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Until we understand the real differences in what compels our behavior, especially under stress, we'll keep bringing out the worst in each other. And never experience the real beauty of both men and women. - Alison Armstrong   Get 15% off your CURED Nutrition order with the code WELLNESSFORCE   ---> Get The Morning 21 System: A simple and powerful 21 minute system designed to give you more energy to let go of old weight and live life well.   JOIN THE FACEBOOK GROUP | *REVIEW THE PODCAST*   Wellness Force Radio Episode 364 Author, Educator, Founder of PAX Programs, and Creator of the widely acclaimed Understanding Men and Understanding Women transformational online series, Alison Armstrong, unpacks the core differences between women and men, explains The Tunnel concept that we sometimes face on our way to self-actualization, what the hunting-operating mode actually is and why women can find it confusing plus what sex actually means for men and women on both biological and psychological levels.   How can we love one another more? How can we give each other the space, emotional bandwidth, and really just the special care that all of us deserve as men and women?     By the end of this podcast, men and women will be able to understand both themselves and one another better. ION*Biome Gut Health *Get 15% off of your ION*Biome order with the code JOSH1KS  ION*Gut Health is a gut-strengthening, brain-boosting mineral supplement sourced from 60-million-year-old soil that naturally supports microbiome balance. The active ingredient, Terrahydrite®, has been shown to support the integrity of tight junctions in the gut lining, even in the face of damage from toxins such as glyphosate. ION*Gut Health goes beyond other supplements to support your wellbeing at a foundational level. By laying that foundation with ION*Gut Health, you aren’t just supplementing; you're supporting. Keeping Your Gut Healthy It’s a critical barrier to keep strong so that a vibrant microbiome can flourish. Good health depends entirely on gut health because a lot more than digestion happens in the gut. It’s also where proper immune system function begins and the majority of our neurotransmitters, such as serotonin, are created. Say yes to ION*Gut Health and you are saying yes to optimal gut-brain connectivity and feel-good transmissions, protection from the toxins we face every day in our air, water, and food, immune function, digestive wellness, and supported gluten tolerance. *Discount code cannot be applied to subscription orders   Listen To Episode 364 As Alison Armstrong Uncovers:   [1:30] The Core Difference Between Men & Women ION*Biome PAX Programs Alison Armstrong Understanding Men Understanding Women The Queen's Code Keys to the Kingdom Never Be Ignored by a Man Again Unpacking the core, fundamental difference between men and women including how we lovingly (or unlovingly) trigger each other. Why women search for the answer to know how they can get a man to do something or to stop doing something. The importance of getting curious about why a person does or doesn't do something in the first place. Topics that come up a lot during Josh's Men's Group including specifically conflict and the ego. Our understanding of identity and how it can flex depending on the scenarios we experience every day. Why we all have an identity that is associated with our gender and ethnicity. What women think it means to be a woman and why it's so layered for them. Exploring the ancient instincts we have installed within the body.   [17:00] Unpacking The Instincts We Already Have Embodied Exploring the instincts that have been passed down to us for generations that makes us who we are. Why hormones literally shape our perception. Breaking down why we cannot embody love if we do not embody our highest values first. Teal Swan Echkart Tolle Why women think that men are doing everything from a position of power, that they have that power, and that they are abusing that power. What women don't realize about men and how much they affect them and how much a man will do to make them happy. Her advice to men: 95% of a woman being happy is up to her, it's not up to you. Why women don't realize that there's actually so much that men do for them.   [22:00] The Hunting-Operating Mode Exploring the misunderstanding of the hunting-operating mode and what it's actually all about. Why men and women both take things so personally from their relationships with one another. The different eras of male-female relationships that she has lived through as well as studied. Unpacking the eras of male-female relationships: emotionally unavailable, unhealthy, and narcissism. Why neither person in a relationship can provide for the other when they are being attacked or have to protect. The protect mode that men are in right now during COVID-19 as they seek to keep their loved ones safe. Why she became interested in studying men: to find out why she kept bringing out the worst in them which turned out to be by attacking them. The experience she had as a teenager that she would label as date-rape. Her mission to keep men off-balance as much as possible through her intellect, humor, or sexuality so that they could not attack her. Lessons that she had to learn on her own about men including that there is an innocence about them.   [29:00] What Sex Means For Women & Men Different points of view from both genders on sex including their biological and psychological experiences. The impact that a pregnancy can have on a woman compared to a man. One of the exercises on how women and men view the safety that they provide in her Understanding Women course. Comparing the differences in strength between a man and a woman. What men and women can both learn from each other instead of making automatic judgments.   [31:00] What If You Can't Actually Damage a Human? Her mission from a spirit-centered place to help people reach a healthy place of higher-level emotions on the Emotional Ladder. The search to figure out what the mechanism in a human being is that causes us to feel hurt, experience being disrespected, and create all of the conclusions about ourselves and others. Why she began questioning whether or not humans can actually be "damaged." Extreme Freedom! Program What steps we can take to channel, release, and restore our integrity and dignity. How estrogen and testosterone hormones impact our ability to hear and interpret tones of voice. Different ways women say, 'No,' without ever actually saying the word. The call she felt to help heal the world as a follower of God's work.   [39:30] The Road To Self-Actualization Her first experience at 19 participating in Actualizations with Stewart Emery. Actualizations by Stewart Emery Stewart Emery What it was like for her to lead groups and create programs as young as 20 years of age. The positive impact that happened because she was not seen as "a type of person" but noticed for her growth and potential at work. Unpacking the exercise, An Impossible Promise, that will help you have an extraordinary life. Why avoiding failure is one of the most potent and destructive human instincts that we have.   [46:00] The Ability To Dwell In Love Why the potency of one's will is determined by the degree in which you dwell in love. Her commitment to letting go of everything that isn't love and why it's one of the most horrible commitments as there is something from arrogance to greed to anger to fear that she experiences. How you can dwell in love by embracing the love you have for other people and the love other people have for you. The Plant Paradox by Dr. Steven R. Gundry Exploring how much better we can feel after taking care of ourselves whether that's nutrition, movement, expressing positive emotions or meditation. Why the brain is built to scan for threats and not filter anything out so that we don't miss something. How the testosterone hormone, which can be built with good rest, can help give us a greater sense of wellbeing.   [57:00] What Would Make It Worth It? How the male brain changes throughout their life cycle including the rewiring during their 50s and 60s. The identity struggles men go through as they age and begin to decrease their testosterone levels. One of the biggest differences between men and women: what they consider "worth it" during their lifetimes. How to change your mindset on something by not asking, "Is it worth it?" to "What would make it worth it?" Flipping the script on other questions for women and asking yourself, "How does he love me?" instead of "Does he love me?"   [1:02:00] Exploring 'The Tunnel' & Finding One's Purpose Again Exploring 'The Tunnel' in the men's Stages of Development: How a man will know if he is in the tunnel and how his partner can support him. Amazing Development of Men 2nd Edition Why The Tunnel is something that we all go through in life on our way to self-actualization. What words of wisdom she would give to someone whose mission and purpose are clear but they don't give him the same feeling of reward anymore. Why we find it so hard to let go of negative emotions when we're experiencing them but welcoming them instead of pushing can change all of that. Hale Dwoskin- The Sedona Method What people who have gone through or are going through The Tunnel can teach us about life and love. How letting go of what was and what might be can help us focus on the present moment. What lessons she was gifted with when her husband, Greg, passed away.   [1:18:00] A Date With Destiny Date with Destiny - Discover What Motivates You Tony Robbins Her experience participating at Tony Robbins' event, Date with Destiny. An exercise from Date with Destiny where you look at one of your life events from the eyes of God and what she learned about Greg's death. How she has taken for granted what everyone earns for: being accepted, adored, and desired by someone you admire. Her experience realizing that she had lost her compassion for single men and women when she lost her husband. The other ways of being that her late husband, Greg, was always called to take on. Kate Dalley Radio - 0918 Alison Armstrong On Details How Men And Women Relate Daily Through Details BREATHE M21 Wellness Guide Wellness Force Community [ Power Quotes From The Show   What Women Don't Know About Men "Women assume that men are doing everything from a position of power and that they're abusing that power. But women don't know how much men experience being at the effect of us, how much men actually do for us, and how much a man will do to make a woman happy. A man is miserable if he can't make a woman happy. If she's not happy, then he thinks that he's not good enough and he takes it extremely personally. Men need to realize that 95% of a woman being happy is up to her; it's not up to them." - Alison Armstrong The Hierarchy Of Male Instincts "I have lived through many eras as a woman and having studied men. I have witnessed the era of 'emotionally unavailable men,' 'unhealthy men,' and now we're in the era of narcissists. But we have to hold up now; narcissism is what you get accused of when you have all of your attention on yourself and you don't care about providing for others but that can also be explained by a hierarchy of instincts which goes procreate, protect, and then provide. Neither can a man or woman provide when they experience being under attack nor when they think they have to protect. So in 2020, men are having a difficult time providing for women because they're in protect mode with the threat of COVID-19, our economy, and our wellbeing. If a man is not providing, I tell women, 'Just look around; what is he protecting you from? What is the threat he perceives and what is he protecting you from?" - Alison Armstrong     How We Can Win In Love   "I'm always teaching women, instead of asking, 'Does he love me?' ask 'How does he love me?' Instead of asking, 'Does he support me?' ask 'How does he support me?' You will live a completely different life if you're looking for how the thing you want is happening instead of checking off 'Yes' or 'No.' If we're looking for 'How' then we can see it in a rainbow of expressions instead of 'Does he or doesn't he?' and it also allows us to build on something in the relationship, create awareness for what we love about each other, and let them know how else they can love us in different ways." - Alison Armstrong   Links From Today's Show  ION*Biome PAX Programs Understanding Men Understanding Women The Queen's Code Keys to the Kingdom Never Be Ignored by a Man Again Leave Wellness Force a review on iTunes BREATHE M21 Wellness Guide Wellness Force Community Alison Armstrong Facebook Instagram Twitter YouTube Pinterest   About Alison Armstrong Alison Armstrong, author, educator, and creator of the widely acclaimed "Understanding Men" and "Understanding Women" transformational online series, asks the question: "What if no one is misbehaving -- including you?” She explores the good reasons behind the behavior of men and women such as fundamental differences in the ways we think, act and communicate. 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Ever sit around with your girlfriends and talk about all those things that drive you nuts about your man??? This episode is absolutely hilarious as Alison puts all those pesky behaviors into perspective and teaches us exactly how to understand and what to do to have a happy relationship with men. It is shock full of great information and tips we can put into action immediately and improve our relationship with the men in our lives and receive what we need and expect from them. This is Part 2 of a 2-part series to Understanding Men and Understanding Women, so make sure to listen in on Part 1 first, Become the Confident, Happy Woman You’re Meant to Be.   Men 101- What do we need to know to successfully be in relationship with men? Most men are hunting most of the time. They are focused, committed, goal oriented, experience support and appreciation as it relates on what they’re focused on. Timing is everything because of their focus. If you want to connect with a man ask him what he’s focused on; what is important to him now. Some of the ways we can get to know our sons is asking what they’re focused on. Women crave intimacy and they don’t know that men crave intimacy as well. And intimacy has everything to do with being seen.   Ask the question: how can I support you? It means EVERYTHING to them.   For men, there is a limitation to energy, time, resources, connections, respect, everything. Whereas women don’t think we have limits especially in energy. So everything is about a return on investment to men. This is confusing to women because we try to get men to do the things women want them to do. It’s frustrating because women don’t realize men aree calculating ROI. Men will calculate what is the value of the result…not what needs to get done, but the value of what needs to get done. If they do something for you, what else will they not do? What time, energy and other resources will be used up?   “What difference will it make?” is what men ask themselves to decide if something is worth doing.   How do we come together with men? Alison is getting us the latest and greatest on this! She just filmed the latest on her Queen’s Code workshop and this is some of the info in it! Both men and women think their view of the world is correct…forever. Men actually need to do nothing to build testosterone and keep the energy to go out and conquer the world. So do nothing, sit on the couch, sleep and have nothing to do. It’s a cycle of building and spending testosterone. If we don’t honor it, our man will feel weak to us, and women will sense this weakness and we will feel burdened and feared. We will question if we need this man in our life, and it will happen if we don’t let him build and spend his testosterone as it is mean to be. Can you see the vicious cycle?   What we need to do is honor our differences instead of expecting the other to be like us! When we see him sitting on the couch, we need to find that sexy. We as women putter around the house, put things away and do everything we want to do, and we give ourselves a deadline. And we become a better me when we’re done.   We keep trying to get men to do things to be like they should be. We keep trying to get them to invest in zero ROI. Not going to happen! To women who think we have unlimited energy and time, if it gets us to zero ROI, it’s OK for us women.   Men don’t believe on acting on feelings. They are an insufficient motivators for them. Men spend their whole lives training themselves to not act on feelings, but facts. Facts are observable, feelings are not. Facts are information from trusted sources. Becoming a trusted source is the game in interacting with men in all contexts!!   How does this happen? This is the SECRET ladies!!   The short version is how you become a trusted source is when the words and the feelings match. And this is what they are incredibly sensitive to. If you say thank you and they don’t feel the appreciation, that is insincere to them and it will not register. To become your man’s trusted source, to get to the source of their sensitivity: Say what you mean and mean what you say. Consistency.   When we change our mind, we erode their trust. It’s best to say we can’t answer their question at the moment, or we have not decided, than to blurt something out just to change our mind later.   Listen in on our amazing interview with Alison. We can’t express enough how helpful this interview will be to improving your relationship with men. We can write up all about it, but listening to her speak it is priceless. If you are interested in fully understanding yourself and/or understanding men, we HIGHLY recommend Alison’s programs. Jennifer has taken her course a couple of years ago and it transformed her life. These are her workshops: Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women ® CELEBRATING MEN, SATISFYING WOMEN! Rediscover MEN with compassion, understanding and the ability to get what you need from them with less effort and more satisfaction for both of you. Gain a deep appreciation for the natural synergy possible between the sexes. Rock your world –transform your relationship to men forever. Understanding Women: Unlock the Mystery ™ UNDERSTANDING WOMEN: UNLOCK THE MYSTERY! Learn why women do what they do – how they think, act, speak and listen – and how to work with it instead of being frustrated by it! Gain an extraordinary understanding of how women are designed.   15 Day Fat Loss Kick Start Ebook Download your FREE copy here!! DOWNLOAD!   Check your email. You will receive access for instant downloading. We respect your privacy- We will not rent, spam or sell your email. About Alison Armstrong: Alison Armstrong, author, educator, and creator of the widely acclaimed “Queen’s Code” workshop series, asks the question: “What if no one is misbehaving — including you?”  She explores the good reasons behind the behavior of men and women such as fundamental differences in the ways we think, act and communicate. She offers simple, partnership-based, solutions to improve our communication and intimacy by honoring ourselves and others. She’s known for her insight, sense of humor and ability to articulate the human experience and predicament of gender. Links and Resources Visit www.understandmen.com to learn more about Alison, her workshops and products. Recommended books: The Queen’s Code: This is the book version of our foundation workshop and the long-awaited sequel to Keys to the Kingdom. A romantic novel, The Queen’s Code reveals the secret to communicating with men, and a code of honor that will change your relationship to yourself and men forever. Making Sense of Men: Step into Alison’s world, where love, care and attention from men are normal and relied upon — and a way of life available for every woman. This book can be your guide, an unexpected friend, even a prophecy for your future. Funny, information-packed text, illustrative charts and enlightening side-bars will deliver priceless insights into men, their motivations and their inspirations. Recommended Digital Resource: Check out Alison’s audio downloads, CDs and DVDs on Parenting in Partnership, Why Men Lie Why Women Lie, The Cure for Complaining, The Appreciation Equation and lots more. If you missed it, listen in on our last podcast episode: Become the Confident, Happy Woman You’re Meant to Be!

Successful, smart and ready for love? Then listen in now! We often times think, WHY is it that men are wonderful in the beginning and then change? What if we told you that men are responding to women? This episode is for all the ladies out there who want to understand men. But before we understand men, we have to understand ourselves! We had an A-MA-ZING time chatting with Alison Armstrong, author of The Queen’s Code. In this episode you will learn how to shift your perspective, cherish yourself and learn relationship tools for smart and successful women. This is part 1 of a 2 part series with Alison Armstrong. Let’s start with women, so we can understand ourselves. In next week’s show, we will talk about how to succeed in love and the secrets to have men say “there is something special about her”. As women, we can use understanding ourselves, to understand men. The biggest mistake that women make is that we dishonor ourselves. We are so instinctually compelled to be pleasing and appealing and agreeable and likeable in order to survive, that we sell ourselves out all the time. This is where we will start. Alison did not intend to “understand women” in her journey, but it happened in the process. And then men started begging for her help to help them understand women. They so want to connect with us. They adore us and are mystified by us. We are magic creatures to them, and we can absolutely drive them crazy and bring out the worst in them. Part of the confusion is that every woman is at least 2 woman, and potentially 4. I think most of us probably already knew this If we’re a morning person or an evening person….that’s one of our personas. It’s a different mood, and mindset and we take experiences depending on that mood. Then our hormones levels determine who another persona is, as it has a tremendous effect on our emotions. Perimenopause and menopause bring out different personas in us. So we grow through different stages of “women” throughout our days and our entire lives. Depending on how much estrogen we have, will determine how quickly we can switch out our system, the hunter operating system or the gathering operating system. Women are both hunters and gatherers and we can switch from one to the other in a moment’s notice, depending on how we’re perceiving the world. Effects everything we think, do and speak without even realizing we’ve switched over. What determines what system we’re in is whether or not we are committed or uncommitted. What matters is our intention on a specific result, specific goal, destination, feeling, etc. that fires up the hunter operating system. It’s a system that is committed and focused and usually has a deadline attached to it. Both men and women hunt. Most men AND women are in hunting mode most of the time. Women try to be everything, to be perfect at it all. Whereas men tend to focus on their strengths. Women’s success in business has everything to do with our learning to be a part of a team and respecting other’s people roles in that team, instead of trying to do it all ourselves. This is when we’re in hunting mode. We are focused, build on people’s strengths and have deadlines. How do we switch from being in hunter mode to being in gatherer mode when we go home from work? Part of hunting mode is deciding what other people need and going about providing in without checking. A part of being a mom is being a hunter, because there are deadlines involved. In gatherer mode time shifts. It’s a natural and spiritual connection that happens. We see and feel things, and this is when men describe women as magical. This right here…is the key! To have the best relationships, we have to start with you first. Honor yourself first, then honor others. How do you define your best self? How much am I a better person when I’m in gathering mode? And how can I bring the gatherer to the workplace? Let’s build gathering mode into our day…plan for something to take twice as long as it usually should so we can take the time to connect with the man in our life. It needs to be decided who is the biggest and strongest in a relationship, and that person should lead. But we may not agree who that person is. And this is where the conflict comes in. That’s why getting on the same page is so important. In next week’s podcast episode, we will discuss understanding men. But before we do that, make sure to take the time to listen to this episode a few times and take in Alison’s information. This only graces the tip of the iceberg when it comes to Alison’s work and to get a full understanding of who you are as a woman, and a full understanding of men, so ultimately, you can have the best relationship. If you are interested in fully understanding yourself and/or understanding men, we HIGHLY recommend Alison’s programs. Jennifer has taken her course a couple of years ago and it transformed her life. These are her workshops: Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women ® CELEBRATING MEN, SATISFYING WOMEN! Rediscover MEN with compassion, understanding and the ability to get what you need from them with less effort and more satisfaction for both of you. Gain a deep appreciation for the natural synergy possible between the sexes. Rock your world –transform your relationship to men forever. Understanding Women: Unlock the Mystery ™ UNDERSTANDING WOMEN: UNLOCK THE MYSTERY! Learn why women do what they do – how they think, act, speak and listen – and how to work with it instead of being frustrated by it! Gain an extraordinary understanding of how women are designed.   15 Day Fat Loss Kick Start Ebook Download your FREE copy here!! DOWNLOAD!   Check your email. You will receive access for instant downloading. We respect your privacy- We will not rent, spam or sell your email. About Alison Armstrong: Alison Armstrong, author, educator, and creator of the widely acclaimed “Queen’s Code” workshop series, asks the question: “What if no one is misbehaving — including you?”  She explores the good reasons behind the behavior of men and women such as fundamental differences in the ways we think, act and communicate. She offers simple, partnership-based, solutions to improve our communication and intimacy by honoring ourselves and others. She’s known for her insight, sense of humor and ability to articulate the human experience and predicament of gender. Links and Resources Visit www.understandmen.com to learn more about Alison, her workshops and products. Recommended books: The Queen’s Code: This is the book version of our foundation workshop and the long-awaited sequel to Keys to the Kingdom. A romantic novel, The Queen’s Code reveals the secret to communicating with men, and a code of honor that will change your relationship to yourself and men forever. Making Sense of Men: Step into Alison’s world, where love, care and attention from men are normal and relied upon — and a way of life available for every woman. This book can be your guide, an unexpected friend, even a prophecy for your future. Funny, information-packed text, illustrative charts and enlightening side-bars will deliver priceless insights into men, their motivations and their inspirations. Recommended Digital Resource: Check out Alison’s audio downloads, CDs and DVDs on Parenting in Partnership, Why Men Lie Why Women Lie, The Cure for Complaining, The Appreciation Equation and lots more. If you missed it, listen in on our last podcast episode: Stressed Out, Overwhelmed, Under Pressure- NO MORE, #50

Ever sit around with your girlfriends and talk about all those things that drive you nuts about your man??? This episode is absolutely hilarious as Alison puts all those pesky behaviors into perspective and teaches us exactly how to understand and what to do to have a happy relationship with men. It is shock full of great information and tips we can put into action immediately and improve our relationship with the men in our lives and receive what we need and expect from them. This is Part 2 of a 2-part series to Understanding Men and Understanding Women, so make sure to listen in on Part 1 first, Become the Confident, Happy Woman You’re Meant to Be.   Men 101- What do we need to know to successfully be in relationship with men? Most men are hunting most of the time. They are focused, committed, goal oriented, experience support and appreciation as it relates on what they’re focused on. Timing is everything because of their focus. If you want to connect with a man ask him what he’s focused on; what is important to him now. Some of the ways we can get to know our sons is asking what they’re focused on. Women crave intimacy and they don’t know that men crave intimacy as well. And intimacy has everything to do with being seen.   Ask the question: how can I support you? It means EVERYTHING to them.   For men, there is a limitation to energy, time, resources, connections, respect, everything. Whereas women don’t think we have limits especially in energy. So everything is about a return on investment to men. This is confusing to women because we try to get men to do the things women want them to do. It’s frustrating because women don’t realize men aree calculating ROI. Men will calculate what is the value of the result…not what needs to get done, but the value of what needs to get done. If they do something for you, what else will they not do? What time, energy and other resources will be used up?   “What difference will it make?” is what men ask themselves to decide if something is worth doing.   How do we come together with men? Alison is getting us the latest and greatest on this! She just filmed the latest on her Queen’s Code workshop and this is some of the info in it! Both men and women think their view of the world is correct…forever. Men actually need to do nothing to build testosterone and keep the energy to go out and conquer the world. So do nothing, sit on the couch, sleep and have nothing to do. It’s a cycle of building and spending testosterone. If we don’t honor it, our man will feel weak to us, and women will sense this weakness and we will feel burdened and feared. We will question if we need this man in our life, and it will happen if we don’t let him build and spend his testosterone as it is mean to be. Can you see the vicious cycle?   What we need to do is honor our differences instead of expecting the other to be like us! When we see him sitting on the couch, we need to find that sexy. We as women putter around the house, put things away and do everything we want to do, and we give ourselves a deadline. And we become a better me when we’re done.   We keep trying to get men to do things to be like they should be. We keep trying to get them to invest in zero ROI. Not going to happen! To women who think we have unlimited energy and time, if it gets us to zero ROI, it’s OK for us women.   Men don’t believe on acting on feelings. They are an insufficient motivators for them. Men spend their whole lives training themselves to not act on feelings, but facts. Facts are observable, feelings are not. Facts are information from trusted sources. Becoming a trusted source is the game in interacting with men in all contexts!!   How does this happen? This is the SECRET ladies!!   The short version is how you become a trusted source is when the words and the feelings match. And this is what they are incredibly sensitive to. If you say thank you and they don’t feel the appreciation, that is insincere to them and it will not register. To become your man’s trusted source, to get to the source of their sensitivity: Say what you mean and mean what you say. Consistency.   When we change our mind, we erode their trust. It’s best to say we can’t answer their question at the moment, or we have not decided, than to blurt something out just to change our mind later.   Listen in on our amazing interview with Alison. We can’t express enough how helpful this interview will be to improving your relationship with men. We can write up all about it, but listening to her speak it is priceless. If you are interested in fully understanding yourself and/or understanding men, we HIGHLY recommend Alison’s programs. Jennifer has taken her course a couple of years ago and it transformed her life. These are her workshops: Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women ® CELEBRATING MEN, SATISFYING WOMEN! Rediscover MEN with compassion, understanding and the ability to get what you need from them with less effort and more satisfaction for both of you. Gain a deep appreciation for the natural synergy possible between the sexes. Rock your world –transform your relationship to men forever. Understanding Women: Unlock the Mystery ™ UNDERSTANDING WOMEN: UNLOCK THE MYSTERY! Learn why women do what they do – how they think, act, speak and listen – and how to work with it instead of being frustrated by it! Gain an extraordinary understanding of how women are designed.   15 Day Fat Loss Kick Start Ebook Download your FREE copy here!! DOWNLOAD!   Check your email. You will receive access for instant downloading. We respect your privacy- We will not rent, spam or sell your email. About Alison Armstrong: Alison Armstrong, author, educator, and creator of the widely acclaimed “Queen’s Code” workshop series, asks the question: “What if no one is misbehaving — including you?”  She explores the good reasons behind the behavior of men and women such as fundamental differences in the ways we think, act and communicate. She offers simple, partnership-based, solutions to improve our communication and intimacy by honoring ourselves and others. She’s known for her insight, sense of humor and ability to articulate the human experience and predicament of gender. Links and Resources Visit www.understandmen.com to learn more about Alison, her workshops and products. Recommended books: The Queen’s Code: This is the book version of our foundation workshop and the long-awaited sequel to Keys to the Kingdom. A romantic novel, The Queen’s Code reveals the secret to communicating with men, and a code of honor that will change your relationship to yourself and men forever. Making Sense of Men: Step into Alison’s world, where love, care and attention from men are normal and relied upon — and a way of life available for every woman. This book can be your guide, an unexpected friend, even a prophecy for your future. Funny, information-packed text, illustrative charts and enlightening side-bars will deliver priceless insights into men, their motivations and their inspirations. Recommended Digital Resource: Check out Alison’s audio downloads, CDs and DVDs on Parenting in Partnership, Why Men Lie Why Women Lie, The Cure for Complaining, The Appreciation Equation and lots more. If you missed it, listen in on our last podcast episode: Become the Confident, Happy Woman You’re Meant to Be!

Successful, smart and ready for love? The listen in now! We often times think, WHY is it that men are wonderful in the beginning and then change? What if we told you that men are responding to women? This episode is for all the ladies out there who want to understand men. But before we understand men, we have to understand ourselves! We had an A-MA-ZING time chatting with Alison Armstrong, author of The Queen’s Code. In this episode you will learn how to shift your perspective, cherish yourself and learn relationship tools for smart and successful women. This is part 1 of a 2 part series with Alison Armstrong. Let’s start with women, so we can understand ourselves. In next week’s show, we will talk about how to succeed in love and the secrets to have men say “there is something special about her”. As women, we can use understanding ourselves, to understand men. The biggest mistake that women make is that we dishonor ourselves. We are so instinctually compelled to be pleasing and appealing and agreeable and likeable in order to survive, that we sell ourselves out all the time. This is where we will start. Alison did not intend to “understand women” in her journey, but it happened in the process. And then men started begging for her help to help them understand women. They so want to connect with us. They adore us and are mystified by us. We are magic creatures to them, and we can absolutely drive them crazy and bring out the worst in them. Part of the confusion is that every woman is at least 2 woman, and potentially 4. I think most of us probably already knew this If we’re a morning person or an evening person….that’s one of our personas. It’s a different mood, and mindset and we take experiences depending on that mood. Then our hormones levels determine who another persona is, as it has a tremendous effect on our emotions. Perimenopause and menopause bring out different personas in us. So we grow through different stages of “women” throughout our days and our entire lives. Depending on how much estrogen we have, will determine how quickly we can switch out our system, the hunter operating system or the gathering operating system. Women are both hunters and gatherers and we can switch from one to the other in a moment’s notice, depending on how we’re perceiving the world. Effects everything we think, do and speak without even realizing we’ve switched over. What determines what system we’re in is whether or not we are committed or uncommitted. What matters is our intention on a specific result, specific goal, destination, feeling, etc. that fires up the hunter operating system. It’s a system that is committed and focused and usually has a deadline attached to it. Both men and women hunt. Most men AND women are in hunting mode most of the time. Women try to be everything, to be perfect at it all. Whereas men tend to focus on their strengths. Women’s success in business has everything to do with our learning to be a part of a team and respecting other’s people roles in that team, instead of trying to do it all ourselves. This is when we’re in hunting mode. We are focused, build on people’s strengths and have deadlines. How do we switch from being in hunter mode to being in gatherer mode when we go home from work? Part of hunting mode is deciding what other people need and going about providing in without checking. A part of being a mom is being a hunter, because there are deadlines involved. In gatherer mode time shifts. It’s a natural and spiritual connection that happens. We see and feel things, and this is when men describe women as magical. This right here…is the key! “Honor yourself first, then honor others.” To have the best relationships, we have to start with you first. Honor yourself first, then honor others. How do you define your best self? How much am I a better person when I’m in gathering mode? And how can I bring the gatherer to the workplace? Let’s build gathering mode into our day…plan for something to take twice as long as it usually should so we can take the time to connect with the man in our life. It needs to be decided who is the biggest and strongest in a relationship, and that person should lead. But we may not agree who that person is. And this is where the conflict comes in. That’s why getting on the same page is so important. In next week’s podcast episode, we will discuss understanding men. But before we do that, make sure to take the time to listen to this episode a few times and take in Alison’s information. This only graces the tip of the iceberg when it comes to Alison’s work and to get a full understanding of who you are as a woman, and a full understanding of men, so ultimately, you can have the best relationship. If you are interested in fully understanding yourself and/or understanding men, we HIGHLY recommend Alison’s programs. Jennifer has taken her course a couple of years ago and it transformed her life. These are her workshops: Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women ® CELEBRATING MEN, SATISFYING WOMEN! Rediscover MEN with compassion, understanding and the ability to get what you need from them with less effort and more satisfaction for both of you. Gain a deep appreciation for the natural synergy possible between the sexes. Rock your world –transform your relationship to men forever. Understanding Women: Unlock the Mystery ™ UNDERSTANDING WOMEN: UNLOCK THE MYSTERY! Learn why women do what they do – how they think, act, speak and listen – and how to work with it instead of being frustrated by it! Gain an extraordinary understanding of how women are designed.   15 Day Fat Loss Kick Start Ebook Download your FREE copy here!! DOWNLOAD!   Check your email. You will receive access for instant downloading. We respect your privacy- We will not rent, spam or sell your email. About Alison Armstrong: Alison Armstrong, author, educator, and creator of the widely acclaimed “Queen’s Code” workshop series, asks the question: “What if no one is misbehaving — including you?”  She explores the good reasons behind the behavior of men and women such as fundamental differences in the ways we think, act and communicate. She offers simple, partnership-based, solutions to improve our communication and intimacy by honoring ourselves and others. She’s known for her insight, sense of humor and ability to articulate the human experience and predicament of gender. Links and Resources Visit www.understandmen.com to learn more about Alison, her workshops and products. Recommended books: The Queen’s Code: This is the book version of our foundation workshop and the long-awaited sequel to Keys to the Kingdom. A romantic novel, The Queen’s Code reveals the secret to communicating with men, and a code of honor that will change your relationship to yourself and men forever. Making Sense of Men: Step into Alison’s world, where love, care and attention from men are normal and relied upon — and a way of life available for every woman. This book can be your guide, an unexpected friend, even a prophecy for your future. Funny, information-packed text, illustrative charts and enlightening side-bars will deliver priceless insights into men, their motivations and their inspirations. Recommended Digital Resource: Check out Alison’s audio downloads, CDs and DVDs on Parenting in Partnership, Why Men Lie Why Women Lie, The Cure for Complaining, The Appreciation Equation and lots more. If you missed it, listen in on our last podcast episode: Stressed Out, Overwhelmed, Under Pressure- NO MORE, #50

I've said this before - I don't fan girl often over guests, but when I do it's because someone's work has literally changed my life. In today's interview I chat with Alison Armstrong, author of The Queen's Code (a book that helps women that shook me up and rocked my world back in February), and several other courses and books that help men and women understand each other better and enjoy more satisfying partnerships. I asked her all the questions many of you have expressed about her work in comments, messages and on group calls since I personally dove into her work and started sharing my own experience. Ironically we also got interrupted by men in my house during the interview - watch what comes up when that happens and enjoy! About Alison Armstrong: Alison Armstrong is a sought-after speaker in the areas of gender differences, well-being, empowerment, sexuality and relationships. She is the author of The Queen’s Code and creator the widely acclaimed “Queen’s Code” workshop series, plus a host of other products and programs designed to foster understanding and further partnership between men and women. In Alison’s own words, “I’m passionate about Partnership. I want to know everything about this paradigm – this magic that can happen between people. What makes a partnership possible, what makes one brilliant, what destroys a partnership, what expands the power of partnership. Everything I study and distinguish is to give greater access to the phenomenon of partnership. “This is why I’ve spent so much time on male/female and masculine/feminine dynamics. The misunderstandings and misinterpretations between testosterone-based and estrogen-based creatures (usually known as men and women, but not always) devastate lives, destroy families, and put our dreams of love and fulfillment out of reach. And that’s just in the personal, romantic domain. Apply these misconceptions to education, work and community, and the real consequences of fundamentally not understanding each other are exponentially worse.” Information about Alison’s work is available at understandmen.com. In this episode, Alison shares: 1. Understanding men and the ways women turn princes into frogs (often devastatingly AND unknowingly) 2. Clearing up how everything isn’t the woman’s responsibility even though it feels that way sometimes 3. Woman’s innate ability to inspire men AND non-manipulatively get what they want as a result