Advice About Life, Breakups, Depression & Anxiety

After years of trauma. Abuse and neglect your core foundation is wiped out it feels like your heart and soul are broken shattered into a million pieces that is why healing is a lifelong process and hard hard work... always remember if you have been diagnosed with PTSD it is not a sign of weakness; rather, it is proof of your strength, because you have survived. Instead of saying I'm damaged, I'm broken, I have trust issues say I'm healing, I'm rediscovering myself, I'm starting over positive self talk. Not all wounds are visible treatment works don't wait seek help today. PTSD it's not the person refusing to let go of the the past but the past refusing to let go of the person. So hard when your days and nights are filled with memories you just desperately want to forget over time, as most people fail the survivors exacting test of trustworthiness. She tends to withdraw from relationships the isolation of the Survivor, thus persist even after she is free

The hardest thing about ADHD is that it's invisible to outsiders. People just assume that we are not being good parents and that our child is a brat, when they don't have an idea how exhausted we truly are. People with ADHD find more success by focusing on their natural talents and then by developing a plan to make those talents even stronger. When you have ADHD your home reflects our thought. In disarray. And like with a disorganized house. You can only apologize for your disorganized Brain so many time before it becomes exhausting. People with ADHD are fully aware that the past and the future exist... the condition means that it is hard to separate them... past hurts feel like they've just happened, and future worries feel like they are happening right now it is not our fault

A shot to kill the pain a pill to drain the shame a purge to stop the gain a cut to break the vein a smoke to ease the crave a drink to win a game an addiction's addiction because it always hurts the same. But in rising up every time we fall. Never underestimate a recovering addict we fight for our lives every day in ways most people will never understand. You have to fight through some bad days to earn the best days of your life. Keep the faith, the most amazing things in life tend to happen right at the moment you're about to give up hope. Change your behaviors and your feelings will follow. There is no shame in beginning again for you get a chance to build bigger and better than before

I want to live my life without stress and worries, I don't need to be rich or famous, I just want to be happy I'm perfect in my imperfections happy in my pain, strong in my weakness and beautiful in my own way because I'm me. What I do with my life is of my own doing. I live it the best way I can life is for my own to live my own way, I will never apologize for who I am. I've worked too hard on my happiness, to be affected by people and things that don't understand the energy and time I've put into myself I hate crying in front of people so if I have ever cried in front of you, yes it dose kinda mean you're important but mostly it means that I will regret forever

It felt like it was all too much having suicidal thoughts and finding a way back only now do I realize how much he must have been suffering you eventually learn to trust no one. Being alone sucks but at least you don't have to worry about being let down or hurt again.... you think suicide is cowardly I'll tell you wants cowardly. Hurting someone so much that they want to end their lives sometimes.... it's okay to cry it's okay to be a little upset. Staying positive Dosen't mean you have to be happy all the time. It means that even on hard days you know that there are better ones coming. I'm no therapist: I will listen, I will care No. You aren't alone. Yes. We all feel this way sometimes No. You won't always feel like this Yes. The world is a better place with you in it

Being adopted is like being a squared peg trying to fit into a round hole. You just don't fit so after a while you stop trying adoption is a trauma that happens to a child. The child is torn from a mother, placed in the arms of strangers and is left with questions, doubts, fears, and anxiety with no way to verbalize, Express, mourn, or contextualize those feelings. It has been said that adoption is more like a marriage than a birth: two ( or more ) Individuals, each with their own unique mix of needs, patterns and genetic history, coming together with love, hope, , commitment for a joint future you become a family not because you share the same genes but because you share love for each other. Finding my birth family was the single most important moment of my entire life, it was ( As ) if I'd been holding my breath my entire life and for the first time I could let it out. Being adopted means you didn't have any say and everyone expects you to be someone you are not you never really lived until you have done something for someone who can never repay you. Never assume that because a child was adopted that their life is as wonderful as adoption is painted out to be. Many adoptees are grieving the loss of their mother and family. Those feelings don't always go away because a child was adopted. Being a parent wasn't just about bearing a child it was about bearing witness its life a child born to another woman calls me mommy. The magnitude of that tragedy and the depth of that privilege are not lost on me tears are words too painful for a broken heart to speak

More than ever I find myself in the hands of God. This is what I have wanted all my life from my youth. But now there is a difference; the initiative is entirely with God. It is indeed profound spiritual experience to know and feel myself so totally in Gods hands. Dear God I praise you and thank you for all the amazing ways today. I thank you for blessing me with wisdom and understanding. Thank you for carrying me to fulfill the plan you have for my life, may you answer me in my distress. May you give me the desire of my heart in Jesus Name. Amen Let's Pray... Heavenly Father, thank you for this day. We thank you for being able to see, hear, touch, feel and walk this morning. Provide a way for those who lack any of these we pray. Lord we are bless because you are a forgiving god and a understanding God. You've done so much for us and still keep on blessing us also our families and friends, we say thanks. Thanks for opening doors to bless and closed doors that would be detrimental. Forgive us our sins known and unknown. Continue to keep us safe from all dangers and harm , seen and unseen . Let us start today with a new attitude and plenty of gratitude. In Jesus Name, Dear Heavenly Father, I know it's time for a change. Give me the courage to keep going. For I am afraid to let go, I believe that when a door opens another opens, for you are faithful. But i am assured that no matter what, there is one thing that never changes Jesus Christ who is the same yesterday, thank you for holding onto me through the different seasons of my life. Almighty God, I thank you that even today's world, I can find peace in you. Help me not to be overwhelmed by the constant bad reports for the world. Help me keep my eyes on you and be enveloped by your peace. In Jesus loving Name. Dear God thank you for all the blessings in my life, big & small, thank you for surrounding me with people who love and care about me

Never judge someone based off of how the look, you don't know their past and what they have been through everyone judges someone to a certain extent. So it bothers me when people say I don't judge others I'm like, yes you do... stop lying please don't judge people you don't know what it took someone to get out of bed, look and feel presentable as possible and face the day. You never truly know the daily struggles of others everyone has untold stories of pain and sadness that make them love and live a little differently than you do. Stop judging! Instead try to understand

Being pregnant is supposed to be the happiest time in your life if a guy leaves his gf/wife while she's pregnant he should never get the opportunity to meet the kid. He made that choice men who think it's okay to sleep with women, get her pregnant and leave are just as pathetic and less of a man you will never be too much or not enough for the right person don't settle for someone who can't love you for who you are it's that look. As if they just, right then, realize you exist, even though they've looked at you a thousand times, that same way . Keep them hes like nobody else in the world. When I'm with him, it's like I'm split in half, part of me is on fire, going crazy if I'm not touching him. The other half is calm and peaceful just perfectly content, knowing he is the one for me

When someone betrays you, it's a reflection of their character, not yours remember, there's a difference between somebody who wants you and somebody who will do anything to keep you. Secrets & lies kill relationship. No matter how careful you are, you will get caught. What's done in darkness always comes to light remember: they cheated because they wanted to, they lied because they could, and now they're sorry because they got caught, it's always about them. You did nothing to cause or deserve it I'm a firm believer in second chances, but I'm also a firm believer that cheaters don't deserve them

Living with anxiety is like being followed by a voice. It knows all your insecurities and urges them against you. It gets to a point when it's the loudest voice in the room. The only one you can hear. I've spent most of my life and most of my friendships holding my breath and hoping that when people get close enough they won't leave, and fearing that is a matter of time before they figure me out and go let your mind & heart rest for a while. You will catch up the world will not stop spinning for you, but you will catch up take a rest whatever you do, never run back to what broke you you're a fighter. Look at everything you've overcome don't give up now there are these moments you think you won't survive and then you survive

Everyone is important and should be treated with compassion and respect in a world where you can be anything be kind if you're only willing to do what's easy, life will be hard but if you're willing to do what's hard life will be easy. We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give be the reason someone smiles today the things you take for granted someone else is praying for never judge people who have little to nothing. As one day you may find yourself having nothing at all always respect one another no matter what. Never look down on anyone we must find time to stop and thank the people who make a Difference in our lives

However, I would say that the number one reason why divorce process is so difficult, no matter how long the marriage was, or how many assets have to be divided, is the simple truth that it's hard to separate out the emotions of the marriage and relationship from the business of getting divorced here are the facts to cope with the pain 1. Recognize that it's okay to have different feelings 2. Give yourself a break.... 3. Don't go through this alone 4. Take care of yourself emotionally & physically 5. Avoid power struggles and arguments with your spouse or former spouse 6. Take time to explore your interest 7. Think positivity nobody deserves to go through something like this it's one thing to talk things through but that doesn't mean you can leave your wife anytime you want marriage is supposed to be forever & not a game or a joke but if you just love each other & work things out between you don't let your emotions get in the way of your happiness you give your wife twice as much love than she dose for you she dose everything for you like cooking, cleaning, helping with dishes, doing the laundry, she helps you with getting your kids ready for school so you see your wife dose all that for you but you choose to leave it's pitiful that you choose to go down a path that you can never come back from it hurts a Mother's heart to see you walk out that door not even a couple drinks can safe your marriage do not lose hope

Being in a relationship is something special and not taking it for granted sure you cannot be without them because that is what it is like to be in a healthy relationship but if you think that you want to sneak out or skip out of work, coming home late and pretend that nothing happened then your parents will know where you have been all night but the more you repeat this same process and your will ask you to stay home it's not because that you can't go out it's because your parents are worried about you but if you don't listen and you continue to lie they will know right away that your being abused by your boyfriend you don't deserve that because you deserve better than that you want someone to actually love you the way that you wanted to be treated No parent should never see you in pain cause I know for a fact that it really really breaks a mom's heart you are not alone even though you feel that way you don't actually mean it it's because of the pain that you are going through you are stuck in a Emotional prison in your own mind but the pain is still there you don't have to change for nobody you don't need them to be successful the one person that is successful is you so if your daughter won't leave Abusive relationship I want you to do this surround yourself with the right people that you want in your life and put a strangle hold on a Abusive relationship

It's hard to deal with making bad choices like talking down to someone & telling them that they are not worth it but when you make good life choices more people will see you as someone that they love to talk to, life doesn't grow on trees you have to make everyday as special as it is it's a matter of life always Believe to take a leap of faith I did & you should to even though life can be difficult at times you just have to make the Moments count your Family and friends are always their to hold your hand & if you decide to fall they will pick you up from that hole my mom did that for me to when I was 10 years old my grandpa passed away from lung cancer in 2005 but my mom had told me that everything will be okay that he is safe in the hands of the Lord then weeks after my grandpa passed I started to fall apart by almost stealing a wallet from a store my mom caught me from stealing I put back the wallet & I changed my life around. Do you see we all do things that we are not proud of doing to act out but that is what life is about making good decisions and good choices sometimes we all regret the things that we do wrong always take that leap of faith & make good choices for yourself and for your family and friends

Life teaches us how we see the world sometimes it's hard to not feel real pain I encourage you to embrace every moment in time with your Family and Friends those are the people that love you more than anything in this world if you are feeling sad about not being accepted by anyone you get out there and meet new people I know what it is like to not being accepted I've been through that many times in my life but I learned something when i went to church one of the pastors gave me a quote that Forever changed my life & it was you can only have One Life, One Story those words will always stick with me until the day I propose, get married and have kids. To everyone who is listening to all my episodes on here I just want all of you to know that you are loved, you are appreciated, you are beautiful no matter how hard your struggles are it is okay to not be okay but life is like a song it's The Climb keep climbing higher & high water don't hurt the people that love you the more you make bad choices you will never succeed in life do something that makes you happy

In this new episode I covered a song that you can all relate to I know that sometimes life is hard you can do whatever you set your mind to sure life has it's ups and downs we all go through that eveyday I'm going to use my mom for example my mom has always been supportive of everything that I do for myself I show her love & compassion she never had that with her dad while she was a young girl she never had that relationship with a man who was not capable of feeling love towards her but now that man she always wanted in her life was me I was always known to be the baby in the family she teaches me a lot of great things but the one thing that me & her have is love for each other just like the title of this episode it was The Start Of Something Good I just thank God for the life that he has gaven me since the moment when I was born I pray to God every day & I tell him how much I love my mom she was the one who stood by my side while I was battling for my life at the age of 17 I had a near death experience I suffered from a pingerious and double momnia & I am so proud to say I survived the 2 of the rearest conditions in the world today my mom saved me from dying I didn't know if I was gonna see the next day. To Everyone who is listening to this I want you all to know tell your mom your dad, your brother and your sister that you love them cause family is the most important thing in the world

I know sometimes life can get so hard & you just want to drink the pain away but don't ever think dark thoughts about Yourself you are appreciated, loved, beautiful & just look in the mirror and say I am perfect I'm not weak or not worth anybody's time cause you are appreciated and loved keep climbing you will get there you have the power to change the world but if you fall I will be there to catch you I'll hold you in my arms and together we will walk into the sunset & it shines every time when you smile back at me don't feel like your unloved you have to have someone there to hold your hand & a shoulder to Cry on

Sometimes when life gets you down you make it your mission to succeed in life you don't sit around & feel like your not doing anything for your life you get out there & make it your passion to love your life. Life is like money they don't grow on trees make a Difference in the world & spread positivity around you, you are loved, you are appreciated & you are valuable don't Cry cause I'll always have a shoulder for these are all facts and tips to have life experiences