Podcasts about people pleasers

What if the life you're living makes perfect sense on paper—but you never consciously chose it?We absorb ideas about what life is supposed to look like long before we're old enough to question them: get married, build a career, start a family, be responsible, keep moving forward. And sometimes those expectations become so internalized that we stop asking ourselves what we actually want.In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, Kim shares a deeply personal story from Free to Be about becoming pregnant at 30 after six years of marriage—not because she consciously decided motherhood was what she wanted at that moment, but because starting a family simply felt like the next thing she was supposed to do.This episode explores the difference between living from choice and living from momentum, how the Inner Controller keeps us following familiar life scripts, and why a role can become so intertwined with our identity that we stop realizing it is a role at all.You'll explore questions like:• Did I choose this—or did I simply do what came next?• What parts of my life have I consciously chosen and what have I inherited?• Who am I underneath the roles I've learned to play?• What might I admit to myself if no one could be disappointed?• Is the life I'm living still true for me?This isn't about regretting the life you've lived or blowing everything up.It's about becoming conscious enough to author the life you're living now.Because being free to be your true self sometimes begins with realizing you've been following a script for so long that you forgot you were allowed to write your own.

Du sagst immer Ja, auch wenn du eigentlich Nein meinst? Du spürst Konflikte schon, bevor sie passieren, und tust alles, um sie zu vermeiden? In dieser Folge schauen wir uns an, warum du zum People Pleaser wurdest und warum das nie ein Charakterfehler war, sondern eine kluge Schutzstrategie. People Pleasing war nie das Problem. Es war das Versteck. Wir sprechen darüber, was sich wirklich dahinter verbirgt, warum reines "Nein sagen üben" oft nicht reicht, und wie du konkret aus diesem Muster aussteigst. Die Ausbildung startet am 10.10.26. Hier anmelden: https://sarahdesai.de/mindfulmasters-academy Mein neues Buch "Heute hör ich auf zu zweifeln": https://amzn.to/4veLpms Melde dich kostenfrei zum Newsletter an: https://sarahdesai.de/mindful-minute Meine Ausbildung und Kurse findest du hier: https://sarahdesai.de

Fluently Fixed is back with more morally dubious advice that will never involve me telling you to meditate or go for a walk! This week, we're fixing an ADHD morning routine, figuring out what couples can actually do together at home besides watching TV, dealing with the “anything works for me!” people pleasers who make you plan everything, and hacking corporate America when you work your ass off but keep getting passed over for promotions. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Riddle me this: why are people pleasers framed as the problem? Surely, we should be turning our focus back onto the boundary-pushers! This week on Friday Drinks, we’re coming in hot. Join Victoria, Jess and Bec to discuss the community’s best Money Wins, Broke Tips, and a Question of the Week that starts off bookish, but quickly gets… wild? You’ll have to hear it to believe it. The gang also covers this week’s community dilemmas concerning Capital Gains Tax (CGT) on your primary residence, and a rather juicy DM from a bride-to-be who wants to know who actually has a say in her wedding plans. Fiscal and familial drama ensues. WEDDING BUDGET: Here’s a link to V’s wedding spreadsheet to help you budget for yours, shesonthemoney.com/download-resources CHAT TO AN EXPERT: The key to making better financial decisions? Surround yourself with experts, like our team of mortgage brokers at Zella. Book at consultation at www.zella.com.au/book-consultation/ MYGOV’S CAPITAL GAINS TAX CALCULATOR: A handy tool that could be useful in your investmentswww.ato.gov.au/calculators-and-tools/capital-gains-tax-record-keeping-tool#ato-Gotothetool New here? Follow us on Instagram (@shesonthemoneyaus) for Q&As, bite-sized advice, daily money inspo... and relatable money memes that just get you. Acknowledgement of Country By Nartarsha Bamblett aka Queen Acknowledgements (queenacknowledgements.com) The advice shared on She's On The Money is general in nature and does not consider your individual circumstances. She's On The Money exists purely for educational purposes and should not be relied upon to make an investment or financial decision. If you do choose to buy a financial product, read the PDS, TMD and obtain appropriate financial advice tailored towards your needs. Victoria Devine and She's On The Money are authorised representatives of Money Sherpa PTY LTD ABN - 321649 27708, AFSL - 4451289See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever noticed that even when everything is okay, some part of you is still waiting for something to go wrong?You might worry about your health, your children, your relationship, your work—or simply have that uneasy feeling that you shouldn't get too comfortable because the other shoe could drop at any moment.That part of you isn't trying to ruin the good moments. It may be a younger part of you that learned long ago that staying alert was one way to stay safe.In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, we move from understanding hypervigilance into actually practicing something different: inner safety.I'll show you how to begin shifting the responsibility for keeping you safe away from your younger self and into the hands of your Adult Self—the grounded part of you that can say:I'm here now. You don't have to keep watch anymore. I'll take it from here.We'll explore:• Why calm can sometimes feel uncomfortable or even unsafe• How your younger self may still be scanning for danger• What your Adult Self actually is—and how you strengthen it• Why inner safety is not the promise that nothing bad will happen• How to stop abandoning yourself when life becomes uncertain• A guided meditation to help your Adult Self nurture your younger selfBecause real safety doesn't come from controlling the future.It comes from knowing that whatever happens, you will remain present with yourself through it.If you've spent much of your life watching, worrying, preparing, controlling, or waiting for the other shoe to drop, this episode is an invitation to finally let that younger part of you come off duty.

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Have you ever noticed that the moment life feels calm, your mind starts looking for what could go wrong?Your kids are okay. Your health is okay. Nothing needs fixing. And yet instead of relaxing, you find yourself waiting for the other shoe to drop.In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, I explore why some of us struggle to trust peace—and why hypervigilance can become one of the Inner Controller's favorite ways of trying to keep us safe.I share a frightening childhood experience that taught a younger part of me that danger could come without warning, and how those early conclusions can follow us long after the original experience is over.We'll explore:why the human brain naturally looks for potential threatshow our experiences teach us what to become vigilant aboutwhy worrying, fixing, controlling, and overthinking can feel like safetyhow hypervigilance can keep us from experiencing joythe difference between external certainty and inner safetythree ways to begin creating greater safety within yourselfThe goal isn't to convince yourself that nothing painful will ever happen.It's something much deeper:Inner safety is not knowing that nothing bad will happen. It's knowing that whatever happens, you will not abandon yourself.

Find out where you are being held back. The quiz takes three minutes: amenkaur.com/quizYou have been trying harder than you have ever tried, and it is not working. This episode looks at what actually happens to your sense of worth when you lose the thing you had been proving it with, why affirmations can make it worse, and two things that genuinely help.Underneath most people-pleasing there is one thing going on. We are trying to prove we are worth something.But proving your worth and feeling your worth are two different things, and one does not lead to the other.In this episode I look at what actually happens when the thing you had been proving yourself through is taken away. Why effort stops working at exactly the point you need it most. Why the advice you have been given, including affirmations, can make it worse rather than better. And two things you can do this week that actually restore something.I also share what happened in my own working life, a client of mine who went from being made to feel less than to thriving in a different environment, and a wasp at my daughter's window.In this episode:Why losing a role can feel like losing yourselfWhat the pursuit of self-esteem actually costs youRigid persistence, and why trying harder is not the same as trying wellWhat stress does to the part of your brain that makes decisionsWhy affirmations backfire for the people who need them mostThe open tab, and why unfinished things drain youTwo things that give you your capacity backThe research referenced:Jennifer Crocker and Connie Wolfe, Contingencies of Self-Worth, Psychological Review, 2001Jennifer Crocker and Lora Park, The Costly Pursuit of Self-Esteem, Psychological Bulletin, 2004Robert Vallerand and colleagues, on harmonious and obsessive passion, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 2003Amy Arnsten, Stress signalling pathways that impair prefrontal cortex structure and function, Nature Reviews Neuroscience, 2009Joanne Wood, Elaine Perunovic and John Lee, Positive self-statements: power for some, peril for others, Psychological Science, 2009Kitty Klein and Adriel Boals, Expressive writing can increase working memory capacity, Journal of Experimental Psychology: General, 2001Gabriel Radvansky and David Copeland, Walking through doorways causes forgetting, Memory and Cognition, 2006Marily Oppezzo and Daniel Schwartz, Give your ideas some legs, Journal of Experimental Psychology, 2014Find out where you are being held back. The quiz takes three minutes: amenkaur.com/quizIf this episode landed, rating the show is the single most useful thing you can do to help someone else find it.

What if the love you crave most from other people is actually the love you've been withholding from yourself? In this episode, J-Go takes a fresh look at the five love languages and turns them inward, exploring what each one can teach us about the ways we practice (or sabotage) self-love. From negative self-talk and people-pleasing to putting everyone else's needs ahead of your own, avoiding alone time, isolating yourself, and struggling to celebrate your own milestones, she breaks down the patterns that can keep us from giving ourselves the very things we need most. Then, she goes one layer deeper: if we know what we need, why do we keep doing the opposite? Enter the inner mean girl. J-Go explores the different disguises self-sabotage can wear, including the ghoster, people pleaser, perfectionist, and hustler, and explains why that voice isn't actually trying to ruin your life. She's trying to keep you safe. The goal isn't to silence her forever, but to recognize when she's talking, question the stories she's telling you, and move her out of the driver's seat so you can choose where you're going next. This episode is an invitation to trade self-judgment for self-discovery and start showing yourself the love you're always looking for elsewhere. Questions for Self-Reflection Where are you withholding from yourself the love that you crave from other people? Where have you confused self-sacrifice with removing yourself from the list completely? Which version of your inner mean girl has been really loud lately? Once you get clear on that, ask yourself: What is she actually afraid of? Let those innermost fears come out. Then ask yourself: What is she trying to protect you from? Finally, where are you continually disappointing yourself because disappointing yourself feels safer than risking something uncomfortable?   In this episode: Turning the five love languages inward How your love language can reveal self-sabotage patterns Negative self-talk and learning to receive compliments Creating a "wins wall" and "fuzzy folder" Acts of service as a form of self-love Learning to ask for help and lean on your village Giving yourself intentional, distraction-free quality time Reconnecting with your body and your people Why receiving gifts can be about feeling seen and celebrated The difference between self-sacrifice and removing yourself from the list Understanding the inner mean girl The Ghoster, People Pleaser, Perfectionist, and Hustler Why self-sabotage often sounds reasonable Fear, comfort zones, and the self-sabotage loop Moving your inner mean girl from the driver's seat to the backseat Choosing self-discovery over self-judgment Learning to recognize fear without letting it make the decisions How self-awareness can help interrupt old patterns A deeper look at the work in Confidently Uncomfortable   KEEP HANGING WITH ME

Zorga Qaunaq is a visual artist, a traditional Inuit tattoo artist, and an Inuktitut language educator — but she didn't become an actor until just a few years ago. It took five rounds of auditions for her to land the part of Millie Maktana on the CBC sitcom North of North. Now, she's attending the Toronto International Film Festival with two films making their world premieres: In the Heart of the South and In Alaska. From her very first acting role to two films at TIFF, Zorga sits down with Q's Tom Power to talk about navigating imposter syndrome, tackling the heavy pressure to be a "digestible" representation of her culture, and how she realized her people-pleasing tendencies were going to ruin her burgeoning career.

https://media.blubrry.com/thesuccessfulmindpodcast/media.blubrry.com/thesuccessfulmindpodcast/ins.blubrry.com/thesuccessfulmindpodcast/TSM744_SBS_Series_Ep3_PeoplePleaser.mp3   The people pleaser blind spot might be the reason you keep leaving money on the table without noticing it happen. I’ve coached this pattern in thousands of salespeople, and it rarely looks like weakness. It looks like someone who has quietly decided that being liked matters more than being paid what the work is worth. People Pleaser Blind Spot: Where This Pattern StartsThis isn’t a character flaw. It’s biology. Cooperation kept you alive, and as a child you learned fast that getting your needs met meant pleasing the people who controlled your world. You figured out which parent to ask when, which teacher to please, which kids to impress so you wouldn’t be rejected. That wiring never left. The core belief underneath it is simple and brutal: if they don’t like me, I’ve done something wrong. So you learn to betray yourself quietly, over and over, and call it being easy to work with. Three Places This Shows Up In A Sales ConversationThe first is price. You know the number in your mind, but a lower one comes out of your mouth, or you offer payment plans nobody asked for, or you delay the proposal for weeks because sending it feels like asking to be rejected. The second is scarcity. Someone tells you money is tight and you find yourself agreeing, mirroring their limiting belief instead of bringing them the clarity they came for. The third is rapport. You spend the first fifteen minutes building friendship instead of authority, and the moment someone’s mind files you as a friend rather than a professional, you lose your ability to help them decide. People Pleaser Blind Spot: What It Cost One Salesperson Two Months To FixSteph told me about her youngest daughter, a salesperson at a custom clothing company, who kept offering prospects the cheapest option, assuming they couldn’t afford more. That assumption was the people pleaser talking, not the customer. A mentor pushed her to practice pitching the premium line and actually believe in its value. Within two months she won a companywide sales contest and earned a suit worth thousands of dollars. Nothing about her prospects changed. What changed was that she stopped deciding, on their behalf, what they could handle. The Real Cost, And Where To StartThe financial cost is obvious once you see it: underpriced deals add up to real money left behind. The quieter cost is resentment, because every time you say yes when you mean no, you’re betraying yourself and blaming them for it later. The shift starts small. Next time someone asks you for something, resist answering immediately. Say you’ll get back to them, then check in with yourself about what you actually want to do. This pattern isn’t something to be ashamed of. It’s something to reprogram, and that’s exactly what Steph and I dig into on this episode, the third in our Sales Blind Spot series. Don’t forget to grab our Blind Spot Detector. Episode 743 – The Reluctant Seller: Why Selling Feels Wrong Episode 742 – The Sales Conversation You’re Losing Before It Starts Episode 567 – Is People Pleasing Ruining Your Business? HERE'S THE TRUTH: YOUR BUSINESS ISN'T BROKEN. YOUR MINDSET IS.You've built something real. You've got clients, revenue, maybe even a team. But every morning, you wake up feeling like you're pushing a boulder uphill — working harder for smaller wins, watching others leap ahead while you grind in place.This September, I'm opening the doors to The Elite Mind, a proven daily practice that rewires the mental patterns keeping you stuck in the feast-or-famine cycle, and transforms your relationship with success from the inside out.We'll strip away the self-sabotage, the fear of your own potential, and the unconscious limits you've accepted as “just how business is.” You'll discover why strategy alone never works (and what actually does), and walk away with the mental framework that separates those who sustain success from those who chase it forever.Ready to stop working harder and start thinking differently?Click here to learn more. If you like the show, would you be so kind as to leave us a short review on Apple Podcasts? It takes less than a minute and really makes a difference in helping me spread the Successful Mind message around the globe.  LEAVE A REVIEW Check out David's book! Get Your Copy Today! Miss anything? Don't forget to subscribe to the show to keep up with your own successful mindset. We're available wherever you listen to podcasts:   Apple Podcasts Spotify Pandora iHeartRadio Amazon Music Life is Now wants you to get SOCIAL! You can find us on the following platforms:  Facebook X-twitter Instagram Linkedin Youtube The post The People Pleaser Blind Spot: Why You Undersell Yourself appeared first on The Successful Mind Podcast.

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In this video, I'm sharing raw, unedited footage of myself alongside the story behind it: growing up as the "fat kid," dealing with a speech impediment, and carrying the weight of family dysfunction and how other people saw me. The moment I sat down and watched footage of myself for the first time: the number on the scale, the shame I've carried, why I was scared to post this, the people-pleasing that came from hiding my weight, and why I'm sharing it- because it's my story. It's not for everyone, but it's about being honest about where I've been so I can move forward. As I like to say, "Keeping social media real.." this isn't a highlight reel. It's NOT a super personal diary of everything, but enough to let folks know they're not alone in their journey. Sometimes, it takes an uncomfortable long look at yourself, body image, and see what it actually takes to start the healing instead of just hiding. Confessions of 3 People Pleasers: https://youtu.be/CnwcJngVHpQ?si=Bv-BUaqBrtMmkLwM If this resonates with you, subscribe for more honest conversations on self-image, healing, and personal growth - and let me know in the comments: what's one thing you've never said out loud about how you see yourself?  Watch the full YouTube video: https://youtu.be/YGE7mC8e8bQ #selfimage #bodyimage #healingjourney

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Send us Fan MailFor this week's album deep dive, Brazilian-born, Brooklyn-based musician, songwriter and video game designer Rafael Melo (who records and performs as Late Again) chose Arthur Verocai's 1972 self-titled album. Rafael talks about how he first came across Verocai's music and why he connected with this album instantly. He also delves into why he takes inspiration from Verocai's music and career and how he came to collaborate with the Brazilian maestro on the song “People Pleasers.” Rafael discusses his soon-to-be-released EP I Dreamt I Was Awake (out September 4) and the upcoming debut Late Again album.There are lots of places online where you can check out Late Again and follow Rafael…Website: www.imlateagain.comBandcamp: imlateagain.bandcamp.com/Instagram: @lateagainstaYouTube: @reallylateagainSpotify: Late AgainTikTok: @reallylateagainSoundcloud: @reallylateagainBe sure to sign up for the YMAAA Newsletter at youmealbum.ghost.io. To keep up with You, Me and An Album, please give the show a follow on Instagram at @youmealbum.Excerpts from episodes are now available on YouTube at @YouMeAndAnAlbum. Please consider subscribing and liking!Al has put a pause on publishing new Bonus Tracks episodes, but you can listen to the past ones at the You, Me and An Album Patreon for $1/month. Just go to www.patreon.com/youmealbum.1:15 Rafael's introduction2:56 Al explains why his reaction to the album left him feeling a little stupid4:20 Rafael talks about how he first got exposed to Arthur Verocai8:51 Rafael hears Verocai's voice through his arrangements10:41 Rafael considers why Verocai's music wasn't discovered by many until decades after being released14:13 Al and Rafael note the album's eclecticism17:56 Discovering Verocai was part of a larger exploration of Brazilian music for Rafael21:33 Rafael explains how his collaboration with Verocai happened27:04 Al found a surprise in the album's credits29:49 Rafael and Al appreciate Verocai's vocals31:26 Rafael picks his favorite tracks from the album35:42 Al and Rafael discuss how “Na Boca do Sol” was sampled by several artists37:42 Rafael and Al sort out their mixed feelings about sampling39:49 Rafael finds inspiration in Verocai's story42:41 Rafael talks about the various musical elements in I Dreamt I Was Awake46:28 Rafael discusses some songwriting challenges he gave himself47:55 Rafael explains why he has not released a full album yet51:25 Rafael provides an update on the upcoming Late Again album52:49 Rafael talks about the many facets of his professional life55:40 Rafael discusses his upcoming tourOutro music is from “Crazy or Stupid” by Late Again.Support the show

As a big sister, Girl Scout, personal assistant, sitcom sidekick, and, finally, mother of three, Amy believed it was her destiny to be a people pleaser. She learned to put others first and to look like she had everything under control, even when she very much did not.Along the way, she started to wonder why doing it all had been her job. When she tried to hand over some of her to-dos, no one was interested in taking them. And when she asked for help in return, she got advice: have a sense of humor, quit nagging, and stop trying to be perfect.Happy to Help: Adventures of a People Pleaser explores how you can be the one everyone else depends on and still be struggling—how you can be “happy to help,” even when, for your own sake, you shouldn't. Guest: Amy Wilson is the author of the memoir When Did I Get Like This? and the co-host of the award-winning podcast What the Fresh Hell. She is also an actor who has appeared on Broadway, in sitcoms and in films. Happy to Help is her award-winning second book. Host: Dr. Christina Gessler is an academic writing coach and editor. She is the producer and show host of the Academic Life podcast. Playlist for listeners: What's On Her Mind Recipes for very busy lives... Attention: How To Gain Productivity Breaking free from overworking and underliving The Burnout Workbook What Do You Want Out Of Life? My What-if Year Tell Me What You Want Managing Your Mental Health During Your Ph.D. The Good- Enough Life PhDing While Parenting Mindfulness Welcome to Academic Life, the podcast for your academic journey—and beyond! You help support the show by downloading and sharing episodes. Join us again to learn from more experts inside and outside the academy, and around the world. Missed any of the 300+ Academic Life episodes? Find them here. And thank you for listening! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

As a big sister, Girl Scout, personal assistant, sitcom sidekick, and, finally, mother of three, Amy believed it was her destiny to be a people pleaser. She learned to put others first and to look like she had everything under control, even when she very much did not.Along the way, she started to wonder why doing it all had been her job. When she tried to hand over some of her to-dos, no one was interested in taking them. And when she asked for help in return, she got advice: have a sense of humor, quit nagging, and stop trying to be perfect.Happy to Help: Adventures of a People Pleaser explores how you can be the one everyone else depends on and still be struggling—how you can be “happy to help,” even when, for your own sake, you shouldn't. Guest: Amy Wilson is the author of the memoir When Did I Get Like This? and the co-host of the award-winning podcast What the Fresh Hell. She is also an actor who has appeared on Broadway, in sitcoms and in films. Happy to Help is her award-winning second book. Host: Dr. Christina Gessler is an academic writing coach and editor. She is the producer and show host of the Academic Life podcast. Playlist for listeners: What's On Her Mind Recipes for very busy lives... Attention: How To Gain Productivity Breaking free from overworking and underliving The Burnout Workbook What Do You Want Out Of Life? My What-if Year Tell Me What You Want Managing Your Mental Health During Your Ph.D. The Good- Enough Life PhDing While Parenting Mindfulness Welcome to Academic Life, the podcast for your academic journey—and beyond! You help support the show by downloading and sharing episodes. Join us again to learn from more experts inside and outside the academy, and around the world. Missed any of the 300+ Academic Life episodes? Find them here. And thank you for listening! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/biography

As a big sister, Girl Scout, personal assistant, sitcom sidekick, and, finally, mother of three, Amy believed it was her destiny to be a people pleaser. She learned to put others first and to look like she had everything under control, even when she very much did not.Along the way, she started to wonder why doing it all had been her job. When she tried to hand over some of her to-dos, no one was interested in taking them. And when she asked for help in return, she got advice: have a sense of humor, quit nagging, and stop trying to be perfect.Happy to Help: Adventures of a People Pleaser explores how you can be the one everyone else depends on and still be struggling—how you can be “happy to help,” even when, for your own sake, you shouldn't. Guest: Amy Wilson is the author of the memoir When Did I Get Like This? and the co-host of the award-winning podcast What the Fresh Hell. She is also an actor who has appeared on Broadway, in sitcoms and in films. Happy to Help is her award-winning second book. Host: Dr. Christina Gessler is an academic writing coach and editor. She is the producer and show host of the Academic Life podcast. Playlist for listeners: What's On Her Mind Recipes for very busy lives... Attention: How To Gain Productivity Breaking free from overworking and underliving The Burnout Workbook What Do You Want Out Of Life? My What-if Year Tell Me What You Want Managing Your Mental Health During Your Ph.D. The Good- Enough Life PhDing While Parenting Mindfulness Welcome to Academic Life, the podcast for your academic journey—and beyond! You help support the show by downloading and sharing episodes. Join us again to learn from more experts inside and outside the academy, and around the world. Missed any of the 300+ Academic Life episodes? Find them here. And thank you for listening! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/academic-life

As a big sister, Girl Scout, personal assistant, sitcom sidekick, and, finally, mother of three, Amy believed it was her destiny to be a people pleaser. She learned to put others first and to look like she had everything under control, even when she very much did not.Along the way, she started to wonder why doing it all had been her job. When she tried to hand over some of her to-dos, no one was interested in taking them. And when she asked for help in return, she got advice: have a sense of humor, quit nagging, and stop trying to be perfect.Happy to Help: Adventures of a People Pleaser explores how you can be the one everyone else depends on and still be struggling—how you can be “happy to help,” even when, for your own sake, you shouldn't. Guest: Amy Wilson is the author of the memoir When Did I Get Like This? and the co-host of the award-winning podcast What the Fresh Hell. She is also an actor who has appeared on Broadway, in sitcoms and in films. Happy to Help is her award-winning second book. Host: Dr. Christina Gessler is an academic writing coach and editor. She is the producer and show host of the Academic Life podcast. Playlist for listeners: What's On Her Mind Recipes for very busy lives... Attention: How To Gain Productivity Breaking free from overworking and underliving The Burnout Workbook What Do You Want Out Of Life? My What-if Year Tell Me What You Want Managing Your Mental Health During Your Ph.D. The Good- Enough Life PhDing While Parenting Mindfulness Welcome to Academic Life, the podcast for your academic journey—and beyond! You help support the show by downloading and sharing episodes. Join us again to learn from more experts inside and outside the academy, and around the world. Missed any of the 300+ Academic Life episodes? Find them here. And thank you for listening!Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/popular-culture Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

BURNHAM'S BONKERS BRITAIN! WHO'S GOING TO PAY FOR HIS PROMISES? #JonGaunt #AndyBurnham #BurnhamsBonkersBritain #UKPolitics #SmallBoats UKBorders #PrisonCrisis #VeilBan #BurqaBan #Portugal Andy Burnham has barely got his feet under the table and already the promises are coming thick and fast. More spending. More schemes. More interventions. More announcements. MORE TIKTOK VIDEOS! But there is one very simple question that somebody has to ask: HOW THE HELL IS HE GOING TO PAY FOR IT ALL? Burnham is supposed to be running a COUNTRY — but increasingly he seems to be behaving like he's still a Mayor with a magic money tree. He's gone from MAYOR to MaRE — a NIGHTMARE! And while Burnham tries to please everybody, is he completely missing the priorities of millions of ordinary British people? Today Portugal has taken decisive action and enacted a ban on concealing faces in public, including full-face veils. Denmark has had a face-covering ban for years. Whatever you think of those policies, they raise a bigger question: could you imagine Burnham taking such a tough and potentially unpopular decision? Or is he fundamentally a PEOPLE PLEASER rather than a LEADER? Meanwhile Britain has a prison overcrowding crisis and a deeply controversial early-release policy. Our borders still aren't secure. We continue paying France millions while small boats continue crossing the Channel. And we're having a national argument about whether foreign nationals should have access to British welfare regardless of how much — or how little — they have contributed. IT'S BONKERS BRITAIN! Tonight I want to hear from YOU. What should Burnham's REAL priorities be? Where is the money coming from for his promises? Should benefits be based much more heavily on contribution? Should Britain follow Portugal and Denmark on face coverings? And is Burnham showing real leadership — or simply telling everybody what he thinks they want to hear? Jon Gaunt, Jon Gaunt TV, JonGauntTV, Andy Burnham, Burnham's Bonkers Britain, Burnham, UK politics, British politics, immigration, illegal immigration, small boats, Stop the Boats, UK borders, border crisis, France small boats, Universal Credit, welfare reform, benefits Britain, prison crisis, early release prisoners, law and order, Portugal face covering ban, veil ban, burqa ban, Denmark face covering ban, free speech, Reform UK, Nigel Farage, Broken Britain, UK news, political debate, Jon Gaunt live #JonGaunt #JonGauntTV #AndyBurnham #BurnhamsBonkersBritain #Burnham #UKPolitics #BritishPolitics #Immigration #IllegalImmigration #SmallBoats #StopTheBoats #UKBorders #BorderCrisis #UniversalCredit #WelfareReform #PrisonCrisis #LawAndOrder #FaceCoveringBan #VeilBan #BurqaBan #Portugal #Denmark #ReformUK #NigelFarage #BrokenBritain #UKNews #politicaldebate This is political blogging and hard-hitting social commentary from Triple Sony Gold Award-winning talk radio legend, Jon Gaunt — former host on BBC, Talk Radio, and Sky News. On Jon Gaunt TV, we cut through the noise and say what others won't. No political correctness. No censorship. Just real conversations that matter.

Andy Burnham tells the Times that the job of being prime minister is to be popular, rather than making a "fetish" of toughness. But does that mean avoiding difficult decisions?Hugo unpacks the politics of the day with Robert Crampton and Alice Thomson. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens when caring about someone becomes fixing them, worrying about them, rescuing them—or feeling responsible for how their life turns out?In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, I explore enmeshment and the subtle ways we can lose ourselves by becoming overly focused on the people we love.I share how this pattern has shown up in my own relationships with my children through fixing, worrying, rescuing, and trying to prevent difficult outcomes.We'll talk about:What enmeshment actually looks likeWhy fixing, worrying, and rescuing can feel like loveHow the Inner Controller fuels over-involvementThe difference between support and rescueWhy being needed can become part of our identityHow to separate what belongs to us from what belongs to someone elseHow to remain connected without abandoning yourselfHealing enmeshment does not mean becoming detached or loving someone less.It means learning:I can care about you without carrying you.I can support you without controlling you.I can remain connected to you without disconnecting from myself.Because becoming free to be your true self also means allowing the people you love to be free to live their own lives.

Do you want to know how to break free from people-pleasing, procrastination and perfectionism? To do that there's one thing you need to understand about these 3 patterns... one thing all of them have in common.By getting this one thing these patterns will stop defining you and you will be able to see a real shift in your life.It is common to develop survival patterns when growing up with a narcissistic mother, actually it is nearly impossible not to. Learning that these patterns do not define you but can be shifted is a truly essential piece for your healing journey and recovering from maternal narcissistic abuse. Take the FREE assessment NOW to know which is your main coping pattern

✅ Join the Brojo community on Skool to build your confidence and relationships https://www.skool.com/brojo-the-integrity-army-6491/about ✅ This video is a taste of the work I do with clients. For a full, step‑by‑step system on this exact topic, get the deep‑dive course here: https://www.udemy.com/course/shamelessness-social-confidence/?referralCode=A4167161F0AC9F801883 ✅ From “Nice Guy” to Confident Man in 90 Days - check out my main program here: https://theinspirationallifestyle.com/from-nice-guy-to-authentic-and-confident-in-90-days/ ✅ More about Dan Munro… - Coached over 200 clients since 2013. - Prior to that spent 7 years rehabilitating high‑risk criminals in the Department of Corrections. - Published 4 non‑fiction books on confidence, valued living, and overcoming Nice Guy Syndrome. - I spent my first 25 years as a sufferer of Nice Guy Syndrome who struggled with confidence, dating, and meaning in life. I transformed myself with hard work, courageous actions, and a never-ending education in psychology, integrity and confidence. - I went from miserably single to creating a strong marriage and becoming a father. These videos are free, and they're also my marketing: if they help you and you want more, use the links above.

This lively and enlightening conversation features Cassandra Pickett, a certified CliniCoach, licensed therapist, and host of the "Girl, You Good?" podcast. Cassandra joins us to discuss the complexities of identity that hinder ambitious women.Cassandra shares her own transformative journey and the challenges of living authentically in a world that often demands people-pleasing and perfection. Together, we explore why so many high-achieving women struggle with self-alignment, how to redefine self-compassion, and why reclaiming an identity like “bitch” can be a revolutionary act of empowerment. Are you ready for candid truths, actionable insights, and a celebration of coming home to yourself?

This week I discuss sickle cell disease, Love Island UK finale controversy, corporate life and much more. #LOUDITPodcast is hosted by Nnedinso. Tune in every Monday for some funny stories and girl talk to cheer up your Monday blues. From life experiences to wild stories and current media, no topic is off limits. Let's LOUD IT and talk some rubbish! TikTok: @Louditpodcast and YouTube: Loud It Podcast

ScriptureSo now, my beloved, obey as you have always done, not only when I am with you, but even more so when I can't be. Continue to work out your salvation, with great fear and trembling, 13 because God is energizing you so that you will desire and do what always pleases Him. Philippians 2:12-13 (Voice)The GistThis week we discuss what happens when we assume what pleases God without actually reading Scripture or engaging in deeper thought. You will be surprised at what we discover:We forget God doesn't model unconditional access. We confuse not seeking revenge with not protecting ourselves. (Luke 4:29-30, John 8:59)We confuse peacekeeping with peacemaking. (Matthew 5:9)We forget the commandment to love doesn't cancel the command to discern. (Matthew 10:16)We forget forgiveness and reconciliation aren't the same thing. (Romans 12:18)We forget boundaries can be an act of love, not a failure of it. (Proverbs 22:24-25)Digging DeeperWhere are you trying harder instead of trusting? What boundary are you avoiding in the name of love?What does pleasing God actually look like for you this week?

How many times have you said, “Whatever you want is fine,” when it was not actually fine?Losing yourself in a relationship rarely happens through one dramatic act of self-betrayal. It happens through small moments when you silence an opinion, minimize a feeling, ignore a need, or become responsible for someone else's happiness.You may believe you are being flexible, loving, or easygoing. But over time, these seemingly harmless choices can leave you feeling invisible, resentful, and unsure of who you are outside the relationship.In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, Kim explores:The subtle signs of self-abandonmentWhy people pleasers become highly attuned to other people's reactionsThe difference between compromise and disappearingHow childhood relationship patterns follow us into adulthoodWhy the Inner Controller believes it must manage connectionHow to begin hearing your own truth againOne small practice for staying connected to yourselfYou do not need to stop caring about other people. You are learning that loving someone does not require leaving yourself behind.

Have you been saying yes to everyone else while quietly saying no to yourself? In this episode, I break down the psychology behind people pleasing, explain why it's actually a survival response your nervous system learned in childhood, and reveal how the little-known "fawn" response keeps you trapped. I'll walk you through a simple three-step process to stop abandoning yourself, set healthier boundaries, and become kind by choice instead of by fear. Ready to break the patterns holding you back?    Join the free live workshop: https://breaktheceiling2026.com   The Mindset Mentor™ podcast is designed for anyone desiring motivation, direction, and focus in life.     Past guests of The Mindset Mentor include Tony Robbins, Matthew McConaughey, Jay Shetty, Andrew Huberman, Lewis Howes, Gregg Braden, Rich Roll, and Dr. Steven Gundry.   Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See https://pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Nach 15 Jahren in der Tech Branche verließ Sarah-Lisa Besemer eine Welt aus Leistung, Druck und ständigem Funktionieren. Was im Außen erfolgreich aussah, fühlte sich innen irgendwann leer an.In dieser Folge spricht sie über frühe Verantwortung, People Pleasing, toxische Beziehungen, Mutterschaft, Grenzen und ihren Weg zur Hypnose. Es geht um unbewusste Muster, alte Prägungen, emotionale Klarheit und die Frage, warum Gefühle oft genau dort hinzeigen, wo Veränderung beginnen darf.Ein Gespräch über den Mut, Masken fallen zu lassen und wieder zu spüren, wer man wirklich ist.

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Send us Fan MailC4 Leaders – the ONLY nonprofit to utilize the pizza making process to create space for our companions to be seen, heard, and loved.   We work with businesses, sports teams, hospitals, churches…anyone looking to RISE TOGETHER.  We also write children's books and use the most amazing handmade, hand-tossed, sourdough pizza to bring out the best in each other.   Please check out c4leaders.org to support our important work. Season 6 Episode #25 Ludovica Colella is coming from Naples, Italy (inform, inspire, & transform)You can find Ludovica via her website lu-cole.com.   Change, Grow, Become!Ludovica is a CBT-trained psychotherapist and confidence coach specializing in people-pleasing, fawning, and self-abandonment. She works with high-functioning women who are exhausted from over-giving and living for everyone else's approval — and helps them build boundaries that actually hold. Featured in Forbes, Newsweek, Business Insider, and VeryWellMind, Ludovica brings both clinical expertise and lived experience to every conversation. She's the founder of LuCole LTD and has worked with clients globally. Her core question: why do intelligent, self-aware people keep repeating the same patterns even when they know exactly what they should do?  That question and many more will be answered on today's podcast.  Ludovica, thanks for sharing your gifts and talents with people all over the world, thanks for taking your pain and turning it into your purpose and thanks for being our guest on Life's Essential Ingredients…welcome to the show.TOTD – “Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired, and success achieved.”― Helen KellerBuild a habit - to create intention - to live your purpose!In this episode:Have to talk pizza first…What was life like growing up?Groomed to Care as a child…Being Empathic but with boundaries…Understanding Patterns, Where they came from, what they are protecting you from, and how to start doing things different in moments that matter…Looking at the beliefs underneath the behavior…the ones that feel so true you never questioned them (my needs are too much, I'm only lovable when I am useful, if I disagree they'll leave…People Pleasers – good at what you do but running on empty, say yes but then are resentful and guilty about being resentful, hard to say NO, know what to do but doing is difficult, put in the work but something still isn't shifting your behaviorEmotional HypervigilanceOverthinking Text Messages in RelationshipsFawning Trauma Response – what is it – giving excessive insincere praise….Rewriting Your Story…The power of healthy anger..Why People Pleasers Attracting Emotionally Unavailable PartnersConditioning and how can we rewrite that story…Intuition and Belief…Self Awareness…Learning to say NO and set up BoundariesCongrats on your journal you wrote…THE FEEL GOOD JOURNAL…Healing…

What would change if you no longer had to perform for love, approval, or belonging?In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, Kim explores what it really means to be real and unfiltered. Authenticity is not about saying everything we think or sharing every vulnerable part of ourselves with everyone. It is about allowing our outer lives to reflect what is true inside us.Kim examines the masks we wear to avoid judgment and rejection, including the agreeable mask, the perfection mask, the strong mask, the caretaker mask, and the easygoing mask. Although these masks once helped us feel safe and accepted, they can eventually leave us disconnected from ourselves and lonely within our relationships.This episode also introduces the August theme: why we lose ourselves in relationships and how the fear of rejection causes us to silence our needs, override our feelings, and shape-shift into the person we believe others want.The path back begins with the third step of Kim's five-step POWER Pathway: Willingness to Feel and Heal. We do not become authentic by eliminating the fear of rejection. We become authentic by learning that we can feel rejection without rejecting ourselves.KEY TAKEAWAYSWhy authenticity often feels emotionally dangerousHow fear of judgment causes us to perform and self-editThe difference between healthy discernment and hiding behind a maskWhy being accepted as a false version of ourselves can still feel lonelyHow we gradually lose ourselves in relationshipsWhy willingness to feel difficult emotions is essential to freedomHow to practice small acts of authenticity without forcing confrontationWhy freedom is not universal approval but unwavering self-connection

Sara Lichstein, LMFT, is a trauma therapist based in California who integrates Somatic Experiencing, EMDR, and IFS. She works with people-pleasers, those healing from emotionally immature caregivers, and individuals navigating breakups and additional relational traumas. Her approach is rooted in helping clients reconnect with their bodies and build self-trust. Her background includes equine-assisted therapy, work in treatment and school settings, and serving as adjunct faculty at Pepperdine University teaching clinical graduate students.About SaraServicesContactSara on IGBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-trauma-therapist--5739761/support.---Thank you for listening!If you want to support the show, I've got three options and every bit helps.$5.00 PayPalhttps://www.paypal.com/ncp/payment/NPKS32G8KVSN2$10.00 PayPalhttps://www.paypal.com/ncp/payment/495AMDFXQFC3L$15.00 PayPalhttps://www.paypal.com/ncp/payment/M7V5RREUKVD8JThank you to our Sponsors: Jane App - use code GUY1MO at https://janesoftware.partnerlinks.io/ngvcwcxqt2jx-4afv8i (https://jane.app/book_a_demo)Rebound - https://hellorebound.com/ttBeducated - Complete the quiz for one month free https://beduc.at/pd2629-traumatherapist

We're going LIVE to chat about the roads we accidentally find ourselves driving down... Anxiety Avenue Avoidance Drive Negativity Lane People Pleaser Parkway Overthinking Overpass Comparison Court ...and maybe a few unexpected detours. The good news? You don't need to stay on the same road. Sometimes all it takes is one small turn, one different thought, one new choice, or one deep breath to head in a completely different direction. We'll talk about how your energy, your thoughts, and your habits create the road you're traveling—and simple ways to change lanes when life feels heavy. No guilt. No shame. Just awareness, laughter, and some practical tools to help you find your way back to peace. Grab your JENergy drink (or your emotional support snack ), hop in, and let's see where your GPS has been taking you!

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What happens when you have done everything you can—and you still cannot get the outcome you want?In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, Kim Gross explores what happens when the Inner Controller can no longer fix, manage, or force life into the shape we believe we need in order to feel safe.Kim shares openly about struggling with body image, changes in her weight, ongoing health concerns, emotional eating, and the powerlessness she feels when her adult children make choices that are outside of her control.When the outcome we want feels threatened, the Inner Controller often works even harder. We may obsess, research, monitor, advise, pressure, restrict, overeat, criticize ourselves, or mentally rehearse every possible scenario. These behaviors may look like responsibility or problem-solving, but underneath them are often fear, sadness, shame, uncertainty, and grief.This episode is not about pretending you do not care or forcing yourself to “just let go.” It is about learning how to stay present with yourself when life does not cooperate.In this episode, you will learn:Why your Inner Controller becomes more intense when you feel powerlessThe emotions hiding beneath your need to control an outcomeWhy trying harder may be making you more exhaustedHow control can show up around health, body image, food, relationships, and adult childrenWhy surrender is not the same as giving upHow to separate grounded action from fear-driven controlWhat it means to become the wise, compassionate adult your younger self needsHow to stop abandoning yourself when you cannot guarantee the outcomeYou may not be able to control what your body does, what another person chooses, or how the future unfolds. But you can become the person who stays with yourself through the uncertainty.

This week's book guest is People Pleaser by Bryony Gordon.Sara and Cariad are joined by the wonderful journalist, author, broadcaster and podcaster Bryony Gordon.In this episode they discuss therapy, family, quavers, bodies, football and running in your pants.Thank you for reading with us. We like reading with you!Follow Sara & Cariad's Weirdos Book Club on Instagram @saraandcariadsweirdosbookclubProduced, recorded and edited by Naomi Parnell for Plosive.Assistant Producer is Amy Townsend-Lowcock for Plosive.Artwork by Welcome Studio. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cet été, Émotions (au travail) prend des vacances. Mais pendant ce temps-là, découvrez chaque semaine, un épisode du podcast Émotions qui résonne particulièrement avec notre vie professionnelle.Cet épisode a été initialement diffusé le 27 avril 2026 dans le flux Émotions.Dire « oui » par peur de décevoir, s'adapter en permanence aux désirs des autres jusqu'à s'oublier soi-même... le besoin de plaire, censé nous protéger du rejet, peut parfois finir par nous couper de nos propres émotions. D'où vient cette peur viscérale de déplaire ou de décevoir ? Pourquoi est-il si difficile de poser ses limites, même auprès de ceux qui nous aiment ? Est-ce de la générosité ou une stratégie de survie émotionnelle ? Nahil, Marion et Tarek ont longtemps fait passer les besoins des autres avant les leurs, au point de ne plus savoir qui ils étaient vraiment.Dans cet épisode, la journaliste Marie Misset recueille leurs témoignages pour comprendre comment le mécanisme du « people pleasing » s'installe et comment on peut apprendre à dire non sans culpabiliser. Pour décrypter ce mécanisme, elle tend son micro à Guy Bosmans, chercheur en psychologie clinique à l'université de Louvain, ainsi qu'à la sociologue et psychothérapeute Rebecca Levy-Guillain pour analyser la pression sociale qui nous pousse, malgré nous, à endosser le costume de « l'ami·e idéal·e ».Émotions est un podcast de Louie Media. Marie Misset a tourné et écrit cet épisode. La réalisation sonore est de Guillaume Girault. Clémence Reliat réalisé le générique, à partir d'un extrait d'En Sommeil de Jaune. Elsa Berthault est en charge de la production.Mélissa Bounoua est à la direction de production, Charlotte Pudlowski à la direction éditoriale. Publicités et Partenariats : creative@louiemedia.comSi vous aussi vous voulez nous raconter votre histoire dans Émotions, écrivez-nous en remplissant ce formulaire ou à l'adresse hello@louiemedia.com Pour avoir des news de Louie, des recos podcasts et culturelles, abonnez-vous à notre newsletter en cliquant ici. Vous souhaitez soutenir la création et la diffusion des projets de Louie Media ? Vous pouvez le faire via le Club Louie. Vous pouvez aussi vous abonner à Louie+ sur Apple Podcasts pour écouter les épisodes sans publicités et nos séries en avant-première. Chaque participation est précieuse. Nous vous proposons un soutien sans engagement, annulable à tout moment, soit en une seule fois, soit de manière régulière. Au nom de toute l'équipe de Louie : MERCI !Suivez Émotions sur Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Deezer.Suivez Louie Media sur Instagram, Facebook, et YouTube.Mots-clé : confiance en soi - honnêteté - rejet - amitié - psychologie Hébergé par Acast. Visitez acast.com/privacy pour plus d'informations.

Have you ever caught yourself judging someone and wondered, Where did that come from?What if your judgment isn't actually about them?In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, Kim Gross explores one of the most overlooked protective patterns of the Inner Controller: the judgment mask.Judgment often feels justified on the surface, but underneath it can hide fear, shame, powerlessness, grief, insecurity, or parts of ourselves we haven't fully accepted. Whether we criticize our children, our partner, strangers online, or even ourselves, judgment is often an attempt to feel safe, certain, or in control.Kim shares how curiosity can transform criticism into compassion and explains the important difference between judgment and discernment. You'll also learn why the people who trigger you the most may actually be pointing you toward your deepest healing.In this episode you'll discover:• Why judgment is often fear wearing the mask of certainty• The surprising reason we judge the people we love most• The difference between judgment and healthy discernment• How your Inner Controller uses criticism to avoid vulnerability• A simple practice to move from judgment to compassionIf you've ever wondered why certain people trigger you—or why you can be so hard on yourself—this episode offers a compassionate new perspective.

Comparison is one of the sneakiest ways the inner controller tries to keep us safe.It tells us that if we can figure out where we stand — who is ahead, who is behind, who is doing better, who is doing worse — then maybe we can finally know whether we are enough.But comparison never leads to freedom.In this episode of Masks Off: Inner Freedom for People Pleasers and Perfectionists, Kim Gross explores the comparison trap and why it keeps us stuck in both inferiority and superiority. When we feel below someone, we collapse into shame and “I'm not enough.” When we feel above someone, we may feel temporary relief, but that superiority is still fragile because it depends on staying ahead.Kim shares how comparison can show up in childhood, parenting, social media, body image, and weight — and how old environments can wake up old measuring systems. She also brings in the Golden Buddha metaphor from her book, Free to Be: A Pathway to Inner Liberation, reminding us that comparison keeps us staring at the clay while forgetting the gold underneath.This episode will help you stop using comparison as the measurement of your worth and begin returning to compassion, shared humanity, and inner freedom.In this episode, you'll explore:Why comparison is a protective pattern, not a character flawThe difference between inferiority and superiorityHow the inner controller uses comparison to create the illusion of safetyWhy social media, parenting, and body image can trigger old measuring systemsHow to stop abandoning yourself when judgment is possibleA simple comparison reset practice to come back to yourselfYour worth is not ranked.Your path is yours.You can come back to yourself.

Success came easy. Love didn't. If you've built the business, the body of work, the beautiful life — and love is still the one thing that won't land — this conversation was recorded for you. D'Arcy sits down with self-love and relationship expert Sanaiyah Gurnamal — two-time TEDx speaker and host of Project Loving Myself (a Spotify Top 50 podcast with 1M+ downloads) — to name the three love blocks that keep high-achieving women single or stuck: the People Pleaser, the Commitment-Phobe, and the Runaway Bride. In this episode: why women who fight for everything never learn to receive [22:46] · the 3 love blocks [25:58] · the airplane story that redefines meeting your own needs [15:45] · grieving a relationship while keeping the growth [43:30] · the journal prompt that reveals your block [52:13] D'Arcy also tells the truth about turning 49, never marrying, and dropping the belief that being single means you love yourself wrong. Connect with Sanaiyah: Project Loving Myself podcast · @sanaiyahgurnamal on Instagram + YouTube · The Love Blocks quiz Full show notes: darcybenincosa.com/love-blocks-high-achieving-women Get the Sunday letter: darcybenincosa.com

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Freedom is more than something we celebrate once a year. It's something we can practice every day inside our own minds, but we aren't practicing it enough! The stories we tell ourselves shape our emotional experience, and many of us spend years rehearsing thoughts that create discouragement, regret, or stress without realizing we have other options. This episode explores the freedom to choose what we think and how it will change your life for the better. There is a story in your head, you might as well make the story in your head a good one.   Embracing the People Pleaser in You Free Class: www.rympodcast.com 

If people pleasing sometimes leaves you feeling like you've lost parts of yourself, in today's episode I share a firm reminder and some gentle invitations.⚡️ The Rebel Rousers Shop is now open!

In this episode of The Principal's Handbook, we explore the challenges of being a people-pleasing principal and how the need for approval can impact leadership decisions. You'll learn how people-pleasing shows up through avoiding difficult conversations, watering down feedback, delaying decisions, and taking responsibility for other people's emotions. Through the TEA Cycle, we examine how thoughts about disappointing others create anxiety and lead to actions that weaken leadership effectiveness. The episode offers practical strategies for leading with clarity, confidence, and values instead of seeking approval. If you've ever worried about upsetting staff, parents, or teachers, this episode will help you lead with greater courage and authenticity.Get free resources at PrincipalFreebies.com. We're thrilled to be sponsored by IXL. IXL's comprehensive teaching and learning platform for math, language arts, science, and social studies is accelerating achievement in 95 of the top 100 U.S. school districts. Loved by teachers and backed by independent research from Johns Hopkins University, IXL can help you do the following and more:Simplify and streamline technologySave teachers' timeReliably meet Tier 1 standardsImprove student performance on state assessments