ones.” True humility ends in joy because it has surrendered the impossible burden of saving itself. The Vessels of the Enemy The extraordinary vision of Abba Makarios brings all of this together. The devil appears covered with vessels containing different means of temptation. One attacks prayer with drowsiness. Another Scripture with physical discomfort. Another obedience. Another chastity. Another speech. Another appetite. Another humility through pride. Another virtue through vainglory. Another remembrance of eternity through forgetfulness. The image may seem strange to us, but its psychological and spiritual insight is profound. The enemy studies where we are vulnerable. He does not tempt everyone identically. And more importantly, he frequently attacks us precisely where we are seeking God. When we pray, suddenly we become tired. When we seek silence, a hundred apparently urgent thoughts arise. When we begin fasting, food occupies our imagination. When we perform some good work, we begin wondering whether anyone noticed. When God gives us spiritual insight, we subtly begin thinking ourselves spiritually insightful. When we experience grace, we may begin secretly believing that the grace belongs to us. Even virtue can become the material of temptation. This is why Makarios sees vessels around the devil's neck filled with pride and human glory. The enemy does not care whether he captures us through obvious vice or apparent virtue. He cares only that the gaze of the heart moves away from Christ and returns to itself. And perhaps the most frightening vessel is the one containing forgetfulness. The enemy makes “the memory of these things disappear.” Forgetfulness is not simply poor memory. In the language of the Fathers, it is an existential forgetfulness of God. We forget who we are. We forget whose we are. We forget death. We forget judgment. We forget mercy. We forget the Kingdom. We forget the presence of Christ. And once remembrance disappears, almost anything can enter. This is why the Jesus Prayer is so powerful. “Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me.” It is remembrance restored. The Name gathers the scattered heart. The Name interrupts the conversation with the logismoi. The Name returns us to Presence. Sitting With the Fathers This is why we need to journey with the Desert Fathers rather than merely read them. Their sayings are not curiosities from an exotic period of Christian history. They are maps of the human heart. We should read them slowly enough that they begin reading us. Where am I inattentive? Where have I become confident in myself? What thought do I repeatedly entertain? Where do I seek human approval? What happens to my heart after certain conversations? What destroys my recollection? What makes prayer difficult? Where has forgetfulness entered? And above all: Where am I relying upon myself rather than Christ? These questions should not produce anxiety. They should produce humility. The Desert Fathers were not obsessed with demons. They were captivated by God. Precisely because they desired God so intensely, they learned to recognize everything that sought to draw the heart away from Him. And they knew they did not fight alone. We live within the communion of the Church. The angels surround us. The saints intercede for us. The Mother of God shelters us. The prayers of the Church carry us. Our guardian angel accompanies us. And the Name of Jesus is placed upon our lips. The evil one may indeed be relentless. But he is not sovereign. Christ is. Makarios can interrogate the devil precisely because Christ has already conquered him. The powers of darkness are exposed because the Light has come into the world. And so vigilance is not fearfully watching for Satan behind every movement of life. Vigilance is keeping the heart turned toward Christ. The safest person spiritually is therefore not the one who thinks, I would never fall into that. It is the one who whispers: Lord, without You I could fall into anything. Keep me. Guard my heart. Give me remembrance of You. Send Your holy angels to protect me. Through the prayers of Your saints, preserve me from deception. And then we understand why we must keep returning to the desert. The Fathers know the terrain. They have watched thoughts arise and disappear. They have suffered temptation. They have fallen and risen. They have learned the terrible danger of self-confidence and the astonishing strength hidden in humility. They take us by the hand and teach us to watch. Inside the cell. Outside the cell. Until our final breath. Not because we are terrified of the darkness, but because we have discovered something infinitely more beautiful that we do not wish to lose sight of: the face of Christ. --- Text of chat during the group: 00:08:04 Fr. Charbel Abernethy: Volume 3 page 54 number 3 00:56:55 James Hickman: In the past year or so, certain Catholic exorcists have come under attack for describing a bit of their healing ministry. For instance, some attack the priests for revealing that the devil has told them x, y, or z. The attackers, who only seem to attack the priests behind their backs, say that the priests are either lying or that they've been misled by the devil, for the demons can't be trusted. I trust these priests, and here Abba Macarius is just one more witness to the power of the Church to compel the demons, if it be God's holy will, to share what otherwise we wouldn't know. I suppose I'm sharing this hoping more of us will pray for these exorcists and for priests in general. Abba Macarius, pray for us! 01:04:00 Forrest: The appearance of the Devil in this story reminds me of an earlier hypothesis where a great saint laughed at a group of demons struggling to lift a single feather.  How hard it was for them! Here the Prince of Demons wears many vessels with feathers attached. 01:04:25 Adam Paige: The 35 Doctors of the Church: Revised Edition by Rev. Christopher Rengers, O.F.M. Cap 01:18:27 Rebecca Thérèse: Uriah the Hittite 01:20:25 Julie: Thank you

Michael and Ethan discuss The Seven Strings of the Lyre, by George Sand (also known as A Woman's Version of the Faust Legend), while drinking Craigellachie 13yo Speyside Single Malt..In this episode:Strong start claiming to do a chiasmus but APPARENTLY, ACTUALLY doing an Antimetabole.A lot of sports talk from two guys who know nothing about sportsInappropriately asserted man mid-life crises; unenthusiastic Masters thesesWe gotta talk about the lyre, and the seven strings thereofAlastor; or, the Spirit of Solitude, by Percy Bysshe Shelley (in case you also couldn't/can't help yourself)The Divided Soul, by Heidi White (it's literary criticism, but also life criticism)Worry about what the Capital T “Truth“ isWe do finally talk about the Lyre and its stringsMan has to bottom out somewhereShakespeare references Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade and Sand references ShakespeareRockstar gnosticismNext time Michael and Ethan will discuss two comics: Justice Leage of America #10, by Gardner Fox, and Captain America #107, by Stan Lee and Jack Kirby! Join the discussion! Go to the Contact page and put "Scotch Talk" in the Subject line. We'd love to hear from you! And submit your homework at the Michael & Ethan in a Room with Scotch page. Join us on GoodReads!Get on our Substack!Donate to our Patreon! MUSIC & SFX: "Kessy Swings Endless - (ID 349)" by Lobo Loco. Used by permission. "The Grim Reaper - II Presto" by Aitua. Used under an Attribution-NonCommercial-ShareAlike License. "Thinking It Over" by Lee Rosevere. Used under an Attribution License.(Links to books & products are affiliate links.)

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Get the 200+ Page Optimal Living Daily Workbook (PDF) - Free. Want to turn today's episode into an actionable plan? Join the Optimal Living Weekly newsletter and I'll send you our 200-page digital workbook immediately. It's packed with the best takeaways from the show, formatted for easy reading and implementation at home. Get your free PDF workbook here: https://oldpodcast.eo.page/join Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3101: Erica Layne names seven things that make parenting as an introvert uniquely challenging, from the constant noise and interruptions to the phone calls and the guilt that follows. She explains why solo time is not a luxury for introverted parents but a requirement, and why so much of parenting runs counter to what comes naturally. She also points to the quiet strengths introverts bring to healthy relationships with their kids. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://ericalayne.co/parenting-as-an-introvert/ Quotes to ponder: "For introverts, this sacred time is just as important as sleep!" "Parenting as an introvert is like having an out-of-body experience." "No matter what stage of parenting we're in, so much of it is counter to what comes naturally to us." Optimal Relationships Daily is a daily relationship advice podcast where we narrate the best articles on healthy relationships, dating, marriage, and family, read to you by a professional narrator so you can strengthen your closest connections a little more every day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There is a temptation in every generation to believe that the spiritual life consists primarily in learning new methods, acquiring hidden knowledge, or discovering techniques that promise quick access to God. St. Isaac the Syrian gently dismantles this illusion. When he speaks of the deeper forms of prayer, he deliberately refuses to satisfy our curiosity. It is a remarkable act of humility. He knows that the mysteries of prayer cannot be communicated as information because they are received only as a gift. They belong not to those who seek extraordinary experiences but to those who have quietly consented to be transformed through long obedience. This restraint reveals something profoundly important. The deepest prayer is never mastered. It is given. One does not arrive there through spiritual cleverness but by allowing grace to accomplish its hidden work over time. “Sit in your cell,” the ancient saying declares, “and your cell will teach you everything.” The cell becomes the place where the restless search for novelty dies, where the heart gradually ceases to seek explanations and begins instead to seek only Christ Himself. For Isaac, stillness is therefore not an escape from the world but the creation of an interior space where the face of Christ can finally be seen without distortion. This is why he speaks so forcefully about abstention from many concerns. The problem is not simply that busyness consumes our time. Far more dangerously, it fragments our attention. It scatters the heart among a thousand anxieties until it loses the capacity to remain before the Lord with loving simplicity. How striking that Isaac does not first speak about outward activity but about the inability to remain “directly before the face of God.” The Christian life begins here. Before there is ministry, teaching, writing, service, or even ascetic labor, there is the gaze of love. The Father turns His face toward us in His Son, and little by little we learn to return that gaze. Prayer is not first our speaking to God but our remaining before Him long enough for His presence to heal what has been wounded within us. This changes the whole character of spiritual struggle. We often imagine that holiness is achieved by greater effort, tighter control, or stricter discipline. Certainly there is ascetic labor, and Isaac never minimizes it. Yet its purpose is not self-perfection. It is to remove whatever prevents us from remaining peacefully before Christ. The battle is not ultimately against activity itself but against everything that steals our attention from the One who alone can heal the heart. Only in such stillness do we begin to notice the subtle movements of the soul. Isaac says that the monk learns to distinguish “what enters into and what comes out” of him. Here we discover the extraordinary psychological and spiritual depth of the desert tradition. Before modern psychology attempted to map the interior world, the Desert Fathers had already entered its hidden landscape. They understood that thoughts, desires, fears, fantasies, and memories continually seek entrance into the heart. Unless one lives before the face of Christ, these movements remain confused and unexamined. But in the light of His countenance they become discernible. His gaze exposes nothing in order to condemn; it reveals everything in order to heal. This is why the entire ascetical life must remain Christ-centered. Stillness divorced from Christ easily becomes isolation. Silence without Christ becomes emptiness. Solitude without Christ can become merely another form of self-absorption. But when every moment of silence is filled with the awareness of His presence, stillness becomes communion. The heart is no longer occupied with itself but quietly captivated by the beauty of the Lord. Here, I believe, we begin to understand what I have called throughout these writings desire and wonder. As the heart becomes less driven by endless concerns, it does not become emotionally barren. Quite the opposite. It awakens. Desire is purified because it is no longer dispersed among countless lesser loves but gathered into a single longing for Christ. Wonder returns because His presence is never exhausted. Every moment before Him becomes fresh. Every prayer becomes an invitation into a mystery that can never be possessed, only received. Perhaps this is the hidden fruit of Isaac's refusal to explain the higher forms of prayer. He wishes to protect us from seeking experiences rather than seeking Christ. For if we truly stand before His face day after day, if we patiently guard the heart, if we willingly relinquish the tyranny of unnecessary concerns, then prayer itself will teach us. Not because we have become experts, but because Love Himself has become our teacher. In the end, the goal is beautifully simple. To become men and women whose hearts are no longer scattered but wholly gathered before the Face that has always been turned toward us. And in that Face we discover that every true desire finds its fulfillment, every fear loses its power, and wonder becomes the atmosphere in which the soul learns to live. --- Text of chat during the group: 00:04:23 Fr. Charbel Abernethy: Page 218 mid paragraph 4 00:07:02 Fr. Charbel Abernethy: https://www.philokaliaministries.org/post/the-name-above-every-name 00:07:22 Fr. Charbel Abernethy: Page 218 mid paragraph 4 00:10:21 Linda Frasier: may I share the link with a friend? 00:10:31 Janine: Father…whatever happened to the gentleman from New Zealand who used to join? 00:10:35 Linda Frasier: thx 00:11:03 Janine: His dad wasn't well 00:11:12 Janine: Yes I was wondering 00:11:53 Fr. Charbel Abernethy: https://www.philokaliaministries.org/post/the-name-above-every-name 00:12:39 Linda Frasier: already ordered Monastic Heart—arriving Monday!! 00:14:14 Fr. Charbel Abernethy: https://www.philokaliaministries.org/post/the-name-above-every-name 00:15:37 Janine: The baby has joined! 00:27:32 Bob Čihák, AZ: P 218, paragraph 5, bottom of page 00:37:26 Kate: Footnote 1 on page 219 is quite convicting! 00:40:13 Adam Paige: Tis the gift to be simple, 'tis the gift to be free'Tis the gift to come down where we ought to be, And when we find ourselves in the place just right, 'Twill be in the valley of love and delight. When true simplicity is gained, To bow and to bend we shan't be ashamed, To turn, turn will be our delight, Till by turning, turning we come 'round right. 00:58:25 Bob Čihák, AZ: Re: story of Martha and Mary taking the “better path”: Christ doesn't specify what that better path might be. Many, including St. Augustine, say that it's the path of contemplation. I think it could be that “the better path” is the path for that person fulfilling the will of God, in that place, at that time. We all have different immediate paths to take, at different times. Obviously, Martha earned Christ's gentle rebuke which to me suggests that she should consider that her role at that time and place might be providing hospitality. 01:06:19 Nancy Pagan: Why if we can learn by ourselves some desert fathers insist in having a staret?I I really believe we can but I should not trust myself that way? 01:06:27 Nancy Pagan: Sorry 01:07:22 Lee Graham: “Without  distractions the devil has no means of entering the soul” the footnote #1 01:13:29 Art: I gain a lot of peace of heart and mind from the Benedictine motto “to work is to pray”.  I've also seen “Prayer is my work”. Work is my prayer”.  It helps me accept whatever it is I need to do 01:13:42 David Swiderski: In loving one another's God is us is made flesh. Simple not complicates but I have this written on my bedroom door because I forget and it has guided me for years. I rise and remember to be simple and the goal clear in the day. I think less words help the most as my grandfather left with me as a high school education tut taught me more than Aquinas or any spiritual father. As my mother said love few and profoundly. As I age I find all the answers where at my hands but I got lost at some times in my life. 01:13:53 James Hickman: Father, is there any distinction between unadulterated entertainment vs perhaps a cultural experience by watching a series or movie not too different from sitting down to read a novel or go to a play performed live? It might be an opportunity for leisure. I think of PBS Masterpiece where I can watch a high quality production of Les Miserables or The Count of Monte Cristo and ponder mysteries of forgiveness or the vices in my life. Certainly I'm not saying this is of greater value than spending two hours in stillness. I'm maybe admitting my weakness here, but I do wonder: is there a place for this in my life? Are there any good distractions? In moderation? 01:17:58 David Swiderski: Amen seeking beauty and what is good shapes our lives and our goals. 01:18:47 James Hickman: I breathe a sigh of relief

We're often told that the key to happiness is building stronger relationships and a bigger community. While meaningful connection is essential, what if a fulfilling life doesn't require an overflowing social calendar? In this episode, I explore the benefits of solitude, why some people genuinely thrive with more time alone, and how finding the right balance between connection and solitude—not simply more relationships—may be the real secret to lasting well-being. * Explore the Alignment Journal—24 reflective prompts designed to help you reconnect with yourself, gain clarity, and live with greater intention. Learn more: https://selineshenoy.com/alignment-journal

Cette semaine, je suis avec Jérémie Delessert qui est berger au chalet de la Moille Vieille près de Semsales dans les Préalpes fribourgeoises. Ce chalet qui accueille  autour de 85 genisses, se trouve sur le sentier des armaillis, (c'est ainsi qu'on appelle ici les bergers), à 1230 m d'altitude. C'est là, dans la cuisine de son chalet, que je me suis assis avec Jérémie. Et dans le fil de notre conversation, il m'a parlé de sa solitude choisie, de cette liberté si particulière qu'offre la montagne, de ses 85 bêtes qu'il connaît chacune, mais aussi de ces rituels qui rythment sa vie de berger : la poya, la montée des troupeaux vers les alpages au printemps, et la désalpe, leur retour dans la vallée lorsque l'automne s'installe. Et même si ces traditions saisonnières sont la mémoire d'un territoire et d'un métier, elles rappellent aussi que tout est changeant, et que c'est peut-être dans cette impermanence que réside le véritable équilibre. Comment être heureux en solitaire ?   C'est la question de la semaine.

Solitude is the spiritual discipline of stepping away from noise and distraction so we can honestly recognize what is happening within us and bring it before Jesus. By regularly embracing quiet and stillness, we allow God's truth to correct, heal, and lead us into a life shaped more by peace than anxiety.

Join Pastor Candy Christmas from Regeneration Nashville as she delves into 'The Dark Night of the Soul.' Drawing from Psalm 139, Pastor Candy offers encouragement and insights on finding God's presence in times of darkness and solitude. This spiritual discussion emphasizes the transformative power of such periods and how they can lead to deeper intimacy with God. Discover stories of faith and perseverance through biblical references and personal anecdotes, providing hope and reassurance for those experiencing their own night seasons.

Are you living in casual proximity to Jesus or are you reaching for Him with desperation? I know this sounds like a very deep question that I am asking, but I am so excited because it came from a book that we are going to discuss today: *A Story Worth Living by Amy Loflin. She highlights the story of the woman in the Bible who suffers 12 years of bleeding. I love that this woman reached for Jesus in desperation and that was Amy's challenge: Are we just living close to Jesus or are we reaching for Him? We are going to dive deep into this story today in a Bible Shoes style episode, and I cannot wait for you to hear the wisdom from Amy. Also, I am so excited for someone to win a copy of Amy's book, *A Story Worth Living. All the details of the book giveaway are on my website at jodisnowdon.com or you can click this direct link: https://kingsumo.com/g/107x7r3/a-story-worth-living-giveaway Other Bible Shoes Episodes on the Depth Podcast Depth Podcast Episode 161: Bible Shoes on Elijah Depth Podcast Episode 166: Bible Shoes on the Samaritan Woman by the Well Depth Podcast Episode170: Bible Shoes on Holy Week Depth Podcast Episode 179: Rahab- Cinched Depth Podcast Episode 238: Moses- How Do you Want to Be Remembered? Book Recommendations: *Invitation to Solitude and Silence by Ruth Haley Barton *Jesus: A Pilgrimage by James Martin Amy Loflin is a speaker, life coach, co-founder of Echo Joy Collective, and author of *A Story Worth Living. With a background in counseling and over a decade in church leadership, her work helps women move past fear, perfectionism, and self-doubt to embrace lives of confidence, clarity, and purpose. Known for her warmth, humor, and honesty, Amy connects with everyday women in powerful, relatable ways. Her passion is to equip women to walk in freedom—and remember that wholeness, purpose, and Jesus are always within reach. She would love for you to reach out to her on Instagram. *Note: If you are interested in purchasing this book or the books recommended, I would love for you to use the Amazon Affiliate link above to help support the podcast. Thank you!  

Get the 200+ Page Optimal Living Daily Workbook (PDF) - Free. Want to turn today's episode into an actionable plan? Join the Optimal Living Weekly newsletter and I'll send you our 200-page digital workbook immediately. It's packed with the best takeaways from the show, formatted for easy reading and implementation at home. Get your free PDF workbook here: https://oldpodcast.eo.page/join Discover all of the podcasts in our network, search for specific episodes, get the Optimal Living Daily workbook, and learn more at: OLDPodcast.com. Episode 3097: Marc Chernoff continues his relationship advice on embracing time alone. In part 2, he explores trusting your own decisions, experiencing life mindfully instead of numbing yourself with distraction, and why comfort in solitude makes you stronger in dating and love. Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.marcandangel.com/2015/06/21/5-things-that-happen-when-you-embrace-being-alone/ Quotes to ponder: "Following your intuition means doing what feels right, even if it doesn't look or sound right to others." "every one of us is an addict, and what we are addicted to is avoiding ourselves" "many of us will go to great lengths to avoid the feeling of being alone in an undistracted environment" Optimal Relationships Daily is a daily relationship advice podcast where we narrate the best articles on healthy relationships, dating, marriage, and family, read to you by a professional narrator so you can strengthen your closest connections a little more every day. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Liv Ogier recently completed the first ascent of Yellow Sun (5.14d), an extension to Tommy Caldwell’s Kryptonite at the Fortress of Solitude. As a former comp climber, her choice to project at one of Colorado’s most remote and challenging sport crags resulted in numerous days and nights of challenging conditions that are more often associated with alpinism than sport climbing. But the result of her efforts landed her among a very small and select group of women who have established first ascents of routes rated 5.14d.  But first, your grumpy hosts grump about climbing. Our final bit is from Victor McConnell. Show Notes Follow Liv Ogier: https://www.instagram.com/oogier/ Read about her ascent: https://tensionclimbing.com/blogs/blog/the-evolution-of-kryptonite-the-process-behind-yellow-sun-colorado-s-newest-5-14d Tension Climbing: https://tensionclimbing.com Victor McConnell‘s work and news. https://www.victormcconnellauthor.com/ Victor on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/victormcconnell/ Order Victor’s book If You Can Hear This here: Bottlecap Press: https://bottlecap.press/products/ifyovm World Climbing Assembly Cancels Vote on Banning Israel, Russia, and Belarus: https://www.climbing.com/news/world-climbing-assembly-cancels-vote-on-banning-israel-russia-and-belarus/ Chicago Climbing Gym Ordered to Pay $50 Million for Negligence in Child Sexual Abuse Case: https://www.climbing.com/news/first-ascent-climbing-gym-chicago-negligence-50-million-child-sexual-abuse-case/ No Return: https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2026/07/06/did-a-climber-leave-his-girlfriend-to-die-at-the-top-of-a-mountain Become a RunOut Rope Gun! Support our podcast and increase your RunOut runtime. Bonus episodes, AMA, and more will be available to our Rope Guns. Thank you for your support! http://patreon.com/runoutpodcast Contact us Send ideas, voicemail, feedback and more. andrew@runoutpodcast.com // chris@runoutpodcast.com

Ex-Special Forces commando Tim Thomas on why elite soldiers break — and the 10 minutes a day that fix every exhausted man. From down under, Tim joins Ted Phaeton on The Modern Man Podcast to unpack the Performance Pyramid, the Two Golden 5-Minute Windows, and the warfare tactic he learned in Afghanistan that maps directly to how modern men are burning themselves out.   Tim served with Australian Special Forces in Afghanistan, competed as a pro MMA fighter, survived PTSD, and has spent the last decade in the veteran recovery space. He's the founder of Breathwork in Bed (an app, a method, and a movement), author of Fight, Flight, Feel, and has raised over $1M for veteran mental health research. His message is simple — most men are trying to fix their life while exhausted. Fix the sleep first, everything else follows.   In this conversation: the Performance Pyramid (outcomes → actions → rest/recovery/healing art forms — and why most men build only the top two), the bow-and-arrow reframe for rest days ("bow days"), self-worth as our real center of gravity, how pain transforms into loneliness and isolation and what breaks it, the "energetic millionaire" metaphor, Tim's own path through the crushing weight of defeat, and the tactical spine — the 5 minutes before sleep + 5 minutes upon waking that determine the shape of your entire day. Plus: why breath outranks thinking, why the presence of oxygen is the absence of disease, and Tim's invitation to Ted (and to you) — the Breathwork in Bed 28-day challenge.   Chapters: 00:00 Elite soldiers break — not from lack of strength, from lack of recovery 01:42 Welcome brother — Ted's intro 02:12 The performance question no training manual prepares you for 02:55 The 20s vs. the rest of your life  03:15 The Performance Pyramid (outcomes → actions → rest)  05:22 Warfare tactic — attack the enemy's sleep, better than a bullet 05:53 Our center of gravity is self-worth  08:16 Ted on peace in the home  10:36 The bow-and-arrow reframe — bow days over rest days  14:02 Solitude vs. isolation  16:38 The danger age for men — 38 to 42  17:20 Tim's veteran suicide-prevention work — 40 lives in one year  21:23 The Noble Knights + the isolation break  23:14 The question that changes everything — how many other people? 26:04 The firefighter story — the problem wasn't my own  27:33 The Energetic Millionaire metaphor  30:37 The research on sleep + testosterone + performance  32:51 Speaking to the stubborn version of yourself  35:31 The pyramid vs. pyramid — the competitor's edge  38:24 THE TWO GOLDEN 5-MINUTE WINDOWS  40:41 Breath outranks thinking 42:30 What the breath work actually looks like  45:22 Sleep is the soil from which everything grows 46:27 The Breathwork in Bed 28-day challenge  49:13 The crushing weight of defeat — Tim's vision  51:25 Ted's recap   Connect with Tim Thomas: Breathwork in Bed app: Search "Breathwork in Bed" in your app store — 28-day free trial Book: Fight, Flight, Feel Web: breathworkinbed.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/breathworkinbed

Jett Franzen is a writer and YouTuber. What holds people back? Is it their mindset, environment, or circumstances? One overlooked factor is the ability to be alone. Solitude can build clarity and resilience, but too much can be destructive. So when is being alone a superpower, and when does it become dangerous? Expect to learn the pitfalls of taking too much medication, why being lonely and/or isolated for a period of time is a superpower, why the most dangerous are ambitious but lazy people, the mentality that is keeping people stuck in a terrible mindset, how to escape the hedonic treadmill, why the incel community came after Jett and much more… Sponsors: Modern Wisdom Merch available this Friday: https://mwmerch.com See discounts for all the products I use and recommend: ⁠https://chriswillx.com/deals⁠ Get the brand new Whoop 5.0 and your first month for free at https://join.whoop.com/modernwisdom Get 10% discount on all Gymshark products at https://gym.sh/modernwisdom (use code MODERNWISDOM10) Get up to 20% off Timeline powered by Mitopure (now at a lower price) at https://timeline.com/modernwisdom Get a Free Sample Pack of LMNT's most popular flavours with your first purchase at https://drinklmnt.com/modernwisdom Get ChatGPT to explore ideas, solve problems, and learn faster at ⁠https://chatgpt.com Timestamps: (00:00) Why You Need to Confront Your Shadows (10:09) Make It Until You Believe It (22:19) Why Success Demands Real Work (34:36) Can Anyone Go From Nothing to Something? (39:19) Don't Let Empathy Hold You Back (52:39) Are We Addicted to the Next Win? (56:31) Progress vs Position: What Matters More? (01:08:59) Why Happiness Comes From Acceptance (01:14:05) Escaping the Victim Mindset (01:19:54) Protect What Makes You Unique (01:29:40) How to Use Ego as a Strength (01:36:57) Don't Let the Fear of Having Self-Belief Hold You Back (01:51:31) Does True Authenticity Really Exist? (01:58:00) Where to Find Jett Extra Stuff: Get my free reading list of 100 books to read before you die: ⁠https://chriswillx.com/books⁠ Try my productivity energy drink Neutonic: ⁠https://neutonic.com/modernwisdom⁠ Episodes You Might Enjoy: #577 - David Goggins - This Is How To Master Your Life: ⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠ #712 - Dr Jordan Peterson - How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs: ⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠ #700 - Dr Andrew Huberman - The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain: ⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman⁠ - Get In Touch: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast⁠ Email: ⁠https://chriswillx.com/contact⁠ - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Solo Episode 121... What if the season you've been calling loneliness is actually God's preparation for your greatest comeback? Have you ever felt like God pulled you away from everything you once knew? In this episode, B.Simone talks about what it means to protect your comeback after a season of solitude. If God has hidden you for a season, don't waste it. Solitude isn't punishment—it's preparation. B.Simone shares how to be productive while you're alone with God, how to steward the refining process, and how to return stronger, wiser, and with the tools to protect your peace and joy when it's time to step back into the world. Not everything is meant to go with you into your next season. Some things have to be pruned, while other parts of you God will lovingly refine. This conversation is an encouragement to embrace the process, trust God's timing, and protect the woman you're becoming. Please leave a review , if this episode spoke to you!  Hair is HairAreUs Use promo code "LTTA" for $ off you order : ⁠⁠https://hairareus.com/discount/LTTA⁠ For exclusive bonus content, behind-the-scenes moments, a safe place connect with like minded women.... plus more, join the LTTA app community at ⁠⁠LTTA.app⁠⁠ today. We are now in the app store! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices