Podcasts about Attachment theory

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about...   What is the difference between attachment bonds and parental preferences? If your child shows you their most dysregulated behaviors, doesn't listen to you, or is their messiest self with you, what these behaviors may reveal. (Spoiler: It's a good sign!) If your child does have an insecure attachment to you, practical strategies and interventions you can use to start repairing your relationship. The difference between independent play and child led play, and how only one of these is used to help you improve your connection. Dr. Sarah's 6-basics that all kids need before you can start developing a deeper bond with your child. How you can tap into your child's attachment security in other relationships to help you deepen your own bond to each other.     REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES:  

Many wonder if they're "stuck" in a pattern or if healing and growth are possible.Join George Haas as he explores the intersection of attachment theory and meditation, and the path to live a more meaningful life. If you're interested in meditation-based attachment repair for long-term healing, this is for you.Like this? Grab our free video resource called

What exactly is spiritual formation? Is it similar or different than discipleship? And who is having this conversation about spiritual formation anyway?In this episode of the Attaching to God podcast, hosted by Geoff Holsclaw and produced by Embodied Faith, the focus is on spiritual formation—what it is, how it compares to discipleship, and its future. Dr. Strobel shares his journey into this field, discusses the historical background of spiritual formation within evangelicalism, and explains the importance of integrating theological depth into spiritual practices. Concerns about the potential pitfalls of spiritual formation becoming a mere self-help concept and the need for ecclesial context and communal life are highlighted.Dr. Kyle Strobel is the director of the Institute for Spiritual Formation and is associate professor of spiritual theology at Talbot School of Theology, Biola University, who writes and teaches in the area of spiritual formation. He is most recently the co-author of the book, Where Prayer Becomes Real: How Honesty with God Transforms Your Soul.Be sure to follow his writing on his Substack. Dive deeper in our new book, Landscapes of the Soul: How the Science and Spirituality of Attachment Can Move You into Confident Faith, Courage, and Connection, and learn about our trainings and other resources at embodiedfaith.life.Stay Connected: Check out our Attaching to God 6-Week Learning Cohort. Join the Embodied Faith community to stay connected and get posts, episodes, & resources. Support the podcast with a one-time or regular gift (to keep this ad-free without breaking the Holsclaw's bank).

Author and podcaster Jemma Sbeg is behind one of the world's most popular podcasts - The Psychology Of Your 20s. Always backed with receipts - Jemma chats to Dee about what the research shows when it comes to love, dating and relationships in one of the most turbulent decades of your life.SHOW NOTES:Jemma Sbeg's InstagramThe Psychology Of Your 20s podcastJemma's book: Person In ProgressDM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.auThe Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

In this episode of The Art of Growth, Joel Hubbard and Jim Zartman sit down once again with therapist Michelle Pruett to explore “faux wisdom” in the therapy world—those phrases, concepts, and quick fixes that sound good but miss the heart of true healing. Together, they unpack how readiness, resistance, and relational depth play vital roles in transformation. They also revisit the importance of calibrated support and challenge, the misuse of trauma language, and how timing matters more than advice.

Send us a textDo you find you're in a co-dependent  relationship that is affecting your relationship? Maybe you need them too much, or perhaps you don't want to need them as much but don't know what to do. This podcast shares how our attachment styles show up in co-dependent relationships and what you can do to manage it. Support the show

Welcome to today's ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed.Why do some people have anxious or avoidant attachment styles, while others are totally secure? A lot of it comes down to our formative years in childhood, as early as infancy — but we aren't stuck in those patterns forever. If you're working on cultivating a secure attachment style in your relationships, this throwback to our attachment theory episode with expert Jessica Baum is a must-listen. Jessica is a psychotherapist and couples counselor, founder of The Relationship Institute of Palm Beach, and the founder of Be Self-full®, a company that provides counseling, group coaching and courses for couples and individuals. Listen to our full episode with Jess here.Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes.Follow Jessica:@jessicabaumlmhcBeselffull.comBuy Jessica's book Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love For advertising and sponsorship inquiries, please contact Frequency Podcast Network. Sign up for our monthly adulting newsletter:teachmehowtoadult.ca/newsletter Follow us on the ‘gram:@teachmehowtoadultmedia@gillian.bernerFollow on TikTok: @teachmehowtoadultSubscribe on YouTube

Many wonder if they're "stuck" in a pattern or if healing and growth are possible.Join George Haas as he explores the intersection of attachment theory and meditation, and the path to live a more meaningful life. If you're interested in meditation-based attachment repair for long-term healing, this is for you.Like this? Grab our free video resource called

Governor Kathy Hochul appeared before the United States House Committee on Oversight and Government Reform. She was questioned by House Representatives on New York's status as a sanctuary city, which is a topic of concern for many republican lawmakers. WFUV's Alexandra Pfau reports. 21 state Attorneys General have signed onto an amicus brief decrying the deployment of the National Guard in L.A. against the wishes of Governor Gavin Newsom. WFUV's Adithi Vimalanathan reports. The Trump administration is planning to cut $1-billion dollars in federal funding for programs that provide mental health services in schools, including $71 million to New York. Senator Kirsten Gillibrand is demanding that money be restored. WFUV's Livia Regina reports. Music news: What's What Music host Brenda Plascencia shares some of Counting Crows' recent FUV Live session. Also, coverage of tributes to Sly Stone and Sharon Van Etten & the Attachment Theory's new tour. What's What explores current events, culture, news and hot topic issues surrounding the New York metropolitan area. The weekday show includes features, interviews and music news exclusively from WFUV. New episodes air every weekday after 4 pm. News Host and Producer: Andrew McDonald Editor: Tess Novotny Theme Music: Joe Bergsieker

This week, we're talking boundaries—the invisible lines that protect our time, energy, and sanity (when we actually enforce them). Stef and Sarah unpack what boundaries really are (hint: not just saying “no”), how they show up in our bodies, our relationships, and our work—and why so many of us struggle to hold them. From family dynamics to friend drama, people-pleasing traps to food boundaries, they share real stories of what it takes to define and defend your limits without guilt. They also get into the psychology behind rigid vs. porous boundaries, how social conditioning makes it harder for some of us to draw the line, and why clear communication isn't just helpful—it's essential. If you've ever felt like setting a boundary makes you mean—or like you're constantly betraying yourself just to avoid conflict—this conversation is for you. Tune in for a candid, compassionate look at how to honor your needs and why boundaries aren't just protective… they're a form of kindness. 01:09 Defining Boundaries 02:20 Types of Boundaries 04:09 Personal Experiences with Boundaries 08:09 Boundaries in Relationships 10:32 Communicating Boundaries Effectively 11:41 Challenges in Setting Boundaries 13:11 Owning Your Boundaries 21:23 The Importance of Clear Communication 22:56 Setting Boundaries with Family 24:35 Navigating Boundaries in Friendships 26:41 Balancing Personal and Professional Boundaries 28:56 Understanding Boundaries in Therapy 34:57 Boundaries and Food Relationships 40:55 Concluding Thoughts on Boundaries Join our support community. This community is for you if you want a safe space to work through your daily struggles with food and body image. Community membership includes livestream episode recordings (online), monthly Zoom support meetings, a private Facebook group and member-only Q&A episodes. For more information go to: https://www.patreon.com/lifeafterdiets Instagram – https://www.instagram.com/lifeafterdietspodcast Email – hello@lifeafterdietspod.com Connect with Stefanie Michele, Binge Eating Coach & Somatic Therapist IT Website – www.iamstefaniemichele.com Instagram – www.instagram.com/iamstefaniemichele Connect with Sarah Dosanjh, Author & Psychotherapist Website – www.thebingeeatingtherapist.com Instagram – www.instagram.com/the_binge_eating_therapist YouTube – https://www.youtube.com/c/TheBingeEatingTherapist Sarah's book I Can't Stop Eating is available on Amazon

This week's episode of the 21st Century Vitalism podcast is with the founding teacher of the Metta Group, George Haas. In this conversation we explore his work of combining Buddhist meditation practice with cutting edge attachment strategy repair protocols. Drawing on over 40 years of teaching this material, George's approach to helping students heal from their attachment injuries has been clinically proven to be effective and deeply transformational. Outside of his full schedule of one on one sessions and weekly classes, he's also the host of a podcast called, ‘I Love You, Keep Going', which explores these topics in great detail. If you want to study with George, head on over to mettagroup.org or consider checking out his show wherever you tune into your podcasts. Show Topics - What's the Difference Between Attachment Styles and Strategies? - Organized Attachment Vs. Disorganized - What Determines Our Attachment Strategy? - How Views Shape Our Reality - Working With Our Strategies - Intimacy and Communication - Vipassana and Attachment - How Emotions Change Perception - What is Authenticity? - Attachment and Spiritual Practice

In this episode of the Attaching to God podcast, we explore the often overlooked emotional struggles faced by leaders. Our guests are Nicholas and Sheila Wise Rowe. Nicholas Rowe is the Haslin Associate Professor of Leadership at Gordon Conwell Theological Seminary. And Sheila Wise Row is a seasoned counselor and author (and previous podcast guest). We talk about their new book, Healing Leadership Trauma: Finding Emotional Health and Helping Others Flourish. The conversation delves into the impact of trauma, attachment theory, and the myths of self-sufficiency in leadership. They also cover systemic challenges such as racial and gender trauma and share practical embodied practices for healing.00:00 Introduction to Leadership and Trauma00:44 Meet the Authors: Nicholas Row and Sheila Wise Row02:04 The Journey of Co-Writing 'Healing Leadership'03:16 Understanding Leadership Challenges06:54 Attachment Theory and Leadership09:06 Insecure Attachment in Leadership17:00 The Myth of Self-Sufficiency in Leadership22:12 Systemic Dynamics: Gender and Racial Trauma25:45 Historical Context of Cultural Systems26:35 Challenges Faced by Marginalized Leaders28:10 Gender Expectations and Leadership30:36 Defining Leadership Trauma32:32 Embodied Practices for Healing37:54 Community Support and Accountability45:37 Final Thoughts and Staying ConnectedDive deeper in our new book, Landscapes of the Soul: How the Science and Spirituality of Attachment Can Move You into Confident Faith, Courage, and Connection, and learn about our trainings and other resources at embodiedfaith.life.Stay Connected: Check out our Attaching to God 6-Week Learning Cohort. Join the Embodied Faith community to stay connected and get posts, episodes, & resources. Support the podcast with a one-time or regular gift (to keep this ad-free without breaking the Holsclaw's bank).

Many wonder if they're "stuck" in a pattern or if healing and growth are possible.Join George Haas as he explores the intersection of attachment theory and meditation, and the path to live a more meaningful life. If you're interested in meditation-based attachment repair for long-term healing, this is for you.Like this? Grab our free video resource called

Today, we're digging DEEP into a topic that's as terrifying as it is necessary—how to spot the warning signs when someone isn't who they seem to be. Seriously, this episode had me clutching my pearls and simultaneously feeling more empowered than ever. I'm bringing you someone who has literally walked into the darkest places on earth—prisons, forensic hospitals, you name it—and come out without losing her compassion or her curiosity. Dr. Gwen Adshead is a forensic psychotherapist, author of "The Devil You Know," and all-around badass when it comes to deciphering what really lies beneath the “mask of normalcy.” We talk about manipulative personalities, red flags in relationships, attachment styles, and build out a legit tool belt for keeping our power and protecting ourselves from harm. Ladies, if you've ever felt like you missed the signs, if you've ever asked yourself, “What did I not see coming?” or just want to build the skills to stand tall no matter who's in front of you—THIS is the episode you need. Grab your notebook, because Dr. Gwen drops truth bombs, actionable red flags, and shows you how to keep your cool even in the most toxic situations. Let's get STRONGER and SAFER together. You ready? SHOWNOTES 00:00 How Evil Can Wear a Mask: Spotting Dangerous Traits 00:06:39 The "False Mask of Normalcy" and Why We Miss the Signs 00:07:00 11 Red Flags That Reveal Who's Behind the Mask 00:19:09 What is Attachment Theory? And Why It Matters for Women 00:22:02 Why Pregnancy Triggers Domestic Violence 00:29:23 Rule Breakers and Risk Factors 00:32:08 Grandiosity, Narcissism, and Dangerous Audacity 00:34:46 Why Absolute Thinking Becomes a Trap—For Us AND Them 00:37:05 False Victimhood as Manipulation 00:39:34 How to Talk to a Psychopath: Staying Emotionally Sober 00:43:44 Protecting Your Sense of Reality 00:45:10 Building Your Personal Tool Belt: Never Let Anyone Take Your Power! FOLLOW DR. GWEN ADSHEAD: Book: The Devil You Know (available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Devil-You-Know-Gwen-Adshead/dp/198213480X ) BBC Lectures: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m001rm8y (also available via YouTube search) Academic Profile: https://scholar.google.com/scholar?q=Gwen+Adshead CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out.  BIOptimizers: Head to⁠ https://bioptimizers.com/impact ⁠and use code IMPACT for 10% off.  OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ Netsuite: Download the new e-book Navigating Global Trade: 3 Insights for Leaders at ⁠http://NetSuite.com/women⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What is attachment theory? How does your attachment style impact your relationships? As an expert in attachment theory, Kirsty Nolan joins us to discuss all of that, plus:The four attachment stylesWhat happens when you have a secure attachment early in childhood, but later experience a rupture because of trauma, like your parents' divorceTips on resolving conflict, specifically how to repair after a ruptureIf you're curious about attachment styles or just want a healthy relationship, this episode is for you.Listen to Kirsty's podcast, Attachment Theory in ActionGet help from Kirsty's organization, ChaddockGet the Book or FREE chapters: It's Not Your FaultGet Dakota's FREE Guide, The Biggest Fitness Mistakes to AvoidShownotesQuestion for Joey or our guests? Text us. We'll answer on the show as soon as we're able. You can be anonymous if you'd like!

We're returning to attachment theory this week as we go over some of the criticisms it has faced since rising in popularity. For some, attachment theory has been a powerful tool of self-discovery, but others dismiss it as pseudo pop psychology. Where do you fall on that spectrum of credibility? Today we're discussing the cases for and against attachment theory and whether or not non-monogamy can help heal unhealthy attachments. For more fundamentals on attachment theory, check out https://www.multiamory.com/podcast/291-attachment-theory-and-polyamory and https://www.multiamory.com/podcast/82-attachment-styles Join Dedeker and Orit Krug for our polyamory somatic retreat in northern Spain (September 22-25, 2025) - sliding scale pricing available, use code MULTI when you apply at www.multiamory.com/retreat. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack.Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand.Follow us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast and visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does neurodiversity impact relational attachments? What does secure and insecure attachment look like for those who aren't neurotypical?In this episode of the Attachment to God podcast, hosts Geoff and Cyd Holsclaw are joined by Barbara Grant, a specialist in autism and neurodiverse couples coaching. They talk about how neurodiversity impacts relational attachments and spiritual practices, particularly in the context of secure and insecure attachment. Barbara Grant, holds a Master's in Marriage and Family Therapy, a Certified Autism Specialist (IBCCES) and a certified Neurodiverse Couples Coach (AANE). She edited and is one of the authors of Uniquely Us: Gracefully Navigating the Maze of Neurodiverse Marriages and is the co-host of The Neurodiverse Couple's Coaches podcast. Dive deeper in our new book, Landscapes of the Soul: How the Science and Spirituality of Attachment Can Move You into Confident Faith, Courage, and Connection, and learn about our trainings and other resources at embodiedfaith.life.Stay Connected: Check out our Attaching to God 6-Week Learning Cohort. Join the Embodied Faith community to stay connected and get posts, episodes, & resources. Support the podcast with a one-time or regular gift (to keep this ad-free without breaking the Holsclaw's bank).

Many wonder if they're "stuck" in a pattern or if healing and growth are possible.Join George Haas as he explores the intersection of attachment theory and meditation, and the path to live a more meaningful life. If you're interested in meditation-based attachment repair for long-term healing, this is for you.Like this? Grab our free video resource called

Scholars of the Apostle Paul have long debated the so-called center of Paul's theology, focusing on themes like justification by faith, reconciliation, union with Christ, and the apocalyptic triumph of God in Christ. But what if love really is the heart of the gospel that he preached?In this episode of the Attaching to God podcast, we welcome Nijay Gupta, the Julius R. Manti Professor of New Testament at Northern Seminary, to discuss his new book The Affections of Christ Jesus: Love at the Heart of Paul's Theology. Dr. Gupta elaborates on the crucial role of love in Paul's teachings and explores its connection to emotional theory and neuroscience. Gupta also touches upon his personal experiences with emotional well-being.Be sure to check out his podcast, Slow Theology: Simple Faith for Chaotic TimesDive deeper in our new book, Landscapes of the Soul: How the Science and Spirituality of Attachment Can Move You into Confident Faith, Courage, and Connection, and learn about our trainings and other resources at embodiedfaith.life.Stay Connected: Check out our Attaching to God 6-Week Learning Cohort. Join the Embodied Faith community to stay connected and get posts, episodes, & resources. Support the podcast with a one-time or regular gift (to keep this ad-free without breaking the Holsclaw's bank).

Romantic relationships are sacred, powerful, and life-giving. But I don't have to tell you how difficult it is to love and let yourself be loved.Marriage and family therapist Dr. Terry Hargrave has been helping couples in crisis restore broken relationships for decades, teaching them how to get unstuck, improve communication, and move beyond destructive coping mechanisms—to find reciprocity, self-affirming confidence, emotional regulation, and a joyful, lasting love.In a world marked by loneliness, disconnection, and emotional dysregulation, Hargrave offers powerful insights on the human need for identity, safety, and belonging—and how we can heal the wounds that keep us stuck. Drawing on decades of therapeutic experience and deep personal reflection, Hargrave explains how coping mechanisms like blame, shame, control, and escape can damage relationships—and how the peace cycle of nurture, self-valuing, balanced give-and-take, and connection can restore wholeness. He discusses his unique approach to the healing and restorative power of relationships, which lifts us up to our potential, encouraging us toward a nurturing, self-valuing, non-controlling reciprocity, and true connection.In this conversation with Terry Hargrave, we discuss:How to turn around a relationship in crisis and get off the emotional rollercoasterHow to build security and trust in order to improve or repair a marriage or long-term relationshipCoping mechanisms of blame, shame, control, and escapePractical steps to learn emotional self-regulationWhat to do when only one partner is working on a relationshipThe role of the brain and neuroplasticity in relational repairAnd the spiritual underpinnings of Terry's approach to restoration therapyEpisode Highlights"It don't mean a thing if you ain't got that swing—until you claim your belovedness for yourself, nothing will change.""Relationships are a mirror—we discover who we are through how others see us.""Blame, shame, control, and escape—nothing good comes from these coping mechanisms.""Understanding doesn't produce change. Doing produces change.""When we nurture, self-value, connect, and cooperate, unleashed joy happens.""Thriving is doing more of your best self, not learning something new."Helpful Links and ResourcesRestoration Therapy Training ResourcesThe Mindful Marriage by Ron Deal and Nan Deal (with Terry and Sharon Hargrave)Five Days to a New Self by Terry HargraveEmotionally Focused Therapy and Sue Johnson's LegacyShow NotesIntroduction to Terry Hargrave and the importance of Restoration Therapy today"We are still the same humans, but with a bigger pipe of problems and fewer emotional connections."Emotional dysregulation linked to identity and safety threatsRelationships as a mirror to the self and necessary for human thriving"For there to be a me, there has to be a thou."Why relationships are difficult: imperfection, wounding, and unmet needsHow family of origin wounds influence coping styles"Families don't mean to screw each other up, but somehow they manage to."Introduction of the four major unhealthy coping mechanisms: blame, shame, control, and escapeHow overachievement, perfectionism, and withdrawal are survival strategies from early wounding"Your greatest strength might actually be an old coping habit getting in the way of intimacy."The relational signs that coping mechanisms are damaging relationshipsHealing through self-regulation: speaking truth to yourself with love"Put your hand on your heart and remind yourself of who you really are."The difference between co-regulation and self-regulation in emotional healingRestoration Therapy's peace cycle: nurture, self-value, balance, connection"Nothing good comes from blame, shame, control, or escape."The role of practice and neuroplasticity in forming new relational habits"Doing, not just understanding, is what rewires the brain."How thriving relationships move from neediness to adventurous partnershipIntimacy as knowing yourself more fully through connection, not just need satisfactionCooperative growth and mutual flourishing as hallmarks of thrivingApplication of restoration principles to broader societal healing and reconciliation"Unleashed joy happens when we choose nurture and connection, even with adversaries."The critical role of faith in affirming belovedness and ultimate identity"Everyone else and even God can tell you you're beloved—but you have to claim it for yourself."Practical advice for knowing when to seek therapyWhere to find Restoration Therapy-trained therapistsResources for learning more: Mindful Marriage and other Restoration Therapy booksThe key takeaways that I will carry with me from this conversation are the following:You can change. Your relationship can change. But it takes a daily practice of hard work to create lasting change.And though you might fail, there is hope that you can begin again.Our coping mechanisms are not superpowers. They hurt us and the people we love.Understanding is not enough. Action and behavior has to follow for change to occur.[Any others?] It takes two to tango, but that doesn't get you off the hook from doing the work on yourself.And finally, a thriving relationship creates joy all around it, within a family, in a community, and it shows how personal relationships can change society.About Terry HargraveDr. Terry Hargrave. Until he retired recently, he was the Evelyn and Frank Freed Professor of Marriage and Family Therapy at Fuller Seminary, and a nationally recognized therapist known for his pioneering work with intergenerational families.He's most well known as the founder of Restoration Therapy, which combines advantages of Attachment Theory, Emotional Regulation, and Mindfulness—all in an efficient and organized format that allows both the therapist and client to understand old habits and destructive patterns of behavior and promote change in both individual mental and spiritual health, in order to transform our most intimate relationships.Terry has authored or co-authored over 35 professional articles and fifteen books including Restoration Therapy: Understanding and Guiding Healing in Marriage and Family Therapy and Families and Forgiveness: Healing Wounds in the Intergenerational Family.In his latest book project, he worked with his wife Sharon, also a licensed marriage and family therapist. It's called The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing Yourself, and it's a practical manual co-written with Ron and Nan Deal about how they healed their relationship after almost losing it.He's presented internationally on relationship dynamics, family and marriage restoration, the complexities of intergenerational families, healing and reconciliation, and the process of aging.His work has been featured on ABC News, 20/20, Good Morning America, and CBS This Morning as well as several national magazines and newspapers.You can learn more about Terry Hargrave and his work—and find books, practical resources, and professional training materials at: restorationtherapytraining.com. About the Thrive CenterLearn more at thethrivecenter.org.Follow us on Instagram @thrivecenterFollow us on X @thrivecenterFollow us on LinkedIn @thethrivecenter About Dr. Pam KingDr. Pam King is Executive Director the Thrive Center and is Peter L. Benson Professor of Applied Developmental Science at Fuller School of Psychology & Marriage and Family Therapy. Follow her @drpamking. About With & ForHost: Pam KingSenior Director and Producer: Jill WestbrookOperations Manager: Lauren KimSocial Media Graphic Designer: Wren JuergensenConsulting Producer: Evan RosaSpecial thanks to the team at Fuller Studio and the Fuller School of Psychology & Marriage and Family Therapy.

Are you one of the many people who end up shocked by the ultimate similarity of romantic relationships that felt very different starting out? Why is it that we find the same patterns repeating, the same problems coming up over and over? In this classic episode, Andrew talks to author and attachment theory specialist Tara Blair-Ball. Tara explains how attachment theory - which is grounded in analysis of how we bonded to our mother as infants - can explain these patterns. Andrew and Tara emphasise that rather than dwelling on the particular faults of partner A and partner B, we can try to understand how our earliest relationships in life have determined later ones. This will help us make the changes that can lead to more meaningful and more fulfilling relationships.  Tara Blair Ball is a Certified Relationship Coach, as well as the author of several books on love and relationships. Her content on relationship and dating has been viewed more than 6 million times.  If You're Looking for More…. You can subscribe to The Meaningful Life (via Apple Podcasts, Spotify or Google Podcasts) and hear a bonus mini-episode every week. Or you can join our Supporters Club on Patreon to also access exclusive behind-the-scenes content, fan requests  and the chance to ask Andrew your own questions. Membership starts at just £4.50.  This week supporters will hear: Three Things Tara Blair Ball knows to be true.  AND subscribers also access all of our previous bonus content - a rich trove of insight on love, life and meaning created by Andrew and his interviewees. Follow Up Attend Andrew's new men's retreat, Reconnect With Yourself, this autumn in the Brandenberg countryside near Berlin.  Get Andrew's free guide to difficult conversations with your partner: How to Tell Your Partner Difficult Things Take a look at Tara Blair Ball's website Read Emerson Eggerichs' book Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs   Read Gary Chapman's book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts  Take a look at Andrew's new online relationship course: My Best Relationship Tools  Andrew offers regular advice on love, marriage and finding meaning in your life via his social channels. Follow him on Twitter, Facebook and YouTube @andrewgmarshall 

Many wonder if they're "stuck" in a pattern or if healing and growth are possible.Join George Haas as he explores the intersection of attachment theory and meditation, and the path to live a more meaningful life. If you're interested in meditation-based attachment repair for long-term healing, this is for you.Like this? Grab our free video resource called

Sharon Van Etten växte upp i New Jersey och jobbade på McDonalds, International House of Pancakes, en pizzeria, en korvkiosk, ett donutcafé och ett skivbolag innan hon gav ut sitt första album 2009. Under tiotalet nådde hon en allt större publik med sin folkrockiga indie och i vintras kom sjunde albumet "Sharon Van Etten & The Attachment Theory", som också var en sorts debut för bandet med samma namn. Hemma hos Strage pratar Sharon Van Etten och basisten Devra Hoff om hur bandnamnet inspirerats av Sharons psykologistudier, om kärleken till Siouxsie & The Banshees och annan goth, om rädslan för att jamma, om vilka basfrekvenser som föredras av katter, om att turnera med och få goda råd av Nick Cave, om hur Devra växte upp i en South Park-liknande håla i Colorado (där gothtjejer räddade henne från att mobbas), om varför Sharon kallar sig Sharon Van Halen på Instagram och om hur det var att spela på The Roadhouse i den tredje säsongen av "Twin Peaks". Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Many wonder if they're "stuck" in a pattern or if healing and growth are possible.Join George Haas as he explores the intersection of attachment theory and meditation, and the path to live a more meaningful life. If you're interested in meditation-based attachment repair for long-term healing, this is for you.Like this? Grab our free video resource called

In this episode of the Attaching to God podcast, hosts Geoff and Cyd Holsclaw welcome Steve Cuss. They delve into the nature of anxiety, different coping mechanisms, and how these dynamics affect relationships, including one's relationship with God. Steve highlights the importance of addressing reactivity, identifying false needs, and fostering supportive environments within leadership teams. The episode also touches on creating inclusive spaces for minorities in leadership and discusses Steve's future project of developing an anxiety assessment tool. The conversation is engaging and insightful, offering practical tips for leaders striving to create healthier, more resilient communities.Steve Cuss is the author of Managing Leadership Anxiety and The Expectation Gap: The Tiny, Vast Space between Our Beliefs and Experience of God,  and also a columnist and host of Christianity Today's Being Human podcast. Steve founded Capable Life to help people lower anxiety, break stuck patterns and increase well being in the workplace, home place, and in your faith.00:00 Steve Cuss00:14 Introduction and Guest Introduction01:21 Formula One Fandom05:35 Steve's Background and Capable Life08:27 Understanding Anxiety and Relationships13:47 Differentiation and Attachment17:58 False Needs and Chronic Anxiety23:25 Coping Mechanisms and Insecurity23:46 Overconfidence and Pretense24:25 Trauma Chaplaincy and Self-Discovery26:19 Building Healthy Church Cultures27:09 Pursuing a Doctorate and Integration of Disciplines28:16 Understanding Protection and Pretense31:14 Addressing Organizational Anxiety33:37 Minority Experiences in Leadership38:53 Contagious Emotions and Jesus' Example42:05 Final Thoughts and Future PlansStay Connected: Check out our Attaching to God 6-Week Learning Cohort. Join the Embodied Faith community to stay connected and get posts, episodes, & resources. Support the podcast with a one-time or regular gift (to keep this ad-free without breaking the Holsclaw's bank).

Send us a text & leave your email address if you want a reply!Hey beautiful souls! This week on Sex Reimagined, we're diving deep into something that impacts EVERYTHING in your life – your nervous system. Our guest, author Sheridan Ruth shares her incredible journey from trauma to transformation using somatic healing techniques that you can start using TODAY. After losing all her hair at age 7 and later surviving an abusive relationship, Sheridan rebuilt her life by tuning into her body's wisdom. She now helps others regulate their nervous systems for better relationships, business success, and genuine, authentic pleasure.✨ WHAT YOU'LL LEARN:Nervous System 101: The difference between feeling safe (parasympathetic) and stressed (sympathetic) states and how to shift between themRelationship Game-Changers: How to create safety within yourself instead of controlling your partner (spoiler: it works WAY better!)Body-Based Healing: Quick techniques to calm anxiety anytime, anywhere (including the soothing "Havening" touch technique)Pleasure in Productivity: How to enjoy tasks you normally dread by changing your body's responseEPISODE LINKS *some links below may also be affiliate links Sheridan's WebsiteSheridan's Free Gift | Nervous System Regulation Cheat Sheet Sheridan's Book | Somatic Intelligence for SuccessSheridan's Podcast | Sustainable Success Book | Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliot  AWAKENING THE GODDESS IN CRETE! Leah & Willow want to take you on an all-woman's tantric pilgrimage to Greece Oct 5-12, 2025! Join us for a trip of lifetime. Learn More at https://www.sexreimagined.com/. AWAKEN AROUSAL OIL LUBRICANT | Reach new levels of intimacy with our arousal oil, formulated for the female body. Once applied, this topical oil works with your body to enhance sensation and "o's," helping you reach states of euphoric pleasure. Order Here KING & QUEEN OF HEARTS. Leah & Willow's King & Queen of Hearts Intimacy Toolkit is on sale. Buy Now. 10% off Coupon: KINGANDQUEEN10.Support the show SxR Website Dr. Willow's Website Leah's Website SxR Hotline SxR YouTube SxR TikTok SxR Instagram

Despite statistics stating otherwise, many of us experience fear, anxiety, and insecurity in our relationships. Attachment theory helps us better understand reasons these feelings may exist and provide insight to how they play out in our current relationships. Join Dave and Greg as they explore attachment theory and discover all the ways our childhood relationships may impact the relationships we are having today.

We are all looking for a bit of relief. Some pain relief, relief from stress, the relief of getting the kids off to school or maybe to bed on time. But do we think of God's grace as the big relief?In this episode, we welcome back David Zahl, of Mockingbird Ministries. David introduces his new book titled The Big Relief: The Urgency of Grace for a Worn-Out World, which focuses on how God's grace is the ultimate relief we all seek in our stress-filled lives. They discuss various aspects of grace, including forgiveness, imputation, and surrender, and how these can alleviate the modern pressures of status anxiety and the demand for control. The conversation delves into the importance of recognizing suffering and offering consolation through the grace of God. David also shares insights on creating church communities that provide relief rather than additional burdens.00:00 Introduction: Seeking Relief00:39 Guest Introduction: David Zahl01:24 The Urgency of Grace02:56 Grace in a Pressure Cooker World06:11 Defining Grace: The Big Relief08:49 Forgiveness: Relief from Regret14:03 Imputation: Relief from Status Anxiety21:00 Surrender: Relief from Control27:09 Cultivating Communities of Relief30:10 Conclusion and FarewellStay Connected: Check out our Attaching to God 6-Week Learning Cohort. Join the Embodied Faith community to stay connected and get posts, episodes, & resources. Support the podcast with a one-time or regular gift (to keep this ad-free without breaking the Holsclaw's bank).

Many wonder if they're "stuck" in a pattern or if healing and growth are possible.Join George Haas as he explores the intersection of attachment theory and meditation, and the path to live a more meaningful life. If you're interested in meditation-based attachment repair for long-term healing, this is for you.Like this? Grab our free video resource called

Sharon Van Etten is on the road now touring her seventh album, Sharon Van Etten & The Attachment Theory. But as much as she loves writing and performing music, she has considered a couple different career paths: therapist and sommelier! Sharon’s love of wine started in high school, when she was an exchange student living with a family in Spain. So host Rachel Belle interviews the founders of Open That Bottle Night, a couple of former Wall Street Journal wine writers who created an annual holiday to encourage people to open the special bottles of wine that no occasion seemed to be special enough for. Sharon says she doesn’t like to cook when she’s in a bad mood because the food always ends up tasting bad. Rachel calls up cognitive neurologist Dr Rachel Herz, author of Why You Eat What You Eat, who says food actually does taste different when you’re sad, angry, depressed or happy. Watch Rachel’s Cascade PBS TV show The Nosh with Rachel Belle! Season 2 out now! Sign up for Rachel's new (free!) Cascade PBS newsletter for more food musings! Follow along on Instagram! Order Rachel’s cookbook Open Sesame.Support the show: http://rachelbelle.substack.com/See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Host Geoff Holsclaw engages with New York Times columnist and author Ross Douthat. They discuss the enduring relevance and shifting perceptions of religion in a scientific and secular age, driven by Douthat's book Believe: Why Everyone Should Be Religious. The conversation navigates the historical impact of new atheism, the existential malaise in youth culture, and a generational gap in religious knowledge. Douthat elaborates on his rationale for advocating religion not just for its therapeutic or social benefits but also for its intellectual robustness. Topics covered include the persistence of supernatural experiences, the case for commitment to established religions, and the importance of community and institutional structure in religious life. Douthat also shares his personal journey through various Christian traditions, culminating in his commitment to Catholicism. The episode concludes with insights into how suffering and chronic illness have deepened Douthat's faith and understanding of God's providence.Stay Connected: Check out our Attaching to God 6-Week Learning Cohort. Join the Embodied Faith community to stay connected and get posts, episodes, & resources. Support the podcast with a one-time or regular gift (to keep this ad-free without breaking the Holsclaw's bank).

Sometimes, when you feel stuck, and overwhelmed, you don't need more and better information. Sometimes you need to engage your story, to better understand how the past influences the present. That's what we talk about with Adam Young. Adam Young is a therapist who focuses on trauma and abuse, and the host of The Place We Find Ourselves podcast. He currently serves as a Fellow and Instructor at The Allender Center.  Adam is the author of Make Sense of Your Story: Why Engaging Your Story with Kindness Changes Everything.Also, check out his mini-conference hosted each month. Adam explains the concept of story work as a therapeutic and spiritual practice that helps individuals understand how their past experiences shape their present. He emphasizes the importance of approaching one's story with kindness and the role of attachment, neuroscience, and spirituality in the healing process. They also delve into the significance of exploring familial, cultural, and spiritual narratives to achieve wholeness and integration, or 'Shalom.' Additionally, Adam provides insights into addressing common resistance to story work and the importance of leaders engaging in this process to foster supportive community environments. He concludes by sharing information about his ongoing mini-conference series aimed at helping individuals delve deeper into their stories.Stay Connected: Check out our Attaching to God 6-Week Learning Cohort. Join the Embodied Faith community to stay connected and get posts, episodes, & resources. Support the podcast with a one-time or regular gift (to keep this ad-free without breaking the Holsclaw's bank).

In this episode of The extra-Ordinary Leader, I had the enormous pleasure of speaking with Helen Brocklebank, CEO of Walpole—the official body for British luxury. Helen works closely with over 250 of the UK's most iconic high-end brands, and in our conversation, she shares the leadership behaviours, values, and mindset that make these businesses so resilient and remarkable.We explored what we can all borrow from the luxury sector—whether we're running heritage businesses or leading fast-paced teams with no historical playbook. Helen spoke beautifully about creativity, long-term thinking, emotional intelligence, and the importance of knowing your own strengths. She also reminded me why storytelling, craftsmanship, and deep human connection remain at the heart of excellent leadership.You'll hear us reflect on everything from scented candles and bespoke tailoring to the power of fiction and the role of culture in the workplace. Whether you lead a team of two or two thousand, this episode is full of insights to help you lead with clarity, creativity and care.Inside This Episode:What working with 250 luxury CEOs has taught Helen about extra-Ordinary leadershipWhy understanding your own strengths is the foundation of influenceThe long-term mindset behind British luxury's £81 billion impactWhy fiction (yes, even Jilly Cooper!) can sharpen your leadership instinctsHow resilience, creativity, and curiosity define high-performance leadershipWhat leaders in fast fashion and retail can borrow from heritage brandsThe value of “dual thinking”: acting in the now while planning for the nextHow memory-making and sensory detail create unforgettable customer experiencesWhy culture-building and empowerment matter more than everMentions & Links:Walpole – https://www.thewalpole.co.ukLearn more about Attachment Theory – https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-attachment-theory-2795337Black Box Thinking by Matthew Syed – https://www.amazon.co.uk/Black-Box-Thinking-Surprising-Success/dp/1473613779

In this episode of the Attaching to God podcast, hosted by Geoff and Cyd Holsclaw of Embodied Faith, licensed therapist Lisa Cuss joins the conversation.Lisa shares her journey from teaching to becoming a therapist, her focus on trauma and attachment-informed modalities, and her work with  Capable Life alongside her husband, Steve Cuss. The discussion delves into the complexities of anxiety, personal and collective grief, and the transformative process of attachment both to oneself and to God. Lisa highlights the importance of being seen and comforted by God, the role of trauma in shaping behavior, and the significant shift when individuals recognize God's presence in their deepest pain. This episode offers insights into how mental health and spiritual growth can be fostered within church communities.Lisa is a licensed therapist (MA, LPC), speaker, and trainer who is passionate about the intersection of Psychology and Faith. In her private practice, Lisa uses trauma and attachment informed modalities to help people journey through deep pain and stuck places to find more healthy connection within themselves, with others, and with God. Lisa also works alongside her husband, Steve Cuss, within Capable Life, an organization that helps people find relief from chronic anxiety and deepens connection with God in the workplace and the home place.Stay Connected: Check out our Attaching to God 6-Week Learning Cohort. Join the Embodied Faith community to stay connected and get posts, episodes, & resources. Support the podcast with a one-time or regular gift (to keep this ad-free without breaking the Holsclaw's bank).

In this fun, research-backed episode, we dive deep into 20 unhinged, creative, and scientifically proven ways to strengthen your marriage. From recording your arguments to scheduling sex with hilarious calendar invites, these ideas break the traditional "date night" mold and focus on building deeper emotional, physical, and spiritual intimacy with your spouse.If you're tired of surface-level marriage advice and want practical strategies that actually work (and make you laugh), this episode is for you!

Welcome to What to Say & How to Say It—the podcast that helps Christian married couples fix communication and build deeper connection. In this episode, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner unpack attachment theory, focusing on the anxious attachment style and how to set healthy boundaries in marriage.   Learn how childhood wounds impact adult relationships, what to expect when dealing with anxious partners, and how faith, communication, and consistency can bring healing. With practical examples, biblical wisdom, and tools you can apply right now, this episode offers hope and direction for couples navigating conflict and emotional intensity.  

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Abby and Patrick are joined by writer and artist Lily Scherlis for a provocative reflection on the ideological subtexts, historical contexts, and real-world value of some of our moment's most bandied-about concepts and terms. Beginning with her 2023 essay for Parapraxis, “Boundary Issues: How Boundaries became the Rule for Mental Health – and Everything Else,” the interview spotlights Scherlis's nuanced yet relentless interrogation of how the vocabularies of research psychology have proliferated across popular culture and have become ubiquitous in the workplace, in bestsellers, on social media, and in our most intimate interactions. What exactly are “boundaries,” when did having (or not having) them become such an issue, and how does their invocation function? Touching on themes and topics across Scherlis's body of work, from CBT and DBT to the legacy of Dale Carnegie and beyond, the conversation builds to a consideration of the case of attachment theory. Unpacking the history, key concepts, and findings of this interdisciplinary field of study, Abby, Patrick, and Lily explore how its terms and categories have become so central to a cottage industry of online quizzes and therapeutic interventions. How do ideas of self-improvement and self-help relate to economic shifts in modes of production, material realities of employment precarity, and our felt sense of being together – and being alienated? What work do these terms do in the abstract, and what work are we as subjects expected to do in learning and using them? And how can we square our skepticism vis-à-vis such models and vocabularies with the traction they can give us when it comes to understanding ourselves, tolerating distress, navigating a difficult world, potentially changing our circumstances, and connecting with one another?Selected texts cited:Lily Scherlis, “Boundary Issues: How Boundaries became the Rule for Mental Health – and Everything Else”Lily Scherlis, “Skill Issues: Dialectical Behavioral Therapy and Its Discontents”Lily Scherlis, “Going Soft: Future Proofing the American Worker”Danielle Carr, “Don't Be So Attached to Attachment Theory”Robert Karen, Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They Shape Our Ability to LoveHeidi Keller. The Myth of Attachment Theory A Critical Understanding for Multicultural SocietiesRuth O'Shaughnessy, Rudi Dallos, Katherine Berry, and Karen Bateson. Attachment Theory: The BasicsA podcast about psychoanalysis, politics, pop culture, and the ways we suffer now. New episodes on Saturdays. Follow us on social media:  Linktree: https://linktr.ee/OrdinaryUnhappiness Twitter: @UnhappinessPod Instagram: @OrdinaryUnhappiness Patreon: patreon.com/OrdinaryUnhappiness Theme song: Formal Chicken - Gnossienne No. 1 Provided by Fruits Music

Ever wonder why YOU are SO addicted to people who pull away? Today, you'll finally find out.If the harder you chase, the faster they run — you might be trapped in the anxious-avoidant cycle: where one partner craves closeness, and the other panics when things get too real. In this BBC episode, Violet breaks down why this dynamic feels like home but leaves you emotionally starved.Inspired by the book Attached, we dive into real stories, psych-backed insights, and how to finally break free.Bonus: Don't miss the quiz at the end—It'll help you decode your partner's attachment style fast. Jump to minute 37:00 if you're done guessing and ready to know who you're really dealing with.Wanna listen to this episode AD FREE?? Go to my ad free subscription at - https://almostadulting.supercast.comToday's episode is brought to you by:NULLY CLOTHING RENTAL - Just go to Nuuly.com and use my code ADULTING to get $28 off your first month.PRETTY LITTER - Get 20% off on your FIRST order + get a FREE cat toy + FREE shipping when you go to prettylitter.com/adulting SHOPIFY - Sign up for your ONE DOLLAR per-month trial period at Shopify.com/adultingPAIRED APP - Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at HERERULA HEALTH - Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/adultingSIMPLY POP - Spill the Pop tour with Remi & Alisha from Pretty basic is coming to a city near you!! For tour information and FREE tickets, visit cokeurl.com/simplyPOPtour , but hurry! Availability is limited.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Many wonder if they're "stuck" in a pattern or if healing and growth are possible.Join George Haas as he explores the intersection of attachment theory and meditation, and the path to live a more meaningful life. If you're interested in meditation-based attachment repair for long-term healing, this is for you.Like this? Grab our free video resource called

What is Jesus' Sermon on the Mount really about?  Is it an out-of-reach spirituality for the really devoted? Is it a practical guide for political action? A reworking of the Old Testament Law? Or an existential treatise on the intentions that guide our actions?What if it outlines the way toward human flourishing?Dr.  Jonathan Pennington is a Professor of New Testament Interpretation at Southern Seminary in Louisville, Kentucky.  And a teaching pastor his local church. Dr. Pennington is the author of many books, including Reading the Gospels Wisely, The Sermon on the Mount and Human Flourishing, and Jesus, the Great Philosopher: Rediscovering the Wisdom Need for the Good Life. Find out more about Dr. Pennington here: https://www.jonathanpennington.com/Join Attaching to God Learning Cohort: Quieting an Anxious and Avoidant Faith.Starting April 29 (2025), with the live calls on Tuesdays, 4pm (EST). Link: https://www.embodiedfaith.life/attaching-to-god-cohortStay Connected: Check out our Attaching to God 6-Week Learning Cohort. Join the Embodied Faith community to stay connected and get posts, episodes, & resources. Support the podcast with a one-time or regular gift (to keep this ad-free without breaking the Holsclaw's bank).

Consider this a masterclass on attachment theory and how by learning what my guest shares today, you will be able to enter into a relationship or dating with a new way of relating. Today's conversation will help you understand the importance of attachment theory and how this influences the outcome in our relationships. Within this conversation you will learn what these attachment styles are and how each one uniquely influences how we react in a relationship. My guest provides practical advice for individuals looking to navigate the dating scene successfully, highlighting the need for self-awareness and clear intentions. Then how can we learn a new way of attaching and moving into secure attachment.  He is an author, speaker and media personality, Adam Lane Smith is a recognized global expert in Attachment Theory. Formerly a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Adam has left his practice to help the world learn the power of secure attachment.  He is on a mission to turn 1 billion people's attachment secure. To that end, Adam runs a digital coaching practice, leads a growing team of certified specialists, offers hundreds of hours of free online education. With a 99.8% success rate transforming thousands of relationships worldwide, Adam is proving that secure love isn't about luck – it's about understanding patterns most never see. In this episode we talk about: Understanding attachment theory Breakdowns in Modern Relationships Effective Use of Dating Apps How to shift into secure attachment Learning to self regulate Holding healthy boundaries Common breakdowns in relationships Greatest tool to strengthen a relationship For full show notes and episode resources head to: https://ericalippy.com/adam-lane-smith/ Find our guest at: Adam Lane Smith | Website , Instagram , Facebook Watch Adam Lane Smith in YouTube Attchment Bootcamp Follow me on Social Media: Your Host: @ericalippy Podcast: @passionlovepursuit YouTube PASSION LOVE PURSUIT PODCASTS: https://ericalippy.com/the-podcast/

God's true nature is beyond human comprehension. It can never be fully expressed in human words. But Scriptures uses one particular word to describe the distinctiveness of God's character; this is the Hebrew word hesed. Michael Card is an award-winning musician and performing artist. His many books include Scribbling in the Sand, A Fragile Stone, and Inexpressible: Hesed and the Mystery of God's LovingkindnessJoin Attaching to God Learning Cohort: Quieting an Anxious and Avoidant Faith.Starting April 29 (2025), with the live calls on Tuesdays, 4pm (EST). Link: https://www.embodiedfaith.life/attaching-to-god-cohortStay Connected: Check out our Attaching to God 6-Week Learning Cohort. Join the Embodied Faith community to stay connected and get posts, episodes, & resources. Support the podcast with a one-time or regular gift (to keep this ad-free without breaking the Holsclaw's bank).

Join George Haas as he explores the intersection of attachment theory and meditation, and the path to live a more meaningful life. If you're interested in meditation-based attachment repair for long-term healing, this is for you.Like this? Grab our free video resource called

Welcome to a special installment of the Lectern Q&A! This month's theme is Love as a Virtue and Existential Stance. This session dives into the nature of love—not just as a feeling, but as a participatory, person-making virtue that binds us to reality and each other. Joining John and Ethan is Ellie, who brings both a deeply reflective presence and insightful contributions to this exploration. Lectern Q&As are a monthly gathering where John and Ethan take questions from The Lectern's members, threading through important themes that are most pertinent and perplexing to the collective. Pre-submitted questions form the bulk of the discussion with a Live Q&A segment toward the end. These conversations are particularly important for generating knowledge that is relevant both to John and The Lectern's broader audience. To participate in these discussions live, submit questions ahead of time and gain access to previous Q&As by signing up at the Alpha Tier (and above) on The Lectern: https://lectern.teachable.com/p/lectern-lounge If you would like to donate purely out of goodwill to support John's work, please consider joining our Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/johnvervaeke The Vervaeke Foundation is committed to advancing the scientific pursuit of wisdom and creating a significant impact on the world. https://vervaekefoundation.org/ If you would like to learn and engage regularly in practices that are informed, developed, and endorsed by John and his work, visit Awaken to Meaning's calendar to explore practices that enhance your virtues and foster deeper connections with reality and relationships. https://awakentomeaning.com/join-practice/ Chapter Timestamps 00:00 Welcome and Opening Reflections on Love 02:45 Love as an Existential Stance 05:00 Love, Participatory Knowing, and Binding Identity 08:45 Eros, Philia, and Agape: The Three Movements of Love 13:00 The Person-Making Nature of Love 17:00 Love as a Doorway to the Sacred 20:30 The Transformation of Self Through Love 23:45 Somatic and Embodied Knowing of Love 28:00 Trauma, Attachment, and the Challenge of Loving Well 32:10 Secure Attachment and Love as Practice 37:40 Circling, Dialectic, and Learning to Love Wisely 40:15 The Role of Worldview in Love and Meaning 46:50 A GI, the Sacred, and What We Truly Love About Humanity 54:20 The Ecology of Religions and Participatory Pluralism 59:30 Final Reflections from John, Ethan, and Ellie Biographical Sentences John Vervaeke is a cognitive scientist, philosopher, and the creator of the YouTube series Awakening from the Meaning Crisis. His work focuses on wisdom cultivation, consciousness, and the scientific pursuit of meaning. Ethan is a co-host and facilitator of the Lectern Q&A sessions. He curates conversations that illuminate existential, psychological, and philosophical insights emerging from the community and John's teachings. Ellie is a scholar and practitioner deeply engaged in environmental science, interpersonal growth, and attachment theory. She brings a reflective, embodied perspective to the conversation on love. Ideas, People, and Works Mentioned in this Episode Søren Kierkegaard John Bowlby, Attachment Theory Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight, Attachment Theory in Practice Eric Fromm, The Art of Loving Thomas Kuhn, Paradigms and Worldview Albert Camus, The Stranger Martin Buber, I and Thou Taoism and the concept of the Dao as Mother Mahayana Buddhism, Bodhisattva path Sufism and Divine Love Socratic Knowledge and Dialogos Circling & Dialectic into Dialogos Lauren Barrett, Emotionally Focused Therapy Halcyon Guild Pluralism in religion and spiritual practice Connect with John Vervaeke Website: https://johnvervaeke.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/vervaeke_john YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@johnvervaeke Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/johnvervaeke Thank you for Listening!

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This Holy Week, as Jesus, "the man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief" (Is. 53:3), walks toward the cross, we ask what it might be to proclaim this as good news. An older evangelism might ask, Where will you go when you die? But in our age of anxiety and despair, maybe we need to shift to: What do you do with your sorrow as you live?  That Jesus walks with us in our sorrows is really good news. That's what we are talking about today with Dr. Andrew Root. He is the Carrie Olson Baalson professor of youth and family ministry at Luther Seminary in St. Paul, Minnesota. He writes and researches in areas of theology, ministry, culture and younger generations.  And most recently has written about Evangelism in an Age of Despair: Hope Beyond the Failed Promise of Happiness.Join Attaching to God Learning Cohort: Quieting an Anxious and Avoidant Faith.Starting April 29 (2025), with the live calls on Tuesdays, 4pm (EST). Link: https://www.embodiedfaith.life/attaching-to-god-cohortStay Connected: Check out our Attaching to God 6-Week Learning Cohort. Join the Embodied Faith community to stay connected and get posts, episodes, & resources. Support the podcast with a one-time or regular gift (to keep this ad-free without breaking the Holsclaw's bank).

The dating and relationship world is rife with blindsided breakups. Is this the hallmark of an Avoidant? Counsellor Ken Reid is here to discuss Fearful and Dismissive Avoidants and explain why this heartbreaking scenario is so often the upshot of their relationship trajectory. Counsellor Ken Reid is the go-to source for all things ATTACHMENT THEORY. His work includes relationship challenges, breakups, grief, and communication skills. He also serves the LGBTQIA+ community. Defining fearful and dismissive avoidants Hallmarks and “Tells” of an Avoidant The Blindsided Breakup Strategy Website: https://www.kenreidcounselling.com.au Spotify: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kenreads Work with Me: Consultation: Books: Breakup Triage; The Cure for Heartache Audible Allowing Magnificence; Living the Expanded Version of Your Life - Book and Audiobook: Connect with Me! Website: susanwinter.net YouTube: YouTube Channel Instagram: Instagram Profile Twitter: Twitter Profile Facebook: Facebook Page LinkedIn: LinkedIn Profile TikTok: TikTok Profile

We all love Sex and the City, from its four memorable main characters to its environments and hilariously bad dates. But Sex and the City isn't just a laugh-out-loud comedy – it also offers real life lessons in self-love, friendships, and relationships. So today, I'm discussing my favorite Sex and the City-inspired life tips with guest Kate Van Horn.  Above all, Sex and the City is a show about friendship. The bonds between Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte, and Samantha drive the show's appeal – and can teach us a lot about how to be a good friend.  For detailed show notes, navigate using the time stamps below:  1:40 Appreciating Your Environment 4:10 Relationship Advice From SATC 6:59 Redirecting Your Focus 10:47 Finding Your Real Friends 12:30 Why You Should Make Messy Choices 16:00 Accepting Inconvenience  24:21 Discovering Original Style  For more from Kate, you can find her on Instagram @kate.van.horn or her website www.katevanhorn.com. You can find her book The Inner Tarot: A Modern Approach to Self-Compassion and Empowered Healing Using the Tarot wherever books are sold. Listen to her previous episode, Advice Ep! Anxiety, Morning Routines, Knowing When To Break Up & More with Kate Van Horn. Ready to uplevel every part of your life? Order Liz's book 100 Ways to Change Your Life: The Science of Leveling Up Health, Happiness, Relationships & Success now!  To join The Liz Moody Podcast Club Facebook group, go to www.facebook.com/groups/thelizmoodypodcast. Connect with Liz on Instagram @lizmoody or online at www.lizmoody.com. Subscribe to the substack by visiting https://lizmoody.substack.com/welcome.  This episode is sponsored by: Puori: go to puori.com/LIZMOODY and use promo code LIZMOODY for 20% sitewide. Great Lakes Wellness: use code LIZMOODY for 25% off your first purchase at greatlakeswellness.com. Wildgrain: go to Wildgrain.com/LIZMOODY for $30 off the first box - PLUS a free item in every box. The Liz Moody Podcast cover art by Zack. The Liz Moody Podcast music by Alex Ruimy. Formerly the Healthier Together Podcast.  This podcast and website represents the opinions of Liz Moody and her guests to the show. The content here should not be taken as medical advice. The content here is for information purposes only, and because each person is so unique, please consult your healthcare professional for any medical questions. The Liz Moody Podcast Episode 318. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices