Fuel The Flame

We all heard of red flags, things we need to avoid in our marriage. Did you know that there are green flags that we need to recognize in our marriage. These green flags will help us build a healthy marriage.

Inside all of us, there is a good person and a bad person and they're constantly at war against each other. We must allow the good side to always win. Listen and learn how to let the good side of us to always win the take control over our life.

Often times we forget why we fell in love with each other. We forget why we got married. We allow work, hobbies, and relationships to distract us from building our marriage. When we need to go back to the beginning of our relationship and marriage and start redoing what we did when we first started dating. We have to rekindle the fire of our marriage.

People have selfish and outerior motives of why they want to be with us. They use people as tools to benefit them and use what they have to fulfill their needs. Once they're done using the person, it's on to the next person. Avoid these people and look for these qualities to have a strong and healthy marriage.

There is a saying that goes 10% of life is what happens to us and 90% is how we respond to what is happening to us. We can respond well or poorly to our circumstance. We need to choose the respond well to what is happening in our life, so we can grow from them.

We're both responsible for creating the right atmosphere in our marriage and in our home. Our actions, words, and choices help create an atmosphere in our marriage. Are you building the right atmosphere in your marriage? Listen and learn how to have the right atmosphere in your marriage.

We are often told when our marryhits the rocks,to fight for your marriage. Do we know what that means? Do we know what to do? Listen and learn how to fight for your marriage.

When we make marriage about our happiness, we do what is easier. We do things that we will regret and start to sabotage our marriage. In the end we end up ruining our life. Listen and learn how not to do what is easier, but to do what is right for your marriage.

We often tell ourselves that we married the wrong person. We should never say this, because it's a lie we tell ourselves. Instead we need to learn what marriage will teach us, so we can build a strong marriage. Listen and learn how to tell yourself the truth about your spouse and your marriage.

Marriage comes with many tests. To test our chracter test our, marriage, and to test our maturity. We must take each test as an opportunity to change ourselves and to improve our marriage. Listen to learn what test is essential for us to pass. So we can have astrong marriage.

Our parents have taught us many things. Some good and some bad. Often times we carry what our parents taught us and teach them to our children. Then they continue the vicious cycle of leaving generational curses to be passed on. Listen and learn how to break these generational curses and be free from bondage.

Our love will constantly be tested. So, it can grow and change. We need to constantly check where our love is toward our spouse. Listen and learn what love is not.

We have to constantly check the level of our love. To see where we are at and if it's growing. We need a love that is changing into what God wants it to be. Listen and learn on how to check the level of our love.

Prayer is the glue in your marriage. You invite God into your marriage and circumstances, so He can work in your marriage and through your marriage. We need to take the time and pray for your marriage and for your spouse.

Do you pray for your marriage? Prayer is the glue in your marriage, that keeps it going. Prayer allows God to work in us and in our marriage. To see miracles happen in our marriage. Listen and start praying for your marriage.

We expect our marriage to be perfect. We expect our spouse to be the same as us. We try to make our spouse who we want them to be. However, we are different individuals. We have different ideas, beliefs, personalities, and experiences. Marriage teaches us that we should compliment each other and not compete with each other. Listen and learn how to compliment each other and build a strong marriage.

Communication is a huge part of a successful marriage. We need to be talking and having great conversations with each other. We also need to be asking questions of each, to better understand each other. Here are 3 very important questions we need to ask each other on a consistent basis, so we can have a strong marriage.

We bring into our marriage hurts from past relationships and experience. Which can make us control freaks. We want to control every aspect of our spouse's life and our marriage. This will lead us to a destructive end and put unnecessary stress on our marriage. Listen and learn how not to be a control freak.

Often times we make our happiness a top priority in our marriage. Then we steal our own happiness away from our marriage. We choose to be happy or not in our marriage. Listen and learn about choosing to be happy in our may.

Are you doing the right thing, but your marriage doesn't show it? Often times it's a one sided marriage, for many different reasons. From personality to our past, we are who we made ourselves to be. Listen on how to deal with a one sided marriage. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

Sometimes we forget what it takes to build a strong and healthy marriage. We allow our daily routines of life to interfere with our marriage. Listen to several reminders of what to do to make your marriage strong and healthy. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

There is no such thing as a broken marriage. God created marriage for a purpose. What makes marriage difficult, that we want to get a divorce? Listen to this podcast and find out what makes the marriage hard. Then learn how can we make our marriage better. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

What kind of perception do we have? There are several perceptions that we can have to help us see things. sometimes they're helpful and sometimes they're hurtful. Listen and learn how to get the right perception of our marriage. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

Marriage is hard and it takes lots of time, effort, and resources. Often times we quit way before the finish line, then get remarried. Then get another divorce. Why do we do this? How do we stop this behavior? Listen to this podcast and learn what does it takes to be married only once in your life. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

We can use different strategies in life to help us makes things easier. The same is with our marriage, we need to do the little things that matters to our spouse. When we start doing these little things in our marriage, it's going to make a big difference in our life. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

No such thing as a perfect spouse. All marriages go through these stages of marriage. Once we know and go through these stages. We are building a strong and healthy marriage. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

We all have needs. We try our best to meet our needs, but in marriage we need to meet our spouses needs. Here are the 4 important needs for a male and 4 important needs for a female. Try your best at meeting those needs. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

Everything in life has rules and regulations. The bible has the 10 Commandments. Marriage also has 10 Commandments. Listen to commandments 6-10 and learn how to build a strong marriage. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

Everything in life has rules. From sports to science. The bible has the 10 Commandments. So does marriage have 10 commandments to have a strong marriage. Listen to the first 5 commandments and learn how to have a healthy marriage. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

With so many voices, opinions, and beliefs. Who are we listening to? What are we believing in, when it comes to our marriage? We need these people in our life and marriage, to help us navigate through the tough times of marriage. We need to find them and keep them --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

When we start doing things that will destroy our life, marriage, and family. It's the beginning of losing everything. We need to be aware of what we are doing and never play with fire. Or we will end up destroying everything. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

We are all prideful people. We do what we want to and nobody can tell us what to do. Humility is the key to having a successful marriage. When we choose to humble ourselves, things start to change for us. We have to choose to humble ourselves or eat humble pie in public. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

It's not how we start, but how we finish. Just like running a race, we start off strong. Then we hit the wall. Our marriage is the same, we have a joyous wedding day. Then we hit things that hinder our marriage. Listen and learn how to finish strong in our marriage. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

What is an authentic love? How does it look like? We cannot have a cheap, fake love. But, a love that will build a strong and healthy marriage. Listen and learn how to have an authentic love in your marriage. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

Our love affects our spouse's emotional state. We can either deposit or withdrawal from their emotional bank, which can lead to depression. Learn how to make more deposits than withdrawl --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

Authentic love has its benefits. One benefit is that, it can affect our spouse's appearance. We can make our spouse look better, by choosing to love our spouse authentically. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

Life can be busy and stressful. We have lots of things we have to accomplish. We shouldn't let other areas of our life collide with our marriage. Learn this art of hat changing and see how it's a game changer. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

Like everything in life, marriage needs rules. Marriage needs rules to help us protect our marriage and make it healthy. We need to set up some rules in our marriage, so we can build it to be strong. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

It's not just the level of our love, but the quality of our love. We can have a cheap, knock off type of love. Or an authentic high quality type of love. Listen and learn how to have an high quality type of love. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

We are masters of playing fake scenarios in our mind. When our minds affect our emotions, perception, and decisions. We need to always tell ourselves the truth, so we can have a strong marriage. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

Communication is big in a marriage. We have to give our spouse a voice in our marriage, to have open, honest, and healthy conversations. There cannot be anger, retaliation, and blame in our marriage. We have to talk about everything and anything. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

We can busy with life, work, church and marriage. We will get burned out in the process. We need to take care of ourselves also, to have a strong and healthy marriage. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

Marriage takes two. It's a husband and wife working together as one. Are you and your spouse teammates or opponents? Listen and learn how to work together with your spouse. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

We complain in our marriage, "you don't understand me"! When the goal of marriage is to understand our spouse first. Listen to this podcast and learn how to understand each other. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

Is your marriage important to you? Where is your marriage in your life? Look at these areas to see where your marriage is and how to change it. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

All marriages will have fights, arguments, and disagreements. Oftentimes we want to win or be right. This causes a win/lose situation. A strong and healthy marriage always has a win/win result, when both sides win. The marriage wins. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

What are your blueprints for your marriage? What are your spouse's blueprints? Do the match? Do they align with God's blueprint for marriage. Once we get on the same page and set goals for our marriage, watch our marriage start to improve. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

Marriage is intentional. To have a successful marriage, we need to be proactive. We need to always be doing things to build our marriage. If we don't change anything in our marriage, then nothing will change for us. Let's do something to build our marriage. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

Oftentimes we expect perfection in our marriage and from our spouse. This can only bring stress to our spouse and fatigue to our marriage. Nobody can meet our expectation of perfection. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

In a Beatles song, the lyrics go "I get by with a little help from my friends..." We cannot do life and marriage alone, we need help from people who love and care for us, people who want the best for us. A way we can find someone to hold us accountable, to ask us the hard questions. People who can correct us and guide us through life and marriage. Listen to this podcast and learn how accountability is valuable to a marriage. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/alan-kim/support

What comes to mind when it comes to your spouse? Do you have negative thoughts or positive thoughts? You you get angry, irritated, or frustrated? Or do you have love, joy, and peace. It's how we see our spouse and our perspective of that person. Listen and see how should we see our spouse through our mind.