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A sudden cardiac arrest stopped everything — and changed everything.In this episode, Sig Muller shares how surviving a near-death experience completely reshaped his perspective on fatherhood, time, gratitude, and what truly matters. What happens when you're forced to confront mortality in an instant? You start paying attention to where your time, energy, and love actually go.This conversation is a powerful reminder that nothing is guaranteed, especially time with our kids — and that intentional parenting isn't about doing more, but choosing better.In this episode, we explore:How a life-threatening moment reframed Sig's prioritiesWhy quality time matters more than quantityThe role of gratitude inside the family, not just outwardlyMaking conscious choices with limited timeResilience in fatherhood after traumaWhy sharing your story can change someone else's lifeThis episode isn't about fear — it's about clarity.Chapters00:00 – A Life-Altering Experience01:13 – The Importance of Quality Time03:40 – Facing Mortality and Time Management07:40 – Reallocating Time for What Matters11:10 – The Power of Choice12:50 – Finding Purpose After Trauma18:35 – Sharing Stories to Inspire Change23:56 – Gratitude Inside the Family30:50 – Navigating New Experiences in Fatherhood37:31 – Resilience and Lessons from Parenting41:50 – Final Thoughts for Young DadsTakeawaysTime with your children is limited — prioritize it intentionallyGratitude should be practiced within the family, not just externallyLife can change instantly; nothing is guaranteedSmall time reallocations create meaningful impactTrauma can lead to powerful personal growthConscious choices shape the kind of parent you becomeSharing your story can inspire others to reflect and changeResilience is essential in fatherhoodPresence matters more than perfectionThere's always room to show up better

HOUR 2- Klein's Parent's Midlife Crisis, Lifetime Achievement Award and MORE full 2053 Mon, 27 Jul 2026 15:41:00 +0000 fO0scFrb9qmQZ50uZXkabmAp1sydEvTj society & culture Klein/Ally Show: The Podcast society & culture HOUR 2- Klein's Parent's Midlife Crisis, Lifetime Achievement Award and MORE Klein.Ally.Show on KROQ is more than just a "dynamic, irreverent morning radio show that mixes humor, pop culture, and unpredictable conversation with a heavy dose of realness." (but thanks for that quote anyway). Hosted by Klein, Ally, and a cast of weirdos (both on the team and from their audience), the show is known for its raw, offbeat style, offering a mix of sarcastic banter, candid interviews, and an unfiltered take on everything from culture to the chaos of everyday life. With a loyal, engaged fanbase and an addiction for pushing boundaries, the show delivers the perfect blend of humor and insight, all while keeping things fun, fresh, and sometimes a little bit illegal. 2024 © 2021 Audacy, Inc. Society & Culture https://player.amp

Hey Friends~  Have you ever called your child's name outside...once...twice...five times...and wondered if they even heard you? Between the wind, the playground, the garden hose, the neighborhood noise, and kids who are completely absorbed in what they're doing, it can feel impossible to get their attention without yelling. What if there were a better way? What if one simple, unique signal could make your child stop, listen, and know, "Mom or Dad want my attention." No repeating. No raising your voice. Just one familiar sound that gently cuts through the noise. In today's episode, I'll share a simple method that works!  It's easy, it's fun, and it might completely change the way your family gets each other's attention -particularly when you are outdoors. Always cheering you on!  Dinalynn CONTACT the Host, Dinalynn:  hello@thelanguageofplay.com Have a QUESTION or COMMENT? Leave a voice message!  https://castfeedback.com/play WEBSITE:  https://www.thelanguageofplay.com/   A BIG THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSOR!  Clever Elly The a car charger that talks to you and helps you remember. Click here to learn more and claim the special listener bonus!  https://cleverelly.com/r?id=246rdm   IF YOU LIKED THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL WANT TO LISTEN TO THESE EPISODES: 28 ”Why Won't The Kids Listen!??” part 1: ATTENTION: 4 factors to watch for! 31 Series: “Why Won't the Kids Listen!?” part4: Strategies for Building Listening SKILL 43 Teach Listening Using Sounds of Nature! Enjoy!!   WE'VE MADE IT EASY FOR YOU!  Love this podcast?  Let us know!  https://lovethepodcast.com/play Follow & subscribe in 1-click!  https://followthepodcast.com/play   To SPONSOR The Language Of Play, schedule your call here:  https://calendly.com/hello-play/discovery-session To DONATE to The Language Of Play, Use this secure payment link: https://app.autobooks.co/pay/the-language-of-play  

Stubbornness can be one of the most frustrating traits for parents to navigate, but it can also be a sign of strength, determination, and independence.In this episode, you'll learn why stubborn children resist, what fuels power struggles, and how to guide them without constant battles, threats, or exhaustion.If you want to turn daily conflict into cooperation while helping your child develop resilience and self-confidence, this episode will give you practical tools that work.Go deeper with Sean ⁠www.SaveMyFamily.usSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Eve, Robin, and Headspace coach Neca answer questions about feeling overwhelmed but wanting to take care of yourself, handling an immature parent, and learning to deal with emotions instead of internalizing them. This is an encore presentation. Follow Robin ⁠here⁠ or at ⁠Well…Adjusting⁠ and follow Eve ⁠here⁠ and follow Neca ⁠here⁠. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

https://heysammi.com/ ⁠ ⁠Hey Sammi Podcast Spotify⁠ Hey Sammi Podcast Itunes why does my 13 year old suddenly want to quit sports? SUBTITLE: how to find out what's really going on when your teen won't talk DESCRIPTION: why do teenagers suddenly quit sports they love? a mom in portland wrote to me because her 13 year old daughter went from sleeping in her jersey to done, overnight, and won't say why. in this episode i answer the questions parents of teen athletes ask most. why won't my teenager tell me what's wrong? should i let my child quit a sport mid-season? is 13 a normal age for girls to drop out of sports? the answer to that last one is yes, thirteen is the age girls leave sports in droves, and it's rarely about the sport itself. i walk through what usually hides underneath a sudden quit, from locker room comments to friendship fallout to changing bodies, why direct questions make a quiet teen quieter, why the you-made-a-commitment speech closes the door, and the side-by-side conversation technique that gets teenagers talking when face to face feels like an interrogation. plus how to keep the door open if she really is done, without pushing her through it. got a question for the show? email me. hey@heysammi.com  ⁠https://heysammi.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you give your pets their own voice and personality? Announce their thoughts like they could talk? Or maybe you use the signature baby voice for them? We don't judge! Bridgette and Lindsey discuss how our pets can act as conduits for our own subconscious thoughts and feelings. Don't worry, you're not alone, and as we discuss, it can be an emotional outlet.Key TakeawaysWe see pets as part of our internal family structures, making us more likely to want to create personalities for them by anthropomorphizing them.This externalization can help us with our own indirect emotional expression.Animal anthropomorphization can be linked to similar outlets as play, which are proven to aid in expressing vulnerability, comfort, silliness, and more.Pets can also allow people to feel a sense of belonging and understanding when they may feel isolated or unable to express themselves directly.Our pets can become extensions of ourselves, and their “voices” allow us to feel bonded to our nonhuman counterparts.Resources MentionedNicholas Epley, “On seeing human: a three-factor theory of anthropomorphism”, Psychological Review, October 2007, 864-868.Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead, New York: Gotham Books, 2017.Connect and Learn More☑️ Bridgette Stumpf | LinkedIn☑️ Lindsey Silverberg | LinkedIn☑️ Volare | LinkedIn | Instagram | Facebook☑️ TraumaTies Website | Instagram | TikTok | YouTube☑️ Subscribe Apple Podcasts | SpotifyBrought to you by Volare, TraumaTies: Untangling Societal Harm & Healing After Crime is a podcast that creates space and conversations to dissect the structural and systemic knots that keep us from addressing trauma.Rooted in a belief that survivors of crime deserve respect for their dignity in the aftermath of victimization, Volare seeks to empower survivors by informing them of all of the options available and working to transform existing response systems to be more inclusive of the diverse needs that survivors often have after crime.Volare also provides free, holistic, and comprehensive advocacy, therapeutic, and legal services to survivors of all crime types. Visit our website to learn more about how to access our trauma-informed education training and how to partner with us to expand survivor-defined justice.

Disney World transportation can feel overwhelming, especially for first-time visitors! In this episode of Mom Street U.S.A., we're breaking down every transportation option at Walt Disney World so you can confidently navigate the parks and resorts with your family.From Disney buses and the Monorail to the Skyliner, Friendship Boats, walking paths, Minnie Vans, and ride shares, we'll explain how each transportation system works, who it's best for, and share our favorite parent tips to make traveling with kids much easier.Whether you're staying at a Disney Resort hotel or visiting from off-property, knowing how to get around Walt Disney World can save you time, reduce stress, and help you make the most of your vacation.In this episode we cover:-Disney Bus transportation-Disney Monorail routes-Disney Skyliner guide-Friendship Boats & Ferry Boats-Disney Springs transportation-Walking paths between parks and resorts-Minnie Vans vs. Uber & Lyft-Resort transportation tips-Stroller rules for each transportation option-Parent hacks for traveling with young children-How to use the My Disney Experience app for directionsWhether you're planning your very first Disney vacation or you're looking for transportation tips you may have missed, this guide will help your family travel around Walt Disney World with confidence.✨ Subscribe for weekly Disney vacation planning tips, park strategies, and family travel advice!Watch Mom Street USA every week LIVE on YouTube every Friday at Noon eastern! Join us now on our Patreon account: https://patreon.com/MomStreetUSACheck out our partnership with Kingdom Strollers here: https://fas.st/t/jLDXEFpD Find more on MOWD, the newest theme park app from our good friend Kirk at Walrus Carp here: https://mowd.io/ Have a question or have a future show topic recommendation? Chat with us on Patreon or email us @ momstreetusa@gmail.com!⁠⁠⁠https://linktr.ee/momstreetusa#DisneyWorld #DisneyTransportation #DisneyVacation #DisneyPlanning #DisneyWithKids #WaltDisneyWorld #DisneyTips #DisneySkyliner #DisneyMonorail #DisneyBus #DisneyResorts #DisneyTravel #FamilyTravel #DisneyPodcast #MomStreetUSA

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644.No matter how chill you or your child is, at some point you're going to get very angry about something your child has said or done. Dr. Nanika Coor explains how to manage everyday anger as a parent and how to know if your anger has become problematic.Find Project Parenthood on Facebook and Twitter, or subscribe to the Quick and Dirty Tips newsletter for more tips and advice.Project Parenthood is a part of Quick and Dirty Tips.Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribehttps://www.facebook.com/QDTProjectParenthoodhttps://twitter.com/qdtparenthood Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Kelly and Doug Nichols and their two daughters are, seemingly, your normal all-American family. Kelly grew up on a farm in rural Illinois; she has a strong faith and even stronger family values. She and Doug met when the pair were in their early twenties, dated for four years, and then got married. Doug worked in IT, while Kelly enjoyed a long and happy career as a dental hygienist, respected and loved by her patients and by the community.As the family grew, they did all the things young, busy families do. They went on adventures and holidays, the girls played sports, and they attended church every Sunday. And, like almost all families, they documented the years through pictures and videos, especially of their two young daughters. Treasured family memories. Memories that would one day land them both in prison, arrested, tried and convicted of possessing and producing child pornography.It all started when allegations were made against Kelly's husband, Doug. Allegations he denies. Allegations we cannot go into, as they are still making their way through the court system. These allegations had nothing to do with Kelly, but they would be the catalyst for what came next.As part of the complaint, the person making the allegations told police that if they took Doug's phone and computer, they would find evidence to back up her claims. So they did. But they found nothing. What they did find, however, while searching through the computer and phone, was those very family memories: thousands of pictures and videos of the two kids. As police went through the files, they said they found what they deemed to be images and videos of a sexual nature.They took what they had found to a grand jury, and very quickly this supposedly normal all-American family were having their lives dissected and pulled apart online, their faces plastered across the internet under headlines like "Decatur Couple Arrested on Child Porn and Sex Charges."This is a case where we can truly say: it could happen to you.EARLY AND AD FREE ACCESS: for as little as $1.69 a week!Apple + HEREPatreon and find us on Facebook here. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Martin "Marty" Parent knew that if he didn't go into the military, he'd end up getting into "some kind of trouble" back home. So, he did! After 6 years, mostly over seas, he returned home to where his parents had moved, The Adirondacks. Looking for where his life would lead, he took notice of his brother and sister-in-law who were operating a local convenience store and was intrigued by the idea of entrepreneurship. As luck would have it.. a spot was about to open up right smack dab in the middle of Inlet, NY.Mentioned in this episode:Food About TownFood About Town hosted by Chris Lindstrom, focusing on restaurants, food and drink of all kinds, and whatever topics I want to cover! https://foodabouttown.captivate.fm/It's A LotCheck out It's A Lot on Lunchador! https://feeds.captivate.fm/itsalot/ Joe Bean RoastersVisit joebeanroasters.com to get fresh roasted specialty coffee either by the bag or with a Perpetual Joy subscription!

If you've ever stood in the pharmacy aisle wondering if there's another way, something gentler than another round of antibiotics, you're not alone. So many parents come into my practice asking the same question. Is there something else we can reach for before we go the prescription route? This episode is for anyone who has ever wanted a few trusted, natural tools on hand for the everyday bumps, illnesses, and dental moments that come up in family life.I sat down with Joette Calabrese, a homeopathic expert who has spent decades teaching what she calls practical homeopathy, a simplified, protocol based approach that regular people, not just practitioners, can learn and use confidently at home.What You'll Learn in This Episode:What homeopathy actually is, and why it's often confused with the broader term "holistic"The history of homeopathy in the US, including why it was pushed to the margins for decadesWhy a young child's developing immune system benefits from fewer unnecessary interventions in the first few years of lifeSpecific remedies Joette recommends having on hand, including Arnica Montana, and what conditions each one can supportHow to start building your own home apothecary and become the "go to" person your family and friends call onAbout Joette Calabrese: Joette Calabrese has been teaching practical homeopathy for decades, helping mothers, grandmothers, and health minded people learn to use natural remedies with confidence and clarity. She runs the Academy of Practical Homeopathy and leads study groups through her Gateway to Homeopathy program, making a historically complex subject approachable for everyday families.Key Insights: One of my favorite parts of this conversation was Joette's reminder that these remedies don't manipulate the body, they correct it. Whether the blood is too thick or too thin, whether the body is under or overreacting, homeopathic medicine works with the body's own intelligence rather than overriding it.We also talked about why so many people are turning back toward these natural approaches. As Joette put it, people are tired of taking a pill to fix the symptom from the previous pill. That resonates deeply with how I practice dentistry too, always looking for the root cause instead of just managing symptoms.Connect With Joette Calabrese on IG

Because every autistic child deserves to be understood, supported, and celebrated for who they are.Receiving an autism diagnosis or even wondering whether your child may be autistic can bring a mix of emotions. You may feel overwhelmed, uncertain, or worried about what comes next.You're not alone.The good news is that autism isn't something to fear. With understanding, support, and the right tools, autistic children can thrive in their own unique ways.In this episode of the Be A Better Parent Podcast, Celia Kibler welcomes a special guest to explore what every parent should know about raising and supporting a child on the autism spectrum. Together, they offer practical guidance, encouragement, and evidence-based insights to help parents move forward with greater confidence and compassion.Because every child deserves to feel seen, accepted, and empowered to reach their full potential.In this thoughtful conversation, you'll learn how to better understand your child's unique strengths and challenges, build stronger communication, and create an environment where they can flourish at home, at school, and in everyday life.In this episode, you'll learn:What autism really is and what it isn'tEarly signs parents should be aware of and why early support mattersHow to better understand your child's unique strengths, sensory needs, and communication stylePractical strategies for supporting emotional regulation and everyday routinesWays to advocate confidently for your child at school and in the communityHow to foster independence while meeting your child where they areWhy celebrating your child's differences is one of the greatest gifts you can give themOne of the biggest reminders in this episode:Your child's diagnosis does not define their future.It doesn't limit who they can become.And it certainly doesn't change how deeply they deserve to be loved, respected, and understood.Every child develops at their own pace.Every child has unique gifts.And with patience, support, and the right resources, your child can build confidence, meaningful relationships, and a life filled with possibility.If you've recently received an autism diagnosis, are looking for practical parenting guidance, or simply want to better understand how to support an autistic child, this episode offers compassionate advice, expert insights, and real hope for the journey ahead.Take a listen, and discover how small shifts in understanding can make a lifelong difference for your child and your family.To learn more about Celia Kibler's parenting resources, visit BeABetterParent.com, explore the Be A Better Parent App, and join a supportive community of parents committed to raising confident, connected, and resilient children.To learn more from our guest and discover additional autism resources, visit Navigating Autism at navigatingautism.com, where you'll find guidance, support, and practical tools to help your child thrive.

Ben Kawaller suddenly has the urge to have children, but he would prefer not to raise them. Luckily, there is a growing online market that can help with that.This podcast was brought to you thanks to the support of readers of The Times and The Sunday Times. Subscribe today: http://thetimes.com/thestoryRead by: Ben Kawaller, reporter and essayist. Producer: Dave Creasey.We want to hear from you - email: thestory@thetimes.comRead more: I've decided to become a father. Does anyone want my sperm?Photo: Adam Grey for The Times. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

(Episode 394) On this episode of The Moondog Show, Rob, Amanda, Scott T, Mason Dixon and special guest Phil Ryan of Ryan Restorations talk about County Road 689's latest episode ”Singers Without A Band”  which airs tonight on WNIT and Scott T graphically tells us about his surgery. Riveting conversations about roller rinks, karaoke and racism circulate throughout the studio. On Racin' Mason Dixon's Front Porch Stomp, Phil McDonald, emcee of the Rock The Boat Cardboard Boat Races and co-host of The Coaches Show is the guest on Racin' Mason Dixon's Front Porch Stomp. All this and more on The Moondog Show.

There is no expertise that supersedes a parent who knows their child. That idea sits at the heart of this conversation with Dr. Siobhan Dunnavant, an OB-GYN with more than 25 years of experience who believes the best doctors don't silence questions. They invite them. We talk about finding the confidence to trust your instincts, navigating medical decisions without fear, raising kids in a world of screens, and why connection, movement, and time outside still shape healthier families. If you've ever walked away from an appointment feeling unheard or wondered whether you're allowed to question the experts, this conversation is for you. Learn more and find support at HealthyKidsAlliance.com . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if your child's meltdowns, anxiety, trouble focusing, or bedtime battles aren't just a phase? Sleep expert Dr. Funke Afolabi-Brown explains why quality sleep may be the missing piece many families overlook.Rebecca sits down with Dr. Funke Afolabi-Brown, MD, FAASM how healthy sleep affects every aspect of a child's emotional, physical, and mental well-being. Together, they discuss bedtime routines, screen time, nutrition, sleep disorders, co-sleeping, ADHD, anxiety, and practical strategies parents can begin using tonight.Whether you have a toddler who won't stay in bed or a teenager glued to a phone at bedtime, this conversation is filled with realistic advice that can help your entire family sleep better.Key Takeaways• Sleep problems often show up as behavior problems.• Consistent bedtime routines help children regulate emotions and improve sleep quality.• Parents should look beyond bedtime and consider nutrition, exercise, screen time, and possible medical sleep disorders.Final ThoughtsBetter sleep isn't just about getting through the night. It's one of the greatest gifts parents can give themselves and their children. Small changes today can create healthier, happier families tomorrow.Follow Dr. Funke Afolabi-Brown, MD, FAASMWebsite: https://www.therestfulsleepplace.com/SocialsFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/restfulsleepmdYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/DrFunkeBrownLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drfunkebrown/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/restfulsleepmd/Follow Rebecca and

EP:201 Is your child a sensory seeker… or a sensory avoider? The answer might surprise you. Hi friends, If you've ever wondered why one child melts down over loud noises, another constantly crashes into furniture, or mealtimes feel like a daily battle, this episode is for you. One of the biggest misconceptions I see as an occupational therapist is that we tend to label our children—and ourselves—as either a "sensory seeker" or a "sensory avoider." But the truth is, our sensory systems are so much more complex than that. We all have unique sensory profiles. And understanding them can completely change the way you parent. In this episode of Thrive Like a Parent, I'm breaking down how sensory processing impacts your child's emotions, behaviors, and nervous system—and why learning your child's sensory profile can help you respond with more confidence, compassion, and connection. We'll explore: ✨ What a sensory profile actually is—and why it matters. ✨ Why your child may be both a sensory seeker and a sensory avoider. ✨ The connection between sensory processing and emotional regulation. ✨ How sensory needs influence meltdowns, transitions, picky eating, sleep, focus, and everyday behavior. ✨ Practical strategies to support your child's nervous system while regulating your own. Here's what I want every parent to know: Your child's behaviors aren't random. They're communication. When you understand what's happening inside their nervous system, you stop reacting to behaviors—and start responding to the needs underneath them. And this isn't just about your child. As parents, understanding our own sensory profiles can be just as life-changing. The more aware we become of our own nervous systems, the better equipped we are to stay calm during challenging moments, communicate more effectively, and create a home where everyone feels safe, supported, and understood. If you're tired of feeling like you're constantly walking on eggshells, frustrated by parenting strategies that don't seem to work, or simply want to understand your child on a deeper level, I know this episode will give you a fresh perspective.

How much easier would difficult conversations be if parents already trusted your team before a problem ever happened? In this episode of the Child Care Genius Friday Training Podcast, Faith Yocum shares why trust isn't built during a crisis—it's created through consistent, proactive communication and hundreds of small interactions with families every day.   Listen in as Faith explains how to prepare your staff for challenging conversations, communicate with transparency, and build stronger relationships that increase family confidence, loyalty, and retention.   You'll also discover simple ways to address common situations before they become bigger issues, helping your center create a culture where parents feel informed, supported, and confident in your care. Mentioned in this episode: GET TICKETS to the Child Care Genius LEVERAGE Conference:  https://childcaregenius.com/leverage    Need help with your child care marketing? Reach out! At Child Care Genius Marketing we offer website development, hosting, and security, Google Ads creation and management, done for you social media ads management. For social media content we have the Genius Box, which is a monthly subscription chock full of social media & blog content, as well as a new monthly lead magnet every month! Learn more at Child Care Genius Marketing. https://childcaregenius.com/marketing-solutions/  Schedule a no obligation call to learn more about how we can partner together to ignite your marketing efforts.   If you need help in your child care business, consider joining our coaching programs at Child Care Genius University. Learn More Here. https://childcaregenius.com/university     Connect with us:  Child Care Genius Website Like us on Facebook Join our Owners Only Private Mastermind Group on Facebook    Join our Child Care Mindset Facebook Group Follow Us on Instagram Connect with us on LinkedIn Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Buy our Books Check out our Free Resources

In This Episode, You'll Learn: The three questions every teen should be able to answer before leaving for college Why anxiety, peer pressure, and loneliness are often symptoms of deeper issues How to start meaningful conversations with your teen—without making them feel interrogated Why identity, belonging, and purpose are essential for long-term success How parents can reconnect with their teen, even if they feel like they've missed opportunities in the past Ways to help high-achieving students avoid burnout while staying motivated Why college readiness is really about preparing students for adulthood Whether your teen is in middle school, high school, or getting ready to head off to college, this conversation will give you practical tools to build a stronger connection and help them develop the confidence and resilience they'll need for the future.

https://heysammi.com/ ⁠ ⁠Hey Sammi Podcast Spotify⁠ Hey Sammi Podcast Itunes why does my 13 year old suddenly want to quit sports? SUBTITLE: how to find out what's really going on when your teen won't talk DESCRIPTION: why do teenagers suddenly quit sports they love? a mom in portland wrote to me because her 13 year old daughter went from sleeping in her jersey to done, overnight, and won't say why. in this episode i answer the questions parents of teen athletes ask most. why won't my teenager tell me what's wrong? should i let my child quit a sport mid-season? is 13 a normal age for girls to drop out of sports? the answer to that last one is yes, thirteen is the age girls leave sports in droves, and it's rarely about the sport itself. i walk through what usually hides underneath a sudden quit, from locker room comments to friendship fallout to changing bodies, why direct questions make a quiet teen quieter, why the you-made-a-commitment speech closes the door, and the side-by-side conversation technique that gets teenagers talking when face to face feels like an interrogation. plus how to keep the door open if she really is done, without pushing her through it. got a question for the show? email me. hey@heysammi.com  ⁠https://heysammi.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

SummaryIn this episode of the Trainer's Bullpen, host Dan Fraser chats with learning researcher, practitioner expert and author of “Powerful Teaching” Patrice Bain. Patrice shares evidence-based learning strategies rooted in cognitive science, including retrieval practice, spacing, interleaving, and feedback-driven metacognition. These powerful tools can transform teaching and learning, making knowledge more accessible and durable. The interview contains not only the scientific basis of how these tools greatly enhance long term learning, but also practical tips and examples of application in the learning environment. Stay around after the interview as Dan and Chris discuss how they use these principles in the Method of Instruction Course and give advice on how trainers and coaches can easily apply these principles to accelerate learning and retention in their students.Key topics• Retrieval practice as a core learning tool• Spacing and interleaving to enhance retention• Metacognition and feedback for self-assessment• Priming and pretests to set the stage for learning• Teaching students how to learn and take ownership• Why forgetting is essential for learning• The importance of errors and how they shape the conditions for rich learning• How the coach must ‘choreograph' the learning• Practical application in classroom and practical skills environments• Law enforcement specific applicationResources:Powerful Teaching by Patrice Bain - https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Powerful+Teaching+Patrice+Bainretrievalpractice.org - https://retrievalpractice.org/patricebain.com - https://patricebain.comA Parent's Guide to Powerful Teaching - https://www.amazon.com/s?k=A+Parent%27s+Guide+to+Powerful+TeachingMake It Stick by Brown, Roediger, McDaniel - https://www.amazon.com/s?k=Make+It+Stick+Brown+Roediger+McDaniel

https://heysammi.com/ ⁠ ⁠Hey Sammi Podcast Spotify⁠ Hey Sammi Podcast Itunes why does my 13 year old suddenly want to quit sports? SUBTITLE: how to find out what's really going on when your teen won't talk DESCRIPTION: why do teenagers suddenly quit sports they love? a mom in portland wrote to me because her 13 year old daughter went from sleeping in her jersey to done, overnight, and won't say why. in this episode i answer the questions parents of teen athletes ask most. why won't my teenager tell me what's wrong? should i let my child quit a sport mid-season? is 13 a normal age for girls to drop out of sports? the answer to that last one is yes, thirteen is the age girls leave sports in droves, and it's rarely about the sport itself. i walk through what usually hides underneath a sudden quit, from locker room comments to friendship fallout to changing bodies, why direct questions make a quiet teen quieter, why the you-made-a-commitment speech closes the door, and the side-by-side conversation technique that gets teenagers talking when face to face feels like an interrogation. plus how to keep the door open if she really is done, without pushing her through it. got a question for the show? email me. hey@heysammi.com  ⁠https://heysammi.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Guest Host: John Gerardi Kristina Holmes-McIntryre Co-founder of The Fresno Community Parent Coalition joins the program to discuss what parents are going through with FUSD. The group of concerned Fresno Unified parents spoke out about what they described as a lack of safety and transparency within the district at an event that also drew the family of an 11-year-old student who died in 2022 after an investigation later revealed incompetence among staff and a failure by administrators to properly investigate the incident. Please Like, Comment and Follow 'Philip Teresi on KMJ' on all platforms: --- Philip Teresi on KMJ is available on the KMJNOW app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube or wherever else you listen to podcasts. -- Philip Teresi on KMJ Weekdays 2-6 PM Pacific on News/Talk 580 AM & 105.9 FM KMJ | Website | Facebook | Instagram | X | Podcast | Amazon | - Everything KMJ KMJNOW App | Podcasts | Facebook | X | Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

"The world is one big giant oyster, and there's so many different ways to make a dollar, and if you're motivated, it can be made out of just about anything." — Kira Hartley Klinger Kira Hartley Klinger was 40 years old, newly divorced, with a teenager at home, no college degree, and a patchwork of side hustles behind her: cleaning houses, writing resumes, running a paper route with her boys. What she did have was five years of experience selling on eBay, a willingness to buy what nobody else wanted, and an instinct for finding treasure in the boxes at the back of auction lots. She fell into vintage fabric entirely by accident — buying it cheap because it was there, then discovering customers in Japan and Australia who kept coming back for more. She taught herself to date a piece of fabric by its width and fiber content. She opened an Etsy shop. She started writing little essays on her listing pages about the characters she met at auctions, and customers began writing back: you need to write the book. So she did. Twice. And those books led to speaking at quilting guilds, podcast guesting, and a California TV producer who signed her because she believed in the story. At 55, Kira became debt-free for the first time in her adult life. Raymond Aaron talks with her about the wiggly path — the one you can only see clearly by looking backward — and what it means to follow what the world is quietly offering you. Learn more and connect: Kira Hartley Klinger on Etsy: https://www.etsy.com (search "Fabric Wars" or Kira Hartley Klinger) Fabric Wars on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com (search "Fabric Wars Kira Hartley Klinger") Resources mentioned: Fabric Wars by Kira Hartley Klinger — https://www.amazon.com (search title) Fabric Wars and More by Kira Hartley Klinger — https://www.amazon.com (search title) eBay — https://www.ebay.com Etsy — https://www.etsy.com Respark Your Life Podcast — https://www.resparkyourlife.com Raymond Aaron has shared his vision and wisdom on radio and television programs for over 40 years. He is the author of over 100 books, including Branding Small Business For Dummies, Double Your Income Doing What You Love, Canadian best-seller Chicken Soup for the Canadian Soul, and he co-authored the New York Times best-seller Chicken Soup for the Parent's Soul. Raymond's latest, co-authored book is The AI Millionaire's Path: Discover How ChatGPT-Written Books Become Bestsellers and How They Can Make You a Millionaire Author! https://www.aaron.com

Post your thoughts here. If you want a reply email me at connectTFJ@yahoo.com. I look forward to hearing from you.Every parent wants to do a great job. Dr. Chris Hanson offers practical guidance on how this is done in this episode with the vital skill of Nurturant Parenting. Chris is a pediatrician and theologian who is showing parents how to balance authority and engagement. That is the essence of being a Nurturant Parent who offers wise direction and loving connection. The idea is founded on evidence-based psychology and love-centered theology. In the session Chris also shares his spiritual journey which led him to embrace a love-centered perspective on God, the ultimate nurturant parent for us all. His vision of parenting is based in the truth of God as loving, responsive, and co-creative.Chris gives clear guidance on applying these ideas for parenting preschoolers, teens, and young adults. He has special insight into the challenge of parenting the Pandemic Generation whom he feels are still recovering from that traumatic interruption to normal life. These ideas will help any parent see the importance of balancing warm, supportive engagement with wise direction. Listeners will also be encouraged to ask serious questions about faith and church life to promote maximum spiritual development.  Read for more information Open and Relational Parenting: Loving Parents Reflecting a Loving God. SacraSage Press, 2025https://openrelationalparenting.substack.com/ Support the showSubscribe to this podcast for only $5 per month to get a monthly bonus episode, access to exclusive subscriber-only episodes, and the POSTINGS weekly newsletter on Substack with more resources for well-being!Subscribe at https://tracksforthejourney.buzzsprout.comEnjoy the Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/@tracksforthejourney77 

https://heysammi.com/  Hey Sammi Podcast Spotify Hey Sammi Podcast Itunes why does my 13 year old suddenly want to quit sports? SUBTITLE: how to find out what's really going on when your teen won't talk DESCRIPTION: why do teenagers suddenly quit sports they love? a mom in portland wrote to me because her 13 year old daughter went from sleeping in her jersey to done, overnight, and won't say why. in this episode i answer the questions parents of teen athletes ask most. why won't my teenager tell me what's wrong? should i let my child quit a sport mid-season? is 13 a normal age for girls to drop out of sports? the answer to that last one is yes, thirteen is the age girls leave sports in droves, and it's rarely about the sport itself. i walk through what usually hides underneath a sudden quit, from locker room comments to friendship fallout to changing bodies, why direct questions make a quiet teen quieter, why the you-made-a-commitment speech closes the door, and the side-by-side conversation technique that gets teenagers talking when face to face feels like an interrogation. plus how to keep the door open if she really is done, without pushing her through it. got a question for the show? email me. hey@heysammi.com  https://heysammi.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You love your kids, and still, there are days you'd happily pack a bag and disappear for a week. That thought can feel scary or shameful, so we say nothing and keep pushing until we're snapped, numb, or convinced we're failing. I'm Flora McCormick, a licensed therapist and parenting coach, and I'm sharing the simplest, most reliable way I know to refill your parenting tank without a vacation, a bigger budget, or extra childcare.The turning point is one honest question: what could I stop doing? So many of us are exhausted not only from what our kids need, but from what we add because it feels good to be needed. We unpack the “rescuer” pattern and why chasing control or perfectly compliant kids won't create the relief you want. Instead, we practice sustainable parenting through boundaries, leadership, and skill-building that supports your child's independence and your mental health.You'll hear concrete examples you can try today, from turning a snack request into a coaching moment to helping a child build bedtime coping tools like counting, progressive muscle relaxation, and comfort cues. We also use a memorable metaphor for boundaries: being a backpacker instead of a double packer, so you stop carrying what your kids can learn to carry themselves. If you want parenting that bridges gentle parenting and effective discipline, this is your permission slip to do less and feel stronger.Subscribe for more sustainable parenting tools, share this with a parent who's running on fumes, and leave a review so more families can find the support they need. ✨Want more?  ✨JOIN me in the SUMMER of support:  

Kelly and Doug Nichols and their two daughters are, seemingly, your normal all-American family. Kelly grew up on a farm in rural Illinois; she has a strong faith and even stronger family values. She and Doug met when the pair were in their early twenties, dated for four years, and then got married. Doug worked in IT, while Kelly enjoyed a long and happy career as a dental hygienist, respected and loved by her patients and by the community.As the family grew, they did all the things young, busy families do. They went on adventures and holidays, the girls played sports, and they attended church every Sunday. And, like almost all families, they documented the years through pictures and videos, especially of their two young daughters. Treasured family memories. Memories that would one day land them both in prison, arrested, tried and convicted of possessing and producing child pornography.It all started when allegations were made against Kelly's husband, Doug. Allegations he denies. Allegations we cannot go into, as they are still making their way through the court system. These allegations had nothing to do with Kelly, but they would be the catalyst for what came next.As part of the complaint, the person making the allegations told police that if they took Doug's phone and computer, they would find evidence to back up her claims. So they did. But they found nothing. What they did find, however, while searching through the computer and phone, was those very family memories: thousands of pictures and videos of the two kids. As police went through the files, they said they found what they deemed to be images and videos of a sexual nature.They took what they had found to a grand jury, and very quickly this supposedly normal all-American family were having their lives dissected and pulled apart online, their faces plastered across the internet under headlines like "Decatur Couple Arrested on Child Porn and Sex Charges."This is a case where we can truly say: it could happen to you.EARLY AND AD FREE ACCESS: for as little as $1.69 a week!Apple + HEREPatreon and find us on Facebook here. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

https://heysammi.com/ ⁠ ⁠Hey Sammi Podcast Spotify⁠ Hey Sammi Podcast Itunes why does my 13 year old suddenly want to quit sports? SUBTITLE: how to find out what's really going on when your teen won't talk DESCRIPTION: why do teenagers suddenly quit sports they love? a mom in portland wrote to me because her 13 year old daughter went from sleeping in her jersey to done, overnight, and won't say why. in this episode i answer the questions parents of teen athletes ask most. why won't my teenager tell me what's wrong? should i let my child quit a sport mid-season? is 13 a normal age for girls to drop out of sports? the answer to that last one is yes, thirteen is the age girls leave sports in droves, and it's rarely about the sport itself. i walk through what usually hides underneath a sudden quit, from locker room comments to friendship fallout to changing bodies, why direct questions make a quiet teen quieter, why the you-made-a-commitment speech closes the door, and the side-by-side conversation technique that gets teenagers talking when face to face feels like an interrogation. plus how to keep the door open if she really is done, without pushing her through it. got a question for the show? email me. hey@heysammi.com  ⁠https://heysammi.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Coach Tory and Coach Don welcome you to Episode 429 of Everything Fastpitch. They share a Did You Know? noting over $9 million in NIL deals have been denied, seeking listener clarification. A listener asks how to keep defenders engaged behind a dominant strikeout pitcher; the hosts suggest emphasizing communication, positioning, backup responsibilities, and practicing game-speed defensive reps. In an interview, Gosia Betancourt describes her son Joshua's transition from intense elite gymnastics to elite diving, the family's emotional adjustment, and the importance of listening to children; she also discusses managing perfectionism, injuries, coach communication, and using online schooling for academic rigor and flexibility. The coaching tip urges travel-ball coaches to align tryout advertising with realistic commitments, especially claims about player development versus heavy tournament schedules.Crimson Global AcademySupport the show

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How do you raise children who understand the value of money in a world where almost every payment is digital?In this episode of Leadership Tea, Shelby Smith-Wilson and Belinda Jackson welcome back financial experts Sam Salmon and Josh Barrett from the State Department Federal Credit Union to discuss practical strategies for raising financially confident kids.Together, they explore allowances, saving, budgeting, first jobs, spending habits, and how parents can build healthy financial mindsets through consistent conversations, not fear or shame.Whether you're raising young children or preparing teenagers for adulthood, this conversation offers practical ideas that leaders can apply both at home and at work.In this episode:• The biggest mistake parents make when teaching kids about money• Why communication matters more than the size of an allowance• Helping children understand needs versus wants• Teaching financial responsibility in a cashless world• Preparing teens for their first paycheck• Why it's never too late to build better money habitsPart 1 of a two-part series with the State Department Federal Credit Union.--------------------Our company, Grounded and Global Advisory, is pleased to offer a quarterly advisory retainer. For $275 per month (billed quarterly, with the option to renew each quarter), you'll receive:One 60-minute coaching session per monthPriority access to our calendarOne annual 90-minute strategic intensiveThis offer is for the person who knows what good advisory support feels like and doesn't want to lose it. Spots are limited. If you're interested, email us directly at hello@stirringsuccess.com, and we'll be in touch.Send us a comment!Support the showWe publish new episodes every other Wednesday.Subscribe to the Leadership Tea PodcastSubscribe to Leadership Tea on YouTube!Follow us on Instagram @Leadership_Tea for more inspiration and insights.

This week, Kaleb and I are diving into turbulent waters and talking parenting.

Does it feel like culture is constantly contradicting the biblical truths you're trying to teach your children? Are you struggling to compete with screens, social media, and entertainment for your child's attention—and ultimately, their heart? Would you like to build the kind of relationship where your child wants to listen, learn, and receive wisdom from you? Join Ginger Hubbard and Alex Cody, along with special guest Israel Wayne, as they discuss how we can disciple our kids with all of the distractions of today's world. *** For show notes and episode downloads, go to https://gingerhubbard.com/podcast/episode-287-a-parents-calling-to-disciple-with-israel-wayne *** Support this podcast:   https://www.gingerhubbard.com/support *** Sponsor for this episode:   CTC Math | ctcmath.com We Heart Nutrition | weheartnutrition.com, code GINGER REDEEM HealthShare

It's impossible to be useful in our family without the resources God provides. Join AMBrewster for an overview of all the resources you and your family will ever need to be useful to God and each other.Truth.Love.Parent. is a podcast of Truth.Love.Family., an Evermind Ministry.Action Steps Purchase “Quit: how to stop family strife for good.” https://amzn.to/40haxLz Support our 501(c)(3) by becoming a TLP Friend! https://www.truthloveparent.com/donate.html Download the Evermind App. https://evermind.passion.io/checkout/102683 Discover the following episodes by clicking the titles or navigating to the episode in your app: The Season of Grace https://www.truthloveparent.com/the-celebration-of-god-blog/cog-33-season-of-grace-preparing-celebrating-discipling  The Gracious Life https://www.celebrationofgod.com/the-gracious-life-series.html  Biblical Families https://www.truthloveparent.com/biblical-families.html  Peaceful Parenting https://www.truthloveparent.com/peaceful-parenting-series.html   Family Love https://www.truthloveparent.com/the-four-family-loves-series.html  The Merest Christianity https://www.truthloveparent.com/the-merest-christianity-series.html  No Greater Joy https://www.truthloveparent.com/no-greater-joy-series.html  Parenting Suffering Children https://www.truthloveparent.com/parenting-suffering-children.html  Parenting Sorrowing Children https://www.truthloveparent.com/parenting-sorrowing-children.html  Your Family Needs to Go to Church https://www.truthloveparent.com/your-family-needs-to-go-to-church-series.html  A Family United in God https://www.truthloveparent.com/a-family-united-in-god.html  Click here for Today's episode notes, resources, and transcript: https://www.truthloveparent.com/taking-back-the-family-blog/tlp-640-useful-family-relationships-part-2-the-resourcesLike us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TruthLoveParent/Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/truth.love.parent/Follow us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/TruthLoveParentPin us on Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TruthLoveParent/Need some help? Write to us at Counselor@TruthLoveParent.com.

In this episode of the TCOYD Podcast, Dr. Steve Edelman is joined by Raquel Baron, founder of Type One Together, to discuss the challenges, triumphs, and everyday realities of raising a child with type 1 diabetes. Diagnosed herself at age five, Raquel combines her lived experience with years of supporting families through Type One Together, an organization that provides trusted resources, educational programs, and a nationwide network of trained babysitters for children with type 1 diabetes. Together, Dr. Edelman and Raquel explore the emotional side of diabetes that often goes beyond blood sugars. They discuss helping children navigate school, sports, friendships, burnout, and growing independence, while giving parents practical strategies to reduce fear, build confidence, and create a healthier relationship with diabetes. The conversation also covers diabetes technology, social media, Afrezza for children, community support, and why perfection should never be the goal.Whether you're the parent of a newly diagnosed child or have been managing type 1 diabetes for years, this episode offers practical advice, reassurance, and reminders that children with diabetes can live full, active lives.✨ Subscribe for practical diabetes management tips, technology updates, and treatment breakthroughs that help people with diabetes live healthier, more flexible lives.More diabetes resources:Website: tcoyd.orgBlog: tcoyd.org/blogPodcast: tcoydthepodcast.transistor.fmInstagram:   / tcoydFacebook:   / tcoydStay connected! Sign up for our monthly newsletter here!Support TCOYD's educational programs: tcoyd.org/donate ★ Support this podcast ★

In this episode, Gare and I talk with V.A. Vazquez about her dark, twisty thriller The Death Row Club! Listen to hear all about: The deeply personal experience that inspired The Death Row Club. V.A. Vazquez shares how discovering that a beloved high school teacher was secretly a predator sparked the question: What would it be like to be the child of someone capable of horrific crimes?  Why writing this novel became an exploration of shame, identity, and inherited judgment. V.A. Vazquez discusses how growing up with two moms in a conservative Catholic school influenced the emotional core of the novel and the idea of being judged for your family rather than your own actions. The surprising publishing journey that intertwined with Ashley Winstead. Vazquez talks about moving to Scotland, writing her first novels while waiting for work authorization, landing in Pitch Wars, and how Ashley Winstead encouraged her to dream much bigger than she ever imagined. How real memoirs from the families of serial killers shaped the book. Instead of consuming true crime entertainment, Vazquez researched memoirs by children and spouses of serial killers to authentically portray grief, loyalty, denial, and trauma. Behind the scenes of building a thriller with an unforgettable cast. Everything from creating detailed outlines and character boards to debating book adaptations and dream casting.   Check Out Author Social Media PackagesCheck out the Bookwild Community on PatreonCheck Out My Stories Are My Religion SubstackGet Bookwild MerchFollow @imbookwild on InstagramOther Co-hosts On Instagram:Gare Billings @gareindeedreadsSteph Lauer @books.in.badgerlandHalley Sutton @halleysutton25Brian Watson @readingwithbrianMacKenzie Green @missusa2mba

The tone. The words. The moment of recognition. A honest look at inherited patterns and the slow work of choosing something different.

For most coaches, perhaps the most difficult relationship(s) that we navigate in our career is our relationship with our players parents. In this episide, we discuss ideas for a preseason parent social, the benefits of it, different ideas for running a social gathering and some outside the box suggestions for the coaching staff. In addition, we've got a great quote from James Clear, along with suggestions for studying one of our great modern coaches, Tara VanDerveer.

Les demi-finales de la Coupe du Monde sont arrivées ! France et Espagne s'apprêtent à raviver l'une des plus grandes rivalités du football international. Nous passons en revue les dernières compositions d'équipe et les réactions des deux camps avant ce choc de demain. Atlanta accueillera jeudi matin, heure australienne, l'un des chocs les plus attendus de l'histoire du football mondial. L'Argentine, tenante du titre, et l'Angleterre se retrouvent en demi-finale de la Coupe du Monde 2026, ravivant l'une des plus grandes rivalités du football

  How to Thrive as the Default Parent When you're doing it all in a neurodiverse family  with Stephanie Holmes   What do you do when you are the only one who sees what your child needs, the only one managing the appointments, the IEPs, the protocols, the meltdowns, the mental load — and the other parent is sitting right there in the same house? If that question landed somewhere deep in your chest, this episode was made for you. Leslie sits down with Dr. Stephanie Holmes, a certified autism specialist, trained therapist for neurodiverse couples, and founder of Autism Spectrum Resources — a woman who has also lived this road personally as both a wife and a mother. Together they pull back the curtain on what it really costs a woman to carry the full weight of parenting a neurodiverse child alongside a disengaged or neurodiverse spouse, what it takes to finally speak up, and how you can protect your own mental, emotional, and spiritual health even when you cannot change your husband or your circumstances. You will walk away from this conversation feeling seen, equipped with practical perspective shifts, and reminded that your faithfulness to your children matters more than you can imagine. Key Takeaways   The Mental and Emotional Cost of Being the Default Parent Is Real — and It Is Not Weakness Stephanie describes nearly reaching a complete breakdown after years of functioning as the sole executive for her entire household — managing three neurodiverse family members, running a counseling practice, and absorbing every logistical, emotional, and spiritual demand without asking for help. The toll showed up as migraines, exhaustion, depression, and a crisis of faith. If you have been white-knuckling it through your days and wondering why you are falling apart when you look like you are holding it together, this is not a character flaw. It is the predictable result of one person carrying what two people were designed to share.   Lies Dressed as Biblical Mandates Can Keep You Trapped and Suffering Longer Than Necessary Stephanie carried a painful burden for years because a pastor told her in premarital counseling that if she chose to work outside the home, she could never ask her husband to carry any of the domestic load. She signed onto that belief at nineteen, never anticipating children, neurodiversity, or the reality of what their life would actually require. Leslie names this pattern directly — cultural ideas packaged as spiritual law that keep good women silent, overloaded, and ashamed to ask for what they need. Naming the lie is the first step toward freedom.   Making the Mental Load Visible Can Open a Door That Silence Never Could The turning point in Stephanie's marriage came not from an argument or an ultimatum, but from a simple, concrete act: she wrote every task down and laid both lists on the table. For her husband, seeing the imbalance visually was the thing that finally made it real. If your husband has not responded to your exhaustion or your words, it does not automatically mean he is cruel — it may mean he genuinely cannot perceive what he has never been shown. This does not excuse a lack of action, but it does suggest that a different kind of communication may open a different kind of conversation.   You Cannot Control the External, But You Can Steward What Is Internal Leslie offers one of the most grounding frameworks in the episode: when we are overwhelmed by everything we cannot control — our husband's choices, what happens on his parenting time, whether the school cooperates — we tend to redouble our efforts to control the external, which only deepens our distress. The real work, the work that actually moves the needle, happens inside. Choosing to build community, finding your support people, deciding who you want to be in the middle of this hard season — these are the things within your reach. As Stephanie says, she eventually made a decision: I am going to survive this and I am going to thrive despite this. You Do Not Have to Earn Permission to Get Help, Go to Church, or Take Your Kids on Vacation One of the most practically liberating moments in this conversation is when Stephanie realizes that her husband's unwillingness to participate does not mean she and her children cannot participate in life. He had never told her she could not take the girls on vacation — she had simply assumed that a good Christian wife would not go without him. When she stopped waiting for his yes and started making choices for her children's good, things began to shift. If your husband is not leading, someone still has to keep the plane in the air. Choosing to do that is not a failure of submission — it is a faithful act of stewardship. Personal Invitation If this conversation stirred something in you — if you recognized yourself in the exhaustion, the false beliefs, the longing for someone to finally name what you have been living — we want you to know there is a place to go deeper. My Moving Beyond People Pleasing course was built for women who have spent years putting everyone else's needs, comfort, and approval ahead of their own, and who are ready to learn how to show up differently. It is grounded in Scripture, filled with practical tools, and designed for women who are serious about becoming the truest, most grounded version of who God created them to be. You can learn more and get started here: https://leslievernick.com/mbpp Closing Encouragement You are not failing. You are carrying something extraordinarily heavy, and you have been carrying it largely alone. But you were not meant to do this without God, without community, and without a honest look at what is truly yours to hold and what is not. Stephanie prayed it beautifully in this episode — God is Emmanuel, which means He is with us. He is with you in the IEP meeting, in the exhausted silence after the kids are in bed, in the anger you have been afraid to admit, and in the small faithful steps you take every single day. James 1:5 promises that if you ask for wisdom, He will give it generously. He is not withholding from you. He is walking with you, one step at a time, lighting just enough of the path ahead to keep moving forward. You are not alone. And change — in you, through you, and around you — is possible.

Kelly and Doug Nichols and their two daughters are, seemingly, your normal all-American family. Kelly grew up on a farm in rural Illinois; she has a strong faith and even stronger family values. She and Doug met when the pair were in their early twenties, dated for four years, and then got married. Doug worked in IT, while Kelly enjoyed a long and happy career as a dental hygienist, respected and loved by her patients and by the community.As the family grew, they did all the things young, busy families do. They went on adventures and holidays, the girls played sports, and they attended church every Sunday. And, like almost all families, they documented the years through pictures and videos, especially of their two young daughters. Treasured family memories. Memories that would one day land them both in prison, arrested, tried and convicted of possessing and producing child pornography.It all started when allegations were made against Kelly's husband, Doug. Allegations he denies. Allegations we cannot go into, as they are still making their way through the court system. These allegations had nothing to do with Kelly, but they would be the catalyst for what came next.As part of the complaint, the person making the allegations told police that if they took Doug's phone and computer, they would find evidence to back up her claims. So they did. But they found nothing. What they did find, however, while searching through the computer and phone, was those very family memories: thousands of pictures and videos of the two kids. As police went through the files, they said they found what they deemed to be images and videos of a sexual nature.They took what they had found to a grand jury, and very quickly this supposedly normal all-American family were having their lives dissected and pulled apart online, their faces plastered across the internet under headlines like "Decatur Couple Arrested on Child Porn and Sex Charges."This is a case where we can truly say: it could happen to you.EARLY AND AD FREE ACCESS: for as little as $1.69 a week!Apple + HEREPatreon and find us on Facebook here. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You can listen wherever you get your podcasts or check out the fully edited transcript of our interview at the bottom of this post.In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, Michaeleen Doucleff and I talk about her new book Dopamine Kids: A Science-Based Plan to Rewire Your Child's Brain and Take You're your Family in the Age of Screens and Ultraprocessed Foods. Michaeleen's position is not that screens and ultra-processed food are “bad.” Rather, Michaeleen explains how they can take the place of things that truly bring us joy and pleasure, leaving us with an empty feeling of "what's next?" and an endless cycle of wanting. We focus on how dopamine has been misunderstood and how it actually works, how magnets like screens and ultraprocessed foods keep us stuck, and small changes you can make to start shifting things in your home.Know someone who might appreciate this episode? Share it with them!And if you love the podcast, FREE ways to help us out:1- Rate and review the podcast in your podcast player app2- “Like” this post by tapping the heart icon ♥️3- Share this with a friend. THANK YOU!We talk about:* 00:00 Introduction to Dopamine Kids and why our understanding of dopamine is outdated* 02:15 Michaeleen's journey from NPR science journalist to parenting author* 05:00 Dopamine isn't pleasure—it's wanting: the neuroscience that changes everything* 07:20 Why kids say they'd rather play with friends than be on screens* 08:00 The difference between dopamine, serotonin, and real satisfaction* 13:30 How apps and ultra-processed foods hijack the brain's reward system* 16:45 Why endless scrolling never feels satisfying* 18:30 “Bottomlessness”—one of the biggest design tricks keeping us hooked* 20:30 Why we want activities for our kids with a clear purpose and a clear endpoint* 22:00 The veggie straw experiment that changed Michaeleen's thinking about food* 26:50 Magnets and cues: how screens become automatic habits* 32:00 Why removing screens isn't enough—you have to replace them* 33:30 Helping kids meet their real need for adventure and autonomy* 36:00 Small, permanent changes vs. temporary screen detoxes* 37:30 Why the car is a great place to start reducing screens* 38:00 Is reducing screens really more work?* 40:15 Why laws and regulations haven't caught up with technology* 43:00 Why this isn't a willpower problem* 46:30 Can kids ever use screens in moderation?* 49:00 Paid video games vs. free games* 51:30 This isn't about screens being “bad”* 53:00 Helping kids gradually learn to use technology well* 54:00 School Chromebooks and why parents have more influence than they realize* 58:00 Advice Michaeleen would give her younger parenting self* 1:00:00 Why kids have to experience offline joy before they'll want it* 1:01:00 Sarah's client who removed the TV—and what happened next* 1:02:30 Final thoughts and where to find MichaeleenResources mentioned in this episode:* Michaeleen's website* Dopamine Kids: A Science-Based Plan to Rewire Your Child's Brain and Take You're your Family in the Age of Screens and Ultraprocessed Foods* How to Stop Fighting About Video Games with Scott Novis * The Peaceful Parenting MembershipConnect with Sarah Rosensweet:* Instagram* Facebook Group* YouTube* Website* Join us on Substack* Newsletter* Book a short consult or coaching session callxx Sarah and CoreyYour peaceful parenting team- click here for a free short consult or a coaching sessionVisit our website for free resources, podcast, coaching, membership and more!>> Please support us!!! Please consider becoming a supporter to help support our free content, including The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, our free parenting support Facebook group, and our weekly parenting emails, “Weekend Reflections” and “Weekend Support” - plus our Flourish With Your Complex Child Summit (coming back in the fall for the 3rd year!) All of this free support for you takes a lot of time and energy from me and my team. If it has been helpful or meaningful for you, your support would help us to continue to provide support for free, for you and for others.In addition to knowing you are supporting our mission to support parents and children, you get the podcast ad free and access to a monthly ‘ask me anything' session.Sarah: Hey everyone. Welcome back to another episode of the Peaceful Parenting Podcast.Today's guest is journalist Michaeleen Doucleff. She is the author of the book Hunt, Gather, Parent and now has a new book out called Dopamine Kids: A Science-Based Plan to Rewire Your Child's Brain and Take Back Your Family in the Age of Screens and Ultra-Processed Food.Michaeleen's first book is one of our favorite parenting books, and now we can add this one to the list. She walks us through how screens and ultra-processed food hook us and keep our brains stuck in a hijacked wanting cycle without giving us actual rewards and pleasure.We eventually get around to discussing this, but I want to stress right here at the beginning that Michaeleen isn't saying that screens and ultra-processed food are evil or that they have no place in our lives. Rather, they can take the place of things that truly bring us joy and pleasure, leaving us with an empty feeling of “what's next?” and an endless cycle of wanting.I learned so much from this book. I'd been wanting to make some changes in my own life with my relationship with my phone, and this book helped me understand why it was so hard and what I could do. A hint: as it turns out, we don't understand dopamine correctly at all. Our cultural shorthand about what dopamine is and what role it plays in the motivation and pleasure cycle is totally outdated.If you're interested in making some positive shifts in your child's life, in your family, and in your own life, you're going to love this interview and Michaeleen's book.If you like this episode, please share it with a friend so more parents can learn about peaceful parenting. If you're a fan of the podcast, you can help us out not only by sharing it, but by leaving a review and a five-star rating in your podcast player app. While you're there, don't forget to follow the show so you don't miss an episode.If you'd like to support us even more, you can become a supporter on Substack to help us offset the cost of making the show. We'll put a link in the show notes.Let's meet Michaeleen. I hope you enjoy this conversation and get as much out of her insights as I did.Sarah: Hi, Michaeleen. Welcome back to the podcast.Michaeleen: Thank you so much for having me.Sarah: When we had you on a few years ago to talk about your first parenting book, Hunt, Gather, Parent—we'll link to it in the show notes—it ended up being one of our favorite podcasts out of the 200-some episodes we've done. I'm so excited to have you back to talk about your new book.Michaeleen: Thank you so much. That's so nice. It's an honor to come back.Sarah: I'm so happy to have you. Tell us a little bit about who you are and what you do.Michaeleen: I was—or I still am—a science journalist. I've been one now for about 16 years, and I spent 13 or 14 years as a radio correspondent at NPR. I'm still there covering children's health, global health, neuroscience, and psychology.Before that, I was trained as a chemist. I have a PhD in chemistry.Five years ago, I wrote the parenting book Hunt, Gather, Parent, and I had no idea I'd ever become a parenting expert. That definitely wasn't on my life bingo card.When I had my daughter Rosie almost 11 years ago, I had no clue what I was doing. It just seemed like an impossible task. Then I started studying parenting around the world, and I realized there was an easier way to do things. That's what Hunt, Gather, Parent is about.More recently, about six years ago, I was really trying to fix my own screen problem—my own addiction to my phone. I was so obsessed with it. As I investigated neuroscience, psychology, and behavioral psychology, I started to realize, “Oh gosh, we're really getting a lot of things wrong when it comes to screens and our kids.”That led me to write this next book, Dopamine Kids, to clarify a bunch of myths but also update the advice because it's really old. A lot of the advice out there is based on psychology from 20, 30, even 40 years ago.Sarah: Or even more.Michaeleen: Exactly.Sarah: Exactly. And I'm going to ask you about that. So tell us, what's the central idea behind your new book, Dopamine Kids?Michaeleen: One of the biggest ideas is that we're thinking about screens wrong. We think they're these endless sources of pleasure. We think dopamine is this molecule that brings us pleasure and that the more we have, the happier we are.But that's really old neuroscience.What dopamine actually gives us is the feeling of desire, wanting, and craving. It makes us obsessed.So what screens are doing is cranking that system up. They're increasing motivation, craving, and wanting. But if you look at what happens over time, they actually rob us of pleasure and reduce the amount of pleasure we experience in our lives.So this idea that screens—video games and social media—are treats and rewards for kids is wrong. It's all wrong.What is actually most rewarding and pleasurable for kids are things in the real world because real-world experiences don't just give us desire and wanting. They also give us satisfaction, joy, and long-lasting pleasure.So Dopamine Kids is really a reset of what actually brings our kids pleasure in life. It also provides a toolset to retrain your kids' brains so they naturally want and reach for offline activities and foods that make them feel good—foods that really nourish them and bring satisfaction.It's about rethinking our idea of pleasure. What does pleasure actually look like?I think the media, marketing, and corporations have taught us that pleasure and wanting are basically the same thing—that we want things because they bring us pleasure.But if you actually look at the science and the data, there are so many things out there that drive our wanting while robbing us of pleasure.Social media is a really good example. Kids use it because they want a sense of belonging. They want to feel connected. But over the long run, social media does the opposite. It makes them feel lonelier, and yet they still want it.I see this book as an operating manual for shaping and changing your kids' habits into the ones you want for them as a parent, but also habits that nourish kids and bring joy, happiness, and pleasure to the whole family.We often think limiting screens is about depriving kids of pleasure.It's actually the opposite.It's about reclaiming pleasure.Sarah: I had Lenore Skenazy on the podcast. Do you know her work?Michaeleen: Yeah, we're friends.Sarah: She was on the podcast a few months ago, and she was talking about how, if you ask kids what they want—would they rather be on screens or play with their friends?—by far the number one answer is playing with their friends, not being on screens.Michaeleen: Yeah. I think it's almost double.Sarah: Exactly. And yet I don't think most parents realize that.Michaeleen: Right. I didn't realize that either. I think it's because we confuse begging, screaming, and tantruming for the screen with joy and pleasure.Sarah: Okay, so tell us about that, because what I learned from your book is that everyone thinks dopamine is, “Ah, I just got a hit of dopamine and I feel so good.”Michaeleen: Yeah.Sarah: But it's not dopamine that makes you feel good. It's serotonin and, I think, endorphins that make you feel good.You go into this in much more detail in the book, and I highly recommend it. It was excellent. I have to tell you, I was on an office hours call with my membership before I even knew you had written a new book, and one of my members said, “I'm reading this parenting book called Dopamine Kids, and it's a page-turner.”She said, “I've never had a parenting book that's a page-turner, but you've got to get your hands on this.”Then I looked it up and realized it was your book, and I was so excited to get it and read it.Can you explain the basic idea? I know it's too much detail to go into fully, but what's the difference? What does dopamine actually do, and why isn't it what we think it is?Michaeleen: For a long time—really since the 1950s—neuroscientists thought we do things over and over again because they're pleasurable.Neuroscientists have been obsessed with getting people and animals to press buttons for over a hundred years. Rats, mice, apes, pigeons—they've all been part of these experiments. It's almost like an iPad. Press, press, press, tap.For a long time, researchers could stimulate one region of the brain—the dopamine center—and the animals would go crazy pressing the button all day long. They wouldn't even stop to go to the bathroom. It makes you think of someone playing video games for hours. They're just obsessed with pressing the button.Researchers believed that because this was the dopamine center of the brain, dopamine made you press the button because it felt good and brought you pleasure. They even conducted similar experiments with people, and that very simple explanation stood for a long time.Then, about 30 years ago, a couple of scientists came along and asked, “Wait a second. Is this really true? Do we always act because something is pleasurable?”They designed better experiments, and what they found was astonishing. Dopamine doesn't do that at all.Dopamine makes us want.It makes you want something, and it makes you want to do something over and over again. It's like a “do it again” button in the brain.Do it again.Do it again.Whenever you can, do it again.The way the system is supposed to work is that first you want something, and dopamine motivates you to work for it. Then, when you get what you wanted, the pleasure center starts to light up.Those are different neurotransmitters. That's where endorphins—the body's natural opioids—and serotonin come in.Serotonin allows you to appreciate what you have. It's what lets you say, “Oh, I got what I wanted. I feel really good. Ah... I can stop now. I can take a break.”In many ways, pleasure is the opposite of dopamine because it gives you satisfaction, and satisfaction stops wanting.There are a couple of classic examples. One is sex, which is probably the R-rated version. But another is thirst.Imagine you're running on a hot day. You've run out of water, and after half an hour or an hour, you really want something to drink.That's dopamine. That's your dopamine hit—that strong feeling of desire.Wanting can actually feel good. If I fall in love and I want to be with my partner, the wanting feels good.But wanting can also become frustrating. If you want something for too long and don't get it, that feeling turns into frustration.So you're out running on this hot day thinking, “Oh my gosh, I want water so badly.”That's dopamine.That's not pleasure yet.Then you see a glass of water, or you get one and take a drink, and you think, “Ah, that feels so good.”That's the pleasure system.Sarah: That's where you get the serotonin and the endorphins.Michaeleen: Exactly. And the endocannabinoids too—the body's natural cannabinoids. A whole bunch of things kick in.The wonderful thing about this pleasure response is that it can last a long time. It lingers. It makes you feel optimistic and gives your life a kind of glow because you've gotten what you need to survive.I remember being really upset as a kid, and my mom would come over and hug me. I'd bury my face into her, and it felt so good. It was just this feeling that everything was okay again.That's what these pleasure molecules do.Dopamine is saying, “Everything is not okay. I need this before things can be okay.”They're very different.Sarah: Okay. This is the part I still feel like I'm only beginning to understand.How do the makers of apps and video games—and we've mostly been talking about screens, but you also write a lot about ultra-processed foods—how do they get us stuck in the dopamine cycle?What I took away from your book is that these things are so powerful because they keep us trapped in that cycle of wanting...Sarah: What I understood from your book is that these things are so powerful because they keep us stuck in the dopamine cycle. It's just wanting, wanting, wanting.You said something in the book about how they've figured out a way to hack a weakness in our brain circuitry. Forgive me if that's not the exact wording, but they've essentially hacked a weakness in the brain to keep us stuck in dopamine without ever giving us a real reward.How does that work?Michaeleen: First of all, both the tech industry and the food industry have admitted this for a long time. This isn't something I've come up with. They've openly admitted it. Even the food industry says, “We want to make something you can't stop eating.”Sarah: Right. You read all these interviews with industry insiders, and they're very open about it. Everybody knows they've admitted it. But how does it actually work?Michaeleen: There are a lot of tricks.Let's start with screens because a lot of these techniques actually came from the gambling industry. In the ‘80s and ‘90s, casinos started replacing mechanical slot machines and poker machines with video versions—basically gambling apps on giant touchscreens.They explicitly asked, “What can we do to this game to keep people playing for as long as possible?” Some people would play for 24 or even 48 hours straight. They ran massive A/B tests to figure out exactly how they could tweak the games to send people into this dopamine loop—this wanting loop—where people actually stopped wanting to win because winning took them out of the loop.So it's very empirical. They've simply tested what keeps people there.In the book, I describe it as a kind of recipe parents can use to recognize whether an app is doing this to their child. Psychologists even have a name for this state. It's called dark flow, where you lose track of time and where you are. We've all experienced it while scrolling social media. Twenty or thirty minutes go by and you think, “What just happened?” You're in this loop of wanting because, if you actually experienced pleasure and satisfaction, you would stop. You'd stop wanting.One of the biggest tricks is speed. The faster the cycle runs, the more it traps you. If you think about videos and video games, they've become faster and faster. Even children's iPad games are just question, answer, question, answer, question, answer over and over again. That's driving up dopamine.But where's the satisfaction? What's the reward? Basically, it's just a light on the screen.Another trick is promising something fundamental. The dopamine system evolved to help us fulfill our basic human needs—water, food, social support, adventure, creation. These are things we needed to survive, so kids are naturally highly motivated to pursue them.These apps promise they'll meet those needs. Social media, for example, promises belonging. It says, “Get on here and you'll finally feel connected. You'll finally feel like you belong.” The problem is that it never actually fulfills that promise.If you look at some of the leaked internal documents, you can see the algorithms intentionally withhold what people actually want. One neuroscientist explained it this way: they figure out what you're looking for and why you're on social media, then they give you something that's close to what you want. Maybe on the next click they give you something a little closer. Then a little closer.This does several things. First, you never actually receive the reward because you never get what you really need. Second, you develop this feeling of making progress—as though you're getting closer and closer. “Maybe one more comment. Maybe five more likes. Then I'll finally get it.”What most people don't realize is that we produce the most dopamine not when we get what we want, or even when we think we're about to get it, but when we feel like we're making progress.That's one of the biggest tricks.Video games are a perfect example. Kids always feel like they're making a little more progress. A little more. A little more. By the time they reach the next level, they're already making progress toward another one.There are all these different tricks designed to crank up wanting while dialing down satisfaction and pleasure because satisfaction is what gets you off the game. You think, “Okay, I'm done.”The same thing applies to social media. If social media actually gave me what I was looking for, I'd be finished. I'd think, “I got what I needed. I'm done.”But it never gives it to you.It can't.Sarah: I started feeling kind of gross about how much time I was spending on Instagram and Facebook—really just on my phone in general. I'd think, “Oh, I need a five-minute break,” and immediately pick up my phone.Actually, I did this before I started reading your book, but now I realize it fits perfectly with what you're talking about. I downloaded the New York Times Games app.Now, when I feel like I need a little break, I'll do Wordle or the Mini Crossword or Connections. What's nice is that it's limited. You get one crossword, one mini crossword, one Wordle, and one Connections each day.I'm almost never on Facebook or Instagram anymore because of it. It actually feels like a real reward. I finish the crossword and think, “Oh, I did the Mini in one minute and 38 seconds.”There's an ending to it. It really does feel like I accomplished something, which is very different.Michaeleen: Exactly. And you've actually stumbled onto one of the biggest tricks: bottomlessness.This is huge.TV didn't used to be bottomless.Michaeleen: TV didn't used to be bottomless. You had a handful of channels, and eventually the content ended or it got bad enough that you simply stopped watching.Now everything is endless. There's always another news story, another level in a game, another post, another video. That endlessness is what keeps us trapped in the cycle.You actually did so many things right with the New York Times Games app. You found something that takes a little more effort, but it also has a clear stopping point. You finish it, and then you're done. You created a bottom.That's exactly what I want to do with my own kids. I want to help them find activities that have a clear purpose and a clear ending. When you're done, you're done, and you turn it off.Compare that with scrolling Instagram for 30 minutes. What's the purpose? What are you actually doing? What are you looking for? There's always more content. It never ends, and it's incredibly fast.I think it's Chapter 4 of the book where I talk about figuring out how to use these technologies—if you're going to use them at all—in ways that don't manipulate you into these loops but instead feel genuinely satisfying.People often ask, “How do you know it's a real reward?” Your brain tells you. You feel better afterward than you did before. You feel done. You feel full. You think, “I'm ready to stop.”If, instead, you're thinking, “What's next? One more. One more,” then you're still stuck in the loop.For a lot of people—for a lot of kids, and certainly for me—that loop is frustrating and deeply unsatisfying. It just makes life feel gray and gloomy.Sarah: I noticed something a while ago. One of my favorite activities in the world is reading, and I realized I can't read if my phone is in the same room with me.When I was reading your book, I thought, “This is something I absolutely love doing, but it doesn't create that same dopamine loop.”Reading doesn't do that.I actually have to keep my phone in another room because reading takes more effort than scrolling Instagram.Michaeleen: Exactly. It takes more work, and that's part of why it's more satisfying.We're made to work. Human beings are actually very good at working, and that effort is part of what creates satisfaction. If something is too easy, it's much easier to get trapped in the wanting loop.Sarah: You also say in the book that, evolutionarily, our brains are designed to look for the easy way out.Back when life was hard, that made perfect sense.But now that everything comes to us so easily, it doesn't make sense anymore.Michaeleen: That's exactly right. These products are exploiting that tendency.Food is probably where you can see it most clearly.Our brains evolved to look for the foods with the most calories per bite. Why would you eat something with fewer calories per bite, especially when food was scarce? That's how we evolved.We also evolved to look for calories that our bodies could use quickly. A refined white-flour cracker gives you calories much faster than a carrot does. You'd have to eat carrots for much longer to get the same energy.Our brains are completely designed to choose the cracker.You'd never touch the carrot. It doesn't make evolutionary sense.That's especially true for kids, who are eating much more instinctively. But honestly, I'd argue that adults have the same problem. If the crackers are sitting there beside the carrots, most adults are going to have a hard time choosing the carrot.Sarah: Tell the story about the strawberries and the veggie straws.Michaeleen: This was when I really understood what was happening.Rosie was about eight years old, and we went to the pool with one of her friends. I packed raw edamame and strawberries. The girls were tired and hungry, and they were happily eating them. They were enjoying them.Then I pulled out a bag of veggie straws—which, by the way, aren't really veggies and aren't really straws. They're basically highly processed potato starch.Sarah: I think it's extruded potato starch.Michaeleen: You're right. Extruded potato starch.The starch is chemically extracted from the potato, so there's really nothing potato-like left except the starch. It's heated at a very high temperature, pushed through machinery, then sprayed with fat or basically fried and covered with salt.If you really look at the research, your body treats it almost like sugar. It practically dissolves in your mouth. There's almost no digestion required. It moves into your gut and into your bloodstream incredibly quickly.So even though the package says “veggie” and even though it says “potato,” what you're really getting are extremely fast calories, much like sugar.The moment I put those veggie straws on the table, those two girls ate the entire bag.One after another.You want to talk about dopamine?“Do it again. Do it again. Do it again. Do it again.”They didn't stop until every single veggie straw was gone.And then they completely forgot about the strawberries and the edamame.That was the moment I realized that if any ultra-processed food is available, kids simply won't choose the whole foods.Sarah: You asked Rosie afterward which she actually liked better, and she said, “Oh, the strawberries.”Michaeleen: Exactly. Even though she genuinely likes strawberries better—they taste better—her brain, and all of our brains, are designed to choose the veggie straws because they're such a dense source of fast calories.That realization led me to start doing little experiments. I'd make homemade meals with whole foods, then put one ultra-processed starch on the table—a dinner roll or some corn chips. I'd sit there and watch my husband and Rosie eat all of the ultra-processed food first. Then my husband might eat some of the whole foods, but Rosie wouldn't touch them.It wasn't her fault. It wasn't my fault. This is simply how our brains are designed. It makes perfect sense from an evolutionary perspective, and the food industry is explicitly taking advantage of that. If you look at the calorie density of ultra-processed foods, it's gone up and up over time. What really surprised me, though, is that it isn't just about sugar. Sugar clearly triggers dopamine—”Do it again. Do it again.” But highly refined potato starch, corn starch, and white flour are just as powerful, and in some studies they're actually more addictive than foods with added sugar.I recently read a study describing almost the exact recipe you mentioned: extruded starch that's fried or sprayed with a little fat and loaded with salt. That combination is incredibly addictive. The moment you see it, you want it, and then you eat it. The dopamine hit actually happens before you eat it. It's, “Oh, I see the bag. I want the bag.” That's the dopamine.Then there's almost no satisfaction or pleasure because satisfaction comes from protein and fiber—and, to a lesser extent, fat. Those are the things that make you feel, “Ah, I've had enough. I'm done.” Ultra-processed foods have stripped away almost everything that creates that feeling of satisfaction. That's what pleasure actually is.I really believe we can learn to tell the difference between wanting and genuine pleasure. Just like you did with the New York Times games, you replaced endless scrolling—which kept you wanting more—with something that actually makes you feel good every day.Sarah: Can you talk a little bit about what you call “magnets” and “cues”?I finished your book last week—it really was a page-turner—and I'm already putting some of your ideas into practice. One of the simplest suggestions was to stop carrying your phone around everywhere. I wore a watch to a baseball game the other night because I didn't want to keep taking out my phone just to check the time.Then this morning I went for a walk with my daughter and left my phone at home. When I got back, I made something to eat and did a couple of other things before I suddenly realized, “Oh—I left my phone upstairs for two hours.”Just the act of not taking it with me on the walk and leaving it in another room made it disappear from my mind. It was amazing.Michaeleen: I love that. That's beautiful.I call phones, video games, iPads, and ultra-processed foods magnets because neuroscientists actually use the term motivational magnets, and that's where I borrowed it from. They work through space, and they create what we call cues.Let's use screens instead of veggie straws. Imagine Rosie comes home every day after school and plays Toca Boca World on the iPad.Sarah: My daughter used to play those hairdressing games—and even vacuuming games. I never understood the appeal until I read your book and realized she was basically getting dopamine-mined.Michaeleen: Exactly. If you look at what keeps young children on those apps, it's the repetition. They're doing essentially the same thing over and over again, which is actually very unsatisfying.At first, what keeps Rosie playing are those little dopamine hits—”Do it again. Do it again.” But over time, something fascinating happens: the dopamine hit moves backward in time. Eventually, just seeing the iPad triggers dopamine. Simply seeing it creates desire and makes her really want it. Dopamine doesn't just make us want things—it motivates us to work to get them.So she sees the iPad, and suddenly she wants it. If it's sitting there, good luck getting her interested in anything else because her brain has already triggered that powerful feeling of, “I need this to survive.” She'll be pulled toward it like a magnet. That's where the term comes from. You don't just want it—you physically move toward it. You want to pick it up. You want to hold it. You want to touch it.Even if it's hidden away in a drawer or a closet, if she knows it's there, those magnets work through walls. She'll go looking for it.Sarah: Have you seen that study where students either had their phone on their desk, in their backpack, or in another room? Just having it in the backpack was almost as distracting as having it sitting on the desk.Michaeleen: That's exactly right, because they know it's accessible. Over time, these cues become so deeply wired into our brains that we don't even have to see the object anymore. We just have to know it's there.What's often triggering the habit isn't even the phone itself—it's an emotion. For example, when I'm writing and I get a little frustrated, that feeling becomes the cue: “Go check the news.” That used to be mine. Then it became, “Go check your email.” Now I've stopped checking the news, so mine has become, “Go check the weather.”Sarah: At least that can only last so long unless you're checking the weather around the world.Michaeleen: Exactly. It's much less sticky.But that's the point. If the phone is in the backpack, the brain knows it's available. These magnets work through walls. They work through bags. To really make those cues disappear, you have to do exactly what you did. You leave it at home. Your brain knows, “I can't get it. I'm not walking all the way back home for it,” so it lets go.As parents, we have to make these things completely disappear within a particular context. That's another really important piece of this: magnets and cues work in contexts.Every day after school is a context for Rosie's brain. Every day after school, in our house, she plays Toca Boca World. So when she walks into the living room at four o'clock, her brain already knows what time it is, even without a watch. Human brains are incredibly good at tracking those patterns.That context triggers dopamine. It triggers the desire for Toca Boca World.What we want to do instead is use that same context to trigger a desire for something that actually fills her up. Maybe after school in the living room becomes the cue for making art, riding her bike, or going outside.That's really what Dopamine Kids is about: using dopamine to get your kids excited about the real world and training their brains accordingly.Sarah: Can I back you up a little bit there? Because one thing you say in your book is that it doesn't work to simply take the screens away and say, “Let them be bored. They'll figure it out.”That's really the only other advice I've seen out there: just take the screens away and let kids be bored.But you did a lot of work to create opportunities for dopamine from other things. You didn't just tell Rosie, “No more Toca Boca World.”Can you talk about that? I think a lot of parents try the approach of saying, “Okay, we're just not doing screens anymore.” Then they end up with weeks—or maybe months—of crying and begging: “Can I just play a little?”Michaeleen: I think that approach can sometimes work with very little kids, but even then I don't think it lasts. These things are like weeds. The screens will come back unless you replace them with something else.Behavioral psychology is actually very clear on this. It's much easier to create a new habit than it is to break an old one. It's much easier to replace a behavior than simply remove it.For example, while I was writing Dopamine Kids, I decided I wanted to stop drinking as much. I had gotten into the habit of having a glass of wine every night, and I realized it just wasn't working for me anymore.I didn't simply take it away. I bought non-alcoholic beer. I replaced it with something.Kids are the same way.If you just take away the iPad—especially if they've been using it for a long time—their brain has come to believe it's something they need to survive. That's what these products have tricked the brain into believing. So when you take it away, it genuinely feels awful.But if you give them another activity that's exciting, interesting, and something they genuinely want to do, taking the screen away doesn't feel nearly as difficult. Over time, you can actually help them discover activities that make them feel even better than the iPad does.That's what creates a permanent habit instead of a temporary one.Behavioral psychology is pretty clear that kids are using these things because they're trying to meet a need.Rosie wasn't obsessed with Toca Boca World or cartoons because she wanted screens. She wanted adventure.Adventure is a fundamental human need for kids. You could also call it autonomy, but I like the word adventure because I think it's easier to understand. Kids need to explore, learn, and take little risks. They need that in order to feel good.I think a lot of kids are using screens to try to fill that need.So instead of simply taking screens away and leaving that need unmet, you have to backfill it.I said to Rosie, “Tonight we're not going to watch Netflix. We're going to take a break. Instead, we're going to do something you've been dying to do that I just haven't made time for yet. You're going to ride your bike to the market by yourself.”I would even say to her, “Instead of watching cartoon characters have adventures, you're going to have a real adventure yourself.”That's the difference.You're taking something that was trying—but ultimately failing—to meet a real human need and replacing it with something that actually does.When you do that, it's not nearly as hard.It goes back to what you mentioned earlier about kids saying they'd rather be with their friends than on screens. That same research also found that kids would rather be outside playing than watching screens. So you're giving them the opportunity to do the thing they actually want to do.That's really the process: figure out a replacement activity—or a replacement food—and then gradually begin taking the old thing away.The result is that your child isn't angry at you all the time. Your relationship is better because they have something wonderful replacing what they lost.More importantly, it creates a lasting habit because they're not simply complying with a rule. They're building a hobby, a skill, or a way of living that genuinely brings them pleasure and meets their needs.One of my biggest concerns with a lot of the screen advice that's out there is that it isn't permanent.Real change comes from making small but permanent changes.It's not, “We're doing a 30-day screen detox.”It's, “We don't use screens after dinner anymore,” or, “We don't use screens on Saturdays.”And that's just how our family does things now.That's how you train the brain.If you keep bringing the old habit back, you undo the learning and go right back to where you started.So I always encourage people to think small—but think permanent.Sarah: One suggestion you make is starting with something simple, like, “We don't do screens in the car.”Michaeleen: Yes.Sarah: I think that's such a great place to start. Your book is full of practical little ideas like that, so the whole thing doesn't feel overwhelming.We've been talking about some of the bigger concepts, but the book is incredibly practical.I'm working on a book myself right now, so I know how much work goes into something like this. I just want to say you did a really beautiful job balancing the theory with concrete things families can actually do.I really, really recommend it.Michaeleen: Thank you.The car is a great place to start because it's such a clear context for a child's brain.They get into the car and their brain thinks, “Screen time.”Instead, you can make the car mean, “Reading time,” or “Journaling time,” or even “Bored time.”It's a really useful place to begin because they're already somewhat contained, so it's easier to establish a new routine.Sarah: I love that.The one thing I want to ask about—and I hope you don't take this as criticism—is that some of what you've done takes a lot of time and energy privilege.Michaeleen: Yes. I think it's very similar to what I found with Hunt, Gather, Parent. There is some work up front, but I also think we dramatically underestimate how much work we're already doing when we rely on screens as babysitters or pacifiers.We tend to think that's the easy route, but even in the short term, I don't think it actually is.Sarah: That's a really good point because the fighting itself takes a lot of energy.Michaeleen: Exactly. That's ultimately what made me change and what made me want to write this book. I was just tired of arguing with Rosie about screens. I hated policing her.It's very similar to what I found with Hunt, Gather, Parent. Recently, one parent gave me some feedback that I actually thought was really insightful. She said, “I think you could have been clearer that having daily screen time—or unlimited screen time—is actually a lot of work.”And she's right.The parent is managing it every single day, moment by moment. There's constant fighting, negotiating, and policing.I'll tell you something else. Once we got ultra-processed foods out of our house, the amount of work I do around food dropped to about one-tenth of what it had been before. We actually spend less money because we're eating less.People don't realize that ultra-processed food makes you eat more. That's very well documented. Kids snack constantly when those foods are around. Rosie now eats two or three real meals a day when she's eating whole foods.So I'm actually doing much less work because those foods aren't in the house.I do agree there's some work at the beginning. Teaching Rosie to ride her bike to the market took time. But now she's 10, and she rides her bike everywhere. She bikes to piano lessons. She bikes all over town.That investment keeps paying dividends.Sarah: That's a really fair point.I had just been telling you before we started recording that, over the years, I've noticed more and more parents coming to coaching specifically because of challenges around screen time.The fights about screens, getting kids off screens—it has become such a common struggle.They just need to read your book and get some strategies.Michaeleen: I'm really just trying to encourage people that if they have that gut feeling—that sense of, “This just isn't working for our family”—it's okay to say no.There is a way to do it that doesn't require an enormous amount of ongoing work.Really, what you're doing is setting up the environment so the default becomes these other activities. You're designing things so you're not constantly policing or managing every moment.That's my biggest pushback against the idea that this approach is more work.It took a lot of work for me to figure all of this out and understand how it works—Sarah: And you did that for us.Michaeleen: Exactly.I also think the court system—and society more broadly—is slowly starting to catch up. The regulations around screen content are so far behind the technology.If you think about it, 20 years ago Rosie wouldn't have been able to walk into a movie like Jaws without a parent. There were very clear rules about what children could and couldn't see.Now I can hand her a device that gives her access to some of the most extreme content imaginable.One scientist told me that a child today can see, in about ten minutes, more pornography than our grandparents' generation would have encountered in an entire lifetime.Something is clearly out of balance.Either society has changed dramatically, or our regulations simply haven't kept pace.When you look at child exploitation, trafficking, and abuse online, it's obvious that regulation is behind.Sarah: Big Tech has so much money and so much influence that I think that's part of why the laws have fallen so far behind.Michaeleen: It absolutely is. But I also think there's this persistent myth that kids need these technologies and that they're doing so much good.One of my hopes for this book—and for the work many other researchers are doing—is that people will begin to understand that kids genuinely need help regulating this stuff.They cannot regulate it on their own.Right now, that entire burden falls on parents, and that's a tremendous amount of work.Sarah: We can't regulate it on our own, and we're grown-ups.Michaeleen: Exactly.When I first started researching this book, I interviewed a famous economist at Stanford—someone in his forties who will probably win a Nobel Prize someday. He spent our entire conversation telling me all the systems he had to build so he wouldn't look at the news while he was working.He had blocked it at the router. He'd blocked it on his computer. He'd blocked it in multiple other ways.I remember sitting there thinking, “If he has to do all of that, how is a thirteen-year-old supposed to do her homework?”That's one of the central messages of the book.This isn't about willpower.It's not about teaching kids to resist temptation through self-control.It's about teaching them to build environments where they aren't constantly tempted in the first place.That's exactly what you described earlier when you left your phone at home.You create spaces in your life where the temptation simply isn't there.That's the key to living a happier, healthier life—not relying on willpower, but learning to avoid unnecessary temptation and building habits that don't require you to fight yourself every day.Ironically, that's what ends up making life much easier.Sarah: That was another really interesting thing you talked about in your book—willpower.Michaeleen: One of the really interesting findings about willpower is that people with fewer bad habits don't actually have more willpower. They've simply arranged their lives so they're exposed to fewer temptations.Sarah: That's right. A great place to start might be something like what you did with food. You talked about not eating food on the go.Michaeleen: Exactly. No food on the go.Sarah: Baby steps.Michaeleen: Right. Or parents will tell me things like, “We don't have ultra-processed foods at breakfast.” Breakfast is actually an easy place to start. You have oatmeal. You have eggs. There are lots of simple whole-food options. So you make that one meal your starting point.That's really the idea. Start with something small.I think the same principle applies to parenting. Parenting actually becomes easier when the temptations simply aren't there. You're not constantly managing them.Sarah: When my kids were growing up—and thankfully they mostly missed all of this because my youngest is 19, so there wasn't Netflix and everything else that's available now—we had a simple family rule: no screens Monday through Thursday.Back then it was television, but they just knew that was how our family worked. If they asked, I'd simply say, “Remember, it's Wednesday. We'll watch TV on the weekend.”It was actually very easy.Michaeleen: Exactly. And that's the dopamine system at work.Their brains know what day of the week it is. We're remarkably good at keeping track of time and routines. They knew they were in your house, after school, and that there wasn't going to be TV.It's like a smoker on an airplane. Eventually the smoker's brain learns, “I'm on a plane. I can't smoke.” The craving relaxes because the brain understands the context.The same thing happens with family routines.In Israel, for example, many families observe a digital Sabbath where they unplug for a full 24 hours every week. Parents tell me their kids love it because they know that's the time they play board games, spend time outside, and do other things together.Their brains learn that weekly rhythm.Our brains naturally work this way, so we can use that tendency to make family life calmer and more peaceful.Honestly, one of my favorite outcomes is that when nine o'clock comes around, my daughter is calm and actually wants to go to bed. Whatever effort it took to establish those habits at the beginning has been completely worth it. It's peaceful now, and hopefully those routines will stay with her for years.Ironically, it was much harder for me to stop scrolling before bed than it was for her.Sarah: Do you think there's any place for moderation?For example, could Rosie ever pick up Toca Boca again and play it for a little while? Or is it more a case of, once it's gone, it's gone?Michaeleen: That's a really good question.I think there are a couple of ways to think about it.The first is simply asking whether a particular technology is worth it. Does Toca Boca actually give us something valuable enough that it's worth the possibility of bringing back arguments and struggles? Or is there something else that gives us the same benefit without those downsides?One of the goals of the book is to help parents start asking that question about technology in general: Is this actually worth it?The second question is whether your child can handle it.I use YouTube for work. I'll watch scientists explaining research, informational videos, or sometimes I'll listen to music. I also know all the tricks YouTube is playing on me, so I can use it pretty intentionally.But Rosie at ten years old?No way.YouTube is far too sophisticated for her to use purposefully.Maybe when she's sixteen, seventeen, or eighteen. Maybe fifteen. I don't know.But I'm not going to intentionally introduce it.If it becomes necessary because of school or something else, then we'll try it and see how she handles it. If she can use it well, maybe we'll continue. If she can't, then we won't.I think a lot of this is really about figuring out what your own child can handle.We don't give children alcohol or tobacco because they can't handle them. We don't give them pornography for the same reason.These technologies have entered our lives so quickly that we're all trying to answer entirely new questions.One of the most important things parents can watch is what happens afterward.How does your child behave? What's their mood like? Is it immediately, “One more. One more. One more”?If that's what's happening, then they're probably not ready for it.Sarah: Right. It's not restorative.This reminds me of a guest I had on the podcast a year or two ago. He was a former video game developer, and the episode was called How to Stop Fighting With Your Kid About Video Games.Sarah: This reminds me of something another guest said on the podcast, and I think it fits perfectly with what you're talking about.He was a former video game developer, and he said something I've never forgotten. He said, “If you're going to let your kids play video games, don't let them play anything that's free.”He said there are lots of amazing games that you actually buy because they're designed with a real story arc, real challenges, and an ending. As I was reading your book, I kept thinking about that because those paid games are designed to give you an actual reward at the end. You complete levels, you build skills, and then you finish.He wasn't talking about buying things inside free games. He meant games that you purchase outright. I remember my husband used to play The Legend of Zelda. It was a game you started and eventually finished.Michaeleen: I love that. There's so much I love about it because the business model is completely different.With free games, the longer you stay on them, the more money the company makes through advertising and in-game purchases. Their entire goal is to keep you there for as long as possible. They're holding the child inside that loop.But with purchased games, they actually want you to finish because then they hope you'll buy another game. It's almost like movies used to be. They wanted you to enjoy the experience, reach the end, and then come back for the next one.You're exactly right—they're designed to end.I think that's really beautiful advice because it highlights how much the business model shapes the experience.Sarah: That's what he said. In the free games, the commodity is your child's attention.Michaeleen: Exactly.Whereas with a purchased game, you're paying for an experience that has a beginning and an end.We've actually done something similar with movies and television. We got rid of all of our subscriptions, and honestly, we've saved a lot of money. Now, if we want to watch a movie, we buy it.We're much more intentional. We stop and ask ourselves, “Do we really want to watch this? Is it worth it?”Then, when the movie ends, we're done.I think that simple change does so much to keep you out of the wanting cycle we talked about earlier. Paying for something slows the whole process down. It makes you think about your choice, and the design itself is completely different. It's designed to leave you feeling satisfied—to let you say, “I finished it.”Sarah: It's an experience. It's an adventure. There's a reward.Michaeleen: Exactly. I love that idea. I wish I'd put it in the book. It's really good. Honestly, I didn't even realize there were that many games designed that way.Sarah: I'll send you his contact if you ever want to talk with him.I could honestly talk to you about this all day.I'm just trying to think if there's anything else I really wanted to ask, but I do want to highlight something for anyone who's still listening.This isn't a moral argument about screens or ultra-processed foods being “bad.” You make that very clear throughout the book.It's really about bringing more joy and fun back into your life because getting trapped in this cycle of wanting without ever feeling rewarded is making all of us kind of miserable.Michaeleen: That's exactly right.The first thing I hope parents take away is that this isn't their fault.This has happened incredibly quickly, and most of us don't even understand what we're up against. These products are intentionally designed by multibillion-dollar companies to capture and hold our children's attention. That's what we're competing with, and for a long time we simply haven't had the right tools.The second thing is that this isn't about taking everything away. That's a fantasy. It's not going to work.It's about figuring out what actually brings joy to you and your family, keeping those things, and letting go of the things that don't.We've also moved beyond the old idea that kids will somehow fall behind or be left out if they don't have all these technologies. There's so much evidence now showing that giving kids a phone or social media doesn't suddenly make them feel accepted or like they belong.In fact, it often does the opposite.So we can let go of that fear.Instead, we can ask, “What actually works for our family?” Then we can build the skills to get there and help our kids gradually adopt these technologies in healthy ways because they're going to be part of their lives.Almost everyone will eventually have a phone. Most kids will eventually use some form of social media, whether that's YouTube, Instagram, or whatever comes next.The question isn't whether they'll ever use it.The question is: When are they ready?And how do we help them use it in a way that still allows them to be productive?For me, that's one of the essential parenting skills of the twenty-first century: helping kids set up their environments—their computers, their workspaces, their routines—so they aren't constantly fighting temptation.Sarah: You also talk specifically about having kids work where a parent can see them because I think that's becoming a huge challenge now that so many students are issued Chromebooks at school.Sarah: You also mention having kids work where a parent can see them, because I think that's becoming a huge challenge now that so many students are issued Chromebooks at school.Everyone I've talked to—and maybe there are exceptions out there—says you can't put parental controls on school-issued devices. Kids need YouTube to watch something for school, and suddenly you've opened the door to all kinds of temptation.Every parent I know whose child has a school-issued Chromebook struggles with it.Michaeleen: Yes, and I think this is an area that's really in flux.From what I'm learning, parents are starting to push back—not only on schools issuing Chromebooks in the first place, but also on not being allowed to set them up in ways that remove things like YouTube. I think parents actually have more power than I realized.Some schools will work with families if parents speak up. You can go to the teacher or the principal and say, “This is what I want for my child's Chromebook. I don't want them to have access to YouTube,” or, “I want these restrictions in place.”Parents have more rights than I think most of us realize.I've talked with parents who are trying to get Chromebooks out of kindergarten through Grade 2 altogether. Others are asking for more limited internet access or different settings during school hours. There's really a whole spectrum of possibilities.I honestly think this is going to be one of the defining parenting issues of the next decade—the school-issued Chromebook, the school-issued iPad.For me, it just makes those screen-free gaps in the day even more important. If your child has spent the day doing schoolwork on a device, then after dinner becomes even more valuable as a screen-free time.You need a break. I need a break. We all need a break.Creating what I call sanctuaries becomes increasingly important as more of school moves onto screens. Kids need opportunities to move their bodies, relax their brains, and experience activities that are genuinely restorative.I also think there are resources available for parents who want more control over that digital space. It does take work, but as parents we sometimes hand over more authority to schools than we actually have to. We have more rights than we often realize.In fact, a lot of this is being challenged legally. There are lawsuits against school districts because some software has been given to children in ways that violate privacy protections and collect data improperly.So I think this whole area is changing, and I'm hopeful we'll eventually reach a place where, even if students are working on computers, they'll have better protections against unnecessary distractions.That's exactly how I work. I turn on an app blocker so I can't wander around the internet while I'm working. Otherwise, I'd be distracted constantly.I have a colleague who says she can't work for more than a couple of minutes before she finds herself checking something online.Sarah: I struggle with that too.It's getting easier the more I practice, but the pull—that feeling of wanting—is incredibly strong.Michaeleen: It really is. It's become a habit, and eventually you're barely even thinking about it.I remember when I first installed an app blocker. It felt so uncomfortable. I kept thinking, “But I want to check this. I want to check that.”Then it faded.It actually faded pretty quickly.Sarah: Thank you so much—not just for being here, but for writing this book. It's really remarkable.Even though I'm past the most active stage of parenting, I keep noticing the ideas from the book working their way into my own life.I have to tell you, the last couple of nights I've made brown rice instead of white rice because of something I read in the book. I love white rice, but I know I need more fiber. Honestly, once you start eating brown rice regularly, you hardly notice the difference.You've gotten me wearing a watch, eating brown rice, and leaving my phone at home when I take the dog for a walk.Michaeleen: I love that.It lets your brain relax because you're not constantly multitasking anymore.I have my watch on too. Rosie and I actually wear the same watch. To me, it's become a little symbol of this more digitally minimalist way of thinking.I was doing exactly the same thing—checking my phone every time I wanted to know the time. Eventually I thought, “Why am I using this little computer just to tell the time?”Sarah: Exactly.Well, thank you so much.Michaeleen: Thank you.Sarah: Before I let you go, I have one question that I ask every guest. It'll be interesting because I can compare your answer to what you said the last time you were on.If you could go back in time to your younger parent self, what advice would you give yourself?Michaeleen: Which age?Sarah: Any age. Go back to brand-new-mom Michaeleen. What would you tell yourself?Michaeleen: I'll give you two answers.For the baby stage, I would tell myself, “Michaeleen, just carry her all the time. Put her in the carrier and carry her. Don't worry so much about putting her down.”She was so happy whenever I carried her, and that's how so many cultures do it. The baby is simply on someone's back or on their front while life goes on. I really wish I'd done more of that because I think it would have made both of our lives much easier.For the older years, I'd tell myself to stop worrying so much that taking away the screens was going to be hard.I built it up in my mind as this enormous thing. I thought, “It's going to be so difficult to take away Netflix at night. It's going to be so difficult to take away Toca Boca.”But it wasn't.It really wasn't.Our lives became so much easier afterward, and I wish I'd been able to see that ahead of time.Sarah: Well, how could you have known?What you were seeing was the outward expression of all that wanting—the crying, the begging, the desperation. It would be so easy to mistake that for, “I'm denying my child something that brings them enormous pleasure.”I think that's an important distinction for parents.Just because your child is crying and screaming that they want something doesn't actually mean that it's bringing them pleasure or that it's good for them.Michaeleen: Exactly.Someone said something to me that I think made it into the book. A child can desperately want to spend another hour playing a video game while actually getting very little pleasure—or no pleasure—from it.That's really where the trick is.That's the hijacking.I also think Lenore's work is right. Kids really do want the offline world.They just have to experience it first.I didn't fully appreciate this before, but you can't really want something until you've experienced the joy of it yourself. Maybe you can see someone else enjoying it, but to actually build that dopamine pathway, you have to get out there and feel it yourself.You have to think, “Oh, this is wonderful. I love this.”Then your brain starts wanting more of that.Sarah: I was thinking about one family I work with. They have five kids, they run their own business, and they're incredibly busy.Their five-year-old son was having constant meltdowns and aggression, so I suggested they start tracking what happened right before those moments.When they came back, they realized that about 90 percent of the incidents were connected to screens. He was trying to get one of his parents' phones. He was trying to grab the remote from his sisters. He wanted the TV turned on or wanted it to stay on.This was actually before I read your book, so I probably could have given them even better advice afterward.But I suggested they experiment with going screen-free for a while and see whether it changed the aggression.The next time I talked to them, the dad told me that, out of pure frustration, he'd picked up the television and put it out in the garage. He basically announced, “No more TV for the rest of the summer.”The following week, the mom started texting me pictures.“Here's the girls sleeping in a fort they built on the trampoline.”“Here's our five-year-old playing with his trucks.”Picture after picture.She said, “I think this is going to be the best summer ever without TV.”Michaeleen: I love that story.I really do.And it's easier.It's easier.All he did was move the TV into the garage.That's amazing.That's exactly the advice I'd give myself.Just do it. Trust your instincts. Do it.Sarah: Do it.Well, thank you so much. I really appreciate you coming back on the podcast.As always, it's been such a pleasure talking with you, and you've written another wonderful book to add to the parenting canon.Michaeleen: Thank you so much for having me. It was truly a pleasure to come back.Sarah: Thanks so much.We'll put links to everything we talked about in the show notes, along with your website. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sarahrosensweet.substack.com/subscribe

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