Kimbretta w/The Kicker & Chase

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Knowledge is gathered from learning and education, while most say that wisdom is gathered from day-to-day experiences and is a state of being wise. Knowledge is merely having clarity of facts and truths, while wisdom is the practical ability to make consistently good decisions in life.Wisdom can improve your life in all aspects: physical, emotional, mental, and financial. Learning from your experiences and the experiences of others and sharing that wisdom are vital to your survival and the survival of those you share your wisdom with.

You usually don't hear from this serial killer boss until something is wrong.  Not only do lazy leaders negatively affect their subordinates, but their actions (or lack thereof) also run through the entire organization right down to the bottom line.Laziness is a choice. You can do nothing, or you can do something--the choice is yours. Own your power to choose, act on it, and do something today that you can be proud of tomorrow.

This serial killer boss will throw his or her subordinates under the bus at any moment.  They lack loyalty, compassion, and connectivity.   They are reactive not proactive, and they are also habitual liars.

The passive-aggressive boss makes life in the workplace very difficult for their employees, by making it challenging and stressful to the point of exhaustion.Ever worked for someone who sent constant mixed signals?Ever left a meeting feeling like you were just run over by a train?You may have a passive aggressive boss.

The micromanager is probably the most infamous of all the bad bosses.  They reality is they suffocate people and they know it and they tend to believe it is a necessary evil.  The most frequent motivations for micromanagement are emotional insecurity, doubts regarding employee competence, or addiction to specific orders.Severe forms of micromanagement can stifle opportunities for the learning and development of interpersonal skills, completely eliminate trust, and even provoke anti-social behavior.  As leaders, we have to ask ourselves: is there anything, any quota,  goal, or any task worth us putting the mental and physical health of our employees at risk?

New bosses must focus on building a team, not creating good individual relationships. It is very common for new managers to want to work toward getting their reports to like them. When new managers focus solely on the friendly connection, they neglect a fundamental aspect of effectual leadership, wherein a leader will employ the collective power of the group to improve individual performance and dedication. 1. Think you know everything. “As much as it may stroke your ego, to believe you know everything, YOU DON'T. You must listen to the people around you, consider their input, and keep an open mind” —F. J. Reh. Think about it: a winning football team listens to their coaches; they get in the huddle and listen to their quarterback; and then in the midst of a play, they must listen to and trust each other. All winning partnerships win first at communication and trust. Be open, share, listen, and trust the people on your team.

Bullies are voracious opportunists. They usually select their targets for various reasons. It may be because you're good at your job, popular with your colleagues, clients, customers; any of the aforementioned could make you a target for a Bully. In the end, a Bully fears the exposure of his or her own inadequacy or incompetence, and your presence, competence, and popularity unwittingly agitates those fears.

Our guest's tonight are all men that I know personally.  No matter how often we see each other or speak, I have known each of these men to be talking about their kids, beaming with pride about their babies.  I think it's high time we speak about Co-Parenting from a Dad's perspective and experience.   If you don't think this is about leadership, you couldn't be more wrong.  There is no leadership role more important than that of a father.  Both parents play an intricate, vital role in the lives of their children.  Dad & Mom are important.  The sooner we can all welcome that truth, the sooner we'll be able to find ways to work together to make that happen and not be so quick to settle for anything less.  “Leadership.  It starts with YOU.” Billy Graham~ “A good father is one of the most unsung, un-praised, unnoticed, and yet one of the most valuable assets in our society.”  

"If I didn't define myself for myself I would be crunched into other people's fantasies for me and eaten alive." -Audre LordeIn this episode our host Kimbretta takes some time to share with us from her personal journal entries about how she took time to learn, explore, and elevate how she shows up in her romantic relationships.  As she always says, leadership starts with yourself; and she isn't exempt from that.  After repeat heartbreaks and numerous situation-ships that never became anything more, it was time for Kimbretta to look within and dig deep to find out who she is before all the trauma and pain and then to take action by being courageous enough to be that person, unapologetically, no matter what.

3 Common Cracks in the Black Business Model:1.    Absence of Proper Planning, Preparation2.    Having the right team around you (accountant, attorney, inspectors, SME)3.    Lacking Business Savvy (Integrity, Ethics, Professionalism-who we hire), Customer Care-Service)4.    Inclusivity is not Selling Out.  This is a notion/mindset that must be transformed.  Being afraid to create a product/business that solves for a universal need can be a barrier.Bonus:  A large majority of black people start businesses like Crab Shacks, Wing Trucks, Nail Salons, Hair Shops, Mobile Detailing, Lawn Care…) We create for our people and we don't present our self to be seen or taken seriously by anyone else.  It is okay if you want to create a Niche and target one group of people…but still do that exceptionally well.  Raise their thinking, enhance their experiences with your business/product.

In this episode, Tim and I have a candid conversation about him overcoming drug addiction and how he now helps others.  Tim tells us how he finally took back his life becoming the leader he always knew he could be.  Tim is now an author and rehabilitation coach for others struggling with drug addiction.  Take a Listen!

There are an awful lot of people running around believing and claiming to be someone who “keeps it real” but in most cases they are doing anything but “keeping it 100.”  In honor of keeping it 100 tonight, let us all recognize that getting to the truth is journey, not an easy one either.  It takes time, and it starts with being honest with SELF-FIRST.  Generally, people are much more comfortable telling someone else about themselves or their life or behaviors; but cannot manage to do the same truth-telling to themselves.

Your present awareness of who you are can and will shift, for good or bad, as you change, grow up and experience things in life.  Going through an “Identity Crisis” doesn't make you a bad person, it means you're human.  However, you become a leader in your own life when you can see those identity shifts in yourself, and take action that re-align your identity, and self-awareness with the greatness that you are.  You are not what you have been through.  In this episode I reveal 7 signs that reveal you are in the middle of an Identity Crisis.  Take a listen and let's learn and heal together.

The saying stands true.  If you are hurting in any way, on any level, you can guarantee you are hurting others whether you recognize it or not.  Healing is so important.  It's not a cliche or fad, it is a necessary work that is a journey not a destination.  On today's episode I sit down with my Sister (Hey Sissy!) and we talk about hurt, the pain she is has endured and the pain she has dealt.  Me and Sissy can talk about anything, and this time we let you guys listen in-Ha!  

Who am I?  Where did I come from?  Why is leadership my thang?  What is driving my passion to help heal the world by destroying bad boss behavior, one boss at a time?  How did I get here, finally starting my own business and now sharing with you?  Take a listen to this podcast, the final of this 3 part series that answers all of those questions and more.

Who am I?  Where did I come from?  Why is leadership my thang?  What is driving my passion to help heal the world by destroying bad boss behavior, one boss at a time?  How did I get here, finally starting my own business and now sharing with you?  Take a listen to this podcast, the 2nd of this 3 part series that answers all of those questions and more.

Who am I?  Where did I come from?  Why is leadership my thang?  What is driving my passion to help heal the world by destroying bad boss behavior, one boss at a time?  How did I get here, finally starting my own business and now sharing with you?  Take a listen to this podcast, the first of a 3 part series that answers all of those questions and more.

Ever wonder why people get so defensive (or mad) when you talk to them about something they did that offended you? We can't control others' reactions or actions.  All we can do is “control” us and try to tailor our delivery in the best possible way.  Gaining insight around this widespread issue will help us all better tailor our reactions to this type of behavior. I know for me, this is a huge pet peeve, issue, annoyance, etc.  Being defensive when confronted, playing the blame game, or the I'm going to be madder than you game are all toxic behaviors.  Take a listen to this show I talk with my two brothers, Amere & Speak about this topic and how we can disarm a defensive responder.

There are so many humans who swear they are good people.  But, are they really?  Do you know what being a good person is really about?  Think about a few good people you know, tell why are they good people in your opinion?  Do you believe you are a good person?  Why?  Why not?  Well, in this episode we talk about and answer all of the above.  Tune in to find out what it really takes to show up in your life each day as "Good People".  Like, Comment and Share.  Follow the Host on IG and Twitter @kimbretta, and like her FB Author Page @kimbrettaofficial  

I self-published my first book a few years ago entitled, 'Bosses Who Kill'.  I initially planned for my second episode to speak on excerpts from my book.  However, George Floyd was murdered just two days before my recording session; and I just couldn't not talk about it.  I am a firm believer that the new age serial killers show up as leaders in every workforce you can imagine, teachers, police, doctors, nurses, athletes, sport franchises, etc, etc.  People, who have been given authority over other humans but have no idea how to lead.  I've been sick of it for years now, so much so I wrote a book about it.  Yet, we are still here, standing by watching people in leadership kill other people-literally, figuratively, emotionally, and so on.  When does it stop?

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