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Send us Fan MailJoin Jami and Greg DeBernard on FitBody Lifestyle as they sit down with Nikki and Josef Lagorio to explore the transformative power of therapy in strengthening communication within relationships. This episode offers an honest look at their personal experiences, providing invaluable insights into navigating the search for a therapist, both individually and as a couple. Discover practical strategies for identifying a good therapeutic match, understanding the importance of clinical expertise, and overcoming the initial hesitations often associated with seeking mental health support. Learn why therapy is a proactive step towards a healthier, more empathetic partnership.What You'll Learn:How to effectively use resources like Psychology Today to find a therapist.The importance of a therapist's communication style and background.Why it's okay to try multiple therapists to find the right fit for individual and couples therapy.Strategies for initiating and engaging in couples therapy, even when one partner is hesitant.The benefits of therapy for personal growth, empathy, and relationship resilience.How to overcome the stigma associated with seeking mental health support.Ready to transform your relationships and communication? Tune in for essential advice on finding the right therapeutic support. Empower yourself to build a stronger, more connected life.Nikki Lagorio's philosophy is rooted in the belief that movement is medicine and that true empowerment begins with the body. Her background is remarkably diverse, reflecting her lifelong commitment to physical excellence. Nikki excelled in collegiate club soccer, qualified for state championships in the 800m in track and field, competed as a CrossFit athlete, and became a 53kg USA Olympic Weightlifter, all before earning her IFBB Pro Bikini status. Her purpose was further shaped during nearly a decade in education as a high school teacher and coach, where witnessing her students achieve their goals sparked a deep passion for cultivating self-belief and growth. Today, Nikki channels her educational and athletic expertise into coaching individuals to build a powerful, enduring relationship with themselves through movement and mindful living. She specializes in integrating high-performance athletics with behavioral health, guiding others to develop mental fortitude and unlock their innate capabilities. Nikki is an ideal guest to explore how elite training principles translate into real-world leadership and why self-connection is the foundation of lasting success.http://www.fitbodyfusion.comhttps://www.instagram.com/nikkiagorio_ifbbpro/Nikki Lagorio's philosophy is rooted in the belief that movement is medicine and that true empowerment begins with the body. Her background is remarkably diverse, reflecting her lifelong commitment to physical excellence. Nikki excelled in collegiate club soccer, qualified for state championships in the 800m in track and field, competed as a CrossFit athlete, and became a 53kg USA Olympic Weightlifter, all before earning her IFBB Pro Bikini status. Her purpose was further shaped during nearly a decade in education as a high school teacher and coach, where witnessing her students achieve their goals sparked a deep passion for cultivating self-belief and growth. Today, Nikki channels her educational and athletic expertise into coaching individuals to build a powerful, enduring relationship with themselves through movement and mindful living. She specializes in integrating high-performance athletics with behavioral health, guiding others to develop mental fortitude and unlock their innate capabilities. Nikki is an ideal guest to explore how elite training principles translate into real-world leadership and why self-connection is the foundation of lasting success.http://www.fitbodyfusion.comhttps://www.instagram.com/nikkiagorio_ifbbpro/Welcome to FitBody Lifestyle the podcast hosted by Jami and Greg DeBernard! Join us as we explore the multifaceted world of fitness, health, business, relationships, and the art of leading a well-rounded life. Whether you're pumping iron at the gym, grinding in your entrepreneurial endeavors, or simply striving for balance in your daily routine, you've landed in the right spot.In each episode, we'll embark on enlightening discussions, provide you with actionable tips, and share inspiring stories that touch on every aspect of your journey towards a healthier, more fulfilling life. We'll cover everything from fitness tips to expert guidance on nutrition,  and effective weight loss strategies. Dive deep with us into topics like strength training for both body and mind, fostering cardiovascular health, and discovering the harmony between your daily lifestyle and your personal well-being. We're here to help you unlock your full potential, empowering you to transform your mind, body, and overall life. Connect With Us:https://www.fitbodylifestylepodcast.com/https://www.fitbodyfusion.com/https://www.instagram.com/jamidebernard/https://www.instagram.com/fbf_papa_bear/https:/...

Episode 517: How a Bloody Trauma Case Cured My Lifelong Blood Phobia Hosts: Kevin Cornelius, LMFT Dr. David Burns Episode Summary Can your greatest fear become one of your greatest strengths? In this deeply personal episode, Dr. David Burns shares the remarkable true story of how a severe lifelong blood phobia nearly ended his medical career—and how one unforgettable day in the emergency room transformed that fear forever. David recounts his unconventional path to becoming a psychiatrist, including almost dropping out of medical school, taking years away from medicine, living without money while trying to create a life centered around helping others, and eventually finding his way back to psychiatry through a residency at Highland Hospital in Oakland. On his very first day in the emergency department, David was confronted with what seemed like his worst nightmare: a critically injured bombing victim covered in blood. Unable to avoid the situation, he was asked to help clean gunpowder from the patient's wounds. What began as overwhelming terror became an unexpected turning point that permanently erased his blood phobia—and ultimately shaped his career treating anxiety disorders. Along the way, David and Kevin explore why exposure is one of the most powerful treatments for anxiety, why motivation is essential for lasting change, and why courage doesn't require the absence of fear. This inspiring conversation is a reminder that the experiences we most want to avoid can sometimes become the doorway to profound growth. In This Episode Why David never intended to become a physician—and almost quit medical school. The childhood experiences that contributed to his lifelong blood phobia. How avoiding feared situations keeps anxiety alive. The extraordinary trauma case that unexpectedly became David's own exposure therapy. The surprising moment his fear disappeared completely. David's concept of the "200% cure"—when something you once feared becomes something you genuinely enjoy. Why therapists sometimes avoid using exposure therapy, even though it is one of the most effective anxiety treatments. Why motivation often determines whether people are able to face their fears. The role of acceptance and willingness during exposure. A moving reunion with Highland Hospital decades later through the surgeon who recently performed David's successful colon surgery. Key Takeaways Exposure works because avoidance keeps fear alive. The natural impulse is to escape what frightens us. Unfortunately, every act of avoidance teaches the brain that the feared situation is dangerous. When we stay in the feared situation long enough, anxiety eventually peaks and then naturally declines. The feared catastrophe rarely occurs, and our confidence grows. Courage means acting while you're afraid. Kevin highlights an important distinction: You don't have to eliminate fear before taking action. Real courage is moving forward even while your anxiety feels overwhelming. David's anxiety remained at a 100 out of 100 for nearly fifteen minutes before it suddenly dissolved. Anxiety cannot remain at its peak forever. One of the biggest misconceptions about anxiety is the belief that once it starts, it will continue indefinitely. In reality, anxiety naturally rises and falls. If we stop escaping and allow ourselves to experience it, it eventually loses its power. Motivation makes exposure possible. For years David simply avoided blood. Everything changed because he had something more important than avoiding fear: he wanted to become a psychiatrist. Having a compelling reason to face anxiety often makes difficult exposure exercises possible. Sometimes fear transforms into enthusiasm. David describes what he calls the "200% cure." A 100% cure means you're no longer afraid. A 200% cure means you actually enjoy doing the very thing you once feared. Many people who overcome fears discover new passions that once seemed impossible. Therapists can become afraid of their patients' anxiety. Kevin and David discuss an important obstacle in treatment: therapists themselves sometimes avoid exposure because they're afraid it will overwhelm the client. Ironically, protecting people from anxiety often prolongs suffering. Learning that anxiety is uncomfortable—but not dangerous—is one of the most healing discoveries patients can make. Exposure requires willingness, not comfort. The goal is never to feel relaxed before confronting a fear. The goal is to become willing to experience anxiety while pursuing what matters. Memorable Quotes "When you confront the thing you're afraid of, you discover that the monster has no teeth." "You don't have to be a hero. You just have to make the decision to do it." "The 100% cure is you're no longer afraid. The 200% cure is that you love doing the thing you were once afraid of." "The real harm is believing that anxiety itself is dangerous." Resources Mentioned Dr. David Burns' accompanying Psychology Today article, "How a Bloody Trauma Case Cured My Lifelong Blood Phobia." TEAM-CBT and exposure techniques for treating anxiety disorders. If You Enjoyed This Episode If this conversation resonated with you, please subscribe to The Feeling Good Podcast, leave a rating or review, and share this episode with someone who struggles with anxiety or avoidance. Your support helps more people discover practical, evidence-based tools for overcoming fear and building happier lives. Listener Survey We'd love to hear from you!Your feedback helps shape future episodes and allows us to create content that is as helpful and meaningful as possible. Please use this link to take the feedback survey and share your thoughts with us about this episode.Your voice matters—and as David points out in this episode, sometimes the most important conversations begin when we're willing to express what we're really thinking and feeling. Thank you for listening to The Feeling Good Podcast! Contact Information Kevin Cornelius, LMFT is a Level 5 Certified Master TEAM-CBT Therapist and Trainer and the Clinical Director of Feeling Good Institute--Silicon Valley. He specializes in the treatment of trauma, anxiety, depression, relationship problems and insomnia. You can reach Kevin at kevin@feelinggoodinstitute.com and visit his website at www.tools4change.me. You can reach Dr. Burns at david@feelinggood.com. Feeling down in these turbulent times? Take a ride on our Feeling Great app. Feeling Great feels wonderful! You owe it to yourself to feel GREAT! Give the Greatest Gifts of ALL--Love and Happiness!

In this episode, hosts Corey Janoff and Rachelle Vanderzanden walk through the hidden expenses that can derail your financial plan. While meticulous budgeting is not necessary for most high-income individuals, it can be helpful to “expect the unexpected”. Hidden or Unexpected Expenses Can Include: Large inflation-related adjustments to things like property taxes and insurance. Deferred home maintenance that hits all at once. Sometimes it's challenging to be prepared for large costs that only hit once a decade. Supporting children as they get older. Sometimes this is by choice, but sometimes it feels necessary! Could range from continued education, helping with grandkids, to paying for the entire family to go on vacation. Divorce… Not something you plan for, but certainly has a huge financial impact for all parties. Lifestyle creep in early retirement. Increased healthcare expenses with age. Especially as you plan for retirement, make sure to build some buffer into your expected income needs!  If you think you may need $15,000 per month for regular expenses, be prepared to need more periodically for the big things that only happen occasionally.  Listen to the full episode to hear more. For more financial planning tips from Corey and Rachelle, find them on social media! LinkedIn: @CoreyJanoff; Instagram: @CoreyJanoff and @VanderzandenRachelle; and Twitter: @CoreyJanoffCFP Discussions in this show should not be construed as specific recommendations or investment advice. Always consult with your investment professional before making important investment decisions. Securities and advisory services offered through LPL Financial, a registered investment advisor, Member FINRA/SIPC.  Finity Group, LLC is a separate entity from LPL Financial.  Finity Group and LPL Financial do not provide legal advice or tax services.  Please consult your legal advisor or tax advisor regarding your specific situation. This material is for general information and educational purposes only and is not intended to provide specific advice or recommendations for any individual. Finity Group and LPL Financial do not provide legal advice or tax services. Please consult your legal advisor or tax advisor regarding your specific situation.   Citations: Employee Benefits Security Administration.  “Top 10 Ways to Prepare for Retirement.” U.S. Department of Labor.  https://www.dol.gov/agencies/ebsa/about-ebsa/our-activities/resource-center/publications/top-10-ways-to-prepare-for-retirement   Hughes, Carol R., Ph.D. LMFT, and Bruce R. Fredenburg, M.S., LMFT.  “Why the Divorce Rate for Older Couples Continues to Rise.”  Psychology Today. January 21, 2026.  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/home-will-never-be-the-same-again/202108/why-the-divorce-rate-for-older-couples-continues-to   Ochieng, Nancy, Juliette Cubanski, Tricia Neuman, and Anthony Damico.  “Health Costs Consume a Large Portion of Income for Millions of People with Medicare.” KFF.  August 21, 2025. https://www.kff.org/medicare/health-costs-consume-a-large-portion-of-income-for-millions-of-people-with-medicare/   Palasciano, Adam.  “How Much to Budget for Home Maintenance”.  Investopedia.  May 22, 2025.  https://www.investopedia.com/home-maintenance-budget-8608913   Strange, William.  “How much should high earners save for retirement each year?”  Milliman.  November 13, 2025.  https://www.milliman.com/en/insight/how-much-should-high-earners-save-retirement

In this episode Paul Krauss MA LPC explores Mindfulness Based Somatic Emotional Processing  (MBSEP)with the creators Robert Weisz, PhD, and Daniel Blackwood, MA. Together they explore why feeling our emotions in the body is central to psychological health, trauma recovery, and everyday well being. The discussion continues with how emotions are not just "thoughts about feelings" but lived, somatic experiences that shape our nervous systems and sense of self. They discuss why resisting painful emotions often increases suffering, how compassionate, mindful attention can transform states like anxiety, anger, and grief, and why learning to be present with emotional sensations in the body opens a path toward integration, resilience, and more authentic living. The conversation centers on MBSEP as a simple, natural protocol that combines mindfulness and somatic perception to regulate emotions and process unprocessed traumas stored in the body. Weisz and Blackwood describe practical steps-such as breathwork, resourcing, felt-sense awareness, and remaining compassionately present with bodily sensations-that foster neuroplasticity and help create new, healing neural linkages in the brain and nervous system. They also explore how MBSEP can be integrated with other therapeutic modalities, why making room for the "struggle factor" is essential, and how this approach reveals hidden truths within our feelings so that emotions move from overwhelming states into experiences we can process, understand, and use for growth. Robert Weisz, PhD, developer of MBSEP, is a retired clinical psychologist with more than 50 years of experience whose work has been shaped by decades of learning and healing with shamans in Peru, Ecuador, and Brazil; he lives near Santa Fe, New Mexico. Daniel Blackwood, MA, has practiced MBSEP for over 10 years, is founder and director of The Evolution Group, Inc., a behavioral health organization based in Albuquerque, New Mexico, and is also the author of Integrity Recovery. Buy the book here.  Clinicians and interested learners can find training workshops and events including in-person and online on the MBSEP.com site. Get involved with the National Violence Prevention Hotline: 501(c)(3) Donate Share with your network Write your congressperson Sign our Petition Preview an Online Video Course for the Parents of Young Adults (Parenting Issues) Unique and low cost learning opportunities through Shion Consulting Paul Krauss MA LPC is a Co-founder of Health for Life Counseling Grand Rapids, home of The Trauma-Informed Counseling Center of Grand Rapids. Paul is also a Private Practice Psychotherapist, an Approved EMDRIA Consultant , host of the Intentional Clinician podcast, Behavioral Health Consultant, Clinical Trainer, Counseling Supervisor, and Meditation Teacher. Paul is now offering consulting for a few individuals and organizations. Paul is the creator of the National Violence Prevention Hotline as well as the Intentional Clinician Training Program for Counselors. Paul has been quoted in the Washington Post, NBC News, Wired Magazine, Psychology Today, and  Counseling Today. Questions? Call the office at 616-200-4433.  If you are looking for EMDRIA consulting groups, Paul Krauss MA LPC is now hosting a weekly online group.  For details, click here. For general behavioral and mental health consulting for you or your organization. Follow Health for Life Counseling- Grand Rapids: Instagram   |   Facebook     |     Youtube Original Music: ”Alright” from the album Mystic by PAWL (Spotify) “Disco Dino " from Polymood  by L'Eclair (Spotify)  

Dawn Stensland opens the show alongside the Surge Philly crew, Frank Scales and Ian McGinnis, as they prepare for their upcoming YouTube launch. We tackle the growing crisis affecting young men across America, breaking down a recent Psychology Today survey detailing the loss of institutional supports and the damaging narrative surrounding "toxic masculinity." The team reflects on their upbringing in the Philadelphia Catholic school system, discussing how modern culture, federal education standards, and media narratives have attempted to dismantle traditional masculine roles while offering advice on reclaiming faith, family, and strong values. We dive into day three of jury deliberations in the high-profile Lindsey Clancy murder trial, examining the shocking public reaction surrounding the Massachusetts mother who strangled her three children. Dawn, Frank, and Ian confront the disturbing trend of activists and social media commenters defending Clancy under the guise of maternal health, calling out the double standard, toxic femininity, and the collapse of community support structures that once protected struggling mothers. Dawn shifts to national news with breaking developments from Washington, where Transportation Secretary Sean Duffy and Senator Markwayne Mullin announced an emergency executive shutdown targeting over 270 fraudulent commercial truck driving schools across the nation. We break down the massive safety hazards caused by uncertified instructors operating out of school buses, systemic testing fraud, and the failure to enforce mandatory English proficiency standards on American highways.

We live in the loudest era in human history. From the moment we wake up to the moment we go to sleep, our minds are bombarded with external noise, opinions, and endless distractions. But beneath all that chaos, there is a quiet, inner voice trying to direct us toward the 'good life'—our true, authentic path. In this episode, we are going to explore how the great mystics of the ages discovered profound wisdom not by seeking answers in the loud world, but by cultivating deep stillness, and how we can learn to finally hear that still, small voice within ourselves. New Episode of the Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D., Newport Beach Psychologist: https://www.DoctorPuff.com

The scenes coming out of Nepal of the glacier collapse and flash flood of mud, ice, and water are horrifying. The amount of devastation is almost hard to fathom, and the landscape is changed forever. Mainstream media outlets are blaming the disaster on climate change, and pointing to human activity warming the globe as the top cause. We will expose the truth.On Episode 214 of The Climate Realism Show the Heartland Institute's Sterling Burnett, Jim Lakely, and special guests Craig Rucker of CFACT and Marlo Lewis will also cover some other Crazy Climate News of the Week. Psychology Today says global warming causes child abuse. The White House is ditching climate doom. And are even the green weenies of Europe giving up climate as a political issue?Join us Friday at 1 p.m. ET on YouTube, Rumble, X, and Facebook. Participate in the show by leaving your comments and questions in the chat.Visit our sponsor, Advisor Metals: https://climaterealismshow.com/metals In The Tank broadcasts LIVE every Thursday at 12pm CT on on The Heartland Institute YouTube channel. Tune in to have your comments addressed live by the In The Tank Crew. Be sure to subscribe and never miss an episode. See you there!Climate Change Roundtable is LIVE every Friday at 12pm CT on The Heartland Institute YouTube channel. Have a topic you want addressed? Join the live show and leave a comment for our panelists and we'll cover it during the live show!

The scenes coming out of Nepal of the glacier collapse and flash flood of mud, ice, and water are horrifying. The amount of devastation is almost hard to fathom, and the landscape is changed forever. Mainstream media outlets are blaming the disaster on climate change, and pointing to human activity warming the globe as the top cause. We will expose the truth.On Episode 214 of The Climate Realism Show the Heartland Institute's Sterling Burnett, Jim Lakely, and special guests Craig Rucker of CFACT and Marlo Lewis will also cover some other Crazy Climate News of the Week. Psychology Today says global warming causes child abuse. The White House is ditching climate doom. And are even the green weenies of Europe giving up climate as a political issue?Join us Friday at 1 p.m. ET on YouTube, Rumble, X, and Facebook. Participate in the show by leaving your comments and questions in the chat.Visit our sponsor, Advisor Metals: https://climaterealismshow.com/metals In The Tank broadcasts LIVE every Thursday at 12pm CT on on The Heartland Institute YouTube channel. Tune in to have your comments addressed live by the In The Tank Crew. Be sure to subscribe and never miss an episode. See you there!Climate Change Roundtable is LIVE every Friday at 12pm CT on The Heartland Institute YouTube channel. Have a topic you want addressed? Join the live show and leave a comment for our panelists and we'll cover it during the live show!

Grudges don't just weigh on your heart. They weigh on your body. I was reading an article recently by Dr. Lantie Jorandby, a board-certified psychiatrist, in Psychology Today. She writes about how holding onto resentment raises stress and cortisol. Higher cortisol means higher blood pressure, weakened immunity, and greater risk of heart disease. It's also tied to depression and rumination, that repetitive negative loop your mind gets stuck in. That loop steals your sleep, which drives cortisol even higher. It's a cycle that feeds itself. Cortisol even affects the hippocampus, the part of your brain responsible for memory. That's part of why people with chronic PTSD often show a smaller hippocampus on scans. Add in muscle tension, elevated heart rate, higher blood pressure, and this isn't a small thing your body is shrugging off. It's carrying it. The Bible talks about forgiveness constantly, and I think this research shows us why. But forgiveness gets misunderstood a lot, so let's be clear about what it actually is. It doesn't mean pretending you weren't mistreated. It doesn't mean there are no consequences for someone's behavior. It doesn't mean going back into a relationship that isn't safe. What it does mean is choosing to release the resentment, and letting go of wanting revenge, even when revenge would feel justified. I'll be honest with you about why this topic landed on my heart this week. I'd written my notes for this episode about a week before I recorded it, and I had no idea how much I'd need my own reminder by the time I sat down to talk. I won't get into the specifics, but something happened recently that stirred up some old, not-positive feelings toward a former employer, feelings I thought I'd already worked through. It was like salt got rubbed right back into a wound I thought had closed. If I'm honest, it hurt my pride more than anything else. That experience got me thinking about something a lot of women carry quietly: church hurt. Sitting with my own small version of it gave me real compassion for women who've been hurt far worse, by people in the church, and who've walked away from it entirely because of what happened to them there. If that's you, if part of you doesn't want to go back, I don't blame you. But I'd gently remind you: the church is made up of flawed people. Not everyone in it wants to harm you. And God saw what happened. He cares. There's a story in Genesis that's stayed with me on this. Sarai didn't trust God to give her and Abraham a child, so she told Abraham to sleep with her servant, Hagar. Once Hagar became pregnant, Sarai dealt harshly with her, and Hagar fled into the wilderness alone. But God met her there. Genesis 16:13 says she called Him "a God of seeing," saying, "Truly here I have seen him who looks after me." God does not want us harmed. When you were hurt, He saw it. He was with you then, and He's with you now. He wants your pain brought to Him, not carried alone in silence. So bring it to Him. Talk to Him about it like you would a trusted friend, or write it out in a letter if that's easier. Ask Him plainly: help me forgive. Some days that's a one-time prayer. Other days you'll have to pray it again the moment the memory resurfaces, and then again after that. Forgiveness is rarely a single decision. It's a practice you return to, and there's real freedom in knowing God asks us to keep forgiving because He kept forgiving us. If church hurt is part of your story, here's what I want you to know: there are people in the church who genuinely love the way Christ loved. You don't have to go back to the one that hurt you, but I'd encourage you not to stay away from church altogether. Healing tends to happen in community, not in isolation. God never intended for you to carry bitterness or resentment quietly until it made you sick. He wants you free from it, in your spirit and in your body. Ready to Take the Next Step in Your Health Journey? If you've been dealing with low energy, autoimmune symptoms, or exhaustion that never seems to lift, this is your next step. Book a Free Introductory Call and let's talk through what's really going on in your body and whether working together makes sense for you. Visit herholistichealing.com/call to book your call today.

The Man Who Was Fired Five Times How Letting Go of Blame Can Transform Your Life Hosts: Kevin Cornelius, LMFT Dr. David Burns What if the biggest obstacle to your happiness isn't your depression, your anxiety, or even the difficult people around you? What if it's the belief that everyone else needs to change first? In this powerful episode of the Feeling Good Podcast, Dr. David Burns and host Kevin Cornelius, LMFT, discuss one of David's favorite therapy stories from his recent Psychology Today article, "The Man Who Was Fired Five Times." What begins as the story of a brilliant computer programmer who can't keep a job becomes an unforgettable lesson in overcoming resistance, building meaningful relationships, and discovering the extraordinary power of humility. This episode is packed with practical TEAM-CBT techniques, fascinating therapy demonstrations, and one of the most inspiring recovery stories you'll ever hear. In This Episode A Brilliant Man Who Couldn't Keep a Job David introduces us to "Bhagwant" (a pseudonym), an exceptionally gifted computer programmer who sought treatment after being fired five times in just two years. Although he initially came to therapy complaining of low self-esteem, David quickly noticed something much deeper. Bhagwant believed: His coworkers were conspiring against him. His bosses failed to appreciate his intelligence. Other people were the source of nearly all his suffering. Despite his obvious brilliance, his habit of blaming others had become the greatest obstacle to both his career and his happiness. Why David Didn't Try to Help Him...At First Instead of immediately offering therapy techniques, David did something surprising. He told Bhagwant that perhaps they shouldn't work together. Why? Because therapy would require Bhagwant—not his coworkers—to do all of the changing. Rather than arguing with Bhagwant or trying to convince him he was wrong, David used one of the most powerful TEAM-CBT methods: Dangling the Carrot By joining Bhagwant's resistance instead of fighting it, David completely changed the emotional dynamic. Instead of saying: "You're the problem." He essentially said: "You're right—it seems terribly unfair that you'd have to do all the work when everyone else is causing the problem." That paradoxical response immediately dissolved Bhagwant's resistance. Moments later, he admitted something he had hidden from David: He hadn't merely been placed on probation. He had already been fired—for the fifth time. Why Specificity Matters One of the central themes of the episode is David's insistence on working with specific moments instead of vague labels. Rather than treating "low self-esteem" as the problem, David asks: What happened? Where were you? What time was it? What exactly were you thinking? This "fractal" approach allows therapy to target the real thoughts creating emotional suffering instead of treating abstract diagnostic labels. As David explains, problems can only be solved when they're connected to a real moment in time. Recovery Begins with Practice Once Bhagwant committed fully to treatment, he became an extraordinarily dedicated student of TEAM-CBT. He learned to: Identify cognitive distortions Challenge negative thoughts using Externalization of Voices Master the Five Secrets of Effective Communication Replace defensiveness with curiosity and empathy At one point, David actually had to limit Bhagwant's therapy homework because he was spending six to eight hours a day practicing. The Job Interview That Changed Everything Eventually Bhagwant received a job offer from a company in Florida. David gave him one final piece of surprising advice: Ask your new employer to agree to criticize you every single week. Specifically, David suggested requesting regular meetings where supervisors would openly point out mistakes so Bhagwant could practice using the Five Secrets and the Disarming Technique. The company agreed. The results were astonishing. Within weeks: He had developed excellent relationships with coworkers. He won Employee of the Month. He received multiple promotions. His salary doubled. Years later, David received a Christmas card that brought tears to his eyes. Bhagwant had become CEO of the very company that hired him. The Disarming Technique Much of the second half of the episode explores one of the most challenging—and most transformative—TEAM-CBT skills. What Is Disarming? Disarming means sincerely finding the truth in criticism, even when the criticism seems exaggerated or unfair. David explains what he calls the Law of Opposites: Defending yourself often convinces others the criticism is true. Agreeing sincerely with whatever truth exists often causes the criticism to lose its power. This simple paradox can dramatically transform difficult conversations. Live Role-Playing Kevin and David demonstrate the Disarming Technique through several live role plays. David criticizes Kevin as being: Fake Inexperienced Pretending to know more than he really does Kevin practices agreeing with the truth in the criticism instead of defending himself. David then coaches Kevin to go even deeper—not by problem-solving or trying to improve himself immediately, but by becoming genuinely curious about the other person's experience. Later, the roles reverse, and Kevin criticizes David for being: Cranky Impatient Insensitive David demonstrates how quickly criticism melts away when someone responds with humility, openness, and genuine curiosity. These demonstrations beautifully illustrate why the Disarming Technique is often one of the hardest TEAM-CBT skills to master—and one of the most powerful. Why Resistance Matters Throughout the episode, David explains that resistance is not an obstacle to therapy. It's the doorway into effective therapy. Rather than pushing people toward change, TEAM-CBT first helps people understand why changing feels difficult. Once resistance melts away, motivation naturally appears. Enlightenment and the "Death of the Self" The conversation concludes with a reflection on one of David's favorite philosophical themes. Drawing from Buddhist psychology, David discusses how learning to accept criticism requires what he calls "the death of the self"—letting go of pride, defensiveness, and the constant need to protect one's ego. Rather than seeing criticism as an attack, we can learn to experience it as an opportunity for connection, growth, and deeper understanding. Resource Mentioned Dr. David Burns' Psychology Today article: "The Man Who Was Fired Five Times" Memorable Takeaways The biggest obstacle to change is often our resistance—not our symptoms. Therapy becomes far more effective when it focuses on one specific moment instead of broad labels. Defending yourself usually strengthens criticism; finding the truth in it often dissolves conflict. Humility builds stronger relationships than winning arguments. Learning to respond differently to criticism can transform not only your mood, but your career, your relationships, and your entire life. Whether you're a therapist, a parent, a leader, or simply someone who wants healthier relationships, this episode offers practical tools and inspiring hope that lasting change is possible—even after years of frustration and failure. Listener Survey We'd love to hear from you! Your feedback helps shape future episodes and allows us to create content that is as helpful and meaningful as possible. Please use this link to take the feedback survey and share your thoughts with us about this episode. Your voice matters—and as David points out in this episode, sometimes the most important conversations begin when we're willing to express what we're really thinking and feeling. Thank you for listening to The Feeling Good Podcast! Contact Information Kevin Cornelius, LMFT is a Level 5 Certified Master TEAM-CBT Therapist and Trainer and the Clinical Director of Feeling Good Institute--Silicon Valley. He specializes in the treatment of trauma, anxiety, depression, relationship problems and insomnia. You can reach Kevin at kevin@feelinggoodinstitute.com and visit his website at www.tools4change.me. You can reach Dr. Burns at david@feelinggood.com. Feeling down in these turbulent times? Take a ride on our Feeling Great app. Feeling Great feels wonderful! You owe it to yourself to feel GREAT! Give the Greatest Gifts of ALL--Love and Happiness!

Have you ever noticed that angry people can always find something to be angry about, no matter where they are? The world we see is rarely an objective reality; it is almost always a reflection of our own internal state. In this episode, we are going to explore the profound truth that a beautiful soul does not need to search for beauty in the world—they naturally see it everywhere. And more importantly, we will discuss a simple, daily practice to cultivate that beautiful soul: learning how to actively search for the good in others the moment we feel the urge to judge them. New Episode of the Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D., Newport Beach Psychologist: https://www.DoctorPuff.com

What if the way you use technology could actually teach you more about yourself? We spend so much of our lives surrounded by technology—scrolling, searching, streaming, texting, working, and increasingly, asking AI to think alongside us. But what if our relationship with technology isn't just about willpower or screen time? What if it's a window into our deeper emotional needs? In this episode of Centered in the City, I'm joined by Jay Vidyarthi, award-winning author of Reclaim Your Mind, designer, entrepreneur, and thought leader at the intersection of mindfulness and technology. Jay has spent more than 15 years practicing meditation and has helped design more than 50 technologies aimed at improving human wellbeing. His work includes Muse, the Healthy Minds Program, and other innovative approaches to using technology in service of human flourishing. We explore what it really means to reclaim our minds in a world designed to capture our attention. Jay offers a nuanced perspective: there is absolutely a responsibility on technology companies and attention-harvesting platforms to create healthier digital environments, but there is also a personal responsibility to become more aware of how and why we engage with technology. And that awareness can tell us a lot. In this conversation, we explore: Why our relationship with technology can be a mirror for our deeper emotional needs How scrolling, notifications, and algorithms can give us a watered-down version of what we're actually seeking How self-awareness can help us recognize when we're being hooked by an algorithm Why simply blaming technology doesn't give us back our agency How mindfulness or journaling can help us pause long enough to notice what we're actually looking for How to create a more empowered and intentional relationship with technology How we can use AI to enhance our capabilities without cannibalizing the very human capacities we want to preserve Why protecting our attention may be one of the most important ways we protect our humanity   Take a listen to this episode and share your takeaways with us on Instagram @OneWade  and @jay.vidyarthi   Resources: Centered Walks: Guided walking meditations to support you getting out of your head and into your body 100 Mindful Moments to Balance & Energize by Wade Brill Reclaim Your Mind By Jay Vidyarthi   ***** Jay Vidyarthi is the award-winning author of RECLAIM YOUR MIND and an accomplished designer, entrepreneur, and thought leader at the unique intersection of mindfulness and technology. As the founder of Still Ape, he's been involved in over fifty technologies that have helped millions of people improve their well-being, including Muse, the Healthy Minds Program, Sonic Cradle, and many more. His work and ideas have been featured by Harvard, MIT, TED, Forbes, CNN, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and Mashable. A meditation practitioner for over fifteen years, Jay is as comfy on a silent retreat as he is challenging his son to epic video game battles. On days off, he can usually be found making music, enjoying screen time, or out for a walk somewhere near Lake Ontario. Learn more at jayvidyarthi.com

Welcome to The Mental Breakdown and Psychreg Podcast! Today, Dr. Berney and Dr. Marshall discuss the different ways in which society teaches men and women to manage their anger. Read the articles from Psychology Today here and here. You can now follow Dr. Marshall on twitter, as well! Dr. Berney and Dr. Marshall are happy to announce the release of their new parenting e-book, Handbook for Raising an Emotionally Healthy Child Part 2: Attention. You can get your copy from Amazon here. We hope that you will join us each morning so that we can help you make your day the best it can be! See you tomorrow. Visit Psychreg for blog posts covering a variety of topics within the fields of mental health and psychology. The Parenting Your ADHD Child course is now on YouTube! Check it out at the Paedeia YouTube Channel. The Handbook for Raising an Emotionally Health Child Part 1: Behavior Management is now available on kindle! Get your copy today! The Elimination Diet Manual is now available on kindle and nook! Get your copy today! Follow us on Twitter and Facebook and subscribe to our YouTube Channels, Paedeia and The Mental Breakdown. Please leave us a review on iTunes so that others might find our podcast and join in on the conversation!

Welcome to today's episode of Wisdom Talk Radio! This is where we explore the depths of conscious living and how to live an expanded life. Join us to be inspired, encouraged, transformed and to tap into a deeper experience of joy and possibility. Have you ever felt like you were “too sensitive,” or even, “too much?” What does that say about a society that, instead of celebrating a range of experience, expression, and creativity, gives us boxes in which to fit ourselves, fit be damned. We're diving into this today with a special guest, so, stay tuned for a powerful episode.I'm Laurie Seymour, host of Wisdom Talk Radio and CEO and founder of The Baca Institute, home of the Quantum Connection Process. You can go there to discover your unique connection with the essence of who you are by taking the Quantum Connection quiz. Why quantum connection? We are each designed to directly connect with Source in our own way. Knowing your own archetype style opens a deeper connection for you with the Universe. It's the secret to creating what you truly want in your life. Because who you are is exactly who is needed.A trauma-informed therapist, researcher, TED speaker, and leading expert in ADHD, sensitivity, and nervous-system-based care, Dr. Amelia Kelley is the author of Powered by ADHD. She is the founder of the Powered by ADHD community and the owner of Kelley Counseling & Wellness, serving neurodivergent and highly sensitive individuals across the lifespan. Her work has been featured in NPR, Psychology Today, and other national outlets. Her 2025 TED Talk on early mental health screening was selected as a TED Editor's Pick. She hosts The Sensitivity Doctor podcast. Find Dr. Amelia Kelley here: https://www.ameliakelley.com/  https://www.instagram.com/drameliakelley/ https://www.facebook.com/DrAmeliaKelley/ https://open.spotify.com/show/0P7wxzgwoupiaohxRamiA3Don't miss a single episode! Join the Wisdom Talk Radio/The Baca Institute mailing list HERE. Find Laurie Seymour at https://thebacainstitute.com/ .Follow Wisdom Talk Radio on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/wisdomtalkradio Subscribe on Apple.Want to reach out to me? You can email me directly at laurie@thebacainstitute.com If you are enjoying our show and you'd like to spread the love, please subscribe, download, comment, and tell your friends and family about us. We want to thank you for your continued support. We really appreciate it! Find more episodes of Wisdom Talk Radio HERE Discover your Quantum Connection Style! (QUIZ)The first step to mastering your Quantum Connection is to know your natural style of being in the world.We are each designed to connect with Source differently. Knowing your style, with both your superpowers and your learning edge, is the first step of aligning with your inner guidance at a deeper level than you ever thought you could. It's the doorway to creating what you truly want in your life.Click here to take the quiz now: Quantum Connection QuizFind Unconditional Remembrance: Your Connection to Source HEREAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Carla Hall is a celebrated chef, TV personality, and author known for her appearances on Top Chef and The Chew. With her signature catchphrase "Hootie Hoo!" and infectious warmth, Carla has built a career on making cooking—and life—more joyful and accessible. She brings her culinary expertise and authentic personality to The MeMenu, transforming complex personal development concepts into digestible, actionable steps.   Deborah Grayson Riegel is a leadership communication expert, executive coach, and Wharton School faculty member. With a Master's degree in Applied Positive Psychology and decades of experience coaching executives, Deb brings research-backed methodologies and practical tools to The MeMenu. Her work has been featured in Harvard Business Review, Forbes, and Psychology Today.   Website: https://www.thememenu.com/ Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0H6WPBR7D   Episode Summary:   In this episode, Lyndsay sits down with two powerhouse women: Carla Hall, Top Chef fan favorite and former co-host of The Chew, and Deborah Grayson Riegel (Deb), a Wharton professor, executive coach, and author. Together they've written The Me Menu, a book that uses a cooking analogy — recipes, flavors, and mise en place — to help women over 50 (and anyone ready to join them) put themselves first and lead their own next chapter with what they call "main dish energy." Carla and Deb share the story of how they connected, what's inside the book, what inspires them, and the legacy they each hope to leave.   Key Takeaways:   - Self-development doesn't need to feel like a chore. - You don't need one big life overhaul. - You are already enough. - Staying connected doesn't take hours. - Fun and rigor aren't opposites. - Put yourself on the menu.   Episode Chapters:   0:00 Cold open: the cooking analogy behind The Me Menu 0:57 Welcome to Heartbeat for Hire 1:09 Meet Carla Hall & Deb Riegel 2:17 How Carla and Deb connected 4:15 From the kitchen to coaching: Carla's leadership journey 6:36 Who The Me Menu is for 9:38 Inside the book: the six flavors and the recipe format 14:56 Sponsor break: Cozy Earth 15:34 What inspires Carla and Deb 18:03 On friendship and the eight-minute rule 21:08 What's next for The Me Menu (keynotes and retreats) 23:56 Legacy: what they want to leave behind 26:49 Final takeaways for listeners

Today is episode three of the special series covering our new book, "Dispelling Cry-It-Out Sleep Training Myths and What To Do Instead", published by Routledge and out in stores now. So we all now understand more about what normal infant sleep is like, but what about the context in which that takes place? We know it's not just sleep that defines childhood or how our children develop, but the entirety of the culture and context around them. And what shouldn't be surprising to many is that our current Western culture is very, very far away from where we started and we may just be getting to the beginning of understanding this impact. Joining me today to discuss this very important topic are Drs. Darcia Narvaez and Mary Tarsha. Dispelling Cry-It-Out Sleep Training Myths and What To Do Instead - https://amzn.to/4vP77hw Dr. Darcia Narvaez at University of Notre Dame - https://psychology.nd.edu/people/darcia-narvaez/7%5C Dr. Darcia Narvaez - https://darcianarvaez.com/ Dr. Mary Tarsha at University of Notre Dame - https://iris.nd.edu/about-us/people/ The Evolved Nest Initiative - https://evolvednest.org/ Dr. Darcia Narvaez's Books - https://amzn.to/4p39D0Q Kindred Media (Videos, Books, Resources) - https://kindredmedia.org/ Dr. Darcia Narvaez at Psychology Today - https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/darcia-f-narvaez-phd

Founder burnout doesn't always look like failure. Sometimes it looks like a profitable, multi-state, multi-million dollar business that is quietly costing you your health, your marriage, and your identity. In this episode, licensed psychotherapist and relational trauma specialist Annie Wright, LMFT, joins Makhosi for a raw conversation about entrepreneur mental health, exiting a business at its peak, and the founder identity reckoning that so many successful women founders experience but rarely discuss.Annie built Evergreen Counseling, a large trauma-informed therapy center, from the ground up while navigating postpartum, unresolved trauma, and the survival patterns that shaped every hiring decision and cultural norm inside the company. She spent a year and a half grappling with the decision to sell; not because the business was failing, but because the cost of staying was no longer worth the financial security it provided. Together, Annie and Makhosi examine what it means to walk away from a profitable business, the ambiguous grief of letting go of an identity built on achievement, and why the most dangerous moment for a founder is not crisis: it's success that leaves no room for anything else.**Key topics:**0:00 — Introduction1:10 — Who Annie Wright is and what she built2:10 — Building a therapy center postpartum: "Who does that? Someone with unprocessed trauma."5:26 — The founder's identity as the architecture of the business7:00 — Letting go of something that is still affirming you10:11 — Makhosi's story: choosing presence over med school12:29 — Grief on both sides of the working-mother coin14:56 — "I'm not listening to men" and building a new paradigm19:54 — Prescriptive boxes nobody actually fits into22:34 — Individuation from systemic forces (not just family)25:57 — Raising a daughter who knows men can earn money too26:10 — Deconstruction as the foundation of leadership30:00 — Why women ghost instead of confronting: the ancestral pattern34:00 — Fawning as a survival strategy that follows you into business38:16 — Coaching versus therapy: when each one matters40:04 — The "house of life" framework: basement work versus renovation43:00 — Why insight alone does not change anything44:11 — Hyper-individualization and the limits of personal development46:08 — Relational healing, AI, and what Gen Z is up against48:40 — The renaissance AI might actually catalyze52:55 — Where to find Annie's work54:00 — ClosingAbout Annie Wright, LMFT:Annie Wright, LMFT, is a psychotherapist, Psychology Today columnist, and author of the forthcoming book The Everything Years from W.W. Norton in 2027. Licensed in fifteen U.S. jurisdictions with more than 15,000 clinical hours, her work has been featured in Forbes, NBC, The Washington Post, The Information, and USA Today.Website: www.anniewright.comInstagram: instagram.com/AnnieWrightTherapistFacebook: facebook.com/anniewrightpublicpageAbout Makhosi:Makhosi guides successful but stuck founders through the identity transformation their next era demands; moving them from survival-mode creation to sovereign leadership. Her work reads the architecture beneath the business: the identity structures, inherited patterns, and threshold dynamics that determine whether any strategy will hold.If this conversation resonated:Subscribe for more conversations at the intersection of founder psychology, identity architecture, and what it actually takes to build from coherence rather than survival.Support the showResources:Website: theroyalshaman.comInstagram: @theroyalshamanLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/theroyalshamanJoin the newsletter: http://theroyalshaman.com/links Ready to dismantle your golden cage and architect sovereign freedom? Your material success wasn't the destination - it was the initiation. If you're called to become a Sovereign Legacy Architect, apply to work privately with Makhosi, The Royal Shaman at theroyalshaman.com/applicationSupport the show This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit theroyalshaman.substack.com

Some of the loudest voices we hear aren't coming from other people—they're the ones inside our own heads.That inner critic can convince us we're not ready, that everyone else has it figured out, or that asking for help somehow means we've failed. Over time, those thoughts can quietly keep us playing smaller than we're capable of.In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Darby Bonomi, sport and performance psychologist and author of Unshrinkable: Why Strong Women Secretly Criticize, Diminish, and Thwart Themselves—and How to Stop.Darby has spent decades working with high-achieving individuals, and together we explore why even accomplished women can struggle with self-criticism, comparison, perfectionism, and the pressure to appear as though they have everything under control.We also talk about something Darby calls the myth of the charmed life—the tendency to look at someone else's polished exterior and assume their path has somehow been easier than ours.And Darby shares one simple phrase from her equestrian coach that has stayed with her for decades:"Go ride your horse."It's a reminder to stop overthinking, trust your preparation, be present, and do the thing that's yours to do.In This Episode, We DiscussWhy successful women can believe everyone else has a "charmed life"How self-criticism and perfectionism can quietly keep us playing smallCommunity versus competition—and why lifting others doesn't diminish our own opportunitiesWhy there is no shame in being a beginnerHow "Go ride your horse" became a lifelong reminder for Darby to trust herself and be presentWhy confidence comes through experienceEnvy as information—and even a possible call to actionLearning from people who are farther along rather than simply comparing ourselves to themWhy presence, gratitude, and personal growth require practiceWhat Darby would tell her 20-something self todayAbout Dr. Darby BonomiDarby Bonomi, PhD, is a sport and performance psychologist who has facilitated transformations in hundreds of high-achieving individuals.After two decades as a clinical psychologist, psychoanalyst, and faculty member at the San Francisco Psychoanalytic Institute, she shifted her focus to performance coaching in 2016. She works with competitive equestrians, entrepreneurs, and professionals globally—primarily women determined not to shrink under self-criticism or others' expectations.Dr. Bonomi is an actively competing equestrian herself and has delivered sport psychology clinics nationwide. Her writing has been featured in Practical Horseman, Psychology Today, USHJA In Stride, The Plaid Horse, and The Chronicle of the Horse.Darby's Book

Why the five stages of grief are a myth, a go-to phrase for when everything's falling apart, and three steps for getting through loss. Dr. Lucy Hone is an adjunct fellow at the University of Canterbury and a sought-after professional speaker, a bestselling author, and an award-winning internationally published science educator. She is regularly featured in international media, including in The Guardian, Hidden Brain, and The Washington Post. Dr. Hone is a columnist for Psychology Today. In this episode we talk about: A three-step recipe for getting through any major loss Why the five stages of grief are a myth The surprising research on who supports grievers best (hint: pets) Living losses vs. death losses — and why ranking grief doesn't help What it means to have your "assumptive world" shattered Rebuilding identity after loss: answering "who am I now?" Finding self-compassion through "real, not perfect," not perfectionism Related Episodes: Cody Delistraty Sloane Crosley Sam Sanders Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Additional Resources:  This episode is sponsored by: Rosetta Stone: Visit rosettastone.com/happier to redeem your 20% off Rosetta Stone Sapphire. CashApp: Download CashApp Today: click.cash.app/ui6m/oh9jnxlq #CashAppPod. Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App's bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Cash App Visa® Debit Flex Cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC, and The Bancorp Bank, N.A., pursuant to a license from Visa U.S.A. Inc. See terms and conditions for the Sutton prepaid card, Sutton debit flex card, and Bancorp debit flex card. Savings provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures.  BetterHelp: See the reviews, see what stands out, and see if BetterHelp is right for you. Visit Betterhelp.com/HAPPIER.  Ironwall: Stop online threats before they become real-world attacks. Request your free risk assessment at ironwall.com/danharris. To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris

Derek Champagne talks with Kyle Austin Young.Kyle Austin Young is an award-winning strategy consultant for high achievers, entrepreneurs, and leaders ina wide range of fields. This work has allowed him to develop and refine a powerful system for accomplishingbig, meaningful goals that focuses on understanding and changing your odds of success. Kyle is a popularwriter for Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, The Boston Globe, CNBC, Psychology Today, Forbes,and Business Insider.His new book, SUCCESS IS A NUMBERS GAME: Achieve Bigger Goals by Changing the Odds (Hay House Business, November 2025), details this system. In the context of a single goal, it could be the secret advantage that changes your outcome. Over the course of several goals, it could transform the trajectory of your career. Appliedto a lifetime of goals, it can level up your legacy.Business Leadership Series Intro and Outro music provided by Just Off Turner: https://music.apple.com/za/album/the-long-walk-back/268386576

Welcome to The Mental Breakdown and Psychreg Podcast! Today, Dr. Berney and Dr. Marshall discuss the way men express anger and why their anger is often rooted in a different emotion. Read the article from Psychology Today here. You can now follow Dr. Marshall on twitter, as well! Dr. Berney and Dr. Marshall are happy to announce the release of their new parenting e-book, Handbook for Raising an Emotionally Healthy Child Part 2: Attention. You can get your copy from Amazon here. We hope that you will join us each morning so that we can help you make your day the best it can be! See you tomorrow. Visit Psychreg for blog posts covering a variety of topics within the fields of mental health and psychology. The Parenting Your ADHD Child course is now on YouTube! Check it out at the Paedeia YouTube Channel. The Handbook for Raising an Emotionally Health Child Part 1: Behavior Management is now available on kindle! Get your copy today! The Elimination Diet Manual is now available on kindle and nook! Get your copy today! Follow us on Twitter and Facebook and subscribe to our YouTube Channels, Paedeia and The Mental Breakdown. Please leave us a review on iTunes so that others might find our podcast and join in on the conversation!

Much of the anxiety we carry every day is rooted in a single, quiet fear: the fear of losing what we have. We worry about losing our status, our complex lifestyles, and the expensive comforts we have built around ourselves. But in this episode, we are going to explore a powerful truth: if you can train your mind to find its deepest joy in the simplest things in life, you become psychologically untouchable, and you will never fear losing things again. New Episode of the Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D., Newport Beach Psychologist: https://www.DoctorPuff.com

What if food is doing far more than providing calories, protein, carbohydrates, and fat? What if every bite is actually delivering information to your genes, cells, microbiome, and biological systems? In this fascinating solo episode, Darin challenges the century-old idea of viewing food simply as fuel and explores what happens when we begin seeing food as biological information. From carrots resembling eyes and walnuts resembling brains to nutrigenomics, plant compounds, biophotons, structured water, living enzymes, and the microbiome, Darin dives into the hidden layers of food that never appear on a nutrition label. He explores established research alongside emerging and controversial areas of science, explaining why the freshness, color, diversity, and wholeness of what we eat may matter far beyond its calorie count. Darin also reveals why "eating the rainbow" is really about consuming a wider library of chemical information and why feeding your gut microbes may be just as important as feeding yourself. This episode will completely change the way you look at what's sitting on your plate. What You'll Learn Why Darin believes the calorie model leaves out some of food's most important biological effects How nutrients and plant compounds can influence gene expression through nutrigenomics and epigenetics Why Darin describes every meal as sending a "memo" to your DNA What biophotons are and the emerging research around light emitted by living cells and foods Why fresh, living foods may carry information that heavily processed foods have lost The theory of structured or "exclusion zone" water in living foods What happens to naturally occurring enzymes when foods are heated and processed Why the colors of fruits and vegetables correspond to different families of protective plant compounds How your food communicates with the trillions of microbes living inside your gut Why dietary diversity and fermented foods may help create a healthier, more resilient microbiome Chapters 00:00:00 – Welcome to SuperLife 00:00:32 – Sponsor: Bite 00:02:47 – The hidden clues sitting inside your food 00:03:22 – Carrots, tomatoes, and walnuts: coincidence or clues? 00:04:13 – Why we've been too busy counting calories 00:04:39 – Food is information 00:04:47 – Why the calorie model leaves out the bigger picture 00:05:14 – Your body isn't a furnace 00:05:48 – How food communicates with your cells 00:06:25 – Nutrigenomics: how food talks to your genes 00:06:53 – Every meal can influence gene expression 00:07:22 – What memo are you sending your DNA? 00:07:52 – The strange science of biophotons 00:09:03 – Why fresh food emits different light than processed food 00:09:37 – Where biophoton research stands scientifically 00:10:26 – Structured water and the fourth phase of water 00:12:00 – What processing may do to water inside food 00:12:37 – Sponsor: Manna Vitality 00:14:35 – The controversial theory of food enzymes 00:15:18 – What we know about enzymes in raw and sprouted foods 00:15:37 – The hidden information missing from nutrition labels 00:15:58 – Can the color of your food unlock your potential? 00:16:16 – Why "eat the rainbow" is chemistry, not mysticism 00:16:38 – Anthocyanins and the power of purple, red, and blue foods 00:17:27 – Color is the plant's natural label 00:18:20 – Every color sends your body a different message 00:18:50 – The problem with the modern "beige diet" 00:19:14 – You're feeding 38 trillion microbes, not just yourself 00:19:46 – How gut bacteria transform fiber into powerful compounds 00:20:25 – The extraordinary conversation between plants and your microbiome 00:21:05 – Why plant diversity matters for immunity, mood, and hormones 00:21:31 – The Stanford fermented food study 00:22:02 – What fermented foods did to microbiome diversity and inflammation 00:22:30 – Ultra-processed food, inflammation, and what's coming next 00:22:45 – Continue the full deep dive on Patreon 00:23:24 – Closing thoughts Thank You to Our Sponsors Bite Toothpaste: Go to trybite.com/DARIN20 or use code DARIN20 for 20% off your first order Manna Vitality: Go to mannavitality.com/ and use code DARIN12 for 12% off your order. Join the SuperLife Patreon: This is where Darin now shares the deeper work: - weekly voice notes - ingredient trackers - wellness challenges - extended conversations - community accountability - sovereignty practices Join now for only $7.49/month at https://patreon.com/darinolien Find More from Darin Olien: Website: darinolien.com Instagram: @darinolien Book: Fatal Conveniences Platform & Products: superlife.com New Show: Roadmap to Happiness Key Takeaway "Food isn't just fuel. Every bite carries information—through nutrients, plant compounds, color, fiber, enzymes, and the interactions it creates with your microbiome. Your body isn't simply counting calories; it's responding to biological signals. So the question isn't only how much you're eating. It's what message you're sending your body every time you sit down to eat." Bibliography/Sources: Food as Information & Nutrigenomics Dutton, R. (2017). Hey, Hippocrates: Food isn't medicine. It's just food. 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Welcome to The Mental Breakdown and Psychreg Podcast! Today, Dr. Berney and Dr. Marshall discuss steps to consider when you need to adjust your expectations. Read the articles from Psychology Today here and from Hailey Magee here. You can now follow Dr. Marshall on twitter, as well! Dr. Berney and Dr. Marshall are happy to announce the release of their new parenting e-book, Handbook for Raising an Emotionally Healthy Child Part 2: Attention. You can get your copy from Amazon here. We hope that you will join us each morning so that we can help you make your day the best it can be! See you tomorrow. Visit Psychreg for blog posts covering a variety of topics within the fields of mental health and psychology. The Parenting Your ADHD Child course is now on YouTube! Check it out at the Paedeia YouTube Channel. The Handbook for Raising an Emotionally Health Child Part 1: Behavior Management is now available on kindle! Get your copy today! The Elimination Diet Manual is now available on kindle and nook! Get your copy today! Follow us on Twitter and Facebook and subscribe to our YouTube Channels, Paedeia and The Mental Breakdown. Please leave us a review on iTunes so that others might find our podcast and join in on the conversation!

The Wall Street Journal reports that major Gulf energy exporters, including countries such as Saudi Arabia and the UAE, are increasingly concluding that Iran may retain effective control over the Strait of Hormuz for the foreseeable future. While they dislike this outcome, many see it as preferable to a return to full-scale war. Axios reports that, for only the third time in U.S. history, women now hold more jobs than men in the American workforce. As of February 2026, there were about 200,000 more women employed than men, according to federal labor data highlighted by Indeed's Hiring Lab. Fortune reports that women now hold more jobs than men in the U.S. workforce for only the third time in history, but argues that the bigger story is not women entering the workforce. Instead, it's that men are increasingly leaving or not entering the labor force. Psychology Today explores a growing phenomenon sometimes called“Ozempic divorce”: reports that some marriages and long-term relationships experience strain or even break down after one partner achieves significant weight loss using GLP-1 medications such as Ozempic or Zepbound. Please Like, Comment and Follow 'Philip Teresi on KMJ' on all platforms: --- Philip Teresi on KMJ is available on the KMJNOW app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube or wherever else you listen to podcasts. -- Philip Teresi on KMJ Weekdays 2-6 PM Pacific on News/Talk 580 AM & 105.9 FM KMJ | Website | Facebook | Instagram | X | Podcast | Amazon | - Everything KMJ KMJNOW App | Podcasts | Facebook | X | Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Wall Street Journal reports that major Gulf energy exporters, including countries such as Saudi Arabia and the UAE, are increasingly concluding that Iran may retain effective control over the Strait of Hormuz for the foreseeable future. While they dislike this outcome, many see it as preferable to a return to full-scale war. Axios reports that, for only the third time in U.S. history, women now hold more jobs than men in the American workforce. As of February 2026, there were about 200,000 more women employed than men, according to federal labor data highlighted by Indeed's Hiring Lab. Fortune reports that women now hold more jobs than men in the U.S. workforce for only the third time in history, but argues that the bigger story is not women entering the workforce. Instead, it's that men are increasingly leaving or not entering the labor force. Psychology Today explores a growing phenomenon sometimes called“Ozempic divorce”: reports that some marriages and long-term relationships experience strain or even break down after one partner achieves significant weight loss using GLP-1 medications such as Ozempic or Zepbound. Please Like, Comment and Follow 'Philip Teresi on KMJ' on all platforms: --- Philip Teresi on KMJ is available on the KMJNOW app, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube or wherever else you listen to podcasts. -- Philip Teresi on KMJ Weekdays 2-6 PM Pacific on News/Talk 580 AM & 105.9 FM KMJ | Website | Facebook | Instagram | X | Podcast | Amazon | - Everything KMJ KMJNOW App | Podcasts | Facebook | X | Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Download the companion guide Google and HubSpot both just published research showing website traffic has dropped by as much as 80 percent since 2024, and it's not because your marketing got worse. It's because the Google AI summary now answers most search questions itself, before anyone even reaches your site. This episode is about what private practice marketing in 2026 needs to look like now that AI answer engine optimisation (AEO) has changed the rules for how people find a therapist, counsellor, or psychologist. Brooklyn walks through the simple things you can do to get more clients through AI, why the old website conversion rate game (2 percent, if you're lucky) has shifted, and why showing up consistently across every platform an AI might check counts for more than any single funnel now. There's touch point research in here too, the number of times a cold audience needs to see you before they're ready to book, and why that number is different for short form content versus long form content for therapists. A podcast for private practice marketing compounds in a way a Facebook post never will, and Brooklyn tells the story of a woman who found her through one episode and booked a call within days, next to another who followed along on Facebook for years before reaching out. The episode closes somewhere completely different, unpacking whether positive thinking works for manifesting, and how it fits into the bigger picture of building a business mindset for private practice that can hold the results you want. Keywords used: AI answer engine optimisation (AEO) for therapists, how to get clients through AI, private practice marketing in 2026, Google AI summary for therapists, website conversion rate private practice, how many touch points to get a client, short form content vs long form content for therapists, podcast for private practice marketing, does positive thinking work for manifesting, business mindset for private practice Mini FAQ: Q: Why has my website traffic dropped even though nothing changed on my end? A: Google's AI summary now answers most search questions itself, so people get their answer without ever clicking through to your website. Google, HubSpot and Ahrefs are all reporting the same drop since 2024. Q: How many times does someone need to see my content before they book with me? A: A cold audience, people who've never heard of you, need around 11 touch points of short form content in any 90 day period, and someone brand new to your world needs about 50 touch points before they're ready to work with you. Q: Is a marketing funnel still relevant now that AI is changing search? A: Yes, but you need more than one. Instead of a single funnel, you need multiple pathways, your website, your Google Business Profile, your Psychology Today profile, and several different free resources, all feeding into the same message. Q: What kind of content gets clients to convert? A: Interactive content like quizzes converts far better than static PDFs or eBooks, because people want to be doing something, not just reading. Long form content like a podcast also compounds over time in a way social media posts never do. Q: Does positive thinking work for manifesting? A: The research says yes, positive thinking on its own has real psychological benefits, but it only works when it's paired with the deeper identity and personal psychology work behind it. Toxic positivity, on the other hand, has very little research behind it at all.  

What if the secret to a stronger, more passionate relationship could be broken down into clear, actionable steps? “During my doctoral studies in clinical sexology, one theme kept coming up: The concept of low desire . While some couples manage to maintain their passion throughout the years, others slowly drift into emotional distance. I wanted to understand why this happens and how desire shapes not only intimacy but also our sense of self and connection with the person we choose to spend our lives with. For me, this question wasn't simply academic. It was undeniably personal.” - Anna Elton, Ph.D.Anna Elton, PhD, LMFT, CST, is a licensed marriage and family therapist, certified sex therapist, and clinical sexologist whose work sits at the intersection of desire, identity, communication, and modern relationships. She is the creator of multiple therapeutic models used by clinicians and couples across the United States, including frameworks that treat desire as a measurable signal of relational health rather than a fixed trait.Dr. Elton is known for translating complex psychological dynamics into clear, compassionate, and actionable frameworks. Drawing on neuroscience, attachment theory, and relationship science, her work focuses on how emotional connection, attraction, conflict, and digital habits shape long-term relational patterns. She works with couples, clinicians, families, executives, and organizations, helping them understand what drives attraction, disconnection, and meaningful relational change over time.Her insights have been featured on PBS, FOX, ABC, and NBC. She teaches nationally through PESI and the Modern Sex Therapy Institutes, and has presented internationally, including in Japan, Canada, Italy, and Australia. Dr. Elton is also the host of Life, Love, Etc., a relationship-focused show where she explores desire, communication, intimacy, and the psychology of connection. She writes for Psychology Today through her blog, Life, Love, Etc., and continues to develop research-informed tools that support emotional and intimate connection in a world that often works against it. Beyond her professional work, Dr. Elton lives the principles she teaches. She has been married to her high school sweetheart, Michael, for over two decades, and together they are raising their three children. The Formula of Desire: What Brings Us Together and Drives Us Apart, and the Science of Connection (August 4, 2026 | New Harbinger Publications)What if the secret to a stronger, more passionate relationship could be broken down into clear, actionable steps? In The Formula of Desire, licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist Dr. Anna Elton reframes desire as a dynamic, relational process shaped by attention, emotional safety, stress, and everyday interaction―not chemistry alone.Drawing on neuroscience, attachment theory, and decades of clinical experience, the book shows why desire often fades in long-term relationships even when love remains, and what couples can do about it. At the center of the book is the Relational Desire Formula, a practical framework that explains how awareness, emotional connection, affectionate expression, and reciprocal attraction support desire, while stress, unmet needs, and emotional withdrawal weaken it. An accompanying self-assessment translates these patterns into a relational desire score, offering a clear snapshot of relationship health and helping couples see where connection is strong and where it needs attention. Through research, clinical stories, and structured exercises, The Formula of Desire explores:● Why attraction and desire change over time and why that's normal● How stress, routine, and emotional labor retrain the brain away from intimacy● The difference between being physically present and emotionally available● How to navigate conflict using effective communication● How to repair without escalation, shutdown, or loss of emotional and erotic connection● What desire equilibrium is and how restoring balance revives intimacy ● How desire can redirect toward work, fantasy, or other people without conscious intent● What actually helps intimacy return by creating the conditions for desire to re-emerge naturallyThe book offers a clear framework for understanding relationship shifts, improving communication, and restoring connection, intimacy, and desire through intentional change. Official Website: www.annaelton.comBook Website: www.theformulaofdesire.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/drannaelton/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/search/top?q=anna%20eltonLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/annaelton/Twitter/X: https://x.com/drannaelton

Welcome to The Mental Breakdown and Psychreg Podcast! Today, Dr. Berney and Dr. Marshall discuss the problems that arise when we have expectations that are not met. Read the article from Psychology Today here. You can now follow Dr. Marshall on twitter, as well! Dr. Berney and Dr. Marshall are happy to announce the release of their new parenting e-book, Handbook for Raising an Emotionally Healthy Child Part 2: Attention. You can get your copy from Amazon here. We hope that you will join us each morning so that we can help you make your day the best it can be! See you tomorrow. Visit Psychreg for blog posts covering a variety of topics within the fields of mental health and psychology. The Parenting Your ADHD Child course is now on YouTube! Check it out at the Paedeia YouTube Channel. The Handbook for Raising an Emotionally Health Child Part 1: Behavior Management is now available on kindle! Get your copy today! The Elimination Diet Manual is now available on kindle and nook! Get your copy today! Follow us on Twitter and Facebook and subscribe to our YouTube Channels, Paedeia and The Mental Breakdown. Please leave us a review on iTunes so that others might find our podcast and join in on the conversation!

We often assume that we feel an emotion first, and then we scramble to find the right word to describe it. But modern psychology tells us that the opposite is actually true: the vocabulary you possess dictates the depth, nuance, and reality of what you can feel. In this episode, we are going to explore how expanding your emotional vocabulary—and borrowing a few brilliant words from the ancient philosophers—can literally rewire your nervous system and help you construct a more peaceful reality. New Episode of the Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D., Newport Beach Psychologist

In the Lindsay Clancy murder trial, a McLean Hospital psychiatrist spent today's session explaining exactly what she didn't do. Clancy, 34, of Duxbury, Massachusetts, is charged with strangling her three children — 5-year-old Cora, 3-year-old Dawson, and 7-month-old Callan — with exercise resistance bands inside the family's Summer Street home on January 24, 2023. She faces three counts of murder and three counts of strangulation, has pleaded not guilty, and is pursuing an insanity defense through attorney Kevin Reddington, who argues she was suffering severe postpartum psychosis compounded by psychiatric overmedication.Dr. Alia Goodheart testified under defense cross-examination that Clancy's discharge instructions consisted of directing her to the Psychology Today website and telling her to check her insurance for covered providers. Goodheart acknowledged she hadn't reviewed prior records from the nurse practitioners and other clinicians already treating Clancy, and confirmed Clancy had disclosed intrusive thoughts of suicide during her care. No blood tests were run. No screening tools were used — including the Edinburgh Postnatal Depression Scale, a standard postpartum assessment that apparently never made it into the room. On redirect, prosecutors pointed to language in the discharge paperwork instructing Clancy to follow up with a personal provider, an attempt to put some of the burden back on the patient leaving the building.Prosecutors are expected to argue Clancy understood the nature of her actions despite the defense's mental-health claims. After the killings, Clancy allegedly attempted to take her own life by jumping from a second-story window, leaving her paralyzed from the waist down. Her husband, Patrick Clancy, was out of the home running errands at the time and has since relocated to Manhattan. The trial, underway in Plymouth Superior Court, is expected to last several weeks.LinksJoin Our SubStack For AD-FREE ADVANCE EPISODES & EXTRAS!: https://hiddenkillers.substack.com/Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8-vxmbhTxxG10sO1izODJg?sub_confirmation=1Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspodX Twitter https://x.com/TrueCrimePodDisclaimerContent on this site is based on publicly available information and reflects commentary and opinion. All individuals are presumed innocent until proven guilty. Nothing published here constitutes legal, medical, or professional advice.Hashtags#LindsayClancy #DuxburyTragedy #PostpartumPsychosis #TrueCrime #PlymouthCounty #CoraDawsonCallan #InsanityDefense #KevinReddington #TrueCrimeToday #EdinburghScale

Dr. Alia Goodheart, a psychiatrist at McLean Hospital, took the stand today in the murder trial of Lindsay Clancy, the Duxbury, Massachusetts mother accused of strangling her three children — 5-year-old Cora, 3-year-old Dawson, and 7-month-old Callan — with exercise bands inside the family's Summer Street home on January 24, 2023. Clancy faces three counts of murder and three counts of strangulation. She has pleaded not guilty and is mounting an insanity defense, with attorney Kevin Reddington arguing she was in the grip of severe postpartum psychosis and psychiatric overmedication at the time of the killings.Under defense cross-examination, Goodheart testified that Clancy's discharge plan amounted to a website and an insurance card — she told Clancy to check Psychology Today and her own coverage to find follow-up care. Goodheart also admitted she never reviewed prior records from the nurse practitioners and other providers who'd already treated Clancy, and she confirmed Clancy told her she was having intrusive thoughts of suicide. No blood work. No screening tools. Not even the Edinburgh Postnatal Depression Scale — the standard test built for exactly this situation. On redirect, prosecutors tried to soften the blow, stressing that discharge instructions did tell Clancy to contact a personal provider. Whether that line survives what came before it is now the jury's problem.Prosecutors are expected to argue Clancy understood the nature of her actions despite the defense's mental-health claims. After the killings, Clancy allegedly attempted to take her own life by jumping from a second-story window, leaving her paralyzed from the waist down. Her husband, Patrick Clancy, was out of the home running errands at the time and has since relocated to Manhattan. The trial, underway in Plymouth Superior Court, is expected to last several weeks.LinksJoin Our SubStack For AD-FREE ADVANCE EPISODES & EXTRAS!: https://hiddenkillers.substack.com/Want to comment and watch this podcast as a video? Check out our YouTube Channel. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8-vxmbhTxxG10sO1izODJg?sub_confirmation=1Instagram https://www.instagram.com/hiddenkillerspod/Facebook https://www.facebook.com/hiddenkillerspod/Tik-Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@hiddenkillerspodX Twitter https://x.com/TrueCrimePodDisclaimerContent on this site is based on publicly available information and reflects commentary and opinion. All individuals are presumed innocent until proven guilty. Nothing published here constitutes legal, medical, or professional advice.Hashtags#LindsayClancy #DuxburyTragedy #PostpartumPsychosis #TrueCrime #PlymouthCounty #CoraDawsonCallan #InsanityDefense #KevinReddington #HiddenKillers #McLeanHospital

Grandma's Snake Phobia The Real Cause of Her Anxiety Hosts: Kevin Cornelius, LMFT Dr. David Burns What if anxiety isn't the problem? What if anxiety is actually a message? In this fascinating episode, Dr. David Burns and Kevin Cornelius explore one of the most intriguing concepts in TEAM-CBT: the Hidden Emotion Technique. Using the memorable case of "Grandma's Snake Phobia," David explains why some forms of anxiety persist despite cognitive techniques, exposure exercises, and logical reassurance—and how uncovering an unrecognized emotional truth can sometimes lead to astonishingly rapid recovery. David shares the story of an elderly woman who suddenly developed a crippling fear of snakes despite spending her entire life comfortably around them. While most therapists might have focused on treating the phobia itself, David suspected that the anxiety was serving another purpose entirely. As the conversation unfolds, listeners learn how anxiety can function as a symbolic message from the subconscious mind, drawing attention to feelings, needs, conflicts, or desires that have been pushed out of awareness. David also shares the remarkable story of the patient whose panic attacks and nausea at work led him to first discover the Hidden Emotion Technique, as well as a deeply personal story involving his own struggle with anxiety and professional conflict. Along the way, David and Kevin discuss why highly anxious people are often some of the kindest and most compassionate individuals, how "niceness" can sometimes fuel anxiety, and why learning to honor our feelings may be one of the most important steps toward recovery. In This Episode Why traditional cognitive and behavioral approaches sometimes only partially relieve anxiety The origins of the Hidden Emotion Technique The surprising connection between anxiety and excessive "niceness" Why anxiety may be a symbolic message rather than a malfunction The case of Grandma's sudden snake phobia How unspoken fears about aging and dependence fueled anxiety Why simply becoming aware of a hidden emotion is not enough The critical action step that completes the Hidden Emotion Technique The story of the young woman whose job was literally making her sick How suppressed dreams and unexpressed desires can trigger anxiety symptoms David's personal experience discovering a hidden source of anxiety in his own life The role of conflict avoidance, people-pleasing, and "emotophobia" Why the hidden emotion is almost always happening in the present—not buried in childhood How anxious symptoms often function as symbolic clues to what's really wrong Practical ways to begin exploring hidden emotions in your own life Key Insights from David "Anxiety is our subconscious mind trying to get our attention and tell us something important that our conscious minds can't seem to see." "The ultimate fear in anxiety is often the fear of your own feelings." "Only nice people develop anxiety disorders." "The hidden emotion isn't the fear itself. The fear is conscious. The hidden emotion is the feeling you believe you're not supposed to have." "Anxiety never comes out of the blue. It comes from our lives and our hearts." The Hidden Emotion Technique: Two Essential Steps Step 1: Discover the Hidden Emotion Identify the feeling, desire, conflict, or unmet need that has been pushed out of conscious awareness. Common examples include: Anger that feels unacceptable Unexpressed disappointment A desire you feel guilty about wanting Conflict you're avoiding A dream you've abandoned A need you're afraid to ask for Step 2: Take Action Recovery occurs when you: Express the avoided feeling honestly Address the underlying problem directly Have the difficult conversation you've been avoiding Honor the need or dream you've been neglecting As David emphasizes, insight alone rarely eliminates anxiety. The transformation occurs when awareness is followed by action. Why "Nice" People Often Struggle with Anxiety David describes a pattern he has observed repeatedly throughout his career: Many anxious individuals: Want everyone to be happy Avoid conflict at all costs Feel responsible for others' feelings Believe they should never feel angry Fear disappointing people Suppress their own needs and desires When these feelings remain hidden, anxiety can emerge as a signal that something important needs attention. Questions for Reflection Is there something important you're not telling someone? Are you avoiding a conflict because you don't want to upset anyone? Have you been ignoring a dream, desire, or need that matters deeply to you? Do your anxiety symptoms seem symbolic in any way? Is there a feeling you've decided you're "not supposed" to have? Resources Mentioned Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David Burns When Panic Attacks by David Burns David's recent Psychology Today article, "Grandma's Snake Phobia: The Real Cause of Her Anxiety" Listener Survey We'd love to hear from you! Your feedback helps shape future episodes and allows us to create content that is as helpful and meaningful as possible. Please use this link to take the feedback survey and share your thoughts with us about this episode. Your voice matters—and as David points out in this episode, sometimes the most important conversations begin when we're willing to express what we're really thinking and feeling. Thank you for listening to The Feeling Good Podcast! Contact Information Kevin Cornelius, LMFT is a Level 5 Certified Master TEAM-CBT Therapist and Trainer and the Clinical Director of Feeling Good Institute--Silicon Valley. He specializes in the treatment of trauma, anxiety, depression, relationship problems and insomnia. You can reach Kevin at kevin@feelinggoodinstitute.com and visit his website at www.tools4change.me. You can reach Dr. Burns at david@feelinggood.com. Feeling down in these turbulent times? Take a ride on our Feeling Great app. Feeling Great feels wonderful! You owe it to yourself to feel GREAT! Give the Greatest Gifts of ALL--Love and Happiness!

Mike Travisano brings more than 35 years of mindfulness practice and teaching into his work with clients, teams, and organizations. An ordained Buddhist teacher (Oshō) in south-central Pennsylvania, Mike's approach is grounded, personal, and refreshingly real. He specializes in helping people recognize and work with unhelpful thoughts and emotions in real time—offering mindful strategies for creating movement, hope, and healing. Mike's post-grad work in organizational psychology at Penn State informs much of his work with teams. Mike's experience spans corporate leadership and contemplative practice. He has worked with IBM, the United Nations, and Blue Cross organizations, and currently serves as a Contemplative Practitioner for Charlie Health's intensive mental health programs. He's also a member of Charlie Health's Clinical Content Advisory Council.His book, Refuge in Small Things, was released in 2024 and explores everyday practices for living with intention and presence. Mike's writing has also been featured by Psychology Today, Tricycle Magazine, The Dewdrop, and others.

We have all had those nights where we lie in bed, exhausted, yet we cannot stop scrolling through a relentless stream of negative news on our phones. We often feel guilty about this, thinking we just lack willpower, but the truth is that doomscrolling is not a moral failing—it is a biological trap. In this episode, we are going to explore the evolutionary psychology behind why our brains crave bad news, and more importantly, how to break the trance so you can reclaim your attention and protect your inner peace. New Episode of the Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D., Newport Beach Psychologist

Dr. Michelle Millis Chappel is a Princeton PhD psychologist, world- acclaimed musician, transformative career coach, and top business consultant for companies such as Google and Intel. She specializes in showing people how to reclaim their hidden superpowers and succeed in life and work as their full, authentic selves. After discovering she could sing and write songs, she left a career as an award-winning psychology professor to become a rock star with over a million fans and followers. Her songs have topped overseas and U.S. college radio charts, and aired on ABC, HBO, Encore, and Showtime. As the CEO of Creativity Rock Star Coaching and Consulting, she has helped thousands of people find their purpose, claim their power, and live the life they were born to lead. Her music and work have been featured in The Washington Post, TechCrunch, Psychology Today, Science of Mind, WorldNews.com, and Change.org.  For more information, visit powerofauthenticity.org and michellechappel.com.

Welcome to The Mental Breakdown and Psychreg Podcast! Today, Dr. Berney and Dr. Marshall discuss the problems associated with the "us" versus "them" nature of politics and the serious hurt it can cause to individuals and to our society at large. Read the article from Psychology Today here. You can now follow Dr. Marshall on twitter, as well! Dr. Berney and Dr. Marshall are happy to announce the release of their new parenting e-book, Handbook for Raising an Emotionally Healthy Child Part 2: Attention. You can get your copy from Amazon here. We hope that you will join us each morning so that we can help you make your day the best it can be! See you tomorrow. Visit Psychreg for blog posts covering a variety of topics within the fields of mental health and psychology. The Parenting Your ADHD Child course is now on YouTube! Check it out at the Paedeia YouTube Channel. The Handbook for Raising an Emotionally Health Child Part 1: Behavior Management is now available on kindle! Get your copy today! The Elimination Diet Manual is now available on kindle and nook! Get your copy today! Follow us on Twitter and Facebook and subscribe to our YouTube Channels, Paedeia and The Mental Breakdown. Please leave us a review on iTunes so that others might find our podcast and join in on the conversation!

When you quit drinking, you expect the hard part to be over, but sometimes, the brain finds a new outlet for the same addictive patterns. In this episode, Sara opens up about her personal experience with transfer addictions - how her addictive tendencies shifted from alcohol to food tracking, sugar, and weed, and what she learned about herself in the process. Through stories, science, and self-compassion, Sara breaks down: What transfer addiction (or cross-addiction) actually is Why our brains latch onto new sources of dopamine when we remove alcohol How dopamine depletion and reward substitution keep us chasing “the buzz” Why it's normal to experience new compulsions in early sobriety and how to move through them 7 powerful ways to heal the void and rebuild balance in recovery You'll also hear Sara share research-backed insights on dopamine regulation, neuroplasticity, and the incentive sensitization theory, explaining why we crave even when we no longer enjoy the thing we're craving. Whether your new obsession is sugar, scrolling, or staying “in control,” this episode reminds you that awareness is the first step toward freedom. 00:00 Introduction and Personal Journey 01:16 Understanding Transfer Addictions 03:36 Promoting the 30-Day Alcohol-Free Challenge 04:43 Realizing Transfer Addictions 07:40 Defining Transfer Addiction 10:40 The Science Behind Addiction 20:27 Recognizing and Managing Transfer Addictions 22:06 Practical Tools for Overcoming Addictions 26:02 Conclusion and Final Thoughts  

We have a culture that reports an almost all time high of human suffering. A predominant term this suffering gets labeled as is - trauma. But I just don't think it's the right term for many of us. Trauma is defined as - an emotional and physical response to a very stressful, scary, or harmful event. What I experience myself, and feel so many others do, is loss. Loss that may not seem super stressful, scary, or harmful, but it pains us to a deep, deep level. And nobody is speaking well to this. Which is why I bring to you in this episode, someone who I revere, and will honestly say that the following conversation was one of the most helpful I've had in as long as I can remember. Dr. Lucy Hone is an adjunct fellow at the University of Canterbury and a sought-after professional speaker, a bestselling author, and an award-winning internationally published science educator. She is regularly featured in international media, including in The Guardian, the Hidden Brain, and the Washington Post and is a columnist for Psychology Today. Her first book, Resilient Grieving, was an international bestseller that led to a fully updated and expanded second edition in 2024 and her TED talk, Three Secrets of Resilient People, has been viewed by over nine million people. Now Lucy has come out with her latest research in a new book, How Will I Ever Get Through This: Evidence Based Tools to Help You Heal From Hardship, Grief, and Loss. Again, I'm citing this conversation as one of the most profound I've had in a long time. We discuss how most attention gets given to the loss of a loved one or our health, but many people are suffering themselves greatly regarding the loss of an ideal. An expectation. A dream or a goal. A picture they held of their lives. And that culturally we may be seeing the mental health crisis as a result of a societal perceived loss of hope. I expect many of you will find resonance in this conversation, for pain you carry, and hope for some relief. Sign up for your $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to start your free trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Myth of Slow Healing Why Rapid Recovery Is Possible Featuring Dr. David Burns and Kevin Cornelius, LMFT Many people believe emotional healing takes months—or even years. Therapists are often trained to expect gradual progress, and patients may assume lasting change requires prolonged struggle. But what if that assumption is wrong? In this episode, Dr. David Burns challenges one of the most deeply entrenched beliefs in mental health: the idea that meaningful psychological recovery must happen slowly. Drawing from his recent Psychology Today article, The Myth of Slow Healing, Dr. Burns explains why rapid emotional change is not only possible—it may actually reflect how the human brain naturally works. Through powerful clinical stories, personal reflections, and decades of research, Dr. Burns describes how depression, anxiety, panic, shame, and hopelessness can sometimes disappear in a matter of minutes when people discover and challenge the distorted thoughts driving their suffering. What Inspired This Article? Dr. Burns begins by sharing a formative experience from his psychiatric residency in Philadelphia. As a young psychiatrist, he noticed something troubling: psychotherapy often seemed to continue indefinitely, yet measurable recovery was rarely discussed. Therapists relied heavily on intuition, but almost no one was systematically measuring whether patients were actually improving. A walk through Fairmount Park sparked an insight that would transform his career. Thinking about professional basketball players improving through constant feedback—seeing whether the ball goes through the hoop—he wondered: How can therapists improve if they never measure whether their sessions are helping? This question led him to become one of the earliest advocates for routine outcome measurement in psychotherapy, eventually helping shape the development of TEAM-CBT's session-by-session assessment system. The Importance of Measurement Dr. Burns discusses his early use of the Beck Depression Inventory and the surprising lessons it taught him. Again and again, he discovered that his assumptions about how patients felt were often wrong: Some patients appeared severely depressed but reported relatively mild symptoms. Others seemed cheerful and functional while scoring in the severe range. These experiences reinforced an important lesson: Therapists need data, not guesses. By measuring depression, anxiety, empathy, and therapeutic effectiveness during every session, therapists can receive the feedback necessary to improve their work and help patients more effectively. The Caveman Effect: Why the Brain Can Change Instantly One of the episode's most memorable concepts is what Dr. Burns calls the "Caveman Effect." Borrowing an illustration from neuroscientist Mark Noble, he describes a prehistoric human hearing a twig snap behind him at dusk. The caveman immediately thinks: "A tiger is behind me!" Instantly, fear surges. Then he turns around and discovers the sound came from his wife stepping on a branch. In that moment, his fear vanishes. Not gradually. Not over six months. Instantly. Dr. Burns argues that this illustrates a fundamental principle: Thoughts create emotions. When a frightening thought is believed, anxiety emerges. When that thought is no longer believed, anxiety disappears. This process can happen in seconds. Three Levels of "Shortness" Dr. Burns describes three different ways emotional healing can occur rapidly. 1. Therapy Can Be Brief Many patients experience dramatic improvements within a single two-hour session. Rather than expecting treatment to continue indefinitely, Dr. Burns often approaches therapy with the goal of achieving complete symptom remission as quickly as possible. 2. Breakthroughs Often Happen in Minutes Even within a session, the most important change frequently occurs during a short window—sometimes only a few minutes long. Once therapists identify the specific distorted thoughts maintaining the problem and apply an effective intervention, major shifts can happen quickly. 3. The Moment of Enlightenment The most dramatic change often occurs in a matter of seconds. This is the moment when someone suddenly sees: Their negative belief isn't true. They've been deceiving themselves. A different perspective is possible. When this realization occurs, emotions can shift almost instantly. Dr. Burns compares this experience to the caveman discovering there was never a tiger at all. Why People Resist the Idea of Rapid Recovery If rapid healing is possible, why do so many people reject the concept? Dr. Burns identifies several reasons: For Patients Many people have spent years struggling with depression or anxiety. The idea that change could happen quickly may sound unrealistic or even fraudulent. After repeated disappointments, hope itself can feel dangerous. For Therapists Rapid recovery also challenges many traditional assumptions about psychotherapy. It raises uncomfortable questions: Why aren't outcomes being measured? Why do some treatments continue for years without substantial change? What happens to a therapist's business model when patients recover quickly? Dr. Burns and Kevin discuss how financial incentives can sometimes unintentionally reinforce longer treatments, even when faster recovery may be possible. The Story of Terry: Ten Years of Panic Gone in One Session One of the episode's most powerful moments is Dr. Burns' retelling of Terry's story. Terry suffered from: Severe depression Crippling panic attacks Nearly ten years of unsuccessful treatment Her symptoms were extreme, with depression and anxiety scores among the highest Dr. Burns had ever seen. The key breakthrough came when he identified the specific thought driving her panic: "I'm about to have a heart attack." Using an experimental technique, Dr. Burns intentionally helped Terry induce panic symptoms in session. Then he challenged her catastrophic belief through direct experience. If she were truly having a heart attack: Could she jog in place? Could she exercise vigorously? Could she do jumping jacks? As Terry performed increasingly strenuous activity, she suddenly realized the absurdity of her belief. Then came the breakthrough moment. She laughed. The fear disappeared. And a decade of panic ended. The episode emphasizes that it was not the jumping jacks themselves that created recovery. It was the moment she stopped believing the distorted thought. Why Thoughts Matter Dr. Burns revisits three core principles of cognitive therapy: Principle 1 Your emotions result from your thoughts—not directly from events. Principle 2 The thoughts creating depression and anxiety are typically distorted. Common distortions include: All-or-nothing thinking Fortune telling Emotional reasoning Mind reading Self-blame Principle 3 The moment you stop believing a distorted thought, your emotions will change. This principle remains central to TEAM-CBT and forms the foundation for many rapid recoveries. Beyond Cognition: The Role of Motivation Later in the discussion, Dr. Burns explains that distorted thoughts are only part of the story. Another critical factor is motivation. People often have powerful reasons for holding onto painful feelings. Depression, anxiety, anger, guilt, and shame frequently reflect important personal values. For example: Perfectionism may reflect high standards. Guilt may reflect a strong conscience. Anxiety may reflect caring deeply about others. Rather than arguing patients out of their symptoms, TEAM-CBT often begins by exploring what those symptoms reveal about the person's strengths and values. Benny's Story: The Power of Acceptance To illustrate this paradoxical approach, Dr. Burns shares the story of Benny. Benny was: Suicidal Violent Deeply depressed Involved in gangs, drugs, and crime Rather than confronting Benny's hopelessness, Dr. Burns did something unexpected. He explored all the advantages of believing: "I'm a hopeless case." Together they listed the benefits: Status Power Money Protection Identity For the first time, Benny felt understood rather than judged. Then his defenses collapsed. He revealed a lifetime of hidden pain, including witnessing his grandfather's suicide and struggling with illiteracy. The story illustrates a central paradox of TEAM-CBT: People often change only after they feel completely accepted exactly as they are. What Dr. Burns Has Learned About Human Nature After decades of witnessing rapid recovery, Dr. Burns says one conclusion feels increasingly clear: Thoughts create emotions. Yet he also emphasizes a deeper question: Why do some people generate so many painful thoughts in the first place? His answer increasingly involves: Core values Motivation Human meaning Personal strengths that become exaggerated Understanding both cognition and motivation has become essential to creating lasting change. Key Takeaways Emotional healing does not require months or years. The brain is capable of extraordinarily rapid change. Thoughts—not events themselves—create emotions. Distorted thoughts fuel depression and anxiety. When distorted thoughts lose their credibility, emotions often change immediately. Measurement and feedback are critical to effective therapy. Motivation and personal values play a major role in emotional suffering. Acceptance often creates more change than persuasion. Recovery can happen much faster than most people realize. Resources Mentioned Feeling Good by David D. Burns Intensive Therapy at Feeling Good Institute The Psychology Today article: The Myth of Slow Healing The video demonstration of Terry's panic attack treatment Coming Next Episode Dr. Burns and Kevin continue the conversation with a fascinating discussion of: "Grandma's Snake Phobia: The Real Cause of Her Anxiety" You'll learn about the Hidden Emotion Model and discover why the apparent cause of anxiety is sometimes very different from the true cause. We'd Love Your Feedback Your feedback helps shape future episodes. Please take a moment to complete the brief listener survey linked here. It takes less than two minutes and provides invaluable guidance for improving the podcast and helping more people learn these powerful tools for recovery. Contact Information Kevin Cornelius, LMFT is a Level 5 Certified Master TEAM-CBT Therapist and Trainer and the Clinical Director of Feeling Good Institute--Silicon Valley. He specializes in the treatment of trauma, anxiety, depression, relationship problems and insomnia. You can reach Kevin at kevin@feelinggoodinstitute.com and visit his website at www.tools4change.me. You can reach Dr. Burns at david@feelinggood.com. Feeling down in these turbulent times? Take a ride on our Feeling Great app. Feeling Great feels wonderful! You owe it to yourself to feel GREAT! Give the Greatest Gifts of ALL--Love and Happiness!

Why is it so hard to say "no" even when we know we should? Most of us believe we'd stand up for our values in difficult moments, yet research shows we often choose compliance over conviction. In this episode, we'll explore the fascinating psychology behind why we say yes when we mean no, why authority and social pressure are so powerful, and how understanding your values can help you make decisions you'll be proud of long after the moment has passed. QUOTES FROM DR. BRAY "In every workplace, home, and classroom, defiance is the exception and obedience is the rule. But it doesn't have to be that way." "That discomfort is the key to our power to defy. It shows up as tension in the back of your neck, a headache, a stomach cramp, general uneasiness. It's an internal compass guiding us back to our values." "Learning to say no isn't just about courage. It's about preparation."   Sunita Sah, DEFY, The Power of No in a World That Demands Yes Sunita Sah, Psychology Today, January/February 2025 Issue If you need to speak with someone about sexual harassment, abuse, or any related topic, please call 1-800-656-HOPE or Text Hope to 64673.  This is a free service operated in the US by RAINN to provide hope and healing.

Cesar R. Espino brings to you at You Can Overcome Anything! Podcast Show, a special guest.She is Dr. Klara Gubacs-Collins who doesn't teach motivation—she teaches execution under pressure. A high-performance strategist, author of Your Good Is Good Enough, and former professor, she helps athletes, executives, and high achievers stop overthinking and start performing when it actually counts.Her core message is simple but disruptive: under pressure, you don't lose confidence—you lose access to it. And if you don't know how to reset, you stay stuck.With over 25 years of experience, she developed the Performance Reset System to help people recover fast from mistakes, regulate emotional triggers, and perform freely without carrying the weight of proving themselves.Featured in Forbes, Psychology Today, and Muscle & Fitness, her work cuts through traditional mindset advice and focuses on what actually drives performance: access, not hype. Because real performance isn't about becoming someone else—it's about finally being able to use what's already there.Dr. Kalra Gubacs-Collins message to you is:Under pressure, nothing is missing—you're just not accessing it. But if your worth is tied to your results, every moment feels like it defines you—and that's what blocks performance. Separate your worth, reset faster, and you'll return to your best.To Connect with her tgo to:Website: klaragubacs.comBook: Your Good Is Good Enough (available on Amazon)Email: klara@winningmindinstitute.comLinkedIn: Dr. Klara Gubacs-CollinsInstagram: @klaragubacsYet Another amazing Episode of You Can Overcome Anything! Podcast Show. If you are not subscribed yet, make sure you hit the Subscribe bottom and join us today.  To Connect with CesarRespino go to:

When you walk through the historic cities of Europe, you are surrounded by massive cathedrals that have survived wars, storms, and centuries of time—all because the architects spent years pouring deep, heavy foundations before they ever built the beautiful spires. But in our own lives, we often try to build our happiness like a temporary tent, propping it up with a fleeting good mood or a fun weekend, only to watch it collapse the moment a storm hits. In this episode, we are going to explore the 'architecture of serenity,' and learn how to do the deep, unglamorous foundational work required to build an inner peace that is completely unshakeable. New Episode of the Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D., Newport Beach Psychologist

*Content Warning:  neglect, rejection, friendship betrayal, betrayal, and infidelity.Free + Confidential Resources + Safety Tips: somethingwaswrong.com/resources   SWW Sticker Shop!: https://brokencyclemedia.com/sticker-shop SWW S26 Theme Song & Artwork: The S26 cover art is by the Amazing Sara Stewart instagram.com/okaynotgreat/  Follow Something Was Wrong: Website: somethingwaswrong.com  IG: instagram.com/somethingwaswrongpodcast TikTok: tiktok.com/@somethingwaswrongpodcast  Follow Tiffany Reese: Website: tiffanyreese.me  IG: instagram.com/lookieboo Follow Dr. Rebecca Schwartz-Mette: Research - https://ubwp.buffalo.edu/birch Faculty Page: https://arts-sciences.buffalo.edu/psychology/faculty/faculty-directory.host.html/content/shared/arts-sciences/psychology/faculty-staff/faculty-profiles/schwartz-mette-rebecca.html Book - https://www.combinedacademic.co.uk/author/rebecca-a-schwartz-mette/ Therapy Page: https://www.meridianpractice.org/staff/beccaschwartzmette *Sources:  Abrams, Zara. “The Science of Why Friendships Keep Us Healthy.” Monitor on Psychology, vol. 54, no. 4, 1 June 2023, American Psychological Association, https://www.apa.org/monitor/2023/06/cover-story-science-friendship Choukas-Bradley, Sophia. “Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria: The Actual Research.” Psychology Today, 29 Apr. 2026, https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/if-i-be-waspish/202604/rejection-sensitivity-dysphoria-the-actual-research Degges-White, Suzanne. “Not All Friendships Last Forever.” Psychology Today, 29 June 2017, https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/lifetime-connections/201706/not-all-friendships-last-forever Dong, Kaixi et al. “The Relationship Between Co-rumination and Depressive Symptoms: A Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis.” Journal of youth and adolescence vol. 54,6 (2025): 1551-1569. doi:10.1007/s10964-025-02140-9. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/39891852/  “Doomscrolling and Its Effects on the Brain.” American Brain Foundation, 15 Apr. 2025, https://www.americanbrainfoundation.org/doomscrolling-and-its-effects-on-the-brain/ Gillis, Kaytee. “How Our Trauma History Can Affect Our Friendships.” Psychology Today, 23 May 2025, https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/invisible-bruises/202504/how-our-trauma-history-can-affect-our-friendships Google Scholar. “Google Scholar Profile: Dr. Rebecca Schwartz-Mette,” https://scholar.google.com/citations?user=4LNWZdcAAAAJ&hl=en Leary, Mark R. “Emotional responses to interpersonal rejection.” Dialogues in clinical neuroscience vol. 17,4 (2015): 435-41. doi:10.31887/DCNS.2015.17.4/mleary https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4734881/ Nelson, Jocelyn. “When a Friend Hurts You: Coping With Friendship Betrayal.” The Family Institute at Northwestern University, 29 June 2026, https://www.family-institute.org/behavioral-health-resources/when-friend-hurts-you-coping-friendship-betrayal Novotni, Michele. “Making Friends with Autism Spectrum Disorder and ADHD.” ADDitude, https://www.additudemag.com/making-friends-autism-spectrum-disorder-adhd/ Ruiz, Wawie D G, and Homer J Yabut. “Autonomy and identity: the role of two developmental tasks on adolescent's wellbeing.” Frontiers in psychology vol. 15 1309690. 10 Apr. 2024, doi:10.3389/fpsyg.2024.1309690 https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11042260/ Satici, Seydi Ahmet et al. “Doomscrolling Scale: its Association with Personality Traits, Psychological Distress, Social Media Use, and Wellbeing.” Applied research in quality of life vol. 18,2 (2023): 833-847. doi:10.1007/s11482-022-10110-7 https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9580444/ Schwartz-Mette, Rebecca A. Depression in Childhood and Adolescence: A Guide for Practitioners. Momentum Press, 2016. Schwartz-Mette, Rebecca A., and Amanda J. Rose. “Co-Rumination Mediates Contagion of Internalizing Symptoms within Youths' Friendships.” Developmental Psychology, vol. 48, no. 5, 2012, pp. 1355–1365. https://doi.org/10.1037/a0027484 Schwartz-Mette, Rebecca A., et al. “Relations of Friendship Experiences with Depressive Symptoms and Loneliness in Childhood and Adolescence: A Meta-Analytic Review.” Psychological Bulletin, vol. 146, no. 8, 2020, pp. 664–700. https://doi.org/10.1037/bul0000239 Wallace, Anna Kodé. "Why Friendship Betrayal Feels Impossible to Get Over." The Cut, 22 Apr. 2026, https://www.thecut.com/article/friendship-betrayal-explained-psychology-summer-house.html

When society says "it's just a pet," Beth Bigler says "your grief is valid and profound."As a double-certified Pet Loss Grief Counselor and founder of Honoring Our Animals, Beth is a pioneering voice in pet loss support, offering personalized care to individuals and families before, during, and after their beloved's transition. After the sudden death of her soulmate cat Arnie, she transformed her loss into a mission they began together: guiding guardians to honor their grief, connect with their beloveds, and integrate loss into their lives.Beth is the author of Honoring Our Animals: 365 Meditations for Healing After Pet Loss (Quarto/Wellfleet Press, 2025), the first daily grief companion created specifically for pet guardians, available worldwide and a go-to resource for therapists, veterinary clinics, and animal care organizations. Her second book is forthcoming from HarperCollins in 2027. She has been featured in Forbes, Psychology Today, The Sunday Times, USA Today, Business Insider, Daily Mail, and numerous television and radio outlets including KFI AM 640. Beth also built a 20-year career breaking ground as a writer, producer, and educator across stage, film, and television. Find her on Instagram @honoringouranimals.In this episode, we discuss the complexity of pet loss and grief that can follow. We discuss the societal judgment around grieving animals, why grief does not need to be justified or compared, and why loss of a pet can feel more painful than other losses for some.We hold space for the valid, complex emotions that can come with pet loss and remind listeners that there is no "one right way" to grieve. We touch on the beauty of bonding more deeply with certain animals and discuss the guilt that can arise when bringing a new pet after a loss. In addition, we discuss being able to hold space for both grief and love at the same time.We hope this episode can provide support, validation, compassion, understanding, and hope for those who need it.FOLLOW BETH:INSTA: @honoringouranimalsWEBSITE: www.honoringouranimals.comBOOK: Honoring Our Animals: 365 Meditations for Healing after Pet Loss STAY CONNECTED:INSTA: @trustandthriveTIKOK: @trustandthriveTHREADS: @trustandthriveFACEBOOK: bit.ly/FBtaramontEMAIL: trustandthrive@gmail.com

Ludmila Praslova: The Canary Code Ludmila Praslova is a Professor of Industrial-Organizational Psychology at Vanguard University of Southern California and regularly writes for Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, Psychology Today, and Forbes. She's the recipient of the 2025 Talent Award from Thinker50 and has been named a LinkedIn Top Voice. She is the author of The Canary Code: A Guide to Neurodiversity, Dignity, and Intersectional Belonging at Work (Amazon, Bookshop)*. We've all seen career paths that sound like this: analyst 1, analyst 2, senior analyst, lead analyst, manager of analysts, etc. Those paths to leadership work for some people, but they don't work for others. In this conversation, Ludmila and I explore how to create leadership paths that work for everyone. Key Points Canaries were used in coal mines because they were more sensitive to early indicators of problems – in a way that helped everyone. The same is often true for neurodivergent leaders in organizations. The “ideal leader” is a myth. If we are honest, no individual fits the ideal profile. Having different paths to leadership makes more sense in a complex world. Many of the best leaders are specialists in something. Instead of looking for “culture fit,” challenge yourself and your organization to do a “culture add.” Neurodiverse leaders can be less susceptible to bias and have higher levels of divergent thinking – huge benefits strengths for many organizations. In addition to people management, consider paths for leadership that focus strength and skill on system and process, strategy, expertise, though leadership, global leadership, and creative ideation. Making the workplace more accessible and equitable for one population almost always makes it better for everyone. Resources Mentioned The Canary Code: A Guide to Neurodiversity, Dignity, and Intersectional Belonging at Work by Ludmilla Praslova (Amazon, Bookshop)* Interview Notes Download my interview notes in PDF format (free membership required). Related Episodes The Mindset Leaders Need to Address Burnout, with Christina Maslach (episode 608) The Neurodiversity Edge in Organizations, with Maureen Dunne (episode 694) How to Motivate Younger Employees, with David Yeager (episode 775) Discover More Activate your free membership for full access to the entire library of interviews since 2011, searchable by topic. To accelerate your learning, uncover more inside Coaching for Leaders Plus.

We tend to understand and acknowledge that what we say matters. But I find an increasing lack of attention to how we say things. And yet we make conscious and unconscious judgments about people regarding how they are talking, that sometimes become more important than whatever it is they might actually be saying. This is a focus on being aware of our own speech patterns and habits and how they may be hampering our desire to really connect with others. My guest is Valerie Fridland, professor of linguistics in the English Department at the University of Nevada, Reno. As a sociolinguist, Valerie studies how language interacts with society and examines how factors like geography, social class, age, gender, and ethnicity shape accents, vocabulary, and grammar with a focus on how the way we speak impacts the way we think about and talk to one another. Valerie is the author of Like, Literally, Dude: Arguing for the Good in Bad English, and she writes a popular language blog on Psychology Today called "Language in the Wild.” Her new book is Why We Talk Funny: The Real Story Behind our Accents. valeriefridland.com Sign up for your $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to start your free trial. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Shame Attacking: A Surprising Cure for Social Anxiety Hosts: Kevin Cornelius, LMFT Dr. David Burns Episode Summary Many people believe social anxiety is caused by low self-esteem, poor social skills, or awkwardness. But what if the real culprit is shame? In this episode, Dr. David Burns and Kevin Cornelius explore one of the most powerful—and unconventional—tools for overcoming social anxiety: Shame Attacking Exercises. Drawing from Dr. Burns' recent Psychology Today article, Shame Attacking: Overcoming a Lifetime of Social Anxiety, they tell the remarkable story of Martin, a handsome young man whose intense shame about excessive sweating had left him isolated and unable to connect with others. Through a series of courageous shame-attacking exercises, Martin discovered something life-changing: the world was far kinder and less judgmental than he imagined. Along the way, David shares how he first learned shame-attacking exercises from followers of psychologist Albert Ellis and describes his own unforgettable experience of asking strangers in a crowded New York restaurant if he could sample their food. The episode highlights how bringing our perceived flaws into the open often causes shame to evaporate—much like a vampire exposed to sunlight. In This Episode The Origins of Shame Attacking Exercises David's introduction to Albert Ellis's famous technique Why therapists should never ask patients to do something they wouldn't do themselves The surprising results of David's first shame-attacking exercise in a crowded Chinese restaurant Martin's Story A young man whose fear of sweating kept him trapped in loneliness How shame—not sweating—was the real problem A therapy session unlike any other: jogging through Philadelphia, getting intentionally soaked, and publicly announcing his "flaw" What Happened When Martin Stopped Hiding Why strangers responded with warmth instead of ridicule How exposing his greatest fear challenged years of distorted beliefs The unexpected encounter that changed his social life forever Shame Is Like a Vampire David introduces a memorable metaphor: Shame survives in darkness and secrecy. When exposed to the light, it shrivels up and dies. The discussion explores how openly acknowledging our imperfections can dramatically reduce anxiety and self-consciousness. The Hidden Cost of Taking Ourselves Too Seriously David and Kevin discuss: Why humor can be a powerful antidote to social anxiety The value of becoming more playful and less self-focused How social anxiety often convinces us that everyone is watching and judging us when they're usually not Guidelines for Shame Attacking Exercises David emphasizes that shame-attacking exercises are powerful but should be used thoughtfully. Some important principles include: Be Respectful Exercises should never disrupt places where people deserve peace and privacy, such as hospitals, churches, or synagogues. Be Playful, Not Aggressive The goal is to laugh at yourself, not make others uncomfortable or upset. Don't Wait Until You're Ready The breakthrough often comes when you act despite feeling anxious. Therapists Must Lead by Example If therapists want patients to challenge shame, they should be willing to challenge their own shame as well. Memorable Takeaways The problem is rarely the flaw itself—it's the hiding. Most people are far less judgmental than we imagine. Courage grows through action, not waiting for fear to disappear. Humor and playfulness can dissolve shame. Vulnerability often creates connection rather than rejection. The world may be much friendlier than your anxiety predicts. Featured Article This episode is based on Dr. David Burns' Psychology Today article: "Shame Attacking: Overcoming a Lifetime of Social Anxiety" The article explores Martin's story in greater detail and illustrates how shame-attacking exercises can transform social anxiety by challenging both self-criticism and fears of rejection. We'd Love Your Feedback As with TEAM-CBT therapy, feedback helps us improve. Please take a few minutes to complete the episode feedback survey linked here. Your responses help us create better episodes and continue exploring the topics that matter most to you. Until next time, remember: the things you're most afraid to reveal about yourself may be the very things that set you free. Contact Information Kevin Cornelius, LMFT is a Level 5 Certified Master TEAM-CBT Therapist and Trainer and the Clinical Director of Feeling Good Institute--Silicon Valley. He specializes in the treatment of trauma, anxiety, depression, relationship problems and insomnia. You can reach Kevin at kevin@feelinggoodinstitute.com and visit his website at www.tools4change.me. You can reach Dr. Burns at david@feelinggood.com. Feeling down in these turbulent times? Take a ride on our Feeling Great app. Feeling Great feels wonderful! You owe it to yourself to feel GREAT! Give the Greatest Gifts of ALL--Love and Happiness!

We spend so much of our lives looking sideways, measuring our success, our relationships, and our happiness against the people around us. But this is a rigged game, because we are comparing our internal reality to someone else's highlight reel, forgetting that they had a completely different upbringing, biology, and life experience than we did. In this episode, we are going to explore how to step off the treadmill of comparison by focusing on the only benchmark that matters—being a better you than you were yesterday—and how using the Golden Rule as your ultimate metric is the true secret to lifelong peace. New Episode of the Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff, Ph.D., Newport Beach Psychologist

Today we're talking about boys—the messages they receive about emotions, strength, masculinity, and what it means to “be a man” in today's world. My guest is Dr. Katie Hurley, a child and adolescent psychotherapist, parenting educator, and Vice President of Community Initiatives for The Jed Foundation, a nonprofit focused on youth mental health and suicide prevention. Katie is the author of several books on kids' and teens' mental health, and her newest release, Breaking the Boy Code, takes a deep look at the societal pressures shaping boys' emotional lives. In our conversation, Katie and I explore how traditional expectations around masculinity can impact boys' mental health, emotional expression, and relationships. We talk about the unique pressures boys are facing today, what can happen when emotions get pushed underground, and practical ways parents can support boys in developing emotional awareness, resilience, and a healthier sense of self.  About Dr. Katie Hurley   Dr. Katie Hurley is a child and adolescent psychotherapist, parenting educator, public speaker, and writer, and is the Vice President of Community Initiatives for The Jed Foundation (JED), a nonprofit dedicated to youth and young adult mental health and suicide prevention. She is the author of the award-winning No More Mean Girls: The Secret to Raising Strong, Confident, and Compassionate Girls, The Depression Workbook for Teens: Tools to Improve Your Mood, Build Self-Esteem, and Stay Motivated, The Happy Kid Handbook: How to Raise Joyful Children in a Stressful World, A Year of Positive Thinking for Teens, and her newest book, The Stress-Buster Workbook for Kids. Her newest book is Breaking the Boy Code, which came out in March 2026. Katie covers mental health, child and adolescent development, and parenting for The Washington Post, PBS Parents, Psychology Today, Everyday Health, PsyCom, and US News and World Report, among other places. She splits her time between Los Angeles, California and coastal Connecticut with her husband and two children. Things you'll learn from this episode  Why the “Man Box” and traditional messages about masculinity can limit boys' emotional well-being and self-expression How social media, gaming culture, and online spaces can influence boys' identities, including exposure to red pill and incel ideologies Why open conversations about feelings and mental health are critical for helping boys thrive How practical tools, coping strategies, and supportive school environments can strengthen boys' resilience and self-awareness Why media literacy, positive role models, and inclusive communities help boys navigate today's complex world with greater confidence and authenticity   Resources mentioned Breaking the Boy Code: The New Playbook for Raising Resilience Boys by Dr. Katie Hurley Katie Hurley's website Katie Hurley on Facebook Katie Hurley on Instagram Katie Hurley on Twitter Teen Talk / Katie's Facebook Group for Parents of Teens Katie's Facebook Group for Parents of younger children The Stress-Buster Workbook for Kids by Katie Hurley A Year of Positive Thinking for Teens by Katie Hurley The Happy Kid Handbook: How to Raise Joyful Children in a Stressful World by Katie Hurley The Depression Workbook for Teens: Tools to Improve Your Mood, Build Self-Esteem, and Stay Motivated by Katie Hurley No More Mean Girls: The Secret to Raising Strong, Confident, and Compassionate Girls by Katie Hurley Not familiar with ‘red pill' content? Teen boys are, whether they want to be or not (Katie's article on CNN) We're Family, and We Lost Loved Ones to Suicide 25 Years Apart. Here's What's Changed About Suicide in America, and What Hasn't (Katie's article on Oprah Magazine) Ecumundo Dr. Tina Payne Bryson Louis Theroux Inside the Manosphere (documentary on Netflix) Sex Educator Amy Lang Talks About Kids & Pornography (Full-Tilt Parenting) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices