Sober Dating One Date at a Time

Kathy and Daphne discuss the challenges of the holiday season and the possibility of finding joy in surrendering.

Kathy and Daphne were honored to be interview by Reb Brochet, founder of Roots & Wings Recovery.  We discuss connecting in sobriety and  when it might be appropriate to start "dating" in early recovery. *Reb fondly refers to Kathy and Daphne as "cupid's muses."https://www.rootsandwingsrecovery.com/

Kathy and Daphne discuss how language is used as a weapon and as a way of healing.

Kathy responds to a comment made in reference  to a post on social media.

Anger is an emotion often expressed in an unhealthy way and can destroy relationships.  What is Anger?  Is it masked fear, sadness, grief or unidentified trauma?  What is "justified anger"?  Kathy and Daphne explore this important topic.

A common problem in relationship is communication.  It is an immense and profound topic.Kathy and Daphne dive into the nuances involved in communication in not only intimate relationships, but all forms of relationships.www.soberdating.app

In this episode, Kathy and Daphne discuss the difference between the two and how they impact individuals in and out of relationships.  Understanding entails the practice and learning  while insight is the capacity to gain an accurate and deep understanding of one's knowledge and choices.  Insight=wisdom.https://soberdating.app

Kathy and Daphne discuss gratitude and grace and the importance of giving and receiving both~in life and in relationships.https://soberdating.app

Kathy and Daphne discuss the differences between happiness and joy.  Happiness is what we feel in response to something~to an experience to a person, to a gift, etc.  Joy is actually a state of being.  Take a listen and hear Daphne and Kathy discuss the pursuit of happiness and how to find joy in your lives and relationships.https://soberdating.app

In this episode, Kathy and Daphne dive into the differences between wants and needs.  What do we really need to be happy vs what we want in life to be happy.https://soberdating.apphttps://apps.apple.com/us/app/sober-dating-onedate-at-a-time/id1563036570

Kathy and Daphne discuss intimacy~Emotional, Mental, Spiritual and physical.In relationship, we need to establish a strong sense of self, trust and commitment to understand our partner's needs.  Intimacy is the opposite of isolation.  Isolation blocks our ability to connect and become intimate with our partner.https://soberdating.app/https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sober-dating-onedate-at-a-time/id1563036570

Kathy sits down and shares space Kamelle Mills.  They discuss life paths, facing fears, coming out as gay to family and how their paths crossed and how they've remained connected for almost 10 years.  They share how they are two completely different people, from two different socio- economic backgrounds who have become  more like family than friends.Kamelle can be found on Instagram @kamellemills @enbeyeshttps://soberdating.app/https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sober-dating-onedate-at-a-time/id1563036570

Again, Kathy and Daphne dive into becoming self-aware and how that affects connecting in relationship.https://soberdating.app/https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sober-dating-onedate-at-a-time/id1563036570

In this episode, Kathy goes solo.  She shares some dating experiences she has had post divorce and post sobriety.https://soberdating.app/https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sober-dating-onedate-at-a-time/id1563036570

Kathy and Daphne once again peel back the layers of the fear onion and discuss how fear evolves in us and how to find healthy tools to identify, name, deflect, and process fear and anxiety.https://soberdating.app/https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sober-dating-onedate-at-a-time/id1563036570

Kathy and Daphne discuss emotions in relationship and how they can become problematic.https://soberdating.app/https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sober-dating-onedate-at-a-time/id1563036570

Kathy and Daphne once again discuss everything "relationship."  How are our needs being met?  How do we express our needs in a healthy effective way?https://soberdating.app/https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sober-dating-onedate-at-a-time/id1563036570

Kathy and Daphne discuss what causes relationships to become problematic.  Why aren't our needs being met?  Why wait for the catastrophe to re-evaluate the relationship?https://soberdating.app/https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sober-dating-onedate-at-a-time/id1563036570

Kathy and Daphne discuss the purpose of relationships.  Why do we need connection in relationships?  How can we connect in a meaningful and purpose intended way?https://soberdating.app/https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sober-dating-onedate-at-a-time/id1563036570

Kathy and Daphne discuss life's disappointments and how we address those disappointments in a healthy way.  How do disappointments affect relationships and connecting?https://soberdating.app/https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sober-dating-onedate-at-a-time/id1563036570

Kathy VandenBerghe, founder of Sober Dating, and author, Daphne Rose Kingma, share space and discuss subjects surrounding relationship, trauma and our collective movement towards awareness.https://soberdating.app/https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sober-dating-onedate-at-a-time/id1563036570

In this episode, Daphne and I continue our discussion surrounding the healing joy of recovering from trauma.  Each of us is recovering from something. The wounds of childhood are numerous and complex, and the impact of them is enormous. We get to see how truly powerful they are when childhood trauma is translated into alcoholism and addiction, repetitive unsuccessful relationships and challenges in finding our life's purpose.We dive into the topics we will explore in our Spring Workshop in Charleston, SC.  We also discuss Daphne's book, "Coming Apart: How to Heal Your Broken Heart."https://soberdating.app/https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sober-dating-onedate-at-a-time/id1563036570

Kate and Rich met on a dating app over ten years ago.  Rich is sober and Kate is a "normie."We discuss their first impressions, Kate's impression of Rich and how they integrated sobriety into their relationship successfully.  They now have two beautiful boys and are thriving in California.www.soberdating.apphttps://apps.apple.com/us/app/sober-dating-onedate-at-a-time/id1563036570

Another great conversation with Daphne Kingma about past trauma and how we bring unaddressed trauma to relationships.  We talk about addiction, medicating pain with drugs and alcohol.  https://soberdating.app/https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sober-dating-onedate-at-a-time/id1563036570

Mary and I discuss Traditional vs Eastern Medicine and healing trauma through different modalities.  Mary's work "is deeply focused on treating psycho-emotional disorders (anxiety, depression, PTSD), musculoskeletal conditions, lymphatic health & reconditioning the nervous system to aid the body in recovering from bout of acute stress."  Please check out her website at https://www.maryheavenacupuncture.com/aboutmaryand her IG @maryheavenacuMary also recommends the following books:"Legacy of the Heart" Wayne Muller"Minding the Body, Mending the Mind" Joan Borysenko, PhDhttps://soberdating.app/https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sober-dating-onedate-at-a-time/id1563036570

What is trauma actually?  How does it affect relationships?  Why do relationships often fail and disappoint us?  Daphne Kingma and I delve into how physical, spiritual, emotional and sometimes sexual trauma can cause us to self-sabotage the most important relationships in our liveshttps://soberdating.app/https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sober-dating-onedate-at-a-time/id1563036570

Sharing space with Jenn.  Our conversation about trauma and healing from that trauma.https://soberdating.app/https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sober-dating-onedate-at-a-time/id1563036570

Sharing space with Daphne Kingma-Author, Teacher, and six time guest on Oprah.https://soberdating.app/https://apps.apple.com/us/app/sober-dating-onedate-at-a-time/id1563036570