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What if the reason you or your child can't “just do the thing” is not laziness, but a Wall of Awful built from repeated frustration, shame, anxiety, and failure? Brendan Mahan breaks down the hidden emotional barrier behind procrastination, avoidance, and shutdown - and shows how to actually get through it without burning out. Debbie Reber welcomes Brendan back to unpack his new book, Overcoming the Wall of Awful: Why It's Hard to Get Things Done with ADHD, Autism and Anxiety, and How to Do Them Anyway. Together they make this deceptively simple metaphor concrete, useful, and surprisingly validating for parents, educators, clinicians, and anyone who has ever stared at a task and felt their brain go sideways. About Brendan Mahan Brendan Mahan, M.Ed., MS., is the author of Overcoming the Wall of Awful™, and host of the ADHD Essentials Podcast. A sought-after speaker, and neurodivergent person himself, Brendan helps organizations and individuals manage neurodiverse challenges through education, collaborative problem-solving, compassion, and accountability. He is on the board of the Men's ADHD Support Group, Director of Professional Resources for Calmer Con Boston, and a former committee member of the International Conference on ADHD. He has featured in the New York Times, Washington Post, LinkedIn, Understood, How to ADHD, VeryWell Mind, and ADDitude. Things you'll learn from this episode How the Wall of Awful creates an emotional barrier that can make starting or completing tasks feel impossible Why anxiety and adrenaline can sometimes help us climb the Wall of Awful while also taking a toll How creating “doors” in the Wall can provide quicker paths to regulation and getting unstuck Why making tasks interesting, meaningful, or connected to personal values can reduce avoidance How rejection sensitive dysphoria can add another layer to the Wall of Awful and how parents can support kids through it Why having shared language and practical tools for talking about Walls of Awful can help kids better understand and navigate their experience Resources mentioned Brendan Mahan's website Overcoming the Wall of Awful: Why It's Hard to Get Things Done with ADHD, Autism, and Anxiety (and How to Do Them Anyway) by Brendan Mahan The Wall of Awful Brendan's ADHD Essentials Community on Facebook ADHD Essentials on Instagram Brendan Mahan on LinkedIn ADHD Essentials on Blue Sky ADHD Essentials on X Jessica McCabe How to ADHD YouTube channel Wall of Awful on How to ADHD (YouTube videos) The Anti-Planner: How to Get Sh*t Done When You Don't Feel Like It - Undated ADHD Planner Alternative for Adults, Women & Teens, 100+ Productivity Strategies for Focus & Procrastination by Dani Donovan Dani Donovan's website Dr. William Dodson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
A former boss once described their first meeting this way: “She showed up late and disheveled, and I hired her anyway.” That's Sabrina Caluori in a nutshell. Sabrina is the chief marketing officer at Chief, the largest private network for ambitious women. Diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, she describes herself as a contradiction: “High achieving and a hot mess in equal measure” — a leader who can hold an entire company's strategy in her head but can't manage her own calendar. Sabrina shares what it's like to be gifted with ADHD — twice exceptional — and how that experience bonds her to her 2e child. She gets into ADHD burnout, self-doubt, and how the things she once considered character flaws turned out to make her exceptional at reading people and leading teams. For more on this topic Listen: Twice exceptional: Raising a gifted son with ADHD (Emily's story) Read: ADHD and burnout Watch: The ADHD burnout cycle For a transcript and more resources, visit ADHD Aha! on Understood.org. You can also email us at adhdaha@understood.org. As kids head back to school, it's a good time to remember: not every student experiences the classroom the same way. Through My Eyes, a free interactive experience from Understood, lets you step into a day in the life of a kid with ADHD, dyslexia, or dyscalculia. See their strengths and challenges in a whole new way. Try it out here.Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Your student has an IEP all the way through high school. Then they graduate — and it doesn't go with them. Dr. Toby Tomlinson Baker was diagnosed with a learning disability in 1987, attended six different schools between kindergarten and twelfth grade, and was told by her guidance counselors not to bother applying to college. She has a PhD. In this episode she explains what actually changes the day a student walks off a high school campus, why the accommodations you fought for don't automatically transfer, and how to teach a student to ask for what they need before anyone makes them. In this episode, you'll learn: - What legally changes when a student moves from high school to college — and why a university can say no - Why self-advocacy is a skill you teach, not a personality trait a student either has or doesn't - What Dr. Baker found when she interviewed college professors about disability law for her dissertation - Why the accommodation that helps one student usually helps the whole class - The one thing that predicts whether a struggling student turns a corner Full show notes, resources, and the complete transcript: https://www.coolcatteacher.com/e972 If this episode helped you think differently about a student, share it with a teacher who needs it. SPONSORED: Ellis, a program of Children's Health Council, sponsored this episode. All opinions are my own and that of the guest. Show Sponsor: Ellis, a program of Children's Health Council, sponsored this podcast episode. All opinions are my own and that of the guest. Ellis pulls from a knowledge base on content from trusted partners like CAST, CASEL, Understood and others, and gives you evidence-aligned ideas for students who are struggling with learning, behavior, or the emotional side of school (but not clinical advice). If you've got a student (or two) who you can't stop thinking about, try it and see what it brings you. No personally identifiable student information is collected, and it is a much better place to start than "brainstorming" with your general-purpose AI chat tool. Try Ellis today: https://www.coolcatteacher.com/ellis
Most teachers reaching for AI to help with a struggling student are reaching for the wrong kind of AI. General-purpose chat tools pull from the open internet, they were never trained on whether the information is accurate, and they should be nowhere near a student's personally identifiable information. Natalie Tamburello, a learning disability and education equity advocate at Children's Health Council, walks through what a teacher-facing AI built on vetted research actually looks like — and why she thinks that is where the real classroom wins are right now. In this episode, you'll learn: - Why "just ask ChatGPT" falls short when a student is struggling with behavior, learning, or the emotional side of school - What RAG (retrieval augmented generation) is, and how pulling from a curated library of vetted nonprofit resources changes the answer you get - Why the first question a good tool asks you is "what are this student's strengths?" - How to describe a student situation without putting personally identifiable information into any AI - The clear line between a classroom strategy and clinical advice — and what a teacher-facing tool should refuse to do Ellis is a free tool for K-12 educators from Children's Health Council. It pulls from a knowledge base of content from trusted partners like CAST, CASEL, Understood and others, it gives you information rather than clinical advice, and it does not collect personally identifiable student information. Today's show was sponsored by Ellis. All opinions are my own and that of the guest. https://www.askellis.org/ Full show notes, links, and the complete transcript: https://www.coolcatteacher.com/e971 Share this one with the teacher down the hall who is still thinking about that one student.
From the outside, Susie Owens looked like she was gliding. Straight-A student, entrepreneur, devoted mom — and exhausted in ways nobody could see. When you're an ADHD high achiever, masking is a whole job. Susie spent years in therapy for anxiety, quietly holding it together. A second child tipped the scales. Through her ADHD diagnosis, she learned that her struggles weren't a reflection of who she was as a person or as a mom. It was just ADHD. For more on this topic Listen: Emotional regulation, and yelling, as a mom with ADHD (Patricia Sung's story) Read: Mental load: The invisible weight women with ADHD carry Watch: Renowned ADHD expert on how to juggle ADHD and motherhood For a transcript and more resources, visit ADHD Aha! on Understood.org. You can also email us at adhdaha@understood.org. As kids head back to school, it's a good time to remember: not every student experiences the classroom the same way. Through My Eyes, a free interactive experience from Understood, lets you step into a day in the life of a kid with ADHD, dyslexia, or dyscalculia. See their strengths and challenges in a whole new way. Try it out here.Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Boundaries are not a heavy conversation you need a degree to have. They are small, repeated moments — and the right words handed to a child before they need them. Ashley Bendiksen, author of A Kids Book About Boundaries, shows teachers what to say. Ashley Bendiksen is a national speaker and abuse prevention advocate who spent years talking to teens about dating violence. Then she moved earlier. Her book for children ages five to nine teaches the skill underneath all of it: knowing you have a choice, and having the words to say so. In this conversation she shows what that looks like in an elementary classroom — the two-option choice, the "I don't like that" script, the pause to ask "did we ask first?" — none of which requires adding anything to your lesson plan. We also talk about your boundaries, because teaching is high-burnout work and we are modeling something for kids either way. In this episode, you'll learn: - Why boundaries are emotional and social, not just physical - The micro-moments that teach boundaries without a new lesson - A role-play activity you can run this week - What to say to the student who always decides what everyone plays - Why "let's all just get along" can send the wrong message - One small boundary to set for yourself this week Show notes and full transcript: https://www.coolcatteacher.com/e970 Show Sponsor: Ellis, a program of Children's Health Council, sponsored this podcast episode. All opinions are my own and that of the guest. Ellis pulls from a knowledge base on content from trusted partners like CAST, CASEL, Understood and others, and gives you evidence-aligned ideas for students who are struggling with learning, behavior, or the emotional side of school (but not clinical advice). If you've got a student (or two) who you can't stop thinking about, try it and see what it brings you. No personally identifiable student information is collected, and it is a much better place to start than "brainstorming" with your general-purpose AI chat tool. Try Ellis today: https://www.coolcatteacher.com/ellis ★ If this show helps you, leave a rating or review wherever you're listening. It is the single thing that helps another teacher find us.
Coming to you from Whidbey Island, Washington this is Stories From Women Who Walk with Story Prompt Friday and your host, Diane Wyzga. What Women Still Fight For. We women have to fight for so much: being seen, heard, understood, listened to, recognized, and acknowledged. Despite progress, we are still taking a stand to transform women's rights, to overcome barriers to the freedom of voice, opinions, and expression. Little Human to Big Human. Maybe like me you wonder if there was a thru-line of advocacy between who you were as a Little Human Girl and who you are today as a Big Human Woman. What if the courage to speak up, to speak out, to say what you mean and mean what you say was always there? What It Takes. Maybe it's a matter of time, confronting your story, upending your upbringing, and challenging yourself to be a testament to truth. Or a situation that demands a response. Women whose pioneering work laid a foundation for future feminist thought, greater autonomy and independence shared a commitment: I may be one among many but I can draw many to me like fillings to a magnet and together we will do the work that's calling to be done. Click HERE for 36 examples of women who took a stand Devil Within. I was a strong-willed handful as a child. Today we might say I was spirited; but back then I was told “A dimple in the chin means a devil within.” I still have a dimple in my chin. That never left me. What I had to unlearn was a voice that society, religion, patriarchy, and education quieted down. Who am I? The courage to be one's self begins with digging down into the soil of that self. Who am I? What treasure trove of skills, experiences, wisdom, and more can I uncover? And when I uncover the story of myself how do I bestow permission on me to be that self? For a long overdue lesson in courage I turned to Virginia Woolf who knows well the “supreme difficulty of being oneself.” "Let us simmer over our incalculable cauldron, our enthralling confusion, our hotch-potch of impulses, our perpetual miracle — for the soul throws up wonders every second. Movement and change are the essence of our being; rigidity is death; conformity is death: let us say what comes into our heads, repeat ourselves, contradict ourselves, fling out the wildest nonsense, and follow the most fantastic fancies without caring what the world does or thinks or says. For nothing matters except life.” ~ Virginia Woolf Story Prompt: Turn back the pages of time, find that chapter when you were bright and shining, alive and curious, energetic, perceptive, or outspoken. Who is the Little Human Girl that used to be you? Where is she now? Write that story and share it out loud! Thank you for listening. I'm glad to have you here. You're invited: “Come for the stories - stay for the magic!” Speaking of magic, Subscribe & Spread this episode with a generous 5-star review & comment—it helps us all—& join us next time! AND! Stop by my Quarter Moon Story Arts website during reconstruction, email me [info@quartermoonstoryarts.net] to arrange a no-obligation Discovery Call, and stay current with me as Quarter Moon Story Arts on Substack while I renovate that site, too. Stories From Women Who Walk Production Team Podcaster: Diane F Wyzga & Quarter Moon Story Arts Music: Entering Erdenheim by Steve Schuch & Night Heron Music ALL content and image © 2019 to Present Quarter Moon Story Arts. All rights reserved. Enjoy my work? Share & attribute it to Diane Wyzga of Stories From Women Who Walk podcast with a link back to the original source.
It's easy to view academic difficulties and mental health challenges as two separate issues when a child struggles. However, the emotional toll of an unaddressed learning difference often leads to chronic anxiety, low self-esteem, and a loss of motivation. Dr. Karen Wilson is a pediatric neuropsychologist and the host of the Diverse Thinking-Different Learning Podcast, and she joins Emily this week to talk about the deep overlap between learning differences and emotional well-being. TAKEAWAYS Learning differences and mental health challenges are deeply connected, with neurodivergent kids experiencing higher rates of anxiety and depression than the general population. Kids notice and internalize daily academic struggles long before an official diagnosis, often assuming their difficulties are signs of personal flaws rather than a neurodivergent profile. Chronic academic often undermines motivation by breaking the expected relationship between hard work and successful outcomes. Evaluating whether anxiety or an executive functioning difference came first requires building a clear developmental timeline through family and academic histories. Complex tasks like writing demand a high executive functioning load, requiring students to juggle task initiation, working memory, organization, and emotional regulation all at once. Long-term independence often requires pairing classroom accommodations with explicit skill building and self-advocacy training, so students can understand themselves and self-advocate. The Neurodiversity Podcast Advocacy & Support Group is ready for you! Join us now. Dr. Karen Wilson is a pediatric neuropsychologist specializing in the intersection of learning, mental health, and identity in children and adolescents who learn and think differently. With over 20 years of clinical, academic, and research experience, including faculty and training roles at UCLA, she brings deep expertise in neurodevelopment, executive functioning, and comprehensive assessment across diverse populations. Dr. Wilson's work is grounded in a neurodiversity-affirming, equity-focused approach that considers how social, cultural, and systemic factors shape the identification and support of neurodivergent learners. She is the host of the Diverse Thinking · Different Learning podcast and an expert with Understood.org, where she translates complex neuropsychological concepts into practical strategies. Her work helps families, educators, and organizations move beyond labels to better understand and support the whole child. BACKGROUND READING Diverse Thinking Different Learning Podcast, Instagram, LinkedIn The Neurodiversity Podcast is on Facebook, Instagram, BlueSky, and you're invited to join our Facebook Group. For more information go to www.NeurodiversityPodcast.com If you'd like members of your organization, school district, or company to know more about the subjects discussed on our podcast, Emily Kircher-Morris provides keynote addresses, workshops, and training sessions worldwide, in-person or virtually. You can choose from a list of established presentations, or work with Emily to develop a custom talk to fit your unique situation. To learn more, visit our website.
Hey, everyone. There was a publishing issue with this episode last week, but it's too good to miss. If you downloaded this episode with Taryn Delanie Smith when it first came out, it's possible you actually got an episode of Hyperfocus instead. We hope you liked it. But now we've uploaded the correct ADHD Aha! episode here. Enjoy! Cold-calling strangers about Brazilian butt lifts wasn't exactly the plan. But for Taryn Delanie Smith — comedian, actor, former Miss New York, and creator of the viral TikTok character “Denise, Heaven's Receptionist” — the detours turned out to be the whole story. In this episode, Taryn talks about competing in the Miss America pageant with undiagnosed ADHD, the curses and gifts of ADHD, a learning disability in math, and struggling in corporate America. Plus: justice sensitivity, farting around time, and why waitressing might be the perfect job for an ADHD brain. For more on this topic: Listen: What's so funny about ADHD? (Comedian Jim Tews' story) Read: ADHD and creativity Watch: What is dyscalculia? For a transcript and more resources, visit ADHD Aha! on Understood.org. You can also email us at adhdaha@understood.org. Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Send us Fan MailElder David A. Bednar has identified a gospel principle that he believes is the least understood of all gospel principles. It is a principle central to this podcast, so I hope you enjoy this episode. __________________________Do you have questions or comments?Please contact me: rtosguthorpe@gmail.comWant more info about my books and talks?Go to my website: https://www.russelltosguthorpe.com/Want to order a book? Just go to Amazon and type in Russell T. Osguthorpe Want to access my YouTube channel:https://youtube.com/@russellt.osguthorpe497Want know more about the music on this podcast? We are blessed to have M. Diego Gonzalez as a regular contributor of songs he has arranged, performed, and recorded especially for this podcast. My wife and I became acquainted with Diego when he was serving a as missionary in the Puerto Rico San Juan Mission. We were so impressed with his talent, we asked if he would compose and perform songs for Filled With His Love. He thankfully agreed. Hope you enjoy his work!Want to boost your mood and make someone's day?Go to the App store on your iPhone, and download the app—Boonto.Want a good introduction to my book? Morgan Jones Pearson interviewed me on the All-In Podcast, and it was one of the top 10 episodes of 2022. Here's the link:https://www.ldsliving.com/2022-in-review-top-10-all-in-podcast-episod...
Ever notice your ADHD brain gets a little too excited during an argument? Like you're not even mad anymore, you're just... having a really good time being right? Yeah. There's a reason for that, and it's not a great one. In this mailbag episode of Sorry, I Missed This, host Cate Osborn is digging into questions from our Understood Facebook group Our amazing listeners wrote in (and had the chance to win a copy of Cate's new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults). In this episode Cate tackles questions like how to share a new ADHD diagnosis with friends and family, how to wade through the swamp of ADHD motivation, why our ADHD brains LOVE to argue, and more. Check it out! For more on this topic Watch: Managing expectations in relationships with ADHD | Sorry, I Missed This Watch: How hormones hijack focus, mood, and energy | Sorry, I Missed This For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org. Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Ever notice your ADHD brain gets a little too excited during an argument? Like you're not even mad anymore, you're just... having a really good time being right? Yeah. There's a reason for that, and it's not a great one. In this mailbag episode of Sorry, I Missed This, host Cate Osborn is digging into questions from our Understood Facebook group Our amazing listeners wrote in (and had the chance to win a copy of Cate's new book, The ADHD Field Guide for Adults). In this episode Cate tackles questions like how to share a new ADHD diagnosis with friends and family, how to wade through the swamp of ADHD motivation, why our ADHD brains LOVE to argue, and more. Check it out! For more on this topic Watch: Managing expectations in relationships with ADHD | Sorry, I Missed This Watch: How hormones hijack focus, mood, and energy | Sorry, I Missed This For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org. Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Strong leaders know that facts alone rarely change minds. In this episode, Dean Newlund and Danny Bobrow explore why authentic connection comes before persuasion and how leaders can communicate in ways that earn trust, strengthen relationships, and inspire action. In this episode, Dean Newlund and Danny Bobrow discuss: Lessons from endurance sports and teamwork The Persuasion Blueprint framework Persuasion in digital and AI-assisted communication Building stronger relationships through emotional awareness Leadership communication during difficult conversations Key Takeaways: Begin difficult conversations by helping people feel understood before trying to convince them. Care and emotional attunement create the foundation for collaboration. Let enthusiasm grow by discovering what already motivates the other person instead of overwhelming them with your own excitement. In digital communication, take time to write thoughtful, respectful messages that provide context and show consideration. Before debating emotional issues, understand where someone is coming from instead of leading with facts alone. Use AI to support your thinking, but preserve authentic judgment and relationships where trust depends on your own words. "What people are really craving is to be understood, not to be impressed.” — Danny Bobrow About Danny Bobrow: Daniel A. “Danny” Bobrow is the creator of The Art of First Impressions™ and The Persuasion Blueprint™, communication mastery programs that help businesses build trust and drive ethical conversion. He is President of AIM Dental Marketing, which has helped grow dental practices since 1989, and serves as Executive Director of Climb for a Cause™ and The Smile Tree™. Danny is the Founding Executive Committee Chair of the American Academy for Oral Systemic Health and holds two MBAs from the University of Chicago and K.U.L. Belgium. A Distinguished Toastmaster, mediator, mountaineer, and endurance athlete, Danny champions patient persistence and respectful resilience. Connect with Danny Bobrow: Website: https://www.dannybobrow.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dannybobrow Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DanielABobrow/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/danielabobrow See Dean's TedTalk “Why Business Needs Intuition” here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EEq9IYvgV7I Connect with Dean:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgqRK8GC8jBIFYPmECUCMkwWebsite: https://www.mfileadership.com/The Mission Statement E-Newsletter: https://www.mfileadership.com/blog/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/deannewlund/X (Twitter): https://twitter.com/deannewlundFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/MissionFacilitators/Email: dean.newlund@mfileadership.comPhone: 1-800-926-7370 Audio production by Turnkey Podcast Productions. You're the expert. Your podcast will prove it.
“You're not living up to your potential.” If those words have haunted you, you're not alone — and the story you've been telling yourself about why might be wrong. Dr. J breaks down two patterns she sees in her ADHD clients: the person who checked out after years of “you're smart, you just don't apply yourself”; and the high achiever whose color-coded planners are hiding total exhaustion. She digs into research on ADHD and perfectionism, and why so many women spend decades masking or overachieving without ever getting a diagnosis. Then, five concrete strategies: Understanding your type of ADHD Creating distance from the inner monologue Figuring out whose goals you're chasing Building a plan that works with your brain instead of against it Unmasking with the right people Your potential was never a ceiling you kept failing to reach. It's a launching pad — and you get to define it. For more on this topic Watch: ADHD and burnout Watch: ADHD and people pleasing For a transcript and more resources, visit The ADHD Channel for Women on Understood.org. You can also email us at podcast@understood.org. Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Cold-calling strangers about Brazilian butt lifts wasn't exactly the plan. But for Taryn Delanie Smith — comedian, actor, former Miss New York, and creator of the viral TikTok character “Denise, Heaven's Receptionist” — the detours turned out to be the whole story. In this episode, Taryn talks about competing in the Miss America pageant with undiagnosed ADHD, the curses and gifts of ADHD, a learning disability in math, and struggling in corporate America. Plus: justice sensitivity, farting around time, and why waitressing might be the perfect job for an ADHD brain. For more on this topic: Listen: What's so funny about ADHD? (Comedian Jim Tews' story) Read: ADHD and creativity Watch: What is dyscalculia? For a transcript and more resources, visit ADHD Aha! on Understood.org. You can also email us at adhdaha@understood.org. Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Episode 4195 │ August 2, 2026 Britain paid for terror and got desertion instead. The soldiers hired to break the colonists ended up staying, marrying in, and becoming Americans. WHAT THIS EPISODE COVERS Scott Kesterson and Rochelle Porto open with the Hessians — the 30,000 German soldiers Britain purchased from five impoverished princes across six separate parliamentary treaties, a practice Rochelle documents as soldatenhandel, the soldier trade, where individual soldiers received standard pay while their rulers pocketed bonuses for every dead man — and trace the full arc from Empress Catherine the Great's flat refusal to sell her own soldiers, through Frederick the Great denying British troops passage across his lands, to the documented atrocities that made Jefferson's 25th grievance in the Declaration of Independence and inspired Washington Irving's Sleepy Hollow, written specifically because Irving needed a villain both sides of the Atlantic already agreed to hate. Scott and Rochelle trace the deeper strategic logic beneath the terror campaign — Britain's mercantile economy could not sustain debt, the colonial boycott was starving the treasury, and hiring a foreign mercenary force solved the psychological problem of British soldiers refusing to kill their own brethren, a strategy that backfired when Congress stood up the German Battalion specifically to recruit Hessian deserters in their own language, and when 5,000 to 6,000 Hessians chose to stay in America rather than return home. The episode closes on Captain Johann Ewald's journal of the Jaeger sharpshooters, the death and decapitation of Chaplain John Rosbrough at Assunpink Creek preaching Judges 5:23 the week before his own martyrdom, and the recognition that this was never merely a rebellion but a righteous fight the colonists understood as spiritual from the beginning. KEY QUESTIONS ADDRESSED What was soldatenhandel, the soldier trade — and why did Empress Catherine the Great and Frederick the Great both refuse to participate while five smaller German princes agreed to sell their own people, with bonuses paid for every soldier who died in British service? Why did Britain deliberately hire a foreign mercenary force rather than rely solely on its own troops — and what does the documented British problem of soldiers refusing to fight their own English brethren reveal about the psychological calculation behind the Hessian contracts, and why did it backfire when Congress stood up the German Battalion to recruit Hessian deserters? Who was Chaplain John Rosbrough — and what does his sermon on Judges 5:23, delivered to recruit the men who followed him into battle, followed by his own death and decapitation at Assunpink Creek one week later, reveal about how the founding generation understood their fight as fundamentally spiritual rather than merely political? ABOUT BARDSFM BardsFM is a daily independent podcast covering faith, liberty, history, and information warfare. Hosted by Scott Kesterson — combat veteran, documentary filmmaker, and rancher. Over 4,100 episodes and 50 million lifetime downloads. New episodes every weekday. bards.fm This episode was researched and produced under the Spatial Terra Intelligence Methodology (STIM v5) — the analytical framework built by Scott Kesterson — with AI-assisted research synthesis at a 70/30 human/AI authorship ratio, fully disclosed. All analysis, conclusions, and editorial judgments are those of Scott Kesterson. BardsFM's archive includes hundreds of episodes on prayer, scripture, and walking the Way of Christ — available free in the full episode catalog. DOWNLOADS Community Sovereignty Framework: click here AFFILIATE LINKS Bards Nation Health Store: www.bardsnationhealth.com MYPillow promo code: BARDS >> Go to https://www.mypillow.com/bards and use the promo code BARDS or... Call 1-800-975-2939. EMPShield protect your vehicles and home. Promo code BARDS: Click here Treadlite Broadforks...best garden tool EVER. Promo code BARDS26: TreadliteBroadforks.com EnviroKlenz Air Purification, promo code BARDS to save 10%: www.enviroklenz.com Morning Intro Music Provided by Brian Kahanek: www.briankahanek.com Founders Bible 20% discount code: BARDS >>> TheFoundersBible.com Windblown Media 20% Discount with promo code BARDS: windblownmedia.com White Oak Pastures Grassfed Meats, Get $20 off any order $150 or more. Promo Code BARDS: www.whiteoakpastures.com/BARDS Mission Darkness Faraday Bags and RF Shielding. Promo code BARDS: Click here DONATIONS: If you wish to support this podcast directly you can donate here... DONATE: Click here MAILING ADDRESS: Xpedition Cafe, LLC Attn. Scott Kesterson 591 E Central Ave, #740 Sutherlin, OR 97479
Ever since she was a little girl, she occasionally caught sight of strangers no one else seemed to notice. They never spoke, never frightened her, and always disappeared before anyone else could see them. For years, she convinced herself there had to be a perfectly ordinary explanation.Then one man changed everything.Unlike all the others, he looked directly at her. Day after day, he appeared along her morning commute, always trying to draw her attention to the same woman. The more she ignored him, the more persistent he became, until she finally found the courage to follow the silent clues he had been leaving behind.What she discovered would forever change the way she understood the people she'd been seeing her entire life.#GhostStory #RealGhostStories #Paranormal #TheOtherSide #SeeingTheDead #ParanormalPodcast #MessagesFromBeyond #SpiritCommunication #UnexplainedMysteries #SupernaturalLove real ghost stories? Don't just listen—join us on YouTube and be part of the largest community of real paranormal encounters anywhere. Subscribe now and never miss a chilling new story:
Ever since she was a little girl, she occasionally caught sight of strangers no one else seemed to notice. They never spoke, never frightened her, and always disappeared before anyone else could see them. For years, she convinced herself there had to be a perfectly ordinary explanation.Then one man changed everything.Unlike all the others, he looked directly at her. Day after day, he appeared along her morning commute, always trying to draw her attention to the same woman. The more she ignored him, the more persistent he became, until she finally found the courage to follow the silent clues he had been leaving behind.What she discovered would forever change the way she understood the people she'd been seeing her entire life.#GhostStory #RealGhostStories #Paranormal #TheOtherSide #SeeingTheDead #ParanormalPodcast #MessagesFromBeyond #SpiritCommunication #UnexplainedMysteries #SupernaturalLove real ghost stories? Don't just listen—join us on YouTube and be part of the largest community of real paranormal encounters anywhere. Subscribe now and never miss a chilling new story:
Money is one of the biggest sources of conflict in relationships — and for people with ADHD, it comes with an extra layer of shame most people don't talk about. Cate sits down with Dr. Christine Hargrove, a financial therapist who specializes in ADHD, to unpack why money fights escalate so fast, why who's the “mental load carrier” matters more than who earns more, and why people with ADHD often give better financial advice to their friends than they follow themselves. Christine breaks down the concept of “money meaning” — the idea that when couples fight about spending, they're rarely fighting about the actual dollars. They discuss financial self-efficacy, the five types of couple coping (and which ones actually work), and why body doubling might be the most underrated financial tool for ADHD brains. Cate also opens up about her own history with compulsive spending, debt, and the shame that kept her from asking for help — and what finally changed. If you've ever felt “bad with money” or avoided opening an app because of what you might see, this episode is for you. For more on this topic Watch: Why is money so hard with ADHD? A financial therapist explains Watch: Money problems and ADHD? Here's a financial therapist's advice For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org. Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships with Cate Osborn
Money is one of the biggest sources of conflict in relationships — and for people with ADHD, it comes with an extra layer of shame most people don't talk about. Cate sits down with Dr. Christine Hargrove, a financial therapist who specializes in ADHD, to unpack why money fights escalate so fast, why who's the “mental load carrier” matters more than who earns more, and why people with ADHD often give better financial advice to their friends than they follow themselves. Christine breaks down the concept of “money meaning” — the idea that when couples fight about spending, they're rarely fighting about the actual dollars. They discuss financial self-efficacy, the five types of couple coping (and which ones actually work), and why body doubling might be the most underrated financial tool for ADHD brains. Cate also opens up about her own history with compulsive spending, debt, and the shame that kept her from asking for help — and what finally changed. If you've ever felt “bad with money” or avoided opening an app because of what you might see, this episode is for you. For more on this topic Watch: Why is money so hard with ADHD? A financial therapist explains Watch: Money problems and ADHD? Here's a financial therapist's advice For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org. Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Does replying to a text feel harder than it should? Or do you struggle when someone reminds you to do something you were already planning to do? In this episode, Dr. J breaks down the real science behind ADHD avoidance: how the nervous system mistakes tasks for threats, why perfectionism makes starting feel risky, and what actually happens in your brain before a shutdown. Plus, practical strategies to interrupt the avoidance loop without shame, force, or another failed to-do list. For more on this topic Watch: ADHD and accountability Listen: ADHD and procrastination For a transcript and more resources, visit The ADHD Channel for Women on Understood.org. You can also email us at podcast@understood.org. Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Ramalingam Gowtham's debut feature ‘Members of the Problematic Family,' was screened at the Berlin International Film Festival, Berlinale. The movie opens the Indian Film Festival of Melbourne this August. The director and lead actor Karuththadaiyaan will attend the Australian premiere on 14 August. R. Gowtham speaks about his unflinching portrait of a funeral and a fractured family, and about the literature and world cinema that shaped him, with Kulasegaram Sanchayan. - பெர்லின் திரைப்பட விழாவில் இடம்பெற்ற தமிழ்த் திரைப் படமான 'சிக்கலான குடும்பத்தின் உறுப்பினர்கள்' (Members of the Problematic Family), இந்த ஆண்டு மெல்பன் இந்தியத் திரைப்பட விழாவின் (IFFM) தொடக்கப் படமாகத் திரையிடப்படுகிறது. ஆகஸ்ட் 14 அன்று நடைபெறும் அந்த ஆஸ்திரேலியத் திரையரங்கு அறிமுகத்தில் இயக்குநர் R. கௌதமும் முன்னணி நடிகர் கருத்தடையானும் கலந்துகொள்கின்றனர். ஒரு இறுதிச்சடங்கையும், முரண்களும் சிக்கல்களும் நிறைந்த ஒரு குடும்பத்தையும் துணிச்சலுடன் விவரிக்கும் இந்தப் படத்தைப் பற்றியும், தன்னை உருவாக்கிய இலக்கியம் மற்றும் உலக சினிமா குறித்தும் குலசேகரம் சஞ்சயனுடன் பகிர்ந்துகொள்கிறார் R. கௌதம்.
Fidget toys, like NeeDohs, are sold out and banned in classrooms. Journalist Anna North joins us to unpack how fidget toys went from gag gifts to a generational obsession, and what that shift reveals about neurodivergence, attention, and play. Plus, fidget toys are not just for kids. We look at how they are destigmatizing fidgeting for neurodivergent adults. And we dig into the science behind fidgeting, the history of the fidget spinner, and whether this wave of acceptance for sensory needs will survive. For more on this topic: Read: Why your kid is obsessed with squishy toys Watch: Can I get rid of my adult sensory issues? For a transcript and more resources, visit Hyperfocus on Understood.org. You can also email us at hyperfocus@understood.org. Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Contact me! Send me a text message here!What does the Constitution actually say about the "separation of church and state"? In this episode, we examine the First Amendment, the origins of Thomas Jefferson's famous phrase, and what the Founding Fathers believed about the relationship between faith and government. We discuss Jefferson's letter to the Danbury Baptists, America's Christian heritage, the role Christianity played in the nation's founding, and why every citizen—not just Christians—brings a worldview into the political process. We also explore Supreme Court cases addressing religious liberty and consider whether the modern understanding of "separation of church and state" aligns with America's constitutional and historical foundations.If you love the show, share it with friends and family!
You wrote the announcement, rehearsed it, sent it, and a week later the questions rolled in anyway. In this episode, communication strategist Lee Caraher explains why most workplace communication fails on delivery, not message, and what to do about it. She shares a practical three-send formula for making any announcement stick, a protocol for deciding which messages belong in email, Slack, or a meeting, and a test for knowing whether your message actually landed. Silence and nodding, it turns out, are the clearest signs it didn't. Lee also makes the case for retiring the feedback sandwich for good and shows how to remove the ambiguity that quietly creates conflict, starting with how you assign a deadline. About our guest Lee Caraher is the founder and CEO of Double Forte, a national public relations and digital media agency based in San Francisco. A communication strategist known for practical solutions to big problems, she is the author of Millennials and Management and The Boomerang Principle. This is her third appearance on the show. TIMESTAMPS 00:00 Intro and a word from Xenium HR Compensation Services 02:00 Why communication fails on delivery, not message 05:30 The three-send formula for big announcements 08:00 Building a receptacle for questions 10:30 Mixed messages and the four parts of delivery 13:00 Yes-people and why leaders need truth-tellers 14:30 Using AI tools to critique your own delivery 16:00 Reading the room and adapting your style 20:45 Which messages belong in which channel 25:00 The case for a weekly leader email 25:45 Nodding heads mean they didn't get it 34:00 Crisis, apologies, and losing control of the narrative 38:20 What a real deadline includes 43:30 Throw away the feedback sandwich A QUICK GLIMPSE INTO OUR PODCAST Podcast: Transform Your Workplace, sponsored by Xenium HR Host: Brandon Laws In Brandon's own words: "The Transform Your Workplace podcast is your go-to source for the latest workplace trends, big ideas, and time-tested methods straight from the mouths of industry experts and respected thought-leaders." About Xenium HR Xenium HR is on a mission to transform workplaces by providing expert outsourced HR and payroll services for small and medium-sized businesses. With a people-first approach, Xenium helps organizations create thriving work environments where employees feel valued and supported. From navigating compliance to enhancing workplace culture, Xenium offers tailored solutions that empower growth and simplify HR. Whether managing employee relations, payroll processing, or implementing impactful training programs, Xenium is the trusted partner businesses rely on to elevate their workplace experience. Discover how Xenium can transform your workplace: Learn more Connect with Lee Caraher: Website LinkedIn Connect with Brandon Laws: LinkedIn Instagram About Connect with Xenium HR: Website LinkedIn Facebook Twitter Instagram YouTube
Why does sitting still feel like a physical emergency? Kate Moryoussef, ADHD lifestyle and wellness coach and host of the “ADHD Women's Wellbeing Podcast,” spent years convinced she was the problem. It wasn't until her daughter's meltdowns, daydreams, and overwhelm mirrored her own childhood that everything clicked. In this episode, Kate unpacks restlessness and what ADHD actually feels like in the body, how generational ADHD shapes families, and why so many women spend decades doubting themselves before finally getting answers. For more on this topic: Listen: Can I get rid of my adult sensory issues? Read: How ADHD can affect your mental health Watch: Can ADHD affect physical health? For a transcript and more resources, visit ADHD Aha! on Understood.org. You can also email us at adhdaha@understood.org. Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
In this honest and deeply personal conversation, Dr. Nicole Monteiro sits down with Yusuf, host of the Relationship Status Podcast, to explore relationships from a male perspective. Together, they discuss vulnerability, emotional safety, childhood wounds, communication, transparency versus honesty, and the lessons Yusuf learned through marriage, divorce, fatherhood, therapy, and personal healing.In this episode, you'll learn:• Why many men shut down emotionally• The difference between transparency and honesty in dating• How childhood experiences shape adult relationships• Why emotional safety matters for both men and women• Questions every woman should ask when getting to know a man• How listening without judgment can transform communication• Why healing is essential before building a healthy relationshipWhether you're dating, married, healing from heartbreak, or simply trying to better understand the men in your life, this conversation offers thoughtful insights that challenge stereotypes and encourage deeper connection.What insight from Yusuf surprised you the most?✨ Subscribe for more psychology-backed conversations about healthy relationships, feminine energy, communication, and emotional well-being.#HealthyRelationships #DatingAdvice #RelationshipPsychology #MensPerspective #Communication #EmotionalHealing #FeminineEnergy #TheSecretFormulaOfFemininity
Front desk versus clinical: every practice has this quiet rivalry, but it doesn't have to be that way.In this episode, the DPH coaches break down why these two sides of the office resent each other and how you as the owner might be making it worse. They share exactly what you can do to create cohesion in the office, from an exercise that breaks tension and gets people talking to an easy fix for the most common source of conflict.Topics discussed:(00:00) Introduction(02:43) What causes front and back office drama(06:55) The exercise that bonds your office(14:11) Managing unspoken expectations(15:42) How to handle team complaints without losing safety(18:55) Who should handle team conflict(21:45) The trust exercise every office needs(25:13) When getting involved backfires(27:22) What causes the most conflict and how to fix itThis episode was produced by Podcast Boutique https://www.podcastboutique.comCheck out the Growth Program Here Join our Newest and Best Coaching Program, Click Here for More InformationTake Control of Your Practice and Your LifeWe help dentists take more time off while making more money through systematization, team empowerment, and creating leadership teams.Ready to build a practice that works for you? Visit www.DentalPracticeHeroes.com to learn more.
Have you ever spent hours replaying a conversation, wishing you had explained yourself differently? Do you feel frustrated when people misunderstand your intentions? Do you find yourself over-explaining, defending your decisions, or trying to convince people you're a good person? If so, you may not simply want to be understood—you may have become emotionally dependent on it. In this episode of The Positivity Xperience, we're exploring the psychology behind the need to be understood and why it can quietly become an obsession. We'll discuss attachment wounds, shame, emotional invalidation, rejection sensitivity, nervous system conditioning, and why some people spend their lives trying to explain themselves to people who have already decided who they are. You'll learn why your brain keeps searching for the "perfect explanation," why over-explaining rarely creates the connection you're hoping for, and how your need for understanding may actually be keeping you emotionally trapped. We'll also explore the difference between healthy communication and compulsive self-justification, why some people intentionally misunderstand you, and how learning to tolerate being misunderstood may become one of the greatest acts of emotional freedom. Because healing isn't getting everyone to understand you. Sometimes healing is realizing they don't have to. Become A Patreon: www.patreon.com/thepositivityxperience Let's work together: www.thepositivityxpereince.com
Ever feel like you're the “parent” in your relationship — managing everything while your partner just... coasts? You're not alone. And it's not just you being controlling. Host Cate Osborn talks with ADHD coach Kristen Carder (host of I Have ADHD, author of the upcoming You're Not in Trouble) about why ADHD relationships so easily slide into parent-child dynamics, and how to climb back out. They get into why resentment is the red flag to watch for, and Kristen's favorite mantra for “de-centering” an overfunctioning partner (“there is no sun — we're equals here”). Plus eldest daughter syndrome, and why chicken nuggets for dinner is sometimes the healthiest choice you'll make all day. Honest, funny, and genuinely useful if you've ever wondered whether you're parenting your partner instead of loving them. For more on this topic Listen: Sorry, I Missed This: When ADHD turns chores into conflict Watch: ADHD expert answers 8 top questions on romantic relationships For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org. Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Jigar Thakkar is a technology leader who has helped drive large-scale cloud, data, AI, and investment platform initiatives. We discuss where technical and business teams most often miscommunicate, how those misunderstandings affect leadership decisions, and what technical professionals can do to communicate trade-offs, influence strategy, and earn a stronger voice in business discussions. To learn more about Jigar, visit https://www.linkedin.com/in/jigart/.__TEACH THE GEEK (http://teachthegeek.com) Get Public Speaking Tips for STEM Professionals at http://teachthegeek.com/tips
Single Parent Stroke Recovery: How Jeff Manuel Is Rebuilding His Life for His Kids Jeff Manuel was working two jobs to provide for his two teenage kids – a full-time role in electrical sales plus evening grocery-delivery shifts – when a stroke at 52 changed everything about how he could show up for them. Four years later, he’s not back to where he was. He’s become someone different, and by his own account, someone he likes better. A Normal Saturday Morning, Then Everything Changed Jeff’s stroke happened on a Saturday in March 2022, but the warning signs started the night before, on his last work shift. The next morning he made coffee, showered, and drove to drop off his kids’ things at their mother’s house in West Kelowna. When she opened the door, she immediately knew something was wrong – his face had visibly dropped. A local clinic ran a squeeze test that came back fine and prescribed inhalers for what they assumed was a breathing issue. It wasn’t until Jeff tried to pick up oranges with his left hand an hour later, and couldn’t, that they went to the hospital. A CT scan confirmed he’d had a stroke. He couldn’t move his arm or his leg. Raising Two Teenagers From a Hospital Bed Single parent stroke recovery comes with a particular kind of weight: the practical question of who looks after your kids while you can’t. Jeff and his ex-wife were separated but living close by, and when he was hospitalized for three months, she and their children – a boy and a girl, both thirteen at the time – stepped in to support him. She’s been doing a lot for me, and I really appreciate it. What could have been an awkward or strained dynamic instead became a stronger friendship than the one they’d had before the stroke. Jeff is candid about why the timing mattered to him: Thank goodness it happened when I was only fifty-two and not seventy-eight, when they’d got their families all grown up and their own worries. I didn’t want to be a worry to their father. His kids are now nearing graduation, and he stays in touch by text and phone, even though he doesn’t get to see them as often as he’d like. Two Years Learning to Live Again After hospital, Jeff moved into a residential rehabilitation program called Connect Communities, where he spent two years relearning basic independence – from walking to cooking to managing a wheelchair-accessible home. Progress wasn’t linear: partway through, his wheelchair tire caught on a mat and led to a fall that required a hip replacement, adding more recovery time on top of the stroke rehab. The program used occupational therapy milestones to unlock privileges – once he could complete a task within a set time, he earned the ability to grocery shop and cook for himself, working up to preparing a meal every night. That system became his bridge from full-time care toward the assisted living arrangement he’s in now, which he describes less as being stuck and more as “graduating” toward independent living. Managing Pain That Doesn’t Go Away Chronic pain has been one of the harder, more persistent parts of Jeff’s recovery – constant pain and tension on his left side, in his shoulder in particular. After four years of prescribed medication, Jeff made his own decision to stop his pharmaceutical pain pills and manage his pain with medicinal marijuana gummies instead, taken a few times a day. He credits them with helping not just with pain, but with sleep and digestion too. This is Jeff’s personal experience and decision, made under his own judgment about his body after years of living with it post-stroke – not a treatment recommendation, and as always, any change to medication should be made in consultation with your own medical team. A Rebirth, Not Just a Recovery What comes through most clearly in Jeff’s story isn’t the physical rehabilitation – it’s the internal shift alongside it. He describes the last ten years before his stroke as a period of grief he hadn’t fully processed, following the deaths of his mother and sister, and a tendency to put himself first that he says didn’t serve his family. The stroke, paradoxically, became the catalyst for the opposite: I’d like myself again because I know I’m a good person. He talks about his recovery in openly spiritual terms – leaning on his mother’s belief that “everything happens for a reason,” and describing his body’s limitations as temporary: “This is only part of your meat suit.” He’s quick to add that this reframing isn’t about denying the hard days. It’s about noticing small, cumulative wins: Sometimes you’re not aware of what’s happening, and then you think about it – I couldn’t do that yesterday, now I can. What Keeps Him Going Jeff found Recovery After Stroke the same way many listeners do – searching for answers in a hospital bed, trying to understand what had just happened to him. I’ve seen so many other people going through it. It really did help me. Now, four years on, he’s paying that forward by sharing his own story, pain and all, with the same honesty he found helpful when he needed it most. If Jeff’s story resonates with your own recovery – or your own path back to being fully present for the people who depend on you – Bill’s book, The Unexpected Way That A Stroke Became The Best Thing That Happened, digs deeper into this kind of transformation: recoveryafterstroke.com/book. If this show has helped you, you can support it directly at patreon.com/recoveryafterstroke. This blog is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical advice. Please consult your doctor before making any changes to your health or recovery plan. Jeff Manuel: Raising My Kids Through a Stroke and Learning to Like Myself Again (Interview) A single dad’s 4-year journey from hospital to independence – raising his kids, relearning to cook, and rebuilding who he is. Highlights: 00:00 Jeff’s Journey: Single Parent Stroke Recovery04:01 The Day of the Stroke06:42 Personal Transformation Post-Stroke09:03 Rewiring the Brain and Recovery11:04 Support During Recovery13:32 Mindset and Spiritual Growth15:25 Challenges of Recovery18:52 Personal Transformation and Reflection20:24 Daily Life in Assisted Living24:01 Pain Management and Coping Strategies26:28 Future Aspirations and Independence28:13 Finding Community and Sharing Stories Transcript: Jeff’s Journey: Single Parent Stroke Recovery Jeff Manuel (00:00)Once you get over what has happened, you become a better person. I like myself again because I know I’m a good person. if it takes another four or five years to walk again, it takes that. But if I can get as many tools into my tool chest, I can use later in life. Bill Gasiamis (00:18)Welcome back Recovery After Stroke. I’m Bill Gassiamis. My guest today is Jeff Manuel, a single father of two teenagers who was working two jobs full time in electrical sales plus evening grocery delivery when he had a stroke at 52 that left him with left-side paralysis. Jeff describes his stroke as involving a clot and possibly a bleed as well. The exact clinical picture is something we talked through together in the episode. We get into what it’s like raising teenagers through three months in hospital and two years in residential rehab, and how his relationship with his ex-wife has changed since the stroke, how he’s learned to cook again with one hand and the pain management approach he’s landed for himself after four years of recovery. Quick note before we dive in, if you’re feeling stuck in your own recovery, I now offer one-on-one coaching for stroke survivors. It’s not therapy or medical treatment, it’s lived experience support, structure, accountability, and someone who’s actually been where you are, having survived three strokes myself. I only work with a small number of people at a time, so it stays meaningful. You can apply at recoveryafterstroke.com/momentum. If Jeff’s story resonated with you, I also wrote a book about my own experience called The Unexpected Way. That a stroke became the best thing that happened, it is available at recoveryafterstroke.com/book. And if this show has helped you, you can support it directly at patreon.com/recoveryafterstroke. Here’s my conversation with Jeff. BIll Gasiamis (01:58)Jeff Manuel. Welcome to the podcast. Jeff Manuel (02:01)Thanks for having me. BIll Gasiamis (02:01)Tell me a little bit about what life was like before stroke. What were your daily tasks? What kind of things did you get up to? Jeff Manuel (02:10)at the time I had two jobs. I had full time journal day and then after after the day job I would go and And I was I was before I was in a loop to try to catch up and Provide for my family. BIll Gasiamis (02:22)What kind of jobs did you do? Jeff Manuel (02:23)I was my last job was in sales, electrical sales. And I used to I would pick groceries for customers that were just driving by and picking up the groceries. So I’d pick mostly the the dry goods and have it ready for when they eat when they were ready to pick up the groceries. BIll Gasiamis (02:41)Was that the after hours job? Jeff Manuel (02:42)Pardon me? BIll Gasiamis (02:42)Was that the after hours task? Jeff Manuel (02:45)Yes. BIll Gasiamis (02:45)And how many hours a a week would a day would you say you were working then? Jeff Manuel (02:48)I’d be I’d probably have four four four shifts a week. Sometimes less. BIll Gasiamis (02:53)And on the day of one of your shifts. Jeff Manuel (02:54)It was manageable at the time. BIll Gasiamis (02:56)It was manageable. Jeff Manuel (02:57)Yes. BIll Gasiamis (02:57)And on the day of one of the shifts that you went to your regular job and then you did one of those shifts, how many hours would you say that? Jeff Manuel (03:06)Five hours. I believe I worked the five hours that was on my stroke happened on a Saturday. This was a Friday night. So I believe it was five hours. Cause I was started it at five and I finished at ten. BIll Gasiamis (03:07)The added So with your full time job, the regular job, that would be a normal eight hour day and then you would do an additional five hours? Jeff Manuel (03:30)Yes. BIll Gasiamis (03:30)Okay. And w other than work, what else did you get up to? Jeff Manuel (03:37)I’m a single father of two kids. So as much time as I could spend with him I spent with them even though we were not living in the same house. BIll Gasiamis (03:45)Understood. How old were the kids? Jeff Manuel (03:46)Thirteen. BIll Gasiamis (03:47)Two boys, two girls. Jeff Manuel (03:49)boy to give us BIll Gasiamis (03:50)Sorry, Jeff, what was that? Jeff Manuel (03:51)Boy and a girl, I’m sorry. BIll Gasiamis (03:52)A a boy and a girl. And you were working the extra hours to cover everybody and make sure they had everything they needed. Jeff Manuel (04:00)Yes. The Day of the Stroke BIll Gasiamis (04:01)And what what happened on the day of the stroke, Jeff? Jeff Manuel (04:05)Well, I woke up Saturday morning, everything was fine. Put on the coffee machine. Went and got a quick shower. Packed up my clothes cause I was going to to their house ’cause they lived with their mother in West Kelowna. And I was living in Peachland at the time. So I drove on the highway, popped into McDonald’s, cup of coffee, couple of sandwiches, and then they were just two minute drive away. knock on a door. She opens the door and she says, What the heck happened to you? I said, What do you mean? She said your face is on the ground. My whole left side, I guess, just collapsed. So then she says we’re going to the clinic. Is it okay? So go over does a squeeze test. I mean both hands, fine. And I was walking and talking and doing everything. Like nothing happened yet. I said the only the only issue I had was a little bit of breathing problems a couple of months previous. So we prescribe some inhalers and see if that helps. Mm got the inhalers, tried out an hour later. Didn’t do anything for me. Then I tried picking I had a shift at twelve o’clock and this was probably about eleven. And I went into the kitchen and tried picking up oranges with my left hand and I couldn’t grab it and put it in the bag and she said, We’re going to the hospital. So, okay. Then I was getting worried. So I didn’t know what it was. BIll Gasiamis (05:29)And and then you spent some time in hospital doing tests, were you? Jeff Manuel (05:32)Heard me? BIll Gasiamis (05:32)Then you spent some time at hospital, were they testing you? Jeff Manuel (05:34)Interested C D scan. Then he comes down and tells me that Mr. Manuel you had a stroke. Said okay. And then I still can’t comprehend what that actually meant. But I knew it was something wrong. And it wasn’t till the next day that I couldn’t move my arm or my leg. BIll Gasiamis (05:52)Mm-hmm. And how long ago was that, Jeff? Jeff Manuel (05:56)That was in Right of twenty twenty two. BIll Gasiamis (05:59)March of twenty twenty two. Jeff Manuel (06:01)Yes. BIll Gasiamis (06:01)Got it. And you seem to be quite still significantly emotionally upset about it. Do you find that you’re have a a few challenges about dealing with your emotions? Jeff Manuel (06:11)that’s cool. I’m sorry, Bible is not upset. It’s happiness. BIll Gasiamis (06:18)It’s happiness. Jeff Manuel (06:19)I’ve turned a big corner this year And I’m happy I’m happy where I am I’m happy for who I am This is just temporary. I know that. And I’ve learned to live with it for four years and it’s okay. I’m good. BIll Gasiamis (06:34)Lovely, man. So who are you now? Who are you now that you’re happy with who has turned the corner? Personal Transformation Post-Stroke Jeff Manuel (06:42)I’m I’m more of myself a long time ago with the name. In the last ten years it’s It’s just listening to other people having a broadcast and internalizing it and using it for the good. And trying to help people as much as I can. Even it just means a smile and hey you’re doing a great job. That means the world to people. And for some people they can’t say it, so I’d say it for them. BIll Gasiamis (07:02)Mm. So the the the guy from ten years ago wasn’t happy. What was wrong with that guy? Like what is it that he wasn’t doing that wasn’t serving you? Jeff Manuel (07:15)I wasn’t paying attention to what I had to pay attention to my my wife and kids. I was up north and in the North Territories, which is Canada’s Arctic, for twelve years. Awesome years. Beautiful people. BIll Gasiamis (07:32)And what were you doing there? What was the task? Jeff Manuel (07:35)Doing a couple of different jobs. My last job was I was assistant manager of like a Costco. But it was a a locally owned Inn Valley store, so BIll Gasiamis (07:42)I went Jeff Manuel (07:46)When my boss would be out of town I would have to look after the stores and transfer to other parts of the Arctic. BIll Gasiamis (07:46)And were you away from your family at that time? Did that have you away from your family? Jeff Manuel (07:55)No, my family lived right in the same community, so BIll Gasiamis (07:57)Uh-huh. And what you you weren’t satisfied with the way you were going about life? What was the difference between now and then? Because you’re quite co comfortable suggesting that there’s been a shift, a change? Were how how were you not Jeff Manuel (08:13)I was drinking way too much. And then along with grief. BIll Gasiamis (08:18)What was the grief in relation to? Jeff Manuel (08:19)my mother and my sister had passed away from cancer. But like pretty close to tw twenty years ago now. So and recently it’s been my brother. So it’s been I’ve been thinking a lot about that. BIll Gasiamis (08:32)And were you using alcohol to cope before the stroke? Jeff Manuel (08:34)Yes. BIll Gasiamis (08:35)And did that mess up your relationships? Jeff Manuel (08:36)Not necessarily. BIll Gasiamis (08:37)How how was it that you weren’t doing the right thing by your family? Jeff Manuel (08:41)I’m just thinking more about myself than others. BIll Gasiamis (08:44)Putting yourself first. Jeff Manuel (08:46)Yes. BIll Gasiamis (08:46)Mm-hmm. Got it. And then the stroke happened and how did that change everything? Because the stroke made you unwell. It put you in hospital. But how did that shift the way that you behaved and the the way you went about life? Rewiring the Brain and Recovery Jeff Manuel (09:03)Well, in this is my fourth year, so this year I know that my brain is rewiring itself because I can see minuscule changes every single day. And sometimes you’re not aware of what what what’s happening and well then you think about it and I couldn’t do that yesterday, now I can do it. BIll Gasiamis (09:24)understood. And hello Jeff Manuel (09:26)And it’s a it’s a it’s it’s a positive positive thing that happens to you every single day. BIll Gasiamis (09:32)Got it, I appreciate that. So you’re seeing small significant changes that are adding up and you’re getting results from that. And it’s been for years now. Jeff Manuel (09:40)Yes. I’m happy to say BIll Gasiamis (09:41)Understood. That’s excellent. Now, what kind of stroke was it? Did they determine the cause and have they put you on some kind of medication or program to prevent another one? What was the issue with the stroke? Jeff Manuel (09:54)No, it was a hemorrhagic stroke on the the right side. Yeah, I was prescribed a whole bunch of pills and stuff. I guess it helped at the beginning. I couldn’t tell. BIll Gasiamis (10:03)Did they tell you what caused the brain hemorrhage? Do you know? Jeff Manuel (10:06)the the doctor said said there was a clot in my this part of the artery on the my right side and my neck. And he also told me that I had a heart attack the week before. But I didn’t see it, I think. It was just a mark one, I guess. BIll Gasiamis (10:21)So so was So was it a brain hemorrhage or an ischemic stroke? Jeff Manuel (10:27)Maybe it’s a brain hemorrhage. BIll Gasiamis (10:28)Bleed in the brain? Jeff Manuel (10:29)Yes. BIll Gasiamis (10:30)Okay. But the clot usually refers to an ischemic stroke, which is like a very different from a a bleed on the brain. Jeff Manuel (10:39)No, the it was just the vein that was clouded. BIll Gasiamis (10:41)Uh-huh. As well as a brain hemorrhage. Jeff Manuel (10:43)Yes. BIll Gasiamis (10:43)So you were really going through it. You had a heart attack, a clot issue and a brain hemorrhage all at the same time? Jeff Manuel (10:49)Yes. BIll Gasiamis (10:49)Wow. Under. Got it. So how long did you spend in hospital, Jeff? Jeff Manuel (10:55)I was there from march twelfth to June fourth ninth in the hospital. BIll Gasiamis (11:02)About three months. Support During Recovery Jeff Manuel (11:04)Yes. BIll Gasiamis (11:04)And who was there to support you during that time? Because if you’re if you’re no longer married and you live separately from your your former wife, who was by your side? How how did you get through that time? Jeff Manuel (11:18)That’s funny because it was my ex wife and my children. She would bring in to see me and f they would feed me and look after me. BIll Gasiamis (11:28)That’s very cool. She stepped up. Jeff Manuel (11:31)She did she’ve been doing a lot for me. And I really appreciate it. BIll Gasiamis (11:35)Yeah, that is lovely. And then you left from the hospital. At some point they dismissed you or discharged you. Did you have to go into rehab after that to try and get your your left side up back up on board? Jeff Manuel (11:51)Well, in the hospital I was doing really hard but but I couldn’t I could still couldn’t walk or go up steps or anything, but they applied to put me into Connect. It’s called Connect Communities. And there was a whole bunch of different houses you live in. And it’s like you have your own room, you have your shower days, and you get fed three meals a day. But everything was wheelchair accessible. And it was the best two years I had. There was that place was amazing. The people were amazing. And what they offered ya and taught you was amazing. BIll Gasiamis (12:26)Yeah. It sounds like you’ve gone on qu quite a spiritual kind of shift, some kind of a journey, an internal journey as well as the physical healing of your body. Jeff Manuel (12:35)Exactly. This I can live with. This is only part of your meat suit you’re aiming your leg. It all depends on what’s upstairs and how you can teach p other people to live with what’s happening. BIll Gasiamis (12:49)What’s one of the biggest things that you learnt when you were in there, by the time you left after two years? Because at the beginning I imagine you wouldn’t have been as upbeat, as positive as you are now. Mindset and Spiritual Growth Jeff Manuel (13:02)No, because You still are learning your your limits of being disabled or paralyzed. You still gotta live it’s like a regrowth. You learn from a baby again to crawl and then walk. And it’s like up until then it’s learning you think about things if you have to use the watchroom you think about it like twenty five different times before you actually use it. It’s a like a learning process. And I’m just starting to learn again. BIll Gasiamis (13:37)So it sounds like the biggest recovery that you had that’s been the most meaningful then was that kind of mindset part of your recovery, the spiritual part of your recovery. Jeff Manuel (13:47)I I I think once you get over what has happened, you become a better person. But I I’d like myself again because I know I’m a good person. And if it takes another four or five years to walk again, it takes that. But if I can get as many tools into my tool chest, I can use later in life. BIll Gasiamis (14:09)Yeah. Yeah. And you know what I love about that is you’re kind of setting an example for your kids, right? Y they may not know it and Jeff Manuel (14:16)I tried to my best to set an example because I always said, Thank goodness it happened when I was only fifty two and not seventy eight when they got their families all grown up and their own worries. Didn’t want to be wrong about their father. They stepped up and being adults when they were thirteen. BIll Gasiamis (14:34)Yeah. Were you also a smoker then? Jeff Manuel (14:35)Yes. BIll Gasiamis (14:36)Okay. Jeff Manuel (14:36)I did quit three months before going into hospital but I’m back smoking again, so BIll Gasiamis (14:41)You’re back smoking again at the moment? Jeff Manuel (14:43)Yes. BIll Gasiamis (14:44)And drinking? Jeff Manuel (14:44)The occasional drink. I’ve tested my limitations and see where it led. But I don’t I don’t over anything, I’m sorry. BIll Gasiamis (14:50)Can I be can I be Can I be perfectly blunt with you? Jeff Manuel (14:57)Yes, you can. BIll Gasiamis (14:58)Why don’t you reduce the amount of time it takes for you to get on your feet from four years to a s a shorter amount of time? And the best way to do that and avoid another stroke and be a real example for your kids is to stop smoking and drinking. That’ll make you more in a in put you more in the zone of allowing your brain to heal rather than continuously putting it in a space where healing is not possible. Challenges of Recovery Jeff Manuel (15:25)So understood. BIll Gasiamis (15:26)I know the challenge with smoking and drinking is beyond just putting it down and not touching it. I know it’s linked to a lot of other emotions and a lot of other things. I used to smoke and drink as well. But the work to be done is in the it’s in when you don’t have those things to go back to to regulate your emotions or change your mindset, that’s where the work is need to be done. You need to pick up the skills that make it possible you for you to deal with those particular emotions or those particular things that are going on that make you drink, that make you smoke. And that will enable you to also deal with those challenges of the grief that you’ve suffered in the past. And also will simultaneously make the right environment for healing the brain. And that should speed up the amount of time it takes for you to get back on your feet. Jeff Manuel (16:20)That’s gonna be my start processing. BIll Gasiamis (16:22)Yeah. I thought you know, we’re here to be honest and frank, and you’re being honest and frank. And I thought, well, I might as well just put it out there. There’s a lot of people that want to get better after stroke, and sometimes they’re doing the things that are getting in the way of recovery without realizing that they’re getting in the way of their own recovery. And that’s kinda like my job, you know, is to sort of say, Hey, here’s a mirror, pay attention to this. Have you seen this before? Are you aware of this? And and then that way, maybe together. You know, we’ve learned something today and we can overcome and then we can move forward a little better. Jeff Manuel (16:56)That’s good advice. BIll Gasiamis (16:57)Are you back to independent living now? Jeff Manuel (16:59)No, no, no. I mean long term care. I was in BIll Gasiamis (17:02)Yep. Tell me about that. Jeff Manuel (17:03)It’s it’s it’s it’s good for me right now for what I need. two years ago I had broken my my hip, so I had to get a hip replacement. So it was extremely hard trying to get your legs into the bed. BIll Gasiamis (17:17)Did you have a fall because of the stroke? Jeff Manuel (17:20)Not because of the stroke, but there was a a mat that that my tire got jammed into. BIll Gasiamis (17:26)The wheelchair tire. Jeff Manuel (17:27)Yeah. BIll Gasiamis (17:29)man, I got it. Jeff Manuel (17:30)It just slowed down my my mobility a bit in my rehab of the the walking but but it was okay. I got through it. BIll Gasiamis (17:42)Got it. And they did a they did a hip replacement. Jeff Manuel (17:46)Yes. BIll Gasiamis (17:46)Understood. So then there was some rehabilitation associated to the hip replacement as well to get you back on your feet. Jeff Manuel (17:55)Well, caught sorta say get me on my feet, get me in the wheelchair. Yeah. it was another six weeks in hospital. BIll Gasiamis (18:00)Yeah, got it. Okay. Yeah. You had a quite a journey, man. Like a lot of sort of downtime as a result of this condition and then all the little complications and bumps in the road. How have you sort of dealt with that mentally? Have you had somebody to talk to? Have you done some therapy? Like how is it that you’ve been been managing to, you know, wrap your head around all of this stuff? Jeff Manuel (18:30)and my mom always had a good say and she said everything happens for a reason. We just don’t know what that reason is at that time. And it’s like, okay, this had happened to me, so now I’m getting to learn why it happened because this is the rebirth of me. In my journey. I’m not the guy I was four years ago or five years ago. I’m me now. Somebody different. Personal Transformation and Reflection BIll Gasiamis (18:52)Mm-hmm. Had you had you in those last ten years before the stroke, had you forgotten about that side of you, that kind of spiritual element of you that you’ve rediscovered? Was it lost in the grief and in the drinking and in the all the work? Jeff Manuel (19:09)It went away somewhere, I don’t know exactly where it went, but it went away. You know, being being on this on this side of the the grass, I guess, I don’t know how you would say it, but going through the healthcare system, you get to see a whole lot of people. And y and you you can sense their their expressions and stuff. A lot of good people. A lot of good people too. BIll Gasiamis (19:32)How’s your relationship with with your former wife and kids now? Are they nearby? Do you see them often? Jeff Manuel (19:37)And they are nearby, but I don’t see as often as you want. I see at least probably about once a month. Well, we’re in contact, we text each other and phone each other every now and then. to graduate next year, so BIll Gasiamis (19:47)Are the kids in school? they’re graduating, so they’ve been busy with school and Jeff Manuel (19:53)Their friends and stuff, so BIll Gasiamis (19:54)Pretty normal. Jeff Manuel (19:56)Yeah, that’s normal teenagers. BIll Gasiamis (19:57)Yeah, understood. And your relationship with your ex wife, is it very cordial? Do you guys get along, even though you guys are exes and Jeff Manuel (20:05)Yeah. Yeah, we get we always got along, but we’ve been way better friends the last couple of years. BIll Gasiamis (20:14)Yeah. That sounds like it’s a it’s a great relief for you. And also she’s able to really kinda take care and help out with the children. Jeff Manuel (20:24)Exactly. Daily Life in Assisted Living BIll Gasiamis (20:24)What is a day like in your facility there where you live? What what do you guys get up to? How do they keep you occupied? What’s it what’s that like? Jeff Manuel (20:33)There is a there’s a you have breakfast at eight to ten and then lunches from twelve to one and dinners from five to six. And then you have the rec department that do little games and stuff in the activity room. I usually go out and and enjoy the fresh air and the sun. It’s warming up here. much fresh year and San John I can get the better. BIll Gasiamis (20:55)And And do you have a few people that live in the facility with you? Is it quite a large facility? How many people are in there? Jeff Manuel (21:05)yeah, there’s three different floors. I’m on the main floor. And there’s probably BIll Gasiamis (21:10)Mm-hmm. Jeff Manuel (21:13)Probably two hundred people, two fifty in three floors. BIll Gasiamis (21:16)Mm-hmm. A lot of people that I’ve spoken to in the past about those types of facilities get really down about They kind of don’t feel like they should be there or need to be there. How do you manage being there? Jeff Manuel (21:29)I’m not totally at the point where I can go live by myself. Right now I still need I still need this. Until I can afford something that is realistic. And you have to be realistic. You gotta think about things a hundred and fifty times more than you would regularly think about things. BIll Gasiamis (21:34)So it’s a cent. Jeff Manuel (21:47)I can still cook, but Right now I gotta concentrate on being me. BIll Gasiamis (21:51)And getting better. And getting back on your feet. Jeff Manuel (21:54)Exactly. BIll Gasiamis (21:54)So you can still cook, which is awesome. So you adapted to cooking with one arm? Jeff Manuel (21:59)yeah, no problem. As long as you you know what you can do, your limitations, you can do anything. BIll Gasiamis (22:04)What’s the hardest part about preparing food with one arm? Jeff Manuel (22:07)Well, you it’s pretty hard to make a salad with one arm ’cause you can’t hold the tomato or the cucumber with the other. That’s about it. That’s where you get the you can get these the plastic cutting boards that have spikes in So you just lay out your vegetables. And then you can use the one hand to cut it off. BIll Gasiamis (22:27)And is cooking encouraged to cook for yourself or is that just part of your occupational therapy? Jeff Manuel (22:34)at Connect you kinda you led up to being able to cook so the O T would give you a certain task and if you could achieve that task within a certain time limit you you would get X amount of dollars per week to go grocery shopping so you could cook for yourself. usually and every night I would cook a meal for myself. And then that graduated into becoming more self sufficient for myself so I could go in assisted living. So they found a place on the west side in assisted living and I lived there for a year and two years. BIll Gasiamis (22:55)And the Jeff Manuel (23:09)Like just threw you throws your curveball. BIll Gasiamis (23:11)Yeah, it sure does. Jeff Manuel (23:11)And up there, but but you know what? I kinda like it. Because you get to meet people, you have discussions. When you when you’re dying for communication You can talk to anybody. BIll Gasiamis (23:22)Yeah. Your facility there, there’s is there a lot of downtime? Do you guys get to intermingle and connect with each other and share spaces together? Jeff Manuel (23:34)Yeah. We can do that. Until we up in the morning and that we go to bed tonight. BIll Gasiamis (23:40)Yeah. So it sounds like it’s the great kind of a great place for you, like a a like a space between being independent again to kind of help you get through all the things you need to get through before you qu kind of was it like graduate to independence, I suppose. Is that like i is w is that how you would describe it? Pain Management and Coping Strategies Jeff Manuel (24:01)That’s that’s pretty good. I think to me now mentally the better I can become, the better my whole body will become. BIll Gasiamis (24:08)Hmm. What would be the hardest part of this stroke journey for you that that you kind of would be able to recall from all of this journey, the thing that was the hardest for you to deal with or overcome or or be challenged by? Jeff Manuel (24:24)Still still deal with the post stroke pain. It’s the hardest. BIll Gasiamis (24:30)The fatigue. Jeff Manuel (24:31)The the constant pain. BIll Gasiamis (24:33)the pain. Yep. Is that on your left side? Jeff Manuel (24:35)And arm, leg and shoulder, yeah, all on the left side. BIll Gasiamis (24:39)Do they medicate you for that? Do they try and give you some kind of pain relief? Jeff Manuel (24:43)No, I found my own. More medicine. BIll Gasiamis (24:45)Understood. And is that manageable then now the pain? Does it kind of help ease the pain? Jeff Manuel (24:50)Yes, it does. BIll Gasiamis (24:51)Okay. Jeff Manuel (24:52)It eases it away for me and and helps me not think about it. BIll Gasiamis (24:57)Uhhuh. Understood. So is the smoking related to medic medicinal marijuana, perhaps? Jeff Manuel (25:04)No, I ’cause I don’t smoke it. I it’s take the gummies. BIll Gasiamis (25:07)okay. So it’s it’s medicinal marijuana then. Jeff Manuel (25:09)Yeah. Well it’s all legal in Canada, so BIll Gasiamis (25:11)The the Yeah, it’s legal almost everywhere now. And it sounds like it’s actually very supportive of a lot of people that gummies sin seem to be a good alternative to you know, like the the Yeah. Or and also for some people it seems to be a better solution than the pharmaceutical painkillers. Jeff Manuel (25:25)Smoking it. Yeah, these are I I g I s had to stop taking my pharmaceutical pills altogether. BIll Gasiamis (25:40)Why were they causing Jeff Manuel (25:41)After af after four years I should know what’s happening to my body. I didn’t feel no but it no better after four years of taking the drugs. So I decided no more drugs. I’ll just have a gummy, figure out how I feel. BIll Gasiamis (25:53)Yeah. Jeff Manuel (25:57)Yes, this is working. I like it. BIll Gasiamis (25:59)How often do you have to take it? Jeff Manuel (26:01)Mm. Wait, four four times a day. BIll Gasiamis (26:03)Okay. So you notice when it’s starting to wear off? Jeff Manuel (26:06)Yeah, it’s only when it comes to extremes that it would take another BIll Gasiamis (26:09)And it helps you sleep, I imagine. Jeff Manuel (26:10)It helps the whole body. From your digestion and it has helped me. BIll Gasiamis (26:14)Yeah. Jeff Manuel (26:14)And actually sleep also. Sleeping eight, nine hours a day. BIll Gasiamis (26:17)Wow, that’s great, man. Do you have a lot of contact with your medical team, the people who helped you through the early phases? Do you have regular follow ups or anything like that to check in with them? Future Aspirations and Independence Jeff Manuel (26:28)No, sir. I haven’t once. BIll Gasiamis (26:30)Does does the facility there have medical professionals that you can access? Jeff Manuel (26:33)Yes. Does the doctor assigned to me? That comes every supposed to come up every three or four weeks. BIll Gasiamis (26:41)So what’s one of the things that you hope to do after you graduate from being in assisted care to being in independent living? Jeff Manuel (26:52)It’d probably have to be assist lived against. BIll Gasiamis (26:54)So again. Jeff Manuel (26:55)Assisted living. BIll Gasiamis (26:56)Yeah. My question was when you do kind of graduate from being in the assisted living to being independent in your own place again, what’s something that you’re kind of looking forward to be able to do? Jeff Manuel (27:10)The independence BIll Gasiamis (27:11)Can you have guests come and visit you at the facility that you’re at and hang out with you for the day? Jeff Manuel (27:18)Yeah. And if I want, I can transfer in the vehicle and we can go somewhere else. BIll Gasiamis (27:23)Understood. So Jeff, somehow you came across my podcast. What was it that made you do the search and find it? Jeff Manuel (27:29)Well, as soon as I was when I was in the hospital I started searching up stroke and disability and everything started popping up on my YouTube page and then I seen podcast recovery after stroke, so I started watching it and within the last year seen so many other people going through what you you’re going through. It inspired me. It really did help me. BIll Gasiamis (27:59)And then you thought it was time to tell your story. Jeff Manuel (28:00)Yes. BIll Gasiamis (28:01)Yeah. Good move. I really appreciate you reaching out, letting me know what was happening to you, what you were going through, and also joining me on the podcast. Thank you so much for your time. Finding Community and Sharing Stories Jeff Manuel (28:13)Thank you, Bill. Bill Gasiamis (28:14)Well, thanks so much to Jeff for coming on the show and being so open about what the last four years have actually looked like. The hospital stay, the rehab, the setbacks, and the mindset shifts that came with all of that. If there’s one thing to take from this conversation, it’s Jeff’s line. I’d like myself again because I know I’m a good person. That’s recovery in a sentence. Not just getting your body back, but finding your way back to yourself. If you’re feeling stuck in your own recovery the way Jeff once did, I offer one-on-one coaching for stroke survivors, structure, accountability, and support from someone who’s lived it. You can apply at recoveryafterstroke.com/momentum. If you’re a parent navigating your own recovery or you know someone who is, please share this episode with them. My book, The Unexpected Way That a Stroke Became the Best Thing That Happened. is now available at recoveryafterstroke.com/book. And if this show has helped you, you can support it at patreon.com/recoveryafterstroke. Thanks for listening. I’ll see you in the next episode. 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On Monday's Mark Levin Show, Senator Lindsey Graham, a loyal friend and loyal ally to democratic and peace-loving countries around the world, has passed away. He was a friend to Israel, Ukraine, Taiwan, and others. He was a counterbalance to naive Woke Reich isolationists who talk about American sovereignty but don't realize you have to fight for it. Graham had a lot in common in national security matters with Ronald Reagan. Not even a nation as powerful as the United States can go it alone, and Graham understood we have alliances for a reason. Marxists/Islamists like Hasan Piker and Woke Reich isolationists wasted no time attacking him, but he was popular in South Carolina and all over the world. He and his sound advice will be truly missed. Also, compare Graham's friendship with Israel to Rep Ro Khanna, who took it upon himself to visit Judea/Samaria, incorrectly called the "West Bank." Khanna didn't bother telling the IDF or police, but he did go with Palestinian activists and NY Times reporters with cameras for good measure. Khanna claims he was "kidnapped" by Israeli "settlers" -- another wrong term, how can you settle on your own indigenous land? -- detained by police and mistreated by the IDF. Video shows Khanna is a liar. Why did he do all this? One, to build support for himself among Jew-hating left wingers and also to defeat Benjamin Netanyahu in Israeli elections. Israel needs friends like Lindsey Graham. Then, we can criticize a document without criticizing the President, who is doing a wonderful job. Trump said he only agreed to the MOU as a "test." The MOU never made sense because this regime was never going to live up to it. Why go through all this for a test? As much as we want to believe a deal can be negotiated, you can't negotiate with a seventh-century ideology. If we don't take this regime out now, our children and grandchildren will still be dealing with them. Also, former Iranian President Mahmoud Ahmadinejad has been arrested reportedly over ties to Mossad. According to reports, Mossad wanted him to possibly lead a new Iranian regime. Another report says Israel has signed an agreement with the son of the Shah of Iran, Crown Prince Reza Pahlavi, recognizing him as leader of a new Iranian government. It's clear that Israel isn't waiting around to see if any MOU will take effect. Then, there are a lot of mosques in this country that preach anti-American hate, and many of them are celebrating Lindsey Graham's death. But these mosques have a lot of sympathy. A new survey shows almost half of American Muslims - 44% - support Hamas. Only 26% of American Muslims have a favorable view of Israel. Support for Israel is even dropping among younger Republicans. Is Israel losing the PR war among Americans? Finally, Abdul El-Sayed is the left-wing Marxist/Islamist running for the Senate from Michigan. He pushes Medicare for all from cradle to grave, yet his psychiatrist wife doesn't accept Medicare...or any other insurance. Her patients have to pay her out of their own pocket. Furthermore, while El-Sayed hasn't released his tax returns, we find out he and the wife are wealthier than when he first ran for statewide office, and he owns two rental properties worth almost a million dollars. The hypocrisy of the left has to be seen to be believed. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships with Cate Osborn
Ever feel like you're the “parent” in your relationship — managing everything while your partner just... coasts? You're not alone. And it's not just you being controlling. Host Cate Osborn talks with ADHD coach Kristen Carder (host of I Have ADHD, author of the upcoming You're Not in Trouble) about why ADHD relationships so easily slide into parent-child dynamics, and how to climb back out. They get into why resentment is the red flag to watch for, and Kristen's favorite mantra for “de-centering” an overfunctioning partner (“there is no sun — we're equals here”). Plus eldest daughter syndrome, and why chicken nuggets for dinner is sometimes the healthiest choice you'll make all day. Honest, funny, and genuinely useful if you've ever wondered whether you're parenting your partner instead of loving them. For more on this topic Listen: Sorry, I Missed This: When ADHD turns chores into conflict Watch: ADHD expert answers 8 top questions on romantic relationships For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at sorryimissedthis@understood.org. Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Boredom isn't just annoying for ADHD brains. It can feel unbearable, even painful. Dr. J breaks down the real science behind why: dopamine sensitivity, warped time perception, and an overactive default mode network. Learn why boredom fuels doomscrolling, impulsive spending, avoidance spirals, and relationship friction. Then get four practical strategies to work with your brain instead of against it, from micro-rewards to environmental design to building genuine boredom tolerance. For more on this topic Watch: ADHD and dating: Why the spark burns bright (then fades fast) Read: ADHD and boredom For a transcript and more resources, visit The ADHD Channel for Women on Understood.org. You can also email us at podcast@understood.org. Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
On this episode of the Jered Williams Show, Jered and Eddie dive deep into the financial mechanics of running a successful home service business, focusing specifically on gross margin, labor efficiency, and material management. They discuss the importance of understanding P&L statements long before reaching high revenue milestones and explain how a general manager should be incentivized to control costs above the gross margin line. The conversation covers practical strategies for reducing technician idle time, the necessity of accurate job estimating through multipliers, and how a simple, uncapped commission structure can naturally drive technicians to sell more materials and higher-value solutions. By the end of the episode, they emphasize that profitability is often a result of technician skill and relevant customer conversations rather than just competitive pricing or complex inventory tracking.
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What if the biggest thing holding your business back isn't your marketing — but how you value yourself?In this solo episode, I share one of the most personal lessons I've learned after seven years of building Meraki Media Management. From underpricing my services to constantly questioning my value, I open up about the mindset shifts that completely changed the way I approach business.I also dive into how AI is changing consumer behavior, why businesses need to adapt instead of resist, and why allowing customers to discover you organically is becoming more powerful than traditional sales tactics.Most importantly, I share how transitioning into a Fractional Chief Marketing Officer role helped me realize that charging for impact — not hours — transformed both my business and the results I create for clients.In this episode, we explore:– How AI is changing the customer journey– Why consumers want to research before they buy– The truth about pricing and self-worth– Recognizing when you've outgrown your ideal client– Escaping the burnout cycle– Building a business model that aligns with your strengthsIf you've ever questioned your pricing, your direction, or whether you're capable of stepping into your next level, this episode is for you.Connect with Caitlin:- Instagram: @meraki_media_management- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GetSocialwithMeraki- YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@meraki_media_management- TikTok: @meraki_media_management- Website: https://www.merakimediamanagement.com/If this episode resonated with you, share it with another entrepreneur who's ready to stop charging for hours and start owning the value they bring. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
This slang phrase is about knowing what you have to do for a task, and doing it perfectly. Hear examples and learn how to use it in this programme, with Georgie and Feifei.As always, find a free transcript here: ✔️ https://www.bbc.co.uk/learningenglish/english/features/the-english-we-speak_2026/ep-260706. For more great language tips and programmes visit bbclearningenglish.com We send a newsletter with our weekly highlights - subscribe here: ✔️ https://www.bbc.co.uk/learningenglish/newsletters
Greg McKeown has written two New York Times bestsellers: Essentialism, The Disciplined Pursuit of Less, voted by Goodreads as the number one leadership and success book to read in a lifetime, and Effortless, Make It Easier to Do What Matters Most. Together, they've sold more than three million copies and been published in over 40 languages. Greg is one of the most sought after public speakers in the world, having spoken to hundreds of organizations across more than 45 countries. His clients include Apple, Google, Microsoft, and Nike. Topics-What Essentialism really is-How coaches can apply essentialism-The hidden performance killer of confident misunderstanding -How to become a signals-Parenting, pressure, and radical gratitudeDownload my FREE Coaching Beyond the Scoreboard E-book www.djhillier.com/coach Download my FREE 60 minute Mindset Masterclass at www.djhillier.com/masterclassDownload my FREE top 40 book list written by Mindset Advantage guests: www.djhillier.com/40booksSubscribe to our NEW YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@MindsetAdvantagePurchase a copy of my book: https://a.co/d/bGok9UdFollow me on Instagram: @deejayhillierConnect with me on my website: www.djhillier.com
What if the clue to an ADHD diagnosis was making a different tiny mistake every night on stage? John Garden is a therapist and professional musician. He shares how years of strong emotional reactions, rage quitting, boredom with repetition, and feeling like a failure eventually led to an ADHD diagnosis. The conversation explores emotional regulation, inattention to detail, perfectionism, and the hidden ways ADHD can show up. It also highlights how ADHD realizations are often not a single lightning-bolt moment. More often, they come from years of experiences that slowly add up until everything starts to make sense. For more on this topic Listen: Adult ADHD, perfectionism, and soft productivity Read: ADHD and perfectionism Watch: ADHD and emotional dysregulation For a transcript and more resources, visit ADHD Aha! on Understood.org. You can also email us at adhdaha@understood.org. Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
老师问你 “Do you understand the assignment?”，意思是 “你明白布置给你的作业是什么吗？” 不过，如果有人对你说 “You really understood the assignment!”，意思就变成了夸你 “干得真漂亮！” 为什么同一句话，时态一变，意思就完全不同？听节目，跟主持人菲菲和 Georgie 一起学习流行语 “understood the assignment” 的意思和用法。
In this episode, Sathiya sits down with Sam Eaton for a candid conversation about suicide prevention, men's mental health, and the growing crisis of isolation. Together, they examine the alarming rise in suicide rates—particularly among men—and explore how depression, anxiety, unresolved trauma, and emotional suppression can gradually lead to suicidal ideation when left unaddressed. Drawing from personal experiences, they discuss the cultural pressures that discourage vulnerability and make it difficult for many men to seek help. Sathiya and Sam also examine the roles of faith, community, and meaningful relationships in recovery, while discussing how financial stress, social media, and modern culture contribute to declining mental health. Throughout the episode, they share practical guidance for recognizing warning signs, supporting loved ones in crisis, and cultivating emotional resilience. Whether you're facing your own mental health challenges or supporting someone who is, this conversation offers hope, practical wisdom, and a reminder that healing begins with connection. SATHIYA'S RESOURCES: Free Recovery Book (The Last Relapse) Join the brotherhood (DeepClean Inner Circle) Live Training To Quit Porn For Good SAM'S RESOURCES: Explore his website Discover his new book Timestamps: 00:00 Coping with Loss and Suicide Prevention 04:14 Impact of finances and breakup on mental health 06:51 Discussing personal challenges 10:13 Choosing Christmas for difficult news 14:59 Understanding suicide and its impact 16:19 Understanding Human Suffering Through Scripture 19:51 Stigmatization of Men's Emotions 24:44 Finding Joy in Small Moments 27:09 Finding joy amidst negativity 30:23 Youth mental health and social media 34:22 Balancing faith and mental health 39:17 Talking about community and struggles 40:50 Understanding Hidden Struggles 46:24 Importance of community support 47:14 Finding genuine support systems 51:16 Discussing suicide prevention conversations 55:49 Self care and support guide
Send us Fan Mail“Why can't you just move on?” sounds simple, but after an affair it can land like a second betrayal. I break down what I wish an unfaithful spouse truly understood about betrayal trauma and why the discovery date is often the start of the pain for the betrayed partner, not the finish line. If you're trying to repair a marriage after infidelity, co-parent through heartbreak, or simply make sense of what happened, these truths give language to what your nervous system has been screaming.We walk through 10 specific realities: how trickle truth creates multiple “D-days,” why many betrayed spouses slip into detective mode to feel safe, and why the lies and gaslighting can hurt more than the affair itself. I also explain the difference between wanting perfection and needing accountability and how defensiveness shuts down healing fast. Along the way, we talk about the brutal spiral of questioning everything your memories, your future, even your own judgment and why rebuilding self-trust is just as important as rebuilding trust in a partner.Then we get practical about triggers and the nervous system: why a song, a restaurant, or a phone notification can set off fight, flight, or freeze, and how triggers can be information instead of proof that you're “failing.” We close with the misunderstanding that keeps so many people stuck: healing, forgiveness, and acceptance are not approval. Healing is for you, and peace is worth fighting for. If this resonates, subscribe, share this with someone who needs the words, and leave a review so more people can find support.Please follow me on instagram and facebook @happilyevenaftercoach and if you want to see what coaching is all about I offer a free 30 min. clarity call via zoom. Email me: hello@lifecoachjen.com for any comments or questions. Thanks for listening, please like and review as well as share with your family and friends. My website is www.lifecoachjen.com take the Free Quiz to find out how- How healed you are?
Original Air Date: April 25, 1956Host: Andrew RhynesShow: Ranger BillPhone: (707) 98 OTRDW (6-8739) Stars:• Miron Canaday (Ranger Bill)• Stumpy Jenkins (Grey Wolf) Writers:• Joal Hanson• John Rowan Producer:• Jim Grant Music:• John McCombe For more great shows check out our site: https://www.otrwesterns.comExit music from: Roundup on the Prairie by Aaron Kenny https://bit.ly/3kTj0kK
Anthony O'Neal went from sleeping in his car and cutting a cheeseburger in half to make it last, to becoming a net worth millionaire who closed on the biggest home of his life. The difference was never income. It was one belief he had to break, and three shifts that changed everything.In this episode you will learn:- Why income does not fix poor money behavior (even 20% of households making over $150K live paycheck to paycheck)- Why you cannot build wealth while drowning in consumer debt- Why wealth is a behavior long before it shows up as a balance- The 5-phase Escape Plan that took Anthony from broke to freePlus the powerful story of a woman in our community who walked into her boss's office and resigned with $200,000 in the bank so she could care for her mother. That is what real freedom looks like.Anthony's brand new book, Stop Living Paycheck to Paycheck, releases August 25.Pre-order today and get over $275 in free bonuses, including early access to the first chapter, the 21-Day Money Challenge, the official launch team community, and an exclusive masterclass with Durell.Pre-order here: https://anthonyoneal.com/bookIf this helped you, like the video, hit subscribe, and share it with someone who needs to hear it.ABOUT ANTHONY ONEAL:Anthony O'Neal is a nationally bestselling author, speaker, and host of The Table with Anthony O'Neal. He holds a Bachelor of Science in Finance & Banking and is a professor of Consumer Economics at Virginia Union University. Since 2014, he's helped millions of people get out of debt, build wealth, and break generational poverty. His mission is to help you maximize your income, eliminate debt, and create a life of freedom and legacy.
The Poco a Poco Podcast with the Franciscan Friars of the Renewal
Episode 301 - Seen, Known, Understood by God Have you ever tried to explain what you're carrying and felt like nobody really got it? In this episode, the friars talk about the deep human desire to be seen, known, and understood, and the pain that comes when we feel missed, dismissed, or alone in our experience. Whether it's suffering, leadership, race, vocation, family life, or the hidden weight of something hard to explain, being misunderstood can leave us feeling isolated. The friars reflect on what it means to listen with compassion, validate someone's experience, and resist the urge to fix, explain, or minimize what we don't fully understand. At the same time, they invite us to bring the ache of being misunderstood back to the Father, the One who sees in secret, knows the heart, and never misses what we carry. Join us as we learn to receive others more deeply and rest in the God who sees, knows, and understands us completely. The Poco a Poco podcast happens because of many generous donors, including recurring monthly donations of any amount. Thinking about helping out? You can give at https://spiritjuice.org/supportpoco. Thank you
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