EQ Applied: Emotional Intelligence in the Real World

The Rule of the Chess Player helps you to show empathy and build better habits—for better relationships, and a better you.

The Tom Hanks Rule will give you laser focus as you learn to buy out time for what's most important to you.

Negative thoughts can be very difficult to remove…unless you have a blue dolphin.

In today's episode, host Sarah Southwell speaks about COVID-19 and wades into waters that are so thick that they're more like boiling tar pits. A key theme that's raised early in our discussion, Sarah highlights the importance of trusting your intuition and making up your mind on what you should be doing about the pandemic. Accordingly, we talk about the need to have conversations with our loved ones about what makes us feel safe. Sarah also recommends that we develop a strict set of parameters for feeling safe — parameters that we should embrace so that we don't live in a state of fear. After sharing why she has developed a distrust for the government, Sarah points to government practices that are harmful to our health. Wading even further into the tar pits, Sarah questions whether the government has our best interests at heart before exploring what they could be doing to keep us healthy. We then reflect on the mental health dangers of social isolation and what the pandemic is costing us. Near the end of the episode, Sarah emphasizes her mission to empower people. As she explains, it's up to us to decide how we want to handle COVID-19. Tune in to hear more of Sarah's insights into managing your health and home during the COVID-19 crisis.

The “Milk Carton Rule” will teach you to focus less on problems, and more on solutions—and save your most important relationships in the process.

Learn to “define the scope,” and you'll change the way you work. And live.

The rule of acquired taste is based on principles of psychology and emotional intelligence—and it can completely change your perspective.

When you're feeling down and out, you have to resist the urge to look ahead. Instead, take a moment to look back.

We all lose control sometimes. But what do you do afterwards? The Emotional Postmortem will help you devise a plan to help you avoid repeating your mistakes.

Empathy is a powerful quality—and a key part of emotional intelligence. But it can prove dangerous when taken too far. When does empathy turn from helpful to harmful? How do you make sure your empathy is emotionally intelligent empathy? Today's episode answers those important questions.

What did a Royal Air Force pilot turned psychologist and one of the most popular professors at MIT have in common? They both preached the value of this simple rule, one that holds even more value today, in a world with more distractions than ever. What's the rule: You can only listen to one voice at a time.

Nobody enjoys getting critical feedback. But everyone needs feedback to improve. How can you make your feedback more emotionally intelligent, so people see it as helpful, instead of harmful? Today we talk about the remarkable power of a single word that will transform the way you give feedback, forever.

Would you like some help setting priorities? How about a tip to help you save your mental health and avoid burning out? Or, would you simply like to have more time in your day? It may be time to start “clocking out.”

Here's a story of two days that start the same, but end very differently. The difference? Taking a moment to help first. Learn what the help first rule is all about, and how it can help you—and everyone else.

What do you do when someone gives you critical feedback? Today, we'll talk about why critical feedback is so valuable, how can you keep your emotions under control when you get it, and the one sentence that can help transform the way you handle feedback, forever.

The term “emotional intelligence” has been around for decades, and the concept has been around for centuries. Still, many are unclear of what exactly emotional intelligence is, or how they can start building theirs. Well, here's a simple question that can kickstart your emotional intelligence journey, and help you start making emotions work for you.

Have you ever found it hard to support someone else's idea? Maybe it's a colleague, a friend, or even a spouse or family member. Here's an emotional intelligence tool that can help in situations like these. It's called: Disagree and commit. (Here's the link to the video I mention at the end of today's episode: 3 Simple Words That Can Save Your Relationships)

What makes a great team? That's what Google set out to discover in a years-long study code-named, “Project Aristotle.” Find out what they learned, what it has to with emotional intelligence—and how it can help you be a better teammate, and build a better team.

How do you react when you're faced with awkward silence? Most people aren't comfortable with long silence, but today we'll talk about why you should get comfortable with it…Because awkward silence can lead to truly great things.

How do you break the cycle of negative thinking? How do you get clarity when emotions are clouding your thinking?You might simply need to change your glasses.

I've spent the past several years studying the topic of emotional intelligence in everyday life. Along the way, I learned that emotional intelligence helps you to see many things differently from the rest of the world. Here's how.

What makes a great boss? Google spent over a decade trying to answer that question in a study code named, “Project Oxygen.”

Here's one of my favorite tools from the Emotional Intelligence Toolbox. Like a virtual time machine, it lets you take a glimpse into the future and see the consequences of a decision.It's called the golden question.

What do you do when you feel like you're drowning in a sea of tasks, responsibilities, and expectations? Follow the rule of first things first.