The Self Belief School Podcast

In this episode I chat to Neela Prabhu from Homeopathic Harmony. We talk about how homeopathy (and Bach Flower Remedies) can be used to help improve assertiveness and confidence. I had wanted to do this podcast for a long time, because there are many ways we can improve our self belief, and homeopathy is one of them. Neela tells us about some of the clients she's helped and the amazing (and interesting) results they've had. She often hears her clients say that they feel 'like themselves again' after homeopathic treatment - their authenticity is being expressed. How cool is that? Neela's website is a treasure trove of information, and she's very active on Instagram - well worth a follow. We mentioned the homeopathic first aid kit that Neela offers, and you can have a look at that here. Links Transformative, 1:1 six month coaching Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Set Boundaries' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

This is not an episode about self care, because frankly, that topic can be a bit yawn can't it. This IS an episode about realising what's essential for you to thrive. And how you might be neglecting some really important activities, because you feel they aren't productive, sensible or important. There might be a lot of conditioning to undo there. I invite you to be aware of what it is that is nourishing, important and essential for you to thrive as a giving, patient, generous human. And then do it. If you can't imagine putting yourself first, and the guilt of 'filling your own cup' is still too much, then maybe I can help. I take my 1:1 clients on a journey of setting boundaries, working out what they need in their lives and stepping out of people pleasing behaviours. If you think you could do with some of that, have a look at my 1:1 programme 'Liberate' and contact me to find out if you'd be a good fit for it. Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Set Boundaries' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

There is some conflicting advice out there in the self development world. What are we meant to do when we are told: 'rest is paramount and is not lazy' and also 'rest is procrastination' or what about 'trust your intuition' and also 'if you feel afraid, push through your fear' and 'you can't expect someone else to meet your needs' and also 'it's so important to ask for your needs to be met in your relationships' In this episode I give you my take on these three paradoxes. I'd love to know what you think; have a listen and let me know in Self Belief House. Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Say No to Your Friends' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

Have you ever had the thought 'who am I to be doing xyz'? Or maybe you've been put off doing something, because in your mind you think those around you will be thinking 'who does she think she is'? You don't feel good enough to get out there and do what you want to do, or be who you want to be. You keep yourself small, because you think it's only other people that deserve the fun and success that you're hoping for. You don't feel worthy. In this episode I share a great way to deal with feeling unworthy. I'd love to know what you think; have a listen and let me know in Self Belief House. Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Say No to Your Friends' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

A short episode today, and I cover a lot in it

✨Come on over to Self Belief House, a free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners.✨ Been feeling bad about something you did or said? We have all been hurt, let down and disappointed by others, and sometimes, we hurt and disappoint others ourselves. It's hard and uncomfortable. But whatever the circumstances, you will be better off once you've let it go. In this episode I talk about some mindset shifts you can adopt to help you feel differently about what happened. Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Say No to Your Friends' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

✨Come on over to Self Belief House, a free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners.✨ Maybe you have a certain image of what a people pleaser looks like in your mind? Perhaps you think you're definitely not one. In this episode, I talk about some of the common people pleasing traits that might be part of your life, which you accept as normal. This is not to shame you by pointing out flaws or inadequacies; it's an alert to show you where you might be giving your power away. And you are way, way too important to be giving your power away

✨Come on over to Self Belief House, a free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners.✨ Do you know someone who sails through life, seemingly without a care in the world? They're un-phased by life, and confident in themselves. If yes, have you found yourself wishing you could be more like them, or wondering what you're doing wrong in your own life? You're not necessarily jealous of what tangible things they've got, but they just seem to be so 'sorted'; and it makes you feel that you're missing something. In this episode, I'll be giving my perspective on what you can do to make sure you don't feel that you're doing something wrong in life, and to stop you feeling like she's 'all sorted' and you're not. And it won't be the usual 'make a list of all the things you love about yourself' stuff that you've probably heard before. Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Say No to Your Friends' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

Do you need time to recharge after social interaction? Would you class yourself as an introvert? Or maybe you would classify yourself as a Highly Sensitive Person or an Empath? If any of those names ring a bell, then this episode is for you. It's a recording of one of my monthly masterclasses, and in it I share why you don't need to shapeshift into something you're not, just to fit in with someone else's standards. You can just be your gorgeous introvert self. But introverts have particular needs, and if these needs are not met, you can be left feeling burnt out and isolated. I want to reassure you that it's OK for you prioritise your introvert needs; in fact it's necessary for you to prioritise these needs, so you can shine ⭐️. If this episode has resonated with you, I'd love to hear from you. Send me a message via my website here. Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Say No to Your Friends' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

You've said something, and instantly you know they don't like it. They might not say so, but they are sending out major vibes that tell you that they're cross with you. You can't be sure, because you get the silent treatment to punish you. You're left to stew, wondering how bad it's going to be, and whether they're going to be OK with you. Sound familiar? In this episode I talk about this situation, and what you can do when confronted with this kind of behaviour from people in your life. If this episode has resonated with you, I'd love to hear from you. Send me a message via my website here or pop over to Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram especially for my podcast listeners. Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Say No to Your Friends' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

You may know that I am a MASSIVE fan of saying 'no'. Helping women to say 'no' more is a big part of my work. The benefits are huge - more self respect, more time, less dread, more energy, yada, yada, yada. But, what happens when 'no' is your default? What happens when you don't say 'yes' very often because it feels uncomfortable? I have been in that situation. In this episode I share with you a technique I use to know whether to forge through the uncomfortable-ness of saying yes to new opportunities and situations, or whether to say 'no, that's not for me. thank you.'. Does any of what I've talked about resonate with you? I'd love to hear from you if it has. Send me a message and let me know or pop over to Self Belief House, a free, private community on Telegram especially for my podcast listeners. Oh, and if you are someone that would love to say 'no' more often, I have just the thing for you: 'How to Feel Good About Saying No' Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Say No to Your Friends' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

Inspired by the masterclass I recently hosted - How to Overcome Imposter Syndrome - this episode is a little motivational pep talk for you. If you are feeling 'not good enough' or that perhaps everyone else seems to have achieved so much more than you, then this episode is for YOU. Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Say No to Your Friends' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

Have you been trying to set boundaries, and say 'no' more, but sometimes you don't manage it? This has happened to a few of my clients recently. It happens to me too. Becuase.... .....we are humans. Let's not get stuck in the 'I must always do xyz'. 'Always' is too rigid, and sometimes we have to accept that what's happened, has happened, and we must move on as our imperfect human selves. In this episode I talk about what's actually important when you are wanting to set boundaries, and how to treat yourself if you don't. Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Say No to Your Friends' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

Have you ever considered what it would be like to live without social media? Perhaps you've thought about it, but decided it's a necessary evil, and it's something you need to live with. Or maybe you think you should just get better at setting boundaries around using it. FYI, that's what happens when we're sold an addictive product - we blame ourselves for not being better at handling it. If you've ever wished you could spend less time on social media, then this episode is for you. In it, I tell you why I took the plunge and left Instagram, and how I felt afterwards. Enjoy. Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Say No to Your Friends' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

Do you cringe when certain people ask you to meet up? Do you frantically search for excuses so you can legitimately decline an invitation to somewhere you don't want to go? I know exactly how you feel. In this episode I will give you my take on how to decline an invitation, respectfully, truthfully, kindly and authentically. Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Say No to Your Friends' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

Have you ever found yourself feeling frustrated, disappointed, resentful or annoyed, because someone hasn't done something for you? Or maybe they did do something for you, but it was totally not what you wanted? And then you thought to yourself: 'they should've known what I needed, I can't believe how selfish/ignorant/lazy/unsupportive they are' They. Should've. Known. Mmmm. Should they? Let me introduce you to a phrase I share often in Self Belief School and with my 1:1 clients: People are not mind readers. This podcast episode is all about this. You have to state what you need them to do, clearly and calmly, and then they'll know exactly what you need. Maybe you've been dropping hints, or using sarcasm to get your point across, because you don't feel you need to be direct, or you don't want to come across as demanding or overbearing. If that's the case, no one truly knows what you need or want, and your needs don't even have a chance of being met. However much you don't feel you should have to ask for help in the house, or tell people what kind of gifts you like, remember, people are not mind readers. You have to tell them. We tend not to like ourselves very much when we shout at loved ones, or nag. So, if you want to stop that from happening, be clear, be direct, be unambiguous, say what you need. Because if you don't, how will anyone know? Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Say No to Your Friends' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

In this episode I share a story about a holistic medical appointment I had. I love holistic medicine, and whilst I recognise that it is viewed as a luxury for most people, there are elements of it which I think are essential for proper healthcare. Many of us struggle to express our beliefs about our health to the medical profession, because to an extent we have to accept their advice without question. However, you are allowed to say what your thoughts are about your own health situation. Unfortunately, lots of us have had the experience of being judged, told off or dismissed by authority figures (including the medical profession) which has left us feeling like we won't be heard if we share our thoughts ('you must think I'm mad'). If you are ready to start feeling more equal to people in authority, and to learn the skills to communicate confidently, then my six month membership - Self Belief School - is the place for you. It's open for new members right now, and we'd love to welcome you. Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Say No to Your Friends' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

Are you someone who always leaves the things you need to do, until the last minute? Do you struggle to knuckle down and get going when there is a task to do? If yes, this episode is for YOU. And no, I'm not going to regale you with my best 'productivity hacks', and this is not an episode about banishing procrastination. Far from it. It's about acknowledging what's happening in your life, and letting you know that you are doing nothing wrong. And who knows, maybe leaving things right up until your deadline isn't that bad anyway? If you need some help appreciating yourself, and want to have the courage to live your life according to yourself and no one else, then take a look at my 6 month membership, Self Belief School. You'd be so welcome. Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Say No to Your Friends' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

Put simply, People Pleasing is where you put others before yourself, to gain approval and avoid rejection. People pleasing tendencies were usually set up in childhood. Think of all the messages we were given growing up: ‘Don't be selfish' ‘Share nicely' ‘Be kind' ‘Where are your manners' All of these things have conditioned us to believe that putting ourselves first will risk us being rejected by those we love. We have been trained to be polite, and to keep our real opinions hidden. To stop people pleasing, we need to start prioritising our own bodies and minds. Putting everyone else first can exhaust you and lead to illness. No one else is going to prioritise your health; that's definitely your job. And if you've been neglecting yourself, and chronically putting others first, it's time to show yourself some love. You also need to start to reprogramme your thoughts. So, once you've identified the key beliefs that are causing your people pleasing (this might be easy, or you might need to dig a bit deeper), you can choose new, empowering beliefs. For example, if you are scared of saying no in case it makes someone angry, a new belief might be ‘it's safe for me to say no'. Assertive communication is key to recovering from people pleasing. Assertive communication is clear, direct and avoids blaming or being defensive. Above all, assertive communication is honest. If you are a people pleaser, it's time to drop the excuses and start being honest with your opinions and your needs. No one wants to be lied to, and being honest is so liberating because you get to be the real you. You never get caught out if you always speak your truth. Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Say No to Your Friends' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

This episode is a recording of an Instagram Live I did in response to my offer to help people respond assertively to their difficult situations. I have been contacted by someone with a difficult situation at work. One of her colleagues is constantly patronising and belittling her, and she doesn't know how to tackle this. In this video I give her my advice on how to address this situation and the assertive language to use. Although it might seem overly-generous, you do need to give this person the benefit of the doubt. You don't want to launch in there accusing them of patronising you. To do this, use the phrase ‘I'm sure you're not aware, but …… ‘ This will help them to feel less blamed. Tell them how their behaviour has been making you feel. If they make you feel guilty for bringing this up, or suggest that you're being over-sensitive, simply empathise with their perspective (‘yes I'm sure it might look like that to you') and repeat your words. Give them an example of how their words have affected you: ‘when you said xyz in that meeting, I felt very marginalised' You then need to tell them what you'd like to happen. What would that be? ‘I deserve to be treated with respect' If you sense you haven't been taken seriously, or if it happens again, you will need to introduce some consequences for their behaviour. What could you do to protect yourself if it happens again? Maybe call them out in front of others? Ask for a meeting with someone else present? You also have the option of calling them out whenever they patronise you in the future. You could do this in front of others if it happens in a meeting (if you feel that it's warranted) or speak with them privately after each incident. You could say: “I disagree with what you said in the meeting. I don't think that's a fair thing to say about me. It made me feel quite humiliated.' ‘I feel quite belittled when you say that, please apologise' Since recording this podcast, the person that submitted the question to me has responded: "Oh that was SUPER HELPFUL!! Thank you so so much. I will definitely go for option 1 and was planning this anyway but felt entirely anxious about it as I did not quite know what to say and how to say so you've really given me exactly what I needed. The encouragement and empathy from you is also so reassuring and important for me to hear." If you too have an unpleasant or awkward situation that you'd like my advice on, then go to the link here. You can submit your problem and I will get back to you. Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Say No to Your Friends' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

This episode is a recording of an Instagram Live I did in response to my offer to help people respond assertively to their difficult situations. Someone contacted me wanting help with addressing an unpleasant situation she had with some people in her social circle. She had heard that they had been saying unkind things (which weren't true) behind her back. In this video I give her my advice on how to address this situation, assertively, working for a win-win situation for everyone involved. Firstly, she needs to know the facts, and give these people an opportunity to tell her their side of the story. To begin this conversation, start with ‘I'm sure you're not aware of this, but ….. ‘ This is less blaming than going straight in and accusing them of saying something. This ensures that you are the ‘bigger person', and will help them to feel less attacked, which means they won't react defensively. It may well be that what they said has been misinterpreted, and she feels happy with their explanation of what was actually said. Or, they may repeat the unkind lies they said. In this situation, it is important to listen and accept anything they say about you, if it's true. If it's not true, then you can tell them it's not true and why. You also have the opportunity to demand an apology here if you like. If you sense that you have not been taken seriously, tell them what will happen if their behaviour doesn't change. Think of something you will do to protect yourself. ‘If this ever happens again, I will ……. ‘This needs to stop or I will ….' I would love to know what happens. If you too have an unpleasant or awkward situation that you'd like my advice on, fill in the form here. You can submit your problem and I will get back to you. Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Say No to Your Friends' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

Not having good self belief, is an obstacle for many of us. In this episode I give you a taster of what I cover in my group coaching programme - Self Belief School. I talk you through where you lack of self belief has come from, and how to embed new, empowering beliefs and thoughts. I also cover what mindset changes you need to make to be someone who believes in themselves. The Self Belief School Group programme starts on 3rd November 2020, and the 1:1 Self Belief School Personal Masterplan starts in January 2021. More information can be found here. Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Say No to Your Friends' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

In this episode, I am coaching Annie, who is struggling because she never seems to have enough time. She feels like she is rushing around, and would just love to be able to sit down at 8pm each evening and relax. This never seems to happen, and she is at a loss to know what she's doing wrong. Is she disorganised? Is something missing? Together we explore what's really going on, and uncover something that is causing her to feel unsettled and under pressure. And it's nothing to do with being organised. Links I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief. FREE course: 'How to Set Boundaries' Self Belief School on Telegram

Jo Fuller is a Menopause and Menstruation educator, and is changing the narrative around menopause and peri-menopause. She tells us what she has learnt on her journey, and some of the powerful things that can change our experience of menopause. By removing the stigma of menopause, and getting us talking about it in a positive way, is a large part of helping women at this transitional time. www.themerrymenopause.com Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Say No to Your Friends' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

Intuitive Life and Parent Coach, Yvonne Smyth, tells us about Conscious Parenting, and how learning this modality has transformed the relationship she has with her kids. Yvonne shares tips that we can put into practise to harmonise family life, and talks about the things she changed that had the biggest impact. Yvonne Smyth | This Parenting Adventure Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Say No to Your Friends' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

What is the perfect diet? Who should you listen to for nutritional advice? How well are you doing on the healthy eating scale? I cover all these questions and more in this podcast, a subject close to my heart. If you ever feel guilty about what you eat, or worry that you're diet is not healthy enough, then tune in to have your mind put at rest. Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Say No to Your Friends' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

Why do you feel tired? You've tried changing your diet, but it doesn't make much difference. Learn about the kinds of things that sap your energy, what you can do about it, and some tips to increase your energy without changing your diet. Links: Qi Gong for Thyroid and Adrenals Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Say No to Your Friends' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief

Self care is an essential part of keeping healthy. But how do you find the time, in your busy life? In this episode, I share some tips on how you can easily make time for yourself within a busy week. Links Self Belief House, the free, private community on Telegram for my podcast listeners FREE course: 'How to Say No to Your Friends' I run monthly drop-in masterclasses to help you build your Self Belief