The Pulling Threads Podcast

Y'all  voted and we are here to deliver. Join us for episode 24 where we settle in for happy-hour-at-home chalked full our most embarrassing sex, poop and high school stories as well as a BFF rapid fire Q&A. Listener beware: This episode is not advised for little ears or close family. Rated XXX

In this episode Susanne & Lacey welcome their first ever guest: soon to be Doctor of Leadership, Kirsten!This conversation dives into Kirsten's background, her journey to self love, how she navigates the comparison trap, and overall an open discussion of body policing and the Body Positivity movement.We hope you'll join for this dynamic, juicy, and in depth conversation amongst virtual friends.Intro & Outtro music by Bensound

In this episode Susanne and Lacey dive into their own spiritual beliefs, what the identify with in their beliefs, and do deep dive into their theories on this reality.Intro & Outro music by Bensound 

In this episode Susanne & Lacey unravel where Joy manifests in their lives. The difference between deep contentment &  peace vs filling a void. They briefly unravel Hedonism and touch on what Neurobiology has to say about it in contrast to inner peace.Intro & Outro music provided by Bensound 

In this episode, Susanne and Lacey unravel when it's appropriate to cut contact in their lives with three different types of relationships: Acquaintances, Friendships, and inner circle/Family. Intro and Outtro provided by BenSound 

I'm this episode Lacey poses questions about emotions and her and Susanne do a deep dive unraveling on: can/should emotions be prevented or controlled, and the differences in stimuli and reactions; how they both choose to regulate their physical experience of emotional experiences, etc.Intro & Outtro music provided by Bensound

I'm this episode Susanne & Lacey do a deep dive on cultic abuse. Both of them have been involved in religious cults— Susanne as a young college student, and Lacey as a young child. Lacey later joined an MLM company that reflected a cultic environment. They dive into signs to look out for, like lovebombing. They also touch on the self proclaimed coaching/guru industry that is all over social media right now and the need for crucial accountability when giving generalized advice online. They touch on the huge difference between sharing one own's lived experience and giving generalized advice off of only ONE lived experience and assuming it's applicable for a wide range of individuals. They tie together how often times self proclaimed coaches online gain a large following  online similar to a cult-like experience, and what to look out for as far as red/green flags when it comes to hiring online coaches. This is one of their favorite episodes yet! We hope you will join us for this deep dive & unraveling.Intro & Outro music provided by Bensound 

In this episode Susanne & Lacey take a little mid-season break to address the traumas happening in the world, and specifically in the US. They touch on the mass shootings, where to start the conversations at, and dive into bridging the gaps. Join them on this pause from spirituality while they honor their humanity & the heaviness of the impact on all humanity during this time. Spirituality will resume next week.Intro & Outro music by Bensound 

In this episode Susanne & Lacey address legalism and how it's rooted in Christianity, our whole country, pop culture & movements across mainstream media. They address the importance of a society that honors healthy individualism vs legalistic black and white thinking. They address societal trauma, emotional suppression, and how extremism thinking is often a trauma response.We hope you'll join us on this episode! We dive deep in it.Intro & Outtro music provided by Bensound.

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In this episode Susanne & Lacey begin the overarching theme of Season 2: Spirituality. In this series they do deep dives into topics such as moral neutrality, legalism & religion, cultic abuse within the context of religion, and overall spiritual topics. This episode they do a brief dive of their individual upbringings & what they currently hold as their beliefs in higher power and faith. Intro & Outtro music provided by Bensound

In this episode susanne and Lacey talk about the wounds of mothers and how they are passed down to children. How they also contribute to mother wounds in their own parenting journey and are actively trying to break those cycles. And overall how conditional love of parents creates a large hole in the heart that leaves us longing to know a secure love. Join us as we dive into this!Intro & Outtro music by Bensound

In this episode Susanne and Lacey dive into their own friendship between the two of them, how it kicked off with boundary setting and discussing values, which was the first relationship either of them had ever started off that way. They dive into previous friendships, how insecurity & codependency  played a role, and how they began to move into secure & interdependent friendships. We hope you join us as we unravel both the gift and challenge that is adult friendship.Intro & Outtro music provided by Bensound 

In this episode Susanne & Lacey discuss confrontation, what it used to look like in their lives, how they would be inflammatory as a means to deflect their deeper needs when communicating, avoidance of confrontation in friendships, and how they choose to embrace healthy, respectful confrontation today and what that looks like in friendship, motherhood, and marriage. Join us for this deep unraveling

In this episode Susanne & Lacey dive into what courage looks like for them in their life, especially what it takes to use courage to lean into emotional vulnerability in relationships.Intro & Outro Music by Bensound

In this episode Susanne & Lacey dive into intentional decision making, unraveling shame around desires, how to lean into desires that stem from already being whole rather than to fill a void. They also touch on making decisions out of survival & default mode vs deliberate and conscious decision making.They dive into what it was like to keep up with the Joneses, letting go of consumerism mentality, releasing resentment through brutal honesty with self & others,  and decluttering their minds & homes to live a more peaceful life full of intentionality.Enjoy!Intro & Outro Music by Bensound 

In this episode Susanne & Lacey discuss body shame: how it came about in their lives, how shame encouraged control over appearance to gain acceptance & validation. They dive into both diet culture & anti diet culture and how both sides of the camp caused more shame & denied honoring the fullness of their humanity, so they are now leaning into the middle ground for their bodies: respect. Through movement, food, rest, and how they talk about/to their bodies. Come along for this longer podcast where they pick apart all of these concepts and how they've healed and neutralized body shame in their lives.Intro & Outro music by Bensound  

In this podcast Susanne & Lacey discuss disillusionment: realizing life is not always what it seems,  the shame that comes around drinking the societal “KoolAid” that tells you who & what to be, and the shame and grief that comes from the let down of realizing reality instead of a fantasy or smokescreen dream.From college, to marriage, to motherhood, to the American Dream & being sold a “bill of goods”… this episode address releasing an idealized version of life and identity that comes from immaturity and a failure of recognizing reality, and instead embracing what life is and building the highest version of oneself from the inside out, forged in character, & based off of a healed foundation that accepts life as it is instead of an illusion.Intro & outro music provided by BenSound

In this episode Susanne & Lacey dive into what kicked off their sex lives as young children, and explore how their sex lives unfolded & shame became entangled in it. And the process of unraveling that shame & leaning into heart centered, wild, liberated sex. They talk about habitual masturbation to numb out, orgasm releases and how sometimes they are emotional, leaning into to just saying “yes” when sex is initiated with a trusted partner/spouse, and touch briefly on shame in sex around their postpartum bodies. TW: SEX ASSAULT content Resources:The  Shameless Sex Podcast Intro/outro music provided by Bensound 

In today's episode Susanne & Lacey begin to discuss the general topic of shame, how it's looked like in their lives, and overall what it is. Stay tuned as this is episode one of a mini series on shame! Next episode: sex & shame.Intro music provided by Bensound

In this episode Susanne & Lacey pull the thread on social media: how they were originally introduced as tweens, the waves of being on & offline, the mistakes they've made online, validation seeking online, learning how to express themselves via social, and what lead them to ultimately stop personally branding online THIS week because of the revelation of dehumanization that it can potentially cause. Join them as they explore this theme in their life, how they are moving forward without personal social media, and how they are reclaiming it as a tool moving forward.Intro & Outro music provided by BenSound 

In this episode Susanne & Lacey discuss the tools that they have used as a means to gain the verbiage & lean into radical self love & acceptance. From Maslow's Heirachy of Needs to therapy to books to college degrees: these things all set Susanne & Lacey on their path of healing.Intro music provided by Bensound 

In this podcast episode Susanne & Lacey explore what Radical Self Love looks like. They explore radical self acceptance first through observation and neutrality, self respect, boundaries, toxic & harmful behavior, and what it looks like to be active participants in cultivating Radical Self Love through actions. This has been quite a process and journey for both of them and they are still actively pulling the threads on these concepts in their own lives daily.Please note on the small time stamp pertaining to accountability:Here's areas where we think it's appropriate to hold people accountable outside of interpersonal relationships:-When brands or companies  who should be for the people they create for are contributing to harmful behavior-When actual abuse is happening (emotional, psychological, physical, sexual, child neglect,?etc)— please report ASAPBooks we recommend: All Brene Brown books, specifically: Daring Greatly & The Gift of ImperfectionsUntamed by Glennon DoyleIt Didn't Start With You by Mark WolynnWhat Happened to You by Oprah Winfrey & Bruce D. PerryThe Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake KogaIntro Music by BensoundWe hope you enjoy this podcast. Don't forget to subscribe, review, and follow us on Instagram @thepullingthreadspodcast

In episode one Lacey and Susanne welcome you to The Pulling Threads Podcast community. They share the personal stories of trauma and self development that lead them to creating this show and set the foreground for episodes to come. Please find us on Instagram @thepullingthreadspodcast and give us a five star rating and leave a review. We hope you enjoy the show!Thank you to Bensound for providing our intro music.