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Episode 23 TITLE Narcissism and the Highly Sensitive Person GUEST Dr. Natalie Jones EPISODE OVERVIEW What is narcissism? What does it look like in relationships (romantic and parental).  Gaslighting—what is it? The connection between narcissists and HSPs (partners and parents). The HSP is often the scapegoat in the family.  There may be a golden child and the children are pitted against each other. If you have a parent who is narcisstic, the HS child often feels guilty and believes what the narcissistic   parent tells them (you’re too sensitive; too selfish; you never call me; you don’t care).  Once people understand narcissism, they see that the limitation is in the parent, NOT the HSP. The energy of the room changes when the narcissist enters the room, and leaves the room.  You can FEEL the energy shift. HIGHLIGHTS What someone who is in a relationship with someone with narcissistic  traits may be experiencing Anxiety, depression, ambivalence Not sure where they stand in the relationship Unable to discuss serious problems Don’t’ know the future of the relationship Self-doubt and questioning Partner isn’t meeting your emotional needs What do narcisstic traits look like? It’s on a spectrum—mild, moderate, medium and severe They feel better than you They are in their own special category—they feel “special” and “above” you Hypocracy—do as I say, but not as I do—these rules apply to you, but not to me They objectify people—everything is seen as property and an extension of the narcissist You can make decisions without their approval There is danger when you want to leave the relationship They have a God-like or superior complex The believe they are special/beautiful and surround themselves with others they perceive to have the same superior qualities Narcisstic Personality Disorder is one of the cluster B Personality Disorders, among Antisocial Personality Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder & Histrionic Personality Disorder Fully Diagnosed Narcisstic Personality Disorder affects approximately 1-2% of the population. These are rare and extreme cases, and they tend to be part of the criminal justice system. What are red flags in the beginning of a relationship so you can spot someone with narcisstic traits? They have inconsistent, tumultuous, and short-term relationships with family, friends and partners. They are either the hero or the victim They appear too good to be true. They can be super charming, good looking and win people over easily in the beginning The move quickly in relationships. They have whirlwind romances; have sex early on in a relationship; rush to get married; rush to have children There is a degree of secrecy re: prior relationships. You feel like you don’t really know them, and they won’t discuss their problems They introduce you to family and close friends very quickly, but you seem to be insignificant to family and friends since they are always introducing a new partner What types of people do narcissists tend to look for in partners? People they can control, pressure or subject a position of power over or they can easily isolate They like empathic people like Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) because they can play their heartstrings and the HSP is more likely to forgive them They won’t seek out other narcissists or powerful people (too much conflict) People who have a history or trauma, so they can retraumatize you and they know how to find your wounds and use them against you They tend to align themselves with people (not partners) of greater status They name drop—people they don’t know, but it’s to feel powerful What is gaslighting? It’s psychological brainwashing Manipulating someone psychologically so that person questions their reality The person doesn’t trust their own perceptions or themselves It’s like living in the Twilight Zone Jim Jones is an example They will compliment and degrade you in the same sentence They will change the topic in order to deflect or to blame They will triangulate with a 3rd party to invalidate you and make you doubt yourself They project their insecurities onto you They have tantrums and showdowns—especially on holidays or special occasions and you feel bad and doubt yourself. What does it look like if you have a narcisstic parent? The parent is not invested in your or the problems that come up for you They will make it about them—i.e., Had it not been for me, then you (minimize your experience) They often will just say, “Because I’m your mother/father.” They will tell you, “That’s not a real problem.” People who have a narcisstic parent may dissociate, turn the radio up, or find ways to “check out.” They may keep contact with the narcisstic parent short and sweet Narcisstic parents will call their children names, take advantage of them, expect them to care for the other siblings You can feel the energy in the room change when a narcissist enters and when they leave the room.  It’s like they pull energy from the room, and everyone feels it. RESOURCES Podcasts A Date With Darkness—Dr. Natalie Jones  https://drnataliejones.com/podcast/ Codependency No More—Brian Piser https://www.codependencynomore.com/category/podcast/ Love Junkie: Help for the Relationship Obsessed, Love Addicted, & Codependent—Shena Tubbs https://www.listennotes.com/podcasts/love-junkie-help-for-the-relationship-uNjKz54H8fe/ Books Toxic Parents by Susan Forward Mothers Who Can’t Love by Susan Forward Unspoken Legacy: Addressing the Impact of Trauma and Addiction within the Family by Claudia Black Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men  By Lundy Bancroft The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide To Changing The Patterns Of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner   The Dance of Intimacy: A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships by Harriet Lerner   The Dance of Fear: Rising Above Anxiety, Fear, and Shame to Be Your Best and Bravest Self by Harriet Lerner    Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change  by Robin Norwood Confessions of a Narcissist by HG Tudor (there are MANY books by this author) Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic  Mothers by Dr. Karyl McBride Ph.D.   Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration  by Karen C.L. Anderson Surviving Mama An Adult Daughter’s Guide by Dr. Pamela Everett Thompson Youtuber Kim Saeed-- https://www.youtube.com/user/LetMeReach           BIO Dr. Natalie Jones, PsyD., LPCC is a Licensed professional clinical counselor and a post doctoral intern. She currently has a private practice called Lifetime Counseling and Consulting in CA where she specializes in working with women who have been in emotionally and psychologically abusive relationships with narcissists, as well as with individuals who were previously incarcerated for various crimes. Dr. Jones has a podcast called A Date With Darkness Podcast, which specializes in providing education and tips from healing from narcissistic  relationships. Dr. Jones received her masters in clinical counseling psychology from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology in Chicago, IL, and her doctorate in clinical psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology in San Francisco, CA. Dr. Jones has also written blogs for the Mind Journal and PsychCentral.   PODCAST HOST   Patricia Young, LCSW is a therapist in San Diego who is in private practice.  Patricia works primarily with Highly Sensitive People (HSP) helping them understand their HSPness, and to turn their perceived shortcomings into superpowers.  Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts they have to offer.  Patricia provides online (telehealth) therapy to people who live in California.  We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have therapy from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out.   LINKS https://www.drnataliejones.com https://www.adatewithdarkness.com. IG: https://www.instagram.com/dr.nataliejones/ IG2: https://www.instagram.com/adatewithdarknesspodcast/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/drnataliejones/ FB2: https://www.facebook.com/adatewithdarkness/ FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/196036654267594/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Dr_NatalieJones Twitter 2: https://twitter.com/ADateWDarkness   To write a review in itunes: click on this link https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/unapologetically-sensitive/id1440433481?mt=2 select “view in itunes” chose “open in itunes” choose “ratings and reviews” click to rate the number of starts click “write a review”     Website--www.patriciayounglcsw.com Podcast--www.unapologeticallysensitive.com Facebook--https://www.facebook.com/Patricia-Young-LCSW-162005091044090/ Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive-- https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/ Instagram--https://www.instagram.com/unapologeticallysensitive/ Youtube--https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOE6fodj7RBdO3Iw0NrAllg/videos?view_as=subscriber e-mail—unapologeticallysensitive@gmail.com Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive MUSIC—Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com  

When is the last time you evaluated your community? Some of us are dealing with unhealthy relationships and suffering in silence. Dr. Jones teaches us how to determine if our current support is inadequate and how to find support that best meets our needs. Dr. Natalie Jones, PsyD, LPCC is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor and a Post-Doctoral Psychologist. She currently has a private practice called Lifetime Counseling and Consulting in Oakland, CA where she specializes in working with women who have been in emotionally and psychologically abusive relationships with narcissists, as well as with individuals who were previously incarcerated for various crimes. Dr. Jones also works for the California Dept of Corrections and specializes in providing individual/group counseling and assessments to prison inmates who have committed various offenses, with a specialization in working with sex offenders. Dr. Jones has a podcast called A Date With Darkness Podcast, which specializes in providing education and tips from healing from narcissistic relationships. Dr. Jones received her Master’s in Clinical Counseling Psychology from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology in Chicago, IL, and her Doctorate in Clinical Psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology in San Francisco, CA. Dr. Jones has also written blogs for the Mind Journal and PsychCentral. Special Guest: Dr. Natalie Jones Website: https://www.drnataliejones.com https://www.adatewithdarkness.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.nataliejones/ https://www.instagram.com/adatewithdarknesspodcast/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drnataliejones/ https://www.facebook.com/adatewithdarkness/ https://www.facebook.com/groups/196036654267594/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Dr_NatalieJones https://twitter.com/ADateWDarkness Where to find us Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drjanaetaylor/ https://www.facebook.com/groups/474095289596388/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drjanaetaylor/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/Mindingmyblkbiz Email: info@mindingmyblackbusiness.com Website: www.mindingmyblackbusiness.com Don’t forget to Like, Subscribe, and Comment!