It Takes Time

Full Disclosure: This is not an attack on men, REPEAT not an attack! Tune into this week's episode with an open mind as we welcome guest Jazmyne Robinson-Batiste @justdoitjazmyne for a very transparent and heartfelt conversation. Before you make a stance on whether you agree or disagree, we invite you to listen to the entire episode. We all have our own ideas of what love looks like. Jazmyne offers an insightful and very personal message of her experience with love and the lack of it with men she's dated in her neighborhood of South Los Angeles, California.

This week our host Alby asked herself, "what would you title this chapter in your life?" and with a question that can sometimes be overwhelming, you've got to be able to keep it light-hearted yet intentional! Speaking of "intentional" content, we shoutout @chef_beanz on Instagram whose entire brand breaths life into being intentional in everything you do. We discuss specifically the idea that being intentional in reality is easier said than done. Little Thing: Our Human Nature To Think We Deserve Things. HELLO, as the name states, IT TAKES TIME! Something's we think we deserve both good or bad may be far out of our own control altogether. Join the conversation at 12:27 to tune in directly into this week's little thing!

The saying usually goes, "you live and you learn" right? Well, as I mature I'm learning that the process of gaining knowledge needs to be more of a discussion rather than a snowball effect of collecting information, moving through life not questioning things. This week's episode asks the audience to have an honest look at your ideas of identity and success in America? Where did it come from and what greater purpose is it filling? From Biggie Smalls in the 90's to Meek Mill in 2020 rappers have made it mainstream to call out their teachers on telling them they'd fail, or that they were written off even as a young child. That has always stuck out to me and made me ask, "are they just blaming the teachers, or has this been apart of a greater system Today's little thing: 50 cent on Tunechi podcast claiming all black women are "angry and ugly" along with some facts to educate ourselves in others in the face of this type of ignorance.

This is an open discussion centered on thoughts and emotions that are triggered due to systematic racism, oppression, and police brutality against Black people in America being put on the world's stage right now. We've been bombarded with propaganda surrounding our country's current health, financial and political climate. This episode is merely an introduction on being conscious about what comes next...This episode is dedicated to my brother who is fighting for his life in the central county jail in Los Angeles, Ca.

Introducing a new look and vibe to the It Takes Time platform. Alby is pursuing the podcast space on her own after 6 months with her co-host. Today, we are facing a global health pandemic, heightened racial tensions with the awful reality of police brutality, not to mention the rate of unemployment in the United States just to name a few. In this episode, Alby has an open conversation with her self and the audience asking, "what does it mean when you're in a nothing can stop me season?" Meaning, if everything around you is in turmoil and life as you know it is fleeting, how can you still be intentional in executing your goals. Be apart of the conversation today by listening, commenting, and continuing the conversation within your own social circles. #PowerOfConversation

Word of the week: AlgedonicDefinition: Characterized by or relating to pain especially as associated with pleasure.Adj: AlgedonicEx: My relationship with the gym is very algedonic. I know I will be sore the next day, but I will be one step closer to my fitness goals. #ittakestimevocab#ittakestimeb#pleasure#pain

"It is what it is" is a popular phrase that is thrown around often. Do you believe that things are "what they are" or... do you fall under the philosophy that "things are what you make it"? In this episode, Alby & May discuss whether they agree or disagree with that statement. Alby also shares a hilarious story about how she almost beat up an Enterprise car rental employee. #Ittakestime

Word of the week: BusticateDefinition: to burst into piecesVerb: Busticate, busticating, busticatedEx: If I eat another bite of food, I will busticate.#ittakestimevocab#ittakestime

As humans, we misinterpret intentions all the time. In this episode, Alby & May discuss intentions, presumptions, and communication. Funny thing is, everyone says, " communication is key". However, what is communication without comprehension? Little Thing: Speaker Etiquette#Ittakestime #womenpodcasters

Word of the week: ScantDefinition: Barely sufficient or adequate Adjective: ScantEx: The professor's response to my question was scant. I don't think he knows what he's talking about. Verb: Scanted, Scants, ScantingEx: The girl at the ice cream store scants my portion every time. Noun: ScantnessEx: Scantness can appear suspicious.Adjective: ScantlyEx: The employee at Chipotle scantly tossed steak on my burrito.#ittakestimevocab#ittakestime

If a guy asks you on a date, should he pay? In this episode, Alby & May address the various scenarios that happen while splitting the bill. Alby shares a funny moment she had on a date, while May shares a story about the co-worker that was doing way too much. They also chat about their struggles of trying to be movie watchers but it's just difficult to stay awake.What's your philosophy about splitting the bill? Have you ever had any awkward moments? We would love to know! DM us on Instagram or email us at "ittakestime@gmail.com".#ittakestime #blackpodcaster #WOC #Womenpodcasters #mentalhealthawarenessmonth

Word of the week: MercurialDefinition: Subject to sudden or unpredictable changes of mood or mindAdjective: MercurialEx: His mercurial temperament was apparent after we had sex.Noun: MercurialnessEx: The mercurialness of the stock market has some people in fear.Adjective: Mercurially Ex: The little girl mercurially started crying after a good day at the park.Episode is LivePublished: Apr. 29, 2020 @ 7AM EditUnpublishAmplify this EpisodeAdd Chapter MarkersTranscribe this EpisodePromote this EpisodeCreate a Video SoundbiteShare on FacebookShare on TwitterShare on LinkedInEmail Link to EpisodeDirect Link to MP3Embed this ONE Episode

In this episode, Alby & May discuss the emotionally charged week they both have had. Alby touches on her sporadic breakdowns, and May discusses her identity crisis. It's okay to reinvent yourself time after time and within that, there will be inevitable growing pains. It all takes time!#ittakestime

Word of the week: Lascivious Definition: To be motivated by sexual desire.Adjective: Lascivious Ex: "I was sad to discover he was only being lascivious. I was actually starting to like him!"Noun: LasciviousnessEx: "It could be difficult to pick up on lasciviousness until you get your feelings hurt."Adverb: LasciviouslyEx: "She lasciviously looked into his eyes as he grabbed the car keys."#ItTakesTimeVocab

Word of the week: AltruisticDefinition: Selfless concern for the well being of othersNoun: AltruismEx: Her altruism was misinterpreted because they weren't used to kindness at their law firm. Adjective: AltruisticEx: She is very altruistic. She gave her sister her last dollar.Adverb: AltruisticallyEx: I altruistically gave her my jacket although I was cold. #Ittakestimevocab

It's fun to hypothesize what you will do in a certain situation. The truth is, we are only operating from our current level of understanding. Therefore, It may come as a surprise if you behave in ways you didn't know you were even capable of. This week Alby & May discuss the concept of survival after watching the original Netflix movie "The Platform". They discuss concepts like privilege, hierarchy, luck, and adaptation. They will read some of the responses from the listeners to the question "do you know when you're flirting or being flirted with"? It's safe to say that flirting can be viewed as a survival tactic. What do you think? Comment on our posts or DM us on Instagram. We love to hear from you!

Have you ever entertained someone privately, but then painted an alternative narrative of the situation while explaining your relationship to your friends? Well, ladies and gentlemen, it happens more often than we think!In this episode, Alby & May reflect on their actions and own up to certain areas of their lives where they should've taken more responsibility for their actions. Ultimately, DONT LEAD PEOPLE ON. Little Thing: Diction/Word ChoiceWe are switching the word "boyfriend" for "partner"! It's less possessive & helps disassociate any previous feelings/emotions around that relationship structure. We "invite" you to do the same. ---------------------------------------------Word Wednesday Review:Visceral (adjective):Instinctive; relating to deep inward feelings rather than to the intellect.

Have you tried looking for a job during this pandemic? Well, May did… and she tells you about how Alby convinced her to drive off during her first lunch break! This week Alby & May chat about the uncertainties in their lives during this virus fiasco & their approach towards the chaos. They also exchange stories about the shenanigans they have seen/experienced in LA during this hyper sensitive time. Little Thing: “Shit is real, shit is getting real” is viral because of the producer! ——————————---------------Word Wednesday: Anodyne Not likely to provoke dissent or offense; inoffensive, often deliberately soA painkilling drug or medicine.Ex: “Health care professionals are advising not to take anodynes like ibuprofen during this pandemic.”

Ego is your minds identity of who you think you are.Hey It Take Time Family, quarantine has had May bored and irrational. In this episode she talks about working through her ego and the behaviors she demanded from people that she hasn't provided in return. Alby shares her journey with ego checking and gives us an update of where she is with it now. You will also hear a story of how both of their egos were present and then dismantled prior to THIS episode ! If they continue to learn anything, its definitely that it takes time!Little Thing: Breaking up with someone and/or getting too comfortable while dating makes you feel like you can skip that eyebrow appointment, and ride out a nail fill longer than normally acceptable! Alby and May chat about how sometimes women leave their pubic hairs untamed as a preventative measure to have more self control. ____________________________________________Word of the week: Laborious: requiring considerable effort and time.Ex: "working on your ego is laborious as hell!"#Alby #May #ItTakesTimeMonday #Ego #Friends #tension #conversation #powerofconversation #womenhacks #women #ItTakesTime #WordWednesday #Laborious #learntogether #growtogether #WorkOnEgo #LosAngeles #LittleThing #ITT #California #BlackPodcasters #WOCpodcasters

"N***** ain't shit" is a phrase that has been normalized in many circles. Why?Join Alby & May as they explore their attachment styles and the affects it has on their daily interactions. It's easy to point the finger, but what happens when you look in a mirror?Is the guy really "not shit" or... is it you?Attachment Test: https://testyourself.psychtests.com/testid/2859Little Thing: Change your kitchen sponge! Please!!!

Everyone around me was always in a relationship and I learned a lot from mainly just being "the friend". In this episode Alby and May discuss the perspective of being the "friend friend", third wheel, homegirl, etc. and how this has affected their dating life today. They also discuss OFF LIMIT behavior from men they used to talk!Little Thing: You J-Cole Jay-Z hairstyle niggas need to wash your damn hair!

Do you call the containers in your kitchen "tuba ware"? Yeah, we did too! In this week's episode Alby & May discuss the glamorization of success and their personal experiences towards this epiphany. Alby introduces the origin story of Tupperware and a highlights a key figure towards the success of the company, Brownie Wise. May discusses Nick Storm & his contributions towards the growth of Hypnotic & Ciroc. Little Thing: Michelle Williams "Hit Me" tweet.--------------------------------------------------------Links:Nick Storm EYL episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rpkeD7NjiMQTupperware Wiki Link: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tupperware

Have you ever gone to an event and the number one conversation starter is, "what do you do for a living?" Tune into this week's episode to hear Alby & May share their experience at their Podcast Launch Event. They will also share some tips on conversation starters to get beyond surface level banter.

Today's episode is about what a sugar daddy/sugar baby relationship entails. What does that even look like? Why has this relationship model become such a topic of discussion in recent times?May and Alby delve into their understanding of what it means to be in a relationship where power is in the means of either sex or money.

Would you be okay with your boyfriend / girlfriend going to the movies with a friend of the opposite sex? What are your boundaries with your spouse? Alby and May discuss their own boundaries and chat through some opposing views.