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Take less than 10 minutes to write yourself a letter of care, compassion, and encouragement with psychologist Kristin Neff in this research-backed practice.How To Do This Practice: Choose an area of self-judgment: Think of one aspect of yourself that makes you feel inadequate, stressed, or not quite good enough. Name what you're feeling: Write a few sentences about the situation and the emotions it brings up, such as sadness, fear, frustration, shame, or loneliness. Imagine an unconditionally compassionate friend: Picture someone who is wise, accepting, and deeply caring—someone who sees both your strengths and your struggles without judgment. Write a letter from their perspective: Let this compassionate friend respond to your situation with understanding, kindness, and acceptance, recognizing that imperfection is part of being human. Include gentle wisdom and encouragement: If it feels helpful, have your compassionate friend offer caring suggestions for growth or change—not because you need fixing, but because they want you to thrive. Read the letter back to yourself: Set the letter aside for a while, then return to it and read it slowly, allowing the words of compassion and support to sink in. Scroll down for a transcription of this episode.Listen to the Full Practice Here: https://self-compassion.org/practices/noting-practice-2/Today's Happiness Break Guide:Dr. Kristin Neff is an associate professor in the University of Texas at Austin's department of educational psychology. She's also the co-author of 'Mindful Self-Compassion for Burnout,' which offers tools to help individuals heal and recharge from burnout.More Happiness Breaks like this one:A Self-Compassion Meditation For Burnout: https://tinyurl.com/ye24rz4kThe Healing Power of Your Own Touch: https://tinyurl.com/rrtpje2xTake a Break With Our Loving-Kindness Meditation: https://tinyurl.com/3vn9t4jvRelated Science of Happiness episodes:Why Compassion Requires Vulnerability: https://tinyurl.com/mrxsad33The Science of Letting Go: https://tinyurl.com/34u2fu48The Contagious Power of Compassion: https://tinyurl.com/y6bpvbv5We'd love to hear about your experience with this practice! Share your thoughts at happinesspod@berkeley.edu or use the hashtag #happinesspod.Find us on Apple Podcasts: https://tinyurl.com/2p9h5aapHelp us share Happiness Break! Leave a 5-star review and share this link: https://tinyurl.com/2p9h5aapThis episode was supported by a grant from the John Templeton Foundation on "Spreading Love Through the Media." Transcription: https://tinyurl.com/4rcnm6s5

“Oh Vegan?  Must be nice…."Some people hear words like "change” or “goal” and feel intrigued. Others feel offended.  As if YOUR growth is a comment on who THEY are. In this episode, we talk about why that happens, what those people are actually protecting, and how understanding it can give you more insight and compassionate for them AND yourself.We also talk directly to the RE-starters. If you've had a gap in your plant-based or vegan practice, this one is for you.IN THIS EPISODE:Why some people feel offended by the idea of personal development — and what they're really protectingCarol Dweck's research on fixed vs. growth mindset, and why mindset is domain-specific (you might be open to plant-based change and have a fixed mindset somewhere else entirely)The Glenda the Good Witch moment — why realizing you had the power all along isn't always comfortableKristin Neff on self-compassion and "common humanity" — why your struggle is not evidence of your inadequacyWhy the moment you notice you've drifted and come back IS the practice.RESOURCES MENTIONED:Carol Dweck — Mindset: The New Psychology of SuccessBrené Brown — research on shame, vulnerability, and courage (brenebrown.com)Kristin Neff — self-compassion research (self-compassion.org)Subscribe & Review:If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Your feedback helps us grow and share the message of plant-based living with more listeners.For more information, to submit a question or topic, or to book a free 30 minute Coaching session visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠veganatanyage.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠or email ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠info@micheleolendercoaching.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Music, Production, and Editing by ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Charlie Weinshank⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. For inquiries email: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠charliewe97@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Virtual Support Services: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://proadminme.com/⁠

Quand les choses deviennent difficiles, as-tu tendance à te soutenir... ou à te critiquer?Dans cette méditation guidée, Charlie-Maud t'invite à explorer la pratique de l'autocompassion inspirée des travaux de Kristin Neff.À travers un moment de présence et de réflexion, tu seras amené.e à :reconnaître ce qui est difficile en ce momentaccueillir tes émotions avec plus de consciencereconnecter à l'idée que la souffrance fait partie de l'expérience humainet'offrir la même douceur que celle que tu offrirais à une personne que tu aimesdévelopper une relation plus bienveillante envers toi-mêmeUne pratique à refaire chaque fois que l'autocritique prend trop de place ou lorsque tu as simplement besoin d'un moment pour souffler.Prends une grande respiration. On commence.---On te rappelle que notre équipe de professionnelles est là pour te soutenir. ✨ Tu peux prendre rendez-vous directement en ligne ou en nous contactant au 418 755-9263.

✨ Episode SummaryIn this week's Q&A episode, Keana answers powerful listener questions about how self‑worth shapes your dating life, your patterns, and the partners you choose. Building on the main episode, “Why Your Self‑Worth Determines Your Love Life,” this conversation dives deeper into the psychology behind attraction, boundaries, healing, and emotional alignment.If you've ever wondered why you repeat certain patterns, why you settle, or how to date from a healthier place, this episode gives you clarity, compassion, and practical tools to shift your love life from the inside out.

Humility is a powerful (and mostly misunderstood) mental health skill that's grounded by self-knowledge and self-compassion. Humility is also a powerful antidote to rumination and harsh self-criticism and a tool to support mood and emotional resilience. We'll build up humility through this series by taking a positive psychology approach along with Dr. Daryl Van Tongeren's framework to build humility (know yourself, check yourself, go beyond yourself.) This episode is all about Step 1 (know yourself) and it turns out it's both the most uncomfortable and the most freeing place to start. About: The Joy Lab Podcast is an Ambie-nominated podcast that blends science and soul to help you cope better with stress, anxiety, and depression. It's hosted by integrative psychiatrist Dr. Henry Emmons and holistic mental health researcher Dr. Aimee Prasek. The podcast is best paired with the Joy Lab Program. Bonus: spread some joy and keep this podcast ad-free by donating (Joy Lab is powered by the nonprofit Pathways North and your donations are tax-deductible).    Like and follow Joy Lab on Socials:  Instagram Linkedin Watch this episode on YouTube   Sources and Notes for our Element of Humility: Joy Lab Program: Take the next leap in your wellbeing journey with step-by-step practices to help you build and maintain the elements of joy in your life.  Episodes in this Humility series: Humility Can Be Stressful... But Worth it for Mental Health [ep. 268] Book: Humble by Daryl Van Tongeren, PhD Find more about Neff's work on Self-compassion at Self-Compassion.org More on C.S. Lewis from the C.S. Lewis Foundation.  Hagá & Olson. 'If I only had a little humility, I would be perfect': Children's and adults' perceptions of intellectually arrogant, humble, and diffident people. Access here. Nielsen & Marrone. Humility: Our current understanding of the construct and its role in organizations. Access here. Porter et al. Predictors and consequences of intellectual humility. Access here. Van Tongeren et al. Humility. Access here.  Weidman et al. The psychological structure of humility. Access here. Wright et al. The psychological significance of humility. Access here. Wendell Berry's book Standing by Words   Key moments: [00:00] Why self-knowledge comes first in the humility framework — and why skipping it makes the rest of the work harder. [02:00] The humility paradox: who scores highest on self-reported humility? People with narcissistic traits. What this reveals about why self-knowledge matters. [04:30] Reflection vs. rumination: same self-focused action, completely different energy — and very different effects on anxiety and depression. [07:30] Clark Griswold on the roundabout: Aimee's perfect visual for rumination, plus Van Tongeren's concept of "right-sizing yourself." [09:30] Obstacle #1: The idealized self. When the gap between who you are and who you think you should be stops motivating and starts deflating. [12:00] Obstacle #2: The better-than-average effect. Most of us rank ourselves above average — and that's statistically impossible. How this positivity bias quietly inflates us. [14:30] Obstacle #3: The harsh inner critic disguised as self-awareness. Why beating yourself up isn't humility — it's ego turned inward. [17:00] Dr. Kristin Neff's insight: self-compassion is the foundation of honest self-awareness. You can look clearly when you're not afraid of what you'll find. [19:30] Rumination as an internal courtroom — and Aimee's personal story about chronic lateness, hard feedback from a friend, and what it took to actually receive it. [23:30] Henry's simple journaling practice: notice what you observed about yourself this week. No analysis, no judgment — just patterns, held gently. [25:30] Preview of next week's "Check Yourself" episode, and a closing note from Aristotle.   Full transcript here   Please remember that this content is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice and is not a replacement for advice and treatment from a medical professional. Please consult your doctor or other qualified health professional before beginning any diet change, supplement, or lifestyle program. Please see our terms for more information. If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, help is available. Call the NAMI HelpLine: 1-800-950-6264 available Monday through Friday, 10 a.m. – 10 p.m., ET. OR text "HelpLine" to 62640 or email NAMI at helpline@nami.org. Visit NAMI for more. You can also call or text SAMHSA at 988 or chat 988lifeline.org.

✨ Episode SummaryIn this week's episode, Keana breaks down one of the most important and most overlooked factors shaping your dating life: your self‑worth.Self‑worth isn't just about confidence or self‑esteem. It's the internal belief that determines what you tolerate, what you expect, and who you choose. Whether you're dating after a breakup, navigating situationships, or trying to break old patterns, this episode explains the psychology behind why your sense of worth influences every romantic decision you make.Keana uses trauma‑informed insights and research from leading psychologists to help you understand how low self‑worth creates unhealthy patterns — and how strengthening your self‑worth can completely transform your love life.

When Dr. Jo received news that her podcast reached the top 3% globally, her first instinct was to credit grit and optimization—but the real truth was much more profound. In this heartfelt finale to our 10-episode block, we explore how healthcare workers become so focused on improving themselves that they lose connection to their own humanity. Discover why reconnecting with yourself as a human being—not just a healthcare provider—might be the missing piece in your burnout recovery. Learn practical tools for self-connection using the four pillars of Sleep, Support, Mindset, and Movement, and give yourself permission to matter beyond what you do for others. Resources: Dr. Kristin Neff's Self-Compassion research: self-compassion.org "The Body Keeps the Score" by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk Center for Mindful Self-Compassion: centerformsc.org Join Dr. Jo's newsletter for more burnout recovery insights https://drjobraid.com www.instagram.com/burnoutrecoverydr www.linkedin.com/in/drjobraidSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Michelle Dittmer spoke with Chantaie Allick of Rework about burnout, ambition, and creating a healthier relationship with work. Chantaie shared how her own burnout led to Rework's mission: helping people pursue “ambition with ease” through rest, play, creativity, self-awareness, and self-compassion. Key Takeaways https://re-work.ca/ Follow Them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reworkmovement Check them out on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/reworkmovement/

What if the quality that we've been told will weaken us - self-compassion - is actually the key to wellbeing, and higher performance?In this episode, Dr. Kristin Neff, the pioneering researcher who first defined and measured self-compassion, challenges one of the most persistent myths in high-performance culture: that being hard on yourself makes you better. It doesn't. Thirty years of research says otherwise.Kristin Neff unpacks how self-compassion isn't self-pity or laziness, but a profound source of inner stability and flourishing, especially for leaders operating under relentless pressure. We explore why self-esteem is a fair-weather friend that deserts you the moment you fail and why unconditional self-worth is a far more stable foundation for growth and higher productivity. If you lead people, manage under pressure, or simply want to stop letting failure define you, this conversation will change how you think about what it means to thrive.What you will learn: Why self-compassion outperforms self-criticism for performance and growthThe three components of self-compassion and how to practice themHow just 20 seconds a day can measurably raise your self-compassion levelsWhy psychological safety must begin with the individual, not the organizationEpisode Chapters0:36 Introduction to Self-Compassion1:46: Common Myths About Self-Compassion5:32: The Shift from Self-Esteem to Self-Compassion17:28: Three components of Self Compassion17:54: Mindfulness and Self-Compassion39:22: Practical Self-Compassion Practices40:42: 20 Second Micro-Practice (UC Berkeley)RESOURCESConnect with the GuestLinkedIn: Dr. Kristin NeffRecommended Reading: Self Compassion: The power of being kind to yourselfFierce Self compassion: How to Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Your Power, and ThriveWebsite: selfcompassion.orgConnect with the HostLinkedIn: Ashish KothariWebsite: Happiness SquadBook: Hardwired For HappinessYouTube: Happiness Squad ChannelIf this conversation sparked something for you, please subscribe and leave a review, it takes 30 seconds and helps more people discover the show.

Think about the way you talk to your best friend when she's struggling — the patience, the warmth, the absence of judgment. Now think about how you talk to yourself in the same situation. If there's a significant gap between those two, it is costing you more than you know. Self-compassion isn't self-pity or lowered standards — it's the same quality of care you naturally extend to people you love, turned inward. Drawing on Dr. Kristin Neff's research, Courtney explains why the inner critic is not a motivational tool but a cortisol trigger, and why you consistently make better health decisions from kindness than from contempt. Get your free chapter of The Consistency Code at https://theconsistencycode.com/freechapter #selfcompassionwomen #kristinneffselfcompassion #innercriticandhealth #selfcriticismandcortisol #emotionalagilitymidlife #selfkindnessover40 #howtostopbeinghardonyourself #womenandselfjudgment #nervoussystemandselfcriticism #healthandselfcompassion #midlifeemotionalhealing #compassionandmotivation  

If you've been saying "I'm trying to recover" for months or years, this episode will completely change how you approach your healing journey. Today we're diving into the science behind why the phrase "I'm trying" is literally programming your brain for partial commitment—and why that guarantees you'l stay stuck. This isn't about willpower or motivation; it's about understanding how your language creates neural pathways that either support or sabotage your recovery. In this game-changing episode, you'll discover: The neuroscience behind why "trying" keeps you in limbo How decision defaulting protects you from commitment (and healing) Why your undernourished brain struggles with decisive action The trauma response component that makes decisions feel dangerous Two powerful exercises to shift from trying to deciding Real client stories of transformation through decisive language Warning: This episode will make you uncomfortable with your own excuses—and that's exactly the point. THE DECISION DEFAULTING TRAP Decision defaulting: When you avoid making definitive choices because not deciding feels safer than deciding "wrong." Sound familiar? "I'm trying to eat more" "I'm trying to stop restricting" "I'm trying to get better" "I'm thinking about getting help" Every time you say "I'm trying," you're leaving yourself an escape route. You're keeping one foot in and one foot out, protecting yourself from the vulnerability of full commitment. The raw truth: Trying is just a socially acceptable way of avoiding responsibility for your choices. THE NEUROSCIENCE OF "TRYING" Dr. Carol Dweck's research shows: The words we use create neural pathways that either support or sabotage our goals. When we use tentative language like "trying," we're literally programming our brains for partial commitment. What your brain hears: "I'm trying to eat breakfast" = "I'm not really committed to eating breakfast" "I'm trying to stop restricting" = "I'm keeping my options open to restrict if things get uncomfortable" From a neurological standpoint: Definitive decisions require activation of the prefrontal cortex (executive functioning). But when you're undernourished or in chronic stress from disordered eating, this brain region is compromised. Decision defaulting feels easier because it requires less energy. THE TRAUMA RESPONSE COMPONENT Many people with eating disorders have histories of choices being criticized, controlled, or dismissed. Decision defaulting becomes a protective mechanism: If you never fully commit to a choice, no one can tell you your choice was wrong. Dr. Kristin Neff's research on self-compassion shows: People who struggle with decision-making often have internalized critical voices that make them afraid of imperfection. The eating disorder amplifies this by convincing you every decision must be perfect—so it's safer to not decide at all. CLIENT STORY: BRITTANY'S BREAKTHROUGH Brittany came to coaching after 3 years of "trying to recover." She'd been in therapy multiple times, bought every book, started and stopped countless times. When asked what she wanted from coaching: "I want to try to finally get better." The intervention: "Brittany, you've been trying for three years. How's that working for you?" The realization: All her trying had actually kept her trying. The shift: From "I'm trying to recover" to "I'm deciding to use my resources and trust the path." The results: Within 6 months—weight restoration, rebuilt relationships, career changes she'd put on hold. THE POWER OF IMPLEMENTATION INTENTION Research by Dr. Peter Gollwitzer shows: People who use implementation intentions (decisive language) are 2-3 times more likely to follow through than those who rely on general intentions. Instead of leaving actions up to willpower, you're pre-committing to specific choices. THE LANGUAGE SHIFTS: OLD: "I'm trying to eat regular meals" NEW: "I'm deciding to eat breakfast tomorrow, lunch at noon, dinner in the evening—regardless of how I feel" OLD: "I'm trying to exercise less" NEW: "I'm deciding to take two complete rest days this week and limit exercise by 30 minutes" OLD: "I'm thinking about getting help" NEW: "I'm deciding to talk to three support professionals this week" WHY YOUR EATING DISORDER LOVES "TRYING" Your eating disorder wants you to keep trying. It wants you in the wishy-washy space where you're sort of committed but not really. As long as you're trying, you're not a real threat to its control. When you start deciding—making firm commitments and following through regardless of feelings—that's when your eating disorder panics. That's when recovery becomes inevitable. THE ILLUSION OF CONTROL Decision defaulting gives you an illusion of control: You think you're keeping options open You think you're staying flexible You think you're being logical What you're actually doing: Giving your power away to circumstances, other people, or the eating disorder voice. Real control comes from making conscious choices and taking responsibility for outcomes. CLIENT STORY: MARIA'S THERAPIST SEARCH Maria spent years researching therapists but never booked appointments. She was terrified that choosing the "wrong" person would confirm she was beyond help. The reframe: From "I need to find the perfect therapist" to "I'm deciding to take action toward support and will adjust as I learn." Within a week: Started coaching. Within a month: Real progress. None of this would have happened in decision default mode. KEY QUOTES

Send us Fan MailYou've done the work. You know it's over. So why can't you let go?If you're capable, accomplished, and still stuck in an old identity, a career, a relationship, a version of you that no longer fits, this episode names the one thing no one talks about.It isn't fear. It isn't lack of clarity. It isn't that you're not ready.It's judgment, and it's held in your body, not your mind.In this episode, Dr. Amen Kaur names why high-achieving women stay glued to the old life even when they know it's hurting them, and why "thinking your way out" doesn't work. Drawing on the neuroscience of Stephen Porges (polyvagal theory and neuroception), Bessel van der Kolk (The Body Keeps the Score), and Kristin Neff's research on self-compassion, she shows why your nervous system runs the old programme until it gets a new experience, and how compassion (not positive thinking) is the actual release.In this episode:Why "I know but I can't move" is a body problem, not a mindset problemThe two layers of judgment keeping you stuck (and which one is louder)Why affirmations don't land when your body is in survivalThe marathon analogy: why your body refuses to start a race it hasn't trained forThe handbrake metaphor: there's nothing wrong with your engineHow self-compassion lowers cortisol and brings the thinking brain back onlineOne question to ask the next time you feel that grip in your bodyFree masterclass: learn how to retrain your body to move forward. Link in the show notes below.If this episode landed, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a woman who needs to hear it.Dr. Amen KaurKey quotes"Your mind wants to do it, but your body is stuck. And they run on two completely different systems.""Judgment is the glue to the old identity.""The opposite of judgment is not positive thinking. It's compassion.""You can press the accelerator all you want. If the handbrake's on, you're not going anywhere."Mentioned in this episodeStephen Porges — Polyvagal Theory and neuroceptionBessel van der Kolk — The Body Keeps the ScoreKristin Neff — Self-compassion research (University of Texas)Free Masterclass Retrain your body to move forward, even when your mind has been ready for a long time. amenkaur.com/masterclassConnect with Dr. Amen KaurInstagram: @dramenkaurYoutube: @dramenkaurNew on Substack: https://dramenkaur.substack.com/ If this episode helped you:Subscribe so you don't miss the next oneLeave a review: it helps other women find the showShare this with the friend who's been "doing all the work"Free Masterclass: The Human Intelligence FrameworkA walkthrough of the five stage method Dr Amen Kaur uses with high achieving women who have lost themselves inside a career, role or identity that no longer fits.Watch it free at amenkaur.com/masterclassAbout Dr Amen KaurStarting Over, Being You with Dr. Amen Kaur is the podcast for high-achieving women who have been quietly losing themselves inside the life they built. Dr. Amen Kaur, PhD, is a former scientist and former Partner at a FTSE 250 company with 20+ years of corporate experience. She teaches the Human Intelligence Framework, the Five Intelligences that orbit Your Self, and how to bring the integrator back online when it has stepped away from the seat.Learn more at amenkaur.com/aboutStay CloseInstagram: @dramenkaurTikTok: @dramenkaurYouTube: @dramenkaurDisclaimer: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not medical, psychological, or financial advice. Please consult a qualified professional for guidance specific to your situation.

Raising resilient kids and understanding how to support their mental health often starts with their self-esteem and self-compassion. Host Elise Hu revisits two empowering conversations to help parents understand how intertwined self-esteem and mental health are. First, Kelli Joy Richardson, founder of The SonRise Project, debunks common myths about mental health and shares practical tips on how to start conversations with your kids about their mental health, even when it feels too difficult or too late to do so. Then we hear from professor and educator Dr. Kristin Neff on how parents can help reframe where self-worth comes from. Dr. Neff offers ways to encourage our kids to practice self-compassion that are tactile, audible, or by example. Key Takeaways: Mental health is often linked to our self-image, self-esteem, and self-compassion. Acceptance, letting be, and communication are three pillars to supporting your kids. Start conversations with your kids, even when it feels difficult or too late to do so. Foster a sense of self-worth by comparing and contrasting less. Worth is dependent on self-compassion, not on success. ⏱️ Timestamps: Keep the conversation going at home with our FREE Conversation Kit companion guides: Mental Health: https://delivery.shopifyapps.com/-/db4d68f2249368b3/ad84c8c03edddf8b Self-Esteem: https://delivery.shopifyapps.com/-/e1bea0cf911a6b78/3f7d25b53f99ac38 Learn more about the SonRise Project: https://www.thesonriseproject.org Follow Dr. Kristin Neff on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/neffselfcompassion   New episodes every Tuesday: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@AKidsCo Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/raising-us-a-parenting-podcast/id1552286967 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2bIRVxM8hbriNxydkSv6VG Or wherever you get your podcasts.

So many women are exhausted and calling it normal.   In this week's episode of Life Coaching for Mompreneurs, I'm joined by Dr. Nikia Smith for a deeply honest conversation about hustle culture, emotional exhaustion, boundaries, and how to stop living in survival mode.   We talk about: ✨ The subtle signs of burnout ✨ Why ambitious women struggle to rest ✨ How to start saying no without guilt ✨ The mindset shifts that change everything   If you've been overwhelmed, emotionally drained, irritable, exhausted, or secretly fantasizing about escaping your life just to rest, this conversation will help you feel seen and supported.   This is your permission to slow down and finally take care of yourself again. You are worthy of rest before your body forces you to stop.

In February 2019 I introduced myself to the internet with this: I don't want to post my highlight reel. I'd rather journey through life sharing life as it is. Comparison is the thief of joy. And then I wrote the first line of the first real post: I acted many years without a why of my own. And I was not my own. This episode is about why women lose themselves — what the research actually says, why we abandon ourselves and call it love, and what the conversation with yourself actually needs to sound like when you decide to start telling the truth. We talk about the I will be more me when list we keep making — and why the permission we are waiting for is never going to come from outside. We talk about Deborah Tannen on socialized silence, Brené Brown on performing for belonging, Kristin Neff on the inner critic we mistake for our own voice. And we replace the five false internal conversations with accurate ones. Not affirmations. Corrections. This episode closes the who am I arc and opens the door to the conversations we have been avoiding. 

Traumas de infância não precisam ser dramáticos para deixar marcas profundas. A necessidade de agradar todo mundo, o medo de abandono nos relacionamentos, o perfeccionismo extremo, a sensação de nunca ser suficiente, a dificuldade de mostrar emoções — tudo isso pode ter raiz em experiências que você viveu muito antes de ter palavras para descrevê-las.Neste episódio, Thais Galassi explora como a psicologia do desenvolvimento e a neurociência explicam por que mulheres adultas continuam reagindo a padrões emocionais criados na infância — e o que é possível fazer a partir de hoje para interromper esse ciclo.Você vai entender: por que seu cérebro ainda age em modo de sobrevivência | como o trauma molda relacionamentos e autoestima | o que a ciência diz sobre apego ansioso, fawn response e perfeccionismo | e uma técnica prática validada pela neurociência para começar a se libertar desses padrões agora.Baseado em estudos do JAMA Pediatrics, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology e nas obras de Bessel van der Kolk, Pete Walker e Kristin Neff.Se você já sentiu que nunca é suficiente, que tem medo de perder as pessoas que ama ou que precisa agradar todo mundo pra ser amada — esse episódio foi feito pra você.00:00 — A descoberta de Harvard que vai mudar como você se vê02:30 — Como o cérebro grava traumas antes de você ter palavras06:00 — A menina que aprendeu que precisava ser boa para ser amada10:30 — Fawn response: a raiz da necessidade de agradar14:00 — Medo de abandono e apego ansioso nos relacionamentos19:00 — Perfeccionismo: quando a ferida usa a produtividade como disfarce24:00 — A mulher forte que chora sozinha no chuveiro28:30 — Técnica STOP: como interromper padrões automáticos hoje33:00 — Dor não tem ranking — o começo da cura

In this episode, Dr. Jo explores the toxic "should" statements that plague healthcare professionals and fuel burnout. She shares personal stories about breaking free from perfectionist expectations and introduces the powerful concept of "Gap vs. Gain" thinking from Dr Ben Hardy and Dan Sullivan's transformative book. Learn practical tools to distinguish between realistic professional standards and exhausting perfectionist expectations, including how to handle modern challenges like patients bringing AI-generated diagnoses to consultations. Dr. Jo provides actionable strategies to shift from self-criticism to self-compassion while maintaining clinical excellence. Resources Mentioned:"The Gap and the Gain" by Ben Hardy and Dan SullivanJournal of Occupational Health Psychology (2023 study on perfectionist expectations)Dr. Kristin Neff's research on self-compassionStanford Medical School research on healthcare professional expectations Connect with Dr. Jo:Join the weekly newsletter https://drjobraid.comFollow on social media www.instagram.com/burnoutrecoverydrShare your "should audit" insights with the community. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if the reason you feel depleted, disconnected, or like you just can't hear your own intuition — is because nobody ever taught you how to love yourself in the way your soul actually needs?Most of us are incredible at pouring love into the people around us. But when it comes to ourselves? Empty cup. Running on fumes.In this episode I'm taking Gary Chapman's “Five Love Languages” and turning them completely inward. We're talking about what each one looks like when you apply it to yourself, why it matters spiritually, and practical ways to actually start filling your own cup in the language your soul speaks.You'll learn:What all five love languages look like as self-love practicesWhy self-abandonment creates energetic and intuitive blocksHow to identify your primary self-love languageThe one-week challenge to start shifting your energy now✨This one comes with homework. The good kind.Show notes:Take the free love languages quiz: https://www.5lovelanguages.com Dr. Kristin Neff's self-compassion research: https://self-compassion.orgGet Joy's Free "Sign Magnet" 3 Day Mini Course HERE https://www.joyfulmedium.com/sign-magnetJoy's Website: www.joyfulmedium.comInstagram: @JoyfulMediumTikTok: @JoyfulMediumFacebook: @JoyfulMediumFacebook Group: Joy's Soul SpaYouTube: Psychic Medium Joy Giovanni 

In today's episode of The Worth Loving Podcast, we explore what it truly means to date with confidence after experiencing emotional abuse. Healing from emotional manipulation, gaslighting, or chronic invalidation changes the way you see yourself, your relationships, and your ability to trust. Dating again can feel overwhelming, but it can also be a powerful opportunity to reconnect with your intuition, your boundaries, and your worth.Drawing from the work of leading trauma and attachment researchers like Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, Dr. Judith Herman, Dr. Sue Johnson, and Dr. Kristin Neff, this episode breaks down why dating feels different after emotional abuse and how to rebuild the internal safety you need to choose healthy love.We'll talk about rebuilding self‑trust, recognizing red and green flags, moving at your own pace, and honoring your emotional needs without guilt. You'll also receive reflective questions to help you deepen your healing and approach dating with clarity and confidence.And don't forget be on the lookout for a special mini‑drop from our podcast artist Emory Rose, coming soon to all streaming platforms.In This Episode, You'll Learn:Why dating after emotional abuse feels overwhelming — and why that's normalHow trauma impacts your nervous system, intuition, and sense of safetyWhat rebuilding self‑trust looks like in practical, everyday waysHow to date at a pace that honors your healingThe difference between healthy attention and love bombingRed flags to watch for in early datingGreen flags that signal emotional safety and maturityHow to listen to your body and intuition while datingReflective questions to help you date with confidenceReflective Questions from Today's Episode:What does emotional safety feel like in my body?What are my non‑negotiables in dating?What red flags have I ignored in the past, and why?What green flags do I want to pay more attention to?How can I honor my pace in dating?What boundaries do I want to set early?How can I practice self‑trust this week?Coaching Program MentionedIf you're ready to go deeper in your healing journey, my 12‑week trauma‑informed coaching program You Are Worth Loving™ is designed to help you rebuild self‑trust, break unhealthy patterns, and choose relationships that feel safe and aligned. Enrollment opens soon — stay tuned.Submit Your Questions for Thursday's Q&A EpisodeEvery Thursday, we release a Q&A episode shaped entirely by your questions. If you'd like your question featured, email me at:

Jesus shows up on a beach after the worst week of his friends' lives and asks a disarmingly simple question: have you eaten anything? This week we push back against the lie of scarcity and practice the defiant, countercultural act of believing there is enough.   LINKS:  Current Conversation | Connect | YouTube |  Coming Up TRANSCRIPT: Eat Something: Waking Up to Being Fed The Question That Shouldn't Be Radical A beat of honesty to begin… This week's message is built around a phrase that should not be controversial. It shouldn't raise anyone's blood pressure. It shouldn't feel political. It shouldn't require courage to say. The phrase is: There actually is enough. And yet… depending on your life experience, where you grew up, what your bank account looks like, what neighborhood you're in… that phrase might land anywhere from obviously true to laughably false to offensive, because you don't know my life. So before we go anywhere else, let's hold all of that. Let's hold the complexity of that sentence in the room together. The Story… Breakfast on the Beach (John 21:1–14) Tell the story… Let's paint the scene: It's after the resurrection. The disciples are rattled, confused, grief-stained. They've seen what they've seen, but nothing has quite settled yet. So they do the thing people do when they don't know what else to do: they go back to work. Peter says, I'm going fishing. And the others say, We'll come too. They fish all night. They catch nothing. Then, as dawn is breaking, a figure appears on the shore. He calls out: "Hey, you don't have any fish, do you?" They say no. He tells them to throw the net on the other side of the boat. They do — and suddenly there are so many fish they can't haul the net in. And then — and this is one of my favorite mental pictures of Jesus ever — they get to shore, and he's already has a charcoal fire going. Fish already on it. Bread already there. He doesn't wait for them to bring what they caught and make it into something. There is already something prepared. And he says: "Come and have breakfast." There's no moment of like… “let's debrief the last week.” or “I need you to understand what just happened.” Come and have breakfast. Pull up some sand and have a seat. The first thing the newly-alive Jesus does with his bewildered, grieving, exhausted friends is to feed them. The Lie of Scarcity Now — here's where we need to be honest with each other, and honest about the world we actually live in. Because it is not true that everyone in this room or in this city, or this country has always had enough to eat. Or enough to feel safe. Or enough to rest. In 2024, nearly 1 in 7 U.S. households — that's 47.9 million people — experienced food insecurity at some point during the year. Nearly 1 in 5 households with children were food insecure, the highest rate since 2014.  And those numbers are not distributed evenly. Almost 1 in 4 Black households, 1 in 5 Hispanic households, and nearly 1 in 3 American Indian and Alaska Native households were food insecure in 2024 — at least double the rate for non-Hispanic white households. These inequities reflect the impact of structural barriers rooted in systemic racism and other forms of discrimination that result in higher rates of poverty.  So when we talk about scarcity — we have to say this plainly: for a lot of people in our lives and community, scarcity has not been a philosophical problem or a spiritual metaphor. It has been Tuesday. An embodied, lived reality. And we have to also say: that is not because the earth doesn't produce enough. It's not because there isn't enough food, or enough housing, or enough care to go around. The pie is plenty big. But the slices are cut unevenly.. Research from the Federal Reserve Board shows that Black families' median wealth was approximately 15% that of white families — $44,900 compared to $285,000 — in 2022. Studies indicate these racial disparities persist even when factors like income and education are accounted for, suggesting that pervasive racism embedded in historical, political, and economic systems continues to drive the gap.  Scarcity, as most of us experience it, is manufactured. It is the product of systems — empire systems, to use a biblical word — that concentrate abundance at the top and make the rest fight over the remainder. The problem is not that there isn't enough fish in the sea. The problem is who controls the nets. What Jesus Keeps Doing And this is where the Easter story opens up into something larger than one morning on a beach. Because if you read the Gospels as a whole — if you trace the arc of what Jesus actually did — you start to notice a pattern. Feeding keeps happening. Abundance keeps showing up in the middle of scarcity. Five loaves and two fish for thousands of people, and there are baskets left over. Water turned to wine at a wedding — not a trickle, but somewhere between 120 and 180 gallons. A woman who loses a coin and sweeps her whole house until she finds it, then throws a party that probably costs more than the coin. A father who sees his prodigal kid coming from a long way off and kills the fatted calf — we're celebrating tonight. Over and over, Jesus enacts this: there is enough. More than enough. Abundance is the character of the divine, not scarcity. And then he dies. And the people who crucified him — Rome, the religious gatekeepers, the systems that depended on keeping people in their place — they thought that was the end of it. But here's what resurrection means, in part: his teachings didn't die with him. The practices didn't die. The communities he formed kept forming. Throughout history, untold numbers of people, inspired by this life and death, have put their bodies and their resources on the line to insist — there is enough, and we're going to share it. The church at its best — not its worst, not its empire-adjacent self, but its best — has always been a community that takes the fish off the fire and says come and have breakfast. That is what resurrection looks like in a neighborhood. In a coalition. In a food pantry. In a protest. In a community that shows up, over and over, to say: the story of scarcity is a lie, and we're not going to live by it. What We're Doing Here, Fabric… And here's where I want to get concrete, because I think this community is doing exactly that kind of work — and I don't want us to miss it or undervalue it. Our new partnership with ISAIAH — a statewide coalition of congregations and allies working for racial and economic equity in Minnesota GuideStar — is one expression of this. ISAIAH was founded in 2000 and has won real, tangible things: healthcare access for all children regardless of immigration status, billions in public transit funding, paid leave, homeowners' rights. These are not small things. These are exactly the kind of retooling… taking systems built on scarcity and bending them toward abundance… that the beach breakfast points toward. When Fabric shows up in public — at Fabric on the Town events like this past Friday at Midtown Global Market, for Fabric in Action events, or simply at tables in the neighborhood— we are not doing outreach in the old-school sense of trying to recruit people to our club. We are practicing what it looks like to be a community that shows up and says: we're here. We see you. There's room at the table.  When you show up on Sunday, or in your Fabric group, or check in on someone during the week — you are participating in this same movement. You are part of a network that is slowly, stubbornly, defiantly insisting that there is enough connection, enough care, enough belonging to go around. This is not soft or peripheral… this is the work. The Hard Part: Receiving But here's where I want to gently push, because there's a move in this story that's easy to skip over. The disciples don't just witness the breakfast. Jesus tells them to bring what they caught — and they do. And then he says: come and eat. Receiving is part of this. And for a lot of us — especially those of us who've been trained by scarcity, by systems that told us our needs were a burden, by communities or families that taught us to make do and not ask — receiving is actually the harder practice. Self-compassion researchers Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer have spent years documenting something that resonates here: one of the key barriers to human flourishing is not a lack of generosity toward others, but an inability to extend that same generosity to ourselves. Their work in Mindful Self-Compassion identifies a move they call mindful awareness — which is simply this: noticing what is actually happening in your experience right now, without immediately narrating it, judging it, or trying to fix it. Not: I shouldn't feel this way. Not: Other people have it worse. Not: If I just work harder, I'll feel okay. Just: This is what is happening in me right now. That kind of honest, gentle noticing — of your own hunger, your own exhaustion, your own longing — is actually a prerequisite for being able to receive. You can't take food you don't know you need. Closing Practice So let's close with something simple. An invitation to practice mindful awareness — and what this story might call coming to the fire. Take a breath. Let your feet feel the floor. And ask yourself — without judgment, without fixing — one of these questions. Just one. Let whichever lands, land. Where am I running on empty right now? What kind of nourishment have I been telling myself I don't need, or don't deserve, or can wait?

In this gentle practice, psychologist Kristin Neff helps us extend loving kindness inward, offering ourselves the same care and goodwill we naturally give to others.How To Do This Practice: Settle into your body: Sit comfortably, close your eyes if you'd like, and take a few natural breaths while noticing the weight of your body in the chair and your feet on the floor. Bring to mind someone you love easily: Think of a person or pet you care about deeply and picture their face. Notice the natural warmth and goodwill you feel toward them. Offer them wishes for well-being: Silently repeat phrases such as: May you be safe. May you be peaceful. May you be healthy. May you be free from suffering. Include yourself in the circle of kindness: Imagine yourself beside this loved one and extend the same wishes to both of you: May we be safe. May we be peaceful. May we be healthy. May we be free from suffering. Turn the kindness fully toward yourself: Let the image of your loved one fade and focus on yourself. If it feels comfortable, place a hand on your heart or hold your hands together, repeating: May I be safe. May I be peaceful. May I be healthy. May I be free from suffering. Rest in whatever arises: Let the phrases go and sit quietly for a few breaths, noticing any feelings that are present—warmth, discomfort, or neutrality—and meeting them with gentle acceptance. Scroll down for a transcription of this practice.Listen to the Full Practice Here: https://self-compassion.org/practices/loving-kindness-meditation-2/Today's Happiness Break Guide:Dr. Kristin Neff is an associate professor in the University of Texas at Austin's department of educational psychology. She's also the co-author of 'Mindful Self-Compassion for Burnout,' which offers tools to help individuals heal and recharge from burnout.More Happiness Breaks like this one:A Self-Compassion Meditation For Burnout: https://tinyurl.com/45vpp3f4The Healing Power of Your Own Touch: https://tinyurl.com/y4ze59h8Take a Break With Our Loving-Kindness Meditation: https://tinyurl.com/2kr4fjz5Related Science of Happiness episodes:Why Compassion Requires Vulnerability: https://tinyurl.com/yxw4uhpfThe Science of Letting Go: https://tinyurl.com/566t8udfThe Contagious Power of Compassion: https://tinyurl.com/3x7w2s5sWe'd love to hear about your experience with this practice! Share your thoughts at happinesspod@berkeley.edu or use the hashtag #happinesspod.Find us on Apple Podcasts: https://tinyurl.com/2p9h5aapHelp us share Happiness Break! Leave a 5-star review and share this link: https://tinyurl.com/2p9h5aapTranscription: https://tinyurl.com/jc7pk3s4

Join us for "Between the Lines", an online series that brings the mindfulness community together to explore the books, papers, and other resources that have shaped the mindfulness field — alongside the authors and thinkers who created them.   In this insightful session, Kristin Neff responds to community questions from our book club–style discussion of her title, "Mindful Self-Compassion for Burnout: Tools to Help You Heal and Recharge When You're Wrung Out by Stress".   Our "Between the Lines" events will take place monthly over 2026. View more of our upcoming mindfulness courses and events ▶️ https://oxfordmindfulness.org/courses-events   Oxford Mindfulness is a not-for-profit organisation helping people achieve greater well-being and improved mental health through research-based mindfulness. Visit our website https://oxfordmindfulness.org/

Welcome to a powerful encore presentation of the “Better Than Fine” podcast. Hosted by wellness expert Darlene Marshall, this episode dives deep into self-compassion and the transformative tools you need to improve your mental health, resilience, and overall well-being.Are you your own worst critic? Do you struggle with negative self-talk and find it hard to treat yourself with kindness? In this special episode, you'll discover Kristin Neff's three-point model of self-compassion, backed by science and practical wisdom to help you break free from self-judgment and thrive—even in life's toughest moments.

HI Nurse friend, In this expanded follow-up to Episode 224, we go deep on one of the most powerful — and most overlooked — tools in burnout recovery: self-compassion. Not as a soft concept, but as an active, research-supported practice that can literally change your nervous system chemistry. And it's biblically based! In fact, Jesus said it was the second greatest commandment!  In this episode, we cover: The difference between self-love and self-compassion — and why you can have one without the other What Matthew 22:39 actually says about how you are meant to love yourself (the Greek changes everything) The research from Kristin Neff's Mindful Self-Compassion for Burnout — including a pilot program with healthcare workers that reduced all three core dimensions of burnout Why your inner critic is keeping your body in fight-or-flight — and how a wise inner coach changes that The one question that is at the heart of every self-compassion practice Ready to go deeper? Book your complimentary stress assessment and get personalized tools you can use — even in the middle of a 12-hour shift. Link below. Shalom Shalom,  Xx, Shan  ……CONNECT…… The STAT Protocol: 5 min Nervous system Reset + Mental Shift for Burnt Out                   Nurses (free gift) Take the Free QUIZ-  Are you in burnout or just stressed??

If the voice in your head gets cruel after divorce, it can feel like you'll never be “okay” again, even when you're doing everything you can to hold life together. I'm digging into the one skill that changes the entire healing process: self-compassion. Not the fake kind that says “it's all fine,” but the kind that helps you stay accountable without drowning in shame.I look at why self-criticism feels like motivation but actually keeps you stuck. When you beat yourself up, your nervous system reads it as danger, your danger response goes up, and the part of you that can problem-solve and make wise choices gets dimmer. It's why you can't hate yourself into healing. From there, I teach you how to easily start using self-compassion by becoming your own inner ally.I also share Kristin Neff's three elements of self-compassion and end with a simple, repeatable practice you can use the moment the “mean girl” voice shows up. If you're ready for deeper support, I also offer a free 30-minute call and one-on-one coaching for women navigating divorce and rebuilding self-trust.To download your FREE "Becoming You Again Podcast Map" click here. To schedule your complimentary consult with Karin click here.Struggling after divorce to get to know yourself? Click here to grab my $7 guide to get started!If this podcast resonated with you in any way, please take a minute to follow and give me a rating wherever you listen to podcasts.

“I’ve just started to tap into that, trusting a little bit faster over time. Because I see that when I make these decisions that feel aligned with what I want, and I believe is right for me, that on the other side, I haven’t regretted one of those decisions.” Allison Kahler Allison Kahler attended the Hoffman Process in 2024 after experiencing multiple big life changes. The Process helped her integrate these changes. One year later, Allison returned for the graduate Q2 in search of the catalyst that would move her forward into her new life. Before coming to the Process, Allison, who grew up in an “idyllic, loving, Catholic family,” felt tremendous guilt. Having had a ‘perfect childhood,’ she wondered if, instead of doing self-reflection work, she should just be grateful. But she found that even in a ‘perfect’ childhood, we still adopt patterns. Allison had adopted messages of perfection and proving worth through achievement. She had internalized the external pressure she felt as a child, with work being her number one focus in life. During her Process, Allison began to set the stage for her new life, realizing she is allowed to have dreams and desires. She started asking and listening to the quiet voice within. She started to develop a deeper trust in this voice. And she began to look for the spark that would launch her into her new life. A year post-Process, Allison came to Hoffman’s graduate retreat, the Q2. There, she found the catalyst she was looking for through an experience of self-compassion. Finding self-forgiveness lit the catalytic spark. By listening to the quiet voice within and developing her trust muscle through sustained action, Allison is now living into her new life. We hope you enjoy this uplifting conversation with Allison and Sadie. Listen on Apple Podcasts Listen on Spotify More about Allison Kahler: Allison, host of The D. Tales Allison Kahler is an executive coach and the host of The D. Tales with Allison Kahler. A recovering perfectionist and lifelong insecure overachiever, Allison spent nearly two decades in management consulting before realizing that much of her drive was fueled by fear, self-doubt, and deeply ingrained patterns formed early in life. After going through a divorce at 33, an experience that left her carrying years of guilt and shame, she made a series of life-altering changes: leaving a nearly 20-year consulting career, moving cross-country from Chicago to Santa Monica, and questioning not just her marriage and career, but who she was and who she wanted to become. Young Allison Allison's experience at The Process marked a profound turning point. Through a deep commitment to the daily tools and practices, she began to shed limiting beliefs, transform long-held patterns, and learn to meet herself with greater self-compassion. Today, Allison supports leaders and individuals navigating transition, working with organizations as an executive coach and advisor. She works with individuals through The D. Tales, her podcast. There, she shares real divorce stories and grounded conversations with experts about identity, healing, and rewriting the next chapter of their lives. At the heart of her work is a belief shaped by lived experience: that even our most painful life transitions can become powerful invitations to reconnect with who we truly are and move forward with greater clarity, courage, and self-trust. Discover more at AllisonKahler.com. Follow Allison on Instagram. Follow The D. Tales on Instagram and TikTok. As mentioned in this episode: The D. Tales with Allison Kahler — available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, and all major podcast platforms. The Hoffman Q2 Intensive Dates and Registration Kevin Eyres, Hoffman teacher – Listen to Kevin on the Hoffman Podcast: Beyond the Intellect Self-compassion: “Instead of mercilessly judging and criticizing yourself for various inadequacies or shortcomings, self-compassion means you are kind and understanding when confronted with your failings – after all, who ever said you were supposed to be perfect?” – KristenNeff, expert on self-compassion Listen to Kristin Neff on the Hoffman Podcast: Goodwill & Intention, the Magic Ingredients Hoffman Tools: •   Be-Do-Have vs. Do-Have-Be: The life we long for comes from Be-Do-Have; the life we are taught we should strive for comes from Do-Have-Be. •   Quad Check: Join our virtual Quad-Check at 8:00 am PT on Instagram. The Quad Check is a practice to guide you to check in with all four parts of your Quadrinity: Spiritual Self, Intellect, Emotional Self, and Body.    

In this encore episode, Kristen sits down with Dr. Kristin Neff to explore how self-compassion can help you break free from shame, quiet self-criticism, and build a more authentic and grounded relationship with yourself. You will learn: How to define self-compassion and the three core components that make it effective The difference between tender self-compassion and fierce self-compassion—and when to use each Why shame and self-criticism are so common (and how to break free from them) Practical tools and scripts to start speaking to yourself with kindness today How self-compassion impacts parenting, relationships, and your ability to set boundaries self-compassion.org If you'd like to buy any of Dr. Kristin Neff's books, please use the Amazon affiliate links below. Shopping through these links helps support the podcast at no extra cost to you! Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself Fierce Self-Compassion: How to Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Your Power, and Thrive   Subscribe HERE and get a free 5-day journal to begin closing the chapter on what doesn't serve you and open the door to the real you. Connect with Kristen: Get Kristen's newsletter, packed with tangible tools, resources, and inspiration Watch the episodes on YouTube Follow Kristen on Instagram   Kristen's TikTok   Have Kristen Speak at Your Event  Disclaimer This information is being provided to you for educational and informational purposes only. It is being provided to you to educate you about ideas on stress management and as a self-help tool for your own use. It is not psychotherapy/counseling in any form. This information is to be used at your own risk based on your own judgment. For counseling services near Indianapolis, IN, visit www.pathwaystohealingcounseling.com. Pathways to Healing Counseling's vision is to provide warm, caring, compassionate and life-changing counseling services and educational programs to individuals, couples and families in order to create learning, healing and growth.    

You've been trying to "do" intuitive eating…but it still feels messy, confusing, or like you're somehow getting it wrong. In this episode, I'm breaking down the REAL missing ingredient that no one is talking about: self-compassion. Not the fluffy "just love yourself" version, but the research-backed approach from Kristin Neff and Chris Germer that actually helps you change your behavior for good. We're diving into the balance of tender and fierce self-compassion, and why you need BOTH for intuitive eating to truly click. I'll show you how shame is the unseen driving force behind most of your struggles with food and body image, and how self-compassion is the antidote that allows you to build real trust with your body. If intuitive eating hasn't fully "worked" for you yet, this might be the piece you've been missing that changes everything for you.   Episode Highlights -Why shame is at the root of food struggles and how it blocks intuitive eating -The difference between tender and fierce self-compassion and when to use each -How self-compassion helps you stop the restrict-binge cycle and actually trust your body   Today's Wellness Woo is lipotropic injections.   Resources Mentioned - Kristin Neff's self-compassion website: https://self-compassion.org/    Read the full episode show notes here: https://katyharvey.net/podcast230    Resources for Your Intuitive Eating Journey Join My Intuitive Eating Made Easy Facebook Group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/306396290454800 Work with Katy: https://katyharvey.net/services Join Katy's weekly email newsletter: https://www.nondietacademy.com/newsletter    Connect with Katy Harvey Website: https://katyharvey.net Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katyharvey.rd/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KatyHarveyRD     Subscribe and Review   Rate, Review, & Follow on Apple Podcasts   I would be thrilled if you could rate and review my podcast! Your support helps me reach and encourage more people on their intuitive eating journeys. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select "Write a Review." Don't forget to share what you loved most about the episode!   Also, make sure to follow the podcast if you haven't already done so. Follow now!  

What does it actually mean to be kind to yourself… especially when things aren't going well?In this episode, Victoria explores the concept of Self Compassion — and why so many of us struggle to extend it inward, even though we offer it so freely to others. With honesty, reflection, and a few surprising insights, listen as Victoria unpacks how we respond to stress, failure, and the pressure we put on ourselves.It's Aries season, so you know what this means… DISC as Zodiac Signs (a little fun…)High D – direct, driven and achievement oriented so the corresponding zodiac signs are: Aries, Gemini and CapricornHigh I – friendly, emotional and persuasive and the signs are: Cancer, Libra, and Pisces High S – tenacious, kind and supportive so we have: Taurus, Leo and Sagittarius High C – analytical, perfectionistic and detail oriented which matches up to: Virgo, Scorpio and Aquarius Which one feels most like you?The conversation shifts into something deeper:How do you treat yourself when things go wrong?You'll hear:A breakdown of what self-compassion actually is (and what it's not)A look at Dr. Kristin Neff's research and self-compassion frameworkReal reflections from taking the self-compassion assessmentThe difference between tender self-compassion (soothing) and fierce self-compassion (taking action)Why being hard on yourself doesn't actually make you betterCommon myths that keep people stuck in self-criticismIf you tend to overthink, push yourself too hard, or feel like you “should be doing better,” this episode will help you shift the way you relate to yourself — without lowering your standards.Because self-compassion isn't about letting yourself off the hook.It's about giving yourself what you need to keep going.Previous DISCovering You Episode Mentioned: MindsetEpisode Timestamps:00:00 - Why This Topic Now00:32 - Show Intro and Mood Meter01:51 - DISC Meets Astrology04:49 - What Self Compassion Means06:09 - Self Compassion Quiz Walkthrough10:53 - Scores and Subscales13:24 - Tender vs Fierce Self Compassion15:41 - Benefits and Research Findings17:31 - Myths That Block Self Compassion19:53 - How to Practice and Resources20:19 - Gender Roles and Open Questions22:06 - Final Takeaway and OutroIf you're interested in learning more about team building, coaching, strategic hiring and onboarding, let's connect!discoverwhatworks@gmail.comhttps://pod.link/1614071253https://discoverwhatworks.org/https://www.facebook.com/VictoriaDISChttps://www.instagram.com/discoverwhatworks/https://www.linkedin.com/in/discoverwhatworksMentioned in this episode:Fast Facts

This episode encourages us to slow down and explore thetransformative power of self-compassion. It offers practical reflection questions to cultivate kindness towards oneself. Discover how self-compassion enhances happiness, resilience, and overall well-being.Keywords Self-compassion, mindfulness, mental health,self-care, resilience, kindness, emotional well-beingKey  TopicsSelf-compassion is the practice of becoming a good friend toyourself.It leads to greater happiness, motivation, and betterrelationships.Asking yourself what you need is crucial for self-care. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Self-Compassion and Mindfulness01:09 The Core of Self-Compassion: Removing Barriers to Love02:06 What Does the Bible Say About Self-Compassion?02:56 Benefits of Practicing Self-Compassion03:45 Reflecting on Sending Love to Your Body05:09 Words That Remind You of Your Choices06:24 Identifying Your Needs for Self-Compassion07:38 The Ongoing Practice of Self-Compassion08:07 Carrying Self-Compassion Into Your Daily Life ResourcesMindful Self-Compassion Workbook by Kristin Neff -https://www.amazon.com/Mindful-Self-Compassion-Workbook-Kristin-Neff/dp/1626258624

Bienvenidos a otro episodio de Recetas para el Alma.  Hoy vamos a hablar de algo que puede transformar radicalmente nuestra forma de vivir, de tratarnos y de sanar: la autocompasión. Nuestra invitada es Kristin Neff, pionera en el estudio científico de la autocompasión. Profesora de la Universidad de Texas, autora, madre, y sobre todo, una mujer que nos recuerda que ser humanos no es sinónimo de perfección, sino de humanidad compartida. Su investigación nos invita a tratarnos con la misma amabilidad con la que trataríamos a un ser querido en momentos de dolor. Hoy te traigo 10 ingredientes esenciales inspirados en sus enseñanzas. Cada uno es una llave para abrir una puerta interna, un recordatorio de que también mereces tu propia ternura. Si quieres un proceso de Coaching conmigo escríbeme a tucoachbravo@gmail.com me encantará poderte ayudar.
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In this solo deep-dive episode, Dr. Alexandra will be exploring rebounds. Maybe you are fresh out of a breakup and you've crossed paths with someone you're interested in, but you're scared that pursuing this feels “rebound-y” and therefore foolish. Maybe you're seeing someone who is recently out of a relationship and you're worried about becoming their rebound. Maybe you've had concerns about a rebounding couple in your world. Or maybe you're simply curious about the process of healing between relationships. Wherever you're coming from, this episode will surely leave you with a unique and nuanced perspective on healing before entering a new relationship that will be useful to you. First, Dr. Alexandra will talk about rebound relationships and dig into the rhetoric around them, including some surprising research that may run counter to the typical view of rebound relationships (and then some caveats to this research - shades of grey galore!). With this groundwork laid out, she is then going to offer you a 9-Task framework for doing a rebound with Relational Self-Awareness – how to keep a new relationship healthy while also continuing to process whatever your previous relationship left you with. And if you're the partner of someone who is rebounding, you can repurpose the framework for your own situation. Resources worth mentioning from the episode: The Surprising Benefits of a Rebound Relationship: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/sex-esteem/202601/the-surprising-benefit-of-a-rebound-relationship-after-a-breakup Reimagining Love episode, Why Self-Compassion is an Essential Practice with Dr. Kristin Neff: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/why-self-compassion-is-an-essential-practice-with/id1588419386?i=1000733838918 Reimagining Love episode, Talking About the Future: Navigating a Pace Discrepancy: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/talking-about-the-future-navigating-a-pace-discrepancy/id1588419386?i=1000578512125 Reimagining Love episode, "I Need Connection & My Partner Needs Space. Now What?": https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/i-need-connection-my-partner-needs-space-now-what/id1588419386?i=1000654782525 Continue the conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon: Ask a question! Submit your relationship challenge: https://form.jotform.com/212295995939274 Access Resources, like quizzes and courses: https://www.dralexandrasolomon.com/resources Order Dr. Alexandra's book, Love Every Day: https://bookshop.org/p/books/love-every-day-365-relational-self-awareness-practices-to-help-your-relationship-heal-grow-and-thrive-alexandra-solomon/19970421?ean=9781683736530 Cultivate connection by subscribing to Dr. Alexandra's Loving Bravely newsletter: https://newsletter.dralexandrasolomon.com/ Learn more on IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/ Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

In today's episode of The Worth Loving Podcast, we explore what it truly means to date with confidence after experiencing emotional abuse. Healing from emotional manipulation, gaslighting, or chronic invalidation changes the way you see yourself, your relationships, and your ability to trust. Dating again can feel overwhelming, but it can also be a powerful opportunity to reconnect with your intuition, your boundaries, and your worth.Drawing from the work of leading trauma and attachment researchers like Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, Dr. Judith Herman, Dr. Sue Johnson, and Dr. Kristin Neff, this episode breaks down why dating feels different after emotional abuse and how to rebuild the internal safety you need to choose healthy love.We'll talk about rebuilding self‑trust, recognizing red and green flags, moving at your own pace, and honoring your emotional needs without guilt. You'll also receive reflective questions to help you deepen your healing and approach dating with clarity and confidence.And don't forget be on the lookout for a special mini‑drop from our podcast artist Emory Rose, coming soon to all streaming platforms.In This Episode, You'll Learn:Why dating after emotional abuse feels overwhelming — and why that's normalHow trauma impacts your nervous system, intuition, and sense of safetyWhat rebuilding self‑trust looks like in practical, everyday waysHow to date at a pace that honors your healingThe difference between healthy attention and love bombingRed flags to watch for in early datingGreen flags that signal emotional safety and maturityHow to listen to your body and intuition while datingReflective questions to help you date with confidenceReflective Questions from Today's Episode:What does emotional safety feel like in my body?What are my non‑negotiables in dating?What red flags have I ignored in the past, and why?What green flags do I want to pay more attention to?How can I honor my pace in dating?What boundaries do I want to set early?How can I practice self‑trust this week?Coaching Program MentionedIf you're ready to go deeper in your healing journey, my 12‑week trauma‑informed coaching program You Are Worth Loving™ is designed to help you rebuild self‑trust, break unhealthy patterns, and choose relationships that feel safe and aligned. Enrollment opens soon — stay tuned.Submit Your Questions for Thursday's Q&A EpisodeEvery Thursday, we release a Q&A episode shaped entirely by your questions. If you'd like your question featured, email me at:

Kristin Neff, pioneering researcher and author of *Self-Compassion*, shares a groundbreaking case for why treating ourselves with kindness isn't indulgent — it's essential. Drawing on decades of academic research and personal reflection, Neff outlines how self-compassion transforms mental health, resilience, motivation, and even our relationship to ambition.The conversation spans parenting, education, culture, and the myth of the “perfect” self. Neff breaks down the differences between self-esteem and self-compassion, explores how shame and criticism undermine growth, and reveals how to rewire self-talk using neuroscience and contemplative practice. Her concept of self-worth isn't built on achievement or performance — it's rooted in humanity, connection, and presence.From emotional resilience and rumination to social comparison and cultural programming, this episode is a masterclass in learning to care for yourself — not as a reward for success, but as a prerequisite for thriving. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Send a textOn this episode of The Get Ready Before Life Happens Podcast, I spoke with Meghan Dwyer, CFP®, Certified Money Coach®, and host of the Money Isn't Scary podcast, about why money isn't scary when you understand your money story and build confidence. Key Takeaways:

Are you beating yourself up for dropping your New Year's resolutions? Are you losing your patience over tiny things and feeling guilty about it? It's not because you're failing—it's because your brain is at capacity.In this episode, we are talking about self-compassion, cognitive capacity, and how to give yourself (and your kids) grace when the demands of your environment exceed what you feel like you can handle. I'm introducing the "Brain Capacity Jar" and sharing how you can apply these practical SEL tools to your own life and classroom.

Anxiety is everywhere right now. It's in our culture, in our homes, and often in our own nervous systems. So how do we raise brave, resilient children without unintentionally reinforcing the fears we're trying to protect them from? I'm Dr. Shelly Mahon, your host, and in this episode of the Parenting Well Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Samantha Grigsby, clinical psychologist and founder of Foothills CBT, to break down what every parent needs to understand about how anxiety works and how to interrupt the cycle that keeps it growing. We explore how to distinguish normal developmental anxiety from anxiety that needs support, and why avoidance, though well-intended, often strengthens fear over time. Dr. Grigsby explains the anxiety cycle in practical terms and shares why Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) are gold-standard treatments for anxiety and OCD. We also discuss how rescuing, over-accommodating, minimizing stress, or offering constant reassurance can unintentionally perpetuate anxiety, as well as what supportive parenting actually looks like when a child is struggling. Finally, we examine the cultural pressures amplifying stress today and how to keep our own anxiety from shaping the emotional climate of our homes. Because bravery isn't the absence of anxiety. It's feeling it — and moving forward anyway. Register to hear her talk at the Stress & Anxiety Conference  In this podcast, we talk about: How to tell when anxiety is normal and when it's limiting your child The hidden ways loving parents accidentally reinforce anxiety Why avoidance and reassurance make anxiety stronger What actually works (CBT & ERP explained simply) How to stop passing your stress onto your child Key Takeaway: Avoidance might be contributing to your child's anxiety. The very things we do to reduce our child's distress can quietly make it stronger. Support and accommodation are not the same thing. One builds resilience. The other builds dependence. Do you see this in your family? Reassurance feels loving but it can train the brain to doubt itself. What happens when children learn to tolerate uncertainty instead Bravery doesn't mean calm. It means moving forward while your nervous system is loud. Your anxiety shapes the emotional climate of your home. Not because you're failing but because nervous systems are contagious. We live in an expectation-amplified world. Unrealistic standards, social comparison, and constant input may be fueling more stress than we realize. Self-criticism keeps the cycle alive. Self-compassion may be one of the most powerful anxiety interventions for both parent and child. You don't have to eliminate anxiety all together to raise a confident child. You may need to look at whether you are protecting them from having uncomfortable feelings. Resources: Website  LinkedIn Self-Compassion.org:  Kristin Neff's website has many exercises, guided meditations, and other resources on mindful self-compassion Book: Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents: 7 Ways to Stop the Worry Cycle and Raise Courageous & Independent Children. By Reid Wilson and Laura Lyons

What if every moment of self-compassion is actually a moment of waking up? In this very special episode of Insights at the Edge, Tami sits down with pioneering self-compassion researcher Kristin Neff and meditation teacher Caverly Morgan—two friends and compelling authors whose collaboration reveals how treating ourselves with kindness can become a lifeboat for our deepest nature.This conversation offers genuine transmission—not just concepts about awakening, but the palpable presence of realized teachers exploring the growing edge of spiritual understanding together. Originally aired on Sounds True One.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

 This week on the Finding God Podcast, we're stepping into a tender and deeply important conversation: how to reconnect with God after experiencing religious trauma. If you've ever felt afraid of God, unsure how to pray, or disconnected from your faith because of harmful church experiences, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and a gentle path forward.Religious trauma can distort your view of God, your sense of safety, and your ability to trust. But trauma does not have the final word. In this episode, Keana walks with you through what religious trauma is, how it affects your nervous system, and why your struggle to reconnect with God is a normal trauma response not a spiritual failure.Drawing from the work of leading trauma researchers like Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, Dr. Diane Langberg, Dr. Kristin Neff, and Dr. Stephen Porges, this episode blends psychology and faith in a way that honors both your story and God's heart.✨ In This Episode, We Explore:1. What Religious Trauma Really IsHow spiritual abuse, fear‑based teachings, and shame‑driven environments impact your relationship with God.2. How Trauma Distorts Your View of GodWhy your nervous system may associate God with fear, disappointment, or pressure — and how to gently untangle that.3. What Reconnection Actually Looks LikeA slow, non‑linear, compassionate process rooted in safety, honesty, and God's gentleness.4. Practical Ways to Reconnect With GodTrauma‑informed spiritual practices that don't rely on rituals, pressure, or performance.5. Signs You're Reconnecting (Even If It Feels Small)How to recognize subtle shifts that show your heart is healing.6. Reflection Questions for Your JourneyPrompts to help you explore your beliefs, fears, and hopes with God.

What if medicine's ancient rituals could evolve to heal the modern physician's soul, turning burnout into a blueprint for resilient leadership?In this episode, Dr. Andrea Austin speaks with Dr. Venkatesh Ramnath about his journey from ICU conflicts and existential doubt to pioneering the Health Architect model. Venkatesh recounts early career frictions like coding audits and rigid communication clashing with rural teams, that led to his 2015 rock bottom, and how embracing cognitive science, myths, and practical rituals helped him redesign his path. The conversation unpacks leadership as a learnable skill, the need to embed financial literacy and care networks in curricula, and fostering agency through evidence-based attitudes and collaborative debriefs.You'll hear how they:Navigate moral injury from systemic silos, using health architecture to layer foundations of ethics, diagnostics, and aspirational wellnessReframe leadership beyond hierarchy, teaching self-awareness and trust-building to bridge academic ideals with real-world teamsAdvocate for curriculum overhauls, sprinkling scientific attitudes, financial savvy, and quality-of-death discussions into every disease pathwayInspire renewal through slowing down, curiosity-driven creativity, and a "new oath" prioritizing human connection over helplessnessIf you're rebuilding after burnout or redesigning med ed for the AI era, this episode offers a blueprint for wisdom over facts, progress over perfection.About the Guest:“Health architecture is about building foundations of agency and connection.” – Dr.  Venkatesh RamnathDr. Venkatesh Ramnath  is a pulmonary and critical care physician, health architect, writer, and host of the Be a Health Architect podcast. With experience spanning academic centers, rural border hospitals, and COVID ICUs, he transitioned from burnout to advocacy by fusing medicine with cognitive science and architecture metaphors.  Venkatesh speaks on leadership, meaning-making, and innovation, contributing to outlets like the LA Times, and is authoring a book on a "new oath" for physician wellness.

Welcome to another episode of the Sustainable Clinical Medicine Podcast! In this interview, Dr. Nikia Smith, a board-certified anesthesiologist, wellness coach, and retreat curator, shares how she experienced burnout twice during her attending career and nearly left medicine. She describes early warning signs (persistent fatigue despite rest, increasing irritability, and eventual emotional numbness and autopilot), and links her initial burnout to chronic understaffing after colleagues left and a lack of administrative support, including being told the team was “handling it so well” that additional hires were unnecessary. After a near-20-hour call shift, she set boundaries by refusing further call, began educating herself on burnout, compassion fatigue, and self-compassion (including reading Kristin Neff), and rebuilt recovery through small, joy-based habits, movement (starting with Pilates), and reconnecting with community. She ultimately left a job that would not put agreed terms into a contract, moved to a no-call role to regain nights and weekends, and later negotiated for a part-time contract; she now works in Las Vegas under a contract requiring eight days per month, aligned with her goal of working 10 days or less. Dr. Smith explains how her personal retreat became an annual four-day wellness retreat for physicians (expanding to other clinicians) that includes CME and group learning on moral injury, perfectionism, invisible labor/“third shift,” and practical strategies such as boundary-setting, negotiating schedules, and mutual support (including helping participants craft emails). She advises clinicians to talk to others to learn what's possible, keep asking for what they need (e.g., administrative time for committee work), and recognize that burnout recovery is not a quick fix but a process of re-engaging with self and community. Here are 3 key takeaways from this episode: Burnout Recovery Takes Time and Intentional Action: Burnout develops gradually over years, and recovery requires more than just rest. Dr. Smith emphasizes reconnecting with activities that bring joy and energy (like movement, hobbies, and community), even when exhausted. Small, consistent steps—like 5-minute walks or puzzles—can help rebuild your capacity to recharge. Advocate for Your Non-Negotiables: Healthcare systems often claim certain accommodations are "impossible" until you're ready to leave. Dr. Smith successfully negotiated no-call schedules and eventually part-time work (8-10 days/month) by persistently asking and being willing to walk away. She encourages clinicians to keep asking for what they need and get terms in writing. Systemic Issues Require Personal Boundaries: While healthcare systems prioritize profits over provider wellbeing, waiting for institutional change isn't sustainable. Dr. Smith learned to set firm boundaries—like refusing additional committee work without administrative time, and leaving jobs that wouldn't honor her needs. The solution involves both advocating for systemic change and taking personal responsibility for protecting your wellbeing. Meet Dr. Nikia Smith: Dr. Nikia Smith is a practicing board-certified anesthesiologist, wellness coach, and retreat facilitator. She's also the founder of She Is Fire Forged, a transformative wellness brand that helps high-achieving women of color reclaim their peace, power, and purpose. With over a decade (and counting!) of experience in the high-stress world of medicine, Nikia brings a deeply informed lens to conversations around burnout, boundaries, and emotional restoration. Nikia specializes in guiding women—especially Black women in leadership and healthcare—through the exhaustion that comes from constantly being everything for everyone. She equips her clients with the tools to say no without guilt, build lives rooted in their own definitions of success, and live in softness over survival mode. Through retreats, coaching, and community care, Nikia curates spaces where women are invited to pause, reset, and reimagine what thriving truly looks like. Her work blends evidence-based wellness tools with embodied spiritual practice, creating a holistic path forward rooted in softness, sustainability, and self-trust. She's also been featured as a guest on the Docs Get Money and Free to Be Mindful podcasts. Outside of her work, Nikia prioritizes rest, joy, and connection. You'll find her reading, recharging with loved ones, and spending time with her niece, modeling what's truly possible for a strong and powerful woman in this world. Connect with Dr. Nikia Smith:

Dr. Kristin Neff, pioneering self-compassion researcher, author, and teacher, talks about the power and benefits of practicing self-compassion as parents to differently wired children. In our conversation, Kristin shares what she has learned about self-compassion, both through her research and her own experiences parenting an autistic child. She goes deep into what self-compassion really looks like,  why we are often more compassionate to others than ourselves, and shares some strategies for strengthening that self-compassion muscle both for ourselves and our kids.  ABOUT DR. NEFF Kristin Neff is an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. She is a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research, conducting the first empirical studies on self-compassion over fifteen years ago. She has co-developed an empirically supported training program called Mindful Self-Compassion, and is author of the books Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself, Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook, and Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program: A Guide for Professionals.   THINGS YOU'LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE: How Dr. Neff got into the work of self-compassion research What it looks like to practice self-compassion Why we judge ourselves so harshly and what keeps us from being a better self-friend What it means to practice self-comfort Strategies parents can use to accept and BE with their suffering How to teach kids and teens about self-compassion   RESOURCES MENTIONED:  Dr. Kristin Neff's website Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Dr. Kristin Neff The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook:  A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive by Kristin Neff:  Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program: A Guide for Professionals by Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Learn to meet your struggles with kindness through this gentle meditation developed by Chris Germer and Kristin Neff. This practice guides you through working with a moderately stressful situation in your life, whether it's a health concern, relationship difficulty, or work pressure, using the three pillars of self-compassion: mindfulness, common humanity, and self-kindness.

One of the most persistent myths about self-compassion is that it's selfish. But in reality, self-compassion connects us to the rest of humanity – and it's a critical pathway to thriving.  Dr. Kristin Neff is a pioneer in the study of self-compassion. As Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas and founding director of the Self-Compassion Institute, Kristin has spent decades researching the mind-altering power of self-compassion. Kristin's findings show that kindness is a better motivator than criticism, and she breaks down how self-compassion connects to healthy spirituality. Kristin also talks openly about how self-compassion helped her face challenges through her divorce and in parenting her son, who's on the autism spectrum.   You will walk away from this episode with a three-step plan for self-compassion - and a simple practice if you don't know where to get started. Links and resources The Self-Compassion Institute Guided practices About Dr. Kristin Neff With & For is a podcast of the Thrive Center, an applied research center that exists to catalyze a movement of human thriving, with and for others through spiritual health. Learn more at thethrivecenter.org. Follow us on Instagram @thrivecenter Follow us on LinkedIn @thethrivecenter Dr. Pamela Ebstyne King hosts With & For, and is the Executive Director of the Thrive Center and the Peter L. Benson Professor of Applied Developmental Science at the School of Psychology & Marriage and Family Therapy at Fuller Seminary. Follow her @drpamking. About With & For Host: Pam King Senior Director and Producer: Jill Westbrook Operations Manager: Lauren Kim Social Media & Graphic Designer: Wren Juergensen Senior Producer: Clare Wiley Executive Producer: Jakob Lewis Produced by Great Feeling Studios Special thanks to the team at Fuller Studio and Fuller Seminary's School of Psychology & Marriage and Family Therapy. The podcast was made possible through the support from the John Templeton Foundation. The opinions expressed in this publication are those of the host and guests, and do not necessarily reflect the views of the John Templeton Foundation.

Mid-January is when most women feel the inner critic ramp up. If you're feeling the pressure, the comparison, the self-judgment — this episode will set you free. You're about to learn: My personal story of losing 50 pounds by becoming my own ally Why fighting with yourself guarantees that everyone loses Kristin Neff's research on the brutal things we say to ourselves The Connie Rice story: 20 years of lawsuits vs. one compassionate question Why you cannot legislate behavior change — in yourself or anyone else How compassion led to a 70% drop in homicides in Watts The critical mindset shift from "What's wrong with me?" to "What do I need?" How collaboration with yourself unlocks solutions you couldn't see before Key Takeaway: Compassion isn't weakness — compassion is power. When you stop being your own enemy, everything gets easier. Ready to stop the internal war? Inside Love Yourself Thin, you get lifetime access to tools that transform you from critic to collaborator so change finally sticks. Learn more: https://daratomasson.com   Take my self-assessment quiz to find out what subconscious food thoughts are holding you back from your weight loss goals - https://dara-tomasson-coaching.mykajabi.com/self-assessment-uncovering-subconscious-food-beliefs   Follow me on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/dara_tomasson  Watch this episode (and more!) on my YouTube channel - https://youtu.be/7lbAPfmnWJg   

With & For is back with a brand new season exploring spiritual health.  What is healthy  spirituality exactly, and how does it help us thrive? How do spiritual practices connect us to others? And what does it mean to have a calling in life?  We have some incredible guests this season – leading thinkers from across faith, art and psychology – like author activist Parker Palmer, self-compassion pioneer Kristin Neff, developmental scientist Richard Lerner and How God Works host David DeSteno. Hosted by development psychologist, ordained minister and professor Dr. Pam King,  With & For bridges psychology and spiritual wisdom to help you thrive.  Season three launches January 26th.  The Thrive Center is an applied research center that exists to catalyze a movement of human thriving, with and for others through spiritual health. Learn more at thethrivecenter.org. Follow us on Instagram @thrivecenter Follow us on LinkedIn @thethrivecenter Dr. Pamela Ebstyne King is the Executive Director of the Thrive Center and the Peter L. Benson Professor of Applied Developmental Science at the School of Psychology & Marriage and Family Therapy at Fuller Seminary. Follow her @drpamking. About With and For Host: Pam King Senior Director and Producer: Jill Westbrook Operations Manager: Lauren Kim Social Media & Graphic Designer: Wren Juergensen Senior Producer: Clare Wiley Executive Producer: Jakob Lewis Produced by Great Feeling Studios Special thanks to the team at Fuller Studio and Fuller Seminary's School of Psychology & Marriage and Family Therapy. The podcast was made possible through the support from the John Templeton Foundation. The opinions expressed in this publication are those of the host and guests, and do not necessarily reflect the views of the John Templeton Foundation.

This conversation is an invitation to slow down and remember that the adventure is not waiting somewhere else. It is happening right here.This is the full episode with Tara Wear, a coach and facilitator with over 30 years of experience supporting leaders and women through growth, burnout, and transition. Tara and I met through the TEDx Spokane community, where she coached me through my upcoming talk, and this conversation felt like a natural deepening of that shared journey.We talk about burnout, emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and the pressure so many women feel to overdo, overthink, and constantly improve. Tara shares her personal path into coaching, group work, and leadership, including how healing, community, and compassion shaped the work she offers today through Ready to Thrive Coaching.We explore the balance between being and doing, the power of intention, breath, and grounding, and why safe community matters when we are trying to grow without losing ourselves. This episode is about choosing again, listening inward, and learning to thrive without abandoning your needs.Tara also shares about her Women's Winter Book Club and Thrive Circles, spaces designed for women to practice self-compassion and connection together.Key takeaways • You can choose again, even in the middle of burnout • Self-awareness creates space for real change, not forced improvement • Thriving happens when being and doing are allowed to exist togetherA reflection to try Pause today and notice where you are pushing to be better instead of listening to what you need. Take one small action that supports your body, breath, or heart, not because you earned it, but because you are here.Links and resourcesWebsite https://readytothriveco.comEmail: thrivewithtaraw@gmail.comWomen's Winter Book Club Thrive CircleBook Mindful Self-Compassion for Burnout by Dr. Kristin Neff and Dr. Christopher Germer: Send us a text Support the show✨ Join My TEDx Spokane Journey! Get early updates, BTS moments, and reflections as I prep for TEDx Spokane.

Sometimes the adventure does not arrive as a bold leap. Sometimes it begins in a quiet moment when we realize we can choose again. In this short preview conversation, I sit down with Tara Wear, an experienced coach and leader who has spent more than 30 years supporting individuals and teams in becoming their best selves.We first connected through the TEDx Spokane community, where Tara supported me as I prepared my upcoming talk, and this conversation opened up so much wisdom. We talk about burnout, leadership, intention, and self-awareness, especially during seasons like the holidays or the transition into a new year. Tara reminds us that intention is not something we set once and forget. Every moment offers a choice, and every choice creates a new way forward.This episode is a short teaser and preview of our full conversation, which will be released in the coming days. In the full episode, we go deeper into Tara's coaching work with women, her shift toward burnout recovery and thriving, and even a word she uses that surprised me and may surprise you, too.Tara also shares about her upcoming Women's Winter Book Club focused on self-compassion and burnout recovery, where women will read, reflect, and practice together in a small group setting.A reflection to tryNotice one moment today where you feel rushed, overwhelmed, or self-critical. Pause, take one slow breath, and ask yourself, What would it look like to choose again right here? Let the answer be simple.If you are feeling tired, overwhelmed, or quietly longing for something more grounded, let this be a gentle pause. The adventure is already here.Links and resources mentionedWebsite https://readytothriveco.comEmail: thrivewithtaraw@gmail.comWomen's Winter Book Club details under Packages: https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages/185601Book Mindful Self-Compassion for Burnout by Dr. Kristin Neff and Dr. Christopher Germer: https://a.co/d/h10F5YnSend us a text Support the show✨ Join My TEDx Spokane Journey! Get early updates, BTS moments, and reflections as I prep for TEDx Spokane.

In this solo episode, Lisa examines radical acceptance as the foundation for change: acceptance is not approval, agreement, or resignation, but the willingness to be fully with “what is” without fighting reality. Drawing on Danielle LaPorte's quote and the paradoxical theory of change—transformation begins by fully being where you are—Lisa emphasizes that acceptance reduces suffering and grounds orderly behavioral change. Integrating tender and fierce self-compassion, she outlines physiological safety as a prerequisite for action, practical somatic tools to embody acceptance, and a middle-path approach to food and body that avoids the extremes of diet culture and anti-diet complacency. Topics Include:Radical AcceptanceParadoxical Theory of ChangePhysiological SafetyIntentional Weight Loss[4:28] Lisa clarifies the concept of radical acceptance, a foundational idea often misunderstood as approval, agreement, or resignation. She explains that it is presented as the paradoxical first step required for any meaningful personal change. Lisa explains that to achieve transformation, one must first fully accept their current reality, behaviors, and position without trying to force a change. This acceptance is not approval but the act of ceasing to fight against what is.[13:49] Lisa explains that understanding acceptance conceptually is not enough; it must be an embodied practice. Lisa discusses that resistance to one's current situation often manifests physically as a fight-or-flight response which signals danger to the brain preventing healthy change and the key is to shift this physiological state.[37:39] Lisa explains that it is possible to hold the duality of accepting the reality of a behavior's occurrence or a body's current state while simultaneously wanting to change it. The key is the order of operations: first, accept the reality without resistance to remove the internal conflict. Then, from that place of embodied safety, take intentional action toward change.[57:50] Lisa challenges labeling the part of oneself that resists food rules as an "inner rebel." It reframes this energy as a protective instinct and distinguishes between productive and unproductive uses of anger. Lisa explains that  recognizing that your behaviors aren't working is a moment of telling the truth and this act of taking ownership is a form of fierce self-compassion that motivates you to show up differently.  [1:04:14] Lisa explores Dr. Kristin Neff's concepts of tender self-compassion and fierce self-compassion, emphasizing that both are necessary for genuine change. Lisa talks about how diet culture exemplifies fierceness without tenderness, making it aggressive and disconnecting people from their bodies. The anti-diet movement can become tenderness without fierceness, leading to complacency and self-neglect. Lisa explains how a balanced, middle path is needed.[1:14:17] Lisa wraps up this episode with a summary of what is coming next: stages of change, how to actually move through some changes, how this relates to intentional weight loss, and what it looks like to really, again, integrate not just the energies of tender and fear self-compassion, but the behaviors, the changes, and all of the other follow-up thoughts that she might have on this episode.*The views of podcast guests do not necessarily reflect the views and beliefs of Lisa Schlosberg or Out of the Cave, LLC.LISA IS NOW ACCEPTING: One-on-One Clients!⁠Purchase the OOTC book of 50 Journal Prompts⁠⁠Leave Questions and Feedback for Lisa via OOTC Pod Feedback Form ⁠Email Lisa: ⁠lisa@lisaschlosberg.com⁠⁠Out of the Cave Merch⁠ - For 10% off use code SCHLOS10Lisa's Socials: Instagram⁠ ⁠Facebook⁠ ⁠YouTube⁠