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Episode Summary In this powerful solo episode, Jason explores why self-compassion isn't just nice—it's literally the fastest path to transformation. He dismantles the toxic myth of "I should have known better" and reveals why judging your past choices keeps you stuck in old patterns. This episode offers both scientific backing and spiritual wisdom on how accepting that you've always done your best with what you had can free up massive energy for creating your future. Key Takeaways The Myth of "Should Have Known Better" The spiritual poison: When you say "I should have known better," you're arguing with reality The truth: You made the best decision you could with the level of consciousness you had at that time Reality check: You can't upgrade your past with your current software The Science of Self-Compassion Dr. Kristin Neff's research: Self-compassion leads to higher standards and better performance than self-criticism Neurological impact: Self-judgment activates threat detection and shuts down the prefrontal cortex (learning center) Self-compassion benefits: Activates the caregiving system, floods brain with oxytocin, releases neuroplasticity for transformation The Spiritual Dimension Universal law: Consciousness evolves through experience, not judgment Buddhist concept: Beginner's mind—every moment is a fresh start Soul purpose: Your soul didn't incarnate to live a perfect life, but a full life Wisdom creation: Regret is just wisdom trying to be born Generational Healing Breaking chains: When you practice self-compassion, you heal an entire lineage Ancestral patterns: Most patterns you judge yourself for were inherited Radical service: Self-compassion is the most radical act of service you can perform Practical Application: The Three-Step Process Step 1: Catch Yourself in Self-Judgment Ask for help recognizing when you're "shoulding" on yourself Step 2: Ask Three Self-Aware Questions What did I know then? What was my capacity then? What was I dealing with then? Step 3: Use the Sacred Phrase "I did what I knew how to do" Put this on your mirror Carry it in your pocket Say it every time you catch self-judgment Bonus Practice: Get Curious Instead of Judgmental Replace "Why did I do that?" with: "What was this choice trying to teach me?" "What was my soul learning through that experience?" Powerful Quotes from This Episode "You can't know what you don't know until you know it." "Self-judgment is just ego trying to time travel." "You can't punish your past self into being better. You can only love your present self into growing." "The voice that heals you is never the same voice that hurts you." "You can't heal what you judge." "You can only choose victim or victor, but you can't choose both." "Your past doesn't define you, it refines you." Scientific & Spiritual References Dr. Kristin Neff: Self-compassion research and psychological safety Buddhist wisdom: Beginner's mind concept New Testament teaching: "Judge not lest you be judged" Rudolf Steiner: "We're all angels in training" 24-Hour Challenge Every time you catch yourself in self-judgment: Pause and breathe Say: "I did what I knew how to do. I am learning and growing. I'm exactly where I need to be." Connect with HDL Podcast If this episode gave you permission to stop being your own worst enemy, share it with someone who needs to hear it. Remember: you did what you knew how to do—now you know more, now you can do more, but always with compassion for the journey. Listener Action Items Write "I did what I knew how to do" on your mirror Practice the three self-aware questions when judgment arises Share this episode with someone who's being hard on themselves Join the HDL community for deeper discussions on self-compassion This episode aligns with HDL Podcast's mission to provide grounded spirituality for the modern seeker—offering both open-hearted curiosity and critical discernment on the journey of conscious living.
Move into alignment with your purpose. Learn what you have in common with sunflowers and the importance of listening to your inner knowing. This was part of a live virtual training called Catch Yourself. You can now take the course for free on Serenity Wellness Podcast E78-82.
Emotional Awareness brings long-term health. Noticing the ways we avoid our emotions and how becoming our personal trainer brings an appreciation for the value of all of our emotions. Purpose * Action * Outcome This was part of a live virtual training called Catch Yourself. You can now take the course for free on Serenity Wellness Podcast E78-82. Here are some Serenity Wellness Podcast Episodes that expand on some of the areas covered. You can find it by searching Serenity Wellness on your favorite listening platform or at serenitywellnesspodcast.com E2: The Anxious Body System E14: Emotional Ladders E15: Emotion Regulators E19: Inner Stillness and Strength E35: State of Flow E37: Wise Mind E38: Stress and Overwhelm E61: Stir Up Learn about Nicole White ~ Integrative Mental Health & Energy Therapist www.serenitywithnicole.com
Our body has an abundance of information to guide us through life. We might find ourselves disconnected from body awareness more than we realize. Gain a connection to yourself and tools to get you moving. This is part 2 of a 4 part wellness course called "Catch Yourself". Part 1 ~ E78 ~ Mind Bending https://youtu.be/Xt6HrBnsKC8
"Catch Yourself" by Pastor Jonathan M. Anderson, Sr.
Presence is waking up from the dream of your thinking, and tapping fully into the moment at hand. Today I dive into the tactics of how to “Catch Yourself” when you slip into thought cycles. I also take you into unchartered territory re: Who Are You? … Prepare for an extremely deep dive. This episode is brought to you by bowldojo.com where you can book 1on1 Skype Coaching, pick up the Tool Box of Game Ebook & sign up for the immersive Boot camp experience.The best place to connect with me outside of the potto/YT is on Instagram: @ooitang1Also feel free to send me an in-depth email via bowldojo.comMuch Peace and Much Joy!Adam.
Just for today, Catch Yourself trying to do it all today. The fix? Create a more realistic view and plan it out. Can you really do it all today and maintain balance in other important areas of your life? Can you do it all today at all? It is very easy to be unrealistic in our time estimates of how much time we have and how much time things will take to do. Guess what? The world won't fall down if you take a little bit longer. As a matter of fact, your world may be better as you break things down into doable chunks - create realistic boundaries for yourself. Take the pressure off AND get it done. Sounds like a plan to me!
Catch Yourself... Rushing through the good things - and the bad. What to do?