Podcasts about Clinical psychology

Susan is a Relationship Coach and Public Speaker, who is passionate about helping people to feel confident and empowered in their lives.  Her specialties include dating, relationships, divorce, self-confidence, mindset and communication. More specifically, she helps singles to date more successfully, couples to strengthen their connection, and people going through divorce to navigate the process with more confidence and peace of mind. She coaches individuals and couples, facilitates support groups, and loves to teach.  Susan has her doctorate in Clinical Psychology and was a therapist for over 20 years. Her extensive background in psychology, therapy and coaching gives her a unique perspective in helping people to achieve greater joy, satisfaction and success in their relationships and in all areas of their lives.    Check out Susan : https://www.susantrotterphd.com/

Welcome to Loving You The Podcast! Episode 13 (Boundaries) Join Debbie Lopez & Dr. Ciara Dennis-Morgan as they discuss boundaries and how to apply them in your life. Dr. Ciara holds a PhD in Clinical Psychology and is the chief clinical and wellness officer at Minority Behavioral Group. Join the conversation and share it with your friends.     Catch Debbie Lopez Every Tuesday 2:35 PM EST On New Yorks #1 For indie Music www.soulcaferadio.com Catch all Episodes By Clicking here https://lopezdeborah2025.podbean.com/

What if real resilience isn't about pushing through, but knowing when to pause, adapt, and reconnect with what matters?Clinical psychologist and global mental health expert Dr. Ross White joins Eli to discuss psychological flexibility, athlete mental health, and why success should include well-being not just achievement. Together, they explore what it means to thrive in high-performance environments without sacrificing mental well-being. Whether you're an athlete, a parent, or someone feeling stretched thin by life, this conversation invites you to rethink resilience not as rigid toughness, but as the ability to bend with purpose.Inspired by his book The Tree That Bends, this episode is packed with insights for anyone navigating high-pressure environments, from sports to everyday life.

Unless you've accessed mental health support before, you might not even know there's such thing as a psychological or counselling assessment. And even if you're aware of it, in my experience, it isn't really until your postgraduate qualificationthat you learn about the role of a clinical psychologist in a psychological assessment. In an effort to breach this gap and help raise awareness of assessments, I want to share and reflect on my experiences of the counselling assessment I had for my specialist rape counselling. By the end of this brilliant and fascinating clinical psychology podcast episode, you'll understand what happens during a counselling assessment, what makes a good assessment versus a bad one and how you might want to use this knowledge in your own clinical practice in the future. If you enjoy learning about mental health, psychotherapy and counselling psychology then this will be a great episode for you.In the psychology news section, you'll learn about how "Hello Again" letters help reconnection after brain injury, how facial mimicry happens when we disagree too, and how peers' work performance influences pay requests. LISTEN NOW!If you want to support the podcast, please check out:FREE AND EXCLUSIVE 8 PSYCHOLOGY BOOK BOXSET- https://www.subscribepage.io/psychologyboxsetClinical Psychology Reflections Volume 6: Thoughts On Mental Health, Psychotherapy and Abnormal Psychology- https://www.connorwhiteley.net/clinical-psychology-reflections-volume-6 Available from all major eBook retailers and you can order the paperback and hardback copies from Amazon, your local bookstore and local library, if you request it. Also available as an AI-narrated audiobook from selected audiobook platforms and libraries systems. For example, Kobo, Spotify, Barnes and Noble, Google Play, Overdrive, Baker and Taylor and Bibliotheca. Patreon- patreon.com/ThePsychologyWorldPodcast#counseling #counselling #psychotherapy #clinicalpsychology #mentalhealth #clinicalmentalhealth #clinicalpsychologist #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsupport #mentalhealthadvocate #psychology #psychology_facts #psychologyfacts #psychologyfact #psychologystudent #psychologystudents #podcast #podcasts

Dr. Kirsty Hird, a Research Officer in the Youth Mental Health team at The Kids Research Institute Australia, adds to Episode 1 of The Psychology of Self-Injury podcast by explaining in depth and in layman's terms why people self-injure according to the six most common/popular theoretical models. Connect with Dr. Hird on LinkedIn here, view her staff profile here, and follow her on ResearchGate here. Below are two of her papers related to today's interview as well as a few other resources referenced in this episode:Hird, K., Hasking, P., & Boyes, M. (2023). A comparison of the theoretical models of NSSI. In E.E. Lloyd-Richardson, I. Baetens, & J. Whitlock (Eds.), The Oxford handbook of nonsuicidal self-injury (pp. 24-40). Oxford University Press.Hird, K., Hasking, P., & Boyes, M. (2022). Relationships between outcome expectancies and non-suicidal self-injury: Moderating roles of emotion regulation difficulties and self-efficacy to resist self-injury. Archives of Suicide Research, 26(4), 1688-1701.Gray, N., Uren, H., Pemberton, E., & Boyes, M. (2023). Profiling ambivalence in the context of nonsuicidal self-injury. Journal of Clinical Psychology,  79(8), 1699-1712.Ramsey, W. A., Berlin, K. S., Del Conte, G., Lightsey, O. R., Schimmel-Bristow, A., Marks, L. R., & Strohmer, D. C. (2021). Targeting self-criticism in the treatment of nonsuicidal self-injury in dialectical behavior therapy for adolescents: a randomized clinical trial. Child and Adolescent Mental Health, 26(4), 320-330.Gratz, K., & Tull, M. (2025). Acceptance-based emotion regulation therapy: A clinician's guide to treating emotion dysregulation and self-destructive behaviors using an evidence-based therapy drawn from ACT and DBT. Harbinger Press.Below are links to the original 6 theoretical models discussed in this episode:Four Function Model - Nock, M. K., & Prinstein, M. J. (2004). A functional approach to the assessment of self-mutilative behavior. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 72(5), 885–890.Experiential Avoidance Model - Chapman, A. L., Gratz, K. L., & Brown, M. Z. (2006). Solving the puzzle of deliberate self-harm: The experiential avoidance model. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 44(3), 371–394.Emotional Cascade Model - Selby, E. A., & Joiner, T. E. (2009). Cascades of emotion: The emergence of borderline personality disorder from emotional and behavioral dysregulation. Review of General Psychology, 13(3), 219–229.Integrated Model - Nock, M. K. (2010). Self-injury. Annual Review of Clinical Psychology, 6(1), 339–363.Cognitive-Emotional Model - Hasking, P., Whitlock, J., Voon, D., & Rose, A. (2017). A cognitive-emotional model of NSSI: Using emotion regulation and cognitive processes to explain why people self-injure. Cognition and Emotion, 31(8), 1543–1556.Barriers and Benefits Model - Hooley, J. M., & Franklin, J. C. (2018). Why do people hurt themselves? A new conceptual model of nonsuicidal self-injury. Clinical Psychological Science, 6(3), 428–451.Want to have a bigger role on the podcast?:Should you or someone you know be interviewed on the podcast? We want to know! Please fill out this Google doc form, and we will be in touch with more details if it's a good fit.Want to hear your question and have it answered on the podcast? Please send an audio clip of your question (60 seconds or less) to @DocWesters on Instagram or Twitter/X, or email us at thepsychologyofselfinjury@gmail.comWant to be involved in research? Send us a message at thepsychologyofselfinjury@gmail.com and we will see if we can match you to an active study.Want to interact with us through comments and polls? You can on Spotify!Follow Dr. Westers on Instagram and Twitter/X (@DocWesters). To join ISSS, visit itriples.org and follow ISSS on Facebook and Twitter/X (@ITripleS).The Psychology of Self-Injury podcast has been rated as one of the "10 Best Self Harm Podcasts" and "20 Best Clinical Psychology Podcasts" by Feedspot  and one of the Top 100 Psychology Podcasts by Goodpods. It has also been featured in Audible's "Best Mental Health Podcasts to Defy Stigma and Begin to Heal."

I am grateful for the opportunity to sit down with Dr. Shahrzad Jalali, clinical psychologist, author, and president and founder at Dr. Jalali and Associates. Please join us as we discuss: the inspiration behind her upcoming September 2025 book release: The Fire That Makes Us: Unveiling the Transformative Power of Trauma her insights on understanding the role of parts in trauma recovery her philosophies on discovering the wisdom in the wounds her recommendation on seeking help and so much more! Welcome to The Healing Place Podcast! I am your host, Teri Wellbrock. You can listen in on Pandora, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, Deezer, Amazon Music, and more, or directly on my website at www.teriwellbrock.com/podcasts/. You can also catch our insightful interview on YouTube. Bio: Dr. Shahrzad Jalali Shahrzad Jalali, Psy.D. is a licensed clinical psychologist (California License: PSY 27593). She completed an M.A. in Clinical Psychology (Marriage and Family Therapy) and received training during her internship in the field of addiction. She further received a Psy.D. in Clinical Psychology and completed a practicum training as well as pre-doctoral internship at a child and adolescent clinic, emphasizing human development and stages of growth. Dr. Jalali completed her post-doctoral fellowship in the adult track at several different private practices under the supervision of the numerous mentors specializing in depth work, couples' and sex therapy, and trauma. She approaches her patients from a bio/psycho/social perspective that emphasizes the role of relationships in the evaluation of the sense of self.  ​Website: https://www.drjalaliandassociates.com/   Teri's #1 best-selling book and #1 new-release book can be found here. Teri's inspirational audiobook productions can be found here. Teri's monthly newsletter can be found here. Teri's book launch team can be found here. AMAZON AFFILIATE Teri Wellbrock and Unicorn Shadows are a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com. In other words, I make commission off of purchases made using any affiliate links on my site.

My guest today is Karla Elizondo. Karla Elizondo is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Mindset Coach with over 20 years of personal and spiritual development expertise. She is trained in Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), is a practitioner of Internal Family Systems (IFS), and incorporates the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) into her coaching practice. She is also the Chief Media Officer for The Napoleon Hill Institute as well as a certified coach facilitating their life-changing programs. With over 4,000 hours of clinical experience, Karla has helped thousands uncover the root issues holding them back from living their highest potential using a holistic approach. She has helped many navigate issues, including anxiety, depression, self-esteem, self-image, creative blocks, and addictive behavior. With a Master of Science Degree in Clinical Psychology and a Bachelor's Degree in Film & TV Production, Karla strives to create conscious content that teaches and uplifts others. She believes that the medium of film and television is the most powerful way to tell inspiring and educational stories that help raise the collective consciousness. As an award-winning Toastmasters International Speaker, content producer, and sought-after coach, Karla uses her deep knowledge of the human condition, to create more empathetic connections and empower people around the world. In this episode we discuss Napoleon Hill, mindset mastery, radical responsibility, relationships, therapy, legacy leadership and personal development.Website - https://www.karlaelizondo.com/IG - https://www.instagram.com/karla_elizondo_/YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4Y2P5qkPPQ-cBFlO3PmXsgLinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/karla-elizondo-lmft-886b461ab/TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@karlaelizondo_In this episode you will learn:1. The common pitfalls in relationships and how to bridge the gap when partners are on different paths.2. How taking full responsibility for our thoughts and actions can lead to creating the life that we desire.3. What some of the most empowering principles from Napoleon Hill are and how you can apply them to your own life to create lasting success. “The biggest pain, Brad, is when you betray yourself. That is the most painful thing.” - 00:04:31“We self-sabotage unconsciously. Nobody does it like we do know when we have we just we love the bad boy we just sabotage we like have we're addicted to the drama but it's more unconscious with every thought." 00:27:53“To empower someone is to put in or to put on power to that person. To empower myself is to put in, think empowering thoughts, to put in and to put on power. ” 00:52:32

Lara sits down with Dr. Michele Morningstar, a clinical psychologist and leading researcher on how children and teens learn to understand and express emotions—especially through nonverbal communication like facial expressions, tone of voice, and body language.Dr. Morningstar is an Assistant Professor of Psychology at Queen's University and leads the Development of Social & Emotional Communication (DSEC) Lab. With a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from McGill University and postdoctoral training at Nationwide Children's Hospital and The Ohio State University, she brings both deep academic insight and real-world relevance to the emotional development of young people.In this episode, we explore what it really means when a child seems to “miss” social cues or struggles to read a room—and why these skills are so crucial for healthy relationships. Dr. Morningstar explains how nonverbal communication develops across childhood and adolescence, how neurodevelopmental differences can impact these abilities, and how parents can play an active role in supporting their child's emotional growth.From science-backed explanations to practical strategies, this conversation will empower you to better understand the nonverbal world your child is navigating—and offer the support they need to thrive in it.If you've ever wondered whether your child is picking up on the emotional signals around them—or what to do if they're not—this episode is for you.-----Learn more about Dr. Morningstar's research:Website: DSEC Lab at Queen's UniversityInstagram: @DSECLABX: @DSECLabYouTube: @DSECLab-----Follow Parenting Ed-Ventures on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@parentingedventurespod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Learn more about Tutor Teach:⁠⁠https://tutorteach.ca/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠-----Intro Music: Good Times by Patrick PatrikiosSting Music: Purple Planet Music – Timelapse

This week's episode of the Be More Today Show features Researcher and Clinical Psychology Doctoral Candidate Shanique Meyler. Join our conversation as we celebrate June as men's health month, discuss the cost of silence when men don't share their feelings, share how culture and society limit safe spaces for men to be vulnerable without fear, and review practical tips for men to BE MORE mentally and emotionally present. The show can be found on Apple Podcast and Spotify as well as YouTube. For more information about Shanique Meyler and her work, visit https://hihello.com/p/8a101dee-4ee9-4875-bfeb-12f2cd48f689. For all other questions, visit. www.bemoretoday.com.

In this special episode of the Dam Parenting, we're raising awareness about MiMoment — a unique research project by the WHO Collaborating Center and the Department of Clinical Psychology at Vrije Universiteit Amsterdam.MiMoment focuses on the mental health and well-being of women who have moved to the Netherlands and are now experiencing pregnancy far from home. Did you know that migrant mothers face a higher risk of depression and anxiety during and after pregnancy? Research shows that 1 in 4 experiences symptoms of depression and 1 in 5 experiences anxiety.This project aims to listen to these women's stories, understand their challenges, and help shape better, more respectful, and accessible mental health care for future mothers in our communities.Who can participate?Women who are currently in their 1st or 2nd trimester of pregnancyLiving in the NetherlandsBorn in a low- or middle-income country (for example: Morocco, Syria, Ghana, Suriname, Ukraine) What does it involve?4 short online questionnaires, in your own language (Dutch, English, Arabic, or Turkish)Optional: 2 small hair samples to study stress over timeFlexible and completely confidentialReceive up to €40 in vouchers for questionnaires and €20 for hair samplesHow to join?Signing up is easy and does not commit you yet:Sign up form WebsiteInstagramWhatsAppFacebook LinkedIn If you're a listener, friend, or community worker, please share this episode with someone who could benefit — every story makes a difference, and every voice helps improve care for mothers everywhere.

In this episode, I talk with both Doug Wingate and Dr. Rachel Turetzky about their incredible new book, '8-Circuit Ascension: A Guide to Metaprogramming the Multidimensional Self'.We take a deep dive into the origins and evolution of the 8-Circuit Model of Consciousness --originally developed by Timothy Leary and later expanded by thinkers like Robert Anton Wilson and Antero Alli. Doug and Rachel have taken this model to the next level, grounding it in contemporary neuroscience, developmental psychology, and the growing field of psychedelic integration.Together, we explore how the lower circuits relate to our early developmental patterns and the survival-oriented programming we all carry, and how the higher circuits give us access to altered states, spiritual insight, and the transpersonal dimensions of the self. We talk about how this model functions as a kind of spiritual technology--one that can be used not only for personal transformation and healing, but for guiding others through their own journeys of consciousness exploration.We cover metaprogramming, re-imprinting, integration, and what it really means to understand the structure of your own mind, and so much more... Drop in and prepare to ascend!www.8circuitascension.comDr. Rachel Turetzky Bio:Rachel holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology with a focus on Depth Psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute. Her research has explored altered states and psychedelic therapy, including an analysis of Dr. Rick Strassman's original DMT study notes. She's trained as a Psychedelic-Assisted Therapist and has worked extensively with MAPS (now Lykos Therapeutics) since 2012. Rachel is also a certified Integrative Wellness Coach, yoga teacher, and Reiki healer.Dr. Douglas Wingate Bio:Doug is a transpersonal psychologist, educator, and founder of the Entheogenic Research, Integration, and Education (ERIE) non-profit. His work explores the intersection of consciousness studies, psychedelic science, and holistic healing. Doug teaches university-level courses on psychedelics, altered states, and spiritual emergence, and focuses on helping individuals integrate transformative experiences through a multidimensional lens. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jenny had severe health problems and had tried everything to no avail. Being a practitioner in the alternative health realm already, she could not figure out what was going on. After years of trial and error, she began to heal subconscious thoughts she believed were related to her symptoms. We discuss the multifaceted program she first developed for herself and then refined to be able to offer it to the public. She and her team work a lot with POTS, MCAS, Lyme Disease, Mold sensitivities, Food sensitives as well as other problems that the traditional medical community doesn't have a lot of answers or treatments for. Important points: ·       Root vs trigger memories ·       Comfort measures vs healing ·       Phases of chronic illness ·       Medical to holistic to functional ·       Clearing the slate and Rewiring beliefs ·       How 100% of her students finish the program ·       Daily support instead of periodic   About Jenny Peterson Jenny's primary focus is to help clients identify and release unconscious stressors that are preventing their body from healing and teach how to trust rather than fear their own bodies. She firmly believe that everyone can heal themselves, her team assists in providing the tools to make that happen. She has over 20 years of holistic studies, certification, and experience working with clients including See more at https://www.themindbodyrewire.com   -------------- Support the Podcast & Help yourself with Hypnosis Downloads by Dr. Liz! http://bit.ly/HypnosisMP3Downloads Do you have Chronic Insomnia? Find out more about Dr. Liz's Better Sleep Program at https://bit.ly/sleepbetterfeelbetter Search episodes at the Podcast Page http://bit.ly/HM-podcast --------- About Dr. Liz Interested in hypnosis with Dr. Liz? Schedule your free consultation at https://www.drlizhypnosis.com Winner of numerous awards including Top 100 Moms in Business, Dr. Liz provides psychotherapy, hypnosis, and neurodivergent supportive psychotherapy to people all around the world. She has a PhD in Clinical Psychology, is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) and has special certification in Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy. Specialty areas include Anxiety, Insomnia, and Deeper Emotional Healing. A problem shared is a problem halved. In person and online hypnosis and CBT for healing and transformation.  Listened to in over 140 countries, Hypnotize Me is the podcast about hypnosis, transformation, and healing. Certified hypnotherapist and Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Dr. Liz Bonet, discusses hypnosis and interviews professionals doing transformational work.

In the biggest shake-up to reproductive rights in almost 60 years, MPs have voted to decriminalise abortion for women in England and Wales. This would mean a woman could not be prosecuted for ending her pregnancy after the 24 week limit, but medical professionals and others could still be held criminally liable if they assist. Nuala McGovern speaks to the BBC's political correspondent Alex Forsyth and Conservative MP Dr. Caroline Johnson, shadow minister for health and social care, who had put forward another amendment which would have required a pregnant woman to have an in person consultation with a doctor or appropriate medical professional before being prescribed medication to terminate her pregnancy, aimed at stopping so-called 'pills-by-post' abortions.Crime writer Karin Slaughter has sold over 40 million copies and been called the ‘Queen of Crime.' She's been writing for 25 years and has just published her 25th novel. Called We Are All Guilty Here, it's the story of two teenage girls who go missing and the start of a brand new series featuring police officer Emmy Clifton. Karin tells Nuala why she wanted create a new series and how she manages a book a year on top of all the TV adaptations on her work. Do you co-sleep or bedshare with your school-aged children? A few years ago the Clueless actor Alicia Silverstone was criticised for saying she sleeps in the same bed with her 11-year-old and that she was 'just following nature.' It's a divisive topic that provokes strong opinions and disagreement. So how common is it and what are the advantages and disadvantages of doing so? Nuala is joined by Genevieve Roberts, parenting columnist with the I newspaper, who regularly sleeps in the same bed with her children, and Sarah Blunden, Professor of Clinical Psychology and Head of Paediatric Sleep Research at Central Queensland University. One of the young women making waves in the male dominated sport of motor racing is 22-year-old Abbi Pulling. She's considered as one of the most promising young drivers in world motorsport - she won the 2024 'F1 Academy' season, which has been set up to develop women and girls in the sport. She's the first female driver to take a race victory in British F4 and is now racing in the GB3 category. Abbi told Nuala about the difficulties around funding for getting into racing and if women could make it into the top tier of Formula 1. Presenter: Nuala McGovern Producer: Andrea Kidd

Episode #157: Today we are joined by Dr. Jason Feldman, pediatric neuropsychologist.  Renowned pediatric neuropsychologist Dr. Jason Feldman joins us to share his expertise on the intricate link between brain function and child behavior. Together, we explore the complexities of ADD, ADHD, autism, and more. We discuss how these challenges can impact your child's development and academic progress. Dr. Feldman explains how comprehensive evaluations can pinpoint learning disorders, attention difficulties, and emotional challenges. For parents, educators, and pediatricians seeking practical guidance, this episode offers invaluable insights to enhance children's well-being both at home and in school. Unpacking the emotional journey parents often undergo, we address the difficult decisions surrounding support for children with ADHD, speech therapy needs, and other developmental concerns. Drawing from my professional experiences in clinical psychology and neuropsychology, I highlight the courage it takes for parents to seek expert help. The discussion touches on overcoming feelings of defensiveness and guilt, emphasizing the importance of prioritizing a child's growth over personal ego. By turning to specialists like Dr. Feldman, parents take a proactive step that's crucial for their child's success. We also guide listeners through the process of obtaining neuropsychological evaluations and recognize critical developmental warning signs. Understand when an assessment might be necessary and what it involves, as Dr. Feldman outlines a thorough and child-friendly approach to testing. From ADHD's genetic influences to weighing medication versus alternative treatments, this episode provides clarity for parents navigating these challenges. We highlight the importance of early intervention for autism and other conditions, ensuring you have the knowledge to support your child effectively. Lastly, don't forget about your own well-being; caring for a child with these challenges requires patience and self-care. Chapters:  (00:00) Expert Insights on Child Behavior (04:12) Understanding Child Mental Health and ADHD (15:10) Navigating Child Neuropsychological Evaluations (27:11) Understanding ADHD, Autism, and Medication (41:04) Recognizing Child Development Warning Signs Follow Kimberly on Instagram and TikTok @kimberlylovi or @iconicnationmedia  WATCH us on YouTube and view our brand new studio!  You can reach Dr. Feldman here

Dr. Lauren Cook is a licensed Clinical Psychologist, company consultant, author, and speaker. With a doctorate in Clinical Psychology and her Master's in Marriage and Family Therapy, Dr. Lauren appears frequently in the media to provide commentary while also working with companies as well as individual adults, couples, families, and teens to help reduce anxiety and improve personal and professional outcomes.   She integrates evidence-based tools from a systems lens and she speaks internationally, both in-person and virtually. Dr. Lauren owns a private practice, Heartship Psychological Services, serving all clients residing in California. You can get Dr. Lauren's latest book, Generation Anxiety. Stay connected with Dr. Lauren: Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.laurencook Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.laurencook/ Website: https://www.drlaurencook.com/ Additional Resources:

The National Child Traumatic Stress Network's mission is to raise the standard of care and improve access to services for traumatized children, their families and communities throughout the United States.  Listen as Dr. Gregory Leskin, Rio May del Rosario, and Irene Ohsaka discuss trauma events, child traumatic stress, and what support looks like after experiencing a trauma.   This podcast is made possible by generous funding from the USAA Foundation.   Audio mixing by Concentus Media, Inc., Temple, Texas.   Show Notes: Resources:   The National Child Traumatic Stress Network (NCTSN) https://www.nctsn.org/   Military and Veteran Families https://www.nctsn.org/what-is-child-trauma/populations-at-risk/military-and-veteran-families   2025 MCEC Global Training Summit https://militarychild.org/event/gts/   Bio: Dr. Gregory Leskin is licensed clinical psychologist and serves as Director, NCTSN Military and Veteran Families and Children Program and the Academy on Child Traumatic Stress at the UCLA/Duke University's National Center for Child Traumatic Stress. Dr. Leskin directs the NCTSN/DoD Academy on Child Trauma, an online training and social media platform developed to train DoD Family Advocacy Program staff clinical skills related to child trauma and behavioral health prevention for military families and children. Previously, Dr. Leskin has worked as a Clinical Researcher and Director of Clinical Training at the National Center for PTSD, Stanford University and the VA Palo Alto Health Care System. He completed a National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) post-doctoral fellowship at the National Center for PTSD at the Boston VA Medical Center.  Dr. Leskin has written, consulted, and lectured on a number of clinical topics, including risk factors facing military-connected children, combat-related PTSD, impact of deployment on families and children, and promoting psychological resilience and well-being. He is the primary developer for the MiTi Kids program bringing together Military Informed and Trauma informed Principles for organizations to serve the needs of military and Veteran Families.   Irene Ohsaka, PMP, has over 6 years of experience in training and development. Ms. Ohsaka serves as the Training and Operations Manager for the NCTSN Academy on Child Traumatic Stress (Academy) at the UCLA-Duke University National Center for Child Traumatic Stress. She received her Bachelor of Science in Clinical Psychology at the University of California, San Diego. In the past, she trained over 13,000 employees and leaders in psychological safety and has experience working in longitudinal clinical research on brain development and child health. In recent years, Ms. Ohsaka has collaborated closely with the Department of Defense (DoD) and the National Center on the Sexual Behavior of Youth (NCSBY) to develop trainings and resources on problematic sexual behavior in children and youth for military personnel and families.   Rio May del Rosario is a licensed Social Worker with nearly 20 years of experience. Ms. del Rosario serves as the Assistant Program Director for the NCTSN Military and Veteran Families and Children (MVFC) and the NCTSN Academy on Child Traumatic Stress (Academy) at the UCLA-Duke University National Center for Child Traumatic Stress. She received her Bachelor of Art in Psychology and Health: Science, Society, and Policy at Brandeis University and her Master of Social Work at the Silberman School of Social Work at Hunter College-CUNY. Prior to joining the Academy in 2014, Ms. del Rosario held various positions at the Kings County District Attorney's Office Victim Services Unit in Brooklyn, New York serving victims and survivors of child maltreatment, domestic violence, and sexual assault. She also worked as a sexual assault crisis counselor with the Rape Treatment Center at UCLA Health, Santa Monica Medical Center.

Struggling with stress, overwhelm, or feeling out of sync in your space? You might be overdue for a different kind of detox—one that starts with your home, habits, and the unconscious choices shaping your well-being. In this episode of Practical Nontoxic Living, host Sophia Ruan Gushée is joined by her colleague and niece, Elizabeth McCormick, to unpack insights from the 40-Day Home Detox masterclass with Heather Lilleston, a clinical psychologist and seasoned yoga teacher. Together, they explore how small shifts in your daily routine, environment, and mindset can help you feel more grounded, supported, and at home—anywhere.

There’s a surprising amount of anti-masturbation content on social media, much of it suggesting that masturbation is bad for your health. In today's show, we're going to delve into whether abstaining from masturbation actually boosts testosterone, whether you can really become “addicted” to masturbating, what science says about the purported health benefits of semen retention, and more. In this episode, we're revisiting a conversation with Dr. Eric Sprankle, which originally aired back in episode 275. Dr. Sprankle is an Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology and the co-director of the Sexuality Studies program at Minnesota State University, Mankato. He’s also a licensed clinical psychologist and AASECT-certified sex therapist, as well as author of the book, DIY: The Wonderfully Weird History and Science of Masturbation. Some of the specific topics we explore include: Why is the concept of semen retention increasingly popular? Are there any health benefits to abstaining from ejaculation? Is an orgasm obtained from self-pleasure really any different from an orgasm obtained through partnered sex? Can women become “addicted” to their vibrators? Is there an objective standard for what constitutes “too much” masturbation? You can check out Eric’s website to learn more about his work. Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology. *** Thank you to our sponsors!  Boost your sexual confidence and performance with Popstar Delay Spray. Save 20% off your first order by using “Justin” as the discount code at popstarlabs.com/justin.  I’m excited to announce a new online course I’m teaching on the topic of fantasies at the Kinsey Institute. Be sure to register for “The New Science of Sexual Fantasies” workshop, which will take place on July 19th, 2025. *** Want to learn more about Sex and Psychology? Click here for previous articles or follow the blog on Facebook, Twitter, or Bluesky to receive updates. You can also follow Dr. Lehmiller on YouTube and Instagram. Listen and stream all episodes on Apple, Spotify, Google, or Amazon. Subscribe to automatically receive new episodes and please rate and review the podcast! Credits: Precision Podcasting (Podcast editing) and Shutterstock/Florian (Music). Image created with Canva; photos used with permission of guest.

Vaccines have become one of the most polarizing topics in public health, and frankly, for valid reasons. What we've witnessed over the past few years is an unprecedented breakdown in trust between medical institutions and the public - and that didn't happen in a vacuum.What is the truth about Vaccine Safety and Efficacy? Dr. Roger McFillin sits down with vaccine safety epidemiologist Allison Krug to expose the hidden forces shaping public health, from vaccine safety to the weaponization of fear. They dive deep into the failures of placebo-controlled trials, the truth about natural immunity vs. vaccine-induced immunity, and why good evidence is harder to find than you think. Allison shares what she learned working inside the pharmaceutical industry and reveals how mindset, belief systems, and disconnection from nature and spirituality are fueling today's chronic illness crisis. If you've ever questioned mainstream medicine or want to reclaim your health and autonomy, this conversation will change how you see the world.00:00 Introduction00:05:32 The Danger of Outsourcing Health to "Experts"00:20:45 Mindset, Pain, and the Illusion of Powerlessness00:42:49 Consciousness and the Healing Power Within01:05:32 Germ Theory, Genetics, and the Loss of Agency01:15:47 Awakening to Frequencies: A Spiritual Revolution01:22:23 Dark Spiritual Forces and the Battle for Consciousness01:31:27 How Public Schools Crush Creativity and Independence01:49:05 Medical Paradigm Flaws: What They're Not Telling You01:55:40 Spiritual Emptiness: The Hidden Cost of Modern Culture02:00:12 Radical Responsibility and the Return to Divine LoveAllision Krug WebsiteAllision Krug on XAllison Krug on Megyn Kelly COVID-19 vaccine boosters for young adults: a risk benefit assessment and ethical analysis of mandate policies at universities  Dr. Roger McFillin / Radically Genuine WebsiteYouTube @RadicallyGenuineDr. Roger McFillin (@DrMcFillin) / XSubstack | Radically Genuine | Dr. Roger McFillinInstagram @radicallygenuineContact Radically GenuineConscious Clinician CollectivePLEASE SUPPORT OUR PARTNERS15% Off Pure Spectrum CBD (Code: RadicallyGenuine)10% off Lovetuner click here

What does “home” really mean—and how can we feel at home wherever we are? In this excerpt from Ruan Living's 40-Day Home Detox program, Sophia Ruan Gushée is joined by Heather Lilleston, yoga teacher since 2003 and doctorate in clinical psychology, to explore how our sense of home goes far beyond our real estate. Together, they unravel hidden toxins in our lives—not just in products, but in assumptions, habits, and mindset. Explore how unconscious choices shape our wellness, the power of connection to nature, and why cultivating a healthy sense of home—physically and emotionally—is essential to healing and thriving. Whether you're detoxing your lifestyle or navigating a life transition, this episode offers insights to help you feel more at home in your body, mind, and space—wherever you are. ABOUT RUAN LIVING Grounded in the philosophy of Practical Nontoxic Living™, Ruan Living offers flexible ways for you to craft your Ultimate Home Detox™ to help you elevate your health and well-being—one thoughtful choice at a time. Specifically, we're zoned in on environmental influences—easy ones you can control—that can optimize your, and your intergenerational, healthspan and epigenetics through Practical Nontoxic Living™. Rooted in mindfulness over perfection, we guide you with empowering insights to detox your home and body of toxic chemicals, heavy metals, radiation, and stress. Ruan Living offers books, online programs, customized support, and free resources to help you create a home and lifestyle that nurtures healing and thriving. Learn more at www.ruanliving.com. ABOUT SOPHIA RUAN GUSHEE Sophia Ruan Gushée is the founder of Ruan Living and author of the critically acclaimed bestselling book A to Z of D-Toxing: The Ultimate Guide to Reducing Our Toxic Exposures. Throughout her suite of Ruan Living Offerings, the diversity of Home detox paths that she has created are designed to welcome you to craft your Ultimate Home Detox™—rooted in the philosophy of Practical Nontoxic Living™, which protects your joy and convenience while guiding you to avoid toxicity. Learn more about Sophia here: Sophia Ruan Gushée. ABOUT HEATHER LILLESTON Heather Lilleston is a rare blend of grounded wisdom and soulful insight. With over 20 years of experience teaching yoga and a freshly completed Doctorate in Clinical Psychology, Heather bridges the worlds of ancient healing and modern science. Her approach to well-being weaves together mindfulness, movement, and emotional awareness, empowering others to feel more at home in their bodies, minds, and environments. Whether guiding a yoga retreat or offering therapeutic support, Heather invites us to explore deeper layers of self-care, presence, and connection—reminding us that home isn't just a place, but a feeling we can cultivate from within. Learn more about Heather here: Heather Lilleston. OTHER RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Ruan Living's 40-Day Home Detox

Emotional wirklich gesehen und gehört zu werden ist extrem wichtig. In der Familie, der Partnerschaft, im Beruf - eigentlich immer und überall! Atze und Leon tauchen tief in das Thema emotionale Validation ein – was sie bedeutet, wie sie unsere zwischenmenschlichen Beziehungen stärkt und was passiert, wenn sie fehlt. Denn Validation ist kein "Nice-to-have", sondern ein zentrales Element echter Verbindung. Doch wie schafft man es, anderen das Gefühl zu geben, in ihren Emotionen ernst genommen zu werden? Atze und Leon haben wissenschaftlich fundierte Antworten und praktische Tipps. Fühlt euch gut betreut Leon & Atze Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/leonwindscheid/ https://www.instagram.com/atzeschroeder_offiziell/ Mehr zu unseren Werbepartnern findet ihr hier: https://linktr.ee/betreutesfuehlen Tickets: Atze: https://www.atzeschroeder.de/#termine Leon: https://leonwindscheid.de/tour/ VVK Münster 2025: https://betreutes-fuehlen.ticket.io/ Start ins heutige Thema: 11:00 min. Buchtipp: Und Nietzsche weinte - Irvin D. Yalom Quellen: M. Linehan: https://psych.uw.edu/people/2724 Linehan, M. (1993). Cognitive-behavioral treatment of borderline personality disorder. Guilford press. Linehan, M. M. (1997). Validation and psychotherapy. https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Marsha-Linehan/publication/232561580_Validation_and_psychotherapy/links/54eba9c70cf2a030519476eb/Validation-and-psychotherapy.pdf Geschichte von Linehan: https://www.nytimes.com/2011/06/23/health/23lives.html Invalidation im Gesundheitswesen: Bontempo, A. C., Bontempo, J. M., & Duberstein, P. R. (2025). Ignored, dismissed, and minimized: Understanding the harmful consequences of invalidation in health care—A systematic meta-synthesis of qualitative research. Psychological Bulletin, 151(4), 399. https://psycnet.apa.org/fulltext/2026-10154-001.html Shenk, C. E., & Fruzzetti, A. E. (2011). The impact of validating and invalidating responses on emotional reactivity. Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, 30(2), 163-183. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/266136126_The_Impact_of_Validating_and_Invalidating_Responses_on_Emotional_Reactivity Gehirnaktivität: Morelli, S. A., Torre, J. B., & Eisenberger, N. I. (2014). The neural bases of feeling understood and not understood. Social cognitive and affective neuroscience, 9(12), 1890-1896. https://academic.oup.com/scan/article/9/12/1890/1615491 Weiterlesen: https://psyche.co/guides/learn-to-validate-others-and-transform-your-relationships Fleck, C. (2025): Validation: The New Approach to Change That Will Transform How You Love, Lead, and Live . Avery, 320 p. https://www.amazon.de/-/en/Validation-Approach-Change-That-Transform/dp/0593541219 Alles zu Bertha Pappenheim und der Geschichte von Anna O. Brownstein, G. (2024). The Secret Mind of Bertha Pappenheim: The Woman Who Invented Freud's Talking Cure. Hachette UK. Validation bei Demenz: https://demenz-portal.at/aktuelles/validation-bei-demenz-die-grundsaetze/ Redaktion: Andy Hartard Produktion: Murmel Productions

Today on One Life Radio, Dr. DeWone Bennett joins Bernadette to talk about the power of the word “no,” in all situations. Many of us have trouble telling others no, and we suffer the consequences doing things for others that we don't want to do, or don't have time to do. Dr. DeWone gives us tangible advice for how to start saying no and taking our lives and our time back from those who are taking advantage.Dr. Bennett has over ten years of extensive training and experience working with children, adolescents, and adults.  He holds two master's degrees and a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology.  Dr. DeWone is a Licensed Professional Counselor and counseling supervisor. Dr. Bennett has a diverse range of training and certifications as a Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapist (TF-CBT) EMDR and Gottman method as a couple's therapist. As well as a National Certified Counselor and Counseling Supervisor and a corporate EAP counselor and trainer.  Over the past 15 years he has focused his interest in personal development, on those struggling with emotional trauma, relationship issues, resiliency, and work-life balance.    As the owner of a group private practice in the North Dallas area, DeWone continues to provide life-altering behavioral health services and consultations. You can find and learn more about Dr. DeWone Bennett on dbennettcounseling.com.Here are more episodes with DeWone Bennett:DeWone Bennett, LPC - Can Valentine's Day Expectations Harm Your Relationship? ep. 3081The Best and Worst Ways to Break Up #2093The Psychology of Tattoos #2073

Healer Dionne Eleanor joins us to discuss her unique healing method for trauma with the trifecta of the body, the mind, and relationships. We talk about our common background starting off as yoga teachers, what her method involves, and share some about how we run our businesses. You'll get some solid advice around how to find a good practitioner to help you on your healing journey. Bonus:  You'll finally find out why Dr. Liz doesn't have a professional FB page and what happened to her business after she deleted it. About Dionne Eleanor Dionne Eleanor is a global leader in integrative wellness and trauma-informed healing, known for her work in helping individuals heal emotional wounds and cultivate empowerment. She is the founder of The Body Sage Method and has over 14 years of international experience helping others heal. Dionne's approach blends various techniques like Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) hypnosis, intergenerational trauma and ancestral healing, tantric philosophy, and somatic practices. Contact Dionne at https://www.bodysageco.com IG & Linked In:  @DionneEleanor  -------------- Support the Podcast & Help yourself with Hypnosis Downloads by Dr. Liz! http://bit.ly/HypnosisMP3Downloads Do you have Chronic Insomnia? Find out more about Dr. Liz's Better Sleep Program at https://bit.ly/sleepbetterfeelbetter Search episodes at the Podcast Page http://bit.ly/HM-podcast --------- About Dr. Liz Interested in hypnosis with Dr. Liz? Schedule your free consultation at https://www.drlizhypnosis.com Winner of numerous awards including Top 100 Moms in Business, Dr. Liz provides psychotherapy, hypnosis, and neurodivergent supportive psychotherapy to people all around the world. She has a PhD in Clinical Psychology, is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) and has special certification in Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy. Specialty areas include Anxiety, Insomnia, and Deeper Emotional Healing. A problem shared is a problem halved. In person and online hypnosis and CBT for healing and transformation.  Listened to in over 140 countries, Hypnotize Me is the podcast about hypnosis, transformation, and healing. Certified hypnotherapist and Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Dr. Liz Bonet, discusses hypnosis and interviews professionals doing transformational work.

Looking to turn your big dreams into reality? You're not alone — and it might not be your willpower that's holding you back, but the way you set your goals. In this episode, host Gabe Howard welcomes Dr. Ross G. White, clinical psychologist, author of “The Tree That Bends,” and founder of Strive to Thrive, to demystify the SMART framework and help you build goals that stick. Together, Gabe and Dr. White unpack each letter of SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-limited) to show you how to transform vague aspirations (“I want to get fit”) into crystal clear, trackable targets (“I will complete three 30-minute strength workouts each week for the next month”). You'll hear concrete examples, common pitfalls, and Dr. White's insider tips for aligning your goals with what truly matters in your life. Plus, stick around for a candid discussion on why the “stay hard,” grit-and-grind mentality might be selling you short — and how a flexible mind can be your secret weapon for thriving, not just surviving. Tune in and start setting goals you'll actually achieve! “The mere ordinary seems to be resistant to going viral. It's only the incredible and the extraordinary that goes viral. So we are skewed in terms of some of the reference points that we have around what we should be capable of, what we should be doing, what we should be achieving. And that leads us to be highly motivated to try to make an impact, to establish ourselves. But it also then can tip over into threat if we feel that we're falling short, or that people are judging us for not being enough, for not doing enough, for not contributing enough.” ~Dr. Ross White Our guest, Dr. Ross White, is a Professor of Clinical Psychology at Queen's University Belfast and the founder of Strive2Thrive, a clinical psychology consultancy firm that provides interventions and training to help individuals and organizations thrive. He is an expert in supporting the mental well-being of adults working in high-performance settings. Ross is the author of several books, including “The Tree That Bends: How a flexible mind can help you thrive.” Our host, Gabe Howard, is an award-winning writer and speaker who lives with bipolar disorder. He is the author of the popular book, "Mental Illness is an Asshole and other Observations," available from Amazon; signed copies are also available directly from the author. Gabe is also the host of the "Inside Bipolar" podcast with Dr. Nicole Washington. Gabe makes his home in the suburbs of Columbus, Ohio. He lives with his supportive wife, Kendall, and a Miniature Schnauzer dog that he never wanted, but now can't imagine life without. To book Gabe for your next event or learn more about him, please visit gabehoward.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hello, my beautiful friends—this week, we go deep. Not just into the roots of fear, but into the bold, often quiet heartbeat of courage. Inspired by Memorial Day and those I call the Maesters of bravery—from Grandma Gatewood's canvas shoes on the Appalachian Trail to my own personal moments of standing in fear and choosing love—we explore how real courage doesn't mean the fear disappears. It means something else matters more. And yes, that something is often love. In this episode, I share practical, research-backed tools to help you access your own courage—no matter how loud the fear feels. From hiking updates to history's unsung heroes (hello Sherpa Tenzing!), from family memories to the neuroscience of bravery, I hope this one sparks something in you. If it does, please share it. We all need reminders of our light.Reference:1.    Rate, C. R., Clarke, J. A., Lindsay, D. R., & Sternberg, R. J. (2007). Implicit theories of courage. The Journal of Positive Psychology, 2(2), 80–98. https://doi.org/10.1080/174397607012288132.    Neff, K. D., & Germer, C. K. (2013). A pilot study and randomized controlled trial of the mindful self‐compassion program. Journal of Clinical Psychology, 69(1), 28–44. https://doi.org/10.1002/jclp.21923 Learn more about Stoic Maester Ryan Holiday and subscribe to his newsletter at:https://ryanholiday.net/ • The Daily Stoic Newsletter Quote of the Week“True heroism shames us. Humbles us. It moves us beyond reason—because it came from something beyond reason... We fail them and we fail ourselves if we don't wrestle with the meaning of this sacrifice.” – Ryan Holiday Let's go, let's get it done. Get more information at: http://projectweightloss.org

EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of NRCAC Team Talk, we spotlight the New Jersey Children's Alliance's groundbreaking, statewide approach to addressing problematic sexual behavior (PSB) in youth. Join guests Nydia Monagas, Maria Isabel Poontoriero (MIP), and Valeria Vila from NJCA as they discuss the development of this innovative program, its foundational framework, and key insights from its first year of implementation. Whether you're a child advocacy professional, part of a multidisciplinary team, or a Chapter leader seeking to strengthen your community's response to PSB, this episode offers valuable takeaways and inspiration. Tune in now and discover how your community can take steps toward a more coordinated and effective PSB response. Topics in this episode: What prompted the creation of a statewide PSB response (4:24) Formation of the workgroup (9:47) Program framework (12:22) Referrals Training Funding Quality assurance and data collection Challenges (19:31) How a case flows through the program (26:53) Feedback (30:58) What's next (36:13) Advice for other states (40:06) GUESTS: Nydia Y. Monagas, Psy.D., is the Director of Training and Statewide Initiatives with the New Jersey Children's Alliance (NJCA), a statewide non-profit whose mission is to promote and support communities in providing a coordinated investigation and comprehensive response to victims of child abuse, neglect and family violence. Dr. Monagas serves as co-chair of the Problematic Sexual Behavior (PSB) Statewide Response Workgroup, which established a statewide strategy to respond to cases involving PSB. Dr. Monagas is also an Associate Teaching Professor in the McCormick Center for Child Advocacy and Policy at Montclair State University, where she supervises the practicum experience for undergraduate Child Advocacy and Policy majors and teaches courses on child abuse and neglect, child advocacy, and other related topics. She is also the Director the Family Impact Seminars in New Jersey which provides state policymakers with nonpartisan, solution-oriented research on family issues. Dr. Monagas serves on several statewide Boards, including the New Jersey Task Force on Child Abuse and Neglect and the Child Advocacy Center-Multidisciplinary Team Advisory Board. Dr. Monagas previously conducted psychological evaluations and treatment for children and families involved with Child Protective Services. She completed her Doctorate in Clinical Psychology at Rutgers University Graduate School of Applied and Professional Psychology.  She also has a Master of Arts in Educational Psychology and a Post-Bachelor's Certificate in Child Advocacy from Montclair State University. Maria Isabella Pontoriero (“MIP”), LMSW, MPH, is a licensed social worker and forensic interviewer. MIP is Program Manager at the New Jersey Children's Alliance, managing New Jersey's statewide coordinated response to youth who are impacted by and/or initiate problematic sexual behaviors. MIP is also Founder and Consultant for Enhanced Choice Training & Consulting LLC, which provides specialized training, program development, and case consultation services to individuals and agencies who serve victims of crime and exploitation. In addition, MIP provides training and peer review feedback as a consultant on an as-needed basis for Modell Consulting Group and RADAR Child Forensic Interview Models. She previously served as Lead Social Worker for the New Orleans Children's Advocacy Center & Audrey Hepburn CARE Center at Children's Hospital New Orleans. There, she supervised the full-time and contract forensic interviewing staff and coordinated a child trafficking survivor services team called BRAVE (Building Resilience for All Victims of Exploitation). In partnership with the New Orleans Police Department, MIP developed Louisiana's first proactive recovery planning team that provided rapid recovery and advocacy response to missing and exploited youth who have left home. MIP develops and delivers in-service and New Recruits child abuse curricula for the New Orleans Police Department Training Academy. In her spare time, MIP loves to bake, read, and celebrate Mardi Gras! Valeria Vila, Ph.D., is passionate about leveraging data to inform evidence-based practices that promote community safety, reduce harm, and expand access to critical services for vulnerable populations. At the New Jersey Children's Alliance, she leads data efforts for the Problematic Sexual Behavior (PSB) Program, analyzing trends and shaping policy recommendations to strengthen services and support healing. RECOMMENDED RESOURCES: New Jersey Children's Alliance: https://njcainc.org Social Media Platforms Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/njcainc Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/njcainc/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/new-jersey-childrens-alliance/ Northeast Regional Children's Advocacy Center: https://www.nrcac.org Regional Children's Advocacy Centers: https://www.regionalcacs.org Looking for training and technical assistance for your Chapter, Children's Advocacy Center, or multidisciplinary team? Northeast Regional CAC provides training and assistance services to help you implement an effective, sustainable, collaborative response to child abuse. Visit NRCAC.org/request to learn more and request assistance today! Have an idea for a future Team Talk guest or topic? We want to hear from you! Click here to share your suggestions. Disclaimer: This project was sponsored by NRCAC from Grant Award Number 15PJDP-22-GK-03061-JJVO awarded by the Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention, Department of Justice. The opinions, findings, and conclusions or recommendations expressed in this publication are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Department of Justice, OJJDP or NRCAC.  

My name is Marina A. Smirnova. I was born on Sakhalin Island (the Far East of Russia), and, well over twenty years ago, I made the U.S.A. my home. My journey has been enriched by earning a Bachelor degree in Music Education (Minsk State Pedagogical University, 1996), a Master of Arts degree in Counseling (Central Michigan University, 2003), and a PhD degree in Psychology, with Transpersonal Psychology Concentration (Sofia University, formerly Institute of Transpersonal Psychology, 2013). I started my teaching path at the age of 18 as a K-12 music teacher. In 2013, I began my contribution to Saybrook University. In 2016, I became an Assistant Program Director for the Department of Humanistic and Clinical Psychology; in 2017-an Interim Psychology Chair. Currently, as a core faculty member of the Department of Humanistic Psychology at Saybrook, I serve as a Full Professor of Psychology and Consciousness, Spirituality, and Integrative Health (CSIH) Specialization Director. I am a recipient of two recent Saybrook University awards: Presidential Award for Excellence (November 2021) and Exemplary Humanistic Educator Award (August 2024). My interests are deeply humanistic and transpersonal in nature. Outside of the halls of academia, I support adults' inner development by helping them to integrate fully their deeply evocative, Exceptional Human Experiences (EHEs). Such experiences often arise within and out of dreams, visions, visitations, spiritual practices, breathwork, visionary journeys, and reality-shattering UFO /ET /Alien /Non-Human Intelligences encounters. I support experiencers transpersonally in their quests for spiritual vitality, fulfillment, vibrant longevity, soulful sovereignty, wholeness, and ascension. I have a deep sense of appreciation for contemplative spirituality, mystical and esoteric traditions, and contemplative practices, and my current overarching focus is on exploring, potentiating, and integrating Exceptional Experiences (EEs) and Exceptional Human Experiences (EHEs), in general, and reality-shattering UFO /ET /Alien / Non-Human Intelligences encounters, in particular. My heart-centered art and interests include: (1) intuitive spiritual support and guidance; (2) transpersonal ways of knowing, embodiment, ascension mentoring, and spiritual consultation; (3) extreme, deeply evocative, and visionary transpersonal/holotropic states; (4) John E. Mack's transpersonal research on UFO / ET /Alien encounters and human transformation; (5) Stan Grof's expanded cartography of the psyche, holotropic states of consciousness, and GROF® Breathwork / Holotropic Breathwork®; (6) C.G. Jung's transpersonal legacy, Joe Campbell's heroic journey, and James Hillman's acorn theory; (7) psionics, remote viewing, mythology and personal mythology, dreamwork, guided imagery, clinical hypnosis, and alchemy of ascension; (8) consciousness calibration work by David R. Hawkins, (9) the biology of personal empowerment by Bruce H. Lipton; (10) Enneagram; (11) Gene Keys and Dream Arc (by Richard Rudd); (12) indigenous traditions and heart-centered spirituality; and (13) other embodied spiritual approaches that engage inner resources to optimize soulful sovereignty, fulfillment, vibrant longevity, joy, and ascension. My son is a decorated U.S. Army Veteran. I live and create in Sedona, Arizona. With Many Blessings and Joy of Joys, Marina Marina A. Smirnova, PhD https://earthsideacademy.substack.com/

Think menopause is why you're gaining weight? It's not. The truth: your metabolism stays stable from age 20 to 60. What does change? Your energy balance—and most women don't see it happening. In this episode, I unpack the real reason weight loss feels harder now, and what you can do to shift it. You'll learn how energy in (food) vs. energy out (movement) drives fat loss, why tracking intake matters more than ever, and how your body subtly burns less as you lose weight—without you even noticing. What you'll walk away with: Why “calories” are just energy—and why mindset around them matters The law of thermodynamics: no one gets around it How untracked changes in daily movement stall fat loss Why tracking isn't about judgment—it's data to guide your goals What's really behind midlife weight gain (and it's not your hormones) Cut through the confusion. If weight loss has felt impossible lately, this might be the missing piece.   Get Weekly Health Tips:  thrivehealthcoachllc.com Let's Connect:@‌ashleythrivehealthcoach or via email: ashley@thrivehealthcoachingllc.com Podcast Produced by Virtually You! Sources: Hall, K. D., Heymsfield, S. B., Kemnitz, J. W., Klein, S., Schoeller, D. A., & Speakman, J. R. (2012). Energy balance and its components: Implications for body weight regulation. The American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, 95(4), 989–994. https://doi.org/10.3945/ajcn.112.036350 Thomas, J. G., Bond, D. S., Raynor, H. A., Papandonatos, G. D., & Wing, R. R. (2017). Comparison of smartphone-based behavioral obesity treatment with gold standard group treatment and control: A randomized trial. Obesity, 25(6), 964–972. Chronic intestinal electrical stimulation improves glucose intolerance and insulin resistance in diet‐induced obesity rats Ducrot, P., Méjean, C., Aroumougame, V., Ibanez, G., Allès, B., Kesse-Guyot, E., ... & Péneau, S. (2017). Meal planning is associated with food variety, diet quality and body weight status in a large sample of French adults. The International Journal of Behavioral Nutrition and Physical Activity, 14(1), 12. Meal planning is associated with food variety, diet quality and body weight status in a large sample of French adults - International Journal of Behavioral Nutrition and Physical Activity Catenacci, V. A., Ogden, L. G., Stuht, J., Phelan, S., Wing, R. R., Hill, J. O., & Wyatt, H. R. (2008). Physical activity patterns in the National Weight Control Registry. Obesity, 16(1), 153–161. Relationship Between Body Mass Index and Gray Matter Volume in 1,428 Healthy Individuals Butryn, M. L., Phelan, S., Hill, J. O., & Wing, R. R. (2007). Consistent self-monitoring of weight: A key component of successful weight loss maintenance. Obesity, 15(12), 3091–3096. Consistent Self‐monitoring of Weight: A Key Component of Successful Weight Loss Maintenance Wing, R. R., & Phelan, S. (2005). Long-term weight loss maintenance. The American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, 82(1), 222S–225S. https://doi.org/10.1093/ajcn/82.1.222S Wing, R. R., Papandonatos, G. D., Fava, J. L., Gorin, A. A., Phelan, S., McCaffery, J., & Tate, D. F. (2008). Maintaining large weight losses: The role of behavioral and psychological factors. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 76(6), 1015–1021. APA PsycNet Mayo Clinic. (2021). Menopause weight gain: Stop the middle age spread. Mayo Clinic. The reality of menopause weight gain Jefferson Health. (n.d.). The truth about menopause: Debunking 6 common misconceptions. Jefferson Health. The Truth About Menopause: Debunking 6 Common Misconceptions | Jefferson Health American Heart Association. (n.d.). Food diary – How to keep track of what you eat. AHA Healthy Eating. Food Diary — Keep Track of What You Eat and Drink National Weight Control Registry. (n.d.). NWCR Facts. https://www.nwcr.ws McGrath, E. (2025, May 29). Using this 'inclusion strategy' can help you lose weight — and means you get to eat dessert. New York Post. Using this 'inclusion strategy' can help you lose weight — and...

My guest is Dr. Mary-Frances O'Connor, PhD, Professor of Clinical Psychology and Psychiatry at the University of Arizona and a world expert on the science of grief and loss. We discuss what happens in the brain and body when we grieve, the role of dopamine and yearning in the grieving process, the health risks of getting stuck at particular stages of grief and how to move through loss while also deeply honoring the person, animal or thing that is no longer with us. Dr. O'Connor explains that grief involves cycling back and forth between protest and despair (often guilt and anger too) and explains science-supported ways to move through that process in the healthiest possible way. Everyone experiences grief and loss at some point. Dr. O'Connor provides valuable knowledge and tools to help you navigate grief under any circumstance. Read the episode show notes at hubermanlab.com. Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman Wealthfront**: https://wealthfront.com/huberman BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/huberman Helix Sleep: https://helixsleep.com/huberman Function: https://functionhealth.com/huberman **This experience may not be representative of the experience of other clients of Wealthfront, and there is no guarantee that all clients will have similar experiences. Cash Account is offered by Wealthfront Brokerage LLC, Member FINRA/SIPC. The Annual Percentage Yield (“APY”) on cash deposits as of December 27,‬ 2024, is representative, subject to change, and requires no minimum. Funds in the Cash Account are swept to partner banks where they earn the variable‭ APY. Promo terms and FDIC coverage conditions apply. Same-day withdrawal or instant payment transfers may be limited by destination institutions, daily transaction caps, and by participating entities such as Wells Fargo, the RTP® Network, and FedNow® Service. New Cash Account deposits are subject to a 2-4 day holding period before becoming available for transfer. Timestamps 00:00:00 Mary-Frances O'Connor 00:02:22 Grief vs Grieving; Love & Bonding, Gone Yet Everlasting 00:07:42 Sponsors: Wealthfront & BetterHelp 00:10:29 Sudden vs Slow Death, Attachment, Reframing Relationship 00:14:52 Religion, Integrating the New Relationship 00:20:46 Yearning, Dopamine, Brain, Addiction 00:27:58 Culture & Grief Literacy; Protest, Despair & Hope, New Relationships 00:40:09 Sponsors: AG1 & Helix Sleep 00:43:21 Protest, Despair & Transmutation; Changing Attachment Hierarchy 00:52:04 Bereavement Support, Medical Risk 01:05:27 Culture, Alcohol & Death; Dying of a Broken Heart, Medical Risk 01:13:40 Sponsor: Function 01:15:28 Navigating Grief, Emotions & Body, Tool: Progressive Muscle Relaxation 01:23:57 Grief Stages; Permission & Coping, Judgment & Guilt; Lessons from Grief 01:35:44 Grieving Suicide, Rumination, Tool: Shifting Environment 01:47:24 Belief Systems, Religion & Grief 01:54:17 Afterlife, Contemplating Death 01:58:35 Tools: Contemplating Death; Life Celebration, Terror Management, Empathy 02:07:46 Mental Oscillation, Dual Model of Bereavement 02:14:00 Avoidance; Remembering a Loved One, Resilience; Getting Worse & Seeking Professional Help 02:22:15 Time Perception & End of Life, Motivation & Energy 02:30:01 Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify & Apple Follow & Reviews, Sponsors, YouTube Feedback, Protocols Book, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter Disclaimer & Disclosures Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Just how prevalent is self-injury among older adults, specifically those ages 60 and over?  Do the types and methods they use differ from those who self-injure at other ages? What about the reasons they give for self-injuring? In this episode, Dr. Lisa Van Hove from Vrije Universiteit Brussel (Brussels University) is the first to reveal the prevalence of self-injury and self-harm among older adults.To see Dr. Van Hove's publications, including those about self-injury among older adults, click here. Connect with Dr. Van Hove on LinkedIn here. Below is some of her research and that of others referenced in this episode:Van Hove, L., Baetens, I., Hamza, C., Dierckx, E., Haekens, A., Fieremans, L., & Vanderstichelen, S. (2023). NSSI in older adults. In E.E. Lloyd-Richardson, I. Baetens, & J. Whitlock (Eds.), The Oxford handbook of nonsuicidal self-injury (pp. 572-592). Oxford University Press.Van Hove, L., Baetens, I., & Vanderstichelen, S. (2025). Psychogeriatric experts' experiences with risk factors of suicidal and non-suicidal self-injury in older adults: A qualitative study. Qualitative Research in Medicine and Healthcare, 8(1). Van Hove, L., Baetens, I., & Vanderstichelen, S. (2024). Conceptualizing self-harm through the experiences of psychogeriatric experts. Psychopathology, 57(4), 277-285.Van Hove, L., Nieuwenhuijs, B. M., Vanderstichelen, S., De Witte, N., Gorus, E., Stas, L., & Baetens, I. (2025). Biopsychosocial profile of community-dwelling older adults at risk for direct and indirect self-harm. Clinical Gerontologist, 1–12.Van Hove, L., Facon M., Baetens, I., Vanderstichelen, S., Dierckx, E., Van Alphen, S.P.J., Stas, L., & Rossi, G. (in press). Development of an at-risk personality profile for (in)direct self-harm engagement in older age. Journal of Personality Disorders.Murphy, E., Kapur, N., Webb, R., Purandare, N., Hawton, K., Bergen, H., Waters, K., & Cooper, J. (2012). Risk factors for repetition and suicide following self-harm in older adults: multicentre cohort study. British Journal of Psychiatry, 200(5), 399-404.Martin, G., & Swannell, S. (2016). Non-suicidal self-injury in the over 40s: Results from a large national epidemiological survey. Epidemiology (Sunnyvale), 6(5), 266.Choi, N. G., DiNitto, D. M., Marti, C. N., & Choi, B. Y. (2016). Nonsuicidal self-injury and suicide attempts among ED patients older than 50 years: comparison of risk factors and ED visit outcomes. The American Journal of Emergency Medicine, 34(6), 1016-1021.Ose, S. O., Tveit, T., & Mehlum, L. (2021). Non-suicidal self-injury (NSSI) in adult psychiatric outpatients – A nationwide study. Journal of Psychiatric Research, 133, 1-9.Wiktorsson, S., Strömsten, L., Renberg, E. S., Runeson, B., & Waern, M. (2022). Clinical characteristics in older, middle-aged and young adults who present with suicide attempts at psychiatric emergency departments: A multisite study. The American Journal of Geriatric Psychiatry, 30(3), 342-351.Gratz, K. L., & Tull, M. T. (2025). Acceptance-based emotion regulation therapy: A clinician's guide to treating emotion dysregulation & self-destructive behaviors using an evidence-based therapy drawn from ACT & DBT. Context Press.Want to have a bigger role on the podcast?:Should you or someone you know be interviewed on the podcast? We want to know! Please fill out this Google doc form, and we will be in touch with more details if it's a good fit.Want to hear your question and have it answered on the podcast? Please send an audio clip of your question (60 seconds or less) to @DocWesters on Instagram or Twitter/X, or email us at thepsychologyofselfinjury@gmail.comWant to be involved in research? Send us a message at thepsychologyofselfinjury@gmail.com and we will see if we can match you to an active study.Want to interact with us through comments and polls? You can on Spotify!Follow Dr. Westers on Instagram and Twitter/X (@DocWesters). To join ISSS, visit itriples.org and follow ISSS on Facebook and Twitter/X (@ITripleS).The Psychology of Self-Injury podcast has been rated as one of the "10 Best Self Harm Podcasts" and "20 Best Clinical Psychology Podcasts" by Feedspot  and one of the Top 100 Psychology Podcasts by Goodpods. It has also been featured in Audible's "Best Mental Health Podcasts to Defy Stigma and Begin to Heal."

Troy Valencia is an accomplished researcher, author, musician, and practitioner with a unique interdisciplinary background in science, psychology, and traditional Bwiti spiritual practice.  He holds Master's degrees in Analytical Chemistry and East-West Psychology and is completing his Doctorate in Clinical Psychology.   Troy is also the founder of Root & Wisdom, an Iboga platform in Costa Rica with his wife Joaly Trinidad, and the founder of Sacred Roots Foundation, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization committed to supporting Indigenous peoples and communities.  Of Gabonese lineage on his paternal side, Troy integrates his cultural heritage with scientific and psychological expertise.   This podcast will focus on his new work, Living Beyond the Mind:  The End of Personal Suffering (2025).  For more information about Troy and his blessed life, please see:  https://rootandwisdom.com/our-team/ https://www.instagram.com/troyvalencia_/ This podcast is available your favorite podcast platform, or here: https://endoftheroad.libsyn.com/episode-316-troy-valencia-living-beyond-the-mindbwitiremembering Have a blessed weekend!  

My name is Marina A. Smirnova. I was born on Sakhalin Island (the Far East of Russia), and, well over twenty years ago, I made the U.S.A. my home. My journey has been enriched by earning a Bachelor degree in Music Education (Minsk State Pedagogical University, 1996), a Master of Arts degree in Counseling (Central Michigan University, 2003), and a PhD degree in Psychology, with Transpersonal Psychology Concentration (Sofia University, formerly Institute of Transpersonal Psychology, 2013). I started my teaching path at the age of 18 as a K-12 music teacher. In 2013, I began my contribution to Saybrook University. In 2016, I became an Assistant Program Director for the Department of Humanistic and Clinical Psychology; in 2017-an Interim Psychology Chair. Currently, as a core faculty member of the Department of Humanistic Psychology at Saybrook, I serve as a Full Professor of Psychology and Consciousness, Spirituality, and Integrative Health (CSIH) Specialization Director. I am a recipient of two recent Saybrook University awards: Presidential Award for Excellence (November 2021) and Exemplary Humanistic Educator Award (August 2024). My interests are deeply humanistic and transpersonal in nature. Outside of the halls of academia, I support adults' inner development by helping them to integrate fully their deeply evocative, Exceptional Human Experiences (EHEs). Such experiences often arise within and out of dreams, visions, visitations, spiritual practices, breathwork, visionary journeys, and reality-shattering UFO /ET /Alien /Non-Human Intelligences encounters. I support experiencers transpersonally in their quests for spiritual vitality, fulfillment, vibrant longevity, soulful sovereignty, wholeness, and ascension. I have a deep sense of appreciation for contemplative spirituality, mystical and esoteric traditions, and contemplative practices, and my current overarching focus is on exploring, potentiating, and integrating Exceptional Experiences (EEs) and Exceptional Human Experiences (EHEs), in general, and reality-shattering UFO /ET /Alien / Non-Human Intelligences encounters, in particular. My heart-centered art and interests include: (1) intuitive spiritual support and guidance; (2) transpersonal ways of knowing, embodiment, ascension mentoring, and spiritual consultation; (3) extreme, deeply evocative, and visionary transpersonal/holotropic states; (4) John E. Mack's transpersonal research on UFO / ET /Alien encounters and human transformation; (5) Stan Grof's expanded cartography of the psyche, holotropic states of consciousness, and GROF® Breathwork / Holotropic Breathwork®; (6) C.G. Jung's transpersonal legacy, Joe Campbell's heroic journey, and James Hillman's acorn theory; (7) psionics, remote viewing, mythology and personal mythology, dreamwork, guided imagery, clinical hypnosis, and alchemy of ascension; (8) consciousness calibration work by David R. Hawkins, (9) the biology of personal empowerment by Bruce H. Lipton; (10) Enneagram; (11) Gene Keys and Dream Arc (by Richard Rudd); (12) indigenous traditions and heart-centered spirituality; and (13) other embodied spiritual approaches that engage inner resources to optimize soulful sovereignty, fulfillment, vibrant longevity, joy, and ascension. My son is a decorated U.S. Army Veteran. I live and create in Sedona, Arizona. With Many Blessings and Joy of Joys, Marina Marina A. Smirnova, PhD https://earthsideacademy.substack.com/

Send us a textJoin us in a conversation with Michele Mariscal PhD., an expert in the Grief Recovery Method. She defines grief as: The normal and natural reaction to loss of any kind. Grief is when we experience a change or ending in any familiar pattern. Grief can show up in so many ways and Michele helps us find ways to identify grief and some methods to move through it. Join us in this Feed Your Soul with Kim Podcast where we answer the questions:  Learn what grief is and how to be with it. Discover what to do with your “emotional backpack.” What to do when you are experiencing strong emotions. Practice 3 techniques to move through grief.  Please note this podcast is not a substitute for mental health therapy or seeing your physician. Please see a qualified professional if you think you have mental health struggles.  Contact Michele Mariscal: https://www.energym.org/ Check out Michele's book Growing Through Grief: https://www.energym.org/books/  Get your Downloadable copy of How to Choose Your Right Therapist https://go.feedyoursoulunlimited.com/choosetherapist-completeguide  Connect with Kim https://feedyoursoulunlimited.com/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTuSnNrSDhLvbhxoTMXZgog  Join us on Facebook in our Feed Your Soul Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1172488142887200/  Kim McLaughlin, MA Kim McLaughlin is a psychotherapist, coach, speaker, and author. She helps people who feel frustrated, overwhelmed, and overloaded, and it shows up in overeating. She has a Master of Arts Degree in Clinical Psychology and is a certified Intuitive Eating Counselor, helping people to gain peace with food. We would love to get your feedback on this show and let us know what you would like to hear in upcoming shows. Email us at info@FeedYourSoulUnlimited.com  Thank you for listening. Please be sure to leave a review for others to find us and share this podcast with a friend. https://feedyoursoulunlimited.com/feed-your-soul-with-kim-podcast/ Join us for more conversation at:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/feedyoursoulunlimited/@feedyoursoulunlimitedWebsite:http://feedyoursoulunlimited.com/We would love it if you would leave us a 5 star review on your favorite platform.Thanks for listening to the Feed Your Soul with Kim Podcast.

Anders Sorensen is a Danish clinical psychologist with a PhD in psychiatry who has dedicated his career to an area that most professionals won't touch—and that most patients don't even know exists. He's one of the world's leading authorities on psychiatric drug dependence and the complex science of safely discontinuing these medications. His upcoming book represents years of clinical research and hands-on experience helping hundreds of people navigate what may be one of the most misunderstood medical challenges of our time. This isn't just another podcast about mental health. This is a conversation that could fundamentally change how you understand psychiatric medications, withdrawal, and what's actually happening in the brains and bodies of millions of Americans right now. Dr. McFillin and Anders dive into territory that most medical professionals avoid—not because it's controversial, but because it requires a level of specialized knowledge that simply doesn't exist in mainstream medicine. What you'll hear challenges everything you've been told about these medications, reveals why so many people feel "trapped" on their prescriptions, and exposes a gap in medical care that's affecting countless lives.Substack: https://crossingzero.substack.com/X: https://x.com/_AndersSorensenRADICALLY GENUINE PODCASTDr. Roger McFillin / Radically Genuine WebsiteYouTube @RadicallyGenuineDr. Roger McFillin (@DrMcFillin) / XSubstack | Radically Genuine | Dr. Roger McFillinInstagram @radicallygenuineContact Radically GenuineConscious Clinician CollectivePLEASE SUPPORT OUR PARTNERS15% Off Pure Spectrum CBD (Code: RadicallyGenuine)10% off Lovetuner click here Dr. Roger McFillin / Radically Genuine WebsiteYouTube @RadicallyGenuineDr. Roger McFillin (@DrMcFillin) / XSubstack | Radically Genuine | Dr. Roger McFillinInstagram @radicallygenuineContact Radically GenuineConscious Clinician CollectivePLEASE SUPPORT OUR PARTNERS15% Off Pure Spectrum CBD (Code: RadicallyGenuine)10% off Lovetuner click here

“Astrology is a cheat sheet. A map with very loud clues about your destiny, your contribution, and your lessons.” - Debra Silverman Sitting down with the wonderful, world-renowned astrologer Debra Silverman to explore how astrology can illuminate your life path and deepen your understanding of self. Debra shares how astrology offers a shortcut to self-awareness, helping you make peace with who you are, release overwhelm, and find purpose in a fast-paced world. We chat about: ✨ What the whole point of astrology actually is✨ Sun, moon, and rising signs—and how each influences your personality, emotions, and soul's direction✨ Key planetary placements to look at to better be able to answer the question - why am I here? ✨ Why understanding your chart gives you permission to be your authentic self✨ The importance of mindfulness and slowing down in the digital age✨ How astrology offers practical tools for navigating life's challenges✨ Why service and self-reflection are central to living a meaningful life.✨ Some insights into my, Anna's, chart - why my soul is a workaholic and here on a mission (this insight allowed me to be so much more compassionate towards myself...sharing more in the episode). More about Debra Debra is madly in love with astrology. For her, astrology ismedicine for the soul. She's an astrologer, psychotherapist, spiritual guide and author ofThe Missing Element and I Don't Believe In Astrology (April 2025). She's the founder of a school educating more than 7,000 people in Astrology. And the host of The I Don't Believe in Astrology Podcast. Debra has almost 50 years of experience combining her master's degree in Clinical Psychology with a practical approach to Astrology and has worked with celebrities like Sting, Madonna, Aaron Rodgers, Shailene Woodley, India Arie, and Julianne Hough.How to connect with Debra? ✨ Sign up for Debra's FREE 5 DAY WORKSHOP here ✨ Instagram ✨ Tiktok ✨ Facebook ✨ Podcast ✨ YouTube Your host: Anna SvedbergConnect with me on Instagram @nourishedwithanna 

Cora is a psychotherapist and an artist.She has been practicing art psychotherapy since graduating from Loyola Marymount University (LMU) in 2005. She obtained her California Marriage and Family Therapist license and Art Therapy Registration in 2010. She opened her private practice in 2010, and received her Doctorate in Clinical Psychology (Psy.D) in 2018.In 2006, she and her husband Ray opened Gallery Azul in San Pedro, named after their child, Harmony AZUL Vasquez. They initially opened to showcase their artwork, but then began to invite other artists. Gallery Azul enjoys holding group art exhibitions that focus on informing and educating the community.Cora was the first in her family — immediate and extended — to obtain a Bachelor's degree, a Master's degree, and a Psy. D (Doctoral in Clinical Psychology)."Art is an ever evolving and ongoing part of my life, it is my cathartic expression, and the place in which I sublimate any residual from my clients and the world." -- Cora Ramirez-Vasquezwww.instagram.com/galleryazulWebsite: galleryazul.com and coraramirezvasquez.com 

Romantic relationships are sacred, powerful, and life-giving. But I don't have to tell you how difficult it is to love and let yourself be loved.Marriage and family therapist Dr. Terry Hargrave has been helping couples in crisis restore broken relationships for decades, teaching them how to get unstuck, improve communication, and move beyond destructive coping mechanisms—to find reciprocity, self-affirming confidence, emotional regulation, and a joyful, lasting love.In a world marked by loneliness, disconnection, and emotional dysregulation, Hargrave offers powerful insights on the human need for identity, safety, and belonging—and how we can heal the wounds that keep us stuck. Drawing on decades of therapeutic experience and deep personal reflection, Hargrave explains how coping mechanisms like blame, shame, control, and escape can damage relationships—and how the peace cycle of nurture, self-valuing, balanced give-and-take, and connection can restore wholeness. He discusses his unique approach to the healing and restorative power of relationships, which lifts us up to our potential, encouraging us toward a nurturing, self-valuing, non-controlling reciprocity, and true connection.In this conversation with Terry Hargrave, we discuss:How to turn around a relationship in crisis and get off the emotional rollercoasterHow to build security and trust in order to improve or repair a marriage or long-term relationshipCoping mechanisms of blame, shame, control, and escapePractical steps to learn emotional self-regulationWhat to do when only one partner is working on a relationshipThe role of the brain and neuroplasticity in relational repairAnd the spiritual underpinnings of Terry's approach to restoration therapyEpisode Highlights"It don't mean a thing if you ain't got that swing—until you claim your belovedness for yourself, nothing will change.""Relationships are a mirror—we discover who we are through how others see us.""Blame, shame, control, and escape—nothing good comes from these coping mechanisms.""Understanding doesn't produce change. Doing produces change.""When we nurture, self-value, connect, and cooperate, unleashed joy happens.""Thriving is doing more of your best self, not learning something new."Helpful Links and ResourcesRestoration Therapy Training ResourcesThe Mindful Marriage by Ron Deal and Nan Deal (with Terry and Sharon Hargrave)Five Days to a New Self by Terry HargraveEmotionally Focused Therapy and Sue Johnson's LegacyShow NotesIntroduction to Terry Hargrave and the importance of Restoration Therapy today"We are still the same humans, but with a bigger pipe of problems and fewer emotional connections."Emotional dysregulation linked to identity and safety threatsRelationships as a mirror to the self and necessary for human thriving"For there to be a me, there has to be a thou."Why relationships are difficult: imperfection, wounding, and unmet needsHow family of origin wounds influence coping styles"Families don't mean to screw each other up, but somehow they manage to."Introduction of the four major unhealthy coping mechanisms: blame, shame, control, and escapeHow overachievement, perfectionism, and withdrawal are survival strategies from early wounding"Your greatest strength might actually be an old coping habit getting in the way of intimacy."The relational signs that coping mechanisms are damaging relationshipsHealing through self-regulation: speaking truth to yourself with love"Put your hand on your heart and remind yourself of who you really are."The difference between co-regulation and self-regulation in emotional healingRestoration Therapy's peace cycle: nurture, self-value, balance, connection"Nothing good comes from blame, shame, control, or escape."The role of practice and neuroplasticity in forming new relational habits"Doing, not just understanding, is what rewires the brain."How thriving relationships move from neediness to adventurous partnershipIntimacy as knowing yourself more fully through connection, not just need satisfactionCooperative growth and mutual flourishing as hallmarks of thrivingApplication of restoration principles to broader societal healing and reconciliation"Unleashed joy happens when we choose nurture and connection, even with adversaries."The critical role of faith in affirming belovedness and ultimate identity"Everyone else and even God can tell you you're beloved—but you have to claim it for yourself."Practical advice for knowing when to seek therapyWhere to find Restoration Therapy-trained therapistsResources for learning more: Mindful Marriage and other Restoration Therapy booksThe key takeaways that I will carry with me from this conversation are the following:You can change. Your relationship can change. But it takes a daily practice of hard work to create lasting change.And though you might fail, there is hope that you can begin again.Our coping mechanisms are not superpowers. They hurt us and the people we love.Understanding is not enough. Action and behavior has to follow for change to occur.[Any others?] It takes two to tango, but that doesn't get you off the hook from doing the work on yourself.And finally, a thriving relationship creates joy all around it, within a family, in a community, and it shows how personal relationships can change society.About Terry HargraveDr. Terry Hargrave. Until he retired recently, he was the Evelyn and Frank Freed Professor of Marriage and Family Therapy at Fuller Seminary, and a nationally recognized therapist known for his pioneering work with intergenerational families.He's most well known as the founder of Restoration Therapy, which combines advantages of Attachment Theory, Emotional Regulation, and Mindfulness—all in an efficient and organized format that allows both the therapist and client to understand old habits and destructive patterns of behavior and promote change in both individual mental and spiritual health, in order to transform our most intimate relationships.Terry has authored or co-authored over 35 professional articles and fifteen books including Restoration Therapy: Understanding and Guiding Healing in Marriage and Family Therapy and Families and Forgiveness: Healing Wounds in the Intergenerational Family.In his latest book project, he worked with his wife Sharon, also a licensed marriage and family therapist. It's called The Mindful Marriage: Create Your Best Relationship Through Understanding and Managing Yourself, and it's a practical manual co-written with Ron and Nan Deal about how they healed their relationship after almost losing it.He's presented internationally on relationship dynamics, family and marriage restoration, the complexities of intergenerational families, healing and reconciliation, and the process of aging.His work has been featured on ABC News, 20/20, Good Morning America, and CBS This Morning as well as several national magazines and newspapers.You can learn more about Terry Hargrave and his work—and find books, practical resources, and professional training materials at: restorationtherapytraining.com. About the Thrive CenterLearn more at thethrivecenter.org.Follow us on Instagram @thrivecenterFollow us on X @thrivecenterFollow us on LinkedIn @thethrivecenter About Dr. Pam KingDr. Pam King is Executive Director the Thrive Center and is Peter L. Benson Professor of Applied Developmental Science at Fuller School of Psychology & Marriage and Family Therapy. Follow her @drpamking. About With & ForHost: Pam KingSenior Director and Producer: Jill WestbrookOperations Manager: Lauren KimSocial Media Graphic Designer: Wren JuergensenConsulting Producer: Evan RosaSpecial thanks to the team at Fuller Studio and the Fuller School of Psychology & Marriage and Family Therapy.

Join Grace Nowzari—communications expert, clinical psychology graduate, and improv enthusiast—as she brings her signature energy and insight to the mic. With a B.A. in Communication and Journalism, a minor in French, and a Master's in Clinical Psychology with an emphasis in Marriage and Family Therapy, Grace blends academic depth with real-world wisdom. Grace shares powerful life lessons, confidence-building tools, and transformative conversations—all rooted in the spontaneity and joy of improv. Whether you're a student, creative, or just navigating adulthood, you'll walk away with fresh perspectives on thriving in college, relationships, and beyond. Authentic, uplifting, and just the right amount of unscripted—this is your invitation to say yes, and to life. #USC #motivation

In today's episode I speak with Yosi Amram. Yosi is a licensed clinical psychologist, a CEO leadership coach, an author, and a pioneering researcher in the field of Spiritual Intelligence. We talk what is spiritual intelligence, how it  positively benefits mental health and his own experience managing mental health through the use of spiritual intelligence.  Yosi received his B.S. and M.S in engineering from M.I.T, MBA from Harvard, and PhD in Clinical Psychology from the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. Yosi's personal mission is to awaken greater spiritual intelligence and inspirational leadership on the planet, in service of healthier and more inspired self, leadership, and organizational life.https://yosiamram.net View his YouTube hereView his book hereView his free events hereSend us a text message to be anonymously read and responded to! Support the showYou can find Sara on Instagram @borderlinefromhell. You can also find the podcast on IG @boldbeautifulborderline Corey Evans is the artist for the music featured. He can be found HERE Talon Abbott created the cover art. He. can be found HERE Leave us a voicemail about your thoughts or questions on the show at boldbeautifulborderline.comIf you like the show we would love if you could rate, subscribe and support us on Patreon. Patreon info here: https://www.patreon.com/boldbeautifulborderline?fan_landing=true Purchase Sara's Exploring Your Borderline Strengths Journal at https://www.amazon.com/Exploring-Your-Borderline-Strengths-Amundson/dp/B0C522Y7QT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=IGQBWJRE3CFX&keywords=exploring+your+borderline+strengths&qid=1685383771&sprefix=exploring+your+bor%2Caps%2C164&sr=8-1 For mental health supports: National Suicide Pr...

This week on TOWTW Podcast Chelsea sits down with returning guest Carolina Vilalva. Together they discuss how to move from the drama triangle (where we play hero, villain, or victim) into the empowerment triangle where we claim our personal power as creators, facilitate self-empowerment as coaches, and provoke positive action as challengers. If you've been feeling ‘stuck' in your circumstance this episode is for you!Referenced Image: https://images.app.goo.gl/t9pvMGvezTcd7EhV7SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membershipApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewifeCarolina's Bio:Carolina is a certified Executive and Life Coach from Columbia University with over 11 years of experience specializing in life transitions for couples, executives, teenagers, and parents. She holds a B.A. in Clinical Psychology and International Relations from Tufts University and a Master's in International Education.Her training includes EFT, IOPT, DISC assessments, and she is pursuing licensure in Neurofeedback. A Third Culture Kid and part of a blended multicultural family, she has lived on four continents and is currently based in Maputo, Mozambique, where her husband serves as a diplomat.

Join Dr. Stephanie and Dr. Saulnier as they discuss her presentation at the Converge Autism Summit on broadening the autism spectrum.https://nacsatl.com/They will discuss:The key features of autismHow Autism symptoms are expressed differently in male and femaleThe role of racial, ethnic, and socioeconomic disparities in misdiagnosis of autismCommon overlaps and differential diagnosisDr. Saulnier obtained her doctorate in Clinical Psychology from the University of Connecticut. She trained and worked at the Yale Child Study Center's Autism Program for nearly a decade before relocating to Emory University School of Medicine and the Marcus Autism Center in Atlanta, GA, where she directed a large-scale clinical research program. In 2018, she opened her own company, Neurodevelopmental Assessment & Consulting Services, where she specializes in diagnostic assessment, as well as teaching and training for autism spectrum and related disorders. Dr. Saulnier has published over 50 articles, written two books, and she is an author on the Vineland Adaptive Behavior Scales, Third Edition.Looking for Assessment in GA? https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/neurodevelopmental-assessment-consulting-svc-decatur-ga/409874

In this episode, we tackle the challenging but vital question: How can we support nervous system regulation when someone isn't in a safe environment? Drawing from Deb Dana's Polyvagal Theory expertise and current research, we explore practical strategies for both practitioners and individuals navigating unsafe circumstances.In this episode you'll learn:How to identify small touch points that can activate brief ventral vagal statesSpecific techniques practitioners & individuals can use to support clients/themselves in unsafe environmentsMicro-practices for self-regulation during ongoing stress or threatThree Takeaways:Even in unsafe environments, small "safety or regulating anchors" (objects, memories, connections) can provide crucial moments of regulation. The goal isn't permanent regulation in unsafe circumstances, but creating brief reminders that another state exists.Oftentimes the first step in healing is acknowledging the reality of one's situation, not minimizing or denying it. Whether you're a practitioner or the individual going through it, remember that your struggle makes sense, your survival responses make sense.Recognizing and savoring these micro-moments of "safe enough" builds neural pathways that support resilience over time.Resources/Citations:National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233"Polyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connection" by Deb Dana"Anchored: How to Befriend Your Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theory" by Deb DanaLevine, P. A. (1997). Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma. North Atlantic Books.Van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Viking.Kearney, D. J., McDermott, K., Malte, C., Martinez, M., & Simpson, T. L. (2012). Association of participation in a mindfulness program with measures of PTSD, depression and quality of life in a veteran sample. Journal of Clinical Psychology, 68(1), 101-116.Price, M., Spinazzola, J., Musicaro, R., Turner, J., Suvak, M., Emerson, D., & van der Kolk, B. (2017). Effectiveness of an 8-week yoga program for women with chronic PTSD. Journal of Traumatic Stress, 30(2), 173-180.West, J., Liang, B., & Spinazzola, J. (2017). Trauma sensitive yoga as a complementary treatment for posttraumatic stress disorder: A qualitative descriptive analysis. International Journal of Stress Management, 24(2), 173–195.Brom, D., Stokar, Y., Lawi, C., Nuriel-Porat, V., Ziv, Y., Lerner, K., & Ross, G. (2017). Somatic Experiencing for Posttraumatic Stress Disorder: A Randomized Controlled Outcome Study. Journal of Traumatic Stress, 30(3), 304-312.Fredrickson, B. L. (2001). The role of positive emotions in positive psychology: The broaden-and-build theory of positive emotions. American Psychologist, 56(3), 218–226.Perry, B. D. (2006). The Neurosequential Model of Therapeutics: Applying principles of neuroscience to clinical work with traumatized and maltreated children. In N. B. Webb (Ed.), Working with traumatized youth in child welfare (pp. 27–52). The Guilford Press.Website: https://www.riseaswe.com/podcastEmail: amanda@riseaswe.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaontherise/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@amandaontherise

I've never highlighted a book as much as They're Not Gaslighting You: Ditch the Therapy Speak and Stop Hunting for Red Flags in Every Relationship.  It's my favorite book in 2025! Watch the Video Interview Author Dr. Isabelle Morley gives us a timely book that rejects the reckless proliferation of the following terms:  Sociopath Psychopath Love bomb Narcissist Boundaries Borderline Toxic Gaslighting Who is Dr. Isabelle Morley? Dr. Morley is not a chronic gaslighter trying to convince the world that she doesn't gaslight by writing a book about it. Here's her resume: Author of Navigating Intimacy and They're Not Gaslighting You Co-host of the podcast Romcom Rescue Contributor to Psychology Today Advisory Board Member of the Keepler app Founding Board Member of UCAN Member of the American Psychological Association Certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) The Gottman Method – Completed Levels 1 and 2 Relational Life Therapy – Completed Level 1 PsyD in Clinical Psychology from William James College, 2015 Doctoral project researching hookup culture's impact on relationship formation, 2015 Master's in Professional Psychology from William James College, 2013 Bachelor of Arts from Tufts University, 2011 My Fatima Story I dated a woman for two years. Let's call her Fatima. In the second half of our relationship, Fatima bombarded me with many of the highly charged and often misused words listed above. After she dumped me the fifth and final time, I finally pushed back on her barrage of accusations. I said to her, “So, you truly believe I'm a narcissist? Let's look up the clinical definition of a narcissist and see how I stack up.” She agreed. Perplexity wrote: To be clinically considered as having Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) according to the DSM-5, an individual must exhibit at least five out of nine specific characteristics. These characteristics, as summarized by the acronym “SPECIAL ME,” include: Sense of self-importance Exaggerating achievements and expecting to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements. Preoccupation Being preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love Entitled Having unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with their expectations. Can only be around people who are important or special Believing that they are “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions). Interpersonally exploitative Taking advantage of others to achieve their own ends. Arrogant Showing arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes. Lack empathy Being unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others. Must be admired Requiring excessive admiration. Envious Often being envious of others or believing that others are envious of them. These symptoms must be pervasive, apparent in various social situations, and consistently rigid over time. A qualified healthcare professional typically diagnoses NPD through a clinical interview. The traits should also substantially differ from social norms. I asked her how many of these nine characteristics I exhibited consistently, pervasively, and in many social situations. She agreed that I was nowhere near five of the nine. Admittedly, I sometimes exhibited some of these nine characteristics in my intimate relationship with Fatima. I'm certainly guilty of that. However, to qualify as a true narcissist, you must display at least five of these nine characteristics often and with most people, not just your partner. To her credit, my ex-girlfriend sheepishly backed down from that accusation, saying, “You're right, Francis, you're not a narcissist.” Later, I would educate her (or, as she would say, “mansplain”) about another of her favorite words: gaslighting. I mansplained by sending her a video clip of renowned couples therapist Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman, who explained why standard disagreements and having different perspectives aren't gaslighting. Soon after explaining that, Mrs. Gottman explains why, in some ways, “everybody is narcissistic.” Watch 6 minutes from 1:35:30 to 1:41:30: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H9kPmiV0B34&t=5730s After listening to an expert define gaslighting, Fatima apologized for incorrectly using the term. This is what I loved about Fatima: she wouldn't stubbornly cling to her position when presented with compelling evidence to the contrary. This is a rare trait I cherish. Narcissists and sociopaths are about 1% of the population, so it's highly unlikely that all your exes are narcissists and sociopaths. Still, Fatima flung other popular, misused terms at me. She loved talking about “boundaries” and “red flags.” According to Dr. Morley, my ex “weaponized therapy speak.”   Dr. Morley writes, “It's not a new phenomenon for people to use therapy terms casually, even flippantly, to describe themselves or other people. How long have we referred to someone as a ‘psycho' when they're acting irrationally or being mean?” Although weaponized therapy speak isn't new, it's ubiquitous nowadays. Dr. Morley's book sounds the alarm that it's out of control and dangerous. Three types of people would benefit from Dr. Morley's book: People like Fatima: Does someone you know tend to denigrate people using therapy speak? Are they intelligent, rational, and open-minded like Fatima? If so, they must read this book to recalibrate how they use these powerful words. People like me: Are you (or someone you know) accused of being a psychopath, a gaslighter, or a person with OCD? Actual victims: The explosion of use of these powerful words has diluted their meaning. As a result, the real victims of narcissists and sociopaths are now belittled. Their true suffering is minimized when every other person has a sociopath in their life. Their grievances are severe. Let's not equate our relationship problems with their terror. I'll list some of my favorite chapter titles, which will give you a flavor of the book's message: Chapter 4: Are They Gaslighting You, or Do They Just Disagree? Chapter 5: Do They Have OCD, or Are They Just Particular? Chapter 6: Is It a Red Flag, or Are They Just Imperfect? Chapter 7: Are They a Narcissist, or Did They Just Hurt Your Feelings? Chapter 9: Are They a Sociopath, or Do They Just Like You Less Than you Like Them? Chapter 11: Did They Violate Your Boundaries, or Did They Just Not Know How You Felt? I will quote extensively to encourage everyone to buy Dr. Mosley's book. Most quotations are self-explanatory, but sometimes I will offer personal commentary. Excerpts The trend of weaponized therapy speak marks something very different. These days, clinical words are wielded, sincerely and self-righteously, to lay unilateral blame on one person in a relationship while excusing the other from any wrongdoing. ========== Many times, we use these words as protective measures to help us avoid abusive partners and reduce our risk of “wasting” time or emotional energy on family or friends who don't deserve it. But using these terms can also absolve people from taking responsibility for their actions in their relationships. They can say, “I had to do that because of my obsessive-compulsive disorder” or “We didn't work out because she's a narcissist,” instead of doing the hard work of seeing their part in the problem and addressing the issues behind it. As a couples therapist, I'm particularly concerned with how the enthusiastic but inaccurate embrace of clinical terminology has made it harder to sustain healthy romantic attachments. With Fatima, our relationship woes were always my fault because I crossed her “boundaries” and I was a “narcissist.” If I disagreed, I was “gaslighting” her. Or I was being “defensive” instead of apologizing. And when I apologized, I did so incorrectly because I offered excuses after saying I'm sorry (she was right about that). The point is that she used weaponized therapy speak to demonize me, alleviating herself from the burden of considering that perhaps she shared some of the responsibility for our woes. ========== Their friend doesn't agree with their warped view of an event or their disproportionate reaction? The friend is an empathy-lacking narcissist who is actively gaslighting them. ========== In one memorable session of mine, a client managed to accuse their partner of narcissism, gaslighting, love bombing, blaming the victim, lacking accountability, having no empathy, and being generally abusive, manipulative, and toxic . . . all within twenty minutes. Although Fatima and I went to couples therapy, I don't remember Dr. Mosley being our facilitator, but that sure sounds like Fatima! LOL! ========== I'm certified in emotionally focused couples therapy (EFCT), which is a type of couples therapy based on attachment theory. ========== For example, if you feel like a failure for letting your partner down, you might immediately minimize your partner's feelings and tell them they shouldn't react so strongly to such a small issue. (For anyone wondering, this isn't gaslighting.) That makes them feel unheard and unimportant, so they get even more upset, which makes you dismiss their reaction as dramatic, and round and round it goes. Welcome to my world with Fatima! ========== You could claim your partner is toxic and borderline because they're emotionally volatile and unforgiving. You could say their feelings are disproportionate to the problem, and their verbal assault is bordering on abusive. But your partner could say that you are a narcissist who is gaslighting them by refusing to acknowledge their feelings, showing no empathy for the distress your tardiness caused, and shifting the blame to them (just like a narcissist would!). You'd both be wrong, of course, but you can see how these conclusions could happen. ========== Weaponized therapy speak is our attempt to understand people and situations in our lives, yes, but it is also a strategy to avoid responsibility. It puts the blame solely on the other person and allows us to ignore our part. ========== However, the vast majority of partners and friends are not sociopaths, narcissists, or abusers. They're just flawed. They're insecure, demanding, controlling, emotional, or any number of adjectives, but these traits alone aren't pathological. ========== But doing such things now and then in our relational histories, or doing them often in just one relationship, doesn't mean we have a personality disorder. These diagnoses are reserved for people who exhibit a persistent pattern of maladaptive behaviors in most or all of their close relationships. ========== I wasn't an abusive partner. I was a messy newcomer to relationships, as we usually are in our teens and twenties, trying my best to navigate my feelings while following bad examples from television and making plenty of other blunders along the way. Stonewalling was immature and an unhelpful way of coping, but it wasn't abuse. ========== If we're looking for a partner who will always do the right thing, even in the hardest moments, we're only setting ourselves up for disappointment. As I mentioned before, really good people can behave really badly. ========== If we don't know the difference between abusive behavior and normal problematic behavior, we're at risk for either accepting abuse (thinking that it's just a hard time) or, alternatively, throwing away a perfectly good relationship because we can't accept any flaws or mistakes. Alas, Fatima threw away a perfectly good relationship. I was her second boyfriend. Her lack of experience made her underappreciate what we had. She'll figure it out with the next guy. ========== Disagreeing with someone, thinking your loved one is objectively wrong, arguing about what really happened and what was actually said, trying to find your way to the one and only “truth”—these are things that most people do. They are not helpful or effective, but they also are not gaslighting. ========== “What? I didn't say yes to seeing it, Cece. I said yes to finding houses we both liked and visiting them. Sometimes you just hear what you want to and then get mad at me when you realize it's not what I actually said,” Meg answers. “Stop gaslighting me! Don't tell me what happened. I remember exactly what you said! You told me yes to this open house and then changed your mind, and I'm upset about it. I'm allowed to be upset about it; don't invalidate my feelings!” Cece says, her frustration growing. Meg feels surprised and nervous. She didn't think she was gaslighting Cece, which is exactly what she says. “I didn't mean to gaslight you. I just remember this differently. I don't remember saying I would go to this open house, so that's why I don't understand why you're this upset.” “Yes, you are gaslighting me because you're trying to convince me that what I clearly remember happening didn't happen. But you can't gaslight me because I'm positive I'm right.” ========== Cece's accusation of gaslighting quickly shut down the conversation, labeling Meg as a terrible partner and allowing Cece to exit the conversation as the victor. ========== I find gaslighting to be one of the harder labels to deal with in my clinical work for three reasons: 1. Accusations of gaslighting are incredibly common. I hear accusations of gaslighting at least once a week, and yet it's only been accurate about five times in my entire clinical career. Boyfriend didn't agree with what time you were meeting for dinner? Gaslighting. Spouse said you didn't tell them to pick up milk on the way home, but you swear you did? Gaslighting. ========== You could say, “I want you to know that I really understand your perspective on this. I see things differently, but your experience is valid, and it makes sense. I'm not trying to convince you that you're wrong and I'm right, and I'm sorry if I came across that way.” WHAT IS VALIDATION? Validation is another word that suffers from frequent misuse. People demand validation, but what they're really asking for is agreement. And if someone doesn't agree, they call it toxic. Here's the thing, though: Validation is not the same as agreement. ========== You can disagree in your head but still validate how they feel: “Hey, you're not crazy. I see why you'd feel that way. It makes sense to me. I'd probably feel that way too if I were in your shoes, experiencing our interaction the way you did. I care about your feelings.” ========== “I bet it felt really awful to have me challenge your experience and make you feel like it wasn't right or valid.” I regret I learned this lesson too late with Fatima. I was too slow to validate her feelings. We learn something in every relationship. Ideally, our partner is patient with us as we stumble through the learning process, often repeating the same error until we form a new habit. However, Fatima ran out of patience with me. I couldn't change fast enough for her, even though I was eager to learn and dying to please her. By the time I began to learn about proper validation and apologies, she had given up on me. ========== My husband, Lucas, hates it when lids aren't properly put on jars. You know, when a lid is half on and still loose or haphazardly tightened and askew? I, on the other hand, could not care less. I am the only perpetrator of putting lids on wrong in our house. I barely screw on the top to the pickles, peanut butter, medications, water bottles, or food storage containers. I don't even realize that I do it because I care so little about it. This drives Lucas absolutely crazy. I love this example because it's what I would repeatedly tell Fatima: some habits are hard to break. Dr. Mosley knows her husband hates half-closed jars, but she struggles to comply with his wishes. We're imperfect creatures. ========== Is your partner always leaving a wet towel on the floor after showering? Red flag—they're irresponsible and will expect you to clean up after them. Is your friend bad at texting to let you know when they're behind schedule? Red flag—they're selfish, inconsiderate, and don't value your time. It's all too easy to weaponize this term in a relationship, in hopes that it will shame the other person into changing. ========== People aren't perfect. Individually, we're messy, and in relationships, we're much messier. We all make mistakes, sometimes repeatedly for our entire lives. Instead of labeling all unwanted behaviors as red flags and expecting change or running away altogether, try a new approach: Identify why those behaviors hurt you and share that with your loved one instead. ========== When confronted with the knowledge that we've hurt someone, many of us become defensive. We hate the idea of hurting the person we love and since we usually didn't intend to hurt them, we start explaining why our actions weren't that bad and why they shouldn't feel upset. It comes from a place of inadequacy, self-criticism, and remorse. If the other person responds like this but you can tell they care about your pain, this may be a good time to give them some grace in the form of empathy and time. Wait a few hours or even a few days, then try the conversation again. For every criticism I had about Fatima's behavior, she had 20 criticisms about my behavior. As a result, I had many more opportunities to fall into the trap of becoming defensive. It's so hard to resist. I'm still working on that front. ========== We all have a touch of narcissism, which can get bigger at certain points in life, ========== Conflicts are upsetting, and we've all developed ways of protecting ourselves, whether it's getting loud to be heard or emotionally withdrawing to prevent a panic attack. Underneath these less-than-ideal responses, though, we feel awful. We feel scared, insecure, inadequate, unimportant, and alone. We hate fighting with our loved ones, and we really hate that we've hurt them, especially unknowingly. We're not being defensive because we have a narcissistic belief in our own superiority; we're doing it because we're terrified that the person won't understand us and will see us negatively, so we need to show them our side and explain to them why we aren't to blame. ========== But whether it's an inflated ego, vanity, self-absorption, or just unusually healthy confidence, these traits do not make a narcissist. To have NPD, the person must also require external validation and admiration, and to be seen as superior to others. This is the difference between a big ego and grandiosity. Grandiosity goes several steps beyond confidence—it's a near-delusional sense of importance, where someone exaggerates their achievements and expects others to see them as superior. ========== Some people suck. They're immature, mean, selfish, and unremorseful. Some people don't respect other people in their lives. They lie and they cheat, and they don't care that it hurts others. But they can be all these things and still not be a narcissist. There's a lot of room for people to be awful without meeting the criteria for a personality disorder, and that's because (you guessed it!) people are flawed. Some people feel justified in behaving badly, while others just don't know any better yet. Our growth is messy and not linear. ========== The reality is that anyone who genuinely worries that they are a narcissist, probably isn't. That level of openness and willingness to self-reflect is not typical of a narcissist. Plus, narcissists don't tend to believe or care that they've hurt others, whereas my clients are deeply distressed by the possibility that they've unknowingly caused others pain. ========== As with gaslighting, I have rarely seen people accurately diagnose narcissism. To put it bluntly, I have never seen a client in a couples therapy session call their partner a narcissist and be right. In fact, the person misusing the label usually tends to be more narcissistic and have more therapy work to do than their partner. ========== person involved with a narcissist to accurately identify the disorder because people with NPD are great at making other people think they are the problem. It's an insidious process, and rarely do people realize what's happening until others point it out to them or the narcissist harshly devalues or leaves them. Now, you might be in a relationship with someone who has NPD, but instead of jumping to “narcissist!” it's helpful to use other adjectives and be more specific about your concerns. Saying that a certain behavior was selfish or that a person seems unremorseful is more exact than calling them a narcissist. ========== Love bombing can happen at any point in a relationship, but it's most often seen at the start. ========== Love bombing is also a typical follow-up to fights. ========== Humans are a complicated species. Despite our amazing cognitive capacities and our innate desire to be good (well, most of us anyway), we often cause harm. People act in ways that can damage their relationships, both intentionally and unknowingly, but that doesn't make them sociopaths. In fact, anyone in a close and meaningful relationship will end up hurting the other person and will also end up getting hurt at some point because close relationships inevitably involve a degree of pain, be it disappointment, sadness, anger, or frustration. Even when we're doing our best, we hurt each other. We can't equate normal missteps and hurt with sociopathy. ========== People love to call their exes sociopaths, just like they love calling them narcissists. Dr. Mosley focuses on the term sociopath because it's more popular nowadays than the term psychopath, but they both suffer from misuse and overuse, she says. If your partner (or you) use the term psychopath often, then in the following excerpts, replace the word “sociopath” with “psychopath.” ========== calling someone a sociopath is extreme. You're calling them out as a human who has an underdeveloped (or nonexistent) capacity to be a law-abiding, respectful, moral member of society. And in doing so, you're saying they were the entire problem in your relationship. Unless you were with a person who displayed a variety of extreme behaviors that qualify as ASPD, that conclusion isn't fair, accurate, or serving you. Again, you're missing out on the opportunity to reflect on your part in the problem, examine how you could have been more effective in the relationship, and identify how you can change for the better in your next relationship. If you label your ex a sociopath and call it a day, you're cutting yourself short. ========== Let the record show that I have never seen someone use the term sociopath correctly in their relationship. ========== some boundaries are universal and uncrossable, but the majority are personal preferences that need to be expressed and, at times, negotiated. Claiming a boundary violation is a quick and easy way to control someone's behavior, and that's why it's important to clarify what this phrase means and how to healthily navigate boundaries in a relationship. Fatima loved to remind me of and enforce her “boundaries.” It was a long list, so I inevitably crossed them, which led to drama. ========== There are some boundaries we all agree are important and should be uncrossable—I call these universal boundaries. Violating universal boundaries, especially when done repeatedly without remorse or regard for the impact it has on the other person, amounts to abuse. ========== The main [universal boundaries] are emotional, physical, sexual, and financial boundaries ========== Outside of these universal, uncrossable boundaries, there are also individual boundaries. Rather than applying to all people, these boundaries are specific to the person and defined by their own preferences and needs. As such, they are flexible, fluid over time, and full of nuance. If they are crossed, it can be uncomfortable, but it isn't necessarily abuse. ========== boundary is a line drawn to ensure safety and autonomy, whereas a preference is something that would make you feel happy but is not integral to your sense of relational security or independence. ========== While a well-adjusted person might start a dialogue about how to negotiate an individual boundary in a way that honors both partners' needs, an abusive person will never consider if their boundary can be shifted or why it might be damaging or significantly limiting to the other person. Instead, they will accuse, blame, and manipulate their partner as their way of keeping that person within their controlling limits. ========== The point is that as we go through life, our boundaries shift. As you can see, this is part of what makes it difficult for people to anticipate or assess boundary violations. If you expect and demand that the people close to you honor your specific boundaries on certain topics, but you're not telling them what the boundaries are or when and how they've changed, you're setting your loved ones up for failure. ========== And again, people unknowingly cross each other's individual boundaries all the time. It's simply inevitable. ========== It will create an unnecessary and unproductive rift. 3. We Mistake Preferences for Boundaries Boundaries protect our needs for safety and security. Preferences promote feelings of happiness, pleasure, or calm. When someone crosses a boundary, it compromises our physical or mental health. When someone disregards a preference, we may feel annoyed, but it doesn't pose a risk to our well-being. ========== You've Been Accused of Violating a Boundary If you're in a close relationship, chances are you're going to violate the other person's boundaries at some point. This is especially likely if the person has not told you what boundaries are important to them. However, you might also be unjustly accused of violating a boundary, perhaps a boundary you didn't know about or a preference masquerading as a boundary, and you'll need to know what to do. ========== I never thought of telling Fatima that she was “borderline.” It helps that I didn't know what the term meant. Dr. Mosley says that a person must have several of the “borderline” characteristics to have borderline personality disorder (BPD). Fatima only had one of them, so she did not have BPD. Here's the only BPD trait she exhibited: Stormy, intense, and chaotic relationships: Have relationships that tend to be characterized by extremes of idealization and devaluation in which the person with BPD idolizes someone one moment and then vilifies them the next. Because they struggle to see others in a consistent and nuanced way, their relationships go through tumultuous ups and downs, where they desire intense closeness one minute and then reject the person the next. Fatima promised me, “I will love you forever,” “I want to marry you,” “I will be with you until death,” “I'll never leave you,” and other similar extreme promises. Three days later, she would dump me and tell me she never wanted to get back together. Two days later, she apologized and wanted to reunite. Soon, she would be making her over-the-top romantic declarations again. She'd write them and say them repeatedly, not just while making love. Eventually, I'd fuck up again. Instead of collaborating to prevent further fuck ups, Fatima would simply break up with me with little to no discussion. This would naturally make me question her sincerity when she repeatedly made her I-will-be-with-you-forever promises. You might wonder why I was so fucking stupid to reunite with her after she did that a couple of times. Why did I always beg her to reconsider and reunite with me even after we repeated the pattern four times? (The fifth time she dumped me was the last time.) Humans are messy. I expect imperfection. I know my loved one will repeatedly do stupid shit because I sure will. So, I forgave her knee-jerk breakup reaction because I knew she didn't do it out of malice. She did it to protect herself. She was in pain. She thought that pulling the plug would halt the pain. That's reasonable but wrong. That doesn't matter. She's learning, I figured. I need to be patient. I was hopeful we'd break the pattern and learn how to deal with conflict maturely. We didn't. I'm confident she'll figure it out soon, just like I learned from my mistakes with her. ========== If I had to pick one word to describe people with BPD, it would be unstable. Fatima was unstable in a narrow situation: only with one person (me) and only when the shit hit the fan with me. Aside from that, she was highly stable. Hence, it would have been ludicrous if I accused her of having Borderline Personality Disorder. Luckily, I never knew the overused borderline term; even if I did, I wouldn't be tempted to use it on her. ========== Just as with red flags, we all exhibit some toxic behaviors at times. I don't know anyone who has lived a toxic-free existence. Sometimes we go through tough phases where our communication and coping skills are down, and we'll act more toxically than we might normally; this doesn't make us a toxic person. Indeed, many romantic relationships go through toxic episodes, if you will (should we make “toxic episode” a thing?), where people aren't communicating well, are escalating conflicts, and are generally behaving badly. We need to normalize a certain level of temporary or situational toxicity while also specifying what we mean by saying “toxic.” This is the only way we can determine whether the relationship needs help or needs ending. ========== trauma is itself a heavy, often misunderstood word. Its original meaning referenced what we now call “big T” trauma: life-threatening events such as going to war or surviving a car crash. Nowadays, we also talk about “little t” trauma: events that cause significant distress but aren't truly life-threatening, like being bullied in school or having an emotionally inconsistent parent. ========== Avoiding relationships with anyone who triggers hard feelings will mean a very lonely existence. ========== a trauma bond is the connection that survivors feel with their abuser. ========== A captured soldier who defends his captors? That person is, in fact, trauma bonded. ========== soldiers aren't trauma bonded after going to war together; they're socially bonded, albeit in an unusually deep way. A captured soldier who defends his captors? That person is, in fact, trauma bonded. ========== None of us get to have a happy relationship without hard times and hard work. It's normal and okay to sometimes struggle with the person you're close to or love. When the struggle happens, don't despair. Within the struggle are opportunities to invest in the relationship and grow, individually and together. ========== If you determine your relationship is in a tough spot but not abusive, now's the time for some hard relational work. A good cocktail for working on your relationship is specificity, vulnerability, and commitment. ========== Making a relationship work requires you and your loved ones to self-reflect, take responsibility, and change. This process won't just happen once; it's a constant cycle you'll go through repeatedly over the course of the relationship. You'll both need to look at yourselves, own what you've done wrong or could do better, and work to improve. Nobody is ever finished learning and growing, not individually and certainly not in a relationship. But that's what can be so great about being in a relationship: It's a never-ending opportunity to become a better person. And when you mess up (because trust me, you will), be kind to yourself. As I keep saying, humans are wonderfully imperfect. Even when we know what to do, sometimes we just don't or can't do it. ========== In this world of messy humans, how do you know who will be a good person for you to be with? My answer: Choose someone who wants to keep doing the work with you. There is no perfect person or partner for you, no magical human that won't ever hurt, irritate, enrage, or overwhelm you. Being in close relationships inevitably leads to big, scary feelings at times, so pick someone who wants to get through the dark times with you. Remember that when people are behaving badly in a desperate attempt to connect—not control—they'll be able to look at themselves, recognize the bad behavior, and change. Pick someone who has the willingness to self-reflect and grow, even if it's hard. Someone who will hang in there, even during your worst fights, and ultimately say, “Listen, this is awful, and I don't want to keep arguing like this, but I love you and I want to figure this out with you.” Wow. So well said. And this, in a paragraph, explains where Fatima and I failed. I dislike pointing fingers at my ex when explaining why we broke up. I made 90% of the mistakes in my relationship with Fatima, so I bear most of the responsibility. However, Fatima was the weaker one on one metric: having someone who wants to collaborate to make a beautiful relationship despite the hardships. The evident proof is that she dumped me five times, whereas I never dumped her or even threatened to dump her. I always wanted to use our problems as a chance to learn and improve. Fatima used them as an excuse to quit. She tried. She really did. However, she lacked the commitment Dr. Mosley discussed in that paragraph. Perhaps another man will inspire Fatima to find the strength and courage to bounce back and not throw in the towel. Or maybe she will mature and evolve to a point where she can be with someone less compatible than I was for her. She would often declare, “Francis, we're incompatible.” I'd say, “No, we are compatible; we have incompatibilities. Everyone has incompatibilities. We just need to work through them. If there is a willingness to collaborate, we can solve any incompatibility. The only couples who are truly incompatible are the ones where one or both individuals refuse to budge or learn. We can overcome countless incompatibilities as long as we both want to be together.” ========== We have wounds and scars and bad habits. We rely on ineffective but protective coping mechanisms. We push others away when we're hurt or scared. ========== Everyone behaves badly sometimes. But even then, odds are they're not gaslighting you. Conclusion I'll repeat: They're Not Gaslighting You: Ditch the Therapy Speak and Stop Hunting for Red Flags in Every Relationship is my favorite book in 2025! Buy it! Feedback Leave anonymous audio feedback at SpeakPipe More info You can post comments, ask questions, and sign up for my newsletter at http://wanderlearn.com. If you like this podcast, subscribe and share!  On social media, my username is always FTapon. Connect with me on: Facebook Twitter YouTube Instagram TikTok LinkedIn Pinterest Tumblr My Patrons sponsored this show! Claim your monthly reward by becoming a patron at http://Patreon.com/FTapon Rewards start at just $2/month! 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My guest in this episode is Dr. Patty Ann Tublin. She is an internationally recognized relationship, communication, and emotional intelligence expert who helps high-performing executives, entrepreneurs, and business leaders unlock next-level success through the power of connection. With a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology, two master's degrees, and over 25 years of experience, she blends science-backed strategies with real-world business insight to transform leadership, team dynamics, and organizational culture.As the CEO and founder of Relationship Toolbox LLC, Dr. Patty Ann works with global corporations and visionary leaders to enhance trust, communication, and collaboration—resulting in increased performance and profit. She's a sought-after corporate speaker, published author, Forbes contributor, and media personality featured on ABC, NBC, and CBS.Known for her no-nonsense style, warm presence, and deep understanding of human behavior, Dr. Patty Ann equips leaders not just to grow their businesses, but to thrive in their personal and professional relationships.Interview Links:Dr. Patty Ann Tublin: https://drpattyann.com/Subscribe To Our Weekly Newsletter:The Wealth Dojo: https://subscribe.wealthdojo.ai/Download all the Niches Trilogy Books:The 21 Best Cashflow NichesDigital: ⁠⁠https://www.cashflowninjaprograms.com/the-21-best-cashflow-niches-book⁠⁠Audio: ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/21-best-cashflow-niches⁠The 21 Most Unique Cashflow NichesDigital: ⁠⁠https://www.cashflowninjaprograms.com/the-21-most-unique-cashflow-niches⁠⁠Audio: ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/21-most-unique-niches⁠The 21 Best Cash Growth NichesDigital: ⁠https://www.cashflowninjaprograms.com/the-21-best-cash-growth-niches⁠⁠Audio: ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/21-cash-growth-nichesThe 21 Next Level Cashflow NichesDigital: https://www.cashflowninjaprograms.com/the-21-next-level-cashflow-niches-book-free-downloadAudio: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/the-21-next-level-nichesListen To Cashflow Ninja Podcasts:Cashflow Ninja⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/cashflowninja⁠Cashflow Investing Secrets⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/cashflowinvestingsecrets⁠Cashflow Ninja Banking⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/cashflow-ninja-banking⁠Connect With Us:Website: http://cashflowninja.comPodcast: http://cashflowinvestingsecrets.comPodcast: http://cashflowninjabanking.comSubstack: https://mclaubscher.substack.com/Amazon Audible: https://a.co/d/1xfM1VxAmazon Audible: https://a.co/d/aGzudX0Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cashflowninja/Twitter: https://twitter.com/mclaubscherInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecashflowninja/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cashflowninjaLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mclaubscher/Gab: https://gab.com/cashflowninjaYoutube: http://www.youtube.com/c/CashflowninjaRumble: https://rumble.com/c/c-329875

It could be argued that agents of capitalism have built the patriarchal system as a means to keep both men and women controlled and in line. But what if we broke free? What would happen to sex, love and freedom then? Dr. Kate Balesteri joins us to discuss what patriarchy actually is, how it hurts all genders, and how we (men, women and every gender) can take back our agency while heightening our authenticity and consciousness. You can find Dr. Kate Balestrieri at: https://www.modernintimacy.com/dr-kate-balestrieri-sex-therapist/ Facebook http://facebook.com/dr.katebalestrieri http://instagram.com/drkatebalestrieri Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@drkatebalestrieri Dr. Kate Balestrieri"s Bio: Dr. Kate Balestrieri, Psy.D., CSAT-S, is a Licensed Psychologist (Clinical and Forensic) in CA, FL, NY and IL. She is a Certified Sex Therapist, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist – Supervisor, and PACT III trained couples' therapist. Dr. Balestrieri earned her Doctorate of Clinical Psychology from the Illinois School of Professional Psychology, Chicago, and completed her Post-Doctoral Fellowship though the Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine, with a concentration in Forensic Psychology. In over 16 years of clinical experience, she has conducted clinical and forensic evaluations, provided expert witness testimony in court, and been a treatment provider in clinical, forensic, and correctional settings. The Founder of Modern Intimacy, Dr. Balestrieri is a passionate advocate for mental, relational and sexual health. Throughout her work, Dr. Balestrieri focuses on helping people build resilience and recovery from what ails them to move from a position of pain or discomfort to one of thriving, holistically in their lives. A sex positive provider and human, Dr. Balestrieri is dedicated to helping people have a more expansive and integrated relationship with sexuality. Dr. Balestrieri is a regular contributor for PopSugar, Poosh, YourTango, Psychology Today, House of Wise and has been featured in many other publications. She is also the host of the Get Naked with Dr. Kate podcast, on which she discusses mental health, sex and relationships. You can listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeart Radio or anywhere you get your podcasts! How to find Sunny Megatron: Website: http://sunnymegatron.com Facebook http://facebook.com/sunnymegatron Twitter http://twitter.com/sunnymegatron Instagram http://instagram.com/sunnymegatron Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron YouTube https://www.youtube.com/sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/2HroMhWJnyZbMSsOBKwBnk How to find Kate Loree: Website http://kateloree.com Instagram: http://instagram.com/opendeeplywithkateloree Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@opendeeplywithkateloree Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kateloreelmft Twitter http://twitter.com/kateloreelmft YouTube https://youtube.com/channel/UCSTFAqGYKW3sIUa0tKivbqQ Book referenced: How to find Sunny Megatron: Website: http://sunnymegatron.com Facebook http://facebook.com/sunnymegatron Twitter http://twitter.com/sunnymegatron Instagram http://instagram.com/sunnymegatron Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron YouTube https://www.youtube.com/sunnymegatron American Sex Podcast https://open.spotify.com/show/2HroMhWJnyZbMSsOBKwBnk How to find Kate Loree: Website http://kateloree.com Instagram: http://instagram.com/opendeeplywithkateloree Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@opendeeplywithkateloree Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kateloreelmft Twitter http://twitter.com/kateloreelmft YouTube https://youtube.com/channel/UCSTFAqGYKW3sIUa0tKivbqQ Book referenced: What Happened to My Sex Life?: A Sex Therapist's Guide to Reclaiming Lost Desire, Connection, and Pleasure by Dr. Kate Balestrieri Open Deeply podcast is not therapy or a replacement for therapy. Open Deeply podcast is not therapy or a replacement for therapy.

Dr. Andreas Walther is a senior researcher for science and teaching at the Department of Clinical Psychology and Psychotherapy of the University of Zurich and clinical psychotherapist with the outpatient clinic for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Behavioral Medicine of the Psychotherapeutic Centre of the University of Zurich. Andreas discussed the journey to his work focused on developing a treatment for men experiencing masculine or masked depression. He mentioned his father's struggle with depression and a serendipitous meeting with a graduate school advisor who needed a student to conduct research on men. Andreas' initial work was focused more on the effects of testosterone on mood in men, but increasingly his work led him to also integrate the investigation of masculinities into his research. He is currently conducting a clinical trial that involves the investigation of gendered depression in men. We discussed what this treatment looks like compared to a standard treatment for depression.   D83

In this refreshing and eye-opening conversation, Wendy welcomes clinical psychologist Silvia Subirana to explore the delicate balance between choice and habit in our relationship with alcohol. From her work with MyDry30 to her personal journey with gut health and mindfulness, Silvia offers a judgment-free perspective that's less about abstinence and more about awareness and conscious decision-making. She invites us to question whether our behaviors stem from genuine desire or unconscious habit, emphasizing the power of intentional choice in all aspects of life. Whether you're sober-curious or simply longing to reconnect with yourself, Silvia's insights on patience, intentional pauses, and the mind-body connection offer practical wisdom for anyone ready to say YES to more conscious living. Discover how small, consistent changes can transform not just what's in your glass, but how you show up for yourself every day.About Silvia:Silvia Subirana is a clinical psychologist and the Head of Content Development at MyDry30, aninnovative app designed to help users take control of their relationship with alcohol– but it's so muchmore than that! MyDry30 helps people discover greater meaning, happiness, and fulfillment in their lives so they can become a healthier version of themselves. To help users achieve this, the app integrates tools like hypnotherapy, journaling, readings, and many other exercises to support lasting change.Silvia prides herself on her genuine curiosity, always eager to learn and share her knowledge with those around her. Her journey into this field stems from her lifelong quest to understand the mind and her desire to help others. To deepen her knowledge, Silvia earned a Master's degree in Clinical Psychology, along with two Postgraduate programs in grief and sexual therapy. Having danced all her life, she understands how the body often reveals what the mind suppresses, reinforcing hercommitment to holistic well-being as a core focus of her work.Through MyDry30, Silvia empowers people to develop healthier coping mechanisms and build supportive communities. She shares her insights on personal transformation, self-connection, and overcoming fear, as well as guidance for living a more intentional life. By combining mental health tips with practical tools, MyDry30 inspires users to start their journeys of personal growth and self-discovery.Connect with Silvia:On FacebookOn LinkedInGet the app here.________________________________________________________________________________________ Say YES to joining Wendy for her: Say YES Sisterhood PWH Farm StaysPWH Curated France TripsInstagram: @phineaswrighthouseFacebook: Phineas Wright HouseWebsite: Phineas Wright HousePodcast Production By Resonant Collective Want to start your own podcast? Let's chat!Thank you for listening to the Say YES to yourself! podcast. It would mean the world if you would take one minute to follow, leave a 5-star review, and share with a friend.

We're continuing the series on Dr. Steve Peters' book, "A Path Through the Jungle.” This one focuses on Depression, how to gain perspective, how to recognize depressive thoughts, and how to take care of your Chimp so that it doesn't get worse. Dr. Liz talks about different paths you can take with different thoughts and the importance of action. *** Suicide is mentioned around RT 24:00 min. “Helpful Autopilots” phrases are given throughout this episode. “A Path through the Jungle” can be purchased on Amazon:  https://a.co/d/4hx7M7M See more about Dr. Peters at https://chimpmanagement.com Previous episodes in this series are at: Stop your Chimp's Panic Attacks >>>>https://drlizhypnosis.com/hm316-stop-your-chimps-panic-attacks-with-dr-liz Manage your Anxiety by Managing your Chimp >>>> https://drlizhypnosis.com/hm315-manage-your-anxiety-by-managing-your-chimp Your Chimp vs your Human >>>>https://drlizhypnosis.com/hm313-from-inner-chaos-to-inner-peace   About Dr. Liz Winner of numerous awards including Top 100 Moms in Business, Dr. Liz provides psychotherapy, hypnotherapy, and hypnosis to people wanting a fast, easy way to transform all around the world. She has a PhD in Clinical Psychology, is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor (LMHC) and has special certification in Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy. Specialty areas include Anxiety, Insomnia, and Deeper Emotional Healing. -------------- Do you have Chronic Insomnia? Find out more about Dr. Liz's Better Sleep Program at https://bit.ly/sleepbetterfeelbetter Search episodes at the Podcast Page http://bit.ly/HM-podcast Help yourself with Hypnosis Downloads by Dr. Liz! http://bit.ly/HypnosisMP3Downloads --------- A problem shared is a problem halved. In person and online hypnosis and CBT for healing and transformation. Schedule your free consultation at https://www.drlizhypnosis.com. Listened to in over 140 countries, Hypnotize Me is the podcast about hypnosis, transformation, and healing. Certified hypnotherapist and Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Dr. Liz Bonet, discusses hypnosis and interviews professionals doing transformational work Thank you for tuning in! Please subscribe to auto-download new episodes to your listening device.

In this conversation, Dr. Zoe Shaw and Michelle Dempsey-Multack explore the complexities of shame, codependency, and the dynamics of feminine and masculine energy in relationships. They discuss the impact of trauma on personal growth and relationships, the importance of vulnerability, and the need for emotional safety. Dr. Zoe shares her insights on how high-achieving women often struggle with their feminine energy and the societal pressures that contribute to this. The discussion also touches on the changing landscape of marriage and divorce, and Dr. Zoe's personal journey through her own divorce, emphasizing the importance of self-care and emotional health. Dr. Zoe specializes in helping women with complex shame and codependency. This was a great conversation on the complexities of how the feminine vs masculine energy shows up in modern relationships. Some other key takeaways from this conversation include: Complex shame can stem from early trauma and societal marginalization. Healing from shame requires vulnerability and empathy. High-achieving women often mask their femininity to succeed. Self-sabotage is common among those with complex shame. Healthy relationships require both partners to be intentional. Feminine energy is powerful and nurturing, not weak. Men need to feel needed to operate in their masculine energy. Self-care is essential for teaching future generations. Divorce can be a catalyst for personal growth and change. Dr. Zoe Shaw is a licensed psychotherapist with a doctorate in Clinical Psychology. For over 20 years she has worked to help women overcome Complex Shame™ and co-dependency in order to experience the healthy love you deserve. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know the way you make eye contact could determine your next promotion—or prevent a team meltdown?  In this paradigm-shifting episode of Productivity Smarts, host Gerald J. Leonard uncovers the hidden mechanics of workplace success with Dr. Dianne Olvera, a clinical psychologist and former diplomat whose espionage experience revealed surprising truths about human connection. With dual doctorates in bilingual education and cultural neuroscience, Dr. Olvera proves that real productivity isn't about doing more, it's about connecting better. From her accidental dental disaster as a TWA stewardess to surviving Argentina's political turmoil, Dr. Olvera's extraordinary journey reveals how connection fuels resilience in business and life. This isn't just another soft skills lecture. It's an operational manual for the most overlooked productivity tool you have: your ability to truly see others.  Tune in to discover how mindful communication and authentic connection can transform your team dynamics, fuel inclusivity, and unlock lasting productivity.   What We Discuss [02:01] Introduction to Dr. Dianne Olvera's extraordinary career   [05:07] A hilarious (and revealing) story about knocking out a passenger's tooth mid-flight   [08:05] How language shapes culture—lessons from Latin America's "open conversations"   [13:29] The science of eye contact: Why being "felt" boosts productivity   [17:36] Spy tactics for workplace dynamics: Using eyes to set boundaries   [19:17] How electrical energy in our eyes rebuilds broken relationships   [23:31] The dark side of jokes: How negative speech patterns poison teams   [26:21] Neurodiversity in the workplace: Creating safety for divergent thinkers   [32:15] The "Ask Don't Tell" philosophy to empower self-leadership and intrinsic motivation  [32:53] Naming behaviours in the book [38:40] Where to connect with Dr. Olvera   Notable Quotes   [05:01] “I knocked a man's tooth out with my hip as we were getting ready to land at the Indianapolis 500. This is when they still had real forks." — Dr. Dianne Olvera   [08:05] "I spent 12 years in graduate school going for my first doctorate in bilingual special education, and then my second one was in cultural differences because I wanted to know what is the impact of language on people." — Dr. Dianne Olvera   [09:59] "In Latin America, people would come up, hug me, and tell me to my face what they thought of me. At first, you want to crawl into a hole, but then you realize they really care about me." — Dr. Dianne Olvera   [13:29] "When you broaden your awareness, you actually notice when somebody looks at you, and you also notice when they don't look at you. And so you don't feel." — Dr. Dianne Olvera   [19:17] "Our eyes are of the electrical system of our body. You can literally turn negative relationships or relationships that have gone cold within a week by just learning how to use your eyes." — Dr. Dianne Olvera   [23:31] "Negative speech patterns usually start out as a joke. But then that little negative gesture permeates the whole group." — Dr. Dianne Olvera   [33:44] “So it's the words you don't use that are the words that get you into trouble.”— Dr. Dianne Olvera   Our Guest Dr. Dianne Olvera is a lively and compassionate educator, former diplomat, and intelligence officer whose groundbreaking work has transformed classrooms and workplaces around the world. Holding doctorates in bilingual special education and cultural neuroscience, she brings a rare blend of academic insight and real-world experience. Her research into how language and nonverbal cues shape the brain has helped teams and individuals communicate more effectively, resolve conflict, and foster genuine connection. In her acclaimed book, The Power of Connection, Dr. Olvera reveals how subtle shifts in speech patterns and body language can unlock empowerment, collaboration, and lasting change.   Resources Dianne Olvera Website - https://www.drdianneolvera.com/ Book - The Power of Connection   Productivity Smarts Podcast Website - productivitysmartspodcast.com   Gerald J. Leonard Website - geraldjleonard.com Turnberry Premiere website - turnberrypremiere.com Scheduler - vcita.com/v/geraldjleonard   Mentioned Book Conversational Intelligence  Kiva is a loan, not a donation, allowing you to cycle your money and create a personal impact worldwide. https://www.kiva.org/lender/topmindshelpingtopminds