Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous with Judith & Jim

This is our last podcast episode for the foreseeable future, but all past episodes will remain online for you to access whenever you like. Now to a question ~ How do you respond to a compliment or some form of success? So often people say their success is a matter of “luck” or “fate.” They’ll say it in response to a compliment or the successful outcome of a job interview or first date. Why would people hand off these important issues and positive results to “luck” or “fate” rather than their own decisions, their own behavior, their own intelligence, their own excellence? This isn’t just about receiving. It’s about owning responsibility for your choices, your actions, your excellence, and success in whatever ways it manifests. So we ask, how can you feel rightfully fabulous, when you’re not owning who you actually are? An Important Message ... Due to the many problems primarily associated with COVID-19, this is our last Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous podcast.  And Judith & Jim thank you for your support. However, Judith & Jim still invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/  

How do you respond when  ... It’s a certainty, a fact that there will always be disappointment in life. So the most important question is – how do you respond when you experience those shocks, hurts, and sometimes soul-draining, devastating events? Do you collapse, feel like a victim, decide it’s too much to bear? Or do you experience the frustration, the pain and acknowledge that it is real, without covering it over with false humor or developing a stiff upper lip. Because how you respond to being disappointed is either a recipe for gratitude and a life well-lived, or a deeply contaminated recipe for bitterness and the chronic experience of defeat — no matter the actual realities of your current life. To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/  

How do you experience gratitude? You may be asking yourself — what does Gratitude have to do with Overcoming The Fear Of Being Fabulous? You might even think you have lots of frustrations so what’s to be grateful for?     But that may be one of the issues that keeps holding you back! You may be so focused on what you don’t have that you forget to pay attention to all that you DO have. Perhaps you’ve heard the phrase “like attracts like” — and it’s true! Whether it’s in friendships, romantic relationships, career opportunities — like does attract like. And gratitude really does attract more to be grateful for!    So today we’re going to explore the power of gratitude to help you overcome the fear of being fabulous. To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page.

Do you even dare do it? When you eat out, do you feel comfortable returning dishes or drinks that weren’t prepared like you ordered? Do you even dare do it? We’ve talked with so many people who told us they were horrified at the thought of sending back a well-done hamburger when they ordered rare; or limp bacon when they ordered super crispy; or a malt that’s delivered ahead of your meal when you specified that you wanted it with your meal and not before. Even when we point out that they are paying for something they specified to be made a certain way, they shake their head and are clearly unable to be in charge of themselves in this regard. So today we are digging into the blocks that prevent speaking up in your own defense! To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/podcast/

Do You Own Your Own Life - On Your Own Terms?Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous is rooted in awakening you to the powerful childhood roots that can be holding you back.That’s why today we’re addressing your life, and all that influenced you before your brain was capable of Reason and Analysis. Because only with the capability to reason, analyze, and question can you own your life—on your own terms.Join us now as we explore this very important topic.  To Find Out More ...Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around.You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page.https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/podcast/

Are you more comfortable being nice or being honest??How often do you feel you have to be “nice” rather than honest?  So often people short change the other person and themselves by reducing their feedback, whether at work or in their personal lives, to “being nice”, when they could provide valuable communication if they were simply, and respectfully honest.Why would you avoid telling the truth, in favor of being “nice”?Most people say it’s because they are afraid of hurting someone’s feelings. But think about it this way — as the Dean of my graduate school once said, “Nice folks leave a wake of destruction in their path.”So make sure to listen as we unpack that bit of true wisdom!To Find Out More ...Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around.You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page.

Which do you regret the most - what you haven't done or what you have done?Have you heard the expression “You’ll regret what you haven’t done, not what you actually have done”?What comes to mind when you think about regret? Chances are good that it’s not about things you did, but about things you didn’t allow yourself to do. Or haven’t done and may never do, but you’d like to – sort of —So today we’re digging into desire and regret.Because what we’ve seen all too often are the regrets that shadow people’s careers and personal lives.Regrets about what they might have done or could have done but didn’t.To Find Out More ...Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around.You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page.https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/

“Oh I can’t leave it behind. It’s part of who I’ve always been.” If you started at the beginning of our podcast series, you heard us mention “The Love Grip” Today we’re going to dig into a deeper definition of “The Love Grip”, how it’s created, and why it’s so often difficult to leave behind. In fact, when some people understand that they are caught in The Love Grip and that’s what has been holding them back, they are shocked to hear themselves say, “Oh I can’t leave it behind. It’s part of who I’ve always been.” Yes, the Love Grip can feel so much a part of you that for some people it’s very difficult to release. As a married psychology team we’ve been exploring and working with people about issues that relate to “The Love Grip” for over 30 years. And we know that it can touch right into the depths of what’s been holding you back in any area of your life. To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page.  

No more hiding your holdbacks! Yes, it's really becoming a movement! And times, they really are changing! No more hiding your holdbacks, your fears of being too much. Or, on the other hand, no more avoiding telling your friends about the great promotion you just received, the awesome person you just went out with who wants to see you again, the amount of weight you lost, or the wonderful vacation you have planned!  And it’s totally okay if you’re struggling, uncomfortable, self-conscious, even embarrassed that The Fear Of Being Fabulous still has a hold on you. In fact, you can say so. Why? Because more and more we hear from people who listen to this podcast, share it with their friends, and are finding that the topic of Overcoming The Fear Of Being Fabulous is more and more an okay thing to talk about! To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit their Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/    

Do you have permission to express your anger? We ask because one of our podcast listeners asked that we provide an episode about anger — the freedom to express anger. She said there are so many times that she feels angry, whether in her love relationship or at work, but she can’t find the internal permission to express it.  Now this is a very bright, educated, successful woman, and she knows it doesn’t serve her career or her relationship to hold back when she feels angry. So today we’re going to unpack the fear of being furious! Well, actually not the fear of BEING furious, instead it’s the fear of EXPRESSING your fury, whether that be in just disagreeing with people, exposing flaws in their logic, or whatever it might be! To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit their Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/  

How much do you focus on what other people think of you? Do you cater to others’ opinions - whether it’s about music, work, health, politics, the latest film, or where to go on your next vacation  - rather than owning your own perspective? In this podcast we’re inviting you to examine – for yourself - what’s known as the difference between Internal vs External Locus of Control. In other words, where do you look to determine your value? Out there in other people’s opinions, style, or habits? Or inside yourself?      To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/

Do you feel you deserve the success you’ve achieved? Think of all the super stars who killed themselves - one way or another - at the height of their career. Elvis, Michael Jackson, Amy Winehouse, Janis Joplin, Kurt Cobain, Anthony Bourdain, Robin Williams, Ernest Hemingway, Whitney Houston, Marilyn Monroe and the list goes on and on. It doesn’t matter whether it might have even been an “accidental overdose” or described as an accidental noose around the neck, either way they couldn’t live within the glory and wealth they had earned. So, what about you? Do you feel you deserve the success you’ve achieved? The house or condo you own? The acclaim, the stature the world keeps granting to you? Or do you feel self-conscious, guilty, worried about what others think? Most people do, that’s why we’re exploring how you can better deserve, truly deserve, the life you’ve created for yourself, and the success that’s coming in the future. To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/

Do You Suffer From The Imposter Syndrome? Some of the people we coach, who are leaders in their own right - most of whom work in the tech industry either directly or as joint venture partners - tell us they feel like imposters. They know it’s strange. They acknowledge that there’s no real legitimate reason for it. But they still feel like they can’t quite own the success they’ve achieved. Sometimes it’s easier to understand if someone never went to college, or didn’t graduate from college and yet they are now managing people who have PhDs in Computer Science or Data Analysis. But many times, if not most of the time, people who struggle with the Imposter Syndrome  – no matter their education, professional experience, or even their age – simply can’t stand solidly within their very real accomplishments and feel like rightful owners. To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/

How Much Do You Allow Yourself To Want? Do you struggle with depression, anxiety, or some other form of self-doubt? It’s our personal and professional experience that most people do - at least from time to time, if not most of the time. Certainly we’ve both felt the drag of depression, the annoyance of anxiety, the uncertainty of living on this planet. Not only do those feelings undermine your self-confidence, they seriously limit what you can allow yourself to want for your life. That’s why we are committed to helping you expand how much you can allow yourself to want - now - and going forward in your life! To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/

How well do you receive praise and compliments? Do you blow it off when someone compliments you? Do you hide behind false humility, worried that others may think you’re conceited or grand-standing if you simply say “Thank you”? Discover what that says about your relationship with you and how to turn this around. You'll also discover how saying “Thank You” is actually a gift. After all, if you can’t receive acknowledgment from others, and easily say “Thank you” it’s a bit like living in a psychological and spiritual desert.       To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/        

You'll Never Liberate Your True Identity Until You "Leave Home" Internally Most people move out of their parents home to start their own lives. But, for most people, all too often it’s merely a physical leaving home, not one that liberates their identity! So today, Judith will interview Jim about why he wrote his Leaving Home Trilogy of autobiographical novels. Jim will reveal how the first book, Worship of Hollow Gods, explores some of the many “hollow gods”  families become committed to; become addicted to. In Jim’s second book, An Ambition To Belong, he explores the angst most adolescents experience - no longer children and not yet adult. Belonging nowhere. Jim’s award-winning, best-selling novels added to his own freedom to be fabulous, writing about many issues that people can find off-limits or even spiritually offensive. And in that way publishing these novels was a major act of internally leaving home for Jim. To learn more about the trilogy and download a FREE copy of one of James’ favorite chapters from the Leaving Home Trilogy just go to https://jamessniechowski.com/    

Managing up! Ever hear of it? Never heard of it? It’s important that you don’t allow yourself to just be obedient whether it’s with your boss, your spouse, whoever! In order to grow in your self-appraisal, today Judith & Jim will help you learn to better manage up! It’s important that you feel comfortable influencing others, perhaps in your relationship with your child’s teacher, or with your next door neighbor, or your friendship circle.  Managing Up and Influencing Others is an important element in your commitment to living an expanded lifestyle.   To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page.    

Did You Know that there's no such thing as failure ? Judith & Jim have a big announcement for you! Perhaps even a giant wake-up call! THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS FAILURE. Yes, you heard that right. There is no such thing as failure. Why? Because you are always succeeding  - always. The question is - at what?  Today Judith & Jim will help you dig into this provocative guarantee. You’ll be surprised at what you discover. To get ready for this podcast, bring to mind an area in your life where you are not living up to what you would prefer. It might be in your career, your love life, physical fitness, spirituality, you name it. Now get ready for J & J to help you think about this area in your life very, very differently!   To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/    

Are you allowed to outshine your parents and/or siblings?  Many people are held back by worry that if they succeed according to their own desires and ambitions they will feel guilty. But - guilty of what? Guilty for outshining everyone else in their family. Guilty for going after things their family may not approve of. Guilty. What about you? What have you felt guilty about? What do you feel guilty about right now? Moving away from your family’s long time city or town? Dating or marrying outside your family’s race, religion, or any other approved of category? Making more money than anyone in your family ever even thought about? Succeeding in a career your family thinks is corrupt or even evil? There are plenty of other categories of course. So today Judith & Jim ask and explore with you this key question - “Are you allowed to outshine your parents and/or siblings?  To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/  

Ever thought about how areas of your life can actually be contaminated — polluted by experiences and emotional associations in your early life? In today's episode Judith & Jim will help you dig into this as it applies to your life, your much larger life and your current fear of being fabulous. So  please give some thought to how early upbringing can twist how people think about other people’s race, religion, and other cultures. Think about how kids learn to make fun of other kids, to bully and badger them. They weren’t born that way. They learned it. And they think it’s okay. Those are the results of contamination! So how has your life, and the way you relate to yourself, been contaminated by your early experiences? Discover more about this with J & J today! To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/  

3 Big Questions for You Today Judith & Jim have 3 big questions for you! Because they want you to better understand  “Where in your life is your Unconscious holding you back?” They are following up on the topic of Unconscious Allegiances and  Forbiddances, and will be helping you examine the difference between those areas in your life where you are doing really well - maybe even amazing – and those where you feel like the mysteries of the universe have you trapped and you can’t get out! Get ready to let go of Anxiety, Depression, and Substance Abuse – little by little.     To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit their Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/  

Today it's Jim's turn to share some of his stories that demonstrate where his Fear of Being Fabulous originated. When you listen to Jim describe a bit of his background and the early roots of his Fear Of Being Fabulous, see what comes to mind from your own early experiences where you thought you had to be humble and modest, playing down your own excellence and expertise. That playing down is what J & J call “hold-backs” which are most often unconscious until you get awakened to how they are interfering with your larger more satisfying life. And that’s what “The Double Js” are dedicated to helping you discover.                  Both Books are Now Available on Amazon - Just Click on the Covers

Today's episode is about Judith's Fear Of Being Fabulous Judith & Jim’s expertise in helping people with Overcoming The Fear Of Being Fabulous didn’t just come from working with clients in their private practice over many year and now coaching tech industry executives. It started with their own personal challenges. Today you’ll gain insight into a bit of Judith’s background and how it helped create personal and professional challenges for her -  so you can hopefully relate them to your own life.   Next week it's Jim's turn to share some stories about his holdbacks. To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit their Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcripts, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/  

This isn’t some kind of psycho-jargon. It’s important to understand the specific terms Judith & Jim use to describe how The Fear Of Being Fabulous is created, how it’s maintained, and what’s involved in order for you to actually Overcome The Fear Of Being Fabulous. This isn’t some kind of psycho-jargon. J & J’s specific terms emerged through the process of coaching and teaching people about The Fear Of Being Fabulous, and continually exploring their own experiences with it as well. In this episode you’ll find out what “Allegiances” and Forbiddances” are all about. And you’ll also discover the dangers of “The Love Grip.”   Get ready to compare your own experiences with what The Double Js will be sharing with you. To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit their Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcripts, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/  

Who are you really? And what is not the REAL you? Many people associate the unconscious with forbidden feelings. Perhaps sexual, perhaps rageful, or anything else that’s considered forbidden. But we prefer to look at what went into your mind to help create The Fear Of Being Fabulous before you were old enough to evaluate what is actually true for you - who you really are - and what is not the real you. That’s why J & J devote this podcast to helping you explore the power of the unconscious and how it can be controlling you without your awareness or understanding. And The Double Js will also give you some useful tips to help you weed out unconscious prohibitions that are holding you back!    To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit their Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcripts, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/  

    Do you worry about The Imposter Syndrome?  Refrain from speaking up at meetings or with friends for fear you’ll be seen as a bossy, imposing know-it-all? Do you struggle with anxiety and/or depression? Are you a chronic procrastinator? Perhaps you cater to old values you learned in childhood and don’t even recognize what it’s costing you. These are just a small sampling of what you’ll discover about The Signs and Signals of ways that people suffer from the Fear of Being Fabulous—and how it may be holding you back from a much larger, happier life.       To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit their Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcripts, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/    

Jim's Personal Fear of Being Fabulous Struggle After a Stroke in 2016 Sometimes the Fear of Being Fabulous can have tangible, physical roots. For example, Jim’s stroke in October 2016 mostly hit the muscles in his mouth and therefore his speech. Even though most people now think he sounds “normal,” never having heard him before, Jim needed to explain his own Fear of Being Fabulous to you so you understand that it’s been caused by not trusting how he sounds when he speaks. Notice how Jim responds when Judith points out how he finds it difficult to give himself credit for Being Fabulous at speaking on their podcasts and doing executive coaching. Can you relate to that?   To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit their Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcripts, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/  

You’ll be sure to see yourself here! Nearly everyone holds themselves back from the super success they could enjoy. Procrastination! Self-doubt! Anxiety! Judith & Jim describe how unconscious allegiances and hold-backs produce The Fear of Being Fabulous plus the underpinnings and the roots of deep hold-backs. And for this and every podcast episode, Judith &  Jim’s goal is to leave you more empowered and inspired to expand your freedom to be fully you!  To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit their Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcripts, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/podcast/   

They’re not prepared for what comes next There was a time when we thought marketing was a sham, corrupt, a way to snooker people into buying something they didn’t really want or need. But then we began to learn about the actual benefits of marketing for everyone involved. And for our episode today we have the pleasure of talking with someone who has been a special person to us– and a marketing person as well – Denise Cassino.         Denise is an Internet Marketing Specialist having launched hundreds of authors to #1 Bestseller status on Amazon.com in a particular category. And she did that for both of Jim’s first two biographical novels - Worship of Hollow Gods and An Ambition to Belong As Denise explains during our interview, “Lots of people write books, and even get them published. But they’re not prepared for what comes next.”   To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/ 

How do you respond to a compliment or some form of success? So often people say their success is a matter of “luck” or “fate.” They’ll say it in response to a compliment or the successful outcome of a job interview or first date. Why would people hand off these important issues and positive results to “luck” or “fate” rather than their own decisions, their own behavior, their own intelligence, their own excellence? This isn’t just about receiving. It’s about owning responsibility for your choices, your actions, your excellence, and success in whatever ways it manifests. So we ask, how can you feel rightfully fabulous, when you’re not owning who you actually are? To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page.  

How do you respond when you’re not ... It’s a certainty, a fact that there will always be disappointment in life. So the most important question is – how do you respond when you experience those shocks, hurts, and sometimes soul-draining, devastating events? Do you collapse, feel like a victim, decide it’s too much to bear? Or do you experience the frustration, the pain and acknowledge that it is real, without covering it over with false humor or developing a stiff upper lip. Because how you respond to being disappointed is either a recipe for gratitude and a life well-lived, or a deeply contaminated recipe for bitterness and the chronic experience of defeat — no matter the actual realities of your current life. To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/ 

How do you experience gratitude? You may be asking yourself — what does Gratitude have to do with Overcoming The Fear Of Being Fabulous? You might even think you have lots of frustrations so what’s to be grateful for?     But that may be one of the issues that keeps holding you back! You may be so focused on what you don’t have that you forget to pay attention to all that you DO have. Perhaps you’ve heard the phrase “like attracts like” — and it’s true! Whether it’s in friendships, romantic relationships, career opportunities — like does attract like. And gratitude really does attract more to be grateful for!    So today we’re going to explore the power of gratitude to help you overcome the fear of being fabulous. To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/    

Do you even dare do it? When you eat out, do you feel comfortable returning dishes or drinks that weren’t prepared like you ordered? Do you even dare do it? We’ve talked with so many people who told us they were horrified at the thought of sending back a well-done hamburger when they ordered rare; or limp bacon when they ordered super crispy; or a malt that’s delivered ahead of your meal when you specified that you wanted it with your meal and not before. Even when we point out that they are paying for something they specified to be made a certain way, they shake their head and are clearly unable to be in charge of themselves in this regard. So today we are digging into the blocks that prevent speaking up in your own defense! To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page.    

Do You Own Your Own Life - On Your Own Terms? Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous is rooted in awakening you to the powerful childhood roots that can be holding you back. That’s why today we’re addressing your life, and all that influenced you before your brain was capable of Reason and Analysis. Because only with the capability to reason, analyze, and question can you own your life—on your own terms. Join us now as we explore this very important topic.   To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page.

Are you more comfortable being nice or being honest?? How often do you feel you have to be “nice” rather than honest?   So often people short change the other person and themselves by reducing their feedback, whether at work or in their personal lives, to “being nice”, when they could provide valuable communication if they were simply, and respectfully honest. Why would you avoid telling the truth, in favor of being “nice”? Most people say it’s because they are afraid of hurting someone’s feelings. But think about it this way — as the Dean of my graduate school once said, “Nice folks leave a wake of destruction in their path.” So make sure to listen as we unpack that bit of true wisdom! To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/  

Which do you regret the most - what you haven't done or what you have done? Have you heard the expression “You’ll regret what you haven’t done, not what you actually have done”? What comes to mind when you think about regret? Chances are good that it’s not about things you did, but about things you didn’t allow yourself to do. Or haven’t done and may never do, but you’d like to – sort of — So today we’re digging into desire and regret. Because what we’ve seen all too often are the regrets that shadow people’s careers and personal lives. Regrets about what they might have done or could have done but didn’t. To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/  

“Oh I can’t leave it behind. It’s part of who I’ve always been.” If you started at the beginning of our podcast series, you heard us mention “The Love Grip” Today we’re going to dig into a deeper definition of “The Love Grip”, how it’s created, and why it’s so often difficult to leave behind. In fact, when some people understand that they are caught in The Love Grip and that’s what has been holding them back, they are shocked to hear themselves say, “Oh I can’t leave it behind. It’s part of who I’ve always been.” Yes, the Love Grip can feel so much a part of you that for some people it’s very difficult to release. As a married psychology team we’ve been exploring and working with people about issues that relate to “The Love Grip” for over 30 years. And we know that it can touch right into the depths of what’s been holding you back in any area of your life. To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/  

No more hiding your holdbacks! Yes, it's really becoming a movement! And times, they really are changing! No more hiding your holdbacks, your fears of being too much. Or, on the other hand, no more avoiding telling your friends about the great promotion you just received, the awesome person you just went out with who wants to see you again, the amount of weight you lost, or the wonderful vacation you have planned!  And it’s totally okay if you’re struggling, uncomfortable, self-conscious, even embarrassed that The Fear Of Being Fabulous still has a hold on you. In fact, you can say so. Why? Because more and more we hear from people who listen to this podcast, share it with their friends, and are finding that the topic of Overcoming The Fear Of Being Fabulous is more and more an okay thing to talk about! To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit their Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/  

Do you have permission to express anger? We ask because one of our podcast listeners asked that we provide an episode about anger — the freedom to express anger. She said there are so many times that she feels angry, whether in her love relationship or at work, but she can’t find the internal permission to express it.  Now this is a very bright, educated, successful woman, and she knows it doesn’t serve her career or her relationship to hold back when she feels angry. So today we’re going to unpack the fear of being furious! Well, actually not the fear of BEING furious, instead it’s the fear of EXPRESSING your fury, whether that be in just disagreeing with people, exposing flaws in their logic, or whatever it might be! To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit their Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/    

How much do you focus on what other people think of you? Do you cater to others’ opinions - whether it’s about music, work, health, politics, the latest film, or where to go on your next vacation  - rather than owning your own perspective? In this podcast we’re inviting you to examine – for yourself - what’s known as the difference between Internal vs External Locus of Control. In other words, where do you look to determine your value? Out there in other people’s opinions, style, or habits? Or inside yourself?      To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/    

Do you feel you deserve the success you’ve achieved? Think of all the super stars who killed themselves - one way or another - at the height of their career. Elvis, Michael Jackson, Amy Winehouse, Janis Joplin, Kurt Cobain, Anthony Bourdain, Robin Williams, Ernest Hemingway, Whitney Houston, Marilyn Monroe and the list goes on and on. It doesn’t matter whether it might have even been an “accidental overdose” or described as an accidental noose around the neck, either way they couldn’t live within the glory and wealth they had earned. So, what about you? Do you feel you deserve the success you’ve achieved? The house or condo you own? The acclaim, the stature the world keeps granting to you? Or do you feel self-conscious, guilty, worried about what others think? Most people do, that’s why we’re exploring how you can better deserve, truly deserve, the life you’ve created for yourself, and the success that’s coming in the future. To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/    

Do You Suffer From The Imposter Syndrome? Some of the people we coach, who are leaders in their own right - most of whom work in the tech industry either directly or as joint venture partners - tell us they feel like imposters. They know it’s strange. They acknowledge that there’s no real legitimate reason for it. But they still feel like they can’t quite own the success they’ve achieved. Sometimes it’s easier to understand if someone never went to college, or didn’t graduate from college and yet they are now managing people who have PhDs in Computer Science or Data Analysis. But many times, if not most of the time, people who struggle with the Imposter Syndrome  – no matter their education, professional experience, or even their age – simply can’t stand solidly within their very real accomplishments and feel like rightful owners.   To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/    

How Much Do You Allow Yourself To Want? Do you struggle with depression, anxiety, or some other form of self-doubt? It’s our personal and professional experience that most people do - at least from time to time, if not most of the time. Certainly we’ve both felt the drag of depression, the annoyance of anxiety, the uncertainty of living on this planet. Not only do those feelings undermine your self-confidence, they seriously limit what you can allow yourself to want for your life. That’s why we are committed to helping you expand how much you can allow yourself to want - now - and going forward in your life!   To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/      

How well do you receive praise and compliments? Do you blow it off when someone compliments you? Do you hide behind false humility, worried that others may think you’re conceited or grand-standing if you simply say “Thank you”? Discover what that says about your relationship with you and how to turn this around. You'll also discover how saying “Thank You” is actually a gift. After all, if you can’t receive acknowledgment from others, and easily say “Thank you” it’s a bit like living in a psychological and spiritual desert.       To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/    

You'll Never Liberate Your True Identity Until You "Leave Home" Internally Most people move out of their parents home to start their own lives. But, for most people, all too often it’s merely a physical leaving home, not one that liberates their identity! So today, Judith will interview Jim about why he wrote his Leaving Home Trilogy of autobiographical novels. Jim will reveal how the first book, “Worship of Hollow Gods,” explores some of the many “hollow gods”  families become committed to; become addicted to. In Jim’s second book, “An Ambition To Belong,” he explores the angst most adolescents experience - no longer children and not yet adult. Belonging nowhere.   Jim’s award-winning, best-selling novels added to his own freedom to be fabulous, writing about many issues that people can find off-limits or even spiritually offensive. And in that way publishing these novels was a major act of internally leaving home. Find out more about Jim's Best-Selling, Award-Winning Leaving Home Trilogy  Just Click on the covers and get your copy today from Amazon          

Managing up! Ever hear of it? Never heard of it? It’s important that you don’t allow yourself to just be obedient whether it’s with your boss, your spouse, whoever! In order to grow in your self-appraisal, today Judith & Jim will help you learn to better manage up! It’s important that you feel comfortable influencing others, perhaps in your relationship with your child’s teacher, or with your next door neighbor, or your friendship circle.  Managing Up and Influencing Others is an important element in your commitment to living an expanded lifestyle.   To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/      

Happy New Year Now get ready for J & J to help you think about "Failure" very, very differently! Judith & Jim have a big announcement for you! Perhaps even a giant wake-up call! THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS FAILURE. Yes, you heard that right. There is no such thing as failure. Why? Because you are always succeeding  - always. The question is - at what?  Today Judith & Jim will help you dig into this provocative guarantee. You’ll be surprised at what you discover. To get ready for this podcast, bring to mind an area in your life where you are not living up to what you would prefer. It might be in your career, your love life, physical fitness, spirituality, you name it.     To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/  

Are you allowed to outshine your parents and/or siblings?  Many people are held back by worry that if they succeed according to their own desires and ambitions they will feel guilty. But - guilty of what? Guilty for outshining everyone else in their family. Guilty for going after things their family may not approve of. Guilty. What about you? What have you felt guilty about? What do you feel guilty about right now? Moving away from your family’s long time city or town? Dating or marrying outside your family’s race, religion, or any other approved of category? Making more money than anyone in your family ever even thought about? Succeeding in a career your family thinks is corrupt or even evil? There are plenty of other categories of course. So today Judith & Jim ask and explore with you this key question - “Are you allowed to outshine your parents and/or siblings?    To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/        

Ever thought about how areas of your life can actually be contaminated — polluted by experiences and emotional associations in your early life? In today's episode Judith & Jim will help you dig into this as it applies to your life, your much larger life and your current fear of being fabulous. So  please give some thought to how early upbringing can twist how people think about other people’s race, religion, and other cultures. Think about how kids learn to make fun of other kids, to bully and badger them. They weren’t born that way. They learned it. And they think it’s okay. Those are the results of contamination! So how has your life, and the way you relate to yourself, been contaminated by your early experiences? Discover more about this with J & J today!      To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/  

3 Big Questions for You Today Judith & Jim have 3 big questions for you! Because they want you to better understand  “Where in your life is your Unconscious holding you back?” They are following up on the topic of Unconscious Allegiances and  Forbiddances, and will be helping you examine the difference between those areas in your life where you are doing really well - maybe even amazing – and those where you feel like the mysteries of the universe have you trapped and you can’t get out! Get ready to let go of Anxiety, Depression, and Substance Abuse – little by little.       To Find Out More ... Judith & Jim invite you to visit their Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous website and take a look around. You'll find out more about Judith & Jim, get the latest information about the Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous Personal Workshop, and you can also listen to all Episodes, get the Transcript, and leave a comment--all on the Podcast Page. https://overcomingthefearofbeingfabulous.com/    

Today it's Jim's turn to share some of his stories that demonstrate where his Fear of Being Fabulous originated. When you listen to Jim describe a bit of his background and the early roots of his Fear Of Being Fabulous, see what comes to mind from your own early experiences where you thought you had to be humble and modest, playing down your own excellence and expertise. That playing down is what J & J call “hold-backs” which are most often unconscious until you get awakened to how they are interfering with your larger more satisfying life. And that’s what “The Double Js” are dedicated to helping you discover.                  Both Books are Now Available on Amazon - Just Click on the Covers