Podcasts about catch yourself

If you're a fan of the Pause Break, you are going to love the new and improved tool I'm teaching in today's episode. And if you're new here, the CALM Break is going to change the way you show up as a parent!You'll Learn:Why you feel so stressed out as a parentThe 4 steps of the CALM BreakHow (and when) to use a CALM Break to stop yelling and feel less overwhelmedSome of my favorite thoughts for a more positive mindsetThe CALM Break is the new and improved Pause Break. It's a step-by-step process for what to do when you find yourself overwhelmed, yelling at your kid, or just not showing up as the parent you want to be. Today, I'm breaking down what it is and how you can use it to show up as a calm mama.--------------------------------Why Aren't You Calm?We all feel overwhelmed and dysregulated at times, especially when it comes to parenting. Understanding what's going on can help you to be more compassionate with yourself and feel less out of control.Your nervous system has two parts: the sympathetic and the parasympathetic. The parasympathetic nervous system is the calm part. It's what we think of as “rest and digest”. It's a state of equilibrium and balance. For the most part, you should be living your life in the parasympathetic nervous system. These are the times when things are relatively easy, you know what to be doing, the demands on you are manageable, and you're able to keep up.When things become stressful - there is too much demand on you and you feel overwhelmed - your nervous system says, “Uh-oh, we can't handle this,” and it decides that you need a bunch more stress hormones (e.g. adrenaline, cortisol, epinephrine) in order to deal with what's in front of you. This triggers your sympathetic nervous system. That's the fight, flight, freeze, faint, fawn response. Basically, you either become activated or you shut down. At certain times in your life, this stress response can be really helpful and useful. But we're not supposed to stay in an activated state all the time. The stressors in our lives aren't supposed to outpace our ability to manage those stressors.But kids (even if you only have one) create a lot of extra stress. You're constantly worried and looking out for their safety. You're constantly trying to problem solve. They're melting down because their nervous system is immature and misfiring all the time. And then you add the everyday life demands of time, money, work, relationship drama, physical fatigue, and it can feel so overwhelming. A lot of the time, you can handle things as they come up. Somebody spills their juice, you clean it up, you move on. Give yourself a little credit here for not being a raging lunatic all the time! But there are also moments when your stress response takes over. Your brain tells you this is an emergency, your stress response activates, and it takes you out of your logical, thinking response. This is when you need to use the CALM Break to get your parasympathetic nervous system back online to manage the stress juice and get you back to a more balanced state. The CALM BreakListen, if you have kids under 10, it's probably cuckoo pants all the time in your house. Under age 5, forget it. You've got kids climbing and jumping and throwing and spitting and punching and hitting. And you're gonna feel like you're going bananas (and you kind of are). Your nervous system is not ready for those demands. It's not built to be. CALM is an acronym that helps you remember the steps to follow when you notice that you are overwhelmed, triggered, or dysregulated. CALM stands for:Catch yourselfAlignLabelMove Step 1: Catch Yourself & PauseThis step is about building awareness of how you're feeling and when you are dysregulated. You can also think of the “C” as checking in with yourself. This can be as simple as noticing and saying to yourself, “Oh, I'm very overwhelmed right now.” When you interrupt your stress response, you are retraining your nervous system to respond differently to those circumstances. Step 2: AlignAlign refers to getting your nervous system back online with your values and your goals of becoming a calm parent. First, delay. Don't do any parenting in this moment while you're activated.Communicate to your kids that you're not in alignment. Say something like, “You know what? I'm getting upset right now. I love you, and I don't want to yell at you. I'm going to take a CALM break.” Or, “I'm sorry, this is not how I want to act. I will talk to you about this in a few minutes after a take a break.”When you tell your children what is happening in real time, they will feel less afraid. They will feel less activated. Plus, as you start to get calm, they might start to calm down, too. Step 3: Label Your Thoughts & FeelingsNarrate for yourself what you're thinking and what's going on and name those feelings. I want you to do this with kindness and self-compassion. There's no need for negative self-talk or criticism. Being hard on yourself will only activate more stress.Some common default thoughts include, “My kid never listens,” “My kid is so entitled,” and “They should know better.” These thoughts often lead to feelings of frustration, resentment, or discouragement. This is the piece where you get to really connect with your own heart and your own overwhelm and your own nervous system and give yourself some love. Once you label what you're thinking and feeling, tell yourself, “Yes, this is hard, but I can get through it.” Step 4: MoveI think of this as “move your body, move your mind.” Moving your body is the best way to move stress juice through and regulate your nervous system. There are lots of great examples for this in the Stop Yelling Cheat Sheet.Then, you can move your mind by working with your mindset. That means that you can shift the way you're thinking and feeling so you get into a better state of mind. We're not bypassing or ignoring our feelings here. Instead, you'll acknowledge them and then ask yourself:How do I want to feel? What thoughts will get me there? How can I move this moment forward with some positive energy?The fun thing is, you can get better at moving your mind and coaching yourself when things are rough. You get better at normalizing the stage of life that you're in and telling yourself a better story about it. Here are some thoughts you can borrow when you need them:This is normal. This is one of my favorites!This is temporary.This is not an emergency. I have plenty of time.Kids are going to act out.This isn't a big problem.This is overwhelming, but I can handle it.I wasn't expecting this, but I can take care of it.This is how you label what's true and move your mind to a more balanced state. When you are working the whole Connected Parenting Process, you will feel much calmer and your nervous system won't activate as much. When you feel confident that you can deal with misbehavior, you won't find it so overwhelming. Resources:Get the free Stop Yelling Cheat SheetFree Guide: 20 Ways to Reset Your Stress ResponseEpisode 2: Getting to Calm with the Pause BreakEpisode 8: Pause & Reset Your BodyEpisode 9: Pause & Reset Your Emotions

Episode Summary   In this powerful solo episode, Jason explores why self-compassion isn't just nice—it's literally the fastest path to transformation. He dismantles the toxic myth of "I should have known better" and reveals why judging your past choices keeps you stuck in old patterns. This episode offers both scientific backing and spiritual wisdom on how accepting that you've always done your best with what you had can free up massive energy for creating your future.   Key Takeaways The Myth of "Should Have Known Better" The spiritual poison: When you say "I should have known better," you're arguing with reality The truth: You made the best decision you could with the level of consciousness you had at that time Reality check: You can't upgrade your past with your current software   The Science of Self-Compassion Dr. Kristin Neff's research: Self-compassion leads to higher standards and better performance than self-criticism Neurological impact: Self-judgment activates threat detection and shuts down the prefrontal cortex (learning center) Self-compassion benefits: Activates the caregiving system, floods brain with oxytocin, releases neuroplasticity for transformation   The Spiritual Dimension Universal law: Consciousness evolves through experience, not judgment Buddhist concept: Beginner's mind—every moment is a fresh start Soul purpose: Your soul didn't incarnate to live a perfect life, but a full life Wisdom creation: Regret is just wisdom trying to be born   Generational Healing Breaking chains: When you practice self-compassion, you heal an entire lineage Ancestral patterns: Most patterns you judge yourself for were inherited Radical service: Self-compassion is the most radical act of service you can perform   Practical Application: The Three-Step Process   Step 1: Catch Yourself in Self-Judgment   Ask for help recognizing when you're "shoulding" on yourself   Step 2: Ask Three Self-Aware Questions What did I know then? What was my capacity then? What was I dealing with then?   Step 3: Use the Sacred Phrase   "I did what I knew how to do" Put this on your mirror Carry it in your pocket Say it every time you catch self-judgment   Bonus Practice: Get Curious Instead of Judgmental   Replace "Why did I do that?" with: "What was this choice trying to teach me?" "What was my soul learning through that experience?"   Powerful Quotes from This Episode "You can't know what you don't know until you know it." "Self-judgment is just ego trying to time travel." "You can't punish your past self into being better. You can only love your present self into growing." "The voice that heals you is never the same voice that hurts you." "You can't heal what you judge." "You can only choose victim or victor, but you can't choose both." "Your past doesn't define you, it refines you."   Scientific & Spiritual References Dr. Kristin Neff: Self-compassion research and psychological safety Buddhist wisdom: Beginner's mind concept New Testament teaching: "Judge not lest you be judged" Rudolf Steiner: "We're all angels in training"   24-Hour Challenge   Every time you catch yourself in self-judgment: Pause and breathe Say: "I did what I knew how to do. I am learning and growing. I'm exactly where I need to be."   Connect with HDL Podcast   If this episode gave you permission to stop being your own worst enemy, share it with someone who needs to hear it. Remember: you did what you knew how to do—now you know more, now you can do more, but always with compassion for the journey.   Listener Action Items Write "I did what I knew how to do" on your mirror Practice the three self-aware questions when judgment arises Share this episode with someone who's being hard on themselves Join the HDL community for deeper discussions on self-compassion   This episode aligns with HDL Podcast's mission to provide grounded spirituality for the modern seeker—offering both open-hearted curiosity and critical discernment on the journey of conscious living.  

Move into alignment with your purpose. Learn what you have in common with sunflowers and the importance of listening to your inner knowing. This was part of a live virtual training called Catch Yourself. You can now take the course for free on Serenity Wellness Podcast E78-82.

Emotional Awareness brings long-term health. Noticing the ways we avoid our emotions and how becoming our personal trainer brings an appreciation for the value of all of our emotions. Purpose * Action * Outcome This was part of a live virtual training called Catch Yourself. You can now take the course for free on Serenity Wellness Podcast E78-82. Here are some Serenity Wellness Podcast Episodes that expand on some of the areas covered. You can find it by searching Serenity Wellness on your favorite listening platform or at serenitywellnesspodcast.com E2: The Anxious Body System E14: Emotional Ladders E15: Emotion Regulators E19: Inner Stillness and Strength E35: State of Flow E37: Wise Mind E38: Stress and Overwhelm E61: Stir Up Learn about Nicole White ~ Integrative Mental Health & Energy Therapist www.serenitywithnicole.com

Our body has an abundance of information to guide us through life. We might find ourselves disconnected from body awareness more than we realize. Gain a connection to yourself and tools to get you moving. This is part 2 of a 4 part wellness course called "Catch Yourself". Part 1 ~ E78 ~ Mind Bending https://youtu.be/Xt6HrBnsKC8

"Catch Yourself" by Pastor Jonathan M. Anderson, Sr.

Presence is waking up from the dream of your thinking, and tapping fully into the moment at hand. Today I dive into the tactics of how to “Catch Yourself” when you slip into thought cycles. I also take you into unchartered territory re: Who Are You? … Prepare for an extremely deep dive. This episode is brought to you by bowldojo.com where you can book 1on1 Skype Coaching, pick up the Tool Box of Game Ebook & sign up for the immersive Boot camp experience.The best place to connect with me outside of the potto/YT is on Instagram: @ooitang1Also feel free to send me an in-depth email via bowldojo.comMuch Peace and Much Joy!Adam.

Just for today, Catch Yourself trying to do it all today. The fix? Create a more realistic view and plan it out. Can you really do it all today and maintain balance in other important areas of your life? Can you do it all today at all? It is very easy to be unrealistic in our time estimates of how much time we have and how much time things will take to do. Guess what? The world won't fall down if you take a little bit longer. As a matter of fact, your world may be better as you break things down into doable chunks - create realistic boundaries for yourself. Take the pressure off AND get it done. Sounds like a plan to me!

Catch Yourself... Rushing through the good things - and the bad. What to do?