Dear Young Man

Shame is mental health's greatest weapon. It confers shame on you by telling you that you are wrong for feeling the way you feel. Instead of allowing shame to be the boss of you, TALK ABOUT IT. Talk about it to people you trust, to your diary, to your phone, just let out how you feel and what you fear to the light. Pain and struggles fear the light. Expose it. Speak up. Verbalize your fears and struggles, and see just how better you will feel afterwards.

Talk to yourself! Talk positively to yourself. You deserve to be positive and have all the good things in life. Talking positive self-talk is an underrated tool. Fill your mind with who you are and want to be.

"You are the only one feeling this way!" "Everyone else is sane and happy, but you are not!" "Nobody will listen to you!" These are all lies. You are not alone. In this episode, I remind you that you have a community of people just like you, so don't you ever feel alone.

When we go through tough days, our head suggests to us who we are, our head tells us that what we are feeling is who we are. But that is not true. You are not your feelings! Because you feel sad and depressed does not mean you are a sad and depressed person. That is not you.

Living with mental health struggles can mess your mind so much that you hate yourself every single time you slip, relapse. You berate yourself for feeling how you feel, and whatever else you do to alleviate the pain. There is a voice in your head that never forgives you for not being strong enough. Forgive yourself! Extend grace to your being, to your person. Forgive yourself!

The year is about to end, and this is the time when we score ourselves. In this episode, I share daily activities that you can do to help you recalibrate your mind for the coming year, and begin the year as the best version of yourself. Be grateful. Have immense gratitude for life and all that you have achieved and watch your mental health improve drastically

I realized how much mental work is required to move me from where I am now, which is shitty financially, to where I want to be. There is a dire need for a mental shift, a journey I have started but am stumbling through. In this podcast, I share what I have been struggling with and what I am currently learning about self-talk and mindset shift.

This is how I try to document how empty I feel. I feel nothing. I feel nothing. Nigeria is burning, and our Government is the cause and fuel in this fire.

What defines a man? This question has always bugged me. A conversation between Nikki Giovanni and James Baldwin reignited this question. In this episode, I speak with a friend, Slyvester, on what qualities define a man. According to Him, A man should Protect, Provide, and Procreate. These are the qualities that define a man. We also talked about football and Manchester United in between. It was an eye-opening conversation because I learned that being a man is Environment and circumstance dependent.

We sometimes find ourselves in places we never thought we'd be. There are times when the things of God become boring. Times when we are unsure of what to do with our lives. Is God becoming bogus? God still Loves you.

I talked to my guys about Rape and shared our experiences.

The Coronavirus pandemic has changed life as we knew it. Christians are not left out. We can stay sane and grow our fellowship with the spirit during this period by spending quality time with ourselves and the Holy Spirit. Also, God doesn't send evil to bring people to himself .

In this episode, I take out my anger on how Nigeria always finds ways to cripple people's dreams and take the lives of her young. The sad tale of a young man who died by suicide sparked this anger. Saying I am tired of my country is saying it mildly. I am fucking tired!

I have been struggling to stay consistent with my podcast channel. I have been feeling unworthy of this work. But I should not. I am good enough. In this podcast, I share how to deal with doubts. Ask yourself, WHY DID I START THIS IN THE FIRST PLACE? ASK YOURSELF THE WHY QUESTION.

In a world where men have been taught that crying makes them weak, we hear from Mr. Bright, a Radiologist, if it is fine for men to cry. Should men show emotions when they feel it or should they suck it up? Mr. Bright states that men who cry LOSE THEIR DIGNITY as men. Listen up, dear men, and Women, and share with us if you feel men who cry are weak.

Had a hearty conversation with my fellow corps members where we talked about what feminism means to them. It was an interesting conversation because it opened my eyes to the what people see feminism as. The fight for Equality isn't getting any easier. The guys had varying ideas on what feminism is -- some good, others utterly out of it(in my opinion). Well, until we begin to have more of these conversations.

The glorification of men's rape, the laxity with which it is treated and the sexualization of men's bodies by men is a major reason why male rape would not be taken seriously. Also, the folks playing ball for patriarchy Fc need to understand that men have a right, and need to fight for the male bodies in the same way females have done. They also need to know, these patriarchy champions, that it's not the job of feminist to raise awareness on molestation of male bodies. I rant, as usual, and I let it all out in this episode.

In this episode, Vulnerability: depression, self-doubt and relationship, i share my personal experience with depression and how self doubt knocked me off a few days ago. It is not a rant. I needed to get the pain in my chest off it before it choked me to death. I hope you too find hope in my struggles, and are able to remind yourself just how special you are. You can deal with depression, sadness and the bogus voices of self doubts in head.

The recent brouhaha at Ikeja mall about a woman who harassed and fought a lady because her husband was unable to keep his dick to himself. I shared my two kobo on the issue and pleaded with men to HAVE SENSE! It is a rant. I believe men should be more responsible, they shouldn't be allowed off the hook just because they are men.

The new year is upon us...oh, it's here already. Anyways, it's a new year and we need to, as guys, start doing some things right. I've listed out five things no guy should sleep on; we must start doing them, now! These things include: become a better feminist, Putting God first, Don't Give a Fuck, Be intentional, and Get financial education. See, it's that simple!

In this episode, I introduce what the podcast is about: talking to/with young men. It's about having those difficult conversations. We want to have our safe space where we have the kind of conversations we would be proud of; conversations that would help us become better men.