VTJ’s Corner

The horse by the water can die just because it's not willing to drink the water…similar to an unwilling spouse/partner in a relationship! When unwillingness is there, stagnancy is the order of the day! Are you willing to resolve?

Conflict that is unresolved holds so much danger and we explore those dangers today. Do not treat conflict like something you can just ignore and move on, it will come back to deal with you in the future! Resolve conflict!

As we hit the 3rd week of this matter, today we delve further into the best practices when resolving conflict. Remember that conflict ignored is not conflict resolved…let's strive to resolve!

Today we continue to give ways of resolving conflict. The cancer that exists when conflict is not resolved has destroyed many and avoid today by tackling issues that need to be tackled! LISTEN, ENJOY, SUBSCRIBE & SHARE

Resolving conflict is important in any relation & we dig into this today. Some great lessons will be shared on how to deal with conflict & successfully resolve it. LISTEN, ENJOY, SUBSCRIBE & SHARE (LESS

Conflict is what will happen in relationships and the best we can do for ourselves is to understand that these should be dealt with and not ignored. Let's dig into the conversation!

Differences exist between individuals even when they are together, therefore learning to embrace how different we are is imperative! We talk about why to embrace these differences and the benefits…LET's TALK!

Pride can be a big hindrance to asking and receiving help! Even in relationships, pride can play a big role in hindering help from happening. Let's talk about how to receive and give help to each other in a relationship…LET's TALK!

Many times we react to consequences of our responses than to plan how to respond correctly to situations in relationships. Before you respond to any difference or challenge, have you ever asked yourself: “How does this help the situation?” That question can save you many mishaps and unpleasant consequences…LET's TALK!

Do not let emotion driven by bad experiences overshadow you from seeing help that is there for you! Many have missed the help they need because they were justified by how they felt at a certain time. LET's TALK!

Many times we wait for the perfect things, not knowing that some things need to build by us to reach the level we require. Relationships don't come perfect…we have to build each other to get there! LET's TALK!

Hearing is for receiving words but listening is for receiving understanding! Many struggle with listening in relationships moreover because we don't make the time to listen! In many instances, had we listened, many strides would be avoided…LET's TALK!

The matter of trust is such an important one in relationships & when broken, ignorance does not rebuild it! When trust is broken, we must deal with the right things to build again…LET's TALK!

Relationships will experience challenges, before responding to them, always remember that what you plant in any moment of will always bear fruit…the question is: Will you enjoy the fruit when it finally grows? Think on this before you plant…LET'a TALK!

When a problem arises in a relationship, be careful not to attend to everything & everyone else and still miss the real problem! It is important to understand what is the problem & not allow it to persist!

In relationships, people can be careless in how they speak & that can cause wounds that take long to heal! As you open your mouth, think about the consequences of what you are about to say…what are they?

If you don't know your value in your spouse's life, you might downplay the need for your words & strength to them! Have an eye to see the need to refill the strength & hope of your spouse in the journey of relationships…we delve deeper into this today! LET's TALK!

Relationships will go through challenges and such is the nature of life, but these can also be survived! Some vulnerability goes into today's episode as we talk about storms and surviving them in a relationship. LET'S TALK!

So many times, we can avoid critical conversations because we want to create some peace, this can be false peace when we sweep things under the carpet. We talk the consequences of the carpet in the house…LET's TALK!

One of the most important things in any relationship is vulnerability. It does not only depend on the one telling but also on the one being told to create and maintain an atmosphere that promotes vulnerability. Today we deal with that safe space existing in relationships…LET'S TALK!

As we continue in relationships, it is important to understand that time doesn't stop and we continue to grow as individuals & as a couple! As that growth happens, it's important to grow together & understand each other's growths.

It can be very easy to always pick up the things that are not going well in a relationship, but we need to consciously build the mind to look out for the good and celebrate it! Be intentional about celebrating the good taking place in your relationship!

When differences arise in relationships, we can quickly attack each other, drive our points & never really deal with the problem. When tackling the challenge, let us strive to diffuse it, not to deal with each other.

When in a relationship, we both come with strengths & weaknesses, but many destroy each other by magnifying weaknesses than strengths! Is your strength not there to cover your spouse's weakness? LET's TALK!

In relationships, as we journey together, we can hurt each other and cause pain at times, but the greatest danger is moving on and building on top of the pain without resolving it! When pain is unresolved, it evolves! Let's talk about it here!

In relationships, we can often find ourselves in the temptation of “giving a taste of your own medicine”…we discuss how destructive such an approach can be & the disaster that a relationship can find itself in. Let's talk!

The mindset in any relationship should be to build! Whatever you put into your relationship, ask yourself this question: “Will it build or destroy?” Let's take a journey on this important conversation on building solid relationships!

At times in a relationship, we can fail to recognise & acknowledge the strength of our spouses, thus failing the relationship from benefitting. Today we deal being together in our strengths and our weaknesses.

The role of a mirror in our lives is often to show us a reflection of ourselves, how we look & what we ought to adjust! Today we talk the importance of reflection in relationships...ENJOY!

One of the greatest things in relationships that we often see deteriorate is communication! When we don't talk to each other, we can be sure that our grown will diminish. Today we tackle the importance of talking!

Many a times in a relationship, we can easily forget to grow together & we leave our spouses behind without knowing. Today we tackle this important subject as we ask “Are you growing together so you can go together?”

So many times, relationships climbs mountains that could have been avoided and go down valleys that could have been averted all because we can't say “I AM SORRY”! Today we can't about the importance & power of these 3 words in any relationship. TAKE A LISTEN!

The output of any relationship is determined by the input of the people in the relationship! It is hypocritical to expect what you did not put in, therefore the big question is “What do you wanna taste at the end?” Listen to this great podcast and pick up something for you!

The need of forgiveness in a relationship cannot be sidelined as the lack of it has caused so many relationships to break down. Today we deal with this very important matter and hoping it will bring better reflection and change.

Many relationships have suffered because we have raised the volume over the bad and made SILENCE LOUDER over the good! This has eventually killed the value in the good of many relationships. That's what we deal with in this episode today.

So many times in relationships, we ignore what builds up over time to become our source of death...all because we deal with issues on the surface! Today we talk about dealing with the roots, not just the fruits!

So many times we sacrifice honesty in relationships because we just want some “peace”, but at the end of the day that works against us! Today we tackle the matter of honest being critical in relationships!

Relationships have got some similarities to equations! And today we explore some relationship lessons learnt from the concept of equations as we focus on the arrival to the answer.

A continuation on the “Work Behind Relationships” as we look at the importance of working on yourself for the benefit of the relationship. Do not be lazy to do some work on you!

So many of us desire the “pictured-life” but we are not willing to put the real work in relationships! This episode brings us to understand that nothing just makes itself, there's work behind the pictures!

The foundation is the most important part of any building and such is the truth even about relationships! We talk the importance of the right foundation in relationships.

Relationships & the health of such really influence our lives and choices we make in a great way! As we journey into this new season, we talk all things relationships and we delve into some of the building blocks of healthy relationships. Tag along and let's enjoy this journey together!

So many times we have found ourselves fitting into the acceptable definitions placed around our lives and that has caused a possible limitation on who & what we could be. Today we take the step to Re-DEFINE those and build a new definitions around us!

We often spend much time building ourselves around other people and their expectations and very little time on ourselves. Well, this week we invite you to spend time on knowing, building and investing in you!

So many times we stand back watching others make the most of what they have and we wish we were them, meanwhile the entire time we are losing what we have! This episode speaks to exactly that...making the most with what you have!

The fear to visit the place we have failed has gripped so many of us and has thus halted our progress in so many ways. Today we chat about the use of failure to contribute to my progress and dealing with the shame of failure!

Welcome to our first conversation of 2021 as we delve into a light but important one...dealing with the understanding of following through into manifesting what we always put down in the beginning of the year. Enjoy this one and FOLLOW-THROUGH!

As we wrap up our conversation on insecurities, we deal with the importance of opening up concerning our insecurities and how that benefits us and those around us.

One of the hardest things is to be led by someone who is insecure about your success or growth! This week we speak of exactly that and some of the challenges involved in having insecurities in leadership!

There are times where insecurity is revealed when there's failure to celebrate another's success! Well today that becomes the core of our conversation as we deal with insecurities that stem from being anti-celebratory to another's success!

One of the things that gives us a challenge when dealing with insecurities is the evidence we gather! This VTJ tackles a conversation on the evidence we gather when it comes to our insecurities.