Divorce Angel Podcast

The main reason why most of us are afraid of being alone is that we will have to spend time with our thoughts, and in addition, we will have to face our demons. We rarely realize that being alone is also an opportunity to learn to love ourselves, be aware of what we want and need in our lives and build boundaries based on that. When we do that, we will be better positioned to start a new relationship and in peace, if we decide to stay alone. Tune in and find out what are the benefits of daring the be alone. Let's get into it:   Timestamps Why we need to learn to live without guilt [00:03:00]  What happens when we decide to be alone [00:06:00]  How I learned to face my demons [00:09:00]  Why finding self-love is essential [00:12:00] The importance of changing our mindset to redirect our thoughts [00:15:00]    Links Book: Kamal Ravikant - Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends on It  15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Many of us are looking for a new life; we are looking to change everything around us, and for some reason, we can't. One of those reasons might be the fear of the unknown, and it is understandable. Our brain's main task is to keep us alive, and everything new looks dangerous; familiar environments feel safe, so our brain will try to keep us there as long as possible.  In this episode, we will talk about how to discover a new side of ourselves. We will learn how important it is to let go of control to grow and thrive. Let's get into it:   Timestamps How I started my journey of rediscovering myself [00:03:00]  The different types of divorced people [00:06:00]  What control can do to us [00:09:00] About my curious nature and where it led me [00:12:00]  One of my first dives. A life-changing experience [00:15:00]  How losing control open all kind of doors to me [00:18:00]    Links 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The way we respond to what happens to us depends on how we were moulded to be. The tools we have available are either the ones we got from our parents or those we picked up along the way. But what if those tools are not the ones we need to be who we really are meant to be? How can we build something that can't be made with the tools we have?  In this episode, we will understand who we are, why we behave the way we do, and the best way of changing that and rediscovering who we are meant to be.  Let's get into it:   Timestamps How we start getting moulded in our childhood [00:03:00] We get to colour our book with the pencils we were given [00:06:00]  What makes us feel complete [00:09:00]  Realizing that we must stop repeating our habits [00:12:00]  Wearing the brightest clothes [00:15:00]  We must stop telling ourselves we are not good enough [00:18:00]    Links 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Choosing the right person for advice during our divorce could be the difference between having an amicable separation or living a nightmare.  In this episode, we will talk about who we seek advice from when going through a divorce. We will talk about why we should avoid listening to people who are not in the place we want to go or those who never went through a similar situation in their lives.  Let's get into it:   Timestamps Why some people make the mistake of offering help even when they can't help much [00:03:00]  What should someone who wants to help do when asked for advice [00:06:00]  Why contacting a professional can offer a whole different perspective [00:09:00]  What is the agenda of those helping us? [00:11:00]    Links 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It might happen that our ex-spouse did or said something that hurt us, and even after some time, we can't get over it. And we might even be in our right of feeling wounded but, if we don't let it go and learn to forgive, we'll stay trapped in anger or resentment. The thing is, whatever we think or feel about others is a reflection of how we think of ourselves. That is why it is massively important to learn to like ourselves.  In this episode, we will talk about the secret of becoming lovable again, letting go of what is hurting us, and learning to like ourselves.    Let's get into it: My experience living in a place of bitterness and anguish [00:03:00]  What happens when we stop trusting ourselves [00:06:00]  Why we shouldn't worry about filling somebody else's expectations about us [00:09:00] The importance of controlling the negative narrative in our heads [00:10:00]   Links 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When someone asks us how are we doing, we usually answer everything is okay, even when it is not. For whatever reason, we tend to hide our feelings, not accepting them, denying them, in a way.  In this episode, we will talk about the effects that practice can have on our lives and, most importantly, our future. I want to invite you to know the benefits of walking through your feelings.  Let's get into it:   Timestamps Not everyone gets through a divorce in the same way [00:03:00]   Why we tend to hide our feelings from people [00:06:00] What happens when we get stuck in what could've done different [00:09:00]  My mother's lesson about love and the jellybeans jar [00:12:00]  The questions we need to ask ourselves [00:15:00]  It's okay to let go [00:18:00]   Links 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ Book: David R. Hawkins - Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Letting go when we are going throw a divorce is perhaps one of its most complex parts. And not only let go of assets and lifestyle but also people. It is a painful process, and it is entirely normal to feel sad, and it is perfectly understandable to mourn all our losses. But we need to be careful of not getting stuck in that mourning; we need to learn how to move from that place.  In this episode, we will discuss the importance of giving ourselves time to mourn and a deadline to stop doing it.  Let's get into it:   Timestamps: A few of my ex-husband's stories [4:59] How it was for me the internal growth process [6:09] What are the things that hold us back [9:03] The rewards we get and what they are valuable for us [11:08] The incredible story of the women that acted as a connector between two families [14:38]   Links Restore Me - Waiting List https://www.tanyasomerton.com/RMWaitList 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Wanting always more and working hard to get better is a worthy journey all of us should embark on. But sometimes, it can be a dangerous trip; we might get too attached to an outcome. Attachment can be tricky; it can cloud our judgement and make us get stuck. It can also happen with people; we might get too emotionally attached to someone, which is never the best option.  In this episode, we will talk about how helpful it is to let go and ground the construction of our happiness in ourselves, not on a determined outcome or person.  Let's get into it:   Timestamps Making big decisions based on our happiness [00:03:00]  All of us can find happiness [00:06:00]  Attachment is what causes most of our problems [00:09:00]  The expectations of what we think we should receive [00:12:00]  Appreciating each moment of our lives [00:15:00]   Links Book: David R. Hawkins - Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender Restore Me - Waiting List https://www.tanyasomerton.com/RMWaitList 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

One of the things I see many clients struggle with and something I've struggled with myself during my divorce is the fear of losing status. The car we drive, the school our kids attend, our lifestyle, in general, might be unsustainable by our own means after the divorce. The fear of losing all that might make us prolong a relationship that is already over, causing us extreme pain.  In this episode, we will talk about why taking that decision is so painful and what we can expect once we decide to shape our future. Let's get into it:   Timestamps Losing status never looks good at the beginning [00:03:00]  A little story about how my status "changed" right now [00:06:00]  What an old car can show us about ourselves [00:09:00]  The void of keeping our status regardless of our unhappiness [00:12:00]  All of us have a choice to make [00:15:00]    Links Restore Me - Waiting List https://www.tanyasomerton.com/RMWaitList 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When we think about the story of our divorce, we need to understand that in most cases is much more than what we believe, think, or feel that happened and ended our marriage. Those stories could be a prison and what holds us back and won't let us move forward.  And some stories might be sayings from our parents or siblings when we were growing up, and we carry them around as truths without questioning them. In today's episode, we will talk about how our stories can hold us back and keep us as hostages.  Let's get into it:   Timestamps The effect of happiness in our lives [00:03:00] Some of the stories I carried for years about money [00:06:00]  What going through the emotions of our divorce can do to us [00:09:00]  You can start your new life tomorrow [00:12:00]    Links    Restore Me - Waiting List https://www.tanyasomerton.com/RMWaitList 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In many situations, fear can keep us alive or give us the strength necessary to overcome specific challenges. It is an instinctive reaction that kept alive our ancestors for generations. But what happens when we get stuck in fear? What is the result of being incapable of reacting because of fear?  Sometimes we are so scared that we can't do any of the things we are supposed to do. We get trapped in inaction, which can be both costly and dangerous.  In this episode, I want to talk about fear and being scared. Being afraid is not a problem; we must be aware of what we do with that fear.  Let's get into it:   Timestamps What I've achieved so far and how it can help you [00:03:00]  We are responsible for our own happiness [00:06:00]  An example of how things can be different in our lives [00:09:00]  The things we carry from one relationship to the next [00:12:00]  Why we should have a strategy of our next steps [00:14:00]   Links    Restore Me - Waiting List https://www.tanyasomerton.com/RMWaitList 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Whether we are in the process of divorce or starting with our separation, communication is a crucial element that can influence the outcome we will get. That is why when we communicate with our ex or soon to be ex, especially in documented channels like text messages, emails, or letters, we need to stick to the facts and let our emotions aside.     In this episode, I will discuss the importance of being mindful about what and how we communicate and how this ability can make you bulletproof.   Lets' get into it:   Timestamps The roles we play when getting into a relationship [00:03:00]  A letter to the ex-partner that could've started a war [00:06:00]  Keeping the communication sharp and short [00:09:00] When the content is more prominent, there is more room for misinterpretation [00:11:00]    Links   Restore Me - Waiting List https://www.tanyasomerton.com/RMWaitList   15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk   My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/   Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/   Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In today's episode, we will discuss the Restore Me program's third pillar: reclaim you. Despite thinking that our anguish, fear, uncertainty, or any negative feeling we are having is someone else's responsibility, it is not.  In this episode, I will demonstrate to you that you have the power to change any negative emotion. I will explain to you how to become bulletproof to any negativeness you receive from anyone.  Let's get into it:   Timestamps The false belief that we can't change our fate [00:03:00]  Our thoughts vibrate [00:06:00]  We mirror what we feel [00:09:00]  The stories we tell ourselves [00:12:00] We don't need to be that person that feels exhausted [00:15:00]  The importance of changing the context of our lives [00:18:00]    Links Restore Me - Waiting List https://www.tanyasomerton.com/RMWaitList 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Last week we talked about the first of three pillars of the Restore Me program, rewriting your life. This week, we will talk about the second of those three pillars, reconnect.  When we are going through a divorce, many of us fear what will happen after the separation. Who will love us again, how are we going to rebuild our lives, how is our financial life going to be? In this episode, we will talk about how reconnecting with ourselves, with our values and beliefs, can help us answer these questions and quickly put this fear out of our system. Let's get into it:   Timestamps What most people miss about the reconnect part [00:03:00]  The moment the pain starts to decrease [00:06:00]  What is the best way to rebuild? [00:09:00]  Practical exercise - Name what you feel [00:12:00]  What a life lover would do [00:15:00]  Why do we speak to ourselves in a way we don't talk to others? [00:18:00]    Links Restore Me Program https://divorceangel.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1051502 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We grew up listening to our parents and people around us that we need to care for everyone else before caring about ourselves. And the intention of that teaching is noble, but most of us got it all wrong. We care too much for others, and we end up relegating ourselves. The truth is we can still care about others, but we must love ourselves first. In fact, we can positively affect the people around us if we come from a place of love and acceptance of ourselves.  Tune in and understand what I mean when I say that being selfish makes you selfless. Let's get into it:   Timestamps What happens when we don't put ourselves first [00:03:00]  When love to ourselves becomes natural [00:06:00]  The start of rewriting ourselves [00:09:00]  We need to learn to love ourselves [00:12:00] Little things can mean the world to others [00:15:00]    Links Restore Me Program https://divorceangel.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1051502 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The kind of person we are today is in part thanks to how we deal with our problems and concerns. Being worried, fearful, or even hurt for extended periods changes us. When we try to hide them, ignore them, or shut them down watching Netflix, that is a momentaneous solution, but not definitive.   In today's episode, I want to talk about what it means to carry negative emotions, and I will show you a flawless technique to help you let go of negative emotions.  Let's get into it:   Timestamps When we have a blockage [00:03:00]  What does it feel like to have negative emotions [00:06:00]  The reservoir of feelings and beliefs we carry around [00:09:00]  External factors that affect us [00:12:00]  How changing the context will help us [00:16:00]  Being grateful is the key [00:19:00]    Links  15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The effect of getting a divorce goes further than your family. It affects the entire circle of affection that surrounds you. This includes the extended family and your friends. At some point, you will start wondering what to say to them, how they will take it, what they will think about you, and your spouse.  Even when this concern is common and legitimate, your primary focus should be your mental and emotional health, and your kids', if you have them. Tune in and find out what should you say to your friends about your separation. Let's get into it   Timestamps What should you say to others about your separation? [00:03:00]  What people think when we communicate them about our separation [00:06:00] We cannot control what other people say or think [00:09:00] Explaining our decision [00:12:00]  Asking ourselves what we want to share and what not [00:15:00]    Links  15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Many times, divorce is the tree that won't let us see the wood. We tend to act based on our emotions, and when that happens, we usually make the wrong choice. It is perhaps one of the hardest things to do, but we need to focus on making changes in the context of our lives.  A simple way to put it would be, we need to make decisions today that our future self will thank us we did. In this episode, we will unravel the reasons why separation is a time of confusion. Let's get into it   Timestamps What happens when we don't change our context [00:03:00]  Making our best to avoid repeating errors from the past [00:07:00]  The pot of gold at the end of the rainbow [00:11:00]  What happens when we have vision and certainty [00:14:00]  We can change our context at any age [00:17:00]    Links  15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why do we feel affected by the words someone says to us? What makes us feel bad? Is it their words or what puts us down really perhaps is in what we make those words to signify? I've learned a simple system to defuse that mechanism that makes us feel sad, low, vulnerable, not good enough, enabled. In this episode, we will talk about this simple yet effective method to be truthful to yourself and achieve great things. Let's get into it:   Timestamps Lawyers and solicitors and their missions [00:02:00]  My previous marriage was a competition [00:04:00]  The importance of feeling good with ourselves [00:06:00]  The power of our interpretations [00:09:00]  How evil thoughts affect us [00:12:00]  Our stories and beliefs [00:15:00]  You need a different perspective [00:18:00]  Looking back at the facts [00:21:00] The master thought formula [00:24:00]    Links  15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The moment we must deal with our divorce or separation, the first thought that comes to our minds is that we failed. We might think that we lost at the game of life because our marriage didn't work out. But as we said before, the end of our marriage can be the beginning of a new life. It is the new chapter of a new life, we only need to embrace it.  Once we go through the darkest parts of the divorce and emerge victorious at the other side of the tunnel, we will understand that it was all meant to happen this way.  Let's get into it:   Timestamps How I see divorce vs how lawyers do [00:02:00]  Mixed emotions during a divorce [00:04:00]  The old me compared to the new me [00:06:00]  What is our purpose? [00:08:00] It is not about winning or losing [00:10:00]  How I struggled during my divorce [00:12:00] You'll love the lessons you've learnt from this [00:14:00]    Links  15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When we go through our divorce, we feel our life has been shattered to pieces. Life hit us with a hammer, and we see parts spread all over the place. Our family home, our family traditions, maybe our businesses, our feeling of safety, and everything seems to be reduced to tiny pieces.  Divorce is definitely the end of many things in our lives but by no means is the end of our lives, it is very beginning. From rebuilding, repairing, and putting together those pieces, we start the new chapter of our lives. In this episode, the Art of Kintsugi helps me explain how to heal from connection and not from perfection. Let's get into it   Timestamps The underlying message of these hundred episodes [00:02:00]  The Japanese Art of Kintsugi [00:04:00] Picking up the pieces of our life [00:06:00] My intention towards my clients [00:08:00]  The things I went through made me who I am [00:10:00]  When we are sincere with ourselves [00:12:00]  The real me [00:14:00]    Links  The Art of Kintsugi 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The week of Christmas is full of happiness and in most cases, is when family traditions flourish. But Christmas can also be challenging if it is the first we spend separated or divorced. We will remember every nice moment from our previous life, and we can go through rough times.  In this episode, I want to talk about how to deal and get over those difficult moments. We need to focus on not being hard on ourselves, and perhaps creating new traditions. I'm convinced that you need to go back to loving yourself and happiness will flow.  Let's get into it:   Timestamps Sometimes it is easier to stay [00:02:00]  My family's traditions changing in front of me [00:04:00]  Memories assaulting us [00:06:00]  Feeling sad is not wrong, don't be harsh on yourself [00:08:00]  The importance of putting ourselves first [00:10:00]  Our ex trying to trigger us [00:12:00]  This time of the year finds us tired [00:14:00]  The Opposite Day technique [00:16:00]  Going back to love ourselves [00:18:00]    Links 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It takes time and courage to identify what's hurting us in our life. It could be our environment, our partner, the lifestyle we've imposed ourselves to have, and many other things. After we identify them, it takes even more courage to step away from those things that hurt us.  But, in many cases, leaving, or putting distance between us and what hurt us is not enough. There's something else we need to change to reach happiness, our context. In today's episode, I want to talk to you a little bit more about content and context, and why your failed marriage is keeping you trapped.  Let's get into it:   Timestamps What is hard for me might be not hard for you [00:01:00]  Your habits keep you trapped [00:04:00]  When we tell excuses to ourselves [00:06:00]  Leaving what makes you unhappy, is a solution? [00:09:00]  Changing the content but not the context [00:11:00]  Having clarity and vision of what you want for your future [00:13:00]    Links Listen to my latest episodes Episode #96 You Are A Gift In The Making Episode #97 A Letter To You 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A few days ago, a close friend of mine was struggling, and I wanted to help her. Someone suggested I write a letter to her from herself. Writing the letter, I've realized that I was answering some questions I ask in my Divorce Roadmap to my clients, and I thought it would be great sharing the experience with you.  In today's episode, I'll share with you the three questions you must ask yourself, and that if you manage to answer, they'll change your life overnight.  Let's get into it:   Timestamps: The feeling of not knowing what'll happen next [00:02:00]  A letter to you [00:04:00] Doing what we think we should do [00:06:00]  The key to your happiness [00:08:00]  Putting everyone before ourselves [00:10:00]  Don't be a taker [00:12:00] The questions you need to ask yourself [00:14:00]    Links 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sometimes people tell us things that can dig deep in our unconscious thoughts. Perhaps they are trying to help us, and still, the effect is the opposite; we start doubting ourselves, we start second-guessing every decision. And every difficult moment we sort out in our separation process has several effects on us; they make us grow, they teach us, and they transform us. That's why it is vital we trust ourselves at all times.  Today's episode is about being aware of the content and the context of our past and future relationships to understand what's the best path into our evolution. After all the hard work you'll go through, you'll find out that you are a gift in the making.  Let's get into it:   Timestamps Looking a little bit deeper at what you see in the mirror [00:02:00]  Short recap about context and content [00:04:00]  When you lose self-confidence [00:06:00]  Living in autopilot [00:08:00]  Behaving in the way we want to be treated [00:10:00]  Learning about ourselves [00:12:00] The evolution of YOU [00:14:00]  People that stood up and their results [00:16:00]    Links Listen to my previous episode: Episode #95 - It's Not Your Fault 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After we go through a process of separation or divorce, it's common to spend a lot of time alone with our thoughts. Trying to find the answer to why it happened is inevitable. And almost every time, we tend to think things like, "I should've done this or that differently" or "I shouldn't have said that," and so forth. We tend to feel guilty about what happened. What we don't know is that those feelings of guilt might be the product of the stories we carry with us. Things that someone told us one or thousands of times. We make those stories real. In this episode, I will share with you a few principles of my latest program Restore Me, and I will explain to you why it's not your fault.  Let's get into it:   Timestamps A bit of my constant effort to evolve as a person [00:02:00] The million-dollar question, where do I start? [00:04:00]  Our environment and other people's opinions [00:06:00]  How our stories impact us [00:08:00]  The dangers of living on autopilot [00:10:00]  Changing your context to change your life [00:12:00] Following the wrong advise and its consequences [00:14:00]    Links   15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

As promised last week, today's episode is the second sample of the audios I've recorded for the Restore Me program. In this occasion, we will talk about anger. Anger, and what makes us get mad is related to our identity and the stories we tell ourselves. If someone tells or does something that makes you angry, is that what makes you angry, or is the meaning you're giving to those words or actions what upset you?  In this episode, I want to help you discover what meaning are you giving to anger. Let's get into it:   Timestamps Our habits and choices [00:02:00]  The simple definition of unhappiness [00:04:00] What we need to ask ourselves when we get mad [00:06:00] What we feel and what we think when we get angry [00:08:00] The meaning we give to things [00:10:00]  Stories we tell ourselves [00:12:00] From point A to point B [00:14:00]  What can we create from negativity [00:17:00]  What's the most empowering story I can tell myself? [00:19:00] Our self-integrity at stake? [00:21:00]   A powerful identity [00:23:00]    Links 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

I've decided to do something special for this and the next week's podcast. It's a sample of Restore ME, a program I've put together to help people get out of the baggage that their relationship had allowed them to transfer into their next life. This week's snippet of the program is about the stories we tell ourselves and how they affect our present and our future.  Whatever you have in life is a direct result of your stories, and I can explain how and why. Let's get into it:   Timestamps Getting rid of the crap from previous relationships [00:02:00]  A lightbulb moment [00:04:00]  Repeating a story in our heads [00:06:00]  The result of the stories we tell ourselves [00:09:00]  Changing our stories [00:11:00]  Feeling trapped in our stories [00:13:00]  The things that make us angry [00:15:00]    Links 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Deciding on getting a divorce might be a process that lasts a couple of years. Perhaps we feel in our gut that something is not right; still we choose to ignore that feeling. And then, after all that work, the inner growth, the pain of making such a hard call, the challenging part begins, where to start?  In this episode, I want to help you take the first steps into self-alignment and the beginning of the most challenging part of getting a divorce.  Let's get into it!   Timestamps The time we take to decide to leave our marriage [00:01:00]  Nobody wants to go to war [00:03:00]  Acting outside of our character and its consequences [00:05:00]  Coming into a solution that works for both of you [00:07:00]  What is self-alignment? [00:09:00]  What is missing to make you thrive? [00:11:00]  Ignoring your gut or accessing your intuition [00:13:00]  What are your values [00:15:00]  Divorce is like the key in the engine [00:17:00]   Links 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It is funny what happens with bravery. We tend to think that there are only two possibilities, brave or coward. The truth is we can teach ourselves to be brave; we can make our bravery grow the same way we grow our muscles in the gym. It is possible to learn from every backlash we suffer in our lives and use that experience to feed our courage. In this episode, we talk about courage, and I will explain what I mean when I say that bravery comes in many forms. Let's get into it   Timestamps You are brave, even if you feel you're not winning [00:01:00]  Putting steps in place [00:03:00]  The four types of courage [00:05:00]  Moral courage and me [00:07:00]  I'll stand up for you [00:09:00]  The body follows what the mind tells it [00:11:00]  Why it's vital to keep growing [00:13:00]  Intellectual courage [00:15:00]  You've got the courage [00:17:00]    Links 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When we are dealing with divorces and the legal system, justice and fairness are not necessarily related. In some cases, especially those where abuse is involved, the judge's sentence could look like a mockery to the victim of that abuse. The point is that when we are going through the division of assets or calculating spousal support, the court won't ask who hurt who the most. In this episode, I want to share my clients' and my experience in court, and explain what I mean when I say 'the court doesn't care'.  Let's get into it:   Timestamps What we'll get in compensation for what we suffered [00:01:00]  What are judges and lawyers worried about [00:03:00]  The things we go through when divorcing [00:05:00]  When no one can help us [00:06:00]  Living according to fairness [00:07:00]   Links 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When we were kids, our parents would tell us to do things not because we wanted, but because we were supposed to. They taught us to be aware of the other's feelings, and that might be the reason why we continuously seek for approval. There is nothing wrong with being mindful of the otherness of who is next to us; the problem starts when others' opinions affect our well-being. In this episode, I'll explain why caring what others think can be a deep black hole. Let's get into it:   Timestamps The way we grow putting others in front of us [00:01:00]  People you might need to declutter [00:03:00]  When our friends show their true colours [00:05:00]  The unexpected best friends [00:07:00]  Getting separated from the extended family [00:09:00]  Losing more than just friends [00:11:00]  You can still get along with your ex's family [00:13:00]    Links  Episode #88 - Declutter Your Life With A Happy Divorce  https://tanyasomerton.com/declutter-your-life-with-a-happy-divorce/ My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Going throw a divorce might hijack our minds and take us to a place where we can't think clearly. It can be so overwhelming that I've seen people experiencing physical pain. I've even heard people saying that it felt like they were having their hearth pulled out of their chest. When I was going through my divorce, one of the advice that most helped me was that despite it hurts like hell; it will get better eventually. And it did, and I'm here to assure you the same, it might be hurting like hell, but it will get better.  Let's get into it   Timestamps I've been there [00:01:00]  The most stressful human experiences [00:03:00]  It will better over time [00:05:00]  The three different types of breakups [00:07:00]  Having the right team [00:09:00]  What you should do if you're hurting [00:11:00]   Links Episode #86 - Are You Happy With Who Is Staring Back In Your Reflection? https://tanyasomerton.com/are-you-happy-with-who-is-staring-back-in-your-reflection/ My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

What if what makes us feel trapped are the things we are putting in our way. We may live according to someone else's expectations and don't realize that it is not what we need.  Is everything you have what you need? As we know, happiness comes from the inside. So what is the point of accumulating and be attached to objects? In this episode, I would like to show you how to declutter your life with a happy divorce.  Let's get into it:   Timestamps Happiness comes from inside [00:01:00] Objects that mean something to us [00:03:00]  Your lifestyle becomes a habit [00:05:00]  Why and how I've decided to change my life [00:07:00] Sometimes we can't get out of bed [00:09:00]  Getting out of my way [00:11:00]    Links 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Of course, there is no such thing as the perfect person. Even after a lot of personal growth and spiritual evolution, there are always things we can do better. And the main goal shouldn't be reaching perfection, but keep growing, facing our flaws and learning to forgive ourselves. We need to accept that it is okay if we are not perfect, and only when we dare to admit we were wrong and we want to create change in our lives, is when the real growth begins. In this episode, I'd like to ask you, are you happy with who is staring back in your reflection?   Let's get into it:   Timestamps One of my first discoveries [00:01:00]  It is okay not to be perfect [00:03:00]  Are you always late? [00:05:00]  The importance of learning to listen [00:07:00] My former relationship with money [00:09:00]  How I spend my money now [00:11:00]  Am I really on debt? [00:13:00]  How I deal with money pitfalls [00:15:00]  The moment I knew I had to leave [00:18:00]    Links 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Mostly linked with pain and affliction, tears have a negative reputation. Since we are little kids, almost every time we cried someone would shut it down, please, stop crying. As a result of that kind of reactions, we grow up tending to avoid shedding tears, in some cases hiding in the shadows to cry. Still, these beliefs couldn't be further from the truth. Research shows that the act of crying has a positive impact on the human body; it can even release endorphins. In this episode, I'll be glad to explain what I mean when I say that befriending your tears is a good thing.  Let's get into it:   Timestamps People in my life that never cried [00:01:00]  What does it mean when people don't cry? [00:04:00]  Why should you embrace crying? [00:06:00]  The feeling of someone having our back [00:08:00]  The white flag in the middle of an argument [00:10:00]  Some of the benefits of crying [00:12:00]    Links 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.

From all the possible mistakes we can make when we go through a divorce, there is one almost everyone does. And that is trying to make money out of their divorce. Most people have their heart in the right place; still, they make a wrong assessment of how much they're entitled to from the division of their assets. The problem is that moved by greed or poor counselling, we can get into a war trying to get more than what we're entitled to, and we might end up losing what we were going to get in the first place. In this episode, I would like to explain why I believe that money comes from happiness, not from divorce.    Let's get into it: The importance of a divorce strategy [00:02:00] What we deserve might be not what we think [00:03:00]  Working hard for our money [00:05:00]  When there is a difference between what each one earns [00:07:00]  What do you wish for your partner? [00:09:00]  The consequences of fighting for what is rightfully ours [00:11:00]  Money comes to you [00:13:00]  The doors happiness can open [00:15:30]   Links 15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.

It can happen in our relationships; we think we are free, but we are not. Perhaps we are not physically held by someone or something, yet still we are not supposed to or allowed to say or think certain things. Freedom is a key that opens infinite doors; it stimulates our creativity. We are free when we can chase our happiness. However, we might have to pay a price for it, and this is how the question that names today's episode arises, how much are you prepared to pay for freedom? Let's get into it:   Timestamps Do you have freedom in your life? [00:01:00]  Be in control or controlled [00:03:00]  A shiver in my spine [00:05:00]  The reason why people have controlling behaviours [00:07:00]  The cost to pay for freedom [00:09:00]  For every action, there is a reaction [00:11:00]  The value I offer my clients [00:13:00]  Striving for freedom [00:15:00]  The greatest gift I've given myself [00:17:00]    Links  15-Minute Clarity Call https://msgsndr.com/widget/booking?calendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.

Last week we talked about the five key reasons why divorce is so hard for most people. Even when every divorce is unique, those having a hard time are most likely struggling with one of those five. However, it is possible to handle each one of these situations and pay a low emotional and financial cost for our divorce. As promised last week, in this episode, I'll tell you what the best way to deal with these five reasons that make divorce so hard.  Let's get into it:   Timestamps A quick recap [00:00:30]  The price we pay for our assets [00:01:30] Keeping an asset for the wrong reasons [00:03:00] Why you need to master your frequency and your vibration [00:06:00] Getting over fear and having a wonderful life experience [00:07:30] How therapy sessions helped me [00:09:00] Assets versus liabilities, what works best for you? [00:10:30] Do your homework, don't act under emotions [00:12:00] Helping you find your identity [00:15:00] The importance of managing our emotions [00:18:00]   Links Divorce Angel - Episode #79 - Did You Know Your Life Is A Reflection Of You? https://tanyasomerton.com/did-you-know-your-life-is-a-reflection-of-you/ How To Tell Your Partner, You No Longer Want To Be Married. https://divorceangel.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1022671 My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.

From what I've witnessed dealing with hundreds of divorces as a Divorce Angel, I believe that if there is someone to blame for divorce being so hard, it is ourselves. The critical element here is emotions; we make divorce so hard because of them. It is our emotions that will affect our decision-making process directly. Our feelings will probably force us into a wrong choice, and we might end up in a disadvantaged position if we follow them. In this episode, I would like to raise some questions to understand why does divorce have to be so hard?  Let's get into it:   Timestamps The demons we face during our divorce [00:02:30] Taking away the emotions [00:04:30] One of the reasons why divorce is so hard [00:07:00] The emotional cost [00:08:30] We know how to speak, but not all know how to communicate [00:10:00] How we build our identity [00:12:00] What is your identity? [00:14:00]   Links  My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.

Every process we go through in life is an opportunity to grow and evolve. It doesn't matter if it is either negative or positive, as long as we are grateful we will manage to add value to our lives. It is the same with divorce. We can regret the time lost in a relationship that didn't work, or we can be grateful for what we lived and learnt during that marriage. In this episode, I would like to share with you the four blessings I received from my divorce.     Let's get into it   Timestamps Teaching my kids through the divorce [00:01:30] People under stress show their worst [00:04:00] When the needs and wants are not compatible [00:07:30] What I've learnt in my first marriage [00:09:00] The give and take relationship [00:12:00]  There has to be more than this [00:15:00]  I always felt a deeper calling [00:18:00]  What a real friend looks like [00:21:00] From a derelict old car to a brand new model [00:22:30]   Links  My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.

What we often attract is not what we wish, but is a repercussion of where we put our energy and our focus on. When we think about it, it is reasonable that if we are struggling financially, our attention will go to the lack of resources. The thing is that according to the law of attraction if we focus on what is missing, we will attract scarcity and repel abundance. The universe sends back what we send out to it; it's as simple as that. If we send out gratitude, kindness, compassion and love, what kind of life do you think we will have? Let's get into it:   Timestamps We are where we are supposed to be [00:01:30] The difference between knowing and understanding [00:03:00] Stopping negative thoughts for starters [00:04:30] The law of attraction [00:07:30] There is undoubtedly something to be grateful for [00:10:30] We tend to ignore what we already have [00:13:30] Creating consciousness of how lucky we are [00:16:30] We should get what we are entitled to, not more [00:19:30] Life can be scary sometimes [00:22:30]   Links My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.

Communication is a crucial element of any human interaction, and of course, it is not different when we deal with divorce. It requires a set of skills more complicated than merely talking and listening. For instance, we feel triggered when someone says something, and maybe, what we understood wasn't what that person was trying to say. With the right guidance, it is possible to get to communicate effectively. In this episode, I will explain how effective communication grants a successful divorce.     Timestamps Most of us communicate the wrong way [00:01:30] What triggers us? [00:03:00] The rule of the six possible scenarios [00:06:00] What I hear is what you are saying? [00:07:30] How my communication skills evolved [00:09:30] Reading the body language [00:12:00] The art of mirroring [00:14:00] Looking deeply inside of us [00:18:00]   Links How To Tell Your Partner, You No Longer Want To Be Married. https://divorceangel.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1022671 My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.

One of the first things we make clear when a client approaches us is to be positive about getting divorced. It is a huge decision, and we warranty there is no doubt about it before we start the engine of our support machinery. Still, what I've realized during the clarity call sessions, is that people's biggest struggle is not about getting a divorce or not, but how to do it. If you already decided you want to separate but don't know how to do it, this podcast episode is for you.     Let's get into it   Timestamps Is it possible to have a life of freedom, happiness, and love? [00:01:30] Have you explained to your partner, how do you feel? [00:03:00] 100% commitment [00:04:30] The seven alternatives [00:06:00] Why do you need to be sure about separation? [00:08:00] Security after divorce is everything [00:10:30] First steps into getting divorced [00:13:30] The importance of looking at the full facts [00:15:00] The biggest issue about getting divorced [00:18:00]   Links Podcast Episode #2 - When is the right time to leave my marriage? https://tanyasomerton.com/when-is-the-right-time-to-leave-my-marriage-2/   15 Min Clarity Call: https://msgsndr.com/widget/bookingcalendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/   Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.

This week I received a beautiful email from a client who, helped with the tools and support we offered to her, managed to make a 180 degrees change in her life. I believe we can learn a lot from her story, from how she handled her divorce, and mainly, from the way she regained control of her life. Join me and enjoy Rachel's story, from Financial Whoa to Wonder.  Let's get into it:   Timestamps We want to feel safe [00:01:30] The lessons we need to learn [00:03:00 What we should avoid during divorce [00:04:30] The beginning of Rachel's story [00:06:00] The body talks [00:07:30] The beauty of this woman [00:09:00] Rachel's critical situation [00:12:00] The last straw [00:15:00] The first step into a new life [00:16:30] Some things never change [00:18:00] Rachel's email [00:19:00]   Links 15 Min Clarity Call: https://msgsndr.com/widget/bookingcalendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/   Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.

After a tough couple of weeks, I've realized that even when life put us in dark places, there is something positive we can get from it. We might torture ourselves overthinking what would have happened if we acted differently, or how our life would be different if we hadn't chosen what we chose. Sometimes, the best choice is to shut all that chatter in our heads, connect with our feelings and be alone with our thoughts. Maybe in silence, we might listen to the answer we are looking. Let's get into it:   Timestamps The body talks, we should listen to it [00:01:30] The pressure goes up [00:03:00] I think I had experienced this feeling before [00:06:00]  One more pull [00:07:30] What I wrote in my diary [00:10:30]  Letting go of the heavy baggage [00:12:00] The message I've got [00:13:30]   Links 15 Min Clarity Call: https://msgsndr.com/widget/bookingcalendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

The house we share with our partner at the moment of the separation has both a financial and emotional value. From an economic point of view, keeping it could look more accessible than it is; my experience showed me that numbers sometimes could be deceiving. But also, emotions will try to get a voice in this decision. We might feel inclined to keep it or get rid of it; it will depend on the happy or sad memories housed there. In this episode, I explain to the detail the elements we need to consider when deciding what to do with the family home at this difficult time.  Let's get into it   Timestamps A real bugbear [00:01:00] Is it possible to win at divorce? [00:03:00] Is not easy to give up on some things [00:06:00] Thinking twice before moving [00:09:00] Why is it important to get a legal document? [00:11:00] Can one partner take over the mortgage? [00:13:30] What happens if the house sells for less than the value of the mortgage?[00:16:30] The best way of moving on with your life [00:18:00]   Links  15 Min Clarity Call: https://msgsndr.com/widget/bookingcalendar=kcpWfO0ij7Aq2u4TzFEk Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/

Regardless of the kind of marriage you had, a divorce can take you to dark, cold places. Even if it looks like you will stay in these places forever, you won't. Life, like everything on this planet, has its seasons. And every season is followed by the next one to maintain balance and keep the cycle of life flowing smoothly. So if right now you feel like your life looks a lot like a harsh winter, relax, spring is just one season away. Let's get into it   Timestamps Life's seasons [00:01:00] Knowing where are we going [00:04:30] Why are you here? How did you get here? [00:06:00] An opportunity to learn valuable lessons [00:07:30] The things that matter in life [00:09:00] You may need to hear this right NOW [00:10:30] The way we talk to ourselves [00:12:00]   Links My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

Getting out of the comfort zone is scary. We can't control what is happening, and we don't know what to expect. However, to be afraid is as understandable as necessary if we want to create change in our lives. If we decide to stay in the security of our safe spot, the prize we will pay is too high. It is a cost that someone going through a divorce can't afford to pay. That is why we need to embrace the fear of defying our limits and push our boundaries daily. Then one day, we will discover that waking up being scared is a powerful thing.  Let's get into it:   Timestamps We usually speak in three different ways [00:01:00] Communication and interpretation [00:03:00] What is your biggest fear? [00:06:00] Stepping out of the comfort zone [00:07:30] Creating a ripple effect [00:09:00] Escaping normality [00:12:00]   Links My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/

Communication is much more than just talking and listening; it requires a set of skills beyond these simple actions. Still, it is possible to acquire these skills with the right guidance. When we are dealing with divorce, having Ninja Communication Skills will put you closer to a positive outcome, closer to a successful separation.  Let's get into it   Timestamps We are pretty bad at communicating [00:01:30] Why we get triggered? [00:03:00] The six other possible scenarios rule [00:06:00] This is what I hear, is this what you are saying? [00:07:30] My evolution at communicating [00:09:30] Body language [00:12:00] Mirroring your interlocutor [00:14:00] Communicating with yourself [00:18:00]   Links   How To Tell Your Partner, You No Longer Want To Be Married. https://divorceangel.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1022671 My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/ See omnystudio.com/policies/listener for privacy information.

Getting our emotions involved in our decision-making process is a recipe for disaster when we deal with divorce. If we want to get the outcome we need from our divorce is essential to have what we call Emotional Freedom. In this episode, I will explain the seven stages you need to go through to reach it.   Let's get into it   Timestamps The danger of making emotional decisions [00:01:30] The secret lawyers don't want you to know [00:03:00] The three ways of getting a divorce [00:06:00] Stage one: time management [00:09:00] Stage two: Multitasking [00:10:30]  Stage three: Delegating [00:13:30] Stage four: Excell at communication [00:15:00] Stage five: Be detail-oriented [00:17:00] Stage six: Be organized [00:18:00] Stage seven: Teamwork [00:21:30]   Links 5 Steps To A Seamless Divorce https://divorceangel.vipmembervault.com/products/courses/view/1008392 My book: The Jelly Bean Jar - Empowering Independence through Divorce https://tanyasomerton.com/shop/the-jelly-bean-jar/ Join my Free Facebook Group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divorceangel/ Divorce Roadmap Session: https://tanyasomerton.com/divorce-roadmap/