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“Honesty doesn't have to be brutal. Honesty can be compassionate. Honesty can be respectful.” -Dr. Cory NewmanEpisode OverviewIn this episode, host Dr. Jennifer Reid sits down with Dr. Cory Newman, PhD to explore how the core principles of cognitive behavioral therapy can be woven into our everyday communication with partners, friends, family, coworkers, and even ourselves. What begins as a conversation about therapy technique quickly becomes a practical guide to navigating disagreements, setting boundaries, and showing up more compassionately in all our relationships.Throughout the conversation, Dr. Reid draws connections to her book Guilt Free: Reclaiming Your Life from Unreasonable Expectations (Penguin Life, 2026), which examines how guilt—particularly for women—shapes our communication patterns, our willingness to set boundaries, and our capacity for self-compassion.15 Key Takeaways (Dr. Newman had so many life-changing recommendations, we wanted to make sure you could read about them even if you didn't have time to listen!)1. The Three Pillars of CBTDr. Newman describes CBT as resting on three foundational principles: * A supportive therapeutic alliance* A deep understanding of the patient's lived experience (including cultural and sociological factors)* The development of practical coping skills. These skills promote agency and problem-solving rather than hopelessness and helplessness.CBT Connection: The cognitive behavioral model emphasizes that thoughts, behaviors, and emotions are interconnected. By shifting how we think and what we do, we can change how we feel (Beck, 1979).2. Communication Is Both Internal and ExternalWe tend to think of communication as what we say to others, but Dr. Newman emphasizes that internal dialogue matters just as much. CBT helps people talk to themselves more compassionately, constructively, and hopefully. That same skill then translates outward into better interpersonal communication.He also distinguishes between expressive communication (how we speak) and receptive communication (how we listen), both of which are essential to healthy relationships.Guilt Free Connection: In Guilt Free, Dr. Reid explores how harsh internal dialogue, especially the relentless voice of “I should be doing more,” fuels excessive guilt. Learning to communicate with yourself compassionately is the first step toward breaking free from unreasonable expectations.3. Start with IntentEvery meaningful conversation benefits from a clear, positive intent: to boost morale, to connect, to offer something useful, to communicate understanding. Dr. Newman suggests that even outside of therapy, we can adopt the mindset that our goal in any interaction is to leave the other person, and the relationship, in a better state than when we started.CBT Connection: Intentional communication is a behavioral intervention. By deliberately choosing our communicative goals before speaking, we interrupt automatic patterns that often lead to conflict (Beck, 1995).4. Validity + Utility: The Two-Part Test for What We SayDr. Newman introduces a powerful filter: before speaking, ask whether your comment has both validity (is it truthful?) and utility (is it useful?). Truth alone can be harsh. He pushes back on the idea of “brutal honesty.”Guilt Free Connection: The validity-utility framework directly parallels the guilt equation in Guilt Free, where guilt = our expectations (whether fair or not) minus our perceived reality. Often, guilt-driven communication passes the validity test but fails the utility test. For example, we may say things out of obligation that don't help ourselves or others.5. Intent vs. Impact: Naming the MismatchSometimes people don't mean to cause harm, but their words land that way. Dr. Newman recommends naming the gap directly: “I don't think you're trying to put me down, but the message you're sending sounds like a put-down.” This approach acknowledges the other person's good faith while still making room for your experience.CBT Connection: Distinguishing between intent and impact is central to cognitive restructuring. Cognitive distortions like mind-reading and personalization often cause us to assume malicious intent where there is none (Burns, 1980).6. Seek to Understand Before Problem-SolvingWhen someone is in distress, the instinct is often to jump straight to fixing. Dr. Newman advises leading with empathy instead: “If I were thinking the way you're describing, I'd be a nervous wreck too.” Validate first, then gently offer alternative perspectives. Problem-solving is more effective once the person feels heard.Guilt Free Connection: Dr. Reid describes a pattern she sees frequently, which is people, especially women, catastrophizing about situations and layering guilt on top. The compassionate validation Dr. Newman describes is exactly the antidote: honor the feeling, question the expectation.7. Turn Complaints into RequestsAlmost any complaint can be reframed as a request, and requests are far easier to hear. Instead of “You never reply to my voicemail messages,” try: “I'd really appreciate hearing from you, even briefly. It's hard for me when I don't hear from you.”CBT Connection: This reframing technique is a classic behavioral strategy in CBT. Converting complaints into constructive requests shifts the dynamic from blame to collaboration (Gottman & Silver, 1999).Guilt Free Connection: Dr. Reid explores how maladaptive guilt can be manipulative, such as when guilt-tripping replaces genuine requests, and relationships can suffer. Assertive communication (making requests without guilting) is key to breaking that cycle.8. Silence Fills Vacuums with AssumptionsWhen we avoid communication to spare someone's feelings—say, not RSVPing to avoid disappointing a friend—we leave a vacuum that the other person fills with their own assumptions, which are usually worse than reality. Dr. Newman advises speaking the reality, even when it's uncomfortable, because silence invites personalization and catastrophizing.Guilt Free Connection: In Guilt Free, Dr. Reid identifies avoidance as a common guilt-driven behavior: we don't say no because we don't want to disappoint, but the silence itself creates a bigger problem. Communicating honestly, even imperfectly, is almost always better than disappearing.9. Beware All-or-Nothing Thinking in CommunicationDr. Newman applies one of CBT's most foundational concepts, challenging black-and-white thinking, to our communication habits. You don't have to choose between long silences and a 90-minute heart-to-heart. A quick text saying “Thinking of you” is a powerful middle ground. He calls these “random acts of kindness through text,” which are small gestures that send a meta-message of care.CBT Connection: All-or-nothing thinking is one of the most common cognitive distortions identified in CBT. Recognizing and challenging it opens up a range of behavioral options we might not have considered (Beck, 1976).10. Match the Medium to the MessageText messaging is ideal for quick logistics and small kindnesses, but it strips away tone of voice and body language. Dr. Newman shares a vivid example of a patient whose text “I don't care” (meaning “I don't mind”) sparked a major argument with his girlfriend. For emotional or complicated conversations, choose a medium with more cues, such as phone, video, or in person.His rule of thumb: The more emotional and the more complicated the topic, the more cues are needed.11. The Gottman 20-Minute RuleDrawing on research by John and Julie Gottman, Dr. Newman describes how physiological arousal (elevated heart rate, fight-or-flight activation) makes productive conversation impossible. The Gottmans recommend taking a break during heated arguments and not resuming until at least 20 minutes after your heart rate returns to baseline.Dr. Newman applies this to everyday life: if you receive a message that makes you angry, wait until you've calmed down before responding. Otherwise, frustration will leak through even your most careful words.CBT Connection: Self-monitoring of physiological arousal is a core CBT skill. The Gottman research demonstrates that behavioral interventions (taking a break) must precede cognitive interventions (discussing the issue) when the body is in a threat state.12. Resolve to Resolve—Not to WinDr. Newman highlights one of the most destructive communication patterns: trying to win an argument rather than resolve it. He references the devastating scene in the film Marriage Story where two characters escalate insults in an attempt to out-hurt each other. When the goal shifts from understanding to victory, everyone loses.CBT Connection: The belief “I must convince the other person I'm right” is a cognitive distortion that fuels conflict. CBT teaches that making your point respectfully is already a success. Change in the other person may come later, or not at all, and that's okay (Newman, 2014).13. Never Go to Bed Angry? Not So Fast.Both Dr. Reid and Dr. Newman agree that while the spirit of this advice is sound (don't harbor resentment) the literal application can be harmful. Insisting on resolving a conflict when one partner is exhausted is destructive. The person who needs to sleep should be honored. The meta-message is: don't stonewall, but do respect each other's limits. Use a placeholder: “I want to talk this through, but right now I can't yet.”Guilt Free Connection: This scenario is a guilt trap in action. The pressure to resolve everything immediately often comes from guilt (“A good partner wouldn't go to bed angry”). Dr. Reid's framework encourages questioning whether that expectation is fair and giving yourself permission to rest.14. Setting Boundaries Without GuiltWhen repeated attempts at respectful communication are met with resistance, such as the same pressure, the same guilt trips, it's appropriate to set a firm boundary. Dr. Newman advises doing so with care: “I'd like to talk to you, but not under these conditions. When you can show some respect for what I've said, let me know.” You can walk away from that interaction knowing you handled it with integrity.Guilt Free Connection: Dr. Reid identifies “hyper-accountability,”the belief that we can and should control other people's emotional experience, as a major driver of excessive guilt, especially for women. Letting go of the need to make everyone feel okay is essential to healthy boundary-setting.15. Say the Positive Things Out LoudDr. Newman closes with a deceptively simple but powerful reminder: don't keep positive thoughts to yourself. If you have a compliment, give it. If you feel affection, express it. And one of his favorite tips: talk positively about people behind their back. It often gets back to them and can shift the entire tone of your relationships.CBT Connection: Behavioral activation, which involves increasing positive interactions and reinforcement, is a foundational CBT technique for improving mood and strengthening relationships (Lewinsohn, 1974).Thanks for reading A Mind of Her Own! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.About the GuestDr. Cory Newman, PhD is a professor of psychology in psychiatry and director of the Center for Cognitive Therapy at the University of Pennsylvania. He is also honorary faculty at the Beck Institute for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, where he completed his postdoctoral training under the mentorship of Dr. Aaron Beck, a founding father of CBT. A founding fellow of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy, Dr. Newman has presented approximately 300 CBT workshops and seminars internationally and published over 100 articles and chapters. He is the author or co-author of six books. Fun connection: Dr. Newman is a highly accomplished pianist and has accompanied Dr. Reid for several of her vocal performances.References & Further ReadingCBT Foundations1. Beck, A. T. (1976). Cognitive Therapy and the Emotional Disorders. International Universities Press.2. Beck, J. S. (1995). Cognitive Behavior Therapy: Basics and Beyond. Guilford Press.3. Burns, D. D. (1980). Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy. William Morrow.Communication & Relationships4. Gottman, J. M. & Silver, N. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Crown.From the Guest6. Newman, C. F. (2014). Core Competencies in Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy. Routledge.From the Host7. Reid, J. (2026). Guilt Free: Reclaiming Your Life from Unreasonable Expectations. 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What you'll learn in this episode: ● Why hiring because of a “pain point” often creates bigger problems ● The danger of too many specialists too early in business ● How systems create consistency—and consistency creates momentum ● Why simplifying your business can increase profitability ● The real reason 50% of hires don't work out (and what to do about it) ● The SCARLET hiring framework: Self-starter, Competitive, Assertive, Relationship-based, Learning-based, Team player ● How removing friction in your processes leads to predictable success If you've ever felt capable but inconsistent in your income, this episode will show you how leadership, systems, and the right people close the gap between effort and results.

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Being assertive doesn't mean being pushy, aggressive, or domineering - but many corporate environments only show you that one style of leadership. In this episode, I teach you the two opposing styles of assertiveness: Pushing Down vs. Lifting Up. One erodes trust and damages your reputation over time. The other builds respect, inspires teams, and gets people to genuinely want to follow your lead - this is what I'm teaching you to do. You'll learn: Why "assertive" doesn't have to mean "aggressive" The Push Down vs. Lift Up framework for assertive leadership Why the aggressive style backfires (even for geniuses like Steve Jobs) 3 practical tactics to be assertive in a way that lifts others up How to inspire buy-in without forcing your ideas on people Why this style of assertiveness feels better for you AND your stakeholders   Links:   Free Assertiveness ebook: https://www.assertivenessebook.com/    Art of Speaking Up Academy waitlist: https://jessguzikcoaching.com/academy/ 

I have been reading Dr. Jawanza Kunjufu's books and have found some very interesting concepts that have stood the test of time. These principle-driven ways of teachers and empowering the youth are inspiring to me as a youth worker. In this episode i discuss a concept called assertive discipline. A skill used by many coaches and leaders to keep their teams on task and on target, and engaged in their work.

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Kelsey Blahnik, LCSW-S is a licensed clinical social worker and qualified supervisor serving Texas and Florida, specializing in trauma, OCD, anxiety, and caregiver burnout. She offers online therapy and supervision through her practice, The And Way™ Therapy, where she uses EMDR, IFS, ERP, and ACT alongside a holistic focus on nervous system regulation and wellbeing. Kelsey is also the author of The And Way: Assertive Peacemaking in a Divided World and mentors clinicians to build values-aligned practices grounded in clarity and compassion. In This EpisodeKelsey's websiteKelsey's book: The And Way: Assertive Peacemaking in a Divided WorldKelsey on IGBecome a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/the-trauma-therapist--5739761/support.You can learn more about what I do here:The Trauma Therapist Newsletter: celebrates the people and voices in the mental health profession. And it's free! Check it out here: https://bit.ly/4jGBeSa———If you'd like to support The Trauma Therapist Podcast and the work I do you can do that here with a monthly donation of $5, $7, or $10: Donate to The Trauma Therapist Podcast.Click here to join my email list and receive podcast updates and other news.Thank you to our Sponsors:Jane App - use code GUY1MO at https://jane.appArizona Trauma Institute at https://aztrauma.org/

Click here to buy your copy of How To Have Difficult Conversations About Race!⁠ In this episode, Emilie Aries, Founder and CEO of Bossed Up, discusses what is means to be assertive vs aggressive, gender and assertiveness, and the hidden benefits of assertiveness. ⁠Request a Custom Workshop For Your Company⁠ ⁠Get Free Access to Over 15 Negotiation Guides⁠ ⁠Bossed Up⁠ ⁠Bossed Up Podcast⁠ ⁠Follow Emilie LinkedIn⁠ ⁠Follow Kwame on LinkedIn⁠ Kwame Christian with Emilie Aries Negotiate Anything:Take your personal data back with Incogni! Use code ANYTHING at the link below and get 60% off an annual plan:⁠https://incogni.com/anything⁠ incogni.com Personal Information Removal Service | Incogni | Incogni Data brokers are collecting, aggregating and trading your personal data without you knowing anything about it. We make them remove it.

Click here to buy your copy of How To Have Difficult Conversations About Race!⁠ In this episode, Emilie Aries, Founder and CEO of Bossed Up, discusses what is means to be assertive vs aggressive, gender and assertiveness, and the hidden benefits of assertiveness. ⁠Request a Custom Workshop For Your Company⁠ ⁠Get Free Access to Over 15 Negotiation Guides⁠ ⁠Bossed Up⁠ ⁠Bossed Up Podcast⁠ ⁠Follow Emilie LinkedIn⁠ ⁠Follow Kwame on LinkedIn⁠ Kwame Christian with Emilie Aries Negotiate Anything:Take your personal data back with Incogni! Use code ANYTHING at the link below and get 60% off an annual plan:⁠https://incogni.com/anything⁠ incogni.com Personal Information Removal Service | Incogni | Incogni Data brokers are collecting, aggregating and trading your personal data without you knowing anything about it. We make them remove it.

Teachers are often told they need to be “more assertive” in the classroom.But what does that actually mean when behaviour starts to wobble, pressure rises, and everyone's watching?In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, you'll learn what assertiveness really looks like in practice - and why it isn't about being louder, stricter, or more dominant. Instead, it's about clarity, calm and making better decisions before you even open your mouth.You'll explore why many behaviour confrontations escalate because adults are focused on “winning” the moment, and how redefining what success looks like can lead to calmer classrooms and fewer repeat issues over time.The episode breaks assertiveness down into clear, practical strategies you can use straight away, including how to steady your body language, adjust your voice, give instructions that don't invite debate, and choose the right moment to follow things up.If you work in a classroom and want behaviour to improve without damaging relationships, escalating situations, or feeling emotionally drained, this episode will give you a simple, usable framework to take into your next lesson.Important links:Get your copy of the Classroom Management Scoresheet: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/classroom-management-scoresheetDownload other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resourcesHeadteachers and deputies: Join our in-person event in BradfordWhere you'll learn practical ways to equip your team to handle SEMH challenges with confidence - so you can move from firefighting to a calm, consistent whole-school approach. Register now.

This is foundational work! I cover passive, aggressive, and assertive communication styles, and how we can move towards the healthy, mature middle way, weaving in some of my own journey along the way.Healthy, open, and loving communication is the cornerstone of all of our relationships. This work cannot be overstated.Please listen, and comment with how this lands. I'd love to hear.Opening to Love: 2/22 Workshophttps://app.moonclerk.com/pay/1998hwqyqwskStart Here (Beginner's Guide):https://www.love-evolved.us/start-here.htmlAlchemy of the Heart:https://www.love-evolved.us/alchemy-of-the-heart-course.htmlThe Visionaries Community:https://www.love-evolved.us/—About me:My name is Leigh-Anne LoPinto, and I'm a psychologist and breathwork teacher specializing in relationships. I am devoted to creating the new paradigm of relationships.For the past 15 years, I've worked with people 1:1 and in groups to support healing and growth.Visit my website here to connect and go deeper:https://www.love-evolved.us/ This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit leighannelopinto.substack.com

Learn exactly how to sound assertive at work. When you speak confidently and assertively, you are more likely to communicate clearly, constructively and get your message heard, taken in and understood.  To help you sound assertive quickly, I am sharing 11 tips to speak confidently at work.--- --- How assertively you speak at work has a direct impact on everyone's perception of you. The more confident and assertively you speak and communicate, the more willing others will be to do as you ask and follow where you lead.  Being confident and assertive, when backed up by being good at your job, is going to help you progress your career faster than those who are not as confident.  Communication in any job matters more than most people think! How to be assertive and speak powerfully starts with being very aware of your intend behind the communication. I cover 4 different communication styles. For how to be assertive and confident you want to stick to the assertive style and not use the others. Your mindset drives the styles used.  The first of the tips for confident communication is all about what you do with your message before you speak it. Some mental preplanning is needed. The next of my tips to speak confidently, is to keep the emotional language to a minimum. The next of my  tips to instantly sound more confident is use a lot of “I” language. The last of my tips to talk confidently is to remove most (/all) of the deference in your language.  How to be assertive when communicating is also about how you deliver your message. I share 7 tips to talk confidently at work. All of these will help you with how to communicate assertively. IF you have any questions on “How to sound assertive quickly – 11 tips to speak confidently at work”, please email me at support@enhance.training and I will get back to you.  Jess Colesenhance.training

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Listening isn't just a communication skill - it's a leadership practice.In this episode of Strength in Numbers, we explore The Rhythm of Listening, part of the Quiet Strength: 12 Rhythms for Rest, Reflection, and Renewal series. Quiet leaders often lead through presence, attentiveness, and thoughtful engagement rather than volume or urgency - and listening plays a powerful role in how trust is built.Using the Enneagram's communication stances, Jilann unpacks how different personalities naturally listen - and where listening can quietly break down under pressure or good intentions.In this episode, you'll learn:How Withdrawn, Dependent/Compliant, and Assertive stances each approach listeningCommon growth edges that can limit connection without us realizing itSimple awareness shifts that help quiet leaders listen with more humility, patience, and intentionThis episode offers practical reflection and gentle practices to help you move from listening to respond… to listening to understand.Whether you lead in your workplace, your community, or your relationships, this rhythm invites you to slow down, stay present, and steward conversations well.Ready for more? Check out my website!

In this episode, I break down how to communicate clearly and confidently without crossing into rude or aggressive territory. You'll learn why tone matters more than words, how to frame sentences so people actually listen, and why the most assertive communicators say less, not more. If you've ever been told you're “too soft” or worried about coming off harsh, this one will change how you speak immediately. Order The Next Conversation Workbook: https://www.jeffersonfisher.com/workbook Thank you to our sponsors: Cozy Earth. Upgrade Your Every Day. Get 40% off at cozyearth.com/jefferson or use code JEFFERSON at check out. LMNT. Head to https://drinkLMNT.com/jefferson to try risk free. BetterHelp. Click https://betterhelp.com/jeffersonfisher for a discount on your first month of therapy. Order my new book, The Next Conversation, or listen to the full audiobook today. Like what you hear? Don't forget to subscribe and leave a 5-star review! Suggest a topic or ask a question for me to answer on the show!  Want a FREE communication tip each week? Click here to join my newsletter.  Join My School of Communication Watch my podcast on YouTube  Follow me on Instagram  Follow me on TikTok Follow me on LinkedIn Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How has China's Ministry of Foreign Affairs transformed itself into one of the most assertive diplomatic actors on the global stage? What explains the rise of “wolf warrior” practices, and how should we interpret Beijing's evolving diplomatic identity? In this episode, Duncan McCargo speaks with Dylan Loh, an Associate Professor in the Public Policy and Global Affairs programme at Nanyang Technological University (Dr. Dylan M.H. Loh - Associate Professor | International Relations Scholar | Chinese Foreign Policy), about his award-winning new book China's Rising Foreign Ministry: Practices and Representations of Assertive Diplomacy (Stanford University Press, 2024). Dylan Loh unpacks how Chinese diplomats craft narratives and balance assertiveness with professionalism, touching on institutional habitus, ritualised loyalty, and China's bid for discourse power on platforms like X. This conversation offers timely insights for anyone interested in Chinese foreign policy, diplomacy, and the future of great-power relations. Host: Duncan McCargo is President's Chair in Global Affairs at Nanyang Technological University. Podcast Editing: Ishaan Krishnan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

How has China's Ministry of Foreign Affairs transformed itself into one of the most assertive diplomatic actors on the global stage? What explains the rise of “wolf warrior” practices, and how should we interpret Beijing's evolving diplomatic identity? In this episode, Duncan McCargo speaks with Dylan Loh, an Associate Professor in the Public Policy and Global Affairs programme at Nanyang Technological University (Dr. Dylan M.H. Loh - Associate Professor | International Relations Scholar | Chinese Foreign Policy), about his award-winning new book China's Rising Foreign Ministry: Practices and Representations of Assertive Diplomacy (Stanford University Press, 2024). Dylan Loh unpacks how Chinese diplomats craft narratives and balance assertiveness with professionalism, touching on institutional habitus, ritualised loyalty, and China's bid for discourse power on platforms like X. This conversation offers timely insights for anyone interested in Chinese foreign policy, diplomacy, and the future of great-power relations. Host: Duncan McCargo is President's Chair in Global Affairs at Nanyang Technological University. Podcast Editing: Ishaan Krishnan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/political-science

How has China's Ministry of Foreign Affairs transformed itself into one of the most assertive diplomatic actors on the global stage? What explains the rise of “wolf warrior” practices, and how should we interpret Beijing's evolving diplomatic identity? In this episode, Duncan McCargo speaks with Dylan Loh, an Associate Professor in the Public Policy and Global Affairs programme at Nanyang Technological University (Dr. Dylan M.H. Loh - Associate Professor | International Relations Scholar | Chinese Foreign Policy), about his award-winning new book China's Rising Foreign Ministry: Practices and Representations of Assertive Diplomacy (Stanford University Press, 2024). Dylan Loh unpacks how Chinese diplomats craft narratives and balance assertiveness with professionalism, touching on institutional habitus, ritualised loyalty, and China's bid for discourse power on platforms like X. This conversation offers timely insights for anyone interested in Chinese foreign policy, diplomacy, and the future of great-power relations. Host: Duncan McCargo is President's Chair in Global Affairs at Nanyang Technological University. Podcast Editing: Ishaan Krishnan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/world-affairs

How has China's Ministry of Foreign Affairs transformed itself into one of the most assertive diplomatic actors on the global stage? What explains the rise of “wolf warrior” practices, and how should we interpret Beijing's evolving diplomatic identity? In this episode, Duncan McCargo speaks with Dylan Loh, an Associate Professor in the Public Policy and Global Affairs programme at Nanyang Technological University (Dr. Dylan M.H. Loh - Associate Professor | International Relations Scholar | Chinese Foreign Policy), about his award-winning new book China's Rising Foreign Ministry: Practices and Representations of Assertive Diplomacy (Stanford University Press, 2024). Dylan Loh unpacks how Chinese diplomats craft narratives and balance assertiveness with professionalism, touching on institutional habitus, ritualised loyalty, and China's bid for discourse power on platforms like X. This conversation offers timely insights for anyone interested in Chinese foreign policy, diplomacy, and the future of great-power relations. Host: Duncan McCargo is President's Chair in Global Affairs at Nanyang Technological University. Podcast Editing: Ishaan Krishnan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/chinese-studies

How has China's Ministry of Foreign Affairs transformed itself into one of the most assertive diplomatic actors on the global stage? What explains the rise of “wolf warrior” practices, and how should we interpret Beijing's evolving diplomatic identity? In this episode, Duncan McCargo speaks with Dylan Loh, an Associate Professor in the Public Policy and Global Affairs programme at Nanyang Technological University (Dr. Dylan M.H. Loh - Associate Professor | International Relations Scholar | Chinese Foreign Policy), about his award-winning new book China's Rising Foreign Ministry: Practices and Representations of Assertive Diplomacy (Stanford University Press, 2024). Dylan Loh unpacks how Chinese diplomats craft narratives and balance assertiveness with professionalism, touching on institutional habitus, ritualised loyalty, and China's bid for discourse power on platforms like X. This conversation offers timely insights for anyone interested in Chinese foreign policy, diplomacy, and the future of great-power relations. Host: Duncan McCargo is President's Chair in Global Affairs at Nanyang Technological University. Podcast Editing: Ishaan Krishnan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's officially 2026.In this New Year kickoff episode, Brynn reflects on what 2025 revealed, celebrates unexpected milestones, and lays out a clear vision for what's ahead on the Court Reporter Podcast.This episode introduces the podcast's new season-based format, the core themes for the year, and a transparent look at Brynn's personal recommitment to growth, including her journey toward the RPR and deeper national-level understanding of the profession.This is not about perfection.It's about clarity, structure, and doing the work out loud.If you've ever felt unsure, overwhelmed, or like you're just figuring things out as you go, this episode sets the tone for a different kind of year.In This Episode, We Cover:• Why 2026 is the Year of Transformation • A behind-the-scenes look at the podcast's growth and milestones • What's changing with the podcast structure and why • The four core principles that define court reporting across all jurisdictions • Brynn's honest recommitment to pursuing the RPR and true professional mastery • A preview of each season planned for 2026 • Why expertise is more than credentials • What it really means to build confidence, clarity, and authority in this professionWhat's Coming in 2026:• Ethics, licensure, certification, and professional identity • Assertive communication and confidence on the record • Business systems, burnout reduction, and future-proofing your career • Judicial interviews, community conversations, and national observances • The launch of the Court Reporter Podcast AwardsThis podcast exists to bridge gaps, elevate standards, and support court reporters and litigation professionals navigating real-world challenges with intention.If this episode resonates, stay connected.Sign up for the newsletter at courtreporterpodcast.com to receive updates, episode drops, and invitations to upcoming discussions and accountability sessions.This is the year we do things differently.Join me for finance management accountability sessions! I'll send the schedule via the newsletter which you can join by going to: courtreporterpodcast.com

Why good communication requires presence, not performance.Effective communication isn't about perfecting your performance. According to Dr. Kate Mason, it's about being powerfully present.Mason is a world champion debater, executive communication coach, and author of the book Powerfully Likable. In her work coaching senior executives to communicate more effectively, she emphasizes that it's not about creating a performative persona, it's about uncovering the authentic communicator you already are. “The coaching is just bringing the real parts of you to the fore,” she says, “uncovering rather than totally building from scratch. A lot of people come to me and say, I need to be more warm or more insert adjective here. And I say, I'm not gonna help you be more warm if that's not what's coming naturally to you. I am gonna help you work out the thing you're already doing, the thing you're already saying, how to make that comfortable for people around you.”In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Mason and host Matt Abrahams discuss strategies for more present communication. From avoiding "imposing syndrome” to reducing “the delta between your real self and that corporate persona,” Mason's insights explore how we can bring more of our true selves to the table.To listen to the extended Deep Thinks version of this episode, please visit FasterSmarter.io/premium.Episode Reference Links:Dr. Kate MasonKate's Book: Powerfully LikeableEp. 210 First Impression to Lasting Impact: Use Status Strategically Connect:Premium Signup >>>> Think Fast Talk Smart PremiumEmail Questions & Feedback >>> hello@fastersmarter.ioEpisode Transcripts >>> Think Fast Talk Smart WebsiteNewsletter Signup + English Language Learning >>> FasterSmarter.ioThink Fast Talk Smart >>> LinkedIn, Instagram, YouTubeMatt Abrahams >>> LinkedInChapters:(00:00) - Introduction (02:32) - Why Confidence Is the Wrong Goal (03:55) - Bridging Your Real and Work Selves (05:27) - What Is Imposing Syndrome? (07:01) - Catching Yourself Shrinking (08:58) - Rethinking Imposter Syndrome (10:15) - Assertive vs. Agreeable (12:40) - Naming Your Communication Style (15:38) - What You Say vs. How You Show Up (17:43) - Body Language That Signals Openness (19:04) - Executive Messaging Lessons (22:01) - The Final Three Questions (26:51) - Conclusion ********Thank you to our sponsors.  These partnerships support the ongoing production of the podcast, allowing us to bring it to you at no cost. Go to Quince.com/ThinkFast for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Join our Think Fast Talk Smart Learning Community and become the communicator you want to be.

How has China's Ministry of Foreign Affairs transformed itself into one of the most assertive diplomatic actors on the global stage? What explains the rise of “wolf warrior” practices, and how should we interpret Beijing's evolving diplomatic identity? In this episode, Duncan McCargo speaks with Dylan Loh, an Associate Professor in the Public Policy and Global Affairs programme at Nanyang Technological University (Dr. Dylan M.H. Loh - Associate Professor | International Relations Scholar | Chinese Foreign Policy), about his award-winning new book China's Rising Foreign Ministry: Practices and Representations of Assertive Diplomacy (Stanford University Press, 2024). Dylan Loh unpacks how Chinese diplomats craft narratives and balance assertiveness with professionalism, touching on institutional habitus, ritualised loyalty, and China's bid for discourse power on platforms like X. This conversation offers timely insights for anyone interested in Chinese foreign policy, diplomacy, and the future of great-power relations. Host: Duncan McCargo is President's Chair in Global Affairs at Nanyang Technological University. Podcast Editing: Ishaan Krishnan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/new-books-network

How has China's Ministry of Foreign Affairs transformed itself into one of the most assertive diplomatic actors on the global stage? What explains the rise of “wolf warrior” practices, and how should we interpret Beijing's evolving diplomatic identity? In this episode, Duncan McCargo speaks with Dylan Loh, an Associate Professor in the Public Policy and Global Affairs programme at Nanyang Technological University (Dr. Dylan M.H. Loh - Associate Professor | International Relations Scholar | Chinese Foreign Policy), about his award-winning new book China's Rising Foreign Ministry: Practices and Representations of Assertive Diplomacy (Stanford University Press, 2024). Dylan Loh unpacks how Chinese diplomats craft narratives and balance assertiveness with professionalism, touching on institutional habitus, ritualised loyalty, and China's bid for discourse power on platforms like X. This conversation offers timely insights for anyone interested in Chinese foreign policy, diplomacy, and the future of great-power relations. Host: Duncan McCargo is President's Chair in Global Affairs at Nanyang Technological University. Podcast Editing: Ishaan Krishnan Support our show by becoming a premium member! https://newbooksnetwork.supportingcast.fm/southeast-asian-studies

Are you responsible FOR your team or TO them? It takes courage to confront and transform the internalized shame and disgust that can affect our ability to harness anger as a force for good.   The next time you experience feelings of anger or shame, take a moment to pause and ask yourself, "Is this truly mine, or did I absorb it from someone else?" You may be surprised by what you find. This reflects the underlying myths society holds about anger. Any unresolved feelings of anger or shame could negatively impact your well-being, hinder your focus, and affect your business's bottom line. Self-accountability starts with recognizing and channeling your emotions as fuel for growth.   In this program, you will learn that you are only responsible for your own feelings, how to distinguish between healthy and reactive anger, and the importance of doing the necessary self-work (behind the scenes) to become whole. This enables you to show up fully in the world.   Jess Dewell speaks with Bronwyn Schweigerdt, a psychotherapist and host of the "Angry at the Right Things" podcast, about the role of emotions, how to transform shame into strength, and how to be BOLD by building self-trust and using emotions for assertive action.   -------------------- If you want to identify business bottlenecks, the necessary skills, the initial actions to take, the expected milestones, and the priorities for achieving growth, try the "Growth Framework Reset" approach. This will help you to keep learning and growing while working strategically on your business. -------------------- You can get in touch with Jess Dewell on Twitter,  LinkedIn or Red Direction website.

The Trump Corollary: Reviving the Monroe Doctrine in Latin America: Colleague Ernesto Araújo discusses a new "Trump corollary" to the Monroe Doctrine reshaping U.S. policy in the Americas, signaling a more assertive stance against foreign influence and authoritarian regimes; this shift is evident in Venezuela, where President Maduro appears to be negotiating his exit in the face of U.S. pressure, while in Brazil the administration of Lula da Silva faces significant instability due to a massive banking scandal linking the government to money laundering and organized crime, with the new application of the Monroe Doctrine suggesting the U.S. will favor political figures aligned with its security strategy. 1952 CARACAS

Send us a textToday, Jo talks about assertive women in the LS. Jo talks about some of the reasons why guys like an assertive woman, but even more importantly, Jo talks about why SHE loves to be assertive herself.And, if you're looking to be more assertive, she gives some tips to help.Support the showOld music (

In this episode, Dr. Ali Novitsky, triple-boarded physician, Master Coach, and founder of The FIT Collective, continues her deep exploration of stress — this time focusing on how different stress types influence relationships, team dynamics, and emotional regulation.Dr. Ali revisits the origins of her company, MindBodyMarriage, as she lays the groundwork for a series on how stress types interact in pairs, families, and professional teams.Key Points Discussed:1. Why Stress Types Matter in RelationshipsDr. Ali explains that interactions between stress types can be complex and deeply influential. By understanding:What each type does when stressed, andWhat each type contributes when regulated,We can accurately predict team behavior, decrease conflict, and strengthen relationships. This awareness becomes essential when multiple people—and multiple stress types—interact at once2. A Review of The Six Stress Types:Assertive – Stressed: takes over; Regulated: decisive leader.Isolation – Stressed: avoids vulnerability; Regulated: productive, independent.Control – Stressed: rigid, inflexible; Regulated: organized, structured.Validation – Stressed: seeks reassurance; Regulated: creates harmony.Impulsivity – Stressed: reacts quickly; Regulated: creative, executes well.Catastrophizing – Stressed: fears worst-case; Regulated: strong problem-solver.3. Real-Life Application: Team DynamicsDr. Ali illustrates a medical code scenario with two possible outcomes:Dysregulated TeamAssertive type takes over abruptlyIsolation type withdrawsControl type panics over broken expectationsValidation type doubts themselvesImpulsive type fires off ideas without follow-throughCatastrophizing type spirals into worst-case thinkingThe team technically achieves the outcome—but experiences burnout, fear, and dysfunction.Regulated TeamAssertive type leads with clarityIsolation type stays focused and productiveControl type keeps structureValidation type creates calmImpulsive type supports with creativityCatastrophizing type anticipates needs and supports problem solvingSame patient outcome—entirely different team experience.Dr. Ali emphasizes that true success includes psychological safety, teamwork, and emotional regulation.3. The “Leaky Valve” AnalogyDr. Ali introduces the concept of a leaky emotional valve:When we are chronically dysregulated, stress “leaks” into every system in our lives—relationships, work, communication, and health. Regulation closes the valve, making all downstream healing easier.TakeawaysUnderstanding your stress type increases self-awareness and compassion.Daily regulation practice—not occasional effort—is necessary for real change.Healthy teams are built on regulation, not perfection.You can always choose to become the “regulated member” of your team.Timestamps00:00 – Introduction & why this series matters00:27 – MindBody Marriage → The FIT Collective00:38 – Stress & relationships: the “relationship matrix”02:03 – Different stress scenarios in relationships and teams02:24 – Overview of the 6 stress types05:06 – Assertive stress type06:11 – Isolation stress type07:09 – Control stress type08:51 – Impulsivity stress type10:06 – Catastrophizing stress type11:22 – Validation stress type12:22 – Dysregulated team code scenario18:29 – Regulated team code scenario26:01 – How do we measure team success?27:29 – Why whole-team training and daily regulation matter28:43 – Transform 10 & the leaky valve29:26 – Private coaching with The FIT CollectiveWork with Dr. Ali

The Communication Game-Changers for self-respect! 5 game-changing strategies to be assertive, not aggressive. How to be assertive without sounding aggressive.  And not feeling guilty after speaking up or over-thinking the situation. Finding the sweet spot between being confident and respectful can literally transform your relationships at work, at home. Assertiveness isn't about being forceful— or controlling, it's about being clear, confident, and respectful. Master this balance, your relationships —at work, at home, or even in high-stress situations can be transformed into feeling empowered.  A free assertive parenting guide Parenting Power Moves Guide Joanne's Book to Manage Emotions: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DQHQ6DG1 A 30-second free guide to see if you qualify at ServiceDogPro.com!  https://podcast.feedspot.com/anxiety_podcasts/ https://podcast.feedspot.com/us_psychology_podcasts/  

What you'll learn in this episode:The “Scarlett” hiring model: Self-Starter, Competitive, Assertive, Relationship-Based, Learning-Based, Team PlayerHow to interview and rate virtual assistants for long-term successWhy you should never spend your time on CanvaThe 5 core activities of a real estate agent that VAs can help you protectHow to buy back your time and scale your business through leverageLeadership lessons to turn VAs into trusted team members 

In this conversation, Nina Caviggiola and Talia Bombola explore the multifaceted nature of confidence, discussing its roots in childhood experiences, the impact of social conditioning, and the importance of self-worth and assertiveness. They delve into the challenges women face regarding confidence, particularly during different life stages, and provide practical advice for building self-esteem and navigating relationships. The discussion emphasizes the significance of healing the inner child and understanding the difference between assertiveness and aggressiveness, ultimately encouraging listeners to embrace their authentic selves and prioritize quality relationships. About Talia: I am the Confidence + Assertiveness Specialist™. My work is centered around helping ambitious women heal patterns of feeling “not enough” or “too much” that manifest in their personal and professional life and rewire subconscious beliefs so they can increase their self-worth and their net worth. I make sense of evolutionary and social psychology to help you, in modern-day, understand how men and women approach life and relationships differently. Like, extremely differently. I teach you what makes us do what we do as women, and why we will be disappointed if we expect men to be like us. The best way to cook just got better. Go to HelloFresh.com/MAMAKNOWS10FM now to Get 10 Free Meals + a Free Item for Life!  Caraway's cookware set is a favorite for a reason, it can save you up to $190 versus buying the items individually. Plus, if you visit Carawayhome.com/MAMAKNOWS you can take an additional 10% off your next purchase. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Send us a textWhen life feels too full and the pressure to “do it all” starts to steal your peace, it's time to pause and reset. In this heartfelt conversation, Amy sits down with Terrie Power: Enneagram Nine, Consistency Coach, and long-time member of the Wholehearted Collective, to talk about how the Enneagram can guide you back to balance, purpose, and grace.They explore:How to notice when your soul and schedule are out of alignmentThe myths of “having it all” and what grace-filled planning actually looks likeTerrie's FLEX Plan, a practical tool for building life-giving rhythmsWhat each Enneagram stance (Withdrawn, Dutiful, Assertive) needs to move from stuck to steadyWhy community and story matter when you feel overwhelmedIf you've been craving structure that doesn't suffocate your soul, this episode will remind you that you can plan with grace and live with purpose, even when life feels full.Past Podcast Episode with Terrie: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-step-by-step-guide-for-a-wholehearted-2025/id1216920050?i=1000682113666Say “hi” to Terrie and check out her next consistency cohort!Collective Website: https://www.simplywholehearted.com/wholeheartedcoachingcollectiveWebsite: https://www.terriepowercoaching.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terriepowercoachingFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/terriepowercoachingLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/terriepower/RESOURCES FOR YOU: Book a High-Value Clarity Call with Amy Wicks https://www.simplywholehearted.com/callamywicks Not sure about your Enneagram Type? Start here: https://www.simplywholehearted.com/enneagramquiz Wholehearted Enneagram Coachinghttps://bit.ly/SWcoachingcollectiveEnnea-what? The Beginners Guide to the Enneagram(free course + printables)https://bit.ly/Enneagram101GuideThe Real History of the Enneagram Course(use code AMY for 40% OFF)https://bit.ly/EnneagramHistoryShould Christians Use the Enneagram? (Amy's book)https://amzn.to/3VB9PrxConnect with Amy:IGWebsite

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https://www.big-fintech.com/the-great-wealth-transfer-great-inheritance-drain/John and Glen speak with Defense Credit Union Council CEO Tony Hernandez about his organization's rapidly increasing visibility and how the armed forces' impact on the credit union movement extends well beyond the expected nameplates. Also- the shutdown creates new complexities for earned wage access, Bitcoin breaks the $125K barrier, and plenty of bingo card calls.       Links related to this episode:   The Defense Credit Union Council (including government shutdown resources): https://www.dcuc.org/     The CU Daily's recent interview with DCUC CEO Tony Hernandez: https://thecudaily.com/the-defense-cu-council-goes-on-the-offense-echoes-a-page-from-cu-history/    Create your own 2025 BIGGo card: https://bingobaker.com/#67a12342928998c6    Our recent interview with earned wage access provider Veep Software (among other startups): https://www.big-fintech.com/the-great-wealth-transfer-great-inheritance-drain/    Our April blog about the Executive Order “eliminating” government paper checks: https://www.big-fintech.com/executive-order-to-eliminate-checks-isnt-worth-the-paper-its-printed-on/     BCG's 2025 Global Payments Report: https://www.bcg.com/publications/2025/global-payments-transformation-amid-instability    McKinsey's 2025 Global Payments Report: https://www.mckinsey.com/industries/financial-services/our-insights/global-payments-report    Join us for our next CU Town Hall- Wednesday October 15 at 3pm ET/Noon PT- for a live and lively interactive conversation tackling the major issues facing credit unions today. Quantum computing will be among the topics discussed this session, given HSBC's announced financial services breakthrough. The Town Hall is free to attend, but advance registration is required:  https://www.cutownhall.com/   Follow us on LinkedIn:  https://www.linkedin.com/company/best-innovation-group/   https://www.linkedin.com/in/jbfintech/  https://www.linkedin.com/in/glensarvady/

  In this episode, dive into the topic of assertiveness in communication. Highlight the importance of asserting oneself in both personal and professional settings without coming off as aggressive. Explore how individuals can overcome internal barriers and effectively communicate their boundaries and opinions. And lastly, gain insights into reframing their perspectives, using positive language, and building self-confidence to enhance their assertive communication skills.   We'll Talk About: 00:28 Understanding Assertiveness in Communication 02:30 Client Stories and Real-Life Examples 04:42 Overcoming Hesitations and Self-Doubt 10:21 Practical Tips for Assertive Communication     __________________________________________ Connect with Me Connect with me on LinkedIn From Zero Responses to Multiple Offers: Download The 5 Essential Steps Checklist Click here to learn about coaching Connect with Julianna: ⁠LinkedIn⁠ ⁠Newsletter signup⁠

Episode Summary:In this episode, Dr. Ali Novitsky, MD, your favorite obesity medicine doctor & fitness guru, continues her exploration of stress management, building on insights from previous episodes. She recaps the physiology of stress and the six identified stress types: Assertive, Control, Validation, Isolation, Catastrophizing, and Impulsivity. Understanding one's stress type is emphasized as crucial, since it allows individuals to tailor their approach to managing stress more effectively.Dr. Novitsky introduces a powerful tool: “Name It to Tame It.” By identifying and naming emotions, people can significantly reduce their intensity and regain control over stress levels. She shares a story about a child's first day at a new school, illustrating how naming feelings of anxiety helped her manage emotions more effectively.The discussion highlights the importance of noticing where emotions are felt in the body and how describing these sensations can be as effective as naming them. Dr. Novitsky encourages listeners to take 90 seconds to sit with their emotions, breathe, and practice mindfulness as a way to regulate emotional responses.Breathwork is presented as a simple yet powerful strategy for emotional regulation, and Dr. Novitsky encourages the audience to integrate this practice. As the episode concludes, listeners are reminded to take the stress type test linked in the show notes, which will be helpful for the ongoing series. She also announces the upcoming Transform 10 program—focused on emotional regulation and stress management, beginning in January.Dr. Ali invites everyone to continue exploring these vital topics together and to discover ways to transform stress into a superpower.Time Stamps:00:00:00 - Introduction to Stress ManagementAn overview of the podcast series on stress, including previous episodes and the importance of understanding stress types.00:01:11 - The Six Stress TypesDiscussion of the six identified stress types: Assertive, Control, Validation, Isolation, Catastrophizing, and Impulsivity.00:02:05 - Stress as a Health PriorityThe significance of stress management and its acceptance compared to physical health issues.00:03:19 - Name It to Tame ItIntroduction of the tool for emotional awareness and regulation, emphasizing the importance of naming emotions.00:04:11 - Real-Life Application: A Personal StoryA personal anecdote about the host's daughter experiencing anxiety on her first day at a new school.00:06:00 - The Power of Naming EmotionsExplaining how identifying emotions can reduce their intensity and help in managing stress.00:08:07 - Describing Physical SensationsThe importance of recognizing and describing physical sensations associated with emotions.00:10:05 - Emotional Processing and Family DynamicsInsights into family discussions about emotions and the role of shared experiences in emotional regulation.00:12:05 - The 90-Second RuleExplaining the significance of the 90-second timeframe for processing emotions and the role of breathwork.00:13:43 - Breathwork TechniquesIntroduction to breathwork as a tool for emotional regulation and its accessibility in various situations.00:15:10 - Engaging in Fun Breathing ExercisesA light-hearted approach to practicing breathwork with family to enhance emotional regulation.00:17:39 - The Superpower of Emotional AwarenessEncouragement to embrace emotional awareness and the benefits of understanding one's feelings.00:18:31 - Upcoming Programs and ResourcesInformation about the Transform 10 program and the importance of enrolling for further support in stress management.Work with Dr. Ali

The Dog Whisperer, Cesar Millan is known for his "Cesar's Way" philosophy, which emphasizes achieving a balanced relationship between humans and dogs through "calm-assertive energy.” But did you know this same philosophy can help you with just about every relationship you have in your life? Millan has helped thousands of people with their dogs, but has also helped them become better humans in the process.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Dog Whisperer, Cesar Millan is known for his "Cesar's Way" philosophy, which emphasizes achieving a balanced relationship between humans and dogs through "calm-assertive energy.” But did you know this same philosophy can help you with just about every relationship you have in your life? Millan has helped thousands of people with their dogs, but has also helped them become better humans in the process.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The Dog Whisperer, Cesar Millan is known for his "Cesar's Way" philosophy, which emphasizes achieving a balanced relationship between humans and dogs through "calm-assertive energy.” But did you know this same philosophy can help you with just about every relationship you have in your life? Millan has helped thousands of people with their dogs, but has also helped them become better humans in the process.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Episode SummaryDr. Ali Novitsky, MD—physician, obesity medicine specialist, and strength-focused coach—dives into six dominant stress types and how spotting yours helps you regulate at the source. Drawing on years of coaching high-achieving women (especially physicians), Ali explains why addressing root stress beats symptom management, how to get “out of your head and into your body,” and what practical resets look like in real life. Expect clear examples, quick-start tools, and a compassionate, muscle-first approach to sustainable health.The Six Ditress Types (Quick Guide)Impulsivity — Acts fast to end discomfort; struggles to pause, risking burnout. *Try:* micro-pauses, urge surfing, 60–90s delay before action.Validation — Seeks external approval; second-guesses self. *Try:* self-validation scripts, “good-enough” reps, boundary micro-steps.Catastrophizing — Jumps to worst-case; superb risk-spotter but anxious. *Try:* evidence checks, bounded “worry windows,” solution sprints.Isolation — Pulls inward to avoid vulnerability; reliable yet guarded. *Try:* one safe share/day, grounding in the body, scheduled reconnects.Control — Tightens rules and plans; rigid when life shifts. *Try:* 90% plan experiments, two-option flexibility drills.Assertive — “Fix it now” mode; can read as aggressive. *Try:* wait–observe–act protocols, clarifying questions first.Why This Matters* Early regulation > downstream damage. Catch your pattern before it drives overeating, overworking, people-pleasing, or doom planning.* Not your personality. A stress type is a *trainable* response, not your identity.* Better teams & relationships. Shared language around stress patterns creates harmony and effectiveness.Ali's Approach* Root-first: regulate stress before chasing outcomes.* Muscle-first: prioritize strength for longevity, energy, and metabolic health (especially 35+).* Personalized: plans that honor genetics, life stage, and mindset—sometimes the work is muscle-building, sometimes body acceptance, sometimes gentle resets.Key Takeaways* Name your dominant type and two “early tells.”* Pair each tell with a tiny, body-based reset.* Progress is seasonal: adapt goals without judgment.* Community and safe coaching make change stick.Timestamps00:00 - What “stress types” are and why start here00:00:49 - Targeting root stress vs. symptom management00:01:20 - Regulate upfront to prevent reactive habits00:01:52 - Stress Type Quiz00:02:14 - Chronic stress and behavior/health00:02:35 - Regulated vs. chronic stress00:02:45 -How these six types emerged from real-world coaching00:03:39 - The TRANSFORM concept: body-first regulation00:04:21 - Patterns among high-achieving women00:06:10 -Catastrophizing vs. Numbness00:06:42 - Dominant vs. secondary patterns00:07:04 - Using your type in daily life00:07:35 - Using types to improve relationships/teams00:08:20 -Types ≠ personality labels00:09:02 - Control (expectations & flexibility)00:13:01 - Impulsivity (build the pause muscle)00:15:09 - Validation (approve from within)00:19:09 - Catastrophizing (turn it into problem-solving)00:21:10 - Isolation (safe vulnerability)00:26:01 - Assertive (act without reactivity)00:30:08 - Recap of all six types + first steps00:31:04 - Common triggers by type & targeted resets00:32:18 - TRANSFORM 10.0 overview00:33:00 - What's next: research, tools, and supportWork with Dr. Ali

The Dog Whisperer, Cesar Millan is known for his "Cesar's Way" philosophy, which emphasizes achieving a balanced relationship between humans and dogs through "calm-assertive energy.” But did you know this same philosophy can help you with just about every relationship you have in your life? Millan has helped thousands of people with their dogs, but has also helped them become better humans in the process.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Negotiation coach and author Saad A Saad joins Doug to rethink what “the ask” really means—why win-win isn't always wise, how to thrive even with less power, and why tension isn't the enemy but the spark of creativity.Most people think negotiation is stressful or adversarial. But Saad reframes it asan outcome-based conversation—something we're all in daily, whether with clients, colleagues, or family. We dive into why “dominate or be dominated” is outdated, how over-indexing on win-win kills creativity, and why the real skill shows when you're negotiating from a power disadvantage. Saad also shares his framework from In the Lead: Mastering Your Sales Negotiation—a six-principle model that balances assertiveness and empathy like the two wheels of a bike.TL;DR* Negotiation = outcome-based conversation—happens every day, not just in boardrooms.* Win-lose damages trust, but pure win-win leads to weak, uncreative outcomes.* Power imbalances matter less than you think—focus on clarity of outcome.* Tension and friction aren't threats—they're the conditions for respect and innovation.* Assertive empathy: be ambitious in your ask and genuinely curious about the other side.* Context is king: sales, hostage talks, and family dinners require different tools.Memorable lines* “Anytime you're trying to reach an outcome, you're in a negotiation.”* “If you over-index on win-win, you become less ambitious and less creative.”* “Friction isn't failure—it's the fuel for better outcomes.”GuestSaad A Saad — Negotiation expert, sales coach, and author of In the Lead: Mastering Your Sales Negotiation.LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/saadasaad/Why this mattersWhether you're closing a deal, pitching an investor, or discussing chores at home, negotiation is everywhere. Reframing it as outcome-based—and learning to balance advocacy with empathy—lets you push for better results without burning bridges.Don't just “hope” your conversations land—design them. Grab Saad's book In the Lead on Amazon, connect with him on LinkedIn, and the next time you're in a negotiation—big or small—practice assertive empathy. Book: https://a.co/d/6AkbgX3Call To ActionIf this hit—don't scroll past it. Take the Second Life Leader Quiz to see where you're powerful, where you're blocked, and what to do next: leaderquiz.app. Then share this with one man who's rebuilding.https://leaderquiz.app This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit www.dougutberg.com

Today's lively discussion is primarily focusing on the concept of assertiveness. Eric and his guests share personal anecdotes, including one individual's significant weight loss journey achieved through healthy eating, and another's experience meeting renowned entrepreneur Gary Vaynerchuk. A significant portion of the conversation explores the nuances of assertiveness in various contexts, particularly in sales and client interactions, distinguishing it from aggression or passivity. The group further illustrates assertiveness through a humorous story about a difficult client and also mentions the qualities that billionaires share, as described by a coach. Key Takeaways: Understand that assertiveness is about confident self-expression, not aggression or being pushy. Actively seek out and place yourself in positions that offer learning and opportunity. Communicate clearly and confidently to establish certainty and efficiently manage time for all parties. Challenge any negative beliefs you hold about being assertive, recognizing its positive impact on your life and interactions. Avoid making assumptions about others' capabilities and instead, confidently present all available options.

How to help children to be more assertive and self-confident, without being demanding and aggressive.

Do you ever feel like someone twists your words to make you the problem? Or maybe they guilt-trip you with, “After everything I've done for you…” Or act “concerned” just to control your choices? These aren't just frustrating behaviors—these are psychological manipulation tactics designed to make you doubt yourself, feel guilty, and stay compliant. In this episode of The Positivity Xperience, we're breaking down:

Struggle with saying “no” at work? You're not alone. In this episode, career coach and talent acquisition manager Adeline Callanan joins us to break down what assertive communication really looks like—and how to build the skill without sounding aggressive.You'll learn: ✅ How to speak up without being seen as “difficult” ✅ Simple language shifts that boost your confidence ✅ Nonverbal cues that support (or sabotage) your messageShow NotesWeekly Newsletter Sign-Up: http://bit.ly/37hqtQW Guest Resources:Work with Adeline: https://www.careercontessa.com/hire-a-mentor/profile/Adeline-(Gheorghita)Callanan/21903/ 10% off a session with Adeline with code “Podcast” till 9/25/25Career Contessa ResourcesBook 1:1 career coaching session: https://www.careercontessa.com/hire-a-mentor/ Take an online course: https://www.careercontessa.com/education/ Get your personalized salary report: https://www.careercontessa.com/the-salary-project/ SponsorsStop putting off those doctors appointments and go to zocdoc.com/contessa to find and instantly book a top-rated doctor today.Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/careercontessa. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, we're discussing the real, raw, and essential skills that every woman needs to navigate midlife with grace, grit, and a whole lot of self-compassion. We've been through the highs, the lows, the chutes and ladders of this season, and today we're pulling back the curtain to share the seven foundational skills we believe every woman should know to not just survive, but thrive. These are the skills we teach in our Midlife Master Class, and the ones that have held us up through the toughest times. From boundary-setting and assertive communication to frustration tolerance, inner parts work, and energy protection—this conversation is packed with insights we've lived, taught, and continue to practice ourselves.  Episode Highlights:[0:02] - Why midlife is so hard—and why these 7 skills matter [2:46] - The highlight reel isn't the whole story (and why we cry behind the scenes) [6:12] - Boundaries: not just with others, but with yourself [9:03] - When your kid is in a toxic relationship (and you want to break up with them yourself) [13:44] - Self-care as a boundary: what it really looks like [14:00] - Assertive communication: the misunderstood superpower [21:10] - Frustration tolerance: why it belongs in your skillset [22:10] - What self-connected communication actually looks like [29:43] - Understanding and befriending your inner critic [31:10] - Why self-compassion isn't fluffy—it's essential [33:08] - Protecting your energy: from giving tree to grounded goddess [39:39] - The dance between being needed and being free [41:31] - Redefining resilience as a learned, practiced skill [46:02] - How changing your self-talk becomes your superpower [47:39] - Why doing this work in a group is so powerful (and how you can join us) If today's discussion resonated with you or sparked curiosity, please rate, follow, and share "Insights from the Couch" with others. Your support helps us reach more people and continue providing valuable insights. Here's to finding our purposes and living a life full of meaning and joy. Stay tuned for more!Come hang out with us in The Chat, our free community for midlife women, where we keep theconversation going at insightsfromthecouch.org/the-chat. And don't forget todownload our free guide 7 Skills to Master Midlife so you can stop living small, start taking action, andlive the life you really want at insightsfromthecouch.org/midlife-roadmap.

This is a Fan Fav episode. I'm diving deep with licensed therapist and boundary-building powerhouse Nedra Glover Tawwab to break down the sneaky, destructive patterns of gaslighting and how you can take your power back. If you've ever questioned your own sanity, found yourself apologizing when it's not your fault, or felt stuck replaying “should have said” conversations in your head—this is the episode you can't afford to miss. With Nedra's signature clarity, honesty, and actionable advice, we cover how to spot manipulation in real time, the critical difference between assertiveness and aggression, the core role childhood plays in our conflict style, and—most importantly—how to cultivate the unshakeable confidence to set boundaries and reclaim your peace. SHOWNOTES 00:00 – The subtle signs of gaslighting and how to spot manipulative behaviors early 00:53 – Building the confidence to stand up for yourself in toxic relationships 02:12 – Why questioning your own sanity may signal gaslighting—and how to reality-check yourself 05:23 – The hidden cost of always apologizing (even when it's not your fault) 07:35 – Classic gaslighting tactics: Deflection, lack of apology, and rewriting history 10:47 – The danger of taking on all the blame: Patterns, self-betrayal, and breaking the cycle 14:59 – How Nedra found the courage to finally stop apologizing for things that weren't hers 19:54 – Nedra's “practice makes progress” approach to building assertiveness 23:27 – Assertive vs. aggressive: How to stand up for yourself without crossing the line (and what to do when you're unfairly labeled) 27:58 – Breaking free from people-pleasing: Owning your preferences and ditching the need to “win” every fight FOLLOW NEDRA GLOVER TAWWAB: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nedratawab/ Website: https://www.nedratawab.com/ Book: Set Boundaries, Find Peace: https://www.nedratawab.com/set-boundaries-find-peace CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to https://www.vitalproteins.com and entering promo code WOI at check out.  SleepMe: Visit https://sleep.me/woi to get your Chilipad and save 20% with code WOI. Try it risk-free with their 30-night sleep trial and free shipping! Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at https://shopify.com/lisa OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at https://oneskin.co ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO WOMEN OF IMPACT AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS:⁠ ⁠ ⁠apple.co/womenofimpact⁠ ********************************************************************** FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/lisabilyeu/⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/lisabilyeu⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/womenofimpact⁠ Tik Tok: ⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@lisa_bilyeu?lang=en⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices