How to Date

What are the most important but underrated characteristics we should be looking for in a partner? And what qualities do we place too much emphasis on, that don't actually predict relationship satisfaction? How can we use the apps in a more productive way? We explore these questions and more with Logan Ury. Logan is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach and the author of How To Not Die Alone. Previously, Logan was the Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge and she also ran Google's behavioural science team—the Irrational Lab.Find our more at:https://www.loganury.com/Get Logan's book: https://www.loganury.com/bookFollow Logan on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loganury/?hl=enFollow Logan on Twitter: https://twitter.com/loganuryReach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Amantha and Monique discuss the dating mindset that will help you have the most success during the first few dates with someone.Reach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

What sort of people benefit most from a matchmaking agency? What are the most important qualities we should be looking for in a mate? How can we meet people outside of the apps? We explore these questions and more with Trudy Gilbert. Trudy is the Founder of Elite Introductions, where she has been matchmaking Australians for over 15 years. She is known within the media as Australia's Millionaire Matchmaker and is the author of 49 Secrets of an Elite Matchmaker.Find our more at:https://www.eliteintroductions.com.au/Trudy Gilbert on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/trudy.gilbert.18Elite Introductions on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/eliteintroductionsinternationalTrudy Gilbert on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elite_introductions_/?hl=enReach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Amantha and Monique discuss what you need to STOP looking for in your search for a mate.Reach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

How can we avoid that "I don't know what to wear" feeling before a first date? What are wardrobe hacks we can use to look and feel great? How can we spend "smarter" when we go shopping for clothes? What are the best ways to spruce up our look without spending lots of money? We explore these questions and more with Melissa Lewis. Melissa is a stylist and the Founder and CEO of The Ascension Group, where she helps women in the corporate world present themselves more confidently and authentically.Get in touch with Melissa Lewis.Reach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Amantha and Monique discuss the most important dating theory you need to know about - Attachment Theory - and how to work out your attachment style.Reach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

What are the most common dating scams that you need to watch out for? How can we get better at spotting fake profiles? What are the psychological principles that scammers take advantage of? We explore these questions and more with Aunshul Rege. Aunshel is an Associate Professor with the Department of Criminal Justice at Temple University, USA. She has spent the last ten years researching cybersecurity and cyberattacks.Reach out to Aunshel at:rege@temple.eduReach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Today's episode is our tip of the week! Amantha and Monique discuss a practical strategy on how to get over something that affects every online dater - dating fatigue.Reach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

What percentage of men and women are having cosmetic procedures done? What are the best cosmetic procedures to get if you are on a budget? What are the biggest impact, minimally invasive cosmetic procedures? We explore these questions and more with Dr Tass. Dr Tass is one of Australia’s leading Cosmetic Doctors with over 15 years experience in the field of facial cosmetic medicine.Get in touch with Dr Tass:1300DRTASSdrtass.com.audrtass@drtass.com.auReach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Today’s episode is our tip of the week! Amantha and Monique discuss why you need to stop dating lots of people at the same time.Reach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

How can you make better decisions about who to go on second dates with? Why is the best catch not the best looking person in the room? Why is it critical to debrief with a friend after your dates? And what are the key questions to ask in a post-date debrief with your friends? We explore these questions and more with Julie Ferman. Julie is the Founder and CEO of LA’s most well-respected, professional matchmaking agency, where she has been providing personal introductions and dating coaching services since 2001. She also hosts the Cupid's Coach podcast.Get in touch at:julieferman.comReach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Today’s episode is our tip of the week! Amantha and Monique discuss a super effective strategy to dramatically increase the number of people writing back to you on the apps.Reach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

How common are open relationships? What do you need to consider if you are thinking about trying an open relationship? How does sexual health work when you are in a non-monogamous relationship? How do we navigate feelings of jealousy? We explore these questions and more with Dr Heath Schechinger. Heath is the Co-Chair of the American Psychological Association's Committee on Consensual Non-monogamy, and Co-Founder of the Polyamory Legal Advocacy Coalition. He is also a licensed Behavioural Health Psychologist at the University of California, Berkeley.Reach out at:heathschechinger.comBooksMating in CaptivityOpening UpPolysecureReach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Should we trust our gut when deciding whether to go on a date with someone? What can science tell us about whether opposites attract or do birds of a feather flock together when it comes to dating? What colour should we wear on our dates to maximise our attractiveness? What role does body language play in judging whether someone likes us? We explore these questions and more with Dr Simon Moss who is the Dean of Graduate Studies, as well as an Associate Professor in psychology, at Charles Darwin University. He is a registered psychologist and has published approximately 10 books and 90 papers.Connect with Simon at simon.moss@cdu.edu.auReach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/howtodatepodcast/Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/howtodatepodcast See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Today’s episode is our tip of the week! Amantha and Monique discuss a simple strategy to use if you need to have a difficult conversation with the person you are dating.Reach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/howtodatepodcast/Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/howtodatepodcast See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

When is it ok to introduce our new partner to our kids? How do we know if our kids are ready to accept a new partner into our lives? When is it okay to have sleepovers with our new partner? We explore these questions and more with Child Psychologist Michael Carr-Gregg. Michael is one of Australia's highest profile psychologists and if you live in Australia, you have probably seen Michael on your TV or heard him quoted in the media on the topic of mental health and children. He works in private practice at in Melbourne and consults to government, schools, and the private sector about mental health and the wellbeing on children. Connect with Michael at https://michaelcarrgregg.com/Reach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/howtodatepodcast/Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/howtodatepodcast See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Today’s episode is our tip of the week! Amantha and Monique discuss a simple way to uncover whether someone's profile photos are fake.Check out:Google's reverse image search: https://www.google.com/imghp?hl=en Bing's reverse image search: https://www.bing.com/visualsearch?FORM=IDPSBCTineye: https://tineye.com/Reach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/howtodatepodcast/Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/howtodatepodcast See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

How long should we wait to have sex with someone we are dating? How do you clearly voice what your boundaries are in relation to sex? Is it really such a bad thing to have sex on the first date? How can we make safe sex sexy? We explore these questions and more with Georgia Grace. As a Certified Australian Sex Coach, Georgia applies a client-centred approach in supporting individuals, couples and groups to mindfully, powerfully and radically become more aware of their bodies, sex and sexuality. Georgia works with clients at her practice in Sydney and globally via telehealth and also runs regular large scale workshops, appears on panels, and presents on a range of topics Australia wide. As a trained Journalist, she writes a column for GQ amongst other titles and has published a book on masturbation, Pleasure Journal. Connect with Georgia via her website (https://www.georgiagraced.com/) and on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/gspot._).Reach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/howtodatepodcast/Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/howtodatepodcast See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Today’s episode is our tip of the week! Amantha and Monique discuss a simple way to decide who pays on your date.Reach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

What is the most important quality we should be looking for in a partner? Do immediate sparks predict relationship success? What can we learn about someone based on why their previous relationships broke down? How can we practice conscious dating? We explore these questions and more with Dr. Alexandra Solomon who is a clinical assistant professor at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. She is the author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (New Harbinger, 2020) and Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017). She also writes a column for Psychology Today and is frequently asked to talk about love, sex, and marriage with media outlets including The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American. Connect with Alexandra at DrAlexandraSolomon.com and on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/?hl=en) and Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/dralexandrasolomon). Grab a copy of Alexandra’s books here (http://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/book/) and check out the Mine’d app (https://apps.apple.com/us/app/mine-d-self-help-motivation/id1493129501).Reach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/howtodatepodcast/Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/howtodatepodcast See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Today’s episode is our tip of the week! Amantha and Monique discuss a counter-intuitive way to fast-track getting to know someone.Reach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

What are the best ways to avoid finding yourself on a bad date? How can we quickly extricate ourselves from bad dates? And what screening questions can we ask to get more good dates? We explore these questions and more with Alita Brydon, who is a writer and dating expert and the creator of Bad Dates of Melbourne and Bad Dates of Australia. These pages have been called a “national phenomenon” by the media with a “cult” following of over 180,000.Find out more about Alita Brydon (https://alitabrydon.com/), follow her on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/alitabrydonn/?hl=en) and join Bad Dates of Melbourne (https://www.facebook.com/baddatesofmelbourne/) and Bad Dates of Australia (https://www.facebook.com/baddatesofaustralia/).Reach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/howtodatepodcast/Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/howtodatepodcast See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Today’s episode is our tip of the week! Amantha and Monique discuss a strategy to work out if someone's profile photos are actually recent.Reach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

How does a professional sex worker approach dating differently to the rest of us? How can we fast-track rapport building on dates? How can you tell if a guy (or girl) is only interested in sex? We explore these questions and more with Georgie Wolf, a professional escort and writer on all things sex and dating.Find out more about Georgie Wolf and get her book The Art of the Hook Up here. INCLUDE FACEBOOK AND INSTA - ART OFTHE HOOKUPReach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Today’s episode is our tip of the week! Amantha and Monique discuss some tricky questions you can ask to gain insight into your date.Reach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Why is it dangerous to daydream about the person we are dating? What is the optimal length for a first date? At what point is it okay to ask for exclusivity? We explore these questions and more with one of New York's leading relationship and dating psychologists Dr Chloe Carmichael. Dr Chloe is also the author of "The 10 Commandments of Dating". Find out more about Dr Chloe and download her ebook here.Reach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fm See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Today’s episode is our tip of the week! Amantha and Monique discuss a quirky game to play on your dates.Reach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

What are the ideal photos to have on your online dating profile and what types of photos should you absolutely avoid? How has COVID changed people’s behaviour on the dating apps? What day of the week are the majority of people using the apps? We explore these questions and more with Lucille McCart who heads up communication for Bumble in Australia, New Zealand and Asia.Reach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Can we predict the long-term potential of a mate from our very first date? How much does our attraction to someone change over time? And what can science tell us about improving our chances of finding love online? We explore these questions with Psychology Professor Paul Eastwick from the University of California, Davis, who runs the Attraction and Relationships Research Laboratory. Paul has spent his career researching dating and relationships.Find out more about Professor Paul Eastwick.Reach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

What do successful online daters do differently to the rest of us? Are they looking for certain qualities? Making better decisions? Giving people more (or less) information about themselves? We explore these questions with Dr Jelena Kecmanovic (AKA "Dr K"). Dr K is a clinical psychologist based in Washington DC with over 25 years experience helping clients navigate the world of dating and relationships. She is an adjunct professor at Georgetown University in the Psychology Department and writes for the Washington Post, Psychology Today, and the Chicago Tribune.Find out more about Jelena Kecmanovic.Reach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fm See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

How to Date is a show about to master the messy, complex, and downright bizarre world of dating, when you really didn't think you'd be back here again. Your hosts Dr Amantha Imber and Monique Robin speak to psychologists, dating coaches, professors, data crunchers at Bumble, and even sex workers to learn how to get better at dating.You’ll learn about how to improve your chances of finding love online, how to date during a pandemic, and the latest science on how to attract a great mate. If you’re keen to improve your odds on the dating front and get some practical advice on how to get better at it, subscribe to How To Date wherever you listen to your podcasts. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.