What the Hell?!

Cancel culture (or call-out culture) is a modern form of ostracism in which someone is thrust out of social or professional circles—whether it be online, on social media, or in person. Those who are subject to this ostracism are said to have been "canceled.” But is this constructive? Have we overcorrected? Should we be canceling voices or attempting to educate them? That is the question.

A new year = new podcast updates! While we took 2020 to kick this baby off, we spent December and January reflecting on what we’ve talked about, what we want to talk about, and how to make each episode more accessible to YOU, our listeners and friends. INTRODUCING: Verticals Going forward, each episode will be categorized into 1 of 5 verticals so you know exactly what broader umbrella that episode falls under. Happenings Personals Deconstruction Scandalous Betterment Listen in this week for a breakdown of what each vertical covers. Today’s episode falls under BETTERMENT. … Goals Prompts I want to quit… I want to start… I want to learn… I want to try… I want to have… I want to continue to… I’m going to stop… I’m going to be… Other prompts we didn’t get to in the episode: What are you leaving in the past? (3 answers) If you want to watch the episode on YouTube, here is the link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eMByKFgkPtQ

They say you only know who your partner is when you’ve gone through the worst of times with them. We can safely say an international pandemic is one of the absolute worst of times.Some relationships are thriving. Some are crumbling. Some are taking it day by day and not placing judgment on how each member of a relationship are dealing with it. But one question’s for sure: How the hell are we making it at all (or not….)? This week, Brittany is celebrating her 14th wedding anniversary and her own relationship is top of mind. We’re talking through what the news is saying and what we’re experiencing in episode 31, live now.

Hi, hello, Holidays, weren’t you here just 3 months ago? WHAT A WASH this year has been. Now that Christmas is upon us once again, this week we’re diving into our religious family traditions growing up and what our traditions look like now—if at all. We also weigh in on the objectively best Christmas song and if you disagree with us you just can’t because, like we said, it’s OBJECTIVE. Take a trip down Christmas Candy Cane Memory Lane with us as these 2 Grinches reminisce and try to find our holiday spirit. Where the actual hell are you, Christmas? Faith Hill, Cindy Lou Who, and WE would like to know.

It’s been 6 weeks since we’ve talked at you, and boy has a lot happened. On our 29th episode, Brittany and Tiffany are filling you in on why we went mum for a bit, plus sharing our thoughts on the world’s most powerful women ( the VP elect and Bachelorette, of course). It’s good to be back. Let’s keep making some hell.

If we were to look up the definition of the word passion in the dictionary, we wouldn’t have presupposed the 2nd entry would have religious connotations. But alas, it does, we cannot escape our pasts. Ha! Passion is something we struggle with to some extent. Do we have it? Do we have enough of it? What the hell…even…IS it? This week on the show, we’re doing our best to get to the bottom of those questions the best way we know how: with a secondhand internet quiz, of course. Want to find out your own passion score? Take the quiz along with us here: QUIZ: How passionate are you? https://www.livehappy.com/practice/quiz-how-passionate-are-you

We weren’t the only one asking “What the hell?!” this week! Our conversation in episode 24 of what we were raised to believe led into episodes 25 and 26 where we talked about how we began to and have deconstructed our faiths to date. On episode 27, Brittany and Tiffany are reacting to your reactions, and also sharing the reactions you wrote into us and the questions and thoughts the shows triggered. Tune in to see if we covered yours. And as always, thank you for the interactions, responses, conversations, reviews, and ratings. We started this for us. We’re continuing it with you. WTH?!

WOW.Thank you so much for your positive and challenging responses to episodes 24 and 25! In episode 24, we explained what the hell we were taught to believe about God, faith, and Christianity, and in episode 25, Brittany took us through the life markers that have radically changed her POV. If you haven’t listened yet, head back to those before listening to episode 26.On this week’s episode, it’s Tiffany’s turn. From a crisis of science to a crisis of logic to a crisis of social issues and ultimately a crisis of faith, she’s sharing the times what she was taught to believe was challenged and how her perspective has ultimately taken her away from the system she was raised in.LINKSFor the Bible Tells Me So documentaryCrazy Love - Francis ChanLove Wins - Rob BellPeter Rollins

At long last…. Brittany’s story. Of belief, disbelief, and deconstruction. As promised, we’re 2 besties questioning life since the ’80s. …And now publicly questioning it since 2020. On the last episode, we described a lot of the major tenets we were taught to believe growing up protestant evangelical Christian Pentecostals. Now we’re getting into Brittany’s experience: what she doesn’t believe anymore and some of the whys…the questions that started popping up and the answers she started seeking. As you’ll hear, there may be more questions than ever, but at least there’s a lot less fear. (This ep is also a bit on the longer side clocking in at 01:29:02 …but to be fair, who’s faith ~*jOuRnEy*~ isn’t?) This is a vulnerable conversation for us to have. It’s exposing. There’s a fair share of caution that plays out when publicly declaring that what you formerly declared (or were taught to declare) about life, the world, and your beliefs isn’t where you stand anymore. But it’s also freeing, to not hide and to be honest. We’re better for it. Thanks for joining us in the conversation. As always, we love hearing yours. Britt—let’s get REAL real.

All right, folks. This whole “pandemic” and “State of Emergency” doesn’t seem to be going anywhere (the quotations are really a double sarcastic joke because there quite literally IS a pandemic and a State of Emergency and, you see, the joke is there without the quotation marks but when you tack them on it’s a double helping, you see?) so we decided it’s finally time to circle back to how and why we started this podcast to begin with: We are two 30-something-year-old women who were born and raised in the Protestant Christian Evangelical Pentecostal Assemblies of God faith and it’s high time we broke down for you what that means and what we believed, which now, all these years later, still informs and influences how we see the world. This is definitely a pivotal episode, a bit of a prologue and/or caveat to all of our conversations. Thanks for listening, and we truly do hope this provides some insight into either your own experiences or maybe someone’s who you know and love.

Brittany:Terrible Amazon laying out chair that I love and hate.Air FryerInflatable Hot tubMini FridgeLoungewear (oversized boyfriend t shirts from Aerie, Bicycle shorts for working out and leisure (Liked the target brand) and fabletics leggings (squat proof)The Ordinary Products (Buffet, Niacinamide and Hyaluronic acid)Hair Products - Vegamour Gro Serum, Kristin Essie Scalp Purifying Micellar ShampooGroceries - Jimmy Deans Eggwich breakfast sandwichVideo Game - Last of Us Part 2Tiffany:10. That same Amazon laying out chair that Brittany got that I love/hate9. Air fryer: this is mine, don’t buy it! (I tell you why on the show.)8. Fancy cheap kabuki brush7. Pineapple corer (on multiple recommendations)6. Gotta listen!5. Pantothenic Acid, B-3, listen in to find out WHY4. Still gotta listen!3. Fabletics lounge bras (bought one after being sold out forever, told a friend about it, manifested it in black, it’s on its way)…if you ask nicely on IG, I’ll link you . ;)2. White Fragility: Why it’s so hard for white people to talk about racism1. The buy to beat them all…go listen!

It took these 2 white women our entire lives to learn about Juneteenth, its significance, historical implications—even its EXISTENCE. This week on the pod, we’re breaking down just a few of the elements of the Black Lives Matter movement we have been ignorant to and poorly educated on and some of the ways we’re going to try to do better and know more. Our hearts are heavy with our black friends and family members and communities. We are white. We are sorry for our silent “non-racism.” And we’re committed to being anti-racists and raising them.

A NOTE FROM THE HOSTS:This episode of What the Hell?! was recorded before the horrific act of unjustice through the police murder of George Floyd in Minnesota. This is a time, as it always is, to amplify black voices, for non-Black communities to unlearn all the ways we are complicit in racism, and raise a generation of anti-racists beneath us to recognize Black lives matter and behave as such.Many of us are marching, but due to the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic, we know not every Black person or ally. Click here for 47 organizations you can donate to right now to support Black lives via @biancaxgarcia. Our next Amazon impulse buys can wait.

On our 20th episode of What the Hell?! we’re talking about birth control, our experiences with it, when we started and why, and some of the more controversial types (or is it) we’ve dabbled in (cough, Plan B, cough) plus of course covering all the reasons we need it…and despise it.On the list of Necessary Evils, you’re pretty high, BC.

We learned it in Sunday school…the body is a temple. So does that make our faces the steeple? (If this doesn’t prompt you to interlace you’re fingers, flip them upside down, wiggle them around and exclaim “Where’s all the people!,” do you even Jesus?)On this episode of What the Hell, we’re breaking down our skincare routines and giving you the DL on not only our top picks from skin to eyes to lips, but also touching on the why of our regimens, our skin insecurities, and what we think men should be doing to take care of their skin. HINT: sunscreen is king, your ear entryway could be showing its butt (and by that we mean wrinkles).

From pre-production to post, the difference between scripted and unscripted, and the ethics of putting together a reality TV show, this week we’re talking about our experiences in Hollywooooood!

Welp, Brittany and Tiffany took a week off…or was it a year? What is time anymore, TBQH. We don’t know.But what we do know is the headlines these past 2 weeks from the rich, the famous, and the otherwise have been notable, at least for the time being. We’re covering everything from Tik Tok dances to the Be Kind Kween Ellen De Generes’s public backlash to the best trash TV around, and YOU are cordially invited.

It’s our Sweet 16(th episode)!While still chatting from afar, Brittany and Tiffany are taking to the interwebs to procure questions for each other we’ve never thought of before. Try out these Quarantine Questions with your BFF during your next FaceTime happy hour and spend a few blissful minutes with us pretending the world. isn’t. happening.

Oh haiiiiiiii, me. It’s really nice to see you and only you for the last 2+ weeks. Haven’t had enough of you, TELL ME EVERYTHING!!!https://apps.apple.com/us/app/supercook-recipe-by-ingredient/id1477747816*CRINGE* At this point we’re honestly pretty sick of ourselves so we’re at least trying to be productive by intentionally and sometimes accidentally learning new things! From how to store perishable vegetables for insane lengths of time to homeschooling and no-more underestimating the importance of sunshine, Brittany and Tiffany are filling each other in on all the things they’re learning while in Coronavirus lockdown.

We’re experiencing the first international pandemic (redundant?) of our generation and this week we’re hitting on the ways our first-world lives have changed, what we’re doing to cope with quarantine, and the ways we hope to positively change our lifestyles when we’re able to get back to our lifestyles.Episode 14 is all about our current twilight zones, a little touch on the rapture and the mark of the beast, and our new norms…for now.

People talk a lot about regrets and in a certain way that is what this episode is about.But there’s more to it than that. At some point or another you’ve probably been asked the question, “If you could go back and give your younger self advice, what would it be?” Yet today our challenge is to apologize to our younger usses. What do we owe our past selves a giant “I’m sorry” for? (This goes beyond Tiffany’s Kelly Clarkson bleach blonde stripes of 2002, just FYI).) What did we do to us—or not do to us—that deserves amends? Episode 13 is coming in hot with the whoopsies. But as a great tattoo artist once said: NO RAGRETS.

Old habits die hard.When we hit our 20s and moved away from home, we both still kept going to church, immersing ourselves in the Christian culture we always knew. Brittany went to a Christian university and Tiffany didn’t. But we both still kept Christianity close by finding a way to make our doubts fit into our belief system….Until

It was the best of times. It was the worst of times.... It was the ‘90s, our childhoods, and we were growing up immersed in Christian culture. From Psalty to Superbook, WWJD bracelets to charismatic revivals, lockins to THINGS JUST NOT MAKING SENSE (what the hell was up with tracts?!) these are the moments that punctuated our milestones in ep. 11, available now!•What are your favorite and/or oddly memorable Christian culture trends from the 1990s?

Aging seems to terrorize a lot of us, especially women. From the passing of beauty to cognitive decline and beyond, it’s a universal fear we can’t always conquer. So what IS it about aging that scares us so much? And how is it different for men and women?“That’s what I love about these high school girls. I get older, they stay the same age.” Matthew McConaughey immortalized this line in Dazed and Confused and as all of us former high school girls have aged, it’s replayed itself like a horrifying broken record in our heads ever since.We’re breaking it down in our 10th episode of What the Hell?! Can you believe our little podcast has already aged this far?! That’s one thing we’re NOT afraid of.

Depression is one of those things you might never understand until you experience it…and even then it’s confusing as hell. Tiffany and Brittany are disclosing their experiences with depression, both the “regular” kind and postpartum in this episode, along with their own misconceptions about the illness and the ways they’ve found to cope with coping.“Depression is a common illness, affecting more than 350 million people of all ages around the world. It’s currently the number one cause of disability, and is predicted to be the number one global burden of disease by 2030. “ - National Alliance on Mental Illnesshttps://www.nami.org/Blogs/NAMI-Blog/January-2018/Let-s-Talk-AbUnderstanding depression in a friend or family member:https://www.helpguide.org/articles/depression/helping-someone-with-depression.htmPostpartum commercial being pulled from the Oscarshttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3GePXGfRP04&feature=emb_logoJames Corden was seen being towed while filming 'Carpool Karaoke' and fans are upsethttps://www.cnn.com/2020/01/24/entertainment/james-corden-carpool-karaoke-trnd/index.html

Another Wednesday, another What the Hell?! The true crime entertainment genre isn’t exactly new but it has been explosive in the last 5+ years. But is this okay? Do consumers have an ethical responsibility not to consume? Do creators have an ethical responsibility not to create? Or is there something morally wrong with being entertained by another human’s plight?We’re diving deep on these questions today and would love for you to weigh in. Is true crime as entertainment wrong? Or horribly right?

In the second installment of this major conversation, Brittany and Tiffany move past the conversation of why we got married so young and into the realm of what marriage looks like, or doesn’t, for us all these years later. NOT TO BE MISSED. But if you didn’t listen to Pt. 1, go back to episode 6 to catch up!

In the first of a 2-part episode, Brittany and Tiffany attempting to answer the question “Why the hell did I get married so young?” But pump the breaks—we BOTH got married super young (to other people), at the ripe old age of 20 to be exact. This convo is a real mind bender and 12 and 13 years after we both made vows at the age of 20, we also brought to the surface conclusions that had never occurred to us before. Turns out TALKING ABOUT STUFF helps you DEAL WITH STUFF. Go figure.

This week, we’re breaking down the movies from the 1980s and 1990s that made us who we are. From Forrest Gump to Anne of Greene Gables, Disney everything and Devon Sawa fantasies, we grew up in one of the greatest eras of film and are taking a nostalgic trip down memory lane….Top 3 Links:TOP 3:1. www.instagram.com/InfluencersInTheWild_: a new page by Tanks Good News celebrating “content culture” — it’s the behind the scenes images of people trying to capture the perfect images. And it’s hilarious.2. According to @WiredUK on Twitter, there are #DigitalEtiquette rules we should be following. Let’s take a look at those.3. Mindhunter, only the best semi-true crime semi-scripted show of the last several years, might not come back. David Fincher has decided he wants to pursue other projects so in the meantime has released all of the cast from their options. SAY IT AIN’T SO!

What’s more American than insisting our children pick an entire life and career trajectory at the wisened old age of 18?! This week, Brittany and Tiffany are breaking down how and why we got into the careers we’re in, plus what we would do differently if we could.BONUS: We open up with a get-to-know you speed round of 20 questions you don’t want to miss and our weekly top 3 at the end of the episode! If you haven’t yet, thank you for rating and reviewing What the Hell?! on Apple Podcasts. We like you a whole lot.

The research about body awareness shows that most women’s recollection of first becoming aware of their bodies was in tandem with a shame response. WHAT THE HELL IS UP WITH THAT?!Unfortunately, it’s pretty true for both Brittany and Tiffany as well and this week we’re remembering each of our circumstances surrounding body awareness from childhood and how those situations carried over into our adult lives. Plus, as a mom, Brittany hits on how she is raising her daughter and son to hopefully have a different experience from hers.LINKS!20 Ways to Be a Happier Person in 2020, According to TherapistsTHIS WEEK’S TOP 3:The Pope Slaps a Woman!2020 Wellness Horoscopes to Guide the Year AheadThe Chair Challenge Resurfaces

For the better part of a decade, we’ve both forged a path without living anywhere remotely near blood relatives. This week, we’re talking about the challenges (and some positives) this life choice leaves us with.Weekly Top 3 Links:Tired of all the negative news in the world? Same. Check out Tank’s Good News.

1 | What the hell is this podcast?!Meet Brittany.Meet Tiffany.↠ 2 besties↠ 1 upbringing...Navigating life and pop culture influenced by a childhood we (mostly) left behindFollow us on Instagram at @whatthehell.podcast