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How can you keep the curiosity alive in a relationship? In this episode, we revisit a community favorite where Dr. Kate and Dr. Alexandra Solomon talk about the nuances of relationships. They explore some of the questions that Dr. Solomon created in her quiz that reveals roles we take on within relationships. The two work to unpack how our past shapes our present and our early experiences effect our relationships now. Together, they discuss: • How to approach relationship and sexual challenges as a team with your partner. • How conflict can be turned into opportunities for intimacy and growth. • How to love someone while not losing yourself. & so much more! Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is a professor, therapist, speaker, author, retreat leader, and media personality. She is the author of two bestselling books, Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want and Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want. Be sure to check out her latest book, Love Every Day: 365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow, and Thrive. Original air date: October 10, 2023 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Alexandra Solomon's new book LOVE EVERY DAY 365 Relational Self Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow and Thrive is released today, October 10th. Over the last two decades, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon has become one of today's most trusted voices in the world of relationships. A professor, therapist, speaker, author, retreat leader, and media personality, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. She is the author of two bestselling books, Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want and Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want. She also writes a popular blog for Psychology Today. Dr. Solomon maintains a psychotherapy practice for individual adults and couples. She is a founding expert on the Mine'd app, and she serves on the clinical board of Dame Products. She has contributed to outlets like The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American. In this episode Kate and Alexandra talk about the nuances of relationships. They refer to the quiz Alexandra created that reveals roles we take on in the Family of Origin Roles quiz and how our past shapes our present and our early experiences effect our relationships now. They also talk about the premises in her new book: *Love is a Daily Practice. *How to approach relationship and sexual challenges as a team with your partner. *How conflict can be turned into opportunities for intimacy and growth. *How do you love someone and not lose yourself. They also talk about some of the 365 specific practices to keep love going suggested in the book. It is a revealing and spirited talk about you, relationships, and keeping the curiosity alive. Website: www.modernintimacy.com Email your questions to: question@getnakedpodcast.com Stay Connected with Dr. Kate: IG: https://www.instagram.com/themodernintimacy/ https://www.instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/drkatebalestrieri/ https://www.tiktok.com/modernintimacy/ SPONSORS: Mayer Labs- Swirl Lubricants: Go to www.Amazon.com and visit the Kimono Swirl store. Use promo code 20SwirlNaked for 20% off through the month of November. Dipsea: For listeners of the show, Dipsea is offering a 30 day full access free trial when vou go to: www.Dipseastories.com/Getnaked Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Alexandra Solomon is the author of TAKING SEXY BACK: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (New Harbinger, 2020) and Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017). She is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University and a regular contributor at Psychology Today.   Today we're chatting about:  How to Talk to Your Children About Sex. Sex and Intimacy are two different things. Talking about Sex More Openly. Struggling with having a different sex drive from your partner.   Connect with Dr. Cohen:  Website: https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/ Her Book: https://www.newharbinger.com/author/alexandra-h-solomon Her Ted Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mrfMyci15ME     Here's the link to get started: DOING DATING RIGHT VIDEO COURSE!     Join the Facebook Group and leave a question for a future episode: https://www.facebook.com/groups/doingdivorcerightpodcast Where to find me: Website: https://jenniferhurvitz.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jenniferhurvitzbiz/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doingrelationshipsright/   You can connect with my editor, Next Level Podcast Solutions at https://nextleveluniverse.com/   Get a copy of Jen's book, “Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married” here.

Today's episode is a loving conversation on co-parenting and how couple's can enter this new space with love, and understanding of each other and the process. I'm joined by the impeccable Dr. Alexandra Solomon, who is a clinical psychologist that specialises in relationships. We start our conversation with a peek into relationships in general, and how our childhood and upbringing affects the way we love, and then we enter into such a powerful conversation on co-parenting, how we can still create unity as a family living in two different homes, how we can shift this awful narrative that ending relationships is a failure, and how to prepare the new family for external love to come in. This was a particularly special conversation for me, because I've recently entered a loving co-parenting relationship and to help myself and my ex navigate through it in the best way we can, I was outsourcing for any insight possible and the field was slim. I saw it as a beautiful opportunity to not only share with you all, something going on in my life, but also create a resource for anyone going through co-parenting, divorce, or perhaps approaching it in in some way. More about Dr. Solomon? She is a clinical assistant professor at Northwestern University where she teaches the internationally renowned course, Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101, and she's a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. She is the author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (New Harbinger, 2020) and Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017). She also writes a column for Psychology Today and is frequently asked to talk about love, sex, and marriage with media outlets including The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American. She's got an online course that you can have access to right now called Intimate Relationships 101, as well as other incredible resources that you can find on her webpage DrAlexandraSolomon.com and her IG account @dr.alexandra.solomon. Also check out her free quiz on relationship self awareness: Quizzzzz Dr. Solomon, we love you, grateful you, and thank you for your insight, wisdom, and energy. Love always, Brit xoxo

Love can be life-changing or it can be lackluster - it’s up to you to decide. Here to help you have the love you really want is Dr. Alexandra Solomon. Dr. Solomon is a relationship therapist, teacher, author, and sought-after speaker who is passionate about translating research and clinical wisdom into practical tools that people can use to level up their relationships. In this episode, she brings so many tools to the table that are great for singles or couples to have in their back pocket. Stay tuned as we discuss what relational self-awareness is and how to increase yours, how to have a deeper emotional connection with a male partner, and the art of pausing during conflict. Dr. Solomon also shares the keys to reigniting your sexual expression, four relationship killers, and when it’s time to walk away.  Enjoy! Episode Highlights:  3:26 Dr. Solomon’s work at Northwestern and in her practice  5:43 What relational self-awareness is 8:42 Discovering your own relational self-awareness rating 12:27 Dr. Solomon’s two books for your reading list 15:00 How to increase your relational self-awareness  17:19 Why learning to pause and taking a sacred timeout can work wonders during conflict 20:07 The four horseman of a relationship apocalypse  23:58 Why men are conditioned to have trouble communicating 27:24 How a female can support her male partner in emotional connection 29:40 Tips for a man to explore being more emotionally expressed 35:14 Why sex is an important part of a lasting partnership 40:44 How to reignite your sexual expression 47:40 When it’s time to leave a relationship 52:53 What integration means and how to know if you’re ready for a new relationship Links and Resources:  Dr. Alexandra Solomon Loving Bravely Taking Sexy Back The Mankind Project Becoming Cliterate Podcast 017: How to Turn Relationship Conflict Into Connection with Annie Lalla Podcast 004: How to Have an Awesome Marriage with Adee and Michael Cazayoux Podcast 035: Have More Orgasms, Debunk Society’s Sex Myths, and Become Cliterate with Dr. Laurie Mintz Guest Bio: Over the last two decades, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon has become one of today’s most trusted voices in the world of relationships. A professor, therapist, speaker, author, retreat leader, and media personality, Dr. Solomon is passionate about translating cutting-edge research and clinical wisdom into practical tools people can use to bring awareness, curiosity, and authenticity to their relationships. Her work on relational self-awareness has reached millions of people around the world.  Dr. Solomon is a faculty member in the School of Education and Social Policy (SESP) at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. In addition to writing articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family, she is the author of two bestselling books, Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want and Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want. Did you enjoy this episode? Please drop a comment below or leave a review on iTunes to let me know! I love hearing what you think and it helps others who want to Do It Different find the podcast as well.

We're back, and today we are not shying away from the REAL TALK. We have the ever-wise Dr. Alexandra Solomon,  a licensed clinical psychologist and the author of Taking Sexy Back and Loving Bravely.Three things to listen for monogamy, marriage 101 class,  and visa bills leading to sexy time.Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a clinical assistant professor at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. She is the author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (New Harbinger, 2020) and Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017).  She also writes a column for Psychology Today and is frequently asked to talk about love, sex, and marriage with media outlets including The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American. You can connect with her at DrAlexandraSolomon.com.Marriage 101 Course: https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101/?coupon=PRESALE------------Welcome to the Love or Work Podcast, hosted by Andre Shinabarger (Physician Assistant, Grady Hospital) and Jeff Shinabarger (Social Entrepreneur and Founder of Plywood People). They are asking the question: Is it possible to change the world, stay in love, and raise a healthy family? 100 interviews where Jeff and Andre learn from other working families in the journey of marriage, purpose, and parenting.Order the Love or Work Book!Website: www.loveorwork.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/loveorworkLove or Work is a project of Plywood People.Plywood is a non-profit in Atlanta leading a community of start-ups doing good. www.plywoodpeople.com 

Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. She has written many books on marriage and family. Her most popular books are "Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want" and "Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want." Dr. Alexandra also does speaking events for groups like United States Military Academy at West Point, Microsoft, and The American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy. In these groups, she is frequently asked to talk about Love, sex, and marriage. She has also been on media outlets such as, The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American. Today, we have Dr. Alexandra on our show to discuss various areas of a relationship, such as the topics listed below. Key Topics Discussed Why we apologize and why it's difficult to admit we're weak. The definition of what Relational Self- Awareness is and how we can be aware of it. "The idea of relational self-awareness, which is the idea that in order to create a healthy, intimate relationship, the tools and the strategies are important, that's for sure, but it starts with my relationship with me and my willingness to be on an ongoing journey that is guided by compassionate curiosity about looking at what my intimate partnership stirs up awakens. And reflect back to me about myself. " What does it mean to have Interdependent Relationships? What is the golden equation of Love? "The golden question of Love is 'My stuff, plus your stuff, equals our stuff in order to understand any pain point in the relationship, whether it's something big, like an infidelity or something, little like a fight about the toilet paper roll. We have to be willing to look at how my stuff, plus your stuff equals our stuff because otherwise what we end up doing is getting stuck the way we know we're not. Using the golden equation of Love is when we get stuck in either blame or shame." How to identify what seven traps and seven reaches look like and how to build more reaches for a healthy relationship. What does it mean to listen with our third ear and how does that help with building relationships? "Listening with the third ear is really about holding space, like becoming the bowl, the container for our partner's words and our partner's experiences. It's really trying to understand it from their perspective, leaving out and try as best we can to leave out the filters that we bring in and to leave out the desire to formulate what we're going to say next while our partner is saying what they're saying" Explaining more of how the process goes for "name, connect, and choose" within rational self-awareness or sexual self-awareness. How do we call a truce to end the war with our bodies and how we feel about them during intimacy. "The way we end the war is with some pushback and no more. Like, no more. And no more doesn't mean, 'I'm not ever going to have the thought again', but no more means, 'I'm going to commit that when those thoughts start to come up, I'm going to meet those thoughts with compassion, resistance, redirection, and entitlement, entitlements, or pleasure, entitlement to comfort, entitlement, to joy'." The nine areas in the map of sexual or sexual self-awareness. Alexandra's Three truths about Love that she lives by It's okay to not know. Things are hard because they're hard, not because we're broken or dumb or silly There are things we can't see or figure out all right now. Dr. Alexandra's best relationship advice. "In terms of a guiding principle to me is that the two of you aren't always going to like each other at the exact same amount at all times. There can be fear in both spots. If I'm aware that I'm more into you than you are into me, that can create tremendous vulnerability in name. And it can be really frightening and anxiety-provoking. If I'm aware, then a bit less into you right now than you are into me, that can create similar feelings of resentment and questioning, but that's normal." What does Love Intently mean to Dr. Alexandra? "Just knowing that it's work and it's absolutely the best work. The research though, is the thing that matters most in the quality of our lives is the quality of our relationships, specifically our intimate relationships. And so, when we love intently, by learning and by practicing, it's the most important work we can do."

What is the most important quality we should be looking for in a partner? Do immediate sparks predict relationship success? What can we learn about someone based on why their previous relationships broke down? How can we practice conscious dating? We explore these questions and more with Dr. Alexandra Solomon who is a clinical assistant professor at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. She is the author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (New Harbinger, 2020) and Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017). She also writes a column for Psychology Today and is frequently asked to talk about love, sex, and marriage with media outlets including The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American. Connect with Alexandra at DrAlexandraSolomon.com and on Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/?hl=en) and Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/dralexandrasolomon). Grab a copy of Alexandra’s books here (http://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/book/) and check out the Mine’d app (https://apps.apple.com/us/app/mine-d-self-help-motivation/id1493129501).Reach out to Amantha and Monique at hi@howtodate.fmFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/howtodatepodcast/Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/howtodatepodcast See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist, professor at Northwestern University, and bestselling author of Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want, and Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want. She has been featured in the Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American.In this episode we cover:-The cycles of love: connection, disconnection and repair-Why love is a classroom + what we can learn when we're paying attention-What re-seeing, re-finding and resetting is and how it impacts us-The emotional risk of dating and how we can navigate it-How COVID may have influenced our relationships-Why asking and speaking up is so critical for relationship health& lots more***@dr.alexandra.solomonwww. dralexandrasolomon.com***Did you enjoy this episode? Hit SUBSCRIBE + SHARE THE LOVE by leaving a short review.

Are you ready to take your sexy back? As we enter another week of sex and intimacy month on the podcast, I am bringing you one of my favorite people to talk to about sex and relationships, Dr. Alexandra Solomon. Dr. Solomon is the author of the books Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want and Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want. She is also a clinical assistant professor at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University.  In this episode, we talk about the various ways women can reclaim their sexuality after divorce. We discuss the importance of attaching sexuality to oneself as opposed to someone else, shifting the way we teach and talk about sex, and how being vulnerable can aid in sexual healing. Divorce can leave you feeling broken and unsexy, but you really can own your sexuality and create the life you desire -- even in midlife! Show Highlights What prompted Dr. Alexandra to write “Taking Sexy Back,” and how it stresses the importance of reclaiming your sexuality. (3:00) Attaching sexuality to ourselves rather than to someone else. (5:59) Changing and shifting the way we teach sex education. (8:00) How the patriarchy has impacted women's sexual ownership and sexual power. (13:46) The spectrum of sexual coercion and manipulation. (20:00) Risk, trust, self-compassion, and consent. (29:05) How couples can navigate desire discrepancy. (36:02) How to talk about sex safely with your partner, when it doesn't feel that safe. (45:00) Learn More About Dr. Alexandra SolomonDr. Alexandra Solomon is a clinical assistant professor at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. She is the author of Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017) and Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (New Harbinger, 2020). She writes articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family and is a regular contributor at Psychology Today. You can connect with Dr. Solomon at DrAlexandraSolomon.com. Resources & Links: DrAlexandraSolomon.comLoving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships Dr. Alexandra Solomon on InstagramDr. Alexandra Solomon on FacebookDr. Alexandra Solomon on TwitterDr. Alexandra Solomon on LinkedIn The Ultimate Divorce Survival GuideShould I Stay or Should I Go Facebook Group

Dr. Alexandra Solomon is the author of TAKING SEXY BACK: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (New Harbinger, 2020) and Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017). She is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University and a regular contributor at Psychology Today.   Today we’re chatting about:  How to Talk to Your Children About Sex. Sex and Intimacy are two different things. Talking about Sex More Openly. Struggling with having a different sex drive from your partner.   Connect with Dr. Cohen:  Website: https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/ Her Book: https://www.newharbinger.com/author/alexandra-h-solomon Her Ted Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mrfMyci15ME     Get a copy of Jen’s book, “Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: A Divorce Coach’s Guide to Staying Married” here.   

Making love is a pretty straightforward act, but man do we love to make it complicated. How society views sex has always been messy and made wose -- hold your gasp of surprise here -- for women.  It’s about time we ditch this double standard, right? Join me as I chat with relationship expert and Relationship School Ambassador Dr. Alexandra Solomon about sexuality, relational self awareness and all the complexities of sex (and boy there are a lot of them). We discuss how the resurgence of the #MeToo movement in 2017 was the final push she needed to write her new book Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want. Dr. Solomon, also the author of Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want, wanted to add her voice and contribute to this new chapter in conversations around gender, power and sex. Come listen as we talk more about the inspiration behind her writing and what women can do to discover their own unique erotic expression.    Shownotes: 3:10 Introduction Dr. Alexandra Solomon 10:40 About relational self-awareness 14:00 Lessons learned while writing her book 17:30 Guidance for young people about their sexuality 21:05 Women getting in touch with their own sexuality 23:15 At what point should parents have conversations about sexuality with their daughters 28:00 Differences on how society perceives female masturbation 31:50 What can men do to help women explore their sexuality 35:20 How men’s sexual performance is used to define manliness 37:40 Your feelings are data and you can learn from them 39:20 Advice for married couples on how to keep their sex life alive 43:15 The spiritual side of sex 47:20 Action Step Useful Links: Book: Taking Sexy back Dr Alexandra Solomon on Instagram Dr Alexandra Solomon on Facebook Dr Alexandra Solomon's website http://relationshipschool.com/connected

oday we have two special guests in studio. Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. In addition to writing articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family, she is the author of the book Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017). Her second book, about sexual self-awareness, Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want, will be published in February 2020. MD Dr. Pari Ghodsi, MD is an obstetrics & gynecology specialist in Northridge, CA. She is a board certified and active Fellow of the American College of Obstetrics and Gynecology.Dr. Pari loves to write and speak about women’s health and issues in a relatable way. She brings a unique touch when educating, often sharing her own experiences as a woman.   We talk through a variety of mens and womens sexual health issues and try to find a common ground for the battle of the sexes.         

Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. In addition to writing articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family, she is the author of the book Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017). Her second book, about sexual self-awareness, Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want, will be published in February 2020. Dr. Solomon maintains a psychotherapy practice for individual adults and couples, teaches and trains marriage and family therapy graduate students, and teaches the internationally renowned undergraduate course, “Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101.” Dr. Solomon is a highly sought-after speaker who works with groups like United States Military Academy at West Point, Microsoft, and The American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, and she is frequently asked to talk about love, sex, and marriage with media outlets like The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American.

Alexandra Solomon, PhD (@dr.alexandra.solomon) is associate professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. You can learn more about her new CE Course for clinicians called "Loving Bravely: Helping Clients who are Single, Dating, & Single Again" at PsychotherapyNetworker.org/LovingBravely She is the author of the book Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017). Her second book, about sexual self-awareness, Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want. Dr. Solomon maintains a psychotherapy practice for individual adults and couples, teaches and trains marriage and family therapy graduate students, and teaches the internationally renowned undergraduate course, “Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101.” Dr. Solomon is a highly sought-after speaker who works with groups like United States Military Academy at West Point, Microsoft, and The American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, and she is frequently asked to talk about love, sex, and marriage with media outlets like The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, Psychotherapy Networker, and Scientific American. Please enjoy our first try at a podcast with Alexandra Solomon, PhD Follow us on Instagram: @psychnetworker

Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is the author of the books TAKING SEXY BACK: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want and Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want. She is  a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, a lecturer in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. Dr. Solomon maintains a psychotherapy practice for individual adults and couples, teaches and trains marriage and family therapy graduate students, and teaches the internationally renowned undergraduate course, “Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101.” Dr. Solomon is a highly sought-after speaker who works with groups including the United States Military Academy at West Point, Microsoft, and The American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, and she is frequently asked to talk about love, sex, and marriage with such media outlets as The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American.   Taking Sexy Back - http://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/book/   Connect with Alexandra Website: www.dralexandrasolomon.com Instagram: @dr.alexandra.solomon Facebook: www.facebook.com/dralexandrasolomon Twitter: @ahsolomon Are you looking to find your purpose, navigate transition or fix your relationships, all with a powerful group of men from around the world? Check out The Alliance and join me today.  Check out our Facebook Page or the Men's community. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts  | Spotify For more episodes visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter    Did you enjoy the podcast? If so please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Stitcher. It helps our podcast get into the ears of new listeners, which expands the ManTalks Community Editing & Mixing by: Aaron The Tech

Women are expected to be sexy, but not sexual. We’re bombarded with conflicting, shame-inducing, and disempowering messages about sex, instead of being encouraged to connect with our true sexual selves. Sexy gets reduced to a performance, leaving us with little to no space to reckon with the complexities of sexuality. In a culture intent on telling you who and how to be, standing in your truth is revolutionary. (from the Amazon book description for Taking Sexy Back) Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist. She is the author of the book Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017). Her second book, about sexual self-awareness, Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want, was published in February 2020. Dr. Solomon maintains a psychotherapy practice for individual adults and couples, teaches and trains marriage and family therapy graduate students, and teaches the internationally renowned undergraduate course, “Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101.” Find out more at dralexandrasolomon.com The Couples Therapist Couch is the podcast for Couples Therapists about the practice of couples therapy. The host, Shane Birkel, interviews an expert in the field of couples therapy each week. Please subscribe to the podcast for more great episodes. Click here for more information on the Couples Therapist Inner Circle. Get your free course called Working with Couples 101 Click here to join the Couples Therapist Couch Facebook Group Today's Sponsor I've partnered with the Psychotherapy Networker to give you this free resource from Esther Perel. She's put together her 125 best "sexuality conversation starters." Get it today at psychotherapynetworker.org/shane

Alright ladies - this one is for you! I could have talked to Alexandra Solomon for hours - no wait, make that days!! We cover so much juiciness in this episode about all things relationships, sex, and even how to talk to your kids about sex. I absolutely love when I come across brilliant people, putting forth amazing work, in a relatable and attainable way, and Alexandra is the real deal! Highlighting her new book, Taking Sexy Back, we focus a lot of how women can embrace themselves and their sexuality in a healthy, positive, and fun way. And teaser...you’ll want to listen all the way through to the end...there’s talk about the clitoris that I promise you, you won’t want to miss!   Alexandra’s bio: Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon is the author of Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want (New Harbinger; February 2, 2020)  and Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017), as well as the author of articles and chapters for leading academic journals and books in the field of marriage and family. She is  a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, a lecturer in the School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University and a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. Dr. Solomon maintains a psychotherapy practice for individual adults and couples, teaches and trains marriage and family therapy graduate students, and teaches the internationally renowned undergraduate course, “Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101.” Dr. Solomon is a highly sought-after speaker who works with groups including the United States Military Academy at West Point, Microsoft, and The American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy, and she is frequently asked to talk about love, sex, and marriage with such media outlets as The Today Show, O Magazine, The Atlantic, Vogue, and Scientific American.       IG: @dr.alexandra.solomon FB: Dr. Alexandra Solomon

horizontal is Slow Radio about intimacies of all kinds. It is entirely recorded while reclining. I think of it as consensual eavesdropping— we’re lying down, wearing robes, sharing secrets, in your ears. In this episode, I lie down with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: clinical psychologist, author of books, Northwestern University Professor, and creator of the internationally-renowned undergrad course “Marriage 101,” which I wish was taught to every incoming freshman in college (and ideally, every outgoing senior in high school) and really, to every adult everywhere who didn’t take that class— across the world. I read about the course a few years back, long before I met Alexandra in person, in an article in The Atlantic, titled “The First Lesson of Marriage 101: There Are No Soul Mates.” In Marriage 101, she guides students, through both book-learning and experiential means, towards relational self-awareness, guiding them through an understanding of attraction, conflict, sex, and forgiveness. Who doesn’t need this class?! We all need this class! I need this class! Alexandra’s entire body of work, it seems, is devoted to guiding us to make heathy, conscious choices in love. Her 2017 book Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want, is an ongoing dose of compassion, and I imagine that her forthcoming book, Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationship You Want will be a guide to undoing the shame that most of us were indoctrinated with by religion and our sex-negative society. You can do a deep dive into her work on dralexandrasolomon.com Each horizontal conversation is between two and five hours long, and divided into two parts (except for the 5 hour-long one, which was divided into 4). Part one, like this episode, is available in all the podcast places, and part two is available exclusively to patrons of the horizontal arts. Patreon is like the love child of crowdfunding and a subscription service. A great big Happy Dance welcome to my newest patrons — Jacob, Hannah, & Michael. Elisa, Amanda, Becca, & Dominique. Helena, Matt, Farah, Bob, Eric, & Joe. And an extra excited Happy Dance to Rex, for doubling their pledge this month! Here’s the deal with the Happy Dance: I come from anxious and depressive stock. I’m also a recovering perfectionist. No accomplishment was ever big enough. I would look at celebrities and compare and despair. Nothing I achieved felt like success. I felt good about it for perhaps half a second, and then re-commenced thinking about other people who had accomplished so much more. Now I’m in the process of rewiring my nervous system for celebration and joy. I decided approximately a year ago to celebrate every accomplishment, no matter how small, no matter how big, with comparable enthusiasm. Hence: the Happy Dance. Every time I get notified of a new patron, I stop what I’m doing, wherever I am (literally: on the subway, in the hot tub, at the podcast conference) and do an elaborate Happy Dance that lasts for a solid 15 seconds at least, long enough for me to bypass any bit of embarrassment and to viscerally feel the joy rush through my body. This is what one looks like. I made a pact with myself when I was in college. I determined that the compliments I think in my head don’t belong to me. And if they don’t belong to me, I need to return them to their rightful owners: the people I think them about. Having this philosophy has spread a lot of joy that would otherwise have never been actualized. So, in much the same way, I think that Happy Dance belongs to my patron. And I’m now making a Happy Dance video for each and every new patron! Become a Patron! So for access to The Full Horizontal, all the part twos going back to the beginning, including next week’s episode with Dr. Alexandra Solomon — as well as for your very own Happy Dance video — become a patron of the horizontal arts. In this, part one of my conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, I talk a lot. It’s just so lovely to have a capaciously compassionate, therapeutic ear. I’ve missed that. We talk about: weddingburn, a microdose & my little secret compersion, sexual boredom, & novelty drive choosing nonmonogamy out of fear the gendering of purpose how college-age Alexandra met her husband and had to recalibrate her ideas of masculinity the question: what lies at the intersection of your skills, your passion, and your pain? (this is what I encouraged Patrick to ask himself, in order to seek out his purpose) the attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, & disorganized neediness, turn-off, and uncertainty the difference between separation and shame her definition of loving bravely how Alexandra had decided she could only be the smart girl, not the pretty one how today in her adult life, she holds space for study and scholarship and love and sex all to coexist Now come lie down with us in Midtown Manhattan, New York, New York. *** This episode was mixed and mastered by Irving Gadhoury. You can find him for all your audio needs — including recording live music — at IGrecording.com. My lovely intro music was composed by Alan Markley, @plasticcannons on Instagram, and my lovely logo was illustrated by Shana Shay, whom you can hire on 99 designs. One of my key takeaways from the — phenomenal —  Podcast Movement conference in Orlando was the realization that I haven’t been asking you to subscribe! 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In the second episode of this series, Dr. Sheryl Ziegler continues the conversation on Loving Bravely with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, and author of Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want. Sheryl and Alexandra hone in on how to teach your little ones to love bravely too.

To kick off this series, Dr. Ziegler invites Dr. Alexandra Solomon, clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, and author of Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want, for an in-depth conversation on how loving bravely can open you up to better mental health.

Discover what Dr. Ali Solomon reveals to be the keys to respect and curiosity in long-term relationships - including marriage - in this deep dive with host Mike Domitrz. Dr. Ali Solomon is one of the leading minds in the world for teaching relationships and marriage.   * You are invited to join our community and conversations about each episode on FaceBook at https://www.facebook.com/MutuallyAmazingPodcast and join us on Twitter @CenterRespect or visit our website at http://www.MutuallyAmazingPodcast.com**   BIO of Alexandra: Alexandra is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University and a clinical assistant Professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University. She maintains a thriving psychotherapy practice with individuals and couples and has expertise in the areas of couple therapy, individual therapy, and group relations / group dynamics.   In addition to her clinical work, Alexandra teaches two courses. “Intimate Relations” is a graduate course in Northwestern University’s MSMFT program that teaches first year graduate students about love, intimacy, and commitment, while preparing them to work competently with couples in the treatment room. She also teaches an innovative and wildly popular undergraduate course at Northwestern University– "Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101"-- which combines traditional and experiential learning in order to teach students about key aspects of romantic relationships including attraction, conflict, sex, and forgiveness, with the ultimate goal of helping students expand their relational self-awareness so they can make healthy and conscious choices in love.   Alexandra publishes in peer-reviewed academic journals and serves as an ad hoc reviewer for leading journals like Journal of Marriage and Family Therapy (JMFT) and Family Process. She writes professional and lay pieces as well, and she presents nationally and internationally to corporate, military, professional, and general audiences including The United States Military Academy at West Point, Microsoft, and the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT). She is a blogger for Psychology Today and is frequently asked to consult with the media on topics related to love, sex, and marriage including O Magazine, Oprah Winfrey Network (#OWNshow), The Today Show, CBS Early Show, The Atlantic, NPR, Huffington Post, Scientific American, WGN, and Real Simple Magazine. Alexandra is the author of Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, February 2017) and the forthcoming book, Bringing Sexy Back: Your Guide to Owning Your Sexuality and Creating Healthy Relationships (New Harbinger, February, 2020).   She lives in Highland Park, Illinois with her husband, Todd, their two teenage children, Brian and Courtney.   LINKS: www.dralexandrasolomon.com IG: @dr.alexandra.solomon twitter: @AHSolomon FB: Dr. Alexandra Solomon   Books Recommended by Dr. Solomon: Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel Loving with the Brain in Mind by Mona Fishbane  

Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University and a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University. She's the author of the book Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want and maintains a psychotherapy practice for individual adults and couples, so can you guess what we chat about? Yup, l-o-v-e. If you are a human you will get so much out of this conversation. Warning: we go deep real quick! I'm attracting these BIG conversations about relationships, the masculine and feminine and love lately as it seems many of us are leaning in to love. Alexandra shares her own core wounds with such self compassion and vulnerability, it felt like having an intimate D & M with a friend. She brings up some hugely valuable points about the shame people can carry from moving through infidelity (and when they let that shame stop the relationship transforming in to the 2.0 version), how curiosity within our relationships creates self-awareness, and the side affects of infidelity on our sense of self. Alexandra also shares her personal experience (backed by research) about how to keep the spark alive in her own 20 year marriage which could literally change the way we approach long-term romance. We unpack relationships through these topics and so much more: How to know when to leave a relationship How to come back to yourself Why originally she resisted studying love because she was a feminist (and why that was an illusion) Why reclamation of our inner child/younger selves is the most powerful place to go to heal How active spiritual practices helped her move through the loss of her father The beauty of what can come from trauma Unpacking infidelity Dr Alexandra's favourite questions to ask clients in therapy The bravest question to ask within a relationship The silver lining of cheating The top 3 ways to get the love you want How to keep intimacy alive in long term committed relationships And so. much. more. You're gonna want to listen to this one, folks, as it could change the way you approach your intimate relationships forever.   Stand in the truth of your story I love that she describes the space between the stimulus and the response as the place where we can consciously choose how we are going to handle any situation - this is ultimately the power of mindfulness, which allows us to live with more vulnerability and open-heartedness. What a pleasure to converse about bringing science and soul together for successful relationships. Be sure to drop me a comment on Instagram about your biggest takeaway from this episode and what you're going to explore or apply to your own life for the sake of deepening your relationship to love.  

Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a clinical psychologist at The Family Institute and professor at Northwestern university where she teaches the famous undergraduate course “Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101.” She is the author of the book Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want. As the title suggests, Dr. Solomon explained to us in this illuminating interview how to expand your relational self-awareness so you can make healthy and conscious choices around love. She delves into the key aspects of romantic relationships including attraction, long term relational success, conflict, sex, and how to balance the choices between yourself and your partner. While this interview is particularly helpful for young adults, anyone can learn from her pearls of wisdom! --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/lovelink/support

If you’ve been out of the dating game for a while now, the landscape may seem like a brave new world. Dating apps offer endless possibilities—and overwhelm. Not to mention the fact that you are sorting through your own feelings after a divorce and working to reshape your very identity. It’s complicated to say the least. Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. She is regular blogger for Psychology Today and the author of Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want. Dr. Solomon is a renowned speaker and media consultant on topics related to love, sex and marriage, and she has appeared on the Oprah Winfrey Network, The Today Show and NPR, among many others. Dr. Solomon joins Katherine to discuss how dating has evolved in recent years with the emergence of apps geared to finding love. She explains why it’s important to work through the story of your marriage and focus on yourself before you return to the dating world. Dr. Solomon offers her best advice around dating after divorce, describing the value in processing these experiences on your own before you debrief with a friend. Listen in for Dr. Solomon’s take on sexual experiences that nurture connection as well as her view on casual sex for the newly single. Topics Covered The use of technology to find love Dr. Solomon’s guidance around dating apps No obligation to use Slow and steady Means to an end How to cut through the ‘chorus of opinions’ and check in with yourself How therapy can help you work through the story of your marriage The risks around ‘getting stuck in the heartbreak’ Dr. Solomon’s tips for dating after divorce Practice self-compassion Process experience on your own The natural tendency to look for a romantic partner and co-parent Why it’s dangerous to think in terms of absolutes Dr. Solomon’s insight on sexual experiences that nurture connection Dr. Solomon’s take on casual sex for the newly single Connect with Dr. Alexandra Solomon Dr. Solomon’s Website: www.dralexandrasolomon.com/ Resources Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want by Dr. Alexandra Solomon: www.dralexandrasolomon.com/book Smart Dating Academy: www.smartdatingacademy.com/ Connect with Katherine Miller The Center for Understanding Conflict: http://understandinginconflict.org/ Miller Law Group: https://westchesterfamilylaw.com/ Katherine on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/kemiller1

How mindful and aware are we of our relationships with others? What about in our relationship with ourselves? In this episode, globally recognized Dr. Alexandra Solomon joins host, Mike Domitrz, to discuss the brave, mindful process of digging and being with emotion and awareness without knowing the outcome, by way of the lessons included in her book, Loving Bravely. Mike and Dr. Solomon also explore the journey of discovery, the beauty and importance of self-appreciation, the stigma of therapy, and setting solid boundaries. Subscribe to the Everyday Mindfulness Show.   Key Takeaways: [2:15] Loving Bravely is a deep dive journey into dealing with the complexity of love. [4:24] Tools to help us access our compassion. [9:59] Loving Bravely opens up additional pathways to healing with the help of a therapist. [16:21] All the people we are connected to are our teachers. [27:26] How to get a copy of Loving Bravely.   Mentioned in This Episode: Loving Bravely, by Dr. Alexandra Solomon Family Institute Man’s Search for Meaning, by Viktor Frankl Emotion Focused Therapy   Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, and the author of Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017). In addition to being a couple therapist, Dr. Solomon trains graduate students, and teaches the internationally renowned undergraduate course, Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101. Dr. Solomon is a sought-after speaker and media commentator on the topic of love. DrAlexandraSolomon.com Facebook.com/dralexandrasolomon Twitter.com/ahsolomon   Contact Us: The Everyday Mindfulness Show listen@everydaymindfulnessshow.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Host, Mike Domitrz, welcomes CAST members Bridgette Cook-Burch and Dr. Alexandra Solomon to discuss discovering and living the soul’s longing, or dharma. Dharma is the day-to-day journey of uncovering your calling. The group explores what dharma needs to develop amid relentless distractions, how play, quiet introspection and trusted conversations nourish our soul, and how attaining freedom may be a better measurement than declaring success. Today’s topic was inspired by the book, The Great Work of Your Life, by Steven Cope. The theme of the book rests in three concepts.   1. Find your dharma. 2. Do it full out. 3. Let go of the outcome.   Subscribe to the Everyday Mindfulness Show.   Key Takeaways: [1:24] Bridget defines the exciting concept of dharma. [3:42] Finding your dharma through play and quieting down. [11:59] How to avoid focusing on the outcome. [18:43] Making the discovery process introspective and relational. [20:51] It's better to fail at your own dharma instead of somebody else's. [23:56] Should we substitute the word freedom for success?   Mentioned in This Episode: The Great Work of Your Life: A Guide for the Journey to Your True Calling, by Stephen Cope Loving Bravely, by Dr. Alexandra Solomon This Is Us on NBC Soulmates: Honoring the Mysteries of Love and Relationship, by Thomas Moore The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level, by Gay Hendricks   Bridget is a New York Times bestselling author, and an entrepreneur with a history of creating successful business. During the recession, Bridget built a multi-million dollar trucking company, yearly tripling revenue while nearly 600 companies in the industry across North America failed. She shares with team leaders, entrepreneurs and CEOs the trade secrets that visionary leaders use to create lasting success. An active social entrepreneur and humanitarian, Bridget is a founder of SHEROESUnited.org. Bridget provides your group with unusual stories from the books she’s written – stunning examples of leadership — what to do, what to be… and what not to be. Bridgetinspires.com Facebook.com/mbridgetcookburch Twitter.com/inspiritwriter   Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, and the author of Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want (New Harbinger, 2017). In addition to being a couple therapist, Dr. Solomon trains graduate students and teaches the internationally renowned undergraduate course, Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101. Dr. Solomon is a sought-after speaker and media commentator on the topic of love. DrAlexandraSolomon.com Facebook.com/dralexandrasolomon Twitter.com/ahsolomon     Contact Us: The Everyday Mindfulness Show listen@everydaymindfulnessshow.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode we cover relationship topics that include: What her students love about her 17-year old college course, Marriage 101. How our life experiences affect how we love. Learning to be less reactive and appreciate our partner more. Why it can be valuable to have the difficult conversations with a therapist. The importance of making time and space to look within ourselves. And much more! Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, a clinical assistant professor in the Department of Psychology at Northwestern University, and the author of Loving Bravely: Twenty Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want.   She received her PhD in Counseling Psychology and a graduate certificate in Gender Studies from Northwestern University in 2001. In addition to teaching and training marriage and family therapy graduate students, Solomon teaches the internationally renowned undergraduate course, Building Loving and Lasting Relationships: Marriage 101. Solomon is a frequent speaker and media commentator on relationship topics and you can visit her online at dralexandrasolomon.com. Click here to for this episode's show notes page: Dr. Alexandra Solomon Sponsors Talkspace: The online therapy company that believes that therapy should be affordable, confidential and convenient. Join over 500,000 people who have used Talkspace for online therapy with their licensed therapist. Get $30 off your first month when you visit Talkspace.com/IDO.