Podcasts about relationship science

#178: If you're swiping endlessly on dating apps, dreading awkward first dates, or wondering how to make a new relationship actually last, this episode is for you. Logan Ury is a behavioral expert, bestselling author, and Hinge's Director of Relationship Science. We dive deep into why so many people get stuck in unfulfilling dating cycles, how to break free from toxic patterns, and the biggest mistakes Millennials and Gen Z are making when it comes to relationships. Logan shares why online dating feels so exhausting (and what to do about it), tips to meet people IRL, and her surprising take on “the spark” and why it might be sabotaging your love life. This conversation is packed with science-backed advice that will completely shift the way you think about relationships—and might just change your dating life forever.For Detailed Show Notes visit theeverygirlpodcast.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are we raising a lost generation of men? Is society failing young boys? In this emergency discussion, Steven sits down with expert guests to explore the recently published ‘Lost Boys Report'. The Diary Of A CEO's masculinity discussion is joined by Scott Galloway and Logan Ury. Scott Galloway is a member of the advisory council for the American Institute for Boys and Men and Professor of Marketing at the New York Stern School of Business. Logan Ury is a behavioural scientist turned dating coach and Director of Relationship Science at Hinge.  In this discussion, Scott, Logan, and Steven discuss topics such as, how toxic masculinity has a grip on young men, whether dating apps are creating a generation of incels, the rising levels of violence among adolescent men, and why young boys are giving up on love and work.  00:00 Intro 02:13 The Lost Boys Report 03:46 Who Is Logan and What Does She Do? 05:07 Who Is Scott 06:12 How Did This Happen? 10:38 Fatherless Homes 14:40 Are Boys Mentally Weaker? 16:51 Is the Education System the Problem? 22:49 Where Are Male Role Models? 30:08 What the Stats Say About Dating 34:42 Dating Standards 44:23 Do Women Really Want Emotionally Attuned Men? 46:16 If They're Okay, Always Go on a Second Date 48:06 Men's Groups: Should We Have Them and What Are the Benefits? 54:57 Ads 55:50 Steve's Supportive Group of Friends 1:02:42 The Dangers of Porn for Young Boys 1:08:01 How Scott Helps Men With Porn Addiction 1:13:12 Men Approaching Women in a Post-MeToo Era 1:15:27 Teens Don't Know How to Ask Girls Out in Person 1:25:22 Do Successful Women Struggle to Find a Partner? 1:28:11 Ads 1:29:14 The Rise of Feminism 1:30:54 Money Equals Identity for Men 1:36:09 Does Money Give Self-Worth to Women? 1:38:42 The Human Dating Boot Camp 1:47:33 How Is the Left Going to Get Men Back? 1:52:16 Advice for Parents of Young Boys 1:55:12 What Scott and Steve Had to Unlearn About Being a Man 2:10:02 Closing Message for the Lost Boys You can learn more about the March 2025 CSJ Report, here: https://g2ul0.app.link/2kI16MnW6Rb  Follow Scott:  Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/iY8VsRwW6Rb  Twitter - https://g2ul0.app.link/mtdT5dzW6Rb  Website - https://g2ul0.app.link/V8ukmVDW6Rb  Follow Logan: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/z6h5BeGW6Rb  Twitter - https://g2ul0.app.link/jzjDZkIW6Rb  Website - https://g2ul0.app.link/5SIP1FOW6Rb  You can purchase Scott's book, ‘The Algebra of Happiness: The Pursuit of Success, Love and What It All Means', here: https://g2ul0.app.link/gNRRlBCU6Rb  You can purchase Logan's book, ‘How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love', here: https://g2ul0.app.link/4aQGk5EU6Rb  Research document: https://stevenbartlett.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/03/DOAC-Lost-Boys-Independent-Research-and-Further-Reading.pdf Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACEpisodes  My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now - https://g2ul0.app.link/DOACBook  Get your hands on the Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards here: https://bit.ly/conversationcards-mp Sign up to receive email updates about Diary Of A CEO here: https://bit.ly/diary-of-a-ceo-yt  Ready to think like a CEO? Gain access to the 100 CEOs newsletter here: https://bit.ly/100-ceos-newsletter  Follow me: https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb  Sponsors: Shopify - https://shopify.com/bartlett Perfect Ted - https://www.perfectted.com with code DIARY40 for 40% off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most people date the wrong way. They chase the spark, mistake attraction for compatibility, and expect their partners to read their minds. Then they wonder why relationships don't last. Logan Ury thinks about dating differently. As the Director of Relationship Science at Hinge, she's spent years studying what actually makes relationships work. Her findings will change the way you think about attraction, communication, and commitment. In this conversation, Logan reveals why the spark is overrated, how to optimize your dating profile, and the one thing (actually, 8) you must do after every first date. We break down attachment theory, orbiting, polyamory, and having hard conversations in a healthy way. We get answers to questions like: "what's an appropriate age gap?" and "what to say if you're not interested after a date?" Plus, Logan shares how she made the decision to be with her husband and the importance of “other significant others.”      If you want to stop wasting time on the wrong people and start building something real, this episode is for you.   (2:49) First Dates and the Slow Burn (8:07) The Post-Date 8 (14:30) Dating Like a Scientist (15:50) The Height thing... (18:56) The Spark vs Lust (26:35) Fear of Rejection (29:01) Understanding Attachment Theory (39:20) Navigating Online Dating (41:36) Effective Communication in Dating (51:58) Texting Etiquette (01:05:33) Dealing with Rejection (01:08:44) Polyamory (01:13:32) Orbiting (01:30:45) Logan's Story of Meeting Her Husband (01:37:12) Navigating Crucial Decision Points in Relationships (01:41:48) Having Difficult Conversations in Relationships (01:50:15) Other Significant Others (01:59:05) Breaking Up Respectfully (02:02:08) Tips for Creating Dating Profiles   Logan Ury is a behavioral scientist, dating coach, and the Director of Relationship Science at Hinge. She's the bestselling author of How Not to Die Alone.  Newsletter - The Brain Food newsletter delivers actionable insights and thoughtful ideas every Sunday. It takes 5 minutes to read, and it's completely free. Learn more and sign up at fs.blog/newsletter Upgrade — If you want to hear my thoughts and reflections at the end of the episode, join our membership: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠fs.blog/membership⁠⁠ and get your own private feed. Watch on YouTube: @tkppodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy Sunday, my lovely congregation, and welcome back to Pussy Church! This week, we're diving into polyamory, open relationships, and whether being "open" is really the enlightened choice—or just another relationship trend.I break down: my almost-open relationship, the history & science of monogamy and the rise of non-monogamy. Plus, how growing up in a Buddhist commune shaped my views on love and loyalty.If you've ever wondered, non-monogamy is the future—or just a phase?—this one's for you.Amen.

How accurate are rom-coms when it comes to love? Relationship scientists Paul Eastwick & Eli Finkel, co-hosts of Love Factually, put movie romance under a scientific lens, separating fact from fiction and revealing how Hollywood shapes our real-life expectations about love. Topics [0:00] Intro & Welcome to Paul Eastwick & Eli Finkel [2:00] Coffee, Unicycles, and Speed Round Fun [6:40] Introducing Love Factually: A Relationship Science Podcast [10:05] Do Movies Teach Us About Love or Just Reflect Culture? [15:35] The Rom-Com Myths That Hollywood Keeps Selling [22:50] What Movies Get Surprisingly Right About Relationships [30:10] The Power of Micro-Cultures in Romantic Relationships [35:40] Relationship Science & The Challenges of Studying Love [41:00] Personal Insights & Favorite Movies from Paul & Eli [47:45] Music Preferences: The Soundtrack to Love & Life [49:57] Closing Thoughts & Where to Find Love Factually ©2025 Behavioral Grooves Links Listen to Love Factually Follow Paul Eastwick Follow Eli Finkel  The All-or-Nothing Marriage by Eli Finkel Musical Links Peter Gabriel - In Your Eyes  Pearl Jam - Daughter  Nirvana - Smells Like Teen Spirit 

Logan Ury, the author of How to Not Die Alone and director of Relationship Science at Hinge, joins me to share her best tips for all things dating. Logan provides practical tips for avoiding dating blindspots, the drawbacks of unrealistic expectations, and algorithms to live by for finding a satisfying relationship.  We discuss how ‘dealbreakers' may be an excuse for avoiding connection, how attachment styles affect our dating outcomes, the paradox of choice in the dating world, and how to get out of the checklist mindset. She also breaks down the most common dating tendencies, shares strategies behind making the best decisions, explains why ‘the spark' may be B.S., and even offers how-to advice for creating a powerful dating profile. Even if you're not dating, you will learn techniques that will strengthen all your relationships. In this episode, you'll learn: Why the spark is total BS—and what actually makes a relationship last How your dating type (romanticizer, maximizer, or hesitator) is messing with your love life The secret to making better choices in dating—so you can finally find your person Show Notes: More Logan Ury: Instagram | Twitter | Website For their buy 1 get 1 50% off deal, head to 3DayBlinds.com/SWE.   To get 6 bottles of wine for $39.99, head to NakedWines.com/SWE and use code SWE for both the code AND PASSWORD.  Buy Smart Sex New Paperback Cover Now! Join the SmartSX Membership: Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Yes! No! Maybe? List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.  SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $99) The only sex book you'll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website  Let's get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube Let's text: Sign up here Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com

Navigating Love in the Digital Age with Nico Vellotta! Ready to spice up your relationship and break the taboo around sex talk? Join us as we dive into the fascinating world of AI and intimacy with the incredible Nico Vellotta, Head of Relationship Science at Arya! In this episode, we're getting real about how technology is transforming our love lives.  Here's what you can look forward to: Nico's Journey: Ever wonder how someone becomes a leading voice in sexuality? Nico shares his inspiring path to the forefront of couples wellness.  Meet Arya: Discover how Arya, the innovative AI intimacy platform, is revolutionizing communication in the bedroom.  Millennial Magic: Why are 80% of Arya's users millennial women? We break down the stats and reveal the secrets behind this trend. The 7-Year Itch: What is it, and how can you avoid it? Nico's got the scoop! Awkward Conversations Made Easy: Learn how Arya helps couples tackle uncomfortable discussions about sex, making intimacy feel more accessible and enjoyable. Did you know that 75% of couples reported feeling closer after improving their communication? Tech Talk: AI in relationships might sound daunting, but Nico shares his top tips for couples hesitant to embrace new tech in their love lives. Why should you tune in?  Because improving your relationship doesn't have to be boring or uncomfortable—it can be fun, enlightening, and totally relatable! Ready to enhance your intimacy game? Don't miss this episode full of insights, laughs, and practical advice to help you and your partner thrive! Teaser:  What if AI could be your new best friend in the bedroom? Tune in to discover how to unlock deeper connections today!  Links & Socials: - Learn more about Arya: [arya.fyi] - Explore relationship trends: [arya.fyi/trends] - Follow Nico on Instagram: [@mind_on_love] - Check out Arya: [@arya.fyi] Why not let AI strengthen your relationship, improve your communication, and reignite that spark? The future of relationships has arrived and it's waiting for you.  Join us for our next Shameless Sex retreat in Indio, CA May 8th-11th, 2025! https://tinyurl.com/2pfuyvef Come to our online Energy Orgasm and Cuddle Yoga Pre-Valentine's Day workshop: https://tinyurl.com/3c9z2y7s Get premium access to our behind the scenes episodes here: https://shamelesssex.supportingcast.fm Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Other links: Get 20% off single orders and 30% off subscriptions on our favorite men's performance booster with code SHAMELESS http://tryjoymode.com Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  http://OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com

Hunt Ethridge is an award-winning international dating and relationship expert with over 15 years experience helping people become the best, most dateable versions of themselves.  While the focus of his coaching is on making someone empirically more dateable, the lessons learned translate very easily into personal and professional lives. The emphasis is on confidence building, leadership, image & style, conversation skills, creating chemistry, reconnecting with fun and more. He has been lucky enough to have been featured in way over 100 different media outlets, with his favorites being AlleyWatch, CNN, The New York Times, Playboy and GQ. Having been a part of the founding of 5+ dating companies, he's now helping bring his expertise to reach, train and mentor a new set of Love experts at all levels of their careers. You read some of Hunt's advice or contact him for services at Hunt at HuntForAdvice.com, or follow him on IG or YouTube at QuestForAdvice.  His podcast, “Hunt for Relationship Science” is available wherever you get your podcasts. https://www.linkedin.com/in/huntethridge/ https://www.instagram.com/questforadvice/ https://youtube.com/@huntster44?si=bq1ogKHL3ePOR6eZ Master of Your Crafts is a captivating podcast featuring conversations with individuals who have dedicated themselves to mastering their craft. Whether it's a gift, talent or skill that comes naturally to them, these individuals have taken ownership and honed their abilities to perfection. Through deep conversation, we delve into their inner dialogue, actions and life circumstances offering words of wisdom to empower and guide you on a journey to becoming the master of your own craft. For more information, visit our website https://masterofyourcrafts.com and Bright Shining Light Website: https://brightshininglight.com Stay connected with us: - Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/masterofyourcrafts - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/MasterOfYourCrafts/ - Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1M0vp9H... - ApplePodcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast... - Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/b15... - Google Play: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...

Today, you are getting the best dating advice out there for both you and your loved ones.Mel sits down with Logan Ury – a behavior scientist, dating expert, host of Netflix's new dating series “The Later Daters,” and Director of Relationship Science at Hinge – to get her science-backed insights on finding success in dating.If dating apps make you feel hopeless, if you feel like dating is broken, or can't seem to find “the one,” Logan's insights will change your approach to finding love forever.Whether you're single, in a relationship, or supporting a loved one navigating the dating scene, this episode is packed with science-backed insights and actionable tools to help anyone find the love they deserve.For more resources, including links to the studies mentioned in the episode, click here for the podcast episode page.If you're in your relationship and want tools and tips on how to make it better, listen to this episode next: 5 Signs of an Incompatible Relationship & 3 Signs You've Found “The One”Connect with Mel: Watch the episodes on YouTubeGet Mel's new book, The Let Them TheoryFollow Mel on Instagram The Mel Robbins Podcast InstagramMel's TikTok Sign up for Mel's personal letter Subscribe to SiriusXM Podcasts+ on Apple Podcasts to listen to ad-free new episodes Disclaimer

#783: Join us as we sit down with Logan Ury – a Harvard-trained behavioral scientist turned dating coach. As the Director of Relationship Science at Hinge, Logan leads a research team dedicated to people finding love! In this episode, Logan unpacks the realities of modern dating, explores how attachment styles can influence your search for love, emphasizes the importance of prioritizing meaningful connections over superficial traits, addresses society's addiction with "F*ck Boys," & and shares tips from her book, How to Not Die Alone!   To connect with Logan Ury click HERE   To connect with Lauryn Bosstick click HERE   To connect with Michael Bosstick click HERE   Read More on The Skinny Confidential HERE   To Watch the Show click HERE   For Detailed Show Notes visit TSCPODCAST.COM   To Call the Him & Her Hotline call: 1-833-SKINNYS (754-6697)   This episode is brought to you by The Skinny Confidential   Head to the HIM & HER Show ShopMy page HERE to find all of Michael and Lauryn's favorite products mentioned on their latest episodes.   Visit loganury.com to take Logan's dating quiz, learn about online coaching, & purchase her book “How to Not Die Alone”.   This episode is sponsored by Cymbiotika   Head over to Cymbiotika.com right now for 25% off + Free Shipping sitewide.   This episode is sponsored by Just Thrive   If you're ready to take control and live your healthiest life yet, you can get 20% off your first 90-day bottle of Just Calm & Just Thrive Probiotic today – Visit JustThriveHealth.com and use promo code SKINNY.   This episode is sponsored by Branch Basics    Save 15% on your Starter Kit or their new Hand Soap when you use code SKINNY at branchbasics.com.   This episode is sponsored by Taylor Farms   Taylor Farms Chopped Salad Kits are available at all major grocery stores.   This episode is sponsored by Prolon   Go to ProlonLife.com/SKINNY for 15% off Prolon's 5-day nutrition program.   This episode is sponsored by LMNT   Get your free LMNT Sample Pack with any purchase at drinklmnt.com/SKINNY.   Produced by Dear Media

Some relationships feel like a game of emotional tag—you're either chasing or being chased. This week, Jody sits down with Logan Ury, author of How Not to Die Alone, to untangle the complexities of attachment styles, from the anxious-avoidant loop to the quest for secure connections. They unpack the psychology of modern dating, the burnout of endless swipes, and why a little self-awareness goes a long way. Logan shares wisdom on crafting dating profiles that spark conversation and her upcoming Netflix series, The Later Daters, highlighting love stories for those over 55. Whether you're navigating breakups, parenting, or making the first move, this episode is a roadmap to more fulfilling relationships—one mindful connection at a time.Logan Ury is a behavioural scientist turned dating coach and the author of the bestselling book How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love. She works as Hinge's Director of Relationship Science, conducting research on modern dating. She also writes the popular weekly newsletter — Logan's Love Letter.Find Logan on Instagram:@loganury Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Send us a textThe FTGN Merch Store is Live!! Help Support the site with official FTGN Gear!In this episode, Joe Byerly sits down with Dr. Galena Rhoades, co-author of Fighting for Your Marriage, to explore the essential skills needed for strong, lasting relationships. Drawing from her extensive research, Dr. Rhoades shares practical insights on improving communication, navigating conflict, and rekindling connection. They discuss the unique challenges faced by military couples, the importance of being intentional in marriage, and how to address hidden issues beneath everyday disagreements. Dr. Rhoades also provides actionable tools like the "Speaker-Listener Technique" and the value of making time for fun together. Whether you're newly married or decades into your relationship, this conversation offers valuable advice to help you and your partner thrive.Resources Mentioned:Fighting for Your Marriage by Dr. Galena Rhoades and colleaguesAgape App for daily relationship-building questionsGalena K. Rhoades, Ph.D., is a research professor and the director of the Institute for Relationship Science in the Department of Psychology at the University of Denver. Her research focuses on romantic relationship formation processes, such as dating and living together, and predictors of relationship success. She also conducts studies on the effectiveness of relationship interventions offered by community organizations across the United States. She has more than 140 publications in these areas. Dr. Rhoades founded a nonprofit in Denver called Thriving Families. This organization offers MotherWise, a relationship education program for women during pregnancy and postpartum, as well as mental health services for families. Dr. Rhoades is also a practicing clinical psychologist. In her private practice, she primarily sees couples and families.A special thanks to this week's sponsors!Veteran-founded Adyton. Step into the next generation of equipment management with Log-E by Adyton. Whether you are doing monthly inventories or preparing for deployment, Log-E is your pocket property book, giving real-time visibility into equipment status and mission readiness. Learn more about how Log-E can revolutionize your property tracking process here!Exray a veteran-owned apparel brand elevating the custom gear experience. Exray provides free design services and creates dedicated web stores for unitsMy favorite coffee is veteran-owned Alpha Coffee and I've been drinking it every morning since 2020! They make 100% premium arabica coffee. Alpha has donated over 22k bags of coffee to deployed units and they offer a 10% discount for military veterans, first responders, nurses, and teachers! Try their coffee today. Once you taste the Alpha difference, you won't want to drink anything else!  Learn more here

It's fall, it's cuffing season, and maybe you're looking for a way to extend that new, cozy relationship to a love for all seasons… Dating can be a mystery to some, but to our guest expert - it's a scientific method! Today, we have Logan Ury from the new Netflix show The Later Daters talking to us all about how to become a better dater - at any age - and how we can say “f*ck the spark!” once and for all. Plus! We're covering the latest Hinge data, ethical non-monogamy, and “other significant others.” Logan Ury is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach and the author of the bestselling book How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love. She's the dating coach on the new Netflix series — The Later Daters — from executive producer Michelle Obama. She works as Hinge's Director of Relationship Science, conducting research on modern dating. She also writes the popular weekly newsletter — Logan's Love Letter. She studied psychology at Harvard and ran Google's behavioral science team, the Irrational Lab. She lives in the Bay Area with her husband Scott. Later Daters premieres November 29th on Netflix. You can follow Logan Ury on Instagram @loganury. Follow us on Instagram @CuriousWithJVN to join the conversation. Jonathan is on Instagram @JVN. Transcripts for each episode are available at JonathanVanNess.com. Find books from Getting Curious guests at bookshop.org/shop/curiouswithjvn. Our senior producers are Chris McClure. Our engineer is Nathanael McClure. Production support from Julie Carrillo, Anne Currie, and Chad Hall. Our theme music is “Freak” by QUIÑ; for more, head to TheQuinCat.com. Curious about bringing your brand to life on the show? Email podcastadsales@sonymusic.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We can all agree, the apps these days are feeling dry, destitute & dark. But hear me out, bestie - what if the problem… is you. Don't all cast your stones at once! Hinge's Director of Relationship Science & Author of the bestselling dating book, How to Not Die Alone, Logan Ury is here to help. We'll talk about ways to make your profile more appealing to the dates you want, when to take things off the apps and make IRL connections and your biggest dating app icks.  Purchase Logan's book “How To Not Die Alone” at the link below: https://www.amazon.com/How-Not-Die-Alone-Surprising/dp/1982120622 Follow Kamie @kamiecrawford on TikTok and Relationshit @relationshit on IG for more, besties. Watch on YouTube at youtube.com/@relationshitpod and of course, Follow the show on Spotify, Apple, YouTube, or wherever you get your podcasts! To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Rom Com Vom, DB and the incredible Logan Ury, dating coach and author, break down You've Got Mail, the 1998 rom-com that taught us all to fall in love through email (or did it?). They dive into the film's exploration of online romance, corporate takeovers, and questionable meet-cute ethics, discussing what still warms our hearts and what belongs in the trash folder.  —— Logan Ury is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach and the author of the bestselling book How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love. She works as Hinge's Director of Relationship Science, conducting research on modern dating. She also writes the popular weekly newsletter — Logan's Love Letter. —— Want to Win a $100 Lion's Den Gift Card? We want to hear from YOU! Fill out our quick survey to help us improve the podcast and you'll be entered for a chance to win a $100 gift card to Lion's Den—your go-to for all things pleasure and intimacy. It's fast, easy, and your feedback helps us keep bringing you the sex ed content you love. Don't miss out—click the link to get started!

On today's show, we're exploring some powerful insights into maintaining and improving your relationship, informed by a leading researcher who can predict divorce with over 90% accuracy.We'll examine the groundbreaking work of Dr. John Gottman, particularly the discovery of the "Four Horsemen"—behaviours that can signal relationship troubles—and how you can counteract these detrimental patterns. Plus, I'll introduce you to Gottman's ATTUNE method, a practical approach to build trust and emotional attunement in your partnership.Join me as we break down these key concepts, guiding you through actionable steps to foster a culture of appreciation and mutual understanding in your relationship. Whether you're looking to avoid conflict, improve communication, or simply strengthen your partnership, this episode is packed with valuable insights to help you and your partner grow together.Key Themes Discussed:- The impact of fighting over text messages and how to manage it.- John Gottman's Four Horsemen and their antidotes.- The magic ratio of positive to negative interactions in relationships.- Building trust and emotional attunement with the ATTUNE method.Timestamps:02:29 Avoiding conflict escalation over text messages05:42 Introduction to the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse07:58 Understanding the magic 5:1 ratio for relationships18:00 Remedies and antidotes to the Four HorsemenWant to transform your relationship and take it to the next level?Join my online course here.My Socials:Nick Solaczek on InstagramNick Solaczek on YouTubeNick Solaczek on Facebook

In this minisode, listen to snippets of some of the BEST relationship advice from the archives of Sex Ed with DB! Dr. Lexx Brown-James, therapist and sexologist, shares some of her top tips for couples in marriage counseling. Then Logan Ury, Hinge's Director of Relationship Science, lets us know why hard work is the sign of a good relationship, not a bad one. Hear the full episodes: Maintaining Long-Term Relationships and Keeping The Spark Alive with Therapist, Dr. Lexx Brown-James How to Date Better with Hinge's Director of Relationship Science Logan Ury

In this episode, Jeff talks with Logan Ury, a brilliant behavioral scientist, author, and dating coach. Logan, who heads up Relationship Science at Hinge and penned How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love, is like your BFF who also happens to have a degree in dating. She breaks down the three dating tendencies, helping us figure out what might be getting in the way of our love lives. She tells us why we should say f*ck the spark—Logan's all about the slow burn of real connection. Plus, she and Jeff tackle the art of the breakup, because let's face it, we could all use some tips on how to do that gracefully. Join Jeff and Logan for a candid chat that'll leave you feeling like you just had a heart-to-heart with your smartest friends about love, life, and everything in between.Listen to Jeff's podcast Problem Solved here: https://wavepodcastnetwork.com/Get your copy of Big Dating Energy!

The withering away of a cultural cornerstone - third places. This episode is designed for the connector who wants to upgrade their community. I share research why it matters, a story of something that I would have never expected, and a way for you to be a third place creator. Want to see the visuals? Watch the YouTube 4K version.Your first place is where you live, your second place is where you work, your third place is where you become a part of society, build community, and get nourished.Unfortunately, these places are going by the wayside due to digital influences, parks being turned into parking garages, and public places charging just to be there. But, it doesn't have to be this way. SOURCES:On Edge: Understanding and Preventing Young Adults' Mental Health Challenges: https://mcc.gse.harvard.edu/reports/on-edgeSocial Connection Across Difference in the US: https://www.moreincommon.com/media/1u3ndxq4/two-pager-overview.pdfPodcast with Dr. Jeffrey Hall on Hunt for Relationship Science: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4HVS9CVreUcArticle by Jeff Hall, Natalie Pennington, and Andy J Merolla: https://academic.oup.com/jcmc/article/28/1/zmac026/6825471The Surprise of Reaching Out: Appreciated More Than We Think: https://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/releases/psp-pspi0000402.pdfAn easy way to send me a message? Click the link here.Have you enjoyed the podcast? If so, follow it, rate it, and share it with three people: Follow on Apple Podcasts Follow on Spotify Follow on Instagram Subscribe on YouTube If you want to share feedback, have a great idea, or have a question then email me: talktopeoplepodcast@gmail.comProduced by Capture Connection Studios: captureconnectionstudios.com

Are we our own worst enemies when it comes to romance? What if instead, we dated like a scientist, using equations and analysis, rather than feelings and attraction to find love. In this new episode Steven sits down with dating coach and behavioural scientist, Logan Ury. Logan is a behavioural expert, dating coach and Director of Relationship Science at the dating app, Hinge. She is also the author of the book, ‘How To Not Die Alone', which outlines the scientific theories she uses with her clients to help them find love. In this conversation Logan and Steven discuss topics, such as: Why Logan is a dating coach and her work with Hinge How she helps people get out of their own way and find their dating blindspots The ways that modern dating is very new for history Researching the dating habits of Gen Z Hiring a dating coach for herself How Logan found her husband at work Attachment theory and its importance for dating How you can change your attachment style The negativity bias and how our brain runs on ancient software Why you should go for a securely attached person who may seem boring The reasons that securely attached people are the heroes of the dating world Why people are so addicted to f**k boys The importance of taking a break during a fight Understanding our dating patterns and how we can change them The secretary problem and the maths of when to stop looking and choose someone Digital Body Language and how it impacts dating Why people confuse ‘ick's' for dealbreakers Why you should overcome your ‘ick's' The 3 most common dating tendencies and unrealistic expectations Why the dating environment is so important How to date like a scientist Why you shouldn't try to be perfect on a date Vulnerability as a magnet for connection The post date 8 checklist Why you should ignore the spark and focus on the slow burn What things matter less than people think for relationships and what do they underestimate Why you need to be able to fight well in a relationship The tips and tricks to a dating profile why vulnerability is strength The difference between a maximiser and a satisfier Logan's husbands cancer Living on a commune You can find out which of the 3 dating tendencies you are with Logan's quiz, here: https://bit.ly/491O3lj You can purchase Logan's book, ‘How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love', here: https://amzn.to/3Q71QhL Follow Logan: Instagram: https://bit.ly/3SddZUL Twitter: https://bit.ly/46IWMqV Watch the episodes on Youtube - https://g2ul0.app.link/3kxINCANKsb My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now: https://smarturl.it/DOACbook Follow me: Instagram: http://bit.ly/3nIkGAZ Twitter: http://bit.ly/3ztHuHm Linkedin: https://bit.ly/41Fl95Q Telegram: http://bit.ly/3nJYxST Sponsors: Whoop: join.whoop.com/CEO Huel: https://g2ul0.app.link/G4RjcdKNKsb Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My guest in this episode is Logan Ury, the Director of Relationship Science at Hinge, Dating Coach, Behavioural Scientist and author. In her current role at Hinge, she leads a research team dedicated to helping people find love.She regularly receives messages from people who tell her that her advice, via talks, courses and her book How Not to Die Alone is the reason they are married and/or have kids and she admits, ‘it's an unbelievable feeling to know that you've changed the course of someone's life through your work'.But what about Logan's own life? Find out about her stance on dealing with crises, communal living and more...To join the closed Facebook group for the podcast click here >> The Emma Guns Show Forum.To follow me on social media >> Twitter | Instagram.Watch clips from the podcast >> Youtube | The Emma Guns ShowSign up for my newsletter here >> Newsletter.Subscribe now. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Gather ‘round this week as Logan Ury joins the circle! Logan works as Hinge's Director of Relationship Science, is a dating coach and behavioral scientist, and the author of the bestselling dating book How to Not Die Alone. She talks us through first dates, the different types of daters, long distance relationships, and so much more. You will learn so much about dating from an actual professional! Leave me a voicemail here!Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Sponsors:You can go to JULIECARE.CO/circletime to get $10 your first online purchase for a limited timeCancel your unwanted subscriptions – and manage your money the easy way – by going to RocketMoney.com/circletime Try today at StitchFix.com/circletime and you'll get 25% off when you keep everything in your FixChoose a natural diamond - for more information, visit naturaldiamonds.comProduced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This episode first aired on 26th April 2021 Are you enjoying the podcast? Please leave a rating and a review. Logan is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach, and the author of How To Not Die Alone. As the Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, she leads a research team dedicated to helping people find love. After studying psychology at Harvard, she ran Google's behavioral science team—the Irrational Lab. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, The Atlantic, TIME. The Washington Post, GQ, Glamour, Vice, and on HBO and the BBC. Today's podcast goes deep on all things dating and relationships. It's a full-circle podcast from meeting someone to breakups and finding the one—we cover it all today. Also, I touch on some of my personal attachment styles and previous dating tendencies; so, today's episode goes through some new topics not previously explored on the podcast. Key Points · Each of the three dating tendencies have to do with unrealistic expectations. The romanticizer has unrealistic expectations of relationships. The maximizer has unrealistic expectations of their partner. The hesitator has unrealistic expectations of themselves. Unrealistic expectations of any kind create huge problems because, even if things are going great, the person is never satisfied with what they have at present. · Our society has become obsessed with “the spark”: the idea of instant chemistry, that pang of connection; that feeling when you walk into a room and everything else fades and you can only focus on that person. Now, the spark is a wonderful thing; but you should not be selecting your long-term life partner based on it as it's nothing more than a first impression. Instead, go for the slow burn and get to know the person beyond first impressions. · Becoming ready for marriage is a matter of the level of your intentionality. You have to exercise the same muscles that you do to strengthen your growth mindset and goal-orientedness and know how you want your future to look. With regard to marriage itself, ask yourself a series of questions, such as whether you see yourself with your partner in the long run and how you've both weathered conflict. Then, ask your partner questions such as how many kids you want to have, the religion you want to raise them on, and how you want to manage your finances.

"When we're talking about Do Deal, we're really talking about the verb of how you deal with people... as an ongoing kind of living thing." Richard Hoare didn't set out to become an expert on negotiation. In fact his first attempt at negotiation, when he was offered a poorly paid first job in the music industry involved, he admits, no negotiation at all. But after a career at the top of legal services in the music industry he's learned a thing or two, and recognized the need for a short, straightforward book that set out the principles of successful negotiation in a way that anyone could grasp and use.  Spoiler alert: It's not about getting your own way, it's about uncovering value and nurturing relationships. And because it was written with a co-author, the book involved some negotiation along the way itself. In this week's conversation Richard shares his tactics for writing collaboratively, and indeed writing at all alongside a busy work schedule, together with some practical and profound insights on the art of the (better) deal.

Logan Ury helps Glennon's former husband and co-parent, Craig Melton, navigate the wild world of dating as a grown up: How to identify your patterns that aren't working for you; how to know if something's really a deal breaker; why dating in your twenties is like “start-up” while dating later in life is a “merger”; an honest audit of Craig's online dating profile; how to ensure you're meeting who you want to meet; and how Craig factors whether or not Glennon and Abby will like who he's dating.  About Logan:  Logan Ury is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach and the author of the bestselling dating book How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love. She works as Hinge's Director of Relationship Science, conducting research on modern dating. She runs an online community through her weekly newsletter — Logan's Love Letter. She studied psychology at Harvard and ran Google's behavioral science team, the Irrational Lab. She lives in the Bay Area with her husband Scott.  TW: @loganury IG: @loganury IG: @craigmelton14 To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

How the hell do grown ups date and make friends? Behavioral scientist turned dating coach, Logan Ury is here to help us make dating and meeting new friends easier: how to identify what you really want; why we should stop searching for “the spark”; why we keep going after the same people that are wrong for us; how to talk to our kids about their first love experiences; why we need to have “other significant others”; and the eight questions you should ask yourself after meeting anyone new.   About Logan:  Logan Ury is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach and the author of the bestselling dating book How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love. She works as Hinge's Director of Relationship Science, conducting research on modern dating. She runs an online community through her weekly newsletter — Logan's Love Letter. She studied psychology at Harvard and ran Google's behavioral science team, the Irrational Lab. She lives in the Bay Area with her husband Scott.  TW: @loganury IG: @loganury To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

DR. DEB MASHEK is an experienced business advisor, professor, higher education administrator, and national nonprofit executive. Previously Full Professor of social psychology at Harvey Mudd College and named one of the Top 35 Women in Higher Education by Diverse: Issues in Higher Education. In her new book, Collabor(h)ate, Dr. Mashek draws on her deep experience as a relationships researcher and collaboration facilitator to reveal everything you need to know to make workplace collaborations less painful and more productive. For more stories of remote teams doing great things, visit https://www.collaborationsuperpowers.com

On today's episode, the Bitches bring on Logan Ury, Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge and author of the best-selling book How To Not Die Alone. We talk about the science behind successful dating, and what matters more and less than we think when choosing a partner. Liat seizes the opportunity to have Logan roast her own dating profile. We also discuss the three dating tendencies from her book and so much more so tune in or miss the F out! SHOW NOTEShttps://www.loganury.com/https://www.loganury.com/quizhttps://www.loganury.com/coachinghttps://www.loganury.com/propelhttps://www.loganury.com/bookBehavior Principles:AdaptationSelectionismBehavior MomentumAntecedent Intervention Positive Reinforcement Preferences Environment Variable RatioBehavioral PlansMassed Trials Support us at patreon.com/behaviorbitchespodcastInsta: @behaviorbitchespodcastFacebook: Behavior Bitches Podcast

Pre-Registration for Tulum 2023 is open! Visit http://agapeescapes.comOr enroll in a virtual Agape Intensive instead: http://agapeintensive.com *********Joining Maria on this week's hotline is Logan Ury, the Director of Relationship Science at Hinge, who has the awesome job of conducting research into modern dating. Logan Ury is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach and the author of the bestselling dating book How to Not Die Alone. She studied psychology at Harvard and ran Google's behavioral science team, the Irrational Lab.Sign up for Logan's Love Letter, her weekly newsletter and learn about her online courses at https://www.loganury.com/Pick up Logan's book, How to Not Die Alone, here.Follow Logan on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/loganury/Let's work together! Schedule a Dating Strategy call: https://calendly.com/felix-louie Follow Maria on instagram at http://instagram.com/matchmakermaria

The number of American adults living single has been on the rise for years. Part of this increase has been driven by a growing number of folks who simply prefer the single life. And, for them, being single can be awesome. At the same time, though, some singles don't want to be single and they're pretty miserable. So let's talk about the good, bad, and ugly of singlehood. I have a two-part series for you on what it's like to be single today. In this episode we're going to explore the positive side of singlehood and, next time, we're going to explore the negative side. I am joined by Dr. Yuthika Girme, an Associate Professor in the Department of Psychology at Simon Fraser University in Canada. Her research focuses on reconciling the complexities associated with singlehood and relationship experiences with the aim of fostering security and well-being. Some of the topics we discuss include: Why have relationship researchers historically downplayed the experiences of singles? What are some of the reasons people might choose to be single? What do they see as the benefits? Why are older singles more satisfied than younger singles? When are singles most likely to be sexually satisfied? Why might someone prioritize having friendships (or platonic life partners) over romantic relationships? How do our personal (and cultural) values shape the experience of singlehood? Check out  the SECURE lab to learn more about Yuthika's research, and be sure to follow her on Twitter. Thank you to our sponsors! Check out FirmTech, awarded "most innovative sex toy of the year" by XBIZ! FirmTech's Performance Ring is designed to boost your sexual stamina and give you harder, longer-lasting erections, while also enhancing pleasure. Their Tech Ring has the added benefit of tracking your erectile health. Visit myfirmtech.com and be sure to use my exclusive discount code Justin20 to save 20% off your purchase.  *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Reddit to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

Elise Micheals is trauma-informed executive coach focused on men's mental health. Her coaching program is designed to help men gain clarity on their subconscious blocks to heal trauma and create better lives, businesses, and relationships. “With the combination of Trauma therapy, REBT, CBT, Relationship Science, and Neuroscience, I've created easy-to-follow actionable steps that allow you to understand, and heal, quicker.” In this episode, Shane and Elise discuss why so many men struggle with mental health, the internal and external roadblocks they face in trying to get help, and some ways we can work to improve these areas. They discuss common cycles of shame, suffering in isolation, being silenced and ignored by society, difficulties when opening up to their partners, the conflict of vulnerability and emotional intelligence. More of Elise :

People normalize trauma because they don't understand it's trauma. Our parents' generation normalized beating kids because obedience was the way to have healthy children. Everybody got their ass beat and nobody thought it was traumatic to get beat by your parent. - Elise Micheals Wellness + Wisdom Episode 531 Elise Micheals, a trauma-informed men's coach, joins Josh Trent on the Wellness + Wisdom podcast episode 531 to discuss the challenges related to men's mental health, and why we need to become trauma-informed as a society. Are you ready to uncover why trauma has been normalized and ignored, and what we need to do to heal generational trauma? This episode will help you gain an understanding of how repeated patterns influence your relationships, why it's important to become trauma-informed, and how to deal with generational trauma. Listen To Episode 531 As Elise Micheals Uncovers: [01:30] Trauma: Normalized + Ignored Elise Micheals Why our society is trauma ignorant and trauma confused according to Elise. How she learned to understand men by operating out of masculine energy. Why trauma is normalized. Arizona Trauma Institute 512 Alison Armstrong: Unconscious Emasculation, What Women Don't Understand About Men + How To Get The Love You Want 481 Scott Jackson | Rewire Yourself: How To Create A Life You Love With Freedom From Subconscious Sabotage [13:00] Repeated Patterns + Toxic Relationships The different roles men and women play with children. What makes us realize we can't repeat the same pattern. Why we shouldn't try to fix our partner and instead be a support system for them. The Way Of The Superior Man by David Deida Why relationships were the most painful thing in life for Elise. 129 The Four Tendencies – Gretchen Rubin Nice guy syndrome and the difference between a nice guy and a kind guy. [25:05] Why We Need To Be Trauma-Informed Jedediah Bila Why no one should think of themselves as a prize. How we act out of survival mode. Why we need to be accountable for our reactions instead of controlling other people's behavior. The importance of having a healthy model in our families. What it means to be trauma-informed. [33:15] Self Love + Boundaries The reason men feel out of balance and out of control. Why you need to prioritize yourself. Unpacking how to learn to say "no" and to express yourself. How we reflect our partner's work upon themselves. Why people confuse ultimatum and boundary. [44:30] Healing Generational Trauma How women are brainwashed into hating men. The problems with birth control. Why we shouldn't glorify gender dysphoria according to Josh. Why people pleasers and narcissists create the perfect match in a relationship. Narcissistic tendencies VS narcissism. The reason why Elise didn't want to have children when she was younger. What to do to heal generational trauma. 366 Mark Wolynn | How To Heal Generational Trauma: The Thoughts, Feelings, Patterns & Behaviors Formed Before You Were Ever Born Power Quotes From The Show Trauma Confused Society "We're trauma confused because there's a lot of gurus out there who are saying things about trauma that make it more confusing. Everybody thinks they have the correct idea but many people do not." - Elise Micheals Give And Receive Love "How do you give and receive love in a healthy way? If you don't know it, that journey is hard. And you find yourself in relationships and then you have to analyze where you're abandoning yourself in order to make this work." - Elise Micheals The Need To Earn Love "A mother is a nurturer. A mother helps her children understand their emotions and how to regulate them. But if she herself doesn't understand her emotions and doesn't know how to regulate them, she's not going to attune to the child's needs and they will feel like they need to earn her love. They grow into an adult still seeking that love, and if they can't get it from their mother, they will subconsciously seek it out from a partner. That means they might take on a project partner that they can fulfill that desire that was never completed as a child." - Elise Micheals Links From Today's Show  Elise Micheals Arizona Trauma Institute 512 Alison Armstrong: Unconscious Emasculation, What Women Don't Understand About Men + How To Get The Love You Want 481 Scott Jackson | Rewire Yourself: How To Create A Life You Love With Freedom From Subconscious Sabotage The Way Of The Superior Man by David Deida 129 The Four Tendencies – Gretchen Rubin Jedediah Bila 366 Mark Wolynn | How To Heal Generational Trauma: The Thoughts, Feelings, Patterns & Behaviors Formed Before You Were Ever Born Shop the Wellness Force Media Store breathwork.io HIGHER DOSE INFRARED MAT, RED LIGHT FACE MASK, SAUNA BLANKET - Get 15% off  ONLY with this link + code “JOSH15“ Cured Nutrition CBD - Save 20% with the CODE "WELLNESSFORCE" PLUNGE – Save $150 with the code “WELLNESSFORCE" LiftMode - Save 10% with the code "JOSH10" Organifi – Special 20% off to our listeners with the code ‘WELLNESSFORCE' HVMN - Get 20% off your Ketone IQ order with the code "JOSH" MitoZen – Save 10% with the code “WELLNESSFORCE” Paleovalley – Save 15% on your ACV Complex with the code ‘JOSH' NOOTOPIA - Save 10% with the code "JOSH10" ActivationProducts – Save 20% with the code “WELLNESSFORCE” NEUVANA - Save 15% with the code “WELLNESSFORCE” SENSATE - Save $25 on your order with the code "JOSH25" DRY FARM WINES - Get an extra bottle of Pure Natural Wine with your order for just 1¢ CHILISLEEP - Save 25% on Josh's favorite ChiliSleep products with the code "JOSH" ION - Save 15% off sitewide with the code ‘JOSH1KS' TOUPS - Save 15% with the code "JOSH" Feel Free from Botanic Tonics – Save 40% when you use the code ‘WELLNESS40′ Drink LMNT – Zero Sugar Hydration: Get your free LMNT Sample Pack, with any purchase BREATHE - Save 20% by using the code “PODCAST20” Essential Oil Wizardry: Save 10% with the code ‘WELLNESSFORCE' MY GREEN MATTRESS - Save up to $125 on your order with the code "JOSH" NEUROHACKER - Save 15% with the code "WELLNESSFORCE" ALIVE WATER - Save 33% on your first order with the code "JOSH33" M21 Wellness Guide Wellness + Wisdom Community Leave Wellness + Wisdom a review on Apple Podcasts Elise Micheals Instagram TikTok YouTube About Elise Micheals Elise Micheals is a trauma-informed men's coach who helps men find purpose and passion again by healing subconscious trauma. She has grown her following to over half a million across all platforms and plans on changing the way men's mental health is viewed for men worldwide. Her coaching program helps men gain clarity on their subconscious blocks to heal trauma and create a better life, business, and relationships. With the combination of Trauma therapy, REBT, CBT, Relationship Science, and Neuroscience, Elise has created easy-to-follow actionable steps that allow you to understand, and heal, quicker.

In this week's episode, DB speaks with Logan Ury, a behavioural scientist turned dating coach who is the Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge and the author of How To Not Die Alone. They discuss Logan's research and how it has informed features in the app, as well as common limiting beliefs that people have around dating and how to overcome them to find a fulfilling relationship. --- Sex Ed with DB, Season 7 is Sponsored by: Lion's Den, Uberlube, Magic Wand, Future Method, and Freya. Get discounts on all of DB's favorite things here! --- Follow Sex Ed with DB on: Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb YouTube: Sex Ed with DB Twitter: @sexedwithdb Facebook: @edwithdb --- Want to get in touch with Sex Ed with DB? Email us at sexedwithdb@gmail.com. Want exclusive Sex Ed with DB content? Join DB's crew on Patreon. --- About Sex Ed with DB: Sex Ed with DB is a feminist podcast bringing you all the sex ed you never got through unique and entertaining storytelling, centering LGBTQ+ and BIPOC experts. We discuss topics such as birth control, pleasure, LGBTQ+ health and rights, abortion, consent, BDSM, sex and disability, HIV, sex in the media, and more.  --- Sex Ed with DB, Season 7 Team: Creator, Host, Executive Producer: Danielle Bezalel (DB) Producer and Communications Lead: Cathren Cohen Social Media Intern: Sarah Kelly

We're talking online dating with a TRUE expert, Logan Ury. Logan is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach AND Director of Relationship Science at Hinge. In this episode we talk about all the secrets of how to be great at online dating. Should you lie about your age if you're over 35? Is it OK to ghost if you're not interested? Listen to find out.    In This Episode We'll Cover: Is dating getting WORSE? What is behavioral science?  How to create the best dating profile What is a “beige” flag? How to pick photos for a dating profile How to make your online dating profile stand out What photos should you NOT have on your dating profile Is it OK to lie about your age on dating apps? Should you video chat someone before going on a date? Low cost date ideas Logan's BRILLIANT strategy for dating Should you be searching for butterflies when dating? How to date if you're struggling with self confidence How to not be awkward when flirting Logan's thoughts on “settling”   3 Ways You Can Support This Podcast: Rate Review Support our sponsors using our unique ‘HOOKUP' codes at https://foodheavenmadeeasy.com/hookup   HOOKUP Codes: Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase at athleticgreens.com/FOODHEAVEN  For a limited time, get 20% off the entire InsideTracker store when you sign up at insidetracker.com/foodheaven    For our resources and shownotes, visit foodheavenmadeeasy.com/podcast   Produced by Dear Media

First impressions matter but when it comes to dating, don't get blown away by the myth of the "relationship spark". Some people can instead be characterized as a "slow burn"; a person who you like more and more each time. We revisit an episode with dating coach, behavioral scientist and author of How Not To Die Alone, Logan Ury about how to date successfully. Logan Ury studied psychology at Harvard, was a TED Fellow, then became a behavioral scientist at Google, where she ran Google's behavioral science team – which we now know as The Irrational Lab. She became a dating coach and is currently the Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, where she leads a research team dedicated to helping people find love. Her work has appeared in The New York Times and The Atlantic, among a variety of media outlets, including HBO and the BBC.  Aside from those cool things, we wanted to talk to her because she is the author of How To Not Die Alone. In our conversation with Logan, which was originally recorded in early 2021, we talk about the challenges people face in getting prepared for dating, making the most of their dating experiences, and maintaining great relationships once they've landed in one. She shared her insights into how to overcome some of the common hurdles and to make the most out of each phase of the dating life. We had an interesting discussion about why moving from ‘romanticizer' or ‘maximizer' to ‘satisficer' can make a big difference in your relationships (and in life). We talk about the Monet Effect and how we need to work hard to overcome some of our biggest biases – like the fundamental attribution error and negativity bias. She was also kind enough to share a little bit about her communal living conditions and her recommendation that we all need more significant others – OSO's – in these turbulent times. NOTE #1: The “F” word features prominently in our conversation since it's in the title of one of her book's chapters. NOTE #2: Christina Gravert joined for our Grooving Session as our first-ever Grooving Partner, and you'll hear her in the introduction, as well. We're pleased that our good friend was named by Forbes magazine as one of the top behavioral scientists you ought to know. Christina teaches Economics at the University of Copenhagen, is a co-founder of Impactually, a behavioral consultancy, she has been a guest on Behavioral Grooves (episode 16 on creating a Nudge-A-Thon), and was a speaker at Nudge.It North 2021.   © 2023 Behavioral Grooves   Links Logan Ury: https://www.loganury.com/ “How to Not Die Alone”: https://amzn.to/3JSmDUz  Ira Glass: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ira_Glass Dan Ariely: https://danariely.com/ Esther Perel: https://www.estherperel.com/ John Gottman, The Gottman Institute: https://www.gottman.com/ Eli Finkel: https://elifinkel.com/ Daniel Gilbert: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Daniel_Gilbert_(psychologist) Jane Ebert: https://www.brandeis.edu/facultyguide/person.html?emplid=0fd6834b65b0eddec69f2ab77539fd341d63b270 Alain De Botton “School of Life”: https://www.theschooloflife.com/about-us/faculty/alain-de-botton/ Reiki: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reiki “Algorithms to Live By”: https://algorithmstoliveby.com/ John Nash “A Beautiful Mind”: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Forbes_Nash_Jr. Nicole Prause: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nicole_Prause 36 Questions That Lead to Love: https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/09/style/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html The School of Life books: https://www.theschooloflife.com/shop/us/books/ Shelley Archambeau – Episode 204: https://behavioralgrooves.com/episode/how-shelley-archambeau-flies-like-an-eagle/ Christina Gravert – Episode 16: https://behavioralgrooves.com/episode/nudge-a-thon-with-dr-christina-gravert/ Christina Gravert, “Online Dating Like a Game Theorist”: https://behavioralscientist.org/online-dating-like-a-game-theorist/ Christina Gravert – Impactually: https://impactually.se/ “10 Behavioral Scientists You Should Know”: https://www.forbes.com/sites/alineholzwarth/2020/10/29/10-behavioral-scientists-you-should-know/?sh=36ad80b442e0    Musical Links “Hamilton” soundtrack: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aPSWZUExZ8M  Chance the Rapper “Coloring Book”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BeChAs-bI3A  Bush “Glycerine”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bvXbHN5Gijw%C2%A0 

Have you ever had trouble letting go after a breakup, even if you initiated it? Why does society make you feel like you are less-than if you are not in a relationship? Is love addiction a thing? And how can psychological science, and cognitive-behavioral therapy, help shed light on how all of us can be better in regard to relationships? Today we're talking with psychologist Dr. Cortney Warren, author of the new book "Letting Go of Your Ex." We go way past the trite cliches of love and breakups and get real about dating, falling in love, breaking up, and how to heal-- and what we all can be doing to think about relationships a little differently. Follow Baggage Check on Instagram @baggagecheckpodcast and get sneak peeks of upcoming episodes, give your take on guests and show topics, gawk at the very good boy Buster the Dog, and send us your questions!Here's more on Dr. Andrea Bonior and her book Detox Your Thoughts.Here's more on this podcast, which somehow you already found (thank you!)Credits: Beautiful cover art by Danielle Merity, exquisitely lounge-y original music by Jordan Cooper

On this week's podcast, Keith Esterly joins us from his home office in Bucks County, PA, where he serves as chief learning architect for the Home Technology Specialists of America (HTSA), a leading North American trade consortium. Keith has a unique role within HTSA in that he was brought on board to help members learn fresh ideas, but specifically become better at selling and relationship science. It's a craft that Keith honed during many years at AV giant Tweeter and then during his nine years as director of talent development at Wal-Mart (yes, Wal-Mart). His artful training techniques have become legendary within the HTSA community, so it's a unique opportunity to learn how he got so good at what he does and what exactly he teaches to help managers and salespeople to improve in their roles.Today's episode of Residential Tech Talks is brought to you by Shelly WiFi Relays by Allterco | Smart home devices designed and developed to provide solutions tailored to your needs. Go to https://shelly.cloud and make IoT simple!

'When I went into [writing a book], people were telling me, oh, it's going to be so lonely. you're going to lock yourself in a room... nothing could be further from the truth. This was the most collaborative process from day one.' If you want to do work that matters, the unavoidable truth is that you're going to need to collaborate with others at some point. And that can be the most joyful, creative, energising experience.... but very often it isn't.  What IS it about collaboration that's so damn hard? Turns out that even with the best collaboration tools and project processes, in the end it all comes down to relationships. The good news is that you can learn to collaborate better, and Deb Mashek has spent years researching exactly how to help you do that.  The other good news is that you can bring those collaboration skills to the process of writing your book, and make it not only better but more fun along the way. Find out how....  

Get early access to our latest psychology lectures: http://bit.ly/new-talks5 Have you ever looked around and wondered, 'Why has everyone found love except me?' you're not the only one. Great relationships don't just appear in our lives - they're the culmination of a series of decisions, including who to date, how to end it with the wrong person, and when to commit to the right one. But our brains often get in the way. We make poor decisions, which thwart us on our quest to find lasting love. Drawing from years of research, behavioural scientist turned dating coach Logan Ury reveals the hidden forces that cause those mistakes. But awareness on its own doesn't lead to results. You have to actually change your behaviour. In this live interview session, Logan will show you how. Incorporating insights from behavioural science, original research, and real-life stories, you'll learn: — What's holding you back in dating (and how to break the pattern) — What really matters in a long-term partner (and what really doesn't) — ⁠How to overcome the perils of online dating (and make the apps work for you) — ⁠How to meet more people in real life (while doing activities you love) — How to make dates fun again (so they stop feeling like job interviews) — ⁠Why 'the spark' is a myth (but you'll find love anyway) And more… Logan's data-driven, step-by-step approach has the potential to help you find, build and keep a relationship, in which both partners thrive. --- Logan Ury is a behavioural scientist turned dating coach, and the author of How To Not Die Alone. As the Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, she leads a research team dedicated to helping people find love. After studying psychology at Harvard, she ran Google's behavioural science team—the Irrational Lab. Logan's work has appeared in The New York Times, The Atlantic, TIME, The Washington Post, GQ, Glamour, Vice, on HBO, BBC, and she was a featured speaker at SXSW in 2021. You can learn more of her works at: https://www.loganury.com Links: - Get our latest psychology lectures emailed to your inbox: http://bit.ly/new-talks5 - Check out our next event: http://theweekenduniversity.com/events/ - Logan's website: https://www.loganury.com - Logan's book: https://www.loganury.com/book --- For the past 10 months, we've been working on our biggest project yet: The Holistic Psychotherapy Summit. This is a free online event which aims to provide mental health professionals with the most essential ideas for practising effective psychotherapy in the coming decade, and, as the name suggests, it will cover mind, brain, body, and spiritual approaches to healing. It features exclusive interviews with 30 of the world's leading clinical psychologists, professors, and psychotherapists giving you insights into their best practices and the frameworks they use with clients. You'll be learning directly from the likes of Stephen Porges, Dan Siegel, Janina Fisher, Paul Gilbert, Pat Ogden, Steven Hayes, Lisa Feldman Barrett, Richard Schwartz, Mick Cooper, and 29 others. The best bit is - it's completely FREE to attend live, and you can register today by going to: bit.ly/pod-summit Hope to see you there!

(Recorded November 2021) This week, Alexis gets non-technical with Logan Ury, author of How to Not Die Alone and Director of Relationship Science at Hinge. They talk about the teachings of RuPaul, whether skeletons are real, leggings privilege, one minute of Jingle Bell Rock, and which picture she accidentally sent to her favorite childhood author.You can find Logan on Twitter at twitter.com/loganury and Alexis at twitter.com/yayalexisgay or instagram.com/yayalexisgay and twitter.com/NonTechnicalPod. You can also sign up for Alexis's email list at https://bit.ly/hellofromalexis to stay tuned for upcoming stand up shows and other exciting announcements.

Hunt Ethridge, award-winning international dating and relationship expert, breaks down cool new science in the relationship and dating space so you can hack the dating game once and for all.The Dating Dish headline is: Over one in 10 men are likely to cancel date plans due to feeling self-conscious. And the Dear Damona question is: My matches say they want commitment but then pull away after the 3rd or 4th date. What should I do? Be sure to follow Hunt on Instagram @QuestforAdvice and check out HuntforAdvice.com for more information. Looking for support in finding your forever person in 2023? Early Bird Enrollment is now open for the next round of the Dating Accelerator Program! Get $300 off now through Dec 31 with the code EARLYBIRD Find out the secret at TheDatingSecret.com Sponsor: OMGYes.com is a website with findings from the largest ever research study into women's pleasure. Visit OMGYes.com/DATESANDMATES for a special discount! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Logan Ury is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach, and the author of the book "How To Not Die Alone." As the Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, she leads a research team dedicated to helping people find love. After studying psychology at Harvard, Logan ran Google's behavioral science team—the Irrational Lab. Her work has appeared in "The New York Times," "The Atlantic," "TIME," "The Washington Post," "GQ," "Glamour," "Vice," and on HBO and the BBC. If you're looking for love, or just interested in relationships, you'll be riveted and inspired to take action. Do you know how to fill out your dating profile? Do you know your profile photo can change an empty inbox into a full one? Are you wondering whether to continue or end a relationship and how to do it? Logan is the expert, you'll love listening to her!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Thinking of setting your dating profile picture to one of you with dead fish? Well, we have some advice for you: don't! On this episode of BFBA, Logan Ury, dating expert and Director of Relationship Science at Hinge, joins the show to answer listener questions all about navigating the oh-so-confusing world of modern dating. From ditching your “type,” to avoiding being ghosted, to online stalking before a first date (at least ask your mom to use an incognito window), Logan has all the answers. Plus, Stevie breaks down the latest internet celesbian drama (um, have you seen the music video?), and the trio plays a round of Pet Peeve vs. Dealbreaker. Where To Find Logan Ury:  Social Handle: @loganury  Website: loganury.com  Learn more about her dating bootcamp: https://www.loganury.com/coaching Take her Three Dating Tendencies Quiz: https://www.loganury.com/quiz  Pre-order We're Still Good, our new party game that laughs in the face of disaster here!: https://a.co/d/301Bd6C  Shop sike.la, drop in “BFBAMADEYOULOOK” at checkout, and enjoy 10% off your whole purchase! Get your tickets now for Good Mythical Evening 2022, live this year exclusively on Moment House! Click here to find out more: https://mythic.al/BFBAGME To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, Maria talks with Logan Ury! The two talk about everything from her recent wedding, how time is different in online dating apps, the science behind online dating and even circumcision. (Seriously!) Plus the two talk about how to really have deep, compelling conversations early on in dating.Logan Ury is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach and the author of the bestselling dating book How to Not Die Alone. She works as Hinge's Director of Relationship Science, conducting research into modern dating. She studied psychology at Harvard and ran Google's behavioral science team, the Irrational Lab. She lives in the Bay Area with her husband Scott. Sign up for Logan's weekly newsletter and learn about her online courses at https://www.loganury.com/ Pick up Logan's book, How to Not Die Alone, here.Follow Logan on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/loganury/ Want to join the community? Sign up for an Agape Intensive at http://agapeintensive.comJoin Maria and the crew in Mexico! Register at http://agapeescapes.com Follow Maria on Instagram to know when the Ask a Matchmaker Hotline will open again for calls! http://instagram.com/matchmakermaria To learn more about how Maria and her team can help you, visit http://agapematch.com

We talk a lot about prioritizing not only romantic and sexual relationships, but also friendships. Today's episode is digging into some of the research and techniques about fostering healthy friendships. In turn, these ideas can help you improve romantic relationships as well by building a better foundation of communication with your partner(s). If this show is helpful to you, consider joining our amazing community of like-minded listeners at patreon.com/Multiamory. You can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, bonus episodes, and more! To learn more about microdosing THC and get 30% off and free shipping with your first order go to microdose.com and use code MULTI Multiamory was created by Dedeker Winston, Jase Lindgren, and Emily Matlack. Our theme music is Forms I Know I Did by Josh and Anand. Please send us your feedback and questions to info@multiamory.com, find us on Instagram @Multiamory_Podcast, tweet at us @Multiamory, check out our Facebook Page, visit our website Multiamory.com. We are a proud member of the Pleasure Podcasts network.

In Pivot's first (and possibly last) dating-themed show, Kara and Scott discuss expert predictions on the future of dating apps, and listener questions about romance, finance, and personal marketing. You can find Logan Ury, Director of Relationship Science at Hinge, on Twitter at @loganury and Julia Naftulin, Health Reporter at Insider, at @jnaftulin. **Today's show contains mature adult themes and is not intended for younger audience members. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Bestselling author and Director of Relationship Science for dating app, Hinge, Logan Ury joins the show to explore talking about mental health and therapy on a first date. Logan also discusses vulnerability, pandemic dating trends, and her book How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love. Listen now to find out why opening up about your mental health might just be what gets you a second date! Staying emotionally fit takes work and repetition. That's why the Emotionally Fit podcast with psychologist Dr. Emily Anhalt delivers short, actionable Emotional Push-Ups every Monday and Thursday to help you build a better practice of mental health, and surprising, funny, and shocking conversations on Taboo Tuesdays - because the things we're most hesitant to talk about are also the most normal. Join us to kickstart your emotional fitness. Let's flex those feels and do some reps together! EPISODE RESOURCES: Follow Logan Ury on https://twitter.com/loganury?lang=en (Twitter) and https://www.instagram.com/loganury/?hl=en (Instagram) Read Logan's book: https://www.loganury.com/book (How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love) Learn more about Logan's https://www.loganury.com/date-smarter (Date Smarter) workshop Thank you for listening! Follow Dr. Emily on https://twitter.com/dremilyanhalt (Twitter), and don't forget to follow, rate, review and share the show wherever you listen to podcasts! #EmotionallyFit  The Emotionally Fit podcast is produced by https://www.joincoa.com/ (Coa), your gym for mental health. Katie Sunku Wood is the show's producer from https://www.studiopodsf.com/ (StudioPod Media) with additional editing and sound design by https://nodalab.com/ (nodalab), and featuring music by https://open.spotify.com/artist/4opkPECBBcY1LIDa3quwpy?si=l53ce-ONSG2l0yvfJaOVBA (Milano). Special thanks to the entire Coa crew! JUMP STRAIGHT INTO: (2:11) - How Logan's work shows up in her personal life - “My husband and I have this sweet/cheesy thing that we do where sometimes I'll lean over to him in bed at night and put my hand out and be like ‘Are we connected?' and what that means is like ‘Are we on the same page right now?'” (07:31) - On pandemic dating trends - “What we actually found in our research was people were like ‘I'm afraid of a dance floor makeout. I want a relationship and somebody to hold me while I cry about all the stuff that I lost, or literally people that I lost.'” (13:36) - Logan's advice on how and when people should disclose details about their mental health journey in romantic relationships - “It's really about saying ‘This is something in my life that will impact you potentially, but I am not asking you to take care of me. I am asking for you to be curious, ask questions and really explore this with me as you get to know me.'” (16:52) - Self perception theory and the realities about ghosting - “Nobody wants to be ghosted, but then when you say, ‘Have you ghosted someone?' most people say, ‘Yes.'” (20:29) - Logan's final advice to improve your dating life - “So often the thing that we think makes us ineligible for dating is actually the thing that makes us approachable, relatable, lovable, special.”

Logan Ury, Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge and bestselling author of https://www.amazon.com/How-Not-Die-Alone-Surprising/dp/1982120622 (How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love), joins Dr. Emily for an emotional push-up on asking directly for what you want and need. We can't read each other's minds and we don't all want the same things, so the best way to receive the attention, affection, and recognition that you want in your relationships is to speak up and let others know exactly what you need. Thank you for listening! Staying emotionally fit takes work and repetition. That's why the Emotionally Fit podcast with psychologist Dr. Emily Anhalt delivers short, actionable Emotional Push-Ups every Monday and Thursday to help you build a better practice of mental health. Join us to kickstart your emotional fitness. Let's flex those feels and do some reps together! Follow Dr. Emily on https://twitter.com/dremilyanhalt (Twitter), and don't forget to follow, rate, review and share the show wherever you listen to podcasts! #EmotionallyFit  The Emotionally Fit podcast is produced by https://www.joincoa.com/ (Coa), your gym for mental health. Katie Sunku Wood is the show's producer from https://www.studiopodsf.com/ (StudioPod Media) with additional editing and sound design by https://nodalab.com/ (Nodalab), and featuring music by https://open.spotify.com/artist/4opkPECBBcY1LIDa3quwpy?si=l53ce-ONSG2l0yvfJaOVBA (Milano). Special thanks to the entire Coa crew!

We've spent a lot of time on the podcast exploring how we can improve our skills in romantic relationships, but for many people one of the most difficult parts of a relationship is getting into one in the first place. On this episode, Forrest talks with Logan Ury, Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, about the psychology of dating. They explore chemistry, romance, apps, and how to reframe our self-limiting tendencies so we can find love that is fulfilling and brings out the best in us.About our Guest: Logan Ury is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach, and the author of  How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love. She is the Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, and former head of Google's behavioral science team the Irrational Lab.Watch the Episode: Prefer watching video? You can watch this episode on YouTube.Key Topics:0:00: Introduction  1:40: Why is modern dating so hard?4:15: Romanticism6:20: Being in a relationship for self-actualization8:25: Romanticizers, Maximizers, and Hesitators11:15: Reframes for the Romanticizer14:20: What kind of shared qualities actually matter?19:25: Reframes for the Maximizer26:35: The tendency to externalize problems and avoid vulnerability32:25: Reframes for the Hesitator36:50: Information vs. emotion - appreciation for romance41:05: Bids, and turning towards43:05: What other things do people tend to underestimate in relationships?47:20: The aspect of you that is brought out by your partner48:45: How to use apps in more effective ways51:00: RecapSupport the Podcast: We're now on Patreon! If you'd like to support the podcast, follow this link.Have a question for us? Email: contact@beingwellpodcast.com to submit questions or potential topics you'd like us to explore in future episodes.Sponsors:Visit Pendulumlife.com and use code BEINGWELL for 20% off your first month of membership.Join over a million people using BetterHelp, the world's largest online counseling platform. Visit betterhelp.com/beingwell for 10% off your first month!Want to sleep better? Try the Calm app! Visit calm.com/beingwell for 40% off a premium subscription.Connect with the show:Subscribe on iTunesFollow Forrest on YouTubeFollow us on InstagramFollow Forrest on InstagramFollow Rick on FacebookFollow Forrest on FacebookVisit Forrest's website

Logan Ury is the Director of Relationship Science at Hinge, a Harvard-trained behavioural scientist and an author. Modern dating is difficult. Thankfully Logan has access to all the data from Hinge and can conduct as many studies as she wants on trends and preferences from thousands of people in and out of relationships. Expect to learn why an intentional approach to dating seems like a turn-off but is a very smart strategy, why you should start looking to settle down after dating 30% of your partners, what the data tells us are the most important rules for constructing a successful dating profile, why chasing The Spark is a recipe for disaster, how to break up with someone, how to get over heartbreak and much more... Sponsors: Join the Modern Wisdom Community to connect with me & other listeners - https://modernwisdom.locals.com/ Get 20% discount on everything from Lucy at https://uk.lucy.co/ (UK) or https://lucy.co/ (US) (use code: MW20) Get 20% discount & free shipping on your Lawnmower 4.0 at https://www.manscaped.com/ (use code MODERNWISDOM) Get 5 Free Travel Packs, Free Liquid Vitamin D and Free Shipping from Athletic Greens at https://athleticgreens.com/modernwisdom (discount automatically applied) Extra Stuff: Buy How Not To Die Alone - https://amzn.to/3v0KY1J  Check out Logan's website - https://www.loganury.com/  Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/ To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom - Get in touch. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcast Email: https://chriswillx.com/contact/