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Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)The power struggle of "who goes first" in divorce negotiations costs couples thousands in unnecessary legal fees and months of emotional turmoil. Tracy and Debra dive deep into why this hesitation happens and how divorce professionals can effectively guide clients past this common roadblock.At the heart of settlement hesitation lies a fascinating cocktail of psychological factors. Many clients fear anchoring too low, worried that their first offer becomes the ceiling rather than the floor for negotiations. Others simply aren't emotionally ready to take steps that make their divorce feel more real and final. Information gaps create legitimate concerns about making uninformed decisions, while strategic positioning—the belief that making the first move reveals weakness—can transform negotiations into costly standoffs where the refusal to engage becomes more important than resolution itself.What makes this episode particularly valuable is the practical framework Tracy and Debra provide for helping clients reframe their thinking. Rather than viewing the first offer as vulnerability, they demonstrate how it represents an opportunity to control the narrative and set the agenda. Through visualization exercises, core value identification, and distinguishing between sufficient versus perfect information, coaches can transform client paralysis into empowered decision-making.Whether you're working with clients who fear appearing desperate, those waiting for external validation, or individuals paralyzed by potential regret, this episode offers tailored strategies to break the settlement standoff and move the divorce process forward.What approaches have you found effective in helping clients overcome their hesitation to make settlement offers? Share your experiences with us! Divorce often brings emotional chaos—and as attorneys, mediators, financial advisors, divorce coaches, and dispute resolution professionals, you're tasked with guiding clients through it.Join us for a practical and engaging LinkedIn Learning webinar:“From Chaos to Clarity: Strategies for Work with High Emotional Clients in Divorce" Learn more and RSVP Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)The divorce coaching industry harbors a dangerous trend that's causing unnecessary harm to families across the country. In this eye-opening episode, Debra and Tracy tackle the phenomenon of "high-conflict divorce coaching" – an approach that frames every challenging divorce as a battle requiring warfare tactics rather than resolution strategies.We pull back the curtain on what legitimate professional divorce coaching actually is and contrast it with the predatory marketing of high-conflict approaches that capitalize on fear. These programs effectively encourage clients to spend more money on their divorce, complicate the process, extend timelines, and create lasting damage – all while promising to help them "win" against their ex.Through real-life examples, we reveal the staggering financial and emotional costs of choosing the high-conflict route. One client spent $80,000 on legal fees and was two years into her divorce without even reaching a temporary agreement – not because of complex assets or genuine safety concerns, but because both parties had adopted a battle mindset. We discuss how this approach operates on flawed assumptions: that you can change your spouse's behavior, that every difficult divorce involves a personality-disordered individual, and that being in constant "defense mode" is necessary.As an alternative, we outline what to look for in a divorce coach or training program: someone focused on resolution rather than winning, who emphasizes communication strategies, emotional regulation, and clear decision-making. The truth is that the outcomes are typically the same whether you take the high-conflict route or a more measured approach – the only difference is you haven't spent years in litigation or hundreds of thousands of dollars unnecessarily.Whether you're navigating divorce yourself, supporting someone who is, or considering becoming a divorce coach, this conversation provides crucial guidance for making choices that truly serve your long-term goals and your well being. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Afraid you need to be a financial expert to help divorce clients navigate money concerns? Think again! Tracy and Debra dismantle this common fear among divorce coaches by showing how you can effectively support clients through financial challenges without overstepping your role.Financial uncertainty triggers our most basic survival fears—that's why money is almost always at the center of divorce conflict. According to government research, men's household income falls about 23% after divorce, while women experience a staggering 41% drop. No wonder financial anxiety runs so high! When clients worry about their ability to pay bills or put food on the table, their capacity to make sound decisions, negotiate fairly, or co-parent effectively becomes severely compromised.The podcast reveals how coaches can guide clients through creating monthly budgets—arguably the most powerful financial tool during divorce. This simple exercise answers the burning question: "Can I support myself?" Through relatable client stories like Martha (who discovered her post-divorce budget was actually half what she feared) and Mary (who reconsidered keeping the family home after seeing the long-term financial impact), Tracy and Debra demonstrate how helping clients gain financial clarity transforms fear into knowledge and powerlessness into control.They explore practical approaches to addressing income concerns, understanding the marital estate, and preparing clients for productive attorney consultations. Most importantly, they emphasize that coaches don't need calculators or financial certifications to make a difference—they just need to ask the right questions, guide clients through basic exercises, and connect them with specialists when needed.Ready to feel confident helping your divorce clients with financial foundations? Listen now to discover how you can support clients in making informed, intentional decisions that align with their values and set them up for post-divorce success. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)When children become pawns in their parents' divorce battles, the emotional damage can last a lifetime. Triangulation—the process where children are drawn into parental conflict—affects over 80% of high-conflict divorces and significantly increases children's risk for anxiety, depression, and relationship difficulties well into adulthood.In this compelling deep dive, Debra and Tracy unpack the three distinct forms of triangulation that plague divorcing families. They explore how children become direct participants in conflict when used as messengers or interrogated about the other parent's home. They reveal the subtle yet equally harmful pattern where children feel caught in the middle even when parents believe they're shielding them from tension. And they examine the most damaging form—when parents deliberately draw children into coalitions against the other parent through criticism, loyalty tests, and false narratives.What makes this conversation particularly valuable is the practical coaching framework offered for helping parents recognize and break these destructive patterns. Through awareness-building questions, perspective-shifting exercises, and concrete strategies—from establishing direct adult communication to creating emotional safety zones—listeners gain tools to guide families toward healthier dynamics. The powerful question at the heart of this work resonates throughout: "Do you want to give your children a child-centered divorce or a divorce-centered childhood?"Whether you're a divorce professional working with high-conflict families or a parent navigating co-parenting challenges, this episode provides insight into transforming harmful patterns into opportunities for healing. Because when parents take accountability and keep children out of adult conflicts, they're not just breaking a cycle—they're building resilience that will serve their children for years to come. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

In this episode of the Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast, host Karen McMahon speaks with somatic healer and coach Lori James about the powerful role of somatic healing in recovering from the trauma of divorce. They explore how emotional pain from divorce and toxic relationships often becomes stored in the body, manifesting as anxiety, depression, and physical tension. Lori shares her own post-divorce healing journey and explains how somatic practices — such as breathwork, movement, and body awareness — can help individuals reconnect with their inner wisdom, process deep emotional wounds, and rebuild a sense of safety and empowerment. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking divorce recovery tools, emotional resilience, and a deeper understanding of how the body holds and heals trauma. Discover practical strategies to support your emotional healing after divorce and begin moving forward with clarity and strength. Connect with Laurie: Free Gift: My free Beginner's Guide to Somatic Healing: https://laurieejames.myflodesk.com/bgtsh Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/laurie.james/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/laurie.james.79219754 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/laurie-james-8336a0168/ Website: https://www.laurieejames.com/ Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/confessions-of-a-freebird-midlife-divorce-heal/id1694026063 Resources Mentioned in this episode: Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com  Join the High Conflict Divorce Support Group: https://www.jbddivorcesupport.com/hcdsg

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Have you been pouring endless energy into social media with minimal return for your divorce coaching practice? It might be time to unlock the most powerful marketing tool you're probably neglecting—your email list.Trust serves as the cornerstone of the coach-client relationship, particularly when guiding someone through the emotional complexities of divorce. While social platforms broadcast your message widely, they lack the intimacy and privacy that email marketing delivers directly to your ideal client's inbox. As we often remind our coaching community, "If social media is the cocktail party, email marketing is meeting up for coffee."The statistics don't lie—email marketing consistently outperforms social media in conversion rates, especially for service-based businesses like divorce coaching. Why? Because your subscribers have already demonstrated interest by sharing their email address, creating a warm lead that's significantly more likely to become a paying client. Plus, you completely own this asset. No algorithm changes, no shadow bans, no disappearing followers—just a direct line to people who've expressed interest in your expertise.We walk you through creating compelling lead magnets that address specific pain points for divorcing individuals—from co-parenting communication guides to money-saving divorce checklists. The real magic happens in what follows: a thoughtfully crafted nurture sequence that builds trust, demonstrates your expertise, and gently guides potential clients toward working with you. Most importantly, we share how to confidently extend invitations to your services without coming across as pushy or sales-focused.Whether you're just starting your coaching practice or looking to grow your established business, this episode provides a clear roadmap for building an email strategy that converts interested prospects into paying clients. Take one action step this week—choose an email provider, brainstorm lead magnet ideas, or draft your first nurture sequence. Your future clients are waiting in your inbox! Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)We're pleased to welcome back Anne-Marie Cade, our DCA Director of Learning and Development for Australia. And she's here with some very exciting news.Anne-Marie along with fellow DCA certified divorce coaches Amy Voller, Tahli Fitzpatrick and Marg Doherty have launched the Divorce Coaches Institute Australia (DCIA).Alongside their international colleagues, they identified a critical need to establish a secure and ethically driven service for Australians undergoing separation or divorce. Recognizing the absence of regulations in the coaching industry, they were increasingly concerned about the lack of ethical standards and professional oversight and the absence of support for clients in the event of an unsuccessful coaching relationship.All coaches admitted to DCIA are vetted and have been certified through select reputable and approved international training providers. Their coaches adhere to professional standards and follow a code of ethics, which ensures the well-being of clients and maintains the integrity of our profession.Listen in to learn how Anne-Marie and her colleagues are raising the bar on professional standards in Australia.Learn more about DCIA and find a coach:Divorce Coaches Institute Australia website Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)In this episode, we're diving into a topic that shows up with almost every client at some point: that sticky, frustrating, and sometimes paralyzing feeling that this just isn't fair.Whether it's the division of assets, custody arrangements, or just the emotional fallout, so many clients come into the process believing they've been wronged—and they often have been! But here's the challenge: when someone is stuck in a story of injustice, it can completely block their ability to make empowered decisions. And that's where we come in.Today, we're going to unpack where that feeling comes from, what it does to your client's mindset, and offer these six coaching strategies you can use to help them move from frozen to forward.Normalize the feelingShift from fairness to empowermentReframe the narrativeUse future-focused visualizationIntroduce functional fairnessAnchor in core valuesRemember...You're not just helping your clients “get through” this. You're helping them build resilience, clarity, and agency in one of the hardest seasons of their lives.And that's powerful work. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Joining us today is Anne Wintemute, CEO of Aimee Says, an AI driven platform that empowers survivors of relationship abuse to recognize, respond, and recover.Anne is a dedicated and visionary leader, currently serving as the Co-Founder and CEO of Aimee Says. She is also the founder of A Garden Grows, a consultancy offering vital support services to women experiencing post-separation abuse. Anne is passionate about transforming the discourse around intimate partner violence and advocating for a narrative that holds perpetrators accountable.Aimee Says is a free tool to help clients recognize coercive control and abuse, manage communication, strategize and achieve better outcomes for themselves and their children.Listen in as Anne share all the ways Aimee can support both your coaching relationship and your client with confidential compassion and guidance. From identifying red flags to crafting responses to preparing for court, Aimee Says is the BFF survivors need to have in their back pocket. Aimee Says also encourages a collaborative team approach where clients can share their account with professionals who are supporting them.And for those of you in our DCA Coach Community, Anne will be joining us for a free Lunch & Learn on 7/23 at 12pm ET. Please mark your calendar to join us so you can see a demo of Aimee Says and ask all your questions. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Today we expand on a conversation we began in episode #134 by talking with a pioneer and leader in the area of restorative communication, Dr Will Bledsoe. Today he joins us to talk about how divorce may actually be an opportunity to save your relationship.Will is the author of The Restorative Way: Harnessing the Power of Restorative Communication to Mend Relationships, Heal Trauma, and Reclaim Civility One Conversation at a Time. He has been called a pioneer for his advancement of Restorative Communication principles and practices. He is an adjunct professor of communication and a consultant who advises thought leaders, institutions, corporations, school districts, the justice system, and families to help us turn our contempt into consideration and mutual respect by utilizing Restorative Communication.We dive into the difference between a punitive paradigm (focus on determining guilt and punishment) and a restorative one (determining and understanding needs). And we learn about the powerful 5 step process that can SHIFT anyone's emotional state from dysregulated to engaged.S = Spot the signsH = Hold SpaceI - Identify What They're FeelingF = Focus on What They Need in the MomentT = Take ActionRestorative communication is the key to a divorce that, when done right, may be the key to making the relationship with your ex healthier and more functional.If you're thinking about divorce and hope to minimize both the financial and relational impact, we encourage you to check out the coach locator at divorcecoachesacademy.com to find a DCA certified ADR divorce coach.Learn More About Dr Will Bledsoe and upcoming trainings:His Book : The Restorative WayHis Website: www.restorativeway.com Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Today Tracy and Debra are talking about all the internet clickbait content out there that is purposefully targeting people's fears just to get follows or sell coaching, courses, or books.We absolutely understand why this stuff is popular. It's attention grabbing, it raises alarm bells, it creates a sense of urgency, and it makes clients worry that they're not doing enough to protect themselves or their children.But we know that this fear-based content skews perspective and sets up the possibility that consumers absorbing this information could be making their divorces more expensive and more conflicted than they need to be.We'll cover the dangers of this type of marketing, why it works, and how to work with clients who may have taken the bait. And finally, we want to remind you that purposefully targeting your audience's vulnerability for your own gain falls outside our ethical guidelines. As professional, certified divorce coaches, we do not cause undue distress, manipulate emotions, or potentially cause psychological harm to sell our services. We commit to marketing practices that are effective and yet respectful of our audiences well-being. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)When a US based company like Divorce Coaches Academy enters the Canadian market during a time of trade tensions, it's a lot like navigating a complex divorce negotiation.Both involve high emotions, financial stakes, competing interests, and, most importantly, the need for skilled professionals to guide the process toward a fair and workable resolution.The reaction to the trade wars this week is eerily familiar to how we see clients in divorce. These trade wars have thrust Canadians, and many Americans, into uncertainty and worry. REAL worry about their finances and ultimately their families. The headlines warn of a certain recession in Canada.We talked a few weeks ago about how Canada is changing how divorce is handled. And that means even more need for professional, conflict resolution focused divorce coaches.The cross-border partnership that we have developed with our Canadian Director, Dori Braddell, is based on mutual respect and creating win-win scenarios for both of us. There's no war here when it comes to ensuring that Canadians continue to have access to the most robust, most professional divorce coach training on the market.At the end of the day, whether you're negotiating a trade agreement or a divorce settlement, the key to success is the same: clear communication, skilled guidance, accurate information and a focus on the future rather than the past.It really is all about finding common ground both in trade and divorce, right?It's not too late to join this Canadian cohort of DCA divorce coach training. Go to divorcecoachesacademy.com/divorcecoach to learn more and apply. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Today's conversation is going to be nothing but a naked plea for all divorce coaching professionals to stop trying to do this on your own.Successful divorce coaches understand the value of seeking professional development, connection and feedback to continually improve their coaching practice.What a lot of people fail to realize is that divorce coaching is a continuous process. It requires constant development. It takes a lot of time, energy, money, and deep inner work to build your practice and make your business work.We dive into all the reasons you must be part of a community to achieve the success you're looking for. And we review all the ways DCA® offers the support you need to keep growing.Free online DCA Coach CommunityFree Bi-monthly Lunch & Learn EventsCase Consultation GroupSpecialty TrainingsThe bottom line ... If you're struggling to build the coaching practice of your dreams, stop trying to do it alone. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)The journey of divorce and the story of The Wizard of Oz share striking parallels, making the classic tale a powerful metaphor for the emotional and personal transformation that occurs during and after a divorce. We explore the power of divorce coaching through this timeless story and uncover how, just like Glinda the Good Witch, we as coaches help our clients navigate their own Yellow Brick Roads, overcome obstacles, and realize they've had the power to make decisions and create change all along.Instead of trusting themselves, clients often start out with the belief that a lawyer, the legal system, or a judge (The Wizard) will provide the answers for them. As the story unfolds, we realize that the yellow brick road actually represents the journey that Dorothy must take to realize her own power. And she meets fascinating characters (scarecrow, tin man, and cowardly lion) who represent the parts of herself she needs to discover and develop in order to reach their goals.Dorothy's journey isn't just about reaching Oz—it's about realizing that she had the power to go home all along. And isn't that exactly what we want for our clients? Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)If you're just starting out, you might be wondering, ‘Where do I find colleagues to connect with? How do I meet potential clients? And what organizations should I join to grow my business?In this episode, we give some insight about networking with other professionals - what to look for, what works, and what's a waste of your time and money.As a divorce coach, your network is one of your most valuable assets. Unlike other fields where clients might find you through advertising alone, a huge part of your success will come from referrals—whether that's from attorneys, therapists, financial professionals, or even other coaches. Strong networking helps you:Establish credibility in your fieldGain client referralsBuild relationships with other professionals who can complement your servicesStay updated on industry trends and best practicesBy joining the right organizations, making meaningful connections, and staying engaged, you can create a steady stream of referrals and professional support. So, be smart about it, be intentional about it, but get out there and start building those relationships! Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Divorce negotiations, whether working out financial settlements or parenting plans, can be filled with intense emotions and rigid perspectives. So today we are breaking down the reasons why flexible thinking is so crucial and we'll offer some strategies to help you negotiate more successfully.When people feel threatened or vulnerable, their instinct is to dig in and adopt an “all-or-nothing” or “my way or the highway" approach. And, we know that this positional thinking can lead to prolonged battles, increased legal costs, destroy relationships and cause greater emotional distress.John Wooden, a legendary basketball coach is known for saying that “flexibility is the key to stability”. The quote means that being flexible and ready to adapt to change can help people find stability and avoid stress.Flexible thinking allows us to:See multiple perspectives rather than just our own.Adapt to changing circumstances, which is crucial in any negotiation.Focus on long-term solutions rather than short-term emotional wins.Reduce stress by recognizing that not everything has to go exactly as planned. Listen in as we explore the science behind this idea of flexible thinking and how clients can use bamboo as inspiration for how to remain both flexible and resilient.--> Pre-Mediation Divorce Coach training begins March 3 Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Today, our Canadian Director Dori Braddell joins Tracy for a fascinating and timely discussion of the recent changes to the family justice system in Canada, including mandatory ADR, and what it means for dispute resolution and divorce coaching.Dori shares that in 2024, some provinces have made it mandatory for divorcing couples to make an ADR attempt first before they can have their matter heard in court. Couples can no longer go directly to a judge to decide their family matters. And in provinces where it's not mandatory (yet), she is seeing judges order couples into an ADR process or require it if either party requests it. This means that divorcing Canadians are more likely to participate in ADR, whether by choice or not, than ever before. And demand for professionals to support them will continue to grow. We know that one on one, individualized dispute resolution support from a Certified Divorce Coach can be the difference between a blown ADR attempt and a settlement agreement. Divorce Coaches are that secret weapon, the special sauce that exponentially improves the odds at succeeding in something you didn't have choice but to do. The next cohort of DCA divorce coach training for Canada begins the week of March 9 and Dori would love to chat with you about the opportunities that this new legislation opens up for properly trained divorce coaches. You can schedule a 1-1 call with her: Dori's Calendar Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Conflict is a topic that impacts every one of us at some point in our lives. A couple of weeks ago we talked about an important tip to reduce conflict in divorce and that was to stop expecting something different and accept that your partner will continue to show up with the same core personality traits they've always had.  As we were coming to the end of that conversation, Tracy really wanted to talk about the 3 primary sources of conflict. So as promised, today we're diving into that. One of the early theorists on conflict, American psychologist Daniel Katz, distinguished three main sources of conflict: EconomicValuesPowerAs you can imagine, all three are major contributing factors in divorce conflict. Understanding these sources helps us identify the root causes of a disagreement and approach it strategically. And strategy is key when it comes to divorce and co-parenting conflict if you want to spare your bank account and save your sanity.We explore these three primary sources of conflict and offer some strategies for how you can approach each one to resolve disputes more successfully. Whether you're facing a tough divorce, a workplace disagreement, or even family tensions, understanding these sources of conflict and the role of emotions can be a game-changer. Conflict is a natural part of life, divorce and co-parenting, but with the right tools and mindset, it doesn't have to be destructive.  Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)If you want to get more clients, you don't need to make more Instagram reels or write a ton of blog posts.  You need to clean up your language. In this episode Tracy and Debra reveal the truth bomb that successful divorce coaches aren't selling divorce coaching. They sell a goal plus a result.The #1 mistake we see new coaches make is using “coachy” language in their marketing materials and in their consult calls. And "coachy" language just doesn't resonate with potential clients or referral sources.Your potential clients don't want to hear about the coaching process or what you think they need - they want to hear how you'll help them solve their problem and what it looks or feels like when they've reached that goal.Listen in as we deconstruct a typical divorce coaching pitch and show you how to define results that will make any prospect want to invest in working with you.If you'd like some help to clean up your marketing language, please consider joining our DCA Case Consultation Group where you can meet bi-monthly to share, connect, and get feedback on your business. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)In this episode we explore the "Big Five" - those core personality traits that tend to be consistent over time and circumstance. PLUS, we share a secret mantra that just may help you and your clients experience less stress when dealing with the difficult people in their lives.We consistently hear clients express disappointment, frustration, and even rage when their spouse, ex or co-parent doesn't act or behave in the way they think they should. And we get it. It's incredibly distressing to have to be on the receiving end of someone else's less than stellar behavior. But we have to ask…is this really surprising? While people's personality traits may get exaggerated during the divorce process, they typically aren't radically different than the way that spouse behaved during the marriage. And clients continue to suffer when they continue to expect their partner or co-parent to radically transform during divorce.Understanding these 5 personality traits can help anyone going through divorce or co-parenting conflict stay grounded in the reality of who their partner is. And that gives them the freedom and agency to decide how to respond. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)In this episode, Tracy and our DCA Director for Australia, Anne-Marie Cade, are diving into an essential yet often overlooked topic: self-care during challenging times. As divorce professionals dealing with heavy emotional topics, it's crucial that we care for ourselves so we can continue to care for others.As we kick off a new year, we think that there is no better time to reflect on how we can prioritize our well-being. A fresh start brings an opportunity to set intentions and build habits that support us throughout the year. We must acknowledge the unique challenges of working in the divorce space. Divorce professionals—whether you're a coach, lawyer, therapist, or mediator—are often walking alongside clients through some of the most emotionally intense moments of their lives. While rewarding, this work can also be draining, especially if we don't set aside time to replenish our own energy. Listen in as they explore the 3 pillars of self-care for divorce professionals:1. Awareness2. Boundaries3. Restoration We'd love to hear from you...what self-care practices help keep you renewed and refreshed for this heavy work? Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)When it comes to buying real estate, the saying is location, location, location. When it comes to negotiating a divorce settlement or parenting plan, we say strategy, strategy, strategy. And whether you're negotiating at the kitchen table, participating in mediation, or working through attorneys, the same principles apply.In Getting to YES: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In, William Ury tells us that “standard strategies for negotiation often leave people dissatisfied, worn out, or alienated - and frequently all three”. That's because most of us have only learned how to negotiate using a style called positional bargaining.In positional bargaining, parties simply try to outwait, overpower, or out argue each other until someone finally gives enough. They may reach agreement, but it isn't satisfying for either one of them. Principled negotiation, on the other hand, allows for mutual satisfying solutions and wise agreements.Listen in as Tracy and Debra review the elements of principled negotiation and discuss the reasons working with a DCA certified divorce coach is the best way to become informed, develop skills and create a strategy so you can negotiate in a way that both aligns with your desired outcomes and minimizes conflict. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Who among us wouldn't like to be a better problem solver? Well, that's the topic of our conversation today. We discuss the 4 general types of problems most of us face, offer some help for identifying the type of solution that's right for each, and apply these tips to divorce and co-parenting.  When it comes to solving problems and making tough decisions, people love plans, so they tend to make a lot of checklists, to-do lists, and timelines. And because they want the perfect plan, they often want more and more data to help them create a plan that will give them a sense of certainty. We see this so often when clients get stuck preparing to divorce. Why all the planning? Because uncertainty feels uncomfortable. Our tendency is to think that more information and a rock solid plan will give us control over future events. But the truth is, the ‘perfect plan' doesn't exist.When faced with a problem or a decision, experts tell us that any action is better than no action; it doesn't matter what you do, it just matters that you do, in order to learn and move forward.Instead, having a decision making framework can give you the confidence that a solution will arise. And with the support of a certified divorce coach, you can gain insight and skills to handle difficult situations with less fear, less stress, and less conflict. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

After three years and over 100 coaching episodes, A Man's Journey Through Divorce returns with an exciting relaunch and a fresh new direction.While the original episodes' straightforward advice on common divorce challenges resonated with listeners, I'm now expanding the show to include professional guest experts and anonymous stories from men going through divorce. It's a chance for us to explore specific areas of expertise—and to do some live coaching around real issues men are facing right now.New episodes drop every Monday. Two episodes each month will be interviews, while the other two will continue the solo coaching format you've come to know.I'm excited about this new chapter, and I can't wait to bring you even more helpful perspectives and stories to help you deal with your divorce.

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)These days we seem to be living in a society defined by us versus them, black and white thinking, intolerance, fixed mindsets, and lack of curiosity. Not only is conflict remaining unresolved, but our interactions (especially online) seem to pour more gasoline on the fire rather than cooling it off. We see conflict spiraling and escalating at an alarming rate and there seems to be less interest in trying to find common ground or solutions. It's almost like people are itching for a fight.We've seen family members stop speaking to each other, long time friendships disintegrate and workplaces become minefields.The question is…where can we go from here? Are we just destined to continue down a path of divisiveness or is there a way to move toward relationship and restoration? We believe that whether it's politics or divorce and co-parenting, we can apply the same aspects of conflict resolution to both politics and divorce.Listen in as we explore 6 lessons grounded in the electoral process's emphasis on structure, fairness, and engagement, and how we can adapt them to personal and professional conflict resolution scenarios as well. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)In this episode, we dive into the significant, but often unrecognized role of ego in divorce conflict. In William Ury's book "Possible", he identifies how ego plays a significant role in escalating conflicts.But this really shouldn't come as much of a surprise. When we focus on being "right" or protecting our pride, we may very well lose sight of the larger goals. This is what we refer to as an inner conflict and there is a critical connection between resolving inner conflict and addressing external conflict. Part of working to resolve inner conflict often involves setting aside ego-driven impulses to prioritize constructive solutions.We know that divorce can be one of the most challenging experiences in life, and understanding how ego plays into the dynamics can be a game-changer. So, whether you're going through a divorce yourself or supporting someone who is, listen in as we explore some insights and strategies to help navigate this emotional minefield. Divorce is never easy, but understanding the role of ego in the process can help you navigate it with more clarity and grace. By recognizing when ego is driving reactions, one can choose healthier responses that prioritize resolution and well-being over pride and resentment.Divorce coaching can offer clients support to identify when ego is creating obstacles to conflict resolution. Learn more about training to become a certified divorce coach or find a divorce coach at divorcecoachesacademy.com Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Tracy and Debra are taking the week off to enjoy holiday time with family so we're taking this opportunity to share an episode from the back catalog about the importance of working on a divorce exit strategy. Since many people begin thinking about divorce during the holiday season but wait util January to take any action, we thought it might be helpful to review the steps that clients can take in advance to set themselves up for a better divorce process. In this episode we share that most of our clients would say their top priorities are:minimize impact on the childrenfeel confident that the settlement they're agreeing to is fairkeep divorce costs downget through the process without losing their mindsWe hope you were able to spend some time with friends and family over Thanksgiving and we hope you enjoy this episode where we discuss about the 5 ways working on an exit strategy can pave the way for a good divorce if things go well and protect clients in the event that things go poorly. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)November and December are historically slower months for divorce professionals. Even though they've made the decision to divorce, many people choose to wait until after the holidays to take any action. They worry about starting something that could instigate conflict during what should be the happiest time of the year for their kids.That means there is a lot of pent up demand and so divorce professionals historically see an uptick in requests for their services in January. So much so that January is recognized as Divorce Month. And even more specifically, the first business day in January is usually referred to as National Divorce Day as family lawyers report that their phones ring off the hook. We've also talked about the efforts to begin repealing no-fault divorce laws and we would expect that anyone who's been holding off may choose to move ahead now before any legislation could affect their ability to get divorced. So as a divorce coach, now is the perfect opportunity to position yourself as the go-to expert for those in need.In today's episode, we share some essential tips on how you can prepare for Divorce Month, optimize your marketing, and make sure your practice is ready to meet the demand.  Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)At DCA, we share a vision that couples would have the ability to rearrange and restructure their relationships and their families in a way that leads to wholeness and happiness. Divorce is often seen as an end—an ending to a marriage, an ending to a chapter of life. But what if it didn't have to be a painful, adversarial process? What if divorce could be approached with intention, healing, and collaboration, with the goal of not just separating, but rebuilding lives in a healthy, sustainable way?In today's episode, we explore the idea of restorative divorce—an approach that focuses on healing, mutual respect, and long-term well-being for both partners. We'll dive into how this process works, how it differs from adversarial divorce, and why we believe it's a better way forward.We wrestle with the concept that divorce creates a broken home, discuss the recent addition of CAPRD (Child Affected by Parental Relationship Disorder) to the DSM IV, and outline the six elements of a restorative divorce process. As opposed to traditional divorce that focuses on winning, a restorative divorce process is an alternative that can reduce harm, encourage positive outcomes, and support healthier post-divorce relationships for everyone involved. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

In this episode, Steve is joined by Cherie Morris, a lawyer-turned-coach specializing in divorce mediation, co-parenting, and blended family coaching. Together, they dive into the complexities of co-parenting post-separation and explore ways to achieve better outcomes for children amidst contentious dynamics. Cherie offers insights into overcoming the myth that courts can fix co-parenting struggles, the challenges faced by couples who struggled as co-parents during marriage, and the added stress when a new partner enters the family dynamic. Steven and Cherie also tackle issues of triangulation and provide practical advice for step-parents navigating co-parenting roles. Cherie's expertise shines as she shares strategies to help families transition to healthier, more collaborative co-parenting. To enjoy the remainder of this Premier Episode visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon.  New subscribers pay just $3/month, after a 7-day free trial, for my full body of podcast episodes and exclusive community events.Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now, or schedule a free consultation to determine what services might benefit you.

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)We're taking a detour from our planned topic today because we think it's time critical to talk about the implications of eliminating no-fault divorce. Based on this week's election results, as divorce professionals we need to be thinking about, discussing, and preparing for another potential shift in the landscape of divorce.No-fault divorce has been around for decades, but there's been a growing push in some places to repeal it. But what would happen if we eliminated no-fault divorce? How would it change the dynamics of marriages, families, and even the legal system? Well, that's what we're exploring today.Tracy and Debra talk through the potential implications of reinstating fault divorce including the impact on conflict, cost, our court systems and children.The debate is complex, and there are no easy answers. But it's important to keep discussing it and to think critically about the consequences—for the individuals and families involved, for you as a divorce professional, and for society as a whole. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Divorce can manifest in countless ways—ranging from the peaceful mutual decision to part ways to the hostile, never-ending battle full of legal maneuvers and court drama. In this episode, I'm joined by Lawrence H. Bloom, Esq., an old colleague and the man who invited me onto my very first podcast. Larry is now joining me with his new book, Blame Bloom: Diary of a Divorce Lawyer, a candid and insightful look at his 40 years of navigating the intricate world of New York Family Law.  From the days when couples had to prove cause for divorce to the modern challenges of courtroom theatrics, Larry's book dives deep into the inner workings of Family Law judges, legal battles, and the often-overlooked emotional complexities of divorcing couples. Beyond his professional expertise, Larry also reflects on how his personal divorce gave him newfound empathy and insight, enabling him to guide his clients toward better outcomes. Now retired, this book is Larry's parting gift to the divorce world, offering a behind-the-scenes look at both the legal system and the human heart. Connect with Larry: Buy the Book: https://www.amazon.com/Blame-Bloom-Diary-Divorce-Lawyer/dp/B0D9YDWMHF Journey Beyond Divorce Resources: Book a Free Rapid Relief Call: http://rapidreliefcall.com  Follow JBD on Instagram: @journey_beyond_divorce A word from our sponsors: Soberlink is a revolutionary tool designed to support individuals in their journey to sobriety. As a leading provider of remote alcohol monitoring, Soberlink offers a secure and reliable solution that helps people stay accountable and transparent in their recovery process. We're grateful for Soberlink's commitment to enhancing the recovery process and providing valuable resources to our listeners. Learn more about how Soberlink can make a difference in your journey at www.soberlink.com/jbd ======= TalkingParents provides a comprehensive platform designed to simplify co-parenting and enhance communication between parents. With secure messaging, a shared calendar, and features for tracking parenting time, TalkingParents ensures that all important details and agreements are documented and accessible.  We're grateful for TalkingParents' support in simplifying co-parenting and enhancing communication for our listeners. Discover how TalkingParents can bring clarity and organization to your co-parenting journey at www.talkingparents.com/jbd

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)We've talked previously about the problem cycle (see episode #69), but recently learned about the 3 poisons in Buddhism and they seem particularly applicable to some of the issues we see in divorce and co-parenting. In his early teachings, the Buddha identified “three poisons” or three negative qualities of the mind that cause most of our problems—and most of the problems in the world. Attachment: we want to attract and hold on to what is good for us (also called greed or lust).Aversion: we want to repel what is bad for us (also called aggression or anger).Ignorance: we are indifferent to what doesn't affect us personally (also called delusion).  So in this week's episode, Tracy and Debra are going to see if we can't use some of this ancient wisdom to gain insight into shifting clients out of the problem cycle or suffering, into a mindset more grounded in acceptance and action. Listen in as we discuss how these 3 poisons show up in divorce and ways to apply the antidotes. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

In this episode, I reflect on key patterns observed over the past three years with men navigating divorce, and share insight why the common challenges exist. Many listeners describe long-standing "invisible divorces," feeling trapped in unhappy, often sexless marriages for the sake of family or finances. Upon being left, they're blindsided by feelings of betrayal and unfairness, especially in cases involving parent alienation or financial strain. Men who initiate divorce face guilt and the desire for an amicable split, often met with resistance. Across the board, men seek validation quickly in new relationships, struggle with financial worries, and need short-term, focused support to push through. As we close out 2024, I'm excited to announce a refreshed podcast format launching on December 23—featuring higher-quality audio and video episodes, with monthly guests offering both professional insights and real-life divorce stories.Transform your divorce experience for long-term success. Learn how to manage conflict, elevate relationship dynamics, and enhance financial savvy. Visit www.youtreecoaching.com now, or schedule a free consultation to determine what services might benefit you.To enjoy the remainder of this Premier Episode visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon.  New subscribers pay just $3/month, after a 7-day free trial, for my full body of podcast episodes and exclusive community events.For additional divorce support visit our Divorce Support Center on Patreon, as well as online divorce support courses in the Patreon Shop.If you are looking to make quick, targeted progress, consider a one of our 90-minute navigation sessions. You can schedule them here:In the early stages of divorce? Early Divorce Navigation Session.Challenges post-divorce? Post-Divorce Navigation Session.Preparing for mediation or a hearing? Mediation and Court Mindset Navigation Session.Find my poetry book Spirit Poems on Amazon.

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)One of the most emotional and difficult parts of divorce can be negotiating parenting plans - especially for co-parents who are experiencing a high degree of conflict. We shared a statistic last week that 80% of the family court calendar is taken up by custody matters and frankly that breaks our hearts. Because we know that parental conflict is the #1 reason children are negatively impacted in the divorce process.Today, we discuss why we believe a thorough and detailed parenting plan is the most effective way to help conflicted co-parents prevent future disagreements and future litigation.An effective parenting plan goes well beyond just parenting time schedules and expense sharing, but encourages parents to discuss the many details of raising children together. Regardless of how parents feel about each other, the fact is that they will be family for life. As anyone with adult children knows, parenting doesn't stop when a child turns 18.We often hear that attorneys push back on discussing or documenting any agreements that aren't supported by the legal statutes. The typical response is “That's not enforceable”.  And we get it - lawyers are focused on the legal aspects of a divorce case. But as divorce coaches, we take a more holistic approach and are interested in helping families transition so they are able to co-parent effectively. Listen in as we chat about why we believe that changing the experience of divorce for families means moving beyond the legal minimum requirements and developing a comprehensive plan that works for each family. Conflicted Co-Parenting Training Begins Nov 4 --> Learn More and Enroll Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)We consistently say that all divorce involves conflict. Even in the most amicable divorce, couples aren't likely to agree on everything. But one area that seems to spur the most conflict is co-parenting. We recently read that 80% of the court's time is taken up by custody matters which tells us that co-parenting and making decisions about children is a hot button topic.So today we're exploring one aspect that contributes heavily to co-parenting conflict and that's when people have difficulty transitioning from stakeholders in each other's lives to business partners. Moving from being a couple to being co-parents is a shift that can take time and requires both parents to focus on what's best for their children instead of what's important to them. We get into common triggers and obstacles, talk a bit about gatekeeping and alienation, and walk you through a real life client scenario.If you're a certified divorce coach and want to learn more about supporting co-parents who are having difficulty, we'll be starting a 6-week co-parenting intensive beginning the week of November 4.Learn more about becoming a DCA® Conflicted Co-Parenting Divorce Coach Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)When we talk with prospective students and new students, we get a lot of questions about what's it's really like to start a career as a professional divorce coach. So today, Christina Stone is going to give us all a behind the scenes look at what that journey is really like.Christina is a Certified ADR Divorce coach and if that name sounds familiar, it's because she also happens to be our Operations Coordinator here at DCA so you may have been in communication with her at some point. Today Christina and Debra are sharing some truth and busting some myths about starting a career as a divorce coach. It is truly a viable career, but as Christina will tell you...it takes persistence, patience and a plan.While there are exceptions, the majority of new divorce coaches do not make $60 or $70k their first year out and anyone who tells you something different has an agenda. But you can get there by staying focused on your goals, being part of a divorce coaching community, and continuing to learn and hone your skills.We hope you enjoy getting to know Christina and we are thrilled to have her as part of the DCA community and team.You can find Christina at:Email: cnfewcoaching@gmail.comWebsite: cnfewcoaching.netInstagram: c.n.fewcoaching Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Being a solopreneur is hard. Being a solopreneur in a new industry is even harder. It takes a lot of focus, intention, and community support to build a successful practice as a new divorce coach.We say it every week in the podcast intro because we mean it. We are committed to the success of our DCA trained divorce coaches and we provide so many ways for coaches in our community to connect, learn, and grow.Why are we so passionate about offering these kinds of opportunities for our coaches? Because we are simultaneously focused on raising the standards of practice for the profession and ensuring that properly trained coaches stay in the industry.Listen in as Tracy and Debra discuss all the ways DCA demonstrates their commitment to the coaches in our community including:Free online alumni communityFree bi-monthly lunch & learn eventsFree listing on our coach locatorAffordable professional case consultation groupsNo annual dues or certification renewal feesWe are personally invested in and committed to every single coach in our community. The world needs more properly trained and credential divorce coaches and we're here to support you every step of the way. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)One thing that seems to be certain in divorce is that no one gets everything they want. Most walk away feeling like they had to give up more than their share in order to get to a final agreement.  Rarely do we hear a client say they thought the settlement was 100% fair and equitable. Most everyone feels like they got the short end of the stick.So in this episode we dive into this idea of “fairness” and talk about how it can cause problems or create obstacles when it comes to getting to a final resolution. And we offer some coaching strategies for working with clients who get stuck in their own definition of "fairness".Many clients start out saying “I just want what's fair”. The trouble is that rarely will their spouse have the same definition of fair. We joke that “fair” is the 4-letter F word in divorce because what you think is fair, what I think is fair, and what the legal system thinks is fair can be wildly different. Listen in as Tracy and Debra discuss the concept of fairness and justice and how expanding our definition of what's "fair" may be the key to finally reaching an agreement everyone can feel OK about. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

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Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Divorce is hard enough with all the emotional turmoil, big challenges, and important decisions. It's even more difficult when your partner is intentionally working against you. But even more troublesome is when clients are working against themselves, so in this episode we're talking about self-sabotage. We discuss how to recognize it, and more importantly, how to support clients who are engaging in self sabotaging behavior that may be preventing them from reaching their desired goal or outcome.Self-sabotage is a completely normal human behavior and shows up frequently in divorce and co-parenting as a result of fear of the unknown, perfectionism, lack of self belief, resistance to change, or learned behaviors.Overcoming self-sabotage requires a combination of self-awareness, self-compassion, and intentional effort - all things divorce coaches are great at supporting our clients with.Listen in as Tracy and Debra talk through why self-sabotage happens and how you can work with clients in self-destruct mode to get them on a better path. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)Good storytelling is a powerful tool for creating connection, building trust, and communicating ideas and concepts. However, when it comes to divorce coaching, storytelling can be a mixed bag. And a common mistake we see coaches make is oversharing about their own personal experiences.In this episode, we discuss when and how it is appropriate to share personal stories with clients. While it's well-intentioned, it's also important to be mindful about when and how we share personal stories with clients.Our words of caution...there are two ways storytelling can muddy the waters when it comes to our coaching relationships. First, sharing too much from our personal lives can take the focus off the client and put the spotlight back on the coach. And second, clients look to us as the expert so those stories might be interpreted as directive or advice giving. Listen in as Tracy and Debra talk about why intention matters when it comes to storytelling in divorce coaching. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)In this week's episode, we're exploring why empathy is so challenging in the context of divorce, why it's a key factor in conflict resolution and negotiation, and what can be done to foster it.One of the primary reasons empathy is so challenging during divorce and co-parenting is the intensity of emotions involved. Big feelings like anger, betrayal, resentment, injustice and more can invoke our natural instinct is to protect ourselves. Also, the legal process and the adversarial nature of divorce proceedings can create an environment of competition rather than cooperation where any show of empathy might be seen as weakness.Listen in as Tracy and Debra talk about the role of empathy in divorce and the 7 tools we can use to effectively use empathy strategically to improve outcomes for families. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

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Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)We're launching customized curriculum for Canada next month! And we're excited for you to get to know our Canadian Director, Dori Braddell. Dori is a highly successful divorce coach who specializes in conflicted and complicated divorce and co-parenting situations. She originally received her certification through the CDC and has continued to pursue continuing education with DCA as a Certified ADR Divorce Coach, Divorce Conflict Coach, and Conflicted Co-Parenting Divorce Coach.Listen in as Tracy and Dori talk about the rise of divorce coaching in Canada and why it's important for Canadian coaches to get certified in a program that is tailored to the laws, customs, processes, and resources of their home country.The first Canadian cohort will begin the week of October 13 and applications are now being accepted.Go to divorcecoachesacademy.com/divorcecoach and schedule a call with Dori today to learn more about DCA's Canada specific training program. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)DCA is constantly growing to serve you better. In this episode, we highlight a few recent changes that offer even more ways to connect with each other. Check out your DCA student dashboard for more information.Student Community Each cohort in the process of studying to become certified ADR divorce coaches is being given access to a free online space to connect with their class and other students. It is automatically available after you enroll in the course.Alumni CommunityEvery coach who has been certified through DCA is now part of a free online alumni community where you can post questions, collaborate, or share resources. This includes all graduates of our ADRDC, DCC, PMDC and CCDC courses.Case Consult CommunityAll coaches participating in the Case Consultation and Mastermind Group have access to a dedicated community space to interact on a more frequent basis. Lunch & Learn EventsDCA is launching a free monthly series of learning events for all members of our alumni community.- 2nd Wed of each month is the Business Builder series focused on helping new-ish coaches get clients and start their practices..- 4th Wed of each month is the Practice Accelerator series which will include advanced topics of interest to those with established businesses who are looking to continue their education.Mobile AppAnd don't forget that DCA is now available on the Thinkific (our learning platform) mobile app. Just download the app, search for Divorce Coaches Academy and log in using the same credentials you use for the web version. Now you can take DCA and all your courses and communities on the go.Apple App StoreGoogle Play StoreWe hope you'll take advantage of these new opportunities to network, learn, and grow. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)When it comes to attorney-client relationships, we hear a lot of complaints. We understand there are a few bad apples out there, but most attorneys we know are really trying to do the best job they can. So what's gone wrong? Why are clients not satisfied with the service their attorney is providing and what can they (and we as their divorce coaches) do about it?We believe that clients frequently make this decision without an understanding of the role that their attorney will play and without conducting a thorough interview process. And then they feel stuck in a contractual relationship with a professional that isn't meeting their expectations.In this week's conversation, Tracy and Debra unpack some common complaints, discuss 5 red flags, and offer solutions when our client isn't feeling good about their attorney. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Send Us a Message (include your contact info if you'd like a reply)We like to think that we actively have our fingers on the pulse of the divorce industry and the application of divorce coaching nationally and around the world. But recently, we have been hearing some noise about the need for divorce coaches to have training in areas such as trauma and post separation abuse. Yet, at the same time, we're hearing cries for divorce coaches to stay in their lane. We are finding this dialogue confusing - not only for professional practicing divorce coaches but for consumers who are looking to learn more about working with a divorce coach or how divorce coaching can help them. The reality is that any good, professional divorce coach is trauma sensitive in the way they approach their work with clients. The difference is that we do not venture into the arena of DV advocacy, legal advice or therapy. We remain firmly grounded in the ABA definition of divorce coaching as a form of dispute resolution.A trauma-informed approach to conflict in divorce recognizes and addresses the impact of trauma on individuals' behaviors, emotions, and interactions. This approach is rooted in understanding the pervasive effects of trauma and emphasizes safety, trust, empowerment, and collaboration.We endeavor to minimize further harm by helping clients get through their divorce process with the least amount of damage to their bank account and their mental health. Because the only way out is through. In order to recover from the negative experience of the marriage, our clients need support to get to the other side where they can be free to heal and build a new life. Learn more about DCA® or any of the classes or events mentioned in this episode at the links below:Website: www.divorcecoachesacademy.comInstagram: @divorcecoachesacademyLinkedIn: divorce-coaches-academyEmail: DCA@divorcecoachesacademy.com

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